I’m not arguing about his behavior or the fact women aren’t required to do anal if they have done it before. Any man that insists you do it is porn sick. I’m giving general advice on the nature of men. Obviously this John character is a loser asshole.
Uhhh he dumped her after finding out who she really was. Edit: I’m not talking about anyone’s self worth here. Men are allowed to have standards even if you don’t agree with them. I don’t think we should pretend that a promiscuous past won’t potentially limit the amount of high value relationship oriented men that will be interested in you. You don’t always get to have your cake and eat it too.
Absolutely, builds community trust and strength :) Good men enjoy spoiling you a little bit and taking care of others when they can. It’s a big reason why they are making money in the first place.
There is no such thing as an “alpha woman” I think you just need to be humble and have tact when dealing with people. Sort of like what’s described in “How to win friends and influence people”