TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

SimilarSalvation Archive

View 7 posts and 208 comments by SimilarSalvation on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
9

You come here... to this sub... asking for our advice... We welcome you into our family... give you advice... maybe even truth and this is how you respect us.. By D.E.E.R-ing every answer... by knowing it all... by hamstering away... /corleone
/r/askMRP21/01/18 09:37 AM
1

Who are you, I don't recognize you anymore. You have changed...
/r/askMRP16/01/18 11:29 AM
1

It takes balls to write that on the board.. Not that you are wrong with this advice, but I don't think OP is ready to pull that kind of stunt yet...
/r/askMRP16/01/18 11:05 AM
2

it's funny because it is true... :s
/r/askMRP15/01/18 10:14 AM
4

I don't think his wife lets him drink alcohol on weekdays...
/r/askMRP15/01/18 09:42 AM
5

about ready to walk here are you? because this is a threat you can only make once. If you give her this ultimatum, be prepared to follow it through until the very end...
/r/askMRP15/01/18 08:50 AM
3

Why is this so important? You are hamstering yourself into a catch 22. Either you listen to your wife, and you became the man she really wants a man. Either you don't listen to your wife, and you continue to be a pussy faggot. Either way, you loose in the frame you constructed for yourself... Or, you stop hamstering and become a man for yourself. Who gives a fuck who gave you the final push? You only have sex when you initiated? Because when she starts sucking your dick while driving route 66, y…
/r/askMRP15/01/18 08:10 AM
-2

So all it takes to become a blackbelt in karate is to be a nagging bitch?
/r/askMRP14/01/18 05:54 AM
2

wow, one month in and already has flaired Some girls have all the luck in the world...
/r/askMRP12/01/18 05:31 PM
1

You won't find anybody here advocating pro marriage.. You are indeed somewhat new :)
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/18 02:33 PM
1

lift, read, understand, rince, repeat... And becoming the most awesome mofo alive, obviously! but the nice guy is strong in this one... And as with many, there are children (one 4-year old daughter who means the world to me) in play. I know it would not be the end in the world if mum and I were to separate, but being a child from divorced parents, I know what pain, trauma and harm such separation could do... It is not that I would hesitate to enforce the cheating-boundary if it were only for my …
/r/askMRP10/01/18 01:52 PM
1

we agree I was just trying to say that lots of users here come and complain about their wives, LTR and situation and end with: "I set her a boundary, but she won't listen! What do I do now...?" The answer of course is: don't set a boundary/ultimatum you can't enforce/dare to act upon... Because [by lack of better word] it takes guts what /u/matrixtospartanatLV is doing right now: OHS and act accordingly the boundary he set... He could have given her "another chance", could have "talked to her ag…
/r/askMRP09/01/18 12:07 PM
1

Anyone can SET a boundary But it takes a man to ENFORCE said boundary...
/r/askMRP09/01/18 10:28 AM
2

You n00b! This is the time you DNGAF, use AM and go lift heavy things, like giving him his mailbag back..
/r/askMRP08/01/18 08:20 AM
1

I've been working hard in the gym, on my career, and STFU. and your wife? Are you working on your wife? Gaming her, giving her positive attention and affection, treat her like she is 16 again, making her feel special, wooing her over... and yes, some more context is appreciated. What did you fuck up / have been fucking up in order for your wife to hate you?
/r/askMRP06/01/18 07:15 PM
3

Yes! That is totally what he says; almost verbatim!
/r/askMRP06/01/18 05:07 PM
0

This was a great moment to show AM. You could show her you have the higher ground, that she could not bring you down, that you really are awesome. Instead, you choose to ignore her like a 4 year old and then give her a time-out.. Did you put her into a corner for being a naughty girl? Have her make you a drawing to make ammends? No! - You had the daddy-talk, you big boy you.. promise me to never do that again and we will be friend again... No matter what your stats are, can you see how a) belitt…
/r/askMRP06/01/18 04:06 PM
0

Did you punch her really hard like she deserved? But like, really really hard, taking a big swing with your closed fist right on her nosey nose? I mean: How dares she, asking a question! Showing interest in your hobbies? Trying to be in the converation?? Pfieuw, you really dodged a bullet there!!! Way the go, captain! You really showed her you are worth of her attention. You really are the prize among prizes, the fun guy to be around, mister awesome... No asshole whatsoever.
/r/askMRP06/01/18 03:58 PM
1

Right in the feelz! Those internetguys are so! mean!
/r/askMRP06/01/18 10:29 AM
6

Don't forget to draw up a room mate agreement, you fun boy! in case I've overlooked something Erm, pretty much everything that is in the sidebar... How about "go with the flow", "you be you", "be fun to be around", "you the captain, she the first mate", "Own your shit", etc. etc... Please tell me: Split the bills 50/50 and keep a jar of money to use for groceries etc. You want to buy a playstation/nintendo/hoverboard/whatever - she says no, we need the money for a rug/curtains/new chairs... We b…
/r/askMRP06/01/18 08:08 AM
7

all I want is sex yes I only value her for sex yes I’m all about sex 24/7 yes That I have sex with her to get validation for myself yes Don't get me wrong, nothing wrong with these things (except the last one) but your wife is right.. You have one big fat covert contract going on: I found TRP, I am working on myself, I am entitled to having sex because the internet told me I am becoming awesome... Your responses to the reactions reveal you are still very wet behind the ears, so maybe next time, …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/18 06:08 AM
1

This is a classic D.E.E.R.-response.. well done, /u/becoming_alpha!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/18 05:55 AM
1

you are not debt free If so, I can highly recommend the website/app You Need a Budget
/r/askMRP06/01/18 05:42 AM
2

There is a little jack10 in all of us... Great post!
/r/askMRP06/01/18 05:37 AM
2

something something 1000 foot rope...
/r/askMRP05/01/18 06:03 PM
5

dafuq did I just read? If you can't write a coherent story with a question that actually makes sense, how can you expect to hold frame and pass shit tests?
/r/askMRP05/01/18 04:50 PM
1

Should have made it more clear. Wife will say: back to your room, good boy... After a month, the other room = his room...
/r/askMRP05/01/18 04:13 PM
1

What do you think her response is here. "No, you go sleep in the other room." Edit: you go sleep in your room
/r/askMRP05/01/18 03:38 PM
10

They don't call it the devils threesome for nothing..
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 03:34 PM
11

You know how we tell men to plan for the exit, once the decision is made or when we find out the missus cheated.. "Don't let her in! Continue your play! Put some money aside! Contact a lawyer NOW.." Luckily, women are too stupid to do the same to us.. Oh, wait...
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 03:33 PM
1

It should be clearly obvious. The question is just so wrong on so many levels. 'nuf said
/r/askMRP04/01/18 01:46 PM
5

boy, are you about to get replaced!
/r/askMRP04/01/18 12:40 PM
3

I don't feel like tearing this shitpost apart, but here goes.. No frame Insecurity Covert contract? Kill the ego Now try again with Background in you and her Why this specific question What is bothering you Why aren't you in the iron Temple? What are your stats? What have you read so far? How did you find this sub?
/r/askMRP04/01/18 11:32 AM
6

...? I don't, I just am...
/r/askMRP04/01/18 11:15 AM
0

I don’t really understand your question - /u/red-sfpplus I can't believe how much most of the men here struggle to write a coherent story and question.. anyway: /u/thowaway69283, a little background and honesty is appreciated in this sub. You only registered yesterday, this is your first post, so I will cite myself from another post: How about a big fat edit to your post? - start with how did you find TRP -> MRP what have you read so far? how much do you pay for your gym-subscription? have you l…
/r/askMRP04/01/18 08:00 AM
2

Love how you throw around the lingo but have no clue what you are talking about :D How about a big fat edit to your post? - start with age, age of child how did you find TRP -> MRP what have you read so far? how much do you pay for your gym-subscription? how about making some actually sense? what coworkers and why? what to be over? what issues with the family? what issues when you are out of the house? have you looked into the mirror of truth yet? what is your weakness? what really needs to chan…
/r/askMRP04/01/18 07:52 AM
3

How to handle such situation ? What situation? - This is BluePill thinking... The situation of a man owning a clean house? The situation of a man owning his shit? The situation of a man working on himself? The situation of a man becoming a better version of himself? The situation of a man becoming/being a leader? The situation of a man becoming so awesome he will be noticed by other woman (you do lift, do you?) The situation of a man having righteous self-esteem and radiating abundance? Somewher…
/r/askMRP04/01/18 07:44 AM
4

You would not want to be responsible for a failed marriage, now would you...
/r/askMRP03/01/18 04:02 PM
9

Just make sure you don't go validation seeking or ask for praise or anything This ^ Don't go bragging about it to her, don't try to give subtle hints as to what you cleaned today, and don't be butthurt when she messes things up again.. This was my hardest part: seeing her putting dirty dishes on the cleaned counter, not putting her shoes away when she comes home, but just kick them under table on the freshly mobbed floor... It takes a lot of STFU to act like you DNGAF at that point...
/r/askMRP03/01/18 03:10 PM
7

hey, you. Yeah, you, /u/Zehoff Come here, will you.. Yeah, come closer... You might want to read the Posting Quality Guide, especially the part about Low Quality Posts And then, after you realise your mistake, head over to /r/askMRP, you know, the place where you can ask questions... And maybe start with a proper introduction over there, you know, ... Just saying
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 09:27 AM
1

people that have to drop off their kids will drop them off when sick. this is why so many kids these days are chronically sick and end up with tubes in their ears. source?? Here in my part of Europe, it is normal for children to attend day-care 4/5 times a week, regardless of the parents income or job, from the age of 6 month to 2.5 years. At 2,5 years, they start preschool... We have no significant more "tubes" in Europe than in any other part of the world... We have no more sick children in Eu…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 05:13 PM
2

that will always be a challenge. I agree, especially if you are known as a social drinker who likes his beer/whine/whiskey.. I survived my holiday season and 5+ mandatory family gatherings without a single drop of alcohol. The none-drinking part was easy, the why-are-you-suddenly-acting-all-weird and come-on-you-big-pussy-don't-be-an-ass-and-drink-with-us parts were not :/ But! It was one hell of an opportunity to practice frame, DNGAF and especially no-DEER-ing...
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 05:04 PM
6

insanely hard red pill a new subreddit is born every minute :)
/r/askMRP02/01/18 03:49 PM
3

I am 130 days on a row sober right now. I was a casual drinker evolved into a social drinker into a heavy social drinker into a 'everyday' drinker. If you would ask me then, I did not have a problem either. If you asked my friends, family and SO, I did not have a problem. If you ask me now, I really can't say... I have a very strong will and was able to stop smoking and drinking (in two different years) on willpower alone. My father (inspired by me) could not, so he installed quitzilla on his ph…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 03:18 PM
3

welcome /u/TheFireStartsWithin If you would look at the 'start page' of /r/askMRP/, you will see this question (Reading materials openly?) as the last entry.. Happy reading..
/r/askMRP02/01/18 02:17 PM
2

Stings, doesn't it, admitting it out loud ;) Congratulations on doing so! Now you can start to heal...
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 10:34 AM
4

Throwaway, this is yours and ours biggest problem... You are still afraid of yourself. OYS means looking yourself and seeing AND accepting the ugliest truth(s) about yourself, and then fixing them... So try admitting to yourself why you deleted that post... Either you didn't like the responses, or you didn't like yourself in that post... The question however is, why did you run away from it, instead of facing the ugliness head on?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 10:23 AM
1

Good luck to both of you!
/r/askMRP01/01/18 09:25 AM
3

right, you have several problems going on here... Got LTR pregnant.. Are you sure it was you?? Hate to be the partypooper, but you have to be sure... /r/TheRedPill/ has a must read for you! Good for you that you were already dating/in a relationship but getting her (unwanted) pregnant is not a good way to start/maintain a healthy relationship. ==> Always plan for the worst... Living apart together => see must read You will have to move in together. No questions asked. dread You don't dread a pre…
/r/askMRP01/01/18 09:17 AM
2

Are you [deleted] who hit his wife yesterday while both of you were drunk and she went through your phone? Did you turn yourself in after getting her permission? Or are you another one who keeps secrets on his phone? anyhow: head over to /r/AskMPR and write a coherent story. Give us some background on you, your relationship and "the event". What have you read, what are you reading, what have you done to better yourself, how do you OYS, do you lift, etc. etc. you do know about the sidebar, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/18 09:04 AM
3

But you told me to NGAF and STFU.. I even looked those words up.. :/ MRP is hard :( pouts
/r/askMRP01/01/18 07:38 AM
2

And right you are! Like I said somewhere else, that post is a sidebar on its own... Thank you for that...
/r/askMRP31/12/17 09:47 PM
2

This is what you learned from all the replies? Quit drinking and vaping? Really, nothing else? Not a teeny weeny little other thing? Yup, I can see you 'understand'...
/r/askMRP31/12/17 09:40 PM
1

aaah... another 'deleter'... too bad :/
/r/askMRP31/12/17 03:54 PM
2

Looks like we got another askhole on our hands...
/r/askMRP31/12/17 11:22 AM
2

wait? you forgot to ask her permission before slapping her? bad boy! down! down, boy! roll over atta boy...
/r/askMRP31/12/17 11:06 AM
2

As far as fun goes - I’m feeling like I’m back to my old self. I’m pretty care free and willing to try anything. There really isn’t anyone I don’t get along with and I can make anyone laugh - I’ve always been like that. I’m an excellent conversationalist, as I pretty much talk to everyone I come into contact with, and rarely stall with keeping a conversation going. Yeah, she don't care :) - We were talking about your wife, here... I try to game her, but when she becomes a bitch I withdraw. I kno…
/r/askMRP31/12/17 06:52 AM
6

it could just be me hamstering You have been together for 11 years, you discovered MRP 3 months ago, you lost 30 lbs in 3 months, gained definition in under 3 months (after first needed to lose 30 lbs), already getting IOI's from other women (after first needed to lose 30 lbs) and turned your wife into a slut in under 3 months, .. Ding ding ding ding ding, we have a w(e)in(n)er!!! Looks like we have nothing to learn you anymore! Read this nugget of gold by /u/Triadis3. That post is a sidebar on …
/r/askMRP31/12/17 06:28 AM
6

quality posts deserve quality answers :D
/r/askMRP30/12/17 03:09 PM
6

choose a different username... really :D read the comments on Now I get it.. But should I next this b!+ch!! - hint, he does not get it.. never ever show what you have learned so far, when you swallowed the pill, what books you have read, what concepts you understand, what concepts you struggle with, what you have done so far to better yourself, what flaws you have, what your MAP is, ... oh, and we don't like context either...
/r/askMRP30/12/17 03:03 PM
3

(I've soft nexted her previously) source - /u/mountainbiker178
/r/askMRP30/12/17 02:32 PM
3

What is soft nexting? - to next but then to keep her close? like: saying you will leave her and then give her a foot-massage, do the dishes, talk about your feelings and spoon her to sleep?
/r/askMRP30/12/17 02:15 PM
1

right in the feelz :D
/r/askMRP30/12/17 02:12 PM
2

He is one week day in, read some posts, throws around some lingo, feels initial anger I am curious though how this will go down.. 40% chance on [deleted], I guess
/r/askMRP30/12/17 09:12 AM
5

Woman deal in covert communication. The wife has been trying to tell him he needed to change. Apparantly, /u/BasidiomycetousGuy was too stupid or thickheaded to get the message, so now she openly told him he needed to change. Most of the time, this is an ultimatum, a last cry of help by the missus in order to get him to change. Sometimes, indeed, it is the final nail in the coffin.. However, this should not matter to OP. The problem is not (ever, never) the wife, the problem is /u/Basidiomycetou…
/r/askMRP30/12/17 09:01 AM
9

you'll never change, you're a insecure asshole It's almost like I have to be the man and you want to be the girl always talking pretty much this first exercise: let's pretend there were no kids Would you stay, or would you go? What value does she add to your life? Why would you want to be with her? second exercise: pretend to be her: Would you stay, or would you go? What value do you add to her life? Why would she want to be with you? the stay-plan is the same as the go-plan Take it slow, Rambo;…
/r/askMRP30/12/17 08:45 AM
1

right.... erm... slightly disturbing... speaking from experience?
/r/askMRP29/12/17 08:06 AM
2

yay! you got some nookie!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 08:18 PM
28

I don't agree with 1. Apologizing is part of OYS. We are not perfect, we are human and we make mistakes... Nothing to worry about, no big deal but part of the real life. If (When) you make a mistake / major fuck-up, you have got to own it. Don't go crying to mummy, no big confessions as to what you did, what you intended to do, what went wrong, how you will avoid it in the future and if she pretty please will forgive you because you will never do it again (= pretty much, D.E.E.R.-ing) but a manl…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 07:26 PM
3

Those who care, don't matter Those who matter, don't care My best friend gave me those 10 words of solid advice when I was divorced cheated upon after less than 1 year of marriage (+10 years ago) ... I still live by those words every day...
/r/askMRP27/12/17 03:25 PM
19

Treat your LTR like she is a four year old. Really!! I have a four year old daughter and she is my best example of Red Pill truths and behiavours... And I am learning to apply the same techniques with my LTR as I do with my daughter. My kid can get angry for several reasons and I respond in different ways to her being angry. If she is being really unreasonable, I just ignore her. I "STFU" and go away. If she is angry over something ridiculous, I laugh, joke or tease her and make her fun again. I…
/r/askMRP26/12/17 08:30 PM
2

When you start to respect yourself, Go do something to improve yourself Dare to think "babysteps" on this. Don't be overwhelmed by the amount of work that is ahead of you, don't be scared you will be going to slow. this post is all about you Do the things that matter for you, that give you an ego-boost, that give you some selfesteem... For me, it was starting to take cold showers... Something insignificant as that, really was a live changer... Why? for a lot of reasons but mainly to build charac…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 06:56 PM
2

It has been 14h. Is it too evil tot be curious and ask for an update?
/r/askMRP26/12/17 06:47 AM
2

Is she worth fighting for, or is it a lost cause? Are you worth fighting for? Or are you a lost cause? /u/Rich-Dude, this ^ You are still angry, numb, livid, drunk new to MRP but no woman is ever worth fighting for, ever... One of the mantra's on this subreddit is: MRP fixes the man and not the relationship/marriage If you try to fix the marriage, you will fail. If you try to fix yourself, you may accidentally save your marriage too..
/r/askMRP24/12/17 10:18 AM
3

But you're pretty spot on with everything, save for one comment: but for the sake of the argument, from a professional stand point, I'm alpha as fuck. Honestly? I doubt that. Honestly? We don't care :)
/r/askMRP24/12/17 10:07 AM
1

I appreciate your comments and insights, and I am taking notes :) But like I said, I am nowhere strong enough, especially not to start dips (you do mean these, right?) According to the Recommend Routine you should master the diamond pushup before going into the dip-progression... However, the same machine that I used today for the assisted pull-ups, can also be used for assisted dips.. I was already thinking about "cheating" on the dips and using that machine before I can diamond push-up. Guess …
/r/askMRP23/12/17 05:48 PM
1

I am 7 weeks in after 35 years of eating chips and one year losing weight. I am nowhere near pullups yet... Planking = 1 minute regular, 1 minute side on both hands, 1 minute reverse + 1 minute hollowhold and 1 minute 'superman' I probably could hold out longer but I am focusing on form first... 3x9 push-ups and 3x8 squats with bar and 10kg on both sides (= 40 kilograms, I guess) today. Same as above: first focusing on form, I have plenty of time to get stronger in 2018. Just started practicing …
/r/askMRP23/12/17 04:27 PM
3

Didn't realise it was a selfie Now I fear you even more...
/r/askMRP23/12/17 03:36 PM
1

Please do enlighten me! However, I remember reading (on 5x5) free weights are better because machines restrict movement? So I am using my own weight.
/r/askMRP23/12/17 02:55 PM
3

My doctor thinks is should not work out I will probably get teared a new hole for this but here is my confession... My doctor AND PT both specifically forbid me to lift weights. I have 3 separate medical conditions on my back (scoliosis, Lordosis and Kyphosis) and lifting weights is dangerous for me.. The only type of workout I am medically allowed to, is /r/bodyweightfitness/ I will not get buffed as fast as the other members on this subreddit, but atleast I won't let my medical condition get m…
/r/askMRP23/12/17 01:52 PM
5

I find it very disturbing you even know the existence of such picture, let alone have that specific set of skills to google for it. Have a - reluctant - upvote :D
/r/askMRP23/12/17 08:08 AM
2

have an upvote :D
/r/askMRP21/12/17 03:20 PM
2

But it is soooo hard to stay in shape... pouts
/r/askMRP20/12/17 03:48 PM
1

I was not referring to the "lack of lingo" but rather to the contents of your post... I do agree that "reading the sidebar" is not the same as "understanding the core concepts"... As far as what I want- in regards to this post, I need to expand our family's social circle. Hanging with other parents or couples hasn't been engaging or successful thus far. It is especially this (returning) phrase that catches my (ours?) attention... Why do you feel the need to expand your "social circle" to include…
/r/askMRP05/12/17 06:32 PM
1

Yes DEER. all you do is, yes D.E.E.R. Nowhere in your post or your replies have you give understanding of the basic concepts... you can only fix you, not her DNGAF acta non verba (lead by example) ... What is it exactly that YOU want? - Try to formulate your NEED, do not include the NEED(s) of your wife... WHY are YOU here (on /r/askMRP)? Need guidance in leading? Need advice on how to do things seperate? Looking on how to please the missus? Please try to be as accurate as possible in describing…
/r/askMRP05/12/17 05:18 PM
10

You're trying to logic apart every single response you get in this thread like you're playing some video game - /u/snatch_haggis © I smell troll.. account created today DEERs every reply avoids every question no background says he read the book, never ever displays any knowledge or understanding of basic concepts incoherent post lost 4 kilos and 35 kg gets strong on 4 weeks in - squats double body weight lives apart since a year, still gives about his wifes? opinion his map takes 15; no 18; no 2…
/r/askMRP03/12/17 12:51 PM
4

I need to know nothing... but my post pretty much covered my question.. It is difficult to give sound advice if we don't have any specifics to go on.. But since you are very vague on this subject (in reply to other peoples comments), I guess you don't want to share.. no biggie, but generic info begets generic advice...
/r/askMRP03/12/17 10:57 AM
4

She moved out a year ago, but I was already on my map and kept going.. Should be moving back in together before mid 2018 I don't know the details of your arrangement so could you eleborate on this? I find it very strange you are leaving apart for more than a year and that you still care about her opinion. But I don't want to guess or judge and that's why we need some more background on this...
/r/askMRP03/12/17 06:53 AM
1

Well...what is it you want to hear? This ^ /u/jobo21k, what do you want to hear? TRP/MRP is a very specific place with a lot of harsh truths/opinions. You write yourself you are not 100% into this stuff but we do have some insights... However, everyone who gives you his insights, you contradict. In the MRP-paradigma, your post is crawled with red flags. Maybe somebody else has time to unravel them all but I can see: oneItis you are in her frame you do to much D.E.E.R (defend, excuse, explain, ra…
/r/askMRP26/11/17 08:18 AM
11

can I ask you a question, /u/RideTheThunderBolts? Why exactly did you post on /r/marriedredpill? (For starters, you should be on /r/askMRP/, but that is not what I mean.) Some high valued contributors and mods have given you advice (and have expressed some doubt about your figures, true). But we can all assume the advice given by flaired members is good and solid advice; otherwise they wouldn't be flaired... So far, you contradicted everything everyone wrote. You either push them away, make fun …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/17 03:13 PM
2

TBH in hindsight I'm not sure if I would have changed things- This /u/RideTheThunderBolts We always tell the stay plan is the same as the go plan. I know you are not planning on divorcing here but this wisdom still applies in this case. You can not control her, you can only control you... What I am trying to say is: IF your wife is planning (?) on branch swinging, she will do it, (°)(°)-job or no job. You really should NGAF because this is not your call. The real questions here are: do you want …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/17 07:47 AM
1

You seriously would recommend a BluePill to "not say a single word" when his wife asks him if he is mad because she has a headache again / tells him to grow up and stop acting as a child / berates him for fucking up again / demands him to get his shit together and stop playing videogames.. At those moments, he has to look her square in the eye and not say a single word? I can agree that AA/AM/Flip the script is maybe some more advanced tactics but going dumbstruck mute is a declaration of war, i…
/r/askMRP24/11/17 06:48 PM
0

There are 2 things going on here. she thinks you did something disrespectful she called you out on something she thinks was disrespectful 1. she thinks you did something disrespectful This is a learning moment. Contemplate about your actions without resentment or anger. Maybe she was right? Maybe you were disrespectful? Maybe you should alter your actions, words or non-verbal communication? No harm done in constantly re-evaluating yourself and improving yourself... 2. she called you out on somet…
/r/askMRP24/11/17 10:05 AM
3

please be joking :/ If not... here comes the mandatory read the sidebar --> post... If I remember correctly, the term is used in "no more mister nice guy" (= a book, mentioned in the sidebar, obligatory read), it means: Defend - Excuse - Explain - Rationalize and is kinda the opposite of STFU There are also several posts about D.E.E.R.
/r/askMRP23/11/17 12:33 PM
2

You can go the Han Solo route "I know" (this is my go to) faith in humanity restored! This was my first thought also... link to the youtube
/r/askMRP23/11/17 11:37 AM
1

Really know how to make a fellow human being feel better ;) Tuesday I have my first appointment with the PT. There will be questions!
/r/askMRP28/10/17 10:40 AM
1

only squat 100-125% body weight My last squat was 42.5 kg, that's about halfway my bodyweight :) Just work upper body Do you mean: OHP and BP for every trip to the gym or do I temporarily switch to other workout routines
/r/askMRP26/10/17 10:10 AM
1

The PT should have a specialization as sport PT, so I'll listen to what (s)he has to say. There is a small tear on the inside ligament of the right knee and even when I get up in the morning, I can't put any weight on my right knee. After 3 steps hobbles, the pain goes away, I can walk normally but all day long there is a nagging pain on that ligament. My doctor consulted an orthopedist regarding my knee and (s)he recommended the PT and no efforts in order not to make the injury chronically.. I …
/r/askMRP26/10/17 10:08 AM
7

If what you write is true, those things are major red flags! working out on her day in thumb fingerprint on thigh $200 bracelet being defensive [asking» "what if she did the things I do with other women" This really gets me worried. She is trying to test your reaction if you ever were to find out about her infidelity. My ex had the same "talk/test" with me and a month later I found out she was in fact fucking behind my back.. Learn to trust your gut. It is trying to tell you something. I think y…
/r/askMRP24/10/17 10:21 AM
1

But what if she asks and I have done it. Deny deny ? Really? AGAIN?? You claim to have permission, you claim to set hard boundaries and yet here you are, asking yet another question? Why would you deny something you have got permission for? Why did you need permission in the first place if you are such an alpha beast? Why would she ask if she gave you permission in the first place? Frame, read about it, get some (and while you are at it, buy a spine too), act according it. OYS read about it, get…
/r/askMRP24/10/17 10:10 AM
2

But what alias will be used to ask more advice...
/r/askMRP23/10/17 07:31 AM
5

The fact you keep asking "real advice" on such a profound topic, proves you are nowhere ready to do something with that advice. Even if we succeeded at guiding you step by step through this minefield (hint - we won't), you'll never make it out alive because you have no idea what you are doing. You are operating at dread level 12; you should be the fucking expert on this subreddit, people should line up to get your advice. But all you do here is wine about your unicorn, brag about your permission…
/r/askMRP23/10/17 05:14 AM
2

There is even some literature about it - betrayedwivesclub.blogspot.be Thanks for the extra info, /u/fuckmrp
/r/askMRP22/10/17 05:25 PM
3

I am going to need more popcorn... - insert meme
/r/askMRP22/10/17 05:22 PM
1

Really? You (think you) are man enough to tell your LTR you (and you only) are entitled to fuck around but you still ask want need advice/help from strangers on the internet? Oh well, since you asked nicely... Take a day off (don't tell her!!) and vacuum her apartment, then mob the floor, do all the dishes, clean the windows, scrub the toilet, upholster her couches, make the bed and prepare a good meal. Don't forget to air the wine on before hand, this is a classic mistake! Then, wash yourself, …
/r/askMRP22/10/17 05:17 PM
3

But, but... you guys told me I should do this! Aren't I a good boy™ for doing what you tell me?
/r/askMRP22/10/17 05:06 PM
2

I agree and I think your first post is a perfect one to get that message across: No DEER, good example of STFU, Comforting body language, Amused Mastery with a little fogging and the truth, all wrapped up in those 4,5 words...
/r/askMRP22/10/17 12:56 PM
5

It's funny because it is true :)
/r/askMRP22/10/17 12:45 PM
12

I wish you the very best with this new situation and may your dreams come true... However; my guess is your LTR panicked and this awesome sex thing is nothing more than a panic reaction. I had the best sex with my ex-wife the night I confronted her with me knowing she fucked around. We had a good conversation ~cringes~, made some agreements never to do it again ~cringes~ and then had wild monkey sex for the rest of the night... Two weeks later, she cheated again and then left me for yet another …
/r/askMRP22/10/17 07:22 AM
7

You, sir, have become an askhole. An askhole is some who wants advice and follows none of it. The men here gave you solid advice based on compared experience and you went against it. This should become (M)RP-terminology and deserves its own place in the sidebar/WiKi
/r/askMRP20/10/17 08:31 AM
2

She wants me to crave her and give her loads of attention, but now that I don't give a fuck anymore that's when she wants to get all mad. I knew she craves attention but god damn. She wants me to be all over her ass. Only you can decide if this is the life you want to have. 99,9% of the men on MRP know what to do. You, however, are still in limbo. That means that you are not ready for whatever advice you will receive here. You will answer everybody to prove your ego and to postpone your decision…
/r/askMRP20/10/17 08:01 AM
1

I was not going to react to this thread but since you link to a reaction on something I wrote, I feel obliged to answer. Never did I ever judge cheating as something immoral, as something to avoid at all costs, as something that is simply not done; never ever did I judge the reasons for cheating, whatever those reasons were; never ever did I wanted to give the impression I was on higher moral grounds than those who do cheat. All I ever said was that a little honesty would be nice, if you plan to…
/r/askMRP18/10/17 01:30 PM
3

This is indeed a very difficult challenge and chance is I won't be able to give you a straight answer, but here goes. Disclaimer: English is not my native language and I did already found out that writing my thoughts coherently in another tongue is even more difficult than in my native... Disclaimer: I don't try to be on higher moral grounds than others. In fact, I still have a long way to go in MRP before I can call myself unplugged. I do agree that my reaction could be seen as condescending an…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 01:40 PM
1

Why cheat on her? be a man and be honest. If you want to fuck multiple girls, at least be honest about it. The only one you are cheating, is yourself, by not being honest...
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 07:45 AM
1

Thank you for your reaction. It is because I was feeling going into the wrong direction, I asked this question. I do not want to be angry with them, I do not want to be disgusted by them, I do not want to feel superior. So thank you for the warning and the good advice.
/r/askMRP16/10/17 03:43 PM
2

and then next her
/r/askMRP15/10/17 02:48 PM
1

I will
/r/askMRP14/10/17 03:47 PM
2

+1 My frame sucks and that's why (@question /u/Rian_Stone) I am not ready yet to stay away from these social obligations events. What would happen if I did, would be a major shitstorm from the wife I am not yet qualified to handle or withstand... This cynical implementation sure is something to look further into. Because up until now I was just either drinking heavily (before I quit), iFingering my phone (before I decided to leave that at home on social occasions where my LTR is also present) an…
/r/askMRP14/10/17 02:48 PM
1

Please educate yourself
/r/askMRP14/10/17 02:34 PM
2

because sometimes there is no way to avoid them. Brother-in-law is godfather of my daughter, I am godfather of his son. I have to be there on those birthday parties, Santa Clause thingies and New Year puke events I did cut back on a lot (almost all) "mandatory" social obligations but sometimes there is no escape. On those occasion, I have to learn to also be at least sufferable, at most fun to be around. Not for them, but because I feel that MRP is a way of life, not something to switch on and o…
/r/askMRP13/10/17 01:47 PM
1

You know what sucks about MRP: you need complete strangers to point out the obvious for you. The thing that was right in front of you, where you just have to stretch and grab it, but somehow fail to see it... do an exercise for each in your mind where you redefine the interaction in your frame. Maybe that frame is being too busy for the bullshit. Maybe it’s turning things over to funny conversation. Big point is, not only are you rejecting their frame, but you are defining a new one for them to …
/r/askMRP13/10/17 01:41 PM
2

You're angry at him reflecting all the things you're pissed off that you do. Like I wrote somewhere else: this is partly/mainly true. But I am also angry I have to spend time with them while I could be doing better things...
/r/askMRP13/10/17 01:14 PM
1

What is this marriage you keep talking about? :D and mayby, because my LTR is/was pretty solid up to now. I found this subreddit by browsing /r/noFAP to overcome my porn-addiction, not so much because of deadbedroom or shitty shitty test test. That is not to say I can't learn A L O T from MRP and I now understand why my marriage (12 years ago) failed so miserably: I was a classic nice guy but after my marriage, I went to a very misogynist period in which I incorporated a lot of MRP strategies wi…
/r/askMRP13/10/17 01:09 PM
1

I am left wondering why I read this post and the title of another where people are amazed we were right. Here's a hint. We already know. But fuck it. The anger phase is important to talk about. If MRP were a religion, I would be studying to become high supreme lord arch chancellor.. I do believe "its teachings", I do know you already know No you never get over it. Sucks :) What you are really doing is using it to remind yourself where you came from. [..] So I ask why? Why go back there? Put it a…
/r/askMRP13/10/17 01:02 PM
1

Agreed, the fem-centricity can be a little annoying. But at the end of the day if you are cursing and rolling your eyes at all these little bitches, in a way you are being a little bitch as well. So we should stop that I guess, and give way less fucks. I deliberately try to refrain from being a bitch. But they do sense a shift in the force and I get shit tested by those men also: what happened to you, you used to be more fun/open/interested/committed.. I know that STFU does not mean: sit like an…
/r/askMRP13/10/17 12:22 PM
2

It's time for stoicism. yeah, that's what where I need to end. But I am looking for direction on how to get there.. Will read up on stoicism!
/r/askMRP13/10/17 12:16 PM
1

But more so, show them how a proper man should act - and demonstrate through your words and actions who a man is. Acta, non verba - capiche! You will stand tall and shade them every. fucking. single. day. I like how you applied the analogy of being an oak to this "problem"also..
/r/askMRP13/10/17 12:15 PM
1

Could you please elaborate on the T(estosteron?)-levels, what symptoms to look for, why this is bad, etc.. This is the first I have heard about this and I am intrigued..
/r/askMRP12/10/17 03:59 PM
-2

Unless there are tits in your face and your dick in her ass.....keep moving I don't bend that way.. Or are we talking threesome here? but solid advice...
/r/askMRP12/10/17 11:28 AM
1

some bulletinboard software can split of part of threads into a separate topic, but keeps the layout, the usernames + karma, the date of posts, etcetera etcetera Apparently, reddit does not have this feature...
/r/askMRP10/10/17 06:35 PM
3

ow, and there I was, looking to the upper left corner of my screen for this sidebar everybody keeps mentioning... What do you recommend I start with :p seriously, you probably took more time writing your reply than he did reading the sidebar...
/r/askMRP10/10/17 04:52 PM
2

What is the definition of sexual strategy within the RP community? This matters because if it’s to be fit (attraction), strong, more confident (game) and socially successful with women (game), then we are saying the same thing. If it has grown to encompass other areas: get better job, develop extra hobbies/skills, be better family man, do community service, etc then yes, that is straying from the core RP message and I agree with you. I wish I had your ways with words.. But this is what I was try…
/r/askMRP10/10/17 03:41 PM
1

amen
/r/askMRP10/10/17 02:25 PM
1

Like, you will have a great relationship, it may not be with you you started with. How is that different from everything I said so far?
/r/askMRP10/10/17 01:21 PM
1

You guys type to fast for me :) If you only limit MRP to lifting in order to get more pussy, you are right. But even if I were never to laid again with my wife (I would of course next her) I have become a better man... Not political correct better, but better for me, in an ego-centric way: more muscled, more steadfast, more in touch with me, more frame And yes: we are/were deficient: because we believed the female bluepill narrative. Unplugging is also in a way self-improvement...
/r/askMRP10/10/17 12:56 PM
3

I would love to have a discussion about this because I feel we are saying the same thing... And if we are not, then at least I learned something new today... Self improvement does not mean: being political correct, do what is expected from you, be a regular joe or become/staying a Blue Pill. And while /r/TheRedPill is about "sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men", /r/MRP is about "focus[ing] on how to become stronger men to lead our marriage and LTRs to ha…
/r/askMRP10/10/17 12:55 PM
2

all I see is someone who tries to take the MRP-shortcut to get his finger up his wifes butt. no frame, no OI, no MAP. Just a whiny little boy who can't come and play outside...
/r/askMRP10/10/17 11:50 AM
1

You know your brother best. NMMNG is (like /u/Triadis3 says) a very good starter... WISNIFG is also a kicker.. or maybe dude . . . Got A Minute? How good is your relationship with your brother? Can you first talk with him, explain why you are concerned, openly talk about your own TRP-journey and then point him to the website and book?
/r/askMRP10/10/17 07:28 AM
4

it is probably the worst time for him to start down the MRP path. Not if you start implementing the right stuff: owning your shit (yikes, help raising the kid!) STFU (especially through those sleep-depraved tantrums she will throw) be the captain just wait with the dread. Woman can be extremely self-conscious, emotional and hormone-driven after giving birth..
/r/askMRP10/10/17 07:15 AM
0

and why exactly are you still with your wife? She cheated on you (at least) once, how will she not cheat on you a second other time?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 07:11 AM
0

I second /u/creating_my_life You're using anal with your wife as some sort of MRP scorecard. It doesn't work like that. and would like to add that this is the most pathetic question ever asked on /r/askMRP. Your post clearly states you understand nothing about TRP. Everything screams bluePill... covert contracts not outcome independent not working on yourself I am here for the (anal)sex butthurt (pun intended) TRP is about working on yourself, to become the best possible version of yourself, not…
/r/askMRP10/10/17 06:52 AM
2

Then, when she challenges him, he can DEER more confidently. Touché He eats at Hooters. Shitting on the plate would be an improvement. Cruel but true :D
/r/askMRP09/10/17 06:31 PM
2

You are right, of course. But somehow I don't think this relationship is ready for full STFU-modus. The emotion is a good way out though, no real reason, no real argument, nothing to argue about AND something his wife can relate to :) Why are you angry? - because, I don't know why...
/r/askMRP09/10/17 04:59 PM
11

You own 2 businesses but you look to the internet for advice on how to run them? - owkey... Let's tackle this good story this post is about her, not about you You are stuck in your personal and business development because you are unable afraid to tell your wife to mind her own business (pun intended). She is upset, she doesn't want to be left out and she wants me involved. And you, you don't know what you want :) i am torn on this decision: is it because of <A> or <B>? Why is this even relevant…
/r/askMRP09/10/17 09:01 AM
5

Many women initiate with men rarely. You mean the internet with all its instructional videos lied to me?
/r/askMRP08/10/17 03:36 PM
1

Hint: it's usually validation for a fragile ego and low self-esteem. auch! This is the truth cut out from DEER, bullshit and lies with the finest scalpel... And I love how /u/InconspicuousWand keeps on explaining and justifying everything in the hope of receiving a nod and a pat on the back.. Who is a good boy? You are a good boy, yes you are, yes you are, good boy!
/r/askMRP08/10/17 06:30 AM
4

We talked for about 30 mins about it. You don't talk 30 minutes about something trivial as strip club... It is called DEERing and should be avoided at all times. You don't explain why you do something, you just do it... It does not matter that you want to go because of this bachelorparty. It only matters that you want to go. My point was that "I can be a part of it in a responsible way, no touching." This, sir, is about the worst thing to say.. You are a child that wants to go play outside and t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 04:38 AM
1

So why didn't you marry her then? I fail to see why that is relevant to my question. But if you really want to know: debts, ego and what I wrote above... I will admit I toyed (and sometimes still do) with the idea of getting married again to my LTR. But because my divorce left me with a huge debt (I was renovating the house and was just done with the demolition fase when she left me, so had to undersell the house) I simply did not have the money to remarry. Second: I didn't want to re-marry (whe…
/r/askMRP07/10/17 04:26 PM
6

Part of (M)RP is being honest while still (only) doing what is best for you and owning your shit. You try to get around all three... be honest with her. Don't you think she deserves the truth? You don't have to spell it all out for her but at least admit you cheated and you can't and won't ever remain faithful. You want to continue to see date bang her, so at least be honest with her. do what is best for you At the same time, don't try to spare her feelings because you care. (M)RP demands that y…
/r/askMRP07/10/17 08:54 AM
1

First off: divorced the ex 12 years ago. in a LTR of 10 years now, not married; 1 daughter with LTR. Not living in USA but in Europe. I don't quite understand the don't get married advice. It's not that I want to get married, or that I am dead against it. I just fail to see why we advice to don't get married. Maybe it's a cultural difference? I am in a LTR of 10 years. We bought a car, a house and a child (Dutch idiom) together. We both work fulltime and pay the bills with the common money. How …
/r/askMRP07/10/17 06:42 AM
1

This is me, giving a fuck
/r/askMRP07/10/17 05:38 AM
2

if you only would hold me first and caress my hair..
/r/askMRP06/10/17 05:20 PM
-1

have an upvote
/r/askMRP06/10/17 05:19 PM
5

He did write full sentences, used interpunction and capitals and even read a book.. He did better than 85% of the first posters here :D
/r/askMRP06/10/17 05:12 PM
1

learn how to read... no cardio, lift 3 times a week -> https://stronglifts.com/5x5/
/r/askMRP06/10/17 05:03 PM
1

The hamster is great in this one... You over analyze everything, you put every little even under a magnifying glass and try to dissect what has happened and for what possible reason... I stopped counting she's and her's at 30. You are clearly not ready to start dread at this time. This post is about her and what you should do to make her happy... You said you read NMMNG but this is just a textbook example of that book... You need the time, the cohones, the will and the foundation (sidebar) to st…
/r/askMRP06/10/17 04:57 PM
1

MRP is like lifting; many buy the equipment or have a subscription for the gym, yet few continue to work out because it is so difficult Yet all want to be the love child of Wolverine and Brad Pitt... It sucks hearing the truth. I still get punched in the face with every page I turn in NMMNC or WISNIFG... It's how you cope with that truth that separates the men from the... nice guys?
/r/askMRP06/10/17 04:04 PM
1

yeah! Shit Test galore! How will I ever be appreciated for the nice guy I really am when you all start yelling at me for no reason at all * sobbs *
/r/askMRP06/10/17 03:53 PM
6

It's Not About The Nail well done!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 07:50 AM
2

Maybe we should ask/demand for a standard intro for every post/question on /r/askMRP? I discovered MRP <x> days/months/years ago. Since then I read <book(s)>. I started lifting <x> days/months/years ago and can currently squat <x> lbs. I start to see no, some, a lot of progress but I still struggle with <intro to question> All other posts will be ignored, unless of course you are known on this subreddit for some reason or another...
/r/askMRP06/10/17 07:16 AM
2

Pygmalion effect, man, Pygmalion effect. This subreddit is so much more than getting more sex, fixing your marriage, making the missus happy just fixing your personal life... thank you, /u/SorcererKing
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 06:43 AM
1

/u/table_it_bot just won the internet :$
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 05:22 PM
3

MRP woke me up to the fact that this is what my wife wanted all along. It use to piss me off how she would ask me my opinion on every single decision no matter how small. She's a capable, independent, logistically minded person...why can't she just make the damn decision and be done with it? Yeah...it's tiresome. This happens to me at work where I am the senior sysadmin and my minions try to please me by being a good boy and asking my opinion on e v e r y s i n g l e d e c i s i o n But I guess …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 05:00 PM
2

Google Exists. I think my initial post shows I did my homework and did not just ask an empty question without thinking about it first... The examples are very good, thank you for that, mister professor... I really wish men would start asking women [..] questions Somehow, I believe they would start gas lighting all over again :)
/r/askMRP05/10/17 03:58 PM
1

I have the app, I started lifting the previous week, I did not delay :) I think I misread you and understood that you practiced some time with the empty bar before adding weights. Thank you for clarifying that and for encouraging me to go and lift :)
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 03:56 PM
1

Ego bruised deletion or mod removal eminent... Your Crystal Ball rocks ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 02:48 PM
11

everything I'm doing is really a Covert Contract to get laid more There is your problem :) Your wife is not stupid and she senses this. Instead of lifting her burden and being the best man you can ever be, you are actually putting a lot of pressure on her to fuck you. Maybe she wants to, maybe not. But by forcing her (or giving her the impression that you force her), she backs off and keeps you at a distance. like /u/gettingmymojoback says: keep initiating, but work on your game and kino. Stop m…
/r/askMRP05/10/17 02:39 PM
16

Discovered MRP about a month ago. Have read all of sidebar up to Red Pill Sidebar and Dread. You discovered MRP a month ago and you have read all of the sidebar? My guess is you skimmed the letters, formed the words in your head, maybe even nodded sometimes but haven't incorporated the meanings... Start over and now take your time and try to understand what is written. Discovered MRP about a month ago. I've been lifting [...] for last 2-3 months Somehow, I find this very difficult to believe. Yo…
/r/askMRP05/10/17 01:48 PM
3

dirty pics and videos of an ex. I have troubles following your FR without judging for myself how dirty exactly those pictures and video's are ;) No, seriously, delete that shit like /u/hystericalbonding says. Not only because they are from your past or your ex, but, indeed, because you deserve better than virtual sex...
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 12:07 PM
2

Great FR! Inspirational for us, starters.. Can I ask you one question? At first, I had trouble manipulating the bar and started every exercise at the minimum (mostly empty bar.) How long did you exercise with the empty bar? When did you decide to progress in 5x5?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 11:42 AM
3

look at this loser who needs a year and a half to accomplish what you can do in only 1 day. /u/viderelux should really get in touch with you, the hero of Red Pill, the master of all that is wet, the slayer of young pussy, the cuddler par excellence!!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 10:37 AM
2

Huray!! You have no idea what you are doing because you have zero foundation!! You can graduate from Blue Pill college immediately! From now on, there is only smooth sailing for you, über captain of the world! Other Blue Pills and females will line up just to bask in your glory! Some may even dare to approach you and want to try to touch you. Your wife will be 24/7 wet and willing to suck your cock at any given moment. Let me repeat that: A N Y G I V E N M O M E N T ! Because you, who just poste…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 10:33 AM
1

Thx for the stupid example :) It did help me understand the concept...
/r/askMRP05/10/17 07:39 AM
1

thx for the psychologytoday link! The rational male one I already read but now that I reread it, the last line suddenly popped out... She’s the one who has to kill the puppy
/r/askMRP05/10/17 07:39 AM
1

Or she's cheating, you call her out and she flips it on you by making you feel paranoid, controlling etc. Crap, exactly what happened with my ex-wife some 10+ years ago..
/r/askMRP05/10/17 07:37 AM
1

dutch
/r/askMRP05/10/17 07:34 AM
1

The Game - Michael Douglas The Usual Suspects - Keyser Soze two of my favourite movies - it starts to make sense now..
/r/askMRP05/10/17 07:34 AM
2

Be truthful. Don't be autistic, socially awkward, and don't share everything Beware you don't get tangled in your own lies, though. You don't own anyone the truth but yourself, but you also need to be the best man you can ever be, and they don't lie...
/r/askMRP05/10/17 07:28 AM
2

What is this sidebar everyone keeps talking about? Can't I just puke my questions in this subreddit so you can give me a shortcut, witty line or solid advice to the gold behind the rainbow?
/r/askMRP05/10/17 06:56 AM
3

If only there was some central place for you to pin this knowledge so future beginners maggots have something to fall back on... Oh! It is called the sidebar! Oh! It never gets read because they always know better... :/ Good wrap up of the core concepts, though
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 06:31 PM
3

and don't forget to braid her hair when she sleeps chicks dig that
/r/askMRP04/10/17 05:15 PM
1

My ex-wife was exactly like that (minus the illness) slutty friends alcohol problem "flirty" with other men texts from unknown numbers And guess what happened (during our first and only year of marriage): she cheated on me (with what I then called a friend) it was all my fault not adventurous enough not interested anymore no tingles anymore she tried to make me leave then she left me so yes: major red flags in your post: I think you are being cheated on... As of what to do? try to find out if sh…
/r/askMRP04/10/17 05:10 PM
1

and the most prestigious award for outstanding comment achievements and excellence in arguments goes to /u/weakandsensitive for Sucks to be a faggot doesn't it.
/r/askMRP03/10/17 06:52 AM
2

Somehow I don't think he will call of the wedding because his new best friends on the wild wild web tell him so :)
/r/askMRP03/10/17 05:28 AM
1

Premarital counseling is a type of therapy that helps couples prepare for marriage. Premarital counseling can help ensure that you and your partner have a strong, healthy relationship — giving you a better chance for a stable and satisfying marriage. - Mayo Clinic There you have it: Do you really need a stranger to validate your relationship? Do you really needs someone else's approval in order to get married? And what if the officiant decides you and your partner don't have a strong and healthy…
/r/askMRP03/10/17 04:49 AM
3

I got my debts, budget and wife under control with YNAB. This app lets you give each dollar a destination and even has a special tutorial on how getting out of debt. Now, I continue to use the program to control my earnings and savings.. The first month is free but you really need to check it out. It saved my life!
/r/askMRP03/10/17 04:25 AM
2

Well, this escalated quickly... Your MAP looks nice but you kind of blew it in the comments. This subreddit can be harsh (and sometimes is even too harsh for my liking) but like they wrote on another thread: not their fucking problem. We come here to ask for help - for free - and we get the help - for free - they give us, in the form and manner they want, which is sometimes very hard indeed... It is not clear anymore in your comments if you are looking for advice, or if you are looking for a fig…
/r/askMRP02/10/17 06:20 PM
1

It is 5x5 stronglifts and it is just the bar... I have no stamina, muscle or experience whatsover and now I am paying the price for it :) - not fat, but skinny fat - but also sore as hell the entire day after my first workout...
/r/askMRP02/10/17 05:05 PM
8

A prepared man would have planned his morning with waking up early in mind, and would planned an early morning work out or activity for himself after getting his wife and his kids ready. ^ This So what if you needed to sleep out? Your kids! are going to the zoo! Be enthusiastic for them, show them you would have loved to go with them and be a fantastic dad. But unfortunately you have to work, so you got up - on your work day!! - to have breakfast with them and listen to their anticipation... The…
/r/askMRP02/10/17 02:29 PM
1

jokes on you i especially like this one :)
/r/askMRP02/10/17 02:24 PM
2

I'm working on getting out of debt now I can recommend You Need A Budget. I helped me to get rid of my debts and still helps me everyday to plan our expenses and save money. We both work, so I even manage her earnings through this app...
/r/askMRP02/10/17 02:22 PM
1

Thank you! I don't think this would have nearly been as effective had someone explained it to me. I had to do the work myself. More specifically, I had to want to do it. I got a great deal of value out of researching, looking at the top comments, reading the blogs, and so forth. Very true, indeed. Doing your own research and really trying to understand MRP is paramount. For me, MRP changed my life, and I'm only almost 6 months in from my unplugging. I have sex more frequently, I'm losing weight …
/r/askMRP02/10/17 08:21 AM
1

Does this explain why we aren't more understanding for newcomers? It does and you are right but have you seen Men in Black Edwards: Why the big secret? People are smart. They can handle it. Kay: A person is smart. People are dumb, panicky dangerous animals and you know it. Fifteen hundred years ago everybody knew the Earth was the center of the universe. Five hundred years ago, everybody knew the Earth was flat, and fifteen minutes ago, you knew that humans were alone on this planet. Imagine wha…
/r/askMRP02/10/17 08:05 AM
1

Hey /u/screechhater, this response might come off as a DEER but allow me to elaborate. but first: I do lift, read my first post... We tell RedPill beginners not to go full rambo when discovering the truth. Although suddenly everything starts to makes sense and you experience a lot of anger and you want to turn things around immediately and you want to start being super-alpha-Rambo-Rocky right away, we tell them: go slow, take your time (=STFU). First build a new frame, pass some shittests and th…
/r/askMRP02/10/17 07:52 AM
1

I only got about half way and zoned out... This is about some lesbian couple and OP is the female one, right?
/r/askMRP01/10/17 11:01 AM
2

He did ask for a short(cut) :) But thank you for the compliment. I did write it out in a hasty manner and by heart. I will try to make a separate and well thought/structured post out of it...
/r/askMRP30/09/17 06:40 PM
2

Didn't actually spoil that much, really. This must have been the baddest movie-summary ever :) and you should watch it, I only won 5 oscars
/r/askMRP30/09/17 05:57 PM
1

You are living in a toxic situation and you should separate from her as soon as possible in the best possible way while still be a good parent for your children. However, the main problem with this subreddit is the fact that this is a redpill, and since you are still a bluepill you will try to stay and fix this marriage. That is a big mistake but that is what you will do... How do I know? I've been there. I also was married to a crazy (really, mental) woman, who cheated several times on me in ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/17 12:18 PM
3

Since you want to think there is a magical shortcut to MRP, I'll give you one: watch American Beauty - it has every scrap of information in it. Blue Pill Kevin Spacey dead bedroom nearing divorce shitty children not STFU but entering her frame cheating wife Purple Pill Kevin Spacey swallows The Pill making a MAP (in his case, quitting his job) DNGAF about his wife's reactions anymore about what others think working out for himself, because fuck his cheating wife and to get in the hot students pa…
/r/askMRP30/09/17 04:52 AM
1

it is :) but OP's lays fault with everything and everybody but himself: she was pregnant she is breastfeading she is unreasable: no job = no sex she likes me again because of new job and please, don't let me do any work but give me subtle advice on what I should do; because swallowing the read pill is taking responsibility and taking responsibility is no fun ... My money is on her :)
/r/askMRP29/09/17 04:46 PM
1

Of course he should care! Let's assume OP is bluer than a smurf getting strangled in cold water. But still somehow he found some female who wanted to reproduce with him, stay with him, care for him and be his mommy... Now even that person is getting fed up with him and is giving him subtle? hints to man the fuck up... Shouldn't he care? Shouldn't he * ahum * read the signals * shudders * and get his act together.. I think he should :) and by manning up, prove her wrong...
/r/askMRP29/09/17 04:34 PM
2

I do care what my wife thinks; I don't have to agree with what she thinks, nor am I responsible for her feels or thoughts; I am not looking for validation but I do care... :)
/r/askMRP29/09/17 03:58 PM
3

^ this 4 months ago you came here to wine about your dead bedroom, got some great tips and you did nothing! Do you want some discrete advice? Read the sidebar or GTFO! Start lifting or GTFO! Shut The Fuck Up (especially right here and now) or GTF0! What exactly did you do in those 3+ months of unemployment? You had a great opportunity and lots of work to get to grip with your new you: get fit unburden your wife fix shit around the house plan ahead Own Your Shit and what exactly did you do? I als…
/r/askMRP29/09/17 03:36 PM
2

Look at is a minimum of 6 months journey. This is also very important: Don't go full Rambo on your or her life We all felt (or are still feeling) the initial anger about our clouded pasts, the misguidance by our female caretackers and the lack of manhood that got us to the dead bedrooms and manipulating wifes... But don't let that anger get to you, don't expect to fix things right here, right now... The reason this subreddit advocates STFU and Lifting is (among other reasons) to avoid going full…
/r/askMRP29/09/17 02:08 PM
1

Thank you for the advanced fogging tips, the sound advice and the support, /u/SgtSilverBack
/r/askMRP27/09/17 06:07 PM
2

will start lifting next week -> Dude, WTF? Like I said, DNGAF :) Also, it took some time to get things back to "normal" again, to get the 3-year old daughter back on track and to sort my life our lives out... If you would count my active MRP-weeks, this would be week 2 :) I just found a good gym yesterday and have subscribed just now... "Models: Attracting women through honesty" Thank you for the tip! I'll start reading it as soon as I finish NMMNG... The death of a child is not something you ca…
/r/askMRP27/09/17 06:02 PM
2

/u/number123356, you got an even worse deal than me. I am truly sorry for both your losses (daughter and wife)... Thank you for your honesty, insights and experience; being more there for her and becoming an OAK is definitely sound advice. I was not planning to add any dread to this situation but I can see, thanks to your response and that of /u/man_in_the_world how not (or wrongly) responding to the comfort test, can fuck things up... The taking care for her broken man-tactic is also something …
/r/askMRP27/09/17 05:53 PM
2

can I marry /u/jacktenofhearts and have his babies? :D It IS a lot of information and I will have to digest most of what he wrote, but the "advanced fogging" does sound like what I will need to implement... Thank you
/r/askMRP27/09/17 05:47 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter