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DISCUSSIONShining_thru/r/RedPillWomen02/05/24 06:11 PM
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Women often are just reacting to the moment and not analyzing the endpoints of our decisions. It leads to actions out of line with beliefs and beliefs out of line with wants and wants out of line with needs. So trust me, women as a group are definitely out of line with women as individuals lol. I'm sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:54 PM
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If you're talking about the imbalance in relationships between women and men I agree it's 'on women' for the imbalance. When they let themselves be used by the communal Chad and then decide to be alone, everyone loses. I'm just pointing out that the best thing a guy can do in this losing game is to offer a real relationship because that's what he really needs
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:48 PM
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Typically conflated for men. Not women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:40 PM
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That means we need RELATIONSHIPS.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:35 PM
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Like I said, I do think it's true that women have an in-group bias, I just don't understand why? And if men and women both have such strong influences to conform, why don't men have an in group think like women? Do you really think that shame and violence are the only possible solutions? Is there nothing more positive we can try?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:01 AM
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This was a fascinating read, thank you! A few things I wanted to engage with because there is a lot here: I didn't really follow the logic in the women's socialization section that explains what makes women more prone to group think. I believe it is true I just don't see what that had to do with this section. When you mention again in the next section you say it's a fear of ostracization but in the MEN socialization section is where you mention them being heavily ridiculed and ostracized, so why…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:41 PM
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Men are unhappy to be single overall. Why fix the perception of singleness when that's not the root of peoples unhappiness?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 05:48 PM
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Yes there are. Look at r/redpillwives over r/redpilledwomen. It follows a more sane approach to gender roles
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 04:20 PM
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Sometimes it is just easier to start there there than engage with the more controversial ideas
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 12:19 AM
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She didn't mention tone? You're a troll lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 05:04 PM
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Sounds like a bunch of users. Again, I watched the same movies as all young adults my age and it was clear to ME that the women in those movies were sexually attracted to the men that they ended up with they were kind usually not there JUST for sex and often the message was 'the girl you were chasing was wrong for you and the nerdy sidekick girl was into you all along!' That doesn't make rapists out of good men. Demonizing women does.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 09:53 PM
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I absolutely can. The message I see everywhere is to be friends with people of all genders and races, and that if your romance is not predicated on friendship then it is shallow and less valuable Where exactly that turns into friend zone predator messaging? I have no idea. But I watch the same movies growing up as men and I learned to be kind for kindness's sake
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 09:27 PM
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No I have not noticed this. I think that in general ugly people have less friends, including less fake friends. I find that cool people make pretty cool friends regardless of attractiveness. I think that friend zone predators reap what they sow
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 09:14 PM
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I agree with that too. That isn't mutually exclusive from thinking you are entitled to a woman's body because you did her favors
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:55 PM
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This sounds very much like 'dont be friends with men unless you will give him your body' Someone is salty they earned nice points and couldn't cash them in for sex I think
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:49 PM
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Talking more openly about sex is normalized. That is very different than the normalizations of rape fetishes which has the potential to do an incredible amount of harm to men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:15 PM
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No, I don't. There is a difference between sex positivity and perpetuating sexual desires/fetishizations which can be harmful psychologically and physically. Much the same way that alcohol can be relaxing and fun but it can also destroy lives figuratively and literally. Where that line lies depends on a case by case basis and under constant consent and communication between people who are vulnerable with each other and care about each other's well-being. Normalization would put people at risk es…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:04 PM
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So you're arguing that mens (specifically sick) fantasies should be normalized so that women will feel more comfortable fulfilling them?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:51 PM
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That is something vastly different from a taboo kink fantasy. You're talking about unrealistic expectations
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:39 PM
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Fantasy is not reality and shouldn't effect dating unless you want to literally explore it and hope to find a compatible partner. Gender is irrelevant to that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:10 PM
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It's not 'making the guy wait' you self-obsessed barnacle it's building a relationship based on more than sex. You've made it abundantly clear you have no interest in that. All you have to do is imagine that there are people who do
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:56 PM
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The part where you can understand a guy using a woman for sex but have a complete break down imagining a woman using a man for sex. I have no idea where you are getting the idea that a woman who doesn't want to sleep with a guy she likes on the first date, is also the irresponsible type not using protection on a fling. This whole thing comes off like a tantrum because you got let down easy in a rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:45 PM
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That only makes sense if you see women as equal people with preferences of their own, OP cannot process this outlook, please remove so he doesn't have to hear about another disgusting relationship based on respect
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:33 PM
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Look at me I'm rich and women aren't human. Are you jealous guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 07:59 PM
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Because of false equivalence. I like marriage and sex so I will choose a relationship with marriage and sex. If I didn't want marriage or sex I still might want companionship and to feel love/cherished and to love/cherish someone else If I didn't want to experience love or cherishing, or to have children, or to have sex, or to be married then yeah...I probably would only be in a relationship if someone really wanted to be in one with me (though I don't see why they would with that outlook) Is th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 03:49 PM
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There you go again, asking me what decision I would make. I'm a person who likes sex and marriage so I want a relationship where I get sex and marriage. What's your problem with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:47 AM
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And people point out that love and companionship is a motivation for a relationship, even for people who don't want sex or a marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 11:29 PM
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Why are you trying to get OTHER PEOPLE to say they would not be in a relationship without sex or marriage? Your comments are playing a weird game and your post is a declaration, not a debate
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 04:16 PM
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Yikes. Huge red flags. Body shaming. Check. Gaslighting. Check. Controlling. Check. You're 95lbs, even on a petite body that is tiny, and he wants you to lose belly fat? Disregards your feelings because he's 'insecure' about YOUR breast size? He's treating you like an inanimate doll. Don't put up with it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/24 03:20 PM
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Absolutely, like I said, perfection is something to try for but falling short is all we can do. And that's okay. That is the grace you give one another in marriage <3 There's nothing wrong with not being cute and bubbly all the time. But you can be conscientious of what energy you direct at your husband. Remember that a man 's proper instinct is to protect and support, if you're in pain, that is his opportunity to care for you in his own way, to feel useful and emotionally connected to you, let …
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/24 09:19 PM
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No worries at all, I'm happy to chat about it :) I think a lot of the confusion just comes down to emotional regulation, not hiding yourself as a wife. For example, if I am having a very grumpy day, but I Don't have an actual problem that needs to be fixed, it's not hiding myself to compartmentalize that attitude, and greet my husband with warmth when he comes home. I do love when my husband comes home, I want to give him a snuggling hug and a bright smile. I will tell him that I've had a stress…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/24 08:59 PM
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No one ever achieves perfection, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't strive for it :) I understand the caution to continue to have my own agency and personality appreciate but you want to look out for me <3 but to me my definition of a perfect wife includes still being myself as well There is an aspect of setting aside My needs and feelings, and addressing my husband's needs and feelings foremost, but it is returned when he prioritizes my needs and feelings as well as providing for me leading me,…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/24 07:28 PM
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I literally have this on my wall :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/24 07:10 PM
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The Mother Taking care of the house and kids is 80% of my day every day. But I want more of that nurturing to go to him directly. The Confidante He is a very stoic man so this is where I fall the furthest from my goals. I feel overbearing and negative if I ask about the bad parts of his day or press for him to open up. The Waitress I think this is where I excel the most. He doesn't have to worry bout much at all when he's home and I know the things that make him feel appreciated and anticipated …
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/24 06:33 PM
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You want to leave for the mistakes you made not the mistakes he made. You are being a coward in this. You mistreated your child in a way you regret and it has been way too long to apologize or to set things right with the 4yo It won't make sense to her. He can change using the B word that's a boundary you set and it sounds like he will honor it if you communicate it. You ADMIT that for two years you unfairly set her against him and it culminated in this incident. He asked you to do it, yes, but …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/24 07:01 PM
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You want to leave for the mistakes you made not the mistakes he made. You are being a coward in this. You mistreated your child in a way you regret and it has been way too long to apologize or to set things right with the 4yo It won't make sense to her. He can change using the B word that's a boundary you set and it sounds like he will honor it if you communicate it. You ADMIT that for two years you unfairly set her against him and it culminated in this incident. He asked you to do it, yes, but …
/r/RedPillWives29/04/24 06:31 PM
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One year seems like a short time to me, there is a lot you do not know about a person still after one year. I may be biased though since my husband was a family friend for years before we started seeing each other and we were engaged not long after one year too. So, more power to you!
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 05:30 PM
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It sounds as though he's commitment averse and has always been. I would seriously ask yourself if you are being used and will be 10 years down the line with empty promises too
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 04:32 PM
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Trained is a good word. It takes a lot of patience and practice but becomes worth it when the alternative causes discomfort
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 04:02 PM
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Anal sex
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 03:48 PM
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I would suggest a social media/news detox. You're letting rage bait and sensationalism seem like the norm in your mind. There are plenty of good men <3
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 03:46 PM
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See your doctor, you may have one of several conditions limiting your capabilities. If it's not that, foreplay and his self control is crucial. You should be having frank conversations about What is a deal breaker if this doesn't have an easy resolution. My husband is larger and while PIV has never made me bleed a solution for us has been to do PIA more frequently. Are other forms of intimacy a long term solution? Is it going to be ok with him if you need an extra long build up, every time? How …
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 03:42 PM
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I see this going two ways, either you are out of touch with your needs that are not physical/sexual and therefore chase men that only satisfy those parts of yourself so that when you get physically bored of them, there is nothing left Or, you choose the right men, but reach a point where the initial momentum of the relationship stops carrying you forward, and you do not know how to put in the work to build a life with someone, so you do not try.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/24 10:00 PM
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OYS Number: 1 OYS Comment Preference: 2 Demographics: 27 F, husband 35, 4 children Gratitude list: My husband expresses appreciation for me every day, my children are all in perfect health, the weather has been beautiful, I haven't killed my houseplants yet! Things I Did for My Present: finished cleaning out storage, had a hard but necessary convos with my husband, stuck to my meal plan perfectly this week Things I Did for My Future: Made all household payments on time, paid down car payment wit…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/24 03:00 PM
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I think it was a big deal for him and things are going well between you two. Good luck and keep it up!
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 05:43 PM
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Im sorry I didn't get to respond in time, but I will answer now <3 I just meant that your priority should be him, and making him proud of you. That is more important than getting his parents to like you because HE is your partner, not them. How did the get together go?
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/24 05:59 PM
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Be careful not to put your energy into appeasing the parents, but into pleasing him. Do your best to behave in a way that would make him proud that you are his before considering what you need to do to impress the parents it's a fine line but an important one. A good fall back is to ask the parents more about your bf. They will all love how interested you are in him and it shows real commitment and class. That being said, don't over-speak out of nerves or the need to cover every awkward silence.…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/24 06:01 AM
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It's jarring realizing how much better you can make your life when you focus on making your husband's life better <3
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 03:29 PM
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My children are too young for there to be any difference in their expectations, but taking this question seriously all I can really imagine is what chores they will be expected to handle as adolescents where yard work will fall more to the boys and housework will fall more to the girls, but it isn't exclusive. All my children will know how to function as adults
/r/RedPillWives08/04/24 03:33 PM
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This was such a a great question <3 My husband is amazing and has never let me or our children down. I want to support him in every way to see him succeed and he wants to succeed to build a great life for us. This is the heart of our relationship and it has gotten us through the darkest days. Four children, my trauma, his parents deaths and being cheated on by his first wife. Finding the way through and staying true to our religion. I am truly blessed by him. Stay strong ladies, it's possible!
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/24 09:36 PM
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