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I think we both agree bad men exist, where I push back a little is exactly how prevalent it is. For one, the “women are property” era is definitely over, at least in the civilized world. The only people who had firsthand experience of TRUE institutional sexism are in nursing homes. The informal boys club culture exists in certain places, and some guys have had attitudes, but if you live in the west you’ve had legal equality for decades. As for sexist language, how much of that is truly sexism an…
/r/MensRights25/12/25 01:20 AM
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I’m sure there ARE real misogynists out there. I’ve met a handful of genuine assholes in my life, they exist. But I’m also sure that these misogynists are not mainstream enough to matter, at least on a group level. I’d imagine your average woman encounters them every so often, and I’m sure it’s very memorable when they do. The problem comes when she goes on to assume that all men are like that when in reality it’s a vanishingly small minority, and most normal guys are decent if not genuinely nic…
/r/MensRights24/12/25 11:36 PM
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I used to be generally center-left politically. I still hold somewhat lefty opinions on social safety nets, public healthcare, gay marriage, and so on… I still hold those opinions, but now, if I were American, I’d happily wear a MAGA hat. The reason? The left has completely jumped the shark and turned into a hate movement. Despite my issues with his policy, Trump is actually more in line with my personal values.
/r/MensRights26/08/25 02:15 AM
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Men aren’t “entitled” to sex, just as we aren’t entitled to love, affection, exclusivity, or any form of reciprocity from a woman we’re into. But likewise, you don’t have to stick around and beg for table scraps of affection from someone who clearly resents you, or at the very least doesn’t value the relationship the same way you do. Don’t settle. Find a decent woman.
/r/MensRights14/08/25 06:06 PM
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Sounds like a reasonable worry to have, unfortunately if that’s not properly communicated it could lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. It’s a tricky hurdle to navigate.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 09:24 PM
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If you’re having ethical casual sex, it’s important that both participants are on the same page. IMO, “being used” implies there’s some level of deception going on. Like, if one person just wants to hook up, but tells the other that they’re interested in a committed relationship down the road, when they wouldn’t otherwise want to hook up casually then that’s a little scummy. So in that case, the guy being used for sex wouldn’t necessarily know they’re being used.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 09:21 PM
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I’ve heard anecdotes online where women who were promiscuous with former partners meet a guy they see longer term potential with, and they’ll hold off on sex. Often, it results in the guy feeling used. Eg: “does she even like me? Or does she just see me as an ATM?”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 09:06 PM
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Men can be “used” in all sorts of ways. For money, for status, validation, emotional support, and yes, even for sex. Granted it’s pretty rare for a man to be used purely for sex, unless he’s just unreasonably hot, but it’s still a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 09:02 PM
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It’s “Safe Horny.” It’s considered misogynistic by online weirdos to want to dom a woman, or even express attraction to a woman in a conventional way. It’s more acceptable for men, at least online, to be thirsty in a strictly submissive way. Hence all the “dommy mommy step on me” stuff. It’s kind of necessary if you want to be horny online but don’t want to get canceled.
/r/MensRights05/06/25 03:47 PM
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Teratophilia. It’s a thing, and more common in ladies than it is in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 11:52 PM
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As I understand it, Dad Bod is muscle + fat. Which is different than a trim muscular build with low fat, or a less appealing pure fat build. The muscle makes it hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 11:56 AM
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Not surprising. Predators (of both sexes) often turn to activism to mask their activities. Not sure if it’s projection, a strategy to evade suspicion, or just a way of securing access to vulnerable people, but it’s definitely a thing.
/r/MensRights26/04/25 05:07 PM
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I judge a leader on their competence, not their appearance.
/r/MensRights06/03/25 08:45 AM
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As a bonus, if you can prove the guy was in the mental hospital and had no access to the computer when the CP was obtained and the vindictive girlfriend did, she will have some serious questions to answer. Not only for manufacturing evidence to frame him, but also for accessing the stuff to frame him in the first place. That said, it’s also possible she never even found CP in the first place. It’s kind of hard to come across that stuff in the wild, unless you’re heavily involved in the right (or…
/r/MensRights13/01/25 05:00 PM
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My ex with BPD wasn’t crazy right away. She was loving and affectionate during the initial stages of the relationship and only turned into a rampaging she-devil later on.
/r/MensRights02/01/25 06:30 PM
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I hold the door for both men and women. That’s my solution to the “special treatment” issue.
/r/MensRights31/12/24 05:04 PM
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For makeup, I think it generally looks good. It can be overdone, but it’s almost always a benefit to your appearance than a bad thing. Just a tiny bit of eyeliner makes a huge difference. It’s hardly mandatory though, girls shouldn’t feel obligated to wear makeup either. For cosmetic surgery. I don’t mind, in theory. It’s no more “fake” than dying your hair. But there are lots of examples of cosmetic surgery and Botox atrocities out there that make previously good looking girls into freakish ali…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 05:05 PM
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The question of "what is human" is the premise of a good chunk of dystopian cyberpunk sci-fi, and part of what makes it so fascinating as a theme, is how ambiguous the answer becomes when you think about it. On extreme ends, it's easy to answer, I'm a person, my coffee maker is not, but it's hard to know where the line between man and machine begins. Is a person not a person if their brain is made of silicon, rather than meat? Can a robot have a soul? If having a soul is what makes you a person,…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 10:47 PM
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The porn sites already harvest your data, so I'm not sure what your government issued android GF would know that your browser history doesn't already tell them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 10:49 AM
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Sounds like a good question for a speculative sci-fi subreddit, not a dating debate one. My take is, if the Ai is sufficiently good that I'm unable to tell the difference between her and a normal human, then what exactly is the difference between an AI and a human? The human body is, itself, a natural machine, and the information that makes up your entire personality is contained within the configuration of your brain's neurons. Theoretically, with a high enough level of sophistication, an AI co…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 10:47 AM
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Dude, you’re right. The OP’s issue is absolutely one that open and calm discussion on the specific issues would solve. Plus, from the way she’s turning to an echo chamber to validate her opinions, his criticism is well warranted. These girls downvoting your attempts to encourage reconciliation are crabs in the bucket tearing each other down whenever one climbs too high. I’ve noticed petty women have a subconscious drive to ruin other women’s relationships. I have a theory there’s, like, some kin…
/r/MensRights20/12/24 05:36 PM
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“Entitled to protection” and “Entitled to human decency” is a false equivalency. The latter is just basic human decency while the former implies a man should risk his safety to protect a woman during a crisis. Two very different situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 01:13 PM
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If that's the case, then that makes it an even stronger piece of evidence for anti-male bias being a stronger factor here than sexism or racism.
/r/MensRights14/12/24 11:21 PM
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I… don’t think that’s a controversial stance to have? Not too many guys on here legitimately entertaining the thought of taking away women’s right to vote. My guess is it’s a labelling issue, or the context in which you brought it up. “Feminism” is a bad word here, because a lot of what guys see from feminists these days is just pure misandry wearing a mask of progressivism. There will be some pushback on the use of the word. Personally I just tell people I believe in “equality of opportunity.” …
/r/MensRights12/12/24 07:41 PM
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Are you sure about that? I’m fairly left leaning, but I have yet to be attacked by anyone for my political stance on stuff. Most people who comment here seem to operate in good faith. Honestly this subreddit seems mostly apolitical, (outside of stuff that pertains to men’s issues obviously). It’s definitely not a left wing echo chamber like the rest of Reddit has become, so maybe it just feels right wing by comparison.
/r/MensRights12/12/24 07:14 PM
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Clever. I'd normally appreciate his choice to take advantage of absurd laws for his own benefit but... Those exams are there for a reason. Fire fighting is already extremely dangerous work, and it becomes that much more dangerous if one or more of the team can't pull their own weight. Making a mistake on the job not only costs your own life, but the lives of other firefighters, and likely whoever they were trying to save. IMO, there should be only one set of standards, high standards that both m…
/r/MensRights12/12/24 11:38 AM
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Bad boys are also dangerous, (usually physically, but also with influence) and are often able to demonstrate some level of competence at what they do. It’s not just about confidence, it’s about the whole toxic dark triad package. The reason why “fake it till you make it,” is still good advice is that many guys are actually decent catches. They’re not Chad, never will be, but they’re usually better than they think they are. They just suck at showing their good side to ladypeople, or get so caught…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 07:09 PM
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I’m convinced reasonable people don’t say this. If someone does say this, and they mean it, you can safely disregard their opinion. Originally, I believe the phrase was used in the abortion debate, and in that context it’s just a blatantly bad take. I’m pro-choice, because life is complicated and I think people need options, but my catholic family are pro-life and their perfectly valid argument is about protecting life in the womb. The difference in opinion is at its core the question of whether…
/r/MensRights07/12/24 06:42 PM
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Yeah, that’s fair. Personally, I believe a lot of what feminists believe: that men and women deserve fair treatment, equal opportunities, and the right to live life as they please without being forced to conform to any specific gender role. The problem is feminism has sort of morphed away from equal rights advocacy to a weird, anti-male hate group and I just can’t abide that. I’ll also add, that while individual people should have the freedom to reject traditional gender roles, I also think they…
/r/MensRights05/12/24 11:27 PM
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Funny idea but I would encourage guys not to wait before breaking up a toxic relationship. The longer you let it go, the more hooks she can get into you. What you should do instead is order your ex flowers, with a nice card saying how much you still don’t regret dumping her and how much your life has improved without her around.
/r/MensRights05/12/24 10:37 PM
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I have trouble believing the theory that The Patriarchy even exists. Certainly, sexists are a thing, and there are inequities in society. I just don’t believe that blaming men for all the evils of the world is a fair thing to do. Patriarchy is a gendered term, and to blame all social problems facing women and men on The Patirachy is to necessarily believe that only men can be villains. There cannot be a female “patriarch.” Case in point, the reason why men can’t show emotion publicly has more to…
/r/MensRights05/12/24 10:18 PM
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Patriarchy is a gendered term, as only men can be “patriarchs.” Blaming the patriarchy necessarily means that no woman can be held responsible for what allegedly happened to this boy, and that includes the rapist. Toxic feminists claim it’s men who “put women on a pedestal,” not realizing that they themselves are guilty of that same bias. If The Patriarchy is the sole source of all social ills in the world then even individual women are inherently blameless in all things by virtue of their sex a…
/r/MensRights04/12/24 05:12 PM
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It's tricky because rape is hard to prove, so there are real cases of victims not being believed. I don't believe the feminists are making that up. After likely having their character assassinated on the stand and watching their abusers walking free, to then hit them with prison time for "making a false allegation" is just too cruel. That's why I think "false allegations" are too broad of a thing to police. What should be criminalized is "malicious false accusation." Not only does an accuser nee…
/r/MensRights03/12/24 01:27 PM
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Meeting violence with violence is hardly “sociopathic” behaviour.
/r/MensRights02/12/24 07:18 PM
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That's all fine, but I disagree on what is actually causing the oppression that men are supposed to liberate themselves from. For one, I've never seen any evidence that a so-called Patriarchy even exists. Men as a class, do not have any special privileges women do not, and a compelling argument could be made that the opposite is true. Women are given preferential treatment in the legal system, in hiring, in university admission, in pop culture, and they're just treated better in general. The pay…
/r/MensRights01/12/24 12:01 PM
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I agree men are part of the problem. The term "toxic masculinity" is so broadly applied these days, it's practically meaningless, but there is some truth to it, or at least to what it used to mean. Men shouldn't allow themselves to fall into unhealthy feedback loops of insecurity and overcompensation for the sake of attaining some impossible standard of masculinity. They should be given the space to pursue what brings them happiness, even if it's not as macho as what the Chad next door does. The…
/r/MensRights01/12/24 12:02 AM
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Reminds me of an interesting observation I made a while ago, regarding racism. In the late 2000s, early 2010s, I strongly believe western society was far less racist than it is right now, at least where I live. As a millennial, I was raised to "not judge a man based on the color of his skin, but the content of his character," and it's so ingrained in me, that it's just common sense. Some racism was always there, but it wasn't mainstream. There was some sensitivity about what sort of jokes were a…
/r/MensRights30/11/24 11:44 PM
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It’s not a Matriarchy, as that would imply there’s at least some degree of benevolent sexism in the mix. In realty men are seen with utter contempt. They are not people to be led by a wise female leader, they are monsters to be shunned or worker drones to be exploited, barely people at all.
/r/MensRights30/11/24 08:37 PM
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Seems pretty easy to falsify to me. The problem is, when evidence is provided, it gets ignored due to cognitive dissonance.
/r/MensRights30/11/24 08:34 PM
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Maybe I’m just not part of those echo chambers, but I have literally never heard a guy say the words “your body my choice.” I’ve only seen those words in posts from feminists responding to made up strawmen. Regardless, I actually like seeing this stuff on Bluesky. It’s a “mask-off” moment, showing what these sexists are really like when they feel they can speak without restraint. It’s intensely validating to know that such blatant misandry is real, and that we’re not just imagining it. Sometimes…
/r/MensRights30/11/24 08:32 PM
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The problem of referring to the issue of oppressive gender roles as “Patriarchy” is that it implies men created this state of affairs, and that we are the ones perpetuating it. In reality, women are just as much to blame in this as men. You can see examples of this clearly in minor things, like the expectation that men will provide and pay for dates, even when young women are now making more money than young men. Another is the implication that men are always the domestic abusers and never the a…
/r/MensRights30/11/24 08:25 PM
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I hadn’t considered it before now, but… what’s going to happen to Taiwanese women when China invades? With the male population in the state they are, it’s gonna be gruesome, like a sequel to the Nanjing massacre except with China turning on its own people.
/r/MensRights22/11/24 08:53 PM
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That's a sad story, and I've heard of plenty of others like it. "Parental Alienation" is the keyword to look up. I'd also suggest this is the sort of story your girlfriends need to hear too, not just guys. Not to say there aren't plenty of guys here, happy that you acknowledge their hardships, but I think this sort of conversation needs to happen on the other side of the fence too. In the more female-dominated and left-leaning social media spaces especially, there are a good number of people tha…
/r/MensRights21/11/24 07:08 AM
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I dunno... Europe got pretty fucked up during WW2, with way more death and destruction on both sides, but it's doing okay now. Ukraine isn't "over" but the next decade at least is going to be rough.
/r/MensRights06/11/24 11:24 AM
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Female fight club… seriously? If you change the sex of literally any of the characters the entire film stops making sense. At its core, the story is about masculinity. In the opening scene, Bob has tits, and he’s crying in a support group with the Narrator because he literally lost his balls. The Narrator is crying because he’s figuratively lost his balls. The subtext couldn’t be any more obvious.
/r/MensRights29/10/24 05:33 PM
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Personalities are not immutable. If I was a woman, I’d have had a different childhood growing up and lower testosterone as an adult, both of which would have led a female version of me to become a different person than I am now. That said, if my current personality were transported into a female body, I’d probably fit the “modern woman” label better than the “tradwife” one. Assuming my female body liked men, I might end up enjoying the traditional housewife role, but it would be hard to convince…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 04:57 PM
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I’m pro choice and economically left-leaning, (not a socialist but I believe free markets require active regulation to remain free) But if I was American I would compromise on all that and be a hat wearing Trump supporter simply because he seems to hate men slightly less than the Dems do.
/r/MensRights29/10/24 01:29 AM
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It's plausible to me that boys, on average, could be rowdier and harder to control in a classroom, especially once the hormones kick in during adolescence. But, even if we assume this is true, treating ALL boys as though they were more prone to causing disruptions in class than ALL girls is not only unfair, but fundamentally wrong, based on a flawed understanding of basic statistical variance. Even if the average difference between the sexes was very large, there would still be a notable subset …
/r/MensRights23/10/24 09:53 PM
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Humanity needs women because we would die out as a species if we couldn't reproduce. Aside from babymaking, there is nothing else we strictly NEED women for. Everything else could be done by a man. Ladies have an intangible value of course. Male psychology is such that we are instinctually competitive and work harder when we're trying to impress partners or care for a family. Plus love and family make men happy, and loneliness makes men sad. If ladies all vanished off the face of the planet, men…
/r/MensRights21/10/24 06:37 PM
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They either don't believe or don't care about male victims, so a fun rebuttal to the "always a man" argument is to ask them about female victims of female perpetrators. I'm sure it's less common than other gender combos but there is an entire subreddit dedicated to mother-daughter SA so it's clearly enough of an issue to warrant it's own support group of nothing else.
/r/MensRights21/10/24 06:00 PM
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Yeah, engaging in reasonable good faith discourse the best thing to do, like, 90% of the time, but with certain kinds of people it can put you in danger of retaliation. At that point you need to worry, not about saving the relationship, but protecting yourself.
/r/MensRights13/10/24 09:29 PM
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I think people here are catastophizing a little. Being a little weird does not, in its own, indicate malice. Lord knows, I've been cringy as hell around girls I liked in the past. Try clear communication first. "Hey, I might be reading into this a bit too much but just in case, so there aren't any hard feelings, I wanted to make it clear I'm not really interested in a romantic thing right now." One trick to make it smoother is to give her an "out" to save face by denying that she was into you th…
/r/MensRights11/10/24 03:32 PM
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The fact remains that both men and women care about women more than men and whether cultural or biological in origin, that bias is probably won't go away anytime soon. It's sad, but "Mens issues affects women too" is the strongest argument the MRA movement has.
/r/MensRights11/10/24 02:55 PM
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That only applies to women. Calling a man a virgin, implying he can't get laid, etc, is an insult in western culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 05:08 PM
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I think most guys are pro-family, and pro-marriage in concept. Even the chaddy f-boy types know that the constant pursuit of sexual hedonism is shallow and a bad choice in the long term, and that love and family lead to the best long term happiness. Sadly, for various reasons, guys have come to believe that true love, marriage, or family are just not feasible or achievable goals for them. There are various reasons for this, but I would largely put the blame on American dating culture rather than…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 05:43 PM
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Any sentence at all is an improvement.
/r/MensRights25/09/24 08:59 PM
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Ah, right. You do mention them losing a student so that's probably why I assumed they expelled you.
/r/MensRights25/09/24 03:38 PM
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Oh whoops. I guess I misread that. Well, it's a shame you're stuck at the shitty school then. Though my opinion of them is a bit better now that I know they at least didn't punish you without proof. As for the girl, same advice only doubly so. It's possible she's going to want to start more drama so treat her like she's poison and don't be alone with her anywhere. Don't try to retaliate, just be cool. Let her make herself look like an idiot if she tries to accuse you of something again.
/r/MensRights25/09/24 03:16 PM
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You were expelled, even though there was video evidence proving her story was a lie and you were innocent? That's insane. Getting "expelled" might turn out to be a good thing in the long run though... A school that would do that shit to one of their male students sounds like a horrible place to attend. That kind of sexist attitude filters down from the administration to all the teachers, so I bet it would lead to getting less help in class, harsher discipline, stricter marking, and all sorts of …
/r/MensRights24/09/24 08:39 PM
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I think most people today believe women should have equal rights and the freedom to live as they like while personally opting out of adhering to traditional gender roles if they wish. That's so normal these days that it's basically just common sense, but it wasn't always such a common mindset to have, and getting western society to that point was basically what all the old-school feminists were out there fighting for. People could argue the specifics, but merely pushing for equality and fairness…
/r/MensRights24/09/24 08:19 PM
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Somehow, I don't think now is the best time for an average westerner to plan a trip to Russia...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 11:00 AM
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Out of curiosity, I tried to find statistics, and it turns out surprisingly difficult to find concrete answers to a question as simple as: "How many men are rapists?" The number of guys who are actually convicted of rape seems to be very small overall. It seems a well established fact that most men who rape, don't do it just once, so there are often far more victims out there than perpetrators. Just doing a lazy, back-of-the-envelope calculation based on the number of registered sex offenders, a…
/r/MensRights21/09/24 05:24 PM
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It's a crazy situation, but at least I can honestly say I found the reporting here factual and unbiased. The article doesn't mention what specific consequences the lady faced, but other commenters are claiming she got a slap on the wrist, which is nuts. That's some blatantly sociopathic behavior. She's a legitimate danger to public safety. But at the very least, props to the journalist for not giving her a pass. People have shared all sorts of extremely nasty misandrist opinion pieces on here, p…
/r/MensRights21/09/24 09:18 AM
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When discussing reasons, I'm surprised they didn't mention opportunity as a factor. It's just a fact that, unless he's a truly exceptional specemin, the average guy gets approached by interested members of the opposite sex far less often than the average gal. Knowing that, even if your average guy were more likely to cheat when given the oppourtinity, he's far less likely to get that opportunity to begin with. If you model every cheating opportunity as a roll of the dice, guys might cheat on a 5…
/r/MensRights21/09/24 02:40 AM
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I get that this is the automatic canned response to any guy daring to complain about feeling lonely in today's dating market, but how is that even remotely relevant to this discussion? You can disagree with what OP has to say about the current state of sex work or the potential long term ramifications it might have on western society, but it's pretty obvious that he's not saying that society owes him a date. He's only made the claim that male loneliness is one of the underlying factors potential…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 07:16 PM
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Whether or not sex robots have already hit the market depends on your definition of "robot." Technically speaking, a robot is just a programmable machine that can perform a complex series of actions autonomously. So for example, a vibrator controlled by an analog switch or dial isn't a robot, but one with a pre-programmed settings controlled by a digital chip is a robot. A good chunk of all vibrators in the consumer market right now therefore count as "sex robots." Now, if you're talking humanoi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 06:57 PM
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I would use the same logic I would for a job interview: If they don't specifically ask, I don't need to say anything. I've got an ethical problem with lying (both during dates, and also during job interviews) but I'm not above remaining strategically silent when the situation calls for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 06:26 PM
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Going by that quote, if a certain level of physical force is required for an act to count as rape, wouldn't blackmail, other non-violent coercion, statutory rape, and drugged rape also fail meet this person's definition of rape? By that logic, there should also be a separate category for women, "unwanted sex," to differentiate those cases from the more violent assaults.
/r/MensRights15/09/24 06:18 PM
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I think the fundamental source of confusion here is that it's generally a lot harder for men to get sex than women. Women who want a dick at any given moment and aren't picky can generally find a dick (even if it's not always the safest or best quality sex). The same can't be said for men. It's not unusual for average or below average attractiveness single guys to go years between sexual encounters, not by choice but because they can't find any interested partner at all, despite the effort they …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:07 PM
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I think you mixed up the word "gender" and "genus."
/r/MensRights15/09/24 08:26 AM
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Couldn't it also just be a case of "nothing else was clean that day?" Like, my ex used to do that, resorting to wearing her fun undies whenever she put off her laundry too long. It's also not unreasonable to think a girl might just want to feel sexy that day or just wear lacy undergarments for no reason in particular. If she retracted her statement and admitted it was a lie then obviously the guy is vindicated, but I struggle to think of a reason why her underthings would come up during a trial …
/r/MensRights13/09/24 03:35 PM
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Don't even know if this is gendered. The internet was a very different place in the 2000s and early 2010s. "Cancelling" wasn't a thing, being edgy or vile online didn't lead to real world repercussions, and people didn't really give a fuck about trigger warnings or self-censorship. Humor was dark, edgy, often sarcastic, and jokes related to rape/pedophilia were far more acceptable, and rarely taken seriously. This sort of humor would have been edgy and juvenile, but not really "problematic" the …
/r/MensRights11/09/24 09:54 PM
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"Empathy" includes actively listening when a person discusses their grievances, and genuinely trying to understand their point of view. Dismissing everything they say as being a product of their "male entitlement" is the opposite. Instead, ask yourself, "what is this person saying, and why are they feeling this way?" That's empathy 101. You don't have to agree with them, just try and understand. Even if they're the most toxic, demented incel, what life circumstances had to have happened for them…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 11:24 AM
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Your point is fine, I was just nitpicking your specific language there. In my mind, I consider "almost all" to be something like 99%, not 80%. I admit that's kind of subjective though.
/r/MensRights30/08/24 11:09 PM
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Eh... "almost all" suicides is a bit of a stretch. Sure, men make up the statistical majority of suicides, but enough ladies kill themselves as well for it to matter as a social issue.
/r/MensRights30/08/24 10:22 PM
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Sounds like generic mean bitch behavior. I guarantee they don't sincerely think The Smiths or Weezer are literally incel bands, they just want to make you feel bad for liking things you like. It's a power thing. Its just like when I was in high school (over a decade ago) and socially awkward guys were getting mocked for liking fantasy fiction or anime. I swear, bullies all play from the same book.
/r/MensRights30/08/24 09:56 PM
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Guy here. Setting aside the rest of your post I can at least answer your first question. In my experience, dudes who complain too much in general tend get insults directed at their masculinity. (They'll be called "whiny," "bitch," "prima donna," etc.) Also with dating specifically, guys tend to endure accusations of being "entitled" or "an incel," when they complain about the modern state of dating. We dont really hear the "entitlement" accusation when we complain about stuff unrelated to pretty…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:39 PM
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Oh... well that's a bit less exciting...
/r/MensRights21/08/24 12:17 PM
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Male on male violence is sort of the "default" type of violence. So it's less of a "mens issue" and moreso just an "issue." There's plenty to be said about law, social safety nets, gang violence, police enforcement, and all the difference factors leading to violence, of course, but those discussions are happening all the time in the mainstream discourse, so there isn't really much of a need for MRA's to shine additional light on them or highlight them as a mens issue.
/r/MensRights21/08/24 12:55 AM
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Well, setting the gender wars bullshit aside... the fat librarian girl has a point. Stronger unions and competent regulatory oversight would probably do a lot to make work safer for men in the trades or industry.
/r/MensRights21/08/24 12:44 AM
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I love that everything this guy does is met with 200 dislikes, but he's still trying to make changes regardless. A normal man would have given up, knowing that wikipedia was infested with insane weirdos, and nobody was on his side, but this single rogue wikipedia pedant will not be deterred. The battle lines are drawn, and he will not surrender peacefully. 20 bucks says he's got a katana mounted on his bedroom wall, and he knows how to use it.
/r/MensRights21/08/24 12:32 AM
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I'm not saying your conclusion is wrong but your reasoning is certainly flawed. People do impulsive things that are bad for their long term wellbeing all the time. (Eg: smoking, drugs, eating junk food, etc.) When it comes to women who hook up with sexy bad men, it's also not uncommon for them to know full well it's a bad idea but rationalize it to themselves anyway using any number of excuses. The power of horniness to inspire poor long term decisions is not to be underestimated.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 05:56 PM
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As I understand it, Mens Issues are broad issues at the societal level which affect all (or most) men. Stuff like sentencing bias or false accusation trumping due process, that kinda shit. Men as individuals are way more complicated though. For example, if you're seeking therapy because some bad stuff happened in your childhood or whatever, that's an issue, and you're a man, so it might be a "man's issue" but I don't know if you could call it a Mens Issue.
/r/MensRights19/08/24 07:45 PM
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[Citation needed]
/r/MensRights19/08/24 12:59 PM
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I've always understood that, in the West at least, until you and your lady friend discuss and agree to exclusivity you're not exclusive. That means she's free to date multiple guys and you're free to take multiple girls out until you both agree to "go steady." After the first date or two, if you don't want her seeing other guys while she's seeing you, you need to tell her directly and have that exclusivity discussion sooner rather than later.
/r/MensRights19/08/24 12:54 PM
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I'm generally pro-objectification. Go ahead and drool over dick prints ladies and gay gents, just don't try to shame me for checking out the female athletes in turn.
/r/MensRights17/08/24 09:25 PM
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I agree dating shouldn't be the only thing discussed on this subreddit, but it absolutely has a place here. Unfortunately, interaction between those of opposite gender is, by definition, a gender issue, and one of the most common interactions between people of opposite gender involves dating. There are common gender specific patterns you can point to here, with male loneliness, the incel movement, suicide rates, rape-accusation culture, and so on... These all definitely qualify as mens' issues.
/r/MensRights17/08/24 09:20 PM
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I think the accusations of rape culture were valid, once upon a time. The 2015 Brock Turner case was a pretty infamous example. There was a lot of press coverage, and I'm not 100% sure on all the facts, but on the surface at least, it seemed like a pretty open and shut case of rape not being taken seriously by the legal system. It apparently led to a lot of laws being changed. These days, however, the pendulum has obviously swung too far in the opposite direction.
/r/MensRights17/08/24 09:09 PM
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Comparing a specific ethinic group to animals? Accusing an entire race and culture of being dangerous predators intent on indiscriminate rape? That's not just racist, it's blatantly racist. This is literally KKK rhetoric: "Those barbaric, primitive <n-words> are coming to rape your daughters!" The only thing missing is the white hood and irrational fear of race mixing, but who knows, that could be on the horizon soon.
/r/MensRights17/08/24 08:59 PM
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Okay sure, guys are all different, with different attitudes toward progressive values, and you could probably measure their attitudes on various things and arrange them into gradients, but... not here. There is a little bit of gray area (things like alcohol, social power imbalance, misunderstandings, non-verbal consent, etc.) but for the most part, the line between "rapist" and "not rapist" is pretty sharp. The thing that bothers me even more about this chart, however, is just how fundamentally …
/r/MensRights17/08/24 08:46 PM
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Not to mention it's infantilizing against women themselves. I'm surprised the feminists don't see the problem here. If women aren't hired fairly, on merit alone, then it will change how they're percieved. Clients and coworkers will see a woman on the job and wonder of she's actually capable of reaching a professional standard or whether she's just a hapless diversity hire brought on board to tick a box. That's gotta suck for the women who are actually skilled and earned their positions.
/r/MensRights14/08/24 12:50 PM
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A 10 year old kid making fart jokes and struggling to memorize his times tables doesn't have the necessary development or life experience to even understand what a "men's issue" is. If you give him a lecture on male disposability, all he's going to be able to understand is "girls hate me because I'm a boy" which doesn't exactly capture the nuance of the discussion. Instead it'll only make him angry and lash out at girls who themselves are way too young to even understand what he's so mad about. …
/r/MensRights12/08/24 01:04 PM
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Yikes dude... This is not a topic you should be discussing with a 10 year old. He's a kid, just barely starting to develop his own identity and sense of self. This shit could completely poison his future interactioms with girls, and steer him into a self perpetuating spiral of gender bullshit you as a parent should he trying to spare him from. It's probably too late to un-say whatever you said but if you want to do damage control, make sure to explain that all people have differences, and that s…
/r/MensRights12/08/24 09:47 AM
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"I work with underprivaleged kids." That's the really scary part here. From an adult's point of view she's just a regular old unhinged bigot with a distorted view of reality who should probably be checked into a mental ward for her own safety but otherwise isn't much of a threat to anyone else. But she's working with kids. Vulnerable kids. Kids with lousy parental figures and a desperate need for adult validation... Kids who will accept everything she says without question. This is not the kind …
/r/MensRights12/08/24 09:13 AM
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Not technically RP, I don't like labels but here's my take: I was not alive 75 years ago, but it's not hard to get an idea of what it was like by listening to their stories. You don't need perfect, scientifically rigorous, side by side comparison to understand that men of the past seemed to complain of fewer dating issues than men of today. Quantifying the exact difference between then and now is a little harder but you can measure the symptoms, like declining marriage rates, male sexlessness, m…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 07:18 PM
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The Takers, as you call them, certainly exist but I don't think you fully appreciate how hard it can be for a below average guy to attract a girl's interest. There's a popular narrative out there that unpopular guys who comaplin about their unpopularity are all selfish entitled jerks who expect supermodel girlfriends without putting effort into their own appearance or offering any emotional investment in exchange. Sure, that's true sometimes, but most of the incel and incel-adjacent dudes I've k…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 07:14 PM
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Hm... you do have a point. I would say there is a difference between calling out gender-specific shitty behaviour and putting down women in general, but it's hard to know where exactly the line is. If we flip the genders, I suppose it's like trying to find the line between being a cringy "white knight" and calling out your fellow guys when they're behing legitimately shitty (eg: cheating in a committed relationship, taking advantage of drunk girls, being manipulative to get laid, and other types…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 01:02 PM
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My opinion as a dude is that I would rather date a "pick me" than a eternally-hostile man hater or a "princess" who objectifies her dates as walking wallets. I find it really attractive when a lady cares about my approval and opinion on things and goes out of her way to return the attention and investment I give her. That said, while I like the extra attention a pick-me type might give me, a woman putting other women down to make herself look good isn't attractive, and in fact I would see it as …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 06:56 PM
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Regardless of merit, you have to admit, the way Redpill content is presented to it's audience isn't exactly palatable to the average woman. Many of the most popular Redpill or redpill-adjacent manosphere influencers (Tate, Whatever Podcast, etc.) are downright hostile to women in their rhetoric. Same reason I would never call myself a feminist, despite believing in equal rights and fairness between the sexes. Feminists are right a lot of the time on a lot of issues, but the blatant misandry rott…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:03 PM
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Actually, the above list is pretty much exactly what I was hoping to see from this. Yeah, there's overlap, but there are also interesting differences. For instance, they seem to like curves, while I like slender girls. That sort of proves that regardless of the body type a girl might naturally have, guys tend to have some variance in what they desire, and the whole concept of "conventional attractiveness" might not reflect the true reality of the dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 06:03 PM
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"And then you go on to list stuff that everyone knows is a highly sought after trait." But do they know that? That seems like a bit of an assumption there Mister Science Pill. I bet there are plenty of kind and considerate people out there who don't realize just how much that aspect of their personality matters to guys like me, and how much more attractive it makes them. I did also mention some of my more specific unconventional preferences too, mixed in with the "obvious" ones, but to be honest…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 05:51 PM
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Not sure, I'm not you, so I don't know what you like. I guess the idea I had for this post was to have people list things they like, so someone else who might be feeling down about themselves can read it and be like, "oh! that applies to me, I have this valuable trait that at least some people care about." So you like ladies who care about their health, and don't bring pets or children into the relationship. What other values do you like to see? What else makes a woman seem awesome in your eyes?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 05:40 PM
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Mental load counts as work in my book. There are people out there (engineers, executives, project managers, etc.) whose entire job is to keep track of stuff, organize, delegate, predict issues in advance, and tidy up the all the loose ends, and they're decently paid for it. Companies (probably) wouldn't waste the money on them if they didn't do anything useful. That said, I don't think that much mental work is actually required to keep a household in order. It's not a 50 million dollar bridge co…
/r/MensRights04/08/24 05:29 PM
3

A+
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 05:07 PM
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Sounds like a good list of things you don't want, but what are the things you do want? For example, what sort of values and lifestyle habits would be a good fit for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:56 PM
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It's a good list, but I wonder if you can reframe it as all positive things? Like rather than listing things your ideal partner isn't, list the things he is. For example, "Not Fat" -> "Cares about his health" or "watches what he eats." "Doesn't make me wonder" -> "Willing to show affection." That sorta thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:51 PM
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Mentioning deal breakers isn't part of the exercise. We're supposed to say what we like, not what we don't like.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:40 PM
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Kay.
/r/MensRights31/07/24 10:05 PM
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I was one of those weirdos in high school who defied labels hovered around a whole bunch of different social cliques (nerd, metalhead, academic, broody goths, popular kids, etc.) While I'm not in touch with most of them today, I've definitely met my fair share of "incels" back in my teens and twenties, usually within the various "nerd" groups I hung out with, or university clubs I joined (though I'm a millennial, and the "incel" label wasn't really that popular at the time, the word would absolu…
/r/MensRights31/07/24 08:17 AM
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Because overlapping distributions don't work like that. The average man is taller than the average woman, but that doesn't mean all men are taller than all women. The same is true for engineering aptitude: There may be fewer ladies than gents with the innate talent or socialized desire to study engineering, but ladies who succeed in engineering despite that are no less competent than their male peers. (Or at least, it should be that way. DEI-based hiring might ironically end up skewing the talen…
/r/MensRights31/07/24 07:44 AM
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I would be nervous to go the "actions, not words" route with a woman I didn't already know well. If you misread the woman's interest, and try something she's not cool with, it can lead to some pretty serious legal peril, even if you stop immediately when she tells you. Ideally I prefer not to do the whole "get explicit consent" rigarmarole because while it sounds good as a policy, it's awkward as hell in practice. But as a guy you need to be super careful to not misread signs of interest. You're…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:54 PM
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Calling a man "beautiful" is an awkward compliment because the word itself is usually associated with the more feminine type of beauty. Same reason dudes don't compliment each other on being "pretty." If you instead said the average man was more "handsome" than the average woman, I don't think many people would disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 03:20 PM
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By this logic, sexist double standards in India's justice system are necessary for all men because men are innately driven to oppress women. Okay... But then, by extension, aren't these women also pushing the narrative that women are inmately disempowered, eternally helpless victims that need to be sheltered and protected by society. That seems... oddly Victorian of them, definitely a sharp shift away from the "we can do it" equality narrative of yesteryear.
/r/MensRights29/07/24 02:33 PM
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Eh... the way I see it, that company failed not because it was composed of women but because it was composed of the sort of petty toxic feminists who would join a womens-only company out of spite. It wasn't about the sex of the workers, it was about the bullshit toxic work culture those type of people create. An all-female company could, in fact, work, but only if the gender of the workers was an accidental result of the best people for the job all happening to be female and not a deliberate hir…
/r/MensRights28/07/24 06:46 PM
2

Do you mean psychiatrist? Psychologists might sometimes be PhD doctors but they aren't MDs.
/r/MensRights26/07/24 09:44 PM
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What about the fact that (outside of a few notable exceptions) incels are far more likely to be a danger to themselves, rather than other people. They have plenty of not-so-nice opinions and whatnot, but for the most part it's just words. What sort of "terrorist" elects to peacefully rot to death in their bedroom instead of committing actual acts of terror?
/r/MensRights23/07/24 01:41 PM
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What society defines as "Elite" isn't the same as what evolutionary biology defines as "Elite." Natural selection favors the humans which breed the most. Intelligence, kindness, social class, etc don't matter. Higher impulsivity, promiscuity, manipulativeness, etc. aren't great for society as a whole but they'll contribute to more babies. If these "lower class" people breed more, then low class people are actually the "more fit" humans according to natural selection and these traits will he sele…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 09:05 PM
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After reading the article, it seems like the title IX officer (a dude) was behaving worst of all honestly. Yeah, apparently three ladies brought complaints about the autistic bro's odd behaviour but they were for super trivial shit and that probably should have just been ignored. Even the ladies didn't seem to care much once things cooled down. None of them bothered to actually show up to testify at the title IX hearing. Despite nobody bothering to speak against him or even register "official" c…
/r/MensRights14/07/24 03:26 AM
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Eh, give the guy a break. It's easy to say what he should have done in hindsight, but life is messy and complicated, and sometimes people make less-than-ideal decisions in the heat of the moment.
/r/MensRights11/07/24 06:56 AM
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True. I dunno, ask a lawyer. I guesd you could probably subpoena phone records to see of she admits it blatantly in the group chat, or medical records to see if pills were prescribed and purchased at a pharmacy.
/r/MensRights08/07/24 12:29 AM
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If the man consented to sex without protection, and knew there was a risk of pregnancy, he should still be held partially responsible for the child. Paying for the child he chose to have is just the natural consequence of his own actions. That said, the laws should be less skewed toward the female than the currently are. Men should get a 50/50 coparenting arrangement by default, with the option to surrender custody and only then would he be made to pay child support. Child support should also be…
/r/MensRights07/07/24 07:09 PM
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It's not always as benign as a compliment. I have no trouble believing that creepy guys would say some vile stuff that would make a women scared for her safety. Thing is... that's still not assault. Being rude or insulting isn't normally a crime and IMO shouldn't be policed. People have a right to safety, but no right to not be offended. If the catcallers aren't touching you, getting into your space or preventing you from walking away then it's not a physical assault. What exactly is the problem…
/r/MensRights05/07/24 06:14 PM
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I think I heard about people in Spain legally changing their gender in order to get higher pay and better benefits in the army. No transition or anything required, just a self declaration of gender and a change of pronouns. Going trans might not be a bad strategy for a guy falling through society's cracks.
/r/MensRights05/07/24 06:01 PM
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"Emotional regulation is misogyny!"
/r/MensRights05/07/24 05:51 PM
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Yeah I suppose, going by that logic.
/r/MensRights04/07/24 06:47 PM
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The instinct to pair up and breed is very powerful (unless you're Ace or whatever). Even if the modern dating market is fucked up and things seem hopeless, most people won't be able to just ignore the biological imperative to propagate the species.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 06:47 PM
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I mean, it kinda is misogyny? A woman hating another woman is in a vague roundabout sort of way an anti-woman act. It's not about patriarchy or sexism or whatever, but if you define misogyny generally as woman-hate then any act of hatred toward a woman fits the definition.
/r/MensRights04/07/24 06:10 PM
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It's not always bad intuition. Sometimes "hornybrain" is to blame for bad dating decisions. It's true for both ladies and gents: Sometimes, we KNOW fully well that it's a bad idea, but they're so hot that we don't really care.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 01:24 AM
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Social media is a positive feedback loop, where extreme views get you attention and validation and as people get more extreme, the norms shift until extreme is normal, thus necessitating people take even more extreme views to get attention and validation. Pushback and dissenting opinions are filtered out by the social media echo chamber effects. Moderate views, meanwhile, get you ignored at best and banned at worst. Positive feedback loops like this are actually not "positive" in the normal sens…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 06:05 PM
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"It's not about sex, it's about power." It might surprise you to know, a lot of rapists have no trouble actually getting consensual sex. The reasons they do what they do vary, but for many it's the domination and sadism they enjoy, not the sex itself.
/r/MensRights02/07/24 11:30 PM
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To be fair, ftm's also "pass" as male more easily than the inverse. All it takes is a masculine haircut, a chest binder, and some baggy clothes. It's possible part of the reason there isn't more general ftm hate is because they're not as easy to spot in the wild.
/r/MensRights02/07/24 04:19 AM
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"That's not feminism, feminism is about equality!" That seems to be the usual response when people try to point out the rampant misandry within the feminist movement. In theory, they're correct. If you define feminism as wanting women to have the exact same legal rights and opportunities that men do, then I think most people are on board with that. I've met plenty of perfectly sane feminists who believe in actual equality. They do exist. The problem is not all feminists are like that. There's no…
/r/MensRights02/07/24 04:14 AM
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Check out the table "Exhibit 4-C: Child Fatalities by Sex" on page 54. Nearly the same number of male and female victims in their sample population, but boys are 50% more likely to be killed than girls. That's a yikes!
/r/MensRights28/06/24 08:47 AM
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Why get your hands dirty when you can commit violence by proxy?
/r/MensRights28/06/24 08:42 AM
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Hmm... there's a lot to unpack here. I would say some men are selfish, as are some women. I don't know which gender has it worse in that respect. I feel like the issue of selfish versus unselfish is more of a "people" thing, than a "male" or "female" thing. To be honest, nothing you mention really lines up with my own experience, or those of the couples I've met. I've certainly heard the complaints from online feminists saying that they do more chores and more emotional labor, while still workin…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 08:25 AM
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They sssSSNatch! They SssssssSSTEALS out sssSSSEED! Theft! R-R-RAPACITY!
/r/MensRights27/06/24 10:33 PM
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I agree that once you're past the first month, the effort requirement goes down significantly. It makes sense, as you're starting to get comfortable with your partner, they're starting to get attached, and you don't have to go to great lengths to prove yourself to them anymore. That said, I'm not sure what you mean when you say women put in more effort throughout the LTR. That hasn't really been my experience. Could you give some examples? When I was last in an LTR, I would say the relationship …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 10:26 PM
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Also, isn't it insulting to actual victims of violent rape to imply that "drunken sex you later regret once sober" is equivalent to their experience? Doesnt it cheapen the word and the impact it has? Actual survivors and advocates should be pushing back on this shit.
/r/MensRights27/06/24 05:41 PM
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Nerd girls exist, I've met them, they're not LARPing. There are plenty of smart girls, girls with niche or masculine hobbies, talented and skilled female programmers, mathematicians and engineers. Even of there are fewer woman than men in those communities, I wouldn't discredit their existence. That said, whether by nature or nurture, it's just a fact ladies with the desire and proclivity to succeed in computer science fields are rarer than guys. We shouldn't be pushing for 50/50. We should just…
/r/MensRights27/06/24 05:16 PM
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So... isn't this the very definition of infantilization? These bozos are literally saying "REAL IT programs are too hard for girls, so we'll dumb it down for them." If I were a woman, I would find that incredibly insulting. What happened to Rosie the Riveter and the "we can do it too" attitude feminists used to have? Plus it fucks ladies over in the long run as once they graduate, they'll be lacking the important computer science fundamentals a successful career in IT requires. A degree that doe…
/r/MensRights27/06/24 05:03 PM
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A valid theory. It's definitely true for some guys. It's more than just beauty standards though. I've seen guys stay in abusive relationships while also clearly knowing they're being abused but they just accept it because they're convinced they can't get anyone better and they decided being abused is better than being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 06:09 PM
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With a name like Cum Dragon, I think we can all assume we have a porn expert in our midst. To explain the obvious to OP, guys seek porn because they're not getting their sexual needs met by women. They're desperate for female validation because despite how much they fap, most understand porn is a poor substitute for real intimacy.
/r/MensRights25/06/24 04:35 PM
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Yeah, being sexually objectified sounds awesome to be honest. I can obviously understand the fact ladies don't appreciate being objectified, and I'm able to accept that at face value as a fact, but I've never really been able to understand why they have a problem with it... It just sounds flattering to me. I'm sure there are woman out there who don't want to be seen as pretty (trauma victims, gender dysphoria, etc.) but I also know the average woman puts a whole lot of time and effort into maint…
/r/MensRights25/06/24 06:55 AM
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To give the guy the benefit of the doubt, he might not have known how having his lady take charge of certain things would make him feel. Or he might have had no issue with it personally but his douchebro friends were giving him a hard time for not "being a man" and he eventually caved to their peer pressure. Or he could just be an idiot. In any case, the drama is probably more due to your relationship not conforming to male dominant gender roles than any issue with you taking initiative with var…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:08 PM
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For me its no issue at all. I swing more to the "dommy" side of things but I feel pretty manly when a lady is being proactive, affectionate and showing interest. There's no issue at all if she makes the first move. I see it as a win, like: "wow, she's so into me she's making the first move, awesome!" As for why your gentlemen friends might want to downplay your relationship dominance with their friends groups, there's definitely a stigma among guys where men are supposed to be the "dominant" one…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:55 PM
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I don't doubt quite a few ladies fear being raped, or that plenty of guys might act sketchy or behave in ways that make them nervous. My argument is that the fear of violent sexual assault by a stranger not proportionate to the actual danger of such a thing occurring. If men were regularly kidnapping ladies off the street, that's an issue for police to solve. If it's just ladies fear of being snatched off the street, then it's a problem for therapists to solve.
/r/MensRights17/06/24 08:05 PM
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Well, if you look at those RAINN statistics (the ones feminists like to quote that say one in six women get assaulted at least once in their lives) you can put it in terms of your risk per day. If we assume you are or will be one of the unlucky victims, and it happens exactly once during the decade where you're at highest risk, then what are the odds that "today will be the day?" Thats 1 in 3550, or 0.03%. And your risk is only that high if you make a whole bunch of very generous assumptions. In…
/r/MensRights17/06/24 05:41 PM
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The irrational part is that your fear of unknown men is much stronger than the actual threat calls for. Risk is inevitable. On any given day there is a risk of something bad happening to you. You could be poisoned at your favorite restaurant, hit by a car, struck by falling debris... There are hundreds of high severity, low probability incidents that might occur, but very rarely do people obsessively ruminate on these threats, and those who do get diagnosed with anxiety disorders.
/r/MensRights17/06/24 03:54 PM
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Thats fine, but if OP can find 7 quality dates in 18 hours, I don't think it's unreasonable to score a date with a guy without a beard within, say, a week or two. If an LTR is your goal, you probably don't want 7 dates a week anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 12:35 AM
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I don't doubt both would get attention, but I wonder which of them would get more of the bad sort of attention. How much "good" attention do they get, how much "bad" attention? Both in terms of total messages, but also as a proportion of all messages received. You would think hot girls would get more high quality matches with men because all other things being equal, they're higher on the "mate value" totem pole, but perhaps the average looking guys with actually good personalities would avoid m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 09:52 PM
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Interesting idea, I'd also love to see a male perspective on just how easy/hard ladies have it on the apps compared to men. The male experience is dreadful and a lot of the complaints I've heard sound like advantages rather than disadvantages. (To my sensibilities, being drowned in messages from weird, thirsty, overly sexual, creepy girls is way better than the usual attention desert I typically endure on the apps.) As an addendum. I'd like to see an experiment with two sets of female profile im…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 09:47 PM
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Unpopular opinion: This isn't entirely wrong. Patriarchy comes from the word for "father" and historically casts men into the role of protector. Under patriarchy, men are in charge, but they're also the ones with the responsability to care for "their" families. Women meanwhile are treated somewhat like children, just another dependent to be cared for. If ladies are seen as equivalent to children, in that they're helpless and that men have a social duty to protect them, then by extension their li…
/r/MensRights15/06/24 07:24 PM
1

If things keep going down this path, at some point, hiring a prostitute will be become a cheaper, safer, and less legally perilous avenue to gain female affection than actually approaching a woman with the intention to date her legitimately.
/r/MensRights15/06/24 08:42 AM
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I once saw a scientist presenting at a conference on the differences between male and female brains and he mentioned there was a study that found ladies were more focused on details, while men were more big picture thinkers. So that seems to apply to how this girl sees her partners. She fixates on all the fine details of a guy: status, finances, grooming, politics, and probably a dozen other little details too. Myself, and most guys I know just care about the big picture stuff: is she pleasent t…
/r/MensRights10/06/24 05:51 PM
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I dunno... The body positivity movement hasn't made morbidly obese figures any more appealing to the average gent but I'd argue it did help move beauty standards more towards average "healthy" body shapes. Back in the Britney Spears era, models, pop stars, and other ladies in the public eye marketing themselves on their sex appeal had to be rail thin to be accepted. It led to an anorexia epidemic among girls in my generation as everyone tried to look like a fifteen year old. EDs are still a thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 08:43 PM
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I think its obvious asking women to date men they don't find attractive isn't reasonable. The issue here is feminine culture and how male attractiveness is measured. How attractiveness is percieved is extremely complicated and depends on all sorts of contextual factors. There are more elements at play than just a guy's height or the sharpness of his jawline. Case in point: short guys. I'm an older millennial who was a teenager during the nauties and I recall "shortness" was never desirable but i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 07:03 PM
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You don't need to be hot, you need to be hotter than the other guy. If every guy looked like action figures there would be some new standard for guys on the lower half of the bell curve to fail to meet (eg: intellect, hair, eye color, whatever).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:51 PM
2

Sounds like you've struck a good balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:43 PM
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Anecdotally, as an engineer, I can confirm my opinion tends to get taken more seriously than equally qualified ladies at times. Part of the issue might be how ladies tend to be less direct and confrontational that gents, less willing to assert themselves due to lack of testosterone or fear of social backlash. Doesn't happen all that often, but it does happen often enough for me to notice.
/r/MensRights07/06/24 01:48 PM
2

It's honestly a bit hard to describe if you somehow havent seen yourself in the mirror... but i guess its a bit like a weird alien mouth without teeth that drools whenever you slap it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 07:18 PM
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I think of it like alcohol or gambling. It's not a problem to enjoy yourself from time to time, until it is. It's not like it's addictive in the same way cigarettes are addictive, but it can still lead to a psychological dependency when used in excess or as a coping mechanism for other shit in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 07:12 PM
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Agree on the first point, disagree on the second. I don't know any men who would prefer masturbating to porn over having sex with a real partner, even if she had a less attractive body than the average porn star. If a man is taking matters into his own hands it's almost certainly because he's not getting what he needs from his partner to feel sexually fulfilled. For the second point, "normal" use of porn doesn't usually cause boner issues but when taken to excess, it absolitely can. Porn addicti…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 06:18 PM
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Yeah, I'm with you on the abortion thing. The rest? Not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 02:37 PM
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Can you tell the difference? Where exactly is that line? Is your version of that line the exact same as every other woman you've talked to? Why is a man complimenting you on your outfit gross when it's a greasy middle aged manager, but not when it's the handsome guy from the other department you've been secretly crushing on for a while?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 02:26 PM
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When the consequences of an accusation can destroy a person's life, regardless of whether the accusation is true or not, that's going to affect all male/female interactions, dating included. Deterring polite flirting from less confident men is not the goal, but it's a side effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 01:44 PM
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The intentions of MeToo are good, but the result is the perception among men about female bad actors weaponizing false accusations against guys they don't like. Many men who might otherwise want to engage in polite flirting with a lady they're not already certain is into them will now avoid taking the risk. Meanwhile sexy jerks who don't care about that will generally do the same things they always have.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 01:38 PM
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You sort of accidentally proved the previous guy's point. The original goal was equality, not equity. The second wave feminists fought to gain equal rights and opportunity and were successful in doing so. Equality has been achieved. There is now nothing at all stopping a skilled and talented woman from achieving the same personal success as a skilled and talented man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 01:26 PM
1

Yep, female groomers are indeed a thing, never claimed otherwise.
/r/MensRights08/05/24 06:38 PM
1

After being downvoted into the dirt I tried looking up some actual numbers and... sorry, but I don't actually think I'm wrong. I'm not an expert by any means, and the handful of sources I found seemed wildly inconsistent in terms of actual percentages, but everything still seemed to support the conclusion that males made up a much larger proportion of child sexual abuse perpetrators than females (around 90%, depending on who you ask). Lady pedos do exist, an in large enough numbers to matter, bu…
/r/MensRights08/05/24 06:34 PM
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Like all people who actively engage in reddit discourse, I am a hopeless pedant who receives visceral joy from arguing about stupid irrelevant shit and going on long digressions about subjects I have little to no actual expertise with. If all of us are guilty, then none of us are guilty, and I shall not apologize. That said, overall, your comeback was clever, I would just replace the word "molest" with "abuse" (or even "kill") to make your statement more accurate and hit harder.
/r/MensRights08/05/24 06:10 PM
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Roughly half of everybody in society is a man, and the half who aren't usually have guys in their life they care about: Friends, fathers, brothers, sons, boyfriends, boyfriend's brothers, etc... Even if ladies are doing great, if these men aren't doing as well due to the villainization of masculinity, it'll have a knock-on effect on their life too. Not to mention that, if these ladies happen to be single, and are attracted to confident, competent, and non-neurotic men, then it's in their best in…
/r/MensRights08/05/24 06:35 AM
1

Yikes. I remember reading that article a while ago, and that's some serious nightmare fuel. It would be a good article to share with the "Team Bear" ladies though. Mother nature doesn't mess around.
/r/MensRights07/05/24 04:07 PM
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I know women are more likely to abuse their children in general, but I don't know if ladies actually molest kids more. As I understand it, males are more likely to sexually abuse a kid, while women abuse more overall, but in other ways. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong though.
/r/MensRights07/05/24 04:01 PM
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The Ted Bundy comparison is quite apt. Bundy was a wealthy, educated, intelligent, charming, and good looking man who made his victims feel comfortable and let their guard down. He didn't give off predator vibes, and most of the girls he killed would have probably consented to sex with him if it didn't include being strangled to death at the end. He was smooth as silk, able to manipulate everyone he met with ease. That was probably why he was so "successful" as a serial killer. Anecdotally, most…
/r/MensRights07/05/24 03:48 PM
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A PhD gives you very deep knowledge on a specific subject, in some cases deeper than anyone else on the planet. The thing Is, that doesn't always translate to knowlege of things outside your narrow area of focus. It's not just a girl thing either. I've known male PhD guys who were good at their one thing, but idiots outside their field of study as well.
/r/MensRights07/05/24 02:26 PM
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My ex had untreated BPD... never dating anyone like that again. The hypersexuality and love bombing during the early parts of the relationship were great at first, but after a year, once I was "hooked" love turned to resentment and she got abusive and toxic.
/r/MensRights06/05/24 02:38 PM
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I'd go with the woman. Sure she'd report me, but when the cops come to arrest me, they'll hopefully give me a free lift off the desert island too.
/r/MensRights03/05/24 05:32 PM
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Not a problem, I'll just karate chop it to death.
/r/MensRights01/05/24 02:23 PM
0

Yes, but it's just one facet of the whole. What do they do with their intelligence? How does it affect the way they see themselves and others? Are they caring? Are they ethical? Are they weird in bed?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 02:21 PM
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I believe it's possible to date a single mother and not receive any social backlash for it. I've met couples who have done so, and it's worked out for them. With the way you worded your post, that alone is enough to disprove your argument. You need to be careful of making blanket generalizations like that. There's definitely a risk of what you're saying happening, though. Dating a woman with kids comes with serious drawbacks, and it's definitely more complicated than one without. Even setting as…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:52 AM
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It depends on her personality. I went to grad school for a nerdy STEM subject, so I've had a chance to get to know a lot of smart/gifted people and they come in different flavors, some of which I get along with splendidly and others who are barely tolerable garbage-people I avoid like the plague. For example, if this hypothetical genus lady is a card carrying MENSA member who can't go ten minutes without bragging about her giftedness, sees herself as completely infallible because of her educatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:22 AM
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Eh... in my view gratuitous displays of wealth are tacky and might actually work against you. Most of the wealthy people I know are fairly modest about displaying their wealth. They'll have nice, high quality, brand name stuff, but at a glance they look lile any other random joe on the street. They drive a nice car because they like it, its fun to drive, and its well built, not because they care about showing off to the neighbours. To me, too much bling reeks of insecurity, like a person who is …
/r/MensRights29/04/24 10:03 PM
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I agree. Both situations you describe seem equal to me. Flashing your wealth in a bad neighbourhood and getting blackout drunk at a sketchy party are both very bad ideas. The ultimate blame for what happens is on the criminal in both cases, but likewise I would question what decisions led up to the victim putting themselves in such a perilous situation as well. Sometimes bad shit happens even when common sense precautions are taken, but many of those situations can be avoided with a bit of moder…
/r/MensRights29/04/24 08:55 PM
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Offending, insulting, humiliating, and intimidating are not actions, they're feelings. A person's feelings are their own responsibility. If you make it illegal for someone else to make you feel offended, you could get literally anyone arrested on a whim, all you'd need to do is justify why whatever they just did was offensive, which can be literally anything.
/r/MensRights29/04/24 08:42 PM
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I can't speak for other mens-only spaces, but I can say that a lot of geeky traditionally male-majority hobbies have been infiltrated by feminists and altered in actual tangible ways. Things that were once made to appeal to the male demographic, have been castrated on the altar of "diversity." Disney is infamous for this shit, but pretty much every other geeky hobby is getting neutered as well. I was just reading about a recent example creating controversy in geek spaces right now: Warhammer 40k…
/r/MensRights29/04/24 03:56 PM
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Tell them to stop "transing" all our tomboys too!
/r/MensRights27/04/24 04:40 PM
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ARE MRA's actually excluding transmen? I haven't seen anything like that on this subreddit at least.
/r/MensRights24/04/24 10:14 PM
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Well, that's why I put that "in their right mind" distinction there. Some dudes are more susceptible to manipulation than others, but anyone who would commit premeditated murder to please their lady friend has got some bigger problems...
/r/MensRights24/04/24 10:05 PM
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Pretty sure women who use men for free food and attention DO get called out for it, by both men and women. I'm sure there are some wackos who would say it's fine, but most wouldn't.
/r/MensRights24/04/24 10:01 PM
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Even if you go with the hypergamy narrative, the "top 20%" guys are not selected for their cocks. Ladies generally have no idea what's in your pants until you're already in the bedroom with them. By that point, the dude is probably getting laid regardless of what he's packing. You can argue that guys are judged on other superficial factors, like height or muscles, or judges on clothes and wealth, but I don't see many women keeping rulers in their purses to assess the value of potential suitors.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:54 PM
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I'm not excusing what this girl did, this dude was probably a scumbag too. Who in their right mind would kill someone merely because their girlfriend demanded It?
/r/MensRights24/04/24 02:59 PM
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They point out, in the last line, that the guy has autism too. Autistic people tend to overexplain things sometimes, which can easily come across as "mansplaining" to oversensitive weirdos.
/r/MensRights24/04/24 02:14 PM
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I would probably rack up an enormous body count but yes, eventually, if I found a woman I got along with well enough and who saw me the same way, I'd happily commit to a LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 08:38 PM
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That's sort of the point I'm trying to make. Ruling a guy out as a partner based only on his salary feels the same to a guy as (I assume) ruling you out as a partner based only on your weight might feel to you. Both are valid, people are allowed to have preferences, but it's still pretty shallow and obviously frustrating to those who don't measure up to the ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:51 PM
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Yep. I dont really care what a lady's exact weight in pounds/kilos is, but I am 100% going to be looking at her figure to gauge how well she suits my tastes, if not consciously, then subconsciously. We all objectify each other, and judge each other on shallow stuff and first impressions early on, but just remember, social mores require that we pretend we don't, so keep being sly about it and you should be good.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:41 PM
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If you're looking for older guy then I think it's more reasonable to expect him to make more then you. Older people in general make more than younger people because they've had time to develop their careers. You'll want to be careful how you ask. Being too blunt would be off-putting to many guys. I know, for me, having a date ask me how much I make too early in the relationship would be a red flag. I would question whether she likes me for me, or if shes just after a free meal. Gold diggers exis…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:22 PM
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Reason 1: While the gender pay gap favors men in older demographics, women in their twenties actually outearn men of the same age, on average. So unless they're willing to marry an established guy a decade older than them, they should actually expect their man to make slightly less than them. Reason 2: Reducing a man's value down to his earning potential is objectifying and dehumanizing. Asking a man about his salary on a date is equivalent to a man asking a women about her weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:01 PM
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I'm decently educated too (MSc) but again, this isn't my area of expertise. The reason I felt we could make that assumption is because there's a strong social stigma against people with addiction issues, and addicts tend to be in denial about their situation at first, before seeking help. Accepting something is wrong is usually the first step of the "12 step" addiction programs. I could be totally off-base on my assumptions here, but my intuition is that if these self reported rates of porn addi…
/r/MensRights20/04/24 06:06 PM
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It's "fake" like action movies are fake. The actors are real, the sets are real, the stunts are often real... everything the camera captures is indeed real, but the editing, and the tricks the director uses to tell his story or create the experience he wants to create is a lie. So yeah, in porn, real people are indeed boning on camera, but (outside of certain fetish stuff) they don't show stuff like the girl folding herself into an awkward pretzel in the shower the morning prior, to pluck out st…
/r/MensRights20/04/24 07:59 AM
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More Pedantic Nonsense: Eh, I wouldn't call it "meaningless." The study proves that 11% of men and 3% of women they interviewed agree with the statement “I am addicted to pornography,” nothing more, and nothing less. So yeah, it's true this doesn't necessarily mean those numbers reflect the real number of porn addicts out there. Still, while I'm definitely not an expert in this area, I think, intuitively, it's safe to assume most people who aren't addicted to porn wouldn't falsely claim they wer…
/r/MensRights20/04/24 07:45 AM
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Mens razors work just as well on female hair as they do on male hair. Nothing stopping the ladies from buying the guy version to save a few bucks (in fact, plenty of female friends of mine admitted they do exactly that.) A feminist could fairly bitch about the price of female exclusive products (like menstrual stuff) but if a masculine, or non-gendered version of a product exists for cheaper, the "pink tax" is not a tax at all. It's a choice.
/r/MensRights20/04/24 07:20 AM
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If there's a silver lining to this, it's that TERFs are so radical, and so opposed to trans women that they're triggering pushback from the LGBT members of the progressive activist communities, leading to infighting among the various groups. Hopefully, this infighting will prompt the less-wacky activists to speak up, kick out the extremists, take back control of their movements, and drag the current political left back onto the rails of common sense.
/r/MensRights20/04/24 06:54 AM
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Pedantic Asshole Nitpicking Alert: You should be looking at the rate of porn addiction, not porn consumption. According to the first study that popped up when I searched on google, 11% of men, and 3% of women they interviewed self reported as having a porn addiction. That technically makes men four times more likely to be porn addicts (rather than twice as likely, as implied by the ratio of porn consumers.) This implies male porn-watchers are more susceptible to porn addiction than female porn-w…
/r/MensRights20/04/24 06:33 AM
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I haven't seen the stuff you're referring to, but if it's a professional production with studio money behind it, I guarantee everyone who appeared on camera would have showed ID confirming their age and signed a waiver ahead of time. Theres not just the issue of consent to be filmed bit they also have to make sure everyone is 18+. The legal risk of publishing the scene would just be too high otherwise.
/r/MensRights18/04/24 06:13 PM
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You're not accounting for the fact that these girls are probably full of shit. Their dudes might actually be average, but a girl in the infatuation phase of love is obviously going to be biased in favor of the guy they chose. She'll want to tell her friends all the good qualities about him, to either get their approval for the relationship or just make them jealous. When talking to her friends she's likely not going to say what she personally finds attractive about him (she might not even know h…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:55 PM
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While I agree with the notion that female on male sexual harassment is tolerated more than the inverse, the example you chose is totally wacky. So called "public" porn is almost always staged, even when they're trying to make it look like it's not. Any studio that didn't have informed consent from all participants and bystanders would be sued into oblivion. That doesn't mean the interactions are all scripted necessarily, but it does mean that the CFNM girls are all fully aware they're participat…
/r/MensRights18/04/24 05:40 PM
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The advice of "just be yourself" is great for guys whose main issue is dating anxiety and self-sabotage. If it was as easy as that, however, guys wouldn't be as frustrated with dating as they are. I'd say, the advice works for many guys, if not most, as a typical guy's biggest issue is often their attitude and the self-sabotaging behavior it brings, but that's definitely not true for all guys. For some, nothing short of a truly radical change in looks, personality, or lifestyle will get them the…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:50 PM
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Not an earthquake, but a hurricane maybe? Hurricanes are more extreme because of climate change, and climate change is men's fault, therefore... THE PATRIARCHY!
/r/MensRights15/04/24 09:00 PM
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Women: "Why are men so closed off? Why don't they share their feelings?" Also women: "Eww! Ick! Not THOSE feelings!"
/r/MensRights12/04/24 06:10 PM
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Men's rights, in theory, would fall under the portfolio of progressivism. Anyone who wants to correct social injustices should also examine the issues men face and put similar effort into addressing them that the do in addressing women's issues. In practice? Obviously this isn't the case. So yes, Men's rights could morph into a left wing social justice thing some day but definitely not right now. Today's left wingers are far too insane to be reasoned with. We pretty much have to wait for the dum…
/r/MensRights12/04/24 06:04 PM
1

Impressively coherent for an AI essay. The thesis is reasonable on the surface but if you poke at some of the underlying assumptions it falls apart. Specifically, how much of this "toxic masculinity" is socialized and how much is just biologically intrinsic to being male? Where does "toxic" end, and "masculinity" begin? Testosterone makes you horny, competitive, and assertive. It doesn't necessarily make you violent or controlling but a lot of traits feminists find distasteful about men are just…
/r/MensRights12/04/24 05:53 PM
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If this is a desert island scenario a bear isn't that bad of an idea... a lot of good, high calorie meat there if you can manage to kill the creature. If you smoked, cured, or otherwise found some way to preserve the meat you could hold out for a long time. Hopefully long enough for the coast guard to find you. I guess, technically you could do the same thing to a man but... eating wild game is a lot more palatable than cannibalism.
/r/MensRights11/04/24 06:45 AM
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Really? That's got to be trolling. I think some guys just like to say attractive celebrities are "mid" as a kind of power game (beauty is in the eye of the beholder, therefore, a beautiful person holds no power over you that you don't give her) or it could just be a troll post to piss off her fans. One or both of those actresses might not suit a particular guy's personal taste in ladies, but they're both objectively attractive women. Calling them "mid" might not be ironic in the strictest defini…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 07:33 PM
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When there's a nebulously defined division of labour or money, most people think they're contributing more than they really are. It's not just marriage, and its not just women either. I've dealt with similar shit while negotiating grocery bills and chore arrangements with (male) roommates too. It's a real psychological phenomenon. I'm sure there's a name for it, but I'm away from my computer and can't be bothered to Google it right now.
/r/MensRights10/04/24 04:14 PM
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I obviously can't comment on the female experience of dating, but from what I've seen on social media and stuff women seem to complain about a lack of quality, rather than a lack of quantity. It's not: "Men are rejecting me." It's more: "I keep wasting my time on shitty men." Even the most toxic manosphere stuff is less about "is she good enough for you?" And more like "So what if she's a terrible person? You can still use her for sex." Anecdotally, I haven't seen much talk from my fellow guys a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:05 PM
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Yeah, thats a thing. The effect of porn on the male (and female) brain, especially when exposed early in life is definitely a discussion worth having too, but that's a whole other can of worms and my comment was more about dating standards for male partners rather than expectations in the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:45 PM
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Yeah! No dating! You can't date anybody, for any reason! (Yes, I know what you meant, but I will not apologize for being silly.)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:08 PM
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A "no" is always valid. But the reasons for that "no" can indeed be stupid and arbitrary too. Attraction is subjective and beauty standards are largely a fleeting product of society and culture, and they change when culture changes. I'm sure everyone has heard of this example: In classical art plumpness was seen as highly attractive, a sign of wealth and vitality. In modern times, overweight people are generally seen as less attractive than those who are not. I think men who complain about women…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 02:59 PM
0

Wait... which perverts are being celebrated?
/r/MensRights08/04/24 12:46 AM
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At face value, reducing the population isn't necessarily a bad thing, but unless something tragic happens, there's going to be a gradual demographic shift as the existing population ages, retires, and there's suddenly nobody young around to replace them. At the same time, the elderly won't be working or paying taxes, but they'll require a disproportionate amount of social welfare money, and there won't be enough young working adults left to support them. It's not apocalyptic, but it's definitely…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 07:34 PM
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This is more or less true. Women are women, but they are also people that you can hang out with without any implied sexual relationship at all. If I'm hanging out with my sister, playing board games or whatever, it's because we're compatible as fellow humans, even if there's obviously no sexual attraction there. But saying "girlfriend" here sort of invalidates that point, since that label implies there's a sexual/romantic relationship between you, or if you're not at that stage, there's at least…
/r/MensRights07/04/24 07:12 PM
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Oof! Oww... right in the feels! It's like the author ripped out my soul, kicked it twice in the nuts, and then shoved it back inside me upside-down. When I was younger, I wasn't an "incel" per se, but I definitely had less luck than I'd have liked with the ladies, which led to some bitter feelings. Things improved, and I never went down the incel rabbit hole, but I can absolutely relate to the feelings the author managed to capture in that piece of work. I'm thoroughly impressed. Thanks for shar…
/r/MensRights06/04/24 09:50 PM
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If ever someone needed to be cancelled, it's a healthcare professional who openly publishes for the public record that they don't care about patient welfare.
/r/MensRights04/04/24 08:48 PM
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Mormons have some pretty weird beliefs hiding underneath their ultra-polite and pure veneer... (at least, from the perspective of outsiders to the religion) but that doesn't mean they can't still be right from time to time.
/r/MensRights03/04/24 05:56 AM
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By "monkey brain" I'm talking about the primitive, instinctual, and irrational part of a normal person's brain, something we're all born with. It's the part responsible for those ill-advised horny decisions that often turn out disastrous. Its not something exclusive to women either. A male example of this in action would be a guy "sticking his dick in crazy" despite seeing the red flags and knowing he'll probably regret it later.
/r/MensRights02/04/24 05:11 PM
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If you look at it from an evolutionary psychology perspective it makes sense. A dangerous man with a proven capacity for violence is a better protector for offspring, and will provide better genes to raise equally powerful and competent sons. In the modern world, dark triad traits are also linked to high financial achievement and social status. Finally, psychopaths often have extremely good control over the way they appear to others, which allows them to appear confident and competent, etc. That…
/r/MensRights01/04/24 09:17 PM
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This might just be the stupidest thing I've ever seen in my life. Beating... giant penises... with pool noodles... is considered an act of female empowerment? There are some seriously Freudian implications there... and hasn't Germany learned it's lessons from history? Don't mess with sketchy pseudo-scientific theories from early-20th century Austrian guys... The last time you did, some bad stuff happened.
/r/MensRights01/04/24 10:25 AM
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No means no, doesn't matter the situation. Historically, sure, marriage came with an implied entitlement to sex, but martial rape has been outlawed for decades in most developed countries, and I doubt you'll hear many feminists fighting to repeal that law anytime soon. Wifey has a right to complain, but she doesn't really have any recourse aside from putting in actual effort to improve relationship intimacy (probably not going to happen) or throwing away a marriage over something stupid and pett…
/r/MensRights01/04/24 10:09 AM
1

Were they stupid enough to text you this blatantly obvious blackmail threat using their phone number or some sort of social media account directly linked to them? If that's the case, and they left an easily followable paper trail that explicitly shows intent to falsely accuse and blackmail you, feel free to laugh your ass off at whatever demands they care to make, and then send the cops after them for the serious felony they just committed. Tell them to get your iphone and vape back from the bit…
/r/MensRights01/04/24 09:43 AM
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Not entirely sure what you're talking about, but porn featuring the theme of "hot girl + nerdy guy" has been around, probably as long as the concept of a "nerd" has existed. If you're not a super mainstream porn studio, the only real way to stand out and get an audience is to cater to a niche, and it makes sense to target the "lonely geek who wants to bang the unusually sexy gamer girl next door" demographic with a fantasy catered exclusively to them. Now as to the ethics of doing this... well..…
/r/MensRights01/04/24 09:30 AM
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Wow, you're right, those comments are heinous.
/r/MensRights01/04/24 03:34 AM
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I also have a BPD ex... (shudders) never again...
/r/MensRights23/03/24 09:24 PM
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It's okay to divorce for any reason at all. But just because it's okay, doesn't mean it's not tacky as fuck. Divorcing only because "your needs are not being met" is an extremely stupid and selfish thing to do. I believe married couples made a commitment, and they should do all they can to make it work, even if it's difficult at times. The couple need to discuss the issues they're facing, and work together to find a solution that both parties find acceptable. Only if the issues have been investi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 10:15 PM
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I think, for me at least, porn took what was already there, and multiplied it. It was sort of like a positive feedback loop, where I sought out what I found attractive, which reinforced what I found attractive, and shifted it slightly over time toward the more common and "mainstream" fantasies within the maledom niche. I think my original desire for domination came from fantasies of ownership, of a girl being unable to reject me because she's "completely mine" of her being in a desperate situati…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 10:39 PM
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Sexuality may be malleable to a degree, I've developed new kinks and fetishes over the years from being exposed to certain types of porn, but sexual orientation always seemed pretty firmly established for me. I'm hetero, and while trans/femboy porn does confuse my boner a little, I'm still overwhelmingly attracted to girls, and I don't think I could change that preference even if I wanted to. The same, I assume, applies to lesbians. Even if they wanted to sleep with you for some reason, and even…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 07:55 PM
2

I've friendzoned a girl who I wasn't attracted to, despite her attempting to flirt with me for a short while, after which she moved on to other dudes and we stayed platonic friends. That doesn't prove anything about the gender ratio, but it does at least prove that a nonzero number of women do end up friendzoned.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 11:18 AM
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"Tell me you have Daddy Issues as loudly as possible, without telling me you have Daddy Issues." Despite all this bluster, I'd bet a hundred bucks that at least one of these posters calls their abusive, overbearing, on-again off-again ex-boyfriend "Daddy" in the bedroom whenever he shows up unannounced at her doorstep for a zero-commitment midnight booty call.
/r/MensRights15/03/24 09:52 AM
2

This seems... oddly specific. Just like any flaw or weakness, I think it'll bother some potential partners who have unrealistic standards or aren't that interested in you to begin with, but honestly, I don't think many ladies would be too put-off by something that minor. Nobody's perfect, nobody's good at everything, and I think most people can understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 07:42 PM
5

It's not? Wow. Ya learn something new every day.
/r/MensRights13/03/24 03:35 AM
10

Define "better." Genuine good faith question here. Like, what do guys need to do to be better, in your eyes? Obviously, we can't change height, face, etc. A disproportionate number of incels are autistic, and while they can improve their masking skills, they can't "cure" their autism. It's also very hard to climb the socioeconomic ladder if you're not born into wealth, which makes it hard for younger, less established dudes to afford the trappings of wealth and status. Is it a matter of personal…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 03:07 AM
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This sucks, but what solution is there? Outside of some sketchy incel proposals about government enforced arranged marriages, there isn't really anything you can do about this aside from changing dating culture, and that's the sort of thing that can only happen organically.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 10:53 PM
8

Why would you even want a bamboo toothbrush? Wood swells when it gets wet, making it a lousy material, and since it's an electric toothbrush, with metal and plastic parts inside, it's not like anything other than it's outer shell is biodegradable or any better for the environment than a conventional electric toothbrush. If this guy made a mistake, it was giving the woman investment money in the first place.
/r/MensRights12/03/24 10:47 PM
1

So I think it's safe to assume a certain subset of feminists (probably not the majority) are only part of the movement because they want the status and clout that being an activist fighting for the oppressed class brings them. A lot of this subset are probably morally bankrupt narcissists, or deeply broken people, who aren't mentally capable of feeling true empathy for their fellow women, let alone their fellow man. Many of these people only care about the appearance of being righteous, and the …
/r/MensRights12/03/24 10:00 PM
4

Eh, I know everyone here is going to be cynical about it, but I honestly think it's a good sign that women are pushing back against some of the more extreme feminist misandry. I'm part of the millennial generation, and I can say that when I was growing up, radical feminists were still a thing, and "feminazis" existed, but mainstream feminists weren't nearly this hostile. I was able to hang out and be friends with them without fear of being cancelled by saying something they disagreed with, or fe…
/r/MensRights12/03/24 09:46 PM
5

Because committing to one person leads to genuine love, a less transactional relationship, and a happier, more stable life in general? Seems kind of obvious to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 06:36 PM
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Well it's a fact that kinks and fetishes are often the result of early sexual experiences. So gents with trauma from childhood CSA, an overbearing mother, early exposure to femdom porn, or just a childhood crush on an older girl might develop a kink for powerful ladies as a result. Sexuality is complicated. RedPillers might want to argue that maledom is the norm while malesub is deviant but personally, I'm sure a lot of my own dominant tendencies were molded by early exposure to porn and my own …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 05:56 PM
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Soft agree. I do have dominant tendencies consistent with Redpill rhetoric, and at a purely sexual level, I could happily enjoy sex with multiple partners. My base masculine instincts want me to gather a harem of multiple attractive women, have as much sex as possible, while also keeping them away from other men. That's pretty much the "optimal" strategy for passing on my genes after all. Thing is, just because something is natural doesn't mean it's good. Monogamy isn't natural for humans but en…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 04:51 PM
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Those jobs are villainized, because while might pay well, they don't provide a tangible net benefit to society the same way other jobs do. A farmer makes food. A laborer builds houses. An engineer designs new things. An artist produces art... Small business owners and entrepreneurs organize people and meet demand for new things. Marketers sell stuff they didn't create to customers, many of which would have bought their product regardless, or another one just like it anyway. Middle managers, mean…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 11:35 PM
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Safer for the male drivers too. The sort of woman who would insist on having a female driver for safety reasons, isn't safe for a man to be around.
/r/MensRights10/03/24 11:16 PM
2

Fair enough. I've never been a parent so I'll defer to your experience here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 06:52 PM
2

Ironically, incels cannot be rapists, by definition. If they did, they'd have had sex, and wouldn't be incels anymore.
/r/MensRights10/03/24 09:07 AM
3

What about toys? Coloring books? Puzzles? Friends and siblings? You don't need to park a kid behind a screen to get them engaged in a fun activity. And yes, you still need to watch them, but that's what I was talking about when I said it's like being "on call." You have to be alert and ready to intervene if they get into trouble, but you can still sit down for a few minutes here and there, or multitask with other stuff on your to-do list, you don't have to constantly hover over their shoulder gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 06:23 AM
1

Yep. It's me... Orion! The great badass huntsman that Zeus placed among the stars as a constellation. Fear my magnificent powers! (I have no idea who that is)
/r/MensRights10/03/24 02:07 AM
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It wasn't super long ago... this was about 2012 ish? I don't think dating culture has changed that much since then.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 01:56 AM
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I knew a guy back in college: fit, blonde hair, blue eyes, strong cleft chin, smart, friendly and charming personality. He was objectively a cool guy to hang out with, not a douchebag "chad" like you'd expect from the stereotype. But he also got a lot of attention. Like... a lot. Like, he'd be hanging out chatting about his lego collecting hobby with us, and random girls would walk up to him and try to hijack the conversation. I had classes with him, and over the course of the semester, just abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 01:07 AM
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The inverse is true too. Personally, I don't think I could spend eight hours a day doing house chores if I tried, unless I lived on an acreage with animals to tend to or was going overboard deep cleaning the entire house every day. Childcare is probably the biggest slice of a SAHM's time pie, but I also wouldn't say that eight hours of watching a kid equates to eight hours of solid labor. Just as how employed people don't spend every second fully engaged in what they're doing, I don't think moms…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 12:52 AM
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It's a pretty low blow to attack someone for being "fragile." This is just straight-up schoolyard bullying, like mocking the wimpy kid for crying. Ad hominem attacks are sadly a common feature in online debates, and are usually done when the person making those attacks doesn't have a good argument and wants you to shut up. While I'm tempted to say feminists and radicals do this more often, you guys are occasionally guilty of it too. Just remember ladies and gents... if someone attacks you as a p…
/r/MensRights10/03/24 12:39 AM
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My take on it is this: Working and providing for the family IS a household chore. What is a chore if not work done to maintain the comfort and integrity of a home? Going out, and getting money to pay the mortgage definitely counts. This doesn't excuse a working person who refuses to do all chores because they make the money, but if you want to be fair, it needs to be factored into the overall distribution of chores. --- For example, Alice is a SAHM, and Bob works. Bob does eight hours of labor a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 12:22 AM
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I've met a few dates through online dating, and while it "worked" it was an overall shitty experience that absolutely demolished my self-esteem. I compare the feeling to applying for jobs in a shitty economy. Thousands of resumees going out, and even when a human does read them, you get filtered and rejected for stupid arbitrary reasons, people judge your worth based on one glance at one photo, or ten seconds of reading your profile, and it's really hard to detach yourself from the outcome and c…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 11:51 PM
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I think it's because many of these men are perfectly happy to "date down" when it comes to casual sex and hookups. A 10/10 guy would likely still enjoy sleeping with a 6/10 girl, while the opposite (a 10/10 girl with a 6/10 guy) wouldn't be nearly as enjoyable for the girl. That's basically the hypergamy theory in a nutshell. A small number of guys sleeping with many girls. The issue for these girls, of course, is getting the guy to commit. These guys are enjoying an unlimited sex buffet, and no…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 11:27 PM
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Weird hobbies / mild autism, aren't a turn off for me. I like intelligence, geekiness, and passion for weird hobbies, and I find social awkwardness endearing. Sadly, the looks issue is a bit of a problem for me. I don't need to date a supermodel, but I do have a strong preference for slimmer body types, so much so that I don't think I would want to date someone who was obese. Some guys do like their ladies a little thicker though, so don't think being a little heavy completely disqualifies you f…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 11:16 PM
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That woman has an odd face shape, but seems otherwise fairly good looking. She probably wouldn't make it as a model, but I don't think a lot of men would have an issue dating someone like her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:53 PM
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Oddly appropriate analogy, since rabies is far more lethal than cancer.
/r/MensRights06/03/24 07:37 PM
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I would argue men themselves aren't settled on this issue either. In the "pro" camp, men might see masculinity as an inherent part of their nature, driven by biological instincts. Traits found mostly in men which society deem "toxic" such as aggressiveness, possessiveness, and horniness, are a natural result of our higher testosterone levels, and are actually healthy when given a proper outlet such as following a professional ambition, and loving and protecting a family. Men these days are vilif…
/r/MensRights05/03/24 06:12 PM
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It's always some combination of divorce, dump, or go no-contact. Like, sure, sometimes that's good advice, and the situation warrants something that extreme. But other times, it's a bit like treating your dog's fleas with a flamethrower. Sure, if your goal is to kill the fleas, it'll definitely work... but it's far from the ideal option for your dog. Like... what about working on your communication? What about trying to understand your partner's point of view? What about asking questions to unde…
/r/MensRights03/03/24 11:58 AM
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Manosphere rhetoric is basically it's own language at this point. Translation: "Greedy women who manipulate less attractive men for their money, sleep with other men they find more attractive on the side." I'm... not really sure what that has to do with the comment you posted though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 11:22 AM
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I dunno, student with a history of skipping class? Suspicions of dishonesty? Busy explaining something important to the class the teacher doesn't want him to miss? Asshole teacher on a power trip? I can't think of many good reasons to deny a kid the toilet honestly, but that wasn't really my point. All I was really saying is that girls' bathroom needs are more urgent than boys' bathroom needs because girls have uteruses. There is a biological reason for that particular double standard.
/r/MensRights01/03/24 09:18 PM
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Ah I missed that part. I was thinking it was like 15-20 minutes or something. What happened to OP was not cool. 1 hour is way too long to force a student to hold it, bordering on dangerous. Most exams have some sort of procedure for bathrooms, often requiring an escort to make sure you don't cheat. For major exams that sometimes requires use of a proctor or something to have an extra set of eyes on the class and handle escorting duties. OP absolutely has grounds to complain about that teacher's …
/r/MensRights01/03/24 09:10 PM
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Well for the record, denying guys the bathroom until they have an accident is unacceptable too. The difference is in urgency. For girls, getting a period they're not prepared for is a "I'm staining my panties right fucking now!" kind of situation. Asking a teenge guy to hold his pee for five extra minutes isn't usually unreasonable unless he has some sort of medical issue.
/r/MensRights01/03/24 08:20 PM
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To be honest, it kinda is? Like, it's probably not intentional on the teacher's part, but if an adolescent girl has a nasty period accident in class, especially one that gets noticed by others and publicly pointed out, that can be genuinely traumatic. It's more than just some stained pants... just remember how vicious and nasty middle school girls can be with each other. Male or otherwise, any teacher who lets something like that happen when it's easily avoidable by just letting them use the toi…
/r/MensRights01/03/24 07:19 PM
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The bathroom thing at least has an explanation: Periods. When it's time, it's time, and it can sometimes come earlier or later than expected, catching her unprepared. Unlike with bladders, ladies can't just clench their vajayjays and "hold it in." Denying a girl leave to use the toilet when she asks can lead to bloody pants, a biohazardous mess to clean up, and a mortifying experience for the girl. Girls, especially teens, are usually too self-conscious to mention this openly, and usually just u…
/r/MensRights01/03/24 06:55 PM
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Maybe he's different on Twitter but I don't see any of his videos are manipulation guides.That stuff certainly exists in PUA culture, but his stuff seems to be more about promoting empathy and understanding of the differences in how men and women see and interact with the dating market. It's like, "women want X, so stop doing Y." Not "do Z to get in their pants."
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 05:55 PM
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Hmm... All good points. I've noticed he definitely has conservative and anti-feminist biases. He's definitely not as extreme as some others in the manosphere though. I'm actually with him on a lot of his social commentary, though I disagree with his views on purity. He says a history of having multiple partners lowers a woman's appeal, and while having multiple guys at once is a turnoff for me, I don't mind a lady with a history of serial monogamy. As a side point, I'm curious why the "that's ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 05:27 PM
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Yeah, it's probably not the best description to use. I think it would be better for him to call the y-axis "love" and the x-axis, "lust," instead of attributing them to being a "good guy" or "bad boy."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 10:57 PM
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Most men don't require flowers or silence, but daily compliments definitely get you points.
/r/MensRights28/02/24 10:24 PM
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Yeah, I think he probably shouldn't have used the word "Bad Boy." What he's describing is more like a measure of your general "manliness." So that doesn't just include sketchy traits like dominance and narcissism, but also positive traits of traditional masculinity like confidence, charisma, strength, skill, chivalry, protectiveness, and so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 10:11 PM
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Well, I can say, at least, the men's side describes me pretty well. I care about both looks and personality the most, and I would need a girl to have both to consider dating her long term (keeper zone). For a FWB thing (sleeper zone), or a one night stand (sweeper zone) I'd be more willing to accept a girl with a shitty personality, one who was seeing other guys at the same time, or one whose looks didn't suit my tastes. Clearly, you seem to value personality more than looks, but you'll still ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 10:04 PM
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You're right, of course, but does that necessarily mean he's wrong? I'm more curious to see whether real people, outside this guy's social media bubble, find what he has to say insightful or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 09:57 PM
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I think this is accounted for. According to this guy, at least, being a "Bad Boy" doesn't just mean being hot and dominant, it also includes some of the more positive stereotypically masculine traits like confidence, assertiveness, and protectiveness which I think many ladies value in long term partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 09:50 PM
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I would usually agree with you, but this guy has a fairly unique perspective that I haven't seen being repeated elsewhere that much. I figured it could be helpful to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 09:29 PM
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Biological fact: Female sexuality is more complicated than male sexuality. Trying to suggest otherwise is pure delusion. It doesn't take anything more than a wet hole to make a typical guy orgasm. This is for good reason, because the male orgasm is a necessary element for babymaking. If it was too hard for us to get off, we'd struggle to pass on our genes and lose the evolutionary race. As guys, we don't have to like our partners, we don't have to be attracted to them, we don't even have to cons…
/r/MensRights28/02/24 01:31 AM
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For men, achievement results in social approval, therefore we're both motivated by social approval.
/r/MensRights27/02/24 03:19 AM
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I'm not sure if this is misandry or just... kink. Like, this sounds way to horny to be a serious declaration of intent. It reads more like a femdom / forced feminization roleplay session than anything. As a guy into BDSM who posts on misogyny kink subs, and enjoys a bit of recreational female degradation without actually hating women or believing they truly deserve to be second class citizens, I know there's a barrier between horny brain thoughts and actual actions. While I do find these snapsho…
/r/MensRights26/02/24 05:56 PM
1

Sorry, I should have said "extreme" instead of radical. I'm talking the extreme right, and the extreme left. Both are crazy in their own ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:36 PM
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I've changed my opinions on stuff a lot over the years, and I probably will again. I'm a practical person, so in my case seeing new evidence that proves me wrong is what does it. I don't just blindly trust people when somebody tells me I'm wrong and I have a healthy skepticism when faced with new facts that contradict what I believe to be true, but I'm always mentally prepared to be proven wrong. I try not to get too attached to certain truths, and I'm always prepared to change my beliefs when f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:31 PM
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As a redditor myself, I can say without hesitation that the accusation is true, we ARE actually a wretched hive of mostly-miserable assholes who love radicalizing ourselves and arguing about stupid shit that doesn't need to be argued. If you disagree with me, go ahead and start an argument filled with hate, unfair generalizations, and ad hominem attacks... it is our way, after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:20 PM
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Being a pedantic terminally online asshole from Reddit, I can't help but point out the OF models themselves are women, and they obviously think it's ok, the lady friends in their circles probably do too, so clearly not all women disapprove.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:13 PM
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Maybe the "OnlyFans Good" girls don't want outside competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:09 PM
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If doubt exists in your heart, young Padawan... it's because you haven't yet nerded hard enough. (Also, if you're loud and proud of your geekiness, rather than ashamed, even the "normie" ladies will find your passion, knowledge, and skill at your chosen special interest attractive instead of icky. They might even fall the to dark side and become a nerd themselves if they're sufficiently into you, and you convince them your niche hobbies would make a fun shared activity.)
/r/MensRights25/02/24 11:07 AM
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Nerd harder. Nerd so hard that you turn into a neurodivergent singularity and inexplicably end up attracting all the pussy that ever pussed! Or... you know... you find an equally nerdy lady who properly appreciates your unfathomable awesomeness, and you two bond over your shared love of warhammer figurines or whatever. Just watch out if one of you likes Star Trek, and the other likes Star Wars... There's no hate sex quite like "rival fandom war" hate sex.
/r/MensRights25/02/24 11:04 AM
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Pssh! No way, you just need to nerd harder.
/r/MensRights25/02/24 10:44 AM
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For math reasons, there can never* be an exactly 0% difference in average salary between two distinct groups within the same population, even if everyone is paid fairly and there is no bias. I made a tediously long comment in another thread about it, but the TL;DR is thus: There's always going to be some difference in average salaries between different groups, but it's only evidence of bias if it's a big enough difference to be statistically significant. Not statistically significant? Then sorry…
/r/MensRights25/02/24 10:42 AM
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Alas, yet another poor soul downvoted to hell for the sin of having common sense... Guys... The difference in average salary between white men, and everybody else, will never be zero. In any given population, even one without any bias whatsoever, there will never be an exactly $0 difference in average salary between two large subsets of that population. It's not technically impossible, but just ludicrously improbable. Practically speaking, no matter how hard you try, unless you fix everyone's sa…
/r/MensRights25/02/24 09:35 AM
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No such thing as "too nerdy."
/r/MensRights25/02/24 05:19 AM
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Makes me feel like we should bring back early 2000s fat shaming as retaliation. (not serious)
/r/MensRights25/02/24 05:18 AM
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Wow, that's a shitty situation. If you haven't already, check out r/raisedbynarcissists There are lots of stories there you might find relatable. Not all abusers like your mom are narcissistic, but what you said sort of fits the pattern a few others have mentioned on that sub. Now, onto the meat. If you dad failed to protect you, it wasn't because he didn't retaliate physically. That wouldn't have ended well. People like your mom don't accept percieved loss with grace. If he'd have struck her, a…
/r/MensRights25/02/24 04:33 AM
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If you're an engineer/tech professional you should have the math skills to realize this isn't nearly the smoking gun you think it is. According to Microsoft's statement here, nonwhites and nonmales are paid less than 1% more than white men for the same jobs. That's not an "unfair prejudice" against white men, it's barely even a rounding error. Not only that, but it's pretty much mathematically impossible for two subsets of a random population, each consisting of thousands of individuals, to have…
/r/MensRights25/02/24 03:52 AM
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You'll find no disagreement from the guys on this sub, buddy. If it's any consolation, it's not about you, or even men. The feminazis are just projecting. Modern society is objectively shit, everyone is toxic and jaded, and women are looking for somebody other than themselves to blame for their portion of our shared misery. Men, and white men especially, are the only safe targets they can attack without facing social repercussions. If this was 1970s and 1980s America, before open racism stopped …
/r/MensRights24/02/24 10:52 AM
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Involuntary pencil-sounding... yeesh... That's more torture than rape, isn't it?
/r/MensRights24/02/24 10:23 AM
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I've heard that strippers actually feel quite safe at work too. There are bouncers to enforce the rules, but also there's a weird culture of respect among men too. Everybody knows that you're not supposed to touch or violate a dancer's boundaries without invitation, and social pressure keeps everyone in check. The sketchiest part is supposedly getting to their cars after work, which is ironically the point when they're wearing more clothes than they have at any other point in the night.
/r/MensRights22/02/24 09:32 PM
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It's definitely motivated by women sexualizing themselves for validation, more from other women than men. Ladies don't want to be sexy in some random creeps eyes, they just want to be sexier than their fellow girls. I would argue it's not a sexual exhibitionst thing for them at all. They're not walking around wet because they're exposing themselves. They're doing it because they want to feel validated. In my case I really don't mind when they do this. I just shut up and enjoy the view like the s…
/r/MensRights22/02/24 09:02 PM
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Yeah. Misandrists aren't usually that subtle. Pay attention, and give them the space to speak their mind, they'll out themselves in no time.
/r/MensRights21/02/24 11:01 AM
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The perspective in this article is pretty weird, but I agree with the goal. A shift from the cold, impersonal, and painfully superficial dating apps towards more in-person flirting would definitely help ladies and gents get along. That said, do women really need pick up artist coaching? Young women tend to be a lot smoother than young guys in social situations, and for most dudes, a cute girl walking up to them and starting even an awkward conversation would be taken well. Maybe it's just about …
/r/MensRights21/02/24 10:51 AM
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"Social constructs" still matter. They still have a tangible effect on a person's life, the way they are treated, and the way they feel about themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 01:45 AM
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I would consider it to be equivalent to an acid attack in terms of severity. Not lethal, but painful, permanently disfiguring, and with an identical motivation of rendering a person worthless in the eyes of future partners.
/r/MensRights20/02/24 10:43 PM
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Yep, totally agree. Effort alone doesn't lead to financial success either.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 09:20 PM
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Heh... the hole. I didn't even think of that! I'm kinda disappointed I didn't, to be honest... Aren't I supposed to be the dirty minded sexist villain in this situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 11:06 AM
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You don't "earn" consent. Isn't that the whole issue with "nice guys"? You know, the ones who treat their good deeds as a currency they later expect to use to buy sex from an otherwise uninterested girl? The truth is, some people fall in love after a long period of respectful courtship. Others, just happen to be mildly drunk at a party, and sharing a couch with a stranger they find hot enough to want to climb on. Maybe the former is "earned" but the latter certainly isn't. Doesn't mean it's not …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 10:44 AM
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I agree the analogy doesn't track with reality if you think of the "donut provider" as an individual woman, but the point of this analogy was to describe what it would feel like to be a guy in that situation. A guy unlucky in love would see many of his various friends having success with various different women (ie: eating their donuts) and wonder, why not him too? If everyone else seemed to have somebody, why had "his somebody" not yet arrived? I do disagree with the second half of what you sai…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 10:00 AM
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Women are not donuts. I was not comparing women to donuts, I was trying to describe the feeling of frustration and sense of being left out that an chronically unwanted man might feel, using an analogy I figured everyone could relate to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 09:38 AM
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That just makes me want to pee on their shoes even more.
/r/MensRights20/02/24 07:35 AM
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Well, this metaphor assumes you're hungry for a donut to begin with. It's not really about being "better off." Much like with sex, eating a donut or other junk food, is just a piece of fleeting happiness, a quick dopamine hit you recieve when you satisfy your biological cravings. Eating junk food isn't really a rational decision that provides a net benefit to your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:50 AM
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Imagine one of your coworkers brought donuts to work one day, and is sharing those donuts with everyone else at the office. You want a donut too, but when you go for one, the person handing them out says they're not for you. These donuts are not yours, and you're not entitled to one. You then get to watch the rest of the office eat their donuts in front of you, telling you how good and tasty they are... Would you be frustrated? That's a massive oversimplification, but it at least captures the es…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:34 AM
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Talking to kinky people. There is a certain type of lady that is actually attracted to the rough, degrading, misogynistic porn that feminists complain about. Rape/noncon is, and always has been, one of the most popular sexual fantasies among women. Obviously, not all women want to be treated like sexy garbage in the bedroom, but some genuinely get off on it. Case in point, there are there are quite a few NSFW subreddits dedicated to misogyny kink right here on reddit and you can see, plain as da…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:06 AM
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Heh... yeah, I wouldn't actually do that. I'm not quite that stupid. Still... in a just world, a group of harpies trying to block men from using the mens bathroom for stupid arbitrary reasons definitely deserve to have their shoes peed on. "Block the bathroom? Okay, now you're the bathroom."
/r/MensRights19/02/24 11:26 PM
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I don't believe so. Most gamers are mentally healthy, but we're not talking about them, are we? For those dealing with severe social isolation, social anxiety, and problems like that, I think of online gaming communities serving a role of social training wheels. They don't enable negative behavior, rather they expose these guys who wouldn't otherwise engage in society at all, to less stressful social situations within the safe, structured setting of a video game. You could argue that offering a …
/r/MensRights19/02/24 11:07 PM
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I haven't seen anything like that, but if a group of women were barring the entrance of the mens room so women could use the stalls, I would tell them to fuck right off. If they persisted, I would pee on their shoes to show dominance. The ladies room is a bit more questionable, I admit. The double-standard is real, and I would rather just use a different mens room further away, or even pee against a bush outside. The ladies room would be an absolute last resort.
/r/MensRights19/02/24 10:55 PM
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When I was in high school and my early twenties, I played WoW with many of my IRL friends who I saw in person on the regular. So in that case, video games didn't replace objective reality at all. It was just a fun thing we all did together. Meanwhile, for those without communal bonds, who have zero real-life friends and who struggle to make them, any form of social interaction at all is better than none. It's not ideal, but they're probably better off making friends through gaming, than being to…
/r/MensRights19/02/24 10:46 PM
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I've never gotten the "Ick" from a woman being too into me. The more into me she is, the better. I don't think I've ever known a guy who said his girlfriend was too into him. The only complaints I tend to hear are when a guy's girlfriend is too cold to him, not the opposite. Now, if I don't want that sort of attention from her, that attention violates boundaries, persists to stalking, or she's just not taking no for an answer, then I'm definitely going to have some stern words with her and poten…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 10:37 PM
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I consider the false accusers and sexual harassment cry-bullies to be firmly in the "unreasonable woman" category.
/r/MensRights19/02/24 09:57 PM
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Really? I can't say I've experienced anything like that, but if you have, then that's different. The rare few ladies I've encountered in the mens room were generally apologetic, eager to explain the reason they were transgressing, and worried about how their desperate actions would be perceived. They were almost excessively respectful. I guess, if we wanted to be as charitable as possible, these girls could have found the novelty of urinals interesting, and seeing someone use one for likely the …
/r/MensRights19/02/24 09:49 PM
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I know this is meant as a joke, but MMOs are, in fact, "social behaviour." At least, if they're designed well, they are. Time for an out of context WoW nostalgia digression! Back in Old WoW, before automatic matchmaking streamlined everything, players had to actually interact with other players to organize dungeon groups and raids. Joining guilds and making friends were important if you wanted to experience the endgame content. Also, someone had to physically travel to the dungeon entrance to su…
/r/MensRights19/02/24 09:41 PM
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I've seen this happen at all sorts of crowded events and concerts. It's usually not the majority of women, but a few courageous souls have indeed dared to venture into the mens room when the line for the ladies was too long and their business was urgent enough. It's just a biological fact that women who sit down take longer on average to do their business than men who stand. Add to that, the fact that toilet stalls take up more space than urinals, so if both bathrooms are the same size, there ar…
/r/MensRights19/02/24 09:25 PM
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"Are you saying there are zero cases of women sexually assaulting men or other women?" If they don't backpedal after realizing how easily disproven their argument is, just point them to the r/mdsa subreddit where women share harrowing true stories about the after-effects of sexual abuse they suffered at their mother's hands. They might have no empathy for men, but no feminist would dare show a lack of empathy toward female rape victims. If they then say, "not all men, but mostly men," then... I …
/r/MensRights19/02/24 09:09 PM
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Women tend to like a wider variety of body types. Some certainly prefer men with abs, but not all of them care about that. Anecdotally, I've heard from a female friend of mine who actually prefers men with softer bodies (they're more "huggable" in her words.) She's dating another friend of mine who's fairly overweight, and she's clearly happy with him. I think you're generalizing a bit too much here. What you say applies to some women, but not all women. Women's tastes are fairly diverse. You'll…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 08:28 PM
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I think a lot of James Deen's appeal was thanks to how rough his content was. Him allegedly being a rapist probably doesn't make him any less attractive to his core audience of subby ladies with "ravishment" kinks. It's sort of like, how Facial Abuse is weirdly popular with girls as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 08:17 PM
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Serious question: Do straight women actually watch lesbian porn? Yes, according to PornHub, it's the "most viewed category" by women in the west, but how strong is that majority? Is it greater than all other categories together? Or is it merely the largest slice in the "sexual diversity pie." Certainly not all women prefer to watch girl-girl stuff, probably not even the majority. Also, how many of those women actually identify as straight? Is it possible that lesbians just enjoy porn more than s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 08:10 PM
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Yep. I agree with all of this. A man shouldn't feel ashamed of being a virgin. The thing is, I felt what I felt, and I'm not sure I could have completely changed my unhealthy outlook with therapy alone. I would have recognized how unhealthy it was, but I wouldn't have been able to stop wanting it. My libidinous biology wouldn't have let me forget. In my case the only real solution to the problem was to solve the underlying issue and get my dick wet. I'm currently single and don't get as much sex…
/r/MensRights13/02/24 07:50 PM
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Well in my case, actually getting laid made a huge difference to how I perceived myself. The actual act wasn't really all that special in and of itself, but what mattered was what it implied. I had suffered from a lot of nevative self-perceptions regarding my unfuckability, and by extension my unloveability (at least in a romantic sense.) I wondered what was wrong with me, why I hadn't yet been deemed worthy enough to experience something most of my friends had. Actually getting laid proved all …
/r/MensRights12/02/24 02:00 AM
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What so many of these "females" who get butthurt about use of female as a noun don't really get is the unique linguistic difference between male and female descriptors. Boys are commonly referred to as men as soon they turn eighteen, and even before then, older teenagers are often called "young men." A girl, however, can still be called a girl well into her late twenties. You can read this as either girls being infantilized by The Patriarchy, or as youth being a more desirable trait for woman th…
/r/MensRights11/02/24 11:02 AM
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For certain guys with confidence issues, provided they're on board with it, this could actually help them a lot. I had a period of involuntary celibacy in my teens and early twenties, and I eventually lost my v-card in a casual encounter. I had attached a lot of shame to my virginity, so finally gaining some experience helped me gain some confidence and gave me the push I needed to pursue further relationships with other girls. She also explained that the service she provides isn't limited to a …
/r/MensRights11/02/24 10:30 AM
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But these crimes are not usually motivated by pure lust. When I get horny while lacking a partner, I jerk off, I dont rape. Your average incel isn't a rapist either, he just gets depressed and bitter and isolates himself further. Rapists often have little trouble getting consensual sex if they wanted it. Add to that the fact that men get raped too. So more bisexual rapists might mean fewer female victims, but a proportional increase in male victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 10:57 PM
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I don't think it's about the men at all... It's older women being jealous of younger women.
/r/MensRights09/02/24 09:37 PM
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If your wife genuinely believes you don't so anything, try itemizing it. Make a lot of all chores you do, with start and end times. It's tedious but hopefully temporary until you can prove just how much you do around the house. This is assuming she can listen to reason, and that the chores are actually the problem. It's possible she has some other issue and is using the chores as an excuse to pick a fight.
/r/MensRights07/02/24 11:23 PM
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This has to be a kink thing, right? I can't imagine a guy unironically calling a woman "Goddess" unless he was secretly getting off on it. All that's missing in that photo is the sexy leather outfit, high heels, dog collar and leash.
/r/MensRights07/02/24 05:41 PM
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I never said she was entitled to it. The dude has the right to refuse to go down any time, for any reason, or no reason at all. But likewise, the girl has the right to end the relationship at any time, for any reason, or no reason at all. If she wants head, she isn't getting head, and negotiating with her guy hasn't worked, then she's well within her rights to move on. It's a bit of a shallow reason to end a relationship, but there are dumber reasons to break up. It's probably for the best, Litt…
/r/MensRights05/02/24 10:11 AM
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This isn't really detracting from your point, but I just wanted to be an annoying pedant and tell you the "RapeX" device shown above is an early 2000s internet hoax. The product was never actually produced, and for good reason. It would only take an assailant feeling with their fingers to discover it, and even if it did clamp down on a dick, it wouldn't do much aside from turning an attempted rape into a murder.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 05:55 PM
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Yeah, it's called a hypothesis.
/r/MensRights04/02/24 05:40 PM
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Yeah, I understand where most of the commenters are coming from, but the name-calling is a bit excessive. Specifically, "turd," "gay," "immature and selfish man child," are all unwarranted and unsubstantiated comments from the last three commenters. The first commenter isn't too bad though. Obviously, this sub is probably one of those feminist echo chambers, so any guy complaining about not getting head from his GF will be verbally castrated. But if you went to an equivalently radical mens space…
/r/MensRights04/02/24 09:22 AM
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Unexpectedly, gender did not moderate this relationship. This is an interesting tidbit from the abstract. Male narcissists are just as likely as female to use feminist activism to boost their egos. Perhaps that's the origin of the so-called "white knight" personality.
/r/MensRights04/02/24 09:07 AM
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Honestly, if not getting oral is a deal breaker for her, then it's not unreasonable for her to end things with him on the grounds of being sexually incompatible. If she's supposedly faking orgasms, then it's obvious their sex life isn't going well and she's probably not satisfied with the status quo. Aside from that, did any of the commenters ask her why her guy doesn't want to eat her? Like, how is her hygiene is doing? Does this guy refuse to eat out other girls he's been with, or just her? Do…
/r/MensRights04/02/24 08:59 AM
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...they look around and notice that literally all of the women in the school have friends and are a part of a group, and actually enjoying school. None of them are falling behind, none of them are outsiders who don't belong. None of them are ostracized. This was what I was responding to: the assumption that girls were somehow immune to being socially ostracized. I'm not saying the guy's experience is invalid, I'm just saying female outcasts exist too. Having a shitty time in high school isn't ex…
/r/MensRights03/02/24 06:28 AM
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No disagreement here. Aileen would be an example of a woman who became misandrist thanks to the actions of bad men in her past. Those certainly exist too. I was just saying that isn't always necessarily the case.
/r/MensRights03/02/24 01:18 AM
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I would encourage you to post this in feminist spaces as well. Even if you get some backlash and nasty comments for it, your story might still change some minds. I feel a lot of feminists still struggle to understand that men can be victims of DV too, and by attaching a human story to the issue it might click for some of them.
/r/MensRights02/02/24 11:07 PM
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Yeah, true enough. I was just pushing back a little against the idea that misandrists were necessarily made that way through mens' bad behavior. Sometimes it's true, but many times it's not. Bullies tend to pick vulnerable targets, not necessarily targets they want revenge against.
/r/MensRights02/02/24 08:22 AM
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Sometimes, but not always. Some misandrists are just cry bullies using the victimhood narrative as a weapon to bludgeon others into obedience and don't have any rational reason to hate men, other than the fact that we're a safe target they can attack without raising eyebrows from their friends. If not us, they would scapegoat some other group. A handy trick to counter this bias is to replace "men" with "blacks" and see if what you're saying sounds awful. Eg: "There are more black criminals than …
/r/MensRights01/02/24 09:45 PM
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I love/hate how they equate a dislike of modern feminism woth support for Andrew Tate, as if the only way a man might feel cynical about feminism is if he's a rabid Tate supporter. Likewise they just randomly name-dropped Jordan Peterson as well, despite the fact he wasnt even mentioned in this supposed study. They're trying to equivocate the two men despite the fact that their opinions are different on pretty much everything aside from general support for men and boys. They're trying to lump th…
/r/MensRights01/02/24 07:15 PM
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I'm not doubting your experience, and it definitely resonates as true to me. I just wanted to point out that its likely plenty of girls in your high school were victims of similar shit too, you just didn't notice. As you well know, high school kids are assholes, and girls can be bullied and fall through the cracks too. The institutional bias against boys is real, and probably makes things worse for them, but it doesn't means girls are immune from unfair bullshit as well.
/r/MensRights01/02/24 07:00 PM
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So I agree the three girls are assholes. But are they sexist assholes? Like, did they mock you because you're a broke man or just because you're a broke person?
/r/MensRights01/02/24 06:38 PM
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Does this guy have legal recourse here? He lost his job due to the allegations, and that's a measurable loss of income. Would he have to prove the accusation was malicious?
/r/MensRights01/02/24 06:34 PM
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Evil. I like it.
/r/MensRights01/02/24 03:32 AM
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Girls who unironically use the words, "The Ick" give me the Ick. My counter to your argument is that this is a good thing. The sort of girls who are shallow and judgy enough to dump a guy over some arbitrary superficial flaw are not the sort of quality partners most guys would be happy dating. They're just outing themselves, showing you their true colors.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:21 PM
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Let's be real... I wouldn't last half a day on an oil rig either.
/r/MensRights31/01/24 02:22 PM
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But then why is the female version femicide? Wouldn't gynecide be correct instead?
/r/MensRights31/01/24 11:23 AM
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Wouldn't it be androcidal? Is there even a word for that?
/r/MensRights31/01/24 11:14 AM
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*Hands her a fresh unopened jar of pickles* "Go on... open it."
/r/MensRights31/01/24 11:12 AM
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No idea. I was mostly just trying to come up with extreme examples of the sort of stuff I wouldn't be cool with. My point was basically that I don't mind dating someone who chose to abort, but the reasons and context matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 05:56 PM
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I wouldn't care about the abortion itself, as I'm fairly pro-choice. I would still probably question why it happened, and consider what the answer might say about the girl's personality. Like, health reason, rape, incest, or gray-area coercive relationship? Totally justifiable. Simple mistake? Lapse with birth control? Teen pregnant? One time thing? Sure whatever. Repeatedly using abortion to terminate pregnancies in place of using birth control? Less cool, probably won't go for a second date. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:19 PM
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There is a phenomenon called the Coolidge Effect in which males express interest in a newly introduced sexual partner, even when their sexual needs are already being met. So there is a tiny grain of truth to this... But personally, I don't know of any man who would experience a sudden lack of interest in a partner after only three nights together. That's definitely not a feeling I can relate to, nor something any other man I've met IRL has mentioned to me. I don't think it's a normal sexual phen…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:43 PM
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With China in particular, I think they're more worried about suppressing things that expose the rampant corruption and incompetence in the CCP's upper ranks, rather than worrying about SJW identity politics nonsense. China is kinda fucked and one of the only things holding the country together is that bad news is suppressed, and a lot of the actual Chinese people haven't realized just how fucked things are yet. Plus, if you think things are bad for men in the west... In China, culturally, a man …
/r/MensRights28/01/24 01:45 AM
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It matters to some people, never really has to me. I guess some guys are icked out about a girl being used goods, or get insecure about being compared with her previous partners, but I watch porn featuring physically perfect girls with borderline-superhuman sex skills, so I'm hardly in a position to complain about that. So long as a girl is bug free, and isn't like... leaking her previous guy's cum out... I'm not going to raise a fuss.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 12:21 AM
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(Yeah, I'm dude too, you don't really have to explain to me how ejaculation works.) What I meant by that statement is that porn is an aide to male masturbation in a similar way as a sex toy aids masturbation for women. Women: Vibe > hands Men: Porn + hands > Hands alone
/r/MensRights26/01/24 02:01 AM
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It's a lot like telling women to "smile more." On the surface, it's actually a good piece of general life advice. Smiling at others makes them smile back, and makes you appear more friendly and agreeable as a person. Not only that, but making a conscious effort to smile, even if it's insincere, can actually affect your mood. Where the body leads, the mind follows. But if you try telling a woman that, you'll be socially demolished, and for good reason. When people used to tell women that, it was …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 09:06 PM
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I agree diagnosing someone off their reddit posts is bullshit, but suggesting they seek help isn't exactly the same as diagnosing them. Like, I'm not a doctor, but if I had a friend who was showing symptoms of something serious, I'd go tell them to see a doctor and get it checked out. I don't have to be an expert to say, "Something's off here, maybe you should talk to an expert and get this looked at properly."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 08:58 PM
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A lot of guys with severe personality disorders, addictions, and all sort of "red flag" type issues have no trouble getting girls. Narcissists, for instance, are better than most at getting into girls' pants, so long as they have the social skills to mask their volatile side. When it comes to short term relationships at least, what really matters is being hot and charming, not being a good person with stable mental health. So "get therapy" while good life advice in general, is not really somethi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 08:41 PM
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I'm not really sure what the issue is here. Both the porn, and live sex work industries cater mostly to men. Even men who work in those fields tend to get more gay male clients than straight female. As for sex toys, yeah, your average mom and pop adult store doesn't carry a wide range of male masturbators, but if you look online you can find hundreds of options, even custom ones that can be tailored for your needs. For men who prefer taking rather than giving, most "female" branded dildos work j…
/r/MensRights25/01/24 07:09 PM
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Dude... porn. There's a huge market for male sexuality and masturbation aids. It's just in the form of visual stimulation rather than mechanical.
/r/MensRights25/01/24 05:33 PM
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Good advice in general, but I was pretty sure OP wasn't trying to "shit" in this case. It seemed like he was just being generally friendly, and not trying to actually hit on any of these girls.
/r/MensRights24/01/24 12:08 PM
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I don't think it'll be too bad. Speaking only for myself, I haven't really experienced any big, impactful instances of sexism in my life. It's mostly just minor things, so far. One big thing is the vilifying of masculinity, and the perception of men as predators. If you start passing as a man, expect people to be more wary around you, and as a black man, expect people to be extremely wary around you. I'm whiter than milk, so I can't really speak to the black male experience, but as I understand …
/r/MensRights24/01/24 11:44 AM
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I am not entitled to have sex with a woman I'm dating. She has the right to say no. But by extension, I also have the right to say no to being in a sexless relationship. If you're a man who needs semi-regular sexual intimacy to feel loved in a relationship, there is nothing wrong with leaving a woman who can't meet that need. "Tits or GTFO" is a perfectly legitimate stance to have with your long term partners. Using that logic, however, it's also fair to say that, even if a woman's dating standa…
/r/MensRights24/01/24 11:06 AM
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Pretty sure plenty of women have won Best Actor before. This definitely isn't a case of institutional sexism. Maybe Ryan Gosling's performance was just better? Frankly, it would be an insult to Margot Robbie if she won an Oscar for no reason other than the fact she had a vagina. I'm sure she'll be in other films in the future, and hopefully she gets a chance to win an Oscar again, this time due to her skill and merit, and not just her gender.
/r/MensRights24/01/24 10:46 AM
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"Custody cases are too complicated, and women who accuse their ex-husbands of abuse without proof as a tactic to get custody don't always win... ban people from even making the parental alienation argument, so the judge can't make a fair ruling that takes all the facts into account." -Feminists
/r/MensRights24/01/24 06:04 AM
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Author's blurb: "Gender-curious, solosexual, perimenopausal, childless crone-in-training." I can't tell if it's sincere, or just cope, but it seems she's at least pretending to be "happy" on her own.
/r/MensRights23/01/24 01:29 AM
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Many ways.
/r/MensRights23/01/24 01:25 AM
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I managed to read the full article, and she's not quite that reasonable. Her argument is that, women are lonely, because they're pressured into marrying before they're ready, and when they do, the men they marry are too patriarchal which causes the marriage to fail, and the women to become too jaded to want to date again. She claims, if men were less patriarchal, women wouldn't be jaded and put off from dating them, and they'd be more willing to give dating and marriage a second shot. If you squ…
/r/MensRights23/01/24 12:43 AM
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This author is talking about wives feeling neglected by their husbands, and equating that to the extreme sense of social isolation affecting disadvantaged men. The fact that she talks about her friends' experiences with their husbands proves that she, at least, has friends of her own sex. Men these days aren't just dateless, a lot of the time, they're friendless too. Lonely women do exist, but this lady has no clue what loneliness even means. If you claim you don't want a relationship with any m…
/r/MensRights23/01/24 12:07 AM
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It's not cheating, but if I found out someone I was interested in dating long term did this, I probably wouldn't ask them out again.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 11:11 PM
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What's interesting is that he was convicted in 2003, and exonerated in 2012, so this all happened before the MeToo movement and BelieveAllWomen started gaining traction online, and in my opinion before pop feminism reached the level of toxicity we see today. This was also before the BlackLivesMatter movement, and other related campaigns that pushed back against systemic racism in the U.S. justice system. I wonder if what caused him to be unfairly jailed in 2003 was more due to his color than his…
/r/MensRights22/01/24 08:49 AM
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So it's true, in general, that men typically find younger women hotter. Getting older as a woman, probably makes things harder if you're single and searching for a new relationship, but I have never met a man who would leave a healthy and fulfilling relationship to go bang a younger girl. There is the whole "mid life crisis" thing, but the pattern of dumping your spouse for a model in her twenties after the kids go to college seems more like a sign of a failed marriage to me. Either that, or a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 10:42 PM
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Also, if we're talking about victims of sex trafficking specifically. It often starts young, and it's often the mother who pimps out her kids, or at the very least knows what the husband is doing and condones it. She's also usually the one who manipulates Child Protective Services, because women are seen as less suspicious than men.
/r/MensRights20/01/24 10:24 PM
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People tend to have a blind spot for the SO. It's part of the reason why people in abusive relationships don't tend to realize they're in abusive relationships until an outsider points it out to them.
/r/MensRights20/01/24 10:09 PM
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I think you two need to work on your communication. If your wife is passive-aggressively nitpicking every little thing, it's probably because something else is bothering her, and she just doesn't know how to communicate it, or doesn't think you'll listen. It doesn't sound like things are too bad yet, certainly not divorce-worthy, but you'll both need to put a lot more work into your relationship to get past this or divorce could end up on the horizon. Try having an open, honest, and frank conver…
/r/MensRights20/01/24 10:03 PM
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So when I was introduced to the concept of male gaze back when the world made sense, I always thought it referred to filmmaking. Specifically, it was shooting scenes in such a way that female bodies were sexualized more than male bodies, simulating a heterosexual's male gaze with the camera. That's a fair criticism for a movie that wants to appeal to a universal audience including hetero women or gay men. I don't really know why people are now calling normal male heterosexuality "male gaze" and …
/r/MensRights20/01/24 09:43 PM
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“‘Don’t you see that the whole aim of Newspeak is to narrow the range of thought? In the end we shall make thoughtcrime literally impossible, because there will be no words in which to express it.’” -George Orwell
/r/MensRights20/01/24 09:21 PM
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No, but if you held one up against the other the difference between them should be apparent. I'm not here to kinkshame or argue against porn. I'm just saying that if the lady approves of salacious photo shoots with tasteful nudes but disapproves of Facial Abuse videos, its not a contradiction. It's a reasonable position for her to take. (Edit: Realized I used the wrong word. Should be 'qualitative' not 'quantifiable.' I was tired when I wrote that comment.)
/r/MensRights20/01/24 07:08 PM
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I wonder what the HR lady would say if she was called out on her use of the word "cocky," and knew the head of DEI committee said the word was unacceptable. More than likely she'd just gaslight, and pretend it never happened. But it would be fun to use her own arguments against her.
/r/MensRights19/01/24 09:09 PM
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Wow, this just keeps getting weirder and weirder. "Too cocky?" what the hell kind of criticism is that anyway? It's like she saw your self-confidence as an attack to her authority, and was trying to "put you in your place" or something stupid like that. This is exactly the sort of stupid posturing dick wagging contest women rightly roll their eyes at men for doing. If anything, she's the one guilty of "toxic masculinity" here, despite being a woman.
/r/MensRights19/01/24 09:04 PM
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To be fair, there's a quantifiable qualitative difference between softcore playboy-style modeling and hardcore misogynistic internet porn (and I'm saying this as a "fan" of the latter). I don't think it's hypocritical of her to criticize one, but not the other.
/r/MensRights19/01/24 08:24 PM
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Corn is one of the US's main agricultural crops. Not only is locally sourced High Fructose Corn Syrup much cheaper than imported cane sugar, but stuffing that shit into absolutely everything sold on American shelves is necessary to prop up the demand for corn and keep margins high enough that farmers continue to produce it. I'd imagine there are plenty of lobby groups, from farmers associations to sugar plant operators, who would intervene to block any sort of law that tried to limit the use of …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 09:24 AM
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She's also 15, and apparently retracted her accusation the instant the victim was found dead. I see her more as an immature teenager who is too young to know her actions could have had unforeseen consequences, rather than a proper villain. In this specific case, I wouldn't be too upset if she escaped jail time. What bothers me more, is that the local cops are adamantly refusing to admit the kid killed himself because of the rape allegation, or that the girl confessed to making it all up. Apparen…
/r/MensRights19/01/24 09:10 AM
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If you're an influencer (or former influencer) that might skew your perception of what men like as well. There are a lot of cases of fans getting creepy with celebrities, and having weird expectations of them that they wouldn't for someone they knew in person. A normal guy wouldn't get upset at a normal girl for not wearing makeup. That's exclusive the parasocial weirdness around social media fame.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:24 AM
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I dunno... depends on when you end up dying. Whatever age you are when that happens will be the age that "dating is truly over." I don't remember the source, but I remember reading something once, that one of the places where STIs run the most rampant and unchecked is in nursing homes, since there are lots of single widows and widowers desiring intimacy, and everyone is post-menopausal so they don't bother with condoms as much. So... even when you're all wrinkly and geriatric, you could still po…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 10:57 AM
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There is absolutely nothing preventing you from going to your date in sweatpants with your hair up in a lazy bun. Assuming the date is in a more casual setting, where dressing up isn't mandatory, most guys probably wouldn't be offended if a woman chose not to dress up. Some of the more clueless dudes might not even notice unless you took pains to point it out. I don't believe most women are dolling themselves up because it's expected of them. The fact that you bother to put that much money and e…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 10:29 AM
9

I used to be fairly active in my local BDSM community around ten years ago (as a dom). I'm not sure how the demographics go now, but I found that subs, in general outnumbered doms. Mostly, these were straight female subs, and probably the second biggest group was male doms. Male subs were less common, though still prevalent, but strangely, there were next to no female dommes. There were plenty of ladies at these events, but they were often either subs, or switches leaning sub. There were like...…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 10:00 AM
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Apparently one of the first things this "liberterian" president did was try reverse the legal right to abortion. Regardless of where you stand politically, isn't liberterianism supposed to be extreme pro-freedom and pro-choice? I'd assume they'd be all for keeping abortion legal. Are we sure this guy's a liberterian?
/r/MensRights18/01/24 09:36 AM
1

Well based on my own small sample size of partners over the years I agree with the guy. All pussy is good pussy and it has always felt amazing physically. From the sensation on my dick alone, I don't think I'd be able to tell any of them apart. This includes girls with different labia configurations too. I didn't notice a difference in tightness at all, but then again I wasn't comparing them side by side or anything. These were also all younger women in their twenties with no kids, which might b…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 09:53 PM
1

Obviously not. Getting married is a very clear way of declaring your exclusivity, which totally trumps the "going steady" talk. It seems, when you were both in the dating phase, that you both interpreted the kiss the same way too, that it meant you were exclusive. I'd say it's lucky for both of you that you interpreted it the same way because it's not a given for many. You two didn't have a misunderstanding but others in your situation might. That's why I would advocate for open and clear conver…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 09:38 PM
1

I think guys will have differing opinions on what they'll tolerate. For me, scenario 1, where she's screwing both of us is slightly less bad than the case where she's only sleeping with the other guy. I still wouldn't be comfortable with it though and would likely leave. Scenario 2, where she's going on coffee dates with 5 men but not getting physically intimate with any of them is perfectly fine in my view, provided this is all during the early 'getting to know you' stages. If she's stringing a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 09:23 PM
-1

Sure, just brush your teeth super, super good.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 12:23 PM
-1

But what if she brushes her teeth really, really good?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 11:09 AM
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That comes off as a bit judgy. Personally, I would hope that after getting physically intimate with someone, we're exclusive by implication, but I wouldn't trust it. Assuming you're exclusive when your date doesn't see it that way is a good way to get your heart broken, and I've been burned by similar misunderstandings in the past. I always ask, just to be sure, even if it's something simple like, "Can I assume we're exclusive right now?"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 11:02 AM
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On some level, I'm not sure it's a fully rational thing. Sexual jealousy is absolutely something I feel, yet I couldn't really tell you why I feel that way when I do. It's so base, and so universal to so many men, that I suspect it's just an instinct intrinsic to the male brain, something we're just hard-wired to have. If you think of it from an evolutionary psychology perspective, it makes sense. We see a woman we like, and then want her all to ourselves so we can guarantee that we're the fathe…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 10:42 AM
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There are a lot of potential reasons, and it probably varies from guy to guy. For me, it would make me feel as though my dating partner wasn't taking me seriously as a potential long term partner. If she was having sex with someone else, and not me, then I'd wonder why she's even dating me and not the guy she's already sleeping with. I'd feel used, undervalued, and disrespected. I'd suspect her of leading me on and keeping me ready as a backup in case her "main guy" falls through, or even worse,…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 10:23 AM
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"Well we weren't exclusive!" "Cool, but I'm still out." Like... arguing it's okay because you're not exclusive makes sense if you want to avoid the label of being called a "cheater" by your friends, but it doesn't mean that the guy isn't allowed to feel insulted by it and drop you immediately regardless. No is a complete sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 09:35 AM
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So I'm fine with a woman dating other men during the first few dates, when we're just getting to know each other, and things aren't serious at all. Once things get a bit more serious, I would try to start a direct discussion about exclusivity, ie: "going steady." I would prefer to do this earlier on in the relationship, usually before reaching the point of actually having sex. I think it's important to have a conversation about exclusivity, or lack of exclusivity early on, to set expectations. L…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 09:26 AM
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Yeah, I don't know, I'm rethinking the whole bot accusation. I'd imagine if people could easily do stuff like that, we'd be seeing a lot more of it, along with people complaining about it. Reddit, being a large prominent site, probably has a number of highly skilled people on retainer who know what they're doing security wise, so naive attempts to use bots and sock puppet accounts to manipulate upvotes would probably be detected and result in an IP ban for anyone attempting it. It's more likely …
/r/MensRights17/01/24 08:55 AM
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I guarantee OP wouldn't get an intellectually honest answer from the troll commenter. It'll just be more juvenile name calling and ad hominem attacks against his character. The best thing to do at this point is disengage.
/r/MensRights16/01/24 11:06 AM
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Stalked your history and found the post you made. First of all, I'm sorry for the shitty situation you're in, and agree with some of the posters. That definitely sounds like some sort of NPD thing. If that's the case, your relationship may be doomed. Personality disorders are difficult, nearly impossible to treat, because people with those disorders rarely believe there's anything wrong with them and that they don't need to change. Usually, it's only once the person's life completely implodes, t…
/r/MensRights16/01/24 10:45 AM
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I question your assumption that all men have, or should even want to have the primary goal of maximizing their sexual market value and success with ladies. For a single man who is romantically, or sexually unfulfilled, and whose current dating prospects are grim, it makes a lot of sense to alter your lifestyle and how you interact with women to try and change your circumstances. But I can think of quite a few cases of men who probably wouldn't see any value from adopting the Red Pill philosophy.…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 07:42 AM
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Wait, how does one women getting excruciatingly wealthy fight the patriarchy? Taylor Swift getting wealthier than Satan herself isn't going to do much to combat sexism in the workplace or whatever. If her largely female audience are spending $1300 a seat to attend her concerts, she's actually taking money out of women's pockets, making them poorer relative to their male counterparts who don't attend her concerts.
/r/MensRights15/01/24 09:52 PM
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We definitely don't have enough information and context here to know if it's a false accusation or not. Laws about age of consent vary from state to state, and country to country. In some places the age gap could be legal, and in others it could be illegal. A 17 year old dating a 13 year old is, at the very least, a bit of a creepy age gap, if nothing else. Anything more than a couple years, either way, is problematic, but may or may not actually be illegal. I wouldn't necessarily call it a "ped…
/r/MensRights14/01/24 11:59 AM
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Hmm... I think it depends on how tactful you are about it. I agree it's pretty damn blunt for a woman to just randomly, out of blue, say "Um... I have a boyfriend," especially if it's obvious she's only saying that because she's assuming you're into her when you're really just being polite with her. It's far smoother to subtly sneak it in, like "Oh yeah, my boyfriend told me the other day that... blah blah blah."
/r/MensRights12/01/24 01:27 AM
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Well, you're free to disagree. Ultimately, this is about our own preferences for how we want to be treated in social situations, and not objective fact. Different people will see things differently.
/r/MensRights11/01/24 11:39 PM
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I think trying to explain that you're single by choice is a bit more complicated, because many people see a comitted relationship as a life goal, and won't understand a choice to willingly forgo that. The good news is, if you're a guy, you probably won't have to worry about being hit on much anyway, so it's probably less important for you to preemptively broadcast your lack of interest in dating to those around you. Personally, if I was in your situation, I'd only bring up my "single by choice" …
/r/MensRights11/01/24 09:02 PM
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I think you're being a little harsh here. Personally, I appreciate it when a woman is up front about this sort of thing. Even if I was taken myself, it gives me a sense of comfort, too, knowing that a women I'm talking to definitely doesn't see me that way, and her being "nice" is just her niceness, and not something else. By smoothly stating she's out of the market, so to speak, she's not necessarily passing judgement on the men she's interacting with. It's just a blanket statement to protect h…
/r/MensRights11/01/24 08:53 PM
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Sounds like a good policy to me. By saying they're taken, they're politely telling you they're not interested in being hit on, but doing so without sounding overly presumptuous. If they just said "I'm not interested" or "please don't hit on me" it sounds like they're assuming you're going to hit on them, which isn't necessarily true and they know that. Meanwhile, if they say they're taken, it sounds much more innocuous. They're just trying to set healthy boundaries and expectations for future in…
/r/MensRights11/01/24 08:47 PM
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"Being terrified doesn't actually mean there's a threat against you. How often does rejecting a man actually lead to murder, or attempted murder? If a woman died every time she rejected a man, there would be no living women left."
/r/MensRights11/01/24 05:37 AM
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"Men are never told to calm down" Uh... I don't know where she's getting this idea from. Even back in Grandpa's patriarchal days, men with anger issues who lost their shit in public were always looked down on by mainstream society. Having control over one's emotions was always seen as a desirable "traditionally masculine" trait.
/r/MensRights11/01/24 01:49 AM
9

You know what girls? I do want the princess treatment.
/r/MensRights11/01/24 01:37 AM
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Honestly, I think this is pretty cool of the guy to do. I've seen some other stuff on this sub complaining about male disposability, and how men are always asked to sacrifice themselves in times of war, but I'm really not getting that sense from this clip. For one, she's a civilian noncombatant, and the soldier clearly sees it as his duty to protect her, even at the potential cost of his own life. I don't know if he would have done the same for a male civilian, but it's possible he would have. S…
/r/MensRights11/01/24 01:32 AM
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At the very least, there should be enough due-diligence done by doctors to know for certain that a person's issue is actually gender dysphoria, and they've properly considered the consequences of irreversible surgery and puberty blockers. If transitioning is what they need, they should have it, but I think doctors need to investigate all the other possibilities too and properly rule them out.
/r/MensRights10/01/24 12:04 AM
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I think it's definitely not normal. I'm close to your age, and I've never been accused of sexual assault, falsely or otherwise. Nor have any of my male friends to my knowledge. I'm sure it happens from time to time, but if it's becoming a pattern, I'd start wondering why I'm attracting all these abusive women. In your case, it's possible you may just be unreasonably unlucky, but I think it's telling that you allowed your ex-wife to live with you (rent free, I assume?) and did so, not only after …
/r/MensRights09/01/24 11:54 PM
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AI still has a long way to go before it can convincingly replicate a human personality, that said, the technology is advancing at an incredible pace, so it may happen far sooner than we all think. Also, in theory, the same AI models could be used for both sexes. It's just a matter of putting in masculine training data, rather than feminine. If there isn't a boy-bot out there already, it's probably only because the demand for male companions aren't as high.
/r/MensRights09/01/24 11:32 PM
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How is 4chan guy a misogynist again? Sure his writing tone comes across as a bit salty, but he's obviously frustrated, and is literally just sharing the opinion that many girls don't treat guys nicely. Not even all girls... just "many." If you asked a random girl in your friend group whether her friends always treated their boyfriends nicely, I'm sure she'd agree that at least some didn't. I don't really think that's a controversial opinion. Is there some sort of special context here I'm not get…
/r/MensRights09/01/24 11:26 PM
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Gross.
/r/MensRights08/01/24 01:30 PM
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My ex was unwilling to get herself diagnosed but I strongly suspect she had BPD. She fits every single criteria in the DSM-5 perfectly. I'm sure I don't need to go into detail, but... yeesh! It's been years now, and I'm still recovering from some of the shit she put me through. I haven't really found any support groups for BPD partners but I haven't looked that hard. I think there is a subreddit for people in relationships with BPD-havers but I don't know if it's any good or not. (EDIT: accordin…
/r/MensRights07/01/24 07:46 PM
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This is just my opinion, but in my view, western feminism largely defines itself as being in opposition to male patriarchy. It's not about equal rights so much as it's about pushing back against a group of sexist men who want them to fit into rigid and submissive social roles. So in that sort of situation, what happens when the feminists win? What happens when the patriarchy mostly goes away and the feminists basically get all the equal treatment they originally fought to achieve? Do they just g…
/r/MensRights07/01/24 07:35 PM
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It probably doesn't matter. Those all seem like reasonable solutions to me. I guess some girls might be put off by being made to share accommodations with a boy they don't know that well, but many would not. If I wanted to be extra-gentlemanly, I'd probably want to directly ask the girls in question if they're comfortable with it. If they are, and you're not planning on doing anything creepy to them while they're asleep, then everything should be all good. Sleeping with a large group of girls, i…
/r/MensRights07/01/24 12:01 PM
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"Monsters" do bad things. That's my definition, at least. To me, being a monster is not a state of mind, it's purely the result of a person's actions. It sounds like you're not in the best mental state right now, but even if you have to "fake" being a decent person around your friends, it least seems like you haven't really done anything that bad yet. That means you're not a "monster," you're a person. I suggest you just keep faking it for now, for as long as you need to, and try to change what …
/r/MensRights07/01/24 11:40 AM
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Never watched the show, but from what you describe, it sounds pretty balanced. The show creators have a mix of both male and female antagonists to show that someone being a terrible abusive asshole isn't necessarily a gendered problem. That sounds pretty fair to me. As for the fandom's reaction, that's good too. If people are arguing about whether it's realistic to write a female character abusing a male one, that means perceptions are being challenged and minds are being changed. If everyone wa…
/r/MensRights07/01/24 11:25 AM
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I think it's as simple as knowing the difference between hating "a woman" and hating "women" as a group. A woman, has hurt you. And if what you say about her abusing you growing up is true, she probably deserves most, if not all of the hate you feel for her. But that doesn't mean all women are your enemy. Having a vagina does not, automatically, make a person an abusive cunt. Most women are actually decent people, just like most men are decent people. Much like men, every woman is an individual.…
/r/MensRights07/01/24 11:09 AM
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The whole concept of age of consent (in both the legal and sexual sense) is one of those things that's a lot more nebulous and grey than most people like to think about. Case in point: I was once exactly 17 years, and 354 days old. One day later I had my eighteenth birthday, and I was a bit surprised to find out that morning that I didn't actually feel any different than I had the night before. Despite suddenly gaining the legal status and rights of an adult, I was pretty much exactly the same p…
/r/MensRights06/01/24 10:40 AM
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The best argument you could make against womens-only parking spots is to agree with them. "Yeah, you're right, sweetie, you're just a weak little woman who can't walk as far as a man. What if you need to go shopping, but there isnt a big strong man around to carry your bags for you, or escort you safely to your car? You clearly need all the extra help you can get."
/r/MensRights05/01/24 05:31 PM
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Women who unironically use the word "ick" are an ick to me.
/r/MensRights05/01/24 05:26 PM
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I wonder if it's this manager that has the vendetta against you for some reason, that she's just making stuff up and there isn't even a "victim" at all. You still haven't mentioned whether the police are actually involved at this point, it sounds like it's all coming from her. She's going well beyond the normal call of duty to slander you. Make sure to keep that screenshot from your friend, and have him screenshot more if he can find it. Gather and document as much of her sketchy behavior as you…
/r/MensRights04/01/24 12:11 PM
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Maybe instead of shutting down the fun with all women, just take care around certain women. You shouldn't let someone else's stupid drama ruin your relationships with your actually decent coworkers. Not all women are humorless drama-causing harpies intent on sucking out your soul, only some. I say, keep making appropriate worksafe jokes with those coworkers who you know are cool with it, and won't mind your humor. You can maintain a mental "no fun allowed" blacklist of women who you know can't h…
/r/MensRights04/01/24 05:18 AM
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I've done this game before too. I think it's pretty common.
/r/MensRights04/01/24 05:08 AM
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Yeah. What the manager did was totally inappropriate and won't hold up to sane and sober scrutiny. Get the bartender buddy to advocate on your behalf to the owner, or another manager at the same level as this woman, or higher. Restaurants and bars depend heavily on the loyalty of their regulars, so a good businessperson should at least be willing to hear you out regarding your side of the story. Plus, it's easily disproven. Random lady says there's a police investigation, but is there? You clear…
/r/MensRights04/01/24 05:02 AM
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Sounds like she was bullied, not raped. Bullying and sexually harassing a kid in a video game is bad, but it's not rape levels of bad. There's an obvious and tangible difference in magnitude between the two situations. The author even goes on to defeat their own argument. But while some readers were supportive, my story met with much scepticism from others. Some told me that what I had been through wasn’t “real”. Others said that it was to be expected; that I should have just removed my headset …
/r/MensRights04/01/24 04:51 AM
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To be fair... I would absolutely be a tyrant if I could.
/r/MensRights02/01/24 05:11 PM
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I think what most women mean when they say that is, "We don't need to be in a relationship," or "We don't need to rely on men to do things for us." If they actually said that, it wouldn't be too bad.
/r/MensRights01/01/24 09:54 PM
1

This would be less offensive if it was a petplay fetish guide.
/r/MensRights31/12/23 06:39 PM
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Addendum: Never ever date untreated/unmanaged BPD.
/r/MensRights29/12/23 09:45 PM
2

Yeah, fair enough on that last point.
/r/MensRights28/12/23 10:50 PM
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I'm on your side here, in terms of the issues. I'm just saying that, if you're trying to convince others that men are being unfairly villainized, you won't have much success without solid academic proof of your own which counters the prevailing narrative of men being predators. If you don't believe me, you're welcome to try your "burden of proof" argument on one of the feminist subreddits, and see how that goes.
/r/MensRights28/12/23 10:41 PM
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I disagree. Like it or not, the current status quo is the belief that "men are dangerous" and "rape allegations are rarely false." If you're going to claim these things are not true, you better have some evidence to back it up. If you just stand there and demand proof from their side, you'll be shouted down, or downvoted to oblivion.
/r/MensRights28/12/23 10:33 PM
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Eh... I dunno. Early feminism definitely strengthened women. They got political and legal rights, they got better access to education, they got equality in the workplace. Those are all big things that definitely strengthen women as individuals, and as a collective group. But the newer type of feminism definitely has issues. Not because it leads women from God or whatever, but because it encourages a victimhood mentality. If all of a woman's problems are due to her being "oppressed" by a patriarc…
/r/MensRights28/12/23 10:23 PM
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I recognize that, with the help of DBT, and a concerted effort on the person's part to not fall into negative patterns, personality disorders can be managed and mitigated. In practice, I don't really know how common it is for people with personality disorders to actually seek out and engage in the right sort of therapy. Speaking personally, my ex likely had BPD, in the sense that she ticked every box in the DSM, though she refused to get assessed for it even when her psychologist suggested she m…
/r/MensRights28/12/23 10:15 PM
3

"Innocent until proven guilty" is a fundamental pillar of justice in the modern world... but that's more for individual cases. If you're gonna have an educated debate with someone about the bigger picture, you need solid academic references to support your argument.
/r/MensRights28/12/23 09:57 PM
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I'm gonna be the contrarian here and say that it might not be politics this time that got the post removed. It could be that the mod is just a jerk who hates acknowledging mens issues, but it could also just as easily be that they thought the video didn't fit the subreddit. It's a subreddit for "unexpected" things, and if it's not "unexpected" then the video has to go, regardless of it's message.
/r/MensRights28/12/23 09:49 PM
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Oof... that video hits hard...
/r/MensRights28/12/23 09:43 PM
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The article at least alludes to it, even if it falls short of actually calling it out for what it is. "It also starts earlier than college," Kan said. "Women are more likely to get accepted into college than men, and women are more likely to have better grades than men overall. There's been some research that says it's because girls have fewer disciplinary problems and are better at planning ahead, conscientiousness overall." They blame boys "discipline problems" but that's just a backwards way …
/r/MensRights28/12/23 09:39 PM
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If anything men are less violent because they know that physically attacking other people has consequences.
/r/MensRights28/12/23 09:29 PM
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I don't think it's really hitting women yet, but in theory if the number of men and women are approximately equal, then there should be an equivalent female loneliness epidemic. It's probably not something Gen Z girls are seeing right now, but once they get a bit older, they'll probably feel its effects. I hate to use incel rhetoric, but "the wall" is real. It's not because women over thirty are past their "best before date" or anything stupid like that, it's just a mismatch of supply and demand…
/r/MensRights27/12/23 06:50 PM
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Ah, yeah, sounds like you've got some circumstances. If you have trouble with body language or social subtleties that changes things a bit. In your case, you might not have the luxury of waiting until you see actual signs of shady behavior from guys before putting up your guard. I'd still suggest going for a "nice guy until he proves otherwise" sort of attitude with people you meet, but it's perfectly reasonable to be careful and not put yourself in a compromising situation with someone you don'…
/r/MensRights27/12/23 06:20 PM
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Hmm... then yeah. I guess she found you cute in the more kidlike way for whatever reason. Its pretty weird of her to do that. Not sure if that's a woman thing or just a her-being-a-total-weirdo thing.
/r/MensRights26/12/23 11:01 PM
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That's oddly specific... I don't know for sure, but if I had to guess I'd say it's just a matter of it being more socially acceptable for girls to fawn over someone they find cute. She might have had a crush on you too, but then started avoiding you later on because she felt awkward about it. There are a million possibilities.
/r/MensRights26/12/23 10:33 PM
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It's cool of you to come on here and give some context for your side. That takes courage considering how hostile Reddit can be at times. To be clear, I wasn't trying to say you actually were a predator. I was making a "Reducto ad Absurdum" argument against the concept of treating all men like rapists based only on their potential to cause harm. Basically, if any nonzero amount of potential risk is enough to warrant a hostile reaction to men, then by extension you would need to be wary of absolut…
/r/MensRights26/12/23 06:34 PM
1

Your experience obviously differs from mine, so it wouldn't be fair of me to say your vigilance is unwarranted. I could probably find some statistics to support the thesis that you're not actually in as much danger as you think you are, but thats not really a productive argument. Ultimately your feelings are definitely real, and you're obviously entitled to feel what you feel. That said, i strongly oppose the mindset of treating all men like predators by default. In reality, the vast majority of…
/r/MensRights25/12/23 01:44 AM
2

If being attracted to women's bodies is objectification then I will "objectify women" without shame or remorse. Nobody gets to tell me what I'm allowed or not allowed to feel. Actions matter, and being a creep that violates boundaries is not okay but if I want to look, I'll look, and to hell with anyone who tries to police my thoughts.
/r/MensRights25/12/23 01:01 AM
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I suppose I am "aware" in the sense that I see others around me and what they're doing. When driving I'm a bit more vigilant just because I'm behind the wheel of a multi-ton murder machine and don't want to hurt anybody with my negligence. So yeah, I'm not completely oblivious to the world around me. That said, I never feel anxiety about it, nor do I go out of my way to sit facing the door or whatever. I don't carry a weapon, and if I got into a fistfight with another dude, I'd probably lose. I'…
/r/MensRights24/12/23 01:14 AM
1

Well, I'm not mentally impaired but I'm sorry to say I don't really waste my time and sanity maintaining a constant state of hypervigilance, assessing everyone I see as a potential threat. Not only is it unnecessary, but it's not healthy. The average woman on the street has more to fear from distracted drivers than creepy men. Most men are not rapists, and most women are never raped even once in their lives. Just think of every time a woman leaves the house, and doesn't get raped, versus every t…
/r/MensRights23/12/23 09:46 AM
1

They're not really "manipulating" numbers, it's just that it's mathematically impossible to have a perfect 50:50 male-female split in any group that has an odd number of members. If a company decides they need a board of directors with five members, then a 3:2 ratio is literally the closest to perfect gender parity you can get without changing the number of members. Maybe it's technically incorrect to say it's "gender equal" but it's valid to say it's "approximately gender equal," or "as gender …
/r/MensRights23/12/23 09:04 AM
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Woman on a toilet? Unrealistic! Everybody knows ladies don't poop!
/r/MensRights22/12/23 03:50 PM
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If your goal is a 50:50 split, I think it's pretty reasonable to have a rounding error of one person on a five person board of directors. They made the fifth member female, which isnt necessarily good or bad, though given their industry, slightly favoring female leaders isn't inappropriate. They usually choose odd numbers for a reason, in that it makes a "tie" vote impossible.
/r/MensRights22/12/23 03:45 PM
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If you judge everyone based solely on their capacity to do harm, then clearly everyone should be considered a threat. Lesbian rapists, while fewer in number than hetero male rapists, exist too. Therefore, she should consider all of her female friends and relatives to be potential rapists too, right? Sure it's pretty unlikely, but it's also pretty unlikely for a random guy on the street to be a sex criminal. If she's only considering the "what ifs" then she should consider all cases. Not only tha…
/r/MensRights22/12/23 03:37 PM
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Like you mentioned, it's obviously harmful in a lot of situations. Yet it's also not entirely without value either. There are positive aspects of traditional masculine culture, such as hard work, loyalty, reliability, honesty, and integrity. Being assigned the role of the "stable one," the "rock" the provider and protector could also create a positive influence in a boy's life as he grows and rises to the challenge of being a "good man." Likewise, a society which rejects masculine gender roles e…
/r/MensRights22/12/23 03:16 PM
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It's not the AI model to blame, it's politics. The model would have no problem producing these outputs, but engineers have added a layer to sanitize your inputs before passing it on to the actual AI network. If it detects you're asking a naughty question, it gives you canned response promoting diversity or whatever. You'd get the same sort of result from the program if you entered a prompt for the AI to generate pro-racism, neo-nazi, or other problematic arguments.
/r/MensRights21/12/23 11:28 PM
2

I know a bit of French, and it's similar. Nouns are gendered. German bridges are female. It's not because everyone thinks bridges have vaginas or anything, it's just something built into the language. How the hell is that political? If you wanted to get rid of gendered nouns, you'd basically have to remake your whole language and grammar system from scratch, right? If speaking German offends them so much, then tell them to speak English or something. Either way, that's not something to debate in…
/r/MensRights21/12/23 10:56 AM
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Did they really say to "smile and treat women better?" Like, do they honestly believe the only reason why a man might be lonely or have trouble getting dates is because he's an asshole? Ask her to imagine she's angry about something, like something legitimately worth being pissed about, and then she vents to a male acquaintance of hers, and receives the following response: "Are you on your period or something?" How would that make her feel? Because surely, the only reason why a woman might be "a…
/r/MensRights21/12/23 10:46 AM
1

What does "systemic" even mean? Like, obviously the classical definition is "something that relates to or affects an entire system." But what even sets apart a systemic issue from a non-systemic one? The best I can figure out, after googling a bit, is they're referring to something that's deeply entrenched in society, a sort of formal hierarchy, like a caste system. (If that's the case, "systemic" isn't really the right word for it, but whatever, I digress.) But even using this definition, how e…
/r/MensRights21/12/23 10:31 AM
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Valerie Solanas was definitely masturbating when she wrote that.
/r/MensRights20/12/23 08:59 AM
1

Ah, fair enough. I'll admit my ignorance here. I wasn't especially impressed with the direction Disney was taking Star Wars and Marvel recently, so I haven't actually watched anything either of those two properties have released since Last Jedi. Same goes for Rings of Power, the bad reviews and Galadriel hate scared me off. I just sort of assumed the leading ladies in those shows would be girlbossing too hard to have any canon love interests.
/r/MensRights20/12/23 08:51 AM
1

I honestly find a lot of the romance subplots in 90s movies kinda cringe too. The older generation of executive-mandated "Hollywood Wisdom" was that all movies needed romance B-plots, even when it didn't fit with the characters or the tone of the film. That led to a lot of weirdly shoehorned in romance subplots that ruined the pacing of otherwise good films. I don't believe every move needs a romance subplot, but I also don't believe in this new zeitgeist of making all film heroines aroace woode…
/r/MensRights20/12/23 06:41 AM
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I didn't know about that sub before today. I quickly skimmed through it just now, and wow... I expected to see, like... badly drawn womens anatomy, or "girls don't work like that" moments but... It's basically just a bunch of women hissing at each other whenever they see cleavage, isn't it? "She's confident in her body! Burn her at the stake!" "Femme fatales are gender traitors!" "The female body is toxic masculinity!" "If we don't want The Patriarchy to win, all female characters need to be str…
/r/MensRights20/12/23 06:26 AM
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In other news, water is wet. But also, as obvious as it might seem to us, this sort of study definitely needed to be done. Sometimes, you need to empirically prove that water is wet in order to progress the conversation.
/r/MensRights20/12/23 04:40 AM
1

That's just about the most Orwellian thing I've heard all year. Does this guy work part time for the Ministry of Truth?
/r/MensRights20/12/23 04:34 AM
1

Threatening divorce as a manipulation tactic is reprehensible and an instant deal breaker for me. I'd bring her the divorce papers to sign right there on the spot.
/r/MensRights19/12/23 07:47 PM
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I agree. The toilet stalls all have doors anyway. Its not like there's a privacy issue. If the lady has even a partially reasonable excuse for why she's not using the ladies room then I couldn't give less of a shit. That said, you can bet that if a man went into the ladies room, regardless of the reason, there would be absolute pandemonium, even though there's no real reason why a man shouldn't be allowed in there too if it's more convenient for some reason.
/r/MensRights19/12/23 07:35 PM
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Female arousal and orgasm is more dependent on the woman's mental state than the man's technique. Its true most can't come from penetration alone, but if you put in at least half an ass worth of effort, and your lady can't come, then it's literally her problem, not yours.
/r/MensRights19/12/23 07:29 PM
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Those in the trauma communities call this technique "grey rock." Its apparently a common and effective tactic to use when you're forced to deal with emotionally manipulative narcissists.
/r/MensRights19/12/23 07:19 PM
1

I understand what the words were probably originally trying to convey: "masculinity which is toxic," or "those aspects of masculine culture which are unhealthy for men and society in general." There were some specific cases when "toxic masculinity" was actually a reasonable choice of words, like when describing men who focus excessively on their masculine identity, get overly focused on things like height, penis size, and number of sexual partners, and go to extreme and often self-destructive le…
/r/MensRights19/12/23 07:14 PM
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Women tend to be smaller and weaker than men, so even if she tried, I doubt she'd be able to pry a larger dude off a smaller one. She can help in other ways though, like calling the cops or pushing the distress button on the train (trains in my city have big red buttons that call authorities for help when you push them.)
/r/MensRights13/12/23 09:38 PM
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You could argue a person, in general, has a moral obligation to do something when they see something awful happening to someone unable to defend themselves, at they're in a position to help. Whether that's a sex assault happening in public, or just some kids bullying another kid. Ordinary people doing ordinary things in exceptional circumstances are how heroes are made... The thing is, you shouldn't have any legal obligation to be a hero. Interfering with a crime in progress can be quite dangero…
/r/MensRights13/12/23 09:32 PM
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I dunno dude. I haven't read your actual paper, but all of that sounds like good, valid, feedback to me. Is it possible your paper just wasn't as flawless as you originally thought it was?
/r/MensRights13/12/23 07:16 AM
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So, apparently only men can take credit for other people's ideas now? Girls dont talk over people in meetings and steal credit for other people's work? There aren't, like, dozens of Reddit posts out there blasting female managers and coworkers for stealing credit for the work of their fellow employees or anything? You sure about that, lady? Hepeating though... how clever. What a shame there isn't already a useful and commonly known gender neutral word that describes exactly this situation. Wait,…
/r/MensRights11/12/23 09:42 AM
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"I want to arrange a paternity test for my kids." "Why? Don't you trust your partner?" "Nope." Like why is it even a shame for the man to not trust their partner? In a perfect world, the thought of questioning your own child's paternity wouldnt enter your mind, but the world isnt perfect, people arent perfect. Shit happens, people have baggage. There are plenty possible reasons a guy could feel paranoid or insecure about his children's paternity. Maybe he has experienced infidelity in the past? …
/r/MensRights09/12/23 08:26 PM
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According to a news article covering the same event. The woman set the guy on fire after she demanded money from him and he only had $60 in his pocket to offer her. That was "what he did wrong." He didn't carry ebough cash to satisfy her arbitrary demand. Also she accidentally set herself on fire too. Police found her after following reports about a naked burned lady running around town. Good job Florida... way to stay classy. And also her first name is "Destiny." That last part isn't exactly re…
/r/MensRights09/12/23 08:35 AM
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I'm still skeptical, given the source and the internet notoriety the Reddit post gained. This could easily just be someone taking that guy's story from reddit or youtube and doing their own spin on it. It's not impossible it's this guy's sister who made the post, just doesn't seem likely IMO.
/r/MensRights09/12/23 08:21 AM
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The 4chan post says this guy is the oldest sibling. The post you linked says he has three older sisters. Both stories involved cousins and decade long estrangement but it could just be that this sort of thing happened more than once.
/r/MensRights09/12/23 07:36 AM
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"all men have the ability to be a rapist." Hooh boy... I do not like this one. It's one of those things that is technically true. I mean, I could probably rape somebody if I suddenly lost my moral compass one day. But if you judge people exclusively on their capacity to do harm, there is literally nobody you're safe from. There are fewer female rapists than male, but women are absolutely capable of being rapists too. It happens, with both males and females as victims, and it has happened enough …
/r/MensRights08/12/23 03:27 AM
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I do see women push back against this, but in smaller communities. I completely agree that this is an issue within mainstream feminism. Glad to hear it. I think this is actually a larger misconception. Our society today has an issue with overgeneralization. I agree wholeheartedly. Villainizing all feminists for the actions of a few, is as bad as villainizing all men for the actions of a few. Where do you think feminism started to shift, change or go wrong? So first, I'd like to point out I'm Can…
/r/MensRights08/12/23 02:21 AM
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So does it feel like that kind of language is too personal or creating a sweeping generalization that all men are dangerous? Or is that you wish that more women felt comfortable around yourself or other men instead of coming from a place of fear? This is probably something that would differ from man to man, but speaking only for myself, it's the generalization that bothers me the most. Like, it's objectively correct to say that "rapists are mostly men," but the inverse is absolutely not true: mo…
/r/MensRights08/12/23 02:20 AM
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TERFs (Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminists) are radical feminists, but not all radical feminists are TERFs.
/r/MensRights07/12/23 11:00 PM
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[Part 2 of 2] Men don't only want sex. To be fair, we are a bunch of horny bastards, and we do, on average, have much stronger sex drives than women. But we're not animals. Men can and do say "no" to sex sometimes, and we want fulfilling relationships and healthy families just as much as women do. Feminism has made a lot of progress since it's inception, and some of the things you're fighting are much less severe of a problem than they once were. Like, I'm sure you've all experienced isolated in…
/r/MensRights07/12/23 10:38 PM
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Things I wish the Radfem crowd understood: #NotAllMen. Yes, it's basically a meme now, but the hashtag always rang true to me. I am a man, I have always treated women in my life with respect. I have never stalked, abused, or raped a woman. I have never "mansplained" or talked down to a woman because she was a woman. I have never denied a woman a promotion because she was a woman. Basically, I am not the patriarchy. I'm not oppressing you, I'm not a bad person just because I'm male. Bad men are o…
/r/MensRights07/12/23 10:37 PM
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I agree. Gather evidence. Save texts, take pictures, keep a detailed journal of the shit she does, get enough evidence to prove this is a consistent pattern, and not just a random innocuous encounter. Stalking in general is tough to prosecute, even girls have a tough time getting the police to do anything meaningful about it. You need tangible proof if you want them to take you seriously.
/r/MensRights05/12/23 05:00 PM
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That's tricky, because on one hand, they're sort of right... girls do tend to be less focused on looks than guys, on average, but on the other hand, it's a blatantly fucking insensitive thing to say in a situation like this. Lonely dude is reaching out, and all he gets told is "your problems don't matter because I have it worse." Like fuck girl... this isn't about you, try showing a bit of empathy here.
/r/MensRights05/12/23 04:55 PM
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Some enterprising gentleman with a surplus of free time should compile all these little misandry screenshots together into a single album we can all point to whenever someone says there are no misandrists lurking inside the feminism movement.
/r/MensRights05/12/23 04:52 PM
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I'm afraid I'll have to be the one to offer the dissenting view here... I find it awesome that these ladies are following these stupid, shallow, and meaningless relationship test trends. It's a great way for her to signal, right out of the gate, that she's not worth our time.
/r/MensRights05/12/23 07:47 AM
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I'm 5'8" which isn't "short" but falls well below the supposed masculine ideal of 6 foot. Your experience may differ, but speaking only for myself I have yet to meet a girl who cared about my height or mocked me for it. I'm hardly a Casanova, but I can still boast non-zero success with women. I have, at various points in my life, had girlfriends. Perhaps you would be more appealing to certain women if you were taller, but the fact you're not isn't necessarily a deal breaker and doesn't guarantee…
/r/MensRights04/12/23 07:03 PM
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Weird but not egregious. I mean, it's not like the dead guys are really using it anymore. I know I wouldn't care if my body was messed with after I'm dead because, ya know, I'd be dead and I wouldn't really be capable of caring about anything at that point.
/r/MensRights04/12/23 08:09 AM
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Aww, cute! I think she likes you...
/r/MensRights03/12/23 07:21 AM
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You're right that it could be a weird conversation to have out of the blue. I'm not sure if it would be interpreted as flirting (it wouldn't read that way to me), but I guess that would depend on who you're talking to, and how they interpret it. If the Men's Rights movement comes up in conversation, feel free to mention where you stand directly. But in your normal day-to-day conversations, I don't know if it's necessary to advertise. Like, I'm fairly left-leaning, and I used to consider myself a…
/r/MensRights03/12/23 05:05 AM
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Bah... I'll use the word as I please. If black people are allowed to use the N-word, then as a man I'm allowed to use the I-word too. It's not at all meaningless, it's a very useful and concise way to describe the predominantly male experience someone suffering deep a sense of despair and bitterness about their lack of romantic and sexual attention from women. A lot of men, myself included, have gone through that situation, and still feel that way from time to time. It should be perfectly valid …
/r/MensRights03/12/23 01:26 AM
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It's always felt like a numbers game to me. Even back when the dating apps were only slightly cancerous, rather than the pure cancer they are now. It never made sense to get my hopes up ahead of time when the odds of being rejected for arbitrary reasons were so high. My strategy, emotionally, is to assume I'll be rejected, and hope to be pleasantly surprised. If a woman responds well to my advances, only then is it worth worrying about whether we're compatible or not.
/r/MensRights03/12/23 12:30 AM
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It's sort of funny... wasn't reddit literally the origin of the redpill and incel communities? Yet now male dating woes have nearly been pushed off the platform.
/r/MensRights03/12/23 12:22 AM
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Sexual consent can be withdrawn after it's given. The form only proves that the two parties agreed to engage in sex at the time of signing. It doesn't prove consent wasn't revoked later. Also, the accuser could easily argue that the form was signed under duress unless there was an impartial third party witness present for the signing. It's a funny idea, and a dramatic way of showing some of the unintended side-effects of the #BelieveAllWomen movement. But I'm pretty sure it wouldn't do much at a…
/r/MensRights01/12/23 07:28 PM
1

I can't really see where the guy was threatening revenge. He's angry, for good reason, but I don't see anything implying he wanted to do actual harm to his ex. That said, I agree that revenge would be a bad idea. If she's not actively attacking him, it's best to just keep distance and try to move on.
/r/MensRights01/12/23 07:16 PM
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Wow... and not only that, she's using the press to advertise her new business. Basically, she's making money off of fucking up some guy's life. Reading her own words about it, her new social network is basically TwoX on steroids, with the benefit of anonymous posts, so she can spew her defaming statements and milk pity from others without being accountable for her words. It's like ultra-misandrist 4chan. At least, if she makes some money from this, the guy would make some money from her in his l…
/r/MensRights01/12/23 06:51 PM
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Men do not feel comfortable to speak freely around the sensitive ears of a lady. That's very 19th century way to put it, but it's absolutely true, isn't it? Men can't be crude or crass in front of ladies, for fear of offending them. There's also the idea that men are all predators in waiting being perpetuated, which sort of underpins the concept of a victorian era "gentleman" (ie: a man who is not rough, but is clean, charming, and respectful.) Honestly yeah, the more I think about it, the more …
/r/MensRights29/11/23 10:30 PM
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Wow, this post got you permabanned? To me, this reads as a guy who just got out of a bad relationship, and is looking for sympathy. You're not calling for the murder of all women, you're just bitching about your ex, something that pretty much everyone does after a nasty breakup. Plus, you're not wrong for wanting to take a break from dating to get your head together. You shouldn't feel pressured to get into another relationship before you feel ready. From my point of view, you're in the right. I…
/r/MensRights29/11/23 10:10 PM
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I wonder what the numbers would say if you defined sexual assault as "Touching while subject is in an incoherent mental state, or continuing after lack of consent has been explicitly stated." Like, how many of these so-called "rapes" are just a guy innocently making a move, and the girl not being into it? I feel like rape, or sexual assault should only be counted when the man is knowingly violating their consent. It's not that weird, right? There are a lot of crimes where prosecutors need to pro…
/r/MensRights29/11/23 10:01 PM
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You're in a tough situation. I think making some friends or long term connections would help you. Yes, I know that's easier said than done... but even something like going to the same coffee shop every day so people know your face and get used to your presence could help. If your masking skills aren't great, you might make a bad first impression on some people, but once they get to know you a little better, and realize the "weird vibes" they're picking up is just your way of communicating, rathe…
/r/MensRights28/11/23 02:04 AM
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How many men do you think are nepiophile zoophiles who also molest dead bodies? The world is a dark place, so I'm sure there are some... but I would also argue it's pretty likely you've never met one in your life, and when it comes to your babies and pet dogs, you would be better served worrying about wild coyotes than human men. I agree with the fact that men are more likely to be sexual predators, but the vast majority of sexual crimes are committed by a very small minority of scumbags, and th…
/r/MensRights26/11/23 06:16 PM
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I blame politics. The more extreme "woke" members of the American far left aren't only radical feminists, they're also very big on combatting police corruption against black folk, and including more black representation in media. As part of the general pushback against left wing messaging from the political right, I think a lot of innocent black people are caught in the crossfire. Again, racism isn't cool, no matter your color, but I do think anti-racism efforts supporting black folks is stronge…
/r/MensRights26/11/23 05:54 PM
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...and 4% of convicted pedophiles are women. Therefore, women molest babies too.
/r/MensRights26/11/23 05:31 PM
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Well, obviously racism still exists, but it's not the same as it once was. Black people are still condemned as a whole by certain groups, but those who condemn them are definitely criticized and scrutinized. (For example, you just did it right now by calling out Fox News.) Back in the early 1800s before slavery was outlawed, black people were literally treated like livestock. After the emancipation, things were better, but they were still treated like a more "primitive" version of humanity... bl…
/r/MensRights26/11/23 06:44 AM
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I beg to differ. Facts won't sway the extremists, but they will sway the moderates. There are probably a lot of people out there who sincerely believe that there are very few, if any, male victims of DV. Talking about the rate at which it happens, will absolutely make a difference in these cases, especially if you can cite a credible (government / academic) source for your numbers that they can't argue against.
/r/MensRights26/11/23 06:04 AM
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Also black people in the 1800s, jews in the 1930s... etc.
/r/MensRights26/11/23 05:05 AM
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Women molest corpses animals and babies too... Also, if you think about it and turn that obnoxious statement around... it low-key implies living women are less attractive to men than dead ones. That's quite the insult to women as well.
/r/MensRights26/11/23 05:02 AM
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Oh, my bad. I think it's still fair to say that most of them aren't husband shopping though. It's probably just the same bullshit as usual, women feeling they're underrepresented in academia and wanting to "balance the scales." Personally I don't think that's going to go anywhere (at least not in mainstream academic circles). You can't "diversity hire" scientists and experts. To get a spot presenting at a reputable professional or academic conference you need to have something worthwhile to talk…
/r/MensRights26/11/23 03:00 AM
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I think you're over-generalizing. Women could have many different motivations for wanting to go to conferences. Are some husband shopping for elite men? Probably. Are all of them doing that? Definitely no. I'd argue it's a small minority at best. Probably most of them are just trying to network and improve their career options like most people attending those conferences.
/r/MensRights25/11/23 06:05 PM
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Actual Advice: Don't argue with her at all. Don't engage. She's radicalized, and she won't listen to reason until reality smashes her over the head. So if she starts ranting about rad-fem nonsense, subtly change the subject, pretend to agree, or just stay quiet and keep the peace. That's the best way to keep things tolerable. But if you want to fight... The most easy flaw in her "all men are trash" argument is to point out literally any counter-example. Broad, overly general statements like that…
/r/MensRights24/11/23 11:09 PM
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Now I like Shoe, and her previous two videos had some great content about mens issues... but this one is clearly just making fun of mentally unwell thots on Tiktok. Now as much as I enjoy the feeling of Shadenfreude I get when watching unattainbly hot women suffer utter disaster in their love lives while broadcasting their humiliations for all to see, I'm not entirely sure what this has to do with Men's Rights...
/r/MensRights21/11/23 07:24 AM
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Yeah, I'm not doubting that nature made things the way they are. Women are, and always have been, the choosier sex. It's not fair, but life's not fair. But the question was whether I'd be happier as a woman, and that's what I answered: Mostly no, except for the fact that I'd enjoy the female experience of being the "pursued" instead of the "pursuer," the gatekeeper of affection, the supply rather than the demand.
/r/MensRights20/11/23 02:39 AM
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"The Coolidge effect is a biological phenomenon seen in animals, whereby males exhibit renewed sexual interest whenever a new female is introduced, even after sex with prior but still available sexual partners." -From Wikipedia. So, assuming this applies to men too, it means we have a stronger instinctual drive to seek out new partners than women... and yet, most of us still don't cheat, or condone other men cheating on their partners. What excuse do these women have?
/r/MensRights20/11/23 12:56 AM
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They call it "Internalized Misogyny" and they claim that women who prefer to be stay at home mothers don't actually know what they want because they were raised in a patriarchal society and brainwashed to believe what they believe. It's the excuse feminists use to attack women who disagree with them. They also like to use the term "pick me" girl, to deride girls who seem to like men a bit more than they should.
/r/MensRights20/11/23 12:14 AM
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Misandry is absolutely "systemic." Specifically, in the justice system, family court, in "guilty until proven innocent" cancel culture, and in education. Those are all very real, easily measurable, biases affecting U.S institutions.
/r/MensRights20/11/23 12:09 AM
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Here are some more ideas: Hook (1991) is another option for an older kid. I first watched it when I was 9 or 10 ish. It's a sequel to Peter Pan featuring Robin Williams, with a protagonist that learns and grows away from his flaws. It's got a fairly good message about prioritizing fun and family over career. Aladdin (1992) is a decent kids film which features a non-toxic male PoV protagonist. Plus Princess Jasmin is also a badass character your daughter might like. And again, Robin Williams is j…
/r/MensRights20/11/23 12:00 AM
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A good set of movies for your boy when he gets older is the Lord of The Rings trilogy (2001 - 2003). Aragorn is a perfect example of masculine virtue. He's a fair, humble, level headed, decisive, caring, and nurturing leader. He ticks all the boxes on positive masculine role models. Frodo, and Sam meanwhile are less stereotypically "manly" than Aragorn, but display tremendous courage and tenacity despite their weaknesses, which make them into good role models too. Plus Gandalf is a total bro. Ac…
/r/MensRights19/11/23 11:38 PM
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For the most part, I don't mind being a man, but I'm jealous of the lady side of things when it comes to sexual dynamics. Women are desired, in ways men aren't. And yes, that has it's downsides, such as women being at greater risk for sexual violence. But as a man, I really can't feel sympathy for girls who complain about receiving too much male attention, or saying they "don't want to be objectified." Personally, if I were catcalled, complimented, or sexually objectified by literally anyone, I'…
/r/MensRights19/11/23 11:18 PM
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It's not fair, but in this case the bias does make sense. Male nudity just isn't sexualized the way female nudity usually is, so if the humiliating situation is supposed to be shown in a comedic light and not a sexual one, then hiding the lady's butt is a tasteful choice. Meanwhile, male butts are usually seen as inherently crude, or humorous, and that makes them fit with a non-sexual comedic scene far better.
/r/MensRights19/11/23 02:12 AM
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Speaking from my own experience growing up as a cis man, I'd say... definitely no. Growing up, I hung out with a bunch of nerds, and most of our conversations were about games and anime. When guys are by themselves, they're usually talking about their work or hobbies. We do talk about ladies sometimes, but not as often as I suspect girls gossip about boys. The only things I can recall, that an easily outraged feminist could find issue with, were complaints about specific girls, comments on attra…
/r/MensRights15/11/23 07:41 PM
2

I googled "native american candles" and found a whole shitload of modern scented candles for sale, made by various first nations tribes and marketed as being "traditional" but absolutely zero historical evidence that natives actually produced wax candles before european settlers arrived. Now I'm not a historian, so feel free to correct me on this, but as far as I could tell, they used mostly oil lamps, and the closest thing to an actual candle I could find, was a type of fish called the eulachon…
/r/MensRights15/11/23 07:16 PM
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Okay... I gotta ask. How is not being allowed to light candles in your dorm room a race thing?
/r/MensRights15/11/23 06:58 AM
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True, but in a world without at least two genders the words "masculine" and "feminine" wouldn't exist. They might use other words, like "hard humans" or "soft humans" to describe those sets of traits. It's like the concept of darkness... If people didn't see, then humans would have no concept of bright and dark and those words wouldn't even be part of our vocabulary. If an alien came and tried to describe what seeing was like, humans would just be confused. With no female gender, there would be …
/r/MensRights19/10/23 01:49 PM
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Masculinity, as a concept, is literally dependent on women. One cannot be masculine, if there is no feminine to contrast it with. If no women existed, and nobody remembered they had ever existed, then the word "masculine" wouldn't exist either. If nothing else changed, the traits we consider masculine would likely still exist, but they would just be called "human" traits instead.
/r/MensRights19/10/23 05:47 AM
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What if we do the opposite instead? Feminists think all masculinity is toxic, and any form of male sexuality is creepy? Okay... we'll just be creepy. It's better than walking on eggshells and wallowing in self hatred while we try and fail to repress an integral part of ourselves, isn't it? Gay people have their pride events in part because they don't want to hide who they are. So why should straight men be forced to hide their heterosexuality? You like a girl's tits? Dont touch without an invita…
/r/MensRights18/10/23 07:16 AM
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To be fair... rapists get an emotional rush from their acts too. Technically both rapists and false accusers gain some form of gratification from their actions. It's not "senseless evil" it makes perfect sense if you're an immoral monster.
/r/MensRights18/10/23 06:43 AM
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Women say men are overly angry and aggressive. I would say that certain women at least, are just as angry and aggressive as the men they criticize. I don't think having poor emotional regulation is an inherently gendered trait. Often, it's just the result of unresolved trauma, or a fucked up childhood. I remember reading a post here a while back, sharing a study which concluded that there are more male victims of domestic violence than female victims. As in... women get physically violent with t…
/r/MensRights10/10/23 08:19 PM
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What even is the issue with being a "pick me" girl? Like, I get it's basically a female simp but why are they using that specific terminology for it? Are girls saying they don't want men to pick them? As in... they don't want guys to be attracted to them, or want to date them at all? That makes sense if they're gay, but if they're hetero... That's sort of working against them, isn't it? Why is being likeable considered some sort of "toxic anti-feminist" trait?
/r/MensRights10/10/23 07:56 PM
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I agree, I have not proven that male protectiveness has biological component behind it. I honestly don't have a clue how much of this behavior is due to nature, and how much is nurture. I'm not an anthropologist or anything. I wasn't really questioning your conclusions... You could be right. I was more questioning the argument you used to reach your conclusion. I wasn't trying to insult you, I'm just an insufferable pedant who enjoys a good debate. That said, I don't really appreciate the name c…
/r/MensRights10/10/23 07:41 PM
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Yeah, gynocentrism sucks balls.
/r/MensRights10/10/23 06:22 PM
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It's fair to say that male protectiveness is due to social conditioning. I agree it's definitely a factor. Personally, I think it's a mixture of both biology and social norms. If there is an instinctual drive to protect women, it probably comes from earlier in our species' history, when a man's role in the family or tribe was to protect those weaker than him from external threats. That said "instinct" doesn't mean "rule." Like... I have an instinct to pee when my bladder is full, but if I don't …
/r/MensRights10/10/23 06:18 PM
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Oh, I agree... It's biased as fuck.
/r/MensRights10/10/23 03:56 PM
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(...and also triggers mass panic and a crowd crush inside a confined space, leading to the tramping and death of some random kid who wasn't involved in the situation at all.)
/r/MensRights10/10/23 03:50 PM
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Nah... I'm neither tradcon nor simp. It's just a dude thing. I don't know if it's naturally wired into our brains, or if it's a learned behavior associated with masculine gender norms, but men being subconsciously protective of women is very much a Thing. (It's probably half the reason why radical feminists don't get called on their bullshit by mainstream men.) Again, logically speaking, male lives matter. But if you're a journalist with a limited word count, and you need to make your audiences …
/r/MensRights10/10/23 03:43 PM
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Well, that's an unpleasant thought... Personally, I'd file that sort of thing under "killing" or "torturing" rather than "raping." I was more talking about those scenarios where the victims are not killed during or after the act.
/r/MensRights10/10/23 03:33 PM
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Guy tip: What you think he finds sexy, isn't necessarily what he finds sexy. Girls tend to assume that they're at their hottest when they're all done up, dressed to the nines, with tall heels and immaculate makeup. But for some guys... they actually prefer the unkempt bed-hair, tracksuit bottoms, look. I'm sure your husband loves your heart. But it's also possible he might love your body a bit more than you realize...
/r/MensRights10/10/23 04:18 AM
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I agree with this. And I'll add something: There's a huge difference between telling someone "I don't personally like that style on you." and telling them "You look bad." The first is your own subjective opinion, and the second is an objective statement. I think it's okay to say "I don't like beards," Especially if the person is your partner, and they specifically ask for your opinion. It's less okay to say "Beards are ugly." The latter feels a lot harsher to me, and isn't necessarily true. I've…
/r/MensRights10/10/23 04:14 AM
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Eh... I dunno. You handled it tactfully, but I think your preference matters to him, that's probably why he asked. It's fully possible that he genuinely didn't remember you don't like beards. Guys are idiots sometimes. Like, maybe don't shut him down in front of the kids, because that would just humiliate him, but you could talk to him later about it in private. You could remind him that while you love him as a man, you don't personally love his beard. Faced with that information, it's possible …
/r/MensRights10/10/23 03:55 AM
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Kudos to you for staying honest. It probably caused friction at the time, but I'm sure your relationship now is healthier because of it.
/r/MensRights10/10/23 03:44 AM
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I think the pushback you got for your comment is stupid. Like, you would be an asshole for making an unsolicited comment on the style choices of a random woman you don't know, but your hypothetical story is about a man and his wife, and his wife actually solicited his feedback. Honestly, it sounds like the wife is the asshole in this situation. The man told her he likes long hair. She knows this, and still choses to get her hair cut. Okay... fine... it's a dick move, possibly motivated by spite,…
/r/MensRights10/10/23 03:41 AM
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Hey! What do you think you're doing? You're not allowed to complain about not being allowed to complain!
/r/MensRights10/10/23 03:00 AM
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I'd have been tempted to punch her right back, to return what was given. In theory, it's fair, since she escalated to violence first. It would have totally backfired on you, of course, but damn it would have made for a satisfying story to tell in jail.
/r/MensRights10/10/23 02:58 AM
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Bad idea on a crowded commuter train. There is no way bringing a gun into that situation isn't ending in tragedy.
/r/MensRights10/10/23 02:55 AM
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This. Certainly, there are some genuine misandrists who hate men because they're men, but I think the genuine man haters are actually pretty few. Most of the toxic feminist rhetoric comes from fear. Like... they say they're afraid to walk down streets at night because they're afraid of being raped. But statistically, how likely are they to actually get raped walking down a street at night? The answer, not very. Rainn (a resource they like to use when calling men rapists) says that 8 out of 10 ra…
/r/MensRights10/10/23 02:33 AM
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It's true women are much more likely to be raped, but if they're being raped, that means they're not being killed... at least not immediately. Now... I obviously don't envy the shit those poor women are likely going through, but if given a choice between getting raped and getting shot... I'd rather be raped. That sort of trauma will fuck up a person's life big time, but with hard work and therapy, there's always hope of recovery. You can't recover from dead.
/r/MensRights10/10/23 02:11 AM
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I can't read the article because it's behind a paywall, so forgive me if I get things wrong. That quote you shared says women are being kidnapped and killed, but they're not saying men aren't victims too, right? There's definitely a bias in the language, but honestly, it doesn't seem like a feminist sort of bias. It might just be that women in peril create a stronger visceral reaction in all audiences. Like, as a dude, seeing a woman being abused triggers my "protect" instinct more than seeing a…
/r/MensRights10/10/23 02:03 AM
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Making YouTube videos is a job. Researching, writing, shooting, and editing a long form video essay like this takes a lot of work. Shoe deserves to get paid. Just because she's a professional YouTuber who is doing it for money doesn't make the content of her video any less valid.
/r/MensRights13/09/23 08:41 PM
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I haven't seen you, so I can't say if you're actually as ugly as you think you are or not. I can tell you that most people think they're uglier than they really are. You see yourself in the mirror and notice all your flaws, but how often do you analyze random people on the street with the same level of scrutiny? And if you did, would you be as hard on them as you are on yourself? But let's say you look like a stereotypical Hentai NTR Ugly Bastard, just... cartoonishly ugly, the worst of the wors…
/r/MensRights27/08/23 01:35 AM
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I was an incel in my twenties, before incel was even a word in public discourse. I can confirm that while sex is awesome, it's not, in itself that big a deal. It's a wet hole that feels super good and you get to enjoy some cuddles after. What is a big deal, however, is how I felt about myself after i finally got laid. After years of feeling unattractive and unlovable I had finally overcome the stigma of being a "virgin loser" and it was this awesome sense of accomplishment. The thing is, it real…
/r/MensRights26/08/23 05:59 AM
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