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Women want different things because they have their own unique values, memories, ambitions, and perspectives. I assume many look for a partner who is confident, assertive, and kind. Someone with high EQ, charm, and Initiative across the board, whether it's within romance, planning things together, or taking care of what life brings. Someone who knows how to communicate, has morals, and understands them as a person. Creates safety and excitement at the same time. Wit, back and forth flirting, ban…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 03:19 AM
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I don’t care either way. I only take women on dates when they’ve shown high interest to begin with, multiple times. I usually brush all of it off, decide and vet their character within that. At that point I have no concerns whether they like me or not. They’ve made it more than obvious. They reciprocate effort and show high attraction before we even get to that point, then again I receive enough attention that’s the route I can decide to go. I also don’t care about sleeping with random people th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 08:03 PM
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Damn near all the women I meet in real life seem to love me why should I believe what people say online that they hate men. I think they hate the men that rely on manipulation, haven’t grown up in anyway, have no morals or restraint, and that hate women. If the prevalence of that is 95% and you’re within that, that’s why you think they hate all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 05:59 PM
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I was young when it was a major thing in 2017. What would I have preferred? Doesn’t concern me. What was my understanding? Women speaking up about sexual harassment/assault etc so that other women felt comfortable doing so and to bring awareness to the prevalence. Should they speak in names? That’s their own discretion I assume. I’ve had women try to climb into my lap, tell me explicit things, try to grab me and all of that which I’m sure constitutes as sexual harassment. I don’t go around speak…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 05:28 PM
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I naturally attract strangers damn near every time I leave the house. Trust is another thing but it’s not that I distrust people for no reason. I think the issue with modern dating for most is that they turned human connection into a transactional checklist, and a game of ego. Who can take advantage of who first; who can manipulate who first. It’s fairly sad. I assume most won’t listen and live how they want anyways. Not like they’ve been manipulated into doing so through social media delusions …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 02:11 AM
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I’m 6’1 but I genuinely don’t think height has much of an impact as people think. There’s millions of guys 6ft+ that have many issues, if I said what has happened to me over the past year I would sound insane. Women mostly care about how they feel when they are around you. Your confidence, demeanor, calmness, intentions, empathy and communication skills. The energy you put out into the world. I’m highly attractive now but that wasn’t always the case.. and I’ve never had any issues. I know for a …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 12:16 AM
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Out of around 15 women I’ve been friends with.. 90% of them have been the ones to catch feelings for me. I don’t know how to answer this, Just because you catch feelings over time doesn’t mean she has to aswell. Have you ever had someone like you that you didn’t see in that way? Honestly the better question “Friends first” already has the implication of romantic interest. I think you are speaking about just friends. There’s this interesting concept aswell.. getting to know the person you view as…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 05:47 PM
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Never heard of that in my life. If you’re already in a relationship with them, they tend to pay aswell but I’m not sure why it matters too much. Taking them out for a first date I don’t mind paying but I only take them when they show heavy attraction to begin with I don’t have to question if they like me. Women initiate divorce because the relationship isn’t fulfilling their emotional and attraction needs. It usually is after an extended period of time with that being the case. Some people are c…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 05:03 PM
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Women do approach. I’ve had them hand me their phone to add socials, try to sit on my lap, spark up random conversations. More than likely she will send signals first, especially if she is shy or nervous. That’s the reality that I know. If she likes you that much it will be known either way, does it really matter who approaches. Don’t walk up on random people that have shown no attraction with intentions of sleeping with them and you’ll have no issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 04:03 AM
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I don’t even like to tear people down, but I feel like I’m going fucking insane. Are your guys personalities and demeanor that cooked that you struggle that much? I cannot comprehend it. Over half the women I meet, I genuinely cannot believe what I see online, has to be some form of a running joke
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 07:45 PM
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Yeah they are delusional. I don’t want women to become obsessed instantly or give in instantly, I’m tired of it. Alot of men think they want that, all they care about is proving something or the games of ego I assume. True excitement requires resistance, pacing, anticipation, romantic chemistry and the mutual discovery of two independent minds. I don’t want to be treated like a drug, I don’t want them to change who they are, I want the real them. The obsession is real but you know what I’m sayin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 07:08 PM
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I don’t want to be mean. I think you’re focused on them too much rather than you, why would their success trigger your insecurities. You could always look to someone else having more success no matter where you are but that’s also opinion. If the friendship isn’t making you happy you don’t have to stay thats your own discretion. Don’t see how that will solve your issues, sometimes uncomfortably brings upon change. I don’t know your age and perspective changes often though honestly.. stop worryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 09:41 PM
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What the hell 🤣 do what you want
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 09:32 PM
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I tried to tell them this so many times no they wont listen. “You’re over 6ft and attractive ofcourse you’ll say it’s about internal security, energy, eq and composure” Anything to just deflect reality, they cannot comprehend it? Yeah I also walk and speak with complete relaxed confidence and composure, view woman as people and have no agenda, eye contact that actively calms me even more, exceptionally high wit and communication in general, assertiveness and empathy, authenticity and don’t play …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 06:52 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 06:29 AM
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They should dislike most of yall honestly. I don’t need say anything too hurtful I know people won’t grow up or change anyways. Some of the woman are delusional but eh,
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 06:23 AM
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I tried to tell them about 20 times.. they will not listen. If they hear the truth and they are not at this very moment what that truth implies, their egos will instantly deflect. What’s the point? Why listen to the man who knows the exact neuroscience, biology, and psychology of attraction, lust and love. Someone who has been in multiple long term relationships since 18 years old. Someone who has to constantly turn down advances. Yeah just keep listening to the bullshit on the internet. It’s se…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 11:37 PM
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Yall are fucking delusional. I don’t care about ons I have nothing to prove to myself I already know who I am, what good will it bring me. Just cause more issues I don’t need more women obsessed with me, regardless if its a one night thing that doesn’t mean she will stop. Constantly chasing other people for your own ego is pretty fucking sad. I’m trying to figure out why over 80% of women I’ve met in the past two years have sent heavy signals. Which I’m pretty damn sure it has to do with my ener…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 05:04 PM
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I already have issues with women becoming too attached, so I don’t know. Depends how they are as a person I assume, tired of the codependency though I understand how rare being understood as a person is, having real love and affection, wit playfulness. But everytime I be myself and give someone that, yeah.. I don’t know anymore It’s an issue, if you try to stop the codependency they latch on even harder, or act like you’re breaking their heart. All I do is give them something real, I refuse to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 03:52 PM
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Why would you try to get with someone showing no attraction. Makes no sense to me. They need to stop being telemarketers
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 01:02 AM
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Yes that too because they are hiding their intentions, act entitled and change up when they realize that it’s not going to work to obtain what they want. Danger in a few ways, your time, expectations and the unknown change.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 12:58 AM
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Women are manipulated and feel false attraction through trauma bonds, anxiety and chasing validation, attention ect there’s alot that goes into it. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they like bad guys, some may think they do everyone has their own preference, perspective, and desires. Depends what you consider a good guy aswell because the acts do not constitute as so. There needs to be mystery, romantic tension, chemistry, and a form of a chase for attraction to survive. The instantly giving i…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 12:28 AM
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To be myself and don’t intake outside advice, live in the moment and feel the energy and chemistry we have together. Have confidence, don’t allow disrespect or games, good communication. Mix of romance and wit. I’m exceptionally good with words to begin with when I want to be. My system is authenticity. Seems like the rarest form nowadays
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 12:33 AM
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From what I’ve experienced they just continue to make advances until they know forsure they don’t have a chance. It’s to do with the ego aswell some people feel the need to prove something to themselves at that point and then chase even more. I don’t like making people feel bad for no reason, but I know brushing off advances doesn’t work. Just have to be straight up
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 12:20 AM
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It has nothing to do with that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:08 AM
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More than anything else would
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:06 AM
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Why is that, I just want the best for everyone. The things I say may be harsh at times but that’s irrelevant to what people need to hear. Start loving yourself, there’s nothing wrong with your appearance. Fuck what the internet says or anyone else. Be authentic and do what’s best for you, the rest will follow. Healing and love, always
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 06:22 AM
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6’1, Will you just use your height as an excuse to prevent growth. Thinking negative thoughts constantly as in “woman hate short men” naturally affects your internal state. Wishing you all the best man
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:48 AM
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Lmao, isn’t the world already fake enough? Yall should just develop some composure and confidence. The postering, games, scripts, and acts cause the very issues you have. Humans track demeanor, confidence, breathing, vocal tone, muscle tension, posture, expressions, pupil shifts, and emotional states continuously within milliseconds. Memorize all that you want, There’s no pretending
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:29 AM
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Do whatever makes you happy, as long as it doesn’t involve hurting others. I think social media fucked the minds of the many. Don’t expect much to change on the current path
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 03:07 AM
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Do men actually struggle to get romantic attention? Serious question. From what I know there is an endless abundance of women with absolutely zero social boundaries out here I see what the internet says, not sure what to believe anymore Yes your personality matters significantly. Humans also track demeanor, confidence, breathing, tone, expressions, emotional states continuously within milliseconds. There’s no pretending
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 07:44 PM
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Why are they putting other mens mentalities over their own in the first place? Especially considering most of them do not know a damn thing. And usually advise for some form of manipulation or game. Women will not tell you what they want because it has alot to do with your character, personality, integrity, and values. You either are or you aren’t. Telling someone to be X doesn’t change the fact. What they need to do is discard all prior advice and think for themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:06 PM
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I don’t typically think it’s that rare in society today. While your story about telling your ex that her opinions mattered seems responsible, Anyone can type a polished, self-serving anecdote online to make themselves look like a model partner. Furthermore, even if you genuinely said those words to her in real life, a power dynamic cannot be talked away with a simple conversation. Verbal reassurances don’t erase the massive imbalance of life experience, financial footing, and cognitive developme…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 08:50 PM
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Probably should fix your delusions though so you hopefully stop preying on them. Universal attraction is about finding a peer appealing. Not about targeting a specific vulnerable demographic because of their youth. A 38-year-old man targeting an 18-year-old is often doing it because a teenager is far easier to impress, manipulate, and control due to their lack of adult life experience. Men who pursue teenagers frequently do so because women their own age, who have established careers, financial …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 07:43 PM
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Stop, you are not worth my time. I wish I could help you though. I know you wouldn’t listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 06:53 PM
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You are defending it, which makes it highly likely that you are one. Not worth my energy to try to fix your delusions either, when you’ll just deflect and experience cognitive dissonance I could completely destroy every argument you had if I wanted, not worth my time Sometimes it’s knowing when to interact with someone
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 06:40 PM
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I don’t debate with predators
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 06:33 PM
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If it was legal to go lower you know these ‘men’ likely would. Why are they doing it? Besides them being predatory, They cannot attract women their own age or they claim because of looks. If it’s about looks they are doing it for their own ego and gratification. They’ll say something about fertility but plan on having no kids in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 06:02 PM
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Nah I just view you as predatory. It’s legal at 18 so they can consent to others around their age. Not so you can prey on those most likely to have insecurities, unstable emotions and a lack of knowledge and experience within the dynamics of how good relationships are supposed to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:30 PM
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people get with bad partners all the time, integrity is at an all time low, ego games are at an all time high, transactional relationships are aswell. emotional availability is seen as weakness. they compare themselves to social media. communication is a struggle for most. manipulation is rampant and pushed as advice. Entitlement is rampant aswell. Hookups are the normal. Personas over growth. Happy I never bought into those delusions
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:14 AM
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I can’t speak on them. I don’t, I find authentic women significantly more attractive and adorable visually. Even then someone’s personality and the chemistry we have together is what makes me attracted to them in those ways. Looking at a manufactured version just feels fake to me. Then again I don’t care about hookups. There’s real intent when I give someone my time
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:14 PM
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I can’t answer this honestly without shattering egos or causing a tailspin. But ask yourself the same thing. And yes personality matters significantly
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:43 AM
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That has nothing to do with me. I don’t debate people when they’ve shown a consistent inability to divert from delusions. I tell them reality and let them decide how they want to live
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:10 AM
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What you said is delusions and not based in reality in anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 10:30 PM
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You are online spamming the same concept multiple days in a row and changing the definitions of words to fit your own delusions, because you cannot find good matches and believe men are being too picky? Interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 10:29 PM
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Once you drop the bad arguments and delusions we can talk. The definition of words doesn’t distort and change based on your day to day feelings. I understand you struggle to get matches and feel irrational about it. “Everything BUT putting in effort” correct. Well, I see that your effort is being displaced, wishing you all the best. People should be picky anyways, why the hell would you date someone you don’t have any attraction to or shared interests with. No, you said that those poor men shoul…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 10:25 PM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:59 PM
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Just because you may at one point have the technology to mutate humans for a fucked up fantasy doesn’t mean you should or will. It’s a question that needs to be looked at, with concerns for the well being of that who asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:29 PM
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Something wrong with your brain structure? Neurochemical addictions, deformities, imbalances, trauma, diversions, manipulation. All had the same, where is the logic behind this. Pick our own? Not how nature works Meaningless sex is already a thing. Meaningful is supposed to be within a romantic bond or how you make children. Not because you found someone slightly cute walking by them at the store one time. Who’s forcing anything? I think the universe and nature did that. I prefer to live in real…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:54 PM
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Not sure what marriage has to do with anything. But yes I’ve had long term relationships, my first real one with a 23 year old woman when I was 19. I don’t do shallow dating so there’s none of this non serious. There have been times I had to leave women because they needed my time 24/7 and became suffocatingly clingy. I ended those situations early on though I didn't lead them on for a year
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:47 PM
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Nothing to do with me lmfao. I see reality won’t change your mind so the debate is pointless. Are these view points brining you happiness? I’m not reading all that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:45 PM
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The conclusion I’ve come to. You don’t use YouTube as a source of information; you use it as a supply for your daily posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:39 PM
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“They will get what they get and they will like it” You are genuinely unhinged. Make arguments based off of youtube videos and apply them to millions of people. And change the definition of words to fit your own delusional arguments. What are you trying to gain? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:36 PM
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I feel that the youtube is actively harming your mental health honestly, not even trying to talk down on you in anyway. Because your takes are pretty damn crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:32 PM
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“Beggers cant be choosers, they have to drop all hobbies, have no standards, hide their interests.. if not they aren’t desperate” Delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:30 PM
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No, you redefined desperate. According to you if a man is desperate he should accept prostitutes, criminals, people he isn’t attracted to ect. That’s what we’ve come to?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:28 PM
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I have no issues I come here to speak on objective reality. I do mostly blame men, women are not faultless. But I’m speaking from outside of all of it and without emotion. I tend to believe most guys are desperate, if your definition of desperate is “they have to drop all hobbies, and have no standards” then fine, believe as you wish
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:24 PM
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No, just that you don’t have any arguments based in reality and constantly contort the definitions of words to fit within your own delusional complaints of men. Instead of focusing on actual issues or objective data
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:18 PM
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Take a nap, honestly. I’d recommend to stop deriving arguments from youtube videos. But that’s within your own choice
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:16 PM
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“if you are desperate, you have no right to any hobbies or lifestyle traits that might limit your dating pool. if you don't delete your personality to appeal to 100% of people, you are being "picky." You seem fairly delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:13 PM
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Having a similar lifestyle isn’t exactly picky. He swiped on 2 million women. That’s the opposite of being picky. Do you agree women should be picky? Either way people should be picky lmfao, not just change everything about themselves to find a mate
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:09 PM
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You don’t know what picky means. So I don’t think you can tell honestly. Your argument Having undesirable interests = being picky
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:06 PM
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Not sure what any of this has to do with anything anyways. Most men don’t have 33 snakes, or wear those things. So overall, what’s the argument here
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:02 PM
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I never said it’s a problem that women are, they should be. And yes, his own lifestyle made him undesirable. That doesn’t equal being picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:01 PM
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My own argument, just didn’t want to fill the screen with substantial amounts of text.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:59 PM
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Again, I’ve never had any issues. Besides too many women being attracted, though that’s irrelevant to debate as with you trying to include me into things. He isn’t doing anything but looking for general compatibility within a major worldwide hobby. Somehow that’s extreme pickiness
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:53 PM
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Someone not liking you because of your hobbies. Is you being picky? I don’t quite understand that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:51 PM
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1/3 of 2 million is still 666’667 women. I don’t know, never thought about it. That isn’t him being picky. Picky is filtering other people out aggressively. That’s women not liking him for his own lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:48 PM
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Roughly 35% to 37% of all fishers are women, making them a massive demographic in the fishing community. Not my thing personally either, He swiped yes on two million women. The argument is rather pointless, you seem to irrationally attack men. And distort the definition of words. Why not complain about the things that they actually do? You don’t need to create false arguments off of curated youtube videos
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:41 PM
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Seems to me he is, if he spent weeks swiping yes on the entire population of Chicago. A woman wanting a partner with similar intrests is extremely picky too, she has to lower her standards correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:38 PM
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Being picky is turning other people down for superficial reasons, not stating on your profile that you want a partner with one singular similar hobby
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:32 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/1yfpcia9ogeh1.jpeg?width=1052&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1fa1b682601f613bc7dca080d1ab60d2f72dc91d
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:30 PM
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I don’t think you know what the word picky means, that’s where the disconnect lies
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:23 PM
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What the hell are you talking about 😂 If a woman has 7 cats and swiped on 2 million men, is she being picky?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:21 PM
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Not sure how that’s him being picky either. So neither person is? He posted the aspects of his own life, and swiped on 2 million women. I don’t understand how you conclude that to being picky
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:19 PM
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Is that him being picky or women being picky? Again, 33 snakes is an extreme outlier. Is the average guy posting these things
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:17 PM
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That’s what you want basically. “They aren’t desperate because they don’t hide & change their hobbies” He swiped on 2 million women.. who’s being picky? And again, I’ve never had any issues. I’m just speaking on reality for the point of debate
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:15 PM
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How was anything about lying? You said they aren’t desperate because they don’t drop every hobby they have and pretend to be something else. What kind of logic are you running on. Your arguments tend to be extreme youtube outliers
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:12 PM
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So you want men to be fake and hide who they are? Which one is it.. because they are desperate they have to discard every hobby they have. Interesting.. like there’s not plenty of woman on earth that likes fishing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:07 PM
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It seems you tend to get a lot of your world views and arguments through youtube videos. 33 snakes is excessive yes. Wanting a partner with one singular similar hobby is extreme pickiness? He swiped yes on 2 million women 😂 Seems the women were picky more so. He’s desperate to find a compatible partner fine. Still, that’s a single example
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:04 PM
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What does a woman being highly selective and becoming irrationally irritated have to do with the average mans experience on a dating app?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:01 PM
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So because he likes fishing? What if a woman says I love watching movies and want a man who will watch them with me. Is that some ridiculous statement. 33 snakes is excessive, but I don’t think that’s picky it’s just his own life and hobbies. Singular arguments are just that, yes attraction doesn’t work that well through a screen easily deluded and diluted. Women that wanted hookups didn’t like that specific guy enough. What is the overall point
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:56 PM
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I think you’re fairly delusional. How is that him being picky? Either way singular examples don’t prove anything for the collective.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:46 PM
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Honestly, what the hell are you talking about 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:41 PM
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I don’t think they were just born with delusional concepts in their minds. Women don’t have issues attracting random men typically - They aren’t using a dating app out of desperation for a random match, maybe out of desperation for a good match. There very well may be men who are not desperate on the apps and not looking for hookups, I don’t want to include everyone. But there’s so many men that are, that women have no way of knowing otherwise. Why subject yourself to that as a man, if you could…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:29 PM
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It’s how alot of people think nowadays, there are still good men though social media has corrupted so many that they genuinely think it’s about ‘Nice’ vs Mean. Both are fucked up. Even women put on fake acts alot of the time, I’m sure you know this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:12 PM
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You think I’m disagreeing with you? I wish they would stop being fake and using one of the two manipulative extremes, for the sake of women. Alot think Vulnerability is weakness so much that they refuse to even be themselves, kind of sad honestly. Kind of how it plays out, if you claim they are ‘unlikable’ they struggle to get women in real life, leading them to use dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:06 PM
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They then think you can’t be nice to women in anyway, have to be emotionally detached, play mind games. Something fundamentally wrong with the diversions of society today Being ‘nice’ doesn’t work because they failed to use banter, wit and romance.. caused minimal dopamine, norepinephrine/epinephrine, endorphins, and oxytocin. Overpraising and walking on eggshells being overly agreeable with everything won’t get you there. Safety + Excitement brings way more attraction than otherwise Being abusi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 08:59 PM
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They tend go hand in hand in a sense, desperate for validation yes. Probably desperate for love and romantic chemistry too but, it’s being overridden by a endless ego chase
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 08:57 PM
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You expect them to admit they are desperate? If they weren’t they wouldn’t be on a dating app. They could talk to any of the women they’ve already met in real life. In the exclusion that they aren’t desperate and want to find a good match. Women don’t know that, because almost every other guy on there is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 08:52 PM
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I don’t think most are. Also either they are desperate, or they want hookups. Not that hard to conclude. Women subconsciously know this, and do not respect the men on dating apps. Unless they find a profile that peaks their interest and override’s the warnings, or they also want a hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 08:47 PM
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Women are on the apps mostly as a filter to find men that they would personally like. Most men are on dating apps out of desperation. Don’t be so reactive. I’m not upset about anything, I have more than I want in real life. I never used a dating app
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 08:41 PM
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I showed you why men don’t get matches. Most men on dating apps are there because they either can’t attract women naturally, or they want a hookup. Most women don’t have issues attracting random men, they want to find someone they like without the issues, or they want a hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 08:36 PM
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You act like women and men have identical dating lives. I have no issues in real life, so why would I ever use one. Seems fairly logical
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 08:30 PM
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I view using a dating profile as a man not respecting yourself in the first place honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 08:28 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 08:07 PM
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If were being honest here https://preview.redd.it/dtvwwawbyfeh1.jpeg?width=1188&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8c9929ba7648f044c1de3e08bdad958612dff4ba
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 08:05 PM
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Logically if these men attracted women in real life they wouldn’t need a dating profile. Outside of just wanting hookups. Have fun with that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 07:42 PM
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Furthermore when men need fast money alot tend to turn to some form of robbery, when women need fast money alot tend to turn to sexual means. If strength and the forms of obtaining money were equal. How would the crime statistics look?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 05:46 PM
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Well they get let off for sexual or domestic crimes at a significantly higher rate and men rarely ever report them, so there’s that aspect Just in general most crime is about ego or money. Men and Women typically go about those two things in different ways
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 05:21 PM
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I just laugh at them, though I do feel for the insecurities and diversions that drove them to the delusions
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 09:37 PM
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I’ve been doing fine.. here’s what I be hearing. “You made me see in color” “You gave me a love I’ve dreamed of since childhood, more than that” “I’ve never felt so fucking safe in my life” Whatever issues these men have, that’s on them. I try to help people, they don’t listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:52 AM
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I know but I try to help them and they don’t listen just deflect cause it ‘hurts’ their ego, sad though comedic the self inflicted wounds
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 11:59 AM
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Women are highly attuned to subtext, body language, and intent. If you have good energy & intentions, they read those subconscious cues instantly. With the positive responses I get in life I know for a fact they have good intuition. Don’t let people attempt to manipulate you out of it Why do you think other men try to deny it? Doesn’t take much to put together I don’t have to do a damn thing but be myself and get more attraction and interest than I want, these men hide behind personas and then s…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 11:46 AM
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They won’t ever listen,
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 11:35 AM
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What the fuck are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 11:28 AM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 06:19 AM
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Been trying to explain that to them for awhile.. egos deflect all information
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:33 AM
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Don’t lie like that
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:32 AM
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If you want a look into reality True chemistry is a balance between comfort and excitement, which requires main brain chemicals working together. Providing a deep baseline of emotional safety, mutual understanding, and genuine romance releases Oxytocin, the hormone of trust and long-term bonding, as well as Endorphins, the brain's natural opiates that alleviate stress and induce a tranquil sense of satisfaction. At the same time weaving in playful banter, wit, and shared secrets, among other thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 10:05 PM
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If you want a look into reality. True chemistry is a balance between comfort and excitement, which requires main brain chemicals working together. Providing a deep baseline of emotional safety, mutual understanding, and genuine romance releases oxytocin, the hormone of trust and long-term bonding, as well as endorphins, the brain's natural opiates that alleviate stress and induce a tranquil sense of satisfaction At the same time weaving in playful banter, wit, and shared secrets, among other thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 10:04 PM
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Most women possess a natural desire for genuine romance, deep connection, and a secure partner who can confidently protect and lead the dynamic. The crisis exists because a vast majority of modern men have completely replaced real strength and charm with low-value transactional mindsets and manipulation, or overpraising and no backbone. From what I’ve noticed the level of communication nowadays is also astonishingly low. The most logical conclusion. Social media diversions actively manufacture t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 09:21 PM
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They know and I know. But I may aswell not attempt to tell men because they won’t ever fucking listen. Anything that confronts their ego in anyway will be instantly deflected. And women won’t because you don’t tell someone how to be. You either are or you aren’t. 98% of what you see online is actively making things worse for you. I’ll say that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:06 PM
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If you know that an environment (like a social media society) has made someone neurochemically addicted to a specific stimulus (validation), and you deliberately flood them with an endless, unearned supply of that exact stimulus. They are choosing to execute a manipulative strategy, and then acting entitled to a romantic relationship. The friendzone is physically and logically impossible if you state your intentions upfront and maintain self respect. Just because you develop feelings for them at…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 04:15 AM
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The Input: Person A treats validation as currency to buy Person B's presence. The Output: Person B accepts the currency. The Logical Flaw: You cannot willingly beg the person to take your validation, and then call them "extortionate". They are just accepting the terms you set. Who’s causing the friend zone? Seems to me the fault always falls back onto the insecure and desperate men. Without them it wouldn’t happen. Blaming women for accepting a ‘reward’ that social media has made them neurochemi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:07 AM
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I know, I can instantly see through behaviors though so it’s fairly comedic although sad when they become so reactive and frantic - start throwing insults or ask rhetorical questions. I assume he understands what the word means in a sense, just that he didn’t understand my comment and thought it applied. More so he thinks I said vending machines aswell, instead of making a comparison with the concept of a ‘slot machine’
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:38 AM
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I analyze Human behavioral data, physiology, and biology for over 8 hours a day while operating with an Elite-VCI. Coming onto PurplePillDebate is just a form of comedy to me, though I do wish people would wake up. The understanding that I’ve come to - if a concept confronts someone's ego in any way, the chances of them considering advice or looking at it through objectivity is extremely minimal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:24 AM
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I can’t help you. You have shown a lack of basic comprehension, and are becoming reactive because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:47 PM
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Your reply shows what I just said even more so. You said “Women treat men as validation vending machines” I said “Men treat women as validation slot machines” And you couldn’t even conceptualize the comparison
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:42 PM
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I empathize with how their insecurities drove them to diversions leading them further to insecurities and issues. I don’t empathize with how they respond to those things by lacking any accountability, using manipulation, looking at relationships through checklists and inputs, acting entitled (X should guarantee Y). Everyone makes their own decisions and decides the path they continue to walk down everyday
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:40 PM
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It made perfect sense, and now you are getting irritated and taking an ego hit.. because you are incapable of understanding it?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:34 PM
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"I want this outcome so badly that it is unfair if this person exercises their autonomy to deny it to me."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:29 PM
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I can’t control the level at which you comprehend information
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:26 PM
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Unchecked insecurities + Lack of real empathy, naturally = Hyper-Reactive Entitlement
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:24 PM
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They act desperate, reactive, insecure and needy and women take advantage of that? I assume, why not Like most men don’t attempt to use women as a validation slot machine. They just fail and become even more desperate for it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:19 PM
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They lack internal security so that manifests into the need to constantly try to prove their value to themselves and attempt to extract it from other people. They first attempt to be ‘nice’ by completely dampening their entire personality and hiding behind cheap praise. Which creates no romantic chemistry, they then assume since that didn’t work women like mean guys, completely change and hide their personality again and rely on manipulation. Get irritated when women see through it and develop n…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:08 PM
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These guys attempt to get with every woman they meet out of desperation and then claim that they get friendzoned more than women? Interesting argument You should flirt, use banter, wit and romance instead of casual small talk to develop romantic chemistry who would have assumed. You can still get to know them within that. Just be yourself though the posturing and trying to force things to happen causes alot of their issues aswell, they use scripted words because insecurities make it hard for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 10:50 PM
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They would first have to comprehend how their attempted use of manipulation triggers toxic, volatile cortisol-dopamine trauma loops rather than stable bonding pathways, which always leads to resentment, and women can sense. They would then have to understand how energy compatibility and dynamic tension must align to create authentic chemistry, rather than relying on the passive ‘nice’ doormat script. They would also have to face the accountability and humility required to see that their unchecke…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 10:50 PM
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All you did was argue agaisnt character, claim looks is the only thing that matters, spam rhetorical questions, try to play linguistic games, and then effectively advocated for manipulation
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 03:35 PM
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That’s not what shows you’re for it. You saying manipulation has the same effect and that it’s still dates regardless does.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 03:19 PM
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You brought up manipulation. Asking how ‘Evil’ guys find partners
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 03:15 PM
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It effectively is
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 03:10 PM
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“It’s still dates regardless” it’s evident in your replies. Not sure how manipulation has anything to do with - A man with character will have no issues. Anyways
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 03:07 PM
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You being fine with using manipulation to get dates show’s you lack the character so how would you know anything about what we are speaking upon?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 03:03 PM
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Manipulation does not get you the same results. A manipulator can cause a panicked, desperate craving by making a woman feel unsafe and then offering temporary relief. Because she never truly feels safe on a cellular level, her amygdala keeps her guard up. Her biology physically chokes off the highest-level bonding chemicals. When the manipulation is exposed, the illusion shatters. The dopamine loop aggressively flips into radioactive resentment and disgust. Depends what you are trying to achiev…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:26 PM
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We never established it has the same effect. Those are two different things. A man who manipulates a woman through manufactured tension, anxiety, hot and cold behavior and false chemistry has no correlation to a Woman being attracted to a man with authentic character. Only seen him? Maybe talk to her what do you want, honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:18 PM
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Character is the most important thing. Looks are subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:05 PM
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Character goes into attraction heavily for one, looks are highly subjective, women date men of all different looks. What do you want? Women that don’t find you attractive to date you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:01 PM
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You guys proved my exact point that you actively refuse growth just so you can continue to complain, and avoid accountability
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:56 PM
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Women settle for men who have money when they cannot find one they want, who says the men with money don’t have character. You don’t understand how manipulation works? I cannot help you. Quit rage spamming replies every 3 seconds. I have better shit to do. You have shown you lack basic comprehension
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:41 PM
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Objective reality isn’t alternate
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:39 PM
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You don’t understand reality is what you are telling me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:37 PM
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Now you are asking me how manipulation works
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:35 PM
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You are asking simple questions you should already know the answers to
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:35 PM
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Who says they don’t have character? Even then sometimes women will settle for a rich guy when they cannot find a man who does
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:34 PM
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I already did that
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:33 PM
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You don’t have the comprehension to even understand. Hell you are asking me simple questions like ‘how do rich men find a wife’
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:32 PM
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I don’t control the level at which you comprehend information
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:31 PM
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Then you would know that you aren’t speaking relative to reality
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:30 PM
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You don’t know what character even means
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:29 PM
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You won’t ever understand and I see that you don’t want to
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:28 PM
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I shouldn’t have to explain that to you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:28 PM
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I have everything figured out though, and you complain online about women? Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:27 PM
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You keep moving the topic to random things. Even if they have below average looks, if they have character they will not have any issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:23 PM
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They can like looks I didn’t say looks were irrelevant. Everyone has a standard in that sense. Your character is still the most important thing. Honestly what they have been trying to say for years
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:19 PM
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Someone with all of those things would have no issues in any capacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:16 PM
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That’s not relative to reality
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:16 PM
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Attraction has as much to do with your demeanor, composure, internal security, mentality, values, authenticity, integrity, understanding, self respect, emotional availability than anything. Assertiveness and Empathy aren’t binary extremes. Vulnerability isn’t equal to insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:14 PM
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You can’t help people who refuse the help, take offense to it and constantly deflect blame. If that’s the case my advice is to stop intaking the bullshit on social media and start looking inward for the answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:02 PM
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It should have already been done honestly. Yes, you develop it through your decisions and the way you carry yourself everyday. The likelyhood that they start making different decisions? That’s another thing
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 12:55 PM
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The way they are has been wired deeply into their brains through neuroplasticity, they have avoided growth upto this point. What is the likelyhood that anything changes? And you do develop it through life, that’s upto the decisions you make.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 12:47 PM
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I never had any issues. Too much I would have to explain to you and I doubt you would understand it. Shouldn’t tell someone how to be anyways, they either are or they aren’t
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 12:39 PM
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Being a ‘nice’ guy isn’t much character, being afraid to be yourself or have a backbone, overpraising people for no objective reason to try and secure affection? Respect yourself more than that. Yes men should control their anger. If you can’t control your own emotions and internal state how will you ever understand a woman’s. Women who naturally respect you aren’t typically angry,
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 12:32 PM
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What’s the double standards. Men don’t have to do a damn thing to get dates if they have actual character these women are just fucking with you because you don’t. If you want the honest reality. Though they don’t find many men who do,
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 12:22 PM
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Don’t expect them to ever learn if they are 25+ they are who they are at this point. They’ll sit there and do everything they can to avoid character and growth just to continue complaining. Whatever you think most often becomes who you are honestly, and what do they sit there thinking all day. Value is a personal opinion and a concept relative to scarcity. Women don’t want reactive men, hiding behind scripts, with fake composure, and deep rooted insecurities. Who would have imagined that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 12:17 PM
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Letting your affection be bought in anyway is lacking moral fiber and self respect. Regardless of if it’s early surface level attention, money, or scripted words. Most men don’t ? Most men wouldn’t ?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 01:41 PM
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I have done that and have done so since 18 years old, Understood them for who they truly are- Adored & Loved that version of them. The way they attempt to fit in on the surface represents something but still that’s not the same. Even just naturally at that point I adore their style of art, music ect in a sense too because I love them and it’s a reflection of who they are. I never had to show that affection, I did it out of choice because I wanted to. I did nothing but be myself, which means also…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:39 AM
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A man who can't regulate his own emotions and internal state will never be able to understand a woman's. Volatile reactivity is a declaration of incompetence
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:05 AM
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People actively avoid growth in every way they can just so they can continue to complain. Seems to me most men are too afraid of their own emotions to even manage them. You can instantly tell a lot about someone by how reactive they are to simple things.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:49 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:16 PM
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My comment was removed for some reason. https://preview.redd.it/zokbs50synch1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=75d1eb65a0532f4f35a04fe7b13f784d0f2680ad
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:53 PM
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They hide behind fear and insecurities and wonder why it doesn’t build any romantic chemistry. Think they have to become abusive to attract women because they see other men having ‘success’ within that, which those men are just insecure as hell aswell trying to fill a void. Abuse always creates resentment overtime. They are too scared to be themselves. Thing is using manipulation continuously admits to your subconscious that you believe who you are is not good enough to obtain what you want in l…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:44 PM
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Forsure alot of these men are fairly delusional, they think women like mean and abusive. Women want to actually feel something. They act ‘nice’ and wonder why it doesn’t build romantic chemistry. There’s plenty of ways to create authentic tension and you can do so while having integrity. They never will hiding behind fear and insecurities though
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:30 PM
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What’s a good man in your opinion? ‘Nice’ guys who act overpraising and have no backbone in an attempt to buy affection? Men who hide who they are behind personas and manipulation to try to manufacture a false sense of chemistry? If that’s the two prevalent choices, what is the good one Authentic men who have internal security, confidence, composure and integrity is what I’d consider to be so. Does that heavily outway anything? Seems to me integrity alone is one of the rarest things on earth now…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:00 PM
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To be truly loved you have to be yourself aswell not hide behind manipulation and personas. They complain it doesn’t work and that women should lower their standards? If they carried themselves in the correct way already they wouldn’t have any issues. Let alone why are they trying to force interactions to work, things develop naturally. Trying to make someone do something means nothing just shows compliance and builds resentment, someone doing what they do out of their own love and respect for y…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:19 PM
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What you think most often becomes who you are. Is this really what you want? Algorithms are destroying people. Stop caring about the bullshit online, start being yourself. Develop your own security and integrity. Don’t try to extract it from others. Let things happen naturally by being you. I have never had any issues. Yeah it is pretty disgusting when people constantly attempt to use for you sex ect while hiding behind personas instead of viewing you as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:22 AM
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I don’t know. You become what you do, your actions, decisions, the way you carry yourself and how you react to things. Hiding behind manipulation and playbooks, that isn’t real chemistry. You don’t grow in anyway. You just subconsciously admit to yourself who you are isn’t good enough. Sitting there with thoughts in your mind everyday, over and over that women hate men this that, they won’t like me they are all bad, they don’t care. What the hell will become of your reality?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:29 AM
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Yeah I “wonder” maybe I’m just different. Like it’s so impossible to understand women. I’ve never had any issues https://preview.redd.it/awra0atoyich1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3a2f8334a848e1603d53902ddfaa232a02d1fde4
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 04:05 AM
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They are supposed to become men, but what’s going on nowadays https://preview.redd.it/ed83618sxich1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8ba715d15cde7088657b1f23a016293a68b0f42f
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 03:59 AM
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Do you believe that because that’s the only way you sexually turn a woman on personally? Well, I should say think you do Competence is attractive, you think they are getting aroused when they grab some money out of their own bank?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:42 AM
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That’s the point. You think women’s dating efforts are entirely about money? When they can’t find someone they want and these men are so easy to manipulate I assume, why not
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:07 AM
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Women tend to want to feel safe around a man and have one who can lead naturally. You are asking why men don’t find a woman taking care of them financially and leading attractive? Interesting concept. Either way I assume there are men who do, a woman owning a home ect may make them feel some way. Money is a human want not a gender one
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:56 AM
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Someone will give you attention in a few different forms if they find you attractive but that doesn’t mean attention = attraction. You pay attention to your friends, when you’re learning, watching something. Showing decency or that you care what someone says.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:46 AM
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Stop being average then I don’t know what to tell you. Work on your Composure, Integrity and Internal Security. The other traits follow. Nobody can do it for you. Average today isn’t average of the past, social media fractured that. First step is to stop crying on the internet and believing everything you see
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:11 AM
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Authentically, usually
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:50 AM
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I genuinely wish.. it’s even more fucked up I can’t even speak about it without being hated aswell but that’s fine
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:24 AM
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I have a genuine fucking issue.. anytime I start talking to a woman even just at the start they want to spend all day everyday with me. Not that it’s bad they love being with me but damn. I go do my own things anyways. Tell them they should do other things they want aswell “I’m already doing what I want” I know but come on now.. flirt back one time now I gotta break their heart. Can’t just be friends, can’t see how they are as a person before advancing just.. I don’t know anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:13 AM
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Have you talked and interacted with women in real life or just get your information from online. Either way they respond to how you are as a person. Maybe all of the performing and faking is the damn issue, instead of just being yourself. You can still express romance and be playful ect within your own personality. Yeah when all these women are finding is men trying to extract ego from them instead of understanding them are you really surprised they look for something else. They have interest fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:36 PM
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I have plenty making advances all the time and don’t sleep with them what’s the point? Now what. I have nothing to prove within that. One woman is good
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:33 PM
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Back with your delusions I see
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:31 PM
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I have plenty making advances all the time and don’t sleep with them what the fuck is the point? Now what. I have nothing to prove within that I already know who I am. One woman is good
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:27 PM
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Modern and Social media fractured them. Their internal security, concepts of reality, emotional regulation, reactivity, absorbed mentalities constant diversions. Seems to me most men are too afraid of their emotions to even manage them. If they can't even manage their own emotions how are they supposed to take care of a woman's. Most devastating line for them 😂 If they get reactive and argue it they prove the point
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:16 PM
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I don’t mind labels but they mean nothing to me. I don’t play games, I give them my authentic thoughts and feelings, things that cannot be taken back. Honestly, let people show you how they feel. If they like you that damn much they wouldn’t want anyone else. Labels are fine, but I don’t do the things I do because of them. I do them because of who I am. I understand the status aspect, and how they want other women to be jealous that comes anyways. I don’t feel a need or want to sleep with random…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:35 AM
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The dictionary definition of Romantic chemistry is - a strong mutual attraction, attachment or sympathy My own definition is (Compatible Energy + Tension = Romantic chemistry) Tension without compatible energy = Threat/Awkward Compatible energy without tension = Friend I try to help other men understand all of it but it doesn’t seem it gets through to them. I don’t mind but I want other people to experience relationships with chemistry and depth aswell. I was this way at 19 years old, I went int…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:52 PM
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What do they tell you online, that women like toxic guys, don’t text back right away do this, tell them you have a girlfriend this that and all the bullshit. It’s all lies, they are telling you to play a damn game 😂 I got other shit to do, believe whatever you want
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:28 PM
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What’s the woo woo lmfao. All I do is be myself. Yeah I was having multi year relationships since I was 19 with women in their mid 20s who would do anything for me by following the fake things online. What I told you is nothing like the diversions you see online
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:21 PM
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I think you are extremely delusional. Keep believing everything you read on twitter
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:12 PM
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My own life shatters what you say entirely but fine. You don’t want anything. Keep living with the defeatist mindset
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:09 PM
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Okay dude. Believe that if you wish I really don’t care it’s your own life. Renaissance men who were warriors and poets were fiction too right. Your mind seems fairly corrupted, the issue is the rampant insecurity today which is driven by media. You think back then they had time to make up problems. Tolerate 😂 I’m starting to feel bad for you man
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:02 PM
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This isn’t a game. I told you reality. I’ve won in life by not playing any of them. But by all means, continue down the same path, see where it brings you. I’m not telling you to do anything, it’s upto you to come to your own conclusions. After coming to this throughout my life, I’ve came to another conclusion. What do women read in romance: an Integrated man with immense strength and his own mission, but the integrity and internal security to also allow that strength to be used for protection a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 09:34 PM
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After coming to this throughout my life, looking at why my relationships went so well.. and the issues the majority of people are having. I’ve come to another conclusion, this is what women read about in their romance, along with what high value men in the Renaissance era were, without modern media destroying their minds. An integrated man who possesses a high capacity for formidable power with his own mission, but whose integrity allows that raw power to also be used for protection and romance
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:46 AM
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Forsure, because I know I wrote it myself. You can be mad at me all you want, I’m just trying to help. AI wouldn’t even speak in that way with the guardrails. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:05 AM
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They only spit out the concepts that they draw from information already present and prevalent. Go ask AI, what do women want all day see where it brings you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:37 AM
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You think AI would ever tell you this? I know it because of my own life. Those quotes at the end are completely real
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:33 AM
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The information is all here for whenever you want it It’s all about tension, chemistry and energy. Men who are “mean” manufacture shallow tension, it breeds resentment overtime. But it is still a form of tension. Though tearing someone down for your own security is still, a form of weakness. “Nice” guys are weak aswell, they are afraid to stand within their own agency, or speak reality on what they want and use covert manipulation to try and buy affection and attention. They produce very minimal…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:50 PM
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I know everything. And I can tell you these men don’t know a damn thing 😂 Social media is fucking the mind with diversion and fracturing the internal security of people
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:34 PM
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I’m used to it man, I understand you can’t really say “positive” things online without egos clashing. Gets tiring having to water everything down or stay detached to avoid cynicism
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 04:23 AM
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When you love someone for who they truly are, they start to love themselves in that same way. Most men spend their entire lives using manipulation to try to manufacture submission. That only breeds shallow compliance and resentment. Natural defense of the universe. Safety does not mean just empathy. You can only get something real when you give something real. When you give them authenticity their desire to pleasure flows naturally as a passionate expression of love, respect and gratitude. They …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 03:08 AM
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Ofcourse, money is what they go after as a secondary form of security and safety when they cannot find a man who produces real chemistry, emotional safety, and authentic romantic tension. And y’all are failing I’ll say that 😂 Social media is fucking your minds
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:09 AM
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If you really want the truth, fine. 99% of men are insecure as hell and that forms into either toxic manipulation and detachment, or covert over praising/no backbone which is another form of manipulation, a desperate attempt to buy affection while not staying true to themselves. Both come from chasing a negative ego which is bred in insecurities. They refuse to observe what’s really happening within themselves, think emotions are weakness or a tactic to use and resent women because they aren’t c…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 03:41 AM
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I have the truth if you really want it but I promise most will not like it;
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 03:33 AM
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As if most men don’t want money, attention, validation on the surface. I think that’s just the average human dynamic in 2026
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:01 PM
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I may aswell lay it all out there. Also remember not all women are the same. Here’s what I’ve come to within my own reality and lived experiences What we see from most men nowadays is either someone who is assertive, controlling, and emotionally detached, or someone who is passive, eager, and over validating. Never coming to the conclusion that they want someone with a mix of Assertiveness, Empathy, and Integrity. Empathy without Assertiveness is just another form of manipulation and a desperate…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 10:51 AM
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I mine aswell lay it all out there. What we see from most men nowadays is either someone who is assertive, controlling, and emotionally detached, or someone who is passive, eager, and over validating. Never coming to the conclusion that they want someone with a mix of Assertiveness, Empathy, and Integrity. Empathy without Assertiveness is just another form of manipulation and a desperate tactic to buy affection as you aren’t staying true to yourself. They wan’t to be chosen and loved for who the…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 10:09 AM
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Ofcourse lol. I’ve had family friends, significantly older women, friends girlfriends try to get with me and I’m not talking about subtle hints. I’m not dealing with that shit. I don’t have to do that and have more integrity anyways. I just want peace and genuine connection man, even just to be friends with women but no. They will respect your wishes on the surface doesn’t mean they will beable to help it and stop sending hints. Honestly exhausting. It seems it doesn’t compute that I don’t want …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 02:08 AM
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99% percent of people are insecure honestly, and chasing negative egos. I feel bad for these women though because a majority of them actually do want an authentic connection and men play on their insecurities and don’t stay true to themselves. Women can feel energy and they can sense something is off, but when it’s all they ever find they don’t expect anything else and give into it craving a human feeling of connection. They may be aware and do so for validation and attention, either way. Have I…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 10:20 PM
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A majority of young guys are reactive and insecure. They often try to use the same emotional manipulation tactics but fail because they lack the emotional maturity to understand a woman’s feelings or control their own reactions. Younger women frequently mistake an older man's calculated emotional control for genuine maturity. Given that the typical 18-to-22-year-old is still navigating intense personal insecurities and lacks the life experience to recognize a healthy, balanced adult dynamic, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 09:25 PM
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You likely felt and wanted to do so out of insecurities. When you are secure in yourself you don’t go around sleeping with everyone you can, you look at it through a form of deeper connection. People are trying to prove something to themselves a majority of the time. And the older woman takes advantage of that. You can enjoy the dynamic, when you feel like you are obtaining validation that’s not surprising to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 09:20 PM
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It’s not assumptions, it is extremely likely in today’s age, that 18 year old woman have insecurities and aren’t completely in tune with their emotions. A fetish for older men at that level is based in insecurities. Also the older guy is extremely likely not being authentic or trying to build true chemistry, why are they getting with someone at that age, looks. Why are they going after their looks, ego and image of the self. I highly doubt it’s about authentic chemistry based in love 99% of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 09:00 PM
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More than likely, most 18 year old women have insecurities don’t have experience with the dynamics of how good relationships are supposed to be at an older age. The men don’t want genuine connection most use a persona which is a form of manipulation, to try to extract a false sense of security from them.. ego boosts, surface level gratification, momentary desires. Where is the connection? Ask yourself what do you want from them. When I was 19 I dated 23 year old women, 99% of 18 year olds weren’…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 08:51 PM
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Well considering they are most likely doing so because of insecurities and the man is very likely using a persona and therefore a form of manipulation, to create false feelings just to obtain a boost to the ego and surface level gratification, yes. If you truly believe you can be close on an emotional level in an authentic way without games fine, wait most men think understanding someone’s emotions is weakness. You can never truly understand someone anyways when you are chasing a negative ego. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 08:44 PM
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The ones who date 18 year olds, who says they wouldn’t go lower if it was legally allowed, they likely would. My beliefs you should be similar age just through a concept of eternal love and creating a connection and bond, memories together. I’m 25 and the youngest I’d date is 22 more than likely and oldest 32, anything else and we aren’t at the same spot in life. I’m not the same as I was when I was 18, I grew into my tendencies and develop them more yes. But I have much more insight and control…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 08:35 PM
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You know what’s truly elite? A man with a mix of assertive lead, effective empathy, initiative drive and integrity. Even more so developing or having those traits while being physically attractive. Ego games prevent genuine connections. Can you manipulate and use someone’s insecurities to achieve surface level gratifications, fine. Not something to be proud of or brag about. Those who do are just chasing a fleeting feeling that will never bring them genuine happiness, it’s an addiction. It will …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 09:49 AM
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Respect is something you give because of who they are, decency is something you give because of who you are. Also forsure the energy you emanate into the world is what you receive back. Saying there’s no bad/good people is genuinely insane to me, their past and neural pathways make them behave the way they do but still, they are that form. I don’t just going around using people because I have nothing within that to prove to myself, I already know who I am. The ego games prevent genuine connectio…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 09:22 AM
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Respect is something you give because of who they are, decency is something you give because of who you are
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 09:20 AM
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Here’s my observed and lived reality as a 25 year old man, you don’t have to agree. it’s just what I believe to be true. Women do want to be chosen, and they want to be loved for who they are as a person. Ego games prevent genuine connection. The way women flirt, eye contact, energy, tone of voice are the very things that build chemistry. In my opinion women want someone with a mix of assertiveness, empathy, integrity, and initiative. Money isn’t what women truly care about it’s just a secondary…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 07:41 AM
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Empathy without assertiveness is still manipulation. Is that nice ? Stay true to yourself. Quit chasing bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 07:11 AM
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They fail to understand alot. Women do want to be chosen, and they want to be loved for who they are as a person. Ego games prevent genuine connection. The way women flirt, eye contact, energy, tone of voice are the very things that build chemistry. In my opinion women want someone with a mix of assertiveness, empathy, integrity, and initiative. Money isn’t what women care about it’s just a secondary form of safety when they cannot find that. Empathy without assertiveness is still manipulation. …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 06:13 AM
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