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This is an international problem. Despite 100% proof my ex (video) my ex poured boiling water on me, they won't charge her.
/r/MensRights06/01/21 02:42 PM
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Fully agree. Not only in the original Ant-Man does show two dad's being caring and only wanting to protect Cassie (not to mention Paxton truly caring that Scott stays good for his daughter), but in Ant-Man 2? The way Maggie and Paxton accept that Scott was a SUPERHERO. They truly think he did nothing wrong and aren't holding Cassie back.
/r/MensRights30/12/20 02:42 PM
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I'm sorry, and they should.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/20 01:45 AM
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Usually women have more friends to talk to, whereas men are more likely to write about it on an anonymous forum like Reddit. Even more so, Toxic men are probably abusing the women, and they can get help, therapy, etc. edit: Have a lot more resources then men have, at least in the US. Men married to the toxic women are often trapped, especially if they have kids. For me, my ex (btw, sounds like we were married to twins) burned every bridge I had. Church groups, gaming groups, even the guild I was…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/20 08:11 PM
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Ty. At 211 likes, 33k dislikes as I saw it.
/r/MensRights22/12/20 10:11 AM
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Careful I was told.something eerily similar to this by an officer.
/r/MensRights16/12/20 03:05 PM
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You aren't alone. My ex torpedoed a 17 year relationship/14 year marriage by jumping in the vodka and vicodin bottle and not coming out, no matter how hard I tried. She got to party, shop, in and out of rehab, and do whatever she wanted. I put up with literal hell until the day she hit my son. She moved back home and kept telling us how much better she was without us. Even when she fell again, over and over, people were there to help her. Me? No one I didn't have to pay. No family, no friends no…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/20 07:51 PM
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This is the kind of stuff I was told when I tried to get help. I had a detective tell me to my face I should have just hit her back. My son responded with "why, so you could arrest him?" That experience played a large part in his suicide planning.
/r/MensRights07/12/20 07:44 PM
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Tons of sane people and Leo's think men cant be raped. Look up the Duluth Model.
/r/MensRights07/12/20 03:24 AM
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So what about unemployed men affected by Covid? What are they getting? Can they apply?
/r/MensRights17/11/20 01:27 PM
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Can't comment, haven't used a urinal since a baseball game in my late teens where a drunk guy turned to talk to his friend, who was on the other side of me, mid stream.
/r/MensRights12/11/20 04:46 PM
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Should we use our energy to ensure the Duluth Model and other societal systems that cause abuse against men to be mocked and ignored? Yes. Does that mean we shouldn't be mad at abusers? No.
/r/MensRights10/11/20 03:18 PM
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My dude... I was just hired by a female to lead an all female team. I have my concerns. I have no idea why they chose me, other than I've been a bulldog for years barking at various departments to make changes. I was originally hired as a teammate (their first male teammate in years), but now asked to be manager. My team supports me and I support them. I am their sword and shield, something they haven't had. but the concern I always have is... what happens if i say something wrong.
/r/MensRights05/11/20 02:09 PM
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Just throwing this out there: Leave no record of it if you do. Depending on local/state laws a separation does not stop it from becoming adultery. When going through my divorce, my lawyer advised me that "separation" doesn't technically exist, so any sexual activity could be considered adultery. Southern US state in the bible belt. /sigh. You do you, just be careful man.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/20 02:50 PM
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So you wouldn't play Horizon: Zero Dawn because of a female lead?
/r/MensRights20/10/20 07:04 PM
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Always: sex offender status, public apology, prison time, monetary damages, no contact order. First offense is 3 months. Second offense is a year. Third strike life.
/r/MensRights19/10/20 10:10 PM
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Okay honest opinion people - do ftm also belong here? Edit: I think they do. Edit 2: thanks guys. I asked because my son is ftm. Even in middle school, they are preaching anti man hate and it was hurting him. The "Dad I know I am a boy but they say only women matter in families" discussion happened. I had the school change his teacher after that. I love living here but sometimes... fuck the bible belt.
/r/MensRights10/10/20 08:56 PM
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Yes... which is why it is a myth....
/r/MensRights09/10/20 01:30 AM
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Men’s use of violence against women is learned and reinforced through many social, cultural and institutional experiences. Women’s use of violence does not have the same kind of societal support. https://www.theduluthmodel.org/what-is-the-duluth-model/frequently-asked-questions/
/r/MensRights08/10/20 01:36 PM
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Because I'm a man who holds power in the relationship, therefore any violence would be my fault. The Duluth Model is the reason. https://www.theduluthmodel.org/what-is-the-duluth-model/frequently-asked-questions/
/r/MensRights24/09/20 07:20 PM
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Will do. My son comes first, but since he's stable... time for me to find some help.
/r/MensRights24/09/20 01:03 PM
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Never. My son needs a suitable parent. I won't give up.
/r/MensRights24/09/20 12:27 PM
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This is what my wife did. My son even filmed it. Police didnt care. "She was just drunk hahahaha".
/r/MensRights24/09/20 09:16 AM
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Don't hate on yourself. There are literally hundreds of thousands of us that are waking up to how bad this truly is. I was left with a deformation because mine was botched. It helped lead to me being a "grower not a shower", which was really helpful in high school locker rooms.
/r/MensRights21/09/20 07:36 PM
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Interesting. Title IX applies to K-12 schools too, right? I'm about over it with one of my son's teachers. He's in 7th grade, and she's full on feminist. Every assignment has been from a woman's perspective, and when I asked how about some books written by men or about male experiences (like Hatchet or Ender's Game), I was politely told that male perspective doesn't matter, because of male priveledge. That that would teach nothing but how to use violence to solve problems. And my favorite. This …
/r/MensRights21/09/20 06:42 PM
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Thank you, sincerely. I hope you find that this sub truly wants equality. If you need a male DA survivor from the US, as long as my real name is anonymous I would be willing to help. Where I am in the US, not only is there no shelters for men, but the police don't care even if you have evidence, including full on video with the woman taunting the camera.
/r/MensRights21/09/20 05:57 PM
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Whoa wait, what changed with Title IX?
/r/MensRights21/09/20 05:01 PM
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Include abusive marriages and that number skyrockets.
/r/MensRights18/09/20 07:45 PM
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I'm torn. There's a chance I could have saved so much pain and heartache... But if I'm true to myself, as he gets older... I would never have had the joy and privilege of raising my son.
/r/MensRights11/09/20 10:30 PM
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I should write a book about how unfair the legal system is to men, and how now I have a fear of being alone with women (even if it's a business meeting). How local policies on domestic violence literally let my (now ex) wife take my son away from me, even though she was three sheets to the wind and my son (8 at the time) was screaming at the cops no. Then came back a week later because her mom wouldn't let her drink. How when she dislocated my shoulder on purpose (and on video, courtesy of my so…
/r/MensRights10/09/20 06:52 PM
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Does this mean I can start napping in the Nursing Rooms then? One rocker, dimmable lights, fridge to hide a drink... /s obviously
/r/MensRights09/09/20 10:24 PM
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Good job man! Mine was 15 years in. Bedroom was already dead but we were "socialites" so we had to maintain the look of a proper family. Then she had a switch flip and went from "slightly controlling" to "narcissistic abusive alcoholic asshole". Didn't work, wasted all our money, kept falling deeper and deeper into the bottle. One day she finally did something thta hurt my kid physically and emotionally. She hasn't set foot back in this house for just about 2 years. Now we are nearing the end of…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/20 05:58 PM
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Hang in there bud. You may feel melancholy and even want to allow her back in, but stay strong. The feeling of liberation after the funk is amazing. At this point: 1) Record / Document all interactions 2) Keep your lawyer updated with anything she does. 3) Don't alienate your kids or talk bad about her in front of them. Courts lap that up.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/20 05:21 PM
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You forgot the Duluth Model https://www.theduluthmodel.org/what-is-the-duluth-model/frequently-asked-questions/
/r/MensRights06/09/20 09:21 PM
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Don't get me started on Male Agression and "The Duluth Model"... And it is all about power. The whole thing is the "power and control" wheel.
/r/MensRights02/09/20 07:51 PM
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This was one of the big arguments I had that led to my original username being completely bombed (hence this account less than a few months old). The thread was on relationship advice and surrounding whether it was appropriate for a stay at home mom to do no chores. That the wife watched the kids all day, so therefore didn't need to do help out with the cleaning, vacuuming, laundry, etc. And that the husband, no matter how many hours he worked, should come home and relieve the wife while doing a…
/r/MensRights02/09/20 06:08 PM
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Mississippi does not mandate mediation, but it's highly recommended. The "joint filing" divorce is much cheaper and easier than a single party filing for cause. Still should have done this 60k and 2 years ago.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/20 12:43 PM
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Legally yes. But you have to work with people. People with power. When you have a cop look in your eye and tell you you are powerless, you dont fuck around.
/r/MensRights24/08/20 10:47 PM
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I don't know if we can in the current culture, and it scares the shit out of me. I was told by numerous officers that if I laid a hand on my wife I would be arrested. Yet she (while drunk) pulled my arm out of socket intentionally, while my son filmed (towards the end he whipped out his camera whenever she started screaming). He called the cops. Cops came. Told her to sleep it off and told me if I wanted to press charges, they would take me too because she claimed it was "defensive". The video w…
/r/MensRights24/08/20 01:52 PM
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Hey buddy - I've been there, done that. It was especially bad before my son (ftm) started his transition. Dad, alone, shopping with a little girl? That's obviously a stranger danger situation. I've had security guards approach us and ask her if she knew me. I've had store workers try to physically seperate us to "help" her. Even now that he's older and a he, I still get the occasional question of "oh where's mom ha ha". Well his mom isn't there because she chose to bang whoever she chose, get dr…
/r/MensRights24/08/20 01:27 PM
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I've been called misogynist multiple times lately because I refuse to jump back into the dating pool. I have a literal and diagnosed fear of intimacy with women after my last marriage. The fact that someone, while drunk to the point she can't stand can take a child out of the home while police say "your the man, you interfere your arrested" scares me. Add the fact she planned an assault /kidnapping and the DA sluffed it off as "she was drunk. She didnt actually do it. It was a hormonal woman". A…
/r/MensRights22/08/20 11:33 AM
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No one give a shit what people say it do in a divorce they are not a party to. Yes they do, and they take sides.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/20 02:33 PM
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I have so many negative interactions with cops involving my ex-wife. And one positive that saved my life. Blame the Duluth Model.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/20 06:40 PM
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It seems to be the only way nowadays. My son recorded all my ex-wife's rants after the first time she called the cops on me. Because I wouldn't go buy her more liquor.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/20 03:19 PM
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Just remember: Document everything. Don't take the bait when she verbally assaults you. Don't give in to the anger or hate. Contact a lawyer. If she wants you out of the house, don't leave. The big one - Watch out for fake Domestic Violence or Child Abuse accusations. This is a tactic that is shared in "women who want out of marriage" groups.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/20 02:34 PM
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The use of the Duluth Model needs to end. Pure and simple. Get rid of it. Stop allowing it to be taught, stop allowing it to be used as the basis for LEO training and policy.
/r/MensRights31/07/20 06:20 PM
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This doesn't just happen to one race in ms. The system here is fucked up.
/r/MensRights31/07/20 08:36 AM
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This is the biggest thing I think the mods need to be more careful about here. This sub is for equality, and even though I'm the victim of the some of the radical policies (via the Duluth Model), not all women are bad. Just like all men aren't abusers, all <insert religion, color of skin, gender, etc> aren't <insert all the stereotypes>.
/r/MensRights22/07/20 05:28 PM
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I was about ready to hit you with the ole "In the US, no states require spousal consent". But then I saw that some states have laws protecting doctors who refuse to do this without it. Total BS.
/r/MensRights22/07/20 05:17 PM
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Proven wrong that it was specifically driven by actions taken by his mother. I should have been more specific. editing to make a bit clearer: His mom did something extremely wrong to both of us. It left us both with PTSD, depression, and high anxiety. At one point I almost lost him to suicide. Through a LOT of therapy we've gotten through everything. Att first I thought his dysphoria was more of a "I am not my mother, i am a male" kind of thing. Stupid for me to assume but hey, I had no experien…
/r/MensRights20/07/20 12:18 PM
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12, and I call him he after a barrage of what som say is unfair therapy. I was on the "this is anti-mom" side of the debate. I thought this was psychological. I was proven wrong by experts in both psychology and medical fields. I support him because he put up with my bullshit of testing. I know I am the ass here.
/r/MensRights20/07/20 02:26 AM
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This is why my son's (ftm) doctor and therapist agree that he needs to wait for any hormone treatment and beyond. Kids can't make that decision. And parents definitely can't make it for them. I support him all I can but I am damn sure going to listen to experts over him while he's under 18.
/r/MensRights19/07/20 12:29 PM
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Hey same here. Ex wife two turned out to be a narcissist nut bag who was taught about the duluth model in one of her inpatient rehabs. Once she tested her theory that she didn't actually have to be hurt for the cops to beleive her, I was under her control, until she dug herself a hole too deep and I got me and my son out.
/r/MensRights16/07/20 05:55 PM
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At least for domestic crimes, it's The Duluth Model. I am not saying I agree with it. I think it needs to be replaced. But that model can be used for all crimes. "Women only do it because they have to, women can't be naturally violent" etc etc.
/r/MensRights16/07/20 05:37 PM
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Replace wine with Vodka and there you have my ex wife. Never thought I would have so much in common with a celebrity.
/r/MensRights10/07/20 06:37 PM
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You know, I can't believe I'm saying this but... It might be wise for men to start carrying ziplocs in their wallets with the condoms. Don't just use a condom and leave it in the wastebasket. Put it in a ziploc and take it with you, throw it away at home.
/r/MensRights10/07/20 05:16 PM
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Not just ignored by feminists, ignored by the Police, the Courts, etc. I know there are more "studies" out there but at least in the US, I full out blame The Duluth Model. I have personal experience as a victim of this model. I almost lost my entire life because a woman (ex wife) accused me of abusing her. After one of her stints in rehab, she came back with a whole new attitude. She had gotten a copy of the Power and Control wheels, and the Duluth Model documentation. She flaunted that she coul…
/r/MensRights08/07/20 07:21 PM
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It's not just attractive women. My ex wife to this day thinks that her behavior (calling the police when our son refused to hug her (she was drunk), actively broke my shoulder on video, planning an assault and kidnapping with an old boyfriend, actively trying to kill us on an interstate by grabbing the e-brake and wheel) was totally fine and I just need to get over it. As does my son, who refuses to hold a conversation with her. She drove him to almost committing suicide. She got away with EVERY…
/r/MensRights07/07/20 01:36 PM
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Hooray and congratz!
/r/MensRights07/07/20 12:54 PM
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Tagging in to include research into the Duluth Model. Currently in a meeting so can't link. Read the FAQ on their page and search for the originators current thoughts on the model.
/r/MensRights06/07/20 11:30 PM
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I honestly think my account was hit by that same thread you're discussing (hence my account newness). At any rate, you've hit the nail on the head. There needs to be a major change in how sexual assault and violence are handled from the courts end. There has to be a way for everyone to be treated equally.
/r/MensRights06/07/20 07:58 PM
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You aren't the only one. You are a survivor and I'm proud of your. /signed, another ignored soul. Years of abuse by an aunt, no one cared.
/r/MensRights06/07/20 01:21 PM
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My former account was banned because i pointed out there were no men's shelters available to me when my ex was abusing me. I was told men can't get abused, that it must have been my fault, my account banned, and I watched as people down voted my previous posts to the basement calling me a liar. This sub isn't hate. Reddit, in itself, is an echo chamber of hate.
/r/MensRights06/07/20 01:17 PM
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The Duluth Model. Look at the wiki and then their FAQ page. It's used by LEO all around the world. Basically says all men are hardwired to use violence to establish power over women. Women aren't naturally capable of violence, and only use it when they are abused. Therefore, if a woman abuses a man, say re breaks his healing shoulder, and then calls the cops crying, the man gets arrested unless he has a camera that caught what happened. And even then they make sure you know if they come out agai…
/r/MensRights04/07/20 04:52 PM
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The words did not actually hurt me because I'm a bit used to the slander thrown around from both parties during our argument You know, I was focusing on the "I'm just used to you", but then re-read before responding and caught this. This is a concern. It sounds like your numb to it, and maybe her "i'm just used to you" comment is a reflection of the "whatever it's what we do" feeling. Either way, I think you need marriage counseling, and that's not a bad thing. You both need to see if you are on…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/20 12:55 PM
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No. But I made the mistake of mentioning in a relations advice thread that there were no male DV shelters and linking the Duluth Model FAQ page. Apparently they traced my posts back and started hating and reporting on past posts too. That led to hundreds of PM's and reports calling me an incel and worse and then boom, gone. ​ Welcome to Reddit :/
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/20 01:23 PM
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Jesus... I'm sorry. This is exactly the minefield i am trying to avoid. So sorry mate.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/20 01:20 PM
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Oof, glad you dodged that bullet. Everything is documented. And you know, that's how she destroyed my support system. Behind my back slowly started telling "her best friends" those same things. Then some people at church. Then her family, then mine. Slow, progressive, destruction of character.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/20 01:17 PM
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Understood, thank you. And the Duluth Model... the more I look into that... ugh. First mention I've heard of the DAVA act. Will add that to my research stack.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/20 01:13 PM
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Fortunately we record everything over phone (prefer text or email). Not sure if/when there will be another face to face, but a camera will be on. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/20 01:12 PM
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