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I don’t think it’s law. I’m in Missouri and my child support stops at 18. We didn’t use lawyers. I completed all the paperwork myself with her agreement on everything and filed as an uncontested divorce. It was quick and easy. Edit: just read your edit. Hmm maybe I need to double check what my paperwork says then. It’s been a few years now but kids still under 18.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 01:25 PM
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Alright you left out where you are at in the divorce process. Highly important. You also make a comment about her being very religious in a way that indicates that you are concerned with how she will take this. This is sounding like no talk of divorce has occurred yet. If so, I suggest you think on this very carefully before proceeding. 1) Do you 100% for sure want a divorce? 2) Why do you want a divorce? 3) Assuming the answer to question #1 is a Yes, why do you care about how you “come out” to…
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/26 06:15 AM
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Probably the only reasonable response here.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/25 02:15 PM
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If this is real which I doubt it is… don’t let her actions ruin you. I’d say you’re even worse than she is. Her cheating sounds like a one time mistake. And honestly, anyone can make it. People are quick to think they would never do it or whatever but circumstances can line up and feelings can be a very strong thing much like a drug addiction… And I say this as a guy who was cheated on too and I left the marriage. I’m not wealthy but I make really good money. She does not. I have kids with her s…
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/25 02:13 PM
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I believe you can’t finalize the divorce when she’s pregnant. Courts won’t allow it. Just throwing that out there.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 06:20 PM
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If your even thinking about it and have the idea in mind that it could be “fun” then you are absolutely 100% gay or at least bisexual. And nothing wrong with that. It’s not for me though. The physical aspect of doing anything with a guy just feels gross af to me. Not judging those who are into guys. The whole process of sex and even a relationship probably comes with so much less bullshit than a heterosexual couple I imagine… although I could be wrong. Im a hobbyist bodybuilder. While I get a lo…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 04:00 AM
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This has been going on for 5 years? I can almost guarantee you something happened by this point. But honestly it doesn’t matter, you are obviously not comfortable with whatever relationship they got going and she doesn’t seem to care. I’d bounce if I were you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 10:26 PM
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Happy Father’s Day!
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 03:08 PM
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I think it’s true in the context of dating apps. Apparently nearly all the dating apps/sites published the stats showing that only a small percentage of men get nearly all the likes from the majority of the women. I do see this in reality with people I know. I have some friends who can’t get matches/dates to save their life and other friends who get an unlimited amount of matches/dates. I think when we see ugly people at Walmart they are actually the outliers and probably meet through different …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 11:29 AM
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I was in your shoes before. It absolutely does get better but you gotta learn to create a life of yourself that’s not dependent at all on anyone to be in it, except your kids - build those relationships. When you are in a long term relationship like that especially from a young age, you lose your sense of self. Everything was probably done as a couple or a family. You probably dropped your own hobbies long ago, or at least sacrificed time participating in them. You lose that and you almost don’t…
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 08:35 PM
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You can buy from overseas without a prescription from AllDayChemist. Google it. It’s technically not legal to do but small personal orders usually have no issues getting through customs. If you want the legal way you can go to a doctor or use one of those online services. It’s basically telemedicine and they prescribe it to you. Don’t get name brand or you will pay a ton for it,
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 06:25 PM
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Dude just get some cialis or viagra. Not a big deal. Most guys will have issues like this at some point in their life.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 06:23 AM
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Dude pay no attention to her. It’s her life and it’s just gonna fuck with your head. You do you and let her do her.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 06:42 PM
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You sound depressed. And given what you are going through that’s not surprising. But working out is good for the mental health and probably one of the best ways to fight depression. After a few weeks or months, most people build an addiction to it and it becomes something that makes you happy and passes the time. You’ll look forward to working out and less time will be spent thinking negative thoughts and about your lost ex/marriage. You will also be healthier. Being overweight is very unhealthy…
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 04:52 PM
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I’m not going to read all that but you don’t have to hate your ex and fuck anyone in your life that expects you too. My divorce was very amicable and we get along well. I’d take that over an ex trying to give me hell any day. Count your blessings and forget everyone else. Your doing something right.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 10:02 PM
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Introduce your wife to me. She will think you are Jesus compared to me.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 07:36 PM
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Yeah doesn’t seem the norm from what I read here. I know girls can be crazy af but I also know guys can be too. And everyone feels justified when they get pissed and start acting crazy. So I can say with some level of confidence that the stories we hear on here are not 100% of the story. It’s being told by one side and if we knew all the details I’m sure the majority of the cases we will see that both sides acted out of line.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 01:19 PM
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I didn’t say it was about revenge. But yeah for me it was about sex. I would do it again too if she was up for it. I just would never give her another relationship or marriage again. Also, I’m on TRT and have been for a very long time which causes low fertility so my chance of getting anyone pregnant is near zero. I never nut in girls either. While me and my ex did fight of course, we mostly stayed pretty civilized compared to the what I read from many on here. No false claims or police. We had …
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 01:37 AM
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Every one is saying no but I did it. I banged her and then continued on with my life and yeah she got upset that it didn’t change my mind on getting back together. Didn’t bother me. Maybe I’m an asshole though. 🤷🏼‍♂️ She’s the one that had the affair so she’s an asshole too.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 09:06 PM
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Shut the fuck up with the stats already.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 02:55 PM
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Thank you! You are right on the money. But you are correct it’s going to be unpopular here. Here everyone is anti-marriage and largely anti-woman cause they have been hurt. It’s been difficult getting people to see past their negative mindset. Maybe time will heal for them. Idk.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 02:54 PM
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Your more reasonable than most here. And I agree with most you said. But a few things. 1) Marriage can be a bad financial move for any gender. 2) There are ways to minimize risk, prenups for example 3) divorce does not have to be expensive, but that does require the two working everything out themselves. Honestly it can usually be done if both can keep cool and not act like maniacs and expect an instant process. Shit you don’t even need to utilize lawyers but you need to be very careful and that…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 12:21 PM
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And for whatever it matters, I have no plans on getting married again. But I’m in no way anti-marriage or anti-women. I just found that I really enjoy the single life. I may change my mind one day in the future and all weigh m T considerations but one I won’t weigh is stats like 50% of marriages end in divorce. It’s honestly irrelevant. Everyone else’s marriages/divorces really play no role in the success rate of mine. Stats can be misleading and they should be avoided without much further consi…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 11:34 PM
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What you described right there is NOT what the circle jerking going on in this group says. In fact, I’m with you on a lot of that stuff. But nearly everyone knows the legal implications of what marriage brings. But it goes both way. Women could be losing 50% as well. A guy can initiate divorce at any time as well. A wife can be cheated on at anytime. No one is arguing that anyone should head towards marriage without knowing what they are getting into. Everyone agrees with what. It’s a big life d…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 11:27 PM
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A lot of what you wrote there is irrelevant. And we have to be careful with stats. So often not fully understood or taken out of context or just flat wrong. Regardless, if you were healthy you wouldn’t want to sit around and circle jerk and blame your situation on “the system”. Nah, you would own up and say you made mistakes too. And you would move on with your life after healing. If you don’t want to marry again in the future, that’s fine but I wouldn’t let it be because you got burned one time…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 01:05 PM
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Lol that’s random to share but fr im the same way. Watching the actual wedding is boring and no one really enjoys it. We just go to it for them. The reception/party can be fun depending on the crowd,
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 12:46 AM
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Dude go man. And wish him luck and be happy for him. It ain’t about you. It’s about him. Even if it fails down there road they will surely have some good times.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 11:05 PM
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Yeah not everyone’s relationship issues play out the same way relationships have for the men in here. Y’all forget that cause you see everyone else here and scream “Omg it’s the same story”. And yeah cause most people leave a relationship when they find someone else they prefer to be with. But not everyone cheats or leaves a marriage. And Reality is, we probably aren’t all nearly as perfect as we believed in our heads. I wasn’t. I owned it. I’m better for it. And I’m also pretty damn happy with …
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 11:02 PM
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Haha you funny little incel man. Keep dreaming.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 08:25 PM
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Yeah I think I’m just gonna let you continue with the retarded incel bullshit you spew out of your mouth. I’m really glad I’m not you. Have a good one. Try and go get laid maybe
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 10:22 PM
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Honestly same here. It wasn’t until afterwards that I noticed our relationship wasn’t perfect and that I wasn’t always the ideal husband. I mean both sides, she wasn’t ideal either. It really opened my eyes and was probably the biggest learning experience in my life so far. We all got things to work on and it’s too easy to be blind of it and/or complacent. I’m thankful for the experience tbh.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 05:04 PM
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Problem is, it rarely is truly ever random. Everyone thinks they are innocent and played no role in their marriage falling apart. Extremely rare to be the case no matter how much someone sees it that way. Taking an honest look at ourselves is difficult and for some impossible. So the better and correct analogy would be more along the lines of a car’s engine/transmission going out after a certain time but being highly correlated to the maintenance done on it. Put enough into it and it may last fo…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 04:57 PM
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Lmao. Those issues aren’t the norm. Of course they exist in some proportion around the world. That’s a result of being HUMAN, not male or female. Your the under-informed idiot and I also choose not to argue with you anymore. Have fun incel
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 12:21 PM
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I’m not recommending marriage to anyone. The problem with marriage is the legal situation, not one of “evolutionary biology”. Saving the lives of countless men? Lol you are a geek and delusional as that. Guys know the stuff your saying, especially the ones hurt. And again, not everything your saying is even true. It’s a generalization. So what of value are you really offering besides bullshit from your mouth?
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 12:12 PM
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I’m glad your doing okay. Lots of damaged guys here who aren’t doing okay. They don’t realize that they aren’t all bad. Not all marriages do fail (many do) and not all fail solely because the woman is some kind of evil monster disguised as a sweet loving girl. Although some do. There’s many different types of women.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 12:01 PM
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If you understand woman and evolutionary biology? Stfu your the guy who failed when it came to women. Don’t assign all the blame on them cause you failed. Jesus..
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 11:41 AM
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Omg stfu “anyone who understands…”. You all are a joke
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 11:40 AM
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Do not ask this place for advice. You gotta understand everyone had a different story and if you look around here, this sub is a gathering of the guys who had the worst stories when it comes to marriages ending. You got to do what you think is right. The guys here don’t know you, they don’t know your ex-wife. They don’t know the details or story that led to your separation. And despite what they think, they don’t know the outcome of anything or any relationship. They all seem to think every rela…
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 02:41 PM
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I’m not sure I understand the point you are making? But there is nothing wrong with a girl that looks for a guy that can provide for her. A girl should. And not all guys capable of providing are deemed “nice guy providers that can’t fuck a girl right”. There are actually a good amount of guys that are capable of providing that are also capable of pulling a lot of girls and aren’t push overs. This sub is full of guys that are damaged because they have been screwed over by women to the point that …
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 12:52 AM
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Lol that red pill shit ain’t always true. Not all girls are attracted to the bad guy. MANY girls are turned off and want the nice guy that is stable and can provide. And nothing wrong with dating single mothers. Yes, they will put their kid first, as they should. Source: I am the bad guy. Ex steroid user with a top tier physique, past drug issues, and bang a lot of single milfs. Well did until I got involved with the girl I’m currently talking to. No, probably won’t marry. Learned that lesson.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 01:28 AM
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Lol tough guy on the internet huh. I can guarantee you would not talk to me that way if you were in front of me and knew what I looked like. And I don’t give a fuck if you were talking to me or not. In fact I didn’t say you were talking to me. Anyone that uses the word cuck has always been a scrawny insecure incel loser. Not a good look lil boy.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 11:08 PM
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Yeah this sub is full of some of the most insecure broken guys I’ve ever seen. For real, I’ve seen too much retarded shit talking and just flat out putting people down to make their pathetic lives feel better. The mods really need to do a better job cleaning this place up before some dude goes and offs himself. The advice is most often poor as well. A lot of wrong tax and legal advice being given. I did nearly the opposite of the general advice here and I had the smoothest divorce with the best …
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 10:52 PM
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No disrespect? But you go on to call a person a simp and a beta cuck? Lmao 😂 you sound insecure af. What if the guy is the one that wants the open relationship? Is he still a simp and a cuck? Or is the girl the simp and cuck? Things aren’t so black and white. And judging by all the responses in here, you all are extremely insecure with yourselves and I’ll say you are the beta. Offense meant actually. And regardless. This dude is losing a relationship. Have some respect and don’t be an ass. I gue…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 10:36 PM
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This is one of the few helpful comments in here. Everyone else is trying to pretend to be some faux alpha guy cracking jokes at OP. The only thing I wanna add is that even in no fault states infidelity can have an affect on things like alimony. Idk about his state and with his situation though.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 12:58 AM
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Oh you mean like the majority of the guys on this sub? Don’t be an ass man. We are supposed to be here to help a brother in difficult times. Not joke and shit on them
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 12:56 AM
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This dude is going through a difficult time in his life. Don’t be an ass man. Not cool.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 12:55 AM
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Simps? Dude don’t insult him like that. Many relationships open up. I was in an open relationship before. Often times it’s a bad idea for the relationship itself but in no way does trying out an open relationship make a guy a simp. Nor does it mean anything negative about the lady. It’s really more common than you are probably aware. Unfortunately it can also be a red flag that the relationship is unhealthy but that’s not always the case.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 12:38 AM
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I’m with you 100%. I don’t hate my ex. Wish her the best. We have kids together so are still in frequent communication and treat each other civilized. The process was difficult but I’m grateful for it because it gave me opportunities for introspection and to grow and change my life in ways that I probably would never have done so otherwise. It’s probably one of the most important events in my life. I honestly think this sub is bad for a lot of guys because of the negativity and hate. And everyon…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 06:56 PM
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Either way man none of us are perfect and a divorce is the best time in your life to take an honest look at yourself and decide to make changes to make yourself a better person. Did you ask her why she doesn’t want to see/talk to you? There has to be a reason. Try to find out. Talk to the ex about it even maybe. You all divorced but doesn’t mean you have to hate each other. Attempt to be nice and it’s almost human nature that eventually people will be nice and respectful back. People in divorce …
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 09:58 PM
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I am on Wellbutrin and lexapro. Wellbutrin is more like a mild stimulant for depression and helps with energy and motivation some. Lexapro is an SSRI and helps with emotions. The two have been a good fit for me.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 01:53 AM
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This is probably one of the most well written comments on Reddit that I’ve read in a min. Most people talk out their ass about things they have no idea on but this actually has a lot of truth to it. That said to be fair, men have a lot of issues too that have contributed to this downfall in society, which as you mentioned, is not sustainable.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 12:58 PM
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It takes a bigger man to wish his ex to be happy than to act like a baby about it like you. “She was supposed to put me and the family before her own needs 😭”. Come on man, a majority of the guys are just as guilty of the relationship failing as the girl. Cut the bullshit and let’s all be mature and live our best life. With or without them. Stop the damn speech already. And yes, raising our kids to be emotionally healthy (the closest thing to defining happy) is our job.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 02:01 PM
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It’s really about when your mind is back to being healthy and normal to how you were pre-relationship. Reading this, I can tell you likely aren’t ready for serious dating or relationship. It does read pretty cringe. But I had a period where I went through the same thing and there is a benefit to getting out there, expanding your social circle, and reassuring yourself that girls are attracted still and that your still a fun person to spend time with. You will likely look back on this time period …
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 03:52 PM
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Why could she not tell him? Makes me think it’s another guys baby or something
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 06:13 PM
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We are on good terms. Still text some. Have kids and work on coverage for them closely. Occasionally but rarely do something with the kids. Never hang out together without kids though
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 11:32 PM
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Not sure about your state but in MO having the kid(s) less often increases the CS calculation. So taking them 40% means you pay her more than if you took them 50%.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/23 12:16 AM
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Claiming a dependent is different than claiming HoH status. Only the custodial parent can claim HoH, which as the other guy mentioned is usually the parent that the child spent more days with during the year.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/23 12:12 AM
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If the kids spent equal nights at both parents house, they should determine custodial parent as the one with the higher AGI. Based upon his child support payment, I suspect that would be him and then he can claim the dependents, HoH status etc.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/23 12:04 AM
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I’m not the person you asked but here you go… if you have any questions, feel free to ask. It can get complicated. But yeah only Custodial parent can claim HoH. The noncustodial parent can claim the child tax credit and the child as a dependent, but not HoH status. https://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/p501.pdf None of this is considered tax advice.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 11:59 PM
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Man this hits home. There is one girl that I legit like texting though, so I think when you find one you really click with it’s not so bad. Most girls after 2 or 3 meet ups I start to dread the texting other than discussing the next thing we do. It feels repetitive. Same thing. Different person. Going through the motions.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 08:47 PM
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This is fucking sold and reflects my experience 100%
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 02:28 AM
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I remember that adjustment period of learning to do things alone. I used to never do anything alone so it felt weird after I separated. Now I love doing things alone. Can do things when and how I want. If I want company can always invite a friend. Edit: sorry meant to reply to OP. Going to just leave it though
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 12:37 PM
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Sounds like you got your reasons to do it. It’s a difficult process even for the one who initiates the divorce but you can build a better life that’s entirely (almost) in your hands. I wouldn’t stay with someone that thought of me as a failure. Understand sometimes people say things they don’t mean when upset but words do have consequences and that would have me looking closely at how she viewed me. Good luck my man!
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 03:13 PM
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Your partner is not responsible for your happiness. That’s something we are all responsible ourselves for. Way too many people use the “cause I’m not happy” excuse to leave. And often times it’s just an excuse to abandon the family for the excitement of someone new. You need to understand the specifics on why you aren’t happy. Maybe the partner is abusive, toxic, cheating etc. but outside of those, it’s likely an internal issue.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 02:44 PM
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Keep in mind there is a huge biase in this sub cause many guys have been cheated on and screwed over by a female. I’m one of those guys who was cheated on, but I disagree with so much here. Was cheated on after 15/16 years or so. I didn’t view her as “the enemy”, I didn’t try to “sneak attack a divorce”. I talked to her. I even accessed the ability to work things out. I decided it was in my best interest to move on after some time, so I did. It hurt for awhile for sure but I hold no anger or res…
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 01:54 PM
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I took it he wasn’t aware it was for drugs. You don’t have to be “friends” but you don’t have to act like a childish victim like many people that split do. There is a medium ground. It’s not black or white. And regarding it being acceptable to talk or loan money to an ex while you are in a relationship comes down to that specific relationship. But with no other issues, if I was dating someone that had to help their ex (especially if they have kids together) financially a bit, I would be fine wit…
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 04:11 PM
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I doubt it. Loaning money to an ex shows your mature enough not to be like the majority of people who divorce and go out in an all out war hating each other. OP isn’t doing anything wrong. This sub is just full of guys who have been cheated on and wronged by women and hold a negative view on ex’s, relationships, and marriages. It’s a sign of weakness.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 12:41 PM
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It’s not always easy to fully 100% cut an ex out of your life after a divorce. Managing kids, families still know each other and talk and do things.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 12:38 PM
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See my other comment to the guy that replied to you. This is the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard. OP do not so this. If she’s a bad parent and you feel she isn’t capable of raising your kids well then present real issues to the court. Not weed. Fact is WAY more people than you think use weed. Most hide it, even in the legal states.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 12:18 AM
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No it isn’t. This is petty af and stupid. It’s weed. Weed doesn’t mean your a drug addict. It doesn’t mean you are an irresponsible loser. It doesn’t mean your a bad parent. While you shouldn’t drive to be safe, the fact is, weed isn’t that debilitating to make driving much more dangerous. And OP didn’t say anything about her driving unless he said it in the comments. Don’t be this guy. The police aren’t going to like you if you go in there asking to set up a “sting operation” on your ex. Lol ge…
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 12:17 AM
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Well when you factor in the upkeep and maintenance on that Bugatti. Fuck that.. I’ll take the mustang.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 02:09 PM
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Her past is only a problem if you let your mind make it a problem. Take control of your mind and nothing can bother you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 03:27 PM
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If you are thinking about what I believe you are… he has no tax in more current years due to major losses he went through in the casino industry decades ago. Net Operating Losses get carried forward and deducted in future years until it’s all used up. Trump probably does have hidden assets in over shore accounts and aggressive tax accounting to limit/hide income but I think a lot of people are misinterpreting his tax returns too. I am fairly confident he would not benefit financially from a divo…
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 04:53 AM
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