ShimmeringGlimmering Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
20	How to handle “work wife”		ShimmeringGlimmering	/r/RedPillWomen	04/10/20 10:47 PM

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3	single mother by choice? With your salary, looking into the cost of having an aupair at home versus daycare. The benefits are immense. With that support, being a single mom won’t be difficult time-wise. Also outsourcing to a home cleaner and someone doing the laundry, you don’t have to be a struggle single mom. If you want a child of your own….I wouldn’t pass up the opportunity with your resources. I’ve loved being a mother ❤️	/r/RedPillWomen	03/08/24 03:03 PM
7	Advice for how to manage in a situation with a potentially great man who isn’t currently in a place to commit? Absolutely this - keep continuing to be your best self and putting yourself out there to find the man who is ready for you. This guy knows your number - he can contact you when he is ready.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/07/24 08:20 PM
1	[31m] [27F] embarrassed by boyfriends behavior at Christmas Possible depression/social anxiety aside - you had to serve him? And then he gave you the couch? 4 years and no ring? Why would it be on you to encourage him to get therapy if y’all ain’t married? Cut your losses and RUN girl. I have a high pressure job and know what it’s like to want to be an introvert in the holidays and hibernate - but I communicate that ahead of time and make sure I don’t over extend myself socially by staying somewhere else like a hotel. He is a grown man. Imagine how he wo…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/12/22 03:02 PM
2	My (22f) bf's (21m) hobby is causing a strain When men see you start respecting yourself by taking care of yourself, having boundaries, and glowing - it can help strengthen the bond you have. Women are from Venus Men are from Mars sounds campy but it’s really good! Good luck!	/r/RedPillWomen	26/02/21 01:55 AM
2	My (22f) bf's (21m) hobby is causing a strain Does he feel like someone who could be a captain to you? Do you feel cherished? He isn’t spending much time with you or spending money on you. 6 months is a weird time to negotiating 2 days a week to see each other, etc. You mentioned marriage. Imagine trying to have kids with him. What are your goals? How many other people have you dated? What’s been your longest gap between relationships? Honestly I would recommend that when he is streaming or doing his thing, do not be present. Don’t be that …	/r/RedPillWomen	25/02/21 04:38 PM
30	My boyfriend doesn’t want to cum, what should I do? Sounds like a great way for him to learn some new oral skills or tricks to get you off with him fully clothed and you not touching him. If you play this right, y’all will have a spicy December.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/11/20 05:06 AM
21	My boyfriend [25m] and I [25F] just broke up after 4 years. John Gray has a great “Starting Over” book that I highly recommend. Anytime you feel like talking to your ex - read the book. He also touches on how men will normally jump straight away into another relationship after a breakup - so heads up there. 4 years is a while to be out of the dating game so read as much as you can while you recenter yourself. Work out for endorphins and self improvement, reach out to your friends and build your social network. It’s great that you have the support of your…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/11/20 09:58 PM
0	I (32F) moved in with my boyfriend (44M) with the understanding that we would get engaged shortly after. He’s now decided he no longer wants to get married. Do not move in with someone before there’s a ring on your finger. What are your options that you have for another place? Do you have family nearby? I would sign a short term lease or even do a corporate apartment while trying to find my long term place before staying in anymore limbo. I know that sounds rough and inconvenient and may be more expensive in the short term, but your time is precious and getting out ASAP will help the healing process. Also with you moving out - get out EVERYTHING and go No Contact ASAP. There is an 8 week window where a man can sti…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/10/20 09:46 PM
15	Need advice on talking to my bf who doesn't believe in marriage If y’all move in together - it will be much harder for you to accomplish your goal of marriage. Let him bring up moving in together on his own and just respond that you would only move in with someone if you were married. Don’t say married to him. If watching movies or another activity comes up where the topic of marriage comes up - just state “I would like to be married again one day.” Again, don’t say married to him. No need to convince him to change his beliefs. Your goal is to be married aga…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/10/20 05:12 PM
3	I (25F) broke up with a married man (48M). One day after our breakup he's saying that he wants to leave the house so that we can live together at one of his mother's houses Please work on yourself and leave this man alone. To get a higher quality man - you need to level up. Work on making friends/having a social circle, work hard on finishing out your degree, find a good job. With staying with your family you could also save up a good chunk of savings so you could get your own home. I would definitely recommend therapy as well especially with statements such as “I have reasons to believe that his wife is not all that innocent” - you are only getting one side of the…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/10/20 02:20 PM
6	Guy I've been talking with for 3 months isn't talking much after we met for the first time and almost did it. I would highly recommend reading the book “Surrendered Single” and “Men Love Bitches”.....you want to avoid one on one situations as much as possible. These books can help you on how to decline/redirect private dates into public dates. Unfortunately with the pandemic - women are being duped into house/park dates with poor outcomes. Also these books will help you learn how to get a rotation going so you don’t get sucked into conversations with just one man. It’s normal to feel a bond with someone…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/10/20 12:38 AM
2	How to handle “work wife” I broke up with him. Thanks again.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/10/20 12:55 AM
1	Just signed up for my first 5k since high school. Yay! Love the endorphins from exercise and the good vibes end up having a nice snowball effect! Sending extra vibes your way!	/r/RedPillWomen	05/10/20 05:29 PM
6	How to handle “work wife” Yeah that was one of the big eye-openers for me. He says they’ll end up screaming at each other and not talk for a week and then everything is okay. And I’m like what? And you go to lunch with this person? It seems unhealthy but he shrugs it off. They are in the same program and have to work together.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/10/20 04:54 AM
2	How to handle “work wife” Thank you for your advice - I appreciate it and will let you know how it goes.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/10/20 04:50 AM
3	How to handle “work wife” So I thought about that - so I could get a clear read on the situation. However, if some of this commotion lately is attention seeking on her end, having a lunch or my being present with her around - would kick up that sort of behavior from her even more I think. Also it would invite the option of her hanging with us when they are off work and that’s a hard no for me. Looking back at it, the calls and the work fights didn’t start happening/being mentioned until this last month of us being exclus…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/10/20 04:45 AM
3	How to handle “work wife” Thank you for the reinforcement!	/r/RedPillWomen	05/10/20 01:01 AM
5	How to handle “work wife” That’s a good perspective for me to keep. I secretly hope he could hurry up and graduate the program and get out of this situation - but I’m not here to waste my time either. Struggling with how to be honest on ending things and keeping it mature. I’d hate to admit I’m bothered by another woman, but this specific boundary-crossing situation has never happened to me before. This is also why I do feel like I need to listen to my gut instinct. This hurts, but I feel like it’s going to end up really…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/10/20 12:46 AM
6	How to handle “work wife” Thanks - I wish I would have asked more questions about her and the situation during our initial dating phase. A lot of what I’ve found out is after we became exclusive and he got more comfortable with mentioning things in passing. Whew, a learning experience in vetting.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/10/20 12:37 AM
10	How to handle “work wife” Thank you for this comment. I needed to hear this. You’re right. I haven’t asked him to change his relationship with her, but I definitely expressed my uncomfortableness about the phone call this last time. The last few days I’ve definitely put my energy back into myself. If we weren’t already exclusive, I would start dating others and pull back. I’m unsure of how much to pull back at this time after the last 4 days of my taking time to clear my head. I think I’ll just let him initiate our time …	/r/RedPillWomen	05/10/20 12:35 AM
3	Dealing with Hitting the Wall May want to looking into deep plan facelift/fat transfer/blepharoplasity I follow https://instagram.com/dramirkaram and tabanmd on Instagram for their natural results. I know you mentioned being wary of the overdone Instagram look - it’s definitely something that can make you look older. The deep plane lift helps prevent the stretched out look re: fillers that you mentioned. I’m 35 so just on undereye fillers but I’m saving up for a light fat transfer. But when the time comes I’ll do the deep pl…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/09/20 03:20 AM