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Keep going, with this context it absolutely sounds like your family is the offside party. Follow your lawyers advise to a t and defend yourself and your sanity ruthlessly. Find friends and others who will support your journey in the absence of your family. It sucks you can’t count on the people that are supposed to have your back unconditionally
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/26 07:29 PM
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I feel for you, Take your lawyers, advice and record everything and be measured with what you say and do to her. We don’t know your story and I don’t wanna sound like an asshole but when I hear about somebody whose family is picking the other person side. It makes me wonder about the part you play in your misfortune. I’m not saying you’re wrong, I just don’t know. It could be your family dynamic is just really shitty through no fault of your own. My point is that it’s worth some reflection and m…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/26 05:30 PM
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Men aren’t exactly celebrated so not sure what you’re on about
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 09:12 PM
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The dynamic may be unintentional. Try mentioning staying in for budget reasons - e.g saving for a trip and see if she ponies anything up.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 12:12 AM
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I have always been honest but not bitter. You can say she had an affair and leave it at that. You'd be offside if you then went on a 20 minute tirade about how awful women like her are.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 06:32 AM
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1) You are not over reacting - I'm not a big believer in reconciling from dishonesty in general but in the cases where it does happen the dishonest party needs to go above and beyond to maintain perfect trust. 2) I would not. Pride and ego aside it's a lose lose situation. The very best is he gets scared off but you're still stuck with a woman who thinks this behaviour is ok. She'll just find another AP. Worst case is it escalates and you end up with an assault charge and potential prison time a…
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 06:04 PM
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I'd upvote this twice if I could. He's still a POS but at the end of the day she's the one that made the decision to cheat and she's the one that has CONSCIOUSLY accepted an invitation to reconnect with an old affair partner.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/26 06:00 PM
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That’s not an emotional affair dude. Sorry to hear, it sucks but time to look out for yourself and your daughters.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 03:55 PM
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Sure sounds like it
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/26 01:22 AM
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Heavy panting can be a sign of pain or severe stress in dogs and your 19 year old probably looks at the dog as the last piece of his family that's "intact". Maybe give him some slack as it sounds like he's genuinely worried about the dog (rightly or wrongly). As another said - having a plan of action for the dog and communicating it to your kid might've avoided the conflict. And hate to say it - but if she was willing to take the dog to the vet when you weren't - she's going to look like the gro…
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/26 10:31 PM
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I didn’t realize it at the time. Lots came out in the wash afterwards though. We were supposed to be trying to have a kid and she was secretly taking birth control.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 05:10 PM
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It drags for a while. Comes and goes but it does pass.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 05:31 AM
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Mine lied to our therapist and lied to me while in therapy. She had no capability or desire to stop lying. She simply wasnt interested jn honest communication.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 05:21 AM
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If she hasn’t fucked him already it’s just a technicality. She’s already there emotionally and mentally if she’s sending nudes to this guy
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 03:48 AM
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Ha, yes, my buddy and his wife had been over for dinner and drinks the night before and she had left her purse by the doorway.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/25 08:12 PM
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My ex initiated the divorce, started to want to be "friends" a year later - coming over and wanting to walk her old dog (that she abandoned with me when she took off for greener pastures). I had made my peace with the Divorce by then and was like "Hey, free dog sitting"! She saw a woman's purse by the door one day - funny thing is it wasn't even a woman I was dating - it was my buddies wife's. She lost it and went full no-contact. Haven't heard from her since. Don't let her live rent free in you…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/25 05:20 PM
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Yeah - as irritated as you are (understandably) the poor guy has been stuck with this knowledge and the guilt of having already been pushed into the middle of this by your ex likely having threatened him to keep his mouth shut.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/25 06:25 PM
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As others have said, there's no reason for you to talk to her. Therefore no reason to feel bad about not talking to her. That thread will be there hanging over your ability to heal and move forward.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/25 02:18 AM
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Yeah - it sucks at first. You feel awkward, you feel like everyone is looking at you when you're sitting at a restaurant by yourself. You feel self conscious about sitting at a pubs bar all alone... But you know I realized I didn't need to have someone sitting with me to justify having a nice meal. I realized nobody else gave a shit whether I was sitting at a pub with my brother, buddy, girlfriend, etc. And half the time if I was enjoying a beer and watching a game someone would sit next to me a…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 04:45 PM
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I reconnected with friends I hadn’t connected with in a long time. I traveled, I went places by myself, and learned that it was OK, which was absolutely phenomenal. I got a motorbike, picked up some hobbies, learned a little bit about myself, I found things that might interest me That had clubs attached to them and I joined the clubs even if it was only for a little bit to decide that that wasn’t a hobby I was interested in chasing. My single life in my 40s after a 17 year marriage was dramatica…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 03:58 PM
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I got the motorbike, no regrets at all! It gave me a lot of peace! Plus getting it in my 40s meant that I wasn’t killing myself like an 18 year old version of myself was going to
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 03:53 PM
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This is not an internet question - it has the potential to put you up for potential criminal charges depending on where you live. Ask your lawyer!!
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 06:11 PM
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Holy shit. I feel like I could've written this.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/22 03:57 PM
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Ugh, that's tough. Can you get an agreement from her on what the value was? If you have to fight it you may be out of luck
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/22 04:41 PM
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Depends on where you are. In Canada it is.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 06:42 PM
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There are tax implications as well depending on where you are. A full buyout is likely regarded as a distribution of marital wealth and therefore NOT a tax deduction for you. Monthly payments become income for her and a reduction in YOUR taxable income. The biggest downside about monthly payments I was told is that it leaves the door open for them to revisit it in say 2 years if their circumstances change.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 05:47 PM
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Yes. It’s possible however the advice given to me was a situation like this have one lawyer draft it and another review it to prevent the worst case scenario where one party comes back in two years and says they didn’t have the appropriate legal advice to knowingly sign the contract.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/22 04:39 PM
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I’d get bitterness for alimony but this is for your kids. Your children will take it as a direct reflection on how you feel about their worth and not your ex’s. Don’t be an ass and put them through that. Be a better person than her, be happy and live a good life and don’t take your bitterness out on your kids, they are caught in the middle.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/21 03:32 PM
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No, take their advice. If they're telling you it's not worth the fee's to fight whatever it is then you likely don't stand a chance.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/21 05:35 AM
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This is layers upon layers of deceit. Zero chance I’d stick around if she had a change of heart. You’d never know if it was genuine or not.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/20 07:02 PM
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It was very strange when my judgement came in. More than anything it was just an overwhelming sense of finality, both good and bad. It took me a few days to really process it, even though I knew it was coming. Stay strong my friend
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/20 05:32 AM
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A FWB can be a good thing, I'll guarantee you're not in a place for an emotional relationship as much as you might htink you are. Be honest and upfront, avoid using someone for a quick fix. There will be women out there that you click with and are attracted to and are looking for the same thing you are. Pursue those women and you'll be golden
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/20 09:09 PM
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I kept waiting for the story to get better and show us something redeeming about her that would cause your conflict.... it didn’t. Get out now
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/20 01:15 AM
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I was in your shoes a couple of years ago, in Canada we need a one year waiting period so I got my divorce signed about this time last year. To me it sounds like you’re doing the right things, but it takes time. Tons and tons of time, you will have days where you feel like you’re getting over it and you’re ready to face the world as a brand new man. And then you’ll have days where all you wanna do sit on the couch and see how many six packs you can polish off. I got through the bad days by takin…
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/20 04:19 AM
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Have an upvote. Lots of burn the bridges types on here would be my guess on the downvotes.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/20 04:13 AM
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I’m in a similar situation. Ended two years ago and I’m definitely better off. If you’re Using Lightroom or a similar photo management solution it’s easy to exclude photos based on keywords or other attributes. I tagged all of the shots with my ex as red lol. I didn’t want to delete them, she was 20 years of my life and I can’t just delete that. But I also don’t particularly want them popping up uninvited This way I have them, but I don’t have to see them.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/20 03:52 PM
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I feel ya. I signed in January, separated almost 2 years ago and it became final last month. It gets better, honestly it does. Not every day, I still have plenty of shit days where I'm terrified of dying alone, but more days are better than not. Get out and do something, anything. Confront your demons when you're ready, but do so knowing that some days they will win, and that's ok because the next day you will win and eventually they quit winning for good. I've had more than my share of difficul…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/19 03:12 AM
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No, there was no addressing it. It got less confrontational once we had the separation agreement. There wasn’t much to fight about after that. We talk via text a little bit. She looks after what used to be our dogs (mine now) when I’m gone on business but I haven’t actually seen her in ages. I think there’s remorse. The woman who was her maid of honour is a mutual friend and has been very supportive. Tells me that the ex listened to a lot of bad advice from the wrong people and is wishing she di…
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/19 04:49 PM
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I’m in your shoes. The person I spent 20 years with, the woman who was my best friend, felt like she became my enemy overnight. I never got an explanation the split, let alone why she became so nasty when it didn’t seem necessary. But I have two thoughts; number one I agree with the point above about “needing” to be angry to justify it in her mind - she needed to talk herself into the split and as a result spend her time focussing on the bad times instead of trying to repair for the good times; …
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/19 02:39 PM
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This.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/19 09:07 AM
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I've been drinking, not sure if I wrote this? I feel for you man.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/19 09:06 AM
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