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No no no, it's what they wish they could do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 10:34 AM
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I rather work a shitty job and use my brains to go to school to get a better job than waste my youth and years on some dweeb who gets a red pill bug up his ass and decides to throw me out when I'm 47 cause he thinks his baby gym gainz entitle him to a 19 yo from tinder. My brain can re-train, I can't re-grow 19 year old tits.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 10:32 AM
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The most submissive thing in the world is a man in a hierarchical structure. But beyond that some men just crave a strong daddy to tell them what to do. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 12:52 PM
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TL;DR version: OP doesn't have any self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:46 PM
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Yay! Another CoT fan in the wild!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:07 AM
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Why should we consider ourselves average when men fall all over themselves for our favor?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:00 AM
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A small bag containing 3 teeth, a ball of moss, some acorns, 12 feathers, and fist full of hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:28 PM
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Why does it make you insecure? I've only been to one Bachelorette party with a male stripper; the dude was very buff, oily, and gay. 🤷‍♀️ The spiciest thing he did was gyrate and simulate thrusting as he danced.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:25 PM
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Thank you! for a while they kept bringing up George fucking Clooney as the ultimate Chad, and it's like, that dude hasn't been relevant for 30 years!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:10 PM
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Yes, that's generally how the mating dance works.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:05 AM
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That 'male perspective' kinda just makes dudes sound whiny and dramatic tho?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 02:07 AM
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It's not a woman thing, its a human thing. The friction is usually because the statistical data does not reflect the anecdotal experience. No one likes being told X is unlikely to happen despite living with/surviving/witnessing/experiencing X. Even if there is no anecdotal experience, pain points/fear constructs exist in our psyches, and numbers/data has a poor track record for assuaging a triggered amygdala. Go ahead and try to mitigate an RP man's fear of paternity fraud with statistics, tell …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 03:27 PM
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Some women will, some women won't. 🤷‍♀️ There really is no other way to answer this kind of question.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 03:38 AM
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what would be so bad All of it. All of it would be bad. Eggs are scarce and sperms is cheap; our discrimination is built in, and probably for good reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:47 AM
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I'm asking what is the incentive for women to broaden their consideration pool?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:45 AM
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Ew, why would I do that? How would lusting after average chumps make my life better in any discernible way?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:19 AM
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I'd be so angry if my husband bought me a $500 bracelet, what an utter waste of $$$$$.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 10:27 PM
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>Yes. Why wouldn't she want to be with an amazing high status sexy looking man....? Because he doesn't do it for her. Pretty simple, really. >What parts of society and culture would dissuade a young woman from wanting to avoid having an experience with a millionaire athlete? what? >Yes she will compare every man she is with after to that man. ahh, the nugget of your issue with all of this. >Also if that man exposes her to sexual kinks she didn't have, those will always be embedded in her sexuali…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:34 PM
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ok, so some sports million chad DMs a young woman; again, so what? Do you think this young woman's brain is going to leak out of her head and she's going to fall on his dick? A lifetime of society, culture, values, and preferences have fuck all to do with anything so long as Chad dick shows up in her DMs, then by golly she just can't help herself? "its actively choosing men for sex and relationships which will forever be apart of that womens history and part of her sexual development." Ok so our…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:52 PM
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Trying to explain adult female sexual autonomy and western dating dynamics is like trying to explain Hungarian poetry to a chicken.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:41 PM
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>For example they could be DM'd by a football player on a 2.1 million NIL contract through a mutual acquaintance. And this player could do this to a new girl every week. ok, so what? Is there some sort of script you think women are supposed to follow in this scenario? Charismatic and sexually appealing men exist in this world, mere exposure isn't going to sully the maidens, they don't need chaperones.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:57 PM
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No, I'm sure they would have found them alright, they were just average college dudes. But again, why is their input needed? its a fling. "mom, dad, this is Tyler. I met him in bio 211, he's my lab partner. I find him pretty dull, but he makes me laugh sometimes and he looks decent enough so we're going to occasionally dry hump and sext for two weeks until we mutually lose interest. Do I have your blessing to give him an awkward handy after our study session?"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:34 PM
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Ew, why would they know any of that info? My parents never worried I'd shack up with a bad guy, they had confidence that they raised me with certain values and a healthy self esteem. They weren't wrong, I never did get entangled with bad guys/dusties/abusers/chuds/etc. Boyfriends only met my family when it was serious, because they're the final vetting before any further steps are taken. It wouldn't make sense to have good ol' mom and dad meet the guy I hooked up with for 2 weeks that one summer…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:17 PM
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Idk, that seems a bit much? But I'm of the belief that dates/outings/etc. are more meaningful when they're unexpected. If it has a cadence it's not something to look forward to, it's become just another chore.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 02:15 AM
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Did/do you reserve anything specifically for him? ew, what a weird thought process. It makes him feel special, desired and validated. why are men like this? It can make him feel left out and not desired. too bad, so sad. But to her husband, it can feel like she had all her wild/experimental fun already, getting it out of her system with other men. sounds like a skill issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 07:57 PM
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I'm a type 5, idk or give a fuck about anyone else, just leave me to my books.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 01:53 AM
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How old were you when you had your first kiss? idk, 14? 6 months later the kid came out as gay. 😂 First relationships? Casual sex? first relationship was 15, first casual experience was 17. How many relationships/partners have you had? 4 relationships, 3 sex partners, 2 'real' relationships involving cohabitation, 1.5 causal flings. What's the longest you've gone single/sexless? celibate for 1 year (bf was in deployed overseas), however from since I started dating to marriage I've cumulatively o…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 03:05 PM
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It's shame and embarrassment that I let myself open up to someone so cheap and unworthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 01:18 PM
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I'm not a girl's girl. If a woman is talking some dumb shit I'm going to call her out, I don't care if she shat out a kid. Anything less than unconditional go-girlisms are heavily down voted over there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 02:35 AM
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I'm about to get banned from mommit, I can feel it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 02:27 AM
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So.... how much does she weigh?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 01:41 AM
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In terms of active fantasy, it follows after he's made me feel sexual with his active interest. I more often than imagine a dude as an unappealing grunting monkey, like I wonder if he looks stupid when he orgasms or I bet he looks silly while he's pumping
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 06:25 PM
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Face card, vibe, and my willingness to be approached.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 04:48 PM
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Well I'm in the US and its a giant fucking pain in the ass. I'd have to go to the DMV, the social security office, the passport office, and the court house (on a separate date from the receiving the marriage license). Then I'd have to visit the bank, call the credit card company, call the health insurance company, call the utilities in my name, and then contact my cell phone company. I would also need to contact the IRS, and the local voter registration office. This is not even including any dir…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 04:47 PM
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I kept my name, because I couldn't be assed to go to several different govt offices on a week day when I had limited PTO. 20ish years later our child has my husband's last name and I still have my own. To this day, nobody has had any fucks to give. I don't think people realize changing your name requires active effort, and if you already have a professional identity with your birth name there's an extra layer of bullshit involved. If it was easy for me to just check a box at the registrars offic…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 04:28 PM
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When I was younger I could acknowledge a good looking older guy, but there was no way in hell I'd be attracted to him, or want anything to do with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 02:09 PM
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I know gender dysphoria and mommy issues are hard, but I don't think we're the audience for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 04:34 PM
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More therapy, less pontificating on the internet please.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 04:26 PM
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I would ask advice from whomever has expertise in what I'm questioning, like, that just seems like common sense. Asking for advice is not choosing one person over the other, what a strange hierarchy you've set up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:39 AM
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How many of you would attribute some of your dating troubles to the amount of overweight and obese people in your pool? Assuming you're not into that, of course. Additionally, would you say the amount of big backs contributes towards a negative view of your preferred gender? I live in a fitness bubble, but whenever I venture outside it I'm always dismayed by how many guts and fupas I see in the general public.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 11:31 PM
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But I have seen them reject studies because "people lie".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 09:38 PM
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Nauseous. It makes me feel physically ill.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 09:35 PM
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Not really, but I place myself in their orbit and make it very easy for them to escalate. Fortune favors the bold as they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 07:05 PM
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I wish my husband had a job like that, instead he goes into an office and is a grumpy asshole when he gets home everyday. We've been trying (unsuccessfully) to get him a low stress WFH 'email job' like mine, but no luck in this job market. I'd love to have him around for lunch time quickies, naps, and someone to fuck around with when work is slow. Instead, he has to get up, get dressed, board a train, and to do 'email work' in an office just so the corpos can justify their high rise rent.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:32 PM
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so what? fuck, 'em.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 04:08 PM
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That's fine, nobody cares, just move to the beat.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 03:52 PM
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People who don't dance (or like to dance) are off-putting and unattractive; lowkey, I think there is something wrong with them. Exceptions made for the physically disabled, bed bound, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 03:45 PM
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I don't really feel lonely, I have my BFF, my mom, and my husband. But I don't have anyone to talk about sci-fi novels, and that does make me feel kind of alone. No one I'm close with gives two fucks about stomatopods in space (Children of Strife), or the psycho-linguistic implications of an alien species that doesn't know how to lie (Embassytown). All the book clubs near me are just irl extensions of booktok and mostly read romantasy slop. 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 02:56 AM
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Last night my husband got REALLY angry that a homeless guy walked into me and didn't apologize. By my estimation, the homeless guy wasn't even on planet earth so I couldn't fault him for not seeing me, but my husband took great offense and wanted to fight the guy. Anyhoo I was annoyed that my husband was all aggro about the homeless dude instead of ignoring him and whatever offense he caused. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 02:34 AM
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Like, there's stuff in the film that riffs on and jokes about Mario characters, tropes, game levels, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 01:57 AM
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Probably not? It's mostly a family movie and then fanservice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 12:56 AM
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Good! More coherent than the first one, lots of Easter eggs for fans of Nintendo properties.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 12:11 AM
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Just left the Super Mario movie with my family, now we're at a pizza parlor and I'm waiting for the pizza while my husband and son play arcade games. Later, after kiddo has gone to bed, husband and I will bang it out and then fall asleep in each others arms. Life is good when you're not a bricked up misanthrope shit posting about sexbots. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 11:55 PM
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And nothing of value was lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 11:10 PM
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"Women should not be taken seriously and there is a reason for it" proof: OP's sister.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:37 PM
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I bet you thought you were really clever with this comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 11:31 AM
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Your flair says red pill, and crying about divorce (and the subsequent "divorce rape") is kind of a key feature of your little He-Man Woman Haters Club.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 10:26 PM
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If it's not a big deal, why do y'all cry so much about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 10:20 PM
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"Fiancee"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 09:02 PM
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NPCs, you're all NPCs. The last time I was visually drawn to a man he looked like an anorexic background character from Interview with the Vampire.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 10:15 PM
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There's nothing to deflect. I think what I think, and if you find that disagreeable well, ok. 🤷‍♀️ I don't really feel compelled to change my opinion. If you think I'm wrong I can live with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 08:14 PM
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I don't really care. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 08:05 PM
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Just cause I think someone is a little fucked in the head doesn't mean I can't be friends with them and support their harmless fuckery. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 08:03 PM
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Oh, its more so a nod to my Red Pill Moment; realizing a man full of lust is truly indiscriminate. Its a weakness I see in men, but its not something worth getting upset about. and not to get it twisted, its the hypocrisy of cis straight men that bothers me, not whom or where they place their dicks. All the crowing and boasting about loving pussy, getting pussy, being a pussy slayer, whatever, but then on the DL hitting up the trans folks. Jut fucking own it, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 04:14 PM
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no I'm saying its not problem, as I've accepted that most men have no discrimination when it comes to their dickfeels.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 04:00 PM
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1.) Nope. 2.) Sure, I've already accepted men will stick their dicks into anything. I know 3 people that have fully transitioned; 2 MtF and 1 FtM, as well as a handful of "gender non conforming" folks. Politically I'm an ally, but personally these people are a fucking mess and I don't need their drama in my life. Plus they just don't look good; they didn't hit the attraction markers for their assigned gender at birth, so they turn tail and tried on the other gender but they still don't pass. My …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:51 PM
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Men aren't lonely enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:59 PM
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I believe everyone deserves to not get treated like shit in their chosen interpersonal relationship(s). Male, female, whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 07:28 PM
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Because people want to sleep with them. Parties provide a space for flirty/convivial interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:55 AM
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Don't be a creep, and it won't be a problem. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:38 AM
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Parties. House parties, after parties, halloween parties, dinner parties, housewarming parties, birthday parties, cookouts, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:57 AM
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Who was the target audience? Normies who are more concerned with taxes, the MCU, dentist appointments, their kid's soccer game, how to pay for the new water heater, etc. People like my mother, who watched this doc and learned about a whole new side of the internet that isn't just sharing recipes and cute cat pictures on facebook. I've previously tried explaining my fears to her about my son coming across this nonsense, but she had no frame of reference and still assumed the biggest danger for yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 10:23 PM
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Most porn is romantic as hell The genres of facial abuse, painal, "struggle hugs", vore, bestiality, blackmail, and non-con beg to differ.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:14 PM
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Too many men walking around here with poorly disguised domme fetishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:08 PM
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Well we're at 21 years now so by my estimates its going pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 02:24 PM
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Sounds like my husband and I. I spoil him monetarily, he spoils me with time/compliments/validation. It works out great when you're both receiving what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:34 AM
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Sure if he's sexy and treats me well, why not? I don't need his money, I have plenty of my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:11 AM
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I mean yeah, I'd agree with this, at least personally. After a month of straight fucking I eloped with my husband when he had -$87 in his bank account. He is absolutely 'That Guy' for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 01:12 AM
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If I treated my ex to expensive or thoughtful dates and dinner, then my current gf isnt entitled to those things. Ive “changed now” and dont want to taken advantage of out my comfort zone…. You see how stupid that sounded?? Not really, that sounds perfectly logically and I would commend the dude for learning from that experience and setting a financial boundary.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 04:06 PM
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There is at least one user on here that has claimed (several times in different threads) he would be happy receiving the bare minimum so long as her previous boyfriends also received the bare minimum.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 04:02 PM
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>the backstabbing, the gossip, the two-facedness, 😂😂 as if whole ass governments haven't been taken down by men engaging in this very same behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:51 PM
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Accountability to what or whom? Beyond themselves and their offspring, what is this "accountability" supposed to do or achieve?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 05:17 PM
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Well I mean, maybe stop fucking up and then things won't always be men's fault. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 05:11 PM
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Underwear with cheek coverage bunches up/irritates me, and hormonal vag discharge is why I refuse to go commando. Seamless thongs feel like nothing at all. What you're missing is that other people have different thresholds for fabric sensation; it's not that deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 02:35 AM
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🤷‍♀️ no lies were told.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:28 PM
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His joie de vivre and ability to turn any situation into a joke, and as a corollary, his ability to make me laugh even when I'm in the depths of self pity. He's never once asked me to be anything other than who I am, and he's never underestimated or taken for granted my intellect and perspective. I admire his instinctive knowledge of how to read a room and dazzle everybody. He may be the odd man out, but he somehow manages to disarm and befriend everyone. He knows who he is, and expects authenti…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 02:22 PM
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Cool. And I know 6 women who married their age-cohort college boyfriends after graduation. I also know a muscular and bald 43 year old man dating a 23 year old single mom of 2. Anecdotes are fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:27 PM
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Yes, I resonate with this a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 01:16 AM
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Because in 2026, Jane is making an incredibly stupid economic decision and people love gossiping about other people's stupidity.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 01:19 AM
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So the whole 'butter face' pejorative cooked up by men was a fever dream?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 01:05 AM
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What in the autism..... No, I don't think attraction works that way for most women (or men, for that matter). I have zero comprehension of men's height and weights, all I can tell is if a man is taller than me and bigger than me (fat vs. muscle). Vibe, body composition, and facial attractiveness always supersede plain height and weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 12:54 AM
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Single Mother's need to understand how valuable men truly are and realize you are no longer the prize for once. He is. That's when I started laughing, cause I realized this is the unhinged screed of a larper or a pick me drowning in the Flavor Aid. I'm sorry that single mom got married before you, but I promise you'll be picked one day!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:13 AM
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I think of two women I know, a high school friend and my aunt. My high school friend is single and childless, but she devoted her adult years to becoming an excellent circus performer, and now she performs with cirque du soleil and has no interest in men, babies, or domesticity. I long suspect she's asexual and I think she might be on the spectrum, but by all accounts, she's thriving and killing it. My aunt is rich. She has fuck you money and she's also single and childless. Well, she's sort of …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 03:31 AM
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My brother is 5'8" like my dad, nice blue eyes on a southern Italian phenotype. He lives in San Diego, works for EA, always had girlfriends but now he's married to a nice Asian lady name....Emily? As far as I gathered, he's never had any problems with women; he's just a chill, smart, and funny dude. Builds his own guitars, likes sports cars, met his wife at a work event. My bro is a handsome normie, and thus he's had normie relationships with pretty normie women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:48 PM
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He was there (Spanish class study partner), and I was bored+curious. It wasn't very great. I felt anoyed and like I wasted my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 01:23 AM
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Show us on the doll where FeMiNisM touched you. Its ok, you're in a safe space.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 03:25 PM
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A cute skinny guy with long hair in an alt metal band; must like weed, cats, pro wrestling, and socialism.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 11:46 PM
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I don't? I've never encountered this, but I'm sure there are woman who have. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:02 PM
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I imagine people in...idk...bumfuck Mississippi or who-gives-a-fuck South Dakota probably don't have nearly as many medical facilities/hospitals/research universities/etc. as people in metro areas that have something of a tax and knowledge base. I live in Chicago, I sure as shit don't want to deal with an ectopic pregnancy in Arkansas.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 06:58 PM
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Men aren't lonely enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:42 PM
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The hot guy I slept with is the guy I married. I wasn't about to waste my time fucking around with a bunch of average ass dudes when I could just lock in on what I wanted and go the distance with him. Am the most attractive woman ever? No, but I knew then as I know now that I can and should shoot higher than an unremarkable 5/10 NPC that was too chicken shit to talk to girls in high school and college. I don't know or care how other women operate, but I can say for my social strata, the women me…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:32 AM
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<image> I'm sure you're all happy to know my Mount Rushmore of goon has been updated.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 09:53 PM
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I'll take the heartless corpo over shacking up with some dude posting incest pedo shit on reddit. Fucking yikes dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 04:49 AM
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I always snicker to myself when older men brag about snagging a "prime" 18-21 year old; how much does she weigh Kevin? How many kids does she have? It's never, ever, EVER a Stacy or a baddie, or even a virgin Becky, but oh will they cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 02:19 AM
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No, money for drugs, wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 12:23 AM
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N count of 3 but sure; friend's wider social circle friend's house party frat party drug deal
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 12:05 AM
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The thing is, I don't care. If someone wants my advice I'll offer it, but I won't go out of my way to give advice to people who don't want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 02:08 AM
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I don't, and I never said I did. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 01:43 AM
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I don't think I've ever had a dry streak as you've defined it, but I was celibate for a year in college by choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 01:15 AM
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Neat. One time, I had a guy buy all my textbooks for a semester, and then I ghosted him. That was also around the time I had my ex pay for my apartment for a year while I flirted with my now husband. It's a shame I dropped out of the game so early.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 11:44 PM
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My one regret was not scamming enough dudes out of their cash when I was younger. Who cares about being a hoe, $$$$$ is where it's at.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 10:10 PM
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Or he could be a better husband if he wants a better wife, but we all know men don't know how to take responsibility for anything regarding their marriages or personal lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 09:20 PM
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OK. 🤷‍♀️ I'm one of those women who snapped back into shape after having my kid, but I also had the privilege of a fitness oriented lifestyle before I became pregnant, as well as my husband being a SAHD for the first few months of kiddo's life. The thing is, I already knew how to lose weight and get fit, and my husband shared the caretaking role with me, which gave me some time to myself. The average woman is like, 175lbs, she was already fat to begin with. Chances are she knows fuck all about n…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:11 PM
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Who teaches you this Friends, family, religion, mass media, society and how? Living in it, cultural osmosis. Is this a real question?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 12:01 PM
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What does a nurse "warning a woman that her spouse might leave her" even look like? Have you never met a chatty nurse? There's a whole god damn realm of intra female socialization that men are never privy to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 06:14 PM
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Women's unchecked insecurity usually leads to her ending up alone. Men's unchecked insecurities usually leads to him ending up alone, but can also include violence. If you don't want men's insecure to be called toxic, then maybe stop responding with violence when they're triggered.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:51 PM
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My dad sending my mom back to school is probably one of the best things that happened to our family; financially, emotionally, etc. But my parents loved each other and were mature adults who tackled her education as a team. They understood the role swap and the time constraints, and everyone stepped up because this was the goal of everything; come to America, get a degree, get a job, live in prosperity and peace. And it worked. 30 years of a happy marriage, an educated and employed wife, an educ…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:42 PM
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When I met gigachad, I knew I was going to fuck him, but only after I married him. However many years later he's still a pretty good lay.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 11:22 PM
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2026, men still ain't beating the allegations.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 11:08 PM
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Well so far several women are contradicting your 1 source (that conveniently agrees with you), so go ahead and square that circle, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:31 PM
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Or maybe, women are diverse and have contradicting opinions. Wild, I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:19 PM
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It means: * I'm gassy * I don't feel like it * I just met you, slow the fuck down * I'm on my period * I have shit to do later * I haven't shaved * you're effectively a stranger, and I don't like to live dangerously * I don't have your STI results * its late and I want to go to bed * the logistics of having sex exceed my patience for engaging in the act * my gut says "NO."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:17 PM
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This guy is a break up or 2 away from posting shitty joker lone wolf memes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 03:29 PM
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Neat. I hope you screenshot it. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 03:18 PM
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Idk, seeth? Cry more? Get over himself? Try to passport bro his lost youth and get fleeced by a 22 year old single mom in Colombia? Take your pick.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 03:15 PM
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Cause her current partner was probably too busy crying about his virginity on the internet instead of partying with her during her freshman year. The early bird gets the worm. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 03:08 PM
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Porn. He's getting these ideas from porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 02:57 PM
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OK, well, good for him. Doesn't mean I have to approve, I'm just not into him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 03:16 AM
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My husband would be intrigued, but I'm not into tits.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 02:10 AM
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Writing, music, aquariums, model kits, Frisbee golf, plants/gardening, minimal equipment sports (i.e. swimming, basketball, running, etc), sketching/painting, improv/theater, standard console gaming, photography, chess, cooking, the entire human experience beyond western male coded hobbies. Note, these are all hobbies of dudes I know irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 02:07 AM
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Well, right now I have a blister on my heel so I guess my shoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 01:50 AM
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The wonderful wide world of anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 01:47 AM
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aggro-coded combat sports collectibles extreme sports fishing/hunting cars Anything with expensive and impractical equipment crypto nonsense social media presence/influencer sports betting Anything within the realm of "mall ninja"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 12:51 AM
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I've never had a short-term fling, but off-the-chart physical chemistry and super hotness was a requirement for marrying my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 05:53 AM
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It's ok to admit you want Chad for yourself, you don't need to offload your anxiety about that onto women. We're just out here living our lives man, we didn't sign up to be the 'middlemen' for your psychosexual melodrama.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 04:03 AM
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all these benefits will go away if you do not serve country by having kids with good intelligent STEM major men who follow societal I love a good systemic threat from the chronically dry-dicked. Weren't y'all supposed to kick off a beta uprising a few years ago? Whatever happened to that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 01:45 PM
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usually give more of a daddy or taking care of you vibe 🤮🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 03:26 PM
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No, I just don't understand why a young woman would sacrifice raw physical attraction and youthful energy just so she can bounce on some old dudes half limp cock while trying to ignore his receding hairline. But then again I didn't grow up molested, poor, or with daddy issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 01:09 PM
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and men desiring a child. Well if the shoe fits....
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 11:08 PM
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A man's prime is typically age 28-45 buddy, that's cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 10:12 PM
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And by 35 a man's sperm is loaded up with defecting DNA. We all degrade as we age, but stating a mans prime is 28-45 is peak comedy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 10:08 PM
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A man's prime is typically age 28-45. Male pattern baldness, erectile dysfunction, and cratering testosterones levels would like a word with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 09:38 PM
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Sad that he thinks so little of her personhood that his highest hope is that she serves so other man. Nothing about helping her achieve her dreams/hopes/goals, no, his highest hope is that she just slots in to some other man's life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 05:18 PM
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As opposed to recognizing her intellect or talents and investing in them so she has more tools at her disposable beyond "pretty" and "young". Good dads see their daughters as something more than vessels or some other man's seed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 05:15 PM
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That her father thinks so little of her intellect/talents that his highest hope is for her to be a subservient broodmare.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 04:53 PM
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How sad for your daughter.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 04:00 PM
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1.) I don't want my butthole on the internet 2.) nothing about being a content creator seems interesting or worth the effort 3.) I am a barely contained misandrist, absolutely not the kind of person to cater to men's desires for money 4.) I already have a well paying job
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 03:03 PM
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Much to my delight (and I guess my husband's annoyance) he exceeds my cleanliness/chore/ cooking standards. If anything, I'm the bum in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 11:56 PM
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that's a whole lot of words for "....and my dick is still dry :("
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 05:10 PM
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The difference is the interplay of those two nervous systems, and then the mans contains the woman - shes protected. That sounds like a whole lot of woo woo bro science and not a lot fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 04:44 PM
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you can either learn the dance or complain about having no one to dance with. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 05:16 PM
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I don't have an input besides my previous flair that got me banned: PUBLIC CASTRATION IS A GOOD IDEA.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 04:51 PM
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But men also get criticized when they do show emotion. Because generally the emotions they do show are extreme, dramatic, violent, or aggressive. When I was younger, a guy I was chatting with thought 'sharing his emotions' involved describing his violent suicidal ideation, his violent fantasies on how he was going to "fuck up" his dad, and dumping a lifetime of emotional trauma, PTSD, and child abuse on my lap. Me, an 18 year old girl who just wanted to party and drink a few wine coolers. Of cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:02 PM
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I mean, I suppose, all my relationships prior to my husband I just kind of fell into them. I was pursued, but I wasn't very excited about those men or those relationships, they were mostly there to just pass the time and entertain me. However, I pursued my husband, or at least I placed myself in his orbit to be noticed. He never courted me, but I made myself very accessible and open to him. According to my husband, he knew I was a sure bet because I would get dressed up, go to his house, buy dru…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 03:51 AM
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That's a whole lot of words for what amounts to pedo-apologia.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:43 AM
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What? If someone has a goal of getting married, and they do so, doesn't that mean they are, in fact, marriage material?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 05:15 AM
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I was violently proud of my submission. It made me feel alive, bound to something greater. We breathed as one, our hearts beat as one. Another man gave the orders, but it didn’t matter — we were one body, one will. His voice could have been mine. Nightmare fuel. I just want to be treated as an autonomous human being. I take no joy or pride in subsuming my will to another, it all feels very disgusting on a primal level.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:23 PM
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I appreciate this and look forward to your part 2, but my brother in Christ, PARAGRAPHS.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 10:41 PM
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When I met my husband, I was buying drugs from him at a party. I have several tattoos and piercings, at one point had colorful hair, lots of male friends, few girlfriends, and the first two years of our relationship were a drunken coked out blur. And yet, my N count is 3 (including him) and we've been married for 5 billion years. I don't think I'm particularly rare (wild child to suburban mom is a trope for a reason), but I do think RP men are EXTREMELY risk averse and cock block themselves more…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 12:16 AM
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Personally, no. If he's not hip to a lil bit of anarcho-communism, I'm not interested. But my social sphere is full of socialist, filthy commies, and over-educated college liberals; all married or have "life partners". I would have to go out of my way (and my geographical location) to find a conservative leaning man, and I have zero desire to interact with those kinds of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 05:08 PM
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yes but what is the "crime" of the single mother? I'm sure you have loads of statistics about this, that, and the other, so what is she personally at fault for that requires a condemnation? Spell it out for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:56 PM
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ok but you don't have to do any of that; you don't have to coddle, you don't have to denigrate, you could just like, mind your own business. For a dude who claims he doesn't date single moms, you seem weirdly preoccupied with their moral judgement. I don't see the need for the distinction between single moms and widows, it seems entire arbitrary and a flimsy excuse to to talk shit about a subculture of women. If they're not of your dating radar, then why the offense at their existence? Nothing p…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:40 PM
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They should be. Why? What would that accomplish?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:04 PM
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I love how kids, the actual complicated part of single parenthood, are completely glossed over in your grace towards widows. Single mom haterade was never about avoiding the responsibility of being a parental figure for a child that's not yours, if it was, then widows with kids would be disqualified instead of receiving your arbitrary grace. It was always about moralizing and punishing single mothers, always.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 11:41 AM
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You know its possible to acknowledge the merits of Set A while still preferring Set B, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:28 PM
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Can either one play an instrument and command a crowd? If so, that's the one I pick.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:47 PM
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????🤷‍♀️??? Why would I care about that? I'm old enough to separate the human from their contribution, so long as the human is not so completely vile it poisons appreciation for their contribution.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 03:26 AM
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Well then pay for it and ask the lady how she got thru it, there's your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 02:54 PM
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How are people falling for this very obvious marketing campaign?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 02:38 PM
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Nope. But my social media is also curated to things I like (sci-fi novels, live music, cats, birds, fitness, community events, art, etc). I find social media tiring, so I don't put a lot of investment in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 01:19 AM
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It makes me wonder if we live in different worlds sometimes. Well, yes. The aesthetics of nightclub girls in Miami versus college students in Minnesota wildly differ, but the club girls in Miami have wider visibility to men via OF, Instagram, tiktok, etc, which influences their perception of our aesthetics and make up habits. There is also the socioeconomic stratification (hood rats with their spider lashes versus subtle bougie lash lifts) and regional variance of makeup habits (Utah pagent girl…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 11:48 AM
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I'm a Tutsi Like from the Hutus Vs. Tutsis?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 03:33 PM
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This quotes reminds me of the time I was riding the L in Chicago, and at the back of the train there was a bunch of working class dudes smoking joints and and having a laugh. I remember thinking I would have loved to have joined them, but there I was in my Aritzia business casual looking like a smug suburbanite, and realizing there was no way in this universe I would have been able to wander back there and been like, '"yo can I get a hit, I got a some THC gummies in my purse I can trade." But my…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 05:09 PM
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Against my will, I am a heterosexual woman. Despite my low level antipathy to men at large, there is a small cohort I am attracted to. It is there that I found a husband, but if that cohort didn't exist or was inaccessible to me, then I'd be happy to embrace cats and spinsterhood. The body of 'A Man' is not attractive. The body of a man I'm drawn to/interested in/vibing with is very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 10:23 PM
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Sure. Back in the day I messed around with a dude who was chill and convenient but I couldn't fathom dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 09:25 PM
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I smell fetish bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 04:02 PM
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oh, yeah probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 05:13 PM
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misogyny what?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 05:11 PM
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So are you saying that comments on social media aren't written by real people on the other side of the screen? Not OP but yes, I'd wager ~30% of them are bots. Are the women thirsting over big dicks on social media just bots created to make men feel insecure? Also yes; insecure men are easily grifted/radicalized men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 05:00 PM
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I'm a biracial woman living in Chicago, most people clock me as "some sort of Puerto Rician". Before I left for my run this morning, I realized I should probably start carrying around more robust ID than just my license, like my passport and birth certificate in case I get hassled by ICE. So that's life in 2025, awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 05:33 PM
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Is “holiday dick” and “boyfriend dick” actual terminology that women use No. or am I just mindbroken by the internet? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 02:51 PM
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Funny you should say that, I'm from an Afro-caribe and old world Italian family, so men expressing themselves and feeling comfortable with song/dance/etc. is just like...whatever, a normal part of male sociability. Like, growing up my parents were always singing and dancing around the house. They would go out dancing on the weekends. My mom would take me to carnivals and shit. In my household dancing was about fun, joy, community, just you know, being a human. But these dudes, they view the worl…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 07:55 PM
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You know there are different clubs right? And different types of dancing takes place at these night clubs? The last night club I went to was goth/industrial, prior to that was a salsa/bachata night club. There was dancing, but I'm pretty sure its nothing like what your imagination is conjuring up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 05:08 PM
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ew, what a porn brained comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 04:47 PM
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Isn’t there a world of difference between being at a beach where someone may approach you, vs somewhere like perhaps Le Bain where explicit mingling is part of the deal? No. Men will approach: on the beach, at the store, in a waiting room, in a parking lot, at a school, at church, in the emergency room, at a funeral, behind the 7/11 while you're throwing up, at a wedding, at the DMV, etc. MEN. WILL. APPROACH. So a night club is no different, its just a dark room with shitty liquor and louder mus…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 04:45 PM
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I did not consent to being a part of your cuckold fetish.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 04:25 PM
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If my husband went to the strip club for mac n cheese I'd think that was hilarious, and I'd definitely want him to bring me home some.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 03:58 PM
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I like dancing. My girlfriends like dancing. Our spouses do not. When time and schedules allow, we will get together for dinner and then go out to a bar, lounge, or night club. We will proceed to gossip, flatter each other, drink silly expensive drinks, dance, laugh a lot, ignore/mock men trying to approach us, more gossip, more dancing, and then call it a night when the lights come on. We'll go home to our families, our husbands will kiss us and ask if we had a good time, we relate some gossip …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 03:56 PM
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This, coming from a self-proclaimed red pill man, when one of the core tenets of RP is to cry about women dating for compatibility instead of attraction. The incoherence is amazing. 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 11:50 AM
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Why would I date someone I deem unattractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 03:22 AM
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Why am I interacting with a guy that has a decade+ criminal record?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 03:18 AM
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I don't know what to tell you, I don't live around or associate with people who resort to violence when they get triggered. I've said some wack ass shit in my life; the first, last, and only time someone physically retaliated was when a girl pulled my hair in 4th grade. Ofhand then there was that other time I got mouthy with a doorman and he pushed me, so my 304 friend got the dudes she was fucking on the football team to rough him up a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 02:48 AM
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I'm a PTO attending, community volunteering, married mom of one that lives in UMC Americana. FOX News et. al. would jizz themselves reporting on my status as a victim of violent crime. I'd probably get $500k+ if a gofundme was started on my behalf. In my world, nice PTO moms don't get slapped around for causing a scene, but the police are at our beck and call if we feel threatened by an "urban youth".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 02:34 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 02:18 AM
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I've had to work overtime You were compensated, yes? So what exactly is the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 06:19 PM
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$40k is nice, but you gotta take ovary stimulating medication which can make you fat, and if you're eggs aren't selected then you got fat for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 10:16 PM
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I financially contribute about 70% to my relationship because I have a higher income. Beyond that acknowledgement I have zero fucks to give about who pays for what and in what percentages. I've always known I'd pay more because I earn more. I didn't realize I was supposed to be bothered by this until I started participating on PPD. As of today I'm still not bothered by this, its just money for fuck's sake. I've always felt equal to my husband, and I'm not sure why or how I'd change that opinion.…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 10:12 PM
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Dad was an aviation electrical engineer, mom was a teacher. Dad is dead, mom is retired but sometimes does tutoring at the library.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 07:24 PM
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She is what she is, you gonna simp or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 07:16 PM
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I'm a gym rat and I see dozens of women monthly in the gym Sounds like you got a selective bias going on. The "average woman" is 5'4" and weighs 171 lbs. In the US, about a quarter of them go to the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 07:04 PM
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less than 5%of men simp over them. citation needed. Here you go, an average young woman, go ahead and simp.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:51 PM
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No , I meant as in irl. yes, IRL these are the type of women dudes are simping over. Also this is like me showing a fat , short , balding guy and saying look . She's closer to average than your headcanon waifu.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:28 PM
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Just look at the women most men will talk with and care about. OF girls, IG baddies, tiktok thots, single moms, strippers, and party girls. Let me know when most dudes "talk with and care about" women like her.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:19 PM
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actively cherish being with them citation needed. So the question why do an avg women don't like the below 80% of men . Eggs are expensive and sperm is cheap.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:07 PM
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oh look, another truth teller to stand on high and let us know how the world really works. Back of the line pal, you got about 2 millennia and countless prophets, grifters, confidence men, visionaries and gurus trying to sell us how thing should work according to them. those who tell the truth are hated. Jesus would like his martyrdom back, please and thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 05:20 PM
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Who are all these people y'all are keeping in prison, if not this guy? Low level offenders bearing the brunt of 30+ year old 'tough on crime' policies. Now the prisons are full, but instead of commuting sentences for the low level offenders, we turn out violent offenders with some wack-ass work release programs or cashless bonds simply because we don't have room for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:15 PM
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So what are those specific things?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 02:55 PM
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You wouldn't need to replace a man because you picked him properly and he cares about you. That sure is a lot of wishing and hoping to stake a livelihood on. Its my life, no one will care about it more than me, so I'm going to make sure its supported via the tried and true method of exchanging mental labor for monetary resources. Also you don't know if your power in the job marketplace will grow or if you will be replaced by AI so it is not a safe bet as you make it sound. It sure is a safer bet…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 10:22 PM
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However, I can just as easily replace a boss with my work ethic and brains if I don't like the terms of our agreement, but I am unable to easily replace a man with my aging body and diminished child rearing capabilities if I don't like the terms of our agreement. Why should I expose myself to a less optimal arrangement where my negotiating power (youthful body, fecundity) weakens with time, versus an arrangement where my negotiating power can grow with time (work ethic, knowledge, networking, et…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 09:49 PM
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Yes? This is a weird question. In my life I've known and befriended various kinds of sex workers, and I'm just an average wife + mom living in Americana. Hell, my last neighbor was a 60+ year old escort that got into the business cause she was bored with retirement. She looked good for her age and had a small roster of elderly gentlemen she was servicing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 12:45 PM
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🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 08:23 PM
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There's something to say?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 07:30 PM
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Ew.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:18 PM
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But why my little post partum Pilates channel when there are TERABYTES OF PORN available a mere incognito tab away? I have my demographic, and they're reflected in my stats, the gooners showed up on their own accord. I'm not asking "Why men only see me for my body?", I'm asking why are they gooning to a channel not meant for them, not catered to them, and not advertised to them. Nothing about my channel, videos or marketing imply goon content, and yet there they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:40 PM
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In the intervening years, I've finally started my YouTube Pilates channel (mostly as cross promotion for my home studio). I've achieved modest sucess with my intended demographic (working women/new moms aged 18-34), but the secondary demographic has always bothered me; gooners. The entire internet has terabytes of free porn, there's OF, IG thirst traps, even girls offering their wares (cheaply!) right here on reddit. And yet, my highest engagement segments feature shots of my feet or ass, and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 01:20 PM
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Ah yes, if the 23 year old obese single mom working the day shift at Applebee's wants him, then clearly he's a superior man desired by women far and wide. It just pains us to know that Kaitlyn hooked her claws into him between rounds of buy-2-get-1 hot wings and watered down long island iced teas.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 11:51 AM
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But the men I'm interested in are interested in women like me, so nobody is being forced into solitude. In all my life, I've never looked at men and thought, "My god, the ones I want don't want me back!" Idk how to explain, maybe it's because I don't earnestly desire a man until he's expressed desire for me first. If Chad McStud only wants 20 year olds, cool, have at it dude. As far as I'm concerned Chad McStud is an npc, and until he expresses interest in me, he shall remain an npc. I think som…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 04:29 AM
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This is just a thought terminating cliche. "I'm not interested in men who do x" "That's because you can't get men who do x" Like...no, I'm not interested in those guys, but y'alls utter insistence that we are is baffling. It's like you need us to be pinning for guys who do x for your worldview to remain congruent. Why is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:40 AM
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Funny your should mention your parents, my dad was 60 and my mom was 30 when I was born. But she was also a grown ass woman that traveled, had a career, and an education prior to their marriage. In all my life I never detected a wiff of predation from my dad; they bonded over a love of education, so he was always in awe of my mom's intellect and ambition. I'm sure her youth and his resources didn't hurt, but their lynch pin was something more than that. I consider my parents one of the vanishing…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:15 AM
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I think it's partially, mostly an ego driven perspective. Like, an avg. 35+ yeat old dude levels up, hooks up with a 23 year old, since Younger Is Better in his mind, he is now HVM. Now that he's a HVM, most women should want him, and if we don't want him, then we're just jealous/bitter/resentful/lesbians/etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:06 AM
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the girl is mid and can’t compete with the more attractive girls her own age It reminds me of passport bros boasting about how their SEA waifu is better than western women, when she's actually just a chubby 27 year old single mom from Singapore. I think those dudes really like the optic (a "younger chick" or "an Asian wife") despite the reality being fairly mid.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:57 AM
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What I never understood about this conclusion is why men think there is intrasexual competition. It's like there's this foregone conclusion that older women want these men that lust after 20something year-olds. There are so many men in this world; not all of them are into youth for youths' sake or any argument along those lines. I've experienced intrasex competition; when I was a young woman, it was with other young women, and it was about the young men we knew. Now, as an old hag, I can recogni…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:21 AM
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Yes. I'm coming at this situation as a wrestling fan, and my feelings on the matter is that Raja has to be a real dumbfuck to get worked into a shoot. If he can't figure out kayfabe, then he has no business being in the ring with people who know wtf the business is all about. Thousands of people engage in the art of 'wrasslin' across the globe. Some of them have been concussed to hell and back, and yet very few have completely lost the plot and engaged in actual violence in the ring. Raja Jackso…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 09:49 PM
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I'd say this a pretty common experience for women across the globe. I grew up in pitch perfect suburban Americana, and I still experienced grown ass men leering and touching my barely pubescent body.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 01:55 PM
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Y tho? My husband likes cooking, I don't. My husband is pretty good at it, and I'm average at best. Why should I cook when he's much better at it and enjoys doing it? How exactly are gender roles supposed to help in this situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 12:30 AM
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🤷‍♀️ no lies were told.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 01:40 PM
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Alright well, be on your merry way then. Bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 04:32 PM
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source: youtube videos about "the fall of the Roman Empire", Sargon of Akkad podcasts, and Jordan Peterson mouthfarts.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 04:26 PM
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romanticized sunk cost fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:52 PM
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And yet he was sued for rape....kinda sounds like something that would happen to a predator. But hey, keep carrying water for a guy with a rape allegation on his name. Its definitely on brand for you RP types.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:13 PM
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Ah yes, the last bastion of ego defense for lonely men; a high IQ. You may be a neurotic KHHV, but at least you're the smartest one, right? That thought alone should keep you warm and happy, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:01 PM
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I'm not sure what there is to seethe about, washed up predator had to payout for a rape lawsuit and got fired from his job. If anything, that calls for rejoicing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 03:54 PM
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So a much older male celebrity lost his job after he settled a rape lawsuit filed by his "ex-g/f". Nowhere could I find her age, but I did read they dated for 2 years. So if she's 20, that means they got together when she was 18? What exactly are we supposed to be taking away from this? Cause all I see is a washed-up predator finally getting his comeuppance. Not exactly a sparkling endorsement of age gap relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 03:42 AM
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Eesh, really scraping the bottom of the barrel with that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:17 PM
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The first guy got to fuck a cute college girl and then go on and have a happy family with her, the 2nd guy cockblocked himself and was ghosted after that Walmart 'date'. Make of that what you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:29 PM
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phew, he really did that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 09:04 PM
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you know boomers are in their 70's right? Millennials are in their 40's and have dealt with a ratfuck economy since 2008. The dual income requirement has been in play since I was a child. if you're going to try and appeal to "old = lame", at least get your generalizations correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 08:54 PM
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I take dance classes at the rec center, write poetry, read scifi novels, build DIY house kits, gamer, and sometimes teach Pilates at the rec center (also assist with his husband's fishkeeping). Not to mention encouraging my kid's hobbies/sports/interests. I don't think these things make me interesting per say, but they contribute to living A Life, even with typical adult responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 04:38 PM
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We have a 10 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 03:45 PM
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I'd say my husband but that feels like cheating. For reference he's a musician that has comedian friends, so our nights out revolve around live music/comedy clubs. In his day to day life he's a gamer, reads graphic novels, builds dioramas, and is an avid fresh water aquarium hobbyist. I find all of these things quite interesting about him, and after 20 years + a 10 year old kid we're still vibing and having fun together. In terms of division of labor and daily drudgery, it still exists, but time…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 03:40 PM
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A stable, committed, responsible husband is not mutually exclusive for being a fun and interesting person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 03:27 PM
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Being with them is anti-fun. That's it, not much deeper than that. Anecdote time: when I was getting to know my husband, we lived in rural farming community/college town. There was nothing to do besides go to Walmart at 2am, or binge drink in corn fields. However going to Walmart at 2am with him was fun. He was funny, and would do spontaneous/silly things in the store. Being around him, I was always laughing and saying "omg staaahhhhp". He was always ready for something, anything, and if there w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 03:24 PM
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I've always assumed the guys I'm interested in have more options, so...it's fine? I've never thought otherwise? If we clique and vibe, great; if not, oh well, I hope he finds someone better suited to him. Life goes on. There's always another man if I'm open to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:24 PM
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Marriage has absolutely no benefit for men and we don't want to lose half our stuff when you get bored, cheat and we get a divorce. Not to pick on you specifically, but I always found this argument absurd and ridiculous, statistically none of you have any "stuff" worth taking. And thats not even how property division works. Like, what is Kaitlyn really gonna take? Your consumer debt, underwater mortgage, and crypto losses?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:12 PM
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I don't think a "good man" that is "emotionally intact" would string along his girlfriend. I don't think it's "good men" that are opposed to marriage, it's just men who don't want to get married for whatever reason. "Good men" that want marriage are already there, or are in track with their current LTR. They don't need convincing by anybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 01:57 PM
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Do you have a learning disability?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 02:26 PM
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men of 2025; still doing the most to make sure their insecurities are some poor woman's problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 07:38 PM
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he's hot, makes me laugh, and makes me feel safe: hook up. he's hot, makes me laugh, makes me feel safe, and we're compatible: relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:21 PM
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I mean...myself for example. I've been clocked as Puerto Rician/Dominican, Middle Eastern, Greek, Eritrean, and Filipino. I am none of the above.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:16 PM
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huh! I don't know why we never thought of that. I'll actually suggest that to him when he gets home. God knows the builder owner doesn't want the health dept. involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:10 PM
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Not on his floor, he'd have to go up or down a floor to avoid the phantom pooper.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:06 PM
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yes, this is my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:03 PM
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corporate conundrum: my husband works in an office downtown, and one of his coworkers is a very, very, VERY obese and smelly man. For the past 7-8 months (correlating with when the obese man was hired) my husband has encountered, idk, free form fecal matter in the bathroom. Like, poop smeared on stall walls. Poop smeared on toiler paper dispenser. Poop smeared on faucet handles. poop somehow in the soap dispenser. We both assume the culprit is the very very very obese man (I've watched enough 60…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:00 PM
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Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:18 PM
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idk, depends on who's the one introducing choking to the sex act.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:01 PM
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...what?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:44 PM
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Yes, men are pornsick dengenerates that are incapable of separating reality from fantasy, what else is new?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:32 PM
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Not OP but no. Friends are people I jib jab and gossip with, but I'm not calling my friends to support me through XYZ crisis, they don't have the bandwidth of level of intimacy required to accomplish the task.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 04:27 PM
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What exactly is he performing?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 07:28 PM
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What’s the same argument rich people use: ‘Money does not make you happy.’ ok? but after a certain point that is true though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 07:11 PM
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idk, per my husband when he was a fuckboy he was at his most depressed/suicidal. All he wanted was a relationship but girls kept pumping/dumping him and then locking down someone else afterwards. He felt like a loser, used, and like there was something wrong with him because girls didn't want to commit. This feeling definitely contributed to him proposing super early in our relationship. Now that he's doing the husband/dad thing he feels so much better about himself, like he has worth and someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 06:54 PM
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aww baby's first heartbreak.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 03:24 PM
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These are the standards I had when I was 20.... when I got married.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 12:21 PM
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Ancient hag.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 11:56 AM
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...what? If I'm rare, why would I be insecure? And why are 'interesting situations' associated with dating around?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 04:21 AM
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Sure, he has lethal face card and I'm attracted to the twink build.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:29 PM
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5'8"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:23 PM
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For my cohort? Yes. But I can't speak to other SES/ethnic/cultural/regional enclaves.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:20 PM
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Apparently, I'm supposed to care very much about height. I'm also supposed to care very much about the income gap with my husband (I earn 3X his salary ) I'm supposed to care so much that I should have cheated and left him by now that fact that I haven't done so means I'm "fat" and "low value", or alternately, a "unicorn" and "high value" myself and my cohorts (middle class+, college educated, employed, stable and happy childhood, lifetime N count of 1-3) are apparently the rarest fucking things…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:30 PM
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Buying. Men who have the internal rationalization of buying sex are the same sort of men who have the internal rationalization of a rapist. I said what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 05:20 PM
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I think us INTP weirdos are over represented on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:16 PM
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When I was a teenager I wanted to marry Trent Reznor. Then I became an adult and realized that is a terrible idea, and completely unfeasible. However the traits that enamored me to him (immaterial and physical) can just as easily be found in the genpop, so I went out and found myself a man that embodies everything that I admired about Mr. Reznor. No settling, just growing up and realizing the practicalities of life out pace the fantasies of girlhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:15 PM
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Well I mean, I was diagnosed about 6 years ago. We had our son tested, and throughout the diagnostic process I started recognizing shit that resonated with my life/childhood (eye contact, stimming, delayed speech, atypical movements, preferred solitude, touch averse, social difficulties, etc). I started piecing things together and then worked with diagnostics team to get to the bottom of it. Back in the 90's I was just considered a weird/high strung but smart kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:03 PM
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...what? Every dude I've loved has been between 5'8"-5'10", slim to healthy build, and broke. However the unifying trait between all of them was charisma, low neuroticism, and musically talented.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 03:19 PM
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My dad was old as fuck when I was conceived (60), however he was very active and healthy until cancer took him out in his late 80's. Subsequently I have a bit of the sperg and I largely attribute that to my dad's ancient sperm. However I wonder how far that goes, as my son also has a bit of the sperg, but he was conceived when I was 30 and his father was 31.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 03:09 PM
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When he was a teenager, he learned how to play guitar. He is moderately introspective and translated his sadboy feelz into lyrics. He joined a band with his closest friends, and they played a few gigs in basements and house parties. He developed confidence and charisma playing in front of a crowd. He developed a fashion sense and paid attention to hygiene and style. He went to college and immediately joined several social groups. He made more friends and threw parties. He worked in restaurants a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 01:05 AM
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that is a very fit man ngl, that dude's physique is aggressively mid.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 03:07 PM
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My type is twinks; when I was chubby and when I was fit, I've always been drawn to twinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 03:05 PM
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...why would I do that? I have my opinion, and it has fuckall to do with blue haired type.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 04:42 AM
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What's it like living in a fat area? Do you become acclimated to it? Does your perception of 'fat' shift upwards?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 02:45 AM
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🤷‍♀️ I like my twinks smug and brooding.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 02:18 AM
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Eh, 6/10?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 02:06 AM
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And I'm sure "sugar daddy" along with screaming "daddy" or "papi" in bed also implies literal incest as well. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck... Did you get your "yass king" DM from some blue haired monster yet? My brother in christ, what are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 02:04 AM
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I dunno man "daddy", especially the way you framed it, its skirting very close to icky pedo shit. I'm not into it, but for those of you that are, well...we see you. 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 09:59 PM
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username checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 09:51 PM
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We essentially want to play the "daddy" that you also fuck. Call it creepy. Call it whatever you want. But this is what makes our dicks hard. So men are secretly incest addled pedos? and they say women are the misandrists.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 09:27 PM
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When the news broke about that, I definitely had a good chuckle to myself about possibly being one of the few women allowed to vote as a filthy lefty socialist scum.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 09:03 PM
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The last time this topic was brought up here, so many dudes came crawling out of the woodwork to let us know that we're all meant for the streets, we don't TRULY love our husbands, and they would NEVER wife-up women like us because we're not adequately submissive/too independent/too eager to divorce/etc. Like, alright king, go off, but maybe y'all should focus on getting a date first before you pontificate about the virtues of marriage based name changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 08:59 PM
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I didn't take my husband's last name, mostly cause I'm lazy and didn't want to take a day off work to go to a bunch of government offices. But also, my legal first name and my husband's last name are only different by a letter, so I'd be going around with a ridiculous name like Roberta Roberto. Oh, and at the time I believed I was the last of my "lineage", so it felt important for me hold on to that (in the intervening years my brother did end up getting married, so that rationalization ended up…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 08:43 PM
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Well so far the consequences are a loving wife and child, a nice house in a nice area, a brief stint touring with his band, and now legal employment as a music teacher. Of all the people I know who currently are or were in 'the game', only one got picked up to be an informant cause he started messing around with quantity and cartel shit. If your operation is low key and your customers are privileged, it's really no different than just another side hustle.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 10:56 PM
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Weed, molly, and shrooms.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 05:32 PM
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He sold me drugs at a frat party.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:44 PM
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I don't think about them at all, why would/should I? The men who matter, make the moves that matter. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:10 PM
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Pretty simple really, I don't want to get beaten.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:50 PM
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Don't know, don't care; still not fucking around with a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:37 PM
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Men come to us, therefore discernment is our part to play if a man harms us (especially if we know or date him), 99% of the public (and a good majority of law enforcement) will blame us for "picking wrong" life is long but fertility is short; we can't waste too much time fucking around with strangers trying to establish baseline commonalities if we want to go on and procreate with a degree of stability. I don't know you from Steve, the guy that has the bones of 5 tinder dates in his basement. Is…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:33 PM
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Sure, but I never once had to suck dick to pay the bills/keep the peace/appease a man. I think my cynicism is a fair trade off in that regard.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 05:20 PM
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No, I just said they have a expectation of 'something'. Given that we're talking about hetero men, that 'something' usually breaks down into sexual access and intimacy. Some people are fine with that transaction, I find it distasteful. I don't consider myself for sale, which is why I've always avoided men that earn more than me. They (men who earn more than me) don't all think that way, but it seems to be an integral part of male sociosexuality so I'm safe in assuming most higher earning men, if…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 04:45 PM
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What don't you get? The power differential between $100k and $200k is the cage. The gilding of that cage is the $100k whos making 200k(suppose you make 100k) , who's gonna pay for most of the dates while you pay occasionally No man has ever, ever paid more and not expected something in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 04:28 PM
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It makes your life so much easier Wrong. A gilded cage is still a cage.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 04:21 PM
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I mean...that kinda sounds like personal grievance rather than a fully realized ideological concept to rail against.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 02:33 PM
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guilty pleasure: I really like skinnytok. Its like early 2000's tumblr pro-ana culture without the performative self loathing. Just the facts 'mam, none of this wishy washy performative language about "body inclusivity" or "health and wellness".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 02:56 PM
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Bro...what are you talking about? I feel like you're speaking as someone that's never actually had to manage people or deadlines, which is ironic for someone trying to insinuate women's inferiority at a task they themselves have probably never done.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 03:59 PM
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"Can we get that done by next week?"- most women can't do this ....what? literally any person in a people management system has the skill of setting an expectation and a deadline. Teachers, managers, HR; all facets of a people management system, mostly employed by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 03:07 PM
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I've always wanted Pocahontas hair, but that's a bit drastic of a style change. If I do go through with it I'll probably get something close to my real hair type (3C curls), but a bit looser and longer (essentially what I look like when I get out of the shower, before it shrinks).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 01:47 AM
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Yes, it's pretty molesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 01:11 AM
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I look pretty good for a hag, but I'm having trouble giving in to the grey hair. Honestly, I just want to wear wigs, but my husband is emphatically against it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 01:10 AM
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There was never a plan, just vibes. Luckily I vibed my way into a pretty good life with my husband and kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 12:22 AM
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That's good to hear, all your write-ups just sound so lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 01:44 AM
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I'm not asking if you know like minded people, I'm asking if you have friends, people who care about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 01:36 AM
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Big ol' nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 01:33 AM
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17, although I had been messing around since I was 15.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 01:32 AM
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Guy, do you have any friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 01:30 AM
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No dating apps, just general observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 03:32 PM
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Men really be doing the most to make sure they don't have sex. Y'all cry so much about loneliness, and then you still act a fool. Make it make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:46 PM
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My brother in Christ, I think you're having a manic episode.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 04:43 PM
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We need to bring back shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 03:49 PM
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Fair point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 03:23 PM
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Yes please. My husband and I have wildly different sleep habits/hygiene, but I have a medical condition that requires heavy, uninterrupted sleep to be managed. I'm a light sleeper that wakes up to the slightest noise, whereas my husband is an insomniac that snores and jerks around in his sleep. As a result I'm constantly waking up several times a night from him walking into the bedroom, coughing, shifting, snoring, etc. So my medical condition is worsened by the low quality sleep I get. When/if …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:23 PM
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My god, you sound suffocating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:08 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 11:42 PM
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Pretty good mother's day so far; boychild wrote me a poem, stuffed my face with ratchet chinese food, watching wwe Backlash with the husband, and then afterwards I'm going to work on my DIY miniature house kit while I listen to my scifi novel and everyone leaves me alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:20 PM
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Is your mom into that sort of chick lit?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 01:58 AM
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Kinda; they were already pretty big from figure skating, but now they're crazy defined.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 01:35 AM
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I graduated to intermediate ballet, now I can finally learn en pointe at the ripe old age of hag. I'm proud of me. 🥹🧚‍♀️🩰
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 01:15 AM
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What? I literally just said we take rainchecks with each other if the mood strikes but the moment doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 07:06 PM
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I'd ask him if he had a head injury because this man has never willing traveled in his entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 04:58 PM
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cats, traveling, art, auntie energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 04:37 PM
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Barring the SA when I was 14, I've never been in a situation where I had to say "no" to sex. If I'm in a sexual environment, its because I wanted to be there. Because of what happened what I was younger, I took great pains to avoid being in secluded situations with men. My husband has a much more promiscuous past than me, so by sheer statistics he's encountered more situations where he had to firmly verbalize 'NO' to an aggressive woman. Within our marriage we've never said 'no' to each other, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 04:05 PM
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How to introduce a dead bedroom, step 1: placing sex acts on the madonna/whore spectrum
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 07:24 PM
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Well first of all congrats, but also, most people just won't value the same things we do. We can intellectually know something is hard to accomplish but...just not really care one way or another. Like, I recently graduated to intermediate ballet, no one IRL gives or fuck or has congratulated me. I know the work I put into it, but my husband, son, mother, BFF, etc. just see that I've moved on to the next class, so it doesn't mean anything to them. idk, it is what it is. If you're proud of yoursel…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 04:53 PM
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But like...why should they give a shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 04:42 PM
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Yes. I grew up in the Americana, Norman Rockwell Midwest. Everyone is a Methodist or a Lutheran (and a few Catholics scattered about). Most families are still in tact. If you're middleclass+ you went to college, met your first or second serious LTR and married them shortly after you graduated. You moved to the Big City as a cute young couple, partied, made friends, made memories, then got knocked up and moved back to the suburbs. Repeat the cycle for another generation. I currently live in a ver…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:56 PM
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God damn, just how sour were those grapes?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 05:38 PM
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idk, 35%? I think there is a base of 20% of dudes who just won't have mutual romantic relationships. This includes the severely disabled, unlucky, and uninterested. The extra 15% are dudes who meet a baseline (employed, pro-social, average looks, etc.) but are fucked in the head; anxious, neurotic, porn-sick, depressed, low self esteem, addictions, rage issues, etc. These dudes may luck into a relationship because they met the baseline plus a bit of 'right time, right place' magic, but all their…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 04:07 PM
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I'm not in to bulky bodies and even I can see the body on the left is more attractive. He looks more...Relaxed? Real? Healthy? Strong? crackpot theory: Despite what the bros say, the body on the right is tailored for the male gaze. There's too much artifice (which is generally the purview of women), and not enough functionality which I think triggers something tingly for women. Low body fat and vanity muscles doesn't read as "strength" to us, its pure ornamentation, but only in the ways that app…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 05:06 PM
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You heard it hear folks, a "British female dating and relationship coach" said a thing, and her proclamation is now 1000% true.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 04:49 PM
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Really living up to that username.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 04:45 PM
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Its not a matter of niceness, its the category itself; commercial gym. The amount of people who attend a commercial gym and view it as a place open to casual sex partners is still a vanishingly small slice of the general population. You even said it your self; "EVERYBODY has a different subjective experience". My gym is a community rec center, I also work there part time. Our clientele is the local community, so we serve everyone from retirees, working parents, stay at home parents, kids, teenag…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 04:39 PM
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So you've observed transgressive behaviors in a niche space, and then extrapolated those behaviors to the wider populace as proof that you know "The Truth" of people? Riiiight, Ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 04:07 PM
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I've read this several times and I still have no idea wtf OP is talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 03:31 PM
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Ok but this thread, right here, is anyone excusing older women for sleeping with young men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 02:59 PM
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when an older women dates a younger guy it's fine Did anyone in this thread say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 02:50 PM
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Depends on my mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 01:42 AM
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A little bit of column A, a little bit of column B.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 10:52 PM
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I don't know about meanness, but I'd say most women already have pre-existing social groups from childhood that comprise of besties, sisters, cousins, etc. If there is to be a new addition to that group, then that person has to be vetted and judged by every other member of the group. Its a lot of work that can easily upset the balance of a female social matrix. I know personally I have a tough time adding new members to my small social matrix because one of the costs of a social matrix is emotio…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 04:32 PM
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Yesterday I decided I should try to befriend my ballet instructor. Our kids attend the same school and know each other, she works at the school and knows my son, we superficially have some things in common, and she's a warm, sweet, funny lady. As class was winding down I was working up the courage to ask her if she'd like to have a friend date/play date with her family and mine, but then she offhandedly mentioned going to church and I instantly got the ick. However I am an adult, and I realize I…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 03:38 PM
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I mean.... look at them. Gooners, fascists, Tater Tots, NEETS; if they're not soft bellied door dash drivers "stacking cash" and "building an empire" 🙄, then they're gymcels that have crafted an entire personality from Arthur Schopenhauer's hate-wanking.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:24 PM
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Does it matter? This whole hub bub is about due process. The is he or isn't he narrative is just that, a narrative to distract us. Or do you not think we're entitled to due process?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:52 PM
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van cleef jewelry I don't know what that is, so I googled it. That shit looks tacky as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:45 PM
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its undeniable ....you know photoshop exists, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:43 PM
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* Never go more than 1-2 weeks without some sort intimate touch (yes, even during the post partum period; an HJ or a massage can go a long way towards maintaining a connection). * Make sure 80% of your waking hours with them involve mirth, laughter, contentedness, and/or good vibes. It makes up for 20% of the time when you're shitheads to each other. * Think of yourselves as teammates rather than subordinates or adversaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:13 PM
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My 20th wedding anniversary was Sunday. We celebrated by watching WrestleMania night 2 and gorging our selves on left over Mediterranean food. 10/10 anniversary celebration.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 03:01 PM
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I don't understand this need to prove people are secretly lying about their preferences. Like...what drives this desire to uncover the "Truth", which just so happens to line up with some pre-conceived notions. Is it really so hard to just take people at their word? How exhausting it must be, to go through life assuming everyone is a secret liar.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:41 PM
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Age: hag Preferred age of men: hag, +/- 5 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 01:20 AM
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Only so far, and only for certain things. Was he an abuser in the past? Yes that matters. Did he previously date blonde and bubbly but is now dating brunette and serious? No, that doesn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 12:19 PM
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I literally said skinny and sinewy; 'sinew' being the visible muscle and tendons of his body, but no bulk or size. This man is a good example, he looks like the sort of dude I'd find in the Pilates classes I teach. <image> >Do you know feel like since you put so much work into your physique, you deserve a man who puts an equal amount of effort into his? This doesn't make any sense to me at all. I work out for me, to be healthy, fit, and attractive. But I don't think I deserve a man who does X si…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 12:05 PM
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.....riiight, cause that's what's coming across when you post baity, contrarian replies.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 12:15 AM
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I don't even know how or why I would be worried about that. If i'm attracted to a man, and he treats me the way I want, what do I care about who or what came before me? It's remarkable how many inconsequential things make some men insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 12:00 AM
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Well, hello number 9.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 05:23 PM
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Skinny, sinewy. Like some Willem Dafoe looking dude in a Pilates class. The amount of work I put into my body doesn't influence my expectations, but I do have a baseline of No Fatties.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 05:04 PM
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Oh he doesn't work under the Trump admin, he's the ambassador FROM the country TO the USA and the rest of the world. Either way, the man is STRESSED.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 09:39 PM
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In December my uncle was promoted to the Ambassador of ______, a tiny Caribbean country arbitrarily on Trump's shit list. Ever since Trump's executive order spree, he's lost about 20 lbs and aged 10 years. He's been traveling across the world trying to shore up int'l support and boost tourism. Unfortunately this island relied heavily on the US tourism industry. I hate living in interesting times.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 08:51 PM
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Wormwood is coming. ??? What does absinthe have to do with anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:24 PM
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college just an indoctrination camp. Like Charlie kirk says please tell me you're self aware enough to catch that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 09:05 PM
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no amount of interrogating women will ever make you feel secure about your dick size.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 08:53 PM
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I've dated UMC blonde hair + blue eyed All American jocks, a Mexican ex-gang member that got his life together in the military, and a skinny, pale, long brown haired touring musician from blue collar roots. The only thing they all have in common is an appreciations of the arts (music, lyrics, sketching, etc) and a natural inclination towards charisma, gregariousness, showmanship, high sociability, and low neuroticism. I suppose physically, the tallest was 5'10" and none of them were fat. If I we…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 03:49 PM
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*Reads about the SAVE act* Hm, glad I was too lazy to change my last name when I got married.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 04:56 PM
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There was an OG redpill lady on PPD that has been beating this drum for years. She clocked the phenomena about 5-8 years ago, but unfortunately I think she's been permabanned (?) for being a little too based on the topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 06:09 PM
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Its like when a college freshman from a Republican family takes philosophy 101 and discovers Ayn Rand; just an insufferable cunt spewing gibberish, high on his imagined place in the social hierarchy after everyone has "gone Galt".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:36 PM
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oh god, not another DaRk EnLiGhTNmEnT jagoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:21 PM
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None, really. I was a precocious child that read A LOT, and my parents encouraged my curiosity. Despite being "trad catholics", they valued education above all else so they were pretty frank about sex, hormones, puberty, etc. There was a moral frame work to not fuck up my life with an unintended pregnancy, but my parents stayed out of my business. I've never been inclined towards religion, and I've always been a bit of a loner, so I never really jived with any sort of shame framework beyond my o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 03:05 AM
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Obesity really is out on control though. As I've stated before, I live in an ultra liberal UMC blue bubble, full of fit yoga moms and athletic soccer dads. Recently the family and I went to township just outside of city limits to visit a pet store. Literally everybody in the store, besides us, was obese. Eventually we exited the store and I really looked around the shopping plaza we were standing in, and again, we were the only non-obese people there. God damn. From our neighborhood to the towns…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 10:46 PM
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Yes and no; its a pithy statement, but I'm using it in terms of legal autonomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 04:46 PM
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Children don't have rights. What you're advocating for, is a state of being that has no legal rights. Legal and financial protections are only at the discretion and benevolence of the person responsible for you. We have a long history of human relations to see how this plays out when the Responsible Party (i.e. the married male) is neither responsible, sober, clear headed, or mature enough for the responsibility. So why should a capable woman be a "kid forever" to a man rife with moral and physi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 04:39 PM
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No, I find the concept "get to be a kid forever" revolting within this particular context.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 03:59 PM
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You get to be a kid forever basically ngl, reading that made my stomach turn.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 03:21 PM
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I am not completely sure what's bad about having a divorce but probably there is a reason to be so afraid of it. Its a bunch of thousandaires utterly CONVINCED they'll be on the hook for lifetime alimony while their ex-wife sluts it up, or some such nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 03:03 PM
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omg, y'all are so fucking dramatic. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:17 PM
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Why tho? It's just one anon's perspective. The world is big and tardigrades exist, no use getting in your feels about one person's shitty take.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 04:28 PM
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with our bodies designed to fit together perfectly. That's awfully convenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 04:35 PM
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Eh, nah. If all else is equal, women still tip the scale with aesthetics. I'm straight as they come, but if I were forced to kiss a stranger I'd choose a woman. At least I'd have a slightly greater chance of encountering someone who is soft and smells nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 03:20 PM
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I feel like women aren’t as attracted to men as men are to women. Why would we be?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 03:09 PM
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They really want women to bear the original sin: choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 06:11 PM
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Is that what your grandparents were like? yes. Or do you truly believe that's what the average persons life was like? The average poor person, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 07:02 PM
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This was in the 50s and 60's, most of those people are still living today.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:49 PM
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Caption: "Emergency Gooning kit I made, just in case I need to goon immediately anywhere I am. laptop and charger, pictures of goonsluts, tons of lube, fleshlight, earphones, and 6 terbytes worth of private goon material collection!" picture is of the various items listed in the gooning kit. Photo had 2K upvotes and was posted to the gooning subreddit that had 900K subscribers. At first I thought you were trying real hard to play dumb, but I'm starting to suspect its not an act.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:41 PM
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So DV, poverty, illiteracy, too many children, dysfunction, alcoholism, and an early death?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:26 PM
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<image> Look at this Übermensch, just brimming with sobriety and heroic ideals.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:24 PM
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Your ignorance of a trend does not negate its existence, but said trend sure does contradict your 'man good, woman bad' solo jerk.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:07 PM
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Real men aren’t hedonists. And yet goon caves exist. Hmm...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:09 PM
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Is that really a prime, or just the best employee? It should be noted this particular OP bought his SO from a homeless shelter in South America.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:00 PM
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Low key and cheap. I've had a first dates at a 24 hour diner, Lincoln Park Zoo (free), Applebee's, a dive bar, an indie wrestling show at the Elk's lodge, and picking up Subway sandwiches + hiking at a local forest preserve. If I'm chatting with a guy and into him, I don't care what we're doing or how much it costs, I'm just excited cause I'm spending time with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:47 PM
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When I was a waitress at a sports pub this is the standard attitude we had to have, especially with our regulars. We would absolutely put our arms around them, give them a hug, or sit and chat with them for a bit. I was interested in precisely 0% of my customers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 10:15 PM
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Example of what? That gif is for mockery.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 09:56 PM
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::Japanese waitress doing her job:: passport bros: look, proof of what genuine visceral attraction looks like!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 09:49 PM
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Drown them in mustard.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 07:00 PM
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That's a type of humiliation and psychological torment that women can never comprehend. 🙄 so dramatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:41 PM
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You kept a $500 scarf from a man you weren’t interested in? ....of course? He was a whole ass stranger, I have zero reason to be kind and considerate about his fuckup. That’s unkind and inexcusable Oh well. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 03:23 AM
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My money pays for everything important (bills, housing, food, insurance, retirement, etc), my husband's money pays for entertainment and socializing. He earns about a third of my salary; Its been that way for 20 years, I don't see it changing any time soon. I went back to work at 8 weeks postpartum, although I wanted to go back at 6 weeks PP. My husband stayed home and raised kiddo until he was about 6, then we swapped (he went to work, I transitioned to working from home). In my perfect world I…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:11 PM
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This happened to me a few years ago (replace hobby class with train ride). I kept the gift and still use it today (Burberry infinity scarf), however I made a point to avoid that train on the off chance of ever running into him again. I was very creeped out and anxious for months afterwards. I've dealt with stalkers before so any untoward kindness from strangers sets off alarm bells for me. I was also annoyed that I had to change my schedule around just to avoid this dude who took it upon himself…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:53 PM
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mom- 30, dad -60
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:59 PM
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So if morbidly obese men think they're 10s does that mean they're 10s? Are they getting treated like 10s? Do they have the ability to sleep with 8-10 women without paying them? If you're a man who is overweight, you're just a far disgusting slob who deserves to be alone. Too bad, so sad. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 04:32 PM
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Those "fat chicks" you're referring to think they're 10s. ...so what? If they're getting what they want, who are we to tell them they're not 10s? The market has spoken.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 03:51 PM
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There's no evidence that men like fat women. purplish possum would like a word with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:41 PM
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They've had success in the past and see no reason to change it up any time soon. For what its worth I see way more gym bro + fat chick parings than y'all think is possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:39 PM
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I've been married for 20 years, and for 20 years we've had separate finances. I cover bigger expenses and utilities since I have the bigger paycheck, and my husband covers smaller expenses and entertainment since he earns a third of what I do. We each pay for our own miscellany (i.e. clothing, video games, snacks, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 04:16 PM
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Unconditional love is something that we as men give or offer, to women Oh please, it's unconditional until she talks back, gets fat, or stops fucking you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 05:22 PM
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Porn categories =/= love
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 05:15 PM
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Probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:07 PM
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A celebrity look alike? According to the hygienist, "a cross between Sade and old school Hilary Banks".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:03 PM
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Imagine having children with this man and having to explain this shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:53 PM
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ew.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:49 PM
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Yesterday at the dentist the hygienist and I were making small talk about celebrity lookalikes. She said she didn't really have one, asides from Consuela the housekeeper from Family Guy. And deadass, she was a spitting image of that character. Kinda rough for an early 30's woman, but she's a married 'dog mom' so at leas she found a pot to her lid.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:47 PM
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Nope. I have zero reason, desire, or opportunity to engage with conservative men (socially, professionally, communally, etc.) I've carefully crafted my blue bubble, and some man sure as shit isn't going to pop it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:25 PM
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Corporate influence You're going to have to explain it a bit further than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:47 PM
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I mean....simps gonna simp. Wholeass art forms have been based on some dude simping for some completely uninterested lady. The tech has changed, the impulse has not. And barring some wild cataclysmic change in the future, I don't see the impulse subsiding any time soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:25 PM
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wah wah wah
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:14 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:26 PM
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I laugh, cause there's an ice skating party on Sunday that I have to sit out....or will I?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:16 PM
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I don't care for this sprained ankle bullshit. I'm so used to taking care of my husband and his bum-ass knee, having the tables turned is weird and annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:10 PM
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I'm not claiming to be a 10 or anything, but that's how my husband and I got together. 🤷‍♀️ As far as I gather, it's a pretty solid strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:01 AM
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Why does seemingly every quirky girl space turn into the Sad Fat Girl's Club for Low Achievers? I know the way I think isn't quite normative for my gender, but when I try to engage with supposedly likeminded women, I'm just confronted with a bunch of...idk...femcels that don't know how to pay taxes and hate exercise.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:50 PM
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Its a League of Legends thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:38 PM
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He's pretty cute, I could see myself vibing with him. 7.5/10?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:24 PM
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It's like a composite of every married couple in my neighborhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:49 PM
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I...have no idea what to say to that. I've been with a handful of men and ''dick size was never a quality I thought to judge. Almost every man is average, and thats good enough for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:50 PM
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Nope, thats not something thats ever crossed my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:46 PM
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?? and ?? I didn't know I was supposed to care about height until I joined reddit. All the men I've been with were between 5'8" and 5'10". I know fuck all about penis sizes, but I realized my husband's is thick and I like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:44 PM
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facial aesthetic physique (thinner the better) penis size height
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:37 PM
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idk, I think signing over your autonomy would be even more suffocating. Independence is hard, but so so so worth it when you can look some chump in the eye and tell him to piss off, cause you don't need his shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:34 PM
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I hate making decisions for myself and I hate thinking. Why tho? Doesn't it feel good to know you're in charge of your life and that its up to you to make the best of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:27 PM
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He leads in his wheelhouse, I lead in mine; then we meet in the middle and continue living our lives. I don't know why everyone tries to make it more complicated than it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:20 PM
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Why do you wait to have sex? Religious reasons? Bad past experiences? Something else? The only 100% effective BC is abstinence. I need to vet a man for future-dad-vibes before his penis goes anywhere near my vagina. Does abortion exist? Sure. Is it a financially/emotionally/mentally easy thing to deal with? Not really. Getting knocked up by some fly-by-night fuckboy is a living nightmare, I rather save myself all that heartache and just hold off until I have a clear vision of the dude, his famil…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:06 PM
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You know, they're one and the same really, just a bit of a pallet swap when you get down to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:19 PM
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What qualifies as a rich woman? I grew up UMC and I've mostly maintained that lifestyle/income, but I'm not like, buying Bugattis. I've always been interested in beautiful but broke musicians, so much so I married one when he had -$87 in his bank account on our wedding day. I'm not any more busy than most corpo drones that WFH. Sometimes I pull overtime, but I'm salaried and have a pretty flexible schedule. As long as my clients are happy and I meet my deliverables, my time is to do as I please.…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:43 AM
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No one who agrees with the "rule" interprets it the way you do. You would be mistaken. Without naming names and getting banned for a witch hunt, we've had several male posters on PPD argue for the rule as presented by OP. One of them has stated, several times, that he hired a private investigator to make sure his SO never gave "more" to previous relationships than she gives to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 03:34 AM
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My company has co-CEOs and we're thiving, we just bought out two competitiors.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 10:11 PM
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If there is a significant decision to be made, and you disagree with each other, who gets the final say? Whoever cares the most and/or whoever has the expertise to execute the decision. You don't just both magically wake up from bed at the same time and perfectly in sync proclaim the same decision. No, we just hash out who has more skin in the game and leave the rest up to them. It's not rocket science fam, its called ✨compromise and teamwork.✨
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 09:31 PM
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Women don't get to intentionally have children and then complain about how hard it is on their body because they had children and be mad at men about that, they knew what they were signing up for lol r/Mommit would like a word. I've never come across a bigger collection of women moaning about their self inflected "misery".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 06:20 PM
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She looks like a very nice woman who works at a small town bank and still attends church. She's waiting for a man of god, has 7-10 close cousins/friends, and looks after her sister's children in the mean time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 04:22 PM
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😬
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 03:52 PM
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<image> Hm, gender swap me looks like he has a youtube channel teaching people how to play classical guitar.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 03:38 PM
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Going against nature, eh? That's exciting, I'll be sure to let my husband know we're living life on the edge according to the likes of Jordan Peterson and friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 11:09 PM
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Somehow that makes everything worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 03:43 PM
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I guess I wouldn't be surprised, he was a major slut when we met. Said child would be a young adult by now so I wouldn't be too upset, presuming they came to us for connection/closure rather than hand outs. I know my husband would be very upset though, there's a history of that sort of thing happening in his family so he would have a lot of complexes/identity crises/generational trauma to work through. Ultimately I wouldn't be happy or upset, just weary and waiting for the other shoe to drop.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 05:30 PM
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From now on I'm just going to quote myself whenever this topic comes up; "What you all fail to consider when you ask us this question for the 8th time this month, is that to get the point of a relationship, all of our conditions have to be met first. By that point, we're happy with the amount and kind of effort he is putting in. Ergo, whatever he did before for other women is immaterial to the conditions of our current happiness with him, so long as he continues to satisfy our conditions. Some m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:22 PM
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Nothing; you couldn't pay me to care about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:56 PM
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Lol my husband has a communication degree, I have an English degree, we met at a frat party his house hosted. He toured with his band after college, and now post-covid he works as a music tutor. Despite a worthless degree and low earning power he still managed to land a 'long term mate'. Funny how that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:06 PM
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I am so embarrassingly down bad for Viktor from Arcane. I really do have a visual type (sickly, thin, pale, angular, great hair).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:14 PM
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lol, no. Getting a worthwhile dude to commit isn't hard, and if I have to LARP as Suzie homemaker just to snag some guy who can't wipe his own ass, then y'all can miss me with that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:47 PM
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Pure, unrelenting, merciless mockery.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:25 PM
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Every fat woman knows she's fat. There is no reality check, she's not blissfully existing in western society unaware of her size. Since her first Barbie, her first Disney film, her first exposure to western mass media, the first snicker behind her back, the woman knows she's fat. Her resolve and dedication to change is wholly up to her; if she doesn't think its worth it, or doesn't have the space for it, then thats it. No amount of haranguing, shaming, or "brutal honesty" is going to change anyt…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 07:04 PM
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1.) There is nothing to be gained by insulting someone about their looks. 2.) "If you don't have anything nice to say, its better not to say anything at all."-every sweet grandma, ever. 3.) I don't find obese bodies attractive. But I can look at an obese friend and pin point something about her that is attractive to my perception; Style, makeup, hair, nails, etc. Because of points one and two, I'll gloss over the obese body (which as a woman raised in western society, she already knows is unattr…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 06:12 PM
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When I married my husband he had -$87 in his account. At no point in my life have I ever cared about how much a dude makes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 11:51 PM
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Nothing changes. Go ahead and try living with a woman scorned. Let me know how that works out for you on the peace and domesticity front.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 04:25 PM
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Nope, they are the definition of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:20 PM
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No troll, just truth. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:19 PM
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These guys
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:15 PM
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After moving from college to the city, I've only noticed two good looking men amongst the gen-pop over the past 15 years. High standards or slim pickings?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 08:48 PM
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I just wanted to explode diet cokes with mentos with THE BOIZZZZ Lol, for me it was 'Operation Wang Chung', which involved super soaker drive-bys.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 08:07 PM
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Jeez...its high school all over again. Here I am with 91 masc. and 90 fem, "undifferentiated".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 07:55 PM
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Never. I actually don't feel all that feminine or masculine, but I present as extremely feminine, and that seems to be good enough for the men I've dated. I don't mind performing femininity to get along in this world, so it's not something I'm anxious about.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 01:54 AM
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emulating the same warm caring loving and compassionate unconditional love their mother showed them in life
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 11:20 PM
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Too many 'poisoned m&ms', take it up with your brethren if you don't like the generalization.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 04:21 AM
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Strange men in close proximity to vulnerable kids and stressed out/overworked/distracted mothers. Hmmm what could possibly go wrong.....
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 04:03 AM
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I'll compromise and sacrifice for a relationship that meets all my requirements, OP did not describe that relationship. To wit, if standards aren't met, then there is no relationship. What OP described is not standards met, I don't know why this is incomprehensible for you people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 01:45 PM
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What you all fail to consider when you ask us this question for the 8th time this month, is that to get the point of a relationship, all of our conditions have to be met first. By that point, we're happy with the amount and kind of effort he is putting in. Ergo, whatever he did before for other women is immaterial to the conditions of our current happiness with him, so long as he continues to satisfy our conditions. Some men are willing to have relationships with people that don't satisfy their …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:43 AM
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Why should men always make first moves? Because there's 4 billion of y'all, if you don't make a move then someone with more skin in the game will.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 11:24 PM
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Oh boy, you sure got us this time. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 05:15 AM
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Ok cool. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:32 PM
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No; I care about my men and their troubles, I have zero fucks to give about other men and their supposed problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:02 PM
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the main harm to women is the loss of simping and betabuxes Sooo...nothing of value was lost then?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:41 PM
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hot pockets! Of course I heard that as the jingle.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:35 PM
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Because its a dumbfuck concept thats been beaten to death already. Threatening to withhold something nobody wants amounts to little more than a tantrum. Unwanted men satisfying themselves artificially doesn't mean anything to people who can already get their needs met in the meatspace. Like...congrats you got yourself a Joi? But the rest of us will be over here doing meatpsace things like fucking, dating, marrying, having kids, having fun, growing old together, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:31 PM
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LV Men: If you don't want us we'll just get AI girlfriends. Everyone else:
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:18 PM
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OP: "I've never been invited to a birthday party" also OP: "I got a 1580 on the SAT when I was 11 years old and only knew math from my middle school algebra I and geometry classes. Again, no it's not impressive, and this type of delusional thinking is the problem with female socialization." 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 03:50 PM
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Casual and accessible, my kid will be in tow and the guests are from silicon valley. I'm leaning towards Au Cheval; kinda trendy, but has items my kid will recognize and eat.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 10:37 PM
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Ravenswood, but I'm leaning towards keeping it in the loop cause I think (?) thats where my guests are staying.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 10:13 PM
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Really? I had the impression there were a lot of PPDers from Philly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:58 PM
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I live in Chicago, but I have no idea where to take an out-of-town guest for lunch on Sunday. I don't go anywhere, and I'm paralyzed with choice. Fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 09:55 PM
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8.5, does that make me Stacy-lite or high tier Becky?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 06:10 PM
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Nope, no one is asking that creepy ass question besides you, but if you must know, 25,451,897 mystery dicks. In fact in 2012 and 2013 I won the Guinness world record for most amount of mystery dicks fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:40 PM
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I'm not arguing that everyone can achieve this, but I will take issue when people men claim no one can achieve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 10:03 PM
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Ahh yes, the ever evolving goalposts.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:47 PM
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anecdata is the best data. I married my husband at 20. Had our kid at 30, and transitioned to permanently working from home. Still ascended the corp ladder, now I'm 40 and weighing if I want to stay at the director level or make the hop to VP. Husband has a career in music, and with that lots of flexibility. Kiddo is happy and healthy, good student, lots of friends, and a decent soccer player. We're homeowners in a nice middle class+ neighborhood, paid off our student loans, and we own our cars.…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:41 PM
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Right. Like that demo is me, and damn near all my peer. We're not rare, we just don't make waves and quietly live our lives 'having it all'.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:11 PM
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All I would think is 'Neat'. I don't know why aligning with me on politics would make me question his sexuality? like....what? Quite frankly I'm more likely to assume a dude is a closeted if he's all up Trump's asshole and identifies with the bro-sphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 03:24 PM
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I agree with you. I never understood why there was so much kvetching about this topic, as at least anecdotally, myself and the women in my life have manage to acquire all of 'it'. But I will say there is a scaffolding of support and privilege baked in; likeminded partners who deliver on their share of the domestic load, and family friendly work place policies. If the partner lacks, or has rigid ideas about who should carry out the domestic load, then that woman is going to be stretched thin. Lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 03:16 PM
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Gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 03:01 PM
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ew. I know 3 people that have died from reckless driving (2 at fault, the 3rd was a victim). Reckless driving is some dumbfuck low IQ bullshit, and I will forever sneer at assholes that needlessly put other people at danger just so they can feel cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:33 PM
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No, that seems silly and like a waste of money. I'd trust him, but I'd be curious as to why girlie is tagging along on a guys trip.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:23 PM
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I guess Adam? I'm a introvert, if I was paired with another introvert we'd probably just rot in our house together.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 02:06 PM
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yes, I'd say radio overplay but also coinciding with the rise of meme culture, so the 'hate' amplified by becoming a meme to hate Nickleback. A self reinforcing cycle if you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 04:48 PM
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Yes, what a weird question to ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:07 AM
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Extremely off putting. My first date with my husband was at taco bell, and I kept badgering him that we should order from the value menu.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:12 PM
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Yes, a good friend of mine. She had her first child in high school, then her parents watched kiddo while she went to school and became a nurse. Along the way she met her current husband and they had her 2nd kiddo like..12ish years later. Seemingly happily married, just living life and doing the family thing for our age cohort.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:10 PM
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hello from another urban Midwest bubble!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:06 PM
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If I'm with him, that means I already approve of the treatment he's giving me, and I have zero concept or care about previous women. Frankly, I'd be relieved if he was cheap with me, it means he's learned financial restraint and has grown past the childish desire to impress with his wallet. ETA: regarding the streamers, the same applies so long as he's not engaging in that behavior while with me, because then we're getting into cheating/boundary crossing behavior. If he did it in the past but no…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:47 PM
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And don't forget the guys in Borneo who fucked a shaved baboon in a wig for years until the baboon was rescued.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 01:53 PM
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If a man is attracted to a woman & she reciprocates. He will love her forever & unconditionally. Those are your words. "If women make a guy a good deal & dont become beached whales"-condition for a man's love "The only thing a guy wants is SOME of your prime & SOME of your mid 20s."-condition for a man's love "not be like the millenial girls who have hoed their life away & are now fat & old. THAT is not a fair deal & they dont deserve our love."-you, literally spelling out the conditional terms …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:34 PM
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Women can do whatever they want & we are expected to take them on after they are used up? You're the one claiming men love unconditionally, and then immediately following up with conditions. I don't think you know what 'unconditionally' means.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:09 PM
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you are 1000% correct, and your comment needs way more upvotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:23 PM
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🤷‍♀️ ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 09:57 PM
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Handsome and faithful, I don't need some dude's money.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 09:16 PM
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Tell that to all the dry wall/closet doors/etc. with fist holes in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 07:21 PM
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My husband was a SAHD during kiddo's early years and it was fucking amazing. He was happy, I was happy, and kiddo was happy. Now I'm stuck at home, he's miserable and commuting, and kiddo is still happy, but the dynamic has definitely shifted in our household (there is a miasma of tradcon-ism lurking in the shadows, I don't care for it). I go stir crazy and my husband is tired all the time. If we could flip roles we'd do so in an instant, but alas, our jobs/the economy necessitate where we are f…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:48 PM
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This is disgusting, y'all are disgusting people, and you absolutely need to be kink shamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:15 AM
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Reading this as I sit in a locker room prepping before I go teach a packed Pilates class full of nip/tucked mommies and professional hot girls, but sure, we don't put effort our appearances. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 04:58 PM
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I'm having a delicious breakfast thats making me very happy, and I just wanted someone to know. Guava and sweet cheese empanada, with a side of passion fruit mousse on top of full fat Greek yogurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:20 PM
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Nope. Maybe he should have thought about that before marrying a woman not into 3somes anymore. tough titties.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:18 PM
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There are dozens of us!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 09:41 PM
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Life is short, why would I do that to myself?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 02:58 PM
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Jesus Christ, "Okay go find another guy" or "Go talk to your other guys" just a screams insecure, petulant, and butthurt. Acknowledging other guys at all already tells me everything I need to know about your sate of mind, your sense of self, and your complete lack of belief in your own ability. And more importantly, it shows I'm not desperate as I'm telling her to go Its doing the exact opposite; its transmitting inept weakness and admitting you don't have what it takes to capture her attention.…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:39 PM
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Many successful men tend to stay with their partners who were with them before they achieved their success. MacKenzie Scott (formerly Bezos) would like a word.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 06:16 PM
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No, because I'm not a neurotic mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 08:29 PM
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People on this sub should stop talking as if a paternity test were a fidelity test, Except the men here wield it as such, so if the shoe fits, wear it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 08:21 PM
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No, you see they keep the fantasy alive by believing they'll be able to cycle through fresh 20 year old's when the latest one ages out. Leo does it, so why can't they!?!?1
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:46 PM
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I really wish we had a gif of the whole interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:43 PM
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ok? and I live in a VERY woke, liberal UMC neighborhood in Chicago and I'd have to actively search for overweight and out of shape men who mostly congregate in lower SES neighborhoods on the south and west side. Additionally, the suburbs are full of conservative/Trump supporting obese men. All of this to say, using our general surroundings to extrapolate judgements against demographics of people is a fool's errand.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:41 PM
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Not me spreadsheets and color coded binders to plan all of my vacations 6-12 months in advance. 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 03:14 AM
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where he admitted he and his friends used to take drunk or drugged women to run trains on. How these happen is usually one guy of group will find a woman willing to have sex, bring her back to their place where everyone is waiting, and then convince her to have sex with all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 09:48 PM
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There actually was a movie (and novel) about the case, aptly called Women Talking).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 03:21 PM
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"These nighttime attacks were denied or dismissed by colony elders until finally it was revealed that a group of men from the colony were spraying an animal anesthetic into their victims' houses to render them unconscious." "In the morning we couldn't get up because we were half anaesthetized," he recalls. "We couldn't move… We didn't know what happened, but we knew something had happened. "And it wasn't just once - they were here twice those men." "While the whole family was drugged and incapac…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 03:16 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 02:13 PM
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Are we talking about IRL or celebrity? In terms of celebrity; I was OBSESSED with Brand Renfro (RIP) when I was a pre-teen, and then Trent Reznor when I was a teenager. As of 2024 the Trent Reznor obsession has not abated. IRL all my crushes turned into my boyfriends, but the most consequential and passionate crush was my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 01:43 PM
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Reminds me of that case in South America of an Amish (or Amish adjacent) society wherein a rotating group of men from the community would drug the women and girls of the commune with bovine tranquilizer and then go on rape sprees throughout the night. This went on for years, fathers teaching sons, hundreds of rapes, it only came to light when the women started talking amongst themselves and piecing together what was happening to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 02:33 AM
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UMC-ish; college educated, home ownership, international vacations, stock market investments beyond retirement funds, private education, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 01:47 AM
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Why would a man rape, which every man can? Idk, maybe you could ask the third of your brethren who would do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 12:41 AM
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Pedantry isn't as clever as you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:01 PM
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Yes, but I'm surrounded by lifelong marriages, to the point that I don't intimately know any divorced people. Parents, grandparents, in-laws, half siblings, cousins, aunts and uncles, peers, etc. We're not particularly religious or conservative, just a bunch of lazy catholics in the Midwest.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 11:00 PM
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Yes, welcome to society.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:20 PM
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Children of Time Anathem The Passion of New Eve Grapes of Wrath The Story of Avis
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:04 PM
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If it wasn't for my heterosexuality and libido I would have already cloistered myself away in some sort of asexual witchy coven. As it stands, the only males I trust are my father (deceased, but a good man), my husband (has my dad's energy and vibe) and my son (he's still a child). The rest of y'all can kick rocks and fuck coconuts for all I care.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 10:41 PM
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Fam this is reddit, we're gonna need a TL;DR.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 10:24 PM
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I believe the concept began in the 1980's, but it was 1996 that it got a big push of federal funding/programing, and then again in 2000. I started high school in 1998, so the Elder Millennials were test cases for the whole concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:38 PM
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Midwestern, biracial, grew up nominally religious, daughter of Catholic immigrants. My peer group were "The Good Girls" who got straight A's, ran for student council, babysat, nominal Lutherans or Methodists, never broke curfew, and had chaste relationships with their generically Christian boyfriends. None of us went to church, but our generation was ground zero for Abstinence Only Education reforms. Plus our community was under siege by the Young Life cult evangelical Christian organization. Go…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:23 PM
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All those words and only 1 comma. wew lad.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:08 PM
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A fat dude passport bro-ing across the world (and directly paying for at least ~75% of them), and then dispassionately telling PPD of his exploits (when nobody asked) just seems like a very....small existence. The last time you were living your best life, did you feel the need to hop onto PPD and tell everyone? Wouldn't PPD be the furthest thing from your mind if you were having the Time of Your Life? He can do what he wants, and I can think its weird and sad. My feelings on the matter can be su…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 06:48 PM
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Sounds like the guy is having the time of his life Not really. It all sounds very deflated and cynical.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 05:43 PM
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Because he lives a depressing life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 05:12 PM
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Yeh, as long as its not skinny fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 05:04 PM
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Niche max. The archetype that has a stranglehold on my sexuality is a 5'6" 130lbs goth daddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 04:47 PM
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If he's not a lawyer, I'm not interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:55 AM
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Because this suggests status signals, and/or stereotyping. Yes, niche-max. I'm into musicians with long hair wearing masc. jewelry. These two guys project a style/niche/status that attracts me, whereas this guy projects a style/niche/status that actively turns me off.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:41 PM
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idk. 🤷‍♀️ I don't consider myself any more or less sexual than an average, healthy, 40 year old woman. Sex matters in the sense that if I'm not having it with my husband, then something is wrong in our marriage. I consider sex/physical intimacy the barometer for our connection and the health of our relationship. If I wasn't in a relationship, I probably wouldn't think about sex except once or twice a month (ovulation). How comfortable are you being sexual? I'm not sure what you mean by this. I'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:50 PM
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I've never had make up sex, it literally doesn't make sense to me. If we have a disagreement, then that shit needs to be hashed out with words/a resolution reached before my vagina will respond to anything. I suspect my husband thinks in those terms, but I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:51 PM
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Every man I've been attracted to started with the face. The body is secondary, and as long as it fits loose parameters (skinny, sinewy, symmetrical) then it only serves to support the face. I've never seen a male body and felt spontaneous lust. Lust is a response to a familiar man that fits my parameters expressing desire for me. If he fits my physical parameters but does not express desire or me, then I feel no lust for him. I've never felt sexual desire for a stranger. Fashion and style influe…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:34 PM
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I don't want to I don't need to In all my years of life, I've only encountered 2 men worth approaching; the first one was gay and I married the 2nd one.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:53 PM
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God damn do these nerds like to write a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 09:43 PM
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Most of my husband's closest friends are women, and God bless them, they help carry the load of his emotional labor. I don't think our marriage would have made it this far if I had to be everything to him. We had a good thing going with his ex before me, she listened to his nonsense but I got to sleep with him, unfortunately she moved to Florida to pursue her dream of becoming a pet psychic but became a magatard instead. Now his latest bff is a 6ft. lesbian in the military, I like her a lot and …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 10:41 PM
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I'm sorry you have a bad relationship with your father.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:58 PM
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i saw a republican woman i know talking about him her and all her friends were talking about how he prob likes getting fucked in the ass This is why we call them weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:57 PM
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who said anything about crying? I did say I would cry if my dad was on stage being venerated, because you know, its my dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:47 PM
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A son from a tight knit, loving family moved to tears and proud of his father accepting the VP nom = degeneracy. Interesting perspective you have there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:39 PM
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Like I failed as a mother. ETA: I've put a lot of time/effort/work/love into providing my son with the building blocks for self esteem, self love, resiliency, and a sense of responsibility (to himself and his future). If that all ended up being for naught, if he still gravitated toward incel circles and mindsets, I would feel devastated. That world is void of happiness, and all I want is for him to be authentically happy in whatever manner he chooses (barring obviously illegal things).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:25 PM
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Been watching the DNC, and the hopium feels good man. Gus Walz stanning for his dad had me in near tears. I think because Tim Walz reminds me so much of my own father (decent, kind, helpful, accepting, hard working midwestern dad), and I would stan the fuck out of him (blubbery tears and all) if he was on that stage. I'm happy that the Democrats are reclaiming/reframing patriotism, family values, freedom, and normalcy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:24 PM
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So, women, is it 80%, 20% or 0.2% Personal attraction I'd say about .000243%. However acknowledgement of attractive traits is probably, I dunno, 5-10% depending on location.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:35 PM
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I can't speak for other women, but I imagine a dadbod alludes to a 'relaxed' and 'realistic' sort of lifestyle. The sort of guy who doesn't mind cutting loose and having a few beers, an impromptu trip to the ice cream store, sharing a pizza with his girl on he couch, comfortable at a potluck or dinner with the folks, etc. A guy that isn't a slave to clean eating and aesthetics. Has anyone ever seen a 6-pack dude at a potluck when he's in a cut? It's the saddest thing ever, and his behaviors are …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 06:57 PM
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Pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 06:47 PM
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I hadn't come across this news story yet, but I feel bad that I already connected the dots.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:50 PM
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What I don't get is why she wants to talk about work so badly. Lady, nobody gives a fuck about your spreadsheets.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:40 PM
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My Officially an Old Hag birthday is on Saturday, and in the months leading up to it my friends/family kept pestering me about what I'm going to do (suggestions I've heard; 3 day cruise, big dinner with 16 people, night out at a bar + comedy show, house party, concert, weekend at the lake house) Last week I finally decided on lunch at a ramen place with kiddo + husband, afterwards get myself a passion fruit chiffon cake, and then play Diablo 4 with husband to close out the night. Quiet and borin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:17 PM
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1 is a giant red flag and automatic disqualifier. Dudes who don't have any female friends almost always have weird/cringey ideas about women, or come from gender segregated cultures and all the baggage than entails (nonsense sky dad religions, goatfuck cultural beliefs, etc). 6 would give me pause, because I think hetero dudes need at least one masculine friend. Easier to accomplish with another dude, but if the masc. energy is fulfilled by a particularly butch lesbian/NB person, then I think th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 02:49 PM
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Ok, so what's the problem then?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 05:46 PM
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...? No, I don't? The best dates I've been on have always involved authenticity. Thats the whole point of passing a vibe check. Why waste a few hours of my time with some dude that thinks he has to sell himself to me. That seems pointless, when I could instead spend a few hours laughing, having fun, and exploring intimacy with a guy thats vibes with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 05:26 PM
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But why are you gonig on dates with people who don't pass the vibe check?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 05:16 PM
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My first my memory of groping was when I was 11 years old, standing in a crowded line at an amusement park (6 Flags Over Great America). I was with my older cousins waiting to get on a ride, and we were all smooshed into a herding pen. My cousins were in front of me, I was behind them, when I felt adult male hands grab my ass and pinch my chest. I yelped, turned around, but all I could see was a sea of anonymous people. No one else had noticed what happened. I told my cousins that someone was bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:21 PM
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😂😂😂 this is some straight bitch-ass nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 09:42 PM
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My desired outcome was to have sex with a compatible, attractive man on a continual basis within the confines of monogamy. Marriage/children were ancillary, and only introduced by said man at his behest.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 08:37 PM
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I don't understand how or why I'd feel pride about a relationship? Its just a mutual arrangement with mutual attraction to spend sexual and non-sexual time together. Where does pride fit into this? If you're asking if I'm embarrassed by any previous relationships, then no, they were all perfect fine dudes we just didn't work out for one reason or another. But I'm not ashamed of anyone I dated, and I'm glad to know they've all moved on and got married, had kids, etc. What a strange question.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 07:20 PM
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On August 5th, in the year of our lord 2024, OP learns about groupies, and he is scandalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 06:54 PM
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Well, after she left the military she met the man of her dreams at the gym (big, jacked, black, bodybuilder), married him, moved to the suburbs, and now they host weird sex parties when the kids are away. I'm happy for her, she got what she wanted all along; suburban normalcy with a side of freaky.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 05:23 AM
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??? I have that everyday for breakfast, as long as you keep it within serving sizes you're looking at most 390 calories. And if you halve then cheese then its like, 335 calories.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:25 PM
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have slept with Elon Musk Not even, I'm pretty sure more than half of those kids were done via in vitro.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:08 PM
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I’ve read far too many stories of people calling these people’s bluffs only to end up dead because of it. Don’t be stupid. Yeah, I had a coworker who pulled the whole, "lets take it outside buddy" schtick. He landed one sucker punch and the other dude stumbled backwards, fell over, and smacked his head on a parking block. dead. My coworker ended up going to prison for manslaughter.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 05:47 PM
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When my husband and I started dating, he was frequently the target of Af_______ Am______ bullies; he a scrawny white guy, me a pretty mixed girl. There was a lot of verbal harassment centered around "taking one of the good ones". But my husband never let it get under his skin, he'd always diffuse the situation with mockery, humor, and wit. He'd clown on the dude, enough so that the bros would start laughing, and the aggressor would either double down (and get called out by his bros), or, start l…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 05:32 PM
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Did I get my son circumcised? No. Do I care about male circumcision? Also no. Should it be banned? Probably, but thats a fight for the men to take on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 04:27 PM
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I can look at a guy and judge if he's hot enough to fuck. But it takes a few conversations/rapport/camaraderie to determine if he's worth the effort. Guys just seem to look at women (or men, if they swing that way), assess their fuckability, and then no further inquiries required. In the year of our lord 2024, I don't understand why y'all are still so buttmad/confused that heterosexual women dont have male sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 02:37 PM
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I mean sure, but damn if it isn't difficult if your surrounding community isn't on the same page. Despite living on a street with lots of young families, I never see kids just fucking around outside. As much as I'd like to tell kiddo to just go outside and play, there are no kids to play with. And its not that these kids are cooped inside with the vidya (although I'm sure they exist somewhere) they are just at XYZ sport/camp/class/club, etc. So, we go with the tide, and kiddo is also enrolled in…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 09:15 PM
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He better not be calling Woods an idiot, that is an educated black man, and a bit of freak. 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 07:32 PM
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If you're truly curious, 39.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 04:28 AM
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Old hag/elder millennial.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 04:18 AM
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The other day I walked in on my husband using rubbing alcohol as an aftershave. I made a face, so he asked if he should be using aftershave. I shrugged and said sure, so he stocks up on 3 bottles of Aqua Velva. Bless him, he's trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 03:42 AM
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Every time I come across some weird/abusive/horrific relationship, 8 times out of 10 there's an age gap dynamic involved. Where there's smoke, there's fire.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:47 PM
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No one. I can usually tell going into the act if I'm going to reach an O. My husband's performance is always steady, but my likelihood of an orgasm is tethered to my hormones. Really good, easy and intense ones are tied to ovulation and my period, however hard to reach, weak, and non existent orgasms are tied to the opposite ends of my cycle. We've had plenty of practice, and there have been times when my husband has tried his damnedest but I'm either in the luteal or follicular phase so it just…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 02:43 PM
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😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 03:07 AM
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Oh I just replied with 'lol'
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 03:03 AM
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A woman my husband and I are loosely acquainted with DM'd me and said my husband was in her DM's. She sent me screenshots, it was just my husband asking her if she'd like to join the Jackbox game he was hosting that night. I don't know what she thinks she was trying to do, but that ain't it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 02:54 AM
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Jesus Christ, working over time at a call desk ,70% of these questions are google-able. Do people not just...google everything first before they decide they have to call a human being as a last minute solution? Am I the strange one for doing that?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 02:39 AM
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Men do what women respond to. Why are men so weak and spineless?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 01:28 AM
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Oh I wasn't going to get into the miniatures/tabletop game, more so the novels and maybe video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:47 PM
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Should I get into warhammer40k? Or is the fandom full of alt right retards, inc*ls, and fascists? I need some deep, world building lore to get into, but not at the expense of rubbing elbows with people who don't understand satire/think Trump should be god emperor.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:25 PM
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Before I came along my husband was fuckzoned in college, and it made him pretty depressed. All he wanted was love and a steady girlfriend, but every girl he hooked up with was flaky and allergic to commitment. He felt pretty bad about himself, like he wasn't good enough to date a girl but was instead relegated to community dick that girls used to make their boyfriends angry/jealous/etc. I suspect thats why he was SO into the idea of commitment and marriage with me, he finally felt chosen rather …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 03:21 PM
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I'd reluctantly pick Andrew because he sounds like he's low energy. Everything else is fine, but low energy is a yellow flag for me. Dan has a baby momma and 'walks around like hard man', which is ridiculous and cringey. Jason doesn't have a pretty face and the micopenis is unfortunate.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:42 PM
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If I see two attractive guys in front of me, I'm gonna be drawn to the one with the most beautiful face and simpatico vibe. No lie, I never knew I was supposed to care about height until I joined reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 01:07 AM
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I'm pulling OT tonight until 10pm, what's going in the PPD insane asylum?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 12:44 AM
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hmph, you will be judged.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:08 PM
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Tissue thin shaved roast beef thats been braised in a garlicky au jus for 3ish hours, tucked inside of a 6"-8" inch hoagie bun, dipped in that same au jus, and then topped with either sliced sweet peppers and/or hot pepper giardiniera mix, and maybe a sprinkle of mozzarella on top. And in true Chicago fashion, you can get all that with an Italian sausage stuffed inside it as well. I prefer mine with hot giardiniera and American cheese because I'm a heathen.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:03 PM
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God damn I love Italian beef sandwiches. Asides from family and friends, this is why I'll never leave Chicago.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 08:46 PM
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Tell that to my husband who agonizes over the placement of his figurines, the geometry of artwork on our walls, how much RGB lighting is needed for his collectables case, what color pottery goes well with what types of plants, whether or end tables need to match the couch or the coffee table, etc. etc. etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 02:47 PM
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Paul, hands down. I can deal with short, poor, mid politics, introverted, and a bit of a slob. All the others are I-rather-die-single hard NO.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:47 PM
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Ah, there's that goalpost shift. I should have put a bet on how long that would show up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:38 PM
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How? You've proved nothing beyond your ability to lazily google articles to poorly fit your narrative. The stated premise was "feminist are not telling men to do X" and your counter proof was a singular woman saying men should do X. Did this woman claim to be a feminist per her article? No. Did this woman state her premise was based on the principles of feminism per her article? No. Did this woman invoke feminism within her article to support her premise? No. So....again, how does your click bai…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:16 PM
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Strawmanning? Thats rich, coming from the person that chose the first google result article from an unknown author with no known statements regarding feminist or feminism within the article or from the author themselves. Like, do better if you're going play these games.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:44 PM
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I concur, this is a well written comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:01 PM
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I didn't know we elected Jessica Johnson, Medium writer with 93 followers and 3 credits to her name, as the spokesperson for Feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:49 PM
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Except cuckoldry is based on deception. Words do have definitions you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 12:39 PM
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Its remarkable how much time and effort my colleagues and I put into these advertising campaigns, only to have consumers doomscroll at night while some reality TV trash plays in the background. I'm balls deep in two automakers summer sales events, as well as a brand revamp for a casual dining chain. NOTHING MEANS ANYTHING. EVERYTHING MEANS NOTHING. WE'RE ALL GONNA DIE IN THE END.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:06 PM
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My 20's were mostly a drug and alcohol filled blur, but I did get serious about my health, mental health, and fitness, I learned how to excel as a corpo stooge, I got serious about my financial future, and I learned way too much about rental laws/renters rights for the state of Illinois. My one regret is that I didn't hop on the youtube/IG fitness influencer bandwagon before it blew up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 09:16 PM
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You mean all those years I went out to nightclubs dancing with friends I could have been railing baking soda coke and having mediocre-to-forgettable sex with some over cologned chump dumb enough to buy bottle service? 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 03:13 AM
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I think underneath the pop stardom and celebrity Ariana is a theater nerd at heart. And I suspect Ethan Slater gets her on that level. I think RP are too quick to dismiss the ability to understand a particular woman so she falls all over herself for you, in favor of broad, yet bland appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 05:42 PM
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Given what I saw last night, that dude seems pretty average so again, why all the tears?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 07:51 PM
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This type of guy can pull any type of girl lol. So why are the crying about 6ft-6 in.-6 fig. Aryan gigachad, roided out the ass with a jaw that could cut diamonds? I'm being hyperbolic, but my point remains.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 07:41 PM
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My husband is 5'8", his BFF is 5'10". At one point all the dudes lined up for a photo and there was no variability in their heights (except for the 6ft+ gay dude who towered over them).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 07:21 PM
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I went to a roof top party last night and 99% of the dudes there were between 5'8"-5'10". They all had wives, girlfriends, or a date. The only guy to grace above 6ft is gay, and he brought his 5'9" boyfriend with him. What I found really funny is how all the dudes looked like clones of each other, or maybe brothers. White, slim build, medium facial hair, shaggy to long brown hair, tattoos/piercings, vaguely alt aesthetic. Whereas the wives/gfs were all over the place; petite wholesome blonde, 5'…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 07:12 PM
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The closer you resemble these men, the more likely I am to pay attention to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 06:52 PM
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....what?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 07:01 PM
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I don't appreciate being forced into mutual follows just because I recognized a dude from high school on Threads. Bruh, I just wanted to say hello, and ask if you're the guy I'm thinking of. No need to follow me, I never post anything. But now now I have to follow you and have your nonsense all up in my algorithm.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 05:43 PM
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Family lunch with MIL, and then rooftop party with friends afterwards. Truthfully I don't want to do anything, its been a no good, very bad week.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 05:22 PM
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Sometimes I pop into AskMrp (married red pill) and just marvel at all these dudes anxiously dissecting, discussing, fretting, analyzing, and more or less circle jerking neurotically over their married sex lives. Their play by plays of mundane interactions with their wives, fretting over how much and what kind of dread they should employ, dissecting beats of silence and how much is too much, reaching out for solidarity and advice only to be told by fellow members to STFU and stop being a f*ggot. …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 07:58 PM
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Like a drug addict or alcoholic with a family, its just another form of enabling. Usually fattycakes is hella abusive (emotionally, verbally) to their family members and SOs. Plus boiling frog syndrome; at some point fattycakes wasn't so fat, just American fat. Ergo they get their SO when they were just American fat, but time + inertia + beaten down emotionally from all the abuse leads to the SO enabling fattycakes to their current predicament. Not to mention straight up fetishists exists. I rec…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 07:31 PM
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OW MAH LEG!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 07:22 PM
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yeah, the only way I see this working as a day to day style is if I do it in the dry ass winter. Humidity slowly transforms into the a longer, slightly less poofy triangle.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 07:19 PM
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natural state dry: just below ear lobes natural state wet: bottom of neck/top of shoulders straightened: upper boob/just above nipples
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 07:17 PM
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Over the span on decade I grew out my 3C processed hair, and didn't touch it beyond cutting off dead bits and fried ends. Yesterday I finally straightened my hair (flat iron) and its so long and heavy, there's just too much of it. All my life I wanted 'princess hair' now I have it and I'm kinda over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 06:15 PM
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Oh I've been happily married for almost 20 years, but I was also content being single. I think they call it demisexual? Frankly as a little girl I never envision marriage/family/kids, I thought I was going to be a single working lady just dating around, but life had other plans.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:20 PM
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Nope. After a bit of experimentation in college I concluded I am very heterosexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 09:22 PM
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Single or taken, I don't view men as potential partners. When I was single, men were NPCs. I saw potential when I met a guy through friends, we vibed, I was attracted to him, and most importantly, I knew he was into me as well. Only then would I begin considering him as a possible boyfriend. In a relationship the whole premise is a non-starter. Men are NPCs; it takes a lot of familiarity, camaraderie, exposure, mutual attraction, and vetting to move a singular man out of the NPC pool. ETA: I hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 09:09 PM
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It's funny, I lied my ass off about being promiscuous because I wanted to fit in with the cool party crowd. My BFF was a confirmed megaho, I partied, drank, did drugs, went to frats/clubs, dressed provocatively, did provocative things (danced on tables, flashed people, made out with girls for attention, strip poker, etc), spring break in cancun, worked at a strip club, piercings, tattoos, you get the idea. And yet, my N count is only 3 and I've been married since I was 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 01:28 AM
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Damn, I was sure I'd gained weight on my vacation (Caribbean home cooking), but nope, I weigh exactly the same as the day I left. Hurray for muscle mass.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 04:25 PM
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Nah, he totally bought her from a homeless shelter in South America.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:30 PM
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🤷‍♀️ I married my drug dealer.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:13 PM
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Underrated comment that will probably get removed. You speak facts tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:12 PM
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My mom is a cute little dark Caribbean granny, my son is very white (passing?). Whenever they go out together people address her as if she's his nanny. 🫠 Conversely, when I was 18 I was a nanny for a very white, pale, blonde, blue eyed 8 year old boy. When we were out together some dude was hitting on me and asked me if he was my son. why are people so dumb? (its a rhetorical question).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 05:49 PM
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I'm biracial, UMC, deeply atheistic, come from a white collar/professional family. He's Hispanic, working class, deeply Catholic, military family. While we dated I was college bound and he went to Iraq. His mother/sisters not so subtly hinted that college was a waste of time and I should focus on getting pregnant ASAP while he's on leave. Thats not at all what I envisioned for myself or my future. My parents liked him, thought he was a respectable dude, but made a point to not interfere in my da…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:58 PM
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I did want to marry him, but after the engagement the reality of marrying into his family/culture became readily apparent. I wouldn't have fit into his world, I was already clashing with his mother and sisters. You don't just marry a person, you also marry their family and where they come from. He was a great guy, but he needed someone who understood and could blend into his world. I wasn't it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:18 PM
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First guy to propose I dated for 2ish years, 2nd guy, my husband, I dated for a month. We eloped when I was 20 ( he was 21).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 04:29 AM
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N count of 3 (unless you count mouth/hand stuff, then 6), 2 proposed, 1 I married.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:15 AM
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Dating till marriage is a process of elimination, I don't understand why this is controversial or unrealistic. All my exes were cool dudes and I wish them well, and I'm sure I would have had a fine marriage with a few of them. But we never reached that point so it's moot to weigh what they did or did not have compared to my husband, nor is it worth considering how my life would have turned out with them because life didn't go that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:08 AM
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Really, you know a woman in her 40's who decided to blow up her marriage because she though it was better and more fulfilling to be a side ho. Riiiiight.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 03:57 PM
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My husband and I were decidedly childfree until an 'oops' when I was 30. As far as he was concerned, prior to kiddo we were sexy best friends on an adventure together. He already had his ho phase, so when he met me he wanted substance, a teammate, a wife, and essentially somebody to feel at home with. Contrary to the RP thirst mongers, some dudes get tired of the pussy carousel and they want to grow old with their best friend that they get to fuck. Kids may or may not enter the picture, but the …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 03:53 PM
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Woman, 39 1.) 19, about half of these contacts are work related. 2.) 5; my husband, my MIL, my mother, and my BFF. I belong to 5 discords, 4 of them fandom related and the other is my husband's gaming group. I never participate.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 03:31 PM
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The human race would cease to exist without this drive you dismiss as trivial. Ok. It's abundantly clear from the plummeting birth rate that you girl bosses are incapable of picking up the slack. Already married and had my kid so....🤷‍♀️ Go look at Vivica Fox today and see your future. God I feel like I am in the Christmas Carol. Why? Does it involve getting tips on her skin care routine?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 02:19 PM
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I just don't know why finding fulfillment through other pathways other than a long-term relationship aren't talked about as much in male-centered circles. Because at the heart of it all, these other pathways don't include them putting their penis into a woman. That's the only thing that matters to these sort of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 06:23 PM
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Nope. I've always been an LTR gal, the thought of a semi-anon man touching me intimately makes me feel queasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:21 PM
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Modern society is an obesogenic environment. the path of lease resistance is the most popular one regardless of gender Asides from vanity and health, there isn't much external pressure to lose weight men's opinion on these matters is largely useless, as they've shown us they will still fuck/date/marry regardless of weight
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:31 PM
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Ones who take care of themselves and look very hot still... are the slimmest of slim minority. Yeah, if you live in like, Poor n' Uglyville, OH.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 02:51 PM
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Because its amazing when it works. For the pas 20 year I've had the pleasure of hanging out with my best friend everyday, having sex whenever we want, goofing off, going out on the town, making meals together, laughing over old jokes, crying together, teaming up to solve problems, sharing our hearts with each other, and just living our lives as a united front. Now we have a kid and everything in our world is much sweeter. The negatives you outline aren't correlated with marriage, more so pregnan…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:17 PM
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women reject Chad: The audacity and entitlement! Women accept Chad: The audacity and entitlement! Make it make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 09:02 PM
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what the fuck are you on about ? I feel like this should replace "Question what you believe" on the sidebar.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 09:01 PM
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1.) No, we're just the audience for it so we have more to say about it. 2.) you'd be surprised about what some men don't know about the domestic sphere. 3.) By its very strictures, male children are usually shunted away from 'woman's work'. 4.) again, see the audience. Most men aren't going to think too hard about the reality of tradwives, as far as they're concerned its right and natural, and they'd like one for themselves. The people who take issue, specifically women, take issue because the l…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:39 PM
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motherhood and femininity isn't a grift. Never said it was. But monetizing a breezy, soft girl, carefree version of it is. motherhood and femininity are real, contrary to your belief about it. Again, never claimed otherwise. My child and functioning reproductive organs are a testament to that reality. sounds like you might be trauma responding What? motherhood and femininity aren't imaginary. See above.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 07:53 PM
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You don't usually get to choose your boss. What? By its very nature of choosing your employment is choosing your boss. It doesn't even have to get that deep; if the interview team gives you bad vibes you just bow out and submit your application elsewhere. Ending an interview is a hell of a lot easier than getting a divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 05:32 PM
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Paul Bearer cares not for weaker people, just the power of the urn.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 05:02 PM
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They key point is "advertised lifestyle" There are trad wives all over the god dam place, but we don't see them or hear from them because they are to busy doing all the work entailed with that lifestyle. Tits Mcgee with perfect make up and hair, wearing a pristine apron over a tasteful but flirty sundress while she kneads bread in a tiktok video with some text overlay about 'honoring the divine feminine' is 1000% far and away the opposite of an actual trad lifestyle. Its not pretty, its not coif…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 04:51 PM
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wew lad. Thats a whole lot of worrying about other people, when I really rather just be concerned with me and mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 04:30 PM
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1.) we know its a grift 2.) we also know the advertised lifestyle is not real 3.) for some of us our family or origin is rife with trad wives, and we have first hand account of what its really like on the ground floor (hint; its not great). 4.) we don't believe an imaginary lifestyle (as advertised in the internet) should be exalted and marketed towards impressionable people. 5.) I believe a majority if not all of the trad wife content is just fetish fodder with links to OF content if you prod d…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:42 PM
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I appreciate the study, but I'm sad they had to create rat incels for the results. 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 12:55 AM
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Sooo.......nonsense then. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:51 PM
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What an earth are you babbling about?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:20 PM
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It's always been that way, just like their concept of Chad/High Value Men is based on their idealized versions of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:07 PM
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In fact women I know have done this whole in a relationship. Cool. I know women who went from high school, to fuckmaid, to destitute at 35 cause they spent their formative years pumping out kids and cleaning up after everybody under the auspices of "traditionalism", only to be left holding the bag when their husbands decided they were 'tired' of that life (golly gee Kevin, maybe having 5 kids back to back is incredibly stressful for everybody despite what your holy text/podcast daddy says). Coul…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 05:52 PM
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the reason they use as to why is that the younger woman could become trapped in a relationship, because of power dynamics. Yes, this is usually in reference to missing out on economic and educational opportunities (and to a lesser extent, forging bonds through peer related experiences). But it seems to me that since younger women have really high SMV and lots of options, they could leave the older and replace him with another guy, just like that, and they know it. Hopping from one man to another…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:40 PM
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so my family fled into the mountains Well, are the hills alive with the sound of music?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:58 PM
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And put those children....where?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 01:53 PM
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Would you rather people heap blame and derision on the mother instead? I'm not sure what the problem is; OP's wife is struggling as a new mom, OP takes to the internet for advice and venting, people offer supportive anecdotes, advice, and a listening ear. I've spent enough time in various parenting subreddits to know that despite a bias for the female perspective, most participants are even handed in their advice regardless of gender. It only tips into 'women good, men bad' when the advice seeki…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 01:48 PM
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Idk, I don't go out much. Last weekend I was approached, but I was dressed up and going out on the town. Before that, hmm, in March while I was sitting in a mall food court, and then in Feb. while I was leaving my Dr's. office. If I venture off my routine, I stand a good chance of being approached cause I'm in a new environment. But I hardly venture off my routine, so I see roughly the same people day after day.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 01:19 AM
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Sure, I agree. My son had been in some manner of organized rec activity since he was 6. It took a lot of trial and error, but now that he's found his groove (soccer, gymnastics, science club), he's flourishing as a small human being. I've noticed his soccer team is displaying more and more forms of...hm...intramale competition and hierarchy sorting? When I see "boys being boys" on the field or sidelines I wince, but I know it's a necessary part of male socialization and development for kiddo. Li…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 02:40 AM
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Is there a reddit sub where can post comparison photos of clothing items I'm wearing and receive feedback? caveat: NO NSFW CONTENT. NO ONLYFANS ADVERTISING.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:30 PM
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Damn, I think an intellectual connection is one of the most enduring things about my marriage. Libido comes and goes, emotions wax and wane, but seeing the twinkle of curiosity in my husband's eyes is like, an unbreakable element of my attraction to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:18 PM
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I mean, that's like feeling happy he took a shit cause it signifies he had a functioning digestive system. Cool, but I'm not concerned or feeling some sort of way about a biological function.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:23 PM
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I don't think anything at all (because I'm rapidly falling asleep). As far as I'm concerned, that's his bathroom time, I don't know why I would have an opinion on it. And it's not like we can't make up for it in the morning.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 03:18 AM
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omgggg GO TO THERAPY.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:49 PM
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sadly my 9 year old has had more gfs than most guys on this sub. 💀💀
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 09:55 PM
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Bi-weekly reminder: PPD is not your therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 09:51 PM
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Men constantly describe wanting to take care of her and make her feel like a little girl again
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 06:06 PM
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I see sarcasm isn't your strong suit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 11:05 AM
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While having his afternoon snack, my 8 y.o. announced he's an 8.5 out of 10. I asked him what he meant, and he said his looks, skills, and personality put him at an 8.5/10. He said he's not a 10/10 because he's not very fast in soccer. On one hand I'm concerned that he's already ranking himself, but on the other hand I'm loving the energy and the self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 10:35 PM
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I generally agree with you, I related this anecdote to an acquaintance of mine but she sneered and asked me if I thought all Asians looked the same. Admittedly, this acquaintance is a VERY WOKE white woman gender non-confirming individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 10:06 PM
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ok that is pretty funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:27 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:20 PM
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Today I found out I'm lowkey racist. There's an Asian dad I see around the neighborhood, his kids attend the same school as my son. I'd see him walk his kids to school in the morning, and then 5 minutes later I'd see him at the train station I just drove to. The school and the train are within walking distance (15-20 min) so I figured maybe he's a runner or extremely fast walker. But other times I'd see him in one location, and then remarkably somewhere else within a very short amount of time. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:13 PM
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Despite moving out at 18 and getting married at 20 I was coddled by my parents for a very long time. It wasn't until I was about 35 that I felt like people treated me like an adult with some manner of authority. I don't think I present as immature or young, I'm just honest about what I don't know and people feel compelled to fill in the gaps for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:48 PM
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You can't do both. Why not? Pick one and excel at it. Why? We're humans, capable of wearing many hats. Children, and being a working mum aren't personality traits What does that even mean? they are your children's reality. Yes, the reality that everybody works, there are no free rides. It's sick to intentionally hurt your children like that. Explain to me how children are being harmed observing their mothers do the most basic fucking thing in the world; work. Since we've stood up and reached for…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 05:08 PM
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Women, have you ever done the same? Plenty of times. Did you feel guilty about wanting to avoid a person solely because of their sex Nope. Have you ever been in a dangerous or extremely uncomfortable situation with the opposite sex where you ended up wishing you'd declined being around them? Yup, more often than I'd like.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 03:37 PM
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Well, I just had a homemade bacon egg and cheese sandwich so I'm pretty happy right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 02:41 PM
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Brutal.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 09:28 PM
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Who said anything about an echo chamber? And why do you keep introducing this idea of ideological purity? ideological alignment =/= ideological purity. What if he changes his mind on things? If an adult man changes his politics to such a degree that he ends up on the opposite end of the spectrum, then I'm more worried about a TBI or brain tumor. People are very resistant to changing their minds about fundamental beliefs and values, especially as they age.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 04:35 PM
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What does this imply though? Why does a guy have to find your politics exciting? It implies that a woman's political instincts align with the man's and he finds that pleasing. If a man doesn't value how or what a woman thinks about then thats his prerogative, but personally I've found ideological alignment to be a very fulfilling part of my relationship. We can fuck, have a good time, laugh, raise our kid, AND bitch about ______ together.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 04:19 PM
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What makes it a turn off is when they can't have a conversation about politics without becoming batshit insane. Thats not political women, thats argumentative women. The topic could be anything (veganism, fandom, knitting, etc) but those prone to argue in bad faith will do so regardless. It just so happens politics is something everyone is exposed to, so everyone has an opinion (whether they're informed opinions is another matter).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:56 PM
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My husband found my political ideology/instincts a huge bonus and a commitment multiplier. He had his share of empty-headed-thots, but wanted to make a life with someone he perceived was his "intellectual peer". Or at least, he wanted to commit to someone who knows how to think about our world and why we should do it. Ladies, find yourself a man who thinks your brain and politics are exciting rather than a turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:45 PM
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She knows, but thats never stopped her from asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:57 PM
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My husband and I are 1000% against that idea, for a litany of reasons. the gaggle of women have their own gaggle of kids, ours would be lost in the shuffle we're friendly and familiar with the sisters, but know fuck all about their husbands/boyfriends/SOs We've observed bullying from the older boys to the younger ones, and ours would be a new target they live an hour away from us, if there was an emergency it would be a logistics nightmare. we only use my mom and my MIL as babysitters; trusted, …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:56 PM
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I love my BFF, but she needs to stop inviting me to random events on a week night. Today it a was a Cubs game, a few weeks ago it was a Primus concert, and before that it was a 3 day weekend in San Diego. Like I'd love to go, but I need at least 1-2 weeks advance notice. She's always been spontaneous which was fine when we weren't saddled with kids + job + husband, but not so much now. Her kid is the same age as mine, she just also happens to have 4 other sisters (plus mom, plus aunts, plus cous…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:38 PM
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Poor enunciation. I can deal with accents, I can deal with dialect, I can even handle stuttering, but I cannot abide a mushmouth, mumbly motherfucker.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:34 PM
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I think its a little bit of A, a little bit of B, and a whole lot of these people shouldn't have bred together.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 09:28 PM
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you might be just not compatible I'd say 80% of the posts in those subreddits pretty much boil down to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 09:26 PM
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Every Mother's Day weekend (and Valentine's day, and Xmas, etc) the mom subreddits are just pure misery porn. There is this...narrative in mom spaces of like...collective unmet expectations. Mom's do ALL THE THINGS, yet their feckless husbands can't even buy them a card. Year after year its the same complaint, and all I can think is, Janet, have you told him you want a card? He should just know!! I mean, I guess. Or you could just temper your expectations about the a. kind of man he is and b. hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 09:03 PM
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I'm basing that on my mother, who married my dad when she was ~32 and he was 25 year older than her. By 30 my mom was working, traveled the world, etc. so she was a functional adult that had about 10+ plus of life experience under her belt. She was young, but she wasn't girlish or naive and had cultivated a pretty robust bullshit detector.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:12 PM
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Well if you want to significantly increase your child's risk of pre-term birth, autism, schizophrenia, childhood brain cancers, cleft lip/palate, and dwarfism, not to mention increased episodes of erectile dysfunction from your husband, then by all means get with a guy the same age as your father. Why have strong and healthy babies with a virile 25 year old, when you can spend your 20's and 30's taking care of a sickly child and your 40's + 50's taking care of your geratric spouse!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 11:17 AM
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Like this? (not sure if you're familiar with this wrestler, but squashing people is her current gimmick)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 10:15 PM
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Fair. I was aiming for pithy rather than accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:43 PM
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eh.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:31 PM
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Wow, you can google quotes, good for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 03:23 PM
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Nietzsche: drug addict stuck in the friendzone Schopenhauer: captain save-a-ho Aristotle: gay Why would such incisive, genius men, separated by generations, come to the same broad conclusions about won? Probably because they know fuck-all about women and spent more time jerking themselves off with their bros (literally, in Aristotle's case).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 03:18 PM
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Then you don't go on vacation without a kid, or seek out other arrangements (kid's friends, sleepaway camps, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 06:05 PM
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Seriously. Me on a girls trip: ok guys, after this poetry festival lets go visit the indigenous Lapis Lazuli jewelry and art exhibit, after that we can go to that pottery studio Rebecca has been raving about and then get dinner at the vegan restaurant next to the cat cafe.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:56 PM
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...depending on the age no one is leaving the kids alone? There are things like grandparents/immediate family that can stay with the kid you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:49 PM
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What a strange world you live in; everybody cheating, no one trusting each other, "letting" women do things. Tsk. The last girls trip I went on; we went to all sorts of museums, ate at overpriced restaurants, took an absurd amount of photos of the local flora/fauna, saw a comedy show, and spent the rest of our time reading or lounging by the pool. Shit, I eve brought back a novelty ashtray for my husband. But sure, I guess in your world once those tricksy women are out of reach its just suckin' …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:45 PM
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I don't think about them, as they've told us loudly and repeatedly we ain't shit so...why would I concern myself with whatever they're doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:16 PM
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idk, that seems like a lot of brain power spent on ghosts when it could be better spent on the present. I guess thats my take on it anyway. I don't have any ill will towards my exes, they just....don't matter to me. When I think about the time we spent together I don't feel any which way....its like thinking about that time I stood in line at the grocery store on a Tuesday afternoon.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:48 PM
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What? Are you asking if women like, pine over previous hookups or something? Some do, some dont. In college I messed around with some dude and about 2 months later I could barely remember his name, much less what he looked like. Jeff maybe? Blondish? Anyway our time together was alright but asides from a few key points (met in Spanish class, hooked up during study sessions) the entity of 'Jeff' is a huge blur. He, and the things we did together, just weren't that important.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:38 PM
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Not really, it seems exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:59 PM
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I don't think I've ever had a bad relationship. No cheating, no abuse, no awful exes, just stable LTRs until I plopped into a marriage. Do y'all think its rare for someone to have my experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:50 PM
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On NYE my husband and I took a notorious 'L' train to a friend's house. It was packed, and for most of the ride a crazy/homeless Af. Am. woman squatted on the ground and stared at my husband's crotch, screaming about 'White Devil Dick'. Not only is the USA great, but our public transit is the best!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 03:52 PM
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They've been in my social circle for at least 6 months to a year; enough time to vet their baggage, family dynamics, response to stress, time management skills, life skills, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 03:44 PM
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That….is insane, Really? I find the opposite quite insane actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 03:33 PM
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It took about a year from meeting my husband (at the time, cute stranger) to working up the courage to sleep with him. I don't remember how long it took to sleep with the guy prior to him, not really something worth remembering. My husband has precisely zero fucks to give about any of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 12:59 AM
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I mean, I think this is a what/where/who situation. Everyone in my social circle (literally everyone) is either married or partnered, about half have kids. From 25-30 there was a surge in wedding, around 30-35 the kids came, and then a few stragglers are popping them out at 40. We're in the Midwest, college educated, employed, 50/50 homeowners versus renting, and most of us came from nominal midwestern religiosity (however zero are practicing their religion today). key points: Everyone in my soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 09:16 PM
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No, some women's hobbies are about looking pretty. Other women are indifferent or passive participants.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:11 PM
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But being a hot woman isn't really a hobby or interest lmao. Says you. A majority of the cosmetic/hair care/fashion/plastic surgery industry and its various subcultures say otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:04 PM
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I made a logical statement and my friend got mad about it You are terrible with money you consider yourself a victim to every relationship you've been in U drink too much. You don't keep promises Thats not logic, you're just insulting someone because you didn't like what they had to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 02:15 PM
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Oh I'm sure they are, which she also has zero interest in.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 04:48 PM
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hiding SI scars, or maybe really bad eczema.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 04:21 PM
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idk, I think that's kinda weird. But I come from the perspective of always being in a mixed gender friend group, even in childhood. It seems strange and vaguely trad-foreign to have your social group restricted to one gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 04:20 PM
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No, these are people with moderately strong religious attitudes about sex outside of marriage (Catholics). These dudes are engaging in courtship, whereas my mom is just on a foodie call.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:56 PM
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Yesterday my mom casually mentioned she has a 3rd boyfriend now. 73 year old widow, collecting boyfriends like they're pokémon. These dudes fly her out, take her on vacations, expensive dinners, box seats at the opera, gift her jewelry, etc. All desperate for marriage, but she's perfectly content to live alone and just be grandma to my kiddo. She absolutely owns up to using them, I admire her moxie. In her words, she's upfront about telling them she'll never marry again, but if they want to spen…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:46 PM
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Go somewhere convivial. talk to people. repeat. places I've struck up bantery acquaintances and friends: events at the public library indie wrestling shows rec center classes trivia night at a bar open house at a tabletop game store/lounge Restaurant Week in my neighborhood (i.e. the restaurants take over a street and offer patio seating, free samples, etc.) free comic book day at the local comic book store VIP/meet n' greet lounge before a concert music festivals community art festivals/farmer'…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:41 PM
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Why do you think boys and men now are socializing way less than boys and men of the past? I feel like the answer is just too multifaceted. lack of 3rd spaces lack of a shared experience/purpose between a group of men (i.e. recreational team sports, veterans at the local American Legion Hall, bowling leagues, volunteer orgs. for men, jam bands, etc.) whatever sort of collective group that does exist, is occupied by like, 75+ year old men. entertainment is atomized; we all just tune in to what we …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 09:17 PM
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Its simply really, I see Calico Critters and I upvote.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 04:15 PM
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Well running errands, attending class, hanging out, etc. aren't really practical for heels. They are usually reserved for special occasions, certain careers, and nights out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 04:06 PM
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Saaaaame. I kinda feel like I've been hearing about these people killing each other for my entire life. After a while its just like....another Tuesday I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:45 PM
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lol no, I can barley put together a stick figure. We get most of our (pop art, wrestling themed) artwork from a local artist.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:43 PM
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Going out to a: nightclub, fancy bar, wedding, baby shower, graduation, fancy brunch, job interview, etc. Your flair says you're a college kid, is the only place you see girls in class or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:42 PM
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Our newest artwork. Husband originally wanted to put it in our bedroom, but I thought that was a bit much.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:38 PM
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This hypothetical is stupid because it doesn't make sense or have any real life application.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:35 AM
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Says you. A fantasy is a fantasy, as long as its not too depraved I don't see much grounds for feigning indignation and false equivalencies.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 08:34 PM
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Yeah, and he jacks off to porn stars, what of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 08:25 PM
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I've met 2 celebrity crushes twice in life; back in 2010, I was with a girlfriend, and recently in 2021, I was alone. Both times I was star struck and meeting them in a intimate-ish setting (the green room, with only a handful of other people around). The men were 1000% gracious, and willing to endure my stupid fangirl questions. They signed some merch, we took some pictures, and that was it. At no point did it ever cross my mind that I could/should/would cheat on my husband and sleep with these…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:31 PM
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I feel like there is a sizable population of young men that need to stumble across some Gor books and dive head first into Gorean subculture, and just kinda stay out of our way. I swear there are women who are into this nonsense, go find them!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 11:03 PM
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Who are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 10:38 PM
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Didn't know I had so much power to 'let' men complain, shit. As far as I gather they've been doing just fine on that front, with or without my approval.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:20 PM
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Sure, but you have to make up for it somewhere else. I've pretty much only dated attractive middle to lower middle class dudes, now I'm married to a beautiful musician who will never earn more than $30k in his lifetime.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:02 PM
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Eh, nah. One of main reasons I get to sit on top of privilege mountain is because someone complained long and hard enough for this to be the status quo. In the spirit of generosity I'll continue to pay it forward.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:38 PM
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ok and? Are we supposed to turn down these benefits? And if so, why?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:27 PM
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Unless you're trying to claim the 85% is single (and that singlehood is predicated on their height), I'm not sure what that stat has to do with anything, or how I'm supposed to interpret it. You need to draw a correlation between the 85% of short men and the rate of singlehood in men for that statistic to mean anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 03:06 PM
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🤷‍♀️ I'm a woman, and I chose the "short guy".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:51 PM
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Good thing the real world isn't restricted to tinder then.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:26 PM
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This is… a big reach. Thank you. I was curious as to why people were glossing over this insanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:53 PM
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Oh fuck no. he already knows what you like, your hobbies, familier with places you frequent, etc. That shit is already setting off alarm bells in my head. I've been stalked IRL; as in getting a restraining order, receiving threatening letters with blood on them, police involvement, court dates, having to move, changing all my contact info, paying to get my info scrubbed, etc. As a result my social media presence is extremely bare bones, so if some dude expresses intimate knowledge of my whereabo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 03:10 PM
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Askes a question doesn't like the answer you:
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:46 PM
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Ok well, you have your answer then.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:35 PM
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Wild claim to make. Not really. You asked a question, I answered.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:29 PM
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We're largely not interested in your puppy dog energy. At 25+ and y'all seem to finally develop some discernment and restraint.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:19 PM
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Besides one of the greatest prog rock bands ever, I mean. Ahh, a fellow connoisseur I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 02:28 PM
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Who is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 04:18 PM
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Me, as of 15 minutes ago, frizzy grey hairs and all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:51 PM
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www.pica-ai.com
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:40 PM
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🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:29 PM
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Bro, I've been hearing the Hilary Banks comparison my entire life. I even made a shitty meme about it in the yonder days of facebook.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:23 PM
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The make up is a bit more yaaaasified than normal, but I'd say its pretty accurate. Since the prompt was an amalgamation of all my selfies it picked up my glasses, but I actually like the frames, I thought they fit my face, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:21 PM
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This is what AI says I look like with and without glasses. Is it still a face reveal if its AI? Whatever, I'm vain, and just wanted an excuse to post it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:14 PM
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I don't remember much of my prom, but I do remember when two guys in suits showed up to our hotel after party with brief cases full of cocaine. I also slept next to a 3some and I wasn't very happy about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 02:26 PM
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its rare for a man to be clingy. DV/stalking stats say otherwise. men's interest don't revovle around woman. The entire existence of the 'manosphere' says otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 07:31 PM
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when in reality most of them are just killing pixels for funsies with the boys after they get off work. no no no, remember, its the pursuit of excellence.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 07:25 PM
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Interesting, my neurosis is mainly based on feeling like I owe people something. I hate feeling like I owe people something, it makes me mean, idk. Do something nice for me and then I'm angry about it, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 07:38 PM
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Doesn't mean I gotta like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:44 PM
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Nah, if I want a snack I'd just get my own. "Can you buy me X" feels like I'm speaking a foreign language.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:38 PM
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I'd look at him and laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:32 PM
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Old enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:37 PM
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Eh, I've never dated or fucked a guy above 5'10". My husband is 5'9" and was a fuckboy when I met him (50+ n count). No he's not rich (and he still isn't rich), but he has a beautiful face and everyone wants to be his friend. However 2 of his BFF's are 6ft+, the first one (n count of 2) is in a miserable/abusive marriage with a swamp beast and the other has only been with one girl, his current girl, and she outweighs him by a considerable amount (pretty face though).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:29 PM
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a thin childless woman But then they come back with a pudgy single mom from Colombia and call it a win.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:38 PM
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Something similar happened to me (also before the existence of revenge porn laws). However he told me he was blackmailing me plus the video was of an actual assault so his phone/computer/camera were subpoenaed before he could disseminate the video/pics. I also ended up changing schools shortly after everything blew up so I didn't experience or the social fall out. I'm sure the video/pics exists somewhere on the dark web, I dunno, it so far removed from my life I don't really worry about it anymo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:34 PM
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I see two overweight people that love each other, are we supposed to see something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:21 PM
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I don't understand how this would work IRL, so my immediate feeling is confusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:44 PM
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Eh, nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:48 PM
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Rude, yes. Reductive, eh. Bitter, no. What's wrong with it? Nothing, but likewise there is nothing wrong with me thinking people who espouse trad dynamics are bit a soft in the head.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:44 PM
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+/- 3% for this particular question set (CDC High Risk Behaviors).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 05:33 PM
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The GSS is not one singular study, its a big ass survey conducted biannually since 1972. Survey respondents are interviewed in person by NORC and it takes about 90 minutes to complete. There are about 60K respondents to date, but sure, EEEEVVVVVERRRYYONE is lying, because people really like to spend 90 minutes of their day lying to survey administrator for....reasons. Just admit that the data doesn't jive with your feelz, but your feelz are more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 05:10 PM
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Yes, because its a anonymous survey. For fucks sake we have the statistical models to account for this. We have studies of the statistical model that account for this; "Anonymous survey methods appear to promote greater disclosure of sensitive or stigmatizing information compared to non-anonymous methods. Higher disclosure rates have traditionally been interpreted as being more accurate than lower rates." There reporting tools, methodologies, pattern recognition algorithms, randomized sampling, …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:56 PM
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If you have problems with the methodology, then by all means take it up with the statistician at NORC and the National Science Foundation. However the General Social Survey (GSS) has been collecting data since 1972 and has been used to craft all sorts of policy and legislation since then. But hey, why trust data when guesstimates will do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:36 PM
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How often was the woman cheating? The great thing is that we have stats about this: "In general, men are more likely than women to cheat: 20% of men and 13% of women reported that they’ve had sex with someone other than their spouse while married, according to data from the recent General Social Survey(GSS)." But I'm not sure we have any stats for this; "Marriage counselors will tell you more and more couples are coming in with the wife cheating and the man trying to save the marriage." As I'm f…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:20 PM
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its 100000% sus that on the topic of equality, OP is concerned with forms of violence and how its inflicted on others. they do be telling on themselves, don't they?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:44 PM
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So fear instead of mutual affection/warmth/romance is the point? Do you not see how people find that incredibly distasteful and alarming? Its not reciprocity you want, its a captor. So I guess the question is, why would anyone enter into this arraignment with you? What's in it for them? Or is that not a concern for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:25 PM
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To each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:28 AM
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👀 It sure does say a lot about OP, none of it good.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 03:45 PM
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Complete and utter bollocks Nothing you've written counters anything I've said.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 03:11 PM
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Yes, I covered that in my 2nd paragraph.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 11:09 AM
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What bitterness? If you're mistaking snark for bitterness, well, that's on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 11:08 AM
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'Leading', is just a means for feckless men to feel a degree of power in their powerless lives. Desiring to be led is also an avenue for mediocre women to give up autonomy because they think capitalism is complicated. Ultimately water finds its own level, so hopefully feckless men and mediocre women can find each other so they can pantomime tradcon dynamics despite neither one giving two thoughts of Traditional Conservatism before they stumbled upon it via tiktok or youtube shorts.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:02 PM
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No, it was never gendered, the lesson was "crying doesn't solve your problems, or get you anywhere in life. It's OK for the moment, but it won't help you if you keep it up." If we had a daughter we would have taught her the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 02:05 PM
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He's small, thin, and fashionable, was the perfect twink in his youth. However he's also scrappy and isn't afraid to throw hands. When he was a SAHD he was extremely nurturing and gentle with our son, but beyond that everyone else's emotions and caretaking are their own responsibility. He's happy to let me take the lead in life, doesn't believe in gender roles, likes to financially spoil us, but I've only seen him cry like, 3 times over the span of 18 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 01:54 PM
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I'm woman A, married to blend of man A+B (like a 40/60 split). It's worked out pretty well so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 01:26 PM
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Yeah the Trent fangirls are a bit much; in the old days of the internet Trent was pretty active on the fan forums, interacting with us, doing Q+A's, etc. Then Mariqueen (his wife) showed up and one of the fangirls went crazy and started stalking, harassing, and threatening his new family. After that he stopped stopped interacting with the fans. :( Its always the crazies that ruin it for everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 04:39 PM
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Poetry may not be your cup of tea, but I like it, and so do enough people to support my efforts.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 04:19 PM
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I'm screaming. Goth zaddy is back and doing a thing. I don't know what I'm excited about the most; new album? the fashion line? the music festival? Holy crap I'm so glad to be alive at the same time as Trent Reznor. Honestly this news is just what I needed, I've been in such a creative slump since covid. If my beloved short king can still come up with fresh and creative ides, then fuck it, why can't I?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 04:13 PM
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When you get down to the bones of it, yes. But if it makes you feel better I can remove the white and just refer to it as male supremacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:16 PM
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Ok, you won't be missed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:37 PM
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Doesn't this create an even more competitive environment where you will be comparing your dates' looks, assets, character, etc.? Yes, thats the point. If I'm going to do this whole monogamy thing, then damn right I'm going to choose the best out of a handful of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:30 PM
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they can’t stand the pandering/white savior complex coming from the left. I mean, its not my favorite thing, but its an annoyance I can tolerate versus allegiance to a political party that is speed running fascism. I’m wondering if your difference of lived experience is because of geography. Maybe? I grew up in rural Illinois, moved to Chicago as an adult. Despite being a WOC I've never encountered direct racism, in fact my life has been pretty kumbaya in that regard. However I've been around lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:56 PM
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I'm a Democratic Socialist in deep blue city in a deep blue state. Anybody to the right of center left politics can fuck allllll the way off. I'm a WOC, theres no way in hell I'd subjugate myself to some conservatard political theory of white male supremacy. 🤮🤮🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 11:49 AM
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Why? MY husband was a SAHD for the first few years of our kid's life, and our family was pretty happy. I got to go to the office and and be a self important corpo lady, while my husband got to stay home and finger paint with kiddo. I couldn't have asked for a better set up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 02:17 PM
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My husband has the opposite problem, he gravitate towards women and strikes up easy friendships with them. Other men are more challenging, unless it's related to tech, wrestling, or music he finds it difficult/boring to talk to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 11:29 PM
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coomer ​ daughter calls him 'daddy'. Mans spent so much time fapping to incest/barely legal girls calling out daddy, can't even hear his own daughter say it without making it weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 10:32 PM
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Just read about man thats such a coomer he becomes uncomfortable and upset when his toddler daughter calls him 'daddy'. Men, why do you do this to yourselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 10:22 PM
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I know these are English words, but I do not understand them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 09:55 PM
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“Why Don't We Just Kill the Kid In the Omelas Hole?” Hm, good question.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 09:51 PM
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Eh, I think it makes him look like a fascist.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 09:15 PM
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Its not a preference for swimmers, I just happened to know a lot of them at that time in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 08:11 PM
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first boyfriend: 5'9"? hapa, bleached blonde hair with dark roots, brown eyes swim team and tennis jock sporty, clean cut, preppy presentation nominally Christian UMC+ I recall his mom didn't really like me. Second boyfriend: 5'10"? sandy brown hair, blue eyes, very midwestern Swim team co-captain, captain of the golf team sporty, clean cut, preppy presentation nominally Christian UMC+ musician, really into ska music Third boyfriend: 5'10"? blonde hair, blue eyed, swim team co-captain, soccer pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 06:24 PM
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If you're taking about victims of cheating, then women like to congregate and commiserate (see any and all support subs not explicitly delineated for men) with like minded 'victims'. If you're talking about stories about cheating, then thats 90% erotica/wank material. The funny thing about the internet it is, you don't have to be who you say you are, and the thing you are talking about may or may not have happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 10:14 PM
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Apparently the Chinese series is better Well...I spent pretty much all of Jan. watching the Chinese version; 30 episode, all an hour+ long. The thing about the Chinese version is that its a 1:1 retelling of the story, so like there are a loooot of episodes that move at a snail pace. Like there will be 5-7 episode streaks where the entire episode is just another Ye Wenjie flashback. It was... alright. The soundtrack was bangerz, but definitely a labor of love to watch. However I'll be sure to wat…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 10:33 PM
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Yeeeeahh, not fond of the actress playing Salazar, she's a pretty woman but she makes the same fucking face for everything. I suspect its a side effect from all her plastic surgeries. Anyway, the 2nd book was a slog with the imaginary waifu subplot, but the pay off for the entire series makes it worth it. The 3rd book really dove in hard with the mind bending, existential scifi concepts. The only drawback for the 3rd book was that there was so.much.suff crammed in there, towards the end you can …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 10:23 PM
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Real, like bodycam footage type stuff, or scripted like Chicago Fire/PD/MD/CPS/what-the-fuck-ever?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 10:09 PM
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I've waiting 3 god damn years for this TV show (3 Body Problem on Netflix), I watched the first episode last night but I'm finding it so hard to pace myself and not binge it all this weekend. Fuck, I wish they did a weekly release instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 10:07 PM
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You have to block out 2-3 hours to go to the gym Nah, sounds like you got an acute case of fuckarounditis.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 10:01 PM
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....and you're worried about gold diggers?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 04:52 PM
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I don't care about them, because I'm not their target demo (7-14 year old girls).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 03:26 PM
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....wat. You know what, just because this question was asked, I'm going to call up the Woman Hivemind and make sure this particular problem ends up on our ick list.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 05:26 PM
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Yes. When I think of all the women I've intimately known if my life, only one resembles the sort of women that appear on these podcasts. (and surprise! This woman still ended up happily married + kids + suburbia). Its also telling that the men that pair off with 'good women' generally scoff/deride/mock the manosphere and more or less consider it a "support group for losers". Not exactly a brotherhood of likeminded alphas-in-training (as the manosphere would like to style themselves as). All of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 02:49 PM
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I've read the comments, I'm still not sure why the intent matters when the result is the same; no one wants dick pics. Whether its forwarded along as revenge or initially sent as a sad attempt at seduction, the point remains that some dude thought it was a good idea to take a pic of his dick and send it to someone who didn't ask for it; the fault lies with him. Sure two wrongs don't make a right, but all of this could have bene avoided if he didn't do the wrong thing in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 02:20 PM
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Men send their dick pics cause they're horny and they hope the feeling will be reciprocated. and this is supposed to matter because....?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 02:09 PM
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lactation Who knew breast fed v. bottle fed had such high stakes!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 10:33 PM
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I came across a post in r/marriage that left me gob smacked. the facts: he followed her thirst traps on Instagram. Slid into her DMs, met up, and raw dogged it. Months later she claims the kid is his and agrees to a paternity test. It is his so he does the 'honorable' thing and marries her they proceed to have 3 more kids over the span of 8 years in the intervening years he discovered she lied about her citizenship, forged her birth certificate, forged he social security card, hid her social med…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 04:04 PM
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It looks like we have a new contender for resident PPD sociopath. u/Barely-moral, you're on notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 03:31 PM
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Sure about what? That we're adults that know how to control ourselves? Then yes I am sure, and for those that can't figure it out, well, tough titties. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 03:01 PM
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I'm sure they consider me sexually attractive, but we're all married or LTR'd and not looking to blow up our lives for a bit of rut n' buck. We're adults, we know how to control ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 02:44 PM
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My husband has a lot of female friends, and concurrently I have a lot of male friends. I think thats why we work well together; he's masculine but prefers female socialization, whereas I'm feminine but prefer masculine socialization. bonus: his female friends provide surrogate emotional labor, so I'm never really exhausted by him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 02:26 PM
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5'6 moderately fit guy with 18 cm long dick this guy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 02:20 PM
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🙋‍♀️ I like those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 02:29 AM
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opinion-structured attack Yes, that is what is expected here. and then whatever response a man has, attack his masculinity because of however they responded to you. Please point out where I did this. Leave me out of your schemes What schemes? Posting on reddit?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 10:49 PM
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Your equivalence is tenuous at best, and I think you just want to whatabout regarding women you don't like. But whatever helps you sleep at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 09:23 PM
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The beauty of choice and freedom is that no one has to subject themselves to strife and abuse just so somebody else might learn how to be a human. Life is short, no need to waste it on a questionable fixer upper when wholly formed, emotionally stable adults exist and are available for dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 06:58 PM
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Then maybe they should pay attention more so they don't end up that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 05:09 PM
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I don't think I've ever consciously deployed lady game. Thats not to say I've not used it, but I've never conceptualized using it as a tool. When I look back at how and when men were drawn to me, its because I could handle witty + spicy banter while still looking and acting very femme. Guys would say/do outrageous things I'd never bat an eye. I was never loud or necessarily took part in razzing group banter, but occasionally I'd pop in with a quiet, cutting remark and men found that charming. Fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 04:49 PM
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When I was young, I only knew 1(!!) promiscuous woman, everyone else was paired off with (and then married) their college boyfriend. As an older adult, everyone is still married to their respective SO. As far as I gather promiscuous behavior is rare, but I also come from a 2 parent, college educated, full time employed, nominally religious household, as do most of the people I'm around/socialize with.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 07:00 PM
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My husband was going through this (fuckboy blues) when I met him, which I think partially contributed to his rabid insistence on commitment and marriage when he realized I was gonig to stick around. I don't know if guys should be jealous, I mean its different sort of burden, but a burden all the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 11:20 PM
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It seems boychild has socially leveled up to Mixed Gender Jocks. He used to hang with the Theatrical Weirdos, but he chafed against one of the kids (catty, tattletale) and grew bored of playing the same games at recess. There's a chubby/bossy tomboy in the Mixed Gender Jocks that follows him around, but boychild only has eyes for the popular pretty girl at the top (her mom is also the PTO president). At leas the popular girl is sweet, she wrote him a nice Valentine (that boychild saved) and some…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 10:17 PM
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Christina Aquilera Dirty Every girl's slut drop anthem.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:50 PM
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Ha! I remember the bus came to my college campus, but by then GGW had peaked and everyone knew what the deal was. The bus parked outside a night club for a weekend, however the night club ended up being a complete sausage fest. I believe GGW was giving away cheap trucker hats in exchange for bus footage, but I can't say I knew of any takers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:15 PM
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But that Girls Gone Wild footage sure as shit still exists out there. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:04 PM
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Why do you think the video provoked such a strong reaction in some camps in the manosphere? Because the manosphere will never pass up an opportunity to publicly whine and cry about that which they cannot have (in this case; college aged women having fun).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:01 PM
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What do you think of your boyfriend or husband masturbating to pics of your friends, sisters, or other women he knows irl? What do you think of your friend’s or sister’s partner masturbating to your pics? I'm not the mind police, I don't care about what my husband looks at/thinks about so long as its legal, consenting, and doesn't interfere with our sex life. But as far as I gather he's pretty happy with the material I've given him over the years.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 05:05 PM
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hurray for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 04:31 PM
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Ha! SAE was vaguely wholesome compared to Phi Sigma Kappa, aka date rape HQ.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 04:18 PM
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white claws for girls 🤮 I feel sorry for this generation, back in my day we at least had sugar booze (Mike's Hard Lemonade) and not sad, boozy static water.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 04:12 PM
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what, no jungle juice!?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 04:04 PM
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Sigma Alpha Epsilon? What did they ever do to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:53 PM
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2016 then it became cringe leftist olympics Nah, the cringe leftist olympics had been embedded in tumblr since at least 2009. Cross posting to other SM platforms is what drew more eyes to the rot that had already settled in.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:44 PM
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No, not really. But I don't get insulted, and if I do, I'm 100% oblivious to it. I just float through the world, and people are nice? I'm either exceedingly lucky or hopelessly dense, probably somewhere in the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:23 AM
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Well, y'all certainly haven't done much to disabuse us of that notion.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:22 PM
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Good ol' fashion red wine pot roast with carrots, onions, potatoes, home made gravy, and crusty bread on the side. That what I made last night and my husband was quite pleased.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:51 PM
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I wrote a post a long time ago about how incels + their adjacent should express themselves via music/art and build up social capital that way, as they've done in generations past. Naturally, there was much wailing and gnashing of teeth about how that was UTTERLY IMPOSSIBLE because of....reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:47 PM
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ur diagnosis is wrong. OP bought a homeless woman for company. You should take him at his word.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 03:50 PM
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thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 09:21 PM
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anti body positivity YouTube channels ooh any recommendations?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 09:17 PM
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broke: reality TV woke: professional wrasslin' If I'm going to watch scripted drama and fake fights, then I want some god damn pageantry as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 09:16 PM
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yes, think about that, make sure it keeps you up at night and terrified of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:54 PM
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Well fuck me, turns out I'm not 5'3", but in fact 5'2.5". I've doomed my son to be a short king.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:43 PM
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A mint condition dvd boxset of The Highlander TV show. 2 packs of Marlborough Reds an unopened bottle of kombucha expired bus pass from 2017
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 01:33 PM
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me: I'd like to drop a few lbs before my trip to NY. also me: No one is eating this cheesecake fast enough! Guess I'll have to help out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 11:07 PM
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As long as he checks out as a pro-social, non abusive human no one has ever cared about whom I've dated, nor have I ever sought out opinions on these men. My parent's were pretty emphatic that my choice in a man was 100% up to me, so I better get it right. They had a lot of faith that I'd choose correctly, and I did, so they never had to worry, interferer, or guide me in anyway. My friend's have even less input, why on earth would they?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 10:09 PM
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18 BMI who said 18 was an ideal BMI? But no, I don't have a problem maintaining my weight and I like food, I just don't like preparing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 07:38 PM
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Except stalking isn't about affection, its way more scary and destructive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 06:22 PM
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Bruh, thats called having a stalker, there's nothing ego gratifying about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 06:17 PM
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yes, now my ovaries are functionally useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 06:09 PM
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TikTok is not reality Sometimes I think we should have a large sticky post at the top that mere says "TikTok is not reality"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 04:57 PM
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Why? To admire them, and how their size/symmetry reflect the work put into growing them. Are you incapable of perceiving aesthetics?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 04:34 PM
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You've never flexed in the mirror and admired your bicep?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 04:22 PM
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Why would I feel good by seeing myself in the mirror? By receiving a dopamine hit from feeling pleased with the aesthetic value of your facial or body features.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 04:16 PM
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Are most men "low quality"? No, they're just NPC's. If so, why? I mean...look at them. So is it really more like "high quality to me" and there's all these unstated differences in preferences making the term amorphous and subjective? yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 04:13 PM
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His feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 09:11 PM
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I'm not very ambitious beyond my environs, and as such my husband is also not very ambitious. Two peas in a middle class pod.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 06:33 PM
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Attended various Ska/Ska Punk concerts (Less than Jake, Reel Big Fish, Mighty Mighty Bosstones, etc.) and pretended to be into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:45 PM
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like the kuzco type Those kind of earrings seem a bit try-hard, or 'loud'. I'd suggest something more subtle and angular, or maybe a tiny gem stone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:41 PM
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I internalized that message so deeply. When I became pregnant with kiddo, I panicked and thought I was ruining several lives and everyone would be disappointed in me. The truth on the paper was that I was 30 years old, stable, happily married for 10 years, employed in a flexible industry with great FMLA policies, and had a village to support me. By all means I was at a perfect place in my life to have a kid, but I was convinced that I was making a terrible, life ruining mistake and that we were …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 03:16 PM
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Honesty; just say you're not feeling it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 05:03 PM
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congrats, you meet all the criteria for most men. But we don't want to meet the criteria for most men, we want to meet the criteria for HV men, hence the glow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 05:01 PM
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High value is relative Correct, it is relative. For certain milieus the ability to nut indiscriminately is the definition of low value. It seems the poor and the coom-brained are the only ones who value indiscriminate nutting, everyone else just sees chaos, stress, low FTO, and shitty financial planning.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 04:47 PM
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she will intentionally leave out physical characteristics or raw sex appeal. How is it intentional when that shit is already be assumed? Anybody with eyes knows attractive people are attractive and desired; the soft skills are what set that attractive man apart from the rest, and thus 'high value'. Per your title, how is a man's ability to nut into a woman too stupid to be on BC a sign of high value?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 04:30 PM
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Christ, I low key talk like that dude when I'm drunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 03:40 PM
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Do you ever go to places where young + fun people like to congregate?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 03:36 PM
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🤷‍♀️ I didn't make the rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 12:11 AM
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Because the only people I've seen advocate for it are gross weirdos, and the longest I've seen a triad(+) relationship last was 2 years tops.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 10:04 PM
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Why not both!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 09:55 PM
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He's a bit socially awkward, kind of like Elon Musk well there's your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 03:01 PM
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Jesus Christ. He's like a 2, 3 at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 08:29 PM
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No? am I supposed to change when I meet new people?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 08:27 PM
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I don't care about any of that. He has a soft, jowly, high estrogen, neotenous moon face (possible cushing's disease?), with a piggy nose. He probably has small fat hands that are perpetually sweaty. Visually, he's the definition of an ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 08:25 PM
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all of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 08:17 PM
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I present to you, Kyle Rittenhouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 08:08 PM
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you already have a huge dating abundance ..of NPCs. If I'm going to peacock, is cause I don't want to be associated with NPCs.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 06:49 PM
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Not gonna lie, my mom and I really bonded over femme rituals and presentation. We got through the teen years with shopping, make up, hair care, spa days, etc. But it is a gamble, so you hope for the best but will gladly accept if your kids go in a completely different direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 05:52 PM
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Well, half of the RPW subreddits are usually comprised of sub 5 women and awkward foreigners who never learned Girl Game but are trying to navigate the western SMV. The other half of it are when those sub 5 women eventually land a schlubby b/f, and now they need tips on how to larp as tradcon "first mates" as a vain effort to inspire their schlubby b/fs to be Captain Alphas.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 05:47 PM
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So does a fat and ugly 17 year old have more value than an 18 year old? What about 15 year old? You've already placed a premium on youth over any other attribute, so how young did this value extend? 14? 12?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:43 PM
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An 18 year old fat ugly girl has more value than a girl older than her Is that the linchpin you really want to hinge your argument on?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:30 PM
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Oh, ok. \continues to eat soup for lunch**
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 07:37 PM
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Embarrassed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:11 PM
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No, but only because I'm on a 1.5 week dry spell. 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:10 PM
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Hm, thats some pretty weak bio determinism if all it took was 30ish years of finger wagging to change the script.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:07 PM
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I had one for a while, it was nice while it lasted but unfortunately it kept stabbing my husband in the dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 05:29 PM
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Men being assertive and dominant is biology Then why do y'all need a bunch of courses, podcasts, mentors, gurus, youtubers, subreddits, tiktoks, books, and weekend retreats to teach assertiveness and dominance?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 04:46 PM
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The moral values of 'don't be a shithead', 'be mindful of others' and 'stand up for yourself' seem pretty hard to pin down to a specific religion, but I'll gladly take the good, water it down, and forget the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:46 PM
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I'm kind of amused that my son has zero concept of religiosity or impulse for spirituality, and his perception of the Abrahamic faiths is akin to his perception of Greek and Roman mythology. Old stories people told themselves to feel better/explain natural phenomena, but no more real than Santa. I'm sure my husband and I's religious apathy has influenced him, but he's largely come to these conclusions on his own. Makes me proud. 🥹
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:31 PM
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I keep trying to list more facts about how fucked up this guy is but there are literally too many at least that crazy for me to pick. Out of all the VKM 'fun facts', the no sneezing thing still blows my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:50 PM
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I never knew I was supposed to care about height until I came to reddit. I'm 5'3", most men are already tall as far as I'm concerned.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:24 AM
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The only thing men love unconditionally is sticking their dick into a wet hole; consent, humanity, and signs of life need not apply.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:52 AM
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I have a lackluster marriage? That's news to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 12:58 AM
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funny: most if not all interactions involve copious amounts of contagious laughter. fun: consistently brings fresh energy and ideas into all manner of social discourse. Just talking to them makes you want to smile.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 07:08 PM
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Absolutely, but men will never acknowledge that they also display AFBB behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 12:30 PM
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I don't know any femcels, but I do know two women that are hung up on one (respective) guy that is neither good for them nor to them. As of now these are 15+ years obsessions. Both women are extremely passive in life, always waiting for something else to tell them what to think/say/do. Both of them seem to think sacrifice and servility will earn their dude's love and respect, however the two guys kept yanking them around and entertaining much livelier/fiesty/extroverted women. One guy eventually…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 04:02 AM
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He was hot, funny, fun, and he pursued me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 05:43 PM
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Jfc who let the puritans in?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 02:49 PM
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My man, no one is talking about gang bangs, but go off I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 11:32 PM
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Booted sure, but I don't think the talent (plus support ecosystem) should have to pay for the sins of their boss. Like, why should the backstage seamstress have to be out of a job cause her boss is a monster.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:45 PM
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Reading the news about Vince McMahon this morning:
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:17 PM
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idk, I just find makeup a kind of boring necessity. Its not that deep, but I can recognize the forces that compel me to put it on for public appearances. I don't hate it, but its not fun either, its just another aspect of presentation that I choose to partake because I want the benefits of acquiescing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:27 PM
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No and No. I've only had one guy come back years later and express regret for not making his feelings known, other than that my males friends have their own orbits of women of which I am not included. I'm not naive enough to assume that crushes haven't bubbled up and died over the years, but everyone seems to have the good sense to keep it to themselves or divert their attention else where. Beyond that, I'm not everyone's type, and I think some of the more astute guys realized what makes me a go…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:37 PM
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What is the reason behind it? Because I look tired and stern if I don't wear it. Isn't your natural beauty enough? No apparently not, according to almost 40 years of living under western style capitalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:07 PM
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+/- 3 years is my max. Collectively, every guy I've been with has been my age or one year older. My parents had a 25 year age gap. They had a lovely marriage, and my dad was energetic/young for his age, but conversely my mother started living like a retiree when she was in her 40's.They wanted to travel to South America when she retired but instead she was dealing with hospice care and end of life decisions. Dudes who bang on about snagging a young woman when they're older never think about what…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:06 AM
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If they don't love you enough to be exclusive with you from the moment they go on a first date Jesus Christ dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 11:15 PM
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lol thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:05 PM
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his metacognitive skills are top notch
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:00 PM
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Oh boy. So a handful of years ago there was a user here that called herself gimpgirl. If you google 'gimpgirl' you might be able to find some her content (NSFW). She's an Eastern European self professed cuckquean, that got off on buying her unemployed, average/schlubby husband expensive gifts, hookers, sugar babies, vacations etc. as well as letting him 'lease her out' and living a 24/7 D/s lifestyle while starving herself and tending to their 6 kids. She produced comics, porn, as well as motiva…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:32 PM
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I miss gimpgirl. I hope she didn't convince her husband to sell her to the Russian army.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:14 PM
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My husband was 50+ by the time was 21 years old. I consider that a bit on the high side.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:04 PM
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Fuck, I never know what to put down for my kid when it comes to race. His dad is white (Italian), I'm biracial (Afro-Caribe/Italian), but kiddo looks mostly white. Like, at a glance you'd clock him as a white boy and he'll definitely benefit from white privilege. I just feel some kinda way whenever I have to record his race. Its also funny to think that had he been born during ye olde slavery era, he'd legally be classified as a black person; racism is so fucking dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 10:53 PM
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he was a part of my friend group and our mothers were work colleagues. we were both interested in the same thing; casually hooking up but nothing too serious the opportunities arose when our group would go out drinking and partying. I chose him because he offered, I knew him + his family, and we were on the same page about what we wanted. I'm currently married and a boring suburban mom I look back with complete neutrality. It wasn't bad or good, its just something I did at that point in time bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 03:42 PM
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Didn't care about it, didn't care for it, it was never emphasized as something valuable or important in my household. By 17 I considered it a millstone around my neck, and wanted to be rid of it as soon as possible. I found a suitable dude who was also antsy to get it over with, so we did the deed a few times and then amicably parted ways after about 6 months or so. Never felt much for him, he was a nice guy but I wasn't into the whole 'true love, eternal soulmates, bonded by sex' nonsense. I've…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 03:00 PM
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Ayyy I just started binging it and I'm enjoying myself so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:54 PM
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1.) don't marry a prude 2.) make sure the sex is always worth her time and effort 3.) don't turn into a lazy, feckless, man child coomer 4.) keep her hot and bothered with flirting and sexy touching (i.e. not groping) throughout the day. Its not that hard, but some men (and women) just can't get out of their own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:30 PM
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When I was younger and we first got together I would read her social media messages to uncover any clues about how I could be more like him. I would drive down his street to try to catch a glimpse of him. I remember one time actually spotting him at the mall where I trailed behind him, taking mental inventory of his mannerisms and actions. All things I did to mimic and emulate him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:08 PM
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Yes, its quite dogshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 04:58 PM
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Because this place is full of autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 03:19 PM
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My school district was vaguely 'progressive', so we had bare bones biological facts presented in health and science class (to appease the religious folk), however we also had counselor led social groups that met during lunch to discuss the more 'real world' application of sex education (condoms, DV education, consent, self esteem, help lines, STD education, etc). The social groups were opt in with permission slips, and a few of them may have been populated solely by the "troubled kids", as elect…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 07:26 PM
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Its wild; at 23 you're asking questions like you've never spoken to a woman (no shade intended), and yet at 23 I was already married for 3 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 06:54 PM
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That's why the data seems that way Thats my rationalization for ignoring the data in favor of how I feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 06:42 PM
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Amy Dunne. ETA: when the film came out I recall there was all sorts of hub bub in women's spaces that this character gets it (female rage) and these women were low key rooting for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 05:35 PM
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Yes, but he's not 'people', he's my legal dependent and a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 05:13 PM
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No, because I'm not in the business of telling other people what they should do. Young people will either figure themselves out, or not, but thats no skin off my back. 39/F/married
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 05:06 PM
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Congratulations, here's a trophy. 🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 04:25 AM
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should I just slowly change my personality so she herself breaks up with me? No, this is called manipulation and its cowardly. You're forcing someone to feel a certain way, just to avoid you yourself experiencing icky feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:52 PM
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The last time something like this happened was in high school. From what I recall, she sat back and let me have him, then she found herself another guy shortly there after. Besties over testes!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 02:23 AM
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Jesus Christ.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 10:52 PM
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Dominos; they have a garlicy crust and garlicy bread bites. Pizza Hut crust tastes like grease and sadness.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 10:51 PM
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What did she think of Fear Inoculum? I didn't care for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:32 PM
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Sounds about right. I've always been drawn to long haired, beautiful men (in my younger years, pretty boys). I'm not big on masculine coded features. But I wouldn't say the features remind me of women...more so of delicacy and refinement? Legolas was a big deal for me when LOTR came out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 11:34 PM
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Most men are passable, but most men are NPCs. A few years ago I saw a man in Starbucks that was so striking I had to compliment him. He had this whole...androgyny burgundy vampire thing going on. He was incredibly pale, but had healthy/shiny waist length curly red hair. He wore an impeccably tailored slimfit burgundy suit and he had a delicate bone structure (like David Bowie circa Ziggy Stardust) and bright blue eyes. If he was taller I would have assumed he was a model just from his styling an…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 08:58 PM
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Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 10:15 PM
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Hard scifi and high fantasy. I want to read the Children of Time Trilogy, Project Hail Mary, and Seveneves (hard scifi) as well get through most of, if not all of The Wheel of Time series (high fantasy).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 10:14 PM
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Resolutions are stupid; with that said I think I'm going to read more books, drink more water, and finally achieve 180 splits in 2024.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:43 PM
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Amy Schumer?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:29 PM
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More like time and place. I have a pair of leather pants I adore that fit like a glove but few reasons to wear them cause I'm just another WFH yoga mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:26 PM
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Well considering I met my huband when I bought drugs from him, fairly comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 01:59 PM
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Since when has this been happening Since we figured out fermented berries and grains make us feel giggly and stupid. So all of human history, but it particularly ramped up after women's sexual emancipation.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 01:51 PM
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This is you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 01:40 PM
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In college I had a short fling with a guy I'd never in a million years want. I didn't think he was very smart or charming, he was pretty average looking, but he was bold and made a move so I went with it because I was bored and liked the attention. We were also usually drunk when we were around each other. It's not very deep, just a matter of opportunity, inebriation, and fearlessness. However the man I truly lusted and lost my mind over was my husband. The sort of guy I fantasized about and gig…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 03:07 AM
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Because he was there + willing, whereas I liked the attention + drunk + bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 02:52 AM
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No. Hookup culture was born in the gutter piss of bottomless margaritas and hazy decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 02:47 AM
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Flee, flee from this place. You are precious and normal, there is nothing for you here but ruin.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 02:40 AM
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Valuable input.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:54 AM
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Great. He'd be a fool to waste money on fancy dates for someone he's just getting to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 03:29 PM
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Yup. Thats what my husband did while I vetted him. We weren't exclusive, who am I to tell him where to put his dick?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 03:26 PM
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Thats rich, considering women overwhelmingly dominate the caregiving, charity, and volunteering sector.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 07:02 PM
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I signed up for a 31 day yoga challenge in Jan., but I'm worried I'm going to fuck up my shit (re-injure my psoas muscle) from overuse. I already do everything you're supposed to do (warm up, cool down, water, rest, etc), but a lurking fear I have is that the likelihood of re-injuring my psoas muscle during this challenge is a function of age rather than technique. I should probably talk to a physio, but I'm too cheap for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 05:26 PM
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Well, I remember when I learned of punnett squares we had frame it around traits in our family, hence I learned of my chances of inheriting polydactyly from my mom. But eye and hair color were popular traits to work with. ETA: but if someone is truly curious about heritability and genetics, its an easy google search.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 05:08 PM
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If you paid attention to the lessons on punnett squares in 7th grade biology, then yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 04:57 PM
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I have an 8 yo boy, and were in the thick of balancing all of this. Frankly, video games are the way to go. It is the 3rd space, kids who don't participate in digital landscape are the outcasts. However the video games his generation are into are much, much more co-op based. Kids share gamer tags and chat over discord after homework and extracurriculars. Hell, my neighborhood opened up a new rec center and one of the touted features was a dedicated e-sports room. I scoffed at first, but its prov…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 03:56 PM
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This might be shocking, but I'd wage most single 43 year old women keen to hook up with a string of lovers aren't looking to settle down, with anyone, ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 09:47 PM
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Drunk hook up; she either didn't know, didn't realize, or forgot to tell him she was on like, day 1 of her period (the clottiest day). Hanky panky in dark, she leaves before dawn. My husband wakes up to his body + bed (plus a few rogue handprints on the wall) caked in dried blood. Hungover, confused, and disgusted, his body reacted and he puked all over himself + bed. He took a long shameshower, and then threw out all his bedding. A bad time all around, and now 20 years later 'period sex' still …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 09:41 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 09:31 PM
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I won a giveaway at the grocery store, my choices are Certified Angus Beef Eye of Round roast, or CAB Sirloin Tip roast. I don't know much about beef, or what I'm going to do with it, so I'm not sure what to pick. Thoughts?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 07:52 PM
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My husband has trauma related to that, so no. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 07:47 PM
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I actually missed all of Karlach and Wyll's storyline, as well as Jaheira and Minsc in my first playthrough. So this time I'm making sure I don't fuck those up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:05 AM
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Damn, I'm on my 2nd playthrough, and I thought that was a bit excessive. 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:48 AM
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The man looking for a stable partner would never have picked a woman who dressed scantily. When I met my husband I was wearing a tube top, mini skirt, fishnets, and knee high boots. He sold me drugs in the basement of a frat house. And yet, here we are 18 years later humming along in domesticity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:36 PM
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In college there was a guy I messed around with that was so far outside the type of guy I'd date. While we were entangled I told my roommate that I'd never date him, but he was cute enough and he helped pass the time. We had nothing in common besides using our study sessions as an excuse to make out. He always initiated, and I liked the attention so I went along with it. I wasn't hot for him, I didn't pine for him, he didn't capture my imagination in any way, what's so ever. He was just...there,…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 06:44 PM
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Musician, preferably lead singer + guitar, in a modestly popular band (enough fans to tour, but not so popular that they can fill arenas).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 05:21 PM
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Because doing those things means I'm enjoying my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 03:22 PM
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1000% forced to work, hands down, forever and ever amen. Having to depend on a man is pretty much asking me to give up and die. I'll never not work for my keep, its what humans are built for. I rather my labor come from my intellect and skills rather than the usefulness of my sex organs and some man's (often capricious) good will. I'm already married, and the dependencies on my husband are wholly related to emotions, sex, and the disembodies forces within a marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 03:12 PM
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Dress is kinda fug, but my husband likes when I tramp it up to go out. (deep v cut tops, side boob, leather pants, sheer panels on a dress, mini skirts, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 10:58 PM
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What I do? as in my job? No, Capitalism doesn't care about your hopes and dreams, bills need to be paid. But I do think its important to do something with your mind + body that you're proud of.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 07:06 PM
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I already have an artform to scratch my itch (published poet, blah blah blah), and my husband is that small time musician with a day job. I'm moreso lamenting the mindset I grew up with, that creative endeavors are just hobbies and nothing more. Looking back at my life I actually had the skills for it, but I was conditioned to think 'normal jobs' were the only ones worth having. My parent's had good reason for steering me down this path, pretty dancers are a dime a dozen, but that doesn't mean t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:53 PM
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I should have been a dancer, but I like financial stability too much. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:18 PM
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For the life of me I cannot tolerate neuroticism, lol. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 04:44 PM
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I don't have anything to add, I just want to commend you for this well thought out and nuanced reply.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 03:37 PM
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Well I have an 8yo boy, and so far he's a happy little weirdo with a mixed gender group of weirdo friends, and he's really into gymnastics, roblox, coding, and soccer. I think some of the most important traits kids should be raised with are emotional aptitude, self esteem, and resiliency, so my husband and I are trying to impart them in our kid. I think once he understands those virtues he'll be able to navigate his dating and social life with relative ease. It also doesn't hurt that he's a good…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 12:17 AM
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Man, I wish my husband went back to being a househusband, we were all much calmer and well fed compared to now.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 05:42 PM
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My heart is drawn to the performing arts, and the sort of men who can make it there (bold, gregarious, risk takers, star power, libertine, etc). The sort of men drawn to STEM generally don't have the temperament I find enticing in a partner. They tend to exemplify most of the traits that turn me off (risk averse, systemic thinking, quiet, studious, conservative, nebbish, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 02:27 PM
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so I'd like to know, how exactly are you defining charisma. Can you command a room, draw everyone's eyes and attention to you? When people talk to you, do they walk away from the interaction happy and like they were "seen"? To me, charisma is the ability draw people to you, and for those people to feel like they made a great new friend. And what makes someone "artsy"? Are you creative? Do you have something to show for it? And do you have an audience that appreciates it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 01:47 PM
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After my dad died my mom said she'd never love another man. However a few year later she's been having long phone calls with an old flame from her childhood. From what I gather she doesn't really like him, but she does like the attention and long distance companionship. After my husband's father died his mom was back on the dating scene (she was a young widow), had a few boyfriends then found her forever partner and has been with him for about 20 years now.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 10:36 PM
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brooding? hot. depressed sad sack? not hot. manic? hot. anxious mess? not hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 10:03 PM
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You can be a regular guy and have a regular conversation, not do anything weird, and she'll usually get bored or stop talking to you if you're meeting her in an environment where there are other people to talk to yes? and? Why should I be enticed by a regular guy having a regular conversation with me? If there are more interesting people around, like...why wouldn't I gravitate towards them? I can have regular convos with regular people any day of the week.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 09:28 PM
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lol I have a type (super charismatic artist), and pretty much anything outside of it is a turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 08:20 PM
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neurotic/high strung risk averse timid suffers from anxiety, depression, or another mental illness over achiever perfectionist works a STEM job doesn't read quiet gymbro into football/basketball/baseball non-artist dudes who have zero comprehension of how to move their body or inhabit space teetotalers loners obese thirsty/pornsick suffers from the stereotypical flavor of male insecurities; dick size, height, income, N count miser/penny pincher/hoarder humorless tradcon unintelligent, or uncurio…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:38 PM
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I'm not American so I have little in the way of anecdotal/qualitative experience of American schooling Off the bat I'll say its extremely region specific. The pros v cons of charter schools in a massive urban district like Chicago will differ than in a suburban sprawl district in like... Cheery Creek, Colorado. Off the bat, our previous (unpopular) governor was a big fan of charter schools; mainly because he owns a bunch of them. Their boom in Illinois coincided with his term as governor. But Il…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 06:11 PM
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I'm at work and don't have time for the peer reviews and such, my opinion is informed as a mom of a kid in the Chicago Public School system, as the daughter of a public school teacher, and various takes from friends/acquaintances in the charter and public school system.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:50 PM
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anti-charter school Charter schools are an abomination.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:13 PM
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Get cheated on. I couldn't deal with the guilt of cheating, however I could easily savor the righteous anger of getting cheated on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 06:08 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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