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You don't make it clear if you are talking about locals, other tourists or both. Thailand is a great place anyway, apart from the romantic side.
/r/seduction28/07/26 05:48 AM
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I'm not sure I understand your question. If you mean what you wrote: Does the fact you're worried about it make you look bad? Yes it does. As would overcompensating deliberately telling her about the other girl. If you mean: I'm worried about the answer to the following question: Does it make me look bad that I dated another girl? No not really. She can't expect exclusivity before you've been physical together. Just set up another date with the one or ones you want.
/r/seduction19/07/26 04:39 PM
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Don't do anything panicky because she saw you, or may have seen you. You haven't done anything wrong. If she wants to go exclusive then she needs to move things along. She doesn't get to hang a reserved sign on you on the first date. It's reasonable for her to ask that after sex (and up to you to decide if that works for you) but not before.
/r/seduction19/07/26 01:26 PM
3

He'll toughen up a bit after he gets exploited by a girl and then be fine. About the wider question, yes game is (or would/should be if it were discovered/taught/learnt/done perfectly) by definition the optimal approach, but women have agency and make choices too. Some girls who like him "scored" by getting him. Maybe their game was good. Maybe they are exceptions in some way and are not typical of the target mass of women that conventional "game" is optimized for. It's also possible that the th…
/r/seduction17/07/26 01:02 AM
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You don't. The aim is to find at least one or two who are interested and have sexual intercourse with them.
/r/seduction16/07/26 07:01 PM
11

I agree with her possibly or even probably having buyer's remorse, but why should he optimise his strategy for that possibilty when he's basically lost whatever he does? For ego reasons? He should act on the basis of making the move that would be best if he still did have a chance. Yes he may well not get a replay but he should shoot his shot, same as we woukd advise himbif it were the first time.
/r/seduction28/06/26 09:19 PM
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The other 55 percent is absolutely not uniform and will include other western countries too. How would you write advice for people from non-western countries? Does the same advice work even in within different parts (city vs village, high caste vs low caste) of the culture of even one non-western country?
/r/seduction28/05/26 09:53 AM
3

Go to classes or drop out. Decide that first.
/r/seduction21/04/26 09:18 AM
1

What kind of a pub is it, what kind of girls are you looking to approach and what are you like yourself (age, accent, fitness)?
/r/seduction11/04/26 10:54 PM
2

There is/was the same dynamic in other systems too. "Feudal lord but can't get a date" was never a thing, neither was "District commissar but can't get a date." It seems like human nature to assign more or less prestige to different people.
/r/seduction23/03/26 11:33 AM
1

The action I want him to take is to write his story in English in a way that makes sense. Right from the first word: wtf is a Ball Uptop?
/r/seduction26/02/26 05:52 PM
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Right. Who on earth upvotes these low quality unreadable posts?
/r/seduction26/02/26 08:15 AM
3

I'm different but upvoted as the upvote button is not meant to be agree/me too, but to curate a good mix of views in the conversation.
/r/seduction09/02/26 06:32 AM
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I agree with all your points but I'm not sure whether the guy you're replying to is saying what you think. "To be real man" could mean "Frankly," if we imagine commas either side of "man" or it could mean "To be a real man" if we imagine the indefinite article before "real". I just ignore the illiterate posts if I can't tell what the person wants to say.
/r/seduction05/02/26 11:33 AM
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That's not the question. We got a lot of play in Asia because of supply and demand. There are 4 billion Asians and at any given time, maybe (idk) a few million white people in Asia. It really wouldn't matter if only 5 percent of Asian women had white fever and 95 percent were not interested, we'd still be way outnumbered and it would still be a great place to visit. However, the average Asian woman has never in her life made a pass at a white man. It's also worth noting that perceived economic d…
/r/seduction29/01/25 08:32 AM
1

A childlessness tax was enforced in the USSR from 1941 to 1992; it was applied to childless men from 25 to 50 years of age The tax was income based, taking 6% of the childless person’s wages. Childless men is what I will draw your attention to. The article says "it was applied to childless men from 25 to 50 years of age and to childless women from 20 to 45 years of age. " Why did you cut the bit about the women? That isn't the same as "unmarried men only". Tip, next time you doctor a quote, try …
/r/seduction28/01/25 09:37 PM
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His latest post has a selective quote. The original USSR quote is "it was applied to childless men from 25 to 50 years of age and to childless women from 20 to 45 years of age. " He cut the bit about women.
/r/seduction28/01/25 09:27 PM
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The article says the Soviet Union had a tax on childlessness for men and women, not unmarried status. None of them apply explicitly to unmarried men only.
/r/seduction28/01/25 01:34 PM
1

Which communist country had that policy?
/r/seduction28/01/25 01:23 PM
1

My main girl is Ukrainian, and she didn't pull this one. There is maybe a bit of an expectation of gift giving, but you make them earn it, as you would with a western girl. Same applies as normal, you're the prize. If you want, you can do the origami flower. If she is expecting a wealth transfer just for meeting then tell her you don't need prostitutes. It's harsh, but you're doing her a favour if it helps her adapt.
/r/seduction28/01/25 01:19 PM
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Is thus online dating or social media stalking? In either case, though, she's not interested enough in you.
/r/seduction21/01/25 11:43 AM
1

Get a dictionary. Misogyny means you don't like women. Chauvinistic means arrogant. Other than that, most adults don't have careers, they have jobs. Family and children naturally get prioritised, particular by women, over meaningless jobs once the children come along. Stop labelling yourself and chill out. You'll find someone who fits together with you in the non-symetrical way you're looking for.
/r/seduction21/01/25 10:11 AM
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It's really hard. Other men from the MENA countries have really wrecked it for you. E Europe used to be pretty good till stories appeared in the papers about divorced fathers skipping the country with their kids, making their wives convert, and so on. If it's really just hook up on vacation, then pretend to be European, use a fake name, if you think you can pass.
/r/seduction20/01/25 09:06 AM
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Let me ask the question a different way. Have you made her aware you'd like to have sexual intercourse with her? If no, then don't do these friend dates. If yes, then your plan seems very forward but could work. If you don't have any better ideas then give it a go. Or are you saying she's been requesting you go over there for a while and you've been rejecting her?
/r/seduction17/01/25 11:22 AM
6

Try holding a guy's hand when you're next to him. He'll get the idea.
/r/seduction17/01/25 11:13 AM
2

First date at her place? Or is this just as friends?
/r/seduction17/01/25 11:06 AM
4

It's not the same mistake. It's a different one. I suspect you're friendzoning yourself. There is nothing wrong with being friends with a person who happens to be a girl, but if you want her sexually then ask her out on a date - and verbalize that it's a date. If I've misinterpreted and you are together (but don't have socials), then it's normal to talk when you're in the same physical location.
/r/seduction17/01/25 10:53 AM
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Maybe in a village or a high school, but in a place of any size how often do previous dates know each other and happen to show each other pictures of their potential dates and find they match? They can only read pre-selection (or lack thereof) by looking for confident versus needy behaviour.
/r/seduction23/12/24 03:16 AM
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I think we're more or less in agreement. Fwiw I wouldn't describe what you're talking about as being penpals.
/r/seduction04/12/24 04:22 PM
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It is harder to finish in this position. That's a feature, not a bug. Letting her take charge in this way extends the sex and gives me a bit of a rest, and lets her express herself too.
/r/seduction04/12/24 11:45 AM
2

Sorry, can you ELI5 the last sentence?
/r/seduction04/12/24 11:37 AM
2

Well like anything else you'd like to learn, you should read books about it. All of them will tell you that being pen-friends is a way to kill attraction.
/r/seduction03/12/24 01:32 PM
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What books have you read about dating? Texting is for setting up meetings, not for letting attraction dissipate through over-familiarity.
/r/seduction03/12/24 11:42 AM
1

Oh right. Sorry no idea about approaching girls outside of real life.
/r/seduction02/12/24 09:18 PM
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I agree with the guy who says lean into being French. Don't try to hide it. They will either like it or not, but you want to polarise anyway. I'd even say you have a bit of a pass with some of the social conventions others have to follow. You're French, so of course you're going to compliment attractive women because you can't control it (they imagine).
/r/seduction02/12/24 07:40 AM
1

I'm surprised nobody else mentioned this. What a terrible idea to mention she's been dating or messaging round the same office or that OP has been showing her pics to his friends. OP needs to learn discretion.
/r/seduction23/11/24 02:23 PM
1

If you didn't fix a time and place you didn't really have a date. I would just hit her up and say, "We should go on that date, how about Sunday 6pm at XY cafe?"
/r/seduction23/11/24 01:00 PM
1

Why would you comment on one of her stories? She isn't going to get turned on by pixels. Save it for real life.
/r/seduction19/11/24 12:46 PM
5

What is your actual aim in flirting? Are you trying to get the guys? The main thing in flirting is to enjoy the conversation with a person you are attracted to and enjoy being attractive. Make eye contact, copy body language. To get the guy, just go direct. Hold his hand, stand right next to him. Tell him to kiss you, or tell him to take you on a date. Most men and the vast majority of women have approach anxiety. If you can defeat that and be direct, then you have the pick of the men who don't …
/r/seduction19/11/24 08:49 AM
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I know I should be more picky and not have sex with unsuitable girls but I cannot resist Define "should". In answer to your question, you're only a few months in. At 45 after a long marriage I had two regulars - too busy rest of week - and was also doing the ex-wife from time to time. It was great. From my own experience: I wouldn't think this is a problem. It's addictive because it's "new". As it gets "old" you'll slow down, maybe even catch feelings for one of the less messed up ones, stop rep…
/r/seduction18/11/24 02:29 PM
2

I agree except the last sentence. How will they notice this? Should he go around telling randoms the story of how he turned down some woman they don't know?
/r/seduction13/11/24 02:44 PM
2

If you can work out when her periods are (because she tells you or because she just doesn't want to have sex with you every fourth week), then you can start skipping those ones. Otherwise, I would say this is just overcomplicating things. If you're long-term enough for this to be an issue, then there 101 other things that will also determine whether she feels attraction. If it's not artificial, like you're genuinely out of town for your parent's 30th wedding anniversary or a long-planned boys tr…
/r/seduction13/11/24 09:41 AM
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If you meet a girl at a club or a bar or a party, get her number, invite her for drinks or on a date or to your house, does that imply you just want to hookup? If she accepts the invitation, without clarifying that more is available, it implies she's willing to just hook up if that's all that comes of it. If she asks questions, then be honest, obviously, but there is no reason to make her verbally declare that she's sexual before she's been sexual. Let her declare it with her body.
/r/seduction13/11/24 09:09 AM
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Well, you shouldn't be confident that she'd like you if you have reason to think she'd like someone different. What would your reason be, though? Unfortunately, some people do expect to be treated badly. If her ex-husband used to hit her and then make up with her, it's hard to compete later with that emotional rollercoaster, so move on if she can't adapt to normal life. How old are you anyway? What most of the bad guys have that the good guys don't is confidence. You can have class but at the sa…
/r/seduction13/11/24 08:32 AM
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Right. If they're offended that you might think you have a chance with you then they don't respect you anyway, so it's no loss.
/r/seduction12/11/24 07:47 AM
12

You don't lose your girl, you lose your turn. If she wants kids and you don't, at least you know why she moved on. Maybe she'll reconnect, maybe she won't. But most likely not.
/r/seduction11/11/24 09:01 PM
1

Then move on.
/r/seduction11/11/24 12:35 PM
10

Is this like High School in the Central European sense meaning University? In answer to your question, read Models by Mark Manson.
/r/seduction10/11/24 10:23 PM
3

What is the difference between seeing and dating? Did you promise to be exclusive? Do you enjoy sex with her? Often the best thing is to just say you'd like to keep it as a strictly sexual thing. That's how you build up a roster of fwb.
/r/seduction09/11/24 09:45 AM
2

What culture? Don't ask. As usual with these, it's a big secret where in the world any of this is happening. Then, when OP doesn't like the answers, "culture" gets mentioned as a reason why he can just ignore the advice he was given.
/r/seduction09/11/24 08:52 AM
2

And no younger, more attractive black guys? In your hypothetical, I guess he'd still be dating the 25-y-o.
/r/seduction09/11/24 12:23 AM
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Right, exactly. He has a niche to himself most places in Eastern Europe, he is at home in Asia and presumably does well there, but he has neither in Australia (which I think is something like 10 percent East Asian depending where), so that would support my theory.
/r/seduction08/11/24 02:40 PM
1

Don't go for the kiss too early. Let the interest build and do it somewhere slightly less public than the dancefloor. Otherwise, you've got the idea. It's just the wordless version of what we do all the time.
/r/seduction08/11/24 11:16 AM
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DM if you come to Kosice. In Eastern Europe, there are often Vietnamese communities in the larger towns (originally dating from communism), which would interfere with his having a niche advantage. Some town of 10K inhabitants, with 200 female K-pop fans and 5 Asian men in total would be different.
/r/seduction08/11/24 08:54 AM
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Make your money when you're young, then geomax to somewhere that respects you. There is no race-blind country in the world. If you don't look like the majority/elite/girls' fathers, then the choice is either: 1) go to where you do, i.e., Asia. 2) go to somewhere you're so massively outnumbered you can fill a niche as the only Asian or one of the only ones. Moving somewhere where you represent part of an established minority is a terrible decision. You have some chance with other Asians of course…
/r/seduction08/11/24 06:33 AM
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Practically, your advice is all fine; it's wrong to assume it's media programming, though. When: 1) Most girls worldwide date exclusively within race and social class/caste and always have, 2) Most girls worldwide are looking for someone taller, bigger, and more connected and always have been, then any extra explanation that involves "no man, the media" is superfluous. I heard the same bullshit in reverse "Men only like breasts because the media told them to." from girls. It's always other peopl…
/r/seduction08/11/24 06:11 AM
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If you're an adult, then no, it isn't.
/r/seduction07/11/24 05:28 AM
1

That's terrible advice unless OP is in India or somewhere. Sex is something that adults do together, and nobody worthwhile is going to commit to someone they haven't slept with.
/r/seduction06/11/24 10:04 AM
5

Right. You don't lose your girl, you lose your turn.
/r/seduction06/11/24 08:55 AM
1

The likeminded individual you're meant to connect with is the girlfriend (or fwbs) you find by doing this. It's not meant to be an end in itself. Casual sex is nice when it happens, but it's not worth begging on the street for. At least not on an intensive basis. You should have plenty of girls from the previous ones who want teplays. Otherwise, something is wrong somewhere.
/r/seduction05/11/24 11:24 AM
2

What happened when you went for the kiss at the end of the date that made it turn into just a hug?
/r/seduction29/10/24 06:14 PM
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The theory is that if she's interested, she'll suggest an alternative date. A move I played one time was "So cancel your orher plans and come to lunch with me instead." It worked (ate the lunch, banged the girl, re-establishing the ex with benefits situation), but it's too far out of my personality to do on a regular basis.
/r/seduction27/10/24 03:43 PM
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Exactly this.
/r/seduction26/10/24 08:33 PM
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It means you don't have sexual intercourse with her. These guys who want to stand in the street looking for numbers instead of sex are weird and should be banned from this subreddit.
/r/seduction26/10/24 08:33 PM
1

The concept exists or not in anyone's head. The concept has descriptive power in a situation where there are betas to behave beta-like to an alpha. Personally, I find in the workplace that American employees interact with me in this beta-alpha mindset, but my British employees don't. So analysing a British workplace in terms of those dynamics would be less productive than analysing an American workplace like that. For girls, they pick us mostly. If you're not finding that then either you haven't…
/r/seduction26/10/24 08:30 PM
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The term, including as applied to people, is much older than that. Here are a sample of 20th century books. Before I restricted it to 20th century there was also a 2006 book on working with alpha males in the workplace https://www.google.com/search?q=%22alpha+male%22&lr=lang_en&sca_esv=07e2cc3bd5ec588b&tbs=lr:lang_1en,cdr:1,cd_min:1900,cd_max:1999&tbm=bks&prmd=ivbn&sxsrf=ADLYWIJpL-m_QG7rEtwq2wNLn6O_tvEkZA:1729952818667&source=lnt&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwj-lfC5oKyJAxUbwAIHHe_ICRYQpwV6BAgCEBs&biw=134&bih=…
/r/seduction26/10/24 02:31 PM
1

Where are you seeing him in action? I'm mostly reading between the lines of news reports. Does he post infields or are you talking about characters he plays in films? (If so fine, just asking) Both seem to have bags of confidence.
/r/seduction25/10/24 06:48 AM
48

Right. I wonder if he'd recommend rambling in this girlish manner instead of getting to the point when on a date.
/r/seduction23/10/24 10:54 AM
14

Doesn't Russell Brand just leverage his fame? He has total belief the woman wants him, which is of course getting him into trouble now. You can copy the confidence (dial it down to stay out of jail), but copying the fame is harder. For films, American Gigolo is pretty good. There really aren't many that deal with male attractiveness without being gay or comedic. "There's a Girl in My Soup" is fun and obviously the guy has less to work with. James Bond is obviously the answer to any question abou…
/r/seduction22/10/24 06:47 AM
1

In which country? Which country are you from?
/r/seduction11/10/24 06:40 AM
1

But you're saying they treat dating as relationships so as the same aren't you?
/r/seduction08/10/24 01:26 PM
1

Sorry, what is very different from what?
/r/seduction08/10/24 12:24 PM
1

Just going off what you said. She wanted something that you think should be reserved for a special person.
/r/seduction08/10/24 11:46 AM
1

She signalled she wanted more after the second date, you didn't give it because you consider it immoral and therefore consider her immoral.
/r/seduction08/10/24 11:38 AM
1

You rejected her after the second date and before the third date.
/r/seduction08/10/24 11:32 AM
1

What kind of Englishman are you? More Hugh Grant or more like Ross Kemp? It's going to make a big difference. I thought "Colin" was a reference to the guy in Love Actually who goes to the US and does pretty well.
/r/seduction07/10/24 07:34 AM
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You don't always get to know. Often, they find someone who wanted a deeper relationship.
/r/seduction07/10/24 07:29 AM
1

Aren't publicly accessible Instas the way girls make contacts for "yachting" and stuff like that? If that doesn't bother you, get some photos with hired cars and so on and make them an offer by DM.
/r/seduction06/10/24 04:33 PM
0

Apart from what other people have already said, get a robot vacuum cleaner (laser so it can find its way home ok) and set it to run regularly so it can never get out of hand. Gent Z has two things worth watching on his youtube channel about cleaning and also about preparing for a lady visit (one or two things there like having female-specific hygiene products even if you don't have a daughter are overdone so take it as inspiration rather than instruction). Having the main TV opposite the bed is …
/r/seduction06/10/24 06:44 AM
1

The seduction dance in Walkabout obviously.
/r/seduction05/10/24 03:10 PM
1

In some countries people don't look after themselves so they start to lose it as soon as they are no longer forced to do sport at school and eat properly. If that isn't you, it isn't set in stone that there has to be much of a decline at all. It's mostly incels and godcels who decide (or rather claim they would decide) based on body count. It's true though that women who are past 30 and are not in a relationship often have a bad experience behind them, such as being cheated on, but it varies to …
/r/seduction02/10/24 10:53 AM
1

Seems more like things are looking up finally.
/r/seduction28/09/24 07:53 AM
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How old are you? Got nowhere till I was 22 (except one girl who fell from the sky for an hour when I was 17). After 22, ridiculously attractive women. Girls like boys who fit in, women like men who stand out. That doesn't mean you shouldn't do stuff under the general category of "being your best self" though.
/r/seduction27/09/24 07:09 PM
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If the genders were reversed, you'd never get money out of her. If it feels more wrong not to pay than it feels wrong to pay, you can do it, even though this group won't like it.
/r/seduction25/09/24 09:23 AM
3

The question is, what should he grow a pair of?
/r/seduction09/09/24 10:55 AM
1

I would use the first week at university to set yourself up as best as possible socially for the next three years. Letting your old life live rent-free in your head is a bad idea. That means don't check your old group chats more than once a day, don't spend your time trying to get cool photos for the group chat and don't let this bet from your old life affect in any way your interactions with people in your new life.
/r/seduction26/08/24 10:23 PM
1

Just try to get her as normal. If she mentions the boyfriend say, "Break up with him and date me." Either she does or she doesn't. LDR are not real relationships anyway and if she's already slept with you, she's just about worked that out herself. She sounds like a drama queen, though.
/r/seduction26/08/24 06:58 AM
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Be very direct. It sounds as if you enjoyed your time with him and you would like him to take you out again. So, text "I enjoyed our time together. Would you like to take me out again?" (note that your message is clear and contains a question he can easily respond to). You might have to lead more than you're used to and you have to be patient. Getting any man to fall in love with you is not something you can order off amazon, and with a man on the spectrum it's going to be harder but potentially…
/r/seduction25/08/24 11:56 PM
1

Friends, and friends with benefits are at opposite ends of the spectrum. Fwb is primarily a type of sexual relationship.
/r/seduction24/08/24 05:40 PM
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If you're not having sex with her, you have so far failed to seduce her. It sounds like you are friendzoning yourself. When she says she wants someone like you, she's either hinting or playing at being cruel. Assume the first, reply "Good. Come to my place this evening at 8pm for wine and film." If she backs out then next.
/r/seduction24/08/24 11:41 AM
2

James Bond is formal around girls. I suspect your problem is more being overly quiet and shy.
/r/seduction23/08/24 04:29 PM
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I'm now friends with a girl that i was hoping to turn into a fwb but i fear she's falling for me. Are you having sex with her? They always break up, or someone catches feelings, or someone dies of old age. None of those are real problems, as long as you enjoyed it while it lasted. Don't "date" them once you've slept with them, keep it to sex only if that's all you want, and they will be less likely to get confused. But she has to look after herself and her own feelings too.
/r/seduction23/08/24 04:26 PM
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Fwb is a misnomer in most cases. They aren't usually persons in your friend group with whom you have sex (although I have a friend like that who bangs me sometimes with her husband watching). Far more often, it's just a term for an extremely casual, non-exclusive, sexual relationship. If you do the friends thing properly and also have sex then it's pretty much the same as a real relationship. My go-to is to invite them over to my place for dinner or a film, they know why I'm inviting them and th…
/r/seduction23/08/24 08:25 AM
1

Are these girls you've met in real life? Do you try to set up real-life meetings?
/r/seduction20/08/24 07:46 AM
1

Ok, what were those reasons? Did she shut down the idea or did you?
/r/seduction19/08/24 09:45 PM
0

No mystery here. You walked her home then didn't want to bang her. You wanted instead to hang next week. Why should she let you waste more of her time?
/r/seduction19/08/24 09:23 PM
2

Not sure why the hate. If a woman in our age group doesn't have kids, then there's some kind of problem, usually mental. Then if they're dating, they're either cheating or single.
/r/seduction18/08/24 04:24 PM
2

The first one reframe as, "What? Don't you like sex?" and let her qualify herself that she does, then she's playing catchup. She needs to know you're a bad boy who isn't going to judge her for letting you take her knickers off. If she genuinely thinks sex is bad, then it's time for "next".
/r/seduction16/08/24 09:00 AM
2

If I already invited a girl over for dinner and we had sex, next time, I will invite her over for "dinner" not "sex" or some meme like ".... and chill". So that would be a case of emotions clear, but words indirect. I rhink it's often a good combination. When on holiday, "come and I'll show you my hotel room" is nice. I'm middle-aged, British, educated, so this maybe this is just something that fits me personally.
/r/seduction16/08/24 08:55 AM
14

Don't be a pen friend. Suggest a time to meet up and watch something at your place or hers. If she needs to talk she has female friends, or she can talk with you in bed afterwards.
/r/seduction15/08/24 06:12 AM
10

What does it mean to say "it doesn't work", are you saying she will choose to spend time with him over you? If so, it still "works" as it filters out a girl with low interest level. Of course if you try to "seduce" all the time you can get boring. If you want to do a friend thing with these two people from the hostel then have fun, but it's not about seduction.
/r/seduction14/08/24 10:14 PM
1

You don't think she's green-lighting you to quietly go elsewhere, don't ask, don't tell? Obviously, you were there and heard how she said it.
/r/seduction13/08/24 01:19 PM
1

Is long straight hair still attractive on girls? Yes, and it always has been. Fashion is fun, but attraction doesn't depend on "flavour of the month" beauty standards - though those standards may temporarily license something unusual.
/r/seduction12/08/24 07:44 AM
1

Americans don't really express themselves in the same way we do, so it's not that crazy. Good luck for college.
/r/seduction11/08/24 01:38 PM
2

This is all correct. I'd also add that when men meet another man through a woman they tend to be quite guarded and circumspect anyway, so you're probably not seeing these guys at their best.
/r/seduction10/08/24 07:41 AM
1

Of course they will say you're an f-boy. The question is, do they still want to come around? If you're not an f-boy who's "manipulating" her, then she has to start applying labels to herself, and the female-specific versions of f-boy are not nice because life is sexist. So let them do it how they want. You probably just aren't projecting the confidence to own this. I have a girl who is religious and often calls me a bad boy as she is taking off her Christian cross before bed. Bad boys are what t…
/r/seduction10/08/24 07:07 AM
1

That's interesting and very different to what most of us here know about. I'm English but have been away for a long time and I was really confused by how your English was more like mine than like someone's from further away but the environment you were describing was so different from England. Thinking about how in 1950s US, where sex was mostly within marriage, when culture became more sexualised with rock and roll, the statistics say that the marriage age fell through the floor, going as low a…
/r/seduction10/08/24 06:38 AM
2

That's the mystery solved then. People don't really commit to relationships where there hasn't been any sex. The place you're stuck is "early dating stage". You have plenty of time so don't worry too much about any of this. Just enjoy the interactions as they come. When you're regularly sleeping with a girl she will want to make it more official usually. Also interested to know where in the world final-year high schoolers don't have sex.
/r/seduction09/08/24 08:24 PM
5

she's mentioned that being the "only one" is burdensome to her. Surprised but not surprised everyone ignored this and just posted their usual copy paste stuff based off keywords in the question. Why do you think she said this? What was the context? How do you understand this?
/r/seduction08/08/24 11:32 PM
1

https://gifdb.com/images/thumbnail/casablanca-vive-la-france-hsgry4w7pjrlz0se.gif Appropriate
/r/seduction06/08/24 03:13 PM
3

Got it over with. You no longer need to have this hang up about it. Now, focus on improving yourself for yourself. When you get your life where you want it, a woman will probably want to join the party, and you don't need to be embarrassed about being a virgin any more so you won't be afraid of her. Let her show you what she likes.
/r/seduction06/08/24 02:55 PM
1

Well played.
/r/seduction06/08/24 12:48 PM
3

Offended isn't the right word (though I used it myself). She would take it as a compliment if you try and a disappointment if you don't (wtf doesn't this guy want me? Am I ugly?) even if she doesn't go for it immediately on a first date. These are all rules of thumb everyone is different.
/r/seduction05/08/24 03:08 PM
10

She's on a date with a foreigner because she's interested in something new, so don't change yourself too much. Europeans tend to be good conversationalists, so maybe you should read up on her interests in the French context (so for example if she is into politics it's not great if you don't know who the president of France is or think the president and prime minister are the same person, but don't use it unless it coes up naturally. Also, swing for a home run on the first date. She doesn't have …
/r/seduction05/08/24 06:50 AM
1

There is no point forcing yourself to engage in casual sex if you don't want to engage in casual sex. You're not doing it for anyone other than yourself. It sounds pretty normal. When you learnt how to get girls easily, you wanted to do it all the time, now you've got it out of your system you want to take a break. When you want it again, you can get another through online dating if it works for you. Or maybe you'll decide to go for a longer-term relationship. You mention gym. Do you have a real…
/r/seduction04/08/24 04:55 PM
1

What does it mean that she played you? She used you for money or attention/validation? You had a relationship and split up? If it's attention, take it as a compliment that she enjoyed talking to you and you enjoyed at the time talking to her. Men and women enjoy talking sexually to each other. It doesn't mean anything until she sleeps with you, but it's enjoyable enough that men not much older than you pay to have that kind of chat in hostess bars, and probably a few years ago you weren't gettin…
/r/seduction03/08/24 09:32 PM
1

Because they consider themselves to be at war with the "collective west", i.e. the countries where our friends, children and families live. Except when they cry about not having access to the creations of the west like the banking system and the Olympics. Pitiful.
/r/seduction27/07/24 02:14 PM
6

Well Donetsk is in Europe, so yes.
/r/seduction27/07/24 01:53 PM
1

You don't lose your girl, you lose your turn. There will be more when you're ready.
/r/seduction22/07/24 09:53 PM
41

You mean you're doing digital nomad and this is another customer of the same cafe also doing that? I would say the usual rules about workplaces don't apply here.
/r/seduction21/07/24 09:37 AM
1

And where are you from?
/r/seduction20/07/24 04:24 PM
3

Find ones who want to do language exchange. They teach you their language and you teach them English or your own language in return. The ones who take you up will be reasonably ok at least at English. I did this with Slovak back before they were in the EU when nobody spoke English properly. It's also better if you don't have a language in common with a girlfriend. No possibility for complaints and tests etc. I didn't have a language in common with my ex wife when I met her - it got more complica…
/r/seduction19/07/24 03:31 PM
3

Depends what experience you already have. If it's very low then it's probably worthwhile, yes. Depends what a date means, too. You shouldn't be doing a resource transfer by spending a hundred on some dinner for a girl at a place where neither of you would normally go outside of a dating context, and that applies especially strongly here.
/r/seduction18/07/24 08:18 AM
1

Compared to cold approaching a given random girl in a shopping centre (which is something a lot of the same people would recommend), your chances are, even now, way higher with this girl, and approaching her is way less weird and desperate, so I don't see what the issue is. You should obviously keep it casual and low pressure and see where it goes. Self respect is entirely subjective. Personally I would lose more from not taking a shot because I was afraid to lose self respect. In Asian "face" c…
/r/seduction17/07/24 11:24 AM
1

What does "move on" even mean? Should you consider yourself to be exclusive with this girl? No, you shouldn't. Do you lose anything other than ego by shooting her a casual message at the end of summer asking to meet up? Also, no, you don't lose anything, though it's odds against that anything comes of it. Some "alphas" of course can't bear losing ego to a woman, sorry to a "female", so they'd rather not write and find out for sure.
/r/seduction17/07/24 10:58 AM
4

I mean the first one where you think you said something stupid.
/r/seduction16/07/24 02:56 PM
4

What are the things he talks about?
/r/seduction16/07/24 02:49 PM
7

You ask about race. Are you the same race as the girls you are hitting on or different? Most girls only date within their race/social class/caste groups. That doesn't mean you can't try with others, of course, but don't beat yourself up about it if the results aren't great. What was the last message(s) you sent before the girl ghosted you?
/r/seduction16/07/24 02:47 PM
28

I heard a good one-liner once. Something like, "I wish I were a milllionaire so I wouldn't have to pay for sex anymore."
/r/seduction15/07/24 09:45 AM
2

Right. I got a lot of matches and a one year relationship when I first signed for badoo. Now I'm back and swiping everything reasonably attractive, even including two different scam profiles with the same picture of a Chinese girl (this in an Eastern European town, small enough for me to go through the whole stack of female profiles after about 6 times 50 swipes, with zero Chinese population). My profile obviously wasn't shown even to the scammers as even they didn't match me.
/r/seduction15/07/24 09:36 AM
1

It means exactly what it says, you're not fast objectively, you're intermediate speed, but that's too fast for her as she wants slow. Will other people be there at camping, not just the two of you? It could be terrible, it could be great but it'll be an experience hanging out with older people and I doubt you're going to say a couple of years down the line that you really want those four days back. In terms of this sub, this looks like low to medium interest from her, but it's only a wasted week…
/r/seduction14/07/24 10:10 PM
1

I think this is bad etiquette on her part. Call her out on it or don't. She may take it onboard or may take you out of rotation. If she does it face to face, I'd do the 5-year-old la la la, closed eyes hands over ears thing. Just say you think other partners are private.
/r/seduction14/07/24 01:41 PM
1

What stopped the kiss? Camping overnight? Sounds good. You can do the same trick with the 2 litres of ice and sparkling wine then too.
/r/seduction14/07/24 06:16 AM
1

Where are you from?
/r/seduction14/07/24 06:06 AM
1

Better looking girls on average. So your looks match would be someone better looking than it would be at home. Also westerners were perceived as richer, cooler, even exotic compared to locals. And if you struck out, you could at least pay somewhere. Adoption of western diet, sedentary lifestyle, scrolling crap instead of doing things, following unflattering fashion and body modification trends from abroad, have contributed to a decline in the quality of girls. but it's still pretty good.
/r/seduction14/07/24 06:02 AM
2

Back in the day, being an unusual minority they'd never met, such as black was particularly polarising, so you could do very well out of their curiosity, but you'd also have to accept it was a dealbreaker for most. I've seen some absurd stuff like a 55-year-old broke black American I knew personally dating a stunning 25 year old. This doesn't really work in any kind of major town these days where you have a bunch of African students running bicycle deliveries for Wolt. It's just back to being th…
/r/seduction14/07/24 05:49 AM
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Learn Croatian for Balkan countries. Russian is only useful in Eastern Europe if you want to date over 50s who learnt it at school instead of English before 1989 Or Ukrainian refugees, of course, most of whom are from the Russian-speaking parts of Ukraine. EDIT. I would be interested in some feedback on why this is being downvoted.
/r/seduction14/07/24 05:36 AM
4

If she pre-empted the question as you describe, then she'd already decided, and there isn't some voodoo you can use at that moment to get inside and then get inside. Girls often have a script for how the relationship should go. They might rip it up for a hookup but not for a relationship as they genuinely think their script is the best strategy. Or she might just not like you that way. Or she might have just got her period and normally would have been amenable. But this sounds a lot like a girl …
/r/seduction13/07/24 11:20 AM
1

Is this after you've met in real life or before?
/r/seduction13/07/24 09:06 AM
1

How old are you? What is your your age/sex/location and cultural background? There is little point posting here without that information. Is there a reason to think your parents won't be positive?
/r/seduction13/07/24 04:43 AM
7

The concept of an official "date" is lame anyway. You're a man and woman enjoying doing something together. If afterwards you go back to her place to shower and do other stuff that men and women enjoy doing together, then so much the better. She may take the lead a bit more being older, but you can try holding her hand and go for a kiss at the end. Some kind of refreshing wipes may help. It's a bit late now, but in these cases, get a 2-litre bottle of water and freeze it. Bring a bottle of spark…
/r/seduction12/07/24 05:05 PM
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Lots of guys - Shakespeare wrote about it 400 years ago., it wad the same then. My theory though is that sometimes you can extend your comfort zone when drunk and some of that stays while sober, so you might not need to be drunk to approach a woman in a club next time. For those interested here's the quote from Shakespeare's Macbeth. If you're not interested you can stop reading here. "Lechery, sir, it provokes, and unprovokes; it provokes the desire, but it takes away the performance: therefore…
/r/seduction10/07/24 06:31 PM
3

You shouldn't have asked her number from her friend and the friend shouldn't have given it. You should have asked for it directly instead of creeping around. You don't say the type of social media she does but unless there's some genuinely valuable non beauty related content (like she's teaching bicycle maintenance or something) then the men among her followers who don't know her in real life are the lowest of the low. Those guys will be messaging her and giving her negative impressions of men i…
/r/seduction10/07/24 12:25 PM
1

She's trying to get a relationship delivered "to order" instead of building it herself. If you're not ready to open up, then don't do it for her entertainment. Also, you say you're "talking." This is what kids call being a pen friend pretty much. She shouldn't expect emotional intimacy before there has been physical intimacy.
/r/seduction10/07/24 05:54 AM
1

Yes sometimes if they're still able to function in society and thereby be respected. Obviously less so if they're just criminals.
/r/seduction09/07/24 05:16 PM
2

Society functions because people follow social norms and rules. What would happen if every man on earth became super confident and “bad boy” like over night? That isn't even hypothetical. Much of the third world is exactly like that, and their societies don't function, but in dating, there is definite 1st world privilege above and beyond the economic differences. I think its only a minority of women who want to date the lone wolf type rather than someone who is in more traditional leader, follow…
/r/seduction09/07/24 10:40 AM
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Mark Manson uses vulnerability in quite an unusual way. He doesn't mean being weak or trauma dumping. He actually means being invulnerable to others' opinions of you. Like you're not afraid to admit that you hit nothing when you went hunting at the weekend because you're a lousy shot. You're making yourself vulnerable to other people potentially making fun of you because ultimately you're invulnerable to that. So, it shows emotional strength. Not sure if she would be using vulnerability in the M…
/r/seduction08/07/24 11:59 PM
2

In between going down on her, I came up to kiss her a few times and usually would have tried to initiate sex, but since it was our first time, I waited for her to indicate interest. That she's wet is enough interest to try. Obviously, don't go through with it if she doesn't indicate consent by actively take part, like shifting position for you to do it and so on. Girls don't generally indicate interest verbally unprompted, they prefer to go with the flow more. If she's inexperienced, she may not…
/r/seduction08/07/24 11:39 PM
1

That's a good rule. The kind of thing that annoys me personally though is like when you take them to some old European city (like in Karlovy Vary we were in a 300 year old hotel), and they want to be photographed in front of every old building they see. But the entire city centre is old buildings. I'm not sure a promise if a later photoshoot would be a substitute for that. Showing themselves in the place to other people shouldn't take precedence over being in the place and experiencing it for th…
/r/seduction08/07/24 06:11 PM
9

Well first off, they're always thinking about content. They have to, they constantly need to upload to stay relevant. This means you often have to play the role of cameraman and record multiple takes of them doing random shit like in the case of the vegan influencer: walking into a restaurant, taking bites of food, etc. Honestly, normal adult women are like this these days. You go somewhere with them and you spend more time photographing them seeing the place than you spend seeing the place. It'…
/r/seduction08/07/24 02:41 PM
3

Why are you in this sub then?
/r/seduction08/07/24 09:50 AM
15

Watch old school British comedy. "Carry On" Films except the earliest black and white ones will be good. Obviously, don't slavishly copy lines from them; it's the mentality of seeing everything as a potential eyebrow-raising moment that you need to learn. As for the pattern. Imagine a girl says the exact line you posted above. Look at it and try to see something sexual somewhere. The mention of sexual innuendos is too obvious so you should let that fly over your head. Or not. You could double do…
/r/seduction06/07/24 08:01 AM
1

The guy at the top of this comment thread says that messages are for setting up real-life meetings. You said the girls respond that they want to waste time texting first. I don't understand what you need to initiate past that point. They already said they want to write to you. You respond saying that's fine if they want to write.
/r/seduction02/07/24 04:36 PM
2

Aren't they the ones who are suggesting they write instead of meet? You reply, saying what I said.
/r/seduction02/07/24 03:37 PM
4

If they can't express themselves grammatically, then texting with them would be painful. The answer, though, is to say you're busy, but it's ok if they want to write to you, and you'll try to reply here and there. Then, get busy trying to find people who want to meet up. The limited communication may cause her to want more.
/r/seduction02/07/24 01:34 PM
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Classic irregular verb 1st person singular I don't respond. 3rd person singular She ghosts. Remote communication is one situation where I would do what the books say. Just write back the standard response of "Ok, let me know when you want to hang out again." and accept that you probably won't get a second date. I don't see what advantages ghosting has over acting normal here. As other people say, following the book stuff in real life is too unnatural but over text it's fine. Your brotherly pecks…
/r/seduction02/07/24 11:26 AM
1

Pretty much everything for example mentioned by KingOnixTheThird is instinctive for most people in their own country and has to be actively studied if you go to a foreign culture (but properly foreign like US to Vietnam, not US to Germany). I know you mention that English is not your first language. As someone with Aperger's, you are a foreigner everywhere, including in your home country, so you need to make an active study of what body language signs mean what, just as you would if living with …
/r/seduction30/06/24 07:42 AM
12

If she asks, then tell the truth, including that you've come out of a 6-year relationship. But this whole situation (that you have time to ask how to respond) suggests to me that you are phone-zoning yourself instead of meeting in person and building attraction. You should not really be in a situation where they have time to think about it and ask this stuff.
/r/seduction26/06/24 03:17 PM
-1

Wouldn't a better question to ask to assess her capability of holding on to a long-term relationship be "What is your longest relationship?" Also, regarding STDs, does she ask you if you have a condom first time, or does she "go with the flow," and it's you who takes the initiative to use one? I get that you personally don't ask, but those that doask are really stretching for "acceptable" tangential reasons to ask when the real reason is they have a complex about being with someone more experien…
/r/seduction26/06/24 03:06 PM
1

If defined that restrictively, then it's not true at all that it's one of the two common paths men take.
/r/seduction26/06/24 10:51 AM
0

Thanks
/r/seduction19/06/24 06:58 PM
0

The Amazon self-description makes it sound like it isn't sure if it wants to describe how women are or if it wants to campaign for social change on terms of how women should be. Should I give it a chance?
/r/seduction19/06/24 01:24 PM
14

Are you from there or not? Like are you Georgian talking about picking up Russian tourists or something?
/r/seduction18/06/24 09:18 PM
2

No, but sluts don't want men who have confused, sorry "conservative", attitudes towards women and sex outside marriage and relationships when they can get men who have liberal attitudes. It depends where the guy is from and what tourists he's after, though. Certain places do work for this. Based on his post history, I'd also want yo know how he went dating in the US.
/r/seduction18/06/24 09:16 PM
4

Anything is possible, but generally if your society is hostile towards hook ups it will probably be relatively conservative and looked down upon by most tourists, perceived as unfriendly towards female sexuality, leaving you in a weak position as a male representative of that culture. It's hard to know if you keep it secret where you are or where the tourists are from, but generally, most tourists go abroad to hang out with other tourists from their home country or culture, and, depressingly, ke…
/r/seduction18/06/24 06:20 PM
0

Ate you in a white-majority country? How would you do in a black-majority country?
/r/seduction17/06/24 09:40 AM
0

I only partially agree. You will still have mathematically a top 10 percent, but if everyone is putting in work, then the differences would be closer. You would probably see fewer women keen to share top tier guys than at present.
/r/seduction16/06/24 03:30 PM
1

Go and see him. Ldr is not a relationship it's a waiting room. (Been there).
/r/seduction14/06/24 03:59 AM
1

I'd go with the don't shit whete you eat theory mostly, unless she really lays it on the table then go for it. Normally non-sexual interactions between men and women are unbalanced but you sound inexperienced so you will gain anyway from just talking with this girl.
/r/seduction12/06/24 05:59 AM
-1

That's pseudoscience. Go hawk it in a women's group.
/r/seduction11/06/24 05:38 AM
1

Don't stop, particularly if she's not complaining about it. If you're incompatible, you just are.
/r/seduction10/06/24 05:25 AM
4

Isn't it her who's using all the exclamation marks?
/r/seduction09/06/24 07:34 PM
0

Then get Bailey's to drink. This is not at your own place?
/r/seduction09/06/24 07:33 AM
2

Ask her if there's anything (local speciality?) she would like you to bring, just as you would do for a male friend. Or if she's mentioned something she misses I guess you could surprise her. Flowers is really bad. Like you're begging her to date you and rewarding something on her part that hasn't happened yet.
/r/seduction09/06/24 07:26 AM
2

What are your and her ages, nationalities, and social classes? Get red wine and a varied selection (different colours) of cheeses to go with it. Set out the cheese on a board or plate with some grapes. Try them together while you drink the wine. If she's coming over to relax, she's probably willing to go all the way. Gent Z has a youtube video on how to prepare your place for a woman coming over, so implement what you can of it. Particularly clean everything and fresh clean sheets.
/r/seduction09/06/24 07:20 AM
2

Right. How does this have plus 40 votes?
/r/seduction09/06/24 06:50 AM
1

Like others say, you're not exclusive, so continue to sleep with her if you want to or remove her from the rotation if you don't. She may well be picking up on your being over-invested and literally have needed space for that reason. Don't take her on dates. Invite her to your place to "chill" or to eat or something, then enjoy her physically. Then same next week.
/r/seduction09/06/24 06:42 AM
21

I think the "and people in general" is the key thing. Enjoy learning about people, about whatever topics they find interesting and the rest will follow.
/r/seduction07/06/24 04:36 PM
0

Right, the commonly listed signs of interest don't seem to mean much in my opinion.
/r/seduction06/06/24 07:54 AM
1

I agree generally. As they say, you don't lose your girl, you lose your turn. Having said that, post-relationship sex is fairly common too, but if you leave it long enough it's usually pretty clear that's all that is rather than a restart of the relationship.
/r/seduction05/06/24 05:24 AM
1

Pretty good in Slovakia. Bumble doesn't operate hete afaik, Badoo is that company's main brand.
/r/seduction02/06/24 07:28 AM
6

What do you put as your own "looking for"? My own theory on this is that the "looking for" is pretty meaningless, and relationships have to develop naturally. Long-term relationships are made out of short-term relationships that people don't want to end, and short-term relationships are made out of sexual attraction. You get some nutty girls who take it effectively as "I want a serious relationship, and you claim you do too, so we can skip the middle bit of building one." a notion you have to di…
/r/seduction01/06/24 06:24 AM
1

Honestly just say you only want sex from her. There are accepted and understood polite phrases for this, such as "We're moving fast and I don't want to get too serious." And just never do anything with her except invite her to "chill" at your place. Hopefully it will happily devolve into a fwb type situation but if it doesn't then shecwill leave if she doesn't accept your terms. She may actually feel the same way. Particularly if you're both relatively young.
/r/seduction01/06/24 06:18 AM
1

What about a smile with eye contact as a signal.
/r/seduction30/05/24 04:38 PM
1

In Slovakia. 20 years ago, it was more like Ukraine and Russia. As it joined the EU and developed (and they travelled and lost illusions about the west), it became much less so. I was married to a local for much of that time. Back in the day, it was often the same girls who had dated more than one foreigner, so possibly that 5 to 10 percent rule was in operation then too, but it didn't matter as long as there were more such women than there were foreigners. In an overwhelmingly white majority ci…
/r/seduction29/05/24 01:48 PM
4

This is going to sound harsh, but why would you expect any different? 1) Most women date within their own culture. Even in Thailand (which has a reputation as a good place for men to visit) apparently no more than 5 to 10 percent of women would consider a foreigner (what makes it good is how easy that 5 percent is to find). I (white British) was single a year ago in Eastern Europe and I got 20 matches and 3 dates on online dating, all 3 dates were with foreigners living here, no locals. One rela…
/r/seduction29/05/24 05:46 AM
3

You don't need to pique his interest (note correct spelling). If he's replying, he's interested. If you become "more of a chase," i.e. show a low interest level, he'll (hopefully) assign more of his thoughts to better prospects. The most important thing is what happens when you are together in real life, not what you're like as penpals. You don't have time to take it slow when you're only together once a month. One.or both of you should for the kiss next time if you're interested in a real-life …
/r/seduction28/05/24 06:21 AM
7

Westerners could probably do well in almost any non-western country where we represent a niche and are generally seen as treating women well (thanks liberals) and are possibly relatively well off. That doesn't mean we're qualified to teach the locals how to interact with their own women.
/r/seduction27/05/24 06:49 PM
15

It's hard for westerners to give much advice here as we don't know your culture. I'd have assumed that your parents simply arrange a marriage for you, but my ideas of India are probably decades out of date. I'd guess, though, that it's still so different there that most western dating advice will do you more harm than good. Also, hold off on looking for paid sex unless nothing changes before age 30. People become addicted easily. It's not meant to be that easy.
/r/seduction27/05/24 11:06 AM
2

Does the question ask whether men think women want that, or does it ask whether men want women desired by other men? If the second, there is a greater factor of ego boost than many men will admit in being seen with and physically having a woman who is beautiful. But it's because she would be assumed to be desired rather than they have directly seen other men cracking on to her, so it's not a direct mirror of the social proof thing. In Milan Kundera's Immortality, two of the characters discuss wh…
/r/seduction25/05/24 10:52 AM
1

I agree more with other posters than this one, but I wish people would stop using the downvotes simply because they disagree. This is a genuine counterpoint to the (current) first reply so we should curate the discussion so as to have it near the top rather than a load of posts saying the same thing.
/r/seduction24/05/24 06:19 AM
1

If you go with the "declare open marriage" route, then a) you're also outing your wife as being in one, so you would need her to be ok with this being public, b) you're declaring open season on your wife, and she will get approached by people you know. You need to think about how you (both) feel about that. If it's really just hookups, then I tend to agree that they don't have a right to know unless they directly ask if you are married or not.
/r/seduction23/05/24 04:21 PM
2

And the onlookers approach you and ask to sleep with you? I have only visited SEA, so this may be way off, but I got the impression that there are a load of people there who are more concerned with pretending to be rich than with actually being rich, for the purposes of "face". And then, in a given country, you have some rich families who really have nothing to prove and just concentrate on making rather than showing money. Invest in the stock market and/or get on the real estate ladder. If I ha…
/r/seduction23/05/24 05:31 AM
13

Where are you geographically? I'm in Europe. Only time I ever slept with a girl in the back seat of a car it was a Skoda 105 (commie car) and it belonged to the girl. Cars mostly impress other men, not women, though exceptions exist. You'd be better off and (for that reason also) more impressive to women if you owned a house or flat, so only consider getting a better car if you have that sorted.
/r/seduction23/05/24 05:00 AM
1

When is someday? Ask her out the next night when you are free. Hold her hand, go for a kiss. Don't phone-zone yourself if you are interested physically.
/r/seduction22/05/24 08:32 PM
4

How low is your body fat? Sean Nalewanyj says below a certain percentage it starts to affect your sex drive. To your main point, I'm nowhere near shredded, but since losing weight, I've enjoyed attention for its own sake as well as the greater opportunities one actually gets. So your post isn't crazy to me. A lot of the motivation of people on this forum is about seeking validation through women, not purely about the enjoyability of sexual intercourse (otherwise they would just pay).
/r/seduction22/05/24 06:21 PM
8

You're trying to fuck not have babies. If we weren't a species that reproduces this way, fwb, sex, dating, even same sex relationships and vasectomies, none of that stuff would exist. Evolutionary reasons can be good explanations of why instincts are, or tend to be, the way they are. However, yes, it is strange to consciously act out "being evolutionary," as many manosphere people do.
/r/seduction22/05/24 06:10 PM
1

I agree generally, but it depends how coquettishly they say it. It can also be a good sign if they purr it during sex.
/r/seduction20/05/24 06:28 AM
30

This. A lot of the guys on here are looking for penfriends rather than seduction.
/r/seduction18/05/24 10:12 AM
1

Texting and online chat, telephones, etc. are for setting up dates in real life. You can't expect exclusivity from a pen-friend whom you have never asked out.
/r/seduction17/05/24 08:53 AM
2

This is the answer.
/r/seduction17/05/24 08:45 AM
1

Why did you stop kissing her? Why didn't you try to take her home with you? Why did you prioritise this weird phone number accumulation fetish thing instead? I suspect the answer to why you stopped kissing her is connected to why she didn't give you her number.
/r/seduction11/05/24 07:29 AM
2

If she's a bike, it doesn't really matter what you do, she'll come home with you. (Sorry, British slang, couldn't resist.)
/r/seduction10/05/24 01:06 PM
2

The only ratings that make sense are "want" and "don't want". The rest is just living through other people's perception of you.
/r/seduction10/05/24 07:52 AM
0

That's an interesting theory. At what point in their cycle do they or don't they post men or different types of men?
/r/seduction09/05/24 07:37 AM
3

Why, what's the potential downside?
/r/seduction08/05/24 07:47 AM
1

My understanding is she's another guest at the hotel or a hotel worker, not his own co-worker.
/r/seduction08/05/24 07:41 AM
2

Depends where the body count is from, how long ago, etc. A body count of 10 from 10 different "true love no really this time" relationships that went sour is probably more of a warning sign than where someone might have 15 from one night stands 10 years earlier but then number 15 was a 10 year relationship. I also think it looks incel-like to ask this question. Like you're scared of a woman with (potentially) more experience than you have. Also, what answers or combinations of answers are actual…
/r/seduction07/05/24 03:21 PM
41

Yes, but you have to mutter "no homo" every time you go in.
/r/seduction07/05/24 11:38 AM
2

If OP is outside the US, then I think the number thing doesn't really apply. The fetishistic collection of numbers rather than planning dates seems strange, even to Europeans. I'd want to know where he's asking them out to, whether it's a blank cheque "date" or he's asking to meet in a safe place like a specific cafe.
/r/seduction07/05/24 05:57 AM
2

Yes true, those girls are just silly and small-minded then.
/r/seduction06/05/24 08:58 PM
1

Right it's probably individual then. I'm the other way round, actually. I get trousers off the peg. I mean if you were to take the 8 or so measures of your top half and compare them to a table of what measurements a given manufacturer uses for L, XL and so on, you might find you match them pretty well. In my case I have an XL neck and L shoulders so off the peg doesn't match my size well, whereas I can find trousers that are ok by combining waist, length and fit - I'm lucky that the unspecified …
/r/seduction06/05/24 08:55 PM
1

That isn't the same as getting clothes made to measure. When the tailor (or your friend if you're ordering online) needs to take about 8 measurements of your upper body to make a shirt for you, you start to understand why 5-sizes-fit-everyone clothes don't look as good.
/r/seduction05/05/24 10:05 PM
1

Was hoping he'd answer himself. I've never been to India myself, but my understanding (and that of Western girls) is that Indian girls are not typically allowed to hang about in bars talking to young westerners. We may, of course, be wrong about that. The teachable moment (if he had told us that) then would be that entering a culture like that would not be attractive to Western girls so he needs to change his accent to a higher status Indian one. Something like how Vijay Amritaj talks would come…
/r/seduction04/05/24 05:13 AM
2

Get made to measure clothes for the top half - both actual shirts and T-shirts. I got my first shirt at 101kg / 220lbs. Now at 90kg/200 lbs, it still fits better than anything off the peg. It's looser than when I was measured for it, but evenly so, and only slightly. If you order online, it's also fun if you get a lady who's in some way on your team but perhaps not available to do the measuring.
/r/seduction30/04/24 12:18 PM
1

Thanks. Looks like I've got some reading to do.
/r/seduction30/04/24 04:32 AM
4

Big difference at around 95kg, so 210 lbs working out but belly and 5'10 - attractive woman straight from bar to bed. I'm mid-40s, so less decent competition. Hard to give advice on you if you don't say your own age.
/r/seduction29/04/24 10:25 PM
1

What is a model? I've read models by Mark Manson. Is there a glossary for this subreddit where these things are defined?
/r/seduction29/04/24 10:19 PM
2

Regarding the final question, what would be an example of a strategy?
/r/seduction29/04/24 12:56 PM
0

Why do Americans do this ritual of exchanging numbers multiple times per night? It seems strange to exchange numbers when you don't have any semi-concrete plans to meet up.
/r/seduction28/04/24 09:05 PM
-1

How does this play out when the situation is reversed? Say a white guy goes to your country and tries to pick up girls from your background. Do they also encounter this kind of racism and how do they respond?
/r/seduction27/04/24 02:34 PM
4

To a certain extent, as a woman, she's also hardwired to expect to leverage her desirability, so I wouldn't be quite as judgemental as some of the other respondents and it's not too bad to give her a win sometimes. If it's out of control (and as you're posting here I assume it is) and she's umming and ahing about whether or not she wants to come over, then just tell her not to come over because she obviously isn't sure she wants to and you'd rather meet up with your friends instead. She won't re…
/r/seduction26/04/24 09:10 AM
37

I think it would be strange to promise exclusivity to a girl without having slept with her. But I'm in Europe, and other cultural backgrounds may be different.
/r/seduction25/04/24 08:30 PM
2

Right. You wonder if the guys on this sub write to women in this childish manner.
/r/seduction23/04/24 04:41 AM
1

If you liked her you should have gone for a kiss outside the bar after the first date. You'd know where you are.
/r/seduction22/04/24 05:21 PM
1

Well, best describe the two dates then so we can advise you. The boardgame thing doesn't sound like a date.
/r/seduction21/04/24 01:11 PM
0

Ok, right. I don't know the Japanese culture much, but, I'd say try to use the western angle a bit as it's your niche. I don't mean fake a bad accent or anything like that, but don't hide your mixed background in terms of clothes, attitudes, even traditions you may have adopted while there, and things like that. The mixed angle works pretty well here in E Europe, where someone has some western background but still understands the language and culture of the place they are. You'll be in demand am…
/r/seduction21/04/24 09:26 AM
4

How is it your first night out in Japan if you're Japanese?
/r/seduction21/04/24 06:47 AM
1

Often women speak on men feeling obligated to sex in a relationship and that it isn't their duty to offer sex to their partner, but in the same breath say it's slut shaming to call a woman who sleeps around a whore. The key things in common with both those positions are consent and choice, so there's no contradiction there. You also have a choice whether or not to stay where the spark has gone out. It's hard to tell more generally where you're going wrong, but it sounds like you're letting yours…
/r/seduction18/04/24 12:30 PM
3

I agree with the other posters generally, but I once picked up a girl at a bar and took her back to my place. Afterwards she didn't want to leave her number, so I gave her my business card. Being able to do that was less needy than writing it out for her. While she was still waiting for the taxi, she called and booked herself in for a replay later that week, which continued over the following month or so till she found someone who wanted to be exclusive with her. So that's a plus for business ca…
/r/seduction18/04/24 12:21 PM
3

This doesn't deserve the downvotes as it's a legit question/view that moves the conversation along. The real point is that you shouldn't be trying to be as "pretty normal" as possible; you should be trying to show that you're different and better and the way to do that is to be different and better.
/r/seduction18/04/24 11:42 AM
5

There's a bit of survivorship bias there, though ;)
/r/seduction18/04/24 06:05 AM
1

That should be a post-sex conversation normally. It's probably strange for things to be moving so slowly that you have time beforehand.
/r/seduction17/04/24 10:14 PM
1

If you're good, you get more requests for replays. You can't just say you're good in advance. When I was younger (turn of the millennium), one of my go-to jokes was a long one that involved "the purposes of different fingers" and if told right involved what would now be called "kino" - you indicated the fingers on her hand not your own. But part of the point back then was you could subtly show her that you essentially got the point that sex was (also) about pleasuring women at a time when this w…
/r/seduction17/04/24 09:39 PM
1

You can't but if a girl won't come home with you who you think normally would, make a mental note of the date and you may find the same situation repeat four weeks later. I don't understand why it's more comfortable for them to say "I don't want to sleep with you." than "I'm on my period." because the second one is certainly more comfortable for us to hear, but I guess period-shaming is real. I'm mid 40s dating Eastern European women aged 30s and early 40s so ymmv.
/r/seduction17/04/24 06:00 PM
7

Maybe she meant you to ask, but you don't have to take every chance you get if you don't feel any chemistry yourself. She may also, like a lot of public service workers, just want to let you know how difficult her life is, as she feels her profession is underappreciated.
/r/seduction17/04/24 09:55 AM
2

Would men see you as funny or not funny or as a joke teller/performer? Is the problem just women? If the problem is with women only, then you need to see/ treat them as people. If men also think you are a bit try-hard, then you need to chill out and have fun yourself and not worry too much about pleasing others. This could go into wuite a deep psychology dive, so I'll stop there.
/r/seduction17/04/24 07:12 AM
27

Doesn't it normally develop naturally when you're kissing their front, you just keep going downstairs, then inner thighs and so on? Girls who don't want it (they exist) direct you elsewhere at that point. You don't need to verbally ask for consent for literally everything if you're going slow and they have time to show you what they want and don't want.
/r/seduction16/04/24 02:37 PM
1

I've never really understood the focus on getting telephone numbers rather than dates. I always thought it was an American thing - have never been there as an adult, but dating seems more "structured" there than in Europe.
/r/seduction16/04/24 02:32 PM
1

Foreplay can and should run both ways. You spend time together and proceed to penetration when you're both ready. Guide her hand down there while you're working on her if she doesn't do it herself. Your generation shouldn't accept the bad ideas of previous generations - that if the woman isn't wet, it's the man's fault, and if the man isn't hard, it's the man's fault. Sex should be two-way. Don't go the paid route for now as you will mislearn, and some people become addicted. If you do, pay for …
/r/seduction16/04/24 08:24 AM
5

If you're serious, then read books about it. Any decent book on dating will tell you that remote communication systems like telephones and messenger apps are solely for setting up meetings in real life. If you have time to waste chatting and texting, you come across as not having an exciting life for her to join. She should also be getting to know you in real life where there is the physical association between your body and the information instead of it simply being disembodied facts.
/r/seduction10/04/24 06:36 AM
-5

This is fine and not unusual. Just make sure you don't get caught.
/r/seduction07/04/24 07:51 AM
1

Right. A long time ago, I asked a girl at a disco and the girl said no. A bit later she said "In my country, we say that if you ask for something people say no, but if you just take it, nobody minds." And I kissed her, starting up a long distance thing that did involve sex when we next and subsequently met up so since then I have never asked. I think if you do the not asking thing rather than affirmative consent, it has to be in a way that she would be able to back away if she wanted, otherwise …
/r/seduction04/04/24 11:21 AM
2

How long ago was the date - so we understand how long after is "tomorrow"?
/r/seduction04/04/24 11:05 AM
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