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You & I are in agreement there. I think generally men are less picky than women are. I guess [visibly and severely] disabled women are likely to be shut out of dating [edit: I initially typed this paragraph to compare it to a man with the same disability but I don't really have proof of that other than "it do be like that sometimes" so the only statement that's true is that visibly and severely disabled women rank very low on the RMV/SMV] One other thing I feel like mentioning: "this is the one …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 05:50 AM
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Women are always asking men to open our minds while you rigidly hold us to such narrow superficial standards. If I can get over a few extra pounds, you can get over a few missing inches. Only speaking for myself here, but I've never tried to convince to be attracted to me. 🤷 Some blokes don't want a tall-ish woman, or an Asian, or whatever traits I have and that's fine - I just won't be gunning for them. You're right it goes both ways, and I've never tried to convince you otherwise. You're sayin…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 05:15 AM
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I'll be candid with you since we're on PPD (and I'm not bringing any new information to the table, but I thought I could reply to some comments you made) I'm 5'7" (170cm). For me, it's not a meaningless aspect that I want someone taller, bc our whole society conditions us to prefer the dynamic of woman = smol, cute, feminine role, men = big, protective, masculine. this is an example of it happening when the duo aren't even in a relationship. Without getting into the logicistical flaws like how t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 04:15 AM
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From what you're saying, it sounds like all of your relationships are ending due to the same reason, so most likely the common denominator is you. Consider: would the same pattern happen even if you met the "perfect" woman for you? If yes, then it's a 'you' thing. If you can't introspect by yourself (which is fine btw - we all have blind spots), I'd really recommend seeing a psychologist or therapist to really help you analyse your thought patterns that lead to your relationships ending. It's no…
/r/askFDS29/04/20 11:58 AM
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wtf are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 09:28 AM
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It's literally unhealthy for a woman to have 8% body fat. No woman should be striving to achieve that body fat %. It's like when men want "DD" breasts, not understanding cup sizes. Below 20%, sure, I get where they're coming from, but I don't think the dude would actually be attracted to a woman with 8% body fat. https://lmgtfy.com/?q=body+fat+percentage+chart
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 08:41 AM
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lmao I was wondering if someone else would notice this. It's like if OP asked "Burger King or McDonalds?" and everyone has just answered "I don't eat fast food"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/20 09:55 AM
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I grew up with a mom who didn't possess the arcane knowledge of looking good so I had to figure it all out on my own. - Skincare. The canvas has to be good, so to speak. All skincare regimens basically boil down to "make sure the skin is hydrated", regardless of how much the items cost or how many steps are in the process. At the bare minimum, I would recommend sunscreen daily. - Physique. Accentuate your favourite features. I'm built like a fridge, not much in the chest/bum department and an ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 11:40 PM
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If it makes me happy and I can afford it, I buy it. Honestly life is messy and stressful and if spending $80 can make me happy for a week (or longer) then that's money well spent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 10:01 AM
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Guys sulk because they're emotionally stunted and can't cope with consequences of their own actions. I wouldn't bother sending another message, the ball is in his court already. You've already made it clear that: you are available tomorrow, take it or leave it. If he doesn't get back to you to make plans, then tough, because it's not like you didn't give him plenty of opportunities to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:01 AM
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in addition to all of the other lovely contributions (some of which are already my top pet peeves) here are a few more I haven't seen mentioned yet. - "good vibes only", "here for a good time not a long time", etc = i'm emotionally stunted. i'm ultimately looking for someone to drive me to and from my cataract surgery when i'm 70 [figuratively speaking], which is beyond his lvm ways. who tf wants to expend any energy on some fboi who will fuck off when life gets hard? - "looking for player 2", "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:41 AM
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At the end of the day, FDS is a self improvement sub. Fix what you feel like you’re lacking and at the end of it, it doesn’t matter whether or not you end up finding a HVM that fits your life, because your life would be complete without him anyway. Everything in your life should be a choice made out of self-love. if you don’t want to be in an open relationship, then simply don’t be in one. If your relationship with your friends are fulfilling and you’re hetero, you wouldn’t benefit from marrying…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 10:44 PM
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Eurydice_Dixon Reset your counter, this happened a year ago (and I'm sure every country has their own Eurydice Dixon story that happened recently).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 04:52 PM
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I personally would (FDS newbie here though) - just for the sake of understanding what happened from his perspective. Just a quick "hey you seemed off last night, did anything happen" message should suffice. Maybe wait until he's not at work though, so it gives him time and space to debrief by himself. If he doesn't respond to that, then you have your answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:34 PM
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omg yes. it should just be called /r/thegoodmen or /r/beholdthegoodmen (à la beholdthemasterrace)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 08:35 AM
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Going to go against the grain here and say an ultimatum isn't going to be the way to go. I wouldn't want to spend time in a relationship where I guilted, pressured or had to convince them to get into. That will get you into a relationship where only one of you can be happy at a time. If you need to cut contact (temporarily or permanently), just let him know. If he's reasonable, he will accept that you have your own needs that he is not fulfilling. If he flips out about it, then you know that he'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 01:10 AM
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The old adage, "the person who loves less controls the relationship". Not just a good principle for relationships, but also for navigating life in general. Always be prepared to walk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 01:04 AM
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It truly is a doggy dog world.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 10:47 PM
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This. Also not to mention... the hormonal pills are literally called Oral Contraceptive Pills so idek what that guy is on
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/18 03:48 PM
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I'm sure you're being honest but I just imagine you as this
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/18 10:33 AM
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Ok but dude do you realise how stupid your question is. Just because something has a following and some "evidence" surrounding it does not mean that is it The TruthTM or The Best Way To LiveTM What I have experienced and what I have observed about the people around me show me mostly the opposite of RP "Truths" -- at the very least RP "truths" are completely irrelevant to how I personally live my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 08:55 AM
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Why do flat earthers exist if the earth is demonstrably not flat?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 08:43 AM
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Absolutely. Bonini's paradox: as a model grows more realistic, it also becomes just as difficult to understand as the real-world processes it represents Make a caricature of a woman like RP does, and you will know predictably what she will do (AFBB, CC, etc.) Model after one woman, and it becomes harder to predict. Model after women in one social group (e.g. attractive early twenties white women in America) and you're dealing with something exponentially harder than the above. Yet somehow they b…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/17 10:43 PM
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People with similar values and life goals will last longer than people who are polar opposites. But I want my life partner to have different tastes in candy, so he can have the lemon and lime flavored gummies while I have the apple and orange ones. 😋
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/17 10:27 AM
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I was going to suggest this one! I think it's appropriate for a sub that talks so much about SMV/RMV and romantic relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/16 12:11 AM
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Female BPer. I'm in a committed relationship, our four year anniversary is in 5 days. We are on par with each other - what I would consider as flaws in myself are as bearable (to me) as the flaws that he has, and the same can be said for our qualities / what we bring to the table. I'm mostly happy with the relationship. I'm happy I found somebody compatible with me so young, but I fear there may have been things in the past that we have done to each other that will be impossible to forgive, or d…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/16 08:03 AM
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Yes, the emphasis is on personal improvement, ie. get more well-rounded as a person and stop focusing on whether or not you can attract the opposite sex. Self-improvement and dating prospects should be independent of each other (and this is something that red and blue both agree on I think) [This is a response to the first few paragraphs of your OP, but I'm too lazy to make two separate posts] A problem I feel is present in your thought process is that things important to you now may not always …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/16 07:43 AM
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1) age - 22 2) race - Asian (Chinese) 3) Area of the world you're from. - Australia 4) Marital status - In a relationship 5) Religious affiliation growing up, and currently - Christian, now atheist 6) Class status growing up: this one's hard for me to tell but tl;dr it's the class status of the typical second generation asian. Had a few years where we were briefly low, then transitioned into working class 7) Current class status - it's hard to say. there's enough money to go around (my parents a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 02:10 AM
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The School Of Life YouTube channel is currently on fire with trying to describe the stream of consciousness. https://youtu.be/hu9L5zQ4g0Q tldr, there's so much going on that we only notice snippets of it as it happens, it's not usually a logical process, it's a mix of feelings and words and imagery and most literature and media fall short in accurately capturing it (because they would rather a straightforward narrative be shown) - - with the exception of James Joyce which has most accurately cap…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/16 12:57 AM
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Humans can't physically fly without technological assistance because physics works the way it does. What was your analogy trying to illustrate because I'm actually quite confused?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/16 12:38 AM
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I've never dyed my hair, hair length a bit below the shoulders, no tattoos, no piercings, healthy BMI (169cm x 53kg = 18.6). If I say "Asian-Australian woman", you could probably have a good guess of what I am. Sorry to be a big disappointment ~.^
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/16 12:21 AM
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I was poking fun at OP's "wow" comment :P
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/16 08:53 AM
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My mom occasionally buys a lotto ticket because she likes humouring the idea of winning a decent amount and going on a holiday. Good to know she's as bad as scam artists that take advantage of the weak and innocent.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/16 07:14 AM
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Hah, you might be onto something there!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/16 05:21 AM
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I've finished that big crazy drug phase in my life, but hallucinogens get my vagina buzzin. I get literal tingles down there and it feels good man, so they're my #1 choice. Especially since you can't do anything except talk for the first few hours of the trip, so sex feels so much more intimate after that. MDMA is fun, but I'd rather do things other than sex. Plus it messes with erections, so it's not fun for him either. With weed I get the same pleasant "tingles" except it's my whole body vibra…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/16 03:10 AM
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Binary thinking This is a post you might find interesting. I know it's suss because it's an askreddit post, but from the little bit of follow-up I've done, it seems to follow current scientific literature. tl;dr binary thinking indicates a lower level of intellectual development. imho anybody who values the truth should see binary thinking as an obstacle to overcome, rather than something to be celebrated.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/16 03:01 AM
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Everyone's already addressed what I want to (basic social skills; something that we learn for the first 20+ years of our lives at least; it's inappropriate in essentially every culture; your rights should not obstruct the rights of others; treat strangers with basic human decency; it's better to build rapport and ask covert questions to approximate whether they'd say yes or no before asking -- and all of this applies when the genders are flipped too) but I need to add one thing. Not all feminist…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/16 10:21 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/4ux4ly/q4men_if_you_woke_up_tomorrow_as_a_pretty_18_year/d5tlvci Well that's a half-truth I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/16 02:12 AM
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Men and women are not meant to be friends at all 207 points/ 83% upvoted Women make bad friends... "do not befriend women" 106 points / 81% upvoted "His company is infinitely higher quality, and thus more valuable than hers. In 99% of cases this means if you’re hanging out with a woman you’re not fucking, you’re getting a bad deal. Legitimate female friends, women you find unattractive and are interesting are rare, because most women have no personality." - The Red Pill Constitution Obviously th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/16 05:33 AM
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You're right, I was only talking about prejudice in just that one context. Hopefully the edit makes it more accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/16 03:45 PM
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It's a thought experiment. There's no reason you shouldn't be able to address it because it's 'unrealistic'. That one has no application in the real world so it is not worth discussing. It's internally consistent, but it's not externally consistent! It ignores things like the fact that we have more than one value, and those values conflict (e.g. survival instinct supercedes kindness). To give one overly simplistic scenario of where prejudice is reasonable does not mean that all prejudice is reas…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/16 03:39 AM
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Thus it appears that prejudice is not inherently wrong, given these two cases (and again, please feel free to make a counterargument). I can't address the first example because it's too unrealistic and binary. The most reasonable solution would be to give everyone the opportunity to try-out, but to select the most suitable members for your team (no demographic quotas). It is fair to say: "you cannot join our team because you, the individual, did not out-compete the others" but it is not fair to …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/16 02:53 AM
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Strength - nah. I associate "bigger" and "stronger" with masculinity. I want to feel "smaller" and "weaker" in comparison, but it's not to feel "safe" because if I wanted the feeling of safety, I'd get bigger and stronger myself. It's to feel more feminine. For shallow, aesthetic reasons. Intelligence - not a problem if we're talking book smarts. As long as he is a functioning adult who can do things. The dealbreaker would be a lack of chemistry (how well we get along) or him being mean-spirited…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/16 01:55 AM
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/u/archwinger, /u/pembayliss, /u/civilsaint, /u/prometheangambit, /u/fairlynaive, /u/sardonis70, /u/zaziegallimard, /u/exit_sandman, /u/bonerdude420, /u/groovyefs, /u/christian_kong, /u/sipssparklingwater, /u/kick6 and /u/entropy-7 sorry for the ping, but if you don't mind answering for clarity on this old topic -- when you gave your answer, did you have every woman in mind (that is, every sexually available woman) or only the attractive ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/16 01:43 AM
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No, I know pretty girls. I just know more average ones (duh). I'm literally saying that I do not think you are on the same page as the other red pillers that have responded to this question and have quoted/linked what they have said to show that I'm not really misconstruing their words any more than you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/16 01:28 AM
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her username is a 4chan meme and her boyfriend appears to be a walking charicature of every shitty stereotype about Reddit... And the video ends with him saying "Good job, baby" off camera. That's just their sense of humour. He likes playing on the basement dweller trope as well ("mom, is my hot pocket ready?") And no, he didn't tell her to make it. She was doing anti-feminist videos since before they met. She's formed her opinions by herself, and she's old enough to do so. Trump supporter, self…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/16 05:41 AM
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I know right, I came here to say this too lol. Shoe is adorable and funny, but not signficiantly more intelligent than anyone else in the feminism debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/16 05:22 AM
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Then TRPers should state that instead of assuming we're all mind readers. I could be making the wrong assumption, like you've said. Or you could be making the wrong assumption, and TRPers could literally mean "all women, average and above". For example, this guy literally says the average person, and this guy says "of the female population" and deliberately excludes ugly people from the equation as you have done (but insinuates that every woman that isn't ugly rides CC). Archwinger - the top pos…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/16 02:34 AM
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That's cool, but that doesn't really answer my question.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/16 01:21 AM
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But, there is little doubt that men not getting sex from their wives do NOT get the sympathy and social support a woman does with a deadbeat husband. ∆. That's one comparison that I've never considered before. And I'll have to keep the lack of social support in mind for when this topic crops up in future. Also I'm very against withholding sex. It's obviously bad for him, but it's also bad for her to stay in a relationship where she doesn't desire him, doesn't communicate, or doesn't have his bes…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 08:58 PM
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Neat, that's completely reasonable and I hope nobody faults you for believing that way. Thanks for the answer c:
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 07:59 PM
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What do you mean by RP foundation?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 07:47 PM
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Don't take /r/relationships too seriously, it's a female dominated subreddit (i.e. more benefit of the doubt is given to a woman, unless the man is clearly being abused because they looove to point out when someone is being abused) and most commenters are just trying to project their own unhappiness onto other people's situations. Like the other day, there was this thread where the girl was clearly irrational and immature, and all the top posters were like "HOW DARE YOU NOT READ HER MIND!!!" All…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 07:27 PM
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I'm blue and it's definitely not misogynistic to have expectations in a relationship. Like um...?? Finding out one person isn't pulling their weight only leads to resentment. Where has a blue piller ever said that you have to sacrifice yourself for her benefit with no compensation? Like obvs there are "common sense" things that you are allowed to expect (and should!! expect), like expecting your partner to respect and trust you, and expecting your partner to not cheat. Nobody is crazy enough to …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 06:36 PM
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Why the false dichotomy? Most people are simply average. I'm not going to turn heads, but if I went onto Tinder or to the club to pull, there would be at least someone not ugly that would be happy to oblige.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 01:22 AM
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Aren't you the one who said you didn't want to have discussions with blue pillers because they're objectively ugly and you wouldn't want them anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/16 10:40 AM
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Many red pillers hold that view and it is easily extrapolated from the concept of "post-wall women" ETA: In your defense though, most red pillers who share that view get downvoted on the subreddit or discounted as "anger phasers". But you can't deny that they're out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/16 11:24 PM
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Yes! Our brains are always calculating and calibrating to the people around us. Notice how children always scan the faces of their friends and caregivers to see how to react to a situation. It's just that as we grow into adults, we get quicker at it and internalise the reactions more. Be dynamic, not static. Unfortunately, you can't make dynamic "guidelines" that suit every situation, which is the biggest problem with online advice. Inflexible advice is easier to write - like the example in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/16 12:35 AM
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Hamsters Women will eat their newborn babies if she feels unsafe. Fucking disgusting behaviour. Absolutely no integrity or honour.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/16 01:40 AM
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The data would support that roughly only 24% of women would be significantly immune to either AF\BB or hypergamy. Don't you mean 24% of female voles? Rodents aren't even biologically equivalent enough. I don't know why you're daft enough to extrapolate that they are intellectually or socially equivalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/16 01:29 AM
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Thanks for sharing. You're actually reasonable, so it's a shame some people are attacking you for it. All of us "judge" people silently, the problem happens if you act upon it or let it cloud your interactions with other people (i.e. punishing someone for someone else's actions). As long as you don't blame every woman for the rant you had in the last three paragraphs, it all G. re: the intelligent conversation thing this is not a gendered issue. I haven't met many people who have thought hard en…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/16 06:17 AM
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I thought for LTR, matching hypothesis is more indicative than how objectively attractive you are? And matching hypothesis is more universal advice than "be attractive enough", which some people can't achieve. But I think I might be reading the OP wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/16 12:50 AM
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Red pill comics is not a good representation of real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/16 09:29 AM
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Nobody has. Most of our social rules we have are unspoken and are "common sense" - if you choose to be a part of the society, you follow the rules or you get ostracised. Humans grow into adults so slowly because we need a lot of time to learn and adapt to the "unspoken rules" and culture around us. And even then, it's not foolproof because some people have really bad upbringings, and other people are just blind to non-verbal communication and struggle to thrive. Honour and loyalty can be traits …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 11:04 PM
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(thanks!!)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 03:20 AM
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Society teaches men (and women) to care less about other men. Caring less about other men, or anyone else does not go in line with honour in my books. If a husband finds another man upsetting his wife, the perpetrator already voided the social contract. The rule about not committing violence goes out the window and the perpetrator deserves a fair punishment. Society tries to teach people to treat everybody with common courtesy. If someone breaks the rule first, you are not obligated to put their…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 01:58 AM
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If this is true, why are there so many red pillers that believe only men have honour, or women have a limited sense of it? While honor is universal to both men and women, its standards have historically been gendered. While codes of honor have varied across time and cultures, in its most primitive form, honor has meant chastity for women and courage for men. http://www.artofmanliness.com/2012/10/01/manly-honor-part-i-what-is-honor/ https://m.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/27xi7j/most_women_tru…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 12:17 AM
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The torah explicitly allowed polygyny. Many of the "great men" of the bible had multiple wives and concubines - Abraham, Jacob, King David, King Solomon (remember, it's written that Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines!) Even in other societies - Islam-dominant regions accept and allow polygyny, literally because their holy books allow it. Nowadays, polygyny is most prevalent in the African continent. Polygamy was only prohibited in China since the 1950s. It's still tolerated in Tibet. You c…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 06:10 AM
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Agreed. I used black and white wording because I misinterpreted the OP. Which was really wrong of me, but I'm going to leave the comment like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 06:17 AM
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I didn't even notice the article had examples. It was just the first link that I found succinctly describing different ways deprivation can manifest. I think if you agree with the general sentiment but disagree with the examples, you're missing the forest for the trees. Emotional neglect (both passive and active) can have a profound impact on a person's psyche. If it is enough to be traumatizing to a child (this is where most literature focuses on in journals) then why not an adult?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 05:53 AM
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Not all abuse leaves marks. There are slimy, underhanded tactics that can be used to undermine someone's self-esteem that people will rationalise away because "well they're not yelling at me, so they're not abusive". I personally think there are circumstances where it is understandable - not everybody can be held to perfect standards all the time and I certainly am guilty of giving the silent treatment in the past. But when it's done in a deliberate and sustained manner, by a partner who knows t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 05:08 AM
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PSA: Deprivation is abuse. A man withholding affection, a woman withholding affection, a man withholding sex, and a woman withholding sex are all deprivation and are all wrong. Deprivation has no place in a healthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 03:17 AM
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If "you" fail to separate the actions of an individual from the actions of a collective, then you've fallen into the same trap as the radfems who hate all men and the BLM movement who hate all white people. Listen to Sargon of Akkad about individualism vs. collectivism. If you catch your gf cheating on you redhanded, why is anybody besides her to blame? Are you going to call some random woman and give her a piece of your mind because she's a woman so therefore she fucked you over by proxy? Just …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 12:11 AM
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It must be so draining to be with someone who employs those RP tactics. I'd rather someone who takes me seriously and doesn't play games to keep me in my place. I don't want someone who thinks so little of my character and intellect (and treats me accordingly). Caring is the coolest thing I've ever seen anyone do. I know I'm not the only one who feels this way, so it makes me so confused to think that it actually works on some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/16 11:22 AM
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If you were looking for a diatribe, you just missed it! Heath just tried to start a PPD titled "CMV: Bluepillers are Ugly". I didn't read the entire thing, but he ended it with: Anyway I'm out, doubt I will bother arguing with any more women on here unless she can prove to me she is actually the type of women I'd want to get naked. Otherwise, your advice means nothing to me. Total waste of time trying to talk to someone like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/16 03:08 PM
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Hope you make a follow-up this time round. Have you ever had a one night stand before? No Have you ever had a fuckbuddy, friends with benefits, or purely sexual relationship? If sex with ex counts, yes. If it doesn't, no. In college, did you belong to a social sorority? No sororities in Australia Have you ever hooked up with someone at a party in college before? No Have you ever had sex while drunk? Yes, with my boyfriend. Have you ever dated or had sex with a gym bro, or fairly muscular guy? Da…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/16 10:55 AM
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By involved, I mean the person they are seeing for medical advice would take it into consideration if something bad happens. On a side note, TGA limits the pack size of OTC paracetamol. If someone has a chronic pain condition, without a doubt they see a doctor instead of going into the supermarket/pharmacy once a week to buy 24-packs so it's not too difficult to guess the indication if someone buys unscheduled paracetamol. Yeah, if it's as ridiculously hard as you say I absolutely understand why…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/16 02:26 AM
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Whoops sorry. I forget that practice is different in other countries and I was only really speaking for my own. Benefits vs. risk is skewed differently here. GPs are convenient and often free to see, so there is a much reduced barrier to access contraception here. This is what happened in Australia and how scheduling works here. While I don't agree with all their reasoning, I can get behind their conclusion. If access is not a barrier, deregulation can only lead to a lower quality of care. If so…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/16 01:54 AM
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A justification as to why hormonal BC is prescription only is that it's for long-term use. Doctors like to be able to monitor chronic medication - all OTC products are intended only for acute conditions where the patient are able to monitor themselves. Having a contraindication to the COCP is not rare either, nor is the amount of women who have nasty side effects from the first or second formulation they try (and it's safer for a doctor with expertise and experience to select formulations than i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/16 12:43 AM
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You said "perhaps... the actual impact of being raped is currently less than the impact of being convicted of rape" which applies to ALL rape cases and mattress girl isn't even mentioned in the entire thread. When /u/civilsaint, /u/sublimemongrel and /u/lbspredh were talking, I took it as them discussing all rape cases. It was a failure in communication on your part and you can't solely blame the intelligence of your readers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/16 12:00 AM
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I thought there is no one definitive truth to human nature. Aren't atheist existentialists firmly in the camp of believing there is absolutely no such thing as human nature? Not that I am one, I'm still making my mind. I have spoken with hyperbole when I said there was no universal human nature bar happiness, but when we come to self-actualisation and discovery, we develop different values. To appeal to people, you appeal to their values - in this context, red pill asserts alpha fux for women at…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/16 11:22 PM
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Re-read the first seven words of that post. Seeking basic pleasures goes under the umbrella of happiness and you're arguing for the base of Maslow's hierarchy, while I'm talking about the peak.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/16 01:38 PM
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Apart from the quest to seek happiness, I don't think there is anything that is truly universal in our natures. Even individuals are very different on a day-to-day basis, which makes me unable to accurately 'categorise' an individual, letalone the entire human species. At the very least, I hope that I have (and the people in my life that I respect has) enough of a capacity to introspect and see 'why' a course of action seems right instead of blindly accepting the impulse and attributing it to "h…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/16 02:48 AM
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I think gender is a really broad brush to paint people by when you're judging people by their actions. The only time I would use gender to generalise anything, is when we're dealing with medical conditions and even then, there's a difference talking about something that only affects one gender like prostate cancer, vs. something with many eitologies like schizophrenia. Demographics like age, class (education, career choice, living conditions, social network), religion and ethnicity play a role a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/16 12:52 AM
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Context is important. If you went to a place designed to debate flat earth ideas, then refuting the claims of the other side would be better for the community and actually staying on topic. This is right. But none of the posts in the entire thread look even close to being serious. This either indicates that red pillers are insincere (and should you give a dishonourable comment an honourable one?) or display a shocking lack of empathy or mutual understanding. Like I could tell one of them was a j…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/16 04:51 PM
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22/f here, if that helps contextualise things. What is your pill? The more time I spend here, the more blue I become. Blue. Do you have casual sex on a semi-frequent basis? I haven't had sex with anyone who wasn't a boyfriend or an ex. Have you ever had a one night stand? No Have you ever been to a night club? Yes Have you ever been drunk before? Plenty of times Have you ever smoked weed or a different illegal drug? mdma, weed, acid (/nbome) are the ones that I remember using at a semi-frequent …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/16 09:28 AM
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If someone asserts the earth is flat and there are evil elves on the other side, are you going to bother refuting that claim? Honestly what they wrote is just as ridiculous. I see it at just a fantasy they use to reaffirm that they are right in their head, with no basis in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/16 11:54 PM
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(Thank you very much for your insight! It's given me a lot to consider.)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/16 03:22 AM
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I'm very naive and about to get into the stage of moving together/taking the relationship to that step, and I can totally see 1, 3 and 4 being possibilities for the future. Since you sound like you're in the know, what kind of system do you suggest/works for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 11:59 AM
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That was mostly a response to AmazingAndy's "and the ongoing costs of maintaining a relationship add up!" but I also accidentally conflated the two a little, so my b
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/16 01:26 PM
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Established couples actually have the financial upper hand compared to singles, so as long as she's pulling her weight, it would still be cheaper to LTR than to buy. Plus, if you're a poor college student, greasy takeaway Chinese food and pizza sound like the best idea when you're with a qtp2t
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/16 05:31 AM
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Damn son, if you normally pay $400 per date, then sign me up ;) But yeah, lack of emotional gratification and social stigma are also other deterrents that I didn't bother mentioning since they're the two big ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/16 04:46 AM
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I was thinking our lack of an overt social structure in universities, lower legal drinking age, less focus on getting laid in clubs (though I might just hang out with the wrong people for that) and no weird religious undertones might be factors that makes it easier or harder to hook up or date. But your experience is first-hand and outweighs mine, since I have no idea what America even is half the time lol. I'd also add that brothels are very expensive. The average guy probably desires sex sever…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/16 11:27 AM
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We have brothels in Australia and it's not a hot topic here. I know a few people who have bought sex and a few who are sex workers and they're just... regular people? Sex is only a big deal if you make it one. But I don't think we would really know until it happens. America's culture is really weird for an outsider and has a lot of other social norms that other countries do not have. But I think it wouldn't really make a visible impact, considering a) craigslist exists which is a good appropriat…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/16 08:31 AM
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Thanks for this comment. It really gave me a lil bit of hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/16 04:16 AM
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I'm lmao because they pretty much said "you're bad at communictation and can't see the opposite viewpoint" while doing exactly that themselves. Protip: if you don't want to further engage somebody, you just don't respond instead of writing up three paragraphs saying why you are not going to respond (and then respond anyway). Also: some women do go back to their abusive partners (usually because of learned helplessness, or because the abuser has isolated them/conditioned them, or some other reaso…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/16 11:54 PM
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My male friends are like 80% serial monogamists and 20% single ONSers. To get an idea of what "my people" are like, think drugs, parties and one of them is a sex worker. i'm not going to ask unprompted, but from what I can gather, they go out to clubs every week, tell me about their bangs once a fortnight at most. The people who have established relationships (myself included) have sex more often, probably 4-9 times weekly (sex worker friend is an outlier adn should not have been counted) My oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 03:26 AM
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In your posts the first this you do is tell your SO that you are doing and experiment. This creates a mindset that it is temporary. You are also telling them that your behavior is going to change and thereby not allowing them to react naturally to how an actual change would affect them. That is just for starters. This is impossible though. You're proposing misspearl should have done it without his informed consent, so that when the truth is uncovered, he will feel some level of betrayal and coul…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/16 02:32 PM
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What about if he started a fight because someone was sitting in his spot? That's so much more "Sheldon Cooper picked up a PUA guidebook" and less "wow he's so dominant and cool" - - regardless of whether he wins or loses in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/16 10:37 PM
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Exactly this. Being so insecure that you have to win everything and act alfa in every given situation is beta as fuck. Escalating over something as petty as a chair is embarrassing. Saying something like "alright dude, relax" will highlight to onlookers exactly how immature the other guy is being.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/16 10:34 PM
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Mostly I just read PurplePillDebate on the bus because it kills time. Just having a laff and sometimes there are killa questions here that help me rethink how I should act in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/16 10:01 AM
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I was using "you" as in second person anyway. I generally have no respect for contrarian behaviour for the sake of being contrarian - usually it just makes you a nuisance. Think of that guy in university who always corrected the lecturer on minutiae. Whether it is mature or not depends on context, but I would say it is usually immature. You know that the mature thing to do at a fancy dinner is to be dressed up nicely, eat neatly and you know which topics of conversation are appropriate, so to ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 11:10 PM
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Then you're a contrarian, eh mate? If it benefits you to go against the grain, that's cool, but most of the time it does not. Tell a holocaust joke at a job interview and see how far that gets you. Tell that same holocaust joke at the perfect time when you're out with your mates and you're a legend for that night. It's all about the time & place.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 06:37 PM
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Maturity is knowing how to behave at every given scenario. Most people manage.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 12:15 PM
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How long did you date before clarifying exclusive commitment? I think about a week or two. Did you have sex first? Nope. There was cuddling and kissing and general intimacy involved but nothing sexual beyond groping Was it you who pushed for commitment or was it him? He did. Kinda. One night we were hanging out, he was talking to a friend online and typed "I'm hanging out with my..." then he looks at me and asks "we do everything a couple does. I should start calling you my girlfriend now, hey?"…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/16 06:37 AM
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This is exactly it. Some inexperienced women may conflate the two, but see how many people think it is a dealbreaker when someone is rude to their waiter during a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/16 01:01 AM
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Yes: Above average in looks and fitness. Works out regularly, has a sense of style. Is relatively popular among other women. Has exciting hobbies such as rugby, rock climbing, dancing, or aviation. Is very social and frequently attends parties where there are lots of attractive people, often involving alcohol. Indifferent: Has a non-nerdy, masculine job. Owns his own business, travels a lot, manages a lot of people, or works in a physically demanding field. No: Has strong ambitions outside the h…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/16 10:17 AM
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Because historically, men have always had the advantage. Saying "able-bodied people should be equal to disabled people" implies that they want to drag everybody else down to the level of a disabled person. I'm not of the belief that women have any disadvantage in first world societies but that's what I believe it the underlying cause behind the phrasing. On another note, life can be hard when you are a man but it is not hard because you are a man. Except in the sexual and sometimes social contex…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/16 05:06 AM
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Women do. But what does TRP say? Don't ask a fish how to catch it, ask the fisherman how he catches it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/16 11:39 PM
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I don't have casual sex, but that doesn't answer the question. Even if a person doesn't mention what pill they are, certain behaviours would turn me off. Kino, abundance mentality (showing I would only be another notch in your belt), some dark triad behaviour and probably a few other things would not attract me to somebody.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/16 11:32 PM
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Where did I say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/16 05:14 AM
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I don't have those standards. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/16 05:06 AM
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Not good enough. Try harder. I said that I think I'm a decent person and all I want is a similarly decent person - and there is no shortage of people who think like me. There is no point in going further if you're going to ignore what I'm actually saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/16 04:56 AM
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I don't think you understand priorities. Dick is abundant and and I'd much rather stay local than shell out thousands of dollars for foreign dick. I don't think getting laid is high on the list of reasons why people like to travel.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/16 09:06 AM
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I thought this was going to be another article about Vasalgel lol. If there's good evidence for safety and efficacy, I'll be excited to see it on the market. The more contraceptive options, the merrier.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/16 04:07 AM
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After the night of the "failed confession" he withdrew all physical contact too but still asked to hang out pretty regularly. And started dating other girls. Was it unreasonable to assume that he got the picture but still wanted friendship? Plus, it's always been him, and not me, that begins conversations and plans meetups because I didn't want to give him the wrong idea. So uh... no, it wasn't obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/16 02:44 AM
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It's a long story but here's the key details: You meet someone in June You tell them that you're not over your ex, she says she's not looking for anything long-term She constantly says "don't consider this as dating or a relationship" Never fucked, last kiss was in mid-October She literally says "I was never yours" at one point, fully serious and deadpan On the night you were going to "confess" to her, she pulls away from all your advances (ignores you to talk to her best friend, leans away when…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/16 01:59 AM
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My point is that everyone will find exceptions to the rule. If there are so many exceptions, is it a rule in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/16 01:44 AM
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Because we are dealing with demographics that are so diverse, does it really pay to generalise? Even if, say, 80% of women are more emotional than all men, 20% of such a large number means you are still going to run into a lot of them. A few days ago, I told my male friend that I got into a relationship and they sent me angry and upset messages for the next 24+ hours. My best friend is currently hurting a guy's feelings because two guys have asked her to be exclusive and she can't decide between…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/16 12:27 AM
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Absolutely. I don't know why some people deny the wall, while the entire Chinese speaking population already has a term coined for it. Sheng nu - translated to "leftover woman"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/16 10:49 PM
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If I am not interested in him: I remember in high school, I was a pimply Asian girl so I got excited because hey, it means I'm doing something right! Now that I'm less ugly and have a stronger sense of self, I just feel this kind of dread? I hate rejecting people right now but I don't want to be so desensitised by rejecting others that I feel nothing, either. If I am interested: Excited, fireworks, the lot. Get a little bit nervous too, especially if the potential for exclusivity is there. I wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/16 10:51 AM
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Your score is 31 out of 36 21 Female, Australian & predominantly blue.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 01:50 AM
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1) 5 / 2) 6 / 3) 4 / 4) 4 / 5) 5 / 6) 4
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/15 06:15 PM
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It is absolutely bad. Communication is key, and the opposite of communication is a break. My ex and I went on a break last week (his choice). I'm returning his things this weekend. My heart has hurt for weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/15 01:37 AM
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Because people that disagree are banned from posting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/15 07:36 AM
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Stop looking at /fit/ and /r/short and just leave the house for once.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/15 02:12 AM
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How many women actively chose to be single mothers rather than became single mothers as a consequence of their partner leaving them? But you're right - we're already seeing single mothers raising single mothers but most of them don't have a high SES and that likely won't change for decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/15 01:52 AM
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For me, sex is very much an emotional experience. I haven't had an interest in casual sex because it will hurt me in the long run. That's the best way I can answer your question but I suspect I'm missing the point. If someone is not willing to accept that, he's well within his rights to leave. And that would probably be the fairest option to take, since we both have needs the other party cannot fulfil. And on a side note, my experience is different from yours - my friends always became exclusive…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/15 04:10 AM
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I'm about 65% blue. 5'7"/125lbs/21 years old/asian and in shape (but can always improve). From past ratings, I'm about a 6.5-7/10 and a little higher again if I wear makeup. I think I look a little androgynous but that's subjective and everyone else disagrees. Minimalist style in winter and in summer I can't help but to wear floral dresses every day. OP, I think you'll find everyone will be average. Because that's how averages work.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/15 03:53 AM
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Maybe there is no dichotomy. Maybe the best people have a good mix of 'alpha' and 'beta' traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/15 12:17 AM
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Like I said, certain strategies - or certain strains of RP are not attractive to unicorns/NAWALTs. Where is the virtue of RP? It's fine to say it works if it works, but it's disingenuous to say that RP is moral.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/15 11:56 PM
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I think RPW is not fond of certain strategies of RP ("citation needed" though, I remember them saying this but no thread to verify). It's not virtuous to say "sexual strategy is amoral", treat women as inferior/useless and to look out only for themselves, is it? Red pill is selfish. They don't discuss how their actions affect other people. Speaking personally here, I wouldn't want a man who chose strategy 1. Because I'm a total slut shamer and I'm less attracted to someone once I learn they're r…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/15 10:43 PM
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Absolutely not. How many relationships break down because of a breakdown in communication or because there is someone withholding affection? I'm getting upset even imagining being with someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/15 07:09 AM
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Friggin hate timezones. All the Americans begin their April Fools pranks in the late afternoon for me. It's 4pm on 02/04 and y'all still don't know when to stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/15 05:16 AM
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I have had Asian parent friends call in big favours from me to review their daughters' resumes/application letters to high intensity engineering schools, give advice and give my recommendation. Multiple communities in multiple cities in the US and Canada think this is the normal behaviour. This doesn't prove anything other than the fact that we both have "biased samples". My experience comes from the Asian circle of friends that won't fit all the stereotypes, and yours comes from the Asian famil…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/15 04:00 PM
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Same reason as /u/wombatinaburrow: it was "too butch for a girl". If I were born male though, my parents definitely would have encouraged me. They speak highly of their friend's son who is an aerospace engineer. (Context: we're Asian. They feel some pressure to "keep up with the Chang's" so my second preference was denied as well) As to whether it was right? Definitely not. But it's too late to regret anything now.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/15 11:44 PM
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In the final year of HS, I wanted to do engineering. I think I was the only one. Out of ~50 female students in my year level, one other girl was doing specialist maths and two other girls were doing math studies and chemistry with me. My best friend was the only girl who studied physics. Meanwhile, English comms, history, PE and art were flooded with girls. There is definitely a lack of interest, since none of them expressed any interest in STEM in earlier years. In the end, I got the grades I n…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/15 09:46 PM
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Those ultimate alphas are hardly average. I keep seeing PPD using Chad's belt with 40 notches to juxtapose the socially awkward beta virgin caricature. I guess I just assumed this was another thread about that. So if the average 25-44 year old (roughly a ~35 year old) has 6 partners, we can say the average 25 year old has perhaps 4-5 partners, making the dude with 3 partners barely below average. Yeah, that sounds reasonable and I was too hasty to jump to conclusions. Sorry!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/15 03:48 AM
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Is it barely below average in comparison to what RP men report though? We're talking the plate spinners that RP thinks are the ultimate alphas (and in this thread, the "preferred male"), not the serial monogamists. Also: Median number of female sexual partners in lifetime, for men 25-44 years of age, 2006-20081: 6.1 Percent of men 15-44 years of age who have had 15 or more female sexual partners, 2006-20102: 21.6% CDC 3 is half of 6.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/15 06:23 AM
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If a man has had 3 or so LTRs by the time he's 25, is he unsuccessful with woman just because he has a low partner count? Do you think he would be characterised as shy, scrawny, pimply or nerdy? He's probably had sex in the same quantities as men with 50+ ONS or men with a handful of short-term relationships. To be honest, my boyfriend's count was 6-7 by the time he was 19, and that made me very uneasy. So yes, I do have a leaning towards men with a lower partner count but men with higher partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/15 10:18 PM
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do you actually understand the red pill I can't answer this fairly. I have read the stickies but I also follow the discussions. Because like Christianity, we both know that what scripture says and what people believe are not necessarily the same. what do you disagree with about the red pill? even if all women are not "like that" do you honestly expect men to care if they are getting laid more then they used to? or do you have some moral ethical issue with the red pill? It is just utilising the w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/15 07:43 AM
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That's not a completely true assessment. The only thing tying the members together is the fact that they are currently incel. The members range from the well adjusted mid-twenties man that hasn't done anything with a girl for a while to the awkward teen who is overthinking things, to the NEET who hasn't left his home in a week. There's always a few posts on the front page about how OP plans to ask a girl out or how OP went home with a girl and cuddled her all night. Most people reply to those ty…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/15 01:55 PM
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Thanks for the clarification, your view does make a lot more sense to me now. I definitely agree what you're saying needs a better term than "soft dread". But I'm going to stick with the "official" glossary's term of soft dread, which is still used to "get the target to step up their game to compete with other interested women." <sup>BTW, I googled ["soft dread" site:reddit.com] to find those posts.</sup> Whatever the case though, the relationship dynamic you've described is fundamental. I think…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/15 10:13 AM
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Thank you for your insight and reply. I don't think we will reconcile our beliefs. I'm more comfortable assuming non-malice in every action (obviously excluding rape/murder/etc) while I don't believe you can have that level of paranoia unless you assume all men are rapists or have a "me against the world" complex. They trust men when it comes to important jobs. By default, it seems the superiors I have worked with don't want to give women a chance. Also, that is literally what special treatment …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/15 08:05 PM
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Could you please elaborate on the privileges men have that they don't realise? In the academic and professional fields, I don't see my male peers getting any special treatment. I'd even say that romantically and socially, women are on par with men, or the balance is tipped in our favour. And I've never had to fear being raped on the streets, but this might be something dependent on what area you are in, and at what time you are walking alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/15 07:04 AM
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Good for you. The reason people rely on statistics over anecdotal evidence or the experiences of their peers is because you could be an outlier for all we know. It's like RPers here are claiming that the relationship dynamics in the movie American Beauty are the most common, and every other movie is wrong. In face of opposing evidence, it's fine to claim to be an outlier but it does nothing to help prove your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/15 08:19 PM
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That's not what the OP is saying. Theyre not talking about the SMV of older men relative to older women. They're talking about the SMV of older men relative to younger men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/15 05:47 AM
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Looking at one of the sources on the wiki pages, it looks like it peaks at man age = woman age + 5 and a trend where an increasing amount of people are marrying people closer to their age. Hardly the "women in their early twenties love men in their thirties and forties" that Red Pill claims, and the data is in support of the original post.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/15 05:35 AM
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