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| 2 | The Two Defining Traits of Being a Man: Competence plus StrengthLadies love a man they can look up to! | /r/seduction | 14/01/21 04:11 AM |
| 1 | Mental Strength Training - Rejecting WomenI remember when I got to the point where it was me rejecting girls... Yeah, doesn't feel good :/ | /r/seduction | 24/05/20 09:34 PM |
| 1 | I need a little adviceOk, thanks for clearing that up my man. Few observations, just to keep in mind for future convos. (Don't need to post a reply here, think of them as coaching prompts): When you apologized (TWICE!) did you legitimately feel sorry, or remorse? Or did you just feel like you should say sorry? There's nothing wrong with apologizing, but make it count when you do it. Sometimes you can take your own fuck up and turn it to your favor. (For example, after implying something phallic and getting a less t… | /r/seduction | 04/05/20 04:52 AM |
| 1 | ListeningSet your boundaries, do it with your body language. She starts talking about something that she shouldn't be, (eg. other guys, trivial problems, talking just because she thinks you wouldn't interrupt her, etc.) break your eye contact. Look over your shoulder. Up at the clouds. Check your watch. If she doesn't take a hint, interrupt her with your own contribution to the conversation. If she redirects back to the topic, verbally tell her that you're not interesting in hearing that. ("Look, that so… | /r/seduction | 04/05/20 04:36 AM |
| 1 | I need a little adviceWhat do you mean came off as "creepy again?" Have you noticed a pattern in your behavior? Care to share? Give us some context, maybe some of us older guys can help you out Concrete actionable advice: Make a joke, and end the conversation. If you keep going with her, the convo may seem forced. Leave her with a little smile, and bow out. Less is more. Make sure your "creepiness" isn't the thing she remembers when you start DMing again tomorrow or whenever. | /r/seduction | 04/05/20 04:25 AM |
| 1 | In love with my bestfriend.That being said - general rule of thumb is to wait one year after getting clean to get into a relationship. I've been there- that first feeling of real human connection feels amazing after spending so much time disconnected and numb. Keep focusing on staying clean, and dump those loser friends of yours. You're not ready for a relationship yet. You will be one day, and believe you me, it will be worth it! | /r/seduction | 30/04/20 12:59 AM |
| 1 | In love with my bestfriend.... Probably the wrong sub for this, bro. | /r/seduction | 30/04/20 12:53 AM |
| 1 | Always keep it wrapped up with one night stands guys! My friend has found out the hard wayHaha no I really like it!!! When I have kids and I teach them how to talk to people they are attracted to, I'll probably be using this same quote 👍👍 | /r/seduction | 05/03/20 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Always keep it wrapped up with one night stands guys! My friend has found out the hard wayNah man, I agree with your point, but your use of "dear" just makes you sound Karen. | /r/seduction | 05/03/20 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Always keep it wrapped up with one night stands guys! My friend has found out the hard wayDamn, lots of wisdom in this answer!! xD | /r/seduction | 05/03/20 07:03 PM |
| 2 | When did you start to bloom?Hmmm... I'd say in relationship to Seduction... Don't do it for the Ego. A lot of young guys start out in Seduction, and see women as objects to conquer. Don't try to get her number, just to see if you can get it. Don't go in for the kiss, just because you think you should. Don't persue a girl, just because she's into you. Seduction is emotional, and it should be fun for both parties involved. Know your demographics, get good at what you do, and who you are. With my international background in l… | /r/seduction | 12/02/20 08:39 PM |
| 5 | When did you start to bloom?I'd say I started "budding" at 22, and now as a 28 year old, I'm the most desirable I've ever been. Built a lot of identity capital, and developed true self confidence. I'm at the point in my life, where it's actually me that is turning girls down, and not the other way around. Lots of painfully awkward growth experiences these last 6 years... But, my future Wife is worth it!!! | /r/seduction | 12/02/20 11:24 AM |
| 3 | How to just be yourself/not try to seduce?Yeah, I'll disagree with that one. I work with children, and even as young as 5 years old, you can tell some kids were just born quiet, hesitant, and cautious. You can learn to be more outgoing over time, but some people are just more genetically predisposed to shyness. | /r/seduction | 10/02/20 10:58 PM |
| 51 | Do language barriers prevent good relationships?Yeah, it's a big barrier. Not only language, but cultural differences as well. It's a lot like that movie The Little Mermaid. Even if they spoke the same language... One of them is human, and the other is a damn mermaid!!! The relationship you have with this person may be physical, and fun, and emotional, but ultimately it will also be superficial, or at least not as potentially deep as it could be with the full range of communicative tools available. That being said, dating this girl would be a… | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 11:59 AM |
| 1 | I felt chemistry with a girl for the first time recently, and the second time I saw her it was all gone. Advice/why?If the chemistry was there before, it's probably still is. Just like physical exercise, you have to warm up before hand to get in the zone. Just talk with her, let her get comfortable with you again, and the chemistry will show itself. Best of luck, and hope you too have fun together! | /r/seduction | 27/10/19 09:57 PM |
| 2 | I was initially attracted to this community because it taught “I’m not good enough” was just a limiting belief that kept you from a good dating life. But after approaching hundreds of girls & getting rejected countless times, I feel like maybe that belief was right all along. Anyone else feel this?You're correct. But. If a man lets his sexual urges and desires (an emotion) dictate how he lives his life, I see a man who is mentally weak, and not in control of himself. Chicks... Don't dig that. Perfectly natural to feel an urge or emotion, but you can't just dwell on it. Strong men use that urge as fuel for positive action. It's a source of power, and chicks dig powerful men. | /r/seduction | 07/10/19 03:44 AM |
| 5 | I was initially attracted to this community because it taught “I’m not good enough” was just a limiting belief that kept you from a good dating life. But after approaching hundreds of girls & getting rejected countless times, I feel like maybe that belief was right all along. Anyone else feel this?Haha... Damn dude, that was cringey to read. If you judge your life's quality, by the ability to get women to touch your dick, then I'd say you do indeed have a pretty starved existence, and no ammount of female attention is going to fix THAT problem xD | /r/seduction | 07/10/19 03:33 AM |
| 6 | How do you get over a woman losing attraction to you?Write yourself a letter, addressed to her. Basically, affirm that the "relationship" is over. It helps to be petty and angry in this letter, really letting your darkside shine. Villanize her if you have to, just to put some psychological distance between yourselves. List out all the logical reasons why it wouldn't work out either, to get the whole brain involved. After the catharsis, I would reccomend destroying the letter. Trust me... Whatever you wrote is going to be super cringe worthy, and y… | /r/seduction | 29/04/19 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Trust your fucking gutDroppin' TRUTH BOMBS! Right on brother, way to be authentic! | /r/seduction | 01/03/19 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Some notes about how I get consistently laid when out on the townNo, YOU ARE! | /r/seduction | 15/02/19 09:58 PM |
| 17 | It's Valentine's Day! Get out there and talk to girls!I did this back when I was in University, asked random girls on campus to be my Valentine. You should have seen how their faces lit up, they were so happy to have been asked :) Go out there, take the initiative like a man, and make some lucky girl's day! | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 09:05 PM |
| 0 | There's No Way Around It: 'Good Game' Is Essential For A Successful MarriageRight on!! It's been a while since I read anything about using game to attract your ideal life partner, thanks for sharing! | /r/seduction | 04/11/18 07:46 PM |
| 2 | "Do not go chasing butterflies, tend to your own garden and the butterflies will come."Jesus Christ, how dumb are the people shitting on this quote? Thanks for sharing man. This is the essence of Seduction. | /r/seduction | 26/10/18 03:20 PM |
| 3 | How do I ask a girl out if she is always with her friends?Literally, just say hi to her, do some small talk with her group, and then ask if you can't talk to her in private for a minute. If she's willing to leave her friend out of earshot for a few minutes, cool. Ask her out. If she won't leave her friend... It was probably going to be a no anyway. | /r/seduction | 09/10/18 02:32 PM |
| 1 | How fucked am I?It might sound fucked up, but a lot of people will feel more comfortable around you, because of your "condition" (if you want to call it that- it just is what it is.) Your legs humanize you. They show you're imperfect, which actually lets other people be their imperfect selves around you. That can be greatly liberating, especially around young women, who have been trained to look, act, and be percieved as perfect their entire lives. The only way you'll be fucked, is if you're self conscious abou… | /r/seduction | 07/09/18 11:04 AM |
| 6 | Where can I learn social dynamics for handling and gaining respect from men?Show your teeth. Don't take any shit. Respect others, and be worthy of respect yourself. You ever been surrounded by a pack of street dogs at night? The moment you retract in the slightest, and those dogs think they have the upper hand- you're done. Same with people (men or women) who are trying to dominate you. Physically, emotionally, mentally, doesn't matter. Once you give in an inch, it's over. Best thing I've found, is to intentionally break rapport. Don't give into their frame by playing a… | /r/seduction | 14/07/18 01:48 AM |
| 1 | [27M] Can you guys give me advice on how to be a man? I want to change my mindset"I really would like someone to talk to about it, but don't feel comfortable talking about it with my friends." Talk about it. It's fine to feel embarrassed or akward about sexuality, but if you keep it all inside, these feelings of doubt will eventually turn to shame, and that will eat you from the inside out. No man should be ashamed of his sexuality, or his masculinity. Pick a few friends you trust enough to be vulnerable with. Talk about the difficult topics. Ask for advice. And props to you… | /r/seduction | 29/04/18 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Good answer to the “wow your short” shit testYou teach people how to treat you. If you want to break your frame and let your bros tear into you, or let women push your buttons ("shit test you") that's fine by me. I'm, personally, just not into that. You want to engage me, engage me with respect. Results speak for themselves. | /r/seduction | 12/04/18 03:26 AM |
| 5 | Good answer to the “wow your short” shit testTotally agree with you dude. Why would someone worth spending time with say something like that? It's the equivalent of saying "Wow, you've got a big nose." I don't think I'd call her out verbally, but I would definitely say "Uhhh... Thanks?" While giving her a quizzical look that basically says "What the fuck did you just say?" | /r/seduction | 12/04/18 02:20 AM |
| 6 | Often get told by Tinder dates that I'm "way hotter in person than in my pics", how do I take better pics if I'm about as photogenic as a dry dog turd?I have the solution, because I too am hot as fuck, but photographs don't necessarily validate that. All in the mind's eye, baby ;) Take a video instead of photos. You can use a camera phone, or a real camcorder. Make sure you're taking 1080HD or 4K if you can. Set it up on a tripod, or just hold it self style. Make a lot of different faces. Pose your body different ways, play around with the framing of the shot. From there, simply upload the video to your computer, and go through it frame by fra… | /r/seduction | 17/05/17 05:23 AM |
| 17 | I got really high last night and this idea came into my head regarding physical attraction and confidenceI like what you're putting down! Especially: "The man who doesn't value looks as much as personality is the one who will get the hottest girls. The man who is blind to physical appearance will find the best woman." As you progress, you'll find yourself not even dealing with shit tests anymore, and (myself personally) have found that looks are just an added bonus: real people become more beautiful the deeper your relationship becomes with them. (PS: I'm in the Wife Game, so my view on this may be… | /r/seduction | 20/03/17 07:47 PM |
| 2 | "i don't have time for your pettiness today"Fuck yeah dude! How many people refuse to acknowledge these things about themselves? Now that you understand the problem, you can work on a solution. Best of luck to you, brother! Welcome to the path of the Gamma Male! | /r/seduction | 28/02/17 09:05 PM |
| 1 | So... how do you guys avoid getting girlfriends all the time?Straight up tell them, preferably within the first hour of a good interaction. But a man, don't lead them on. If they're into it, cool. If not, that's OK too. | /r/seduction | 06/08/15 04:13 AM |
| 1 | I read "Models" one year ago and it really changed my life for the better. What other books would you recommend?If you enjoyed "Models," I'd check out "The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism" by Olivia Fox Cabane. | /r/seduction | 20/07/15 02:11 PM |
| 3 | Everyone has their own special way of flirting whats yours?I'm the all American Boy Next Door. You want me. You can't have me. | /r/seduction | 15/08/14 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Don't feel "cool" or "good enough", constantly comparing myself to othersIt's the difference between Western "Individualistic Culture" and Eastern "Collective Culture." (See Table 4) http://www.ncset.org/publications/essentialtools/diversity/partIII.asp Imagine that everything you thought you knew about "being cool" (eye contact, body language, mindset) actually made you look like a huge dumb idiot. Welcome to being a Westerner in the East, or an Easterner in the West. What works here doesn't work there, and vice versa. | /r/seduction | 15/08/14 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Having a hard time closing while traveling.Keep in mind, French and Spanish men have earned their reputation as master lovers. These girls are used to guys who do NOT give up, EVER. | /r/seduction | 15/08/14 04:27 AM |
| 1 | How to not be conscious during eye contact?If you think it's creepy, your body language will make it so. If you think it's too intense, your body language will make it so. If you think it's friendly, your body language will make it so. Eventually, it will become habit, and you'll feel awkward when you're NOT making eye contact. Been there friend. Just keep at it. | /r/seduction | 15/08/14 03:18 AM |
| 19 | Don't feel "cool" or "good enough", constantly comparing myself to othersHere's an exercise for you. Get out a pen and paper. Or a word document. Do it. Now. Write down everything about yourself you think is "cool." Don't focus on anything someone else would say is cool. Only write down what matters to YOU. Playing an instrument, nailing free throws, Level 45 Pure Mage on Skyrim (If you legitimately think that's cool!) You might not write down to incredibly much. And that's ok. This is our baseline. Next. Think about the raddest dude in the world. You don't know him.… | /r/seduction | 15/08/14 03:13 AM |
| 5 | How do you show enough interest with body language, but not come off as over invested?Door to door sales. Approach anxiety DESTROYED. | /r/seduction | 13/08/14 02:20 AM |
| 3 | "Out Alpha-ing" an alpha maleWhaddup. I've actually been doing some research on this question for the better part of a year. Here's some of the things that have worked for me: Treat him as an equal. Being an alpha, it becomes tiring of people always looking to you for validation, to make decisions, and on the opposite end of things, relentless flattery and idolization. Treating him as an equal, already he's like "Whoa! Someone I can connect with!" Group dynamics are key. If you're the new guy in a group, a lot of times, "fa… | /r/seduction | 03/08/14 12:28 AM |
| 1 | I always forget to give eye contact. Any tips?A big part of it is habit. I remember when I first decided I was going to hold eye contact- it was super uncomfortable. But eventually, you get used to it. Now, I'll accidentally make eye contact with random strangers instinctively. Starting out, I would just hold eye contact, and learn the eye color of whomever I was talking to. If I ever felt my focus being pulled elsewhere, I would immediately bring my attention back to their eyes. If both eyes is too intense at the beginning (it def was for … | /r/seduction | 04/01/14 01:40 AM |
| 1 | How to respond when a girl insults you?My self amusement knows no bounds | /r/seduction | 24/12/13 06:01 PM |
| 8 | How to respond when a girl insults you?As a man who has had drinks thrown in his face, and slapped more times than can be remembered- this. | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Book recommendations for a beginner"Double Your Dating" by Michael DeAngelo. First book I ever read, absolute game changer. I can confidently say that this book and "The Charisma Myth" by Olivia Fox Cabane (Not about girls, just being a better person- AKA what seduction is REALLY all about) totally changed how I view myself, and how I view others. | /r/seduction | 10/12/13 07:21 PM |
| 2 | It appears the majority of Reddit has a grossly misrepresented perception of the Seduction community...Haha... just like Mark Manson said in "Models." Polarize, polarize, polarize. If they like it, they'll come, and if the don't that's fine too. | /r/seduction | 10/12/13 04:01 PM |
| 1 | I just created /r/ObservationSkills! A subreddit dedicated to reading people and observation.Love it! | /r/seduction | 07/12/13 04:45 PM |
| 22 | Being a male and a friendly male puts his arm around you over your shoulders.Uh, pull him aside and tell him to fuck off? | /r/seduction | 30/11/13 09:02 AM |
| 7 | How can I logistically go out 7 nights a week? What is that like financially?I go out Wednesday through Saturday, and maybe every other Tuesday as well. I'm in college, and I've really just worked it into my schedule. My grades suffered my Junior year, but basically I just told myself, "If I want to keep doing what I do a night, I gotta change what I'm doing during the day." AKA Ass in library until 5PM every night, and luckily, always off work by 9PM. When I go out, I usually drink to just get a buzz (Think like 1 or 2 beers,) then nurse water or Coca-Cola (Bars in Texa… | /r/seduction | 15/11/13 02:37 PM |
| 5 | Guys, i fucked up. crosspost from r/howtonotgiveafuckQuit being a bitch about it. You were drunk, you fucked up. Accept it. Laugh about it. You slayed a whale man, that's hilarious!!! And yeah, your buddies will never let you live it down, but it's all in good fun. Word WILL get out. Overweight Sorority girls are gossip monsters. Just have fun with it. Don't be negative about it, or her. IF anyone asks, "Yeah... alcohol." | /r/seduction | 10/11/13 08:18 PM |
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