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And Elizabeth had a propesrous reign for 35 yrs. Maybe if her father hadn't treat Mary's mother like shit she wouldn't have been so cruel and full of hate
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 06:56 PM
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I am sure queen Elizabeth father who cheated on his wives and decapitated them to marry the new one was a way better role model.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 01:01 PM
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Your aunt just became my role model. I should also mention not being a 9 is another reason why being single is even better. The tier of men you attract just being average is really low. So yeah, makes the decision easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 12:58 PM
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Well they don't go to schools or shopping malls shoot random people because their crush rejected them, that's my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 02:45 PM
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Yes that shoot each other due to drug deals gone wrong like latino cartels or italian mobsters that are white.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 02:22 PM
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Oh no sweetie. Men are pretty basic creatures, they are easily manipulable with sex and also because their ego obsession. Imagine being such a sad creature that you'd make bad decisions that will affect the rest of your life just because you want a few seconds of sex. Like for example marrying a woman that will take your money or getting her pregnant because you don't like condoms and they be stuck paying for a kid for the rest of your life. The guys over here who are incels or men gone their ow…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 08:44 AM
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Well not really, the media doesn't show that if you invite a woman out and she says no you rape her or stalk her, unless you are watching crime shows about serial killers or mass shooters That behavior happens because up until very recently and still in some parts of the world, a man could be shitty and he'd still get a wife. Often the woman could not escape abuse or cheating because her family would say accepting those things is part of being a good wife, so those men could be cheaters, liars, …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 08:35 AM
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yes, about the chemical castration, I wouldn't go that far. lol But the rest I agree. Even divorce is like...meh. Maybe if you had vetted well your partner at first you wouldn't divorce later. If you are on a rush it's normal that then you'll find things weren't as they seem to be. People change but after a certain age people don't change that much. For couples who marry like with 20 or 21 yrs it's normal that after 7 yrs they changed, but if you get married in your early 30s for example it's mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 11:17 PM
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Oh okay good to straighten that up because that happens in a lot of cases. In some cases the guys even cheat when she is pregnant or recovering from pregnacy which is extra disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 10:36 PM
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so we're on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 08:43 PM
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No one is forcing you to move with him See how you got to the conclusion of my post (which I deleted because I sick of getting replies from crying babies)? There's no point in getting into a relationship for us women, most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 08:32 PM
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Will report this for promoting rape. Bye
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 07:59 PM
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Or I can remain single. The man I'd love would not rape me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 06:57 PM
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Well if the woman had to move around with him for his career, letting go of her own career, friends and family; if he cheated or was abusive. She should take AT LEAST half. It's only her right because he only made what he did because of her sacrifices too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 05:04 PM
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If they had to take half the BS some married women do, taking half of what he got is the least they can do. I was never married and I am childfree.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 04:51 PM
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I know it's hypothetical it was just as way of speaking. Again, it's not about some stupid damn dick pleasure. If it were, men would be satisfied by pity sex. Some are. I had guys shaming me for being a prude or boring because I didn't want to do/didn't like what they wanted. If you have a fulfilling relationship with a woman, you share a house, years of being together, shared life goals and suddendly the woman has for example an health problem (could be several, cancer, depression, just stress)…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 10:40 AM
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Divorcing a frigid and unloving wife is far from abandoning kids. If i could I'd take full custody if that happened. I'd care for my children. You did chose to marry her and to have kids with her. It was your choice. Maybe she is frigid because she is too tired after working 8h, taking care of the household and of the kids. So maybe after all of that she doesn't feel on the mood of having painful sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 10:25 AM
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I am not complaining I am single, where in my post did I complain about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 10:18 AM
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I still get undesired attention sometimes. Now with pandemic not so much for obvious reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 10:14 AM
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That's exactly why I don't trust men. The selfishness and irresponsability of abandoning their own kids just because of their dicks is disgusting. I am childfree but if I wanted kids I'd sure would have to be way more selective than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 10:12 AM
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Yes for sure, I don't want those creeps finding me attractive. At all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 10:04 AM
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Guys dont have to settle for you if they don't find you attractive either (why would they?) True, but I don't stalk them if they are not interested on me or phisically threaten their safety. The same can be said about men. If the women you chase always reject you maybe you are chasing out of your league or you are not that great. If women don't want to have sex with you it's maybe because sex with you sucks. If women don't want to commit with you it's because you don't add anything valuable to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 09:33 AM
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Men do tend to ruin everything due to sex. Just go to subs like dating advice or relationship advice and you see tons of cases of relationships that end because the guy cheats or because the guy complains of a dead bedroom. They could have a relationship years long with a shared house, maybe even kids or other share life plans yet the guy ruins everything because he doesn't have sex when he wants. How about making that work? My experience with men is that they are only interested in NSA fun and …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 08:34 AM
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Still better single.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 10:13 PM
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I still rather be single than to settle for a guy I am not attracted to or who will only add problems to my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 10:10 PM
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I like spiders.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 09:33 PM
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So basically he needs to be a successful ASMR artist? Like Ephemeral Rift?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:45 PM
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If I think a guy is attractive and the situation is right (for example, me being single and open to a relationship, also depends on the setting, a social event would be okay) I won't find it creepy. Also highly depends on the approach. If he just starts talking about issues that we have in common and then move on to flirting it's fine. If he does a cold approach like "can I meet you?" it's just... I am just gonna say no because that sounds like the best default answer for a stupid question like …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:44 PM
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Yes sure. We need men to kill centepedes. I'd say to kill mice as well but then I thought "nah for that a cat will do. Or a snake". In fact I think a well trained dog might be able to eat centepedes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:38 PM
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Its not hate. Its a favour.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:37 PM
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Ah yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:36 PM
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And most of those guys probably secretly wish we had here what they have in India.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:33 PM
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No they've been doing great so far. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:32 PM
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Yeah who's this Chad dude everyone talks about? 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:30 PM
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Exactly they target women with low self esteem. Or go into BDSM. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:30 PM
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Well its true. And I don't feel guilty about it. I'd rather be single than settle for a guy I don't find attractive or who adds nothing but problems to my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:29 PM
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Well then we have a problem. Men need sex but women don't like it as much and now have the right to say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:28 PM
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He already doesn't have the Sex. That's the definition of incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:11 PM
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Or dump the heavy weight and be happy single.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 07:36 PM
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How do you know my country? or are you so self centered you think your country/culture/reality is the only one that exists?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 07:33 PM
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Keep dreaming sweetie. And btw FDS has 152k members. Plus the ones waiting for approval. You can't even get that fact straight LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 07:31 PM
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Black brothers who are in jail get lonely. Maybe we should but the incel boys there to entertain them. I mean they don't like women, time to start opening up to another market. They'd have great success.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 06:01 PM
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No, I simply don't care. If men don't want to looked at as pedophiles they should stop sexualizing of children like in anime and pedophilic stuff like that. If they want to be given custody rights maybe they should start taking more responsability in educating their children instead of delegating it to the wives while they go to the pub hang out with friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 05:58 PM
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What is the bad choice here?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 05:33 PM
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I have some ideas. But I won't mention them. 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 05:33 PM
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I could not believe my eyes. I actually watched the movie until the end because I thought maybe I didn't understand something. Nop. Pure sexualization of a 12 yo girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 05:32 PM
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Yap my point exactly. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 05:30 PM
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Yeah... Yesterday I watched the movie "Leon the profissional" and I was like "wtf? how does this pedophiliac shit has 8,5 points in imdb? how was it nominated for an oscar?" Fuck 8,5 on IMDB! A movie that promotes clear sexualization of a 12 yo girl! That passes the message that a 12 yo would be in love with a middle aged man and want to lose her virginity with him! WHAT THE FUCK?! Shit was it disturbing. Poor Natalie Portman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 05:17 PM
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I am not even going to discuss the topics. It's so exhausing it actually makes me nauseated. That's not the main issue of the post, if you want to talk about those go to those subreddits about men rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 05:14 PM
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Well, black guys go to jail for far less than white/asian mass shooters.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 05:13 PM
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Yeah, but the expectation is passed between generations. Actually those behavious stilled existed in the 50s (minus paying the dow to the father) so most likely your father and grandfather still lived in that culture. One or two generations is not enough for a mentality change. In fact in some parts of the world those behaviours still exist. It is not that uncommon for guys in western countries to prey on women from countries in Latin America or Southeast Asia because in those countries that men…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 09:52 AM
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For centuries men could do whatever they wanted and they were protected by society. All they had to do was pay a dow to the father of a girl and they'd get a wife to take care of the house and have their babies. He could treat her like shit and could go around fuck other women, the woman could not leave him because her family would not accept her and would just say it's part of being a good wife. A guy could be the biggest piece of shit on earth and he still would have a wife. Atfer centuries of…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 09:19 AM
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Mugging is way less personal that rape, you can't get a permanent disease or pregnancy due to being mugged like in rape. Also mugging doesn't necessarly involve contact, the person points a gun at you and you hand the money and run away, they don't need to touch you. I wouldn't like to be mugged by anyone. If you are mugged by a white person is it less of a mug than by a black person?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 02:13 PM
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I don't have any data, for my personal case as an individual, all it takes is one guy, regardless of the statistics. Even if the statistics of where I live are super low, I might be unlucky and get attacked; or if they are super high I might be lucky and never be attacked. If I am attacked and the statistics are low what am I supposed to do? "Oh this is so weird I was raped, the percentage is low, maybe I should call to the national statistic institute and complain". My point is, I as an individ…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 02:03 PM
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I sure the source of you statistic was "right off my ass".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 01:43 PM
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Maybe in the right context, if I feel attracted to the guy I want to have sex with him, I will accept the advances. But you don't really know if the woman feels attracted to you or if she does, if she wants to have sex with you (maybe she feels attracted but is not ready/does not want to have sex just yet), so it's better to not make certain type of advances. Also maybe you are not good at reading the signals, maybe the girl is just being polite and has no interest in you. And then there's advan…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 01:06 PM
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No more independent stuff. You have a joint account and make financial decisions together in a working class relationship No never. I would have my own account, we'd set an agreement for how much I'd have to pay of bills every month and I'd pay them. I would never give him access to my money. And I don't really need access to his, I only need what's mine, but what's mine, I protect.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 12:27 PM
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Well, I am safe. I don't ever grab guys asses.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 12:21 PM
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Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 11:59 AM
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You didn't let us vote. We have the right to vote you took it from us but we won it back.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 11:58 AM
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Yeah the reason is because guys may try to sexually harass you or rape women. Posts like this are the reason why I want to get a gun and a push for laws that allow self defense of women in case of harassment/assault/rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 08:08 AM
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Hum, the post was about porn addict men. If they don't feel satisfied in the relationship due to unmatching libidos, they can do what normal people do and break it up. Unless there's kids involved, though honestly if you have kids, I doubt you'll have much time left after work and doing all the house task and taking care of the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 07:41 PM
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I can imagine myself say "fine I'll just lay there while you rape me". I hope that would kill the mood, if not, then I'd be dating a rapist, so time to run.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 12:58 PM
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Why would a woman stay in a relationship with a porn addict totally beats me. I mean in some videos the women there are screaming with pain, so if he uses the same techniques in real sex I can imagine why the girls don't want to have sex with him LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 12:55 PM
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Oh look. An intelligent guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 08:57 PM
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Yes, I should add, avoid commitment and thus are not emotionally available. I am a childfree woman and I prefer older guys who are preferably childfree as well, but it is important to be careful because often older ones are only willing to put minimal effort into a new relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 01:08 PM
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Your dad is right. If a guy is single with 35+ years it means: 1) he never dated/had a relationship before so he probably has issues. Either he is violent or has a mental illness and if other women didn't want to deal with that, why would you? Usually these types are the incels ones and I stay away from them anyway no matter the age they come in. 2) he had relationships and they ended (maybe divorce). In that case make sure it is really over and he doesn't keep the exes around (unless there are …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 01:06 PM
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r/FemaleDatingStrategy pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 08:42 AM
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In my opinion, you can't be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for, unless you have a thing for being a doormat and ear about the other person love stories while secretly expecting someday they'll like you (wew). But if you don't have any romantic feelings, you can just treat male friends as you'd treat female friends. Most my friends are male and I have no romantic feelings for them. If I ever have a boyfriend and he wants to hangout with us, he's more than free to do so. Also I mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 12:45 PM
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Can be several reasons. For example, timing, when a woman meets a guy she is not interested in a relationship. Then after doing some hookups she meets another and since she's tired of hookups she doesn't want to do it anymore. Or the guy for the hookups may not be relationship material but she currently doesn't have any better so enjoys a short fling. I assume some women may think they need to have sex to get the guy interested. If they need validation and suddendly a guy that likes them starts …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:20 AM
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Ah sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 10:48 PM
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Or you know. Be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 10:17 PM
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What the fuck is sociosexuality? Is there a quiz for that? Also if I am a woman and the guy starts fucking other I am moving to the next. I thought it was because I don't like to be a doormat and finally have some self esteem. But maybe its my sociosexuality level.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 10:15 PM
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I can only imagine escorts don't enjoy the sex most of the time and just want to get over it as fast as possible to get the money. Thats why they don't like to be invited on dates. Some of them have boyfriends even so they have no interest in dating other guys and want to keep it as minimal as possible. However you have all types of women doing sugaring. Some are more like that others then actually move to a real relationship, so women could be interested in a rich married guy if they thought he…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:54 PM
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Are women really attracted to rich guys in relationships? Nop, plenty of women do that. Check the subreddit r/sugarlifestyleforum. You have sugar babies there who have married sugar daddies. In fact married sugar dadies are desirable because they are less likely to create drama, to demand to be with the sugar baby more time than the agreement established, also they may feel like they have to try harder to keep the interest of the SB since they have a wife. And if they decide to stop paying or cr…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:22 PM
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Also, I never see anything hateful comments or posts about fat guys even though there's usually just as many fat men as fat women. Yes exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 07:21 PM
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Hum... how does that imply that? It can mean something like "oh I am so sick of jerks, you are different"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:41 AM
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Because the guy seems to be frustrated he can't get casual sex thus why he doesn't like when people tell him he's different. As in like "yeah I am different but not by choice". lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:35 AM
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Yes. But also I feel those guys either: 1) have latent hate towards women due to their lack of sex, in which case I am not a therapist so I am not interested in fixing them or 2) they are an extremely romanticized view of relationships and I am not very romantic and feel suffocated if the guy wants to spend too much time together and doesn't have other aspects of his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:19 AM
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This is why virgin guys are not so nice. Most of them if given the chance would do exactly the same as other guys. Sometimes they even use the girl they are dating to get an ego boost and then pursue others. Other times they make a lot of money when they are older and start attracting more women and cheat on their long term partners. I prefer guys who have options because then I can see their true colours.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 08:59 AM
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In my experience that's true. Usually guys who had a lot of experience don't care if the woman also did. Not to say they are relationship material or will treat the woman as relationship material. In the end, all men, even the most "evolved" one will feel insecure with the thought of the woman they have having been with a lot of other guys. But that's honestly their problem, go to a shrink.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 08:53 AM
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Yeah, I hate these spineless men who say the fault is always of the woman...Like someone made them choose that up, fuck that woman, date that woman, marry that woman, have kids and buy a house with that woman during years. Just nop, would not work with me, it's like adopting a baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 07:50 PM
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No I know it's an issue. It's just a way to remind that guys also have mental issues, it's not just women. Guys are mentally perfect and the narrative for centuries was to call women hysterical or crazy everytime they didn't obey what was expected of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 03:38 PM
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Well not that easy, in a relationship it's fair to expect the other person will somehow take care of you (ex if you get sick, they take care of you or simply taking care of your emotional needs). Doesn't mean you need to be co-dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 03:37 PM
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Which is sort of fine, as long as they don't start seeking other women or dump you after you give them the ego boost/validation they need.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 03:35 PM
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I have a friend she was dating a guy in his late 40s who still lived with mom. He went to live with my friend but complained to mom she didn't clean the house/cook as he was used. My friend dumped him. That's a mommy boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 03:34 PM
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No, just reminding that guys are not perfect and have issues just as women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 03:32 PM
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What is that? Never heard it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 03:32 PM
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Yap. Hate those. Plenty of them here.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 01:56 PM
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I don't have problem with those or with the ones who expect some maternal love from the girfriend. They do tend to be more respectful towards women and nobody is perfect I have my issues too. The problem is when they are men child who refuse to be accountable for their actions. The most recent one expected me to stick around and give him emotional nurturing and approval while he went an pursued other women and be happy for him fucking others! Like nop, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 12:35 PM
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Yes, true, but I am not just an animal, I have a brain able to think. Also, animals live in the jungle, they hunt their food and don't have to worry about finding a job to pay for a house and food and to provide for their babies. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't mind being a dog or a feline, maybe next life I will reincarnate as a leopard or a wolf or a mamma bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 12:02 PM
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There must be as much female anal lovers as there are good looking successful emotionally available men interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 10:38 AM
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Well you just proved my point. Either a guy invest emotionally or he invest finantially by, as you said, working his ass off to provide for a woman. If a guy does not invest emotionally (doesn't want to commit to a relationship, wants to see other women) and still demands that you split bills and isn't generous, what's the advantage for a woman to be in that position? Also about the word-action stuff, that interesting and answered other post I made recently. If a guy SAYS the relationship is ove…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 08:39 AM
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Hum yeah. If a guy wants kids he either has to have time to raise them or have deep pockets to have the wife or someone else raise them. What you thought it was just fucking and that's it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 08:30 AM
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Don't be anyone's toy, or doormat. Oh yes for sure. My natural instinct was to back off and I was happy for that. I don't think I have doormat personality. Actually now thinking about the word doormat, it means the mat at the door, everyone cleans their feet in that mat before going in. Oh yeah... Not me. hehe
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 08:28 AM
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Yeah. I get the feeling if he gets women approval he gets confident and then dumps her to go get other women. If it doesnt work he wants to back to the ex to get the approval again. In any scenario he would not commit to me. I'd just invest emotionally on him to give him ego boosts so then he dumps me to go find others. Just nop.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:52 PM
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You are foreigner, you have money and if they marry you they get a green card or documents in case it's Europe, in any case they'd expect a commitment to them. Or you are just hot and they want to hookup with a hot guy because appearances are highly valued. Definetely would not say Latin American society is very feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:37 PM
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Yes exactly. Basically he wants a momma. Partners can't be your momma. A mom supports you if you want to date someone else. A partner won't support you if you decide you want breakup the relationship with them and date someone else. That's just ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:35 PM
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Latin American women are extremely conservative, they lust for guys but they usualy care about things like commitement and relationship, so they'll lust for a guy until they get a good catch. After they nail him, they may lose a bit of what they were initially offering. They'd fit perfectly in the FDS narrative except maybe for the fact that they are brought up being taught how to please men. I come from an European country with a very conservative, misogynist mentality much like Latin Americans…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:31 PM
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True, that's why I don't fully agree with them. They totally exclude hookups/fwb and sugaring, I don't have such an extreme view. I also wouldn't wait for sex for so many months either. But the truth is my experiences were not great so maybe they do have a point on that. Definetely have a point a woman should not settle for a man who makes her feel bad or that is not willing to invest emotionally or otherwise. The alternative of being single is always better.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 04:43 PM
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Yeah. My grandfather was deployed in one of our former colonies. Not sure if he cheated or not, but the rest of his life he was faithful to my grandmother, so at least I had a good example. The other one had 6 kids, spent all the money on booze, hit my grandmother, they lived in extreme poverty. I am glad he died before I was born.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 04:33 PM
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I was chatting with a guy for 8 months planning to meet when pandemic restrictions were lifted. He told me he was not looking to meet anyone or was very interested in sex. Fast forward, first available woman that he gets, he starts fucking her and not telling me. Only telling me when she left and then implied it was my fault because I was not clear about my expectations, he thought we were just friends, we were not in a relationship and thus he could have experiences (yeah, sure then don't tell …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 04:20 PM
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Not to mention they raped local women in the war scenarios then came back home to their wives. Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 04:14 PM
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I don't go on Tinder, since pandemic started. Never met any guy from there, very low quality but also never dedicated much of my time to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 04:13 PM
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Career, education, mental/physical health and hobbies and recreation for me come first than anything. Then comes friends. Then comes relationships, family and sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 03:55 PM
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Hum because they don't buy BS from men they are mentally ill? Actually I am not even an approved member yet and clash with them on some stuff. One of the stuff being that I do not agree all HVW will get a HVM because there's few of them (of HVM) and the older you are the worst. So some HVW will stay single forever or if they want a family they will have to compromise on something and get a guy who doesnt check all FDS boxes. Plus FDS promotes self improvement. Actually the only reason I am menta…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 03:37 PM
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Yes I know, I'd go to hell unless I gave free bookings to the priest.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 03:16 PM
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Believe me therapists in my country are total crap. If you want a good one that practices inovative therapies the hourly rate is super high for the salaries that we have. I went to 4 in my past. One just talked about her life, other was 15 minutes appointments with her yelling that I was a bad daughter (never talked about being raised by narcisistics, complex PTSD, boderline personality disorder), the guy stopped making bookings because I couldn't afford the full fee, initially he made a discoun…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 03:09 PM
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Yeah cheap ones, who are crapy. Then you have to seek the right one untill you find a good one, it can take forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 02:55 PM
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That's your view of sugaring. It's like Tinder, it's not an hookup app, it is what people make of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 02:51 PM
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Ideally I'd go to one, but I cannot afford long term steady therapy or have much time for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 02:42 PM
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Okay, if you want to call it prostitution, then so be it. Even prostitutes deserve respect and should not be abbused. And I honestly prefer honest people clear about what they want than people full of BS. I don't believe it is prostitution, because a regular prostitute has several clients that book her for a certain hour and pay her in the end of the act. If you are dating someone you are exclusive to that person, text (thus maintain contact outside the sexual act), make stuff together like dinn…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 02:34 PM
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Sugaring is not escorting. It has become like that since it has gone mainstream. Before it was just a niche dating between younger women with older/richer guys who wanted to DATE in specific conditions. Conditions being: Guy's busy with work doesn't have much time to date women; Girl likes to be taken care of and doesn't need a guy around her 24/7 365 days a year; I mean look at JFK and Jackie Kennedy. That could be perceived as a sugar arrangement. Back then it was usual for guys to provide for…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 02:20 PM
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I guess it depends on your definition of evil. I am not a liar, dishonest or cheater. I leave people alone and don't try to lead them on. Maybe I have other traits that'd make you consider me evil, in that case I'd advise you to stay away from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 02:15 PM
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I went to psychologists when I was younger. They were a joke. Where I live salaries are not that high and my work insurance doesn't cover therapy, so I am not going to spend my money on that. I'd rather save it for other stuff. I like to think that I am able to learn some stuff from the experiences I have and improve a bit. Step by step. Sun and pets, keeping busy with work and having goals/plans help. Pandemic and associated social isolation doesn't help. I was doing somewhat fine pre-pandemic,…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 02:13 PM
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Well I don't date women and I know I am not evil, so I don't have to worry about that side. Not my fight.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 02:08 PM
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That's not totally off. If the guy is not relationship material because he is not emotionally available, but if a woman still wants to have company sometimes to do some stuff and maybe has some sex libido to satisfy, then what's wrong with that? I definetely do not want to fall in love with emotionally immature men and invest on them emotionally. However a lot of men in sugaring world just want the sex only, they don't want the woman to fall in love with them. Some of them are married and are lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 02:03 PM
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Oh yes, for sure. I used to be a pick me type of women too. Some women really have a low self esteem and tolerate that. But they will learn, hopefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:57 PM
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Hum, nop. I want them far from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:48 PM
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True, agree with that, you have to trust the person, be friends with them and feel attracted to them to want to have sex. Also have some shared goals. I was friend with this person, attracted to him and had some shared goals in the sense that we were both childfree and that I thought we had matching sex libidos and relationship expectations. Sometimes that is not enough though. Definetely now do not want to be even friends with this person. I am not friends with liars or gaslighters.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:43 PM
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We're done here. Sir, Yes, Sir! does military salute
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:38 PM
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I don't speak with men online since my failed experiences. I posted this past summer because my friends could not do stuff with me and I wanted to meet someone to go to the beach. I was going to meet but then broke my foot and couldn't. If I knew there was no timeframe to meet I would not keep the chat alive, but the person was in my country. However pandemic restrictions forbade circulation on weekends and I work on weekdays. I agree I shouldn't have kept chatting with him. That is solved now, …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:25 PM
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Hum there are other forms of therapy. Talking to a therapist hearing about how her/his cousin found love somewhere is not very useful for me. Rather spend the money on a trip.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:21 PM
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Yes, my thoughts exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:14 PM
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No. Too expensive and too full of bullshit. Also often project their shit into me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:14 PM
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Can't blame you; the minute the word "polyamorous" crops up I start running too. but WHY?! Don't you want to spread love with your holy noble dick? LMAO sorry could not resist. Not making fun of you, only of those polyamour bullshiters. Those guys are from two camps; either they're attractive enough to get a lot off casual sex, so they don't invest in earning enough to live a life committed to just one, or they're unattractive, so they don't invest into earning enough to live with a steady partn…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:10 PM
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I am childfree. I do not want a family. I was only interested in someone to do stuff with me who cared about me and who wouldn't have his dick slipping into women if we can't be together 24/7 all the time. None of my friends are relationship material to me (to someone else they might and I hope they find someone if they want to). Only one, but it is impossible to have a serious conversation with him without him being silly. I do not like to involve friends in my dating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:04 PM
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It's not an absolute dealbreker if they don't but doesn't look bad if they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:01 PM
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Okay, cool, you're hired.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:01 PM
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Definetely agree with you. Not actively dating currently. I am chatting with two guys who are very nice, so I am expecting they will get someone closer to them soon, definetely I am on my worst now.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:00 PM
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Can be true yes. To the emotionally immature part I have some emotional issues. Does not mean I have to tolerate certain behaviors who would only make my issues worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 12:37 PM
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Yap exactly. I used to be a lurker too. However some of the guys there disgusted me (like the married ones) so to avoid being upset I stopped going there.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 12:36 PM
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I have male friends, they are FRIENDS! Do I fuck my female friends or get into relationships with them? Nop. Then why would I do that with male friends? Unless you don't believe it is possible to have real friendship with people from other genders. While I was chatting with them, I was not with others, so if I can offer that and be loyal, they could as well, they just CHOSE not to. Or did they dicks magically slip into the girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 12:34 PM
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I hate working now already. But if for not working it means I have to tolerate cheaters/abusers/emotionally immature men, then I'll work until the grave.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 12:32 PM
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No, they cannot split. I pay my part. But if they don't split, are not hot and have an uninteresting personality or are not relationship material why would I want to keep seeing them/have sex with them? Like they have literally nothing good!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 12:29 PM
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Well one saying he was only friends with one of his ex. I wanted to meet him he said he couldn't travel because he was going through a lawsuit draining his resources. I offered to go to his country. He said he was planning to go to the country where this ex was even though it is much more far away and expensive than coming to the country where I was. Chatting with a guy planning to meet for 8 months. Could not because I broke foot and pandemic restrictions. Guy says he is not looking for a relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 12:26 PM
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No they don't pay, I usually split with my friends. I have one friend who is very generous and likes to pay sometimes even though he is not wealthy. I could not have a relationship with him because it is very hard to have a serious conversation with him, otherwise, he would be a perfect partner. He is older than me, but he is not a womanizer, doesn't cheat or bullshit, is generous and kind. This guy makes as much or slighty less than me yet it is not the first time he pays for stuff. In fact con…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 12:18 PM
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It is not, I go on dates with guys and have a lot of male friends, it's fun for the day to go to the beach, to a picnic, to a museum. It's fun to have company. Do I want to see them steadily after that? Do I text them and tell them about my stuff? Do I want to have sex with them? Nop.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 12:12 PM
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Definetely do not want to have a relationship if that means I have to buy some of the bullshit those guys are trying to sell. It is damaging for my mental health. If you want to know why, well I suffered from severe depression and during college I just focused on studying. Only when I moved away for the city did I start going out more and meeting people, I have no social anxiety but have extreme trust issues which makes it hard for me to connect with people. And I have an extremely low tolerance…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 12:10 PM
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Definetely did. But it's not like they wore a sign saying "Bad man here". Sometimes you only find out after you already invested a bit of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 12:08 PM
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Exactly, thank you for giving me arguments. Yes and they are around but again do you fulfill their needs? Why would I? Why would I fulfill the needs of a guy who can't offer anything when I could be working, going out with friends or cleaning the bathroom?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 12:06 PM
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Those guys are not emotionally smart enough to plan anything long term, so no I don't believe they were planning to mislead me, but they don't seem very worried they did either.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 12:03 PM
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Okay, so if I have a job, hobbies and disciplines, I offer a low N count, ability to commit and be loyal why should I go for a guy with no ambition, who doesn't have hobbies or who isn't interested in investing in me either emotionally or otherwise? What can they offer? Also, you are making yourself sound like a packet of rice or cereals. "18% fat". Like I care if you look like a granddad or not, I do not know you, I won't ever meet you or you me, and if I did I wouldn't be interested on you bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 12:01 PM
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Well you were lucky to find a decent guy and I am happy for you. Specially after a certain age, decent guys become increasingly scarce, because the good ones, well, are already taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:58 AM
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Yap. Have absolutely nothing against it, if both are consenting adults and nobody is cheating anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:56 AM
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Okay I'd be fine with that. I would not be fine with a guy who has none of those interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:52 AM
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Nop. That's what men try to sell "if you give me sex, I'll just give you the affection and take care of you". Most often than not, they have no intentions of keeping that promise, they only say they will to keep the woman hooked on them long enough for them to have the sex. Once they are satisfied they leave the woman and if she complains they call her crazy and hysterical and drama queen and pyscho and claim "hey we were never in a relationship, I never said I wanted one!".
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:51 AM
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Exactly, 38%. You do realize that means that 62% aren't, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:49 AM
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So you fell for them instantly and had no real relationship. Long online ones, so yeah not real relationship but definetely did not fall for them instantly. So you're using your 1 experience to dictate future actions. But aren't women supposed to keep a low N count? I mean dude above just shamed women with high N count now you come here and say I should work on my N count? Which one it is then?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:48 AM
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No it's not. A lot of posts here advocate that they should always split with a woman AND expect sex early on even though they invest nothing. If you dare to question them, they call you gold digger or accuse you of sugaring. Sugaring is mutually benefitial for both, if there's people who don't do it right, that's their problem. It's like Tinder, the app is not for hookups, its the people who use it that decide what they are using it for.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:47 AM
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Yeah 2 is sad. But if I don't like a guy no amount of money will make me like him. I once told a dude who was married and wanted an online affair "if I was your wife, I'd take your kids, alimony money and leave you". That must have killed the mood because he didn't reply back. 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:38 AM
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Why would you be attracted to a guy who 1) is not generous 2) not phisically attractive and 3)emotionally unavailable?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:36 AM
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I think that if a man wants emotional investment from a woman and sex he either has to 1) be able to emotionally invest on her (commitement, caring for her) or 2) invest otherwise. Maybe not all women would be ok with option 2) but I would be even less okay with a guy who invests nothing and expects all.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:35 AM
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It is not just that. But if he puts no effort into himself when I do put some, I won't be shallow if I say I am not interested. How would that even work? I'd want to go outdoor activies and he'd just stay home playing videogames? How would you even find shared hobbies/activities?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:31 AM
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I liked other guys and emotionally invested on them. I don't regret my hookup. But hookups are hookups if I ever do it again I won't expect it will be much more gratifying than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:29 AM
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Yes if when you meet you show weakness thats true. But if when you meet you show you can be fun and she gets hooked on you you'd be surprised about how many woman stay together because they think they can fix the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:27 AM
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No. Maybe is not just a self centered selfish asshole and like to treat people around him..?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:23 AM
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Hum no. Most guys don't care about independent career woman. They just care about her looks and sex. Actually often guys get put down if the woman is too independent and if she makes more than him.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:23 AM
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Then why? Because they work at Walmart are fat and spend all weekends smoking pot and are completely unable to be responsible and accountable for their actions? Because they live in a hippie polyamour commune?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:21 AM
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And? At least he gives something. Most guys here get terrified with the concept of FDS that says you should wait months for sex. So you want the sex and company straight away without giving anything back?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:20 AM
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So you don't have sex with your dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:18 AM
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It is not paying for sex. They go on dates, it's just that the guy pays for stuff, trips, and gives gifts.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:03 AM
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Doesn't mean I want to be anywhere near those 8 billion people. Some I am very happy I will never meet or will never cross my path.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:02 AM
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Hum, okay they maybe don't call shallow to women who seek someone good looking/wealthy because you are also shallow: why don't you date women of your age? Also that goes over my limit, my limit was always guys in their mid 40s. I am shallow because love doesn't choose ages, right? Then why don't you date women of your age?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 11:00 AM
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No, actually sugaring is dating, it's just that recently since it has gone mainstream the line between sugaring and escorting has become less and less clear because it attracts the wrong bunch. I used to be a lurker of the r/sugarlifestyleforum some of the long timers who do that complained of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:57 AM
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I agree with the dangers of sex working. I do not stimulate actively seeking sugaring. But women should not feel guilty if, after working on themselves, they demand a guy who's equally independent and can offer something to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:54 AM
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No I go to the gym and I am not super skinny or pumped. But I like to do it for stress relief, and also to strengthen muscles and make sure I have respiratory resistance. I also have a sweet tooth and my grandfather was diabetic so if I am not careful I'll become a diabetic obese woman. And the more I meet "normal" guys, the less guilty I feel for being shallow, in fact after seeing the BS they are all about, I feel like I should definetely be more shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:50 AM
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Yes, but at first they seemed nice men, minding their business, they did not slut shame women, they did not express misogynist tendencies, they were not drug users or violent, they had had long term previous relationships with women before. So you definetely can't see the emotionally unavailability part (in this case not the abuser part) after a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:48 AM
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A 18yo dating a 78yo billionair - pure love for sure. Wew no. I am not into Dumbledores, they have to look fuckable, not geriatric. My N-count is 1 and I am absolutely agains the polyamour and open relationship BS. Doesn't mean anything I still only attract crapy selfish dudes. FDS related sub just removed one of my posts debating this topic because they didn't like it promoted sugaring, so they are against that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:42 AM
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Well I have a college degree and working on another, I have a white collar job and I like to watch documentaries about social topics AND I go to the gym. So asking that of a guy makes me shallow?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:39 AM
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you choose to go after the emotionally unavailable cheating abusers? If I don't know they are emotionally unavailable cheating abusers I didn't choose to go after them. I thought I was going after something and turned out to be another.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:37 AM
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Whatever you want to call it. Some prostitutes are more honest and better people than "normal" people who do the "normal" dating anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:36 AM
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Hum, wouldn't you say that a parasite is a guy who is not willing to invest on a woman emotionally, who is not willing to pay for stuff either or care about her needs BUT expects women to act as their therapist or emotional dumpster and to give them ego boosts?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:35 AM
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So, basically, emotional investment has to be quantified in terms of money and relationships are and should be transactional? Sounds like an RP talking point if you ask me. Maybe after you live with so much shit you do pick up some of their habits true. All relationships are transactional. In some cases the only transaction is emotional, but you are investing in the person and expect the same back.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:34 AM
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No, not every adult does that. Believe me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:32 AM
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Well emotionally unavailable cheating abusers, don't wear a sign or t-shirt saying "I am emotionally unavailable cheating abuser". Some signs are very easy to filter out. Others you can only filter once you already got emotionally invested on someone. Those are the worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:29 AM
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Okay, whatever you have to say to yourself to sleep well at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:24 AM
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I would not leave him or cheat on a guy like that. If he takes care of my needs and cares for me he gets my loyalty. I'd hope the man is aware of your desires. I was once angry with him because he said something about my country being a shithole socialist place. I told him "well people just like you for your money, when you don't have more they'll leave you". And he was like "so I am going to enjoy while I do". Realistically he will not ever be in a struggling position though. He is not a drug a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:19 AM
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Yes sure, they were happy. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:15 AM
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LOL sure I will find love in a guy who can't even put some effort to go to the gym for example. I am not that attactive either, but I work 8h/day and (pre-pandemic now gyms are closed) I used to hit the gym everyday for 1h no matter what. Often that meant I had to commute to the gym on purpose for like 30+ minutes or more. I also took care of the house where I live, I cleaned it, I cooked, I took care of the house of my parents where I have my dogs. So don't tell me a guy who doesn't even try to…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 10:13 AM
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Contrary to what you might think, there are plenty of women who enjoy casual sex and two people can have a great, mutually beneficial time having sex with no romantic feelings involved. Hum no. This is like when guys say there are women who love anal sex. Nop they do it to seek validation and ego boost, which works for a couple of days but then it fades and they realize they are still alone and longed for more. Casual sex is mostly crap for most women and we don't orgasm with it. I had sort of a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 09:53 AM
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Yeah, I am not a big fan of those who spend money on expensive clothes and shit like that, it's just plain stupid. However, if it makes them happy... whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 09:50 AM
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Well, surely if I was closer to this guy I would not mind dating him. I do not require that much emotional investment either because I also work. I am pretty sure he was not the cheating type either because he doesn't have time to hangout with the exes and female friends. He doesn't have none most likely. I am already undatable because I keep meeting emotionally unavailable men who hurt me and create traumas in me and I did not get anything positive out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 09:49 AM
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I used to chat with a guy who was extremely good looking and had a 6 figure salary. He offered to fly me in to his country to meet. I refused because I felt it was too dangerous. This guy has no trouble finding women. However he does work 12h/day and thus I imagine he doesn't have much time to invest in one. However he is aware he doesn't have much time to invest in a woman and thus was not in a relationship (he was in his late 30s). When he does meet a woman he is generous with her, he makes su…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 09:44 AM
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I think I had a chat with you in other post and you said sex was super important to you and that you only wanted women for fun and only committed to your girlfriend in one weekend. What about those women before your gf who probably invested on you emotionally when you were just interested in fun? Doesn't it prove my narrative that men most of the time are not willing to invest anything in women?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 09:39 AM
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He got into a short relationship with the woman until she left, so he doesn't really know what he wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 11:00 PM
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No it was not on social media. I would not do that. I wanted to vent and have input/insight from strangers because I felt like him telling it was my fault, I wasn't sure of everything anymore. The answers I got from people helped realize I am was not that off and my feelings were valid and also my decision to cut contact was the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 10:02 PM
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Yap it was stupid. Should have not kept in touch. We were going to meet but couldnt. Contact should have ended then. Its not publicly. Nobody knows its him. And I did it to vent. He doesnt have to read it, he can block my account and don't see the posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 09:52 PM
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I wasn't trashing I was describing what he did. If it sounds like trashing it's because what he did was crap. There's no way to say it without sounding like trashing because it was bad. And in my post I actually enumerated some positive things on him, he just specifically focused on the part where I mentioned the exes and clarified to everyone that he did not keep the exes as an option for sex. Because every stranger on reddit who doesn't know me, or him, or that I am talking about him needs to …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 09:11 PM
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I am in my late 20s and don't feel attracted to younger guys precisely because I can't stand instability.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 08:37 PM
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Hum, then what's the point of starting if you already know it's going to end? You can make relationships work if you put an effort into it. There are some irreconciable dealbreakers, like distance; someone being abusive/violent/cheating (in this case, why would you want to be friends anyway) or having different lifestyles/life goals but if you know you have different life goals why start a relationship in the first place? Unless we're talking about relationships that start when you are a teenage…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 08:21 PM
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Then stop being lazy and make the relationship work.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 08:08 PM
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Not hate. I don't need to hangout with people to prove I don't hate them. I can not hate them and still not hangout with them. There's a lot of people in the world to hangout with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 07:35 PM
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I have a low libido so won't work with someone sex oriented. Not relationship material to me. Also I already have enough friends and if I want I just go to events and make more. No need to befriend exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 07:33 PM
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What a bunch of BS. Help me heal. What is she a reiki practioner? 🤣 Normal people go to shrinks or do meditation to heal. Nobody can heal other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 07:20 PM
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No. I have male friends but they are not close. I go with them to cinema, dinner, sometimes we go visit a museum or do a hike or picnic. Most often in the context of a group and not one on one. Rarely go to their houses. Don't text them daily or share deep intimate issues. Thus I'd expect the same from the guy. Already had way too many situations in which I trusted the guy when he said they were just friends and then they get intimately involved. For me friends in a group context are fine. Too m…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 07:09 PM
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Hum most of those things can be established in the beginning and sex for me is not that important. I wouldn't want someone with a high sex libido but that's easy to filter out: if all the guy talks and cares about is sex then he is not relationship material. I know I am childfree. I have a job in a certain place and expect someone who lives here, travels here often or is location flexible. Someone with a job too people with too much free time tend to create dramas and search other people because…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 07:00 PM
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I just think it's a bit of bullshit that thing about relationship not working. There's some reasons why a relationship would not work: Someone cheats/is dishonest/is violent/abusive: in this case I can't imagine wanting to be friends with them in the end One of the person has to move away and the other can't because they have stable careers in a place: in this case you can't hangout anyway and online relationships suck, so I wouldn't advice keeping in touch steadily; You don't want kids and othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 03:59 PM
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Sounds like a summary of how it's like to be a woman. Lots of CRAPY options who only cause mental damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 09:34 AM
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I think so but I have issues so for me separationds are not easy. I have to write my feelings over again. I wish i could just say "this is not going to work, bye" and never look back again. But I question myself a lot. I do hope I improve more in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 09:29 AM
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Done. But its not the sis who's bringing trouble its him. I have a suspicion he hurt her the same way he did me and thats why she left.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 08:58 AM
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Yeah, I guess. I had had one previous who was friends with an ex. He had been married after her and according to him he never cheated. So I was okay. In the end when he had emotional troubles he prefered to be with her, that ended it for me. So I had already some previous trauma with this. With this one, he told me he chatted with exes and I was like okay, let's me and see if we like each other. But then he got involved with someone and deliberately hid it from me to try to lead me on and gaslig…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 08:57 AM
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I don't hate them (maybe at first I feel bitter/angry but then it wears off), I just don't need to hangout with them. It's over, why would I want to hangout with them? To give them false hopes? To make myself have false hopes? To perpeatuate the drama and pain of the breakup? I have a clear notion that they are not all bad. I mean I liked them at one point so they clearly have great things. But then they did something bad that hurt me, so I do not want them in my life anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 08:53 AM
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I have a lot of male friends. I don't feel attracted to any of them. If I felt attracted to any I'd ask him out to do something together. If they said yes then I'd try to establish a relationship. If no, then depending on the strength of the feelings I had I'd remain friends (if the feelings were weak) or if they were stronger I'd just back off to avoid being friendzoned. However, my male friends are just friends. I do not text them daily. I do not share pictures. I do not cuddle with them. I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 08:45 AM
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There were three exes. When we started talking he had broken up already with two of them. One was more recent than the other. I don't know the details or how long it was. I do know one of them had been a previous ex so he has a history of going back to them. And that one was expecting he'd go back to her probably because he wasn't clear in the breakup (I mean if you breakup but then text/videocall often it's a bit confusing). But while we were chatting he got involved with a woman had sex and sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 08:28 AM
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He had broken with two that he kept in touch. One was actually expecting he'd go back to her. Meanwhile while we were chatting he got phisically involved with one as in having sex and feeling in love in a way the girl thought they were in a relationship. He didnt tell me and we kept chatting and kept planning to meet in a more intimate scenario. When she left, he told me. About the others I dont care but it does indicate a pattern of him keeping the exes and not being clean cut in the breakups i…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 05:51 AM
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No, I cut contact. We were just chatting and planning to meet so we were not partners yet. I figured if someone made me feel like that and we're not even in a relationship it's not worth investing further. If we were to have further involvement and I asked that he'd just accuse me of being controlling. He doesn't see a problem with hanging out with them and if fact thinks I am the selfish one who has a transational view on relationships for seeing things that way. He is not interested in changin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 11:11 PM
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Yap.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:40 PM
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Yap. None of my issue. I am gald it's not my mess to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:31 PM
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If I am friends with a guy it means I don't feel attracted to him otherwise. If I did, I'd try to hangout with him romantically and then two things could happen: 1) he'd date me so we would no longer be friends, but in a relationship and 2) he'd reject me and I'd move on but I am not a clown so I don't stay on friendzone and thus don't remain friend with someone I had feelings for to ear about his romantic stories with others. I have a hard time getting close to people though so might not repres…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:30 PM
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I told him i was not okay with the way this was making me feel, that he should have told me he was in a relationship with a woman because I wouldn't want to chat with him anymore or meet him. We were just chatting and planning to meet and couldnt before due to external factors but I kept in touch (stupid mistake). I told him I did not feel confortable with him hanging out with the ex he was involved while chatting with me that he did not tell me about until she dumped him. He said he wanted to h…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 08:11 PM
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More like a hippie chad. It is not sex its feelings and love. His dick is holy and divine. He doesn't cheat, he spreads love. 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 08:02 PM
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Hum ok. As long as it works for all of you. Surely wouldn't work for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 07:22 PM
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Nop. I dont. I actually hate when people suffocate me and want to be all over me. There's billions of people in the world with which they can hangout. They insist on hanging out with someone that 2 months they were in loved with and fucking. Isn't that weird? Also in my case the guy has a history of going back to exes. And of ommiting that he is seeing other people to lead me on. So he clearly cannot be trusted to make a clear separation and to act according to what he says he wants. And when I …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 07:13 PM
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Oh ok. Do you text with them daily and videocall? Were they recent exes? Did you do that after a recent breakup? And when you get into a relationship are the people ok with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 07:08 PM
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Hum then how staying friends with someone you still love and watch them move on and have others will help you? And why would i want to get into a relationship with someone who loves someone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 07:00 PM
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Hum NO! Definetely NO! None are good and you are forgeting the alternative which is to be in a healthy relationship with herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 06:59 PM
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Yeah but you hang out with them why? Don't you have other people to hangout with?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 06:53 PM
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Hum yeah. I have no interest in dating someone who is only investing in me 30% because the rest is being invested on the exes while I am investing 100% on a relationship with him. So definetely do not want any further involvment with this person. He can do whatever he wants but I am pretty sure he wont find a girl for a healthy relationship in this conditions unless she is polyamour and has other partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 06:15 PM
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I am insecure but I can assure with this guy even the most secure woman would feel insecure because he makes no effort to reassure her, his only worry is that he looks noble. And I didn't get into a relationship I found out at an early stage while my emotional involvment was still minimal, thankfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 05:59 PM
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I am sure it helps on my therapeutical recovery that I keep meeting man child selfish guys. It was a temporary phase and I am not taking more again. I had to for a week because I was so broken I could not focus in work because of what this person did. But sure you are right us women should date Low Value Men since this is cleary so benefitial for our mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 05:38 PM
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I mean if you want to date older men, I won't judge you! Be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 05:33 PM
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It isn't usually. But in this case that the person described, it seems to be very well solved. In most cases, including the case I had, I totally agree with you! I was chatting and planning to meet a guy who kept his three most recent exes around. Videocalled one frequently for her to talk about her issues; the other one actually was back in his country thinking he'd go back to her and was pissed when he didn't; and his most recent he started having a thing with her and didn't tell me about it o…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 05:31 PM
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Hello Incel guy who's been stalking me in r/FemaleLevelUpStrategy, r/dating and r/PurplePillDebate. I didn't say I was using my antidepressants, I said I was taking more Xanax, which is not an antidepressant, it's an anti-anxiety medicine that I take as SOS for panic/anxiety situations. If you are stalking and attacking people at least have your facts straight otherwise you'll just look ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 05:27 PM
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too much of chance that he will come home from work to discover you getting fucked on his bed by the pizza delivery boy and getting the comment that Literally I was chatting with this person and he started fucking a girl and only told me because she dumped him while at the same time making me believe our plans to meet were still valid... In the meantime I wasn't even chatting with any other guy. Then he said it was all my fault because my intentions towards him were not clear and he thought we w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 05:25 PM
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They are not friends! You were fucking them, often sharing a house, and a bed, and deeply intimate things with them! Do you do that with all your friends, including friends of the same gender as you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 05:20 PM
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I am not going to ruin my mental health for a dude. It is not worth it. I am not going to fight other women for a dude, if they want to have him, they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 05:19 PM
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Hum, yeah, if I like someone I try to make it work. If it doesn't work then I don't want to keep them around. What for? I may not hate them, but I don't need to hangout with them and text them daily. If I did that and got involved with someone new, the new person would have to date me and the exes. It is extremely unfair for future partners to take that baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 05:18 PM
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No in my case the best is I cut contact and don't want any further involvment with this person. I found out at an early stage.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 05:17 PM
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Then if he stills loves the ex why break with her and go find another girl and involve her in his emotional mess? Why not make it work with the ex? Or if not possible just remain single and don't involve anyone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 05:17 PM
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An exception would be an ex he has kids with Obviously! I think it would be extremely selfish of me to demand the guy not to see the ex if they had kids, just no. This case they didn't have kids together or any obligations.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 05:15 PM
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Yes, a bit coward though because the ex needs to move on. He doesn't want her in the moment because he thinks he can get better, but wants to keep her around to make sure she'll take him back when he doesn't find better. I mean if I was his exes I would not tolerate that BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 05:14 PM
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Hum I do. If he is not exclusive I leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 03:00 PM
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Yes but I am not going to compete with other women. Constantly having to compare myself to others is damaging for my mental health and NO GUY is worth my mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 02:12 PM
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Okay I don't really care what you do or do not with your ex honestly. It was just a debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 02:11 PM
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Another dude saying most dudes do it to not burn that possible hook up bridge, usually. Just being hones Thanks some guys just can't stand saying that because they always need to look so noble! And I would help her too, with whatever guy stuff she needed too, so it's not a one-sided, "using her for sex" thing. I'd say it's pretty mutual across the board. This is a stupid idea sorry. You wouldn't help her get another dude, you'd want to keep her around to continue to give her hopes and thus preve…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 01:59 PM
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Yap. Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 01:37 PM
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Yeah I guess. Definetely looking always over my shoulder wondering if my partner is fucking someone else or developing for the exes again is not on my list of fullfilling things.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 01:30 PM
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Yes, in this particular case I have reasons to believe he is not clean cut about his intentions towards exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 01:26 PM
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Well I'd care specially if they had an emotional connection with the people they were fucking because that would mean I would not be the main option when it comes to get into a relationship. I would just be the side fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 01:20 PM
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Oh yes, he was looking for approval. He wanted me to approve him hanging out with exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 01:18 PM
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Confront? Who?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 01:16 PM
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Sure, as long as in none of stages Boy is not fucking others and is actually wiling to invest in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 01:12 PM
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LOL I guess. Not that they look like Dumbledore or anything they look younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 12:58 PM
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Me too. If you had sex with someone or a relationship that's not a normal friend. I didn't have sex or a relationship with any of my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 12:54 PM
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Yap. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 12:51 PM
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What is IDGAF? Exactly what I think. If they stay friends there's still feelings. I can see how distance would be an irreconcilable deal, for example if they both had stable careers in different places and couldn't be together. But that was not the case in the situation I had, if they wanted to work it out of the parts had enough location flexibility to make it work. So there's no reason really, other but one of the parts wanted to make sure the grass wasn't greener on the other side but at the …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 12:48 PM
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Exactly. I feel like trust is the main issue but I have good reasons not to trust this person in particular. Also yes, one thing is theory, other thing is practice. I had one guy who was friend with an ex and I was totally fine with it because he kept reassuring me that they were just friends, he reassured me that I was great and enough. But then in the end when he had emotional problems he wanted to be with her instead. So maybe not even that is enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 12:39 PM
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And coward. Breakups are hard, bring a lot of pain. People like that just want to take the easy way, instead of dealing with the pain by themselves they prefer to drag the others on. Instead of being alone and dealing with issues and then go back to dating new people and subject to rejection like everyone else, they need the ex to be there because they are so special and can't deal with pain or rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 11:51 AM
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Personally, huge red flag. To me as well. Sign they don't want the person to move on and want to keep them as an option to rekindle in the future if they can't find better. Also an excuse to not invest in new people. After all they have exes willing to take them back why would they put effort into someone new.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 11:41 AM
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I don't hate them. I just don't want to have them around to avoid triggering feelings and be in perpetual drama state. It's not one little thing. It's a guy insisting on hanging out with exes on a regular basis that 2 months ago he said he loved and was fucking and calling me crazy/conservative, accusing me of not living, being unexperienced, having weird views on relationships, saying he got involved with someone because it was my fault I didn't make my expectations clearer. I think that's enou…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 11:40 AM
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No, I cut contact. He just chased me (stalked my reddit posts) I texted him to stay away from my reddit he tried to gaslight me and in the end said "stop measaging me" and blocked me. When I did not message him in two weeks and was starting to move on. He just had to make sure he would be one dumping and this is causing me to have to start over again on the moving on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 11:22 AM
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True, the problem is they don't reassure and take the doubts away, because they themselves are not sure about what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 11:04 AM
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For me as well. For the person I was involved with, ex means you will videocall them, hangout with them on a regular basis because they have emotional issues and you are their friend so you help them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 11:03 AM
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That's nice, but definetely takes a certain type of guy who is emotionally mature.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 11:01 AM
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This is why you don't make rash judgements on who you date out of desperation, lust, or anything else that's ephemeral and anything else <current_moment>. Did not understand this sentence. Yes if I met a person like you that makes a clean cut distinction then probably it would be okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:47 AM
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Also probably I think that no guy of my age will want me because they have better options. Older guys don't have as many options.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:45 AM
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Yes that's why I do it. I usually function properly, I am able to meet people and hide pretty well my traumas. If you meet me you wouldn't say I am depressed. But when it comes to establish close bonds, forget about it. I am uncapable of doing that and I am drawned to emotionally unavailable men who always end up hurting me as a form of self sabotaging. It's like you see some poisonous fruit and my brain is like "oh look a poisonous fruit, seems good, so shiny and juicy, let's try it" LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:42 AM
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Hum, okay. Well if it's just as clean cut as you make it sound I'd be okay with it. But I had a particular situation in which it wasn't very clean cut because the guy had gone back to a previous ex, so it shows that for him the separation between friends and lover is not as clean cut. Also imagine you are in a relationship with someone, things go sour, you become close to one of your exes who provide you emotional bonding in a moment of weakness, wouldn't you go back to them then and end up chea…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:40 AM
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I am just too involved in the situation. I did the right thing (cut contact) but just feel like an emotional mess right now, questioning my decision and sanity all the time (doesn't mean I reach out again, but the simple fact I question myself shows I don't trust myself).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:38 AM
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No it's a prescription from my family doctor. But I this point I take them for so long, I just send an email everytime I need to refill the prescription. Also most pharmacies would just give them to me without prescription if they saw I take them chronically, because going cold turkey in these medication is bad. I know what you are going to say, but therapists are too expensive and honestly most of them are full of bullshit and project their own personal experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:35 AM
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Hum, okay I see. Though sex doesn't have to be a part of the relationship, some people are ace.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:32 AM
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Hum, okay. Guess we wouldn't be compatible then. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:31 AM
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Where is your self respect? I am going to answer this in a couple of months. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:30 AM
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I was never diagnosed with anything, I do take antidepressants so I guess depression? But it's possible I have the BPD too, yes. I think the treatment would be the same as the one for depression though, there's no specific pills for BPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:29 AM
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But if you are so close emotionally then why not try to make the relationship work? Is it just the distance?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:27 AM
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Not sure I would want to meet them in the first place. So much people in the world and I would specifically hangout with the exes of my partner? LOL You don't think there's a chance you'll get back together at some point in the future if neither of you finds a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:19 AM
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But do you hangout with them regularly and have physical touch like cuddling?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:16 AM
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Exactly. I don't hate them, but doesn't mean I hangout/text/videocall them on a regular basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:15 AM
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Hum, okay, interesting about the writing style. What do you think means to be crazy?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:13 AM
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No, not in group! One on one, and making specifical plans to meet one on one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:12 AM
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In the particular situation I had, the guy has three exes. One of them is older and he videocalls with her frequently because she has emotional issues (they are in different countries thus why they just can videocall, but when in the same country, they hangout). The other one was more recent and is also in a different country but was expecting he'd go back there to be with her, he texts/calls her often even though he told her he didn't want a relationship. Then there was another recent one that …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:11 AM
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Exactly right?! Are you a guy or girl? This guy I cut contact with him, he stalked my reddit posts, lured me into messaging him again and then was like "stop messaging me I will block you". And blocked me. Like I wasn't messaging him in weeks, suddendly he makes a throwaway and comments in one of my posts then tells me to stop messaging. I just told him to call his exes for approval because he won't be getting mine. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:08 AM
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I have no doubt you're crazy, but you made the right choice here. Thanks, I am crazy. But that doesn't mean I have to be used. hehe Why do you think I am crazy? Because I would get involved with someone older or because I voted Communist Party?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:05 AM
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Older guys are supposed to have their shit together. Or so I thought :/ All the ones I like, keep the exes around and call me crazy for seeing a problem in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:03 AM
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And there's no chance you will go back to one of your former lovers in the future? Also what do you talk about with them? You never flirt? What if the woman you were seeing was talking with exes and hanging out with them, doing stuff together while you were not present?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 10:01 AM
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So it can happen and someone is not paranoid or crazy for thinking that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:59 AM
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I am 28 he is in his early 40s (single, no kids, not married, obviously). I cut contact, he stalked my reddit posts, made a throwaway account, commented in one of my posts, I texted him to stop doing that, we had a fight and then he blocked me. So I have the feeling he did not like that it was me cutting the contact and wanted me to go "back" to him so he would have a chance to be him cutting it. He also said this subreddit was toxic and I should get out of reddit and live. I have a feeling it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:57 AM
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all it takes is some sweet talk and the right night Yes, but if you do not hangout with them, sweet talk and right night doesn't happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:51 AM
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I cut contact. But he said I was crazy and conservative. I voted Communist Party last elections. LOL But I am conservative because I cut contact with someone who keeps 3 exes around, one of which was recent and another who was waiting for him to go back to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:49 AM
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that's cool with me, if she chooses to cross the line into something inappropriate during the time of our relationship, she'll be dismissed simple as that. But why invest your time in someone that has the possibility of going back to the ex when there's people out there just as good that don't have that possibility?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:46 AM
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Hum, if the female exes are single and long for emotional bonding they would want to touch him. Maybe not do it for the sex only, but for the emotional part as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:43 AM
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I am a girl and don't chat with my exes. I want them far away. But yes validation from the exes is one of the reasons. Also keeping them as future options if they can't find a better relationship. It's easier to go back dating an ex that to go date people because those new people can reject you and not the ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:42 AM
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Wouldn't touch her with a ten foot pole. Yeah exactly. So why it is acceptable if the guy does it, but not if the woman does it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:40 AM
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I don't know, that's why I asked. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:38 AM
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What if it was a woman you were with doing that, were you ok? Do you think her husband is okay with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:38 AM
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But do you hangout with them regurlarly? What is great terms? Would you consider in the future getting back to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:32 AM
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Yeah but I didn't have sex or a deep emotional bond with the friends I hangout with. What if it was the woman you were involved with doing that (hanging out with her exes regularly), what would be your opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:31 AM
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Hum, I see. I still think it's a bit weird to go meet the mom of the ex, but okay if it works for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:30 AM
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Care to elaborate a bit?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:29 AM
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Yeah what I thought. I assume you are a guy, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:23 AM
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Then how so?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:23 AM
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Exactly what I thought. I was not lover with my friends! So it's not just a regular friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:22 AM
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Honestly if it was just hookup, I'd be somewhat ok, but the problem is that there's also emotional connection. Also for a sexual hookup he can just meet new people. I guess the exes is the easier way because he already knows they won't reject him, whilst new people can reject.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:22 AM
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Hookup with the ex?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:20 AM
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Yeah right? That's exactly what I thought. Exes around are an excuse for someone to not invest in a relationship because if something goes wrong they can just go back to exes, which is something familiar. Are you a guy or girl btw?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:19 AM
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Meet with the guy? Jesus, that's some deep investment there. LOL How would that go? Would you interview him? I am sorry, just seems funny. As a woman I'd never want to meet with the exes. Definetely wouldn't want to compete with them, because they are women like me and thus I am not going to compete with other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:18 AM
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Yeah but if you knew about it before getting involved with the person, would that be a factor to not get involved?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:08 AM
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But if they are not a couple anymore... I mean considering there's no kids involved. Also what would be your opinion if it was a woman doing that?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:02 AM
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Not sure if you are being ironic or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:00 AM
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But doesn't that prevent people from moving on? Also one thing is to remain friendly but don't keep in touch often. another thing is to actually hangout/talk regularly like they still were in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 08:59 AM
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It can be good on an individual level because individuals get the change to leave situations that are potentially bad for them. On the other hand, it creates a mismatch because it seems like everyone feels lonely and nobody can find someone else who will help them feel less lonely. Also this mindset might mean that people leave at the slightest difficulty instead of trying to work things out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 10:12 PM
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But i thought guys shamed women with a lot of sex partners...?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 10:02 PM
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No I wouldn't leave my partner if he lost his job or was sick, unless he had no ambition in getting a new job. Definetely if he was sick I wouldn't leave. I didn't meet the guys on dating apps, most I met on reddit, so we texted a bit before. I do have a job and only go to places I can afford because in case the guy wants to split I don't want unpleasant surprises. But it is not just they split. It was other things in their personalities, like they didn't seem to be very emotionally mature or ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 09:54 PM
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Well, I know I wouldn't probably leave like that. I tend to be loyal if I like the person. But if the person hurts me I'll leave. I don't date a lot, in most my dates the guys split. I don't make a fuss about it but don't take the guys too seriously and don't feel attracted to them. Just seems like boys and I would have to do a lot of babysitting. With the single guy I actually liked we cooked dinner, he paid the ingredients. Before meeting him I made the effort to buy some pastry from my countr…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 09:33 PM
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I wouldn't have casual sex on the side, that would be hypocritical. If I wanted to have casual sex, I'd have casual sex. If I wanted a relatiosnhip, I'd invest in a relationship. A lot of women in FDS are not interested in casual sex, or maybe were in the past and are no longer. I don't particularly agree with the rule of the 3 months. I would prefer to have sex early on, but that has more to do with my lack of experience. I am sure in the future if I am more experience it won't be that importan…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 09:15 PM
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Women get more easily attached, specially after sex, it's how our braining is wired. So by avoiding low value men we are basically avoiding being used and a potential heartbreak that will destabilize our mental health and self improvement process. It is not worth it. Basically the women is investing emotionally, and that's the biggest investment possible. Money you can just make more. But time, you can't have back.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 08:57 PM
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For women that are not attractive it at the very least is a great way to filter out shitty men. Yes this. I feel like because I am not a catch I can't apply everything that FDS says. But because I am not super hot doesn't mean I have to tolerate behaviors that damage my mental health. I can always choose to be single. FDS doesn't say much about women who seek hookups/casual sex while they don't find a HVM. I tried to post that question but I am not an accepted member yet and they rejected my pos…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 08:18 PM
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I don't follow everything that FDS says. But if a guys is searching for a long term partner then having a woman that ways a certain period of time for sex shows she is loyal to him and isn't sleeping with everyone else. Also FDS promotes personal growth. The idea that the guy should pay the dates is not because the women there are struggling finantially. The philosophy stimulates single women to focus on their careers and thus be independent. The thing is the act of the guy paying shows he is se…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 08:13 PM
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Yes, it's the virus fault. Not that they are utter pieces of shit, it's the virus.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 10:19 AM
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Best summary ever. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 09:43 AM
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Casual sex I could just go to my Tinder or OKC and reply to one of the hundred matches I have or just post here on reddit. I am not really interested in that though. The closest I did was a short term fling with a guy I had met in real life, but I met him in events for like 3-4 times before and we texted for a couple of weeks, so it was not totally casual. He was in his early 40s (I was on my mid 20s) but was single (obviously) and quite attractive, I'd say more attractive than me. LTR is a diff…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 09:34 AM
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Didn't date any man I hate for money. But kudos for women who do. Some men are just pieces of crap who deserve to be used as much as they use others as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 09:26 AM
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Heh there's worst things in a guy than not having a beard for a couple of days.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 11:16 PM
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The guy looks ok, not that bad actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 10:05 PM
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Huge, in my town I don't date, in the city there's more people to meet and also I don't have my neighboors spying on what time I get home.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 10:02 PM
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Let me guess, you expect her not to be fucking others in the meantime but if you do fuck others and she says anything she's being crazy drama queen, right, Sir?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 10:00 PM
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As a woman who feels a bit nauseated with that scenario and who is messed up, I can confirm that only fucked up people are afraid of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 09:58 PM
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LOL sure you have tons of money but think you are so great that women should date you for who you are and don't expect you to share. I had one guy reply to a post I made where I seeked a relationship. First message he sent he came with demands already "i expect us to be flirtatious". I just told him, "well you have women who do that professionally and better than me. I don't do that professionally, i have a job and my life and you expect me to do the cam/pics stuff on top of that for free, sound…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 10:02 AM
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I don't understand why people hate FDS so much. I can only imagine thiese are guys who want easy women that accept their BS. I don't agree with everything they post there and I think that if a member of FDS finds a partner they love, they will relax some of the demands. But the core message is correct: women should not take bullshit from men because we have more to lose from it. It's better to be single than to be with someone who puts minimum effort into you and makes you feel like shit. TRP ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 09:31 AM
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You are just upset because you don't have the money to have those girls. As to security, even dating normal broke guys can be dangerous for a woman. At least in those situations they get something out of it and are not just used.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 09:25 AM
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I was thinking about that the other day and found this!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 01:33 PM
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You should get a t-shirt "8'' long and thick as a red bull can". then put a redbull can in the t-shirt with a naughty look on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 12:17 AM
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No I am just laughing that you subtly put that detail inside the story.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 12:13 AM
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No I don't want to have to go through surgery and put a potentially dangerous material inside my boobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 12:12 AM
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(9 if you count hookups that I put it in, but immediately stopped because I was too big) LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 12:09 AM
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Wait I grew up with that beauty standard for women 90-60-90 cm (boobs, waist, hips) so why can't women have a similar standard for men? Honestly I think huge penis might be too hurftul, I don't really care for the size. Granted maybe a super tiny one wouldn't be great either, but unless he's taking those drugs to have muscles I don't see any reason why he'd have a super tiny penis. I really don't know or spend much time thinking about penises. I like tall men, but I also go with shorter men if t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 12:04 AM
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I guess women who do everything to please men because they have a low self esteem. My self esteem is still not that high. The only difference now is that I don't take bullshit anymore. Self esteem is a work in progress.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 06:50 PM
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I used to be a pick me girl. I grew up being bullied by guys, had a terrible father figure so I thought I had to try extra hard to get male attention and if I did I was so lucky. But then after enough experiences (maybe not that many but maybe I am just too sensitive) with men that I actually liked and that hurted me with their dishonesty, I learned that I don't need to accept everything. I've been single all my life and nothing bad ever happened to me. When a person I invested in emotionally do…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 05:21 PM
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Well I mean maybe some of them are good people. I just think Charles Manson when I ear that though lolol To be fair most hippie guys I met had some income that they had made working before or work remotely and didn't do drugs. But I am not sure if that's the real hippie type lol. Definetely would never get together with one who didn't have a job, expected me to provide for his shit was a pothead and into polygamy shit. Would need a lot of acid trips to ruin my brain in order to do that... And I …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 11:39 AM
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Oh but the problem here is that the guys in the counter culture are just a misogynist as the "normal guys" or even more. They are usually broke and potheads, don't have a job, the women still have to do the housework and have sex with him when he wants and tolerate the one sided monogamy in which he can have sex with whoever he wants but not the girl. So they are even lower value than normal guys honestly because they can't commit or provide financial stability and their brains and dicks at some…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 11:22 PM
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I like bars in which you can talk to people. As a woman who doesn't drink a lot, I go with the intention to talk to people. If I meet someone interesting, exchanging contacts is a good idea, but definetely not having sex in the same night I met the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 01:28 PM
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I literally didn't vote any comment, though mine were downvoted and my post was also only 55% upvoted which means someone downvoted. And I am not against prostitutes, I am against people who abbuse them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 10:55 AM
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It is not a crime to be a prostitute but there isn't a legal status for the profession and they don't pay taxes. That's what legalization is about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 10:29 AM
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Nop, in my country prostitution (and drugs also) are decriminalized but not legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:53 AM
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Yeah, that's what the germans thought. Did not work. Also one thing is legalization, other is decriminalization. Decriminalization helps protect people, legalization helps the state become a pimp.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:47 AM
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Yeah, literally a whole documentary showing it doesn't work well. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:46 AM
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Oh, this is a pro-whoring sub? I thought it was neutral.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:45 AM
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Hum, it increases trafficking but doesn't increase sexual slavery? What do you think they traffick the women for to do house cleaning?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:44 AM
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Wait, what?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:43 AM
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Well I don't know if that's true or not. But if it is, I assume the fact that you are a secluded island makes it sort of easy to do border control. Also probably expensive for traffickers to take women from Southeast Asian countries to New Zealand and if they do, it's easy to spot them at airports. In Europe and US it would not be that easy to control that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:42 AM
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Definetely not. My idea about prostitutes is that they are women who often suffered abbuse as kids or come from poor countries (or poor areas of the country) and were sold by family members or pimped out by husbands/boyfriends. Sure you have some high end prostitutes like escorts and those tend to be nationals who do it for the money not for survival. But in the US at least maybe they do it to pay for college so that's just as sad as the above situations. Definetely don't see them as a threat th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:38 AM
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The model prosecutes men who purchase services of women who are not there willingly. I assume that can be hard to prove, but some signs would be if she is a foreigner from a poorer country, can't speak the language, has signals of being beaten or appears to be in fear. I mean you have a woman from a poor country who can't speak the local language. Most likely she was lured into this new country by someone and is not there willingly. Seems pretty obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:32 AM
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I’m not saying that they don’t, I’m sure they do but let’s be real police departments don’t protect women so them saying that kinda reads as an excuse. Yes, I think it highly depends on who's leading the department. In this particular case they showed two good examples of police directors who were corcerned about this topic so that will reflect in the whole department. Sometimes they just don't care. My level of trust in german police would be high so I wouldn't say they profit from the sex indu…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:29 AM
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Well if you had watched the documentary, this particular group had a hard time starting because nobody thought sex workers needed help. They live off govt funding and donations and are a small local assotiation so I doubt they have a budget.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:26 AM
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In the US. Not in Europe. In my country police officers sometimes have to buy their uniforms out of pocket lol (don't agree with that but definetely think it's more important to spend the money on education and health if one must choose).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:18 AM
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I can assure you I am not a Christian. I was baptized Catholic but like most people in my country who are baptized Catholics because of deep Catholic roots, I don't practice it. I sometimes vote Communist Party in my country (other times vote other left wing parties)... so yeah, definetely not a Christian LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:15 AM
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Funny you said that, one of the cops in the documentary said that most girls from the red light district will tell you they are there voluntarily because if they say otherwise it's considered treason to the that underworld and they are afraid of the consequences. Also they are instructed not to trust the police.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:12 AM
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Wew that's disgusting. I am very much concerned about those women they showed in the documentary and I am glad there's organizations who help them. One of the girls called her clients "dirty pigs" and other said everytime the man comes into the room she switches off her brain as a form of protection. The gyno doctor said most women he sees suffer from bleeding and infections. Definetely pass without any of those men that make those ladies feel so "good".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 12:06 AM
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Yes, that's what the germans thought. The police just says it made their work on going after sex traffickers even harder. They suggest the model they have in Sweden would be better in which clients that use services of prostitutes who are there against their will are legally prosecuted.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 12:01 AM
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Well it's not just police, it's also social workers, and if you took the time to watch it (which you didn't because I posted 5 minutes ago and the documentary is 30 minutes) you'd see police there try to reach out to sex workers, not like in the US where they're hostile.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 11:51 PM
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From what I understood from the documentary they recently passed some sort of Act that makes prostitutes equivalent to service providers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 11:50 PM
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And during those days we have a sex drive. Then we go back to normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 04:34 PM
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Well to be fair if it's casual sex as in like one night stand, unless you are a very experienced woman who knows exactly what gets her off, sex won't be enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 03:55 PM
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Oh man, I needed to read this so much! Especially the part of it's ok to not want to settle and be single. I always feel so much inferiority due to my lack of dating/sexual experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:08 PM
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Women aren't men, men have a sex drive, women do not, so they're coming from different motivations. Some women have a high sex drive. Or they think sex will provide some sort of validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 02:05 PM
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Hum, in my very limited personal experience, I still have more to lose than a guy. I tend to invest more emotionally in a relationship. It's just who I am and the emotional investment I make steals time I could be investing in other stuff like my career. When it ends, it's me who has to deal with depressive episodes that harm my regular life, I am left alone to mend the pieces together and the guy just moves on and is all fine. But that's my personal example. I have some trust and abandonment is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:15 PM
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The other women that have prejudices against you not wanting kids and being a "bohemian woman"? Fuck them. You shouldn't be friends with close minded people like that anyways. Who cares what they think. I am not but I remember once at work we were chatting over lunch and I said I didn't want kids and they were all very shocked. I mean they are not close friends, my closest friends don't judge me for that otherwise they wouldn't be my close friends hehe. What you said ressonates with me about not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:11 PM
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Not sure I got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:06 PM
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Did it work in find more serious relationships?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:03 PM
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Hum, men who have casual sex are not the generous type. And some of them probably have less money than the women. But you do have a point there, if a woman wants casual sex, she should make sure she gets something useful from it, like some gift, a trip somewhere, something like that. I mean just out of principle, to make sure she doesn't get the lower end of the deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 11:12 AM
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I'd say maybe validation and ego boost. Or just curiosity to have a different experience and see how it's like.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 11:10 AM
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Those men have a Madonna Whore complex. They identify some women which are good for casual sex but don't consider them good enough to settle down, get married and have kids with. If they do find a woman like that to settle, then they will probably become babies and complain about dead bedrooms and use that as an excuse to cheat on her with other women. Extremely low quality men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 10:15 AM
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Hum, yeah if I like someone and I am friendzone I am surely not going to stick around listen to his love stories with other women, what am I a clown? In that case, better cut/reduce contact and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 10:13 PM
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Hum, the idea of having prostitution legalized is so that women who want out or who are being exploited/victims of sex traficking can go out seek help without being arrested. The idea is not to promote sex work as a viable work option and make more women do it. It's not about the client's safety, it's about the women's safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 09:57 AM
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Well if he doesn't make me feel safe enough then it won't ever work, so not worth my time. EDIT: oh you mean in casual situations. Well I am sure this person, shits and pees like me, sweats like me and has the same chemical composition, so can't be that different anyway. I'd only feel nervous in like a date or something. But knowing myself like I know, I'd probably just ask him "so how come you don't date a top model?" or "how come you are not a model yourself?" Actually i asked that to one guy.…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 10:47 PM
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Waist? I think i have one of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 03:57 PM
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Are you black? I do have a big butt I think and black guys tend to hit me up and ask if I am brazilian (I am portuguese so there's a lot of brazilians here and african people from our former colonies). It seems that black guys tend to like women with curves and germans too. Guys from my country not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 01:34 PM
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Tanned with dark beards, ginger with green eyes, blonde with blue eyes, brunette with blue eyes, black, damn I even had an asian friend who was sort of hot too and he was skinny and I don't usually like skinny. I don't usually like bald but Vin Diesel is attractive. I don't like obese but I can work with a little fat belly makes him look more real. I like hair and blue eyes and tall but my point is I also like other types.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 01:16 PM
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Weirdly specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 12:56 PM
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Yeah this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 12:56 PM
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And he gets sad they all dump him, looks like he needs to do some insight.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 12:45 PM
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I don't think i have any personal experiences with Chads. All the guys I liked except for a few were very successful with women. I met one in his 40s who had a very active sex life when younger, then got married for 10 some yrs, got divorced and was single ever since. I met another one who was very good looking and in his 40s too (I'd give him 30 sonething), he was a digital nomad so travelled a lot. He had been into a serious relationship but then it ended and I just think since then he just di…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 12:43 PM
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Yeah thats fine I guess, once or twice a week. Usually at first when I meet someone I am hornier. I just imagine long term the pace won't stay the same and so don't think I'd be a match for someone with a consistently high libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 12:24 PM
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Oh yeah at one point I had on my profile in Tinder I wanted friends with benefits. But I think by the type of approaches I got they read the benefits part only lol. Some colleagues told me they didn't think it was a good idea to write that so I changed it. But then again stopped having much time for Tinder and then pandemic happened. I can text. Just don't want to do it all the time. Like if I don't reply in X amount of time its like its the apocalypse.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 12:22 PM
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Yeah I've been single forever now. Just feels like I will remain this way if thats the case, unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 11:37 AM
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Hum ok. Sounds like a fair approach. What exactly do you think I would have to compromise on for the second option (the relationship option)?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 11:36 AM
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Its emotional and practical. If its a male POV then I can't understand why it is so hard to find males who want the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 11:33 AM
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I guess I was not lucky then. I feel like here the guys want to close a deal on you so they can take you for granted after. Too many people with Madonna Whore complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 11:09 AM
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I can do it if I do it I won't count on the guy. It will just be hookup and I probably won't want to see him after that to avoid building expectations. So yeah doesnt really match what I want long term. I mean I know I don't have time to see multiple people maybe the guy does so for me it would be dating exclusively but for him no. So no thanks, seems like a shitty deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 11:08 AM
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Doesn't work like that. I am not confortable using people. And I like people with personality, if he just do whatever I say doesn't seem really authentic.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 10:54 AM
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Well I think there's a lot of women who want to settle with someone nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 10:49 AM
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Yeah sure. As evidenced by my long list of romantic involvements i had on my 28 yo long life of single. I find it exhausting to always be texting and meeting up ONE guy imagine having multiple. Shit. I'd have to change jobs for "professional dater".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 10:44 AM
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Well but I wouldn't cheat on that person. So I would be respecting him as well. And obviously if he got sick and needed me I'd be there more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 10:33 AM
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Define normal. Maybe I'll like the concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 10:30 AM
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I did not know the details of the story. If that's so she should have taken more than 50%. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 12:07 AM
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What table? If we ever go to your house, we should know.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 10:32 PM
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Oh. the nr 2 and 3 are not guarantees... I assumed they were. Shit, some weird people out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 10:32 PM
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For casual sex, I am a woman. I think apparently for some men that's enough. wew. Relationship wise, I have a low N-count, some people care about that. They may wrongly conclude low N-count equates to being more manipulative and susceptible to BS so this is where I also say I am a feminist and socialist so they can see that's not the case. I have a college degree (actually working on the second), no debt, a job (doesn't pay very well but in my country none does). Well don't think that matters a …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 10:28 PM
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Hum, pretty much the worst thing that will happen is less pollution and more food for everyone. Also more space at the beach to lay the towel. Though probably those guys are not the beach type anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 10:12 PM
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Maybe do both because some parents may not do the educate your son part and it's better to not take the risk. Also not everyone has parents/good parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 10:10 PM
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50-60 hours a week should be illegal and is in a lot of places. But maybe women like to work and to have accomplishments of their own. The fact that the corporate world is fucked up is a completely different issue though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 04:42 PM
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Well I am not american so I do not know that commercial. And I did vote Communist Party last elections we had...so I guess I agree. The same way I'd choose Bernie Sanders over Hillary Clinton if you see things in that angle. Doesn't make me any less feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 04:39 PM
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Maybe they enjoy what they are getting and don't need the material support. They can be from rich families, or simply have a job that pays well or maybe they don't care much about money. Also most men don't give material support for free and back then they didn't either. They demanded stuff like the woman to stay at home, to do what he wanted, to cook, to clean to take care of the kids, to not complain if he had lovers, to have sex when he wanted. It's the same nowadays, the difference is now wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 04:22 PM
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wew, kids, I am child free. EDIT: I should add though that a lot of women aren't child free, and do a great job raising their kids alone, much better than they would with an heavy weight hanging around.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 03:58 PM
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Oh damn, I was just going to reply back to the guy that claims that feminism helps him because he can just trick women into dating him as a broke college student and it was excluded :( Here's my reply anyway Well feminism offers the freedom of choice, it doesn't say what people should do with that choice. A woman can choose to do hookups, to commit to a long term relationship, to get married have kids and be a homemaker, to just remain single (reminds of Gloria Steinam, a feminist icon, she was …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 03:25 PM
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Well maybe they don't want to share. They think they are good enough to be loved by what they are. Or they can be asexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 02:50 PM
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Congratulations. You just found out the real reason why people who don't like feminists, don't like feminists. It's because feminism empowers women and thus men can't keep benefiting from the position of privilege they always benefited. So normally those look back at those ancestral times or even to the times of their granparents/parents with nostalgia because they can't do the same anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 02:47 PM
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Damn all this time, me thinking it was just an app that was whatever people made of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 05:02 PM
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Well maybe she is having casual sex because she doesn't want to put too much importance into it because she fears the guy is just playing/fucking around and thus will hurt her? Or she's just busy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 12:32 PM
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I have no idea why I am purple pilled. I just posted here and was not banned or had my post deleted due to some hidden rule or due to the fact that a similar post was made 10 yrs ago, so I guess its a good subrredit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 12:30 PM
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Will totally put that on my Tinder profile. Or more like "Childless nun who's an aspiring whore". That will get me matches for sure LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 06:16 PM
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I once liked a guy who said "all the women I ever liked were ugly". At that time I had tons of body complexes, was depressed and suicidal and he said that. I was 18 and he was the first guy who showed me attention, so I didn't know what to say to that. Today I know what I would have said to that. This guy was a virgin, older than me, had a very bad attitude towards women. I do not feel like I missed out a lot. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 06:09 PM
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Well if he is a rapist then I am sure glad I didn't take his offer to go meet him in his country and I hope someone presses charges against him. My point was some women do not mind ONS. I am personally not a fan and don't think sex would be that nice anyway. I can see how it could be an ego boost to have fun with someone good looking or wealthy just for a short period of time. But that's about it. Short lived fun and ego boost. Definetely not the secret for a meaninful happy life lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 05:58 PM
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I don't have sex in 3 years and before that didn't have sex in 25 years. So no. Sometimes I think "hum, maybe I should lower my standards" but then I find out I am not that desperate. Besides if it's just for sex, any guy will do, even the hot ones won't mind a less hot woman if all they want is sex, so if I really just wanted casual sexual, I'd get a hot one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 05:35 PM
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I am a woman, not particuarly hot, just average looking. If I don't like a guy, I don't like him. I am not going to have sex with him or date him just because I am not hot and can't get any better. I'd rather be alone. Also if I know that he is just with me because he can't find any better and likes to remind me of that constantly, my instinct will be "in that case, be free, fly away, go seek the hot ones". Because I believe everyone should do what makes them happy. And because if it's like that…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 05:06 PM
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Hum.. I used to chat with a guy who was Ralph Lauren model material and spent 13k on rolex watches because they were on sale and Uber was the only public transportation he knew. We lived in different countries, but ocasionally chatted, he had hookups and fwb situations but no serious relationship, he worked a lot like 12/14h a day. I am a bit convinced he didn't have to force the women to go out with him. Though I am sure they were a bit upset he didn't marry them after the sex. I mean I am a wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 04:07 PM
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He's going to say it's by choice "oh I could fuck all those women, but I chose not to". Sure, Jose. As in like, I won the lottery but chose not to claim the prize because I am such a humble non materalistic person. LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 04:02 PM
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I like to talk a bit about exes, to make sure there's not pending issues there and I am not getting into some sort of fucked up triangle or unexpected polygamic situation or something. However guys who'd shame women for being sluts, would not be high in my consideration as future partners. I have friends who have a more casual approach to dating, so I don't want the guy I am seeing to call sluts to my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 03:58 PM
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I don't care about N-count as long as if I am dating the guy, I don't have to date the exes too. Meaning if the guy had a lot of previous relationships or a lot of previous hookups, it is fine with me as long as he doesn't have unfinished businesses with them and is just using me as pass time or leading me on until fixing the issues with them. I actually prefer guys who are clear about what they want, they want sex because they feel like they don't have much time for a relationship, they had sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 03:54 PM
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Me just imagining a row of dicks and a teacher just passing by coldly, looking at it and giving them their grades.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 09:30 AM
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"wait wait, you mean if I have a $200 bill and she pays $100 I will only pay $100?" Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 09:29 AM
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Definetely don't fit any of those three types. Though I do feel like I should become a whore. LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 09:26 AM
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Where are they? Around here everyone seems to have their shit together :/
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 11:31 AM
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Well if we are going to be cynical about stuff then sure. In my view theres some types the type I don't think is attractive but are good partners in the sense they are reliable on stuff like sharing obligations. But in that case the flaw would be probably I wouldn't explore a lot of the sexual component the type who i find attractive but then they to attract other women so the flaw there is having to share and them not being reliable the type that can give finantially stability and make my life …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 11:23 AM
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I didn't yet understand what this subreddit means yeah. There seems to be a wide variety of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 11:15 AM
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I am just trying to figure out. In the end I am going to decide but just figuring out.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 11:15 AM
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Yes that's ideal. I guess my problem is getting there due to my severe trust issues and also due to me swinging between anxiously attached and avoidant (this later is perceived as lack of interest by the other person). Also I am just always looking over my shoulder thinking the person is going to leave so definetely have to fix that first.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 11:12 AM
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Doesn't usually work out for me unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 09:57 PM
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Did not understand that point of view... I am a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 09:40 PM
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But I am not sure what I should be pursuing honestly. Casual sex? Friends with benefits? serious relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 09:39 PM
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I don't understand that terminology. I am new here.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 09:38 PM
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Waste of time. You are either attracted sexually by the person or not. I personally have guy friends because I am not attracted to them. If I was attracted to them I wouldn't be friends I'd see if there's attraction from the other side, if so I'd try something else. If no attraction in the other side I am not the type of person to hang around while he talks about his new gf. I feel like that's humiliating. I am a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 08:50 PM
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Oh so this is what this community is about. Confused me proceeds to subscribe
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 08:42 PM
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I think you should keep all that messages in case custody reaches the courts.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/17 08:32 PM
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I am a feminist (i was just wandering around this sub in disgust and decided to reply to you before you buy into these people crazy theories lol). Thus i believe when a woman makes a decision of leaving a guy she must be self sufficient to back up her decision. She cant just expect the older guy will take care of her until she finds a new one to replace him. That's stupid. She is not a strong person she sounds too dependable. If you improve yourself your pattern of women will naturally improve. …
/r/TheRedPill02/09/17 05:34 PM
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Well the women you dated were really mean people. But don't worry about it. It's their choice to be mean and for every choice you make there's a consequence in the future. Let them deal with that, they are no longer part of your life and it's probably better like that. You can however try to learn more about yourself by analyzing the choices you made in the past. Why did you choose those women? What changed between the point when you were in love with them to now that you hate them? You should t…
/r/TheRedPill02/09/17 01:23 AM
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