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Need SupportSheppy012/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 04:56 AM
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Hey, Have gone and going through a lot of similar stuff. Could go on, but just wanted to drop that, you’re not alone in how it’s feeling for you. It like a different world now and not comfortable.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/25 03:49 AM
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If there’s any $ left at all, looking at getting back into a bike. Past the Sport Touring or SuperSport phase of 30’s. Thinking of a KLR, Tenere 700 or African Twin. Want that comfortable road bike that can do a logging road. We’ll see.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/25 04:08 AM
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Ok cool. Yeah f$&k me the looping is rough. The ideas on how to recover the old that have nowhere to go. Then when there’s a space in the head the house & taxes & insane thought of dating creeps in. I’m starting to understand shakti mats and deep tissue massages to externalize pain. Thinking of getting a dog when this is past but can’t now because it’ll be confused why its owner is such downer.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 04:31 PM
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Looking into faith/spiritual/yogi/nature/purpose/identity stuff that I can rekindle or find. I’ll look into that. Also a men’s support group w the local Salvation Army I’m considering. Thank you for the reply.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 04:12 PM
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Well I’m glad you wrote it out so don’t apologize. Hearing the similar experience makes my own feel like it’s more legitimate, because it’s yet to make sense to me because it rarely feels real. Few things; last 2 years before the ‘day’ life also doubled in stress. 38% more volume at work w same hours, money tight, kids busier, death of family member, all the normal stuff but thought we were in it together. Also think something started w someone, preplanned or not, saw a shift, I don’t care if it…
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 04:09 PM
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That’s for sure. Man you’re more clear headed than me. One day. Gonna dm.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 12:52 PM
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Hoping it’ll come. I’ve lost 10 and don’t have it to lose so hope that’s it. Eating healthy and real food as ever but have to talk myself into it. Sleep has been all over the map. Funny. Wondered the same… If that’s the case which I assume will be sooner than later for her, it might help switch my mindset too. She had a few months of an emotional affair i found out about a few years ago. So could be same shit. So gd juvenile. How far out are you? Mind if I ask your age?
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 12:15 PM
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I appreciate it and I’ll try the same things. Thx. Every bit counts, I figure, and hope. Once I can eat enough I’ll try lifting, for now it’s moving. Man, I feel like I’m seeing behaviour that looks/sounds like stepping out, this weird vibe, maybe she’s just trying. Sickening, so I don’t want to know anyway. Can’t imagine how you’re handling it. Wish you well too.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 11:24 AM
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Thanks, hope you find a way too.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 11:17 AM
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I see, those are good. My hobbies have mostly been exercise and locomotive in nature so this makes sense. Admittedly put a lot on the backburner too so good reminder.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 05:57 AM
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Any suggestions?
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 05:34 AM
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Thank you. Will keep trying. Grief is right. For the unlived future too that’s up in smoke. Feel frozen, hate the moment. I like reorganizing idea.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 05:34 AM
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Some advice would be to outline the basics of what you want to share about it all in the first session + that thing you want advice on right away - otherwise with the emotion you’re carrying an hour can blow by and you’re 70% through the story with no feedback time. Get the 2nd booked as soon as possible & do the same, the 3rd will feel more natural and less frenetic from then on. Fwiw, if you think this applies. Btw, similar boat. It’s brutal.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 04:21 AM
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So glad dudes like you, and others here, talk about being overcome w the tears. It’s crushing, and to not be able to help it on top of it all.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 04:14 AM
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Following because I haven’t figured it out and need every suggestion.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 04:03 AM
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Fu$k man I’m in the same boat as you. It is unreal. If someone described it to me before I wouldn’t believe them. Your last line, exactly. The mind bouncing back n forth from ok it’ll be ok to wtf are we doing here. Ffs.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 04:00 AM
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So good to read your post. And this reply is so interesting. DM’d
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 03:39 AM
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Thank you for taking the time. Always found it curious that the word unconditional would even have to be put in front of love, but now I know the difference. I provided a decent service until the version she required changed. And if it required me to level up or sideways or regard an aspect of life I wasn’t aware of — if I had been told ‘let’s concentrate on….’ I would have tried to shift efforts. That’s life. And, yup, anything romantic, different types of intimacy, bids for connection (I’m tol…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 06:34 PM
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I appreciate it, thank you, I didn’t mean to co-opt your thread and meaningful words. They just summed up so well my effort the last while to reconcile at all costs, and the truth of what will be in terms of money, coparenting with a total stranger, and time with the kids. Always on the verge of tears too, admire your openness. All of it. I’m so sorry man. It’s such a God damn shame. Thank you, I’ll look him up. Small drops. And whatever it takes.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 10:07 PM
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Thank you. You’re right. I guess I know that. Appreciate the reminder. This stage man, it’s so long. I’m looking for it, the hope. I just really don’t want the other way this plays out. Like so many others. I know it’s the 2nd best thing, or maybe 10th. But it’s a painful one. Again, thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 10:01 PM
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Wow. This is something. Crossed my mind in small ways I now realize, but thought I must be wrong because 20 years is a hell of a slow burn. Here it is at once. I’m so sorry man. Hope I can get to where you’re at though, as a first step.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 09:16 PM
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God damn, again, someone write ‘2 years’. I get it but damn. A day feels like a week. Ffs. Thanks for the light at the end of the tunnel though.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 09:08 PM
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Tldr: This. And, Fuuuuuuuck! Daily, I open this app to read or see if someone is experiencing something like me. To get through another 5 hours. It always comes pretty darn close and I feel less alone. I also think maybe today I’ll post my title and entry. Then it’s too hard to go there, or it will be too dark. Well this man’s entry is my own. Words to the feelings, fears, worries, loss, heartbreak, devastation that I too have. Viscerally. I am sick. It actually hurts. I love my wife. It’s engra…
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 09:00 PM
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I commend you for not numbing. That’s gotta be tough but likely worth it. Being a feelings person AND be told by my therapist to really feel everything was like permission, but damn, this is real pain. I break down every few days. I don’t like hearing it takes a couple years. Miss my wife and kids and family unit. Exhausted too. Wish I was on the side of Everest in -40 without oxygen over this. I’m trying to get to where you are with being driven to find something better on the other side. Still…
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 11:16 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to provide this input. Glad to read it and get your take. It’s valuable. We wonder a lot amongst ourselves, maybe make a post or offer a reply, and many give solid feedback - both supportive and appropriately challenging ideas at times. Are men able to weigh in on Divorce_Women I wonder? Are those ladies in similar boats as us? Or maybe when they share their experience it’s sounds like the ‘story’ mentioned here.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 09:47 PM
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Caught her, the response? “It was just jokes, I was going through a hard time” Well which one? Annnnnd I’ve watch SNL and Bill Burr and Sebastian Maniscalco, this doesn’t make me chuckle.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 09:34 PM
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Head explosion emoji. Dude. Nailed it. Tried it myself once. Can’t argue with, “I get why you feel that way but I don’t agree because I feel that…….” She felt right. And felt right and happy were the same.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 09:31 PM
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Today my situation is ringing a lot of bells with posts. The better I approached concerns, with pragmatism and wisdom garnered from her own words years prior, or better yet phd informed literature …the worse it went. How? Not with emotions but with dismissive avoidance (since learned) - “Let’s put a pin in this” or “I have to use the bathroom” or “The kids need….” Mind f$&kery is what it is.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 09:26 PM
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Dude, months out, suffering terribly, but man this may be the biggest droplet of water for my move on bucket so far. God damn I hope so. Thank you. I asked, so damn often, ‘have a seat?!’ Come on over here. Let’s go in the backyard. Why don’t we….. - maybe twice in the last 6 years she did. Because of exhaustion, or to talk about what we should do. You grow up hearing your whole life ‘stop and smell the roses’ or life’s short or whatever. You think that offering it and providing space for someon…
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 09:20 PM
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Hoooooly shit. Your post and all of this. Damn. Thanks for putting it into words and sharing. As I said above to Henry, this might actually help me move on. Ps: fellow feelings guys here, you hear all your life that it’s important, until the one you marry doesn’t think it is anymore - things don’t get done quicker with them after all.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 09:08 PM
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