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Establishing boundaries and baseline expectations are part of healthy adult relationships. Laying out consequences may help qualify a potential partner. For me, it made every interaction with a potential "cheat partner" trigger me to reassess. "Is this worth my kids, family, home, etc?" Typically me don't cheat because they want to hurt their wives or because they are just assholes. They are cheating because it's a selfish need. Like eating a whole package of cookies. You know it's bad for you b…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/24 04:01 PM
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Luckily I found someone not repulsed by me. However, your picker sounds broken anyway, so I'm not offended. My wife and I have been together faithfully for 25 years. We are sitting on the couch together right now, finishing up a show we watch together and about to pack up our kids to go get ice cream and look at the aurora borealis. So, guess I am doing OK. Good luck with your marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/24 04:14 AM
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Upfront and proactive communication is, actual, advice. This obviously did not happen here. It may have helped to establish boundaries, expectations and consequences upto and including enumeration in a prenuptial agreement. Sorry if that was unclear. As for my path, there were many opportunities to stray. There was even a moment where a series of events took place where it, at first glance, appeared that I had. But, I hadn't and when the chips were down my wife believed me even before proof was …
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/24 03:09 AM
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OK. Take advice about men, from women. Because no one understands men, like women. Women can absolutely tell you how to pick a good, honest and monogamous guy.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 06:24 PM
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You will not find MORE monogamous men outside of the USA. Likely your husband was very attractive and likely pretty well compensated? This seems to be the part that creates confusion. Many of these men are hit on constantly. 80% of women go after these very few men. They don't have to be monogamous and there is very little benefit to being monogamous. I was not monogamous in my youth. It was a conscious decision to change my habits. It came from some serious self reflection. One major thing, my …
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 06:19 AM
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You are doing the right thing. You are making yourself prize worthy. However, you are probably matching with the top 10% of men and blissfully unaware that 80% of women are going after him as well. The top 10% do not have to be in a long term relationship. There is no benefit to him to be in a long term monogamous relationship. Especially if he has a decent job. Find yourself a shy guy who is moderately attractive, in decent physical shape and makes decent money. He may not be "exciting" but he …
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 05:59 AM
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OK, I'm sure you are lovely. But in my 30 year marriage, I stopped telling my wife she is beautiful a long time ago. She knows I'm "just being nice" and what I am really saying is that I love her. We have mirrors. She knows she is getting older, heavier, etc. Neither of of us look like we did 30 years ago and that is really OK. I still love her. I love her because she is honest, and funny and etc. I never loved her because of how she looks. How she looked only drew the attention of other men. It…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/24 07:58 PM
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I'm not a fan of the term "Alpha". To me, it just reads as "douche". I'm not an alpha, I'm a grown ass man. My wife's dad worked 3 jobs so his wife could stay home and provide. He never complained. I worked 3 jobs to make sure my wife could stay home and raise our kids. Christmas just passed. I got to sit on the couch, with my coffee, in my robe while my teens handed each other gifts, hugged each other. Opened everything they got and were absolutely content with everything they had. I got to ste…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 04:56 AM
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"I always assume that I am paying my own way. But I am really not interested in going on a date with someone who would puff out their chest so aggressively and frankly, rudely. Thank you, but no thanks. I don't think this is a good match." Smile and excuse yourself from the conversation with grace.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 03:48 AM
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Oh, you have a different issue. This is not a "workaholic" situation. He is avoiding you. It may be emotional exhaustion. I encounter that sometimes with my wife. What she thinks is "communication", to me, is complaining. And if she is complaining (as it feels to me) that means it's my fault in some way. And knowing that your partner is unhappy and it's your fault is exhausting. If you are constantly bringing up what you don't have (attention, family time, etc) then he may just see you as an end…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 09:19 PM
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Yes, this is exactly what I was trying to explain poorly. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 01:27 AM
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Not absent, an absent father is catastrophically damaging. But that's not the case here. He is present but not in the same way she is and she was asking if he should be. The answer is no. The dad should be the calm in the storm. I used to sleep on the floor next to my kids when they were learning to sleep all night in their cribs. Every time they woke up, they saw me and we're soothed to sleep. If they woke up and saw my wife, they would cry until she fed them to sleep. It's just a different rel…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 01:09 AM
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Not for the dad. But that's not really what dad's are there for. Dad's aren't mom's. For the first 5 years, a kids mom is their whole world. When they hit puberty, that's when the shift happens. That's no saying that my daughter didn't sleep on my lap while I worked at the computer til 2am. Or either of my kids sleeping on top of me when I was napping on the couch. Dad is where safety and security exists. Mom is where love and nourishment exists. If mom loves dad, and shows it, so will the child…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/23 09:47 PM
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I was that guy. You need to up your game. Something in me triggered when my first kid was born. I was already ambitious but I started thinking "I am not always going to be able to work til midnight. I won't have the energy. I need to do it now! Mortgage, college education, car at 16 years old. It's all on me!" He is running a 30 year marathon. You can either be support or you can try to trip him up. If you nag him or start pulling him away, when something happens (job loss, medical bill, fire, s…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/23 06:13 PM
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I have been married for 25 years. Been 6 figures and 6ft tall and all the qualifications of a "high value man". I have never cheated on my wife. Why? Because I care about her. I care about her feelings. Even though she CAN drive me 6ft up the wall - I wouldn't risk my life and family and marriage for some 21 year old. I have had the offers. I have even considered it a few times. Some close calls. But when the chips are down, I still actually like my wife. She is a good person. I can trust her. R…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 11:39 PM
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Yeah. He's a douche. Move on for your own mental health.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 05:21 AM
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My wife said this to me at jump. "I am interested in finding my future husband." not "A husband" but HER husband. Every date was a "are we a good fit" sort of thing. We argued some. I learned she doesn't apologize verbally (she has a specific verbal way she apologizes without saying sorry that used to irritate me to no end) and she learned that I have very specific boundaries as to how I will allow someone to treat me. When I was dating, some girls would give the "I just need a guy, any guy" vib…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 06:01 AM
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I have been reading through these comments. There is a lot of good advice. The way you describe yourself sounds very appealing. Other than masculine and traditional you haven't really described what kind of guy you are looking for. Are you looking for a homebody? Someone who is most content laying on the couch with you and watching movies? If so, what kind of movies? Action? Scifi? Biopics? Historical? Each of these could be completely different kinds of men. Are you looking for a handy guy or m…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 05:43 AM
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I don't think any guy cares about hooded eyes. The bags may help you feel more confident. It could also make you look younger and more refreshed. If you have to pick one, that would probably be the one.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 11:23 PM
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OK. Chill. Those guys talk in a lot of generalizations and you are focusing on the things they are saying that tear you down and ignoring the things that build you up. Body count: I am assuming that this is still relatively low. This is the whole "sexual purity" thing they talk about. Even though you have a kid, you still have a low body count (I assume). Youth: This is also a benefit, but it is a depreciating asset. Here are some other things that raise your value (to these people). Being calm,…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 01:13 AM
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