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I couldn't have said it better. To sum it up, the strongest negotiation tactic is the willingness to walk away. She is going to date you if she has some slight interest at all. If not, leave and never look back. You might think you are missing out initially, trust me you are definitely not. If anything, you are doing yourself a favor for not dating someone who is not attracted to you. You will end up begging for their attention if you force it to happen, which is a reflection of how you value yo…
/r/seduction03/04/18 01:45 PM
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"do some drugs", "get thrown out of a club". You make me cringe. Get the fuck out of here. You really don't have to use drugs or be an asshole to be mysterious. Just don't be too tied up with updating your status to friends and social media all the time. Get busy with things you actually like and make sure they're productive shit. You don't owe anybody explanation about how you want to live your life, unless you start bothering other people.
/r/seduction09/03/18 08:26 PM
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Haha, you are absolutely right. Real life dates are as good as it gets. It's great when you score a date from participating in your hobbies or volunteer activities. Sometimes these dating apps do help to give you more options though. Not the best way to ask girls out, but it does work sometimes.
/r/seduction08/03/18 04:30 PM
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I'm not Korean, but most people say I look like one, even my Korean friends say so. Anyway, if I have to rank them as a fellow Asian men: Coffee meets Bagel OKCupid Tinder Bumble I get most of my dates from CMB and OKCupid. Tinder is flaky and I hardly ever have a shot on Bumble lol. Never actually tried Hinge. I'll give it a shot.
/r/seduction08/03/18 04:08 PM
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Well, you did start off by saying you don't care about the girl's schedule. Technically speaking, yeah you definitely shouldn't if you are already going to an event. If that's not the case, you can also be direct by saying that you would like to meet her for a date. Obviously, to be able to make a successful meeting/date with the girl you invite, she has to be available and that involves knowing about her schedule that meets yours. You can definitely stick to your way of inviting girls out by on…
/r/seduction28/02/18 06:01 PM
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There is a fundamental flaw to your logic, assuming that you are going to a certain event indefinitely. I'm not saying that it's a bad way to invite a girl to meet you, but sometimes you don't always have to go to an event to meet up with a date. Keep in mind that girls understand guys want to date around too, so there is nothing wrong to suggesting a time and place to meet for a date. Obviously it will only work if she has some interest in meeting you already. The worst thing you can do is bein…
/r/seduction28/02/18 05:34 PM
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Exactly. At the end of the day, your attitude decides how you want to feel about yourself. It's the more reason you need to work on yourself and be content with what you have. You are the most important asset in your life.
/r/seduction28/11/16 03:06 PM
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I totally second this. Average normal men has this mentality: Girls first Everything else What we all need to do: MY GOALS/MISSIONS first. Girls will be attracted to you.
/r/seduction23/11/16 08:55 PM
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I'm gonna tell you what I wish my 18-yo self would've known. I'm 25 now. I'm not Korean, but I'm an Asian just like you. I know how it is. Man, there is no "right" time to start something positive. You just have to do it and make that promise to yourself that you'll keep going no matter how slow it takes. What matters is progress. PROGRESS. I cannot stress this enough. This goes the same way with stopping something negative. Making it a lifestyle is the goal, not just start/stop for 3 months, th…
/r/seduction23/11/16 06:53 PM
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Being yourself is the most important. I know - it's easy to say "be yourself" when you don't even know where to begin. What I would do for a date (in general): Make sure you have multiple locations to go to. This gives both of you chance to talk about more things during the date. Example: Recently I just went on a date where I took the girl to a local animal shelter because I was looking to adopt a dog, then we planned to go get a brunch. It was fun because we both love animals. It's a chance fo…
/r/seduction17/11/16 02:54 PM
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This is not always true. Most of my friends are very encouraging to each other, especially my workout buddies. We always go to the gym and focus on closing in our PR weights. I have always been genuinely happy for my friends who reach PR every single time, even if the PR is higher than mine. Same goes to my friends who encourage me along the way. The grind is real and it's more fun to get to your goal with friends. If any of your friends is trying to hold you back from achieving success, it's ti…
/r/TheRedPill12/09/16 07:53 PM
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I would start from here: Stop blaming your parents for your lack of confidence. Stop thinking about your past and calling yourself a pussy. Basically stop all the negativity. Good that you work out and doing intermittent fasting and all. Have you seen results? Does it improve your self-confidence at all? No? Keep at it until you see results. Start another hobby while you are at it. Chicks dig guys with passion and goals and future. Don't go for hookers though or gold diggers. Read books, non-fic…
/r/seduction26/05/16 02:41 PM
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She's into you. If you just want to bang her, she doesn't need to be interesting does she? Get her out of her comfort zone. Maybe schedule a weekend road trip date with her to get her open up to you, both figuratively and literally. If she's still boring, at least you get to bang her. Move on and find other girls that meet your standards if she's still not worth it for you. It sounds like you have no problem with seduction. You're basically just flaunting your dick for people to see. Don't be th…
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:16 PM
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This. Don't think too much about it. I usually would say: "Well...does he not let you make friends...?" Make it sound playful and genuinely try to be friends. Worst thing that can happen...you actually become friends or you drift away from each other just like you and your other friends.
/r/seduction11/01/16 01:55 PM
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The most basic advice people usually give everyone is to start lifting. Working on confidence = working on yourself. The more you workout and when you see improvement in your muscles, that will give you a huge confidence boost. People don't just get confidence out of nothing, it needs to be built. Think about it. Would you be confident if you have a body of one of those underwear models? Of course! How do you achieve that? Discipline and consistency is key. Motivation is just one thing, but to a…
/r/seduction05/01/16 09:59 PM
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The fact that you wrote here means that you are frustrated at yourself. This is normal and it's fine. Everybody usually starts off shy and boring. At least being here for you is a step to improvement. One thing I can tell you is: STOP THINKING ABOUT IT. Focus on yourself. Improve yourself. Going to the gym is good, but are you discipline? Make it a lifestyle. Find a hobby/interest. That hiking trip that people talk about? Try it out. Don't like it? Move on and try something else. Learn how to be…
/r/seduction05/01/16 08:30 PM
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Just stop talking to them. Don't respond to their messages immediately. Responding too quickly = desperation. You become too available to them and they see you as a low value person because you've got nothing else going on in your life but her. The hardest part is when you are trying to not respond because you think she deserves the attention (most likely because you think she's hot). Resist that urge to reply. Try to keep yourself busy with something productive. Don't just not reply because you…
/r/seduction05/01/16 07:26 PM
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I've seen it even more: woman is leaning into a guy, touching her hair, sitting on his lap, touching his shoulder, doing everything that she can think of to indicate that she is without a doubt interested in him, and he does nothing. In most cases when "he does nothing", that means he's just not that into her. Most people are not dumb and understand obvious social cues. Sometimes, we just don't want to be mean and reject the girl right in her face. Here's a personal experience from last weekend …
/r/seduction30/12/15 03:21 PM
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I mean, she obviously sounds like a red flag for a serious relationship to me. If you just want to bang her and leave, then just play along. Sooner or later you'll definitely get to bang her. Don't even think about getting serious with this girl though for your own safety.
/r/seduction30/12/15 02:44 PM
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Be there with a mindset of trying to genuinely make a new friend and show genuine interest to what she has to say. Have fun while you're at it. Once you are able to stop making every single interaction feels like an opportunity to have sex, you'll be able to get rid of that anxiety feeling of women looking at you as a creep, then you'll be able to treat any attractive women all the same. Just remember sex is usually the result of a good interaction. Be your confident self and interact normally. …
/r/seduction29/12/15 07:27 PM
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I'd say quit the bimbos and spend those times improving yourself. Get a new hobby, something out of the box, something adventurous. Rock climbing, hiking, biking, traveling, backpacking, etc. This will open up your mind and help you see the world out there. And...of course, women with higher values. Good luck man!
/r/seduction25/11/15 06:44 PM
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Try to actually write your own song. Doesn't matter if you think it's weird in the beginning. It's kinda fun! Make going to the gym a hobby. It's gonna hurt for the first couple of weeks, but as soon as it becomes a lifestyle, things will fall into place.
/r/seduction24/11/15 06:21 PM
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IMO you can use the read receipt the other way around though. Sometimes you don't have to reply even after the read receipt says you've read it. Just stop caring about it. I agree with taking up a new hobby though. Lifting is a good start if you don't know what hobby to start with. It's addictive!
/r/seduction22/11/15 07:00 AM
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I really don't understand why you're getting downvoted. I'll probably get downvoted to oblivion too for saying this. It's the truth and it looks like people here can't handle the fucking truth. We're not trying to promote racism, it's a fact that race matters in the modern dating world we're living in right now. We all just have to accept that fact and move on. Try not to focus on the subject too much but improve your other talents.
/r/TheRedPill17/11/15 10:15 PM
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I can't agree more with this. I am an Asian man, but I have had some luck with white women. I won't say race doesn't matter, it does, just like size matters. What are you gonna do about it? Cry in the corner and not do anything about it? NO. You get the fuck up and work on yourself and be that charming/witty/funny guy that women enjoy talking to. Stop thinking about race inferiority. You being here is a good start. Don't think of the red pill as the magic read to slay pussy, but think of it as a…
/r/TheRedPill17/11/15 04:57 PM
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Naw, I think you're fine tbh. There's nothing wrong to joke around. It's always good to be humorous, because when somehow the situation allows you to be just slightly serious, you can nail it easy. She'll notice it immediately. She'd be quite amused and at the same time mesmerized because then she knows you can be serious too. Good luck!
/r/seduction06/11/15 03:16 PM
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I think you'll come up as creepy if you do it out of the blue, especially if the girl doesn't even know you. Unless you've already established your value (she knows you're doing it for fun) and the chick digs that, then yes, I think it will work.
/r/seduction04/11/15 08:04 PM
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You da man! I needed this. Thanks!
/r/seduction19/10/15 06:49 PM
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Dude, who the fuck cares? It's all about your mindset. Your friends know you are a man and you're there to have fun. Just don't give out the vibe that you're trying to fuck those girls. Be the fun guy at the party, girls love that! Learn how to be an alpha male, that's what this subreddit is all about. Don't stay stuck being a beta male. Try to improve your personality and don't care about people who judge you. After all, this subreddit is mainly about helping you to be the better version of you…
/r/seduction09/10/15 01:31 PM
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What do you mean by quitting drinking? Zero-drinks or just not an alcoholic anymore? That's pretty impressive. Do you just drink water when you go out at night then?
/r/seduction08/10/15 02:58 PM
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This is fucking great man. It's such a good mindset to have. Everyone should totally see this video. I'd also recommend Joshua Pellicer as well where he talks about The Tao of Badass (his book). I've been reading it lately and it's been a good learning book to reflect on yourself. Be a fucking alpha male boys!
/r/seduction07/10/15 02:57 PM
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Yeah, I guess I can't really hide that "Boyfriend" vibe you're talking about. I do genuinely feel that I do like her haha. It's one of those girls that I feel like dating instead of just fucking, you know what I mean. I don't think I felt awkward/shame immediately when she said that or anything, but yeah, maybe you're right. I'll keep that in mind next time. Thank you for the advice! Little update: I ended up asking her out for coffee this coming Saturday to build rapport and hang out. I actuall…
/r/seduction30/09/15 02:55 AM
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Yeah, will try to do that, thanks man!
/r/seduction30/09/15 02:43 AM
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Go to meetup.com. They usually have some organized groups that do a bunch of things, you name it they probably have a group for that. Last saturday night I went out with some friends to join a group near my city for a club night out and managed to make new friends. I also got a couple numbers and an upcoming date with one lady I met in the group.
/r/seduction28/09/15 08:19 PM
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I need some advice. I was just out at the bars over the weekend and met this really cute girl. After some time and drinks in between we got close with a lot of talking and kino escalation. I started to hold her hands and move her around the bar a lot too. However, after awhile I felt that I was a little tipsy and started escalating too quickly and grabbed her butt a few times while we were hugging and slow dancing at the dance floor. I feel that she might have been a little turned off by that si…
/r/seduction28/09/15 08:08 PM
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