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DiscussionSiukslinis_acc/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 10:27 AM
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Vicinity plays a big role in relationships. A lot of friendships fall off because there is no longer vicinity. You no longer stumble upon eachother and exchange some short socialisation that is lige grease on hinges. With social media a lot of it is rather formalised and you need to do things on purpose. There is less spontaniety that would make you feel less like they want something from you. Not to mention that there are stuff like tone or body language or response speed that you can't convey …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 02:40 AM
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A bit of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:12 PM
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Yep. A lot of parents have been failed as kids. And they didn't have the resources to learn how to parent themselves. Now we have tons of books, info and professionals that can help us with that if we are willing to put in effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 10:03 AM
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And the thing is that you can't close it for them. They need to put in a lot of work and effort to close it. All you can do is "cheer" them while they are closing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:59 AM
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There is a limit to empathy. I can be empathetic about an insecurity of another person, but when that insecurity makes them lash out on me - nope. I will have empathy to your situation, but i will also keep my distance so that your lashing out won't hurt me. You can feel empathy for the person while at the same time wanting nothing to do with the person. Spent too much time allowing a person to lash out on me about things that make them feel insecure. Reached a metaphorical edge if a cliff and d…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:52 AM
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It seems obvious. It is about non-sexual and non-romantic relationships. People should have inherent love unless they prove otherwise. It seems like a very basic thing. But it does not mean that every behaviour is to be loved. You love the good behaviour and discipline them against the bad ones. If you think that this quote is telling that men should be sexually or romantically loved just by existing - that is false.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:28 AM
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Though there is the thing that men tend to be more reckless and thus they might explose some things that the woman might deem too risky. Some enlightment does come from doing stupid and life-threatening things.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:21 AM
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You usually need to teach the person to love and value themselves. It is usually taught by loving and valuing the person. And it should be done when the person is a kid. If they have learned as a kid that they are unloved and don't have value, then a "black hole" develops and it is a lot harder to close it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:18 AM
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Womens lives are also a means to an end - birth and raise the next generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:14 AM
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But i would ask what is the budget. I don't want to accidentally make you eat potatoes for the rest of the month if i have ordered something expensive that is within my personal budget.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 02:38 AM
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I remember how my gopniky classmates behaved and how my more cultured classmates behaved.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 02:34 AM
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I don't think women are attracted to manboobs. Arse - maybe. It seems that men tend to ignore the attractiveness of hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 07:28 PM
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Yep. People are different. Just because one person has a "rule" does not mean that the other person will have the same "rule". Especially on the internet people tend to not pay attention who exactly is saying what. So they thing that two different members of the same group are the same person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 07:26 PM
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Both sides are average...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 07:22 PM
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The ones who are in the niche that you are into. Personally I'm a sucker for smiles and rolled up sleeves.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 07:05 PM
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Disney - Jafar, Dr. Facilier, Clayton Final fantasy 15 - Ardyn My Country: The New Age - Yi Bang-won Ace attorney - Godot, Barok van Zieks Yakuza 7 - Ishioda, Tendo Clair obscur - Reinor Red dead redemption 2 - Dutch
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 07:03 PM
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A lot of women in the past had to keep quiet as their survival depended on it. And now women have gained enough power that they have now more freedom to express themselves instead of keeping quiet.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 10:49 AM
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Common media constantly tries to conflate individuals as a group with their worst denominators to impose collective guilt. This is nothing new. Especially nowadays when people bank on click-bait and enraging content.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 10:45 AM
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Declining birthrates can also show the health of society. Have you noticed that all the talk about declining birthrates are about it's impact on the economy? People are seen are resources. I don't see a problem in reducing the infrastructure due to lower ammount of people. The constant chase for unending growth is rather unhealthy. Maybe it is better that the population becomes lower, but has higher quality. Many people nowadays are horrified of seeibg the other person as a resource. Human life …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 10:06 AM
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And it is kinda sad when the only reason you want a child is for "legacy" so that you would live on through your child when you are dead. There aren't many who have kids because they see the world as wonderful and want to share the wonder with the kid. It's always about what the kid will do for the parents, whether take care of them when they are old, contribute to the increase in life quality or a means to live after death in memory and impact.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:59 AM
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One thing is that the male/neutral content is the default and majority. Although, yes, romantasy did "explode". Second thing is that algorythm plays a huge role. I haven't seem much critiques of male/neutral stuff, but i have seen a lot of critiques of being considerate to women or having a woman as a main character that isn't just a man in a womans body. I have seen a lot of "this game will be shit because the main character is a woman and she isn't even sexy". Heck, there were a lot more criti…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 07:46 AM
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Wait, which main character confessed his feeling to a man? The nephilim? The last season was ages ago. I know that there are some deranged shippers who are shipping biological siblings together.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 07:39 AM
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And this is where some workplace would give the salary of the husband to the wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:35 AM
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Why the heck the villains in media tend to have a cool design, while the heroes look like your basic everyday person that blends in to the background?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:06 PM
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They might help you figure out why are you attracted to people who aren't attracted to you. Oftentimes it is a question about your family dynamics. People tend to look for people who can recreate the family dynamics as those are familiar to you and thus feel safe or navigatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:04 PM
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Presence matters a lot. Why get into a relationship with someone if you still feel like you are single as they are never there? Heck, a lot of friendships we had in university/school is due to vicinity/presence. And as adults it is harder to maintain those friendships, because you are no longer in the vicinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:59 PM
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In my grandmas time, there were some men in the "black books" at work which meant that the wife had to go to pick up the salary as the man wasn't trusted not to drink or gamble away the salary before it reached the household.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:11 AM
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Weren't SAHMs traditionally household managers and thus all the salary that the man got was given to her, because the salary does not belong to the man, but to the household?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:06 AM
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Not abandoning oneself for the sake of other. People are so used to women always prioritising others that a woman taking herself in consideration seems lime self-centerdness and narcissism.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:20 PM
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fathers of young children are dramatically more likely to be working full time than mothers of young children. Yeah, because child expectations are still on the woman and thus she takes jobs that aren't full time in order to be able to take care of the child. School is not till 17, it is till 13-15 and the parents job ends at 17, and additional hours of care or extracuriculum cost a lot. Not to mention that there is the expectation that the woman will take the kid to doctors appointments or stay…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:30 AM
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I can say parenting now is probably easier than almost any other point in time with the advent of technology information and all other things. Listening to what people around me say about parenting - nowadays it is a lit harder. There are a lot more expectations on what a parent needs to do. My neighbour said that if he were raised today - his mom would be in jail. He went outside alone at 7 and came home when it was lunch. Nowadays you might get child protection services called if your kid is i…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:24 AM
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There is the thing of home being a safe space, so you unleash everything on the family. While on the outside you need to maintain perceptions and your own status in the wider hierarchy. My grandma was an angel in public, but a devil in private.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 12:52 PM
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Traditionally fathers were strict while mothers are gentle. So you might have learned that men won't be gentle with you. So you start to expect a woman to try to barter with you, while a man will just woop your arse.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 12:48 PM
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They have a thumbnail or a still image before you press "play".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:55 AM
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How does youtube or tiktok do it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:36 AM
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First picture does carry a lot of weight. Ot is like a movie poster, video game poster or book cover. First impressions do matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:13 AM
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With online dating stuff there is the thing where static image does not do much for a woman. And many men's photos tend to be lifeless, there is that emptyness in the face, like the photo is for an official document. For me the only time an image does something is when i have already seen the man being alive. Saw them in motion, heard their voice. I wonder if men would do better if dating apps would allow gifs or short videos.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:00 AM
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Confident smile, rolled up sleeves, deeper voice, good posture, enjoying interacting with the person. Yes, women might have it moee easier as men tend to be very vocal (and vulgar) to what parts of the woman they like, while women tend to be more quieter (and oftentimes if they do open up - they are shamed).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:49 AM
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Why? You wouldn't reach out to any of your friends to help you out with stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:33 AM
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Vtubers are just streamers who use an avatar to keep some privacy. Like traditional streamers, they can be good or cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 02:48 PM
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Depends how you do it. Some people annoy the woman so much that she agrees for the sole reason that he stops pestering her. On the other hand, i tend to say "no" to things that "ambush" me, so the instinct is to keep up status quo. But after i have some time to process things, i might realise that i should have said "yes". So i would treat the first "no" as a "give me time to process and ponder it". I would give at least a week and then ask again. And if it is still "no", then it is a definite "…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:32 AM
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Yep. A lot of men's dating profile photos that i have seen are rather lifeless. Like it is done for an official document. Where the hell is the spark of like in the eyes? Why would anyone be interested if you have a dead stare?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 03:28 AM
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Yep the main problem that they try to appease everyone instead of finding a person and trying to apease that person. If the thing is marketed for everyone - then it is for no one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 03:26 AM
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I think it is a skill to see the same core in seemingly unrelated things. So you can talk about the same core, but using different things as a way to express it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 07:15 AM
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You don't need to share the thing. Sometimes it is enough that they are ok with that thing. Like, they might not be into dune, but they are willing to listen to you talk about dune even though they won't be able to contribute to it. Although they might find some core thing that is wrapped in dune, and express the same thing but it being wrapped in love island. It is a skill to notice a core thing/theme and see it expressed in different ways. It might seem that one is talking about dune and anoth…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 07:12 AM
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And a lot of the things the relationship provided has been made into a service. So you could hire a service, they do the thing, leave and you can continue doing your own thing. While being in a relationship, the other person does not skedaddle afterwards - you have to deal with them and meet their needs in the quiet moments where you don't don't need anything from them. Even the knowledge that there is another person in the house can make you restrain yourself. You are more conscious about what …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 06:57 AM
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There is the thing of local men being so bad that you seem like a good option that they would like to keep. But if local men are as good as you, then you have to compete in other aspects. Not to mention that a lot of the times nowadays is that you are competing with the quality of life of being single. It is a bit of a disatvantage of hyper individualistic society that people don't want to mellow some aspects of themselves for the sake of the other person. Relationships do require people to adap…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 06:19 AM
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Around one week a month during the horny period of my menstrual cycle i oftentimes have thoughts about jumping random men i see. But i have enough inhibition not to act upon it. The rest of the time (except the 2-3 days of strong bleeding, where i just want to be alone as i'm already too memtally occupied withbdealing with the menstruation pains and discomforts) i tend to want to interact with men or be in their vicinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 03:25 AM
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Propper grammar is nowadays considered a genai tell... and thus it makes people use impropper grammar on purpose and thus we downgrade as humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:17 AM
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Nah, i prefer to meet the person irl. There are things that you can't convey through text.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 07:27 PM
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And the people who wrote like genai writes decades before genai was a thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 07:24 PM
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Because you are showing competence? Also, trad men did household maintenance stuff. So if you want women to do household maintenance - you should also be doing household maintenance.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:35 PM
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Dunno about "tradwifing" specifically, but a person tends to be more motivated to do hoisehold chores when they see the other person doing them too. It is a lot harder to motivate yourself to do household chores when the other never does it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:37 AM
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Yeah. And even then only the rich ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:54 AM
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Yep, how many of them would be able to repair a household appliance or fix the plumbing by themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:52 AM
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I think men only stop when they no longer can get errect.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 06:12 AM
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Was watching "you can't ask that" and there was an episode aboit nudists. Didn't expect the people answering the questions in nude. And there was no censoring. Was my first time seeing flacid penises.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:25 AM
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Depends on the moustache and how it is in harmony with the rest of your style. Not to me tion my opinion would differ if i saw you for the first time with or without moustache.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 09:58 AM
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Because men are more desperate (and horny) so they give leeway in order to get a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:21 PM
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One of the bug hurdles is the higher standards to raising kids. Not many potential parents are confident that they will meet the child raising stamdarts. When i was a kid, since 7 years old we went out and showed up when street lamps turned on. Nowadays you might have child protective services called upon you if your 7 years old is on the playground without adult supervision. I remember the scandal in nordic countries where kids were taken away from their families even for tinyest offence. That …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:15 PM
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Because if they exclude the step, there might ve a crackdown. It's no incest if there is no blood relation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 11:33 AM
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If i turn off the sound and skip to the parts where there is only genitalia shown - i can. But it is also harder to find a video becaue the underage looking girls or stepstuff in the titles are a turn off. I somehow started to go to internet archive for porn... you can find some old movies there where the trends were different. But i still keep the sound off, as the music kinda takes me out of it. But i'm trying now not to watch porn or masturbate. 1,5 month managed to do, hope to lengthen the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:02 AM
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Dissapointment oftentime stems from unmet expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:56 AM
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You get to know the stranger before dating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:04 PM
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Good thing that people are dating individuals and not genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:47 AM
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Yeah, there are three states: positive, neutral and negative. A lot of people think there are only positive and negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:15 AM
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It's hard to like people who hate you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:09 AM
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They were dragged into war, they didn't go there on their own volition.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 05:04 AM
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If it is natural, then why are people traumatised when they kill someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 05:02 AM
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Depends on how you view partiarchy. If it is in the "men are superior to women" it is still alive. There are men who are constantly worried about their masculinity and are afraid of anything feminine. While a woman is celebrated if she is more masculine. Like, woman drinking beer is cheered and man drinking fruity coctail is booed. Heck, even look at lgbtq+ outrage. You see trans women, and drag queens. But you barely read anything about trans men or drag kings.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:16 AM
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I heard a different patriarchy theory: women are below men, so any sign of percieved femininity makes men inferior and thus men constantly stress about being percived as masculine as if they are not, they will be made lesser. This is why also if a male dominated field starts to be dominated by women, the reputation/respect of the field diminishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:13 AM
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Apparently there is a crysis of book reading, so it is no wonder that many don't want to discuss books. Also,I tend to read for fun and immerse myself in the book, so I'm not good at discussing a book. Also, what are the genders of example 1 and 2? The post titles seem gender neutral.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 04:38 PM
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It does depend on your circles and surroundings.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 06:43 AM
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Not to mention that when you masturbate you are in control and you know your body and won't hurt it. While penetration is someone going inside of you, they don't know your body and might hurt you. It's like the fact that you can't tickle yourself. Your brain knows that it is you and that you are safe, while others touching sensitive spots signals to the brain that they might hurt you. Tickling causes me anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:44 AM
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You need to stimulate the clit. I can orgasm by just crossing my legs and moving my hips back and forth. No hands needed, heck, i con't even need to take my clothes off. Some can orgasm my tensing and releasing (like "pumping") the groin muscles. Birth control, antidepressants and other meds might numb stuss and thus you can't orgasm. It can be like tickling a dead limb - it won't work. Anxieties can also hinder the orgasm, so feeling safe and relaxed does have an influence.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:40 AM
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Bue pill is just there to show contrast to the red pill. Heck, the whole red/blue pill is just a matrix meme.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:31 AM
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Yep. Mental health focused on the perspective of a guy and uses video game and internet speech as metaphors for stuff. Even though i'm a woman (although i am a tomboy) he does explain stuff in a way that is more undersrandable to me. I really liked when in the video about emotional availability he told a story through the typical way men tell, and then told the exact story in a more emotionally available. This example of saying the same way in different manners made it a better comparison and mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:30 AM
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In a way men's main concern is how to convince the woman to say "yes". While women's consern is more about the stuff after the "yes".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:22 AM
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the only one I recognize from that list is Trevor Noah, but I know all about Joe Rogan, Ben Shapiro, Tucker Carlson, Theo Von, Steven Crowder, Glenn Beck, Charlie Kirk, Candace Owens, and I have never listened to a single episode of any of them except Joe Rogan the one time he had Bernie Sanders on in 2019. Aren't stuff like joe rogan more known because you constantly hear them being criticised? Did anyone known charlie kirk before he died? When he died the internet didn't shut up about it and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:20 AM
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[looks at romance genre and the parents]...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 04:25 PM
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Depends on may factors. Is the kid in toddler stage, how is the relationship with their mom, how is the coparenting situation, how much of parental responsibility would fall on me, does the kid hate me. One of the things of dating a single parent is that not only you need to get a green light from the parent, but also from the kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 01:50 PM
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Yeah, people tend to have specific ideas what they see as empathy and have a hard time seeing different expressions of empathy as empathy. I personally preffer suggestions or a different perspective on things. I already know that the thing suck, you don't need to repeat that to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:12 AM
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Hope. A lot of women have been taught that love will change things. That love will make the person commit eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 04:32 AM
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I mean, acknowledging that the situation sucks is showing empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:36 AM
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People emotionally regualte differently. Venting is one of the methods for emotional regulation. The key is not being a broken record about something.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:35 AM
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I would. People can suck at presenting themselves on apps. They might be blind to their own aspects that are actually attractive, but they subconsciously show them IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:45 PM
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You calculate if it is worth. Imagine you are a homebody and they need to constantly go out somewhere - over time you will go crazy. Some things are incompatable. I had to end a friendship because a friend needed constant interaction, while i needed some alone time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:57 AM
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how much time you spend learning about men? All the learning is passive from interactions and observations. I have a father and a brother, i have male friends, i have co-workers who have sons. do you change thing you do based on opinion from men? or would you? ever? Depends on the opinions and how they resonate with me and if looking inside i do acknowledge that this is a problem. I have a sense of self and won't go against who i am at the core just because a man said so, although i do acknowled…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:47 AM
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Ahh... the expectation of playing a good guy. When i played i didn't see him as a good guy. He took away stuff from others, scammed people, robed people. The redemption only started after saint denis. And i didn'r interpret being honourable as being good. It might be the video game expectation of the moral compass being good/bad. Yes, he didn't kill the unarmed people he robbed, but he left them in destitude that might he akin to death.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:33 AM
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And then people complain why you don't go out and such. I don't even go to concerts much because they end at night and might be in a neighbourhood that tends to have a bit of a sketchy reputation (like a former industrial zone). I don't participate in night life and such, because it was ingrained in me by my dad to not be around alone at night. So the few events i do go is either during the day or if i manage to drag a family member with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:11 AM
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Maybe we are just used to heroic deaths where you die in combat or rescuing something or being killed, so that a sudden unexpected/mundane death shakes us. Disco elysium. there were two old guys playing some kind of a game and bickering every day. One day you see a guy being alone there and all sad, you ask hin what happened amd you find out that the other guy had died of a heart attack I think it is similar to red dead redemption 2 the cause of death is very real, you might even had people in y…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:05 AM
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My companionship, knowledge, skills, perceptions, mindset, worldview.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:49 AM
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Not having a spine is a turnoff as it oftentimes mean that you have to parent them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:23 AM
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One should diversify.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:28 AM
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Some people want their partners to ve doormats for them, while others don't. And yes, what you do affects who you are and vice versa. So what you do can let the other person see if you are compatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 04:54 AM
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I think it might be the distress when something is not how you are used it to be. And the distress stems from you not knowing how you should behave, what to do or how to respond to it. And some people try to force the world to be how they have learned it is instead of managing the distress and re-learning things. Both men and women feel distress when something important/serious is not how they have learned that thing to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 04:48 AM
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Or who reminds them of their family dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 05:09 PM
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And sometimes one might be attracted to an arse because they are a doormat and might actually want to learn how to be a bit more assertive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 05:08 PM
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Dunno about mysoginy, but looksmaxing does feel like an extreme. Going overboard of healthy improvements. The only mysoginy i could see with squinted eyes being that a person who is looksmaxing is expecting women to fall head over heels for them and if they don't do that - then threy unleash their rage. So yeah, the assumption that women should fall for you because you lookmaxed could ve the mysoginy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 10:00 AM
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Probably not, as then I would have been raised like a male and with their type of socialisations and social expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:54 PM
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Yeah. Not a fan of the undercut style. Especially when you saw everyone do it when "vikings" aired. Might be oversaturation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 02:20 PM
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There are still stigma about tattoos, especially on women. So maybe there is a bigger chance that a tattooed man won't judge the woman for having tattoos. So tattoos might be a way to quickly determine if you will be judged for having tattoos.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 02:17 PM
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Waitamminit, you are talking about "are we dating the same guy"? If yes, then the male wersion would be to see if the girs is dating multiple people at the same time instead of discussing her sexual history.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 05:07 AM
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We were taught in school/university to fully write the acronym (and the acronym in brackets) and then you can just use the acronym.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 05:03 AM
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How long should you not respond for it to count as ghosting? Some people scream "ghosting" if you haven't responded in an hour.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:49 PM
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Average looking and average income?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:01 PM
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None, they all look like teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 11:57 AM
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Personally, i feel anxious and unsafe because i was constantly fearmongered since i was a child (while my brother wasn't).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:41 AM
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But not the summer weather (currently we have +30C...)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 06:54 PM
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After seeing Christopher Judge in comic con a month ago, the first thing I'm gonna tackle will be the norse god of war saga from my brothers library, then probably tunic as a sort of a palate clenser, then maybe control. The games I bought should last till autumn sale.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 06:05 PM
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Sheesh, spent 80 euro on video games. Got control, tunic, forgive me father, age of mythology retold with all dlcs and american arcadia. Now need to wait till the +30C weather pases.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 05:33 PM
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Hipster are those people whose identity was build about liking things that aren't mainstream.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 05:31 PM
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What the heck is hiplet? Hipster-lite?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 04:01 PM
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For me somehow hiplet associates with "hipster-lite".
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:58 PM
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And some makeup [insert jack sparrow wearing eyeshadows (or however they are called)]
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:32 PM
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Rolled up sleeves being one of the things many women find sexy begs to differ.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:27 PM
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Weren't there crop tops for men in the 80's and i think i remember seeing crop tops in goth shops.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:25 PM
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Yep. Men walk around with rolled up sleeves and a few buttons from the top unbuttoned.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:24 PM
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And during heavy bleeding you can easily use a quarter or half of the roll in one go and that ammount of toilet paper can clog the pipes, especially when those pipes are ancient ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 10:07 AM
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Da heck, we have trashcans solely for hygene producst (pads, tampons) in the public bathrooms. The worst that i have seen is some pee on the toilet seat. And the worst toilet that i have seen is the port-a-poty.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 10:05 AM
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That is where the preserverence comes. People generally hate when things are not how they are used to. Through preserverence the other people can adjust to the new norm. It is a bit when the grocery store switches where stuff is (like where there was canned food, now is chocolate). You grumble and complain (some might even throw a tantrum), but after a while you get used to the new positionings. Heck, men were grumbling, complaining and were aggeessive when women started to wear pants. And nowad…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 04:09 AM
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It is a bit of a chicken and egg situation. Men don't recieve friendlyness as men must be serious and tought, they are taught that only a spouse cares, connects, listens and provides all the social needs stuff. Then men interpret a womans frindlyness and socialising with them as a romantic interest. Then women start not to show the men friendlyness and socialising because they don't want the men to think that they are romantically interested in them. And that sucks that men aren't allowed by the…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:41 AM
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It is also sad that they connect support, listening and care as things a person who is romantically interested in you gives.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:38 AM
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They are people. I talk like i talk and if i see that they don't understand - i try to say the same thing in a different manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:35 AM
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They had to add "virgin", so maybe "ugly" on itself does not have much effect on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:12 PM
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I feel lucky that people started to have smartphones when i was in 11th grade and it was a fancy thing that not many had. Not to mention the internet was different then and there weren't algorythms shoving things to you. Heck, i had only internet when i was around 12 and just used it to download video games and look for guides. So i had the space to figure things out for myself while not being influences by random people with contradicting opinions on how you should be. I was allowed to just be.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 05:41 PM
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There are no consistant standarts. A lot of things are cultural and environmentally influenced. What you might find interesting might be the mist boring thing on earth and vice versa. There is no "one formula to rule them all". Social stuff is cinstantly in flux and is not like hard scuence where you can recreate it using the same exact conditions. Different people give different results and even the same person at a different time can give different results. Have you ever done a personality qui…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:38 PM
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And then look even more ugly wjen the body ages and moves the plastic surgery around.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:21 PM
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Women are oftentimes called ugly as a way to dismiss them. Women are used to support each other and thus going onto defense of others. The equivalent of calling a woman ugly is calling a man "loser".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:19 PM
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I think the problem is that people immediatelly call a woman they don't like or existing in a space that they think is theirs (like being the main character of a superhero movie while not be super sexualised) ugly. Haven't seen a man in media being called ugly. Can't remember seeing zounds of videos telling that hawkeye is ugly. Also, you can just say that you don't find the person attractive. No need to call them ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:16 PM
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Depends on tattoo. I personally don't like a bunch of random tattoos. It makes look like you are like the random piece of paper (probably has something no longer needes printed on the other side) that you doodle on random things out of boredom. The tattoo should be tastefull and not tacky.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:06 PM
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Yeah. The anxiety is not healthy. I'm just used to chatter while doing something. Bit it could be that pure chatter is just not stimulating enough for me. So yeah, a hangout where you help your friend paint the fence is much better that going to a bar and chat with kvas in hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:23 PM
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I think it is less about denying the beauty and more of ignoring it as you always hear about being beutiful, so being beautiful does nothing. It's like saying that water is wet. We tend to filter out things that are obvious to us. It saves mental space and power. Not to mention that being called beautiful is moot when every woman is called beautiful. As for bdsm. I actually think that the sub is the one who has the power. They can end the act with one word (which is their safeword) and the dom d…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:12 PM
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Kinda feels like men and women tend to be isolated from each other and haven't learned in childhood how to intetact with one another. Lack of other sex siblings and adult role models of different sexes can contribute to that. It's like kids go to a single sex schools and then have no clue how to interact with another sex and see them as aliens.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:05 PM
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One of important social skills is gracefully accept that you made a mistake and try to improve. Nowadays people are deathly afraid of making even a tiny mistake. I think the social media is at fault as any tiny mistake can be captured, put online and judged by thousands of people. Not to mention that people don't have patience for mistakes and expect the person to know things. They don't humour the thought that the person might be doing that thing for the first time in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:01 PM
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I think it is impossible to follow everything. This is the ideal. Some people are on with one set oth things missing, while others are ok with another set of things missing. Nowadays people in general have a hard time with social skills, partially because they don't have enough real time irl social experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:58 PM
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Being pleasant to interact with. Being able to navigate social situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:54 PM
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As men tend to be physically stronger that women, the "taming" of a powerful man is a rather logical appeal as it did mean survival. Men's "saving the damsel in distress" trope also kinda plays into the power role as the man proves his might. Our culture still values power. It is kinda also why people who aren't assertive and more submissive tend to be looked down.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 11:50 AM
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Being sexually valuabe does not mean that your only value is sex. Women aren't happy when sex is the only value they have. Like men who are frustrated by being valued only for their money, women are frustrated by being valued only for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 11:43 AM
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Yep. People only had access to people in their vicinity. You could not have instantaneous video chats with people from the other end of the world. Before smartphones and social medias the pool was smaller.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 11:41 AM
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I don't think that there are many people who don't take everyrhing that is not nailed down in video games and walk around with tons of junk in the inventory.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 11:39 AM
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Fantasy allows us to ignore the sensory experiences and consequences of stuff. Like i can fantasise about getting in a fight, but not wanting to do it in real life as it would hurt (not to mention i don't have the skills for it).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 11:37 AM
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There is the trope of a dangerous and violent guy who is only kind and sweet to their love interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 11:33 AM
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And they fix the stuff not only for the other, but also for themselves. There are some items that are for all of the household to use.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 08:25 AM
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When they have a reason to. Although nowadays people rarely casually chat with strangers as they have unlimited entertainment in their pockets. Casual chats were oftentimes an entertainment source as you had nothing better. During events and activitiea where people need to do things together - people do casually chat with each others. I always have a casual chat with my opponent during a match.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 05:26 AM
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With unlimited entertainment and a lit of things where you needed connection being made into a service, i think many men and women are doing that. Although there are people who sit at home and then complain on the internet that they don't have someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 05:21 AM
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I personally hate the "have tea and chat". I prefer doing something and chatting on the side. It feels safer. Not to mention that i can focus on the thing while there is a quiet instead of overthinking and thinking that the other person might judge me. Doing something on the side helps to distract the anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 05:16 AM
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All those things tend to be used by multiple people. And thus the guy might not need to buy the stuff because the woman has already bought it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 05:14 AM
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Yeah. We also buy household stuff that is for the household. Us and other people in the household.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 05:13 AM
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Especially if you share a household it is important to inform the other about changes and happenings. Like, "hey, i have updated that thing and now it behaves a little bit different, so don't ve afraid and think that it is broken when it does behave differently". Heck, even as a child i was taught to inform people when i'm leaving the house and roughly where i'm going or what i'm gonna do. Knowing what happens in the household helps you to plan things and feel secure.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 05:11 AM
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Stories about other people and their experiences teach about the mundane life and how other people work. Me telling you what my coworker has told me about what her kids in school is going through is me telling you about how the current school system is and showing how things changed compared to our schooltime. It can help understand why some parents and kids behave in a certain way. It can help us to give them some grace and how to communicate with them. Stories are about life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 05:07 AM
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Normal human interaction is having a casual chat with a stranger and not asking them out to a date. You need to have some familiarity to ask out on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:57 AM
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And the expectations on how a child should be raised has increased. My 50 years old neighbour says if he would have been raised in current time - hos parents would have been in jail. He went out at 7 at sunup and returned home at sundown amd the parents had no idea where the kid is and what he is doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:55 AM
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The current system is failing children. Goverment/buisnesses talk about falling birthrates, but they don't talk about improving things for parents. They focus about the child being born, but ignore the child being raised. Dunno about you, but where i'm from we also have a teacher crysis: a lot of old teachers and barely any young teachers, so what happens when the old teachers die? As a lot of teachers are in retirement age. The goverment made rules that a child under 12 can't be left alone at h…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:53 AM
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Casual interaction - I would say everywhere, but you should notice if she is available to a chat and if she is not willing - drop it. Asking her out on a date - definitely not in a place where she can't leave (like her work, bus, elevator, etc.). You should not ask a woman out for a date if you don't have any familiarity with her. So have a casual chat to familiarise before asking her out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:12 PM
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What is obvious to obe might not be obvious to the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:38 PM
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Don't forget being used as cannon fodders or meatshieds in wars that your lord decided to join.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:52 PM
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A woman who has men in her life, so she gets the firsthand experiences of those men. Maybe the men in her surrounding aren't desperate enough to approach every woman who has a pulse.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:41 AM
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But there are some things that maybe are better unsaid. Unfiltered thoughts can also trip you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:35 AM
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It's annoying when you try to watch porn, do to big dick category an 80% of it is long and thin ones, while you are looking for a thick one...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 08:07 AM
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Have no clue. I suck at rating stuff in numerical value, whether it is looks or review rating. Though, i am a sucker for smiles and a small of joy does boost the attractiveness of a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:22 AM
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It still fucks you up for the rest of your life. Have you looked up what pregnancy does to a woman's body? Some even lose their teeth! My mom puked every day for a month when she was pregnant. Not to mention that after giving birth, it started to hurt for her to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 08:43 PM
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And then there are women who just quietly and peacefully sit at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:51 PM
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someone who lived life like an NPC. Some people are more private and reserved, so they can have a rich inner life while putwardly seeming like they do nothing. I was accused of not being curiois about things. My curiosity is just more internal. I don't specualte with others to satisfy my curiosity - i look things up and chatter with my inner voice. What helps me to get out of ky shell is not having expectations, the other person sharing their joy/interest/excitement and them not dismissing or in…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:11 AM
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It can frustrate when you don't want the burden of responsibility of taking charge of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:07 AM
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Video games can be art. Have you played clair obscur: expedition 33 or spirit farer or the beginner's guide? More narrative focused games. Nier automata also manages to weave gameplay and programming stuff into the narrative as you do play androids (it was a "woah" thing when you removed the "os chip" from the chip slot (chips are upgrades) and you get a "game over"). There is also a thing that frustrated my friend as i like music, but i can't analyse or discuss music as i like it in a more feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 04:59 AM
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I can’t imagine not having any strong opinions either, but it doesn’t make someone a bad person. For me, strong opinions tend to be overwhelming and over the top (which i tend to interpret it as mocking). Maybe just the outrage culture where every tiny thing is seen as the biggest offense or the end of the world has caused me a sort of a burnout. There is a difference between firm and strong opinions. It started to fruatrate me when someone says "this is a piece of garbage and anyone who likes i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 04:58 AM
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There is the legit thing of "i want to try it out and see where it goes". We also learn about outselves through others. If not my friend who constantly needed interaction, i would not have realised how important alone time was for me as i was given it by others and it was obvious to me. Needing to explain yourself to others moyivates you to look deeper into stuff and find words for it. It is also requires patience as the person who does not have words for it won't be able to explain themselves o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 04:49 AM
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With dating and relationships, a lot of it is luck. Being at the right time at the right place to stumble upon the right person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 02:34 AM
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Men are above women and thus woman wanting to be more like a man is seen as an upgrade, while a man wanting to be more like a woman is seen as downgrade. And we need to always strive up! At least that is what it feels like.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:02 AM
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I have noticed that the anti-trans is mainly about trans women. Haven't seen uproars about trans men or drag kings. It's like woman being a man is ok, but a man being a woman is not ok. It's like womanhood is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:25 AM
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Thing is, the damage is probably done. You can't put the genie back into the bottle. People have become paranoid. I personally don't see the problem in a guy going to the woman's toilet. We have stalls. And if a guy is malicious - I don't think that the sex sign will stop the guy from entering.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:22 AM
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again, we should pick and choose where our taxes go, lesser known things, will have to garner attention for people to care and give money too. And then you see that 50% of taxpayer money for that thing goes into marketing that thing... You don't have kids, so you aren't interested in funding schools. But the kids going to school are gonna the ones who will provide services to you in the future, so it is in your interest to support kids in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 04:48 AM
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Trans can't win with bathrooms unless there is a sex neutral one. Imagine you are a trans man that passes - you will be reported for entering the womans bathroom even if by law it is the one you hace to enter, because you pass and look like a dude, so the women there will assume that you are a dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 03:57 AM
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Unselected men even pay for women's good choices. There are public schools and discounts for children that the taxpayers pay. And technically those children in the future will pay for the unselected men. we should all have the ability to pick and choose which causes our individual taxes go to Yeah, and then less glamorous or known stuff that is vital won't be financed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 03:53 AM
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Feels a bit like trend chasing. Many subreddits have now a "no AI" rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 11:15 AM
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There is also the problem of length and girth being in the same category. Big as in length or as in thickness?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 09:16 AM
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Yep. Sometimes you learn from the implosion that the conflict and dissapointing the person is a worthy thing if your health (mantal and pgysical) is on the line. Had an "implosion" during a friendship and had to choose them or my mental health. Another thing i have learned from that is that if the person says that you are the only person they feel safe around or are the only friend - keep your distance as it would mean that they will put everything onto you and depend on you (although the friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:15 AM
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Not to mention that some people wrote like AI way before AI.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:11 AM
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There are some paranoid people who constantly see AI. Not to mention that some people wrote like AI/LLM writes way before the chatGPT stuff (apparently autists are prone to write like that and sometimes it seems like there are many autistic people here). Not to mention that some people have picked up some of the AI writing quirks due to reading it oftentimes. The ban should not be blind/automatic, but thoroughly reviewed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:10 AM
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So like there are things that women say here but they don't track irl. The women irl are from your surrounding and culture. The women here are from all over the globe amd myriads of cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:53 PM
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Because i need familiarity with the person before attraction develops.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:39 AM
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The only way is to constantly see him in her surroundings and observing how he behaves.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:38 AM
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Unmoving things tend to blend in with the background. So a person that just sits and stares at the phone without any movement except the thumb does blend in with the background and becomes invisible.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:37 AM
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So if they pay for the first date, you owe them a second date?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:21 PM
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I prefer to pay for what i have ordered during the first going out when the relationship is not established as i would feel like i owe them if they pay for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:20 PM
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So if the man pays, you owe them a second date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 08:26 AM
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Dunno about you, but i prefer quality attention than quantity attention. Getting attention from a person who is incompatable to me is more annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 03:41 AM
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I prefer to pay for my own food during first dates when thinga haven't been established. I hate feeling like i owe something whe someone who i don't have close relationship pays for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 03:33 AM
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Also, "go to therapy" can also mean "it is outside of my abilities to help you with your situation and it needs professional help".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 08:21 PM
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Compassion fatigue is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 08:18 PM
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and on the other hand, when the women are choosing better - they are criticised to having high standarts.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 08:16 PM
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There is a limit. I can't give my time or resources for the exact same thing over and over again if there is no improvement/action on their end. Because it feels like I'm putting my time and resources and mental health into a black hole.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 08:15 PM
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The other part of feedback you already got from people whose "lack of empathy" you are complaining about is that you don't follow up with ideas how to improve. A friend of mine vented about the same thing over and over again without telling anything if they are doing something about it every time we interacted (4 times a week for months). At first I was "that sucks", then I tried to give suggestions and advice, then I reached a point where I started to feel terror from the thought of having to i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 08:13 PM
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Not to mention that people have a hard time giving sympathy to people who are hurting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 08:05 PM
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How is that sympathy expressed? Telling to go to therapy does acknowledge that you have problems that need professional help. Do you want her to prescribe you medicine - a thing that she can't do and would jeopardise her medical license? Have they expressed sympathy in the beginning and got exhausted from saying the same thing over and over again? I had a friend who vented about he same thing multiple times a week for months. At first I have shown sympathy, but after some time I saw that it is p…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 08:04 PM
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Yes. That is why it can be a good filter early on. To see if you are financially compatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:16 PM
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Don't people inform each other where they are gonna eat? You could check the menu and see if it is within your budget. If it is not - you could have a dicussion with them and find a dofferwnt place (or the other party is willing to contribute to your budget). And if it is not possible - congratulations, you have found out that you aren't financially compatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 01:11 PM
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I meant less of "i'm sorry i approached you, what can i do to be better" and more of a "i accept that you are rejecting me, could you help me out by telling me if something was a turn-off and it is ok if there is nothing that was a turn-off because there was nothing turning-on.". For me an immediatelly turn off is when a complete stranger starts to flirt with me without even having a casual talk and familiarisation. If they want to go from a total stranger immediatelly to a date - that is a prob…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:47 AM
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Some men are so horny that they are taking the risk. Women tend to be not horny enough to take that risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:18 AM
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If it is through text, a "no" and then ghosting should suffice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:17 AM
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The default should not be 50/50. I might not have it in my budget to contribute to their expensive order. The default should be "everyone pays for what they have ordered".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:13 AM
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Yep anxiety. You also try to act "cool" and try to interact in a way that guys do with each other and that tends to go south as those tpye of interactions need familiariry and trust - things that a stranger does not have. Like, you see him being greeted by his friends and people he is familiar with with "hey asshat" and him smiling about it and giving a retort back. And then you go to him and greet him with "hey asshat" and he is offended by it...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:09 AM
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Do you want to find someone who is compatable or someone to whom you have to constantly pretend?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:05 AM
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Have a talk before going for a date. And if you want to pay for it - it is also not bad to set a budget for a person. I don't like when someone else pays and i don't know their budged as i don't want to accidentally order more expensive stuff than they can afford and thus making them eat potatoes for the rest of the month.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:01 AM
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But, but, egalitarianism... /s Somehow it feels that some people thimk that just because people are shedding masculinity/femininity means that there are no biological differences. They don't realise that people who are for equality are for social equality and not biological equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 07:18 PM
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Menstrual cycle influences stuff, but women might have more inhibition during horny period. Sex carries more danger to women. Men plant their seed and go on with their day. While pregnancy takes out stuff from the woman, is very taxing (my mom pucked every day for the whole month when she was pregnant), not to mention having to take care of the kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 07:16 PM
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Though if a person asks with curiosity and willingness to improve for other people, there might be more willingness to give a why. Although one should alao accept that "vibes" can be a valid reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 07:07 PM
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I would prefer if they state that they are ending the relationship before ghosting.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 07:05 PM
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Yes. And not everyone wants to have a spouse, so it is harder for you to find a spouse as the pool is smaller.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 02:17 PM
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Some people already have love and family without having a spouse or kid. So they might not see a purpose of getting a spouse and thus they date accorsingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 01:41 PM
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But when it’s almost everyone you meet, it takes away at your chances, let alone finding someone I am actually interested in and compatible with. In the past a lot of people paired up through sheer need of survival or peer pressure. Some learned to love and cherish each other, while some just bickered and abused each other. There were a minority who married out of love. Not to mention that nowadays people spend a lot of time just shut in at home, so you might not meet the right people as the rig…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 08:58 AM
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They have. The point is that the person chooses to follow it and is not forced (sense of obligation can be seen as forcing people to do it) to follow it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:54 AM
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It does allow people to choose what they want. Don't underestimate how the freedom to choose has an effect on bitterness. A woman won't be bitter about being a mom if it is what she actually wants to do. A man won't be bitter about paying for the first date is this is what he wants to do. Some complaints about "gendered" proffessions stem from those proffessions being looked down upon, just because it is stereotypically feminine. Another complaint is when the feminine proffessions pay less even …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:52 AM
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There is a bit of a problem when different people understand the same word differently. Even here there are men who bemoan of not having sex, but when you suggest them visiting sex workers - they go "no , not that" and after a series of questuons you find out what by "sex" they meant feeling wanted, desired, needed by the person they are attracted to. Or the whole lonelyness thing where they feel insulted if you suggest developing platonic relationships to help with the lonelyness. Oftentimes th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 04:53 AM
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A lot of hard work that also takes a lot of time. A therapist could help. See them like a personal trainer in the gym who asks you questions and then creates a training (and maybe even nutritional) regime that you need to do. The trainer can't grow muscles for you. You need to put in work in order to build the muscles. Or just look for a girl that is compatable with your personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 02:33 AM
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Some might not. Some things they say and ask feel like autistic rigidness.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 07:03 PM
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All advice can be valuable. It does not mean that you have to do exactly what thw advice states. Take advice with a grain of salt and fiddle with it to fit your situation. Even refuting bad advice can help you to get a more concrete idea of what might be better. Or the one I’ve been seeing recently “a girlfriend/wife isn’t going to solve your problems or make you happy” I mean, this is correct if your problems are deeper than "i don't have a gf". If your problem is low self-esteem and self hatre…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:57 PM
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Had a similar thing happen in a friendship, where the friendship was built on their pretense. Learnt to keep my distance.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:29 AM
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There is also the thing that theory does not provide all the details tat reality does. So you think that you will like it, but once you actually do it - you might realise that you don't like it. Like when my grandma berates dad for not doing something as it takes no effort and can be done quickly, but then my dad spends the whole day doing it as it is not as easy and simple as it looks. And sometimes it becomes like the lightbulb scene from malcom in the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:15 AM
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One can sacrifice some preferences if the other has other things that matter more. I see it more as a points system, where you need to reach a certain number of point in order to be attractive. Different aspects provide different value points.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:08 AM
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Yep. You will burnout from pretending and the other person will feel betrayed as they fell in love with a pretense.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:05 AM
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My parents say that one of the reasons they are still together is that they have a similar level of tidyness.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:03 AM
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Yep. They hear woman A likes X and think that they can seduce woman B with X.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:00 AM
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Depends on your surroundings. If everyone is obese, a non obese person can be seen as a "giga chad/stacy".
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:35 AM
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Then some time later he notices a woman that is hotter than the current one and start to chase her. So, hypergamy/branch swinging.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:34 AM
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For me personally: Why would we need to spend on each other? We pool some money for bills, and emergency fund and then each use our fun money for our own things. And if you spend sone of them for the other it is a gift and not something you track. If you give a gift and expect to get a gift in return, then it is no longer a gift, but an obligation. I would not notice on which part of the sidewalk or are they in front when entering. I feel safe in my surrounding, so i need the guy to do all of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:24 AM
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Uf. 14 the period of life when you start to be more conscious about things. Had mine at 10 and mom was unaware of the first ones (i rolled toilet paper around underwear). But once it was bath day and i had my period and when mom called me that it is my turn to take the bath, i went to her with the puberty book that parents gifted me alongside when they gifted my brother the puberty book and pointed at the period section. I have no idea why it was so embarrasing to tell mom that my period has sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:04 PM
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Yep. The most important thing is that you need to enjoy interacting with a person and not see them as a meams to an end.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:31 AM
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And the shots that look like fhe picture is for an official document with a neutral face and lifeless eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:30 AM
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There is no buildup. I don't have a swich that immediatelly goes off when i see someone. So still images does nothing for me, they only do something if i have already experienced the man in motion or had buildup, as the picture just triggers the memories of those stuff. Not to mention the menstrual cycle. One week i do have thoughts of jumping on random men, but i have enough inhibition not to fulfill the thoughts (and not wanting to get pregnant strengthens the inhibition a lot). Two weeks of "…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:28 AM
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Or they need more buildup to develop attraction. A static image does not to much, a video does much better as they see the body in motion, they hear the voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:15 PM
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If he keeps the collection to one room that he is responsible for cleaning and maintains it. If he is responsibly expands his collection (not using the money that has been saved to replace the 20 years old roof or is reserved for rent and bills). If he is able to interact with people without needing to talk about his collection.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:29 PM
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So that more games would be made without sexualisation? I don't see people push against the literal porn games where sexualisation is the main point of the game. People push against the games where sexualisation is not the main point of the game narrative wise, i haven't seen people push against baldur's gate 3 where you can go full nudist (although there was the push against the druid in bear form, but i have no clue if the bear form is a meme and it was fixed in final relwase or not). There pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:14 PM
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Those games would not have been made if people wouldn't have talked about the sexualisation. And sexualisation can make sense in the world if it was made appropriatelly. The problem is sexualisation for the sake of selling more coppies to horndogs.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:03 PM
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Seems like sexualisation wise, the koreans are more equal. I remember playing some korean mmos, and the skimpy armour was skimpy on both sexes. Though the new armour in world of warcraft also starts to go the same way (they have released a "chainbra" transmog that both male and female characters can wear). I kinda was able to deal with the design of 2B and 9S, although 9S's deaign was a lot lamer. His design should have been equal to 2B's. It somehow reminded me of "boyscout".
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:59 PM
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And they were made because people talked about the sexualisation. And there are sexualisations that make sense in the world, like in witcher, the sorceressess use sexyness as one of their weapons. Or in bayonetta everything was over the top, so that the sexualisation felt normal if you take the whole world in mind. Just like people tend to be angry at "token representation" that makes no sense in the world, people can complain about "token sexualisation" that makes no sense in the world, like th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:56 PM
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Heck, i just want more options. I am for games having skimpy and non-skimpy versions of armours as long as it is equal and both sexes can choose between skimpy and non-skimpy version.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:44 PM
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In nier automatas case, it does have an interesting usage of gameplay elements. You are playing as androids and there are computing stuff made as part of the world. Like, you don't set the game options, you set the options of the android. Upgrades are in computer chips and if you remove the OS chip - you get a game over.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:40 PM
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Is it so horrible change to allow the camera to stay where the player panned it?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:34 PM
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Sorry, i like story based video games, have been playing them for 30 years. All i'm asking is for people to have a choice of de-tittilate the game. Like allowing the camera to stay where the player has panned it and not auto pan the camera up 2B's skirt once you release the camera thumbstick. Or allowing the player character to wear non skimpy armour (though a lot of games nowadays allow it by allowing the player to change the appearance of the armour without influencing it's stats and if the ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:19 PM
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women wanting to ban all sexy stuff from video games or wanting men to "suffer and beg and agree to every condition"? I think it might be a good time to assess your social media diet. I'm for sexy equality, player choice and taste. Men should also be sexy - it is annoying when the same plate armour is full plate on a male and a plate bikini on a female, it being equal it shout be plate speedos for males. Player choice - i shpukd he able to choose my characrer not to wear skimpy cholthing. Taste …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:32 AM
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Lol. We might be as horny as men during the one "horny week of the month". Else, the hornyness might need stoking and the man just existing does not stoke it. There needs to be a buildup. This is why women tend to read their porn instead of watching it. They want the 100 pages buildup instead of ""hi" and then they fucked" that video porn has.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:31 AM
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Making fun of others - no. Joking around with others - yes. The key is if the "victim" also laughs at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 05:03 PM
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Women are less horny than men. I have one horny week a month (and have enough inhibition not to act upon it), two meh weeks and one heck no week. It's the menstrual cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 05:39 PM
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Yep. And i think the usa culture that is so prevalent on the internet has brainwashed the european youth too. The whole usa culture feels like "bigger, more", they are so focused on quantity.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 01:30 PM
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Because he isn't attractive to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 01:28 PM
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I think the person who really wants it should appraoch. Whether a man or a woman. Though from what i see on the internet, men want it a lot more than women, so it is narutal that they are approaching more.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 01:26 PM
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That is also how adult/mature women operate. Crying won't solve anyrhing. Or am i the weird one that i was bellowed at if there something emotionally disraught and i cried?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 04:18 AM
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[stares at chest hair] claviwhat?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:42 PM
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It is weird when people get houses with a yard and they don't even have a fruit tree or a berry bush. I understand not having a garden, but the trees and bushes barely require any care.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 03:58 PM
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There is also the thing of "i will never do it" is based on your current info and things can change when you/life updates the info. I had said "i will never willingly eat cauliflowers" and after eating a raw cauliflower i am willingly eating raw cauliflowers (i still won't willingly eat boiled or baked cauliflowers).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:28 AM
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Just be aware that those things will make socialisations harder. You are probably already with a disadvantage as you are on a bit different frequency. Maybe even learning to accept that some things just don't make any sense to you, but are how they are could help you a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:25 AM
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And also things change over time and with new information. People aren't set in stone. I had said for years that i hate cauliflowers, but one day there was raw cauliflower as part of the dish that i have ordered, i ate it first because i don't want to waste food that i bought and go with the hated thing so that good things later will cleanse it. And i really liked the raw cauliflower. So "i hate cauliflowers" changed to "i hate boiled and cooked cauliflowers". You can't predict every tiny intric…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:21 AM
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Yeah. We tend to brush off pain because we have to constantly deal with menstrual pain which is constantly dismissed. So we learned to ignore the pain level of menstruation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:00 PM
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Best i get is a work from home day during the heavy bleeding day.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:09 PM
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I think the mocking of "man flu" is mainly because it is still expected from the woman do do the household chores and childcare stuff even if she has +38°C. So ot is more of a jealousy as you are allowed to stay in bed and get things brought to you, while the woman isn't allowed to stay in bed and have things brought to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:07 PM
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But also diagnosises of autism and adhd are on the rise.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 10:54 AM
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Skill issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 10:52 AM
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Maybe just going to the reception to make the appointment could help?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 10:50 AM
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Enjoy interacting with the person. Don't see the interaction as a means to a goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:32 AM
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Or the cat that was yeeted outside because it stole food that was on the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:55 PM
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It feels like the endurance competitions we have. Who will lose patience and get out to let the cat out? And yes, none of us could outendure the meowing of the cat.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:46 PM
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I personally would be confused about why they told me a thing that changes nothing in our relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:05 AM
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Yeah. Why the hell do you feel the need to tell that stuff if you are gonna be doing the same thing that you are doing now. You know that you can keep some thoughts to yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:55 AM
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sex would be the same as getting a coffee with someone Isn't that already something similar among the gay men? For women sex has more risks: they are more suseptible to STDs, they can get pregnant, penetration can damage internal organs (and in general having something insterted into you is a more vulnerable position, this might be on eof the explanations on why women want to feel safe before having sex). There is the thing in airplane emergencies "put tue mask on yourself first before putting i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:36 AM
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People who tend to ask for sex when not even knowing that person tend not to take "no" for an answer and being pushy and aggressive. Dunno how men do, but women tend to need to have some interaction before sex happens. You need to mentally guide them towards sex. You had sex on your mind for a while, but they had other things on their mind and thus the sudden jump to sex is jarring.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:22 AM
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What are thise men doing so that people would want to interact with them and spend their time with them? There are also people who self-sabotage by constantly pushing people away. I'm ok if there were "sex therapists" - sex workers who are certified by the goverment to give their services for the sake of improving the mental health of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:11 PM
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A lot of timea you wear clothing not because you want to feel sexy. Because they find it sexy does not mean that you find it sext. Looking at women's clothing, oftentimes you can't find "non-sexy" clothing. I haven't found knee length shorts all the womens shors i found covered only 1/4 of the thigh.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:02 PM
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Not to mention the "am i sexually attracted to them or am i looking up to a trait they have that i wish i had?". In both cases you feel drawn to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 02:56 PM
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Some sexualities did go overboard with their niche. It is not a sexuality of wanting to get familiar with the guy before you develop feelings for him. Nor is it prioritising intelectual compatability.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 02:55 PM
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Normal tends to be what you are exposed to. If you never saw a heterosexual pair, then it will be not normal to you. Both homosexual and heterosexual pairs are normal. "Normal" constantly changes. It wasn't normal to fly 500 years ago, while nowadays no one bats an eye. Yes , no one should tell the kids what the parents don't want them to learn. Then maybe the parents should isolate their kids as just by existing in their surroundings the kids learn stuff that the parents don't want them to lear…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 10:19 AM
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The same thing can also be told about the righties. It is weird for me when people are in uproar when a male teacher casually mentions their husband (maybe in an anecdote that could help to illustrate something that it is in the book), but there is no reaction when a male teacher casually mentions his wife. There is also the thing of "what is the protocol if the kids themselves ask teacher those questions?" Does the teacher shut it down and refuse to interact with the kid outside of the leson pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:25 AM
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I can see it as a bit of a show of exhaustion to sensationalism. When you are constantly bombarded with hype or people spouting how impressive that thing is and such, you do get emotionally exhausted and you bashing on that thing might be like you are trying to bring things down to earth that have been overblown. And some people are very pedantic over the usage of words. We are constantly bombarded by the extremes either outrage or hype. There is barely any in between. It can be exhausting. Comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:59 AM
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Is there places where you can find women that aren’t chronically online? Or that know how to flirt? Or that know how to ask questions? Irl. You casually interact with people and then see how they conduct themselves. After you have made the first evaluations, then you can try to ask them for a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:52 AM
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Yep. You need to show that she is not the only source of your socialisation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:40 AM
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I think the military is the last resort for many people who have nothing else. I have read that even in the usa people mostly join the militart due to financial reasons and not because they love their country and want to defend it. Not to mention that they tend to target youth who don't have much instead of people who are already established and have stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:31 AM
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Problem is that the teachers get blamed for how their kids turn out when they just teach what the parents/goverment wants. Not to mention that they don't know some of the intricacies of the teacher work and expect them to do stuff that is actually not possible for them to do due to. Also, parents are not of one voice about what they want. So you have one clasroom with a myriat of contradicting stuff that the parents want their kids to be taught.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:27 AM
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How the heck do i determine that for men i see either from distance or through the screen?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 07:56 PM
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How the heck should I know? I don't even know the height of my parents and brother!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 03:50 PM
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The men i have crushed on were taller than me. Me being 160 makes it rather easy to be taller than me. And with stuff like video games, all characters tend to be the same height. With movies i also don't have much of a reference point for height.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 11:18 AM
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Take all advice with a grain of salt as only you know the fullness of you. Also, even bad advice can insipre stuff or help you figure some things out. You also don't need to take the advice as it is, but find the core of it and tinker with it to fit your situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 08:18 AM
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don’t know them before you’re attracted Maybe i'm old school, but for me attraction builds up through casual interactions and seeing the person interact with the world. So i do know a person a bit before i get attracted. But there are also some things that you get to know once you live together. The mundane stuff that is actually important as it is the values showing themselves. And i'm careful not to confuse aesthetic attraction with relationship attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 08:12 AM
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There is a global epidemic of "trust issues". The constant criticism and mistrust has made people to automatically not trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 08:07 AM
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It's identifying the problem and do your part in improving on stuff where you are lacking. And accepting that sometimes the problem is the types of people you try to woo.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:21 PM
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Marriage tends to mean kids. And nowadays people in power are screaming "demographic crysis" and want people to get more kids without making the world more kid friendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:17 PM
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My life actually improved when I stopped cohabitating and moved away (abroad). And that is why many people choose to remain single. I think the metrics of "men benefit from marriage" omit some important things affecting male mental health like wanting peace, silence and personal space. Oftentimes "men benefit from marriage" is simply men not havibg to deal with household stuff, so they have more time and energy to do what they actually want.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 11:01 AM
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If they aren't cohabitating, men don't bennefit as much from the relationship as the ones who are cohabitating. Dunno about you, but for me a romantic relationship means cohabitation at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 09:55 AM
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Men benefit from living like a married couple. They can get that even if they aren't legally married. Women push for the legal status of marriage because if they already live like a married couple - they want the advantages/protections the legal status gives them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 09:08 AM
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Then don't ask for advice without giving nuance.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:22 AM
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On the internet we have no clue about the nuances of the other person, so we can't give a nuanced advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:29 AM
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It is a lot better than "wallow in a pit".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:27 AM
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On your physical health, building muscles to improve your posture and shape, working on your confidence?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:50 PM
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They shouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 10:02 AM
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For employment there is already support. Through employment agencies the goverment does fund some courses, so that you could change your specialisations. They do offer you jobs. Although oftentimes the available jobs aren't the ones that you want to do, like they have a crappy salary or conditions, but it is not the fault of the employment agency, but of the employer looking for workers to abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:58 AM
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It's called having fun with the interactions and not see it as chores to reach a goal. Not to mention not having a disabling anxiety. Also, being genuine instead of pretending to be someone else in order for the other person to like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:52 AM
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Posture, rolling up your sleeves, genuine smiles, style. Are men atteacted to women who roll up their sleeves?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 12:55 PM
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Yeah it does help to weed out people that you don't have the capacity do deal with. And it can be a healthyer thing for both instead of letting resentment build up in a relationship and making things worse. People have limits, it is the best to know the limits as soon as possible insteas of getting resentful that your needs excred their limits and thus they xan't meet your beeds the way you need.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:43 AM
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Yeah, they were blind to the passive agressivenes the women tended to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 04:55 AM
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Nowadays people are more meaner to each other, so you might only notice the women being mean towards you, while other people being mean is just ignored. Personally, i tend to snap back when the person is mean to me. There can be a lot of frustrations/anxieties been bottleded up and it finally reached the blowing point. And you just happened to be in the vicinity. Emotional exhaustion can do that. Another thing is chronic pains. I tend to be snappy during my menstruation because a lot of my emoti…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 04:54 AM
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I think the core of the problem that you pretended to be someone else in the beginning. First impressions matter. Pretending and then later showing your true colours feels like a betrayal. As they did fall in love with the pretense. You should be emotionally honest and vulnerable from the beginning. But it needs to be expressed in an emotionally regulated way. But it does not mean that you give them a list of vulnerabilities at the very beginning. The vulnerabilities should be slowly reveald, wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 04:44 AM
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You need to up your innuendo knowledge... Or it is so common for me to be about sex that you don't even notice it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 04:28 AM
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Sometimes wiggling/winking your eyebrows while saying a mundane statement can turn it into a suggestive thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 05:11 PM
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Also, women stereotypically are intereated in interpersonal relationships, but it does not mean that it is automatically sexual. You can have non-sexual relationships or talk about relationship aspects that aren't sex. It is kinda telling about you if you immediatelly see sex when there is a talk about a relationship. I also want to inquire, is "red dead redemption 2" sexual, because i'm currently playing it and Arthur's shape, tue rolled up sleeves and the few unbuttoned buttons from the top...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 03:25 PM
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Yep, and i'm tired of it. Heck, i even notice some innuendos in kids shows...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 03:21 PM
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I tend to find innuendos funny. The funny thing is how people can see anything as a sexual metaphor.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 03:20 PM
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Because sex is being shoved everywhere and there is barely any media that isn't targeted at children that does not have any sex. Can't even escape that in books. Many times i read a book that is more gritty and, bam, an unexpected sex scene...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 03:17 PM
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The feelings don't overcome the inhibition of actually doing it, while the mind might think that stuff during the horny time of the month.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 02:50 PM
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The shape of the male body, physocal strength, voice, smell, penis.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 02:09 PM
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Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 02:32 AM
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Doing things with arms. Action. Still images don't do anything for me unless i have seen that guy in motion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:52 PM
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But a handyman with a nice body repairing something with their hands...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:50 PM
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Ahhh... the ole "mens emotions are logic, while womens emotions aren't".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:46 PM
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I think the issue is it almost feels insulting, like women need something that was already there to be ratified by external approval. External approval is not needed. What is needed is to be aware of what is already there. A still image of someone whom i haven't even seen in motion barely tells me anything. Heck, even a band shirt can tell something. A lot of men's images are so neutral that they end up saying nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:44 PM
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"A picture is worth a thousand words". Even a still image tells a story. But the still image is still like a dead person and not one who is alive. The only time a still image does anything for me is when i have already seen the person in motion. The still image is there to resurface motion from my brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:41 PM
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With actors there is the thing of "are they attracted to the actor or to the role they have played?". Some people can't differentiate between the actor and the role. Like, i can't tell you a celebrity crush, but i can tell you fictional character crushes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:37 PM
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Dating isn't fun for men. Its work. Maybe that should change? Maybe the women see that you aren't having fun with it and are doing it in order to get sonething from it and thus they nope after the date? For me a big part of having relationships is enjoying the company of the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 03:42 PM
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They should go out and interact with people instead of consuming theories and never putting them into practice. Learn to have fun with dating instead of treating it as a school assignment. Reading fiction books in general can also help. Experiencing the thing through fiction can help you to understand the thing better than just reading about the thing. Being inside the head of a character experiencing the thing and seeing how they experience the thing gives you a deeper understanding of it. Book…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:41 PM
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We should teach young men, which types of men have the most sex with women, and why women choose those men for sex. Simple: extroverts, peoppe with social skills, people without crippling anxiety, neurotypical, people who enjoy interacting with other people. This is false, because there are many men that women universally find attractive, and thats how they have big N-counts, while many men have 0. Is your goal to fuck as many women as possible or getting into an LTR? I think this might be the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:28 PM
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What resource being tall gives? Better ability for someone to hide behind? better to see over the heads of others? Better at being able to reach stuff that is high up?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:19 PM
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If one tends to live on the internet/media, they do get screwed by how the average person looks as media does tend to be mainly attractive characters. One needs to go out more inti IRL and look around at the variety of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:23 AM
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That shape... <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:20 AM
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How can they explain sex to their kids if they can't even say "sex talk" and need to use "the birds and the bees"? Is it the puritanical inheritance of the usa'ers?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 10:41 AM
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Probably when I sleep. As I always have my inner voice with me in my head. So there is always some socialisation. It's either interacting with other people, reading stuff, video games or daydreaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:08 AM
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And thins could be one of the reasons people started to pair up less. People don't want to compromise and adapt to each other. They want to have full control and all the say of their living space.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:50 AM
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I enjoyed "the radiant emperor" duology.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:48 AM
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Not a native english. Can someone explain to me the whole "birds and bees" thing? It does not make any sense to me how it could explain the reproduction. A gardening metaphor would make more sense. The man has the seed and the woman has the soil. The man plants the seed in the soil, the soil nourishes the seed, the man takes care of the soil, and the plant grows out of the soil.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:37 AM
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This thing should he taught by women instead of men, who insist that their misinterpretation is truth and deny the experiences and perceptions of women. Also, the whole marketplace analogy does make the whole relationship thing feel very dehumanising. Also, reading about the experiences of women is not taboo. Here is one thing about a woman's sexual nature - the menstrual cycle plays a very big role in it. A lot of women also use some form of birth control that screws up the cycle. Women have mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:16 AM
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Like reading books that are about the experiences of women? Listening to the experiences of women without judging them? Have irl women in your life and ask them questions about their perceptions?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:09 AM
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I am of the mind that one should decide the payment before ordering. I prefer to pay for what i have ordered, because then it frees me from the feeling of obligation to do something for them that i'm not keen of. I'm not a fan of the feeling of "i owe you".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:01 AM
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Yep. I don't like human traits being separated into masculine/feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 10:47 AM
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There is the expectation that the man leads and is in front. Yes, gender roles tend to bleed into every aspect of life as it influences how we percieve and interact with life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 09:57 AM
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Problem is that they then tend to complain that she is too tense and rigid. Don't think that would be ok to only have sex in order to produce children as sex is seen as dirty.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 05:29 AM
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Yep. People tend to be neurotic about things that are very important to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 04:57 AM
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One might percieve someone who cares and fusses about stuff that you don't care as neurotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:54 AM
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Pepople generally tend to be attracted to someone who has something that they feel lacking. A romantic relationship is seen as a team, so it is no wonder that each would want that the other would cover their weaknesses. Sometimes people confuse the "i want to be in their vicinity to learn the thing that i'm lacking through sheer exposure" with romantic interest. It is still attraction, but more of a educational attraction and not a romantic one. There is also the thing of people who have a trait…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:52 AM
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But when you get her, you complain that you don't get as much sex as you would get from a slut. Not to mention the men tend to ignire the celibates and go for the sluts, because the sluts manage to arouse them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:01 AM
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Because there is still the social expectations that the woman is virtuous. So it is no wonder that ine would assume that a woman is virtuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:00 AM
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I think staring might be fine as long as you control your body language and keep your commentaries for yourself. I tend to stare at something that is unusual to me, it's like i try to get much exposure to normalise it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:36 PM
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Quick, men need to hide their faces and hands, because it is immodest for them to show it as facial and body hair are secondary sexual characteristics.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:34 PM
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Then why men can't accept the features that women find attractive in men and insist that it is a different feature that they find attractive? I remember there was a picture of a guy before and after dehydration/leaning that made the person look ripped. The majority of women said that they preffered the "before" picture where the guy had a bit of a padding, but the men immediatelly accused the women of lying. And, yes, men are suseptible to the whole "do X in order to be a man or get a girl". And…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:40 PM
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Do you know why? Is there some kind of a symbolism behind (like the primal memory of feeling safe and enveloped with love when you were a baby and was feeding, so the sight of breasts evokes those feelings)?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:38 PM
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Yep. Average japanese is different than average dutch.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:32 PM
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Men tend to be very vocal about sex, so no wonder people think that all men think is about sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:22 PM
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Can men explain to me why they find the two lumps of fat (aldo known as boobs/breasts) attractive/sexy? Or is it just a peer preassure brainwash by someone who successfully marketed breasts as sexual (similar to how daimond rings were marketed as a default for proposals)?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:21 PM
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Yep. A time enjoyed spending is not time wasted. Somehow it feels like people have become so focused on productivity that they have forgotten rest and joy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:09 AM
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People nowadays don't have the patience to develop things slowly. They want to go from 1 to 100 as fast as possible. People nowadays look for shortcuts to master a skill in a month that actually takes years to master. I think social media plays a big role in it as we don't see the crappy stuff and hardships that people go through to learn it. Not to mention grifters selling "shortcuts". Like, the answer to "how to be more charismatic" is "fumble, fall and tinker for years till you figure it out"…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:03 AM
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That is how i started reading fantasy as a kid. Was bored, browsed dad's bookshelf, found a book with a cool cover and read it. If i'm looking for a book at a physical space, the cover is important. It can make me pick up the book and read the synopsis of it. If i'm googling books to read, i'm already including the content i want to read and thus the cover does not matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 11:36 AM
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Ah yes, dating apps. The dating apps that are just still images, while women need more to see the body in motion to feel attraction. Still images don't do much for women. If they would allow to put a short video or such, things could improve. Also, have you seen the photos of men? Many of them are like for an official document - neutral pose and empty eyes. Not things that are attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 11:25 AM
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It shouod be less "average women" and more "average womrn i'm attracted to".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 07:07 AM
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It does not give an excuse. It is an explanation on why people do it. It shows how pathetic people are who use it as a way to demean the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:32 AM
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I know people who voted solely for a person because they were pretty. It's mostly the elderly. And they have probably grown in times where being pretty was connected with goodnes and virtue, while being ugly was connected with evil and sin.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:13 AM
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As long as calling a man short has an effect on him - people will call men short to deal some mental damage. It's like when people call women "hags".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:10 AM
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Might need to look up some alternative scenes or thrift stores.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:04 AM
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Yes. A lot of men are blind to women who they don't find attractive. They ignore a big bunch of women and then complain that they don't have many options. Men have option, but those options don't interest them and thus don't exist to them. While for women the options they aren't interested in tend to demand their attention and thus are more visible. Pursuers select whom they pursue.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:42 AM
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you can throw extreme situations ad tally it as a reason for why you have it hard. I mean, you do the same thing. You throw extreme situations and tally as a reason for why men have it hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:15 AM
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The same thing can be said about men. You can't use the men who have a very hard time socialising (usially neurodivergent people) as a tally of why men have anywhere near as hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:14 AM
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As i know, in the usa women could not open a bank account till the 70's-80's. 50-60 years, history/culture wise, is rather new.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 07:13 PM
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It could be that they have never been taught to be wanted. They have been taught the old dynamic of being needed. And as the "being wanted" dynamic is very new, they need to figure it out themselves instead of being able to dip in the time approved stuff. So there is a lot of bumbling around and errors. And some men start to lose hope because they seemingly can't get things right. So they try to get back the old dynamic that worked for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 06:38 PM
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The question still stands. What year was the ultimate one in the case of romance? In which period of years was "back in the day"?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 08:50 AM
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Don't forget all the anciet etiquette books or being taught by others.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 08:49 AM
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A lot of things were done out of duty. Not to mention people being blind to the small and mundane romantic gestures and focus on the big ones. I stand my ground of letting the other sleep in a bit longer counts as a romantic gesture.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 08:48 AM
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Yeah. It somehow feels like some people don't have any restrain and express every throught they have. It's like they don't know or haven't leatned to keep some thoughts for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 12:57 AM
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It's like we are in the middle of the change, the teenage years. You don't immediatelly switch from one to another. It is a slow process and can take generations. The new generation loosens things up, while the older generation tries to tighten it back up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:17 PM
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No shit that gender stereotypes affect both genders. In many girls it was punished in that they have to be the greater moral authority. It takes effort and generations to break gender stereotypes and change culture. Each new generation loosen the stereotype a bit, while we also have older generations trying to prevent the loosening.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 04:19 AM
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About men having to earn more. I think it is a gender stereotype that needs to die for all of our sake. For me, a man who earns enough to contribute to the common household and have some spare for their own individual stuff is perfectly fine. They don't have to earn more than me as long as they are not dependant on my salary for their own stuff. Sounds dystopian. I think it stems from seeing yourself as the default and being so used to the things they are that a different thing sounds dystopian.…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 02:41 AM
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Depends on how one understands harrasment. For me, doing something is not harrasment. It becomes harrasments when i ask you to stop doing it and instead of stopping it you continue and maybe even increase the intensity. I am of the mind that you have no clue what i find uncomfortable. So it is on me to inform you aboit it. But if you still do it with the knkwledge i provided - then the action becomes malicious. Hanlon's razor.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 02:03 AM
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Men treat other men shitty, so it is equal to treat women shitty? Why not starting to not treat other men shitty?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 01:59 AM
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You expect a woman to be soft, nice and accomidating and then are aghast when her communication style is more like that if a mans, harsh, direct, not caring about how it makes you feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 01:57 AM
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What upper hand do the women have just because they can get pregnant? Seems like the system sucks try both men and women and toss them away when they no longer serve their function.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 01:10 PM
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What power do women have just because they can give birth? They were already been dehumanised, not existing, abandoning themselves for the sake of the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 01:07 PM
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It is weird when the suggestion is "we need to get power over women" instead of "we need to become someone women enjoy interacting with". Or something about making their libido similar to that of the woman. People tend to interact with the other person either because they get something from it or they enjoy the interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:57 AM
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And that is his problem. He should stop pretending and say that he is actually not ok with it. She does not know that he is actually not ok with it, so it is no cheating because the blessing wasn't removed. Maybe it is better to end a relationship if you have to pretend to be ok with things that you aren't actually ok with? And who knows, she might stop the action if you actually say that you aren't ok with it, because she cares about you and you matter to her. This is why it is hard dealing wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 05:14 AM
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Same can be said about your statement that straight women try it and then continue to do it. Though i belive that some might do it just to arouse the man. As men find two women making out sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:44 AM
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It is not cheating if you get the blessing of your SO. Yes, you can take away the blessing at a later point when you realise that it is uncomfortable to you. But it needs to be direct and explicit. And afterwards of thry continue it without your blessing - then it turns into cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:16 AM
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Men nowadays compete with the quality of life of her single life. She no longer needs a man to afford a quality life, so men have to give her something that she can't get on her own. And as a lot of tgings have been made into a service (especially during covid) what getting into a relationship with a man could give her gets smaller and smaller. People nowadays are less willing to compromise on their daily lives for the sake of the other (like, not putting on the radio and sing loudly early in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:11 AM
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According to the media - no. Every platonic physical affection between adults turns out to be romantic at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:03 AM
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In your example there is established parameters set that forbid certain experiments. In a relationships there is at least one other person involved that you need to consider when experimenting with stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 06:04 PM
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You don't need to be love sick or feel a massive and uncontrollable urge to experiment in order to experiment. Curiosity can be enough. A lot of my experiments are "eh, why not?".
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:38 PM
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In this context "approach" means "interact with romantic interest or asking them out on a date". You can drop a comment or a compliment without expecting them to respond and turning it into a conversationn.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:39 AM
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It's their loss. Of course a person won't put in effort to improve an aspect of theirs of they never have a need to improve it. And on the other hand, many girld were taught to be quiet, invisible and accomodating. They haven't been taught to express themselves. Heck, for many those expressions have been punished out of them. Whenever i started talking, my grandma was berating be for being childish or have been told to only talk when i'm talked to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:35 AM
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And with your eyes closed you can imagine other things being there or just focus on the sensation, so the person can become erased.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:18 AM
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I don't see interacting with people as a waste of time. I oftentimes learn something from the interaction. "Oh no, interacting with that person wasted my time that i could have used to doomscroll!" /s
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:15 AM
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How do i know that i want you if i don't even know you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:13 AM
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Yeah. You casually interact to build up some warmth before approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:06 AM
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It always was. You become a familiar face, approach them for casual chatter, slowly show some interest in them during the chatters and then you might try to ask her oit if you see that she is receptive about it. Heck, even in video games you don't immediatelly go "i like you, let's go on a date" there is light flirting that can be understood as just banter.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:05 AM
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And heck, if it goes further and you do happen to have sex, you are safe because you won't get pregnant from another woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:59 AM
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Or they see it everywhere and they get curious and try it out. Women are way more sexualised in the media than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:58 AM
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I think maybe part of it is that women are not sexually repulsed by other women the way straight men are sexually repulsed by other men. I mean, they see lesbians being more celebrated and told that it is "hot", while the gays being made fun of and being beaten up. Like, i never heard calling a woman a lesbian being used as an insult, while calling a man gay being used as an insult. Women might not be sexually repulsed by other women because they haven't seen people being repulsed by two women b…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:54 AM
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I've been on many dates over these 2 past years and the women were all great but they all had one thing in common. They've had sexual experiences with women in the past. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. People experiment. They might have had a sexual encounter with a woman and decide that it is not for them. Lgbtq+ was fashionable at some point, so people felt inclined to try it out to fit in or they were convinced to try it out. turns out that one of the most common fantasies among Straight women is lesbian…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:46 AM
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I think they only care if you don't seem mature enough to be professional if there is some quarrel or brewking up happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 04:20 PM
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Yep. Now we just zone out of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 04:18 PM
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Yes. You need to at least be a familiar face. Even if you don't interact with them, them seeing you interacting with the world can build up familiarity.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 04:15 PM
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Yep. And what might seem as cold approaching can actually be a warm approach because you have been in the same place at the same time and they have seen you around and thus you became a familiar face before approaching them. I am more inclined to chatter to a familiar face than to someone i have seen for the first time in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 04:11 PM
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My parents met up because their mothers were aquaintances, chatted, realised that both have a child who is single, set up a meeting for them, they went, chatted, clicked and started dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 04:07 PM
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Is they start spamming you, i don't see why one should not block. And unlike ghosting, in my example they have the knowledge that things have ended, so they can move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 08:03 AM
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Yeah. Just say "no" or that you are ending things and block them, so that they won't femand of you the reasoning and try to convince you to change your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 03:30 AM
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Are you implying that men are cucks? As they don't imagine themselves being one of the characters and just get aroused by looking at others having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:34 PM
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Lots of hookups happening where party drugs and alcohol being involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 10:08 AM
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Women are less horny than men, so other things might take a priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 05:16 AM
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It takes one heck of a picture to spark interest. It takes a picture of someone whom I have already seen in motion. The picture triggers the motions that are coded in my brain. Though I am a sucker for smiles. But the majority of pictures I see are where men have a serious facial expression instead of a more joyful/playful one.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 05:15 AM
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Yeah. And you don't go to dates or have romantic relationships if you don't consider sex in the future (unless you are asexual, but there also needs to be a sex talk at the beginning too). For platonic relationships, there is no need to know about genitals, sexual/gender identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 03:22 AM
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Isn't sex one of the major things why people get into relationships? If that thing is a dealbreaker to you, i think it should not be rude to inquire about it. Better get it out of the picture and not waste each others time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 02:46 AM
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Or they just don't wanna date a trans woman because they want a vagina and not a penis. Why overcomplicate things?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:14 PM
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Not to mention higher standarts on how a kid needs to be raised. In the past you just left the house and came back whem streetlamps turned on. And we didn't have cellphones, so parents had no clue where we were ir what were we doing. Nowadays parents need to constantly be with the child and occupy them. Try nowadays to let your 7 years old go to the pkayground alone, spend the whole day there and come back home. Child protection services would probably be called.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:10 PM
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My mom had told me that her mom was an angel in public, but a devil in private.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:47 AM
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I think it is less of a skll issue and more of a "grew up in an abusive environment" issue. People tend to seek out the dynamics that their parents had. They have learned how to navigate the abuse. A healthy relationship might even drive them mad as they are always waiting "for the other shoe to drop". So, chosing abusive men can also be a mental health issue. "To someone who has grown in chaos, peace is boring".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:44 AM
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I take a guess that it is woman with a dick (also known as "futanari" in hentai) fucking a woman with a vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:08 AM
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My life improved tremendously when I stopped going for women I thought were of my league or were more likely to accept my height, and started going for any woman instead without preconceived idea of how likely I might appeal to them. The key being "you thought". People should be more open minded as people don't always fit the stereotype. Especially if they are from different cultures. As in one culture a trait is seen as virtuous and in another culture it can be seen as a vice. So if your decisi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:00 AM
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If you are marketing for everyone - you are marketing for no one. You need to have a target audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 03:42 AM
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Dragon balls are from the manga/anime "dragon balls". You collect all 7 of them and can aummon a dragon that grants any one whish. Then after the whish, the balls get scattered all over the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:30 PM
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I think by "muscles" people tend to mean/see being ripped or steroided. While muscles that have a bit more padding, but still show some curves are just seen as default. Is there a word for someone who is neither muscular, nor fat - but has a balance of both?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 11:09 AM
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And eyeliner/eyeshadows/kohl can make the eyes "pop" and draw attention to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 11:03 AM
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And a poli guy might already have one partner who could help them with their profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 11:01 AM
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From personal point of view, "looksmatch" could be "i find you attractive, you find me attractive", Thus the looks match because we both are attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 10:57 AM
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Men are baffled about rolled-up sleeves being sexy, while I'm baffled about men seeing the two lumps of fat/tissue on the chest as sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 10:48 AM
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By that logic, men virtue signal about attraction too. See if you can find non-fetish professional porn directed by a man where the girl is ugly. In a lot of pairings the woman is more attractive than the man. Or just, a person gushing over X, does not mean that all people gush over X. Or sometimes a person sees another person gushing over Z and think that they are gushing over Y feature, while in truth they are gushing over B feature.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 10:46 AM
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Does not mean that people don't hope/expect to get a hook-up from the app.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 07:14 PM
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Isn't it the same for women?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 03:04 AM
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I do believe that the people we are exposed to during the formative years do influence what we find attractive. I think there is a core that does not change, but other stuff changes as we change. Through exposure we also might start to notice other elements that we haven't noticed before. Love can grow through exposure.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 02:59 AM
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https://open.substack.com/pub/beauetry/p/stuff-women-have-told-me-is-hot This was an interesting read. A guy asks women he knows what they find hot and then expresses his confusion about the things they have said that are hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 06:57 PM
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Bi means that they are also attracted to men. Also, due to constant sexualisation of women ot is no wonder that they see women as sexy, because that is the nareative that they were constantly told.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 06:41 PM
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The gender wars is also a moral panic like the satanic panic was. And moral enterpreneurs will still fan the flames as they profit from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 03:56 PM
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The world is vast and different and complex. People live in different bubbles and percieve the world differently. Not to mention that different cultures also express the same thing differently. The problem with social sciences is that it is very hard to repeat the experiment and get the same results. Humans aren't static and they aren't identical. Do the exact same experiment, but with a dofferent group - and you will get different results. Heck there is no research about "the society" there is …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 05:15 AM
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Though blood vessels can contract with age. Not to mention older people tend to gain weight, which can hide the blood vessels. Other medical conditions can influence things too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 04:47 AM
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Look, me blushing because i exterted myself physically more than i'm used to is not sexual. Just because you only saw animation where the skin tone is always consistent and they only showed blush when there is romantic/sexual stuff or only saw women with makeup that makes the skin look consistent and hides the blockes of colour - it does not mean that redness on the cheek is sexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 04:45 AM
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Men are more horny. There is less social stigma for men just to hook up, so they are more willing to do it. Not to mention they have lower risks of getting an std and if they impregnate a woman, they have an easier time to dissapear. Women tend to not find still images arousing, while men do. Women tend to need some rapport and seeing the guy in motion.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 04:11 AM
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And the wonderful thing is that you can get yourself to orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 04:06 AM
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Not to mention that you can soothe things a bit with masturbation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 04:05 AM
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The social media can't believe that you aren't interested in something that is currently popular, vieal or trendy, so they keep shoving it to you no matter how many times you reject it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 04:04 AM
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I think their point might have been that usans ruin everyrhing by overwhelming everything they touch with their gender wars thing. It does show how usa is fucked up and self-important. And how dominant their culture is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 04:01 AM
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I do hope that you realise that "feminism" is a bit like christianity where there are different branches/denominations that are opposites and maybe even fighting against each other. And let's not forget people who call themselves christians, but don't follow the core of christianity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 02:37 PM
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Yep. There is still prevalent the cultural messaging that men are sex obsessed, that they can't be raped because they always want sex. You can even see it how news portray it. Girl was raped - it is called rape, a boy was raped - it is called "had sex". And even look at the comments, a lot of them are guys saying how jealous they are of the boy and whish to be in his place. Men are their own obstackle is the acknowledgment that they can be raped and sexually assaulted by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 07:49 AM
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It's the "no makeup makeup". People tend to percieve the overboard makeup as makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:31 AM
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Yeah. For me compatability also involves covering each other's weknesses, which requires polarity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 02:39 AM
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I ask them to elaborate and to mention specific expamples. Some might be true, some are bullshite, sometimes you happen to be attracted to women who are much work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 02:37 AM
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Maybe because they they try to gender switch what works for them, while not being aware that that thing is not attractive to women. Women need more action for arousal. There is a type of "porn" where a man reads smut in a sexy voice Are there videos of sexy men doing handyman stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 08:23 PM
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Yep. The narrative is very important.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 08:18 PM
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Isn't there the thing that the majority of fans of yaoi are women?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 08:15 PM
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During filming actors wear makeup because it hides the reflections from lamps.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 08:13 PM
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Eyelines or eyeshadows make the eyes stand out more. Have you seen the face of Khal Drogo from "game of thrones" or Lucifer from the tv show "lucifer"? Also, look at pictures of men wearing khol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 08:11 PM
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Yep. One persons "needs to be done" can be another persons "does not need to he done".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 04:17 AM
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How do i know if a random encounter had a vasectomy or is just saying that they had a vasectomy? I'm not gonna gamble on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 04:24 AM
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And becuse it is your first time having sex, you yourself don't even know your preferences. You can imagine what you would like, but reality tends to show us how the fantasy is flawed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 09:51 AM
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Nah. For me, the risk of pregnancy is a pretty big detterent.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 09:49 AM
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But also be rich enough to afford the time and people to do things for you. It is easy to focus on exercise and nutrition when you don't have to focus on basic survival.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:57 AM
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They see stars, like George Clooney or Christopher Lee or Patrick Stewart or Tom Cruise and think that all men age like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:44 AM
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The biological reason is you not accepting the things the women have said in the myriads of posts that you have created about the same thing over and over again.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:16 PM
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It's more like you weight the things and decide that having the family is worth the effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 09:54 AM
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7 was when i was solo. I went outside with my 7 years old brother when i was around 4. Didn't count it as there was still someone whose task was to look after me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 07:57 AM
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It is funny when goverments and companies go "we need more children" but after the child is born, they don't give support. Companies don't provide flexible hours for parents, so that they could deal with kid stuff, like bringing their kid to the doctor in the middle of the day because there are no other times the doctor is available.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:55 AM
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The economy has build their expectations and infrastructure on the anomaly that was the "baby boom". Now we are getting to normal population rated and the economy is panicking as it would need to downsize, wile it was built with the expectarion of constant growth.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:52 AM
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A lot of kids poor people have is due to lack of contraception and the kids being the social safety net or even additional workforce.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:48 AM
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I think the "can't afford" comes from people who would want a kid, but after looking at costs - they have seen that they can't afford the quality of life they would want their kid to have. Like, they want their kids to have their own rooms instead of 3 kids (of different ages and sexes) sharing one room.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:45 AM
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Not to mention there are higher expectations on raising the child. When i was a kid, we went alone outside from when we were 7 years old and came home when the street lamps came on. And we had no phones, so parents had no clue where we are. Nowadays the 7 years old kid is not allowed to go home alone or be alone at home for a few hours till parents come home from work.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:44 AM
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Heck, some would also be willing to become parents if they could use external wombs (artificial, so no surrogate mothers). Pregnancy does screw up the body long term. Not to mention my mom told me that she was puking every day for over a month when she was pregnant with me...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:38 AM
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Support for parents. More parenthood on media. My co-worker noticed that people who have many children have other people who have many children in their circles. Exposure is important. We need more shows about the joys of parenthood and overcomming the challenges. I would like the creators of "bluey" to make a show about teens. The core is the same as "bluey" but the kids are teens. Showing teens navigating new stuff, parents gealing with teen stuff and helping them navigate stuff. More child fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:34 AM
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Appearance tells a story. A picture is worth a thousand words. People assume stuff about you based on how they decode your appearance. And the decoding depends on their experiences and the stereotypes they have created. Like, you assume that the person who looks like a metalhead likes metal and there would be a bit of a "brain break" moment if they tell you that they despise metal. It is oftentimes said that your spouse has similarities with your parent (whether looks or behaviour), it tends to …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:07 AM
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Behaviour can raise ot sink a person. Part of the problem is that people see bad behaviour attracting people, while not noticing that the people that are attracted to that behaviour tend to have their own problems and aren't that healthy for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:03 AM
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I find something aesthetically arrtactive about 90% of the men. As for sexual stuff. Menstruation cycle plays a big role. I have one week where i do think about "jumping men" but have enough inhibition not to act upon it. Two weeks of "meh" and one week of "hell no". Libido plays a big role. I have heard many times about "post-nut clarity" where after orgasming you get disgusted what you wanked (or had sex with) to, as the attraction dissapeared. There is still shaming of female sexuality happen…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:21 AM
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Don't forget the "step-family" category. As I remember bellesa has categories like, "passionate", "sensual".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 07:20 PM
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Why is male sexuality so weird? They wank to still images, they wank to women with dicks, they wank to abuse, they wank to children, they wank to rape, they wank to incest. They get aroused if you are friendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 07:15 PM
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Yep. Heck, i have heard of porn where a man just reads stuff (can't remember if normal stuff or smut) with a sexy voice... I wonder how things would change for men if tinder allowed short videos.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:38 AM
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It's like some people can't differentiate between aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:20 AM
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I need movement to be aroused. A still image does nothing. There needs to be more "action".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:18 AM
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The gender wars thing on social media. People who already have established healthy relationships with the other sex might be more resistant to the gender wars thing as they have irl examples that refute the gender wars statements.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 05:52 AM
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Depends on what the guy wants. My ideal is developing a social connection with them. I prefer to enjoy their company and us being compatable. I tend to think in the terms of spending a life together with them, so long term stuff is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 04:57 AM
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It's not 100% under their control. Like with obesity, a lot of people live in good deserts, so they have to make big hauls ad they can't go frocery shopping every day. This makes it a lot harder to get fresh produce and thus you tend to get ultra processes food that has a shelf life of months. Not to mention that a lot of jobs are sedetiary and the infrastructure tends to be more car focused. So similar with socialisation. Due to overprotectiveness (not to mention the whole isolation due to covi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 04:54 AM
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My grandma didn't divorce her husband when my dad was underage due to the "kid should have both parents" and "what will others say", even though my dad as a teen was begging his mom to divorce his dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 06:09 AM
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A lot of descriptions are abstract amd have a range of intensity. You saying that you like X does not mean that you like it on extreme intensity. There is also the thing if one not having practical experience with it and thus think they like it or just like the idea, but practice might show them that they were wrong. Like, i thought that painting a wall is easy-peasy and will take an hour max. Boy, i was priven wrong when it took me a whole day to do it. And now i have a different thought when i…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 03:16 AM
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Loyal or just that they have done their duty? Heck, one of my grandmas sisters married for the sole reason that her parents would piss off and after the marriage she soon divorced and never remarried.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 06:06 PM
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We should get rid of separating human traits into masculine/feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 05:43 PM
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Personal anecdote: none of my grandmas have gotten in a new relationship after losing/divorcing their husbands. They have been single and not looking for 50+ years.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 05:40 PM
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I think sometimes it can be an accidental hijack. One side says how the other side has it easy, and then the other side tells about their problem to show how it is not as easy as it seems and then other people focus on the other side. I'm one of those people who share their story about a thing that made me feel the same way as the other. That is how I show empathy. My the sharing of the story is there to show you that I understand it on a deeper level as I had experienced that emotion too. Some …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:58 AM
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But maybe those men are smart enough not to externalise those thoughts (at least in front of the women they want to get)...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:44 AM
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Not to mention that kids are optional and there is a lot more expectations/demands on the parents. In the past kids were a social net and additional workforce. It was the duty of the kid to care of the elderly parents. In the past the kid went outside and showed up when it was getting dark. Nowadays a parent can get in trouble if they leave their kid alone at home for a few hours...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:41 AM
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Women didn't have much choice or legal rights. They depended on the men. Do you know that marital rape was criminalised throughout the whole usa in 1993? Also, kids were an additional workforce and a safety net as there was an expectation/duty that the kids will take care of their elderly parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:36 AM
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The math is adding up because people in general no longer tend to need relationships for survival, a lot of things that a relationship provided has been made a service. So instead of tying your life with the life of the other, you can hire a service to do the thing and then they fuck off and leave you to enjoy your peace. You are competing with the quality of life of being single. A lot of men complain about the decorative doodads that women tend to fill the flat or being forced to do things in …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:32 AM
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In the martix neo has a choice between red and blue pill. This is where the cincept comes from. So bule pill is everyrhing that the red pill is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 04:27 AM
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its very hard to take you seriously if everything you know about a topic is from memes. The whole red/blue pill is from the matrix meme... And then anyone with a brain promptly forgot because he was a nobody selling a pyramid scheme. Have you seen the world? A lot of people don't have a brain in certain aspects. Not to mention that kids brains are still developing, and the constant algotythmic suggestion can influence ones perception of the world. Also, a lot of people on this subreddit tend to …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 10:57 AM
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There is the thing that the women were mainly in utility/convenience relationships in the past, so they have developed and passed down to their daughters the coping mechanisms.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 07:34 AM
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A lot of people don't follow the niche of the red pill or manosphere. So all their knowledge is based on what managed to get to the wider consciousness. I only was made aware of tate and the whole manosphere thing through memes that i randomly saw on the internet. People should stop assuming that their bubble is the norm and not a niche. Heck, all my perceptions on the red pill and manosphere is based on what i see in this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 07:29 AM
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And you mean courage is not inportant to women? Courage is important to everyone. Without courage we would act less. Courage is psichologically more important for men just for the sheer reason that they are made fun if they do lack courage. And that is a socialisation thing. Heck, i would say the expectation on women to be submissive and passive is what removes the importance of courage in women. We should break the social expectations based on gender stereotypes (which oftentimes were created b…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 06:01 AM
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Yep. It is hard to create romantic connections when you can't even create platonic ones. And sometimes maybe we should be ok with utility relationships or relationships out of convenience. People are so bombarded that a relationship needs to be this intense and lustful thing that they can't fathom a lower intensity relationship. Sometimes even love develops out of the convenient relationship. It is ok to settle down.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 05:49 AM
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You don't interact to date. You interact because you enjoy the company of the person and want to know them betrer. After a while you realise that you would like to spend your life with them. If you want to interact to date - look for singles and dating events where that is the goal. You should build up a rapport through casual interactions before asking out a person. Familiarity is key. Sometimes you can skip that part if you are recommended by someone the other person knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 05:42 AM
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Maybe it's my agenderism, but i tend not to grasp the whole masculine/feminine divide. There are no masculine or feminine traits - there are human traits. And yes, there should be more men who show the positive aspects of humanity. We should point out that machoness is an extreme and not the default/normal. Oftentimes i see on the internet people be "you aren't a man if you are not macho".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 05:37 AM
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the urgency showed up when those men became associated with an ideology people think could become socially dangerous or critical of women. At the core it is not new. There was urgency when groups like isis were recruiting those lonely and depressed men. We are currently in "gender wars", so the problem is wrapped with the gender stuff. The core is "organisations use lonely and depressed men for their own means, which tends to go against the interests of the current society (or at least what the …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 05:26 AM
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Don't forget the rich people. Capitalism thrives on exploitation. And the sad reality of seeing people as tools is that men are expendable, while women are producing more men. The whole demographic crisis is because capitalists are worried their moneybringers will shrink.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 05:18 AM
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Maybe it's the cynic in me, but it feels less like protecting the youth and more like protecting others from the youth. To polititians and capitalists people oftentimes are just numbers. The whole demographic crisis is because they see a reducing number of consumers, which means lower profit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 05:15 AM
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The loudest, most popular red pill content, ala tate, does call for violence and disregard for other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 05:06 AM
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Listless young men are a threat to the current establishment as they might ennact a revolution to try to change things. I wouldn't be surprised that sometimes the rulers go to war just to eliminate those listless people. Draft them into the army and get them killed in combat. We need to find a better way to channel that energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 05:00 AM
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They do tend to externalise their distress and anger in rather destructive manner. Which is a threat to society and the current ruling class. Part of the distress is that the world has changed, but the expectations on what a man is hasn't changed. There is still an old notion that a woman is lesser than a man and if women are outperforming men, then that hurts the men as then it means that they are the lowest of the lows. And that old notion does not die partially because the people in power are…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 04:54 AM
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I would also connect the "worry about men" more with the rising of aggression from them. And yes, there is the sexist part of the agression rising from women being seen as miniscule and nothing to worry about. The sexist notion that a woman is no threat compared to a man. The self-ascribed red pillers (or manospherans) and the grifters use a very agressive rethoric and call for violence against others. Though there are still some old school ones who don't have the agressive rethoric that get in …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 04:44 AM
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Or the new narrative is telling men that they are nothing without women. This is how the cycle goes. Tell a narrative that is opposed to the current narrative. People invest resources to meet the new narrative. The new narrative becomes the default. A newer narrative comes that opposes the current default. People invest resources to meet the newer narrative. And so the endless cycle of constantly chasing and spending resources continues. IRL example: at one point it was fashionable to have eithe…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 03:28 PM
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You know that you can talk to the person without wanting to bang them? Why do you assume that women only talk to you when they want to bang you?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 03:59 AM
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Or, you know, slut is a derogatory term for someone (mainly women, as "male slut" is used to indicate that you are talking about a man) who is having a lot of sex. It's normal for people to not be wanted to be called derogatory words.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 03:57 AM
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Get off the phone and more into real life. All the doom and gloom and constantly showing the worst of people does not do good to mental health. From what i've seen mane people have an empty/zoned out look. There is no life in their eyes. Which can be a turnoff. Deal with anxieties and grow a spine. Take advice with a grain of salt, because someone said that you should do it - it does not mean that you should do it. Use your noggin to determine if it works for you or if there is more malice hidde…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 03:07 AM
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If anything, having a more level-headed personality in their lives (a man) would help ground them. Which is a challenge on it's own. Heck, my own dad contributed to my neuroticisms in certain aspects. He has a short fuse and can "blow up" seemingly out of the blue. And thus you have learned to fear any tiny mistake as your brain has learned that you will be bellowed at. A lot of people in general are more neurotic, because they are constantly exposed to doom, fearmongering and outrage. Not to me…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 10:53 AM
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https://open.substack.com/pub/beauetry/p/stuff-women-have-told-me-is-hot I especially agree with the part about hands and hands doing stuff. It's kinda "funny" how the dude is baffled when women say they find things sexy that he didn't even notice or think about. I am also baffled how men find the two sacks of fat on the chest sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:47 PM
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And that is why probably women prefer written porn - it takes some time to set up the scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:42 PM
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I think there is a need for movement/action. Still images don't do anything for me unless i "animate" them in my head. And in order to do that, i need to have seen them in movement. I wonder if men would get more results on tinder and such if it would allow to upload short videos or gifs onto the profile picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:23 PM
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Orrr... women have male-like sexuality when they are on a certain part of their period. I have one week a month where i do think about "jumping" random men, but have enough inhibition not to act upon it. While the other weeks i range from "meh" to "heck no". People should be more aware how the menstrual cycle influences the libido of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 08:23 AM
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The body does not arouse. You just mirror the arousal the other woman portrays and thus get aroused.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 07:40 PM
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They might imagine being the female that they are seeing. So they imagine being in those poses, doing those things, wearing that, etc. and thus get aroused. So they aren't aroused by the woman - they are aroused by imagining feeling the thing the woman feels when making those titilating things. And heck, the mind might go further with the story... The woman is showing that they feel sexy and other women imagine themselves being sexy anf thus get aroused. She is not lusted for - she is mirrored.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 07:38 PM
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Women do tend to be more conditioned to conform.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 06:31 PM
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sociocultural conditioning We see a lot in visual media where women are being made sexy, while the man isn't. So it is no wonder that people connect women to be the arousing one, as we are constantly bombarded by messagings that a woman is arousing. While there aren't many messagings that men are arousing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 02:47 PM
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Yep. They are aroused by imagining being that woman who is being sexually pleased. It is a different thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 02:44 PM
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Oi, i can be turned on by the sound...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 02:43 PM
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You might only see them as being excused. But it is also them being dismisses, not being trusted to do stuff, etc. People want to be seen as adults and not babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 02:46 AM
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People can't read minds. What you do is telling them what you are. Relationships are about people doing stuff to each other. Even if what they do is being an enjoyable company. Men also love women for what they do. The key is to find someone who loves what you like to do instead of the one to whom you do stuff that you despise just for them to love you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 07:32 AM
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womens inability to accept that they too can also be vain, shallow, and superficial. It is hard when you were constantly berated and punished for not being perfect or virtuous. Inability to accept things can be a defense mechanism. Boy does a stupid thing "boys will be boys" a girl does a stupid thing "this is the end of the world". Like an underage girl getting pregnant is seen as an end of the world, while an underage boy impregnating a girl is treated like nothing happened. So of course some …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 07:24 AM
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The wrapping matters even if the core is the same. Some people tend to express it in a very antagonising way. There is a difference between "dating is hard for men" and "women have it easy in dating" when expressing the hardships of dating for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 07:20 AM
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It can also be a result of infantalisation. Woman id a child - we don't expect her to be aware of what the consequences could be. A man is an adult and thus should have known what the consequences would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 07:14 AM
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Sometimes the smaller frame of the lady can actually be advantageous when one needs to go through tight spots.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 06:26 PM
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And? He is loyal to you, so he won't go after the other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 02:08 PM
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There is the thing of the one spouse depending on the other to stay in the usa. And it is a more transactional/contractual marriage. While inter usa pairing try to pair up solely for love.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 04:10 AM
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Yep. It is just different stlyes. Though it annoys me when one is silen and still. I need at least an "uhu" or even a grunt as an indication that you have heard it. Have experiemced when i was telling stuff to dad, like, i'm gonna need to swing by X and dad is silent. And when we are near X and remind that i need to swing by it - dad is flabberghasted (or even angry) and then i figure out that he actually didn't hear what i had said. It's rather frustrating not kbowing if you were heard or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 02:53 PM
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Or maybe the liberal women migjt feel more preassure to have a lot of sex, to be sexual. While a conservative woman doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 07:08 AM
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Eyeliner or eyeshadow tends to make the eyes "pop". Look at the face of khal drogo or jack sparrow or people wearing khol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 07:06 AM
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Some connect body hair with lack of hygene, not to mention not seeing hairy men when growing up. Some connect body hair sexual maturity, not to mention they had seen men with body hair when growing up. I remember times when boys were very proud of that one chest hair that sprouted as it meant that they were becomming men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 07:02 AM
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Short term, yes. Long term, personality starts to matter more. Not many people will stay long with a pretty person whose personality they can't stand. But more people will stay with a mid looking person whose company they enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 06:58 AM
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I think when people say "looks don't matter" they tend to think about the long term thing, where looks start to matter less. But it can also be a rebuke to the "only looks matter". Looks matter in the beginning stage. Looks communicate stuff. "A picture is worth a thousand words". And wahat looks communicate changes based on the culture and stereotypes the person has internalised. I will assume that you like metal if you look like a metalhead.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 06:57 AM
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don’t immediately divert attention away from it by relating something about yourself. I insert a related quip or a trdl of a story to show that i relate/understand on a deeper level. You don't have to stop your story to focus on mine. Just continue with your story. That is how some people show that they relate or understand you on a deeper level. Another person might give you the tip to insert something to show that you relate or understand it instead of just sitting there. Asking them deeper qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 03:07 AM
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During ovulation - fast. All other time - just appreciation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 07:02 PM
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Men have feelings and want to be loved. What a shocker! it's not a shocker. The confusing thing is when they imply all of that by saying "sex". They say "I want to have sex" instead of "I want to feel loved".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 04:41 PM
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One time i did say "why not just go to a service provider for sex?". Through their answer i understood that when they say "sex" they mean more than the mechanical stuff, they want to be wanted, needed, loved, cared. In a way, men tend to be socialised that a romantic partner meets every need. Dunno if something change, but i remember people calling a deep friendship between men as "bromance". I hate that term, it's like one is not allowed to have a deep platonic relationship without people seein…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 05:09 AM
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Yep. They assume that what a moral enterpreneur says is the truth. You need to go out there and observe the variety of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 04:23 AM
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Erasure of your history and legacy before marriage is a big one. My suggestion would be that the married couple create their own family name and hypenate it with their "maiden" names. The kid would get only the family name without the "maiden" names of the parents. So you have one family name to unite the family and another legacy name that connects you to your birth family.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 04:14 AM
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Harder time reconnecting to women you knew when you were younger. Their names changed, and you’re not gonna guess her new name. So if you loose track of someone, you won’t even know where to look for her… unlike with men where it’s just easier. My mom added her maiden name to her facebook profile. So many people popped up from the times before her marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 04:09 AM
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There might also be some admiration mixed in as they seem more mature and collected. While the men under 25 tend to be more on the immature and reckless side.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 05:59 PM
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eyeliners/eyeshadows do emphasise the eyes. I put it on all the avatars I create in video games if it allows me to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 05:54 PM
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It took a bit of time to normalise it. So men should not be discouraged of they don't get instant acception. New things tend to be odd as it is out of what you are used to. After a bit and constant exposure to it - it becomes the new normal. Change isn't instant. Example, it takes a bit of time to find the sauces after the shop has rearranged where they shelve their stuff. But after a few visits you regain your ability to go straight to the sauce section without bumbling around. Another example …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 03:29 AM
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At first it is odd as it is out of what is stereotypical or a person is used to. Imagine you get a new teacher and they cirrect the test using a green pen instead of a red one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 03:13 AM
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Honestly it is odd, because it is unusual. Odd does not automatically mean bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 07:01 PM
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Yep. People need to learn that that is ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 04:43 PM
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From what i understand they are hella expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 03:51 PM
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It's less about good vs bad and more about confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 03:50 PM
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I was expanding onto your thought. (General) you will inevitebly make a person uncomfortable. Learning to gracefully deal with a slight discomfort of the other instead of turning into a ball of anxiety is an important skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 03:48 PM
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Or you find someone who fits you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 03:45 PM
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If you are a regular, the others should know you and know that you didn't intend to be malicious - you were just awkward. If you don't want to approach, then don't, but also don't moan if nothing happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 03:44 PM
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How is "observations" different from "stalking" and "staring"? You exist and notice the surroundings, what is happening around you. Stalking is purposefull following the person around even trying to peek in their private stuff. Staring is looking at them without doing anything. Like, when yoy were walking and then just stopped to look at the person for a lengthy time. Many women say they do not want to be approached by men they don't know in the bus stop, in the street or at the mall. There is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 03:42 PM
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Common activities and observations can help. Also, you know that you can get to know a person a bit in the casual setting of "being in the bus stop and waiting for the bus"? And you might even get lucky and mee them multiple times waiting for the bus at the same time and busstop as you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 11:04 AM
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Please approach me - no, never approach me. You realise that the rules are individual and learn to lightly/casually interact with the person to find things out, but also not do a lot of damage if the approach fails. Person A wants to be approaced, while person B does not want to be approaced. What is there confusing to understand. Don't treat person A or B as the arbiter on how all people of the same sex percieve things.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 10:58 AM
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But there was the clear rule of "you are gonna marry them because i'm the head of the household and i said so". A lot of noble marriages were for political reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 10:54 AM
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Grace is important. Notice that they are uncomfortable and step back. And if they have to explicitly say that you are making them uncomfortable - apoligise (and maybe crack a joke about being a social dumdum) and step back. One needs to learn to spring back fast from a social faux pas. Instead of lying there and wallowing. Even noticing that you made a faux pas shortly after the fact and apologising for it can smoothe things out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 10:50 AM
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And, i mean, some men tend to have a hard time accepting a straight "no" and we should expect them to accept some kind of flag signals?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 10:47 AM
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Yep. Pairing up was mostly about survival or duty. In some aspects people do grow together and actually fal in love with each other after being a while in a relationship. Pairing up for love is a rather novel concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 10:45 AM
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Words, words with no actual meaning. All "dating recipes" are like that - just pretty words that sound nice, but you can never guess how to put them to real life, unless you knew before they were said. The core is to get to know the person in casual setting, find out how they "tick" and then ask them out in a way that fits them. There is no one recipe as different people find different things attractive/repulsive. Dating is improv.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 10:44 AM
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And you being casual and not desperate can actually attract women. I think this is the reason for the "invisible while single, women are swarming me when in a relationship" trope. The single one is desperate and anxiety ridden, while the paired up one is comfortable in their own skin and is chill.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 10:38 AM
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The last thing I want to do on a date is try to behave outside my norm. I don't want to set expectations that future me won't want to meet. I also don't want for people to dress up for a date. I would like them to show up in their everyday clothes and style. First impressions end to send up expectations. Don't want to get into a situaltion like, where a guy divorced because he saw his wife without makeup for the first time. I want to know the everyday you and not a special occasion you. I would …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 10:34 AM
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A relationship/home should be a safe space. If you need to constantly mask in a relatiinship - things will get tense and frustrating and will blow up eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 10:32 AM
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There were public dances. Maybe we should bring back dancing? Some casual physical contact between the sexes could ease things a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 10:24 AM
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Sometimes you learn about how not to behave and what is good only through being in a bad situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 08:36 AM
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You notice the toxic guys having girlfriends, while normal guys who have girlfriends don't stand out and thus tend to be invisible. You usually notice the toxic guys because people vent and complain about it. Similar to how it seems like the world is ending because the majority of news are bad news, while irl there are a lot of good or not bad things happening, but no one is reporting or talking about it. Toxic guys are usually with girlfriends who have their own problems and maybe even toxic th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:03 AM
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I think status is your reputation, how other people view you, other people vetoing you. Instead of spending month getting to know a person, you trust the people who have known that perwon for a long time. Status is how other people percieve you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:08 AM
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And yet oftentimes the men complain that no one wants to interact with them. Maybe expressing what you want to say in a way that does not offend or alienate the other person makes it so that the other person likes to spend time with oyu?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 02:08 PM
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Even in the off chance someone is playing hard to get, its dumb and immature, but you're also allowing yourself to be played and putting yourself at risk for it and you should have more self-respect than to allow that. Yep. That kind of behaviour tends to mean that they will behave like that in the future. And i don't have the mental energy to always queation everything they say if they actually mean it. I will take people by their word. I might learn some "codephrases" later if we have interact…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 05:22 AM
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I think there is a difference between the rules of society and rules of the individual. It is oftentimes left to the individuals to figure out the individual rulesets. One tends to romanticise the etiquette rules and such as long as it matches the ruleset that you have been taught. But it had rules that that went against you and were horrible to you. Like, having to hug your relative who tends to molest you when given opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 05:16 AM
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many women will refuse to communicate what they like, then ghost men who don’t naturally practically r them People tend to not have what they like on their minds as much as what they don't like. As knowing what you don't like is a way to keep yourself safe. People oftentimes see good things as given and don't pay attention to it. That is whe news are chock full of bad things, they tend not to write stuff about what a beautiful day it is. I think ghosting is mainly because the person did somethin…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 05:03 AM
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Again society sends men mixed messages about woman se×uality. Men don't know if they are supposed to dominant women hardcore style or be super gentle with women. What is the multiplication of se and uality? You know you can just write sexuality? Yes. We no longer have a monoculture. On one hand it readuced the guiding and direction on the orher hand it freed people from stuff that they had to do, but was actually damaging to them. Each person is different. One needs to learn to navigate stuff, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 04:54 AM
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That is life. It is full of muddy waters. One needs to learn to trodge through it. Poke around and know to step back. Accept a misunderstanding and explain it. Take accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 04:40 AM
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It's people filming other people. There are tons of videos of people filming random people in public and then uploading it to the scrutiny of the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 06:13 PM
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Not to mention that women nowadays also suck at socialisation and platonic relationships, which can make one feel lonely. We had a few years period of social isolation. It fucked up some people. Not to mention it socially stunted the young ones who were forced to isolate during a cruicial development period.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 01:03 PM
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Covid and social medias have fucked up peoples social skills. Not to mention the rise of anxiety due to being filmed at any moment and becomming a laughing stock for any tiny mistake. So people are always performing in public and it is exhausting. In my times you had the ability to recover if you did a tiny mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 01:00 PM
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Yep. Childern were a resource, to help in the household and take care of you when you are old. And the whole demographic crysis is because people are seen as resource and the resource is dwindling. There are also nowadays higher expectations/standarts on parenting. It is no longer enough to feed them, give them clothes and provide a roof. I remember going outside at 7 years old and doing who knows what and the parents didn't even have a way to contact me. The only rule was to go back when the st…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 10:40 AM
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Or women became so independed that they don't need a man for resources, so a man should offer something more than resources. As resources are no longer the thing for what you pair up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 10:34 AM
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Yeah, the mother is probably slumped from exhaustion after giving birth to have any say about it. I also read that doctors do it without asking, as it is the default there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 10:27 AM
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From what i've read, there are alo times when doctors do it as part of the routine and thus don't even ask the parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 10:23 AM
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I think the issue with aesthetics might stem that due to usa being a big exporter of cultural stuff, one might see more circumscised penises and thus think that this is how they are and should look. And thus the uncircumscised one looks odd as you never saw it and it wasn't normalised to you. Also, obe tends to see more errect penises in media than flacid. And errect ones look similar to circumscised one as the tip is uncovered. We might need more non-usa and flacid penises in media...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 10:08 AM
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A kid needs a wider social support than one person.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 05:51 AM
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"If you simply accept the way people treat you, then it won't be long before they assume you deserve the position they've placed you in". So even if if doesn't bother you being called a slut, you might still want to push back againt it because else they might treat you like a slut. Especially when you aren't a slut, but they assume you are a slut just because you match something that they have learned to see as slutty, like, showing your shoulders. If you allow them to use negative connotations …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 05:48 AM
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“I’m just a normal, nice guy who wants a chance. My standards are low and reasonable.” Everyone thinks that they are a normal and nice person whise standarts are low and reasonable. We tend to see our lives as default and normal, as baseline. Though interactions and comparisons with others we might realise that we aren't normal, that our standarts are high and unreasonable. What are high or unreasonable standarts depends on the other people. You can either adjust your standarts or be content in …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 09:41 AM
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Yep. Mensteuation is still seen as a taboo topic to talk about or even portray in media. Except some pms jokes, i don't think i have heard a character mention menstruation or it being shown. I would like a character to cancel or postpone a thing because the disabling menstrual day came. Some people can't fathom how disabling it can be because they never saw it and the women around them were powering through it as they had no other choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 03:12 AM
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Moral entrepreneurs of both sides fan the gender wars flames to profit. And the innocent people suffer.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 08:03 PM
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Do not expect women to be the same as men sexually. The menstrual cycle has a big inpact on hornyness for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 02:51 PM
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There is the menstural cycle. I get one week a month where i'm horny and do think about "jumping" men, but have enough inhibition not to act upon it. While the rest of the month i might need flirting and caresses to get aroused. And looking at how women tend to be majority consumers of written smut, while men tend to go to images. Women might need more narrative/action to get aroused.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 02:50 PM
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Menstrual cycle also plays a role. I have one horny week a month where i have thoughts of "jumping" men, but i have enough inhibition not to act upon it. While the rest of of the month i might need more stuff like flirting or touch to arouse. I have read somewhere that women need more narrative and buildup and thus written smut is more of their cup of tea than images.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 02:43 PM
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It's oftentimes because they don't do precision measuring. They never weighted their pinch because they never needed it. You just develop a feeling of the measurements. A lot of casual cooking and such is just developing an intuition through trial and erorr.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 10:43 AM
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The social consequences could be people upholding their standarts and not going after those people even if it woyld mean that they will stay single. Desparate people accept shitty behaviour and thus the sitty person has no need to change their shitty behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 08:37 AM
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But also, the clearly stated thing can be interpreted differently. Especially tricky with abstract things. "add a pinch of salt" is direct, but our hands are different. my pinch could be half of your pinch.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 06:38 AM
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men = logic It's funny when people go "men are pure logic" and then see riots after the finale of football world cup whether your team won or lost. And oftentimes when people criticise the logical argument the core is not that the logic is false, but that it is based on false premises and thus even if the sequence is logical - the answer is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 06:29 AM
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And if you live in a house and are perceptive can't you see what needs to be done. Part of the problem might be different perceptions/standarts of cleanness. For one person it might be a thing that needs to be done, while for the other person it is a thing that does not need to be done. One dusts when there is even a speck of dust, while the other cleans when there are dust bunnies. Both people should be aware that they grew up with different household rules and thus sit together and create comm…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 06:25 AM
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How about a forum. People chat about a variety of things. You get to observe the person and even casually interact with them. If you enjoy them - you can look at their profile, which is a dating profile. Part of the problem with current dating apps is that you can't observe the person and how they conduct before showing interest in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 06:19 AM
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It's pennies compared to what the man gets for a lot less work. Even if it is not stay at home. A partner who earns enough to support both could enable the partner to quit the backbreaking job, give time for them to re-educate themselves, or take a job that is actually fulfilling for the partner even if it does pay less than the backbreaking one. Or maybe allow the partner to take a part-time job without worrying about survival. Like, me and dad financially support mom. She handcrafts stuff and …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 04:58 AM
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Also, from the photos I've seen, the men have shitty photos that tell no narrative. Their photos are like for official documents. Neutral face and empty stare aren't attractive. I want to see life in those eyes! Not to mention that static images don't so much for me. I tend to be attracted to a body in motion and not a static image. I wonder how things would change if the platforms would allow short videos or gifs on profiles.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 05:39 PM
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It's the woman's fault that men can't restrain themselves! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 05:35 PM
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I respect all people who have a job and contribute to the household. I thonk in your situation it might be jealousy about your job. They see that they have to commute, overwork and stress over things for their job and you have freedom and ease in yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 02:59 PM
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It can be exhausting dealing with daily intricacies. And a lot of those don't pop up during dating - they pop up when you live togethee. The constant tiny things. Like, different sleep manners. My dad picks mom's tool and does not put it back - dad says it's not a big deal. Mom picks dad's tool and does not put it back - dad bellows. Ok, there is a lot of clutter and you might not remember where you have taken it from exactly, but at least you could leave it at the workroom table.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 10:10 AM
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The difficulty of the dating phase is mainly that one side want the other side more than the other side want the one side. So there is more competition for. And you are not only competing with other people, you are also competing with the quality of life of being single. Also, a lot of pairings in the past were due to social preassure and convenience. Pairing up purely for love is a rather new concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:28 AM
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No one is saying that you don't expect some work. Relationships thake more work than dating. So if dating is already too much work...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:03 AM
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get those women that you want There is the thing of the women whom you want don't want you and you don't want the women who want you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:01 AM
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It is personal. You have to select yourself the flowers and arrange the composition instead of just letting the shopkeeper pick it for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 03:10 AM
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Could be a response to the lack of help and support. Nowadays there are a lot more demands for how a child should be raised. In the past the child went out of the house and went back when the streetlights have turned on. While nowadays there are even stories where a mother was taken into custody because she allowed her 10 years old to go alone a mile away from home to a friends house. There is a lot more demand and preassure put on the parents and they lack support. In the past other people knew…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 03:07 AM
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Too lazy and impersonal. Go to a field, pick wild flowers and make a bouquet out of it. My mom says that it is a lot better than just buying flowers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:10 PM
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There are things that you think aren't a big deal or even forgotten about it until something happened that reminded you of it. You might not disclose some things because you yourself are unaware of it or have forgotten about it. The point that I'm trying to make is that people might not lay out all of their cards as some of their cards might lie forgotten in another pocket, so even the person themselves does not know that they have that card. There is also the thing of "why haven't you asked me …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 12:33 PM
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There is also the thing of different people having different thresholds. Human socialisation is subjective and not concrete. What for one is too much, for another can be not enough. So yeah, learning how to adapt and adjust things on the fly are important skills. And yes, the other person should be aware that people are different and assume that they don't know how you work, so open your mouth and express when something bothers you and maybe say how they could do things better to you. Human soci…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:51 AM
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I think part of it is that women tend to be infantilised. So yes, we should stop infantilising women and expect them to express their emotions in an adult and regulated manner. Men should also be able to express that they don't want to have to deal with an adult who behaves like an infant. There could also be the thing that whenever a woman expresses herself in a regulated manner - she is ignored and only the extremes, the dysregulated manner is being noticed. Like, a woman has expressed many ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:45 AM
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Dunno, my childhood experience was being bellowed at because i was crying. So yeah, i have learned to suck it up. So i also have no clue how to comfrot others as all i have learned is self soothing and never learned how to soothe others. Not everyone grew up in healthy environments.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 05:56 AM
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How they aren't allowing you to be upset about a woman dumping all her shit on you when you already have problems on your own? I understand it being unacceptable if you start to bellow at her. But if you acknowledge that she has her problems, but also inform her that you have your own problems and currently can't deal with hers in addition - then it should not be a problem. You should be allowed to be upset. Stand your ground. Have boundaries. What I have learned from a friend that I should be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 07:02 PM
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There is an expectation that adults have emotional regulation. We aren't toddlers... Heck, women were put into mental asylums and even lobotomised if they weren't docile and were asserting themselves... So yeah, people aren't tolerant to lack of emotional regulation. And yes, they want you to strike a balance between bottling everything up and unleashing everything in an uncontrolled manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 06:52 PM
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The moment you put a limitation on how to express something then you are denying the chance to be truly emotionally open. People are taught to emotionally regulate. Being emotionally open does not mean "unleash your emotions without filters like a toddler". People are taught to also be considerate of the people around them. And find a sort of a compromise where they express themselves, but also don't hurt the people around you. If your emotional outbursts constantly hurt other people - they will…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 02:19 PM
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Men will never strike a balance with this because the standard for regulated changes based on vibes and whims. That is how socialisation in general works. Which expression will be accepted depends on how the other person feels. If you are already stressed a lot, someone stressing out can increase your stress even more. If a person is relaxed, they can endure the stress of the other better. It's not like you always use the same settings. The settings change based on the environment. Like, you don…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 01:17 PM
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I think quantity is the problem. Whining from time to time, I think, is ok, but if you constantly whine about the same thing over and over again without doing anything about it - then it does become draining.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 01:05 PM
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Ok. Please explain to me how you can be emotionally open about crippling anxiety without dumping it. Maybe I can learn something. "That thing makes me feel all jittery, like if I make even a teeny tiny mistake it will be the end of the world". Tone also matters. If you say it in a calm and matter of fact tone it will be more digestible than if you say it in a panicky tone. Maybe it is my low resistance to emotional contagion, but if someone is saying something in a panicky manner - I will start …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 01:03 PM
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When people say they want an emotionally open person. They do mean that they want you to show your emotions in a regulated manner. Men have been taught by family and society to bottle up their emotion, instead of expressing them in a regulated manner. So when they open up, they tend to open the floodgates and overwhelm the other with the intensity of the emotions. And yes. It is strange when you never have seen men express their emotions and then they suddenly express their emotions and expect y…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 12:48 PM
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Lack of proportion between lower and upper torso. And the face looks empty.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 05:46 PM
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"a picture is worth a thousand words". There are stereotypes/generalisations based on looks and it can even gives us info about hobbies, interests, personality before we even interact with the person. Yes, it can backfire when you don't match the stereotypes. I once had to interact with a person and I was mentally prepared to skedaddle at any moment, because their looks and mannerisms reminded me of my dad's schizophrenic cousin. And he did scare me when I was a child. Looks can get your foot in…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 09:06 AM
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With rich inner universe, there is the thing on how much you can externalise it. I was accused of not having an inner world because I don't externalise it, so they have no idea about it. And my internal world is in a convoluted manner of different senses, so it is hard to express it in coherent words.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 09:03 AM
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I remember a comedian saying "a woman wants a man who makes her laugh and a man wants a woman who laughs at his jokes".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 08:48 AM
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I think it is enough to show that you have a life outside of them. Also, storytelling skills are important. A good storyteller can make even the most boring thing interesting. And a bad storyteller can also make the most exciting thing boring. Though I agree that the bar of what catches interest is rather high these days as we are rather jaded by stuff we see online so it needs to be even more intense to be amazed by a thing. We are in a hedononic treadmill.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 08:46 AM
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I do find it gross to put your mouth and lick/suck the/near pee hole. so yes, oral is gross no matter the sex of the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 03:28 PM
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People havr no idea if you have seen a therapist or not. They are basically saying "i have no idea how to help you - maybe a professional would have a better idea".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 08:37 AM
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I think they just don't want to mother them and having to teach them things that people were usually taught when they were kids. They want an adult with adult skills. And yes, them seeing you as a child because you don't know things that are important to them and people learned them as a kid can kill sexual/romantic interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 05:53 AM
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Yep. Probably made some serious faux pas. Like, talking in a way that a character from a dark romance would, which can make one feel like they are abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 05:48 AM
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And people tend to forget how long some things take and expect immediate change. I have no clue how long i was watching german tv without understanding a word till i somehow started to figure out what words meant what. And taking some accountability and informing others that you are learning stuff or doing it for the first time can make people give you more grace. People tend to assume that you have a certain level of skill based on your age. And some people are afraid to confess that they don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 05:47 AM
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Not everyone wants to be a unconsentual teacher or "training dummy" for someone else. If you go by default that the other person does not know what they are doing - then you are accused of infantalising them. If you go by default that they are an adult and do things purposefully - then you get accused of huritng them. You can't win. And i'm tired of consrantly questioning things, constantly being accused of doing things wron. Yes i assume that the first mistake might be an accident and will info…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 05:39 AM
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Like, what if, when someone wanted to learn how to dance, they would get belittled and ostracized for making the normal kind of mistakes you would make just because you're still learning? If you go to dancing classes where the point is to learn from the get go, then you won't he bellitled for it. But if you go to a dancing competition to learn it - then you would be bellitled. Context matters. If you open up to people that you are still learning then people do tend to give one some grace if it i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 03:08 AM
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But once you become older then it's start to get harder not only to get those skills but also there's little room for error because at that point most people are ahead of you in experience. Same with any other skill people expect one to have when one is an adult. Emotional regulation is one of those things. I would say cooking and paying bills are too, but training those don't require you to interact with others. So yeah, socially stunted people do have trouble learning those things in adulthood…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 03:02 AM
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One of the quirk of reading older books is when the modern usage of the word has a different meaning, so your brain stops a bit, goes "wth!?" and is a bit confused. Currently reading the "foundation" trilogy by isaac asimov. "There was a gay feather in his peaked hat" "Fashion center of the gayest world in space". "better the great, gay highways of the capital city". "For dr. Darell and Pelleas Anthor, the evenings passed in friendly intercourse"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 06:38 AM
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No. We had a book "where did i come from" as kids and as teens we got books about puberty.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 02:39 PM
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Also, a female friend can make you feel comfortable to interact with other women and she might have a friend who is single and looking and could vouch for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 12:45 AM
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Yes. Different people can make you feel differently. For some more "spicy" stuff go to kink events/clubs. Some people might need more time to feel safe before doing more "spicy" stuff. Vanilla sex is the basic, and people tend to start with basic stuff before going deeper. Also, have you asked them if they would want to do more "spicy" stuff. Maybe they assume that you only want vanilla and thus don't initiate other stuff. Might be that you look too innocent/vanilla, so they assume you would not…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:07 PM
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Some people might dress sexy in public when going out with their partner, so that their partners eye would stay on them and not wander towards other people...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:01 PM
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Yes. You weren't born with social skills. You learned it throughout the years from trial and error and guidance. Problem is that people give up easily amd expect to learn things fast. Learning social skills takes years and it is such a slow progress that we adapt to the changes a lot faster and thus don't even notice the improvements (like we don't notice our hair growing daily).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 12:40 PM
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Life is full of contradictions. Different people have different lives and experiences. People even understand the same words a bit differently, like, some use curses as a filler word, while others are using it to express intense emotions. There is no formula. No "one way to do it". You do, stumble, adjust and try again. It seems like people nowadays are so perfectionists that they are afraid and intolerant for any tiny mistake. People aren't identical. Like, for me the dish is too salty, while f…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 04:43 AM
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The accusing you of lying because your experience or preference does not match another persons of the same sex/gender experience or preference or even better when it does not match what the grifters say. The experiences and preferences of both can be valid. Gendering non-gendered stuff. Consrantly saying how the other side has it better while dismissing the problems that side has, just because it is different and you don't see the problem. No options is similar to so many option that you end up …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 04:28 AM
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Look, if a man is emotionally intense - he is passionate. If a woman is emotionally intense - she is hysterical. Haven't you learned that only men can be emotionally intense /s
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 04:11 AM
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I also made a post in this sub (which was deleted) referring to pornhubs 2025 analytics and how trans porn was the 2nd most viewed porn category even surpassing lesbian porn among men. It seems in modern many many people are atleast curious about trans bodies. From what I get from the internet, femboys (including trans women) are currently fetishized.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 08:05 PM
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Gender and sex are different things. From my understanding not many trans people get bottom surgery. So the groin differs from what one expects when someone is calling themselves "male/female".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 07:58 PM
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masculine-looking males Male is important here. A masculine looking trans man probably does not have a properly functioning penis.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 07:57 PM
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Yep. The anatomy matters and not the gender identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 07:56 PM
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Unexpected things tend to achieve stronger reactions. Being physically intimidating is stereotypically connected to aggression. No one is phased when an aggressive looking person is aggressive. People are flabbergasted when a gentle looking person is aggressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 07:54 PM
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The horror, people want to hire a skilled person who is gonna be able to do elaborate things with quality. You also need to wait long for a good handyman while a shoddy one is available the same day. But then you would also need to spend even more money to fix the mistakes the shoddy one did.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 05:19 AM
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The grifters, moral entrrpreneurs and companies are winning. Make people hate each other and then sell them things that aleviates the lonelyness, not to mention the people are split enough not to be a threat to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 04:02 AM
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Depends on where and your budget. Drinks tend to be very expensive. Also, personally just sitting and chatting is hell to me. I need a more stimulating activity, like a walk, so that i could keep my anxiety/overthinking distracted. Also, the activity gives additional things/inspiration to talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:10 PM
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Nah. In this case i would just prefer dating my daydreams. No one would delete it, change it out of the blue or start demanding a monthly fee to interact.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:10 AM
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Because masculine>feminine hierarchy. If a woman behaves masculine - she is doing up. If a man behaves feminine - he is falling down.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:08 AM
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Survivorship bias. Same with any media - only the better ones tend to survive, while countless others are forgotten.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:06 AM
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Like marketing yourself is easy... you are one in million. Why would people go for some rando instead of someone they know a bit about? And marketing dies cost a lot. Like, in AAA gaming marketing is 50% of the budget.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 04:06 AM
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And social media algoryrhms.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:58 AM
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Yep. They see the extremes the algorythm suggests or became popular and start to think that everyone thinks like that. While in truth it is the minority and some moral enterpreneurs who say stuff for the sole reasin to stoke the fores of panic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:58 AM
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But if you do have to interact - at least be polite.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:56 AM
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Let’s assume you have certain expectations for how your boyfriend should behave, and your current boyfriend meets them well. It won't bother me as they already meet my needs. Like, i'm not a fan of being gifted flowers, so i would actually don't like if he would be constantly gifting me flowers. Different people have different needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:53 AM
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Porn is the only place they see penises. They don't have any other point of reference.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 03:33 AM
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No. But i will be annoyed if they can't take a "no".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 07:27 AM
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I have a hard time understanding the whole femininity/masculinitt thing as i see whatever that is deemed as masculine/feminine is acutally human traits. Like, assertiveness is not a masculine trait - it is a human trait. Not to mention that different cultures might deem different things as masculine/feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 07:23 AM
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If every cock they see is big, they will assume that it is an average size and thus a statistically average one will seem small. Size is oftentimes relative.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 07:20 AM
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And the whole "dark romance" stuff that also can romanticise abuse. And heck, kink stuff have been normalised. Especially the bdsm aesthetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 07:18 AM
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Overprotective/helicopter parents. Kid tries to do something, parent panics and take the thing away from the kid or just does the thing for the kid themselves. Of course the kid will learn to do nothing as they weren't allowed to do anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 07:19 PM
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This year is generous 9 out of 12 months are one workday shorter. Though it would be 10 out of 12 if august 15th wouldn't ve a saturday...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 07:16 PM
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Yes, there are women like that, but it does not mean that all women are like that. Let people choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 11:19 AM
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Yeah. Libido and restraint are very important.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 07:13 PM
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but there's nothing bad or hypocritical about having a preference for a trait you yourself don't have. There is a difference between preffering and demanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 04:38 PM
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Ufff... Anyone know any chuck norris jokes with him in the afterlife?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:52 PM
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The problem is not in wanting a virgin, but in shaming non-virgins. And in demanding a virgin if you yourself have an "n count".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:50 PM
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Yes. People generally want to be chosen because of their person and not just because of looks. If your goal is a long term relationship that the choises should be made based on what is important in long term interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 09:52 AM
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People who cold approach are actually intorducing themsleves with a performance of romance. Warm approach is a person showing themselves in their everyday manner and later showing the romance stuff after establishing their everyday selves. People who cold approach are also not after the person, but after the lust, the body.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 07:44 AM
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Most voters are women, why can't they fix it? Because we also need the men. It needs to be a cooperative action. Not to mention that the voters don't choose the candidates that are up to election. And in places like russia or belarus there is also tampering with the votes. Remember when sometime pre-covid there were elections in russia, the results were announced, but when you summed all of them up - you got that 140% voted...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 04:32 AM
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Means that you should have some casual interactions to get a bit of a feel about another person before asking them out on a date. Like, i automatically reject people i don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 04:28 AM
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Those men are still called incels and they are not shown any empathy. Women have their grifters too. They said I'm not doing anything wrong and they said women have really unrealistic standards for men these days. Yep. And it might be that the women with realistic standarts are already paired up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 04:22 AM
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At least the "dudebros" tend to be like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:59 AM
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Equqlity, as in, everyone is the same - impossible due to tye sexual dimorphism. But equality where people can choose things that suits better their interests and abilities is possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:56 AM
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They tend to approach while being total strangers. Women are more receptive to warm approaches. You need to build up a bit of a rapport before romantically approaching them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:52 AM
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Places where the war is in your turf and you are the defender are different to where you are the aggressor and invading others.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:19 AM
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Also don't BS me that "no one should be drafted". That's not realistic. It's realistic. Have a professional army and do something about your powerhungry and warmongering leaders.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:08 AM
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Not all women and they don't do it always. You might run in circles with toxic people. I think it is a bit of a safety in numbers and having witnesses that can vouch for you. It is hard to prove that the other person has provoked you or beaten you up if it is a "he said, she said" type of situation. There is also the thing of making others aware of how the person is in private, so that if something happens you would have support and not being dismissed or called a liar. Like, my grandma was an a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 06:37 AM
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Not willing or not being able to afford? A lot of people nowadays have a hard time being able to afford one of them being a stay at home parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 06:27 AM
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Some things are hard to understand unless you have experienced it. Men also have a hard time understanding and emphasising with women's dating problems. A lot of people here dismiss women's dating problems with "you have many options" and can't fathom that a shitty option is the same as no option (or even worse as you might not know from the start that the option is shitty and thus they have time to do damage to you). Reading fiction can help to make a bridge as it allows to see the experience f…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 06:24 AM
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Dunno how it is where you are from, but where I'm from, if a non-family member inherits stuff, they need to pay taxes. Imagine you live with another person to whom the house belongs, they die, you inherit the house, but the taxes are so big that you need to sell the house in order to pay them. Oh, and you pay even more taxes if you sell the inherited place within 10 years of inheriting.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 06:01 AM
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Rightists subs also seethe and cry...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:48 AM
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If you have healthy relationships to balance it out. I think it becomes a problem when the only romance they are exposed to is "dark romance" and the only sex scenes in hardcore porn. As the it might become a baseline due to it being the only thing you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 07:30 PM
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Saw a video about "dark romance" seems it is as bad as porn. Romanticises abuse. No wonder we have a bit of a problem of women going for the "dark triad" men if they have been brainwashed by "dark romance".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 07:07 PM
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And inheritance, and visiting them in hospital, and representing them if they aren't availabe (like there needs a medical decision to be made and they are in a coma).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:26 PM
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It is not cheating if your partner allows it. If your partner does not allow it - you are still going behind their back to do the stuff, so you are still cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 12:33 PM
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A lot of the things are actually the same thing wrapped in a different wrapper. Red and blue pills tend to say the same thing, but in a different manner. One manner might resonate with you, while another won't. Personally, i find the way the red pill tends to express things is rather vulgar. So some people might just disagree with the vulgarity of the statements, while they might agree to the core thing. On the other hand, blue pill is more "mannered"/softer and some people might see it as being…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 06:49 AM
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Men can and should be vocal about their preferences and tell their date they would like to split the bill if they would like to split the bill. But this should be discussed before going out and not the moment the bill is given... Heck, if someone is gonna pay for me - I'm gonna ask for their budget. Don't want to accidentally order stuff that is outside their budget and make them eat potatoes till next paycheck.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 05:20 PM
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There is the "woman A states her preferences, while woman B has different preferences than woman A and acts on her preferences and not woman A's preferences" element. And yes, a person can show up differently to different people. Like, my grandma was an angel in the public, but a demon privately.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 12:28 PM
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You need to use your noggin. Don't blindly follow advice, examine it, see the core of it, tinker with it to fit your situation. The core should be firm and stable. While other things can be a bit more mallable and adaptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 07:56 AM
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When you have opposing beliefs that's literally contradiction. Woman A saying X and woman B saying Y does not mean hypocrycy. As there are different women saying different things. It would be hypocrycy if woman A would say X and at the same time say Y. And yes, on the internet there are a lot of contradictory things. So turn on your noggin and don't blindly believe everything that is being said. Look at who is saying it, what their goals are, from what background they come from. People aren't a …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 05:25 AM
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Yeah, swamp analogy is not good "needle(s) in a haystack" would be a better analogy. And sometimes you get so tired from sifting through the hay to find the needle that you give up the whole haystack. Her standards just might be too high in some cases its way higher then it should be. Yep. Some standarts can filter stuff too much, that you end up with 0 matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 06:34 PM
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Oh yeah. Fat is bad, so here - eat this thing that has no fat, but is loaded with sugar.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 06:30 PM
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When bad options exist on both sides. Yep. Dating is hard for both sexes. I think it is more of a response to the "women have it easy". The analogies try to show that women have it hard in a different aspect. The whole one being in desert and another is drowning - both are gonna die, but in a different manner. But people don't see the dying person and just focus on the thing that that person has that they don't have.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 05:55 PM
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I also know a vegan guy who is overweight. Constantly snacking on nuts can make you fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 05:48 PM
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And if you are aware of stuff, what is deemed healthy or not changes constantly. I remember eggs being said to be bad for you, then some years later being praised as superfood.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 05:43 PM
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Fish is healthy, but I have a severe fish allergy - so it is actually deadly for me. So yeah, even if it is deemed as healthy you might not know that it is actually bad for you. How many children were forced to drink milk and years later realised that their bellies should not hurt after drinking milk. But they thought that it is normal that their bellies hurt, because it always did, so they thorught it was normal and no one talked about belly aches after milk. Then they realise that they are lac…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 05:40 PM
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People don't have their "nutritional values printed" on them. You discover them over time. Heck, some dealbreakers you only discover when you start living together. It's like you go to the butcher, there are slabs of meat, but none of them have a nutritional value listed. You might get one after you buy it and they put the sticker onto the packaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 05:29 PM
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I prefer to pay for my own stuff in early stages, because then i won't feel like i owe them. Thus it will make it easier to not continue things if we don't "click". If they insist on paying - i ask them what is my budget. As i don't want to accidentally go over their budget and cause them to eat potatoes till next paycheck. I always go in with the thought of having to pay for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 05:51 PM
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Because they tend to be judged more harshly. From when they were little people expected them to be perfect, while the failings of boys were excused as "boys will be boys". Oftentimes whatever the woman does it's a lose-lose situation. Does A - will be judged for not doing B, does B - will be judged for not doing A. So it can make them perfectionists. And men aren't exempt from it. Maybe the men in your circles don't judge, but I have heard and seen online plenty of men who do judge. Women do ten…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 04:33 PM
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Women having higher sex drives wouldn't change the fact that they have far more options so men would still have to approach anyway But if men stop approaching, then the women would be forced to start approaching if they want a sexual relief that is not masturbation. but it would still take a long time Yes. That is hoe societal changes are. It takes years, maybe even generations. Part of the problem is that people nowadays don't want to sacrifice for an improvement for the future. Like, enduring …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 01:03 AM
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But it also makes it hard to rest my head on their shoulder and nuzzle their neck... Not everyone enjoys nuzzling the armpit...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:38 PM
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Oftentimes missed part of that study is that while women rated less men as attractive - they still messaged those men that they initially didn't find attractive. While the men messaged only the top 10% of the women they found attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:37 PM
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Or like in video game reviews. MC has big boobs 10/10 There is no italian dub 1/10 It tells nothing at all about the gameplay or story. I tend to ignore the rating and just read the review itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:35 PM
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We are trapped in a hedonic treadmill and people want more and more extreme stuff. Or at least they are marketed more and more extreme stuff. Especially when people nowadays get an idea of what is normal based on the internet (in which the extremes reign) instead of irl. The only time i found it funny that the guy is rather short was my classmate who was around 160. And it was only funny because his last name would translate to "huge" (which could ve either in width or height). So the funny thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:33 PM
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Ok the being overly sexual stuff can be bad but it’s looked at as just as annoying as women that ask men for money. Something that women aren’t really shamed for doing btw so at least with our society deems it more than ok for a man to be scolded for such a move. We should scold women who ask men for money, who demand that men pay for the first date (i think each should pay for their own stuff at first date). In the past there was a "balance" it was accepted that men are overly sexual and that w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 07:49 AM
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The first step (having someone attracted to you) might be easier, but the steps of filtering people out, attracting a person for a long-term relationship, dealing with people who can't accept a "no" might be harder. Heck, there are myriads of stories on online dating where one of the first messages they recieve are asking for nudes, a dick pick, or something overly sexual. So overall both don't have it easy. Getting into a romantic relationship is a multistep process. If you have easy on step on…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:33 PM
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Same thing about men talking about the dating experiences of women. People should be aware that they have a limited understanding and instead of dismissing the experiences and perceptions of other because one apparently know their lives better than they do themselves - listen to their experiences without invalidating it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 04:45 PM
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It's like the iceberg image. People who haven't experiences stuff have only the perception of what is externalised - what is above the water. But there is a lot of stuff underneath the water that is not externalised and is hard to kbow without having experienced that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:10 AM
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And the stress during commute, because there is a chance that I will bleed through my pants. While worst case working from home I can just bring my laptop to the toilet.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 07:28 PM
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The women still have been taught the messaging that they need to be virtuous, see deeper and not be shallow (as looks tend to be seen as shallow). Though the new generation is more open about physical preferences. Though they are also getting dismissed, made fun of, etc. You can't win. And we have people of both generations so you are exposed to both those who say that they don't have physical preferences and those who tell their physical preferences. So you get conflicting message. For my physi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:54 PM
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Imagine if the boss (if they can't give a couple of days off) would allow you to work on later days or work some days longer to work off the hours you missed, so that at the end of the month the workhours are still the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:26 PM
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Yep. I understand getting a day of or some leniency during the bad days. Like, i'm allowed to work from home during my heavy bleeding day.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:18 PM
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Looking at characters that got a custom model in kingdom come deliverance 2. Based solely on looks and not their expresions and voices, there might be only Žižka that looks good. The rest has either a face or a haircut that is not "well, hello there..." to the eye.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 12:22 PM
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Seems like a pain in the neck. My ideal height difference is that the shorter persons eyes are no lower than the taller ones lips.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 12:13 PM
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Small boobs fit into male/unisex shirts. My problem with female shirts it that either the waist is too lose or the chest is too big. So it is hard to find shirts that would fit if you have bigger boobs. Not to mention that a woman with smaller boobs might be happier because she does not have to deal with backpain. And a happy person is more aesthetic than a person in pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 12:12 PM
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Yeah. Constantly showing the extremes and a lack of body diversity in media does screw up the perception of how a normal body looks. And sadly people nowadays tend to create an imago of what is normal through media portrayals instead of observing irl. I remember a comedian saying "if you feel insecure about your body - don't look at "men's health" or other magazines. Go with your friend to a public sauna and look around. You will see people how god created amd mcdonalds formed them. And you will…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 12:07 PM
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Looking at various "dad bod" descriptions i came to a conclusion that it just means "not ripped". So if you have a bit of padding - you have a dadbod.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 12:04 PM
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So this is how the new generation describes "pretending to be cool"? Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:11 AM
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Help this oldschool person who does not follow the instagram/tiktok trends and explain what the heck is "aura farm". Farming i might understand if it is from video game contex, but what the heck is "aura" in the context that the youth use.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 10:29 AM
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They have been constantly being told that they have to be the leaders, that the spouse should always do what you say and not question it. So of course they would want a spouse that always do what they say. Especially when they haven't be taught how to compromise or give way to the other. If they can't be on the top of the hierarchy anywhere else, at least they can be on the top in the household.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 07:47 AM
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The important thing with teasing and ribbing and roasting and such is that the butt of the jike should find it fun too. If the butt of the joke does not find it funny and tries to adress it - you should apologise instead of doubling down.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:53 PM
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But they have theoretical knowledge, so of course they don't need practical knowledge which would expose them to the myriads of tiny things that the theory ignores as it does not show the big picture /s
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 01:49 PM
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It works on some to slowly chip away at them so they would give it. But it needs to be done slow, so that they won't notice. Like the "boiling frog" metaphor.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 01:43 PM
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Sorry it was 6'0. Just look at height filter data from bumble, tinder etc. Online dating is a different kind of a cestpool. It lacks a lot of stuff that does influence attraction for women. Also, while men swipe for a lot of women, they text only the top 10%. I do agree that the whole 6 foot thing has been majorly marketed and it kinda does live in peoples minds rent free. Interestingly a lot of the movie/music starts the women swoon over aren't even 6 feet tall. Similar to how there is an expec…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 01:09 PM
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It originates from lack of food. People being fat meant that they have an excess of food. The rich people want to differentiate themselves from the peasants. In the past the peasants worked outside, so being pale was seen as being of a high class. Nowadays the peasants mainly work indoors, so being tan is seen as high class nowadays. Heck, stuff like carviar and lobsters were seen as low class foods and were fed to prisoners. And nowadays it is tend to be seen as a luxury product.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:45 PM
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Then explain why 65% of women find men shorter than 5'10 ugly??? First explain where did you get that stuff. As the pairs that i see when walking around tend to be of similar height. Or why most women romance books have the same kind of men?? Probably for the same reason books aimed at men tend to have the same kind of a women. There are even tropes. Men tend to have "rescuing the damsel in distress" trope, while women tend to have "i can turn the bad guy into a good guy".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 11:37 AM
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When people say "attraction" they usually mean "visual attraction", so i will assume you mean "happy in the absence o visual attraction". Yes it can be enough. But it is important on what the core of the marriage is. If it is based solely on visual attraction, then the marriage won't be happy after looks fade. If the core is somethibg else besided visual attractin - it can still be a happy one even if looks fade. "Growing onto each other" usually means that people have connected on a more deeper…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 11:14 AM
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In the same culture - probably. In a different culture that hasn't been influenced by another culture - maybe not. There are cultures where being obese is seen as attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 08:56 AM
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For me there is something in the scent that also makes it feel like my airwaves are shrivelling - not a fun feeling. Although i had asthma as a kid, so the smell might also be teiggering the asthma...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 08:53 AM
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Nope. Different people find different things attractive. You can be gorgeous to some, while hideous to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 07:26 AM
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Part of the dating enviroment (especially the one that is shown online) is toxic as fuck for both sides. While there is also the dating environment that isn't toxic. But because there is no drama or outrage it tends to be unseen and not posted/discussed online. Dunno why blue pillers pretend the dating environment isn't toxic as fuck at this point. Because it is not the enviroment they are experiencing. There are both toxic and non-toxic dating enviroments. And the accusations of delusions and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 05:52 AM
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I need to feel safe to relax and become less reserved. Which are requirements to be more intimate.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:33 AM
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There are events, clubs, volinteerings and sometimes you yourself need to initiate things.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:30 AM
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Some might have grown onto each other, some might have not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:49 PM
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Milfs tend to have big boobs. Also, what is considered to be a "milf" might be a woman of your own age if you are older.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 06:58 PM
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Thus people should go out more and interact with each other more. Instead of hoping to find someone while not even leaving their house.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 06:38 PM
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You just present yourself and hope that the style you chose is associated by a woman with someone who fulfills basic requirements. Different women can associate different styles with someone who has basic requirements. It's all luck. Online dating oftentimes does not have the stuff upon which the women evaluate men. Online dating is oftentimes like a catalogue. While the things that tend to attract women can't be expressed through a catalogue. For me personally, a static image rarely garners int…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 05:22 PM
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Then your only option might be to have a style that a person in her life that has fulfilled basic requirements has.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 04:02 PM
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A lot of the time marriage was out of duty/politics and not out of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 02:10 PM
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Being vouched by someone both parties know and trust. Taking time to build rapport.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:46 AM
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A very confused "WHAT?" when i tell them that i'm 34. They assumed that i was around 20. Good thing i don't drink alcohol as it would be a hassle to show my id every time. My mom got gossiped by nurses about being underage and giving birth. My mom was 28 at that time... she even went to show the nurses her id card as they didn't believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:41 AM
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Yep. People police each others preferences and social lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 06:13 AM
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Yeah. Also helped a bit with the mood seeing summer in the game while it is winter outside. Though i have to tell czech dub > english dub. English dub sounds soft compared to czech one. I also really enjoyed the post credits scene where the guys were drinking. And it takes a genius plan to make the companys drunkard to force you to wear a helmet.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 08:08 PM
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Sheesh. the programmers/designers didn't think about this character without a hat.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 07:01 PM
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Seems pretty normal reaction. Did you want her to squeal or such? Maybe the haircut change isn't a big deal or matters much to her?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 06:51 PM
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Yes. Though sometimes one needs someone else to point it out how fucked up their mentality is as they don't see it as it was normalised to them. But there is also the thing of the other to also filter out those women instead of trying to woo them while also complaining how fucked up they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 03:56 PM
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I think both tend to do it because they interpret things differently. And different interpretations depend on socialisations, perceptiins and lived experiences. Our surroundings influence how we see things. I'm sensitive to raised voices because my dad has a short fuse and can start bellowing out of the blue (and while not even being aware of it and then deny the bellowing).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:24 AM
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There is also the differences in socialisation and experiences that change how a thing can be interpreted. Like, sex for me is just the mechanical intercourse, while after a while, i realised that when men say "sex" here, they mean more of a "feeling desired and wanted". Also, maybe because i experienced a lot of stories through books, movies, video games, i get a sort of an "analysis paralysis" because i see a myriad interpretations for the same sentence. And thus sometimes i just choose to tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:21 AM
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When i ask a person who raises their voice and start to curse a lot why are they so pissed off - they answer "i'm not angry - i'm passionate!". It is especially weird when the football fans are so passionate about the finals that they riot wetuer they team won or lost. But when i raise my voice because i'm passionate about something, i'm asked why i'm hysterical... like, when groupies screech when they see their "star". People percieve things differently. The other person has no access what is i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:17 AM
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Add smiles of joy. I'm a sucker for smiles people do when they are are enjoying what they do and what is happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:01 AM
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It might depend on the smell.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:59 AM
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Physically maybe not, but there are social/psychological ways, like blackmail or false allegations that can stop a man from leaving. Not to mention when the woman is your boss and would fire you if you refuse to have sex with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:55 AM
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And as an additional grossing out is how the news headlines are worded. Man has sex with an underage girl - rape. Woman has sex with an underage boy - had sex. Both are rapes. We should not diminish boys getting raped by calling it "had sex".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:53 AM
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There is also the thing of using different words to describe the same thing. Or using different words to express the same thing. I once had a lengthy quarrel with a friend and after a while we realised that we actually were agreeing and saying the same thing. But we throught the other was disagreeing because they have expressed it differently than we do. Even here a lot of men complain about not getting sex, but when you suggest sex workers - the go "no". And after some back and forth i realised…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:47 AM
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Because they grew up in abusove environment and the abuse was normalised to them. Thus the abuse feels familiar and safe as they have learned how to navigate it. While a healthy relationship might feel tense as they haven't learned to navigate it and constantly wait for the other show to drop.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:36 AM
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There is the thing that people who grew up in ungealthy households tend to be drawn to unhealthy people because they are familiar. So familiarity does still play a role. Not every woman grew up in healthy enviroments and it is incorrect to expect them to behave in healthy ways. The same thing when men go for unhealthy women. Basically, people oftentimes seek the type of relationships that their parents had, because it is familiar and they have learned to navigate it. It can also be stressfull fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:34 AM
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I don't think calling women females on it's own is not bad. It becomes bad when you use females and men instead of females and males when your talking points includes both sexes. I tend to use male/female instead of man/woman when i want to include boys/girls in the equasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 09:21 AM
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Yeah, you need to have a life outside of the other perwon and not abandon yourself fully to always please the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 07:48 AM
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Not to mention that people show different sides to different people. You can be an arse to a person that grates your nerves, but a very caring person to someone who is dear to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 07:45 AM
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And maybe the height didn't really matter, it just happened that the guy was tall. Correlation does not mean causation. Because the women could say a similar thing about men, who bemoan that that no one is interested in them, while the women they don't find attractive are invisible to them and they only notice the attractive ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 06:30 PM
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We have learned that if someone elses item is in the way - you don't pick it up, you ask (or even nag) the person to pick it up. Else they will bellow at you because they can't find the screwdriver that was sitting on the floor in the living room for 5 years. Not they have only themselves to blane as they have put it away.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 01:51 PM
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And if you have the space mayne each getting a "man/woman cave" where their cleaning rules are active and the other has no right to clean. Though there might be some rules, like not leaving food that rots. It could be a space where they can relax and not have to worry that they will ruin someones idea of cleaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 01:47 PM
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Yep. And people should have a discussion and come to a compromise on the level of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 01:44 PM
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Women also point out observations of reality, but men immediattely dismiss those and then men get surprised why women are annoyed. Both people can have different observations of the same thing. How we percieve things is shaped by many different things. Even the same object will look differently from a different perspective. It's like "the blind men and an elephant". Each percieves a different part of it and thinks that it is the absolute truth. While the absolute truth is actually a sum of diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 11:08 AM
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First date - probably. "A picture is worth a thousand words". How you look creates a story about who you are. That story can attract or repulse another person. For later dates - not so much. Through longer interaction one starts to see more of the details and start to create the true story. And that story might differ from the story that was told by interpreting your looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 11:01 AM
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Also, what about tomboys?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 09:56 AM
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Ahh, you mean the G.I.R.L - guy in real life accronym?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 09:55 AM
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Being upset about something is not a moral failure. Demanding to be given sex is a moral failure. Oftentimes people here don't express that they are upset that they don't have sex - they demand to get sex and oftentimes express actions that would go against basic human rights of other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 09:50 AM
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He cares about grandma, does not want to deal with the hassle, does not want us to deal with the hassle, she had done a lot for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 01:37 PM
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People like to help other people. And some people get excited when they can help, especially when the other person says "thank you" to them. Helping others also can make one feel useful and having a purpose. And yes, people yearn for the feeling of being useful, having purpose and being needed. It can also make them feel seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:58 PM
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This sub is rather niche. Who knows, maybe the men here who have problems attracting women and think that they are average are actually in the bottom 5-10%.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:52 PM
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Isn't it the same way for men? There is a very small, but vocal minority of incel men who are trying to convince everyone that women don't find the majority of men attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:44 PM
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There’s ugly, not bad looking, meh, kinda cute, attractive, wowzers. People have then tried to quantify it to a number scale. Yep. It is more steps that attractive and unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:28 PM
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We are currently in outrage culture and the moral entrepreneurs use the hate to get more attention and sell their products. Also, a lot of people blame the woman for being raped, telling that she should not have dressed provocatively (while she was wearing long baggy clothing when she was raped...). People who want to hate can find any reason to hate. Even if you are perfect in every capacity - people will still find something if they want to hate you. It's simple bully behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:24 PM
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The vast majority of human societies were overtly patriarchal throughout most of history. People were never this isolated and lonely, they had families and communities. Throughout the middle ages, like 90% of Europeans were married. A significant portion of the remainder were celibate (priests, monks, nuns). They lived in smaller communities, depended more upon each other. Marriage also was more out of duty/politics and less out of love especially in the noble caste. The gals were also kinda sol…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:15 PM
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And yet, there are men who bitch when a woman's metabolism changes and she gains some weight, while the men themselves sport beer bellies... and you know that a lot of weight thing is mainly diet?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 11:31 AM
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And imagine doing all that and then he leaves you because your boobs are no longer perky or because is more wrinkly and flabby.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 11:15 AM
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You know how pregnancy screws up the body and also menopause also does a number on the body?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 11:07 AM
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Hmmm... There is the thing that a lot of info that I get about stuff that is outside of my IRL surroundings is online. Maybe more preciser would have been "men who expect women to prioritise his needs" have been taught to do that. And it is being part of the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 08:34 AM
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They see how their dads/grandparents treat their wives, they hear how they are talking, algorithm shoves them various people who are constantly talking about how women are beneath men, men's actions are oftentimes excused as "boys being boys". Men aren't born expecting the woman to prioritise their needs over hers. Although... babies are born expecting everyone else to prioritise the baby over their own needs. But it isn't gendered. Also, they saw what behaviours their mothers/grandmothers were …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 07:35 AM
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Yep. People now compete with the quality of life of being single. We have outsources and made services of so much thing that you needed relationships (whether platonic or romantic) to achieve, that people no longer want to be in relationships as those require one to sacrifice some of their things (like, going to a gathering even though you don't feel like it currently, listening to a person talk about things you aren't interested, etc.). Now people want another person to be there the moment they…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 06:58 AM
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I think what is new is not being shamed for being singles. Oftentimes older women who are singles (bit not widows) tended to be called spinsters ir crazy cat ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 04:13 AM
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Yep. And i think part of the problem is that men tend to be still taught to expect a woman to prioritise his needs over hers. So they haven't been taught to also prioritise her needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 04:01 AM
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You are aware that people tend to get shorter when they get old?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 03:53 AM
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Yep. As people interact with the real world less and less and get the idea what the real world is through the extremes that they see online.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 07:58 PM
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Dude, i will say the same thing about men, a lot of the hate is bots and loud minority. Both men and women can be shitty. My personal experience with people of both sexes makes me see it as a loud minority. And a lot of things are provided by algoryrhms. So if you show interest in that stuff - it will show you more of that stuff. My youtube algorthms is ttrpgs, video games, books, psychology, music videos. I have none of that gender was stuff there. If there is a sone kind of outrage video - i d…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 03:46 PM
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If you only are shown a group of as being the bad guys and never exposed to the good members of the group, of course you will start to think that the whole group is bad...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 05:44 AM
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rather than focusing on the tuna, you just keep fishing, taking a bite out of every fish that isn't a tuna, dumping it back into the lake, and then finally taking the tuna home once one bites. And that is the core of why people don't like "the red pill". If you want tuna, fish for tuna instead of ruining the fish that others would want. Also, it is funny that if a woman does that men here scream "hypergamy!", "you can't trust women to stay with you!".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 03:30 AM
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90% people lurk (consume without interacting), 9% of people interact with content (leace a "like" or a comment), 1% create the content. Also, are you aware that you can literally buy "likes" from facebook? And as instagram belongs to facebook, i don't doubt that you can also buy "likes" on instagram.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 03:23 AM
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Or you just don't know our grandma. Heck, she once even said that my brother should find a gf so that she would clean his flat... And yes, grandma is not happy that my mom isn't as tidy as she would want and is not making her son to be tidy (or maybe tidy up after her son, as grandma was doing when dad was a child...). Her tidyness is of a similar level to dads.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:48 PM
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Looking how he talks about his co-workers and friends who are women - good.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:46 PM
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Actually be there and make sure that the kid is following their edict. Instead of delegating that task to the mother. Also, both parents should have a chat and establish a common disciplinary rules. So both parents are aware of each others disciplinary measurements to avoid unknowingly going against it. My parents had a rule that only the parent who ennacted the punishment can end it. So if mom made us stand in the corner, only mom can make us leave the corner. Dad had no power upon us leaving t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:44 PM
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My brother is not looking for a gf whike grandma is still alive. He does not want her to have endure his grandma because she would not meet grandmas expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:40 PM
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General compatability - yes. Compatability of the aspects that are the most inportant to you - it a harder thing to achieve unless you are in circles where people alreafy share those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:43 PM
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Also be aware that advice how to catch a seawater fish might not work on catching freshwater fish. If you ask how to fish, the answer is - get a fishing rod, attach bait in the hook, throw the hook into the water and wait for the fish to bite. But there are intricacies. If you ask how to fish, but actually want to know how to catch tuna and then you go into a puddle and complain that you can't catch a fish (which is tuna for you). The fishermen would probably laugh at you as you misused the advi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:20 PM
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Universal theory: they need to enjoy being with you and you have to have some compatability. How you achieve this - it depends from person to person as difrerent people like and value different things. So you need to look at a specific person instead of focusing on the whole group. Also, having sone rapport with that person and being a familiar face to them warms you up to them, unless you managed to get a bad reputation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:08 PM
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be aware of the concept of shit tests and how to pass them Personally, instead of passing them i would just not engage with them. I would want a mature adult and not someone who is in high-school mentality. And the shit tests would probably never end as they kinda show that the person does not have confidence in the relationship and will always question it. Playful push/pull Emphasis on "playful". A lot of people miss that part. There needs to be relaxation and playfullness in flirting. Though a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 04:58 PM
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Some hate, some are bots, some are loud minority as people who don't like that content don't follow it to see the reels or just shut it down without commenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 03:58 AM
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Especially the first date. If they pay fully for me it would feel like i owe them at least a second date where i would pay. And i would not feel comfortable if they would pay, but won't tell me my budget. I don't want to accidentally make them eat poratoes till next payday because i wasn't aware that they don't have much money.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 03:53 AM
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Or they didn't want you enough to overcome the anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 08:09 PM
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I understand that an assumption gives one a base to work with, but you should accept that your assumption can be wrong instead of "digging in" if someone goes against your assumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 04:27 PM
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They want men to have qualities that they themselves don't have. Yes, I want my partner to cover my weaknesses. And ideal pairing is each covering the others weaknesses. Why would I want to be with someone who is identical to me? Yes, there is a need for an overlap, but the overlap should not be 100%. I'm also drawn more to people who tend to have qualities that I don't have. It might be more of the want to learn those qualities through exposure. Yes, the men should push back against unrealistic…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 10:50 AM
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Some incompatabilities pop up when you start to know them better. Some things pop up when you start to live together. A very shallow example. A person looks atteactive but when they open their mouth - verbal blie comes out of it and the attraction is gone. At best you can still see them as a pretty picture. You might realise after sleeping with them that them snoring like a truck (which they aren't aware of) is incompatable wirh your light sleep. Though i would not ghost. I would at rhe very lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 05:20 AM
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Checklist is theory. A lot of the time theory goes out of the window when met with reality as reality exposes you to stuff you haven't even though or were aware about. As it is said in ttrpg circles "no plan survives contact with the players". You might have though a theatric scenario that would amaze the players, but the players decide to kill the key npc and now you have to scramble to figure out another way to lead them towards the story at the spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 05:11 AM
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cold approach at a park or a coffee shop is more frowned upon in our current social climate. You know that if you visit the place often enough and maybe do a small interaction, like just saying "hi" you start to become a familiar face and then when you approach later it is a more warmer approach? In many cities, there just aren't as many spaces which are conducive to meet women. Mixed gender events and clubs. But you have to actually be interested in the event/club instead of going there because…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 05:06 AM
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Gender roles ignore individual capabilities. Some peoples capabilities match the gender roles, while some peoples don't. We should focus on capabilities and not the sex of the person. Just because you are a woman - it does not mean that you are a good knitter, men can also he good knitters. The incentive of treating others as people and not stereotypes of their gender is that it allows them to do stuff they are actually interested/good at and it increases the quality of the materials they produc…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 04:57 AM
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You don't act natural when you are being filmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 03:54 AM
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Or she is not actively dating, but "keeps the door open" if she stumbles upon something.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 07:28 PM
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If you're going to tell men to suck it up, deal with it, that all their feelings are their fault and you don't care The thing that women have been told for a long time. They have heard the stories of their mothers and grandmothers. How they had to suck it up and deal with it. So some think that treating the men like their mothers and grandmothers were treated is equality. A sort of trying to make the other understand a thing by doing to them the thing that was done to them. And yes, it is hard t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 07:27 PM
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And I don't understand why nature would make one sex more desirable to the other instead of making it around 50/50. One man can father multiple children a year, while one woman can mother one child a year. Not to mention the whole pregnancy debackle and how it does screw up the body. There is also the things that it seems that men have their hornyness rise every day (correct me if I'm wrong), while women have one horny week a month due to the menstrual cycle. Also, I wonder how much is nature an…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 07:01 PM
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How one speaks up does matter. You can speak up without blaming or demeaning others. There is a difference between "have you seen the item?" and "where did you put the item?". Both state that the item is not where you have last seen it. The second one puts the responsibility/accountability on the other person, even though they never touched the item. Source? my dad who moves the either either through tidying up or not putting the item in place and then blames my mom because he can't find the ite…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 06:54 PM
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I like the example of "gift" - in english it means "present" while in german it means "poison". The person might think in english when they say it, but the recipient might understand it in german. And as the recipient has no clue what is in the head of the sender, they might bring you poison as they saw that word as a german one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 03:35 PM
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Looking at the whole epstein situation it does not surprise me that looking like not finished puberty is not a big deal for women to attract men. I personally no longer find men who look like teens attractive as I grew out of it and would prefer that the man would look like an adult. As for my brain looks like a teen = child and I'm not sexually attracted to children... My condolences for you. Though sometime things might lag a bit and it could come later. Or check your testosterone as it might …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 02:16 PM
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And men should say it too. Part of the problem is that due to perception, social and experience differences people express things in a way that is harder for the other person to understand. The core is the same, but the wrapper is different and the wrapper influences how the thing is perceived. Like, I would be wary of foodstuff that has a fish on it's packet and if I don't understand the language of the ingredients - I will probably avoid it as it ight contain fish to whom I'm severely allergic…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 11:45 AM
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Yep. Instead of wanting the other to treat us like we treat them we should find compromises and treat each other how they would like to be treated that is within our limits. Some people have the weird notion that the other person wants to be treated how they would like to be treated and expect to be treated the same way in return. And both people do that and are unhappy that they aren't treated how they want to be treated. Like, one person does not want to be told "happy birthday" and thus never…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 10:57 AM
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I think it can be more of a hassle. Women tend to be smaller and have less physical strength than men, so of course it will be more of a struggle and time consumption. Sometimes some things are hard to carry due to the sheer lack of of arm span length that would allow to grip the item in a more comfortable and balanced manner. Doing things together reduces the hassle and is a good opportunity to bond.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 07:15 AM
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mow the lawn, assemble and move furniture or repair electrical appliances. Those things tend to be needed to be done rarer than stuff like childrearing, cleaning and cooking, which tend to be tasks that you need to do everyday. Men have the right to call a woman a bad partner if she always reject helping to mow the lawn, assemble and move furniture or repair electrical appliances. When my dad asks me to help with those things, it is usually just to hold some stuff or bring some stuff. It makes t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 07:11 AM
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It usually means "express your emotions in a regulated manner". Some people express their passion by shouting and constantly cursing, which to me sounds like anger and aggression. Many times when I have asked them why are they angry about it, their answer is "I'm not angry - I'm passionate". And men oftentimes interpret a woman expressing her passion as hysteria, due to them starting to shrill/screeching and being jittery with their bodies. I personally have a hard time dealing with intense emot…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 06:56 AM
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Part of the problem is that "talking about feelings" usually means "talking about feelings in a regulated manner". A lot of men bottled up their emotions and haven't been taught to express them in a regulated manner. So when they do start to talk about their feelings they tend to do it more in a "open the floodgates" kind of a manner which is too much for another person and they drown in the flood.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 06:49 AM
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Yeah. Exposure is really important. Thus a lot of general dating advice is to get out and do stuff with other people and socialisation. How can you find another person if you never leave the house?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 06:44 AM
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Looks also communicate a lot of things about your personality. "a picture is worth a thousand words". Though looks are symbolisms and based on cultural knowledge and stereotypes the same thing can be interpreted differently. With guys A and B people here will probably go "you initiated with guy A, while you didn't initiate with guy B, thus guy A is superior!". From what I've gathered, the men here want to be desired the same way they desire women. They want to be approached, so they focus on who…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 06:35 AM
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Women’s sexuality isn’t just a broken version of men’s. Yep. Many people don't understand that the sexuality of the other gender is different from yours. And the problem tends to be deepened by porn being mainly about the male sexuality, so women portrayed there tend to show the same sexuality as men. Women not talking about their sexuality or being dismissed when they talk about it. Menstrual cycle plays a very big role in women's sexuality. I have one week a month where I'm horny, 2 weeks wher…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 06:28 AM
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Could be that they need less. I personally have a hard time being feeling attraction/arousal to a still image. I need a moving body, a gif or a video heck, even a comic might do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 06:20 AM
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Could be. Part of the problem might be that different sexes tend to find different things attractive. Like, oftentimes men can't understand how rolled up sleeves are sexy while short sleeves also show arms, but aren't as sexy as rolled up sleeves.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 06:17 AM
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I remember people oftentimes citing that 80% of women find 20% of men attractive. That stuff was taken from a survey made by okcupid made in 2010 when online dating was a niche that not many people used. And if you read the conclusion it is written there that although the women found 20% of men attractive (haven't read how they estimated the attractiveness, but my guess is by the attractiveness of the photos), they still texted men who they didn't find attractive, while the men texted only 10% o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 05:40 AM
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For me dating indicates romantic interest. And it has it's own set of pressures. I think just a hangout with someone with whom you see the potential of romance would be more casual and after getting to know them better during the hangout you might ask them for a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 05:30 AM
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Men have one set of problems and women have another set of problems. Men tend to have problems that women don't and women tend to have problems that men don't. But there are also problems that both men and women have at the core, while the aspect of the problem might he different. Like, both have problems with getting relationships: men tend to have a problem of attracting someone amd women tend to have a problem of retaining someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 05:10 AM
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If you're a western woman, not a cultural minority, didn't escape a religious sect, then the risk's incredibly low that any man ever directly dictated any significant life choice of yours. Dunno, my dad fearmongered a lot and I still am afraid to do a loth of stuff... Not to mention forcing me to do master studies and I had a hell of a mental break (screamed at people to shut the hell up at every tiny sound) when writing the master thesis. Was not allowed to walk back home alone in the dark unac…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 05:17 PM
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There are times when one persons reality clashes with the other persons reality just because they have grown differently and experienced different things. Like, their reality can be that the man pays for the first date, while my reality is each pays for what they have ordered at the first date. Not to mention that online people might argue while being on different parts of the world where things function differently. And thus their realities are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 04:57 PM
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I find it a bit "funny" when the men get enraged when women get defensive for the same reasons. And the moral enterpreneurs are fanning the flames. So we bicker instead of realising that we are doing the same thing to the other that we are accusing the other of doing. While the aspects and methods might be different - the core is the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:26 PM
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People who aren't men feel entitled to dictate what men should be, and there's even state programs for it. Women are also still fighting against men who feel entiteled to dictate what women should be. The whole gender war thing is one side trying to dictate how another side shoukd be and the other side defending themselves against it. Heck, there is even a sort of an industry to dictate what men/women should be in order to sell things to them. For me you are a man if you are a human male, went t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:16 PM
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Yeah. If feels like "i can do horrible things to you, so i should be praised for not doing horrible things to you". While not doing horrible things to others should be a baseline and not something special.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 12:55 PM
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People in general tend to have a hard time accepting the perceptions of others when it clashes with their perceptions. Especially if it challenges what they percieve as normal and how the world works.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 12:44 PM
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After nearly 2 month finally finished kingdom come deliverance 2. This post credits scene made me laugh. It shows the geniality of the plan when the company's drunkard is forcing you to wear a helmet. Here is the english dub, so that you could understand what is being said as I could not find a video of the scene that would have czech dub with english subs. I would recommend to listen to the czech dub first as it feels more right for the characters (especially when they are czech). Not to mentio…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 08:40 PM
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Yep. People usually don't notice their own behaviour and need others to point things out. Like, I'm working on talking more quieter because some co-workers have pointed it out. And me being angry at my mom for talking loud (can even physically hurt my ears) is a bit hypocritical if I myself talk loud... Similarly to how my grandma does not notice that her plates are sticky (because she washed them with cold water to be frugal, even though she can afford the hot water), while she will notice the …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 08:14 PM
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Online does not necessarily means online dating (like tinder and stuff). People can meet through online communities, online video games. There are people who met their spouses through world of warcraft.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 08:08 PM
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Provably because he is a man and wants to make decisions instead of having to accept the decisions of someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 09:34 AM
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Why not just people divide things that they are in charge of? Some people are better at one thing while crap on the other thing and vice versa. Amd yes, if a decision will impact your partner - they sould have a say in it. Like, you are buying a device that your partner will be using. You research tue best device for the job. But you don't even think about your partners comfort using it. And maybe your partner would prefer a device with some parameters that are worse, but it is actually comfotab…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 09:32 AM
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Yep. And it is funny how hurt/offended they are when we ignore their hormones. Though sometimes it is also caused by genuine lack of information. I think we should not separate boys and girls during sex ed. Boys should be informed about girl stuff amd girls should be informed about boys stuff. I was informed about boys stuff purely because i had an older brother and i read the book about male puberty that he got for his birthday because one time i was bored. There is a lack of talk about womans …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 07:52 AM
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You should learn about the menstrual cycle. The hornyness ebbs and flows. One week she is constantly thinking about jumping men (bit has enough inhibition not to act upon it), while the other week she might go "no one touches me".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 04:35 AM
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Most women need to feel 'in the mood' for their 'accelerator' to kick in. There is also the thing that women tend to be horny one week a month if they haven't screwed up their menstrual cycle with birth controls or other things. While men are horny daily. So a woman might need more to "turn her on" in the non horny period of her cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 04:33 AM
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Hiw do you know if it is sexual attraction or aesthetic attraction? And with the overuse of "sexy" to describe woman as "pretty" it is no wonder that some people might use "sexy" to describe an aesthetically attractive person.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 04:12 AM
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There is the thing of when you have a lot of expertise in a thing it all becomes instinctual and "vibes". So it is harder to explain. But you might also be aware of the limits of the manual and that it does not tell about the introcacies that you know exist through your expertise in the thing. Some things can only be learned through experience. While theory might be a good start - you also need to step outside of the theory into practical experience. Like, you can notice that a sentence of your …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:42 PM
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Examples? While the big brushstrokes can be put into a manual, there are myriads of tiny intricacies that can't. And oftentimes it is the tiny intricacies that make people avoid interacting with neurodivergent people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:27 PM
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Yes. That is why you listen to the advice and use your noggin to evaluate and adapt as things might have changed and the manual might not have instructions for unusual things. As the manual can't predict the myriads of combinations. You can get the general gist from the manual, but finetuning to your specific needs might need some trial and error. Part of the problem is that a lot of people have learned the social skills decades ago when they were babies and a lot of it through pure osmosis, so …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 11:59 AM
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But also be aware that some traits are a matter of taste. And you need to look at what traits fits your values. It can be a hindrance if you focus on traits that go against your core. A friend of mine despises AI will all their essence and their job is developing AI. Sometimes they can be insufferable with their constant "woe is me" as they choose to stay in the job because it pays a lot. So i'm mentally preparing for them to burnout again, quit job, live off savings, starving when the savings e…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 11:46 AM
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If a man is satisfied with "lucking out" into a relationship, good for him. I would not be. Luck does not eliminate the effort one has put in. Like, would you lose satisfaction in your job knowing that you weren't their first choice? That you got the job because the candidate above you rejected the job? Even if you did meet all the requirments for the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 11:37 AM
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Yes. A lot of things are abstract and depend on myriad of other factors, like, the person you are trying to attract. You won't attract a metal hater with your ability to play metal songs, but you have a bigger chance to attract a metal lover. A lot of things are introspection and can take years to achive. While people oftentimes want a magic formula. For social skills it is oftentimes recommended to start small - with platonic interactions. But some people want to jump into romantic interactions…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 11:17 AM
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Approach women and do what, say what, act like what, back out when what? This is oftentimes learned though trial and error, you develop a "feeling" for it. People usually learned those things through childhood socialisation. As every person is different and have their own limit - it is usually improv and adaptability on the spot and thus can't be distilled into concrete instructions. It's similarly abstract as a "pinch" in recipe books. Different people have different sizes of "pinch" and it tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 11:00 AM
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As a side note, maybe some woman can chime in but it's always felt as if women deep down hate the autistic men out there. Not an accusation at all, but that is the energy I feel whenever I've been around in public/social settings, or on a date that isn't going well because I forgot to/don't have the energy to artificially "normiemax". There might be a sort of an "uncanny valley" sort of a thing going on, a feeling that something is not right, but you can't identify it. Women tend to be less risk…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 10:55 AM
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There is the thing that "be yourself" actually means "be the best version of yourself" which might need some improvement upon your situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 10:34 AM
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Common advice is when you don't have enough info to give specific/individualised advice. You should not blindly follow the common advice - you should use your noggin to see the deeper stuff and tinker with the advice to fit your situation or even ignore the advice if there is nothing that can fit. "Be yourself" usually means to not pretend something that is actually opposite of you and upkeeping the lie would lead to resentment (and a heartbreak when they realise that the relationship was built …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 10:33 AM
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Yep. Even different cultures have different "hiveminds". Like, in the west it is rude not to look the ohter in the eyes while talking to them - in japan it is rude to look the other in the eyes when talking to them. And even in the "hivemind" while some things are the same - there are also smaller differences. Like, i might put bread in the fridge, while my neighbour puts it on the counter, but both of us don't cross the street when the red traffic light is on. It is because we grew up with diff…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 10:22 AM
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Less an ideal and more of what gets my attention (and maybe some mental hand fanning motions) looks wise: Smile. I'm a sucker for smiles. Body hair. Thick eyebrows. A line around the eyes, like eyeliners or darker skin around the eyes. Maybe darker features in general, like a Mediterranean. Example Nice arms. Tousled, slightly wavy hair. Has a more rocker/punk/metal style. Some rougher features. These are based solely on looks (though some personality features might have also influenced some)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 07:58 PM
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Yep. Especially when people nowadays tend to be disengaged from the world. They are mostly inside their phone or headphones and don't see what is around them. Though I'm guilty of being in an e-book reader during commute...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 07:03 PM
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Or they don't blindly jump to do what the other says. Instead they listen to what is said and then evaluate that thing based on their personality, morals and comfort. They might change some things, because they evaluated those things as being a good idea. They might tweak the suggestion to fit them better instead of trying to squeeze where they don't fit. They might ignore some stuff that they have deemed as BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 06:50 AM
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I also might be more sensitive to raised voices because my dad has a short fuse...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 06:45 AM
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Some people focus on the daily productivity. While others only care if you meet the deadlines. So you can have bad days as long as you meet the deadline.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 09:02 AM
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I would like him to dress how he would dress everyday. Don't wanna be negatively surprised if he manages to woo me, then being a total "ugh" in their everyday life. Imagine he goes to the date with a suit, while his everyday clothes when he is outside of home is in sweatpants... I have been taught that sweatpants are for sport and chilling at home - not walking around in the city. Only gopniks walk around in the city with sweatpants on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 08:23 PM
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Yes. That is what people generally mean when they say "raised voices" - that there is no falling down of the voice. One raises their voice, another raises their voice in return, the one raises their voice more in return (because they want to have a higher voice than the other) and now you have both sides screaming at each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 08:48 AM
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But they are not angry, they are passionate! /s And yet when women express their passion in a similar way (though them increasing the intensity of theor voice makes it more shrill) - they are called hysterical... I still don't understand how a barrage of curses and insults is showing passion... But maybe it is different socialisations as i have seen men shitting on and making fun of each other and explain that it is a sign of care...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 04:30 AM
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Normal speech has the voice rise and fall. If your voice is constantly rising without ever falling - that is a problem and a lack of emotional regulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 04:13 AM
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You can care about it while regukating your emotions. You don't need a barrage of curses (which becomes just filller that are burrying whatever you want to say) and exploding the eardrums of the other person. Oh, and when a woman uses a shrill voice (as womens voices tend to be higher pitched and thus increasing the volume of it makes it sound more shrill) to express her passion - she is called hysterical... Some video game examples for what i deem as passionate while also havibg emotional regul…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 04:06 AM
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Many times i have experienced a person is raising his voice to bellowing/shouting levels and unleashing a barrage hard of curses. When i ask them why they are angry, they answer that they aren't angry - they are passionate. And i'm flabberghasted by it. For me hard cursing and raising the voice or shouting is an expression of anger. So, it is either we are socialised to interpret differently the same thing. Or the men maybe the men are hiding their anger under passion and might not even be aware…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 04:01 AM
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Of course. And I think the employer should have a right to ask for a doctors note if the trust has been breached. Or even take away that accommodation if they see you abusing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 03:03 PM
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Women should get accommodations for their menstruations, because the monthly blood sacrifices they do is keeping the blood god from destroying the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 09:41 AM
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My accommodation is that I'm allowed to work from home during my heavy bleeding day. So I no longer need to stress if I'm gonna commute to work without bleeding through my pants. Worst case - I can just bring my laptop to the toilet and work from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 09:39 AM
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Not to mention that a woman might make up for it during an increased bout of productivity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 09:35 AM
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But, but, you don't break your toe every month. So women have an advantage because their condition is chronic and flares once a month! They get more free time than me! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 09:33 AM
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Jeaousy. "They get a free day from work so I also want a free day from work". Some people see only the free day and not the "the pain is so bad that I can't even function" part.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 09:31 AM
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Part of the misinformation is because it is still seen as a thing you should not talk about and hide it as much as possible. Heck, I only found out that my mom had periods when I started my periods and she shared her experiences to help me deal with mine... I remember a few years ago a documentary about menstruation was released in cinemas and there were many people disgusted and were saying that this kind of thing should not be shown. Sex specific "quirks" should be taught to both sexes. In sch…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 09:26 AM
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On the other hand, menstrual cycles are common and predictable. At best i know the week when it could start. But sometimes it jump a week or more back or forward. I am lucky that i have one day that is very stressfull. But i only know when that day comes a day before as it is on my second day of menstruation. I get the accomodation of being allowed to work from home on that day. It is nice when i don't have to stress about bleeding through my pants on the way to work due to the heavy bleeding. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 05:22 AM
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Yes. Men should also get some time off if they have bouts of disabling chronic pain. It's not like men are immune to chronic pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 04:57 AM
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Brcause it is seen as natural and a womans lot /s
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 04:54 AM
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Yep. I'm also the type of person that won't buy a furniture or a clothing article online without checking it out irl. The shirt might look gorgeous, but the cloth might feel disgusting to the touch. And i don't want to deal with the hassle of sending the items back.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 09:00 AM
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At the very least took the pic after pooping. No way intestines that have something in them look like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 08:00 PM
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The man getting pregnant might be a hard thing to do...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 04:15 PM
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You can just cut it out of paper, draw something, cut slits for nose, eyes, mouth and tie it with string. Though I think the fancyest ones are carved from wood.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 04:14 PM
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It's Užgavėnės! Put your masks on, go from home to home to get pancakes. Watch a fight between lardman and hempman and burn the effigy of winter. And don't forget to shout "žiema, žiema, bėk iš kiemo" (winter, winter, run away from the yard) while burning the effigy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 03:58 PM
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Because i want the person yo genuinelly want to do it and not just doing it because it will attract me. Forcing yourself to do something can lead to resentment down the road, which can lead to more bad things, which can result in a breakup. A friend of mine saying "i pretended to be interested in your thing, so why can't you pretend to be interested in my thing?" when i rejected a thing because i wasn't interested in it was the cataclysm of me ending the friendship as it made me realise that the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 08:20 AM
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Yep, you give body air and the body gives you live. For my understanding when people say that stuff is transactional it means explicit transaction, a tit for tat. I give you this now and you give me that now. Not the "I give you this, and you can give me something from this list at a later date".
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 08:35 PM
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This sub is about dating, relationships and sex. People tend to focus on aspects that are more important to them and what they themselves have experienced. So those men might have experienced dating and sexual difficulties, but haven't experienced the lack of safety. Those industires that have a lack of safety tend to also have a machismo problem. And machismo is one of the things that hinder safety questions, because you are a wuss is you try to avoid potential danger. I can't remember exactly,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 12:34 PM
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Queer people exist. Rape. There are women who lost their virginity due to rape. Older people. A 34 years old woman can have sex with a 36 years old man. The woman is still in the bracket, while the man isn't. The celibate women might be just staying at home and not getting out and thus don't go into places where they would be asked those questions or taking surveys. Remember that the surveys are "X% of people that we asked". So it can skew the results. Like, if you ask that question in a nunnery…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 11:02 AM
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Desperation? They are so desperate for a relationship that they will take anyone who gives them a modicum of attention and then walk on eggshells because they are afraid that the relationship will end. And it would probably end if the other person realises that there is actually an incompatibility. So they force themselves to be compatible at the cost of their own health/sanity. Had a similar situation with a friend who had pretended to like the things I liked just because I liked them just beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 09:52 AM
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Of course. Same way many men tend to underestimate the misogyny that women encounter in real life. Both sides have been taught to be quitet about the discrimination vased on sex they experience in real life as it tends to be dismissed and incalidated by the other side. I find it horrible when an adult man has sex with an underage woman it is called rape in the news, but when an adult woman has sex with an underaged man it isn't called rape in the news. Somehow it feels like there is a society na…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 06:31 AM
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There are quotas, which means that a woman will be prioritised for the role instead of a man and thus the women are stealing the job /s
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 04:51 AM
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Not to mention the current scandals with people in power. There were a lot of sexual abuse stuff popping up about the men in entertainment and the elite. And those people tend to be looked up to and held to higher moral standarts, so if they acrew up, the reputation can tank a lot and it can trickle down to other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 04:50 AM
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Loud minoriry influencing the silent majority is nothing new. The sane people put things in a less outrageous and entertaining ways amd thus tends to be unseen or skipped. We currently live in outrage/extremism culture, where the more extreme the thing is - the more attention it gets. So of course the collected and sane people are unseen online. Tue only avenue they have is interacting with people irl. But as people become more and more isolated from irl interactions - it is hard to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 04:43 AM
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Then you weigh the importance of being in a romantic relationship. If it is more important for you to be in a romantic relationship and thus you choose to walk on eggshells for it - then don't expect people to have a lot of sympathy for you having to walk on eggshells as it is a thing you chose to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 04:28 AM
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If women shouldn't use keyboards, then why are the keys made to fit the slender fingers of women and not the meaty fingers of men?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 10:08 PM
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In my defence: I never saw my dad clean the keyboard. We weren't rich, so if I would break the keyboard then I could not play video games as they required a keyboard. Also, dad made it sound like it is a very easy thing to break and thus I was afraid of breaking it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 09:40 PM
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Each generation tends to create their own slang for the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 09:28 PM
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Or... The people who are obsessed with breasts haven't mentally left their baby stage as they are still focused on breasts. Which are just there for milk.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 09:26 PM
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Just cleaned the keyboard that I have been using for 20 years and now it looks like new. And yes, there were a lot of crumbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 09:23 PM
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Then don't. Go find a person around whom you don't have to walk on eggshells.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 07:38 PM
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They probably think that a woman expressing what she finds attractive means that all women find it attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 07:32 PM
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Yep. And the gender war people use it to their advantage. It's a bit of a catch 22 kind of a thing. It's not that one side stops and then the other side stops. Both sides need to stop at the same time. It is a bit impossible to immediately to stop. It needs to be slowly phased out. Both sides should not give in to the provocations of the other side.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 05:15 PM
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Where do they learn it: Personal experiences, parents (it is a different level when even your own father talks badly about men), stuff they see online (which is oftentimes the loud minority), moral entrepreneurs of both sides stoke the "gender wars" fires as it brings them profit. Sometimes misandry can be like a response to misogyny. Like, when one constantly hears how women are bad and such, one might spout how men are bad to try to show that men aren't better than women and that both sides su…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 02:31 PM
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They still have to deal with men. People have also to deal with people of the opposite sex outside of romance. Not to mention that straight people do try to hit on homosexual people (especially when they don't have a big sign saying "I'm not straight").
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 02:24 PM
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There are also non-frontline positions in the military. Like, my brother didn't pass the medical check for infantry, but the medical check was good enough for him to go into the branch that deals with radio. Why do people think that only combat exists in military? Logistics is even bigger branch than combat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 11:35 AM
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Yes. I think part of the problem is that people can express love differently and thus the other side might not see that expression of love and thus think that they aren't loved. Like, if it is the basics that one is on time, i won't see being on time as a sign of love. I only might see it if you have a history of not being on time and you are putting effort into being on time with me because you love me. But that thing needs to be externalised, i need to be told that this is how you express your…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 08:06 AM
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So don't you think the women also don't stop loving the guy, but leave because she feels like he does no longer want her?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 07:59 AM
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Why would I be even remotely interested in options that come from the cesspool?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 05:30 PM
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Gender roles oftentimes have nothing to do with your abilities. Gender roles assume abilities based on the expectations set upon a gender. I don't expect a man who is shorter than me to reach an item that is higher than i can reach. But i do expect a person who is taller then me (which tends to be the majority of men, but there are also women who are taller than me) to reach it. It is less about "you are a man/woman - so do X" and more of a "you have a feature that i lack, so maybe you would be …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 11:35 AM
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I think symetry is hard to achieve as we are sexually dymorphic species where there are major biological differences between the sexes. The best we can do is compromise and cover the weakness of others with our strength. Like, the man picks up the bigger item because he has the bigger reach that makes picking up the item easier, while the woman "fishes out" an iten that fell between the fixed couch pillows because her fingers are more slender and thus fit the space between the couch pillows. We …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 09:12 AM
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The nature: i'm horny one week a month, that is how menstural cycle works. But i have enough inhibition not to act upon it. A lot of women are on birth control which makes their bodies think that they are pregnant, which puts them in a constant "meh" part of the menstural cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 06:21 AM
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There is no emotional labour if you enjoy doing it. Why would one force themselves to interact with people if they don't enjoy it? The only reason for it i see being utility. And people nowadays tend not to like getting in a relationship with people who see them as only an utility.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 06:18 AM
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plenty of people complain about themselves having done things for their partners who weren't appreciative enough, even though they never asked that such deed be done in the first place Yep. Had that with a friend. One time they went "i did all those things for you and you can't even do that thing for me". And i was like "i never asked you to to those things. I said that i liked that thing and you immediatelly jumped to do it, so i thought that you liked it yourself". Or when my parents buy somet…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 06:13 AM
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I think men should talk more about the emotional labour they do. People think things are natural and effortless if the other person does not talk how much effort it takes or the people have experienced the thing themselves. Like, my grandma oftentimes tells my dad that something can be done quickly, but when my dad goes to actually do it - it takes a lot more time, because there are things that grandma was not aware of that take up the time. Or painting a wal seems like and easy and quick thing …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 06:08 AM
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No. Infatuation tends to fade and then other stuff starts to pop up that might not be pleasant. Like, you are infatuated by a person and spend every available second with them. Then the infatuation fades and other stuff that they have abandoned during infatuation start to demand their arrention. And now you feel like they love you less because they can't give you as much attention that they did during infatuation phase. Infatuation tends to set false expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 06:00 AM
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Small talk and casual interactions are vital, but there are people who hate them and want to go deep and serious immediatelly. Small talk and casual interactions allows space for prodding around as it is a low stakes environment. There is more room for mistakes and thus you can learn. But one should also be receptive to corrections. Like, if one tells you that a specific behaviour is not accepted. People nowadays crumble at the tinyest mistake. Though i kinda understand with nowadays technology …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 05:57 AM
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People need to be taught to navigate the things, to "improv dance", to adapt to changes and new information. Some people are so set in their ways that they will always push the door and never think of pulling it if the pushing is not working. I think that is how people general interact. They do their thing, see that something is not working, tinker with their approach amd try again. I have read many people hating small talk or casual interactions. Those things are vital to understand the other p…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 05:49 AM
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Even if you do follow a strategy guide, you can still risk failure. Because if the oponent does things a bit differently (as enemies don't behave identical every time as there is some rng involved and enemies react to the player and the player does not behave identical as they can't always make an exactly one metre step to the side) then you need to adjust. Not to mention that the strategy guide provides one way and video games oftentimes have multiple ways to do things. There is also the thing …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 05:41 AM
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Though there is a difference between it being a general rule and you doing it because you know that it matters to the other person. Like, i don't give a crap about birthdays, but i will text "happy birthday" to a froend because it matters to them. There can't be a relationship without some sort of obligation. But it needs to stem from the people that are in that relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 05:30 AM
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Not to mention the biases. If you look for women complaints - don't be surprised that you will see trashy women complaining. You need to also look on the other side and look what the trashy men complain about. And the trashy people will be seen first as we are in outrage culture, so the more outrageous the statement is the more engaged it is and thus it will he on top. Not to mention that they tend to have clickbaity names.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 10:36 PM
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that women and men disrespect each other in different ways is blinding you to the reality that they have a ton of shit thrown their way but it doesn't register with you because it isn't the same shit That is the majority of the problems on this subreddit - people can't fathom that the same thing is expressed in differeht ways. Like, 100 options you aren't interested in is the same as 0 options. But some people here argue that one has it better if they have 100 options they aren't interested in w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 10:31 PM
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Yeah, they would probably need a friend who would randomly and without them saying anything film them. If they are aware that they are being filmed - it will become awkward and unnatural/performative. Similar when taking photos consciously.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 07:32 PM
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It's like some people aren't aware that people experience the same thing differently. Some people lack understanding of "the theory of mind". I have read that autistic people oftentimes have a problem with it. And looking at how many people here want to have things explained like it is a pcomputer programm or an instruction manual - it would not surprise me that they probably are neurodivergent.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 06:48 PM
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I liked how in "the wheel of time" the men oftentimes complained that women are stubborn and don't know what is good for them, while the women oftentimes complained that men are stubborn and don't know what is good for them. Both sides percieve things differently and it is oftentimes the result of different socialisations, biological differences and what aspects they find important. Both sides complain that the other side does the same thing at the core. It is just that the wrapper is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 06:43 PM
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Men do that thing too. It is a human thing and not a gendered thing. People just aren't aware that different people percieve the same thing differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 06:38 PM
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"Common sense" usually means "i can't explain that thing because it is obvious to me". For one person it is common sense to keep the bread in the fridge, while for another person it is common sense to keep the bread on the counter. What is common sense depends on the surroundings you grew up in and where you learned those things. For me it is common sense that the chair is a feminine noun, but for a german it is common sense that the chair ir a masculine noun.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 06:36 PM
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I can complain that it is cold, and the guy will look confused. A guy can complain that it is hot and i will look confused. A lot of things depend on personal perceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 06:28 PM
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Critiques usually are "this is not good because of these reasons, this could make it better". Saying that something is bad without any elaboration does absolutely nothing. Like, when people say that the acting is bad. Why do you think the acting is bad and how could it be improved?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 06:24 PM
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Human language is full of vague words and a lot of things depend on personal perception. Like, "tasty", some people find pineapple on pizza tasty, while others find it disgusting. Humans have a lot of words that express abstract stuff. Like, love, honour, justice, loyalty, beauty, abuse, etc. You won't find an atom of beauty or justice. It's a creation of our minds and it is vague because it depends on personal perception. It is especially visible in cultural differences. What in one country is …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 06:21 PM
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Grape at knifepoint? Am i gonna be legally punished if i cut up some grapes for a salad?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 05:59 PM
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We can post gifs even here. So I don't think allowing gifs on OLD is impossible
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 03:24 PM
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They see action, movement. A still image can only be aesthetic to me. I need to see the body in motion to be turned on. Maybe this could explain. A still image gives 1 point. You need to collect 100 points in order to turn on. The same image seen multiple times still gives 1 point. A moving body produces multiple images per second. So, depending on the fps, you can rack up the 100 points easily with the moving image. Oh, and there are also the things of voice, smell and touch. There are more sen…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 09:07 AM
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Different women like different things. And mens criteria are also vague. There is also the thing that it is usually a sum of myriads of tiny things, so you can't even isolate one feature as it might lose attractiveness when combined with other features. People aren't computer programms. People run on vagueness and a lot of subconscious things. People oftentimes subconsciously compromise bit by bit till they find a common ground. I think one of the problems for neurodivergents is that a lot of ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 07:15 AM
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Lack of symmetry and proportions does tend to be unattractive. Like, buff top with stick legs.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 06:56 AM
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Same reason I don't understand why boobs are attractive. They are just lumps on the chest.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 10:04 PM
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I think it is connected with doing things with the arms.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 10:02 PM
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If you agree with the premise, then the conclusion will become irrefutable. For some reason women — by en large — have a really hard time understanding this. I’ve seen it both in real life and on this subreddit time and time again The problem is not that they don't understand the reasoning - they disagree with a premise, which then renders the reasoning moot. I disagree that looks, money and status is what is making a man attractive. For me it is more looks, eloquence, confidence, positivity, co…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 10:00 PM
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In soviet times some places were giving the husbands salary to the wives, because the husbands got on a "black list" and weren't trusted not to drink away the salary before it reached the household...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 09:48 PM
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I think it is a mistake both men and women do: get swept by the "honeymoon phase", It is new, it is exciting and you sort of hyperfocus on the other person. But one the "honeymoon phase" ends - you return to your normal energy levels and the stuff you had abandoned started to demand attention. And then the other person thinks that you lost interest in them because you are no longer as enthusiastic as you were in the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 09:43 PM
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I can imagine having a boyfriend might be percieved as "cringe" if you don't shut up about it and only talk about him. It can also be seen as creating a problem just to sell you the solution to the problem they have created. Like, "having a boyfriend is "cringe" because he is human and can make embarrasing stuff. Here, use our AI boyfriend who is perfect and will never embarras you.".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 07:53 PM
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Why would i want to go into that cestpool?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 07:46 PM
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It's called a housewife. That useful thing women did, that they now refuse. Hard, deadly physical labour and being meatshields in was was what men did. I don't see men running in droves to those position. They all try to get a cushy office job. Women also did work in factiories. During war they did espionage (as i remember a woman was the one who cracked a german code), there were women pilots (russian night witches), also smuggled stuff for the resistance. Civilisation has been created through …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 06:16 PM
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You know that flaccid penises exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 04:46 PM
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Why should a person who has one deemed negative trait and deemed positive trait being compared to a person who has both of those traits as negative/positive?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 01:00 PM
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No shit. Person who has one attractive quality is being outshined by a person who has multiple attractive qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 11:35 AM
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About clothing. Women have fought to be able to wear pants at work (and pants in general). Maybe men should also fight and make a fuss about being forced to wear outfits that aren't climate appropriate. I remember busdrivers in france wearing skirts as a protest because women could wear skirts while men were forced to wear full pants. Go and protest the nonsense dress code. There will be pushback, there will be mocking. Women endured it to reach their goal and nirmalising women in pants, men can…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 09:39 AM
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The female form is an object of beauty, the male form is an object of utility. I'm attaching the images of artists works into a database. There are a lot of full nude women. The majority "nude" men either have a sort of a thong or their groin in peniless and testicleless (like a doll). Weirdly the majority of fully nude males i have seen were pre-teen boys in religious paintings (mainly as cherubs). Heck, even in movies there are fully nuse women, but the nude men are filmed in a way that hide t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 09:00 AM
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Having sex does not make you a man. Maturity and responsibility is what makes a child an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 06:06 AM
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They do absolutely nothing and then complain that the situation hasn't changed. Had a friend who constantly told me that he is uncomfortable that the neighbours can see into his flat. I had suggested multiple things: ask the landlord to install curtains (or get permission to install them yourself), tape dark paper on the window, put a shelf in front of that window. You know what he did? Absolutelly nothing and still complained about being uncomfortable that the neighbours can see into his flat. …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 05:58 AM
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Women contributed to all of that. All of that was built with the cooperation of men and women. Heck, a woman wrote the code that sent men to the moon. The first programmers were women. If we go by sexist stereotypes, women made sure that the men have been raised, fed, clothed, taken care of, survived. So, without women you would not even have all that infrastructure.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 05:52 AM
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Yep. Take advice with a grain of salt and don't blindly follow it. We, random people from all over the world, do not know the tiny intricacies of your life and stuff you aren't even aware of. Our advice is based on what you have told us and our own experiences/surrounding.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 05:38 AM
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Sometimes the "one, seemingly small mishap" is actually the straw that broke the camels back.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 05:34 AM
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Also, a lot of movies and video games that show nudes are showing full female nude, while the nude male is positioned in a way that their penis is always hidden.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:33 PM
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Sometimes a man looks gorgeous, but becomes repulsive once they open their mouth and the verbal bile goes out. Sometimes a man is "meh", but you get smitten once they open their mouth and the eloquence flows.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:31 PM
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You might get some suggestion that would actually be good. But you also need to sieve through the bs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:29 PM
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A lot of photos do tend to be rather neutral. Like they are being taken for an official document. So they do tend to look rather bland and do nothing to turn on the imagination.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:28 PM
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Thick eyebrows, body hair, joyful smile, a bit of darkness around the eyes (like eyeliner or eyeshadows, lakes the eyes more noticeable).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:26 PM
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Playing around with the character creator of Nioh 3 demo. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:22 PM
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I have heard a term that might fit "moral entrepreneur". Every side has some.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:20 PM
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Have you considered that maybe I don't have thousand of options? Or that the men whom might be interesting to me are already paired up?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 06:10 PM
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Here is the thing, you will always be a child to your parents. My 89 years old grandma still treats her 64 years old son as a child. So if you are an adult and behave in a childish way to another adult - it is very hard to overwrite the perception that you aren't mature. And mature people want to interact with other mature people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 08:02 AM
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Womens naked body is more normalised outside of sex. I attach artworks to a database. The full nudes i see are either women or pre-teen boys (mainly in religious paintings and oftentimes as cherubs). The rare male nudes that I see are very rarely full nude and they tend to not have their penises drawn. Either the model wears something like a thong or a penisless groin is drawn (like in video games when you strip a male character nude and their model does nit have a penis) A naked woman is more n…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 06:27 AM
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Because people rarely complain about having 0 options. They usually complain about having 0 options while at the same time saying that women have it easy because they have plenty of options. And then the women try to inform the person that having bad options is similar to having 0 options, as the end result is the same - you don't have anyone you would want to go on a date with. I don't have it easier because i have various fishes, while they have none. I have a severe fish allergy, so i can't e…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 05:48 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 07:13 PM
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If you want a woman to mommy you, then it does give "child" vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:58 PM
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Even if you look like an adult, if you behave like a child - you will probably be percieved as a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 11:53 AM
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The inequality is of options by gender , options for romance for sex and for trying relationships just a swipe away . Gender bent version of what men here tend to say when women complain about their lack of options "stop chasing stasies". Being served a buffet and it not being to your liking is luxury to men who compete for scraps You focus on quantity. Being served at a buffet where there are only a few scraps that are actually edible and competing with other women for it is not different to me…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 12:48 PM
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Or someone who didn't grow in that environment and hadn't experienced thise things might see it as trivial. Sometimes you need lived experience in order to understand the depth of those things. And sometimes that thing on it's own is trivial, but it is connected to another things which makes that thing not so trivial after all. For one it might be trivial because they have experienced worse. While for another person that thing might be the worst thing that happened in their lives. Perspective ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 11:02 AM
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What inequality is in dating nowadays? From what i see it is the "the person i'm attracted to is not attracted to me" and both sexes experience it. So it is equal. Just because a woman has a bigger pool of people who are attracted to them, but the woman isn't attracted to them does not mean that it is unequal. The size of the buffet does not matter if you can't find anything to eat at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:44 AM
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Are they really options if they aren't interested in them? Men also have a lot of option, but they tend to be invisible to them because they aren't interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:40 AM
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Depends on the critique and how it is worded. You can criticise their standards and say that they are unrealistic or they will have a hard time finding a man like that. It is also important to criticise the specific person or groups of person (like, women who have these standarts) instead of criticising the big group of which the majority might not even have those standarts. There is also the thing that sex to men tends to be more important than to women, so dismissing their complaints about not…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:31 AM
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Those who didn't react negativelly probably didn't comment and thus people are only aware of the negative and thus thinknthat there is only the negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 06:14 AM
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Luck. A lot of relationships start due to rng. Being at the right place at the right time and stumbling onto the right person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:10 AM
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What were the criteria for the ranking? The women reacted negativelly because their dating experiences there were negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:08 AM
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I watched some out of curiosity. I think it is a more of a immersion thing. You imagine yourself being that person and feeling those feelings. You imagine touching yourself that way (or maybe even mirror them and touch yourself the same way, so it's in a way a "guided masturbation" which might help you explore yourself). No one asked, but i can masturbate while being fully clothed. So maybe seeing the acts can help "touch" those parts without actually touching them. There is also the thing that …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 04:32 AM
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They have some mental qualities that I lack, so I try to learn from exposure.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 02:47 PM
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For me personally it is not annoying being asked to get something from the kitchen when I'm going to the kitchen. It is annoying when I have to get up in order to do that, while the other person could just get up and do it themselves...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 02:46 PM
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But why are so many people desiring singleness now over relationships? Look at the media that we currently have. It is a lot of outrage and fearmongering. Corporations made being single too comfortable. People no longer want to surrender some of their stuff for the other in order to compromise. People are so overworked that they don't even have the energy to interact with other people. Also look at stuff like companion AI. Also, maybe the baby boom was just an anomaly and the tanking birthrate i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 02:42 PM
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People who like to hang out with each other provide each other company.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 02:31 PM
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Peace could be achieved if both sides agree to close the lid!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 02:30 PM
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The biological wiring is the survival of the species. So biologically if looks/height seem to get and advantage for survival and continued procreation of the species - then these are the traits that people might go for. Men also go for looks and height. I have heard a lot of men being creeped out if the woman is over 180.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 11:36 AM
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For me the sounds do have a effect...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 08:04 PM
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Aesthetic attraction does not mean sexual attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 08:02 PM
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And looking what kind of pictures oftentimes there are on dating apps, a lot of mens pictures are like for a formal document. As neutral/empty as humanly possible. Which does not give anything for the fantasy to latch on and create some kind of a movie. But there is also a danger in the fantasy as it might not meet reality and then you are dissapointed they didn't meet your expectations (fantasy).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 07:58 PM
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that contrast is probably the really hard part Definetly. Especially when it happens rather fast and others don't have the "mental prep time". Wpuld ge easier if they would know that it will happen in a week and for what ammount of time it will be. But life does not work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 12:54 PM
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It's everywhere besides muslim or african countries lmao Dunno, i see plenty of men and women respecting each other in real life. On the internet it tend to be a shit show, but it is fueled by outrage cukture that gets the most attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 07:07 AM
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There is still the biology of sex=pregnancy for women. Pregnancy means body changes (some can even screw you up for the rest of your life), taking care of a child. Heck, even abandoning part of yourself for the sake of a child as your life will jever be the same. Not to mention the menstrual cycle which oftentimes creates a small window in a month that makes women horny enough to even want sex. So yeah, the deficiency is that tue men don't get pregnant, but the women do. Women might be more incl…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:59 AM
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What about trying to be in their vicinity at every possible opportunity?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:46 AM
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I think it is more that the libido is more time sensitive. It is tied to menstrual cycle. I have one horny week (but i have enough inhibition not to act on it), while the other three weeks are "meh". Sometimes it is as simple (does not mean easy) as just being at the right place at the right time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:45 AM
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People are nowadays so used to instant gratification that they have forgotten that things take time. And so things have sped up to such speeds that you will burn yourself out trying to keep that pace.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:41 AM
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Things should start with trust, but be aware of breaking trust. You should prove that you can be trusted when you have already broken the trust. Though one also should earn the degree of trust. It'a not like you are trusted with millions out of nowhere. You are usually trusted with smaller sums at first and when you have shown that they can trust you with smaller sums, then they can start to trust you with bigger sums.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:38 AM
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Do they know those men? How do they know how much early sexual interest has the woman shown her exes? Or maybe it is the low self-esteem that is telling them that the ex got more early sexual interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:19 AM
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Do they know those men? How do they know how much early sexual interest has the woman shown her exes? Or maybe it is the low self-esteem that is telling them that the ex got more early sexual interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 05:52 AM
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From what i see the situatiin oftentimes is "one person makes a general statement about their group, then another member of the group does not behave like the general statement about the group that you have heard amd thus you think the group is lying to you about the statement one person made". This is why i tend to hate all incompasing generalisations as expections do exist and their existance does not necesserily mean that the person making the generalisation was lying. I prefer to say "some/m…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 05:49 AM
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You have left your previous partner, so that sayw something. But that does not mean that you don't cherish the good things that there were. But you should also remember that reaching some levels might need time and effort. While your ex has learned that you like that specific chocolate on a specufic occasion. Your new partner hasn't learned it and needs to ve taught and given time to internalise it. Some people expect that the new person already knows the thing just hecause the ex knwe it. Some …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 04:58 AM
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Being a woman should probably be classified as a mental health issue. From a womans point of view: shouldn't being a man also probably be classified as a mental health issue? Men and women tend to percieve the world differently due to experiences and how they were raised (and maybe some hormonal stuff as i have read an interesting theory that mens hormonal cycle is takes a day and is daily, while a womans hormonal cycle takes a month and is monthly). And people tend to normalise their experience…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 04:54 AM
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but it sucks when people trick themselves into thinking they'll be ok with it when you're very honest and communicative but then realize it's different from what they think. You see things differently when you haven't experienced it. There are some key deep and subtoe things that you don't know without practical experience. So you might think that you can deal with it - but when you actually have to deal with it you realise that you actually can't deal with it. Like it seems like repainting a wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 04:48 AM
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If you just start to flirt immediatelly out of first contact - probably. But casual interactions with a smile can warm up a parsons disposition towards you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 04:42 AM
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Seems like the men where you are from have lost the respect of the women. And one can lose respect if they don't respect other or even themselves. Simps tend to lose respect because they aren'r respecting themselves. And it is hard to respect when they are disrespectfull towards you. And looking on the internet and seeing what popular discourse about women is (women bad) it's no wonder women might become a bit antagonistic towards tue men and men also become antagonistic seeing constantly on the…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 04:38 AM
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Most men are attracted to women they're fucking lol. And then they bail after the fuck... Heck, men also use term like "butherface" and talk about fuckable body, but an ugly face and about putting on a bag on the face before fucking. Most men and male bodies don't invoke sexual attraction, and more than often invoke sexual disgust in women regardless of their hormonal state I don't think the bodies themselves invokes disgust. It's the unsolicited dick pics. And yes, a static body (like in a pict…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:01 PM
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I think community does play a role in pairing up. They can help veto a person, they can set two people who are comapible with each other. A "middleman" who knows both people can help us see things which we have needed to spend a lot of time to see. They save time. They are also staking their own reputation and trust, so they are careful whom to reccommend. While nowadays we are losing those networks and hace to do all the work on our own.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 06:23 PM
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Men often time talk about "post nut clarity" where they get disgusted by the woman. Maybe it's less male attraction and more "male hornyness" that makes them go for nearly every woman? While women have a smaller window of "female hornyness" which can be also made nearly non existent due to birth control changing the menstrual cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 06:17 PM
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Perfectionism does ruin things and it can stemm from being berated for efen a tinyest mistakes. I think a lot of girls have been taught to people please and it can lead to burnout and extreme neuroticism. Hypervigilance can be exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 04:20 PM
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Balls in the past were oftentimes to network and people of both sexes if they were unmarried were going there to find a spouse. In feasts we also had communities that tried to set up single people together.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 04:09 PM
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There is a natural happy smile and a forced or anxious smile. There is an automatic smile and a manual smile. Like, i feel like my lip corners go up on their own when i interact with other people. There are different types of smiles.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:49 PM
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Yep. There are communication differences. But i think they are more socialised than innate. I remember being berated for speaking manners that my brother wasn't berated for and vice versa. I have seen softspoken men and blunt men. While i also saw blunt women and softspoken women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:45 PM
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there are way more hot women than men. I've seen a lot more attractive men than woman, but it might be that i am attracted to men. Then on top of that you have good looking men who as soon as they open their mouth go from a 9 to a 4. Yep. Have many of those experiences. It's like when they poen their mouths and verbal bile comes out of it, which is a turnoff. But there are also rare occasions when an "meh" looking man opens his mouth and you get smitten...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:34 PM
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The biggest dating problem is "the person i'm interested in is not interested in me". And sometime there is also "i'm not into the person who is into me". Heterosexual women are into men. They might not be into a specific type of man, but that does not mean that they aren't into men. Mutual attraction is hard to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:28 PM
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I only notice that it is time to dust when i see dust bunnies...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:09 AM
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I imagine sometimes there is a difference in perception. Like, for you it seems clean and thus it does not need to be cleaned yet, while for the spouse it might seem dirty and thus in need of cleaning. And it is hard to motivate oneself to do a job that does not need to be done yet (from your perspective). It feels like doing for the sake of doing, so a waste of effort is ot does not have a purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:02 AM
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Could be that you know how to do things and thus they won't have to do things for you. There is also the general admiration when someone is proficient in a thing that you suck at. If a pair is a team then it is very good when the team memebers can cover each others weaknesses. Makes life more simple. Like, if your spouse is a handyman - you don't need to spend time finding a good repairman and you don't have to wait long (as you might wait weeks for a good repairman as they are busy). Your spuse…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 05:58 AM
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Whoever wants it more and is the faster one to initiate.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 05:56 AM
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I would. It's not the men's fault that she has criterias that they do not meet. She should then either change the criteria or do better research in where to find the men based on her criteria.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 05:46 PM
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Hurt people tend to rarely be rational...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:11 AM
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I agree with the emasculation feeling. I have read the term "patriarchal masculinity" which describes a type of masculinity which is afraid of anything feminine. So emasculation (even a percieved one) can be devastating for those people. Most men's problems will not be solved through community as community often exists to ask something of them, not to give something to them. Communities tend to be give and be given. But it is also important to ask. Some people are hyperindependent and won't ask …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:08 AM
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By conscoously making a picture you are already fabricating stuff. Dunno about you, but i stop acti g natural the moment i'm aware that there is a picture of me being taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 03:55 AM
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