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| 59 | In your opinion: What kind of mistakes and hiccups could a HVM possibly make, as opposed to the mistakes (red flags) a NVM/LVM exhibits? | DISCUSSION | Shokkolatte | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 06:31 PM |
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| 143 | Imagine carrying a pregnancy to term for this piece of shit LVMHonestly, I'd be traumatised and humiliated by this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 10:09 PM |
| 2 | Answers to: What are you looking for?Just say you will be playing it by ear. Which is a very normal and acceptable way to be. You shouldn't really want "a relationship" like that until you learn you're actually into the person imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 10:12 PM |
| 5 | Maturely handling accusations of "not being able to find a man.""Thank you, I'm flattered. They should continue to try their best to find me." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 04:25 PM |
| 26 | Women are only beautiful when they dont know it 🤔Seriously, they wanted to be awarded and praised for finding you beautiful. Lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 04:52 PM |
| 8 | What will you not do until engaged or married?Literally everything you listed. Good for you. The amount of free labour I see some girlfriends giving is insane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 04:46 PM |
| 9 | This sub is going to get banned soon. It’s time to leave Reddit ladies.Welp, it's time to make a Spinster account. The patriarchy will continue to lose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:50 AM |
| 4 | Period!!!Fiona is an absolute queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 10:00 AM |
| 25 | PickMes Have No Self Awareness At All 🤣I think HVM are genuinely fun to be with romantically, because when it's with them it feels like a genuinely romantic and emotionally fulfilling experience. But they aren't that common. Most of these ladies are shacking up with their 50/50 boyfriends and making them dinner, acting like it's the best thing since sliced bread. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 05:14 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend Checking Out Other WomenTruth! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 03:57 PM |
| 72 | PickMes Have No Self Awareness At All 🤣Yeah, I was talking about the woman she was responding to: “That’s why most of y’all single” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 03:27 PM |
| 259 | PickMes Have No Self Awareness At All 🤣Lmao at using “single” as an insult. Research says that’s the peak of personal bliss for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 03:10 PM |
| 113 | Boyfriend Checking Out Other WomenNo, you are not being dramatic. He was wondering who the “really cute” woman was? Your whole ass boyfriend? The shit women put up with. Yeah, this isn’t okay. Imagine if you did this to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 09:11 AM |
| 15 | Kinkmesha claims she’s “nOt LikE oTheR GiRlz” and enjoys acting like a pornstar. Friends tell her this is strange. Kinkmesha comes on the internet for validation from porn addicted internet strangers. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️I suppose I don’t understand why anyone would discuss their sex life with their friends, unless they are considering asking their friends to join in? It’s okay to have a private life, you don’t have to give others literally the most intimate details of your life just because you are friends. I’ve noticed this, a decent amount of women irl and online saying that they discuss the sex they have in detail with their friends. Down to his penis, performance, etc. Like people won’t be so open discussin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 04:21 PM |
| 15 | Instead of allowing Disney to demonize strong, independent women to be portrayed as villains, can we just agree we need to stop the narrative of "keeping sweet", "being complacent" and "having faith" to remain a "pure princess" trope when others mistreat us?Yup, always have more depth to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 07:41 PM |
| 41 | What behaviors do you think a man "unlocks" from you, or "earns" when you go from his girlfriend to his fiancée, and from fiancée to wife? Looking for general and specific advice on giving too much too soon in a relationshipFor me, personally? Unprotected sex. The condom only comes off when it’s clear what the future holds. And in my opinion it’s only clear once he is legally committed. Besides that, I will not be putting my vagina or womb through that risk before that certificate is signed. Not living with your guy makes that boundary far easier to maintain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 08:38 PM |
| 8 | Every other LVM.Lol I remember I was a child when it aired and I definitely found his friendship with that child all types of strange. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 12:57 AM |
| 137 | The F*cking Audacity of Them to Use Me and My Sisters for Good PR. Duck them and Duck All Who See Me This Way!!Disgusting, and those women are NOT porn stars. Why are their images on THAT website? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 02:06 AM |
| 7 | Societal pressure to be married by 30 lmaoYou said it yourself, a HVM is the only man worth having a committed relationship with. Don't let anyone pressure you into a LV relationship. Because they won't be the ones there with you when you're dealing with his shit. Walk to the beat of your own drum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 01:23 AM |
| 17 | Forgot my makeup bag at my boyfriend’s place and I get this response. We’ve been dating for 4 months. Definitely ended things with him. *shrug*Exactly. Next he will say "he doesn't like blood" when OP is on her cycle. What a strange and sad sad man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 05:56 PM |
| 55 | Forgot my makeup bag at my boyfriend’s place and I get this response. We’ve been dating for 4 months. Definitely ended things with him. *shrug*Right? It doesn't even look like a conversation between a boyfriend and a girlfriend. And I don't mean that in a bad way towards OP, but like he's so hostile and lacking care in the way he talks to her. It's so weird and unsettling. He def has some secrets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 05:55 PM |
| 1 | In your opinion: What kind of mistakes and hiccups could a HVM possibly make, as opposed to the mistakes (red flags) a NVM/LVM exhibits?Starting constructive discussion is never a slight. Please feel very free to do so. Telling someone you don’t personally know that they have lower standards is a slight, which I simply defended myself against. Again, feel free to express yourself and have a nice weekend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 06:42 PM |
| 0 | In your opinion: What kind of mistakes and hiccups could a HVM possibly make, as opposed to the mistakes (red flags) a NVM/LVM exhibits?If my standards for men and relationships were so low I wouldn’t have turned down and walked away from the large amount of dating situations that I have. All I did last year was reject, walk away from, and block men who I felt I wasn’t going to gain anything from seeing. So that’s not true. I imagine that we are all on the same mission here on this sub, to sharpen our discernment and clear up any difficulties when it comes to dating. That’s all I was trying to ignite with this discussion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 12:47 PM |
| 5 | In your opinion: What kind of mistakes and hiccups could a HVM possibly make, as opposed to the mistakes (red flags) a NVM/LVM exhibits?sends virtual hug 🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 11:16 PM |
| 4 | In your opinion: What kind of mistakes and hiccups could a HVM possibly make, as opposed to the mistakes (red flags) a NVM/LVM exhibits?This is soooo helpful. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 10:21 PM |
| 7 | In your opinion: What kind of mistakes and hiccups could a HVM possibly make, as opposed to the mistakes (red flags) a NVM/LVM exhibits?Someone else’s name during sex calls for an immediate cut off by the way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 09:58 PM |
| 6 | In your opinion: What kind of mistakes and hiccups could a HVM possibly make, as opposed to the mistakes (red flags) a NVM/LVM exhibits?I love this! May have to print it out lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 09:37 PM |
| 8 | In your opinion: What kind of mistakes and hiccups could a HVM possibly make, as opposed to the mistakes (red flags) a NVM/LVM exhibits?True, I never realised that before. Doing a “third person” view of the relationship as if you were someone else is a great way to analyse things. Often in dating I can forget to do that. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 09:34 PM |
| 32 | In your opinion: What kind of mistakes and hiccups could a HVM possibly make, as opposed to the mistakes (red flags) a NVM/LVM exhibits?Okay, so genuine and unprompted self awareness and empathy when faced with what he’s done wrong? Makes a lot of sense. Thank you for your input. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 09:27 PM |
| 4 | In your opinion: What kind of mistakes and hiccups could a HVM possibly make, as opposed to the mistakes (red flags) a NVM/LVM exhibits?Yup. In the past I have misread or overcomplicated something that wasn’t serious and was easy to talk through. He wasn’t a LVM, we just weren’t compatible. And it was a miscommunication on both of our parts. But at the time I wasn’t equipped with the wisdom/knowledge to deal with it accordingly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 09:22 PM |
| 9 | In your opinion: What kind of mistakes and hiccups could a HVM possibly make, as opposed to the mistakes (red flags) a NVM/LVM exhibits?A hiccup is described in dictionaries as minor problems or issues one may encounter, that are usually not intentional and not a serious problem. Like a literal hiccup. If it sounds “pick me” ish then I don’t know what to say. It’s basically human error and I don’t know anyone that has never made a genuine misstep in any part of life. What we do in those situations is we work on ourselves so it doesn’t happen again. I’m open to any constructive discussion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 09:11 PM |
| 96 | Can you be my GF without expecting me to be your BF? K, thanks. 🙄And these men are almost never hot themselves. Or they would have already been able to attract hot and interesting women, provided they were high quality. There's a certain brand of LVM that is afraid of his cracks showing once he gets into a relationship. So he hides behind "I don't want a relationship". A relationship where he is held responsible would end up exposing how trash and unimpressive he is. A shallow connection further facilitates his intention to hide his true self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 06:04 PM |
| 25 | rose & ed: “i like the view” “you’re my best view” "Meh." - I don't know why this scene reminds me of this community, haha. I think it's because Rose is so unbothered/unimpressedI love how she has sky high standards in comparison to a lot of women I know in real life who are better off than her socially or financially. A lot of women think they have to have and acquire X, Y, and Z to demand quality treatment from men. And if not, then it's okay to be treated like dirt at the bottom of a shoe because they're not at a certain "level". It goes to show how you view and value yourself as a woman should have very little to do with the external. You are worthy because you are.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:52 PM |
| 52 | Woman develops eating disorder because of her bf's porn use; in shocking turn, majority of comments are anti-porn! I have never felt so validated by a mainstream thread.Omg, I was just making a thread on this and realised you did already. He's "deVaStaTeD" but he keeps a whole collection of naked women's pictures who aren't his girlfriend? Like...really? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:38 PM |
| 52 | Helped someone learn they’re dating a LVM today. Sent her his dating profile and screenshots of our date plans for this weekend.And Beyoncé. Men are so unbelievably stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 03:56 AM |
| 3 | I thought I was saying a HVM until he got drunk and "dumped" me (minutes after telling me he loved me and saying goodnight), then immediately regretted it. Dumped, blocked, and deleted. As hard as it can be, I deserve better. Damn, it feels good not settling.Yup, makes a lot of sense. Good riddance to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 05:28 PM |
| 2 | I thought I was the best girlfriend.Nah, there’s nothing wrong with rational communication, rooted in common sense and logic. Acting chilled about shit you’re not chilled about is what is wrong. That is where women go wrong. They don’t speak their piece. But there’s no point getting a man to think you’re exerting a lot of your emotional energy into him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 09:59 AM |
| 8 | Don’t be a forever girlfriendThis may not be the popular opinion but I think I feel a similar way about couples who are young and get together when they are 18. There isn’t too much difference to me. If after all this time you’re not sure about spending your lives together, why invest sooo much of your irreversible youth into a 5+ year relationship? When you could be getting to know other people, be learning how to date in general, just enjoying independence etc. These are the couples that usually move in together and have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 10:16 AM |
| 11 | Don’t be a forever girlfriendYou’re absolutely right. If he can’t be transparent within 6 months then it’s probably not a good sign. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 09:31 AM |
| 116 | Don’t be a forever girlfriendI think it’s absolutely crazy for a man to take up 5+ years of your romantic life and not be sure about you! It would be the end of it for me after 2 years. I’ve already told myself if a man I’m with is not clear about what he wants and doesn’t make action towards it within 2 years of us being together, I’m gone. And I’ll make myself clear on that with him way before that. For me it’s not about getting married in X amount of time. It’s about, in the words of Rihanna, “shutting down the grey area… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 10:40 PM |
| 71 | Don’t be a forever girlfriendI don’t quite get it either, the ability to spend years and years as boyfriend and girlfriend, especially when both of you are settled in your lives and finances. Eventually it comes off as juvenile because how can you not be ready to legally protect your almost decade long relationship, but you’re both ready and willing to let 7 years turn into 8 years, ready to move in or buy a home together, ready to have unprotected sex that runs the risk of pregnancy etc? It’s like a lot of people see marri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 10:25 PM |
| 4 | Lie #728299 You know full well your not 44This bish tried it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 04:10 PM |
| 2 | This is so cute :)This reminds me of the short film, "Hair Love". So sweet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 01:10 PM |
| 16 | I got flamed for this on tiktok- was trying to spread the fds word in my own way😢I can tell you are actually really good at acting. In the words of Kris Jenner: “You’re doing amazing, sweetie!” This is highkey the kind of content Tik Tok needs. Do your thing and block out nay sayers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 10:50 AM |
| 8 | 6years with incredibly cheap but well-off bf who will never commit and resents paying for both of us6 years is a mighty long time to be with someone who doesn't actually see a future with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 09:44 PM |
| 8 | What you have to answer when you hear “I’m not ready for a relationship?” Or “I want no strings attached”?Lmao! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 05:50 PM |
| 10 | What to do when an HVM dumps you?Ok, well now is the time to look inward and address the source of this kind of behaviour. Otherwise, it will affect relationships in the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 08:30 PM |
| 17 | My boyfriend didn't like the way I brought up an issueUpset he got caught out in a lie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 08:13 PM |
| 9 | What to do when an HVM dumps you?What are the mistakes that you believe you made? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Evening all, I’m working on an FDS oldies/rock/ soul/ instrumental/ singer songwriter/ vintage/ whatever playlist, inviting your suggestionsA Ningun Hombre by Rosalía. If you are non Spanish speaking please do a translate on the lyrics once listening. It's powerful. And one of my fave classics - That Don't Impress Me Much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 05:43 PM |
| 33 | May we all marry men who make our lives easier Ameen because dear Lord what even is this? 😭Lawd, this is depressing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 04:45 PM |
| 5 | Don't fall for the "live together before marriage" myth.I personally don't think there's anything to be fearful or afraid of, but I do believe there's some things you should reserve for marriage. So that one, you can actually enjoy that fresh feeling of a new beginning. And so that two, you can directly associate the act of getting married with becoming a joint unit, and not anything before that. Speaks of boundaries and nothing getting blurred. Jmo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 02:06 PM |
| 8 | Don't fall for the "live together before marriage" myth.I see where you are coming from, but isn't the entire dating stage the time when you're meant to work out whether he's a HVM? Not when you get engaged? He's not going to suddenly switch up once marriage is on the horizon. Just like a lousy and selfish man isn't going to suddenly become considerate once he gets married. Men's characters don't change like we think they do. It's just many of us don't vet hard and analyse in the very beginning like we're meant to. We can often get stuck in that infa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 01:05 PM |
| 6 | Don't fall for the "live together before marriage" myth.I completely agree and I'm not religious. You don't need to be around each other 24/7 to know what they will be like in a marriage. People's character doesn't change once you live with them, so vet the character and not the living habits, which are simply direct results of their character. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 12:59 PM |
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