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All of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 08:18 AM
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Lmao - how am I supposed to go to my grave without this vital information?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:29 AM
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Listen, OP, you cannot post something like this and not meet the demand for PICTURES. I’m going to have to insist that you reply to this guy and sweeten him up and see what picture he tries to catfish you with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:14 AM
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Can we have a discussion about this because my narcissist ex used to look up tranny prostitutes on Craigslist backpage, and eventually told me he had sex with one in Amsterdam. However, he exclusively dates women, and there was constant sex. He also had constant porn usage (like he’d have to look through TONS of videos each round to find something he liked? And also all of that porn was women.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 03:10 AM
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Lmao, right? It’s a lewk for these nutbags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:56 PM
7

I’m willing to give this person two points for no confederate flag. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:34 PM
3

Lmao, sing me the song of my people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 04:37 PM
3

Yep, I’m always like, “I’m just paying attention. Isn’t anyone else ever paying attention?” But seriously is no one ever paying attention? Drives me crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 04:30 PM
5

INTJ / INTP I’m very on the border of the J/P for some reason. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m some kind of alien that no one understands. Also tend to get very invested in men who are ENTJ who also turn out to be narcissists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 04:22 PM
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Also an artist on IG, can confirm this behavior. Weirdos who latch on and have something to say about every update or story that’s barely related.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:44 PM
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This is a tough one and it’s difficult to really know how I feel about it based on the information given. I think part of the trouble here is that there are many cofactors to this, like is he actually doing his part around the house? Is he a good husband, lover, and father? Because, yes on one hand it’s terrible if she’s training herself to be aroused if the reasoning is focused around his pleasure and demands while hers go unanswered. However, in a more general sense she’s struck upon something…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 07:21 AM
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I thought it was so perfectly accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:48 PM
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Lmao at: She might haven gotten the hint from him hiding her from his friends and family, whilst purchasing her makeup for holidays. You don’t even see someone’s nose when they get out of surgery. They’re bandaged. This has to be a shit post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:58 AM
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I kinda feel like the comment is saying men can’t get women to have sex with them, thus their only recourse is chloroform.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 11:27 PM
21

Do you think the secret sauce is quaaludes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:03 AM
23

“Even if you’re actively looking for romance, distrust can make you construct a series of tests that only a narcissist would attempt to pass. Regular people aren’t looking for a contest where you are the prize; narcissists live for contests. “ YIKES 😳 that explains a lot about my ex. Also, with the evaluation portion of it, are you guys able to inside the situation really step back and think about things clearly? Like heavily evaluate these things? I think I struggle hard with that. It’s like I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 05:47 AM
18

Lmao, they’re all so boring and predictable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 03:21 AM
40

I’m shocked it took that long. I’m not sure what kind of stellar reply you were supposed to reply to “Jackpot”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 03:16 AM
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No ones a bigger clown than you bby! Fucking asshat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 03:03 AM
58

How long did he wait to follow up with “No ones home...”? Why do the feel entitled to instantaneous replies?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:53 AM
26

Just be careful, and really start documenting everything. Men don’t like being called on their bullshit and will absolutely take your job away from you without a second thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:12 PM
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I’m not sure why you continued to have a conversation with that coworker who can easily turn it around and report back to everyone, including HR, that you did not follow the directive to let them handle it? You: “I was asked by HR to let them deal with the issue and not discuss it.” Coworker: “But blah blah blah” You: “I am uncomfortable continuing this conversation, is there anything else? I have work to do.” That’s how it should have gone. All these men are going to band around each other so t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:46 PM
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I’m always curious about what men like this think is going to happen. Like, does he think they’re just going to cease to exist? Die in the streets? Lmao. Fucking narcissists. I hope her lawyers wipe the floor with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:58 PM
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Where do I go to file a complaint?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:53 AM
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I have a friend who throws himself pity parties like this. I don’t know exactly what his disorder is (he’s told me anxiety but this kind of constant shit isn’t just anxiety) but it’s fucking boring. I’ve tried to help, I’ve tried to console, I’ve tried to be a cheerleader. Now I just agree with him until he fades out for months at a time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:47 AM
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I’ve taken a lot of shit from men in my life, but anyone who abuses animals is welcome to some arsenic soup. I would have beat the shit out of this motherfucker a long time ago. My mother always dated trash, and some of them would STOMP around the fucking house. We always had cats and I’d lose my shit on them, and her. The animals are terrified of that shit, they are small and vulnerable and don’t understand what’s happening. What kind of person loves their animal and also allows someone to abus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:27 AM
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This dude is scary, and likely a sociopath. He’s getting off on hurting and intimidating both the cat and the girlfriend. This makes me so fucking angry, she’s knows he barely keeps a wrap on this shit when she’s there and she leaves him alone with the cat? She’s an asshole too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:04 AM
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Whelp, this is one for the history books. Literally from stem to stern a nightmare. I would have been out at the acne story, fucking gross. I hate gross, I think it’s low value and disrespectful. Anyone else with me on this? Like I minimize all “gross” things in my life and I do not enjoy gross humor. It’s just ... not funny. Like there’s a lot of absurd physical comedy that is funny but just the “gross” stuff is just gross. Ick. Like I never want to discuss anyone’s BMs and I’ve met a lot of gu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:16 PM
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I saw it linked somewhere else (probably on AITA or relationship advice) as some toxic gold digging sugar baby sub. I’m always down to read though a good shit show so I thought the content might be interesting. I read the pinned post about men always paying for dates and it seemed semi ridiculous to my liberal feminist self. I was always happy to split a bill on date three (generally not the first or second) or buy the guy something small while we were out. I thought it showed good character, li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:02 PM
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I co-sign all of this. And I do feel especially bad for him because I think he’s got extra stigma for being a black man, like I really feel for how difficult this must be for him internally because of the cultural expectations there. However, again, he’s just clearly not at peace about it, he claims he is but look (exactly like you said) at the attacks on her and smear campaign. Unless he gets help to really come to terms with his internal state he’s going to be forever unhappy. Sad really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:41 PM
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Anyone else hate Dr. Fuck Face Phil? I find him unbearable. Anyone worth anything would have told this woman to fucking RUN FOR THE HILLS! But no, she’s gotta commit to 90 days of intense gaslighting from her asshole husband and a therapist? Cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:09 PM
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And then Dr. Fuck Face just pivoted to a trip instead of taking any responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:06 PM
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Ding Ding! I would never date or marry someone who acted that way about any topic in their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:56 PM
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Exactly! I don’t want to continue (and god forbid marry) someone that’s struggling that hard with being honest about who they are. It’s not that I expect him to walk down the street telling everyone he’s Bisexual, but when you want to be in an intimate relationship with someone you should be able to discuss it with them. If they leave, then they’re not the one for you. He just acted like a total ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:55 PM
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I know, I know, but STILL. This woman was brutally murdered. Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:40 PM
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What did you guys think of the break up over the guy being Bi? He definitely (to me) was so super sensitive about it that he shot himself in the foot and blamed her. She didn’t reject him outright - he should have disclosed at some point before proposing. Who wouldn’t have to take a minute to digest and process that? She didn’t reject him, she felt as though she had been lied to, and who wouldn’t question how to proceed if the person was lying about something that big? He wanted to paint her as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:34 PM
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This is sickening, and what does it tell us about exactly how bad domestic violence really is that she was a psychologist who specialized in it? Also, in related news, what the actual fuck is wrong with Wendy Williams?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:25 PM
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College is full of people sowing their wild oats and they’ve all decided to focus on gossiping about something that happened a year ago? I’d laugh in their faces and tell them to grow up. Drop the friends who have shit to say about you, it’s toxic and they’re not your friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:04 AM
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I like how he openly talked about how she only won because of how many women were on the judges panel, and how men wouldn’t have found her “fresh enough”. Aside from all the other things I can say about that assessment, it’s literally saying what women find attractive does not matter and is less important than what men do. He’s co-signed that all men really give a shit about is age and that’s the most important thing to them. Well if this keeps me out of this dump trucks dating pool, I count mys…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:25 PM
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It’s sad because some of this really is his executive function disorder that he doesn’t have full control over (not that it means he’s not responsible for his actions) but I’d imagine if he didn’t have the ADHD he’d be a better partner to her. I would venture to guess the porn sickness had something to do with it as well (ADHD makes you crave constant positive stimulation) so at least he was able to get a grip on that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:10 PM
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It’s really great you guys are working on coping skills now, I didn’t know I had it until I was in my late 20s and women are greatly under diagnosed so I’ve had a difficult life where it feels like I’m just wrong as a person. He might be able to get by without meds since he’s learning so early, but if he does end up on meds it’s not a big deal. Just look out for any side effects (Adderall made my hair shed out constantly). Also, you may want to give this little article a read: https://totallyadd…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:05 PM
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ADHD is incredibly difficult to deal with, both for the people that have it and those that have to live with them. I think it’s actually worse when you have it as a woman because you’re expected to be the clean one with the perfect apartment and I struggle with my self worth over it so much. There are so many things in life others can do with little effort that I fail so hard at and it’s really demoralizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:29 PM
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ADHD is incredibly difficult to deal with, both for the people that have it and those that have to live with them. I think it’s actually worse when you have it as a woman because you’re expected to be the clean one with the perfect apartment and I struggle with my self worth over it so much. There are so many things in life others can do with little effort that I fail so hard at and it’s really demoralizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:29 PM
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I have ADHD and before you said he was recently diagnosed I thought to myself it sounds like he’s got it. Medications they sell on Amazon aren’t going to do what actual medication is going to, so it’s just another cop out. Sounds to me like you’ve been through too much already, and now faced with a life where the guy can’t get his act together enough to do basic hygiene and take care of the mental load and cleaning of a house you’re already spent and done. Guess what? Nothing wrong with that. Se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:24 PM
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Awe, every gemini I ever met deserves it. 😂 Perhaps in your case you’ve got a bunch of other good placements that make you awesome! Not outside the realm of possibility at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 05:25 AM
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I think scrotation is accurate because it’s generally used when discussing initial dating where the woman is vetting the men she’s seeing. So like, since most of them are going to end up LVMs, they’re all scrotes until proven otherwise. Men have to prove they’re high value, we should never just assume they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 05:02 AM
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Yes, this was deeply disturbing... to give that little of a crap about your own children is staggering. There is often some overlap and potentially the step mother might have been N. Hoping that some of the tools there will help her heal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:55 AM
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Please check out r/raisedbynarcissists if you have not already 💕 It’s difficult to know if there really are any out there. If there are it’s likely there are very few. Personally I’ve resigned myself to potentially being single forever. For me acceptance is better than hope. Also, when you’ve been raised around people like this it leave you much more susceptible to people like this for the rest of your life, so you’ll always see more of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:25 AM
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Adam sounds like a toxic narcissist who needs his ego soothed, while he gaslights you and repairs his anonymous internet image.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:46 PM
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Freudian slip! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:45 PM
10

Hopefully all that was followed by a block and delete 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:17 PM
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Fucking gemini
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:58 PM
7

Lol! He replied to a profile picture of mine with his height comment. So basically he opened the conversation by commenting on a picture of me with how tall he is? Like didn’t ask me even where the picture was taken or anything about me. Just IM TALL! Not even anything interesting about him! And it was a picture of a 5k I did. So he had stuff to work with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:36 AM
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Internalized misogyny is a bitch. Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:58 AM
10

Thank you! I’m tired of having to defend myself against the Positive Intent squad! They don’t deserve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:28 AM
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Exactly! I don’t mind a guy who’s 5’7” or above. What I do mind is someone who’s hung up on his own height. Hard pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:09 AM
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That’s an instant pass for me. On either side of the coin (tall or short) why are you fucking angry about it? Get outta here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:03 AM
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Right? Like you’re messaging me to tell me how tall you are? You’ve got no other accomplishments other than this one genetic one you’ve had zero control over? You’ve got nothing to ask me about myself? Cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:01 AM
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You’re implying context that isn’t there to create positive intent for someone who would give you none, sis. That was a reply to a photo of me that has nothing to do with height. Stop giving men positive intent they don’t deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:57 AM
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Being tall isn’t a personality trait. It’s rude to walk up to someone and scream “IM TALL!” He’s a self centered dick who has nothing to say to the person he’s approaching aside from that he’s tall? Please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:36 AM
10

Also in his profile was a “comedy” skit of a man paying a woman to date him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:20 AM
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The replies to this are both laughable and completely on brand. ZOMG LITERALLY COMMUNISTS THE DEMS ARE SICK CHINAAAAAAA!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:05 AM
8

Guy looks like he makes that GAFAWW sound when he laughs from his potato face. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:59 AM
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Meanwhile this douche bag who wants to “rid the world of mediocre love” asks a woman if she’s asked her husband to change the toilet paper roll. I fucking cannot. What do you think she’s done over the years? Tried to bend a spoon with her mind?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 10:53 PM
10

It’s literally why we’re all here. It’s what this sub is all about. This jackass is the epitome of what we’re trying to avoid with FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:29 PM
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I’m watching this now and I just saw Barrett propose to Amber, and he said, “I’m going to make you the most stressed out girl in the world, but you’re going to make me the happiest man in the world.” And if that isn’t the fucking WORST I don’t know what is. This dude is a total asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:18 PM
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Not to mention we see Beck through Joe’s eyes - this is entirely his narrative. Maybe I’m the crazy one but someone who stalks and kills to get what he wants would seem to me to be an unreliable narrator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:14 PM
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My eyes got an STD from looking at that sex swing in that mold pile. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:42 PM
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Do you honestly think it would mean less creepin and violence towards women? Because I think it would encourage more. I think if men were given free license to abuse sex bots their lines of reality would blur, and we’d all be worse off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:33 PM
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I wouldn’t have high hopes for this if I were you. Seems like a boundary pusher to me. He gave you a hard time about not answering him immediately when you were first speaking - what right does he have to do that? Why does he need an explanation and a “flaw” (having trouble opening up?) of yours to get over it? You were taking a nap. You don’t need to explain a lack of reply within a certain time frame to anyone. Literally a red flag in your first paragraph. Now you’re chatting with him consiste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:44 PM
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Jeeze I hope so, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 09:02 PM
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How is this mood for life? Absolutely appalling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 08:27 PM
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One can only hope. He doesn’t deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:22 AM
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I really wish every time a scrote thought this shit someone would come along and do it to them. How does it feel, Timmy? SOUND FUN NOW?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:55 AM
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To name call people? Why is that acceptable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:49 PM
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LOL you’re a joke. I don’t need to be told I’m not allowed to have a voice. Fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:10 PM
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No, it’s not. It’s never a good look to go in asking for help while insulting the people providing it. Why come here to ask for help if you think we’re “catty”? Why not come in and ask for help in good faith and then if someone does say something catty address it then, with that individual? It’s the wrong way to approach someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:44 PM
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Exactly! I don’t come here to tear anyone else down, and I don’t expect to be torn down either. If you’re feeling vulnerable just say so, do call me catty. Wtf? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:21 AM
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If you want “only love and support” try asking for it without calling the people who will be helping you catty. Here’s an example for the future: “Hi FDS ladies, I have a question, but please answer gently because I’m trying really hard to understand and I know I’m not quite there yet!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:48 AM
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Especially considering most of us (women) die single, no matter what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:30 AM
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Seconded! Check out r/raisedbynarcissists The way you described your dad screamed Narc to me, OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:32 PM
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Right? Like we’re calling her names because...? Let’s hope this guy sees her coming from a mile away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:55 PM
5

All of this is gross. You need to start working on yourself and your worldview. You’re not a HVW by any means, with actions like these.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:54 PM
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The men in those comments are just trying to “AcTuallhy I’m a Dom” and “AcTUAllhy coercion means...” this conversation and it’s fucking vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:00 PM
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Your uncle is a pedophile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:37 PM
18

Lmao, “Actually, sir, I want to fuck the hat.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:31 PM
6

Grimace is making me grimace. 😕😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:42 AM
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Go get the opinion of a mental health professional who specializes in complex PTSD. Stop calling yourself an “older woman”, you’re normalizing the idea that an 18 year old is a full mature adult and they’re not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:58 AM
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When I was 14 I started feeling so powerful in my femininity like I just felt so alluring as if I was just on top of the world. In my head I had everything a woman should : beauty check, nice body check, slept with a decent amount of men check Slept with a decent amount of men? What? What the fuck is a decent amount of men to be fucking by 14? This is genuinely something that destroys me and I have no control over. Why is this a thing men get hotter with age and yet I feel like woman just have t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:54 AM
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Possibly both, there’s an intersect with being empty and his only validation being women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:41 AM
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I LOLed. Jesus the state of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:35 AM
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Looks like there’s a little blocky button right dere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:43 PM
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I always like the double check marks after. Check check, bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:46 AM
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I’m not into what you’re doing here. Don’t come here and slut shame women for what they’re wearing. You belong somewhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:28 PM
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She shouldn’t block him, in this case, so she can keep records to go to the police with and know if it escalates. She should not engage though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:55 PM
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Start compiling screen shots, hold onto all voicemails, texts, everything. Send him in writing that you want no further contact from him. Keep records of all interactions! If he continues to harass you GO TO THE POLICE! This NOT ok! He’s trying to pretend he knows someone so he can enter your orbit and use social niceties to bend you to his will. DO NOT PLAY THIS GAME!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:50 PM
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Totally. He’s disgusting and she’s going to learn some very painful lessons... and be behind the eight ball for the rest of her life. Doesn’t sound like she’s got anything going on in her life aside from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:57 PM
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This was posted last night too and I’m still just absolutely FLOORED by it. This girl needs some serious help, he’s completely groomed her, her life is going to be an absolute train wreck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:01 PM
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I hope she enjoys planning and putting in the all the emotional labor into everything for the rest of their lives. He literally just can’t be bothered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:32 PM
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So, I agree with the coffee on a meetup (I don’t consider them dates) and from there I have FDS take over. I recommend reading the sidebar (or About if you’re on mobile) because I understand where you’re coming from with the idea of equality, but that’s not exactly how things pan out in reality. I’m the one taking 100% of the risk with my safety, including being used as a “plate”, so the least they can do is pay for dinner. Please read through the sidebar so you have a better idea of what we’re …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:28 PM
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What the actual fuck is this?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:50 AM
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😂😂😂 How stupid and full of hate for women do you have to be to believe this is true?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:26 AM
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Men don’t care if you hate them, they just take pride that they made you crazy over them. If you can’t figure out a way to get away with poisoning them, it’s best to block them and live your life like a super star. Get into skin care, find a hobby, take a lavish holiday with a friend. Act like he never existed and do everything you can to become the best possible version of yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:44 PM
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Yaaaaasssss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:14 PM
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I’d rather hit him with my car than talk to him. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 07:49 PM
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I co-sign all of this. This is exactly what I meant... and beware the sociopaths. There are more of them than you’d think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 07:47 PM
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I keep wondering why I see “we’ve been on two dates and he’s HVM, BUUUUT....” I’d say it takes a lifetime to know if he’s HV - but, aside from that, at least six to eight months before you can see if he’s presenting himself as one. He may have some nice behaviors up front but how long they last, well that’s the question now isn’t it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:18 PM
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There are people out there with heart conditions, and other conditions, that would literally die if they got herpes. I have a friend who had to have a valve replacement, he’s told me the doctors have said he’s majorly at risk if he contracts any long term illness like this. This came up because he had met a girl who he liked, and she disclosed her status to him. He felt bad about not being able to date her because if it weren’t for his heart he would have. Honestly I hope these assholes get hit …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:23 PM
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If van life was his true passion why is he living off the new girlfriend? Oh, right. Because he wants to have his cake and eat it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:47 PM
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“Hold them down” such a terrible expression. Implies holding someone down against their fucking will. Gross. That nail on her ring finger is something else though. Second only to her middle finger. Wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:42 PM
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Oh man, he’s definitely fucking them both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:11 PM
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Yep! “I don’t know how to process any of my EMoTiOns so don’t you dare make me have any you evil toxic harpeeeeeee”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:34 PM
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I hope you find something you love to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:32 PM
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Yep, and If she doesn’t run now then she’ll only get less and less. I think these assholes get off on giving as little as possible, I think it bolsters their self esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:03 AM
53

That’s exactly how I read it too, she’s providing the emotional labor and free dinners. You know they aren’t eating out as much as she’s cooking. He’s absolutely using her and it’s fucking pathetic how people get upset about a $30 god damn dinner. Please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:57 AM
85

They want their dick to be pleasured for free, no commitment, no intimacy, no questions. Anything less than total subservience will not stand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:54 AM
51

He couldn’t use her as a cum rag anymore and it hurt his ego. So sad. I hope she’s happier now and has perspective on how shitty of a person he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:52 AM
106

Imagine “getting clinical depression” because your partner has BURNING NERVES and can’t PERFORM sex to your satisfaction. Even when it’s literally not about them, it’s still all about them.like he literally says he panicked because he wasn’t as sexually attracted anymore? What is this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:35 AM
119

Gotta love that edit! She must be an absolute gold digging bitch for wanting the occasional dinner or flowers! Never mind she cooks for him, and god knows how much else, WONT SOMEONE THINK OF HIS POOR POOR WALLET!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:40 AM
29

I would be out at honey and beautiful. I hate that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:32 PM
13

AH! Now that’s a different context entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:52 PM
27

Girl, you just haven’t found the right place to put your energy yet. You mention writing, have you taken classes or workshops on it? What if you’re not really a writer? What if you’re a weaver? Or a potter? A painter? What if you tell narratives through movies? Find something interesting to you and put your energy there. Don’t get discouraged when you’re shitty at it, because you will be. Get through the shitty learning part until you start to really understand what you’re doing. Most of success…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:52 PM
12

Lol, no, but why are you keeping track anyway?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:46 PM
1

I also have many, many questions...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:31 AM
19

Sorry prison sucks brosef! Like, do I think rape is wrong no matter what? Yes. I find myself more concerned, however, for the women just living in the world at large being raped for daring to exist, than I am for convicts. I want it all to stop happening, but it’s not the same. In the end it’s much more often happening at the hands of MEN. We need to change the way MEN in society are raised, and their worldview. Clearly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:28 AM
52

So, let me get this straight: he’s upset gay MEN are harassing him? And of the few women who approached him or cat called him, yeah, it’s not great. People shouldn’t do that to one another. You can use as many air quotes as you want but it’s still harassment either way. The only difference I can see is he was never in any immediate danger and the woman who approached backed off when she didn’t get a reply. Most women just looked at him from a distance. Unlike the men who will follow women for bl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:31 AM
14

Aw, thanks! Never let the bastards win! Always fight!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:17 AM
94

Just goes to show you, it’s never too late to stand up for yourself. We’re all capable of ascending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:52 AM
41

It’s disturbing how they all share the exact same behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 04:33 PM
80

WHHAAATTTTTTAH You know he thinks he deserves a prize for dealing with his sick wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 04:22 PM
21

He looks like a hairy potato. How fucking dare he. Something should be done about this. Eject him from the planet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:20 PM
3

Oh, I agree. I was just thinking you could have also said “No, thank you.” I mentioned it mostly because I saw him change tack and it annoyed me (he annoyed me). If you want to ask someone out I think you should just do it, not beat around the bush hoping someone will agree to a non-date date. Also, women are socialized to be too nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 02:10 PM
30

I just want to point out one thing though, you didn’t just say no. You told him no, with the explanation that sports aren’t your thing. This made him go the more direct route (dinner) because he was testing the waters on if he could ask you out. When you said no with the sports qualifier he knew he had to actually ask you out on a real date, if that’s what he wanted. I’m only pointing it out because “No” is a complete sentence, no qualifications necessary. Many women forget that, and men take ad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 04:38 AM
4

This was posted here a little earlier, strikingly awful isn’t it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 02:34 AM
67

Presumably if he’s interested in her he can see what she brings to the table, no? Oh, my buddy’s wife happened to know all about FDS and dropped the dime! How coincidental! So strange! These fiction writers really need to take classes or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 01:09 AM
18

Good I’m glad, honestly humor is the only thing keeping me sane most of the time. It absolutely sounds like he wanted the control, sounds like he doesn’t like contending with a full life... if that’s the case you’re not the girl for him! (Lucky you!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 06:26 PM
2

You only gave them a chance to traumatize you worse or in a different way. I know because every time I communicated that someone had hurt me they just pretended to give a shit until they did something worse. No more chances. I’m only asking to be treated with respect- I shouldn’t have to “communicate “ that any special way to get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:49 PM
7

That’s my point exactly. They’ll maybe act remorseful and act right for a bit, love bomb you for a little while, and then guess what? Back to who they really are. Talking doesn’t work, they literally do not care. I’m with you, ruthlessly vet them, every time, all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:33 PM
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I think it takes a special kind of ignorance to believe someone who is injured and at your mercy would be happy and willing to submit themselves to this. Why, YES, why don’t I go live with you for a week, Mr. total stranger? It will make you feel good to see how much I TRUST you to not rape, abuse, and kill me! I absolutely should shore up your self esteem! Please. You’re 100% in the right here, and if he can’t handle that you are able to (1) take care of yourself and are (2) smart and aware eno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:28 PM
4

Aw, thank you! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:12 PM
10

Thank you, Jesus Christ it’s like talking to a wall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:02 PM
9

“This isn’t game of Thones” spoken like someone who hasn’t done a lot of online dating 😂 The point is I never said play games. I said someone who is high value won’t have to be told how to stay on the right side of the line, healthy good people know how to treat one another with respect. I don’t think it’s on the woman to communicate all her wants and desires so a dude can come along and pretend to fill them until he’s got whatever he wanted and leaves. Women get told communicate over and over b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:00 PM
10

But that’s the point, it’s not obvious for many men. Abuse isn’t obvious, and dealing with shitty LVM isn’t obvious- that’s why this place exists. The question gets asked a lot on here if we should answer men when they ask what we’re looking for - and its fairly common that the resounding answer is no. They don’t need to know exactly what you’re thinking, what your boundaries are, it makes them easier to pretend to follow them. When it comes to dating and relationships be careful who you take ad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:32 PM
17

My argument, and you’ll see it on repeat at this sub, is that a HVM isn’t going to have to be told how to treat a person. I shouldn’t have to tell someone they need to put in effort, they should do it enthusiastically. I shouldn’t need to tell someone not to lie or cheat, because a HVM doesn’t lie and cheat. I shouldn’t have to tell someone I’m not a “plaything” because I’m a fucking person, and anyone HV knows that intrinsically. I don’t really care how much you agree or disagree with him, feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:21 PM
38

He just wants to get his rocks off internet stalking you, seeing if there’s an opening. Go out on the high, you won! Never let him in, never look back. He’ll get validation if you communicate with him in any way, or add him anywhere. He doesn’t deserve that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:56 PM
51

Can we put Steve Harvey on some kind of canceled list here? 😂 I cannot stand him. He’s fucking awful and we’ve discussed him before. Just because he advises women to not take shit on some levels doesn’t mean he should be lauded. Even here he’s telling women to lay down all their “rules” and regulations on how they want to be treated. Know what a LVM does with that information? Uses it against you. Demand to be treated the way you deserve by dropping anyone who doesn’t live up to your standard. W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:50 PM
8

That’s incredibly sad, she deserved better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:39 AM
8

OMG, what kind were they? Was she one of the people who had the liquid silicones? I think that’s why they changed to gel right? Oh and I think it was face stuff she had done because she said she misses her old face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:31 AM
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If it’s a man I’m in love with no gift is too big, if it’s a man I do not love all gifts come with “stings” so I dislike getting anything big. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:46 AM
12

I have had a bad case of pickmeisha in my lifetime and never would I ever pay for my own PS. You want me to look a certain way? You pay for it. I really hope she did not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:43 AM
28

Please take heed the other comments - if you’re being honest then he’s someone who lurks here. That’s a big enough red flag to block and delete. The vast majority of men who lurk here are MGTOW and idiotpill and it’s not a good idea to be around either of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:42 AM
19

Right? Like at least the bright side might be that she’s not in debt over it? I hope?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:28 PM
28

Yeah this is difficult to believe at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:10 PM
11

SHES GETTING HYSTERICAL AGAIN TIME TO SHIP HER OFF!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:51 PM
48

I wonder who paid for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:57 PM
49

Women folk live to cook, clean, and rear children. Honestly, I’m shocked she makes him do anything at all! It is such a JOY AND PLEASURE to do these things! So much FUN!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:32 PM
119

Literally in the first paragraph he says he shouldn’t have to do things because he doesn’t care about them. I hope she runs for the hills. “I cheated because I didn’t care about monogamy. I don’t know why I’m being held to some kind of standard when I don’t care about the standard.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:18 PM
9

Yeah this really speaks to me. I like doing a variety of things... and I’ll push myself through things that scare me (like zip lining or flying a plane) because I’m adventurous and I know I’ll have fun in the end. I can have a good time doing just about anything and instead of that being a positive, it turns into them thinking I have zero boundaries? Zero expectations? Men are continuously surprised when I stand up for myself too. How do I create a sense of no nonsense but also get to enjoy life…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 05:47 PM
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I get this from them too. Other than it being disrespectful to women... I get the feeling it’s highlighting that I tend to be very self sufficient. However, I also have the tendency to squash down complaints. I don’t have the best boundaries, and I hate complaining without evaluating why I’m upset and seeing if it’s “valid”. I also tend to be happy with anything, so it comes across as low standards. I’m working on changing this in myself as it’s only netted me narcissistic assholes in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:32 PM
9

That’s gonna be a Nej from me, dawg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:24 AM
14

If she wears heels out in the world is he going to start adding that in? Perhaps he can keep a tally. This absolute tosser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:40 PM
42

He’s got her isolated and fully relying on him for support. Are we shocked that he’s immediately stopped trying and is probably financially abusive? No. No we are not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:16 PM
45

Oh yeah definitely. But as long as we’re gonna make time machine requests here’s mine: I’ll go back happily if my first husband is rich & kicks off suddenly leaving me a fortune and huge Victorian mansion I can then spend time having tea in and holding seances. That way nothing is expected of me, I’ve got a house, money, and food & luxuries are at a reasonable price for the standard of living at the time. Oh and I also want to bring modern deodorant and tooth brushes & paste.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:03 PM
35

That’s the part that really gets me, the basic human etiquette. If I ask someone on a date, I pay. If they ask me, they pay. The only thing I would critique you on is “forgetting” your wallet. I think it might make men feel vindicated that you were “playing” them for dinner. Personally, I would have cited the etiquette - “I thought you would pay since you asked me out? That is standard etiquette.” That way he knows his piss poor behavior, not your “gold digging (FOR DINNER, HA!)” is the reason f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:12 AM
5

Honestly though this is one of the few places on reddit where we can argue against their bullshit and not get banned and silenced. I think that’s something to consider. If we have a special tag for it that and people who aren’t interested in it can skip, that’s one thing. Outright banning the ability to speak against these assholes is just forcing women further into silence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:32 AM
10

Honestly though this is one of the few places on reddit where we can argue against their bullshit and not get banned and silenced. I think that’s something to consider. If we have a special tag for it that and people who aren’t interested in it can skip, that’s one thing. Outright banning the ability to speak against these assholes is just forcing women further into silence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:31 AM
22

Bridge trolls, one and all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:00 AM
36

His sleeves are over his fingers, and his pants are literally a puddle at his feet. Every single one of them is a bridge troll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:00 AM
1

THIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIISSSSSSSS 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:42 AM
12

I’ll go against the grain here and say I don’t mind it. I guess just for me personally, I hate their thoughts & actions so much and I love dragging them. I think it’s good to be aware of their tactics and thought process so that it’s more easily identifiable in the real world. For what it’s worth I also care very little about what reddit at large thinks of this sub, because anyone with half a brain can see it for what it actually is: self improvement. Anyone getting riled up about what we have g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:38 AM
18

There is! FDSSuperfans
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:31 AM
144

Every single scrote in this picture is a fucking 1/10 and not a well fitted tux betwixt them. I would be ashamed to participate in this on so many levels. Could you imagine showing up at a bridesmaid and being told to participate in this??? What kind of fight would you have to fucking have to put up to be exempt from this?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:13 AM
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It’s amazing that they can’t even understand that doing that IS NOT THE POINT of the study! Holy shit, substituting your own reality to make your dick hard. Great. I hope one day I get to shame a scrote the way that teacher did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 10:34 PM
37

I rolled my eyes so hard I think I dislodged something. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🦃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:55 PM
47

Maybe his dick is all blown out at the top like that vase.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:56 AM
87

As an artist, I can certainly see .... that he’s a jackass. I don’t love the color scheme though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:55 AM
51

I can suddenly see why people confuse Onion articles with reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:54 AM
38

I’ve lost many men (friends, relatives) because I’ve held them accountable for their behavior or beliefs. Actually, for those left I’m usually caught trying to decide how worth it it would be to argue with them about where their responsibilities lie in a particular scenario, or just letting it go for my own sanity. It’s infuriating how being responsible is GROUND into a women’s psyche and then on top of it often we’re responsible for holding up the mirror to men too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:38 PM
39

Like I know it’s not good to break no contact but as far as a reason for doing so, I think that reply is 🔥 But then immediately block him on iMessage too 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:30 PM
105

Lmao at all the assholes in the comments saying “he didn’t mean it” yeah, because you know he didn’t mean it?? He absolutely meant it, he wanted to get her upset. He’s only sad she stood up for herself. Her “ friends “ suck, fuck them too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:07 PM
41

I wonder how many years she waited to get married to this asshole. She got the ring and she ain’t giving it up now, gotdamn it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:00 PM
11

I was genuinely asking, because like I said, I can’t even figure out if I like a guy in the first date. When I meet them the best I can usually tell is if I don’t like them which is most of them. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:18 PM
4

Oh yeah, I saw it was previous to FDS. I just wanted to hear her thoughts on it, since I’m apparently wired very differently. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:57 PM
20

The first date? Really? I don’t even know if I like them on the first date usually. I only filter out the absolute Nopes on the first date. The rest I usually have to think about and meet again to see if they are someone I’m interested in. You don’t feel like you’re having sex with a stranger?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:46 PM
2

Right, yes. I would basically say this is 100% correct. I don’t really care what kind of food it’s replaced with (although unfair) at least it’s something. I’m also wondering why the kid didn’t cook themselves something (anything?) else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:38 PM
6

Eeeeeeh, I know the Lana song. This is a common experience for women, which is why there’s a song and why there’s this tweet specifically about Smash Bros. My satirical point stands. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:31 PM
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Jesus Christ what kind of father GLEEFULLY and KNOWINGLY eats all his kids food??? There’s something deeply wrong with him. It’s difficult for me to absolve the mom though. I don’t think it’s her FAULT, that definitely lies in the AH husband. I just think if it were me and I was watching this happen I would have told him to leave her food alone. HOWEVER, I don’t think it’s my responsibility, necessarily, to do that... he’s a fucking adult he should be able to self police. I think I’m conflicted …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:41 AM
2

What TF is this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:43 PM
99

Sounds like a hostage situation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:37 PM
24

You’d think that but I’ve paid for them too and it’s all the same attitudes and men. In fact, sometimes the men act like you’re more desperate for them because you’re paying for the app so they think they’ve got you. Maybe your area will be better than mine, I’m just saying don’t get your hopes up too high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:14 PM
26

Okay so clearly he’s a POS for how he reacted, gaslighting, lying, and freaking out, and she should leave. But I just gotta ask: Why the hell did she even bother to ask? She knew what they were, she knew they couldn’t be hers, and she KNEW he dated other people before her. Like why bother asking? Does she think he’s had women in that bad this past month? She said she “wouldn’t be upset” if it was what she asked about... but if you’re not bothered by it why do you need the confirmation? It’s baff…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:58 PM
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Wow that might be the longest copypasta I’ve ever read! Let’s see: 🚩 1: tries to excuse his lack of accomplishments & work history by using an illness (what’s wrong with continuing your degrees online?) and also tries to inflate his own stature by trotting out his family’s accomplishments to deflect and raise his value. 🚩 2: Clearly wants a workhorse mother for his child. I’m sure that would make his life much easier! 🚩 3: Wants you to assume he’s putting in effort to this text (even though it’s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:47 PM
20

You would honestly think that something so important to them would merit being spelled correctly. Seems to be a consistent problem though 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:34 PM
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WHYYYYY Every single one of them tries to gaslight us for their bad behavior. They know they’re in the wrong and they just can’t help themselves, and if you call them on it they get their feel feels hurt and cry. At least if you’re going to be a pervy cockface OWN IT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:32 PM
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Relationships My (42f) husband (44m) insulted my body during a bad fight and now I can't have sex. u/Commercial-Bedroom10h What a mess. Married 12 years. ​ Stats: Me: 5'7", 168 lbs. Haven't gained weight...have always weighed pretty much exactly this (even while dating him). Him: 5'7", 184 lbs. Has gained about 10 lbs over the past 2 years. I couldn't care less. ​ I do yoga. I lift some weights. I walk. And I've also started intermittent fasting because I would like to drop 2 sizes by summer. Bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 11:57 AM
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So she’s a young woman with little life experience, an abusive father, and zero support structure. Perfect for a military grade abuser. I highly doubt he’s a: porn addicted and b: a member of the armed forces while also being c: good to his partner. OP needs to take some time, go to therapy for the family issues and stop worrying about this dude at all. She would benefit from being single and finding herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:34 AM
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I’m short, and I used to prefer taller guys because I felt like short guys always had a complex about being short that made me uncomfortable. I dated a shorter guy, 5’7” and I liked his height for me, and thought he was handsome. I’m more open to it now, but he had a lot of issues and I don’t know if they stemmed from his height or not. I think society has done a disservice to men in regard to height. There are plenty of guys on the shorter side that should be able to find a date more easily, bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:25 PM
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Exxxaaactttlllyyyy! Never mind that birth has a higher rate of complications until women are, what was it like 23? 25? They pick and choose their “biological” justifications and it’s bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:18 PM
41

Omg, YES TO ALL OF THIS! They want all their dirty little secrets secret but want to debase women so they can feel superior. Fuck their “privacy”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:15 PM
6

Yes! Look up trauma bonding!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:13 PM
5

Howdy, and welcome! I understand how you feel, I let someone I dated become my best friend, and now that he’s gone I feel the loss deeply. First thing is, it will take time to grieve the loss. Secondly I have some tips for you! 1: Spend time here and read the info/side bar. Really take it in. Also search “nurse” in this forum because as a nurse you are more at risk from LVM looking for a meal ticket that will take their abuse. Seriously, you are in a profession that attracts people who are givin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:13 PM
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Honestly I think the “genetic” rationalization is inaccurate and provides these assholes an excuse for their shitty narcissistic behavior. I think it’s more that we as a society train men to behave this way and reward the behavior. Let’s not tell them their genetics are the reason so they can abdicate all responsibly for their bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 03:59 PM
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I cannot explain how fucking irritating it is when I see people say snooping is reprehensible. You know what’s reprehensible? Giving your partner STDs because you can’t keep your dick in your pants. Destroying their trust and self esteem by cheating on them. I’ll never be in another relationship where I don’t have complete access to their devices. It shouldn’t even be an issue if you’ve got nothing to hide. Any man I’ve dated has had complete access to mine, because you know, I’m not fucking aro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 03:55 PM
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Right and he also set you up completely with a leading question, so that’s shitty. He relied on social norms, knowing you’re unlikely to insult a stranger for no reason. I feel like this is similar to the issue I have with attractive vs. attracted to. Like there are plenty of people I can say are attractive (both women and men), I can genuinely say they’re handsome or beautiful, but that doesn’t mean I’m attracted to them. I need more than good looks for me to want to be intimate with anyone. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 03:35 PM
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I read it as: you will have to continue to support your real, first family, and he’s not allowed to just have a baby with someone while he’s married to her, because she’s gonna divorce the shit out of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 11:17 PM
4

Glad to see I’m not the only one who thought this. At worst it’s trolling, at best it’s just confusing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 10:53 PM
7

That sounds emotionally abusive to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 10:33 PM
10

That little tale you tell of 200 text messages sounds controlling and abusive. Sounds like you’re discussing LVMs who have no sense of self. What does that have to do with anything?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 10:24 PM
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Considering I’ve never been loved unconditionally in my life, including by my own family, I’m gonna go out on a limb and say he’s wrong. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I think some people can love animals unconditionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:10 PM
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There’s a comment from the OP on there about pump and dump and how TheIdiotPill doesn’t really advocate that unless it’s a LVW and how they really advocate plates which are SO MUCH BETTER! Omg ! You guys we can be plates! Now that’s a real relationship where they can get laid three or less dates in, women can have shitty sex three dates in, and then they can continue to use you and anyone else willing to put up with it!!! How FUCKING EXCITING!! Fuck that. Take your time and VET VET VET it makes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:24 AM
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I think it’s generally acceptable around here to text after work hours, like on Wednesday or whatever, after 6pm for a little bit. I wouldn’t say that’s hovering over your phone, nor should you. It’s up to you though, if you don’t wish to text him first, don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:08 AM
17

Okay, after two good dates I’d be comfortable texting first OCCASIONALLY. However, I’d still leave the planning up to him. Right now I wouldn’t text him, it’s up to him to ask you out and confirm. I think communication is a fine line, you don’t want to be overbearing with it but also you’d like for them to know you’re interested and enjoy spending time with them. Edited to add: you’ve lost nothing if he ghosts, if he’s not willing to show his interest consistently that was always the way it was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:29 PM
32

Why would we discuss gay men in any great detail? Unless we’re talking about men who either pretend to be gay, or gay men pretending to be straight. Neither of which is acceptable. No one should pretend to be someone they’re not, be it man or woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:23 PM
17

That’s what I said. No way is this real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:08 PM
146

LMAO LARPING AS A GAY MAN NOW? Cool. Cool. I haven’t seen a single post in here about gay men. Wanna know why? We’re not trying to date them. Unlike straight men who feel entitled to lesbians. Ladies, this isn’t an actual gay man who’s been here. This is fiction, and it’s pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:06 PM
96

Yet another reminder that sexuality is not a choice, Jesus Christ on the bongos save us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:33 AM
7

My new opener, “hi! What are you looking for on this app? I’m looking for someone to contribute to my grad school funding. Oh, and a PONY! 😍😍🥰”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:02 AM
10

Hard pass on all of this. Why would you add someone you’ve never met? You have one awkward date and then what? What if you don’t like him? He gets to see all your info and connections? Be careful of men who text too much and start adding on socials quickly. They’re trying to shoehorn themselves into your life and force intimacy that isn’t there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:55 AM
22

I think it has something to do with them living a kind of fantasy? Like they see part of themselves (accurately or not) in this larger than life celebrity so they can afford an emotional valve to release for them because it’s like losing something but from a safe distance? Then when shit happens in their own life they’re so emotionally stunted they just push it down and meet it with derision and anger. It’s too real and final and they shut it down quick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:49 AM
7

I think it has to do with emotional capacity. I don’t know if men are inherently unable to feel as deeply as we are, I would guess it’s more of a societal issue or at least 80/20. They just ... get nothing out of any emotional bonding. It’s not a deep emotional connection, just chasing the nut dragon for some feel good hormones over and over while their lives get shallower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:43 AM
26

Sadly for those of us who actually have touch as our love language it makes men think we’re whores. Really I want hugs, cuddles, kisses, arms around necks and neck snuggles... and yes sex, but not always and all about sex. These idiots think “touch” = GET DAT NUT and acquiesce to their every physical demand no matter how early on in the relationship it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:34 AM
29

Firstly: thank you you’re awesome. Secondly: lmao, she has sex with him 3-4 days a week and he’s sulking? What even is this level of entitlement? He doesn’t think touch is his love language, he thinks nutting is. I’d love to know who he thinks he’s going to date/marry that wants her pussy pounded 365 days a year without fail. What if they get married and she gets sick? Cancer? Car accident? Will he be cheating or just divorce? WONT SOMEONE PLEASE THINK OF THE PENIS?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:31 AM
28

I get so sad when they’re removed 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:15 PM
12

Yeah, absolutely. If she’s deep in the pick me she won’t leave, she’ll rationalize it. However, you never know, she could have already rationalized a hundred other times and this one will be the one that makes her leave! If you keep adding straw to a camels back eventually it breaks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:44 PM
25

If it were me I would screen shot the texts and send them to her. She doesn’t deserve to be a used and heartbroken forever GF. If someone talked about me like that I’d want to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:27 PM
26

All the comments from people saying she sucks for messaging him suggestive things 🙄🙄🙄 like who gives a shit? He’s a liar and a cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:49 PM
21

In what world does he have the right to test (inaccurately) someone on how comfortable they are in their body?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:06 AM
33

Oh Lordy please don’t bring more people into the world like you sir. You’re doing enough damage all on your own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:05 AM
23

I almost downvoted you instinctually because of how gross this is 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 11:24 PM
1

I agree with this but I just wanted to point out that The Biggest Loser might not be the best thing to point to just because of the way they lost the weight. Part of the reason their metabolism tanked so badly is because they put those poor people on starvation rations while working out twice to three times a day. They really do a disservice to people on that show in an effort to produce “entertaining tv”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 05:20 PM
12

This is a reimagined version of those “10 fun things to do at Walmart” lists that go around every so often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 04:53 PM
35

Health sciences called: they want your high school diploma back Why don’t they teach this shit to kids? Like really grind it in?? So tired of this anti-woman bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 04:02 PM
5

What... the fuck? Mental break? Is that what’s happening here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 03:20 AM
20

I don’t even have words. He’s not even self aware enough to realize she does it for the money. It’s 100% about power and control, and I guess to live with themselves they have to believe the women want them and are having fun?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 02:07 AM
35

When he met with the John and the guy had never considered that she was just having sex with him for the money, that she doesn’t want him at all. He. Never. Thought. About. It. I LOLed. Literally out loud. It’s amazing. It’s really my own fault for being taken aback at this point but seriously? Sometimes I think about what it must be like for women in sex work, because most people I meet are repellent to me. I wonder how they get through it (disassociation) but apparently the men think the women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:52 AM
57

Let me get this straight: You’re excited that he “seems to be a HVM” after he paid for your coffee? Who paid for the movie tickets and drinks? Sounds like he talked about himself the entire two dates. No dinner on the second date? Only drinks? Now he’s doing the slow fade? No one is HV until they’ve had time to prove they’re HV. Sounds to me like he’s not, let him initiate texts if he’s still going to while you’re date other people. Stop putting all eggs into one basket, because it’s making you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 02:46 PM
32

Anyone that calls you baby and expects you to call them baby within two hours of texting them, especially since you’ve never met, is fucking batshit. Not to mention all the other problems here. I give the boot to men who use pet names or call me adjectives before we’re actually dating (hun, beautiful, baby, etc.) it’s so creepy, you don’t know me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:56 PM
12

Yep. I’m seemingly incapable of picking well. That’s why I’m here. I don’t think I’ve ever dated a man who’s actually a decent loving person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:10 PM
28

I don’t think anyone needs to be married at 21. You’re extremely confused about committing your life to this man because you have very little life experience. Personally I wouldn’t marry anyone who has a passcode on their phone that I don’t know, but that’s me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:25 AM
20

Yeah, he’s got an attachment all right. To getting his nut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:16 AM
41

I can’t get the link to work for some reason but in my experience a man can fuck you, tell you he loves you, tell you you’re perfect for years and never give a shit about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:50 AM
38

Anything, ANYTHING to not have to take responsibility. And men can actually sign over their rights. So I’m not sure what he’s complaining about? I wish I could fly away and live on my own planet without the scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 12:29 AM
21

At least I’ve done one thing right today, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 12:25 AM
35

Right? Only women with literally zero self esteem would talk to this guy. Easily controlled and abused, just the way he likes them, I’m sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:38 PM
125

So... teeth don’t fit head, suit doesn’t fit body, looks don’t match supposed age, nothing matches or looks nice, and women are the losers? Who exactly does this asshole hope to attract?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:35 PM
51

Omg I saw that! He’s going to sit in the kitchen while she still does all the work? Fucking classic. She’s still doing all the labor, emotional and otherwise. This is not a win. You know what might be closer to a win? “Hey honey, so I have this potluck coming up, and I looked up a recipe I’d like to bake together. I’m planning on going food shopping on (insert date) for the ingredients. Please look at it and let me know if it’s one we could manage together. If not, I’ll choose a different recipe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 04:52 PM
125

Negging and also trying to dangle himself as some kind of prize? Like, “oh bill me, don’t worry little lady I’ll take you out!” 🤮 Gross. No one is interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 04:48 PM
14

Block. Block right now. You don’t have to analyze it, or explain it to them. Just block them and move on. They’re using you, block them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 03:13 PM
17

This is what I took away as well. When it’s just too strange and without any reasoning, when it’s belligerent like this? Yeah, something happened he can’t deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 12:36 PM
61

Most men don’t have an abundance of choices, OLD just makes them think they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:02 PM
51

This man is a delusional narcissist. He even said it himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 06:59 PM
6

I have ADHD and I’m terrible at keeping any living space clean. I’m a disorganized mess and a clutter bug. If I had enough space where I could keep separate living and entertaining spaces my life would probably look like that. At least then I wouldn’t be ashamed when people walked in the door. I’m not saying it’s not a red flag though. Just that there are many of possible reasons why it would be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 03:23 PM
25

I like replying “go fuck yourself” to these 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 05:00 AM
7

Awesome! Good for you and GOOD LUCK! I hope you get it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 12:50 AM
11

The manipulation is real, and so is the woman looking for every reason to excuse his behavior. It’s a cautionary tale for sure. I think things like this are great - I see things I’ve literally done and thought and every time I scream at the screen WHY?! Really makes you look at your own shit. It’s good for accountability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 12:50 AM
25

Anyone else watching “Dirty John” on Netflix? Because holy shit my new favorite thing is to apply FDS principals to shows. The very first episode would be a block and delete, and she didn’t. She second guessed her gut, she heard him say nice things after the fact and now here we are with him being total psycho. Be ruthless ladies!!! And watch this ridiculous show because if you look at what happened, and all her hopeful pick me bullshit, you’ll see the things you should never be OK with or accep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:27 PM
49

It’s a good lesson to never get yourself in that position again, I hope you get free soon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:06 PM
5

I’m sorry I related to the comment I was replying to? I was using the paying for dates as a big example for me, as well as learning that strength was having to do everything myself. I’m not sure what your point is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 06:33 PM
6

Okay, well I do agree with the general point of keeping people who are interested in keeping standards low out of your inner circle. I personally have a very difficult time dealing with men apologists, so I’m with you there. People don’t get it, especially people who aren’t single trying to date or those with low standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:58 PM
8

💯 and a difficult lesson to learn. Originally I disagreed with letting them pay because of this, I wanted to be “equal”. From reading the logic and reasoning here, seeing the way men talk about women on other Reddit’s, and my own dating experience I no longer look at it like I’m not equal if I don’t pay half. I have nothing to prove. I always wanted to do everything myself, never needed anyone. I thought not needing anyone for anything made me stronger. I realize now though if you really take in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:47 PM
7

Idk there’s a lot going on in this post lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:09 PM
16

Why would you argue about picking up half the check? Even if I’ve previously agreed upon picking up half in the past, if anyone grabs it and says they pay, I accept graciously. I ask if I can leave the tip. It’s just a nice thing to do for someone. Why argue about it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:01 PM
86

Lmao they’re mad people are calling him a MAN BABY OH ITS SO SEXIST TO CALL HIM EXACTLY WHAT HE FUCKING IS BOOHOO Edited to add: he doesn’t need the wifi to survive or take a shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 03:37 PM
17

I just feel like that’s a lot of inference based on what he actually said. I liked George’s answer better, personally. Yeah, girls need self esteem, but I would venture to guess a lot of the women he abused had self esteem - they did want to put a stop to it, they did want it to stop. They just knew they would be silenced, and wouldn’t work again. Having self esteem and self respect is important but it’s not going to stop a powerful abuser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 02:48 PM
46

I hate Matt’s answer... “I’ll teach my daughters that they have to protect themselves.” Fuck off, that’s not why this fucking happened. Yeah us women folk just don’t protect ourselves well enough 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️ we just don’t seem to get the message that we need to protect ourselves. You know for the times our fathers aren’t standing behind us with a shotgun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 02:18 PM
12

Wouldn’t it be great if we could all make a collective decision to toss people in the trash? Save women from these monsters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:21 PM
29

She can’t have sex with him anymore because he’s so unwashed, and so is the bed. Big/good dick wouldn’t even matter at that point. My god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:05 PM
240

Fucking case in point a post on here linking over to the relationships thread where the “boyfriend “ doesn’t brush his teeth, shower, or clean and financially abuses his girlfriend with gifts (that she pays for) while she desperately tries to clean his apartment for him when she visits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 12:24 PM
61

What part of hell was this trash found in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 12:21 PM
21

This is the most horrifying thing I’ve ever read, holy shit. How can she not see that she’s paid his way, paid for her own gifts that he uses to lord over her, kept him alive? Baffled. I’m stunned. I hope she finds it in herself to leave him, because she’s got a lot of life ahead of her to live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 12:08 PM
32

They’d never be able to clean the shit from all the pants of these dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 02:52 AM
16

When you LOL because the reply is fire but then you feel sad because this conversation happened at all...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 02:47 AM
9

🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 02:34 AM
94

Don’t forget they want women drafted into the forces so they can rape us at the same time. Gotta have a selection amirite?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 02:26 AM
20

I’m on team total fiction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:42 AM
7

Right? Like if I had kids I could only imagine the damage it would do to them if I introduced them to every dude I met. Like what three dates in they’re meeting a new guy? Why? 97% of the people you meet you won’t have a relationship with. Seems like a mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:19 AM
4

I never compared rape to cheating, I compared the attitude that women are to blame for it (which is what I was originally replying to) along with everything else in this shitty society is wrong. Feel free to work on your reading comprehension while you’re here, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:14 PM
6

Way to be obtuse about my actual point. Society loves to blame women for men’s actions. Instead of teaching men to not rape, often women get told to modify their behavior (be smarter/safer/dress a certain way) as if any of that makes a difference. My point is that none of that changes anything, a cheater is a cheater and a rapist is a rapist. Men don’t cheat because women “let them”, men cheat because they want to. If a man isn’t a cheater, he’s not going to cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 10:55 PM
13

Just like rape, it should be on them to not cheat. I can walk down the block or swipe on tinder any time of the day or night & find someone to have sex with. It’s on me to not do that when I’m in a relationship. If I did would you blame the guy I cheated with too? Or would it be me out looking for something more? There are always going to be men who cast nets, are the women who don’t know this dude is in a relationship to blame? Not to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 10:27 PM
44

Steve Harvey isn’t a great guy, and has a lot of really misogynistic views I dislike. However I can say that in this case and this specific example of advice is good. Overall though he’s a hard pass from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 09:50 PM
8

One of the pickmes in the comments: “she should feel lucky...” As with every other LVM he goes off about exactly how much money he makes and how he worked all night and day to validate his manliness after reading this girl the riot act for not paying for his food. Why wouldn’t he just give her the $40 worth of red lobster (who gets that for takeout anyway?? Someone who thinks it’s $$$ ? Jesus) when she got there and thank her for bringing it to him if he’s so worked up about it. He’s clearly ove…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:15 PM
33

And then he’s too ego driven to get help. Plus the box cutter was a joke at her expense, I’m glad he got himself. Narcissistic asshole is right. I’m tired of watching women give and give and that’s all they’re good for. That fight scene was sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 07:40 AM
101

I agree with all of this and thought the movie isn’t getting recognized for the right reasons. Everyone talks about how nuanced it is but I saw it how you did, he’s a selfish asshole. It’s a cautionary tale for women. When she comforted him after the fight I was like yep, of course this is how this goes. The best part of the movie is where his little “joke” about the box cutter actually cut him. He was juvenile trash from start, she made a mistake falling in love with his potential.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 07:28 AM
22

I know normally we don’t engage in this but in this case it may be worth it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:21 AM
5

Me too but then I thought I was just being a bitch lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 07:26 PM
20

What do you think would happen if someone set the Bear on fire? What do you think that meltdown looks like?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 06:29 PM
47

She thinks she’s over reacting? There’s no way this isn’t an abusive relationship. Zero.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 04:04 AM
26

That’s what I was thinking too. She says he can’t even kiss her passionately... red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 02:17 AM
33

Yet she continues to blow him & cater to his needs. Fuck that dirtbag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 01:38 AM
10

The time to file a police report has long passed, Jesus!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 08:19 PM
12

Lol, yeah, and gets excited to share bras.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 04:26 PM
57

I’m attempting to come up with a mental picture of a woman desperate enough to go for this. It’s difficult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 04:36 AM
7

That’s a reasonable hypothesis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 05:55 PM
19

Right, one who was forced into servitude because of her evil step mother. At the end of the day she would have been showing up in rags. Still a servant at the end of the day. You’d have to ask yourself what qualities as an eligible maiden wouldn’t you? The surf might be single, but if she shows up without shoes I doubt they’re letting her in to dance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 05:53 PM
24

Yeah, weird right? I always assumed it was because he saw her the fancy way. I think we’re supposed to infer that he “loved her so much he didn’t care”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 04:35 PM
65

Because then he would know she’s not a “princess”, he’d know she was the housemaid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 04:32 PM
60

Girl, he is not good looking enough to warrant all this! Block this big nose mofo! Save yourself the trouble! This is not someone who sees anything wrong with his actions and has no consideration for anyone else. He’s never going to care how you feel about anything, especially not the STDs he’s going to give you. Block. That’s how you win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:25 AM
12

I could see someone asking “do you enjoy cooking” (because honestly I’ve asked that) but asking if someone CAN is abrasive. Would you like to see my passing grades from home economics? Would you like to know if I can darn a sock? Trash took itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 02:09 AM
11

“You” on Netflix, there’s two seasons now. Some of it drags a little for me and is also a little trite but overall it’s a good watch. You should give it a try. It’s about a guy who’s a stalker & how he ended up that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 02:06 AM
25

Lmao, honestly if Joe were just a little less murdery ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 01:03 AM
11

From my experience (others may vary based on location) the paid ones are no better, and have a lot of the same men on them as the unpaid ones. I actually think they got uglier and shorter on the paid ones. I’m pretty sure it’s because they think about the sunk value cost of being on the paid ones and maybe women on there are willing to go on a date with anyone because they’re more desperate to get their money’s worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 02:20 PM
8

Oh yeah, hard agree. Honestly I wish it was reality. It’s so funny because after a certain amount of time all of your skin cells turn over, eyelashes cycle out, hair grows and gets cut, blood gets replaced. All these physical changes left long enough means someone who touched you once has never really touched you after some time. But you can’t erase them from your brain. Oh no, you’ve got to live with that shit in the most important place forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:21 AM
15

Eternal Sunshine still slaps! Mostly because I fantasize about napalming all the toxic shitbags I’ve ever known out of my brain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:01 AM
7

Does... does he have his dick in his hand??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:10 AM
25

Sounds like trauma bonding to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:20 PM
15

Especially since he trotted that little excuse out while in a fight in an attempt to excuse his actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 08:23 PM
6

I’m all for that too, I think it should be discussed in the same article.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 01:04 PM
19

I would completely agree with that, none of this should be forced on kids. They’re already over sexualized, and so many are watching such extreme porn and thinking it’s normal sex. I just don’t think we can roll back the culture of this easily, and there isn’t much pressure to do so. FDS is so important for us, and for our friends and family. For our daughters (and sons). Teaching kids proper boundaries but also how to not get themselves hurt. I don’t think what’s going on is right, and I think …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 05:55 AM
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Okay so try to hear me out on this (also I haven’t actually read the article so I don’t know the tone or context of how it was written) I’m not advocating teenagers should have anal sex, or anyone for that matter if they don’t want to. I also feel really squicky about presenting it to teens, because I think it’s difficult to gauge how it should be discussed. However, much like teaching abstinence only sex-Ed, I don’t think ignoring the reality of the situation works. Isn’t it better for girls to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 05:31 AM
21

Yeah I like the “you blocked Kevin” fuck yeah you did!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 05:21 AM
37

WE WE WE I said it three times now you have to be in a relationship with WE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 05:11 AM
33

Then if they ask if they’re allowed to date other women say no, it has to be the way you want it, and they should stop trying to kink shame you. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 12:37 PM
69

They’ll all do anything to see if they could have a girlfriend plus get laid elsewhere too. Not a single one thinks it could be that it would be you, him, and another man. Whenever I see this box checked I think “Right, I’m sure you could find two girls on this dumpster fire dating app to date you. You seem to be doing so well already!” “Oh you’re open to non-monogamy? That’s great because I’ve always wanted to have two boyfriends! Let’s talk!” See what they say then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 12:29 PM
6

Woof, yeah I missed that. There’s no way he could raise a kid if he needs to be treated like an infant. I couldn’t see him passing any DHCS interviews if this is the case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 10:23 PM
4

I’m praying he does the right thing and just hires a maid, at least she’ll get paid for her work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 06:13 AM
17

Silver Lining: he says he’s asexual and never wants a relationship so... at least he’s not hurting anyone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:29 AM
7

If I were you I’d be really upset that they’re willing to allow you to be harassed so they can retain one member? Please. Tell them if they’re not willing to help you will have no choice but to go to a lawyer for the help they won’t provide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 07:19 PM
103

I just... I mean if you actually give a shit could you not save up like $300 for something that’s at least real gold and not going to turn your finger green? I’m saying if you’re dead broke. If you’ve got millions? And you do this? What a fucking insult. No, it’s not about the money but it’s about the intent. You’re saying that if someone is very well off and they buy you a WALMART ring you don’t feel like they just said you’re their Walmart fiancée? Really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 04:56 AM
42

I agree it’s a tough line. I’d say the right side of the line is if they make it clear they are 100% present from the beginning. No “confusion” about what he wants from you or where he sees it going, and no pushing boundaries you set. That’s different from love bombing, but I’d agree it’s a fine line that in practice might be difficult to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 03:53 AM
18

Perfect, so he’ll just start straight beating her now? Apparently that book is all about their DREAD bullshit. I hope he cheats, she finds out and takes him for evvvvvrrryyyy thang.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 02:00 AM
16

I wish there was a way to broadcast this to all women. What their spouses say about them, how to get help... anything to snap them out. Help them get stronger and move on from the bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 01:58 AM
23

Exactly, from this whole thing we can see she’s a player in his show. I kept waiting for him to talk about what her complaints other issues are, what she wants. That never materialized because then he wouldn’t be perfect. He only painted her as sexless and himself as limitlessly perfect. I bet that woman is dying inside slowly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 01:44 AM
31

Men like this think it can’t be rape because they’re married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 01:38 AM
65

According to this guys magnificent levels of self reflection he’s a high earning prince who’s evil witch wife is holding back on the pussy even though he makes her orgasam through starfish sex. How do they not hear themselves? Narcissist is right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 12:28 AM
74

What a fucking baby. Who cares? He swears up and down he loves her and she’s been nothing but faithful. Why are they such monsters?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 11:01 PM
45

I’m caught between creepy and absolutely the sweetest thing. I mean it’s bad it idealize someone that much, but... I mean he married her. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 10:57 PM
4

Good! Work on yourself slowly and purposefully. I agree with the other commentator who said withdraw enough to work on yourself and keep it under wraps for as long as you can do he cannot sabotage you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 07:15 PM
10

He wants control over you and to keep you trapped, don’t let him. Start journaling, keep track of things for your sanity. Can you get into therapy for yourself? Judging by all of the things you’ve put up with you really need to work on your boundaries and learn to love yourself first. Get the job, get the car, get therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 07:03 PM
12

How much of this do you have documented? You should be sending screen shots of this behavior to yourself and keeping a journal about all the behaviors. There will come a time where you’ll need records. You’ll need to start by getting a job, getting a car. You need some autonomy and cash of your own. Just work on that for now, try your best to not get bogged down in this “relationship”. I almost wish you were already married to him so at least you’d have more rights when you divorced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:49 PM
68

She’s buying a house, and he’s going to live with her for cheaper than his current rent. That’s how they’re fixing his “financial situation”. He’s going to end up with squatters rights and make her life miserable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 05:12 PM
28

This really hit home. I’ve lived this. I thought it was love, but it meant nothing (to him). Just an endless narcissistic void that I tried to fill even though I didn’t know that was the game. Makes me so sad. I don’t trust that they’re capable of reciprocation, ever. I feel like I’ve learned my lesson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 05:15 AM
15

Jesus Christ that was beautiful. Bravo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 03:14 AM
14

BUT EVEN DA FATTIES DONT WANT MAH PEENER?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 03:01 AM
27

Exactly. I mean not to mention there’s no way he’s a virgin due to his looks alone. Every single date fades out after date two? Please, we all know how women are pushed to put up with bullshit of all kinds. (Not men though! No government program trying to brain wash them!) I’d venture to guess the creeper vibes are STRONG with this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 02:16 AM
44

“A young (overweight) Heisenberg” 🤮 Lmao, holy shit. How is it possible to be so out of touch with reality? Ps: someone should send a note to these assholes that they don’t have to date overweight women. Not only do the act like overweight is the worst thing in the world but like... no one is saying there’s one two types of women? Overweight and model? I don’t get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 02:12 AM
14

I mean why not prepare them early for what they’ll get to live through? Amirite? 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 01:11 AM
73

Looks more like a comment on how there can only be “peace” when all the women are quiet. You know, because the bitches be naggin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 01:07 AM
9

I think people talk that up a lot more than it actually happens, which is really weird to me. Like I’ve had guys talk to me about it on dates, how they’re scared of it happening to them or how they think it’s happened to them but they’re not sure. I’m sure that it happens, but I don’t think it happens with the seeming regularity people think it does. Even if it does, I think it’s pretty shitty to go into conversations with everyone you meet trying to screen them for being trans. It feels like fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 12:36 AM
26

Bullshit, would you ever outright ask someone that question? Is it not the rudest thing ever? He was negging you, it’s a well known tactic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 11:55 PM
36

It’s absolutely a neg on the OP, men like to do this to subtly knock women down a notch and make them “prove” themselves. Don’t look to excuse shitty make behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 11:44 PM
65

That’s a fake, people here don’t speak like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 06:29 PM
27

Title is misleading, should be: Boyfriend doesn’t see a problem raping, lying, and cheating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:22 PM
65

Obvious drug use is obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 05:47 AM
1

I just think when we talk about someone who was groomed and abused, who turns around and grooms and abused others it’s in a different realm. There are similarities sure, like the one you pointed out, but it comes from a different place. I feel like pick me is a different more run of the mill patriarchal issue, rather than an abuse situation. Then again, I would agree women can become a pick me through abusive partners. Idk I guess when we get sexually abused kids thrown into the mix “pick me” se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 04:52 AM
12

This goes beyond being a pick me and into abusive and abused territory. I would bet money this woman was abused by her own father, groomed, and clearly turned around and groomed CHILDREN. That’s not a “pick me”. That’s not someone who’s cleaning after her shitty boyfriend, then proposing to him. This is abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:43 AM
48

Ever wish you could just YEET these MFers out into the stratosphere? Or is that just me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:35 AM
18

Right? Please don’t give me one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 11:19 PM
8

I know, sometimes I start screen shotting and then I realize I’m basically doing it on every other profile so I delete them all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 11:19 PM
27

JFC GROSS why are they all so disgusting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 11:04 PM
63

I feel like I’ve had a stroke reading this. Who wants to have “a strong itch down south”? Why would someone write this? Who do they think will respond well to this? As usual I’m left just wondering wtf is going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:59 PM
9

Sadly, I’m still like this about my narcissist ex. Even though I know it’s wrong, some people twist you up so badly it’s like you can’t stop. I feel for your friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:45 PM
9

Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:36 PM
8

Right? Like who thinks this is a good idea for date two?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:29 PM
16

Also there’s that whole “don’t trust her until you see her next to naked and without any makeup on” because women are all liars and cheats. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:41 PM
14

Also: swimming on a second date 🚩 NOPE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:30 PM
29

They call her a public toilet ... because she matched with multiple people... on a dating app? Why does it seem like so many men are confused about dating apps work? You’re supposed to go on dates from them. You have to connect with multiple people to do that, you know, like you are? Like do these guys just match with one girl on one app and if she doesn’t answer call it a life? I mean clearly that can’t be true from all the dating horror stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:06 PM
14

I’m going with move on at “Dear” but also I agree with everything the other comment listed. Plus even if he did have a car accident there’s no way he couldn’t text you to let you know it happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:43 AM
53

Self care? Why when I could dump all my issues on women and then get laid? Edited to add: I’m on a dating app to not go on dates, what don’t you get?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:33 AM
6

Narcissist. Run. Block then run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:28 AM
8

That’s absolutely the crux of this issue. How fucking pathetic they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 01:02 AM
10

I hope for her sake he (or she does) too. I think she’s even starting to wise up (hopefully) because she calls him out on saying the whole weekend is a bust because he didn’t get his rocks off enough?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 09:26 PM
25

The only think I can say to the valid concern about where are the people in her life that should be telling her these things... many predatory men look for women who have nonexistent or poor support systems. Or, come from abusive backgrounds. Also, even if he wasn’t “looking” for it, women with these types of backgrounds are easily manipulated. However, I’m sure being young and immature doesn’t help the perspective here at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 09:21 PM
19

Wait, so the OP is pissed she won’t give him as much sex as he wants when she’s working 100+ hours a week?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 09:13 PM
33

My favorite comments are that “these women don’t know what they’re talking about!” And “What they say they want and what they really want are two different things!” And also the ones that replace exactly what women asked for with their own narrative. Even when women talk about what they want truthfully and anonymously they still aren’t allowed to have it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 03:36 PM
13

Cracked the code!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:59 AM
30

Something else? Like what? A date? I’d love to know what the something else qualifies as. If you buy me dinner obviously I’ve signed a binding contract to sleep with you so now it’s prostitution? WHAT IS THE SOMETHING ELSE??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:32 AM
21

Seconding this! Please help prevent this from happening to another woman who might not be as strong as you are! Write to the board!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 12:13 AM
3

The denial is STRONG. Then when people explained over and over she started to say she doesn’t think it will happen but is hoping it still will. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 06:39 PM
7

Holy shit. Not even enough cognitive reasoning to realize how he played her. She still thinks it was her idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 06:06 PM
82

It’s a waste of time and intention. Look at what you posted, it’s basically begging for any trash you dated previously to come knocking. Be a HVW and act it, hold your head high and don’t vaugebook shit like this. You’re not doing yourself any favors. Block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 06:43 AM
18

I was also thinking perhaps because it’s Finland then it’s possible, but then I also thought who would want to date someone who’s not in college/university yet anyway? Like if I’m a 22 year old girl in university do I want to date a 19 yo guy? Nah. So I think it holds. He’s got a small dating pool, and he’s young AF working in a restaurant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 04:32 PM
36

He’s still in HS at 19, maybe that’s the reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 04:22 PM
29

Someone needs a flea bath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 02:33 AM
29

This is wild. It’s bad enough when they say it at you when you’re just walking around living your life. You can’t even see my RBF through the computer. I wish I could eject them from the planet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 05:46 PM
49

It’s a fucking birthday cake to feed seemingly two people? He’s clearly low effort and a dick, but it sounds like he’s got pent up hostility about something else too and too childish to address it. It’s fine if you don’t love to celebrate your own birthday, but if you know your PARTNER likes to celebrate their birthday how difficult is a CAKE? Jesus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 04:08 AM
7

Exactly, how does no one notice how predatory this is? Does no one care? My heart goes out to this teenager who’s just looking to be loved and accepted. Completely agree on all points.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 04:43 PM
9

Still disgusting though and a violation of that kid. Men are disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 04:35 PM
3

Op is a dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 04:28 PM
23

Trying to breed familiarity where there is none. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 05:06 AM
47

What. Is. With. The. “DEAR” And. The. Fucking. “HUN” AND THE GOD DAMN “BEAUTIFUL” Like clearly this is a train wreck but I fuckkkkking cannot deal with the infantilizing tears of endearment bullshit that is NOT EARNED. Up the wall. It drives me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 03:46 AM
16

I like the source on this. 👍 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 07:24 AM
44

And those poor kids. Being indoctrinated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 12:01 AM
12

The parents one really got to me. How fucking heartless are they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 08:24 AM
11

Oh wow the comments on that article 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 06:21 AM
8

From a woman who is still struggling to come back from what was done to her, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:25 PM
27

This is what my ex did to me, over and over. To boot his female best friend helped him, and continually wanted to help him get laid and avoid a relationship at all costs. Narcissists. The pair of them. Edited to add: stop helping him. Being his friend is helping him. Women who see men have women friends feel like maybe they’re safe. In this case, he knows what he’s doing and is using you as camouflage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:14 PM
4

Right? I clicked in and NOPED the fuck out so fast 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:00 AM
20

Or pay for your own coffee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 05:33 AM
17

Lol that’s what I said below! I think they only get like 10% not worth the headache.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 04:59 AM
37

What about that sweet 10% employee discount?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 04:58 AM
14

Lmao, perfect mate, constant threat of physical danger! Sadly it’s pretty much all of them. It’s worse than a needle in a haystack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 01:04 AM
21

Why do they all think that’s a great angle? Who is that angle good for? He’d look like a potato either way but perhaps a less angry one? Either way, I’m glad he is at least open with his bullshit so I can HARD PASS.!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 12:55 AM
39

Especially one who looks like half a rotten potato
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 12:34 AM
73

I always see shit like this and wonder who they think their audience is? Women who have absolutely no sense of self respect?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 12:18 AM
42

I prefer to be treated like a 20,000 year old Anteater.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 10:59 PM
33

He clearly misses his emotional support animal during his first scary year at college 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:40 PM
22

Holy shit abusive rapist. He fucking almost took a nipple off 🤮😢 He needs to be locked away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 05:55 AM
6

Thank god, good for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 10:02 PM
8

Holy shit. I can’t believe you put up with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 09:48 PM
8

After all the painting their toenails and cleaning up to go out DANCING, was he as obsessed with dancing as he says he is? Genuinely curious if that was like a weekly thing he initiated after all that talk up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 05:02 PM
48

I honestly don’t know which is worse: “Sorry to bother you” (huge fucking flag and peeve of mine) or: Being completely unable to spell and the terrible grammar. I’d Nope right the fuck away from this idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 04:47 PM
16

It’s a really crazy balancing act, because the one guy I dated who didn’t push for sex turned out to have about a 4” (maybe smaller) dick. I’m at the point now where I no longer want to hop into bed with any man, because I don’t trust them anymore. However, if I were to fine one I actually did like (love) and trust it would be crushing to me to find out we have no chemistry or that he had an extremely small dick. What do you even say to someone if that happens? I mean they know why you’re breaki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 06:59 PM
25

I’d love to know the pathology behind the thinking on that one. What. The. Actual. Fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 03:15 PM
8

Do you think they do this consciously? Or it’s a natural predatory instinct? Because this is ringing really true to me. My Narc ex was a very short chat right into a dinner date... and oh man he got me. Three years worth. I’ve had run ins with less successful weirdos who also seem to practice this tactic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 02:02 AM
5

Exactly. Most likely “I have a high sex drive” goes from wanting constant sexual gratification from you, to eventually cheating and using that as an excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 03:46 PM
17

Plus, does she (the wife) deserve to have STDs? Because that’s very possible through his actions. Anonymous is fine, just don’t let that woman twist in the wind. Whole thing makes me sick 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 02:40 AM
2

Don’t text him personally, just write happy birthday on Facebook like everyone else. That way you’re treating him like an old family friend, no hard feelings and all, but it’s removed and not a personal text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 02:29 AM
55

I would screen shot all the messages, send them to her on FB messenger, let her know what he’s up to. It’s not right that we’re socialized to leave situations like these alone, if I were married to someone cheating on me I’d want to know. Also: block and ghost him. Also: you are not wrong for looking. It’s important to make sure you’re not helping someone cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 02:20 AM
13

I was out at 3 and they only got worse from there... I’m not surprised he had to finish himself after masterbating three times a day for god knows how many years. A man who is getting themselves off that much has a porn habit, a death grip, and is likely regulating their dopamine levels with it. Which means they have psychological issues they refuse to address.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 02:13 AM
5

Gotta love how everyone’s solution is for her to CUT HIS BAGELS FOR HIM LIKE A CHILD! I don’t care if he’s got Aspergers, this is ridiculous. Why is it her responsibility to make sure he doesn’t cut himself? Is he an adult? Or no?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 01:50 AM
-5

Yeah, I mean if you feel he’s creeping you out I’m sure he is. They never emailed me anything, just kept calling, it reminded me so much of the way they kept trying to get me to do the personal training that’s why I offered the possibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 09:38 PM
-3

No I hear that, but that’s what they said to me when they were harassing me about my personal training. It just sounds exactly like what they were hounding me about with no specifics, that’s why I’m saying she should call and ask before getting the idiot fired. If they turn around and tell her it’s free personal training she can just say she’s not interested and to not contact her again about it. Then if he does after that, she should go guns blazing to corporate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 08:43 PM
-4

I’m not saying you’re wrong, I’m just saying consider this might be in relation to her receiving her free personal training from the gym that she’s entitled to as a new member. They haunted me about the same. She can still of course speak to management, but it might not need to be threat level nuclear, yet. If it were a retail worker? Pizza delivery guy? Yeah. Big red flag. Big gyms harass their clients like this all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 08:34 PM
1

Sounds like an LA Fitness, I’m not excusing his behavior as I’m sure he was creepin, but I’ll wager he’s trying to sell you personal training. Many gyms will offer a free personal training session so they can get you to pay them $300 or more a year for an 18 year old bro to teach you how to lift. Poorly. I think he’s probably not stalking you and trying to up sell you on this, and this is one of the only times I’d say that. Mostly because they called me for months and followed me around the gym …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 08:32 PM
11

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 07:15 PM
7

I’m so sorry that you had to go through that, thank you for making me not feel like that’s a crazy thought. We have to be so vigilant it makes me sad . 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 02:16 AM
10

He demands kisses!!! 😘 Make with the kisses woman!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 01:45 AM
7

Honestly that’s what I immediately thought when I saw it and then thought I was being too harsh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 01:44 AM
14

Never been washed, I guarantee it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 01:30 AM
11

I think of it as Bozo the clown when they grow the sides out 😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 12:57 AM
16

Completely agree. I want to see the state of your head, and what state your hair is in (if any). For me it’s more about hygiene and knowing that the guy is looking to be his most attractive, even if that means giving up the ghost and shaving his head. I don’t care if you’re bald, the “patches” look is so much worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 12:48 AM
7

I considered that, but then I realized that was me being stupid. I’m at a 99.9% I am reading as intended. I can match with him and ask if you like! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 12:46 AM
14

Sounds Italian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 12:38 AM
25

What is it with the beds, the staring down, and the sunglasses? Nine pictures all with sunglasses? Really? No woman would ever think she could get away with that. I saw a profile the other day where every picture was this guy from behind, at a distance, and if you could see part of his face he had sunglasses on. You’re not well traveled (they were all hikes or vacation shots) you’re an idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 12:29 AM
9

To me it just speaks to how clueless men are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 12:22 AM
8

I was thinking maybe he got grabby with her, that would make more sense. Her calling him names and chucking him out of her apartment to save herself jives with him straight up cornering her about the drums.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 05:50 PM
9

Women aren’t less competitive, we’ve just been socialized to be less competitive, especially with men. Defer to men, let them have their way, shrink, be nice, play nice. Look at any clique of high school or middle school girls and ask yourself are women really less competitive? Overall, I’d say women are more intelligent than men. We know more words, and how to use them. We’re able to multi-task and project outcomes to scenarios better. The difference, the only real difference, is that we’re vic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 12:43 PM
4

I mean, women didn’t really “choose” those things. There was no choice. You were a mother and a servant or you were nothing. Women were raised from infants with one goal in mind, be a good wife and mother. I wouldn’t call that a choice I’d call it socialization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 12:33 PM
55

Who on earth is trying to make Mariah hit the wall? The way reporters treat women celebs is consistently disgusting.
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