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| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1 | Dear Diary... | Dating After Divorce | Sine_Habitus | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/26 06:09 PM |
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| 7 | Title: Married 6 months ago, now I think my wife is a covert narcissist and no one believes me because she’s “the sweetest person.” How did you cope?Lost lots of friends. Rebuilding life as best that I can. Sorry. Better now than when you have a kid. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/26 08:36 AM |
| 1 | Anyone Feel Loneliness Even with a Solid FWB?Sorry brother | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/26 12:51 AM |
| 4 | Anhedonia is very presentThe void is your friend. You did a good job by posting even though you weren't sure there was a point to it. I was in a similar spot and my STBXW is trying to use that against me in court. I lost my job also. I was just burnt out. I'm still in the recovery phase, but it took me almost a year before I even felt like I had a "good day" and by good day I mean just not a bad day. For me, it is just a complete identity loss. I'm a baby again. I'm having to relearn everything. I want to be able to jus… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/26 06:36 PM |
| 2 | Anhedonia is very presentSame way that slaves got mad if someone ran away | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/26 06:00 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else having nightmares about having sex with her?To a lesser degree yes. My abuse was never physical and my flashbacks are limited to emotional flashbacks and nightmares. The way I understand dreams is that different parts of your brain are trying to understand the situation, so it just takes time. Look into lucid dreaming and try to steer your dreams in the right direction. Your body remember the sex. It remember the abuse. The linguistic and "conscious" part of your brain isn't the whole. So "you" can be aware of the divorce and abuse and de… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/26 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone went to back to having sex while separated ? How did it turn out ?Possibly she has some argument for court "but your honor, how could X, Y, Z be true if he slept with me?" | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/26 09:11 PM |
| 2 | What are the signsFor me it is a toxic situation -- but creating a narrative where I'm the one to blame, who is unwilling to work on the relationship, who is abusive (raised my arm in self-defense, yell and cussed in order to get her to not yell at me while I was in a work meeting because asking her politely did not work, etc); and other blame deflection. And then after that, just straight up refusing to give me eye contact for a month and then making changes (we were going to buy a house, but then she said we ne… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/26 05:04 PM |
| 3 | What was your part?I love you brother and I just want to say that if I met a doormat, that I would build them up to be their own person. I wouldn't use that for myself. I'm in a similar spot. I'm going to be more vocal about my needs in the future, but honestly in my relationship I was vocal about my needs and she just did not want to attend to them. She would much rather tell me that my problems were my own fault, that her problems were my own fault, and take advantage of my desire to fix problems and take blame … | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/26 09:05 PM |
| 2 | What was the thing that made you say you no longer love your wife?Because she has been the focus of my affection. I still care for her. Idk instinct? | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/26 09:54 AM |
| 4 | What was the thing that made you say you no longer love your wife?I still love her. I wish the best for her and I don't want to get back at her. I'm incredibly frustrated by her and I want nothing to do with her, but I love her. However, the straw the broke the camel's back was when she filed for divorce and was trying to use everything she could in order to limit my time with my kid. In my eyes, it is obvious that she is filled with hate and is in serious deniable about it, but I'm not going to not love her. I just don't want to interact with her. If I could … | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/26 01:51 AM |
| 5 | Couples therapy has been enlighteningGonna speak on my experience. I fear confrontation with my wife specifically. I'm fine with confronting people who aren't going to turn a slightly rude tone into a two hour argument while also bringing up everything I've ever done wrong and acting like I don't try around the house etc. Maybe I'm projecting too much of my relationship onto yours, but your therapist letting you know that your wife has said that she's never failed at anything could be a clue. You using the word gaslighting to descr… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/26 04:03 AM |
| 1 | Hard not talking to her missing her loving her thinking about her well being as a protector.I don't know what to really say other than when I journaled late one night talking about the good things that I missed, that night I had a nightmare where I remembered the absolutely unnecessary arguing and how horrible it felt to be manipulated and have my morals/provider instincts taken advantage of | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/26 12:55 AM |
| 1 | Was the divorce your fault?A year. I'm surviving and trying to figure out who the fuck I am after all of it. It's serious soul breaking. Like I don't want to date someone else, but I 100,000% do not want to try and win her back. She's run a smear campaign and all of that and is keeping me from my kid as much as she can. I got hyper-vigilant and I'm getting out of it to a good degree, but my trust in everything is pretty broken. But all that said, I'm surviving. I'm finding things to do and rebuilding my life, but I comple… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/26 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Was the divorce your fault?Sorry and similar story for me. I own my side but I would not say the divorce is my fault. Everyone has faults and I put up with hers just fine. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/04/26 07:07 PM |
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