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| 7 | Opinions? Considering Disclosing STBXW's affair on Social MediaWhen you ask yourself “should I post this on social media?” The answer is always no. Keep your insights to yourself. People who want to believe your ex are going to believe her. Don’t worry about social optics, move on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/24 03:11 PM |
| 6 | Abusive exThis is terrible, and I’m sorry this is happening to you. That being said, everything after “my ex came over” was self inflicted. You should not be letting her in your house. Especially after this incident. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/24 03:06 PM |
| 4 | Getting back with ex wife after a dirvorceNo, never, there’s over 4 billion women on Earth, why? | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/24 01:46 PM |
| 16 | Back to square one.This is going to sound harsh but I do not intend it to be. It’s the same tough love I give myself : The problem is that you spent 1-2 years grieving the wrong thing, since you thought reconciliation was an option. Reconciliation was never an option. Things can never go back to the way they were. Really try to imagine that one day comes and she un flips her switch and you get back together - would that REALLY make you happy? It’s likely you can’t reclose Pandora’s Box. The statistics on the matte… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/24 01:04 PM |
| 5 | I have a court appointment this week. Should I go hard or easy on my ex for withholding timesharing time?Don’t go hard or easy on her. Be indifferent. Like this is a stranger. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/24 03:52 AM |
| 2 | Dating but not officially divorcedI second this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/24 03:49 AM |
| 2 | Any hope?Yes, I finalized 50/50. I do pay child support, but I ate that loss to get things done. It’s not much. I think she plans to live off of it without working, which is insane. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/24 03:21 AM |
| 1 | Admitted to Narc ex wife I still love herThis is what I do. I don’t have an official diagnosis to lean on, but I’m sure enough to have adopted a very quiet parallel parenting approach. Of course co-parenting is best, but if conflict is high the next best approach is parallel. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/24 03:36 PM |
| 26 | Any happy stories of reconciliation later in lifeWow, she told you that if things don’t work out with the new guy she would consider getting together in the future? I don’t want to be cold, brother, but move on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/24 08:07 AM |
| 6 | Surviving the Process: What are or have you done to keep your mind off of divorce?Lift weights, my brother. It seems simple, but it takes a lot of time and commitment and the rewards are endless. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/24 08:23 PM |
| 2 | Need a father's advice- Is love worth it?I was married once, and I thought I would say I still haven’t really felt “love”. I did have the urge to protect and take care of my ex, and I certainly love my child, but I never really felt that “magical” feeling of love. Take that with a grain of salt, though. I might not be normal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/08/24 03:31 PM |
| 11 | To the newcomers here, listen to this closely.I agree with the 4 points. If you’re new, please listen to OP. Don’t fight for someone that doesn’t want you. Live for you and you’ll magnetize good things into your life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/08/24 03:27 PM |
| 6 | Are you doing better than your ex?I’ll start by saying : “Comparison is the thief of joy” -Theodore Roosevelt That being said, with the scarce information that I have about the ex, I’m doing better. Financials are a little sketchy. We have 50/50 but I do pay about $1k a month in child support (1 kid) because she doesn’t work. She thought she would get alimony, but I fought it pretty hard and won. I live in a nice apartment, got the newer car with payments, and while it’s a little tight, I still have money. Before the divorce, I … | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/08/24 02:47 PM |
| 2 | How to get past feeling you wasted your prime attractiveness on your exI’m going to second this guy on the exercise. You can be pretty “unattractive” but being jacked is going to look great. Lift heavy things. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/08/24 02:11 PM |
| 1 | Would you ever reconcile with your STBXW just out of obligation to your family/ kids?No, I would never reconcile. People don’t change. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 04:08 PM |
| 14 | Do you regret getting divorced?Nope. Wasn’t my choice, but I found my peace afterwards. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 02:20 PM |
| 3 | Present your self as the prize fellasYou figured it out. Hats off to you, brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 02:07 AM |
| 2 | Using email to sustain the disrespectThe “I hope for [child’s name] sake you continue to grow in your journey to be a better person” one made me burst out laughing. That sounds exactly like something my ex would have written. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 02:02 AM |
| 3 | Lift heavy shitAgree 100%! Lifting heavy shit is my life now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/24 05:10 PM |
| 6 | Using email to sustain the disrespectThis is happening to me too. We use OFW and she will say something informative like “Our son has to do this on Tuesday” but then she will write 3 paragraphs of nonsense accusations and posturing. I respond to the first statement with “Ok”, “Yes”, or “No”. I agree it’s weird that they don’t catch on despite not engaging. Clearly a psychological issue on their part. They’re showing their cards unashamedly. You still rent her headspace for free. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/24 05:03 PM |
| 2 | ResourcesThis will sound weird, but here I go - I read a lot. This might be a personal thing, but reading got me through it. On the non-fiction side, The Four Agreements, No More Mr. Nice Guy, and The Truth About Children and Divorce (If you’re a parent). On the fiction side, I read all 6 Frank Herbert Dune books and The Journeyer by Gary Jennings. Good luck! | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/24 04:45 PM |
| 9 | Would you take her back?Nope, I wouldn’t. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 03:13 AM |
| 6 | Fundamentals: Why You Are HereThis one is really good, thank you for this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/24 03:32 PM |
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