ShimmeringSeaWater Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1415	Who else has heard “wear pretty underwear in case you get hit by a bus/car”? So, even when severely injured/dying, women must ensure they’re sexually arousing and visually pleasing the patriarchy. This is not cute	CULTURAL MISOGYNY	ShimmeringSeaWater	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/21 06:46 AM
467	Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17…	THE AUDACITY OF SCROTES	ShimmeringSeaWater	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 01:36 PM
43	Ruthless Enforcement of Boundaries - YES YES YES	LEVEL UP	ShimmeringSeaWater	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/07/21 03:22 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Suddenly oppression is cool now? Thank you. Dignity definitely wasn’t intact, had to be built from the ground up as family/community had rendered it non existent. But we’re here now 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/08/21 08:13 PM
1	Suddenly oppression is cool now? Likewise 🥰	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/08/21 08:10 PM
8	Suddenly oppression is cool now? Me too. Same reasons exactly.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/08/21 07:35 PM
20	Breaking news! Poor man had to sit hungry because his wife didn’t make his plate, even though his arms work and he is perfectly capable of standing :( so sad. Thoughts and prayers. /s Same in Pakistani culture.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/08/21 02:28 AM
27	Breaking news! Poor man had to sit hungry because his wife didn’t make his plate, even though his arms work and he is perfectly capable of standing :( so sad. Thoughts and prayers. /s 😂😂😂 I literally lolled	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/08/21 02:18 AM
101	(UK) NVM throws acid in the face of a woman. These past weeks have just been filled with gender based violence. Stay safe ladies. Classic defence strategy. Even if they know he won’t be found mentally ill they get it done anyway. Either way the judge has to read the report to decide if there are grounds to have him found mentally ill. If yes, charges dismissed, if not well at least the judge has read through the defendants sob story and is more inclined to hand down a slightly lighter sentence. Very manipulative	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/08/21 03:50 PM
31	(UK) NVM throws acid in the face of a woman. These past weeks have just been filled with gender based violence. Stay safe ladies. You’re right literally existing as a female offends some of them. Stay safe ladies it’s wild out there	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/08/21 03:47 PM
41	(UK) NVM throws acid in the face of a woman. These past weeks have just been filled with gender based violence. Stay safe ladies. It is good to see they responded to the increasing prevalence. Our court system here can be pretty pathetic too. Based on our system I predicted he would get 7-10! Fingers crossed he gets the full sentence. I couldn’t find the motive in any of the articles (I’m assuming she rejected him)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/08/21 03:13 PM
78	Women and social media activism It could be to ridicule the things that matter to you+ being dismissive because he thinks engaging in a deeper philosophical discussion about politics/sociology with you is out of the question… but don’t worry because let me tell you these discussions are always better with a female anyway - all men do is advance facile arguments in a dogmatic manner and it gets boring real fast!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/08/21 03:10 PM
107	Pick-me glorifies female oppression & slavery in the third world under the guise of protection of women. I made the mistake of looking her up on Twitter. No no no no no.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/08/21 12:59 PM
215	(UK) NVM throws acid in the face of a woman. These past weeks have just been filled with gender based violence. Stay safe ladies. I know it’s not the most evolved response, but if the court could hand down the punishment of the victim throwing acid on his face I would cry from happiness. I don’t know what the sentences are like in the UK but how long is he likely to get for this? 7ish? The poor bright young woman is scarred forever. He should be in for 10 in my opinion. On a side note: This is a ‘cultural norm’ in Pakistan. There was a story a few years ago of a young mother and her toddler daughter being drenched in acid …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/08/21 12:49 PM
234	TW: rape - OP doesn't KNOW WHAT TO DO and feels KINDA uncomfortable when her bf openly talks about her being his slave!! RUN!!!! THAT'S WHAT YOU SHOULD DO!!!! I can't believe my eyes reading this post!!! “If I could get away with raping you I would but unfortunately laws and western civilisation keep me at bay” 😱	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/08/21 08:05 AM
1	Male depravity knows no bounds “Given”… lol! Try and give me to someone and I’ll give him an at home vasectomy with a butter knife 😃 thankfully he has been suspended on Twitter	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/08/21 04:48 AM
26	What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted. Same. I feel so lucky to live in the west - I almost feel guilty. I want to do time in the army. Seeing what our army was fighting against makes me proud. So many people say the west is wrong for imposing its way on other nations. Well when the way of the other nation is rape, public hangings etc well maybe the west has a moral duty to intervene!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/08/21 04:07 PM
39	What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted. Yeah but that gives them an incentive to rape/ force pregnancies, and then sell off the girls/women and keep some of them to rape to repeat the cycle. But I’m glad we’re thinking!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/08/21 03:35 PM
77	What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted. Absolutely disgraceful 💔	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/08/21 03:19 PM
66	What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted. On the news I saw they have already started murdering. They killed a whole bunch of civilian men and boys in multiple villages accusing them of being in the govt/police. No trial no nothing. Just shot in the street. I agree that the women should have been trained to fight. There are a few females in the Afghan army and they are awaiting death in their homes now. Vids on Twitter	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/08/21 02:54 PM
16	What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted. Thank you. I’m looking through it now, hope it goes to the right people	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/08/21 02:52 PM
16	What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted. You’re right. It was also about foreign policy from the US point of view. I’m just thinking of the best chance the Afghan citizens had, and just as you mentioned that is probably why it was never going to be a female predominant army. Complicated situation and the world sits back and watches in horror	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/08/21 02:49 PM
51	What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted. Are you in Afghanistan right now!?!? I agree that the war itself was not a war to liberate women, but the fact that it did liberate women to a degree and gave them hope, which will now be taken away in a matter ok months is horrific. I hope some can flee to Pakistan and apply for visas to the west.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/08/21 02:16 PM
90	What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted. The US should have trained Afghan women to fight. It should have been a matriarchal army. They had the most to lose, they wouldn’t have surrendered so easily. Maybe it is true that the men aren’t fighting back because the taliban regime wouldn’t oppress them, it may be what they want. Multiple wives and a free pass to beat and rape them. Also the conditioning and lack of education. Even if some women do want to fight, they dont have many women who will take the risk and fight back with them. I h…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/08/21 02:05 PM
268	What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted. I’ve hardly slept since this news broke. Isn’t there anything we can do?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/08/21 11:33 AM
47	What does the FDS think about being a stay at home mum? Im slightly concerned about why he is deciding how things will function. I mean, its your body and you will be the one bearing the physical burden. It’s your career and financial autonomy. I feel the sacrifices are greater on your part but he seems to be deciding how things will be run.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/08/21 02:24 PM
96	What does the FDS think about being a stay at home mum? Agreed. It’s necessary to remain autonomous financially and be a fully functioning member of society in case at any point we start to see instances of abuse or cheating or any other LVM behaviour. That way we’re out the door without hesitation	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/08/21 02:20 PM
148	*trigger warning-rape & intimidation. what’s more dangerous than a rapist and his pick me? a rapist & pick me with money, fame & connections So much for female empowerment and feminist rap. I’m not surprised at all by her behaviour tbh.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/08/21 02:34 PM
2	You Don’t Love Yourself Because You Hold Yourself to Such a High Standard I’ll start off by saying I disagree with your boss’s entitlement - even if he may be on to something (which I’ll discuss below) he has no right to psychoanalyse you at work or any place when you didn’t ask for his input. Another example of boundary crossing if you ask me. HOWEVER. I personally did pick up that my unrelenting high standards and self criticism were a sign of low self esteem a few years ago. It’s almost like I always felt my best was not good enough, because as a perfectionist I al…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/08/21 10:51 AM
133	What's the most insane thing you've heard from a pickme friend? I met a female, early 20s, at a boat party once. After the boat docked I was going to leave and asked her if she was leaving too, as the crowd had been a little bit rough and rowdy. She says “I can’t leave because the boys will get angry.” I asked her why that mattered, asked her if she was dating or involved with any of them, also tried to find out if she was being paid for her company (I know it’s frowned upon at FDS but this was a legitimate question I had to ask). She says no. Just met this …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/08/21 10:54 AM
82	Single fathers will date women for free child care. Don’t let a man dictate which car you buy because they don’t want their child in it. This woman needs to 🏃‍♀️ She should tell him to sell the Mazda for her and give her the proceeds, then buy her a car that he seems suitable with his own money. And it cannot be older than a 2019 model. Problem solved 😃	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/08/21 03:30 AM
75	Having unrealistically high standards is an LVM/NVM trait, not a HVM trait. So often, inexperienced women fall for a LVM because of the unrelenting high standards he sets for women. A pikmeshia in this climate thinks that the setting of high standards = HVM. It’s the absolute opposite 👏🏽 Thank you for making this important observation.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 04:28 PM
48	Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17… I’ve definitely seen a correlation in my observations of couples in my personal life. Multiple reasons. They can feel guilty and compensate by telling by themselves their partner isn’t attractive enough and nitpicking at her appearance. It’s can also be a power thing - When their parter is focused on doubting herself she won’t focus on what he’s doing or confronting him so it keeps her off his trail. Can also be general bitterness at getting old, insecurities both physical and careerwise so they…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 03:43 PM
26	Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17… Yup! The double bind. As soon as I started noticing this everywhere, not just on reddit, I promised myself I’d never explain myself again when it comes to my personal choices in any domain. Keep the focus on their wrongful behaviour.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 03:32 PM
21	Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17… You know the type, we’ve all seen them around 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 03:26 PM
47	Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17… It could also be to tear down her self esteem and so she accepts other poor behaviour when it comes to light (like cheating). He is DEFINITELY a narc and grooming her.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 02:29 PM
27	Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17… That’s exactly what upset me too. What she wears/ looks like is not an issue unless in those rare exceptions you mentioned. Even then, I still don’t think anyone should comment. If you don’t like the way I dress, you know where the door is! I won’t be changing. She needs to stop explaining herself. What IS a problem is his wrongful belief that he has any place commenting. Gtfo.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 02:24 PM
74	Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17… Agreed. Publicize the pedophilia	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 02:21 PM
84	Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17… I’ve met a man like this too. First he would not stop complimenting me (love bombing) and about a month later he started to tell me didn’t want me dressing up for anyone else. According to him I could only wear sexy dresses and makeup at when home alone with him 😂. Meanwhile - he looked like a cross breed of a cane toad and a sewer rat, had the most soul sucking personality out of anyone I’ve ever met, dressed in the tracksuits, spoke like a degenerate, and would sweat like a pig. Lol.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 02:20 PM
96	Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17… Hope so! She did say he wears shorts/tracksuits. Men like this are always the ugliest/brokest/most socially inept in their friend group. They compensate for their insecurities by criticising and shaming their partner in hopes of making themselves feel adequate. She needs to LEAVE and not look back	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 02:14 PM
90	Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17… You’re right I’ve seen it. Deflection and a way to justify their actions to themselves.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 02:11 PM
181	Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17… Your comment on the “impossible goal post” really resonated with me. Also note the “double bind” these men place their victims in. I’ll guarantee if she doesn’t wear makeup, he will cheat (if he hasn’t already) and then say it was because she didn’t look good enough for him and he couldn’t help it. She needs to stop seeking approval. No one in the comments really saw it for what it was and most took the neutral middle ground or watered down the abusing.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 01:55 PM
47	Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17… Exactly. They have no place or right to comment and if they have the audacity to comment, do they really think we will change what we wear?!? This post makes me sad because she is entertaining it and it’s fuelling he’s narcissism.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 01:51 PM
266	Men are farrrrr more sensitive than women This. We tolerate so much physically, emotionally, psychologically. We have generations of inter generational trauma built up too. There are men and some women trying to hold us down. But here we are winning, pushing, persevering and rising rapidly. 💪🏽	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 01:42 PM
441	"I went to a doctor and he said it's normal because I'm stressed all the time!" I will never be able to absorb why men are turned on by step-[family member] porn. Gross!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/21 01:39 PM
5	Who else has heard “wear pretty underwear in case you get hit by a bus/car”? So, even when severely injured/dying, women must ensure they’re sexually arousing and visually pleasing the patriarchy. This is not cute Literally! Those creeps that are fixated on your underwear in that situation will masturbate to visions of your body regardless of what underwear you wear.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/08/21 04:05 AM
13	The F*ck boy hotline. See? Men know what they’re doing. That hit home for me too 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/21 07:02 PM
14	Who else has heard “wear pretty underwear in case you get hit by a bus/car”? So, even when severely injured/dying, women must ensure they’re sexually arousing and visually pleasing the patriarchy. This is not cute 😊❤️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/21 01:54 PM
27	Who else has heard “wear pretty underwear in case you get hit by a bus/car”? So, even when severely injured/dying, women must ensure they’re sexually arousing and visually pleasing the patriarchy. This is not cute In principle it’s the same. The fixation on women’s sexuality even when they are in a life threatening situation. A man would never be advised on the topic either way, to cover up or to wear something appealing.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/21 01:53 PM
12	Who else has heard “wear pretty underwear in case you get hit by a bus/car”? So, even when severely injured/dying, women must ensure they’re sexually arousing and visually pleasing the patriarchy. This is not cute I’d agree except i live in a county where medical is govt funded and I’ve still been told this! So it sort of rules it out based on my experience. It is so tragic that in some countries this is a concern	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/21 01:51 PM
10	Who else has heard “wear pretty underwear in case you get hit by a bus/car”? So, even when severely injured/dying, women must ensure they’re sexually arousing and visually pleasing the patriarchy. This is not cute Agreed. When it hit me I thought “oh dear…”	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/21 01:49 PM
9	Thought Experiments OR ALSO How I sometimes amuse and challenge myself XD I like the way you think! Very abstract/intuitive. I think the patriarchy has always been preoccupied with stomping out people who “questioned dominant paradigms, interrogated inequities in political and social life and was sceptical of the ways gendered norms condition how we speak, act, behave and interact with one another” and against those who hold liberal values, as these values usually propel the former. As women we are more inclined to do this, as patriarchal norms oppress us. I think tha…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/21 01:47 PM
143	Who else has heard “wear pretty underwear in case you get hit by a bus/car”? So, even when severely injured/dying, women must ensure they’re sexually arousing and visually pleasing the patriarchy. This is not cute I didn’t either. I saw this on my feed and started to think why I was getting this funny feeling. Then it hit me after 10 mins of thinking about it. 🤯	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/21 07:17 AM
564	Who else has heard “wear pretty underwear in case you get hit by a bus/car”? So, even when severely injured/dying, women must ensure they’re sexually arousing and visually pleasing the patriarchy. This is not cute Oh wow. I just looked it up. Her name was Evelyn McHale and photos of her dead body were praised for capturing her as though she was resting and “dreaming of her beau” and because her face was intact with beautiful makeup. She also left a suicide note and one of reasons were that she did not think she would make a very good wife. Not surprised the death of a woman conditioned like this amounts to perfection. 💔	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/21 07:14 AM
46	I had to share this lovely poem, so romantic ☺️ Just imagine if that was your man. I just CANT hahah	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/08/21 12:35 PM
124	Yet another example of emotional abuse when girls under 20 get groomed and marry older men with significant age gaps. This husband threatens to cheat when he doesn’t get what he wants with his young wife. They have 2 kids… This just sickens me. She is being assaulted on the daily. What sick twisted human being would say “do your duty” to another person when discussing sex.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/08/21 01:40 PM
103	Liberal feminism will be the death of women Definitely avoid that group. Hope you’re okay.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/07/21 10:02 PM
157	Liberal feminism will be the death of women I’m so sorry you went through that. What a terrible experience. I absolutely agree, an assault does not need to occur for it to be a violation!! There is so much risk associated with drugs that it needs to be the persons choice if they want to take it. It just goes to show how majority of the population, including some so called friends, are not only not worth having around, but that being in their company can cause serious harm. What absolute idiots to say “you wouldn’t wake up” so we left you.…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/07/21 09:30 PM
995	Liberal feminism will be the death of women I’ve heard of stories where the person drugged chokes on their own vomit when they are alone, and the drug itself can cause irreversible brain damage. What a disgusting violation of someone’s person. And it’s illegal.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/07/21 05:38 PM
24	Western Desi women marrying men from "back home" Agreed. I’m in therapy due to gaslighting from childhood. It’s a cultural thing and it’s so damaging	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/07/21 03:19 AM