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How could she both be wanting more commitment, to the point of wanting me to marry her last week and have been falling out of love for 6 months? How can it be both?
/r/askTRP02/06/20 08:11 PM
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I'm not drunk, just shaky. I'm hurting exactly as you said I would. I can't imagine how I would reconcile this in a marriage. Right or wrong, I was able to take swift and decisive action - even if it is debatable that I did. I promised her dad, it wasn't all bad, but it was pointless. If "those other guys" are right, and she was aggrieved by me holding out commitment and not marrying her, it didn't seem that way. I mean, she has nothing to lose now, ties are broken and her stuff was out, she cou…
/r/askTRP02/06/20 05:51 PM
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I'm not doing anything, I'm still no contact, I'm just really fucked up and trying to understand, because at it's core, the possibility exists there was nothing I could have done, other than never tried. Which is fine, a fling two years ago wouldn't hurt so bad, but it would mean ultimately accepting never having a family. Now the lines have been drawn.
/r/askTRP02/06/20 05:30 PM
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That's the issue - how can I work on the stability and not show weakness?
/r/askTRP02/06/20 01:43 PM
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They say that they want to be included, but you know what happens when you go that route. Women will tell you that they want all sorts of things and when they get it, the attraction drops. It is better to remain a mystery and tell them that this is something that you need to do on your own. Ain't that the truth. It makes me sick to my stomach thinking about it. When they believe the mysterious war hero myth they adore me, and then they turn cold and distant when they see the real man. It makes m…
/r/askTRP02/06/20 12:58 PM
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We can’t do this alone and this is a clear indication for me to have like minded individuals around me. That's the key.
/r/askTRP02/06/20 12:49 PM
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I see your case of gf leaving you after attending a therapy session and raise you a case of a woman leaving her man after his dad died and he broke down. If you read my last post, my girl got cold on me when my Mom had a stroke from covid, after my uncle died of covid. I believe you, and I like to think I am stoic. In fact, publicly I am celebrated for it. I have been through far more than most, came out better, and done more with my life. I can't explain how, but I feel like each painful experi…
/r/askTRP02/06/20 12:40 PM
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I will look into that, thank you.
/r/askTRP02/06/20 12:35 PM
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I've tried. Usually if I exclude them, they start to feel left out or that I'm not committed and that creates another host of problems. Even without living together, the alternative is that I drop off their radar during the periods where I'm having a hard time, and I don't know how to sustain attraction by doing that either. It's an impassable situation and one that has caused me a lot of pain and torment. As you say, women are women. As for the motorcycles, I was usually that as a shorthand for…
/r/askTRP02/06/20 12:35 PM
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I think that there is a camaraderie among veterans, but because all of us have been through the wringer, our friendships go up and down with moods. If somebody is a wreck, I will do my best to be a good friend to him, but realistically, we're not enjoyably going camping, for example. I also don't like to talk about the war all the time, but some guys are stuck there, and for all of us, we can only talk to each other about those experiences, so I do find those conversations draining. Among athlet…
/r/askTRP02/06/20 12:29 PM
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For those of you who are older or are subjectively successful, would you say your life is relatively normal/isolated or has improve drastically I am a nationally-known veteran and para athlete and while women line up to fuck me, I am incredibly alone. I have slept with over a hundred women, I am as far as ever from having a wife and kids. It agonizes me.
/r/askTRP01/06/20 10:13 PM
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First of all, thank you for thinking so deeply about what you wrote. I always thought that the vets had PTSD and so they didn't like to share. Reading about your life, I think that they might not want to share it with people because of PTSD and because people might take pity on them. I have anguishing thoughts, I don't want to talk about it because there is no way to relate it to people who don't know and weren't there. The vulnerability on my part far outweighs any understanding from others, es…
/r/askTRP01/06/20 10:11 PM
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I will inquire during an appointment tomorrow. I have prescriptions for medical marijuana and a sensory deprivation tank I have left unused because I am afraid of my own emotions. If there is a lesson to all of this, it is that what I was doing wasn't working and it is time to assume risks.
/r/askTRP01/06/20 09:01 PM
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I appreciate that man. I have to remember who I am.
/r/askTRP01/06/20 12:12 PM
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Thank you for the feedback. Especially: Finally, I would also consider deleting this thread and it's predecessor, sooner rather than later. You've put enough personal information in them that if someone really gave a shit, they could identify you. Believe me-- it's very possible, and there's been several occasions in the past where blue pill cockfags have gone out of their way to dox posters on this sub reddit. Yeah, in hindsight, rank, age, para athlete, brought up a stars and stripes article a…
/r/askTRP30/05/20 12:45 PM
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Fuck. I was hoping she'd just tell her family I was a scrub and wasn't making a commitment to her (and implicitly: and that is why her cheating is justified)
/r/askTRP29/05/20 08:35 PM
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When you put it like that, you're right. Yeah, I'm disappointed too.
/r/askTRP29/05/20 08:33 PM
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From the sound of it her dad doesn't just understand, he actually respects you and your decision. That's the sad truth of the military. He sat her down for some words of wisdom back when she shipped off to basic, but he could only do so much. He wasn't there when she was growing up, and he knows exactly what happens to bored females in the military, that's a tough position to be in. Also, expect a deluge of nasty rumors from this girl. You done let the cat out of the bag with her parents, so the…
/r/askTRP29/05/20 07:27 PM
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He was in Bosnia and the Gulf with my old man. I don't want anything to do with her, so if I have to let go of my friendship with her pops I will, but why the fuck would I want to keep tabs on her?
/r/askTRP29/05/20 07:09 PM
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I forgot to say. He asked about my mom as soon as I got there. He was really great and supportive, we had a little chat about it. It was nice to have the reassurance, and considering the context, very big of him to take the time to tell me she'll be alright and ask about how her test results were.
/r/askTRP29/05/20 06:59 PM
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Her old man went to bat for me with the VA, took me under his wing, and has been a really positive role model the past two years. We've been to ramp ceremonies and funerals together. We were on the same tour, though I was a grunt and he was brigade staff haha. It's a tight bond. We got out on medical within a few months of each other and I've visited him whenever he has an operation. He's got a lot of pain, and can't communicate with the women in his family, on top of they don't know, they weren…
/r/askTRP29/05/20 06:55 PM
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Thank you for this, really man. I made an update post if you want to check it out, but you really came through for me.
/r/askTRP29/05/20 06:41 PM
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Thank you for saying so. I did think I was doing all the right things. She used to look at me with absolute adoration. I really thought I had finally figured out trp after having previous LTRs flame out into dead bedrooms or resentment as the type-A women got bored and moved on. This felt like a wake-up call. I had let my male friendships slide, got too emotionally invested in her, wasn't pushing myself hard and daily. This situation makes me feel like I didn't measure up, more than she fucked u…
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:52 PM
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You're right. I'm hurting myself more than she's able to hurt me - after all that's why I kept her name off everything. I could wake up tomorrow, and nothing would fundamentally change. Same car, same house, same dog, and it's not like I was waking up next to her anyways. Look them in the eye and tell thanks for everything and goodbye. If they ask what’s going on... tell them. Tell them everything. You deserve to be heard and you deserve to Atleast have the real truth out there to somebody becau…
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:45 PM
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Can you expand on that? How the fuck am I going to hold frame if it turns out she fucked that guy the morning before their parade when I shook his hand, looked him in the eye and said good job? What's worse would be, how am I going to be steadfast if she's been up to this for months, including times she's come home?
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:38 PM
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You have it exactly right. I was looking for the qualities people look for in me. More than that, because I got hurt, I feel like I let my comrades and my country down. It really bothers me. So, maybe I thought I could at least do my part by guiding her down that route. The trophy thing is tough because the emptiness lets me accomplish so much, but I never feel less empty.
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:37 PM
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You're absolutely right. I would have respected her more if she said so. It's the subterfuge, half-truths, trickle-truth and obfuscation that bother me. For fuck's sake, conduct a frontal, take the losses, and consolidate your position. That's what leadership is.
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:34 PM
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I wanted her to Be All She Could Be. You're right, I should have thought about family first.
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:32 PM
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Thanks. I'm starting to feel better, putting up 10 mile runs the past few days. This is a really supportive community, forget that toxic masculinity shit. I'm more disappointed in myself for not picking up on the flag, and either not getting invested, or steering her in a more positive direction, than I am with her. I knew she was a snake when I picked her up.
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:30 PM
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So true brother. If she can't honour the uniform, what would a ring mean to her? Symbols and oaths either mean something, or they don't.
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:26 PM
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You're right. I want to have a beer with her old man, tell him I'll buy him a drink at the Army Ball and get gone. Out of respect and love for her old man, should I tell him what she's been getting up to? He's already not impressed with her, and has called her out numerous times for hotdogging. He didn't give her a handshake, let a lone a hug at her graduation. He was disappointed she didn't give a silver dollar for her first salute, even though he brought one as well as his personal challenge c…
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:25 PM
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I love and respect the man, is that wise? He was too busy being a soldier to raise his daughter, and it shows.
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:19 PM
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Thanks man. I felt I was not doing a good enough job of communicating with her until the tail end of the phone call last night. Then I had a strange thought: "What the hell is going on? Usually I do a great job of making myself understood. Is my argument coherent? Does it work as a narrative? Is it too allegorical? What about this idea is not being communicated?" "Why is it my fault for not marrying her, because she can't be home with me, because of Corona, if nobody could have possibly known ab…
/r/askTRP29/05/20 01:58 AM
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You're right. That being the case, is pure texting a bitch move? I don't want to get interrupted, or sucked in, or whatever. I know what she did, she knows what she did, why should I have to listen to her her tune her dial from tears to professions of love to anger so she can get a reaction from me? What I was thinking was: Your stuff is packed. Your parents can pick it up, after giving 24hrs notice. You will have to contact USPS to forward your mail. What mail was already here as of this mornin…
/r/askTRP29/05/20 01:39 AM
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Thank you for saying so, I feel like I just got my ass kicked. It sucks so bad to have this happen to me after thinking I learned all the right lessons from Jody tearing up my friends' wives or women skipping town with power of attorney. I thought that it would be smooth sailing once I learned to run if a woman knew what a barracks was, or how to sign in. I'm happy to dm, though I have to say I'm still pretty fucked up from this, I can't put you on the path to a ranger tab or whatever any time s…
/r/askTRP29/05/20 01:36 AM
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So just run through the list like: Your stuff is packed. Your parents can pick it up, after giving 24hrs notice. You will have to contact USPS to forward your mail. What mail was already here as of this morning is packed. Any mail after that will be returned to sender. If I am contacted during your security clearance review, I will not say you did anything that indicates lack of integrity or untrustworthiness, out of professional courtesy and respect for your father. You don’t need to return you…
/r/askTRP29/05/20 01:28 AM
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That's exactly it man. I realized last night and today when I reached out to my boys I was reconnecting with them. What the fuck, how did I let that go? I took my bike out today and realized it had dust on it. I used to ride 30 miles every Sunday. I prayed the rosary this morning and had to look up the prayers for decades and the mysteries. I woke up today and it was like I had been in a daze.
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:42 AM
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If you accept to speak with her, do not act hurt, angry or anything. Act like you've moved on. Get to the business. You can be cold if you have to (to hide your hurtness) but it's best to be aloof. Settle your business as quickly as possible, then say you've got to get going for some event or another. I promise if you do this right she will do a 180. Then never engage her again. Text or call? I made a list of all the outstanding logistics. I could just as easily send it to her mom and save mysel…
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:36 AM
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I know buddy, I know.
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:33 AM
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Even if I had listened to that feeling, hell even if I hadn't, being cold when my mom had a fucking stroke is unforgivable, I don't think I would have ever got the satisfaction of having her dead to rights. She wouldn't confess, and if she did it would be cause she no longer cared, so what's the point. Even if I can be decisive picking up on that coldness, I'd be kicking the door down to find she was already gone. She did the damage and then disappeared. Great. Women are the fucking Taliban. My …
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:32 AM
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At least I could guarantee I kept the dog, if this was a kid, what would my chances be?
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:28 AM
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I think it's going to be the Church or the Foreign Legion man, I really do. When my dad found out, near the first thing he said was there were no flights to Paris this week so I'd have to sit with this rather than heading out. I don't think this is a Madonna-Whore thing, I think I just can't be around women the more I know about them. When I couldn't score a date and got laid maybe twice a year, I think I had a more positive attitude towards desire. The best and worst time of my life was being i…
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:22 AM
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Earlier today she sent me a text saying that although she is on duty all week she thinks that we could talk on Sunday because she loves me... so much. Everybody knows what "we should talk" means, this is a new variation. She's righter than she knows, because while we could talk on Sunday I'm split between fucking going all in on her scorched earth, or just doing a no-contact and texting her mom a list of logistical details like how to get her shit out of here and change her mailing address.
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:18 AM
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Yeah, it's upthread as the Disappearing Male Friend. I know it was too pat of a narrative. Women can't tell a good story, unless they are telling a story
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:09 AM
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I do entirely last LTRs to wit: Lawyer, journalist, economist, intelligence officer. I am attracted to the qualities my parents wanted to cultivate in me: Striving, ambition, educational pedigree, resume padding, networking, Ivy Leaguers, academy grads, the list goes on. Women who were senate pages at 18 and clerking for the superior justices at 24. In short - I want to love an impressive girl because I am crippled by fear of not being impressive enough to love. I don't like them, they remind me…
/r/askTRP29/05/20 12:01 AM
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I just don't know what I did to deserve such disrespect? Like I can read that that's not how women think, and they don't have loyalty and courtesy, but in my mind if someone isn't giving you respect it's your turn to step up and either call them out on it or earn it. There are guys who fucking hated me when we met that are now close friends. We either talked it out, or I proved I could walk the walk. Here, I'm getting treated like shit by a fucking butterbar, the butterbar she's fucking and a th…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 11:54 PM
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Also, all that blaming you for commitment, is just her trying to justify, whatever she felt guilty for doing. That kills me man. When I didn't let her move into my apartment she cried every day for like a week. How can commitment be so transient? I know that I an not the Navy, but she swore an oath. If he word to me means nothing, do any of the values she swore to uphold unto death? I sound like a cheeseball, but I promised myself I am only getting married once. Vows are sacred and bind how we c…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 11:46 PM
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I think that you make a good argument. If SMV is proximal, I'd be in higher standing if I was out there because these are all fucking butter bars. What the fuck do they know about the service? I've been out of the game a little while but I could smoke any of them on the rifle range, in combatives, on a ruck. But the respect of a soldier is not the love of a woman, and the same shit would have played out even if I had re-upped as a Airborne Ranger. On the other hand, I'm out, and want to have wor…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 11:42 PM
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If a girl supposedly wants you to marry her, you'd think she'd give a fuck about your mom. I should have dumped her then. Fuck.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 11:36 PM
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I keep coming back to this post. I need to believe this. I need to really know it by Sunday. Not because I would go against no contact to win her back, but because I want to fucking jack her up. She's a fucking butter bar and I want to pop veins and give her the fucking knife hands. I want her to piss her fucking pants like I made junior officers do whenever they pulled shit not even close to this. Too bad it won't do anything. If I went in on her, her friends would just reassure her that I'm a …
/r/askTRP28/05/20 11:31 PM
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That's the way of the world. I smashed so many officers in my day. What the fuck happened to me?
/r/askTRP28/05/20 11:25 PM
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I really want to go fucking apoplectic because I know, I know who this guy is and the little trickle-truths and breadcrumbs and shit that lead to this. It took me about 30 seconds once I actually let myself examine all of the thoughts I had deliberately pushed out of my mind. Women are less than half as clever as they think they are, but I willed myself to be more than twice as dumb. Calling her on it, when she calls yea or nay? Texting? Is there really no way to pin a woman to the wall when the…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 11:17 PM
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I think the reason we didn't break up sooner is because I get trapped in a blind alley at a certain part of a relationship. What I want, more than anything, is to be more than the fitness, body, reputation. Because exposing that side of me is the only guaranteed way to hurt me, and hurt me bad, as you can see, I'm not willing to risk it easily. So I'm very good at detecting these patterns and threats, but I also hold myself back from acting decisively when I pick up on them because I hope that I…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 11:13 PM
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I appreciate you saying that. I'm just disappointed in myself. I had hunches then, and 12 hours of thinking about it today and I pretty much have it mapped out. Which means I could have known then, I could have dumped her, I could have done anything but be impotently dragged along.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 11:03 PM
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I've recovered, but because "if it bleeds, it leads" all of the media coverage about my wounds gets caught up in the gory details. I have so-so knees and ankles, but so do most combat arms guys.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 11:02 PM
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I shook that bastards hand at their graduation parade. I looked him right in the eye. What the fuck happened to my instincts?
/r/askTRP28/05/20 11:01 PM
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Yeah. Fuck.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 11:00 PM
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I see myself doing the career without her, it's my dream job. Fuck, now I'm really excited about it and am going to be training like a manic. I like the austerity of throwing myself into that. It's why the FFL fantasy is so beautiful and perfect to me. March or die, brothers beneath the sand, you know? I was willing to make it work with her until training was done. I thought that was reasonable and realistic. As soon as she presented the choice between my education and career to follow her out t…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 10:59 PM
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My only sliver of hope is that it wasn't family style like the Marines do.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 10:54 PM
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I was thinking hang up the call, paste a text from notepad that has all the logistics. Is that too much? Should I just ignore her entirely and go through her parents?
/r/askTRP28/05/20 10:53 PM
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That's what kills me man, tbh. I'm not a stupid man. Every time I stopped to meditate today, I realized another thing I had let slide, that when we first met would have been handled with zero tolerance. I knew better, I got soft, I got complacent. I'm not even really mad at her, because based on her tone on the phone, reasoning with her will be just as effective as with the dog, and scolding even less. I'm mad at myself. I let my house get out of order.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 10:51 PM
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What, if anything can you tell me so I'm ready for that contact on Sunday? I was thinking hang up on the call, have a text ready in notepad. There are logistical things, but I guess I could entirely ignore her and just go through her parents.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 10:46 PM
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The reason I have such strong and enduring male friendships is that I am always willing to work the problem. If you have an issue with somebody, especially when it's high stakes like in sports or the Army, you take the time to break it down and work though it. I really appreciate what you're saying. As I've said earlier, those are the reasons why this kind of breakup shatters me. I know I shouldn't be looking for that love and acceptance from a woman, I do. Yet here I am. This is the one kind of…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 10:44 PM
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I went for a run to clear my head and I realized I'm such a fucking retard. I present to you: The Case of the Incredible Disappearing Male Friend While she was in basic, I made a mental map of her friend group fairly quickly. 2 girls and a guy. She talked about the guy a lot, and pretty early on mentioned that as soon as he was away from home he left his LTR, even though he had promised they'd make it work. She mentioned all of the stuff they would do as a group, how they hung out in the shacks,…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 10:30 PM
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Thank you. That was very thoughtful and helped ease my mind. It raises a question though - I don't know how you can undergo therapy, and hold on to a woman. You have to work through your feeling to recover, but as soon as you do, the knives are out. For all the talk of toxic masculinity or military culture, no man gave me anywhere close to as hard a time as almost any woman. I'll say this though, living a full life without PTSD is worth more to me than living a half-life with a woman where I hav…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 07:53 PM
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I don't understand why she's already texting me, and to tell me she has duty of all things. What's that about? Who texts to schedule a call? Her mom has my number, there's no need for her to contact me about logistics. There's no need to contact me about anything, I can have her stuff curbside by Saturday, I pay the bills and I can pay the whole rent.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 07:21 PM
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I've been reading a lot of theology lately, and have been following the Rule of Saint Benedict, and the Spiritual Exercises of Loyola in my daily life. It's brought me a lot of peace and comfort. Obviously, guides to monastic living and austere closeness to God don't help much with women. As long as that book doesn't steer me from my purpose, I'll give it a read.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 07:16 PM
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This is going to sound stupid, but the success on its own feels empty and what I really want is to be loved, independent of success. That's one hundred percent why this is hurting so badly.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 07:11 PM
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Buddy have you seen how cheap cars have gotten since the 'roni started? I'm done put-putting to the grocery store, time for a real car.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 07:04 PM
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just look up hashtags like navybasictraining or navygirls, and you'll see female candidates are more adept at smuggling contraband than hardened convicts.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 07:02 PM
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We have low self esteem and look for outside validation. Maybe there’s past guilt from childhood which also turns into negative thinking about ourselves. With your military service “thank you btw” and the lack of validation from your father, do you feel proving yourself to others will make you happy? I know I do and that’s the definition of codependency and which is so much worse when in a relationship. These childhood feelings can surface and affect us now on a subconscious level. This attracte…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 06:59 PM
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Actually, good fucking point. I was lucky to call home once a week, and I wasn't going to spend that time sad because I got smoked.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 06:52 PM
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It's like a piston engine. Those qualities give me an explosive urge to push and test myself, which makes me attractive, but then it collapses and I get dumped at the bottom of the stroke, right when a breakup will hurt most.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 06:45 PM
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Reading that is like a weight being lifted off my chest, while at the same time knowing that I put it there. It's both a relief, and a realization that I didn't have to make my life so burdensome. "I made it link by link, and yard by yard; I girded it on of my own free-will, and of my own free-will I wore it." Firstly, her relationship with her dad, you nailed it exactly. It's like you met him, and whenever I have referred to him in reply to you, I have had to stop myself from typing his name. Y…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 06:23 PM
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That stings, but you're right. I don't know why I'm able engender such rewarding loyalty, bonhomie and camaraderie with guys but none of my qualities mean anything to women, beyond initial attraction. Well, I do know, I read the sidebar. I just thought that once she put on the uniform she'd respect me as a soldier at least, have some professional courtesy. For all of the Jody jokes, I know with my tour mates at least, we would never fuck around if it would hurt a friend or comrade. It's un-fucki…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 05:55 PM
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The first day I met her, she - my hand to God - saw a photo of me in uniform somewhere in my room and started sobbing "thank you for your service" before immediately gave me the best head of my life. I guess that would be a flag huh? Not sure what to think of that now.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 05:50 PM
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She's basically leaving you because you weren't useful enough for her by providing her with money and wife social status. I had that thought at some point this morning and it really bummed me out. She loved that I get tickets for the military balls and galas, and I hate that stuff. I had to dig my mess dress out of my parent's basement, I had fully intended on never wearing it again. I supported myself independently as a private! Why the hell does she need more money than her salary as an office…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 05:45 PM
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I appreciate that. It's not like I had never heard of redpill. Knowing it was just superficial and based on my projecting strength at a given moment made spinning plates really sad for me, even though I was succesful. Not because I have romantic delusions about women, but because with the guys who know me, or when I'm on my own, I feel really good when I don't have to keep up appearances. I thought I could drop the facade with a woman. If that means I got blue pilled, well I fucked up but I can …
/r/askTRP28/05/20 05:40 PM
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I judge my own value by trophies man, I think I'm starting to realize that.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 05:13 PM
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She would have washed out and gone home about a hundred times if I didn't take calls across timezones and put the work into getting her to the finish. I just thought that would count for something. Guys that I gave that treatment to when they were E-1s are still some of my closest friends and standout soldiers.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 05:05 PM
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I fucking played myself. She wouldn't have applied let alone made the grade and got through training if I didn't push her. I did the same for my brother when he joined the Army after me and it brought us closer together. I dunno, I hoped she'd appreciate the coaching and mentorship. We were all working hard and making sacrifices because we believed she could do it and we could make it. Well, that was stupid.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 05:03 PM
10

Fuck man. You get it. All of that stuff was stripped away from me, and I don't know who I am without it. You know? Well I guess I do, I'm a fucking scared kid screaming and crying waiting for the medic. I know closure isn't real, but I thought being right would make this feel better. I am absolutely better off that I'm not financially fucked, I was right, I made the smart move, she was just like any other woman in or around the military. I should feel better knowing that, but I'm just disappoint…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 04:57 PM
11

Are you her top option? I mean, I had thought so. Are you killing it now? Not a year ago, but now? I don't want this to seem unhinged, and I know this is the problem, but it's reflexive: I was number 5 in my sport in the country a few months ago, before everything shut down. I'm as fit as ever, even with the gyms closed. I just became a registered professional in a defence field. There's a national media campaign featuring me about to launch. I have a career offer I can't post about on the inter…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 04:42 PM
7

Fuck man. It's like she fell in love with the uniform and now not only does she have one of her own, but there are guys in uniforms literally around her at all times.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 04:08 PM
1

Sorry to hear that. Military? How did you rally and get up and moving again? Were you able to lock your assets down or did you let her put her name on anything?
/r/askTRP28/05/20 04:05 PM
15

They've been good, but they also know they were right. Most of them have been through this before, and they hadn't had the safeguards in place and paid the price. Putting in all the shit to prevent the classic deployment rip n' run was a good move. At least I didn't marry a stripper, right?
/r/askTRP28/05/20 03:58 PM
8

Lastly, you're a smart guy, but you're putting her "(masculine) abilities" over her "(caring and supportive) femininity" and choosing a GF/mate using the wrong criteria. You're not choosing a bud to be in a foxhole with... or if you are fine, but don't try to play house with such a person. All I knew growing up was fighting to earn respect and admiration, and I thought that maybe as an adult if I had enough of it it would turn into caring and support because I'd finally done enough. One more Bro…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 03:56 PM
4

You really cut me to the core man, thanks. That esteem thing seems to be the best way I can grow from this. I just figured I was a step up from him, but these scrawny 22 year old officer cadets weren't going to be a threat to me.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 03:49 PM
6

I pushed her in, which was stupid in hindsight. How many of those red flags would still be there if she was working her quiet government job, do you think?
/r/askTRP28/05/20 03:46 PM
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I held her hand so fucking hard and now she thinks she's GI Jane. I found out I knew her staff and told them to look out for her, I prevented her from quitting several times, I ordered her all the kit old hands know about like good socks and ranger beads. She had hysterical sobbing meltdowns about shit that was a million times worse in basic a few years ago, never mind Afghanistan.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 03:44 PM
7

Thank you for being candid. Could you just point out some of the flags so I can sigh and laugh at being stupid instead of searching for meaning in her actions? It's not the snake's fault if you pick it up, it's yours. I think I turned her from being in awe of my military career to being in competition.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 03:41 PM
9

Should I be relieved or angry? I don't know what more I could do.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 03:29 PM
2

Thanks man. I appreciate that, really. I felt guilty for being half-in by having all those backstops, and when she pointed to those as the reason for the break up, it's caused so many conflicting feelings. There was a moment when I took her at face value and felt like it was my fault, until I realized that even if I wanted to, covid happened, so for as long as she claims she's been unhappy by me not committing, it would have been impossible to fly out there to marry her, get engaged, or even sig…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 03:27 PM
40

I don't care about pussy. I could smash tonight if I went though my instagram dms. I want a family whose love isn't contingent on me being switched on, all the time.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 03:21 PM
13

I have to say it, you really cut to the core of this. You care too much about being "a top achiever". It doesn't seem like you genuinely want it, it seems like you think it is a requirement. This in particular, I know is true. I've just wanted to be good enough to live up to my old man, my whole life. My dad first started telling me he was proud me when I became a decorated soldier, and that he loved me when I made national newspapers. If you've ever seen The Great Santini, that's my old man. Ca…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 03:15 PM
1

I guess it's a military thing, but I see this shit so much it just bums me out. He clearly had that shit mostly figured out based on the first post, his boys were telling him what was going on, and he lost frame. She denied it, and he felt guilty, so he went to get outside advice. What would have happened if he went here instead of r/relationships? He did everything "right" by them, and look how it fucking turned out!!
/r/askTRP08/04/15 09:27 PM
1

Well, besides holding frame, I don't know what else he could do. If there's a way for him to flip it on her, and turn her into a plate I'd love to post that in his last thread. Get a million down votes of course.
/r/askTRP08/04/15 08:56 PM
1

With an injured soldier too! Flowers, war stories, and a farewell where she never had to admit sucking other dick while out for "coffee". She has a great story to tell, and no consequences.
/r/askTRP08/04/15 05:22 PM
2

To be fair, being in the military myself, I kind of see why he wanted outside advice. As they gleefully pointed out in the comments, when all your buddies marry strippers and get cheated on on deployment it's hard to know where to get good advice. e: I still think his friends were right about this girl. If he took r/relationships advice, and it worked, he'd be just another grunt with an unfaithful girlfriend, from my read of the situation.
/r/askTRP07/04/15 09:47 PM
1

Don't send "no content" texts. If you asked a question and she's not responding, that's a different issue, and a bad sign.
/r/askTRP07/04/15 09:40 PM
3

Seriously. Don't play that game. If she was excited to see you, she'd let you know.
/r/askTRP07/04/15 08:52 PM
2

If you know better, you can do different. I'd also talk to him and try to build him up. If he has a supportive son to set him on the right path, he won't let work and women walk all over him.
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