SirJCurt Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Women are Not Entitled to Men's Credulity towards their "Lived Experiences" and Self-Reports Regarding Dating, Men, etc. The core problem is that this treats "women's lived experiences" and broad claims about men as the same thing. They aren't. A woman can honestly describe something that happened to her without that automatically proving a sweeping claim about male behavior. Where skepticism is justified is when personal experiences, surveys, or highly interpretive studies get turned into claims about men as a class. Those claims should be judged by the evidence, methodology, and whether people's actual behavior …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/26 06:49 PM
1	The market isn’t that bad. It’s something else happening. I think you're separating two things that are actually connected. The market is what fuels a lot of that apathy. When people feel like they have endless alternatives, they're less likely to invest, more willing to move on, and less concerned about losing someone. The indifference you're describing isn't separate from the dating market—it's one of its biggest effects.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/26 06:41 PM
1	How can men be sexualy attracted to their past prime wives? Physical attraction often changes over time, but it doesn't disappear the moment someone ages. Long-term attraction is usually a combination of physical attraction, familiarity, emotional connection, shared history, and desire. Most men still prefer youth in the abstract, but that doesn't mean they instantly stop finding the woman they've loved for years attractive. Those aren't mutually exclusive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 11:26 PM
–	The Selectors Trying to Minimize the Privilege of Being the Selectors The weird part is people treat "having to filter" like it's the opposite of privilege when it's literally a privilege created by having options. Nobody is saying bad dates don't suck. The point is that those problems only exist after someone wanted to date you in the first place. If someone gets no matches, no interest, and no opportunities, they don't even get to the filtering stage. Those aren't equivalent experiences, no matter how much people try to flatten them into "everyone has it equally…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 04:58 PM
1	Some women are avoiding relationships because of social anxiety Social anxiety probably explains some cases, but it doesn't explain the broader trend. Women aren't avoiding men entirely. They're still on dating apps, still talking about men, and still looking for relationships. The bigger issue seems to be that many women don't find enough men attractive enough to pursue, not that they're too anxious to pursue men they actually want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 06:27 AM
1	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. Part of the problem is treating women as a group with one set of rules. Different women want different things, so if you listen to every opinion online and try to combine them into one blueprint, it ends up sounding contradictory. Most of the traits you listed aren't actually opposites. Being strong doesn't mean emotionless. Being vulnerable doesn't mean emotionally unstable. Having standards doesn't mean controlling. Prioritizing your partner doesn't mean making them the center of your universe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 05:45 PM
1	The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about. The issue usually isn't entitlement, it's what the difference appears to mean. If someone eagerly wanted something with a past partner but has no interest in it with their current one, it's understandable to wonder whether the level of desire or investment is the same. Nobody is owed anything, but people are allowed to pay attention to enthusiasm and decide whether the relationship is right for them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/26 06:14 PM
–	What is the future of gendered belief systems? I think these belief systems rise when men and women feel disconnected, distrustful, and frustrated with dating or family life. They can spread for a while, but I doubt permanent gender hostility wins long term because most people still want love, family, intimacy, and connection. What likely happens is a cycle. Resentment grows, the social costs become obvious, then people start craving balance again. A lot of these spaces are also symptoms, not just causes. People usually experience frustratio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/26 11:35 PM
1	“Men would love to be sexually objectified” That framing is a bait-and-switch. Men usually mean they would like to be desired, noticed, and sexually wanted without having to earn every ounce of attention. That is not the same as being grabbed, harassed at work, or treated like they have no boundaries. Nobody is defending that. The point is that men are comparing female sexual visibility to male invisibility, and instead of addressing that, the argument runs to the worst possible version of objectification to shut the conversation down.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/26 10:47 PM
1	Women can’t sit here and say that only men benefit in a marriage and still continue to marry them. Women definitely shouldnt keep saying marriage mainly benefits men while also getting upset when men question it. That does not add up. If marriage were really such a bad deal for women, women should be the main ones telling men not to bother. Instead, many still defend it, still want it, and still get irritated when a man says he can live without it. That alone shows it clearly offers women something too, whether that is security, status, emotional reassurance, legal protection, or social valid…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/26 02:57 PM
–	The best relationships are when the women likes him more The best relationships usually work when the woman likes the man a little more. Not saying date someone you don’t want—just that it’s a better dynamic when she’s slightly more invested and eager, while he stays relaxed. Men usually don’t need a long checklist, women do, so it works better when she’s the one pushing things forward instead of him chasing. That balance cuts out a lot of stress and makes the relationship more stable long term.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 10:27 AM
1	It is not society’s fault that there are men who dont know the difference between casual sex and a relationship. Men generally know this though, especially if they arent still in their teens.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/26 04:47 AM
0	Can women truly love? They can but superficial reasons will come first.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 10:22 AM
3	Do you feel any empathy for men? I can kind of believe they do, would mostly be for the men they know well though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/26 11:12 PM
3	Self-centered men just can't handle the change that comes with having kids Let's not pretend like self-centered women are any better for this. Either sex needs to be selfless, when it comes to this. This is of course if they plan to be either good or great at the job.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 07:19 AM
1	Do women really sleep with the “hot guys” first and marry the average ones later? Im certain women do this for sure, especially if they are into hookups.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/26 09:46 PM
–	Women Are Completely Fine With Admitting that they are a Monolith - Provided that the Generalization is not Unflattering Makes sense, since everyone loves being compared with the best of things, so not much fight will be had with compliments. Which is why most will only be flattered if its good but not accurate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/26 02:03 AM
1	Being hookup/FWB material is better than being husband material. If I had to be seen as one, it would definitely be the hookup guy. Since being called husband material sounds like such a slight. Unless she says I can easily do both.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/26 09:51 PM