| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 244 | Made me laugh | FDS HUMOR | Shernandez9870 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 08:11 PM |
| 135 | I've been in a relationship with my (26f) boyfriend (31m) for seven years. I am the definition of a forever girlfriend. | SEEKING ADVICE | Shernandez9870 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 08:58 AM |
| 95 | Advice from a father to his daughter. Thoughts? | DISCUSSION | Shernandez9870 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 07:13 PM |
| 1 | She nailed it | DISCUSSION | Shernandez9870 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 09:13 PM |
| 1 | Is there a situation where a is HVM worth waiting for? | DISCUSSION | Shernandez9870 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 06:28 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 19 | Women aren't funnyLet’s be real here - men aren’t funny at all. 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 03:59 PM |
| 5 | In my experience, most men who call themselves “good guys,” are just comparing themselves to the predatory men they keep in their friend group. and they’ll call themselves the “good guy” in comparison, but they very obviously aren’t because they’re still hanging out with their predatory friendsLmao if this isn’t the truth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 05:51 PM |
| 5 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.That’s horrifying to read holy shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 03:56 AM |
| 6 | Put your energy into the type of love that rewards youBook love is my favourite one on this list. I’ve been listening to tons and tons of audiobooks this past year and my heart and mind feel so much better for it. I love how engaged it keeps me while I do mundane things like laundry, cleaning, driving etc. If you haven’t read a book in a really long time I really recommend you take the time! It’s been so soothing for my soul. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 07:57 AM |
| 12 | This is how it's supposed to be?!It will happen if you’re patient! You’re completely worth it so don’t spend time on these no value dudes and only pursue ones that put in the effort without asking. My boyfriend really went all out for me this year and made our first Valentine’s Day so special. This is the first time in years that I wasn’t plagued with disappointment and bitterness because of my LV ex making me feel guilty for wanting something cute. It was worth the wait for the right person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 03:20 AM |
| 3 | BF pretends to be happily married family man at work, then yells at his GF when she accidentally lets it slip to co-worker that they're not marriedWhat a fucking idiot. Hope she dumps him and levels up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 11:16 PM |
| 2 | What was the last straw?Thank you. I’m much better off now obviously without him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 05:34 PM |
| 2 | What was the last straw?This is very sweet and I’m super happy that you found that connection. Everyone of us deserves that caliber of man and nothing else will do. 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 05:48 AM |
| 8 | What was the last straw?Ooh I can relate to this one! My ex didn’t come to my mom’s funeral because he was afraid to face my dad. If I wasn’t so overcome with grief I would have realized what a massive planet sized red flag that was. I called him to come to my house after to be with me and my family and he didn’t answer the phone. He called me back around 6 hours later saying his phone was dead but I could hear his dumb ass friends drunk in the background. It was despicable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 05:47 AM |
| 3 | Your bottom line is the end of the line. Gold from the book "Too good to leave, Too bad to stay" by Mira KirshenbaumThis is excellent advice. Don’t keep moving your own bottom line to serve someone else’s ever moving goal posts. You know when you’re being disrespected. We have to trust our instincts in these situations | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 05:39 AM |
| 4 | Being thoughtful, “just because”, without expecting anything in return is true HVM behaviour.This is so sweet. Shows he listens actively and knows what to do with that information instead of it just going in one ear and out the other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 04:55 AM |
| 26 | Whatever it looks like & feels like - it is. DO NOT DOUBT YOURSELVES.Very good advice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 01:32 AM |
| 5 | Another person said it. Never allow porn in a relationship if you want a healthy relationship.He’s 100% correct. Not worth entertaining a porn sick man who wouldn’t even know where to begin when it came to actually pleasing a woman. These guys literally want to degrade you and use your body to masturbate into while you wince in pain and cringe at your own lack of pleasure. Never settle for this shit. There are good men out there who will actually make love to you and make you cum every time. I know lots of men would like us to believe that is a fantasy but it’s not. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 08:54 AM |
| 3 | Sure, see how he treats his mom... But also see how (or IF!) he stands up to herIf your partner doesn’t stand up for you then he shouldn’t be your partner. It’s really as simple as that. It comes down to respect and a lack thereof on his part for you if he allows his mom to disrespect you. He validated that behaviour by staying silent to keep the peace. Feeling alone and isolated in your relationship while he panders to both you and his mom doesn’t sit right with me. Glad he’s your ex. No good can ever come from that sort of thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 08:46 AM |
| 47 | If you ain't serious, send me on my way and I will thank you. Sadly, LVM love to string women along with the hope of something permanent. I'm good.Hahaha so true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:36 AM |
| 1 | Got the proposal just shy of our 1 year anniversary! Cheers to never settling 🥂That’s such a gorgeous ring! Congratulations 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 09:29 AM |
| 3 | A HVM will make you know you’re irreplaceable 💅🏼💖Love this. Thanks for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 08:13 AM |
| 8 | Online dating in a nutshell; heads men win, tails women losePretty much exactly this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Looks like my search for a HVM is finally over, he even made a new account to message me, I feel so special!Sounds like we all got the same message. Block and delete. Shouldn’t have even posted it tbh he’s just looking for attention | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Advice from a father to his daughter. Thoughts?I agree with this completely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 02:59 AM |
| 3 | Advice from a father to his daughter. Thoughts?I know I wonder if it’s from a show or something | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 11:21 PM |
| 12 | Advice from a father to his daughter. Thoughts?Yes that’s exactly it thank you!! It was hard to put into words but yes you nailed it. It’s not empowering it’s still putting us on a lower level than the man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 08:58 PM |
| 19 | Advice from a father to his daughter. Thoughts?I believe you do need to see your potential partner angry, sick, stressed etc just to see how they handle themselves. It’s a huge part of the vetting process for a potential husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 07:42 PM |
| 7 | Advice from a father to his daughter. Thoughts?By posting this I’m not saying I agree it just felt weird to read and I wanted input from other likeminded women. I would hope my father would want more for me than this but then again, this is a very elementary male level analysis of relationships | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 07:39 PM |
| 43 | Advice from a father to his daughter. Thoughts?Scars from fighting just shows me the man has no patience to deal with a situation in a civilized manner. I’d rather be with the guy who knows how to de-escalate rather than throw hands. I’d feel safer that way. Those violent tendencies can switch on you very quickly unfortunately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 07:31 PM |
| 4 | Advice from a father to his daughter. Thoughts?Agreed it is dangerous. I understand the sentiment of this post I guess it just felt a little misguided to me. Some points I agree with but in the end it just comes down to truly knowing your partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 07:29 PM |
| 44 | Advice from a father to his daughter. Thoughts?Yes I agree. The scars thing made me roll my eyes. Why would I actively choose someone who has shown to be violent in the past? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 07:21 PM |
| 10 | Don't bother "communicating", actually. Just go.Agreed completely. I’m sorry for what so many of us have had to go through. We have been severely let down by this epidemic of LVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 03:43 AM |
| 22 | Don't bother "communicating", actually. Just go.It’s one of the most painful experiences anyone will go through. You feel like you’ve been screaming into a void for years before they even attempt to listen to you and at that point you no longer give a fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 03:00 AM |
| 121 | Don't bother "communicating", actually. Just go.Flashbacks to him getting angry when I would cry. His first instinct would literally to be annoyed and angry instead of making sure I was okay. Completely invalidated me and gaslit me into submission. Wouldn’t even listen for a second would just immediately be like nope not listening at all. That did so much damage on my self esteem now I feel like I can’t tell anyone at all when I’m feeling upset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:04 PM |
| 2 | More women are choosing solitude and peace over bad company!Congratulations! It’s not an easy step but every step after that gets easier. It becomes addicting to choose and respect yourself first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Beware of transactional niceness. Some men can play the long game, but in the end when you don’t give them what they want they’ll pull the rug out from under you.I’ve experienced this more times than I’d like to even admit. I’m very wary about having male friends now. I’ve been “nice guy’d” too many times. I guess as women we are just not programmed to only be nice to those we want to fuck. I don’t need male friends honestly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 09:06 PM |
| 10 | She quit faking orgasms, now husband refuses to even TRY sexLol caught that too. No thanks. That marriage sounds awful to me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 02:41 PM |
| 8 | She quit faking orgasms, now husband refuses to even TRY sexThe ‘porn sick, limp dick’ tag lives rent free in my head | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 02:41 PM |
| 12 | Don’t you DARE kink shame him 🤡That’s literal rape. Poor girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 08:21 PM |
| 2 | Ladies y’all need to be grateful to go to the SOUP KITCHEN! 🥴😩This cannot be real 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 10:39 AM |
| 7 | Kick him out if he does this!If your partner is angry at you and all they can do is pout and insult you then you have to get away from them. It’s a manipulation tactic. That dangerous emotional immaturity can turn to emotional abuse very quickly. In a healthy relationship if there is an issue, which of course there will be sometimes, both parties need to speak calmly and figure out a solution together. Don’t negotiate with emotional terrorists. Let them sulk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 08:17 PM |
| 13 | Beware of men who want open relationships but later decide to change their minds when they see that their partner have way more options than themThat one was one of my favourite posts. So sooooo funny | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 08:03 AM |
| 21 | My abusive NVM ex and his perfect girlfriend are the best lesson I ever receivedThank you for sharing your story. I was also with an abusive partner and need to emphasize how dangerous it can get and how quickly it becomes abusive as well. This type of story needs to be shared and taught to our own children so they don’t get stuck in the same cycle of abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 10:38 PM |
| 3 | There is no honeymoon period just healthy vs unhealthyYou definitely can! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 05:28 AM |
| 29 | There is no honeymoon period just healthy vs unhealthyThat’s so sweet. My parents were very similar. My dad adored my mom and was so in love until the very end. He used to bring her flowers, get her favourite chocolate, etc etc with no expectation. Just because he loved her. It was the best model for a healthy relationship I could have had. Very thankful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 07:51 PM |
| 20 | There is no honeymoon period just healthy vs unhealthy1000000%!!! Men with proper intentions know this is the key already. Men that only want sex and to use a woman will pull out the “honeymoon phase” line once they’ve gotten their fill. Be clear about your expectations early on. No room for ambiguity in a healthy relationship/marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 07:46 PM |
| 5 | UPDATE: Leaving LV husband of 3 yearsThat’s how I felt once I left my LV ex. I slept well for the first time in 7 years. Couldn’t have been happier tbh. Someone on here once said “when their absence brings you peace you know it’s time to move on” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 05:59 PM |
| 3 | No more playing their mommy, therapist or bangmaid. Drop that manchild!I relate to your feelings on that completely girl I’m sorry. These blurred lines that gaslighters use to make women question themselves and their boundaries is a form of abuse honestly. With my long term ex, there was a girl that would call/text him all the time but he always ignored it in front of me but it never sat right. Once I was sleeping over, we were in the middle of sex at around 3am and this girl called him. I stared at his phone and he tried to tell me he didn’t know why she was calli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 09:46 PM |
| 3 | No more playing their mommy, therapist or bangmaid. Drop that manchild!Good for you. Demand accountability and don’t entertain half assed apologies that somehow blame you for their misgivings. The mental gymnastics these guys will do to explain themselves is amazing. Be happy that the illusion has been shattered. You’ll never be able to look at him the same way you once did and that’s the best outcome for these situations. You or any other woman can’t change a man that doesn’t want to change. Respecting yourself means walking away. You really aren’t missing anythin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 09:15 PM |
| 4 | No more playing their mommy, therapist or bangmaid. Drop that manchild!Queen energy. Keep it up. I was in the same boat with my ex that I was with for a very long time. Once I was in the “I’m done” phase, that’s when he took me seriously. Begged me to go to therapy with him (after asking him so many times before to go), told me he was ready for marriage, etc etc etc. I’m so proud of myself for not falling for it. Years ago I would have given anything to hear those words from him, but after years of being degraded, I didn’t care. All he left me with was trauma. If a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 08:46 PM |
| 18 | As a mother of two sons, I wholeheartedly agree. Stop training girls to “take care of their men”. Teach your sons how to be men and take care of themselves and their families. No more raising pick-mes. Queens only.Immigrant moms really need to hear this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 08:34 PM |
| 21 | Boyfriend Broke Up With Me, Now I Realize He Did Me A FavorIf he’s this lazy now he won’t suddenly change if you were to give him a child. You’d essentially be a single parent. Happy you dodged that bullet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 09:24 AM |
| 6 | I can't imagine how this will go down 😂They would quite literally never run out of content | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 07:11 PM |
| 28 | How do you ladies feel about a man who won't go down on you?HVM take pride in helping you finish. They should love to do it almost more than you love receiving it. Don’t settle for a life without orgasms like so many of us have for so long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 06:46 AM |
| 5 | you deserve someone who takes care of you ❤️Definitely cried | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 09:42 PM |
| 3 | Mr. Right vs Mr. Wrong. Feel free to add more points in the commentsSuch a simple list but it’s so rare to find men like this. High value men just act like this without guidance, which I’ve found is really the key to finding a good one. If you have to constantly coach a man on how to not be a piece of shit, he’s probably just a piece of shit. HVM: prioritizes your comfort. I.e. checking if you’re hungry, warm enough, happy, etc. You should feel completely safe and content in their presence. Anything less than that is indicative of a LVM. Your intuition is tellin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 12:51 AM |
| 3 | Don't fall for a Fauxpology or a Self-made Victim: "I'm Sorry it Came Off That Way," "I guess I'm the Bad Guy Once Again"It’s amazing but I agree. Not even once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 07:56 AM |
| 2 | A whole wordFacts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 06:35 AM |
| 25 | This cracked me up......yes and after further consideration I’ll be passing away from the memory 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 07:04 AM |
| 94 | How to get karma on Reddit: Blame women for anything and everythingI love how so many comments were calling her out for being a pick me. Made me proud :’) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 08:11 AM |
| 4 | Glad to be this man’s second choice. We went on a date back in October. This virus is bringing out the desperation in menSide note Pupusas are life changing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 08:01 AM |
| 4 | I've been in a relationship with my (26f) boyfriend (31m) for seven years. I am the definition of a forever girlfriend.Thank you for the kind words | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 07:10 PM |
| 6 | I've been in a relationship with my (26f) boyfriend (31m) for seven years. I am the definition of a forever girlfriend.Thank you. I will try to find a lawyer to discuss the house | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 07:05 PM |
| 7 | I've been in a relationship with my (26f) boyfriend (31m) for seven years. I am the definition of a forever girlfriend.Sorry I should have clarified. Not jealous,just trying to show a time line comparison. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 02:56 PM |
| 56 | Friendly reminder not to date pornsick menNot gonna lie my current partner does it to me and I actually love it. It's not so completely absurd that someone might find pleasure in something you don't lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 03:52 PM |
| 3 | Where's the Lie?No she has a man who's a liar hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 07:59 AM |
| 6 | GOOD MORNING TO EVERYONE EXCEPT ROBRIP rob | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 05:33 PM |
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