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so their labour shouldn't be brushed off- and if motherhood got them out of labour conscriptions, then motherhood was considered on par with labour conscription. It's not a choice if you can't back out of all of the options. Except they could chose to do neither, many just chose to do something (or in many cases both work and motherhood). The US (which is usually who people refer to when talking about women taking over some of the labor force during a major war) did not have labor conscripts (so…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 04:24 PM
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There are other links out there https://www.striking-women.org/module/women-and-work/world-war-ii-1939-1945 https://www.nber.org/digest/nov02/women-and-post-wwii-wages The information is consistent. Women did more as a whole but this idea that they ran the economy while all the men were off fighting is an exaggeration. Many, many women did step up in the absence of men but the way everything gets generalized is just a bit much for me. No it doesn't. The labour conscripts are still present. All i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 03:38 PM
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https://wrightmuseum.org/how-women-served-an-overview-of-word-war-ii-women-in-uniform/#:~:text=We've%20all%20heard%20of,of%20women%20in%20military%20uniform. According to the Defense Logistics Agency, “between 1940 and 1945, the female percentage of the U.S. workforce increased from 27 percent to nearly 37 percent, and, by 1945, nearly one out of every four married women worked outside the home. The point isn't that women as a whole didn't step up and contribute outside of the home (a lot obviou…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 03:11 PM
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Only reason women aren't sent to the front line is because killing off your women kills off your population, but in no war do women just sit back and do nothing. During WW2 women surged from 27% of the workforce to 37%. The vast majority of domestic workers were still men. Unless women constituted a much smaller percentage of the overall populace at that point in time, there were some that were doing not much at all. This idea that women stepped in and ran the whole country while the men were of…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 02:50 PM
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But here's the thing you can't assume people have the same standards as you Why are people arguing as though this statement shouldn't apply to both people in the example?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 09:37 PM
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I’m not anti-man. I just believe that the rule should be evenly applied I am applying my rules evenly. You're trying very hard not to apply the communication rule evenly between the two participants of this very example. You keep attacking her, but he also didn’t open his mouth. I'm attacking her decision to willingly put another person's health at risk without informing them, yes. You keep putting the onus on her, but the onus is on both of them. Please identify exactly where I've put it all on…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 08:13 PM
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You're right, they both had shitty communication. Somehow only one is getting called out for it by the majority here. It's some really weird cognitive dissonance happening in here to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 07:52 PM
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So is saying, hey I want to date exclusively. Absolutely, that's why I said his communication sucked. You can’t blame her and absolve him I never did. You're tilting at windmills in your responses to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 07:20 PM
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And? You don't think that telling someone "hey I'm actively seeing other people, just FYI" is a reasonable thing to communicate?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 05:16 PM
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I agree that communication should have been had by both parties. He should have confirmed commitment and she should have made him aware that she is risking his health. Apparently not too many on here agree that risking someone's health without their knowledge is problematic though. That was my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 05:13 PM
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So when Chad fucks a woman, she should assume exclusivity? Just checking, so I can drag your comment out the next time a man mocks a woman over a pump and dump. I never said he should assume anything. I pointed out he didn't communicate. He put himself in a position he could have easily confronted at least if not resolved. I'm just flabbergasted that people are ok with her lack of communication as well. Ah so his lack of communication is FINe but hers is very bad. I literally pointed out his lac…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 05:11 PM
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No, where did I say that? 3-4 months also isn't just a coffee date. There was a clear lack of communication from both but only one is being criticized.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 05:05 PM
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Possibly exposing someone to STDs because you're sleeping with other people without them being aware is toxic. His lack of communication resulted in his own hurt feelings, hers could risk his health.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 04:12 PM
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It's really weird to me that so many in here seem to be posting from a mindset of non-monogamy being the default state. The only person that I've seen stated as at fault for not communicating is the dude and not the person that wanted to sleep around.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 04:06 PM
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Men literally jack off to porn of other women throughout the entirety of their marriages and relationships and we are supposed to just turn a blind eye and accept it. Some studies have around 80% of women fantasizing about other men while in committed relationships. I'm not sure there should be a lot of stone throwing between genders when it comes to relationship fidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 10:33 PM
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people lie But you're going to trust small quantity, anecdotal evidence from people in your social circle you exist in over actual studies? Ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 06:32 PM
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Why would I trust you over numerous studies that say otherwise? That seems odd. Now if you have any counter studies beyond "trust me, bro" I'm happy to reconsider. Technology has played a massive part in decreasing young people's sociability. Decreasing sociability means less opportunities for meeting people of the opposite gender and therefore sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 05:31 PM
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The studies I've seen suggest otherwise. Young people in general are having less sex than young people from previous generations. This was seemingly the case even before covid.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 05:17 PM
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It's way more interesting to me than most of the actual discussions. When people generalize vs individualize actions and behaviors shows a lot about their biases.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 04:03 PM
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It's really interesting watching when and how people use over generalized statements on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 03:01 PM
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Imo - the lack of any meaningful binding ties is the problem. The lack of hope for a positive future also sucks, home ownership being so far out of reach when it’s been a staple of the “American dream” is surely one of the major factors. Perhaps it’s time to redefine what a good life is. Do we seek these things because we know it will bring us joy and fulfillment or because that’s what we were told? Exactly. Which is why ThatBitchA reducing it down to sex is disingenuous at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 06:30 PM
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What does your idea of justice look like in this scenario?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 03:18 PM
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I would argue that cheating on your spouse and having a kid shortly after removes the plausible deniability required to say that it isn't "deliberate" fraud. Knowing that it's possible the kid isn't your spouse's but just going along and hoping it is is fraudulent behavior to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:47 PM
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I guess she should probably find more or better examples that exemplify her alleged point about princess treatment being more than monetary gains that was completely unstated and not supported by her lone example...almost like it was simply inferred by you without any supporting evidence. It's a debate sub. She started a debate post and gave her supporting evidence. I'm debating the evidence as given by OP. Nobody held a gun to her head and forced her to give a shitty example
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:41 PM
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That one video isn't any representative lol, see other videos of princess treatment. It's not money receiving things. It may or may not be representative but it is the example that OP decided to give to support her argument and all the examples in the video were monetary. Hence "You should tell that to OP". It could be efforts etc doesn't always have to be money although they invested in her financially Correct it doesn't need to be, perhaps OP should consider this as she doesn't seem to current…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 04:36 PM
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Did you watch the YouTube video?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 04:29 PM
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You claimed it wasn't enough for all of the men. I didn't claim anything. If being a loving and supportive partner means going above and beyond for your partner then expecting your partner to go above and beyond for you seems somewhat reasonable otherwise they aren't being loving and supportive. The problem is that the concept hasn't been defined in the slightest so you have a bunch of conflicting definitions floating around in various people's heads as they argue about their conflicting definit…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 04:21 PM
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It doesn't have to be money You should tell that to OP who seems to be positioning their concept of princess treatment around money and material aspects.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 04:17 PM
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So what is the problem then? A loving and supportive partner would do more for their man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 04:14 PM
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Yup. The complete lack of a solid definition in the OP should render this entire post pointless but people gonna argue about varying definitions throughout for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:31 PM
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A loving and supportive partner. Whoops I forgot that isn’t good enough for men. There is some hilarity in coming into a thread about women wanting princess treatment and claiming that a "loving and supportive partner" isn't good enough for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:25 PM
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Then why are you so upset at him for saying "all feminists" if you're ok with "all men"?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 03:53 PM
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I have a wife. I just find the constant nonsense funny. This sub is just constant a stream of over generalization, apex fallacy, and whining about "<insert gender> isn't a monolith" shortly after making an overgeneralization themselves. Women didn't have financial independence stripped from them. The vast majority of people throughout human history lacked the kind of independence you're talking about. It's an incredibly recent thing for both men and women in general. You yourself noted that mill…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 03:52 PM
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It's intriguing that you think there is significant overlap in the population of people that "violated (y)our right to financial freedom in order to force us to put up with them" and anyone that is complaining in the present.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 02:35 PM
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From the OP of this comment chain: So even though the statistics show that millennial and Gen Z fathers are the MOST involved they've ever been and often succeed in the equal 50% split woman are looking for, most of them never get the chance to prove it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 02:15 PM
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Were the kids splitting time between the parents or primarily with one? Tough decision either way for the church with respect to the kids. Don't want them to experience that at church but you also don't want to make it harder for them to stay in what has probably been their church home for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 04:31 PM
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Sure you do. You have almost the exact same amount of information. In fact, you read more into their story than was actually presented. You said he blamed his wife, he never did. He has admitted to me that he was never in love with his wife and he only married her because they were together for so long and he felt it was the right thing to do. He was pressured by his parents to marry her too. That isn't him blaming her at all. If he was trying to shift the blame in that statement it would be to …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 04:22 PM
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Ok, just making sure we both realize your initial response is largely nonsense as it relates to most of the people in finance.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 04:16 PM
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You realize that finance covers a lot more jobs than just fund managers right?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 04:10 PM
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Finance isn't difficult. It's about luck. What?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 04:07 PM
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I mean in all reality it's a short, probably fictional, story. There really isn't that much more information about one than the other. We don't know much about either couple except that two people that work together and have families got together and cheated. I think it's biased thinking to frame it as an "example of a man settling and the blaming the woman".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 04:03 PM
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I realize that. I'm pointing out that your claim that this is just an example of "a man blaming a woman for his inability to leave a relationship he wasn't happy in" ignores that the woman he was cheating with was doing the same thing to her spouse and children.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 03:47 PM
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Also, it's honestly another example of a man settling and then blaming them woman for his inability to leave a relationship he wasn't happy in. That's an interesting POV considering that both parties were cheating on their spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 03:36 PM
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Most are walking red flags. That's why they end up being caught.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 02:26 PM
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Serial killers tend to be charming, intelligent and introspective. Lol, no. Most killers, including serial killers, are below average intelligence. The concept of them being these suave and smart individuals is largely just pop media garbage. There are going to be charming and intelligent killers but they are the minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 02:13 PM
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Yeah, in a scenario where I am divorced I am not eating any food that originated from my ex. That's asking for trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 02:09 PM
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again, (and for the last time) women are not shaming men's standards. This seems rather delusional to me. People shame standards all the time and women are not above that. I imagine if you go to the n-count threads and search for various forms of the word "insecure", you'll find women actively shaming standards regarding n-count.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 01:50 PM
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People really shouldn't expect strangers to care or have sympathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 07:42 PM
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For the sake of argument, I'll concede that he is a household name because I'd like to get to the next point. Can you prove that his stances are mainstream? Even if he is well known, being known doesn't mean people approve and if they are not approved of how can they be mainstream.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 02:41 PM
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Because your observation is not quantifiable and is biased, therefore it is subjective. It's an opinion based on your observations. If you had any quantifiable and verifiable data as the backbone to your point you could claim it was objective (although such claim would still be subject to scrutiny).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 02:38 PM
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That doesn't make him a household name, it means that teachers are around kids that are online way too fucking much.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 02:33 PM
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Terminally online people know who AT is. My wife has no fucking clue who he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 02:14 PM
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The person he responded to responds negatively about men like that on the regular so why shouldn't I believe that she is responded earnestly? Just look at other comments from her in this post. This sub is filled with people responding to brainrot with brainrot.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:24 PM
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Yup. I'm not going to say having a wife provides zero impact on the life expectancy of a man but I've never seen anything that even attempts to control for other variables. Social science studies are generally pretty shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:06 PM
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Definitely some potential correlation being assumed to be causation going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 05:31 PM
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He was responding to someone saying men need a mommy because they may be more likely to ride motorcycles when single as an example and somehow that just got glossed over by all the people upset at the guy responding to a snarky response with a snarky response.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 05:29 PM
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This post is literally a great example of a subjective observation though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 04:55 PM
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There are a number of demographic categories that could be utilized to distill the results down further but I've never seen one that does.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 04:23 PM
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I'm not saying you in particular are doing this but the way you phrased this did stand out to me. Some people on this sub have a habit of hiding behind rates so that they can claim that the worst thing a man has to fear in a relationship from a woman is being yelled at. It's disingenuous and the intention is to downplay actual harm done by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 01:44 PM
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This just feels like "woman good, man bad".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 01:35 PM
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Never said they did or didn't. Your claim was simple and false. Not my fault if you're wrong or just careless with your words.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 01:00 PM
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Like they’ll insist that women are not capable of love and care There are lots of hurt people on here. I fully believe they are not capable of being in a loving, mutually beneficial relationship. And they congregate here and their worse opinions about the other just become amplified.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 09:51 PM
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Not trying to discredit your point because it still stands...but that's a hell of a range on those percentages.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 07:13 PM
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Unless that man was any number of backgrounds including Jewish, African, or Irish and property ownership may not have mattered as to the ability to vote. But you'll pick and choose which intersectional BS to use as primary indicator for oppression when convenient for you to defend someone's overly generic claims. In the end, none of that is applicable to today's reality so the need to both downplay restrictions on prior individuals (men were never restricted as an example) while pretending that …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 06:36 PM
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Obviously the claim meant "men have never had restrictions BECAUSE THEY WERE MEN", contrary to women being denied the right to vote or manage their own property because they were women, for example. In US history at least there were at least one state where women could vote before non property owning men. I haven't gone through the entire list of states and compared but the reality is that things changed rapidly and the history of various rights in most western democracies is far more complex th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 05:40 PM
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Is requiring somebody own property in order to vote a restriction? The idea that men as a whole have lived throughout history without restricted rights is hilariously absurd to the point that I am now wondering if you're a troll. Many of the rights that we currently enjoy are fairly recent constructs in the timeline of human history.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 05:00 PM
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Men don’t have any nor ever had any restrictions, This claim is ignorant of actual history.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 04:18 PM
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Men aren't the ones pushing the idea that the "bare minimum" isn't to be appreciated. That's pretty uniquely an online women thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 06:17 PM
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You see variations of her argument a lot on this sub. Women's actions are individualized and therefore generic responses by men are condemned, but men's actions are generalized so generic responses by women are acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 06:30 PM
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Yeah stay away from any woman that thinks like this. It will not go well in a committed relationship. They will keep score and for some reason their ability to remember when they slipped up or missed something never seems to make it to the scorecard.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 01:26 PM
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men secure custody in approximately 60% of trials. What does "custody" mean in this case? Sole, joint, some percent less than 50%? The answer to that can completely change whether this stat shows more neutrality in the past or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 04:46 AM
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You're arguing that fathers with full custody either pay others to do these roles or outsource to their mothers. Are you actually confused why you got called a misandrist or are you just trolling?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 03:47 PM
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All states have different laws on the subject but generally speaking, alimony doesn't require children and both parties having a job doesn't remove the possibility either. The factors for awarding alimony are way more complex than your posts have alluded to.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 04:17 PM
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Holding the belief that an organization must believe everything you believe lockstep in totality in order to be of any value for a specific and singular goal is one way to live your life I guess. Should that organization not reach out to people of similar beliefs to push the idea that fathers staying in their kids' lives is a good thing because you don't believe in the rest of their stances?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 05:07 PM
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https://www.fatherhood.org/father-absence-statistic https://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/breaking-the-cycle-of-absent-fathers/ https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/teenagers/how-to-overcome-the-emotional-impact-of-absent-fatherhood/
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 03:53 PM
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Because you're saying that it's indicative of something more than the fact that some shitty exist. Expecting the world to be completely perfect and just is childish. Reality is that at a societal level we have government and non governmental organizations that push men to be active in their kids' lives without demonizing the mothers that end up raising kids alone. We even have organizations that provide the mentoring to kids without fathers that you mention. It can always get better but it will …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 03:44 PM
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There is undeserved hate in all sorts of directions. The internet isn't for the weak and fragile. I'm unconvinced that there is a societal push to punish and demean single moms specifically, especially when there are numerous organizations that are specifically created to push men to remain active in their kids' lives and also to mentor to those that do not have father figures. Those groups do so without making the moms into the responsible party. Bad people exist. Extrapolating that out to repr…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 03:31 PM
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Yup. Back to my original post: Maybe this discrepancy says something about the bubble you find yourself in.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 03:25 PM
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But not actually berating the ones that wont do shit. Meanwhile women are berated for creating criminals (based on someone else’s kids) and not able to raise boys. Well first of all, when someone berates you are you likely to do what they're telling you to do? Secondly I'm also not seeing that women are berated specifically. You haven't actually provided anything to support this. I'm quite sure that someone at some point has said something on reddit but I would argue that random people commentin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 03:17 PM
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Similar to 2, if father’s presences determines criminality, why isnt there blame towards men not being responsible for the kids they create? Its always “women cant raise boys” with these people but never say “Men, stop abandoning your sons so our society can be safer.” The messages I see on the subject are absolutely pushing the argument that men are important to their kids and that they need to stay active and involved in their kids' lives. Maybe this discrepancy says something about the bubble…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 03:05 PM
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I’m just saying it’s weird that these men claim to be in LOVE with… the woman who abuses them? Why is that especially weird? A person saying they are in love with a person that abuses them happens to people of both genders all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 02:45 PM
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A shitty survey doesn't tell you how many people have committed acts of violence. We do know for a fact based on violence statistics that a significant portion of violent crime is from repeat offenders. Most people, men and women, are conditioned to hold back violent urges. If not we would be living in the Wild West instead of what is likely the safest era for the average person in human history. If men were as bad as the man haters on here argue you wouldn't be leaving your homes out of fear. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 06:25 PM
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Lol I made that statement to point out that women are not the non violent angels you seem to believe. Has nothing to do with an oppression Olympics that you were happy to jump into. And a disproportionately small number of men are responsible for a ton of repeat crime. That doesn't tell you anything about the likelihood of any one individual and their ability to be a good person or partner. You're so pathetically ideologically captured and man hating you'll cope however you need in order to just…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 05:59 PM
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Your entire previous post hinged on violence and therefore men are worse people more commonly. Women are violent enough and when you combine with all the other ways they can be bad people, just like men, I see no reason to assume any man or woman I just meet is any better or worse than the other. As for violence, in my personal experience, having a golf driver swung at your head sucks too and it wasn't a dude that tried that on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 05:47 PM
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Nah, physical violence isn't the only issue that makes a person a bad person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 04:13 PM
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What % would you consider as uncommon?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 12:13 AM
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The East coast is a very big region and culturally South Carolina is very different from New Jersey for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:46 PM
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Is there another conversation happening I'm not seeing? This is what he said and your response was calling mom misogynistic. So basically what men go through dating women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:31 PM
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She is too busy making a ranting thread because of an unsourced chart allegedly from okcupid and applying the "data" universally. This isn't a debate despite the flair. It's a black pill rant from someone that hates men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 10:52 PM
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Reposting this over and over doesn't prove your point. The OP never posted the source. We don't know what the actual questions that were used. We don't know the sample demographics. We don't even know if it's real data. The OP claimed it was from an okcupid survey which I hear are of no real value repeated on this sub all the time. This is just woe is me, doom posting that's being allowed to remain up for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 10:21 PM
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Besides, just because a plumber is, well, a plumber, does not mean he’s a moronic twat. But of course, we’re still falling for the old education=intelligence. There is one user on here in particular that falls into this argument repeatedly. It's absurd, as though a trade profession is somehow worse than ending up 6 figures in debt for a history degree you'll never be able to pay off and be able to afford a home without marrying up considerably in finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 05:33 PM
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What are state colleges suppose to do about willful anti intellectuals? What they've always done with them I suppose. I'm also not sure what that question has to do with your prior post about colleges being for profit and the assertion that men are somehow more anti intellectualist.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 07:26 PM
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BECAUSE COLLEGES ARE FOR PROFIT The major university systems in the US are in fact not for-profit entities. For profit universities are the minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 06:20 PM
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I have a hard time reading this and coming away thinking "content". Still, the small size is making me doubt, can I go a lifetime with him? I try to look within why this is such a big deal, considering that he does please me in other wise. Sex is very important to me but so far it doesn't seem like his penis size affects it in terms of not feeling it etc. (although we haven't only had successful PIV sex one time in one position, so it's too early to tell for sure). It's more mental - the feel in…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 04:37 AM
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I feel like that image doesn't really support the argument being made in this thread. The right photo in OP is closer to multiple of the highest picked body types in this link as opposed to the left photo in OP. Lots of people seem to be acting like the right photo is #5 for some reason and that's just way off.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 09:26 PM
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but whenever I've approached a man first, he was never interested. This is the norm for men pursuing women...most men are going to approach far more women that are not interested vs those that are. Some women approach a handful of men in their lives, the result doesn't resemble something from a romance novel or Disney movie, and they decide that approaching doesn't work. Of course it doesn't work at filtering out people who aren't interested in you as well as waiting for interested people to app…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:51 PM
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More importantly, why is she using literal children as a comparison for a grown adult woman? Apparently the women of PPD think adult women have no agency or ability to think for themselves and are simply children...at least when it suits their arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 02:08 PM
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Sure. Just be careful, you can justify a whole host of things with the argument present in that last sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 01:19 PM
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Men also can adopt without women. Single men who want kids and have money can get them, just like women, in all 50 states. It's legal but it's clearly a more difficult path for a single man than a single woman and both are harder than married couples of any sexual persuasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 01:12 PM
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Nah, I'm good. I'm not the one using the "jump to conclusions" mat.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:31 PM
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No, not even close. A guy not being approached means he isn't attractive to whatever women he is around. Concluding that he is only going for women out of his league solely from that information is making a massive leap lacking any evidence to support the claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:31 PM
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I'm not really sure what that has to do with my question or the claim of the person I was responding to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:55 PM
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How does not receiving an approach from a woman mean that the man is going for women out of their league?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:12 PM
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The second link is 40 years old.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:53 PM
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She doesn’t respect you if she actually told you “you’re the back up guy” lmao. It's absolutely blowing my mind how many people are glossing over that part of the post. You're absolutely right that she wasn't a friend to begin with and those that are working the OP over for cutting her off just shows how ideologically captured some are.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 08:40 PM
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This argument would make more sense if we weren't in a thread where the OP basically claims that there is no physical harm happening to men as the result of women's actions. The number of people (women typically) on this sub that cannot even accept that men can be harmed is absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:08 PM
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How did he treat you poorly?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 05:01 PM
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When people constantly downplay and trivialize violent women's actions what do you expect? The point of the original post is to point out the hypocritical double standard. Why is that not a fair comparison to make? Should op just be told "tough shit"?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 09:59 PM
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And I'd stop bringing up physical violence because that makes men look bad lol, just frame it as "psichologycal abuse" You hear that, Travis Alexander's surviving relatives? You better not bring up the physical violence that your family member endured.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 09:24 PM
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And even if there was a subset of men actually looking at those profiles and swiping right, all it means is that there is a subset of men that have no standards. Applying that to all men is like saying all women have no standards because convicted felons still get women (some of whom are actively pursuing the felon knowing that). Both are applying wide strokes because of an unquantified subset.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:13 PM
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If we want to stop crime it's important to asses who is commiting the crime You made the claim that the OP's point was misleading but didn't really explain why. Just elaborated that 90% of cases was involving another man. That doesn't argue his point at all. We are actually at risk, so much so that in a few generations, in this rhythm, Japan and Korea might die out. We have an aged population problem. Way too many old people, way too little young people. Birth rates are declining everywhere Ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:17 PM
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Your claim is misleading, and I think you did it on purpose. Men die more, yes. But in 90% of the cases, their murdered is another man. What does that have to do with whether safety is a basic human right? Men intrinsically have less value because much less men are needed to repopulate the earth, when compared to women. It's a biological reality. Men are superior in other areas. This argument makes sense when population groups are small. We are not at risk of running out of people that are capab…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:10 PM
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Except most women online are not soliciting sexual services with OF… The example OP provided is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 02:37 PM
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I've watched/read a lot from him actually. He has always come across as pretty well balanced and thoughtful. He also fully believes that divorce/family courts are biased towards men so I'm surprised to see him referenced on this sub by a non-RPer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 09:04 PM
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Genuinely curious, how does who files impact the division of assets?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 03:38 PM
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This thread was about men. So I'm staying on topic. The thread wasn't about conservative men specifically. You tried to pigeonhole conservative men as the source of negativity in men's lives based on how they vote neglecting that conservative women vote similarly. It's an argument lacking in critical thought. You tried to boil it down to conservative men because you're biased against both conservatives and men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:40 PM
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When really, men are the cause of all their own problems. Conservative men are the ones voting for harsh punishment, etc. Conservative women aren't voting for it as well? You seem stuck between trying to tie all the blame on conservatives or men and you can't decide which you despise the most.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:18 PM
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Dude is 64 years old. In one more year she could have a complaint filed against her for elder abuse as withholding medication is something Adult Protective Services 100% target.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:10 PM
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Y'all got some shit insurance or something. That's not how mine works, I can get Rx filled wherever,. Just gotta have the doctor send it to the pharmacy I want or have new pharmacy transfer which has only ever required the approval of the person the Rx is written for.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:53 AM
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Because men aren't the ones that get pregnant so the evaluation isn't going to be based on side effects from pregnancy in the same way that an evaluation for a drug for women isn't going to be based on potential impacts to the prostate. There was one drug that was near perfect, until they found out it reacted horribly with alcohol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 08:20 PM
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1) The initial birth control development and study was done prior to major changes to ethics for pharmacological studies. It would have to go through much more strict requirements if it were to try now. 2) In pretty much every case that I'm aware of, the side effects of birth control for women is still less prevalent than the same effects resulting from pregnancy. It's still a reduction in risk compared to pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 08:01 PM
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If you abandon the child to save haven but the other parent wants the child you will be on the hook for child support Sounds like an incentive to just abort which ends up with a dead baby. I'm in favor of stricter responsibilities for all parties that willingly create a baby but that isn't particularly popular these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:06 PM
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Right because we have legalized child abandonment, which flies in the face of most of the arguments about the subject at hand. On one hand people are in here arguing that once the child is born the parents have to take care of their child but then we are faced with the reality that such a take is obviously not true since we created laws to allow legal abandonment because enough women were leaving their babies to die in dumpsters. Most people are not logically consistent on this issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:00 PM
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Do we have to pretend that it's as simple for a father to abandon their child at a safe haven? That seems like a waste of time. Never mind that the entire reason those laws were made was because a non-zero percentage of women were dumping their children (at a time when Roe v Wade was still the law of the land) in literal dumpsters after giving birth to them. I'd rather we as society expect both parties take responsibility for their actions but the reality we live in is disappointing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 01:41 PM
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Once it's out of her body, she no longer gets a say in whether it exists. She is legally protected in every state should she dump the baby at a fire station though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 01:35 PM
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No, you're saying that in rejected-again's scenario nobody is voicing the issue. I'm not seeing that. They mentioned dead bedroom and you seemed to assume the issue hasn't been vocalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:22 PM
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In your example no one’s vocalizing the issues. Was this outright stated anywhere or were you just inferring it?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:14 PM
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Upper 70s.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:35 PM
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The only people I know that would even come close to fitting the bill here (health issues at an advanced age) would be my in-laws. My FIL basically does everything for his wife to his own detriment at times. He had massive open heart surgery and while he was in the hospital she falls and breaks her leg. They get home a few weeks later and he immediately becomes the caretaker. She refuses to rehab and even try to improve and just rolls around in a wheelchair 80% of the time and orders him to do p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 07:25 PM
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And no one takes advantage of me like I already said You're the one that said anytime you approached it ended badly and keep giving out the reasoning that when women approach they get taken advantage of. It seems odd to keep pushing these ideas if they aren't what you actually experienced. More and more this sounds like post hoc justification for enjoying the privilege of being the one pursued and doted on early in the courting process.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:46 PM
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Sounds like your selection process is flawed in such a way that your odds of approaching someone yourself ending in a negative fashion is greater than simply being passive and letting whoever decides to approach you do the work. This says more about who your approach and who you find yourself drawn to than anything else to me. I'd say there is a high likelihood that when you're the one approaching you're more likely to bring your guard and filters down prematurely making it easier for a subset o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:24 PM
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And my point is that approaching someone doesn't make the sex easy in and of itself. There are other variables at play that you're not accounting for. Asking a dude out for ice cream doesn't make you tear down your other walls and make you put out prematurely. If you're getting used easily for sex in that scenario but not in others, it is because you're doing something else differently as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:59 PM
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If nothing good comes from it then there is probably something noticeably wrong with the person initiating and/or their selection process. Asking someone out doesn't remove all of the other filters you've mentioned having in place so there is another variable at play.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:01 AM
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My wife had to sign a waiver before I could get my vasectomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 02:00 AM
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the fact men can easily get sterilized but women are interogated Can you explain what you mean here?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 10:50 PM
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Always felt the same way when I see that metaphor attempt. Finding a good woman is hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 01:12 PM
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So no, it's not accurate to say more moms are skipping child support payments than dads. Am I missing where they said this? I see the claim that moms who are obligated to pay child support are failing to do so at higher rates than dads who are obligated to pay child support. That doesn't state anything about total numbers, just rates. The point seems of OP seems clear to me. Deadbeat dads were used as way to generalize all men as only loving themselves but the same isn't true of moms, even thoug…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 02:46 PM
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Is she shamed any more or less than the men you're targeting? Seems like you're busy demanding proof (and downplaying when provided) of men shaming men but blindly accepting that married Karen is universally shamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 01:00 AM
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How do you ever truly know the motivations of those around you? You aren't a mind reader. Intimate relationships require some level of faith based on consistent actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 08:43 PM
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That's a lot of words just to disagree with your original statement that it is unique to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 12:00 AM
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I am not an expert on dread game but it sounds an awful lot like manipulation tactics women have tried using on me. Not sure it's particularly unique to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 10:17 PM
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I had to google "dread game" but it's basically no different than the tactic a girl in college tried to use on me by letting me know she was seeing someone else, the gifts he got her, etc. I'm not seeing why it's tied to the manosphere specifically in this debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 09:54 PM
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You're talking to the wrong person or are so hard set on your position you're incapable of actually digesting what someone tells you. I don't want casual sex. I absolutely prefer a woman that respects herself enough to wait until the relationship is committed and established. That doesn't mean I want a woman who lacks raw attraction towards me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:37 PM
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I never said they were. I'm responding to the laziness or intellectual dishonesty of people that aren't engaging with the example OP provided.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:25 PM
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The statement in the example link provided can easily be interpreted as a lack of attraction regardless of either party's beliefs regarding early sex in a relationship. I'm the type that doesn't want casual sex so I would prefer to take some time in that regard early on. I still desire sex with that woman because I have raw attraction for her. If she made it sound like she didn't have that raw attraction towards me to have desire sex but not give in then I am probably not going to take it as a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:17 PM
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I can read it from my phone at least My boyfriend and I are both 28 years old and together for 2.5 years. Yesterday night we were drinking and one thing led to another and I tried to compliment him by saying he is not someone who I would hookup or be a fwb with but marry. I thought everything was fine but he seemed extremely distraught after that. I realized how he understood it and tried to clarify it but he is still the same this morning. He told me he needs space to think for a while and left…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:11 PM
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Some men get mad because they think husband material means “not hookup/casual sex” material. The example OP gave said that to him...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:02 PM
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She worded it like shit and you've been glossing over it all throughout this post. Telling your SO that you wouldn't hookup with them but would marry them definitely implies a lesser level of physical, raw attraction. A lot of people are going to feel like that is at best a backhanded compliment.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:00 PM
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Anecdotes are fine and all but they are not changing my belief that this is not a particularly common concern. Most normal people who have strong beliefs about things like children aren't wasting their time with people who are adamant that they do not want kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 09:17 PM
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If they view having children as important to them then yeah they are probably not likely to view having a relationship with a woman that doesn't want any as a productive use of time. I'm not convinced this is happening with any serious regularity.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 07:03 PM
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Maybe I give people too much credit in general but I'm skeptical as to how common these examples are. People generally don't like wasting their own time. The first one seems like the most likely experience but I would wager that it's likely where such incompatibilities exist the most common reason is that they are relatively new to each other and simply have not had that level of conversation yet. I doubt there are many years long relationships with people incompatible on the subject of wanting …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 06:39 PM
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Men will pursue women that are objectively incompatible, because they are attracted physically, wasting women’s time. What is an example of an objective incompatibility? I'm not sure that this is particularly common so much as different people having differing ideas about the importance of specific incompatibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 06:21 PM
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My husband used to ask me for this clarification all the time, usually I just needed an ear but often I do like to hear his solutions. At this point I just let him know upfront if I need an ear or solution tho. Two way communication is a beautiful thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:50 PM
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I'm open to an argument that even if the law is the same there's an inequality in implementation This is my belief. I don't understand the claim that it doesn't support that idea at all. 4% of the respondents were US citizens. It's a small sample of the study but it is there. That there are not many studies on this despite more recent evidence suggesting that male victims of domestic violence are not nearly as uncommon as previously though also lends credence to the idea that there is unequal pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:44 PM
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I never claimed it mentioned VAWA. At this point I really think some people have a hard time mixing comments between different users. I was refuting the claim that "Male victims of DV are treated the same under the law." I think this study as well as others referenced within the discussion give sufficient weight to be able to doubt that claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:49 PM
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I can tell you didn't read anything. I never criticized the name, you're confusing me with someone else. I'm arguing that there are real and sometimes systemic/societal hurdles that prevent men from being helped. I'm specifically arguing against your claim that male victims are not excluded and provided a study that shows there are additional hurdles that prevent some from gaining access to support.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:46 PM
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The study I linked to was not Australian only. The largest population was actually British but includes other nations including the US. This is a snippet from the discussion portion that references other studies (one of which is Australian centered). The general discussion in this study is that this is a pretty general trend across Western societies.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:42 PM
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I'd argue the evidence is not necessarily in support of this claim. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9554285/#section16-08862605211035870 Milligan (2019) identified similar issues in her U.S. sample of male victims and Walker et al. (2019) in their Australian sample. The dominant narrative of men as perpetrators and women as victims appears to have created myopia whereby individuals who do not fit the standard narrative are discredited (Gold, 2019; Hogan, 2020; Walker et al., 2019). The …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:30 PM
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Some are just talking about the kind of person they'd like to be when talking in the abstract, but in practice they end up perpetuating misandry. This is what I usually lean towards as the most common factor. They simply don't know how they will react at the time but they know how they'd like to think they would react. That level of self-awareness is pretty uncommon across the board, in my experience. I try not to assume malice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 08:43 PM
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They also do attempt to advocate for men regularly. Taking about how they should be able to cry, be vulnerable, experience more platonic touch, be under less pressure to earn money, etc. But men actually get angry at this and say they're being feminized and babied and whatever. I find that there is a disconnect between what some women may state or advocate for and what men experience as actions from women in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 03:36 PM
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That's all I could really come up with in my head...I just really don't have faith in others that much to be confident about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:24 PM
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I've not been divorced and hope I never have to cross that bridge, however...I guess my question is that when the assumption that American society makes that the mother is the primary caregiver how would a father who is active, to the point of being more involved, even prove that? How would I even prove I take them to doctor and dentist appointments, take them to school 90% of the time, almost always make it to school events that occur during work hours, do the majority of assisting with school …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:24 PM
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It's not like women picked out the gifts that their men give them either. The excuse that they just aren't told what to do is infantilizing them. Put some effort in.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 06:09 PM
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I don't know why there needs to be a consensus. Romance is inherently very specific to what individuals like. Yeah some are going to like the stereotypical things but just learn what your partner likes and lean into it. A woman (or man) operating from the standpoint of "I just don't know what to get them" is being lazy in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:56 PM
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That's pretty awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:47 PM
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You're operating under the incorrect idea that buying flowers or similar actions is the only way to romance a partner. It's very limited thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:43 PM
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So isn't that what they just said basically? If so, then...that's not a raise. That's shedding major overhead costs.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:11 PM
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Salaried people definitely aren't having their income go up that much in large enough numbers after a divorce to make that a noticeable trend. I'd say the common sense reasoning for this trend (if it actually exists) would be that there are a lot of men getting paid hourly taking on additional hours post divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:56 PM
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Yeah not sure how this is a hard concept for them. The hot and not crazy portion of the graph is the target.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:23 PM
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I'd say there are a multitude of possible reasons. In general though for me personally, I'm not particularly inclined to believe the things people tell about themselves that they think will make them look good to others. People have a tendency to sugarcoat and play things up. Some will say "I would never treat my SO that way..." knowing full well deep down that they have treated someone that way previously but maybe they've grown as a person and don't want to be associated with that behavior. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 09:50 PM
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I would imagine that most of the men making six figures did so before getting married, so at least someone is marrying the guys making <6 figures. It's a very small percentage of the whole. The average man at age 30 is closer to $60k. Most people that marry do so in their 20s. The kind of single man that is making more than $100k in their 20s has lots of options, assuming they are even pursuing serious relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:10 PM
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I think the way most people envision it would be in cases like Trevor Bauer's case where they found messages between the woman claiming rape and another individual where she basically plots out her entire scheme. Burden of proof shouldn't just suddenly become trivial.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 03:07 PM
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Social security is the larger expenditure.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 03:45 AM
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My point is that anyone who thinks 16% body fat is any where near overweight is evidence of the concept in OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:33 AM
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Either your percentages are off, or you're accidentally proving the concept in the op, correct. 16% is still very good shape objectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:25 AM
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The amount of people who are either unable or unwilling to engage in faithful discussion is shocking to me. It's also hilariously proving OP's point about people's inability to engage in a debate without jumping to extreme strawman arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:39 PM
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Also it's two separate words, aka a phrase, so it won't appear in the dictionary. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/turn%20of%20phrase
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:01 PM
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A lot of guys think that just because they pay for everything This is in the OP. If the man in a relationship is paying for everything then the natural and obvious common sense conclusion is that the woman is not. Obviously there are a large number of relationships this does not apply to and they have varying issues between partners but that does not change the fact that he was responding to OP's presented scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 03:28 PM
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Your post wasn't even an example of weaponized incompetence. It's the natural response to dealing with an overly picky individual that refuses any compromise.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 03:20 PM
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He is operating under the scenario set up by the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 03:17 PM
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I would say it doesn't even necessarily have to be regularly splitting dates. Cooking a meal, bringing him a coffee, or really any number of other obvious thoughtful actions would show meaningful reciprocation. I've known some women that just didn't provide anything early on and expected to get the princess treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:02 AM
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Again, agreed. But that's an even better incentive to make a man wait than the fact that men lie lol 100% which is why it's funny to me that people are up in arms about the OP's post. If you want to reduce the likelihood of having sex with someone that is not committed to you, don't have sex outside the confines of a committed relationship. Doing so early in a relationship is always going to have the risk that the other party finds something they don't like and bails and that doesn't even take i…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:22 PM
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Nah, you don't understand...if you have sex with a woman you're bound to her forever unless she decides to leave. So much of this would be solved by not having casual sex if you're wanting to have sex in the confines of a committed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:52 PM
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I'm not seeing where he says to be dishonest. He is literally saying that the woman is putting up a facade and when it comes crumbling down the man moves on. Also, consent can be withdrawn at any moment, the guy could be ok to commit to you with your initial presentation about yourself, but as your flaws and other traits come in, he has all the right to simply dump you after. Be more honest next time. Swap the genders and every woman on here is prattling on about her not owing him anything just …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:43 PM
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You are allowed to. I'd suggest people with this mentality just not get married however.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:13 AM
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I am trying to make sure I understand your example and how you're attempting to tie it to relationships. Are you suggesting that if you think you have found a better partner that it should be considered morally neutral or positive to leave your current committed partner when you admit there is nothing wrong with that relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 12:50 AM
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Alimony laws differ by state. In general, however, the lower earning spouse could ask for and receive alimony even if they had worked. The chances are less but the more disparate the earnings the greater the chance. There a number of things that impact the final result. Judges generally have leeway to make what they feel is the best and most just decision. Simply search "can a wife get alimony even if she worked" and you'll find some results from law firms confirming this potential. ETA: The ori…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 11:27 PM
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Women who have jobs during marriage do not quality for alimony. That's not true. It reduces the likelihood but it in no way eliminates it outright.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 08:12 PM
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The reason that’s a problem is because usually the partner that has more assets second guess is the relationship and ends it right before the sunset clause goes into effect to protect their assets. So worry around a prenup can destroy an otherwise healthy relationship. I'd hesitate to call it a healthy relationship if one party is willing to bail just because a sunset clause is approaching. Also, it’s important to note that when the vast majority of people are forming a prenup they are prioritiz…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 07:07 PM
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Maybe this is cultural difference This is a big part of so many of the things people complain about in America. So many are weak minded because they do not have to go through regular hardships and do not want to take responsibility for themselves. Bad things will happen. Bad people will harm others. It may not be the fault of the person it happened to, but it is their responsibility to pick themselves up and do their best to move forward. That mentality is called "victim blaming" in America now.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 06:25 PM
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Because social roles are heavily influenced by gender. Often controlling or aggressive behaviour is excused in men and there is a social expectation for a woman to submit to a man. Therefore the behaviour is often excused by people around her. I disagree that a controlling and/or aggressive man's actions are generally or often excused, especially by those around the woman. Many studies show that people in general are more likely to put women before men. Some people will absolutely support an abu…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 10:44 PM
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They are just so much more expensive than regular grapes though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:34 PM
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What does gender role have to do with removing yourself from an abuser? I'm not following that argument. Most people regardless of gender that are abused successfully remove themselves from the situation or seek help to be removed. Those that stay, regardless of gender, tend to suffer from very similar issues regarding confidence and self-worth. What about gender roles necessitates gendering that reality at all? Your last paragraph is more in agreeance with my point than you seem to realize. It'…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:26 PM
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Women and men have different barriers to leaving. The biggest barrier in modern, western society is mostly themselves. Resources are out there for those willing to go to them but they don't just come to you. Victims aren't to blame for being abused and I've never absolved the abuser from their responsibility. Abused people are and should be responsible for removing themselves from abusive situations. I didn't when I was younger and it's the only major regret I have in my life because allowing it…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:06 PM
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My statement wasn't a gendered statement at all so no it's not blaming women. Abusers are responsible for the abuse they cause and abuse victims are responsible for protecting and removing themselves from those situations. Bad people exist, no one is going to be shielded forever and I cannot force someone to be a good person. I can only remove myself from their ability to harm me to the best of my ability. Too many people (including myself in an earlier portion of my life) lack the confidence an…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 08:17 PM
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My point is it will never be considered easy because the relative perceived difficulty will always adjust accordingly. I don't believe most people that stick in an abusive place are giving the other party a second chance so much as they are struggling with the difficult choice to make a life changing decision, even when the status quo is objectively bad. The vast majority of people struggle with self-esteem and self-worth...these people are more prone to being in abusive situations and are also …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 08:01 PM
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It's never been easier in human history for either a man or a woman in modern, western society to leave an abusive relationship and it doesn't seem like the rates of people staying in those relationships has drastically lowered to me. Too many people will always make excuses and always make reasons why it's too hard to leave even though the barriers to exiting are far lower than ever before. Unfortunately there are times when these choices impact the safety of children as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 07:46 PM
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Please provide the tax formula where one can deduct a charitable donation from their income that will result in more savings than what they donated. I will gladly admit I am wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 08:59 PM
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Also, if Melinda Gates uses Bill's money for a charity, it'll still be listed as Bill Gates giving to that charity. According to whom? The charity won't refuse to give a spouse credit for the donation simply because the other spouse is the one who earns the money and as far as the government is concerned the money is both of theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 07:59 PM
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The math works the same no matter the scale. It's basic math. There is no scenario where you can donate money and end up better off financially than not donating money. If you donate any amount, that entire amount is gone but the amount of taxes owed being reduced is only a percentage of that same amount donated. It's really not complicated. The outflow of money donated will always be greater than the tax savings.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 07:30 PM
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Wrong. If I make $1,000,000, donate $200,000 and then pay taxes I will end up with less money than if I made $1,000,000 and then just paid taxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:53 PM
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Donating to charity doesn't save money overall. Men on average work more hours and have less free time than women on average. It makes sense that men who donate to charity are more likely to donate the resource they have more of (money) and women donate to charity the resource they have more (time).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:55 PM
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So you're using a bunch of whores and applying their behavior onto other women? There are 1.4 million American women on Only Fans. There are 168 million adult women in the United States. So, you are using less than 1% of women in the U.S (it's actually 0.83%) to base your hatred on. Not that the OP makes any sense to me but tangentially what you just posted actually shocked me a little bit. Lets assume that the vast majority of those 1.4 million US based OF creators are between the ages of 20-39…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 07:11 PM
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I don't disagree about OP. Seems entitled. I just thought the phrasing of that one line applies more commonly than most realize.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:56 PM
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It kinda sounds like she’s gonna be accused of manipulating no matter what she does, if it doesn’t involve giving the man what he wants. That's more or less what men are accused of on here when they withdraw from a friendship if they have unrequited feelings. Maybe people are just largely shit at having empathy and looking at a situation from another's POV.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:26 PM
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In all my years no guy has ever mentioned you can have a hard on while you're uncomfortable You've never in your life heard about a guy, especially a pubescent one, getting a boner in an awkward situation? I find that hard to believe considering how many jokes have been made about it over the years.
/r/MensRights17/01/14 03:22 PM
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So are repairs to your car, but state governments require you to have car insurance all the time. This has never been the best comparison, at least in my state. I'm only required to have liability coverage. I can't think of a good comparison for liability coverage in the medical insurance sector.
/r/MensRights15/01/14 07:20 PM
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