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You were right to let her go. Normally I don't believe in Karma, but her husband could be crazy, and you don't want a pissed off crazy dude looking for you.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 01:52 PM
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Remember that you were fine before you got married, and you will be fine again. I'm two years out and starting to feel like my old self again. Not quite there, but it's coming. I have 50/50 custody and my kids have adjusted to the new normal. We have a lot of fun together. We do what we have to do -- take life as it comes.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 07:48 AM
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How long have you been married?
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 06:43 AM
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Mine was stunned also. I tried to wait until the youngest finished high school, but I couldn't last that long. As a guy, you will be painted as the AH, regardless of who initiates it. Remember, it must be your fault.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 08:34 AM
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She's probably filing at 9.5 years to get a reduced alimony number -- in many states, 10 years of marriage increases the alimony amount. I don't know the specifics in GA. Also, if you end up at 50/50, in many states, she will still have to pay you child support because of the income disparity. Not in GA, but I have to pay my ex-wife child support because of this even though it's 50/50. Obviously you need legal representation, but also go to some GA lawyer websites and find CS and alimony calcula…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 08:48 AM
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Find ways to get out of that apartment. Can you reserve a small room in a library to spend a few hours working there?
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 07:50 PM
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I slept in the attic, which had a bathroom. I bought a microwave and small refrigerator to limit my kitchen time. Only talk to her about logistics with the kids, and do that by text if you can. If you have a lawyer, only communicate on other issues through that person; no direct negotiating on child support or other issues. I made it through a year of that with minimal contact with the bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 06:44 PM
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Why do you have to discuss "what happened" at all? I tell people "I don't want to talk about it." This changes the subject.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/26 07:56 AM
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This is a very good answer, in part because it closely mirrors my experience. I left her after 18 years. It's been almost 2 years since the divorce was final. I will always love her, but she treated me like shit and I had to go . . . I've reached the point where I don't think about her much, and only dream of her maybe once a week. It was difficult, but it's a lot better now. Dating helps.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 04:39 PM
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I am a lawyer, but not your lawyer. I've seen guys in your position many times. Since you still love her, despite her lack of respect for you and her FUCKING OTHER DUDES, you are going to let her walk all over you in the divorce. Unless you know what you are doing, and it's painfully obvious that you don't, hire an experienced family lawyer. I'm being harsh with you, because you need a slap in the face. We all need one at some point in our lives. SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU ANYMORE. We've all been dump…
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/26 07:19 PM
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I have it easy. We share 50/50 custody and the cat travels back and forth with our daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/26 08:34 AM
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This is correct. Make sure you fight for every penny to which you are entitled. Many men in your position who still love their soon to be ex wives cave on financial issues in the hopes that showing them "mercy" will win them back. She is gone, and would gut you financially if you were the higher earner. -- source (anecdotally) -- I am a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/26 06:48 AM
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If you want kids, you could find a woman that doesn't have any and have one or two with her. You've been married twice; you know what happens after the honeymoon is over. If you do get married again, get a prenup AND make sure there isn't a large income disparity to limit any child support and alimony when the third divorce comes. Do not let her be a stay at home wife.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/26 01:09 AM
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Will this hurt your kids? Do they know? If they already know, fuck it, I'd blow her up. But if they don't know, I would not do it. Don't they come first?
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 06:25 PM
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Same here. No cheating (that I know of, women are often better at it than men), no explosive fights, etc. Many of her friends accused me of suffering from a mid-life crisis or breakdown of some sort. The reality was, I could not take the selfish, controlling, and condescending behavior any more. I knew she'd never change, so I filed. I've never regretted it once.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/25 08:01 PM
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I lived in my finished attic for almost two years until the divorce order was signed by the judge. Hot as hell in the summer and cold in the winter. The pullout sofa felt like concrete, but I persevered. And I was out of there the weekend after it was final. I did not want the house, but it was a huge bargaining chip that allowed me to avoid alimony.). You must be cold and calculating. She will be.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/25 02:22 AM
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Get out before she gets pregnant.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/25 04:22 PM
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On the surface, marrying a "more homely" woman seems to make sense, but the problem is, the "homely woman" today can go on social media and be told by thirsty fools how beautiful she is and that she deserves everything. As a result, most women today have a warped view of how attractive they are. I believe most women today are selfish in a relationship and are almost exclusively focused on what you can do for them. This described my ex-wife, who was no beauty queen.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/25 11:31 AM
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You said you have asked him to go to marriage counseling for 12 years. If he still loves you and you tell him you want a divorce, there is a 72.5% chance HE will ask YOU to go to counseling. This applies only if he still loves you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 07:02 PM
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I'm happy that you came to your senses before the possible lifetime alimony hit. Alimony is outdated and should be abolished.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 04:45 PM
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We come after their girlfriends too.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/25 02:43 PM
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This would be perfect for this time in my life, but I am not you. Do you have children, and/or do you want more? If the answer is no to the second question, why not just ride it out until it ends naturally?
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 03:35 PM
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I can't resist. How long were your vacations?
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/25 08:56 PM
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I am very cynical about it. I am old, and I was married for 18 years until the divorce. Still, I do not completely dismiss it because I know a few couples that seem to still be in love after over 20 years.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 05:08 PM
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We saved ours for the kids
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 11:26 PM
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This was largely my experience, too, but I divorced her. The problem is, they put a spell on us and we did not look for red flags. Don't get married, the odds are against you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/25 02:02 PM
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Mine cost 300K.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 02:49 PM
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Sack up and leave. If she makes decent money relative to you, it might not cost as much as you think, financially. Yes, the kids will be affected, but they are being affected now. Assuming they are not babies, they see the coldness between you. I pulled the trigger on my divorce and do not regret it at all. Kids are doing fine.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 02:43 PM
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I would wear that shirt ironically.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 03:12 PM
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She could agree to indemnify you regarding any accidents, etc. This can be covered in the settlement agreement. I have language in my divorce agreement that protects me from these contingencies, and she will remain in the house for about three years until it is sold. It is true that one size does not fit all and this may not work for you, especially if there is zero trust left and she is an irresponsible person.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 09:00 PM
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This is why they marry us in the first place. We were too naive to see it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 03:13 AM
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I'll bet you want to shed tears of joy every time you replay the judge's comment in your head!
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 12:24 PM
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Not sure about MN, but the longer you wait, the longer you might have to pay alimony. That's the real issue based on what you have told us. It sounds like you know what you need to do. It will not be easy, but you will feel better after you pull the trigger, and even better once it's over. When does your lease end?
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 01:05 AM
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Yes. It was a long time coming but I couldn't take the disrespect anymore. It was worth it in the end.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 12:49 AM
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Yes, freedom is sweet. I stayed because I couldn't bear the thought of not seeing my kids every day. They are teenagers now, and we have 50/50 custody. They are doing fine!
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 06:37 PM
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That is hilarious.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 03:13 PM
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Good lord! If you did that to her, it would have been called emotional abuse. Some of you are making me think my ex-wife was a saint! I should ask her to take me back --- NOT!
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 03:01 PM
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Same here. And I love the comment that she claimed to not remember the one time she did apologize. My ex-wife also apologized once-the day I told her I filed.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 02:52 PM
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I relate to this. My ex-wife was not a bad person, but she sure was a bad wife.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 02:27 PM
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I knew in year one that I'd made a huge mistake, but I was too chicken-shit to file for a divorce. I finally grew the balls to do it 17 years later and I'm finally free. I'll NEVER do it again.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 02:18 PM
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Truth! My ex- wife loved sex, even more than me, before we got married. In the last four years of our marriage, she did not have sex with me once.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 12:49 PM
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Removing those things from the house was the most controlling, patronizing thing I've ever heard.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 12:04 PM
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I'm sorry, man - I laughed out loud after reading that she claims to still have baby weight after 12 years. You have to laugh sometimes to get through a divorce. I just finished a divorce that I started. Regardless of who starts it, it's very hard emotionally, and most of us guys were taught to ignore our emotions.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 12:01 PM
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Wow, are you me, but living in another part of the multiverse?
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 11:44 AM
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They will understand, but it might be years later. Listen to your attorney and try to stay out of the emotional battles with her. Remember, you are the vulnerable one in the courtroom and in the court of public opinion.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 11:33 AM
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Never again for me, either. I try to explain to my son why he shouldn't get married but he doesn't understand. Sometimes you have to experience things for yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 11:18 AM
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Wow! And I thought my ex was a bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 11:16 AM
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I actually think you can do both. Yes, I get the red pill reference and I agree with a lot of the red pill points, but not all of them. Despite everything I know about my now ex-wife, and what I think I now understand about women in general, I still love her, and I am the one that filed for divorce. No, I would never take her back. I believe women talk themselves into loving you, but they don't love us the way we love them. Then, when we do not live up to the fantasy they have constructed in the…
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 09:18 AM
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