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When trust is broken it is hard to rebuild, especially when you are breaking that trust when the other person is at their most vulnerable, pregnant. Accusation like that in most cases, accompanied by demand for a test, is a clear signal saying you don't trust your partner's actions or words.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 02:34 AM
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I don't think I ever stopped being sexually adventurous, when I was single it was with with other single people. Now that I am in a relationship it's with my partner. The only thing that changed is that I now have a person I can consistently be adventurous with, and I mean eventually we did run out of "new" things to try, but it's still exciting and we come up with new stuff constantly for the fun of it. Being in an LTR doesn't mean you stop being sexually adventurous or uninhibited
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:13 PM
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Not the person you replied to. Funny seeing this take from you since I remember you having a nuanced take on on this subreddit about attraction and how some people find different things attractive. I think you commented that couple days ago, maybe. I believe the same thing and under that framing I don't think there are many universally ugly people around, people who would be no one's type.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:57 PM
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Polyamorous people are a subset of my dating pool that I mentioned in my comment. Everyone has disqualifiers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 11:27 AM
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I don't date men so that is an immediate disqualifier, no I don't view men existing as a negative. Another example that is more along the lines you were thinking is polyamory, I've tried it, it didn't work for me. It doesn't mean I view polyamory as a negative, I just know I don't enjoy it myself Some things can be disguslifiers without having a negative view of them
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 11:16 AM
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To my understanding boob size has no effect on milk production and very large boobs are more likely to make positioning the baby harder. If that is true it certainly can't be an evolved "marker".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:12 AM
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When I am talking about rehabilitation vs punitive prisons I am mainly talking about people are treated in prison, not how long they are there. Finland is excellent case study for this since it had US styled prisons 50 years ago, and even since they moved away from that towards rehabilitation and making sure prisoners can survive in society their recidivism rates went way down. As for the female prison abolition being "popular", I can't say have seen that, especially in the US. Certainly not to …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:59 PM
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Again, let's take this at face value even though the source seems to agree men have very very slightly higher recidivism rate, it's small enough not to really matter. At face value. You have so far provided two sources where the rate was essentially the same for men and women, but you didn't even acknowledge the source I gave in which men had significantly higher rates. Do you agree that if there are only results where the rate is nearly identical, or men having higher rate of recidivism, then f…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:46 PM
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You brought up non-violent statistic when talking about general re-offenders. Let's take your source at face value even though it had a small sample size of one prison, and assume for non-violent offenders the rate is the same. Bureau of Justice Statistics says that for violent offenders the recidivism rate is higher for male offenders in every single category when compared to female offenders. So if we take these two statistics at face value, men re-offend more often than women when not control…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:14 PM
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I just pointed out how I, a feminist woman, and my feminist friends volunteer at a shelter that has male victims, and that we actually have a problem that men don't volunteer enough. Generally we'd want to have victims interact with people who can relate to them but because the volunteers are all feminist ladies we aren't able to do that for male victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 05:25 PM
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I will be honest, I can't engage with the study right now, so let's assume you are right. What is stopping people like you who care from making it easier? I don't say this a gotcha, that is how the shelter I volunteer at started, a couple people willing to donate some time and money. The Canadian example we started about had the biggest problem if money because there were not enough volunteers. I am sure there is a shelter of men somewhere near you willing to take any help they can get. We liter…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 04:14 PM
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I mean I don't deny it happens, obviously this thread started with the Canadian example, but I am disappointed to hear it is like that in the US. That said I have definitely read multiple studies people have referred to in this subreddit about male victims. To say that kind of research gets you in trouble, I really can't say I have seen evidence of it. But I would like to add, at least where I live male victims seek help so rarely that keeping up a male specific shelter is not smart, to be fair …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 04:00 PM
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Depends on the complaint and who is complaining. I am more likely to step up and listen and help if it's someone I know and care about. Two very recent examples of men complaining in my life are "Feminists don't help men and instead tear them down" and "I find it hard to make friends". Two very different complaints, two very different thoughts about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 03:48 PM
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When a man calls a center or shelter, there is a decent chance that he is accused of being the abuser, and he has to deal with whatever consequence it may bring Where is this true? But yes we make it explicit, and no we do not turn away victims that call us. We presume everyone calling or walking in is being honest. That aside we are also active in the community, hosting children's play days with parents in the community so the kids that are brought to the shelter have fun, and other seemingly r…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 03:21 PM
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I can imagine it's like that with men. I didn't mention it in my comment but I am lesbian so many of my hookups actually end up being people that I somehow meet in my circles anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:25 PM
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The shelter I volunteer at is not gender specific, we house absolutely anyone including their children and pets. And yes we try to reach out to male volunteers specifically since there is an absolute lack of them. We currently have one male volunteer but since everyone here is a volunteer we can't just rely on the one person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:23 PM
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For FWB situation it would need to be someone I would be friends with, I can't imagine hooking up with someone repeatedly if I didn't like them enough to have as a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:20 PM
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Honestly for a hookup my only requirements are that I am attracted to them, they are around my age, and that I feel safe/comfortable with them. I am assuming this means like one night stand type of hookups so there is really no space to learn anything else. For relationship I have the same 3 requirements as for hookups but more added. Like we have to have compatible lifestyles, no drugs, no kids, cuddly and compatible values.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:16 PM
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I know the case you talk about, I did not find any sources on women's groups advocating for it to not get funded but I am willing to believe it happened. The biggest problem he had was funding as even men did not donate to the cause. What he did is good and admirable. But I do not get the rest of your comment. I volunteer at a domestic violence shelter and what we lack is male volunteers. It'd be so good to have people who can relate to you when seeking shelter but I know other shelters have the…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 12:59 PM
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I don't doubt it happens on dating apps, but women who are in dating apps are the minority. There is a reason most dating apps have multitudes the amount of men that they have women, and those female accounts also include the bots that just advertise nsfw content.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:13 AM
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I do not believe any women has rejected a guy purely cause of his height I agree with your wider points, but there definitely are women who will purely reject a guy for their height. I don't think it's common, but saying it does not happen is not really helpful for honest discussions.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:02 AM
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I don't disagree with your points completely, but I don't agree with them either. I don't see society celebrating height shaming. There are assholes who do that, and short men probably are going to hear more shaming than people saying they're indifferent. I think we just disagree on how widespread the issues are. And that's okay, all my comments are totally anecdotal and I am willing to accept that I lack the perspective of short men. Though I do still think wider society is not cheering height …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:58 AM
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I'm not doing it, because it's pathetic and mean, but I get the idea Fair enough, I do not get the idea beyond "let's shame women for fun". It's not like women have lacked things they are shamed about before this "trend". To take myself as an example I get constantly shamed by mostly men for having colored hair and face piercings. There really is no need for a new thing to feel "validation" from shaming women. In this thread, there's someone saying she's never seen it. Some don't acknowledge it …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:25 AM
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If there is no way to get sympathy, what is the point of hip dip shaming? More gender war? Rage baiting? It's just so unnecessary that I simply do not get it. You say it is to prove a point, but like are there people who don't acknowledge height shaming happens? I have really only seen disagreements on how prominent it is, not whether it exists or not, and in light of that I do not see the point they're trying to prove.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:10 AM
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Not sure what autism has to do with height or appearance shaming. That said it's not internalized misogyny to feel bad about aging. I'd rather say is misogynistic to assume beauty is so important to a woman that feeling bad about aging, something both genders do, would be internalized misogyny. Women are barely even willing to admit that probably at least 51% of them would prefer to date a guy who is taller than them Not a statement I can relate to, it is anecdotal but from my experience women s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:51 AM
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The whole thing is kind of dumb. Everyone knows it is a "troll" or rather intentional body shaming for the sake of it. Even my friend who has been insecure about hip dips for years seems to be getting over it since she is seeing how it is just shaming for it's own sake and nothing to do with actual opinions of it. Height shaming is a problem, but the way to go about getting sympathy is not by inventing yet another reason women are shamed on the internet. Your title is correct in a way, I do view…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:32 AM
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I assume two reasons. Similarly to how women tend to know how to pleasure a woman, men know how to pleasure a man. Also male orgasm seems to usually be much easier to reach. For women the common denominator definitely seems to be men as a partner, regardless of whether it is the same in gay relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 02:22 AM
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Honestly as a lesbian I don't really encounter women who are unable to orgasm during sex. Anecdotally, same can be said for all my lesbian friends that there rarely is anyone left unsatisfied. Only times it has happened with my partners is when I've been with stone tops (women who don't want or care about receiving an orgasm). Only women I frequently hear complaining about that are straight and bisexual women. In any case, the common denominator for not receiving orgasms often seems to be men as…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 08:06 PM
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I agree with you, except the dual mating strategy part. it's definitely the wrong kind of attention whether there was investment or not considering I'm lesbian.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 10:02 PM
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I am curious, did this work? Because I am kind of doing the same but by accident. Men say septum piercing is a red flag but that didn't reduce the amount of attention I was getting. Same with makeup, tattoos, other piercings and short hair, all stuff I was told would keep men away but nope. And I didn't go out of my way to do these things to keep men away, most of these being "red flags" or unattractive I learned afterwards. I have some hope that once I hit "the wall" men will stop then, but loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:00 AM
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This is such a useless question, basically asking "If you weren't you, would you be a successful and kind person?" I have no idea what I would be like if I weren't me. I'm lesbian, would my male self be gay? I'm extremely femme, would my male self be extremely masc? It's just so pointless that I am surprised how many replies this post got.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 07:21 PM
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You want a bread winning woman who is okay with you being a househusband, is vegeterian and you don't want her to be a feminist? That seems extremely rare and unlikely
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 09:01 AM
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By the definition given in the comment we are under, it is definitely aan all genders thing and honestly should be, the definition in the original comment is pure good
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 05:03 PM
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Thanks for explaining it, I guess I just don't see the reason so many demonize hypergamy if this is the definition they use, other than serial monogamy which is not exactly great, but as long as cheating is not involved, normal? Everyone should looks for their bestatch in life, that is what dating is for.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:31 PM
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You say men's attraction is not based on "best woman", but I would be willing to bet that most men would choose an attractive woman rather than ugly woman. That is still choosing "best" while weighing attraction more highly. It seems RP definitions of hypergamy just define men out of it because it doesn't want to acknowledge that men and women are similar in this regard. As for serial monogamy, that rings hollow to me when people call women hypergamous not knowing their dating history, you simpl…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:13 PM
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I was simply commenting on the part referring to hypergamy as seeking for the best option around you. No matter how "less selective" one group is, they are still looking for the best option who is willing. That said I do not think there is much sense in saying who is more or less likely to be hypergamaous under this definition, because under this definition I do not see any harm in hypergamy and everyone should do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:02 PM
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I will be honest, I did not know Red Pill had it's own definition for hypergamy, a word which already has a definition. The idea here is that hypergamy causes women to constantly search for a "best" man in her pool of options, in a holistic attraction sort of way, even if she is currently with someone else I find this explanation interesting because if taken in unisex way, most people are like this, minus the "while with someone else". Everyone is looking for the best match they can find around …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 03:43 PM
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For some of those I am in agreement, but for example the parental leave thing is not beneficial for women since that empowers employers to discriminate against women in hiring. My country recently equalized parental leave to combat that. The example I gave of female judges being more equal in sentencing is an activate example of the "benefitting" gender combating it. I can't speak for most countries since I only know mine, but here for most of these equalizing social change, including conscripti…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 11:00 AM
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I would argue that a lot of this is because of harmful gender roles and infantilization of women. Take the conscription for example, my country has male-only forced conscription, the conservatives who infantilize women argue that women are not capable of it and so oppose expanding it. Same with lighter sentences for women as it's been shown female judges give more equal sentences between genders. Same with parental leave since governments assume women should be the child-caring ones. It's just h…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:07 AM
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Oh I agree with that, "important" is a word that comes with a lot of assumptions depending on the person I guess. By some definitions I might say it is important, by others I would say not, and I think this applies to most people. I guess it just highlights how hard having a "real" conversation is online since stuff like that would need to be defined/understood before even discussing it. In general I would still say that sex "means" more to those who don't have it since they feel like they're mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:48 PM
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Will preface by saying I do not think sex is important, but I am a lesbian who still enjoys it. To some people sex matters a lot, especially those that don't have it much, while for others it is a nice thing but not something that means that much. In any case, advocating for choice is always right in my book, even if the people needing that choice are a huge minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:35 PM
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Never heard of advocating for a group you don't belong to yourself? Besides that, there can also be a selfish reason, you don't need to belong to a group right now to have a possibility to belong to it in the future. So selfishly you could also be advocating for the future you, or your children or so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:18 PM
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Well yes, I answered what makes women likeable... The answer basically boils down to having stuff in common you both enjoy. I am more likely to have stuff like that in common with women due to being a woman, doesn't mean it's impossible for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 11:07 PM
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Each person is different, there is no universal qualities all women have just as there is no universal qualities all men have. I like my female friends because we share hobbies, push each other, encourage each other and give each other bravery to do things we might not do other wise. The bonds we create in that and over the years and all that. Same should apply to your life partner. But I assume you are asking in bad faith because this seems like such an obvious answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 10:56 PM
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I am not sure what you are looking for here. I feel the same about men, which is why I date women. You are supposed to find a person you enjoy the company of and hopefully build a life with them. If you cannot find one demographic likeable then maybe you should look into another demographic?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 10:44 PM
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I want to say that I agree with your broader point that a bias exists, but it's not as opposite as you make it out to be. There is a lot of negative coverage about AI girlfriends, but the coverage on AI boyfriends is also negative, just leaning more towards neutral. The difference I have noticed that AI girlfriends are reported in with catchy headlines and overall focuses on negative impact of them. Often pointing to mental health and loneliness and so. With AI boyfriend focused articles it's us…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 04:41 PM
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The problem is that you made the topic gendered by language in your post. Making negative generalized statements is not gendered, but no one in this comment section is talking about those harmul statements due to the unnessecarily gendered post. Precision in language is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 11:41 PM
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I completely agree with you that generalized negative statements are generally harmful and warp perceptions in a negative way. I am only pushing back on the idea that this is somehow a gendered issue. This subreddit itself is a great example of men participating in the activity you described from women in your post. That is, making generalized negative statements about the entire gender. "you should know we don't mean all men" is a weak defense I personally agree with this, but again, not gender…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 11:28 PM
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You yourself said that this is about precision of language, so I think bringing up actual comparison is important in context. Both men and women are as capable of making harmful generalized statements about each other which warp perceptions. I could literally quote you back the last paragraph of your post and it would be valid, since this is not a gendered issue, though it is an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 11:19 PM
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You are equating two different things. Men can as easily be called "boys" or "males" in the same way women can be called girls or females. The equivalent to making generalized negative statements about men, is to make them about women. I've had people argue with me on this subreddit that straight women don't exist, women aren't attracted to men, or that lesbians don't exist. Those are topics that unfortunately surface a lot in here and they are as much of general statements as the ones you gave,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 11:10 PM
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That's alright, neither of us can speak from experience and I am not invested enough to look up if there are stats. In any case I didn't even focus much on the sex part of OP since that seemed like such a minor point
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 11:15 PM
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All I am saying in regards to sleeping with local guys is that I believe solo female travelers on average don't do that due to safety concerns involved
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 11:10 PM
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Yes I challenge the idea that SOLO travelers do this. I know many women travel with friend groups and mingle with the local guys, but those are not solo travelers. And women from rich countries are still cautious around guys from their own and other rich countries, surely you don't deny this?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 11:02 PM
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That is the main point you took from the OP? But no, I am lesbian. That said, even within your home city women are cautious with men and safety on regular dates is already a concern. I do not believe your average solo traveler woman is suddenly going to sleep with guys in a different country when those safety concerns are heightened.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:48 PM
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Could you clarify what the topic of the debate is if my comment didn't address it? I did provide an argument that women already voice the standards they have and it isn't looked down upon, so there is no need to dress it up in cryptic slogans as you proposed they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:35 PM
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I am not sure what the debate here is. You assume you can read these women's minds in that those three phrases mean "his income, his height, his career, and his ability to provide a specific lifestyle" when women have standards beyond those. There are plenty women who are vocal that they want guys who make more than them, or guys taller than them, and all that. It's not exactly rare or looked down upon for women to voice what you are looking for in a partner so I am not sure why you assume any s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:24 PM
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Unfortunately true, I wish I didn't have to factor in attracting the wrong kind of attention when traveling
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:07 PM
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Maybe things like drinks at a bar or something, but nothing that really matters or is specifically a "travel" thing. I personally avoid getting drunk when solo traveling in other countries due to the safety issues
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:03 PM
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I generally agree that there are pros and cons to everything, but I can't really think of one in this instance for female solo travelers from my experience. What OP described is not something I can relate to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 09:28 PM
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I will be honest, this is a funny perspective to read. I'm a woman and a solo traveler with a lot of solo traveler friends. The biggest difference I have noticed between us women and the guys, is that the guys don't have to worry about safety as much as we do. Often I get told that "X was a beautiful country, you should visit too", and then lookup to find out women are treated worse there and the average female solo traveler does not recommend others to solo travel there. Once I ignored that adv…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:49 PM
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I said in a reply to another this already, but might as well repeat here. I live in a small town with so little openly lesbian women that I can count them with my fingers. Most are already dating or way too old for me. There is one lesbian woman my age who is single, our personalities don't match and we dislike each other. Do you believe I currently have better dating prospects than I would as I a guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:42 PM
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Are you going to claim that the average guy has 0 prospects? That said, no, in my current situation I have 0 dating prospects, the one lesbian woman around my age here who is single is a person I dislike. So yes, quite literally I have no one to date untill I move to a bigger city, unless I plan on becoming a homewrecker or date women old enough to be my parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 03:33 PM
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By absolute numbers? Definitely, but I'd also have more people do potentially date. Mind you that the small town I am from has so little openly lesbian women that I can count them with my fingers. Some are already dating and some way older than me. It'd take some twisted logic to claim that I have better dating prospects now than an average guy here does
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 03:25 PM
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I am saying my dating prospects would go up... just by the fact that my dating pool would expand hundredfold.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:59 PM
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I think it'd be significantly easier for me as a man as opposed to now. I already date women, if I was a man, I'd just have so many more people entering my dating pool suddenly, not too many lesbians around where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 12:43 PM
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Honestly sounds more like a self control issue. I am a lesbian woman and my friends are basically exclusively women, most being Bi, but we still keep it platonic.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 11:27 PM
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With you or your gender? Can't imagine choosing who I hang out with based on if they are attracted to my gender or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 11:02 PM
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It's staple as much as it's staple in the rest of Europe, as in it's a common option but not the preferred one. I Just love it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 08:20 PM
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Finland, and about once or twice a day, do on average I guess 10 times a week
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 06:18 PM
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Agreed on that as well, sexual variability 100% exists for both genders and you gave a good example of things in your comment. What I meant when I said that variability is used as an excuse is that people assume those types of details are required to get a woman off. There are men who also enjoy nipple play on them, but they still climax if you stroke the rod so to say. And equivalent exists for women. If the goal is simply to get women off there is a simple "script" for it even among variable p…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 12:35 PM
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I agree with almost everything you said. It's an extremely hard topic to pinpoint a neat solution to since the problem is deeply societal. Women have more variability in what gets them off, physically and mentally I hear this a lot, but I will be honest, there is a basic script that works, has worked in basically every wlw relationship I have had. It focuses more on female pleasure but it isn't some great unknowable. I just think straight sex is too male focused to even consider the female pleas…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:40 AM
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This may be an unpopular opinion, but I believe there is only pressure there because men are not so great at giving women orgasms. But since I am not straight I can't really talk even from experience. Men learning how to give them more is a positive in my book but it looked like you were talking against that. Sorry if I misunderstood you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 10:55 AM
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I agree with your comment, I just disagree with the framing in the comment I replied to that female orgasm is less important than male orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 10:28 AM
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I think it's a disservice to devalue a female orgasm like that. It may be more mental for us than men, but it is rare to find a woman who prefers not to orgasm, it is almost always a positive. I'm a lesbian and I really only hear this kind of downplaying of female orgasm in context of straight relationships. Orgasm isn't everything, but it's a positive, and encouraging people to give them more should be a goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:45 AM
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Funnily enough I think you are right. I'm goth and frequent clubs to meet people, never had a dating app profile, and none of the people I know from clubs talk about having apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 09:15 PM
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Oh, apparently it wasn't a phrase specific to this sub as many are, I just learned more English then I guess. Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:39 PM
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I've been on this sub for a while but I am not sure what "post-hoc" means or is short for. Could someone explain this please?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:31 PM
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Not straight so I will just reply here. My partner gets special treatment, I feel safe around her so we experiment. In experimenting we have found things we both like that I never even considered doing with past partners. I think partners in relationships in general deserve special treatment separate from hookups, since there is trust there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:23 PM
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It happens, but not in situations where OP thinks they do. Imagine you date a dominant man and then a submissive one. Those roles, especially in kink, make certain acts more enjoyable than others. There are stuff I would to with a dom that I would not to with a sub, just as there are things I would do with a sub that I would not do with a dom. The dynamic of your relationship matters in what you and your partner find enjoyable. But posts like these take this concept and pretend it is a bad thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:52 PM
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Wanted to give my input since many people in comments say that scenario 2 doesn't happen, it happened with me, as in I have done things with previous partners that I have no interest in doing with my current partner. That isn't a bad thing though, since there are things I love doing with my current partner that I didn't like doing with my previous ones. Some kinks specifically are just better experienced with specific types of people. Now to acknowledge, I am lesbian, but the post wasn't specifi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:41 PM
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Been there, I was stupid and forgave it only for it to happen again a couple months later. That experience definitely changed my opinion on it and I would not tolerate cheating in the future, it would be an immediate breakup
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 07:23 AM
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In my experience most lesbian porn looks incredibly fake, like watching a straight man's idea of lesbian sex. It does not look enjoyable. Why OP said we'd prefer gay male porn? Absolutely no idea, never heard that one as a lesbian myself
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 03:21 PM
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I agree with some what you say, the yearly data for men could be due to not considering some things as "made to penetrate" or forgetting due to time, but that is hard to meaningfully test for. You also brought up that you doubt the "made to penetrate" stats would be meaningfully different with completed/attempted separated. Reason you say is that many men would not consider a woman trying to coerce them to be attempted "rape*". But I would argue the same distinction could be made for female rape…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 05:40 PM
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I was curious about to the rape claim so I just had to look into it. Firstly, the numbers you picked are estimates of the number of victims in the past 12 months, but let's work with that. Just to note here, lifetime number of female rape victims is approximately 4 times higher than men made to penetrate. as the vast majority of rape occurs via coercion or some form of drugging, not brute force I agree with this, the study did not talk about drugging amounts unless I missed it though, in sexual …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 09:35 AM
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This assumes attraction is the same thing as ideological endorsement. It isn’t. People eat meat while thinking factory farming is cruel. People use Amazon while criticizing worker exploitation. People buy clothes while opposing sweatshops. “Personal convenience” absolutely is a real factor, whether you like it or not. That may show inconsistency, but it does not automatically prove dishonesty, and it definitely does not discredit the moral position. Also, you’re blending very different things to…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 09:28 AM
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To answer your "how does the spark happen" in lesbian relationships... Escalation, lots of it in my experience, especially if you are in an environment where you are not sure if the person you are interacting with is sapphic or not. In my experience it's back and forth flirting until you are pretty sure you are both lesbians, and not just friendly straight people missing the signals. I've gotten to the point where I was sure that I was flirting with another lesbian, only to find out they were st…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 11:50 PM
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I could imagine that such spaces can make things easier, but I have no personal experience of them, there are no Lesbian bars in my vicinity and I have never visited one. I do have a lot of experience in being "rejected" by women that I hit on and ended up not being sapphic. It's hard to recognize who is or isn't even interested in your own gender when talking to them at a club. Most straight women in my experience take it well though, they tell me they aren't into women and I stop flirting with…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 11:26 PM
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Might be, though I have heard for gay men it is sex that is specifically easier. I am talking in my comment about relationships, which don't actually necessarily include much sex even if they were intense. But I definitely relate to the fact that having things in common makes things easier, especially in emotionally open relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 05:32 PM
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You can have your opinion and belief, but calling something as innocent as talking about crushes and hot people "comphet" without any other context is just plain dumb, unless you believe straight women are never attracted to men. Which in itself would be an absurd claim
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:43 PM
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Those two sentences don't really have relation to each other. I also don't actively talk about how hot the people I dislike are even if they are hot, and in my case it's definitely not comphet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:39 PM
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Do you truly believe that women talking about men they find attractive to queer women is compulsory heterosexuality? If so, can you explain to me when being straight is not comphet in your opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:14 PM
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Obviously I can't comment much on that, but it's not rare to hear my straight friends talk about the hot and cute guys in their lives. But yeah, overall I can't I just can't relate and never had the kind of moment of realization you referred to in your title
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 01:44 PM
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I'm a lesbian woman and I cannot really relate to the complaints that men give about dating women. In my experience, my relationships with women have tended to blossom quickly and feel intense in the beginning. Meanwhile, in this sub and others, I often see men complaining about lack of initial interest, or talking about not being able to get a woman interested in them. My problem in dating women has usually been the opposite. It's more like "we're emotionally entangled now" and the problem beco…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 01:29 PM
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I never had interest to the point I thought I was aromantic, then I met someone who changed my mind and made me feel new things
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 08:24 PM
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Sure, I'll answer this! The first kiss I had which was not like in a drinking game or something, so a real first kiss was at 21. When I was younger I never felt the need or want to date. The first actual relationship I had was at 24 and I haven't had many since, only 3 in total. But my first casual sexual encounter was at 22. In recent years I've had much more "casual sex" depending on your definition. Me and my latest partner enjoyed bringing other people into bedroom, but never brought the sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 04:16 PM
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Oh I totally get that, but any time online I see a woman saying they don't enjoy receiving oral it seems to be a straight woman, of course I can't be 100% sure on that. But it is interesting to observe that straight women seem to be more likely not to be into receiving than bi and lesbian women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 09:28 AM
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I'll be so honest, I'm a lesbian woman who's been with many lesbian and bi women, not a single one has said they don enjoy oral. Are straight women just built different?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 07:52 AM
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This is so accurate, I've seen a lot of lesbians who worship stretch marks, body hair, and so much other stuff that men generally find to be unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 09:25 AM
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Can't really relate to that sentiment as a lesbian woman. From my understanding we tend to have less sex which already puts it in a different category than straight men. Also I can't be sure because I have no experience from the other side, but lesbian relationships are stereotyped as emotionally intense and fast, which does line up with my experience and the whole "uhaul" stereotype. So when you say "Bisexual women also report .... that they require a preliminary emotional connection with men" …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 09:19 AM
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Wow, you just casually describe my dream life and conclude that instead you are maximizing money and looks. I was already reading that like I found my perfect match.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 12:34 PM
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I don't know about that, you can take any want and there are people who would be depressed without it. If "some people get depressed without X" is the bar for calling X a need, the word becomes meaningless. That just means "X is something individuals want intensely" which is more a vibe than a definition. And you yourself brought up monks, you can't "monk-mode" yourself out of food, water or sleep, your body will shutdown. The fact that celibacy is known to be survivable and sometimes a person's…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 07:55 AM
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As a high libido woman, hyper sexual, call it whatever, I disagree with you that it is a need. It is not necessary for survival, your health, or your well being, which is how I would define if something is a need. People go without sex for years or entire lifetimes due to celibacy, asexuality and many other reasons without it causing physical harm to them, unlike how not having access to the other needs you listed would. Personally I want sex a lot, but that's just it, a want, not a need. If I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 07:21 AM
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The study you linked disagrees with you which is why I commented. There are many on this sub that just link studies claiming they say one thing and hoping no one will check. The fact that you quoted the introduction hypothesis as if it was the conclusion if the study suggests to me that not only did you do that, but you don't even know how academic papers work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 04:41 PM
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You quoted the paper's introduction, where the authors lay out hypotheses they then test. You take this hypothesis as if it's the finding of the study. The paper also specifically tested the "women took on too much" by comparing working vs. non-working women and found similar decline in both when talking about American women. Did you even read the study? You strung together many quotes into one from the introduction, excluding their context, such as, you quoted: many sociologists have argued tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 04:30 PM
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I would love an excerpt from the study you linked which says that the happiness of women drops if they face the same struggles as men, because for the life of me I cannot find that in the study. Also can you define "Same struggles" since that doesn't seem to be a concept the study used, so again how did you come that conclusion? The study itself says that the happiness levels fell across all fields regardless of the person's education, age, marital status, working status and more. The study also…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 04:06 PM
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I'm a Gen Z woman, but I'm lesbian. That said, I like Gen Z men. Internet talk like seen on this forum rarely ever comes up irl, people are not as polarized as it seems. When you remove the pressure of dating you realize that the people around you are kind of awesome to have around as friends. Really hard to comment on loneliness of others though, since if I know them then my friend group knows them, and thus they are at least on some level not lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 06:29 AM
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Then specify, because I know women criticize women, seems then that you are complaining that men don't
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 06:02 PM
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As a lesbian I definitely disagree with this. You might not criticize women for being bad in bed because you might not care or it might not make much of a difference in straight relationship. In queer spaces I see people criticizing certain types of people (pillow princess for example), but most often it is about a woman not communicating or having a hard time finding a rhythm that makes them bad in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 03:22 PM
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Yeah sure, as if it wasn't you calling me a liar without even specifying the lie... I swear people here are not debating in good faith ever
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:42 PM
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Can you express those difficult arguments? Your first paragraph was basically just saying we have very different feeds and thus experiences on this topic. It wasn't an argument as much as a different perspective. The second part of homophobia I did respond to honestly, acknolwedged you are probably right that many homophobes do that, but challenged that the question or act of asking it is inherently homophobic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 09:33 PM
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Why are you expecting me to address your comment when you ignored everything relevant in mine? so by the logic most men should be gay, yet you never hear these comments just directed at men in general unless the woman has animosity toward all men. In my experience the "try dating people of your own gender" thing is brought up in a context where people complain about the opposite gender and say the people of their own gender are in some way better. Additionally men and women are not opposites so …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 09:19 PM
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Honestly, I am sleepy enough that I completely missed it was a typo. In any case, he is talking completely past the context I provided, bringing himself some logic that if men are not friends with women then they are apparently gay according to someone else entirely. None of that has anything to do with my comment or what I said, so with the typo added I got completely confused on what he was trying to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 02:36 AM
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What did I say that was an actual lie? I am not sure which part you think the lie is. most men are better friends with women, in fact most men have no female friends, so by the logic most men should be gay Am I missing something? most men are better friends with women yet also at the same time most men have to female friends at all? How can these two things be possible at the same time? I did share that this is the context I mostly see it in, and basically the only context in which I see the "tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 02:16 AM
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Most of the time I see comments urging men to date other men is in response to some kind of bashing of women, often accompanied by how much better male friends are. I don't think in that context it is an insult to suggest you try dating the group you seem to like better? I also do the same with women, endless complaining about men but all praise of women? Same result, I would suggest trying to date women. I've actually done this a couple times and both times the women in question said they've tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 09:46 PM
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Held accountable for what? What law? Anyways, like I said in my comment, this goes way beyond what the OP is about.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 01:02 PM
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I think that is a hard case to make. The uncomfy truth is that basically any way to exist as a woman has a porn category already attached to it already. The fetishization already exists, at most SWers play into it for engagement. Holding SWers accountable for how men perceive goth women (I'm also goth) is roughly the same as holding SWers accountable for the sexualization of women as a whole. At that point you'd have to extend the idea to holding all SW accountable as a whole, which is a very di…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 01:40 AM
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Honestly, I've never been part of big LGBT groups, I had not heard either of those terms before. I might look into it, but to me it's simple, if I only date women and exclusively enter lesbian relationships, then at least some part of me is lesbian. I personally think attraction matters less than actual partner selection, especially in online discourse. Who I am attracted to has much less relevance than who I date or choose as a life partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 08:02 PM
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Because "Bisexual Homoromantic" is a mouthful, and I find romantic attraction to be more relevant in most conversations about dating and such. So it's lesbian because as a woman I exclusively date women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 07:43 PM
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I only date women yeah, but I am bisexual. I am romantically only drawn to women, sexually to any gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 07:34 PM
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How? Uhh, I don't really get your question to be honest. For hookups I don't really care about gender, so them being trans is also really not a factor in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 07:27 PM
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I only date women, so no I would not date a trans guy, but I would have nothing against hooking up with one. This wasn't a part of your question but I would date a trans woman. Them being trans has nothing to do with it, if they're fun people to be around why would that be a factor at all
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 05:43 PM
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Yes, it would not other me one bit. My current partner did things in the previous relationship that they don't do with me, why would I care? I know some of those things were because their ex was demanding and manipulative, not something they wanted to do but were "forced to" to keep the ex happy. Every relationship is different, my ex and I went went on romantic getaways and stuff like that, me and my current partner prefer doing activities (hobbies) together instead. Neither is really something…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 08:35 AM
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Surely I have not imagined the current US administration banning words such as "woman" in research, when researching effects of safety equipment and such on women is early rare, and planning to make voting harder for people who have changed their names (primarily women). These are issues that affect women. Saying that white women in western society are "in some ways better" off than men, I am not sure how you can come to that conclusion, or how pointing out these things would be self victimizati…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 04:56 PM
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Well a majority of feminists in the West are white women That's just a non-statement, most people in the West are white.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 04:47 PM
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You're not wrong, everyone has their own definition of what makes a good person, though often there is plenty overlap
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 08:01 AM
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Most of that stuff is what I am looking for in a partner, and I am lesbian, please explain to me how that is sexism?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:46 PM
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You might just be seeing a difference between extroverts and introverts, outgoing and reserved people. It isn't really hierarchy, at least in my mind it never has been. People are different and some are naturally going to be more talkative and thus more "heard" in bigger groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:43 AM
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The report does have an interesting number. If the father is the breadwinner of the family, women on average have 4 hours more leisure time than the breadwinner. But if the mother is the breadwinner, then the father has double the leisure time on average (20 hours more), which would indeed suggest that women still do more even when they work more.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 06:30 PM
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Note how the person you replied to said that they were cool with the 50/50 split, and only stinginess made them unattractive. I have also gone on dates with people who kept score on how much we spent on dates, they said after every date what the current tally was, that was wildly unattractive, and I paid for most of the dates since I asked them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 08:28 AM
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I'd think he was introverted or not good with people. In work setting I might assume he's just there to work and isn't interested in making friends of his coworkers. Because I used to be similarly shy and reserved I might try to pull him in to conversations and activities, stopping when I notice it isn't appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:48 PM
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So like I said, you’re filtering people’s self-reports to fit your worldview. I was bisexual and attracted to plenty of men and women before I ever hooked up with either. By your standard, that would have been an ‘absurd’ claim too, simply because I hadn’t acted on it yet
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 03:26 AM
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So now you have moved from your initial claim of "identity precludes action" to essentially "context matters" with lots of exceptions. You have conceded that attraction and action are not identical, even though they are related. You’re adding exceptions when they preserve your framework and rejecting self-report when it threatens it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 03:16 AM
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Do you carry that believe to straight relationships as well. Man and a woman in a relationship who are waiting until marriage are not straight until the marriage occurs. And when anyone is a virgin they are asexual until proven otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 02:59 AM
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And if I didn't have hookups it would not make my attraction any different but you would not believe me then. You are creating your own filter through which you can keep seeing what you want
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 02:51 AM
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I find it funny that you shoot down the straight women telling you they are attracted to men as comphet, but do believe bi women when they say they are attracted to men. Have you considered that straight women can actually be attracted to men as well, or is this something only bi women can experience since you can't write that off as comphet? That said I will add that I am a bisexual woman who has hooked up with both men and women that I am attracted to and have no preference for either gender s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 02:44 AM
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Your argument is based on the mistaken premise that being a pedophile is criminal/illegal, it's not. Pedophile literally does mean sexual attraction to children, but if you never act on it in any way you are not a criminal, no idea where you got that idea from.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 10:36 AM
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What spectrum do you mean? If asexual, I definitely agree it's hard to date in Finland. But then again I think asexuals have trouble with it basically everywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 03:55 PM
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Yeah it does to some extent. From my own experience in this kind of dating, you tend to invite the other person when spending time with friends and such. You most likely are going to spend your fun/party nights with that person for a period. Never personally asked anyone if they were having sex with other people while hooking up with me, but I'd be surprised if they found the time to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 04:18 AM
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No, at least in my country of Finland it really just seems to be a regional difference, not based on bigger city or something like that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 02:15 AM
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Yeah honestly as someone from there, I kind of like it. I've summed up the attitude as "Sleeping with someone until you realize you are dating", though it is somewhat regional even here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:50 PM
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My type is someone who has good skin, long hair, is alternative/goth, feminine outwardly. I'd say my previous partners have fit into this, even the guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 06:31 PM
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Are you just intentionally not getting it? I said nothing specifically about male nudity. I am saying that women feel safer in female company than male company, whether those people are naked or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:29 AM
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I literally come from a culture where casual nudity in certain settings even in mixed company is accepted and normal, for me nudity has never been linked to sexuality inherently, and I don't believe this is somehow unique to my culture. I can't say the same about relative threat levels of people though. Men pose more of a threat to women than other women do, well basically everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:23 AM
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I didn't say a man is a threat, I said a man is more of a threat in general than a woman, or did you miss that? Maybe disagree?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:20 AM
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Nudity isn't inherently sexual, whether it was a woman or a man. Now, naked or clothed, men are still men and women are still women, and in general men pose more of a threat to women than other women do. Does this explain it?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:15 AM
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Not straight, I am very into women, but not into masturbation videos. That seems like a very specific thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 10:16 AM
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Oh there is a simple answer to that but not many understand. I'm bisexual, but romantically only interested in women. I used to think that because I am sexually attracted to men, I must be romantically attracted to them as well. That didn't turn out to be true after dating men for a while, so I just stopped. I do still hookup with both genders though. And also thanks for really considering what I said about the consistency thing, many people on this sub just dismiss it or think I'm lying or some…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 05:50 PM
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I don't think it's weird, you're basing it on your experience. Even if you weren't, you can have a preference on these things for sure. However it's true that you could filter out women who are into you with that mentality, like I for example based on chance would be filtered out by that or not if my date thought like that. But you are likely aware of that and just "playing the odds" so to say. I agree with you though that dating someone you are not attracted to, hoping it will grow on you is...…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 05:33 PM
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I'd say it happens sometimes, though when I have dated someone enough to like them, I try to suggest a date which I know would have a good chance to put us both in the mood. Sexual compatibility is important too after all I don't date multiple people at the same time though, just I personally can't focus on multiple people with full attention. But I do want to ask you in return, do you disagree with me on anything? I did explain my view on why the consistency argument is flawed and I assume you …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 05:06 PM
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Full disclosure, I don't date men anymore, though I used to. Nothing about the consistency argument is gendered so I think that is irrelevant anyways. That said, I don't think I am unique, but I do think many people of both genders have 2 more qualifiers. Attraction and affection, which vary person to person. But if I go on a date with someone, and I am not in the mood, but they are and make it obvious enough, it's actually hard to communicate it without being dismissive. Usually this kind of si…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 04:46 PM
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I want to address one point just so you are on the same page as Lillith, in her previous post there were multiple men expressing the idea that "If she won't sleep with me fast enough how can I know she's interested in me". So yes, there are men, in this sub, who do not know any other way to figure out if she's interested. Now for the "consistency argument", I will be taking example from my personal life since it serves as a good example of why I think inconsistency makes sense. To put it simply,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 03:40 PM
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I am somewhat confused by your thought process here, and I did have to look up "pathologises" and "reifies" in dictionary since English is not my first language. those words apparently mean "regard as unusual, or unhealthy" and "concerete, or real". I am not sure where your view that applying a word to behavior makes it unhealthy comes from. Now I don't live in the US, and in my country there isn't really identity obsession amongst younger people unlike I hear from the US. Regardless, if these w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 04:34 AM
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That is your opinion, surely you don't think everyone as old as you thinks similarly. Demisexual might be a new word. However in my comment I did describe my experience through a demisexual lense. Now if I tried to apply my experience to everyone on earth, no sexual attraction without emotional connection, I think you and many others here would rightfully call me out and tell me that is not the majority experience. Now, if that experience differs from the norm and has to do with sexual attractio…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 04:11 AM
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20 years ago I didn't know what sex was, so safe to say I did not
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:50 AM
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That is true, and there are many types of attraction too. The difference demisexuals have to most of population is that attraction is not driven by physical attraction. While my friends might say someone in public we see in passing is hot and all that, I have never experienced it personally. That is just not how my brain works as a demisexual
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 06:47 PM
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There isn't really a cutoff, some Demi's experience it faster than others. If you mean where the line between demi and not-demi is, it's not in the time it takes. It's whether or not your physical attraction to someone is tied to emotional closeness or not. Normally people can find other people attractive without even knowing them, demisexuals don't
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 06:43 PM
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I don't see how that is related, but I do agree with you
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 06:39 PM
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As far as I am aware for most people attraction isn't a part of that "clicking together" but is faster than emotional closeness. I am just trying to say that for me as a demi, those go hand in hand, I can't have physical attraction without emotional closeness
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 06:29 PM
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I heavily disagree, as a woman who is demisexual. Not only does demisexual as a term even take into account your libido, it does not mean "passive responsive libido", but demisexuality for sure is not typical for women and a minority of women are actually demisexual. Demisexual is about how sexual attraction turns on, not how strong it is once it’s on. Libido is “how often my body wants release.” Demisexuality is “whether I experience sexual attraction to someone at all before an emotional bond …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 06:06 PM
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You're the one who linked that one specific comment, not sure what you think your screenshot does but it does not provide context in which the portion I quoted would make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 11:19 AM
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That one really does not look for you if you somehow turn He does things because he genuinely loves her, not because he hopes it results in pussy in the future into So, if you love someone, you don't want sex with them There is no connection between those other than your imagination
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 11:06 AM
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I did clarify at the end of my comment it included women, simply because I've not been with enough men, and since I wanted to answer with 5 regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 10:39 AM
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Not even most of them, but good that you're so confident I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:33 AM
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Numbers 4 and 2 were men
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:31 AM
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From an MMORPG guild A gaming convention Discord/Terraria Friend of a friend Concert Though that includes women as well
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 03:42 AM
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I don’t agree with the “game” framing. People have sex when they want to and feel comfortable with it. If your approach requires assuming women are dangling sex as leverage, we’re not going to see eye to eye. Take care
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 02:52 AM
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People criticize men when they frame sex as something they’re owed for behaving. Wanting sex is normal. Treating it like a wage for “good behavior” is what gets pushback. “Good behavior” is the baseline for being around someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 02:42 AM
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Sure, but with that logic anything and everything is reward. From dating to just staying friends with someone. The act of not going no-contact on your family would became a reward since it is contingent on being on good terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 02:25 AM
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When the condition is my own feelings towards them that makes a lot less sense. It's a reward towards them for the feelings I have?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 02:20 AM
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You perceive it as "reward", I perceive it as me being comfortable enough with someone to do this very intimate act with them. I don't have a specific time like some commenters here apparently do, it's a feeling. When I get this feeling I also want to get exclusive with them, simple enough
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:59 AM
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I would test what percentage of people start relationships with lies, such as political leaning, intention, relationship status, physical characteristics and other similar often lied about stuff. I honestly have no idea what I would predict exactly, but I am quite sure I would be disappointed by the results.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:34 AM
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Did you read the article you linked? It talks about people taking lead in financial decisions, not the amount contributed. According to the article you linked 50% of women who make more than their male partner take lead in financial decisions, while also still taking on the bulk of housework and childcare.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 10:47 PM
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That's an assumption you make to come to the conclusion people might be more likely to casually sleep with people they are more attracted to? Have to admit I had to google what AFBB meant. Having said that, I don't really associate height with being an "alpha", some people have height based attraction, but being attractive has nothing to do with Alpha. Though I might be completely wrong and biased as I am not attracted to men at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:53 AM
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What a weird statement considering the oldest of GenZ just barely reached that age. Most GenZ women are younger than 25, and not enough have reached that age to even give significant statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:29 AM
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Alright, but do you even know what DD breasts are? I would wager a good portion of men would not recognize DD breasts because it's not a fixed size. It's for some reason this "hyped" size, but it's completely relative to band size. If you asked men, I would say wager a good amount who actually have had sex with a woman who had that size, would not even know.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:22 AM
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What a weirdly worded question, "how many have had sex with someone who has breasts larger than DD", you ask for larger and then give stats for DD and above. Just for context, estimated number of women with breasts larger than DD (in US because I assume you are defaulting to the US) is less than 4% at most. Given that, I'd expect the answer for your question to be that significantly less men have had sex with someone with larger than DD chest, than the amount of women who have had sex with a man…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 08:31 AM
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I'm an asexual woman who is romantically interested in women, can definitely say it's not for men in any way for me. My general style is very "pastel goth" which seems to keep men away regardless. My outfits are a mixed bag of slightly revealing, sexy and completely covered up. The simple reason I personally dress provocatively sometimes is because I want to feel beautiful, and I do think outfits like that are beautiful. It also allows me to match the vibe of my friends as we go clubbing or simi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 11:33 PM
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It's not about attractiveness when the topic s social skills, it's... Well social skills. Social skills matter for friends too, it's not about romantic interest but also expressing that. Social skills are important to human interaction. To say that those skills should not matter just because you are whatever sexual makes no sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 09:08 PM
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Do you argue the same with heterosexua" people? "The main driver is gender, what do you mean you got to be hot too, being the right gender should be enough!"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 08:49 PM
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At that point any instance of consensual sex is prostitution, which makes it a meaningless definition in my eyes. If sex = prostitution, why even have the word for prostitution at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 12:48 AM
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Except that "access" does not equal "sex", and exchange of sexual access for sexual access is still an exchange. I do believe OPs definition of prostitution is way too broad to be taken seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 11:41 PM
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He clarified his definition in a comment Prostitution is the exchange of value for access. Money is just one form. Time, attention, gifts, status, and security are all currencies. Change the unit of payment and the transaction doesn’t stop being a transaction. By that definition almost anything is indeed prostitution.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 05:49 PM
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I do, but as an asexual lesbian I'm not exactly the type of person OP meant if I had to guess. I only have one opposite sex friend who cuddles with me, and his wife also cuddles with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 09:46 AM
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Your source is study on Vietnam era's war veteran marital status 4 decades ago? Not only does it not have the 70% figure you claim but it also doesn't include any statistics for the reason of divorces or who initiated it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 09:59 PM
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I am not the original commenter, and I don't know studies this arena so I am not making any claims. Just telling you that if you are going to quote sources, please at least make sure the source is something you'd trust yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 12:54 AM
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I'm not saying you're wrong, but that is a bad source. For the percentage of cheating population it uses article as a source, an article that does not give even the name of the study. I was actually curious about the real numbers as the link you sent and the article it references both don't directly quote a number and instead say "around". So I tracked down the study because the researcher's name was mentioned as well as the year. The "study" was based on an anonymous internet poll that got arou…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 12:03 AM
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Do correct if I am wrong since I went through key points of that paper quickly and didn't have time to read all of it, but this is talking about sexual assault in prison bringing male victimization to the same level of women's outside of prison. It is an important topic, but I do think people are generally referring to victimization in "everyday life" when talking about these things unless otherwise stated.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 01:57 AM
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Something can't be mandatory and opt-out at the same time. Either it is mandatory or it's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 06:00 AM
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I have a question, you said "I’m attracted to women based on how they look and if they are sexually attractive" suggesting that how they look is separate from whether they are sexually attractive. Can someone not look good to you without you being sexually attracted to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 08:26 PM
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Regardless of how obviously this was an AI response, even if it was opt-out by both parents, at some point the father will have to give DNA for the test, which is an active step he will choose to take or not take. True, making it "opt-out" could help reduce stigma, but that will need to be a social change, not a policy change, because it cannot be done without an active step from the father. An "opt-out" would in practice be a semantic change, because if someone was to take an offence to an "opt…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 01:59 PM
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Forgot to remove the AI part of the response?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 01:41 PM
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How? Hospital cannot consent for you, so at some point you will have to agree to it, either by opting in, or explicitly not opting out. Ultimately it is the same decision, just phrased differently, unless there is something I am just not understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 01:36 PM
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Practically, what would standardized paternity test even look like? Paternity tests are already offered at hospitals, and it will always be opt-in because the hospital can't consent for you, at the end of the day you will be asked if you want the test or not. Standardizing the test would do nothing but move the problem to different location, right? I don't really get what the actual goal is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:55 AM
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