| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 85 | *Internal screaming* | NAH, SIS | Sensitive-Sun-3591 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:12 PM |
| 66 | Advice for Pickme friends | MINDSET SHIFT | Sensitive-Sun-3591 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 03:29 PM |
| 1 | A message for lurking reporters. | MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERS | Sensitive-Sun-3591 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 08:03 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 15 | When dating, do you have certain professions that you avoid?DJs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:17 PM |
| 4 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies..Girl, I strongly suggest not mentioning your social handles on FDS!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 02:29 PM |
| 2 | Asreya, non-stealing, the third Yama of yogaI needed this today, thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 12:06 PM |
| 16 | Advice for Pickme friendsRight?! That part really resonated with me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Thanks to FDS men's language classes, I now know that what this means is "we want to be useless and play video games our entire lives so we're victimising ourselves."So you agree? You think we should smash the patriarchy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:57 PM |
| 43 | Can somebody please save her from a life of misery with an old lvmThat's why NVM are attracted to very young women. It not because of BioLOgY - it's because younger, less experienced people are easier to manipulate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 07:25 AM |
| 365 | Can somebody please save her from a life of misery with an old lvmMy (18f) boyfriend (34m) 🚩🚩🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 06:20 PM |
| 1 | UK ladies - you can check if your partner has a history of domestic violence through Clare's Law.Thank you :) glad you're out of that situation too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:51 PM |
| 9 | UK ladies - you can check if your partner has a history of domestic violence through Clare's Law.Thanks, it was a bad situation but thankfully in the past now! I agree, I think it's deliberately vague. I guess they have to draw a line somewhere - in terms of privacy protection. I think another part of it is that information sharing between police depts (and justice depts) is shockingly bad, I don't know if that affects it at all. The UK DV laws still have a long way to go, but they have got much better over recent years. Just look at the improvements in the way we treat offences like stalki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 07:05 AM |
| 55 | UK ladies - you can check if your partner has a history of domestic violence through Clare's Law.Great flag and brilliant resource! Always worth a check, although do bear in mind that it will only flag up DV history - it won't flag up other violent crimes, weapon offences ect (unfortunately speaking from experience). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 10:06 PM |
| 19 | *Internal screaming*So true! My username is in no way an endorsement of The Sun 😳😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 04:12 PM |
| 16 | My fiancé NEVER tells me he loves me but he pulls the car around so our toddler doesn't have to run in the pouring rain and that's love 🤡Let me get this straight... His love language is acts of service, hers is gifts & words of affection. So she has to accept love in his love language. Meanwhile he... Also accepts love in his love language (which you just know is acts of service & sex). So she accepts what she's given, and he gets what he wants. K coolcoolcool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 03:28 PM |
| 16 | *Internal screaming*Lmaooo literally my reaction 💀 one red flag after another | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 03:09 PM |
| 63 | *Internal screaming*Haha right?! He's 42, she's 24 Girl, if your ages are a palindrome you should run! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 03:05 PM |
| 23 | *Internal screaming*He obviously wants “kids.” 🤮 Ugh grim 😩 After the obligatory "talk about it" I was (pleasantly?) surprised the advice included "hey girl, maybe he's not the one". So many red flags, even the tabloids can spot it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 03:04 PM |
| 12 | Cat Person - a slow descent into the true horror of dating an LVM. This should be mandatory reading for teenage girls everywhere.Ew, this could be from my biography. I'm so glad I'm growing out of my pickme days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Sexual health.Agree, I react really badly to contraception and haven't taken any for years. Sorry, I just included it because its one of the clinics main services. If you're concerned about HPV, defo go to the GP because they can book you in for the HPV vaccine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 08:33 PM |
| 8 | Sexual health.Fellow UK FDS-er here! Here's some tips: Check freetest.me You might be eligible for free postal STD testing. Some of the tests are limited in what they screen for - so you might want to go for regular comprehensive screening, but its free & accessible, and you can order it right now. Register with your local GP and dentist. It can be such a hassle to get accepted as a patient with an NHS GP and Dentist. I know it is supposed to be easy and hassle free, but in my experience it's not. Register ah… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 07:30 PM |
| 23 | It's the edit for me ~~~Me too. I thought about it and realised anyway, isn't her expectation completely normal for his salary bracket? 20% of 113k is 23k... So her expectation of 20% is the same as mine (and I think most people?) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 09:12 AM |
| 37 | WE ARE HUMAN FEMALE AND THEY SEE US AS SUCHInteresting critique, although I do agree that you have "missed the specific reading material that this particular concept came from." Echoing other commenters that in this context "human" is less about physical being and more about "humanity". They are seeing us as objects, as existing to provide service/function to them and not existing outside of that. An analogy might be a picture in a frame: When I look at the picture on my wall, I enjoy it aestheticly, it moves me, it gives me pleasure to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 07:30 AM |
| 461 | How FDS changed how I view every day interactions with a partner.Ugh my dad used to walk 10-20 meters ahead of my mum, while she had 2 young kids in tow. And then he would turn around and whistle like calling a dog to heel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 01:25 PM |
| 9 | No Brigading! Monthly ReminderThe ones I know of are AskFDS, Female Level Up Strategy, and FDS superfans. There is also a non-official wlw version of FDS that I can't remember the name of for the life of me. NOTE: if you do know the name, please don't post it here - it's not an official sister sub. Although if you do know the name a DM would be appreciated, I literally can't find it and it's driving me bananas :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 12:18 PM |
| 3 | No Brigading! Monthly ReminderAmaze thanks for clarifying | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 12:14 PM |
| 10 | No Brigading! Monthly ReminderJust to check, can we mention sister subs? As in "I think this would be good to post on (insert FDS sister sub)"? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 07:53 AM |
| 1 | I bully men into having good gym etiquetteI'm just saying this is not very safe, like good for you if you feel able to do that - but personally I'd be way too afraid of getting on the radar of some potentially violent stranger. I wouldn't ignore it, I would have the gym staff deal with it. Edit: there are ways of dealing with this that might just be more effective, safer, and be a better way of spending your energy than standing in a corner and pointing and laughing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 06:55 PM |
| 30 | I bully men into having good gym etiquetteNo, this is not it. This is so so dangerous, do not go around antagonising big steroid-pumped men please. And this "female bullying" is not the kind of energy we should aspire to cultivate. FDS is about becoming your best self, not stooping to these levels. Either tell them directly and politely to stop, or ask the gym staff to do so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 06:04 PM |
| 54 | I live in a van down by the river - is this a turn off?I'm really interested in alternative housing and lifestyles. I've lived in un conventional ways (ie not a house or apartment), and I loved it. I'm in my mid 20s, and am now figuring out how to live these lifestyles responsibly, and ensuring that I can financially support myself into old age. This guy's set up is something I've considered. BUT not living in a house does not mean you need to forego hygiene. There is a huge difference between living in a vehicle that has been designed and fitted fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 12:45 PM |
| 44 | Stop mourning awful men dying.You're not alone in this, the BBC has had to set up a special complaints form because they received so many complaints about their coverage of his death. Mostly people were pissed off because they couldn't watch Master Chef. But still, it suggests a lot of people don't like the huge amount of coverage he's getting. https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/media/2021/apr/10/bbc-flooded-with-complaints-over-prince-philip-coverage | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 01:56 PM |
| 4 | Early red flag: Men who hate their jobs and coworkersThank you!! For me, if the most fulfilling thing in a man's life is his 9-5 then I know we are not compatible. I'll know when I've found a compatible man because I'll ask "what are your ambitions" and he'll reply "to seize the means of production". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 11:32 AM |
| 6 | My ex cheated; tried warning the girl but realized she’s a pickmeEdit: sorry, I posted this on the wrong post! Sending love and positivity your way 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 07:50 AM |
| 16 | How can I know if a guy who is chasing me does not see me as a consolation prize?This is the whole point, men who objectify women do not love women. In the dating landscape now, lying about loving women is the cost of admission to her body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:05 AM |
| 36 | #NotAllMenNOT ALL MEN are the solution not the problem This one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:08 PM |
| 39 | How can I know if a guy who is chasing me does not see me as a consolation prize?Men who think like this see women as objects. A 10 is just an upgrade to them, like the latest iPhone. This is where a lot of LVM behaviour is rooted. Nothing groundbreaking here - feminists have acknowledged this for years. Where FDS is really groundbreaking, is that we acknowledge that in a patriarchal society this applies to the vast majority of men. Not some hypothetical man, but the actual men in our lives. And that yes, we are dating them too. And then, we give ourselves tools and strategi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:05 PM |
| 58 | anyone else think sza’s lowkey a pick-me chick?Such a cringeeee 😂😂 even pre-FDS that line would have me questioning. Worst bit is at the end "just tell me you want me Monday, and I'll be at your door ready to take her place" 😂 like girl no 😂😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 07:43 PM |
| 44 | anyone else think sza’s lowkey a pick-me chick?Ugh I came here to say this. I literally can't listen to it the whole way through anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 07:04 PM |
| 3 | Decline alcohol on a first date!Oooh yes! My fave is cranberry juice + club soda + a splash of lime (or lime cordial) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 04:32 PM |
| 9 | Don’t Dress Up for a Man on the First DateMaybe I should have been more general. I meant it as in "take care of your nails" - so clean nails, no dirt underneath. Keep them trimmed/shaped the way you like - no hang nails ect. If you want to add polish, or gel polish, or acrylics then cool. If you want to go to a salon, do you. The point is to do your normal grooming routine, and not change it for a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 04:09 PM |
| 109 | Don’t Dress Up for a Man on the First DateI mean, present yourself well but don't go over the top. If you keep yourself groomed every day then you're 90% there anyway: obvs all the basic hygiene like brush your teeth, shower, wear deodorant ect paint your nails at home have clean, well-kept hair (whatever that means for your hair type) clean and tidy clothes that fit and flatter you comfortable, clean/polished shoes Literally do these basics and you're already miles ahead of most men out there. As a bonus if you want to, wear make up th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 11:19 AM |
| 16 | I saw this come on my TV, it's an Australian ad (Aussie here) and thought it might belong here. When will she be right?Oof this gave me shivers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 08:44 AM |
| 87 | In the UK, carrying Pepper spray has a max 10 year prison sentence. So if you get caught using it on an attacker, you lose 10 years of your life as opposed to all of them.Same in the UK, anything intended as a weapon is illegal (even for self defence). There is UK approved "identifier" spray. It is an aerosol that sprays a red dye on the attacker, so that police can identify him easily after the fact. Of course, if you happen to spray it in his eyes and it happens to hurt, that's just an unfortunate coincidence and not its intended purpose... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 12:25 AM |
| 3 | 3/14, Steak and BJ DayToday in the UK it is mother's day 💕🌼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 10:51 PM |
| 2 | How cooking and cleaning transformed a violent manThat's my interpretation too. I'm finding it difficult to know how I feel about this, because it's a step in the right direction - but there are still so many more steps ahead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 10:04 AM |
| 53 | At Least One Good Thing Came From The Vice Article!Love it! This guy gets it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 09:26 AM |
| 17 | So apparently I got notified that this comment I made is against reddit rules and I'll banned after the review. Being in this sub was amazing but I don't think the internet will ever be okay with women.First up, that comment is hilarious 🕷️ I am sad you are getting banned! Make another account and come back? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 09:24 AM |
| 21 | You read about us on Vice. She said we hate men; she said we’re no different than the redpill. You were disgusted by us. Yet, somehow, you felt some urge to come here.Triflers need not apply! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 07:23 AM |
| 120 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”"I dumped her because she was subject to the laws of time and space" Reddit: ok "I dumped him because he slept in a nest on the floor" Reddit: reeeeeeeeeeeeeee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 01:06 PM |
| 20 | The council of the Pickmeisha’sThis is gold | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 09:23 PM |
| 45 | Askfeminism"I will come back with a rat" 😂😂💀💀 This whole post has me cry laughing. But please edit to remove specific subs, it's against the anti-brigading rules. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 08:06 AM |
| 16 | A guy that I'm seeing sent this to me in good humor #niceforwhat?Alright, well happy vetting. I'm just saying I see a lot of red and pink flags here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 06:01 PM |
| 60 | A guy that I'm seeing sent this to me in good humor #niceforwhat?If you're not in a committed, monogamous relationship - don't give him valentines gifts. If you're discussing a "future relationship" without making a commitment this is future faking. Stop filling in "roles" in your head for a relationship that doesn't exist. You've known each other 2 years, if he wanted to be in a relationship with you he would be. Not trying to be harsh, this is FDS and we will say it like we see it - it's the best way to protect each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 12:26 PM |
| 59 | Just a thought on what you "attract"Lions know which gazelle is weakest. Predators know which person is more vulnerable. It's unfortunate and its not fair. It's also not the victims fault. Nobody should be preyed upon and taken advantage of - regardless of their vulnerability. But they are. As individuals, we can protect ourselves by acknowledging this. If we feel unwell, we can reach out for help to trusted people. We can look for red flags in others and be mindful of the information we share. As a society, we can do better at pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 02:06 PM |
| 9 | We have PickMes, Cool Girls - but do we have a word for entitled "Queen Bee wannabe" women like Diana Sawyer?I said this on the other thread but I'll say it here too - this is Pickme behaviour, only difference is she has money and influence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 07:48 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InNo worries, hope it helps! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 07:38 AM |
| 4 | Would you consider her a pickme ? I feel like I understand her message but it seems like she’s using this for validation given the men in her comments...Read the handbook | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 10:47 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InTo him, just say "I'm not ready" - if he takes issue with it, get outta there. For yourself, remind yourself why you don't want to rush. Maybe a catchy mantra or something you can easily remember in the moment. It's also easier to stop things earlier - so stop before the clothes come off. Like, at the first hint of it. Give yourself pleasure frequently, so you're taking care of your needs yourself and are satisfied - it reduces the "need" feeling. Tell yourself you love yourself, look at yoursel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 06:20 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InThe key is honesty, with yourself. And also don't lie unless you need to to get out of a dangerous situation. And once you feel the need to do that, never see that man again. Make a commitment to yourself to not sleep with someone until you feel ready - that includes feeling safe and secure. There's no time line on this. If you feel safe and secure after the first date then fine - but I'd suggest this is not enough time in any circumstance and you need to get your spidey senses checked. It's not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 08:26 AM |
| 128 | Men can be a gamer OR he can have a girlfriend. Not both.Also, let's not skim over the fact that most games are basically soft prn anyway. There is literally no reason for the female characters to have boobs bigger than their head, fighting monsters in a bikini. And yet here we are | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 04:33 PM |
| 25 | Just another disappointment...Another LVMThissss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 07:58 AM |
| 18 | HV Valentine’s Day giftExactly this! Money is really a proxy for time and energy. You can mix any of the 3 in proportion. I like to think of it like this: You don't need to buy my flowers if you don't want to spend money. I will equally accept flowers that you grew and tended to yourself, picked and presented to me in beautiful fashion with your own hands. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 09:35 AM |
| 13 | COSMO wants y’all to know that Armie Hammer’s Cannibalism Fetish isn’t the problem here and people are “distorting” it. Because nothing screams “safe and sane” like Cannibalism Play.Don't kinkshame me and my satanic-play! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 04:17 PM |
| 61 | He would rather have women settle for any old scrub who will give them attention. Sir, the "right" one largely means making sure he won't hurt or even MURDER me by the end of the night. I'd rather be alone on VDay and "touch deprived" than be dead."I'm trying my absolute hardest not to die alone" Meanwhile, I'm trying my absolute hardest not to die in some guy's basement and have my body hidden in the woods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 08:32 AM |
| 18 | Guy a cheap date?Hey girl, it's not rude to be honest about not wanting to date someone. If you don't like it, don't date him. There are thousands of men exactly like him, but that will pick up the tab - and then thank you for the privilege. You dated, you vetted, and he didn't pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 08:25 AM |
| 256 | What are your thoughts on this? I was raised to pick up after myself, and help the host clean up if needed. Male/female doesn’t matter. Does that make me a pick me? :/I've often been in mixed groups where the women clean up at the end and the men just chill and finish their beers. One time, I was like "f this" and sat with the men. The women gave me glares while they were tidying up, until it got so uncomfortable that the men actually got off their asses and helped. Really eye opening - they know what they're doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 08:19 AM |
| 0 | Isn’t it interesting that men get more violent when they’re depressed?Building on that, these symptoms are so different and so clearly coming from a different place - they should be different conditions. Ie a someone feeling sad and having an existential crisis (symptoms in left column) = depressed Someone lashing out in anger and putting others in danger (symptoms in right column) = something else entirely Like, you can be depressed and be an asshole, but being depressed doesn't make you an asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 08:16 AM |
| 12 | Men learn how to manipulate women by learning how to manipulate their mothers.This is it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 08:30 PM |
| 3 | The logic of dating: double standards of "satisfying needs". Watching porn.You put it into words! Thank you 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 06:36 PM |
| 11 | “the parts of my relationships where people expressed a desire to hurt me during sex were not the abusive parts” 🤔Also, "almost never" is still too often | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 08:48 PM |
| 17 | “the parts of my relationships where people expressed a desire to hurt me during sex were not the abusive parts” 🤔Feeling complicit in your own abuse... Yet another way the abuser makes the victim feel like it's their fault. "you made me punch the wall, because what you said made me angry" "you made me tie you up, violently assult your anus and choke you until you pass out, because when I coerced you into it over years of pressure and abuse you gave in!" Leaving me with this guilt and confusion may even be worse than the physical things he did to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 08:47 PM |
| 37 | Glorifying dumb/talentless/sexist men in public schools should be considered psychological abuse.Agreed! He didn't even found Tesla. When he bout the company from the actual creators, he also bought the title "founder". The people who actually founded the company are legally prohibited from calling themselves founders. Great business man, great marketer of himself, terrible human being. I reccomend reading the interview with his first wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 09:50 AM |
| 6 | What's with the spreading of complete lies about fds?The top 2 richest men in the world are text book LVM, and I don't think FDS would advise anyone to date them. And yet according to libfems it's good to exchange your body/time/nudes for men's money in the name of sx work. Where is the logic? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Men would hate it if women had a male sexuality.Men and women have the same sexuality. It's the social stigma and risk of being violently murdered that's different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/21 08:46 AM |
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