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That still doesn't mean he's right. If you only wanted sex once a month and your partner wanted it every couple of days, that would be an understandable deal-breaker. We're talking about the initial waiting time here, though, which has absolutely nothing to do with how a person views sex; it is about how comfortable a person feels with you. I've known some of the "sluttiest" (into all kinds of kinky shit and wants sex every day) women who don't want sex until they've gotten to know you a little …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 05:10 AM
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This post is entirely disingenuous. Delete it and cut the shit out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 10:24 AM
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there is no other reason to wait for sex if attraction is there. So this is where you admitted that you can't understand the perspectives or behaviours of people when they're different to your own. Not a good sign. The fact that I'm in a happy LTR relationship proves your full of shit. Setting boundaries is standard for every healthy relationship if you were in one you'd kno this. Where on Earth did I say anything against boundaries being normal and healthy? Also, this is where you admitted that…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 08:38 PM
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You realize I'm right but you want to argue semantics to save your pride. Here's where you just proved that you're nothing but arrogant and full of shit. I told you already that you are categorically wrong on what you said about sexual incompatibility based solely on the time it takes for a person to become comfortable with someone else. That is not me "realising you're right" - I'm telling you, you are wrong. A person who views sex as a sacred act that should only be had between two people in l…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 05:00 PM
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Nah. You're so far off the mark here, bud. The time it takes you to feel comfortable having sex with someone is not normally about how you view sex; it's about how quickly you feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable with them. It can be about your view on sex but, more often than not, it's more about trust/security and feeling connected to the person. Here's a hypothetical for you: You and the person you're dating are both into all the same sexual kinks, you love the same positions, you're both…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 05:34 AM
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... you seriously think that a difference in how long someone wants to wait before they're comfortable to have sex is a sexual incompatibility? 😂 You're kidding, right? That's not an incompatibility; it's a difference of timeline, the same way that some people are ready to say 'I love you' before others are. It doesn't make them incompatible. Incompatibility comes from not enjoying the same kinds of sex, or from just not enjoying your partner's bits, or having different ideas of what pleasure is…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 11:30 PM
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he let her dictate the pace of the relationship and when they would have sex That's the right thing to do for anyone who isn't ready at the same pace you are, regardless of their sex, if you're comfortable waiting/are really into them. The problem here isn't that he was comfortable waiting, or that he didn't take control and pressure her into sex before she was ready (creep vibes, fyi), it's that he was ok with it under the assumption that that's just how she was. Now that new information came t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 11:00 PM
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Best comment on here, hands down. Rational, understanding, simple, and shows wisdom. The key to 99% of relationship problems is opening up to each other, communicating, and being vulnerable despite how uncomfortable it feels at first. Reddit is not the place for relationship advice 99.9999999% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 10:51 PM
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She wouldn’t whining about “all men” and start making up matrix theories to try explaining “male behaviour” Have you ever seen the internet before today? Where have you been for the last 5 years, lmao? That kind of behaviour is everywhere online. "#menarepigs" and "#killallmen" are just a couple of trending examples. Are they considered misandrist/sexist? No, because when they say "all men" they don't mean all men, apparently. The matter of fact is that there are double standards at play, and pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 10:38 PM
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There you go again, misreading and misunderstanding. I said physiology, not psychology. It also doesn't require addiction for a person to become desensitised. It does not matter if you are exposed to something out of need, out of addiction, or randomly, it all still adds to exposure levels, which is where the problem comes from. There are other ways for men to up their game - trying to utilise porn for that is a really stupid idea, given that porn does not emulate real life interaction (in most …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:37 PM
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Desensitisation is a matter of fact. Everybody becomes desensitised from too much exposure. The only variant is how much exposure is too much exposure because that is the part that varies from person to person. It doesn't matter whether that's porn, violence, or whatever else you can think of; the same still applies. All that you're doing by telling me that women using sex toys are taking the easy way out is that you don't understand women, you don't understand why you don't understand women, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:15 AM
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Everyone is affected by the excessive use of porn. The difference comes from a measure of how much. Also, not sure if you understand the point of studies or not, but the idea of them is to get a general consensus on something. The study is going to tell you exactly what happens to the average person, and we happen to be talking about the average experience here. The use kf a vibrator is a cope instead of ger finding a way to get better at sex and satisfy herself she chooses the easy way in deter…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:36 AM
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Why should it? Men have an average refractory period of 30 minutes. If he's nutting off right before sex, he's going to have a difficult time getting it up. What if the only reason they're pulling up porn is to get aroused because they've become desensitised due to overexposure?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:30 AM
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Or, just possibly, you know, that they'll be looked at negatively for not being experienced themselves? It's also possible that they just don't want to be compared to other people in that one aspect of life when they're compared to everyone else constantly in every other aspect. I don't personally care for that mindset, but I don't care that others do think that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 04:03 AM
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You didn't provide shit. You're a liar. You're a pathetic, sad little person, responding to a month-old comment in the hopes it goes unnoticed. Go crawl back under your rock and kindly fuck yourself you whiny little troll. Oh, and this isn't rage; I'm perfectly calm. This is simply objective reality. Anyhow, you're blocked and reported for harassment, you soft twat.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 02:08 PM
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To me this seems like yet another deflection anytime it is suggested women be accountable for anything, god forbid their inflated egos, insane standards and limitless privilege be called into question. .. what? Are you seriously expecting people as a whole to "hold the women accountable" and say, "hey, women who are on dating sites, lower your f**king standards and have sex with people who you don't want to, so that us men aren't feeling rejected and can get laid more often, alright?!" Are you f…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 04:20 AM
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It seems like you might be. He asked you how he's supposed to prove he's doing his part for men. What is the standard? Where is the bar that he must meet in order to be deemed worthy of you listening to him? You just refused to answer each time that he asked. Either tell him how he's supposed to prove that to you, or tell him why he hasn't proven himself. That aside, saying you won't listen until he's proven he's actively helping is a bit of a stupid take, tbh. You don't have to be a chef to kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 04:06 AM
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No, and no. That's about as simple as it gets.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 01:51 PM
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Then I think we've reached common understanding because I can agree with all of that for sure, lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:38 AM
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A lot of the time it is dirty. But not all of the time, so my question still stands: Why is mess inherently a problem? Dirty is a problem, but mess is not. Mess is subjective. It’s another thing to be someone that doesn’t want trash, food, and clothes all over the place. That's understandable. In my experience of people, mess is mostly just misplaced items, not typically food/trash/dirty clothes. Obviously, that will differ from person to person, but it does show that mess itself isn't the issue…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:27 AM
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It's only a problem for people who have a problem with it. As long as it's not dirty and things are just out of place, what's the issue with it? Why is it a problem? Some people like their home to feel lived in, instead of looking like a doctor surgery or a show-home where nobody ever touches anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:21 PM
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That wasn't a personal attack. They just asked if you'd provide the links, or if you couldn't because you were making shit up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:19 PM
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It's weird that you're not answering these other questions all of a sudden, but you'e got time for new ones... https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/tf6j1r/what_is_problematic_about_the_term_pickmeisha/i0viumn?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3 https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/tf6j1r/what_is_problematic_about_the_term_pickmeisha/i0uc39s?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:18 PM
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If we’re discussing men, yes it does. No, it doesn't. If there's a sufficient number of men saying the same thing, it does not matter how many women are saying it; they're not in competition or being compared. The statement is that men are viewed more attractively when in countries with people who don't generally look like they do. There's no qualifier about women in there. The fact that you don't understand this is laughable. You chose an initial source that was 6 women to 2 men That is complet…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:37 AM
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That works both ways, though. If the woman earns more than the man (which is often the case these days and is a growing thing), then she's in the same predicament. Prenuptial agreements (ironclad/watertight ones checked by lawyers prior to marriage) exist for this very reason. If kids are involved, and she earns more, then she's the one paying out contributions as long as you have roughly equal custody. A lot of people seem to have this false notion in their head that it's only men who are riski…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 03:54 PM
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So if your argument is that they are viewed as more physically attractive in foreign countries you need to provide examples with anecdotes mostly from men not from women. That's not true at all. It doesn't have to be mostly about men. It is not a zero-sum argument. The anecdotes of men do not have to make up the majority of the whole for the male examples to remain valid. There could be 2000 examples from women and 500 examples from men, and still, it would be valid evidence to suggest that men …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 10:12 AM
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you need to show me something where it’s majority testimonials from men. My argument wasn't that it only benefits men, so the ratio of male-female testimonies is completely irrelevant. I don't need to show you anything of the sort. My argument was that this is something that rings true for people. People are viewed as more attractive in other countries where the population is less aesthetically similar to their own. You not liking that fact doesn't prevent it being true. It's you who needs to le…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 08:06 PM
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It's called a show of commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 05:49 PM
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So your argument boils down to "but there are more examples from women than men so your argument is moot" 😂😂 that's fucking juvenile. You're completely ignoring the fact that it does occur with men because you'd rather keep your eyes closed and deny reality. Again, pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 05:30 PM
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So, you choose to ignore the source material that is clearly linked because it helps you retain a warped and biased perspective where you can keep your fingers in your ears? Good job. What a pathetic attitude...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 03:03 PM
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You can stand by it all you like, but again, if you'd read the source material that is linked in the article, the very first post there is a man from Azerbaijan, who looks a bit like a dumpling with a beard, talking about how the people of Uzbekistan and China complimented him on his physical appearance despite the fact he was never told he was handsome in his home country. I have never been told that I look attractive or handsome in my home country, Azerbaijan. But only in Uzbekistan and China …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 02:48 AM
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You could have just said that you didn't bother to read the article or the source (linked within) that it was discussing. Here Men and women revealed foreign countries where they are better looking And here Men from Asian countries who claim they are considered distinctly average at home say they have become studs in Western countries As you can see, it literally specified men twice there in the article. Whilst it's not much of an in-depth acknowledgement, it did specify where from and where to.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 08:21 PM
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Physically speaking they’re not more attractive, they’re just more economically attractive. This is not true for most cases, never mind all. People find "exotic" (read unusual/different to their norm) people attractive. To many people who are rarely ever around white people, white people will be deemed as more attractive than they would have around other white people. We see examples of this all the time in the way that Asian (Japanese, Chinese, etc.) women crush on white men, and how white men …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 04:06 PM
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So what? So my point is that it has nothing to do with libido, and you claiming these other guys are low libido is a bullshit argument, lmao. You're very rarely ever going to find a woman who's up for sex more than once a day, bud. At least not after the honeymoon period of the relationship. You can either find out what gets your current partner going more and work with her on that, or you can just get yourself off if you're otherwise happy with her. Beyond that, if you leave over it, you're sea…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 09:24 PM
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I think you can remove 'borderline' from that statement. Unsolicited dick pic + "I don't even know you" = offender.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 08:50 PM
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Coming from someone who has to get off at least 4 times a day, regardless of the fact that it's most often with my partner, you're wrong. I'm far from low libido, and I agree with the others arguing against you. All I'm hearing from you is that you're desperate and thirsty.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 08:44 PM
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Cite your statistics if you're going to rely on them for argument. Where are you getting this "most men" claim from? Desperate thirsty slobs on reddit? Being picky isn't inherently feminine at all. Being picky is being picky. It's a trait both sexes share in varying degrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 08:40 PM
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Most people wouldn't, and that's fine, neither would I lmao. The fact of the matter, though, is that we all have different preferences and we all find different things disgusting - I find "hotwifing" or "cuckolding" disgusting too, but there are many people for whom that's a happy lifestyle. My issue with it would be that they communicated with that person and arranged to meet them in order to masturbate to them. That's bringing things onto a personal level, not just a sexual release. If it's a …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 05:13 PM
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The only difference here is porn is behind a screen. You don’t need intimacy to cheat. Yes. The difference is that it's not happening to the person. It's not a personal act. In fact, in most cases, that's actually what it is - it's just an act. It's not even "real" sex except in the strictest physical sense, just like when two actors kiss on screen - it's an act. To answer your question, yes, I'd take issue with it but *not* because it's cheating, because it isn't. Masturbating in the vicinity o…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 04:28 PM
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But you already have stated that it’s selfish to do so. No, I didn't. I said it's selfish to try and control them. You're completely twisting what has been said. You are absolutely free and within your rights to end the relationship. It's not shitty to not date someone who is incompatible with your views in life. It is shitty to force your views on others. Do you see the distinction? I certainly hope so.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:22 PM
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but in porn people are actually having sex or being penetrated. But is your boyfriend doing the penetrating? Is he actively participating in the sex? Is it a personal and intimate meeting? The answer to all three of those is a resounding 'no'. So what's your real problem with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:14 PM
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You understand how retarded you sound here? Watching porn is not equal to addiction. Addiction is equal to addiction. You aren't being forced to date the person, either. You can just fuck right off out of the relationship. You have no right to change a person's beliefs or control their enjoyment. The fact you think that somehow I'm saying you have to remain in the relationship with them is literally dumb as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:12 PM
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They are real people, with a virtual avatar. The interactions are with real people still. The analogy works. Pixel representation of a person does not make the person real, it's still an avatar.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:09 PM
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Question: if your boyfriend was shooting people in call of duty, would you have an issue with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 02:22 PM
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Why? Please explain to me why you think you have a right to control what your partner finds pleasure in as long as it isn't harming others or engaging intimately with another person. I'm really curious as to how saying that people deserve the right to autonomy as long as they're still meeting your needs is considered delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 02:14 PM
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also to blame when they cheat on men. Why are you saying it like this part isn't true, lmao? The person cheating IS to blame when cheating. Some reasons (not excuses -- reasons) for cheating are more acceptable than others, but something like "I was unhappy in the relationship" or "I didn't like his behaviour" is completely not ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 11:56 AM
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it’s not always about insecurity. That's why I said 'if.' Though, the majority of the time, it is definitely down to insecurity, hence all the replies along the lines of "what? Am I not good enough?" and "but he looks at women who don't look like me." don’t need to watch porn to orgasm and if you do, that’s a problem imo. Nobody said it was a need to watch porn. What someone chooses to do with themselves in their own time in order to relax or just get some time to themselves is entirely up to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:03 PM
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Comprehension: That's literally what. If it comes from a place of insecurity, it's selfish, not selfless. Denying your partner their solo time just because you happen to be nearby is a selfish thing. It's dismissive of a person's need to have time alone. The fact they choose to masturbate (or not) as part of that alone time shouldn't even be a factor as long as it doesn't prevent them being intimate with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 10:41 PM
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Sometimes, it's about personal time; it's not about you. Personal time is important, and some people like to spend that time masturbating. As long as you're sexually satisfied and he isn't avoiding sexual contact/intimacy with you, then you really have no right to say it's shitty. In fact, it's shitty to say that he shouldn't just because you're available. It's incredibly dismissive and selfish to say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 09:52 PM
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Ah right, thanks for clearing that up! 😀👍
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 03:48 PM
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And you don't think that the current status is "half a solution" by any means? Also, hospitals have handled 99% of peoples' DNA already since they know blood types and have run a number of tests on basically every person who has ever been born in, or entered a hospital for a problem/surgery. How can you say they're not trustworthy? You trust them to save your life, but not to handle your DNA? 😅 Also, the "half a solution is worse than no solution" is utter bullshit, and you know it. If you're st…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 11:43 PM
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You know full well that the cheating is not the issue. The lying about the parental status and thereby committing fraud is the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 11:30 PM
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Not that I agree with infidelity at all, far from it, but how on Earth do you think those two things compare? The man isn't tricking his partner into thinking the baby that he's having with another woman is his partner's baby. The woman, however, is tricking the man into thinking another man's child is his. Surely, you see the fundamental difference there? That's before we even start talking about the financial aspect of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:28 PM
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Yes false paternity is bad, but mandatory paternity tests are not the solution. Then what is the solution, in your opinion? How else do you go about stopping this kind of fraud? It's easy enough for a woman to tell if the child is hers, but not so easy for the father to tell if it's his, especially if the mother cheats just once on an inconspicuous occasion in order to get pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:24 PM
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This sounds like you just made up a BS scenario, if I'm being honest. I don't intend to sound accusatory here, but do you have a link to a study or something that shows this is the case, generally speaking? Specifically regarding the UK? Your statement doesn't seem to follow what I've known people to experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:21 PM
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No, I wouldn't. A committed, dedicated, and loving partner who knows me, understands me, and has a shared level of trust with me is far more important than looks. Having someone with whom you're comfortable, where you don't have to fake or pretend to be something that you're not, and you can both genuinely be happy around each other trumps anything else. The sex is better. The emotional connection is better. The lack of fighting makes for a better life in general. Nothing compares to that kind o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 01:12 PM
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You're thinking of this all wrong. Clearly, you are in first place with your partner; otherwise, you wouldn't be in the LTR with them. Sure, the other guy might have given her better sexual experiences, but did he give her the emotional experiences? The life experiences? The level of comfort? The feeling of security and safety? The happiness? There's a lot more to the package of a relationship than sex, aesthetics, and finances. Think of it like player stats: The ex might have a 10 in bed and 10…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 11:29 AM
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Do you have a hard time with comprehension? I said what I said. I also wasn't talking about me, so wtf are you doing aiming this at me? If the person is a good person and someone is offering them a good lifestyle, why should they think they don't deserve it? Just because they're not "hot?" By whose standards? As for work, I'm guessing you have no real experience of relationships. Relationships take a lot of work. If someone comes and offers you a good lifestyle as part of being in a relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 02:05 PM
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not once did it occur to them that they didn't deserve this lavish life style What the f**k are you talking about lmao? If you're a kind/caring person, and someone is offering a great lifestyle, you absolutely deserve it, regardless of how you look. Obviously, that doesn't mean you don't question the validity of the situation and make sure that there's nothing dodgy going on, but to imply that someone who isn't stupendously hot (in your opinion) does not deserve a rich lifestyle is simply absurd…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 09:36 PM
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You're thinking of what she said from the wrong angle. If the world shifts towards generally more liberal/progressive ideologies, and I stay in the same place as far as my beliefs go, by comparison I'm now "more conservative" because my beliefs are considered further right than they were 40 years ago, despite them not changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 09:41 PM
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That is not the only reason to socialise, so no, it does not prove your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 10:25 PM
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No, it objectively is not. The point of society is socialising and helping each other; not using them as a means to an end for yourself without care for the other person. Go find a counsellor. Your mentality is warped.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 09:11 PM
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No, no it isn't. You clearly didn't understand the message being taught. That's why I said go back to school. You should probably, at very least, find a counsellor to help you understand the process of living in society and being a decent human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 09:00 PM
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Viewing people as objects that are simply a means to an end to get only what you want out of them without a care for them is a negative character trait, yes. Go back to school.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 08:41 PM
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They invented waterproof make-up for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:17 AM
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Contouring and natural tones to make your skin flawless and change the way your face appears to be shaped is not obvious. I mean, if you do it poorly... sure. People who are pretty decent at it can drastically change the way they look without it being obvious that they're doing much beyond a bit of blush and eyeliner. Take a look at these, for example. There are far more out there with even more unbelievable skill. It's a literal art form in deception.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 10:30 PM
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Be honest, if the age of consent was 13 men would be out here fucking 13 year olds. This is such a fucking lie lmao. So, the age of consent in the Philippines was 12, until just a few months ago. It has now been raised to 16. But here's an excerpt from a study into sexual activity in the Philippines from prior to the law changing: Table 4 shows that about 5% of Filipino women aged 21–25 had their first sexual experience by age 15, 20% by age 17 and 44% by age 19. Half of the women had their sexu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 06:08 PM
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You literally said: The 20 year old ducking the 16 year old is worse because it’s illegal. So why is that your reasoning for it being worse, if legality does not equate morality? Also, 20 year-olds also typically are not post-grads. They're undergrad. 20 year-olds haven't finished a BA/BSc yet in most cases. 22-24 is post-grad, as that's the typical earliest age people will start a Masters.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 05:47 PM
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There you go. That's what I thought lmao. Like I said, it says a lot about your character.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 05:41 PM
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How so? What gap are we talking about? I know plenty of women who were dating men ages 19-22 when they were 16, and they were typically the initiators. 22 is obviously a bit much, but really, 4 years is not a huge gap. 16 year-olds are just starting college, and 20 year-olds have just started uni. They're only one step apart in terms of life experience. They have a lot more in common than a 20/45 couple do, since in that scenario, one is just beginning their life, and the other is nearing the la…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 05:03 PM
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Your argument is flawed. On the one hand, you're claiming that something being legal doesn't make it right (thus admitting the laws are flawed), but simultaneously on the other hand saying that one thing is worse because it's illegal. Also, jaywalking is illegal in many places. Does that mean it's automatically worse than verbally abusing someone or emotionally manipulating people?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 04:19 PM
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And yes, I consider under 18 to be a child. Me too, sort of... but they're actually considered middle adolescents in terms of stages of human development, which is a transitional period between childhood and adulthood. They're not an actual child anymore, but also not yet an adult. Tbh though, I still see many 19-20 year-olds as children because of the levels of (im)maturity that they display. In my opinion, 4 years isn't that significant of an age gap. It is worth keeping an eye out for warning…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 04:08 PM
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Some people use certain words that aren't accurate to the situation but are close enough to go unnoticed, or at least for the person to play ignorant, whilst still eliciting a powerful emotional reaction to manipulate the reader into a particular kind of response. 'Paedophile' is one of the words that is used most often for that effect, along with rape/rapist and harassment. The words you choose to use matter a lot, and if you don't think they do, it tells a lot about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:43 PM
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Or, which is what they're actually saying, at 20 they were far closer to 16 in terms of maturity than they were to 45. Literally, most of the world considers 16 the age of consent. Even in the US, far more states are 16 than are 18. States where the age of consent is 16 (31): Alabama, Alaska, Arkansas, Connecticut, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, North Carol…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:31 PM
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And those are the girls you immediately walk away from. Huge red flag imo. Don't even bother. It's the complete opposite in my experience. Typically, the ones who are overzealous on asking for every single thing, and pushing the responsibility on you to ask, those are the ones to avoid because those are the kind to fly off the handle at the smallest thing that should be able to (ironically) be solved with communication. They tend to want all the communication to be done by you. They're exempt fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 04:18 PM
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This is hilarious, and the perfect way to make the point. I 100% get the need for consent; some people just don't know how to read body language, or act in a social setting, and they're awkward as fuck, so it helps those people. Great, that's fine... but suggesting that a person should just read minds and know that consent has been revoked after being granted, without any communication to that effect... that's just plain stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 04:11 PM
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No, it isn't nitpicky lmao. Nitpicky would be "you said then instead of than" or "you didn't use a capital letter". In this case, you literally said something completely different to what you meant to say. There's a big difference between "some women" and "women always".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 06:09 PM
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You're being awfully defensive just because someone pointed out a flaw in your argument. They simply said "say what you mean". You should learn to chill the fuck out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 05:59 PM
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Are they? I'm not. Are you? If so that says a lot more about you than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 03:28 PM
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Given that he said it with no evidence to prove it, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 03:27 PM
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Understand this, guys don't offer to buy guys drinks they see sitting peaceful in bars.... They don't offer to take other men to dinner....just cause They certainly don't offer rides that are a hour long for free to airports... I do. I have friends that do. Hell, I even had work colleagues that do. If you don't, you and your friends are missing out lmao. he is superstitiously offering you dick at the same time. Did you maybe mean surreptitiously? Or subtly?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 01:46 PM
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It is, yeah. If a guy is interested, it's his responsibility to state that. It's not her responsibility to constantly second-guess everything that he does or says. Be direct.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 01:37 PM
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No, definitely not. That's an exhausting way to navigate relationships with others. There are some kinds of people who will try to "buy" your affection with favours and expect you to owe them, and there are some kinds of people who just do kind acts because they're kind people. You can usually tell the two apart by how kind they are to other people in general (like how they speak to "low" level staff in retail/hospitality etc.) and (in my experience) just the kinds of vibe they give off around y…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 01:34 PM
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You're almost there, bud. It's (from what I've seen) a combination of this: Is it because most men are fundementally poor partners and have unattractive qualities that eventually seep through the cracks? And this: Is this all just nonsense and actually, if "I gO oUtSidE" I'll see that every long term couple who spends lots of time together is just the perfect picture of happiness and that comfort and familiarity actually INCREASE sex drive and attraction among women? It's easy to lose the affect…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 01:04 PM
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That's exactly what it is, lmao. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought so! Thanks for calling it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 12:56 PM
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You are backpedaling [...] At least apologize for your mistake and your passive-aggressive bullshit. No, I'm not actually. I'm simply pointing out yet another flaw in your claim. And seriously? 😂 You're accusing me of backpedalling after you couldn't provide any evidence for your claim and then instead told me to disprove it, and after trying to twist my words? Get outta here lmao. unless the woman is entitled and believes that a guy should do/pay for everything. Those are the kinds of people we…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 11:18 PM
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Clearly, you're not, though, are you? Not only did you infer incorrectly, against overwhelming odds, but you're also lacking in grammar and spelling. That's fine, of course, but it certainly proves that whilst you're certified, it's either not to the highest standard or your standards have slipped since that point. Anyhow, you took what was said the wrong way, that's ok. I honestly don’t have time for you anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 11:05 PM
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🤣 I just can't anymore. I hope that one day you wake up from this nightmare that you're clearly in. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 11:00 PM
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And where exactly did you define what early stages of dating are? Is it 1 date? 5 dates? 10? Or is it counted in time? A week? A month? All you did was start your argument out with courtship vs. hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 10:58 PM
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If that's the case, you may want to go back and study for/take your English language and comprehension exams again.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 10:43 PM
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I said early dating and I said that because it's true. No, you didn't. And no, it isn't. You never specified any period/stage of dating. You said courtship vs. hookups. You took issue with this and have been arguing with me for like two hours. That's also not true. Do you have memory issues or something? My earlier invitation for you to look back through this discussion still stands. The comments are all still there, lmao. What actually happened was you took issue with a comment I made. Then, af…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 10:41 PM
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Oh so men having standards is bad. I never said that, but do carry on trying to find a reason to be offended. A man wanting to feel valued and desired by his partner is wrong...wtf I never said that either. You really like strawman arguments, don't you? If a guy doesnt want to date women who have fucked fast before thats his right. That's exactly right. I never said otherwise, as you know. I said he has no right to expect her to fuck him on the first date just because she has done so with someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 10:33 PM
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It absolutely is not, and you know it isn't. You said that all dating is entirely based on doing things women enjoy, but not anything that men enjoy. I said: And of course if you're the only one paying, then you're dating the wrong people. And Why? Are you not suggesting mutually enjoyable dates or something? Do you not have common interests with the people you're trying to date? If that's what you inferred from those, then you've definitely got some comprehension issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 10:16 PM
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That's not what I said, and you know it. If you need a refresher, you only have to look back up through comments. Edit: though, for the sake of transparency, that has actually happened to me a few times personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 09:56 PM
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What reality? Mine doesn't match yours, as I've already stated. If it's "objective fact" in reality, it really shouldn't be so hard to prove that all dating is central to a woman's wants and needs, right? So do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 09:42 PM
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Reality? Lmao, stfu. What you're telling me here is that you have literally nothing to back up your claim. You're the one making a bold claim, the onus is on you to prove it. You know that's how it works, right? Also, why on Earth would making a post in PPD be considered representative of the whole population lmao? Don't be daft. This place is filled with a certain kind of people. Literally everything in this subreddit is to be taken with more than a pinch of salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 09:33 PM
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... really? You're trying to tell me it's not about owing anything, but at the same time it's about owing you a certain kind of treatment in order to make it "fair" and make you feel valued? Do you understand how contradictory that is? And the expectation that you should be given everything that someone else had in the same time frame is exactly why it's entitlement. You're just boiling it down to "women aren't being honest" when you have no fucking idea what each individual (you know, 'cause th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 09:31 PM
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If that's your idea of "what men like" then you're doing nothing but stereotyping, and clearly have nothing to back up your obviously lacklustre claim. Do you not enjoy ice-skating, the movies, paintballing, rock climbing, going out to bars, maybe cycling around a lake? I've done a number of those on successful dates, amongst other things. Which again, brings me back to the point made earlier - if you're dating people you have nothing in common with, where you can't find a mutually fun date, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 09:21 PM
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Are you incapable of taking in generalities without making things personal? Why are you presuming to give me relationship tips? The irony in your indignation is really something. Are you incapable of understanding hypotheticals? They're used alongside of generalisations to help discussion flow more naturally. Though, at no point did you specify whether you were or were not talking from experience, but since you're talking about this so strongly, one could certainly be forgiven for making the ass…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 08:55 PM
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Do you think the stereotypical date is most men's version of fun? The early stages of dating are 100% centered around women's wants and interests. Are they? Why? Are you not suggesting mutually enjoyable dates or something? Do you not have common interests with the people you're trying to date? That might be the issue, don't you think? ​ Then it seems like the majority of men are dating the "wrong people". Then don't be like the majority of men. Stand up for yourself and date someone who is a de…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 08:16 PM
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Are you not getting time, attention, affection, and entertainment? And of course if you're the only one paying, then you're dating the wrong people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 08:02 PM
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So what do you mean then, by accepting less? If courtship is more, and you're getting courtship out of the woman too, are you not "getting more" in this case?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 07:52 PM
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What is "more" exactly, in this scenario?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 07:45 PM
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But the important thing is whether or not you have the unbiased (or at least adjusted) data to back up that argument? If not, it's simply your opinion and my opinion, which hold equal weight. Using consensus from PPD wouldn't hold any weight either, because of heavy bias due to pilled views. Again, what effort are you putting in? You're hanging out and having fun, where the primary purpose is hanging out and having fun. It's entirely separate to your work analogies because the primary focus of w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 06:03 PM
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That's fair, but neither are you, and neither is the general consensus of PPD lol. PPD is a niche space with some really extreme (but niche) views. Also, how is it "making you work for it" if you actually genuinely enjoy spending time with them and aren't just going through the motions purely for the purpose of getting sex? That's the part that's really telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:52 PM
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The views of some people in here are absolutely vile, aren't they? It reeks of fucking entitlement. "You owe me everything you gave to the other person." Ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:45 PM
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Different people see different behaviours/qualities as boyfriend material. What you look for in a partner may not be what I look for in a partner, so that's your argument of "punishing qualities that are boyfriend material" out of the window. Not getting sex is not a punishment. It's not binary, despite how it may seem on the surface. There's positive (reward), there's neutral (nothing changes), and there's negative (taking something away). You aren't going into a first date automatically expect…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:41 PM
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That's actually true, though. If a man assists a woman in getting an abortion, even so much as just driving, then he is able to be arrested. There is equal treatment there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 03:57 PM
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It isn't comparing stable two parent homes it's comparing all two parent homes which wasn't the hurdle I placed in front of you. That doesn't really matter when it comes to averages. That's how averages work. Also, like you said, lots of couples aren't in a stable relationship. Any relationship could become unstable at a moment's notice. Does that mean nobody should have kids? It's also largely self-reporting in surveys which people have political motivations to misreport on. Lots of it was base…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:19 PM
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If you can show me statistics that show that children in that situation have equal outcomes with children raised in a traditional stable two parent home then I may change my view. In particular, teenagers living with their single mothers and with at least one grandparent in multigenerational households have developmental outcomes that are at least as good and often better than the outcomes of teenagers in married families. If you're able to show me that outcomes for fatherless children raised by…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 11:48 AM
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On your personal reasons for believing that. Is it just about the "outcome" for the child, or are there other reasons? What about single women who are surrounded by family, and live with their parents, or their siblings? The child is being parented by more than one person, in a stable home. Also, the primary problem for single parent children is poverty, which goes on to affect their education and social mobility. So what if the single parent is earning more than enough to not be in poverty? Are…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 11:02 AM
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"Boyfriend" isn't a term for ongoing relationship?!? Not when it's a first fucking date lmao. The term used was "boyfriend material" not "boyfriend" - context is key. Don't skip over parts just to suit your argument. In terms of relationship material you don't represent yourself as high value. It's a red flag, men view it as a red flag. You still don't understand, do you? It's not a red flag. Maybe to you, I guess, but only because you're looking at it from an extremely narrow and singular persp…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:59 AM
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That wasn't very elaborate
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:49 AM
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I don't believe that single women should have access to IVF treatment because children should be raised in a stable two parent home and women who decide to have babies on their own are selfish. I'm curious about your thoughts and rationale for this. Could you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:41 AM
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God 😂 you're a real specimen for entertainment, aren't you? The way you laugh and talk down to men idiots, regardless of sex There, I fixed that for you. Men undertake high risk with women regarding sex and relationships. Yeah? Nobody is denying that... but so do women. For every risk a man has, a woman also has a risk. She's not having sex with him on the first date, because he's boyfriend material. I already explained this elsewhere, as I'm certain others have too and it's really not a difficu…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:21 AM
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Your blatant misunderstanding of it is why it's a laughing matter. A red flag signals impending/high likelihood of harm to oneself. A woman not having sex on the first date is not a red flag. You realise that your logic is "because 1 in 3 women lose interest in sex during a relationship (reasons varying and not stated), if a woman doesn't want sex with someone whom she does not yet know, she's going to stop wanting sex in a relationship," right? Do you not see how crazily flawed that is? Especia…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 10:28 PM
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In any case, if a woman who doesn't sleep with a guy because he's boyfriend material, it's a red flag for the relationship. It can't be anything else. It's a red flag. Lmao. Explain yourself, please.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:40 PM
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It could be that she would have considered it if he weren't boyfriend material because it was a way to get something positive out of the night. A way to avoid walking away with it having been a complete waste of time. However, because he was boyfriend material, she didn't want to fuck things up, or have that awkward moment the next morning make things weird between them and ruin it before they'd gotten to know each other a little better. Instead of thinking of it like a punishment, it should be …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:10 PM
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Because their extremely depressing and stupid ideology declares that men only want sex and women only want commitment, and there's no overlap or any such thing as unique individuals with individual desires regardless of their sex or sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 07:52 PM
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I wasn't talking about "pussy redistribution" - why would you even think about putting words like that in others' mouths? It's creepy that your mind even jumped to that first lmao. Changing societal norms and expectations is what I was talking about. Why the fuck would anyone in their right mind try to "regulate the sexual market" - we're all autonomous beings and deserve to be treated as such, but that doesn't mean that we don't have stupid and/or harmful cultural behaviours that are damaging m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 07:12 PM
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Marriage isn't really necessary for most if not all of this. Of course not, but marriage is universally acknowledged as a sign of commitment, hence the extremely strong correlation. Plus, being married to someone helps give a sense of security to the relationship, does it not? Which reduces anxiety and stress. What aspect of having a committed woman is enhanced by getting married for men? There are legal benefits (in most places) that relate to healthcare decisions, finances, inheritance/wills e…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 05:02 PM
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Now you're trying to strawman. Nowhere did I claim everybody fucks children, or wants to, and I didn't see anyone else claiming that either. Look at you flailing. Good job. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 04:27 PM
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Of course it makes sense. You're the one on here broadly declaring everybody a paedophile. That in itself is dodgy behaviour. And yes, it does support what I'm saying. If you can't understand where or why, the problem lies with your comprehension skills, or lack thereof.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 04:21 PM
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Yeaaaah, it does though, doesn't it? Projection is the process of displacing one’s feelings onto a different person, animal, or object. The term is most commonly used to describe defensive projection—attributing one’s own unacceptable urges to another. For example, if someone continuously bullies and ridicules a peer about his insecurities, the bully might be projecting his own struggle with self-esteem onto the other person. How does it feel, having people know you're a paedophile?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 03:57 PM
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Sounds like some shit an adult who likes fucking children would say Sounds like some shit an adult who wants to hide the fact that they like fucking children would say.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 03:50 PM
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Don't take my word for it, take it from the outcomes and analyses of several studies into the matter. From this study: Some have argued that self-selection would skew the results if healthy men are more likely to marry than men with health problems. But research shows the reverse is true: unhealthy men actually marry earlier, are less likely to divorce, and are more likely to remarry following divorce or bereavement than healthy men. I know it's not always the case here in PPD, but don't just pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 03:47 PM
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You mean to reply to yourself there, pal? You don't have to agree with it to objectively acknowledge the weight of the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 01:19 PM
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Lmao. Yeah, as a man I do everything in my power to disregard the reality of men. <sup>/s</sup> Most of your claims are not backed up by data, and the rest are just blatantly stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 12:24 PM
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Would you be happy if feminists had taken that advice and decided not to fight for equals rights to vote, work, or be educated? After all, they knew the game was rigged, and they were tired of talking about the same thing, and society didn't want to change... What a stupid statement to make about a problem that can absolutely be remedied.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 12:04 PM
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Experience is based on perception. What women perceive to be a problem, this guy may not have perceived to be a problem. This was already briefly explained away somewhere else in the comments, but here's my take anyhow: When a woman is given such a sheer overwhelming amount of choice to select from, she's going to expect higher standards because she has the pick of the crop, so to speak. Thus, anything less than the absolute optimal is not even registering or worth considering as a possible opti…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 12:01 PM
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Laughing my ass out of our omnisphere
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 11:42 AM
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Of course it's the man's fault, he made the freakin' thing in the first place! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 11:41 AM
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I just have to point out that the reason people draw a distinction is because there is a distinction, regardless of whether you personally recognise it or not. Your point is just the same as saying "if you draw a distinction between murder, and physical assault, you're a murderer". They're two very different degrees of a similar thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 10:26 AM
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Sex is a form of cardio exercise, which is shown to improve health and extend life expectancy. Married men have more opportunities than single men to have sex. People are shown to live longer when they have a driving force, a motivation, a responsibility, to hang on to and to be there for. Men often ignore health issues, and women often nag/force their partners to get medical help for issues they would otherwise ignore. It is proven that breasts (touching and looking at) lower stress levels of m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 09:52 AM
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🎤 ... I think you dropped this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 09:44 AM
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You were correct to use 'then' in that sentence structure, you have nothing to apologise for. Like everything else that u/NoMarriageNoKids has said in this thread, you can disregard it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 09:40 AM
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Why have any safety precautions for anything that presents a potential damage to you? Why have seatbelts for cars, since they were an afterthought? Why have liability insurance for a business? Why wear a jacket over your t-shirt when it's possibly going to get cold but isn't yet? It's because of risk vs reward. The guaranteed benefits outweigh the potential inherent damage in the initial thing, so we sign up for it... but that doesn't mean we can't then layer on additional protections to minimis…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 09:32 AM
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Despite how some people dress it up Marriage has never actually been about romantic commitment. It has always been about financial commitment. This is why and how it came into existence in the first place. You clearly have a lot to learn about marriage and what it used to be. Even if we take your claim at face value and assume it to be correct, the fact that it started out as a financial/ownership thing doesn't mean that it has never been anything other than that. Marriage, for a very long time,…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 09:22 AM
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But a lot of people on this sub consider looks to be one of the main things that matters. Honestly, in a lot of cases, it seems like they think looks and sex are the only things that matter. It's crazy. I can only put that down to a complete lack of experience and their heads being filled with BS takes from the internet, or just extremely poor social skills. Maybe a combination of both, I guess? Either way, it's a really dangerous and self-destructive perspective to hold onto. which is why I don…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:44 AM
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my bf's ex was objectively more attractive than me Does that actually matter though? Clearly, they're exes for a reason. Whilst she might be a better match for his aesthetic ideals, obviously there were other ideals that didn't match up, and the aesthetic desire was not enough to overlook the other things that were lacking. Think of it like people having a needs bar for everything like they do in The Sims, and here's a (very simplified) possible comparison for you and his ex in terms of looks, p…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:23 AM
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Sometimes it's better just not to, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 10:01 PM
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It is medically bad for you, actually, since it can cause ED and exacerbate (or cause) further issues with mental health problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:55 PM
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Most kids find porn before they have their first relationship. Are you sure you know what you're talking about? Unless you're now trying to say that this argument is specifically talking about men who watch porn whilst in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:48 PM
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They are similar arguments, but only if you think that visuals are the primary (or only) source of arousal for people as a fundamental rule. It would also require that thought to be true to have any validity. Thinking this way is not only false, but it would also rely heavily on people only being able to appreciate one specific kind of aesthetic/shape/size, which again is generally not the case. That being said, of the two arguments I believe women have a stronger argument due to the fact that p…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:40 PM
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Nah, you were just being retarded.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 02:39 PM
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This is beyond eloquent. It's just a shame that the person you're responding to is proving themselves to be the very kind of person you describe at the end of your last paragraph.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 02:34 PM
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That's fair enough, and understandable, at least you're self-aware and know exactly who/how you are. It's refreshing, actually. Out of curiosity though... is it really worth the attention if it's a negative interaction? Isn't it better if it's something that you'd really want to actually talk about in a positive way? Isn't it better to just find likeminded people and fuck everybody else off (i.e., the extended social groups that you don't care for)?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 05:58 PM
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I'm an incel? So I guess I must have been imagining the past 2 years with my GF. It's a mindset, bud, not necessarily a state of being. Besides, I didn't say you are an incel. Think of it like the difference between saying "you're stupid" and "you're doing something stupid". One is defining you, one is making a statement about something you've done, or are doing. ​ How would you feel? Very surprised that I'm dating a guy, that's how I'd feel. I'm a straight guy, so it'd be a huge shock to me. As…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 05:53 PM
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Too late for that, I don't care. Making me wait weeks or months for sex and letting all the previous guys get in your pants the same day? Not relationship material, period. This is so, so very fucking incel of you. It's like you hold resentment for the fact that they have slept with other people in a shorter span of time despite the fact that it was a unique encounter and you weren't remotely even considered at the time. Why does it upset you so much? Why is there this envy/jealousy aspect of it…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 04:01 PM
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My intention wasn't to tar you, or attack you, but simply to point out to others who may come across this that this is not a normal perspective to have. To be honest, it's quite damaging, and a lot of impressionable people spend a lot of time on the internet. but I might need you to really convince me that more experienced people have learned something about themselves. I'm not trying to convince you that they have. I'm simply saying that point counters the argument that they're automatically wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 03:55 PM
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Honestly, most of the guys in this place are absolutely fucking awful. I can seriously see why women avoid them or break up with them pretty quickly. It's no wonder women have such a hard time finding a good date/partner when so many of these twisted guys are out there trying to get their hooks in one. Genuinely mortified by some of the shitty perspectives I see in here.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 03:23 PM
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Oh my lord lmao. This.. this is fucking stupid. Especially this bit: If she's had one night stands with chads at parties while drunk, I'm not waiting. Have you ever stopped to consider that maybe the reason a girl might wait longer with you than with someone else is caused by a number of factors like how comfortable she is with you? How little alcohol she has in her system? That she's looking to try and make things work and see if you can click emotionally without complicating it with physical s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 03:18 PM
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The best bet for a relationship is someone who hasn't been dumped a whole bunch of times. So it's like financial advice. The men realize, get one that hasn't been used. Does it not make sense? It just makes sense logically. I get why it won't happen(there's not enough and we're not the guys they want) but it is bar none the best advice. This is absolutely wrong and based on a whole shit ton of assumption. You're assuming the girl was dumped, rather than being the one doing the dumping - she coul…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 03:13 PM
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at this point it should be obvious “I love dad bods” is really “I settled for a dad bod because I never married the person I was attracted most to”. This part is utter bullshit. As you said, we all have different preferences, and that includes aesthetic preferences, which extends to physique as much as it does hair and clothing style. Some people genuinely prefer fat, or slim but just not muscular. Some people don't like the way that abs look, much like some people don't like facial hair. Seriou…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 10:25 PM
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I'm not saying you can't get better i'm saying that you'll always suck You're directly contradicting yourself. With enough practice time and the correct type of learning, 99.9% of people can literally learn 99% of skills. Talent just means you have a natural affinity/aptitude for it, so learn faster as a result. Those without talent can still learn, it just takes more work to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 09:09 AM
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Whoosh yourself, pal, because that's literally not true. The thing that's boring is people like yourself casting women as these one-size-fits-all personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 08:37 AM
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Literally not true. I've seen first-hand people referring to conventionally unattractive/average people as hot simply because of their charisma/personality/behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 07:10 AM
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I'm pretty sure the "why must we be so boring" was regarding the assumption that all straight women are submissive, not "the fact" that they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 07:08 AM
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This is false. It's purely down to the learning experience. If you don't develop charm naturally through personal experience, you need to be taught. If you're taught ineffectively (everybody learns differently) then you're not going to learn effectively. It's the same as with any other education.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 07:05 AM
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It's usually about feeling valued. If you're a slob and put everything on them, treat them badly, don't contribute in any way, then they're not feeling valued, or connected, which results in losing that attraction to you. That said, women (and men) are not clones. They're not cookie-cutter. They're individuals and will behave as such. Some women don't care about the above, some actually thrive in having someone to fix/mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 04:42 AM
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You said people aged 20 shouldn't be at home and not working... you made a blanket statement as if it applies to everyone. I pointed out there are reasonable scenarios where someone would in fact be living at home, not working, and still have their shit together. Also, I know plenty of people who have been hired into global companies fresh out of university with no work experience. The sheer fact that they've spent 4 years earning a degree and come out with a good grade is more than enough to ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 03:37 AM
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University students are typically jobless because they're focused heavily on achieving a degree to get a great job when they've turned 21/22. It's not abnormal for them to live at home so they don't have to take out loans for accommodation and living expenses whilst studying. That is them having their shit together.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 03:22 AM
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I can either wait 6 dates before sleeping with him. Most men would think I'm a prude. Then you're seeing the wrong kind of people lmao. You talk about weeding out people because going low cost means they won't want to date you anyway, but it's the same process of waiting a month (give or take a week) before sex. You're weeding out those who are only interested in sex. Expecting the guy to pay for you isn't just extremely outdated and a flawed vetting method, it's also entitled behaviour. You're …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 11:44 PM
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So she had no other choice, at all? She was forced to against her will?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 10:02 PM
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Or maybe he wants to know that you're dating him for more than just the free food and are capable of providing for yourself, i.e., not using him? There's more than enough stories and evidence of women openly admitting that they go on dates with men they're not interested in because it's entertainment for the evening, or because they get free meals out of it. Why shouldn't men protect themselves from that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:12 AM
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FDS should not exist, regardless. It's an inciteful, bitter, angry subreddit spreading an extremely harmful and destructive view, routinely degrading, dehumanising, and mocking men. It is literally the equivalent of an incel subreddit, which as you may recall, were all banned (the male ones, at least...).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:41 AM
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There you go, see, lmao! That mindset is prevalent everywhere. Imagine you're an uncle (or a good friend of the parents) who has a lot of free time. Your niece and nephew love you to bits, so you take them to the park a couple of times a week to give the parents a bit of time to themselves. You get funny looks for being a man with two young children at the park, despite the fact you could well be their father. People just assume there's a good chance you're dodgy. Swap the sex around to you bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 06:00 PM
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It's not just about the touch and cuddling with romantic love though, it's about much more than that. It's about that person being your forever person (hopefully), and there's often an aggressive feeling possessiveness that comes into play, butterflies (initially) just from the thought of that person, and a thousand other things that differentiate it from simply what would be a close friendship otherwise. This article may help explain it a little further. What you describe with friends who cuddl…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:19 PM
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No, I meant it as stated. Platonic love literally just means "love that is not sexual or romantic" - so familial/friendly love. Romantic love is much more than that, it's on a much deeper and more emotionally intimate level, but also doesn't require sexual intimacy to be considered romantic love. In simpler terms, it's possible (and happens enough that it's written about) to be in a loving relationship with someone that you have no sexual interest in. There are a few scenarios where it happens, …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 04:22 PM
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There's also a significant difference between "not sexually attracted to" and "grossed out by"... But theoretically speaking, yes, people can feel romantic love for someone who (as far as sexual attraction goes) grosses them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 03:56 PM
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If I loved someone simply for their personality but didn't find them attractive and didn't want to be intimate with them, does that mean I still love them? Yes, but that means I love them as a friend, not as a partner. Romantic love and platonic love are two entirely different things. Romantic love does not explicitly require sexual intimacy to be romantic love.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 03:46 PM
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Do you see men paying money for hot babes or girls who offer "stability and companionship"? You realise fat prostitutes also exist, and clearly make a living, otherwise they wouldn't be prostitutes, right? Also, people pay for cuddles (professional cuddle services). People pay for companionship (escorts) without sex included. Finally, only 12% of men use prostitutes, so that argument proves nothing. Because he can't get an instathot. What does he fap to when his wife is not around? Assumption. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 10:58 AM
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They don't want that. Looks are the basis for everything else. No, it isn't, and yes, they do. Babe, look at what men do, not at what they say. That's far more accurate than any study. Even looking at what men actually do proves you wrong. The average man is with an average women, by very definition. It's visible everywhere on the streets. Here's a redpill for you: Instagram is reality. All men want hot babes and everything else is secondary. No, it isn't. Just because a guy isn't on Instagram d…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 10:22 AM
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It's not what men want. They get no benefits from that. Yeah, they do. It's called love, appreciation, stability, a companion. You're also completely ignoring the fact that actual real life studies disagree with you because it doesn't fit your narrative. You're not arguing in good faith, you're asking for validation, and you're not going to get it from anyone with two feet solidly on the ground and more than half a functioning brain. So you're saying that men who are not on Instagram prefer "com…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 09:27 AM
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If a woman is old and fat, do men want to date her? I mean men with options. The study addressed that. It's called a committed, long-term relationship. Look at instagram: do men follow women who are "good partners" or women who have good looks? Not representative of the population, and doesn't filter by personality, relationship status, or any other variable. I mean naked babe. Men have noooo idea what they're in for. Yeah, they do. It's all discussed in sex education. Kids also see their parent…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 09:05 AM
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Yes, it does. You're making your own assumption that it equates to "sex that spawns a child" because that also wasn't specified, was it? By your own argument of it not being specified you're effectively nullifying your own take on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 08:56 AM
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There's a covert contract in all relationships that women bring youth and looks and men bring money. This is false. Men don't want that. You speak for all men? You'll find the majority of men disagree with you. Go outside and speak to real people. You could also just read a professional take on it from a huge survey of 15,000 people. Nope. Men have no idea what women look like after kiss. Another lie. Their own mother is what a woman can look like after kids. The people they see in public who ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 08:53 AM
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That's literally not true. OP said At this point the woman is spent and it's time for the man to move on. I.e., a relationship. If there's something to move on from, it was more than a passing "transaction" because she's not necessarily pregnant the first time, and because even if she is, her body is not going to change in the first few months at least. All of this implies a relationship between the two. Edit: if the argument were there's no moral obligation to stick around after having sex a fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 08:45 AM
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They said "wife/partner" - that's not moving the goal posts. It's acknowledging the possibility for either relationship type.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 08:39 AM
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You are absolutely not using logic here at all, lmao. This is some downright twisted thinking if you really think it's logical. If the woman is no longer upholding her end of the bargain, that's a breach of contract and the deal is off. What bargain/contract? There's no imaginary social contract, no non-verbal agreement. There's also no written contract. So wtf are you referring to? It is not a woman's responsibility to be young and hot. It is a woman's responsibility to be a good partner in exa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 08:36 AM
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There's consistent censorship arising from the left when men (of any political affiliation) want to talk about the fact that men are rape victims almost as frequently as women, despite statistics backing it up, or that they suffer domestic violence at almost the same rates. Just take a look online - you get brigades of "feminists" trying to shut that shit down real quick. Media sources describe the sexual assault of young boys by their female teachers as "a relationship" whereas they describe th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 07:21 AM
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Honestly, this is a delusional comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 07:14 AM
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upper body strength accounts for most of men's physical attractiveness. No one ever claimed strength is the only thing women are attracted to, Ok, so one thing you're not understanding here is that whilst physique does play the biggest part in physical attractiveness, physical attractiveness does not play the biggest part in overall attractiveness. Therefore, physique is being overstated hugely by people like yourself who claim it's the most important thing. You're also not taking into considera…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 10:23 PM
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https://royalsocietypublishing.org/doi/10.1098/rspb.2017.1819 However, there is a sizeable dataset across many cultures that does show that women did not prefer the strongest men https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1474704919852918 Most notably, all participants rated their preferences in reference to one stylized drawing of a man who is highly muscular compared to the normal range of human males. This could create stimuli-dependent results, meaning that ratings may be driven by the anchori…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 03:00 PM
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Imagine claiming a survey/study is anecdotal whilst only providing a personal opinion and nothing to back it up... the irony is astounding. Do you actually know what anecdotal means? Why on Earth do you think women would say they prefer one thing, or like to do one thing, but would be lying about it and act completely differently? What would they gain for doing so? Why would they all decide to lie about the same thing, on a large scale?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 12:53 PM
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To be "fit but not too muscular" takes at least some effort beyond just being active It really doesn't though. It really, really doesn't. It involves watching what kind of diet you have, and spending 2-4 hours a week exercising. That's it. That's the kind of thing you need to do to get the body that almost 70% of women voted as being the most preferable. 4 hours of exercise a week is the basic level of being active. ​ There's no way that a 6'2 guy with blue eyes who's described as handsome and f…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 08:45 AM
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But unless you're, say, a burn victim or some troglodyte looking mistake of God then I think chances are you can do a lot to improve your appearance. Exactly. When people hear that looks are important they just think about facial structure, but it's not all about that, which is why I think their take on the importance of looks is wrong. "Looks" means keeping a healthy physique, taking care of your eyebrows, trimming your beard (or shaving it), getting a hair cut that suits your facial shape, wea…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 09:39 PM
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So you didn't look at the rest of the article then, did you? Also, you're not taking the rest of the point onboard. They women drastically preferred the least muscular guy on that image. The effort isn't that high - for the body they voted best, you just eat low carbs/low fats, get off your ass to cycle or climb for an hour 2-3 times a week, or you can do 4x 30min HIIT routines a week from your living room. You don't have to spend 2 hours in the gym every night. You'd also be incredibly surprise…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 09:33 PM
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You're the one making the claim that most women think of a bodybuilder physique when they say muscular. Prove it. Where's the large-scale survey data to back up your claim? However, we can just skip that part if you like and you can read this instead: Referring to this image Women Don’t Like Guys Who Are Musclebound or Shredded In this photo array, we chose male physiques featured on magazine covers because of their purported sex appeal. We asked women to rank their bodies from most attractive t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 09:16 PM
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I think the real problem is people not understanding that relationships need actual effort, care, and nurturing in order to succeed, which all relies heavily on communication. That's not to say it's just learning how to get your point across, it's also learning how to listen and truly understand what the other person is trying to say, to be able to empathise with them and make them feel heard and understood. There's a huge difference between hearing someone and actually making them feel heard, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 07:47 PM
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Like/for example?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 07:25 PM
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Not in my experience, it isn't. Where exactly are you pulling this claim from? It sounds like bullshit, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 07:20 PM
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Then I think you and I are in agreement, despite looking at it from slightly different perspectives. The issue really is just getting people to actually work together on a feasible plan to manage the decline and actually publish that plan so that people outside of central government know what is happening, and know that things are being taken care of to prevent a social crisis. As for working during an extended pension age, I'd hope that part of policy would be that people would be given easier,…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 07:18 PM
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If elderly people live longer, healthier lives due to modern medicine, then surely the age of retirement would increase because those people are not dependent on others for care, since they're in better shape? You don't need to take my word for it, of course, there are experts everywhere saying that it's completely manageable with the right policies put in place. There are also some big benefits to a declining population, including decreased wealth inequality, because land/housing becomes less s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 05:38 PM
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"Handsome but not what people describe in here" - handsome is entirely subjective. Also whilst she said in shape, she also said not muscular.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 04:02 AM
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Because he was 6'2" with blue eyes? 😅 That doesn't make a person well above average automatically. Wow. The mindset of people in this sub is really something to observe.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 03:21 AM
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You're judging all of this based on a medium where the only thing you have to go on is a photograph and a couple of lines about yourself, when in reality, in face to face interactions, there are way more things that excite a woman than simply appearance. Voice. Smell. Presence. Demeanour. Attitude. Ability to hold conversation that isn't filtered before hitting send. General behaviour/interaction with others (this is a big one for telling if the person is an asshole or not). There's literally do…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 03:19 AM
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Is this because it is more validating for women to be approached? Seriously... it's a really simple thing called excitement. You go out to a bar, you have fun, you dance, you drink, the atmosphere is fun and dynamic, meeting strangers in person is far more exciting (and scary - which some people like) than it is online. Organic human social interaction is completely different to virtual/digital interaction too, not just because of things like pheromones, but also because of all the other sensory…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 03:09 AM
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The taxing is pretty much a non-issue, to be honest. People aren't taxed until they're 18+ anyway, and on average 20+ since many go to colleges or universities until that age. So rounding the figure, that's two decades before the full effect of that would be felt (if there were a sudden drastic drop in births), but then we have to consider that pensioners paying for care services using their pensions are funding taxes by paying the wages of the carers, which puts it all right back into the econo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 02:33 AM
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Who is going to pay for thos carers? Why do you assume that those people want to do care jobs? People will go wherever the work is, and you're assuming that they're not capable or won't want to just because that's not their current field of choice. Many people are capable of, and compatible with, far more than just their current role or first choice. The problem is not that there are not enough people physically to take care of the old and sick, the problem is that these professions do not produ…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 01:23 AM
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This entire comment is pure generalised speculation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 08:33 PM
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It's not a problem, despite what some experts might suggest. In fact, it's actually really beneficial. The downsizing also means downsizing of agricultural and service sectors, which means those people can be retrained into care roles since many are still in their 20s-40s right now. This takes care of the initial drop in youths. Then, following that, automation is key to ensuring it stays that way without a decline in quality of life for the elderly, since the only real reason we need to maintai…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 08:15 PM
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You're assuming that all damage (or at least the worst damage) is physical. It isn't. Yes, men often cause more physical damage, or at least have the capacity to, but women often cause more psychological and emotional damage. You rarely hear about men getting beaten and raped by women because men rarely report it, because of this whole empathy gap. 1% of domestic violence funding goes to male assistance services, but men suffer from domestic violence at almost equal rates to women. This means th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 06:11 AM
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Personally, I do think that a great woman adds more to a man's life than a great man adds to a woman's life. The reason I believe this is because women bring a lot of improvements to the average man's life - they're generally tidier, so his life becomes more organised and streamlined. Women tend to make much more of a fuss about health issues than men do; we all know men are famously known for avoiding doctors and hospitals until there's literally no choice left, whereas women will push men to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 01:34 PM
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Your original claim never mentioned any of that bullshit additional criteria. That's why it's unrelated and has nothing to do with the discussion. It's about as irrelevant as you are, actually. You specifically argued that a woman's bias in dating advice given to male children causes them problems in their love life. Nothing more, nothing less. Again, do try to keep on topic. Moving the goal posts is pretty pathetic and entirely disingenuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 10:21 AM
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And now you're talking shit because you've got nothing to actually back up your claims lmao. The whole "it takes a village" thing is getting at the fact that everyone who interacts with your child is going to shape who that child becomes as a person. It's an African proverb, originally meaning that the whole village is looking out for every child, to ensure their safety and well-being. It does not mean that you can't raise a child alone, especially in the modern/western world where you don't lit…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 09:42 AM
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Again, that's purely anecdotal evidence. It could be entirely cultural, it could also be limited entirely to your local region and nothing to do with culture or heritage. Without a large scale study to examine whether it follows suit nationally, internationally, or globally, all that you're saying is that you believe your experience is the same experience everybody has, which is simply not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 08:58 AM
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My lived experience differs entirely from what you describe, as does the experience of every close male friend I have. So what we have here is a sweeping generalisation based on anecdotal evidence, but touted as fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 01:16 AM
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This entire post is speculation at best, and a sweeping sexist generalisation at worst. If any of it is true, and backed up by sound studies that you've read up on to come to this conclusion, please enlighten us and link it here. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 12:54 AM
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I'm genuinely surprised that you're not aware that it has been traditional common practice (also regarded as common law - this means a law set by precedent and customs instead of a written statute) in many areas of the world. There are several things that tie together that made it possible, but the main two are known as bride kidnapping, and marry-your-rapist laws. Bride kidnapping information: Bride kidnapping (hence the portmanteau bridenapping[2]) has been practiced around the world and throu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 02:19 PM
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Then I'm going to assume that you can cite at least one of these studies (preferably large scale) that conclusively rules out hormonal changes, spousal behavioural changes, and any other reasons for change to emotional intimacy/connection? There's a difference between a study not finding something to be a cause (e.g., not taking that something into consideration/not having that information available in the dataset) and specifically considering something and stating that it is unrelated to the ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 05:44 AM
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Nothing I said was made up. The fact that you had no idea it existed isn't my problem, or the problem of anybody else. That's an issue with you and your lacking education. It also wasn't a blue moon situation - it was enshrined in the laws of many countries globally up until the 20th century, and in fact it still exists in some countries. The fact of the matter is that it used to be common occurrence. Fyi, I'm not part of a feminist club of any kind. I'm also not in college, I'm way past that po…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 05:37 AM
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So this all boils down to the fact that you believe marriage purely for the sake of having children is better than marriage for love or financial/legal security then? Who are you to decide and dictate what marriage should mean to other people? Why do you think that you're right and the majority of the world is wrong? And there is no automatism that it changes only for the better. Yeah, that's correct, but it's just as correct to say that just because something is a traditional behaviour doesn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 12:05 AM
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The do account for age. That still doesn't account for hormonal changes over the given time period. It literally says it right in the study you linked. Did you even read it? What I pointed out before is still not internalised misandry. Relationships take two people to maintain, meaning the "fault" is often shared. It is, however, common knowledge that men tend to slack off on the important parts of a relationship as time goes on. So much so that it has become a stereotype for all men, regardless…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 11:48 PM
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The internalised misandry argument doesn't work. Wtf are you even talking about? How is lowered sexual appetite due to lack of relationship maintenance being classified as internalised misandry in your brain? 😅🤣 Numerous research shows [...] Oh you want to play the studies game? Ok. The present findings suggest that in both male and female partners in romantic, long-term relationships, higher levels of intimacy are associated with higher sexual desire, which is, in turn, associated with higher o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 08:35 PM
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No film is propaganda, Bullshit if you think that dating and marriage did not change since the 50s which is not even 100 years ago you must be delusional. That's exactly my point. You're claiming that something from over 200 years ago was only changed due to Hollywood and you even said "but 100 years is not that long ago" and now here you are saying a lot can change in 70 years...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 08:27 PM
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I never suggested you're a shut-in. I said you had a sheltered perspective. Someone could go out and socialise every day and still have a sheltered perspective if they always socialise with the same people or in the same few places that attract the same types of people. If you can't see that monogamous relationships are still the vast majority of relationships then you're either not paying attention or you're being influenced into thinking that way by something that isn't a true representation o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 05:28 PM
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Why jump to the bigger number because it sounds like it was longer ago. Because it all changed more and more the closer we got to our current time. Regardless, it's irrelevant. Even if it were super common 100 years (which it wasn't) that's still at least 5 generations ago, i.e., the time of your great-great-great-grandfather. If you don't think things have drastically changed since then, you're awfully blind. Arranged marriages were very common throughout the world until the 18th century. [2] T…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 05:22 PM
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Literally everything you just talked about, aside from India (where recently more and more people are wanting to marry for love, instead of arranged) is talking about the past. We're not in the past. Social norms and practices of 1,000 years ago do not hold any control over what we do today, because it's an entirely different world today. What that means is it doesn't matter what they did, or why they did it. What matters is what we do now, and why we do it now. The majority of the world today d…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 03:11 PM
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Well the reason for marriage is for children, it's a contract to benefit children This is not true. The purpose of marriage is to legally recognise you as a couple for issues relating to ownership of property, inheritance, familial responsibility (healthcare decisions etc.), and finances. that people think it has anything to do with love is funny That you think it has nothing to do with love is sad. People marry to make a declaration of commitment to each other, usually because they are in a lov…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 01:39 PM
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This is the only answer that is necessary. The question itself seems to come from a very sheltered perspective that has no basis in real life social trends. Anybody who spends any time in a social setting in person with others can see that monogamous is by far the preferred and most common relationship type.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 01:11 PM
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If you say so. That hasn't been the case in any of my relationships, including those going on for 8 years or more. Women's libido is most strongly positively correlated to two things in my experience; excitement, and intimate connection. For excitement, it's simply about keeping things interesting and not allowing things to get stagnant, boring, and repetitive. Fun, interesting, and good times is all that's required on that front. As for building and maintaining an intimate connection, that vari…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 12:54 PM
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What does that have to do with whether or not they still want to fuck after menopause?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 01:25 AM
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Yes, this sounds exactly like martial coercion. Since you're still sticking to your guns with this and still haven't bothered to look up what the actual definition of marital coercion is, here you go: Marital coercion means coercion of the wife by the husband. It is used as a statutory defense to a crime which states that an offence committed by a wife in the presence of her husband is committed under the coercion of the husband. Because you're likely not going to understand what that means, giv…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 01:14 AM
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Nothing like admitting that you're a dipshit when trying to sound intelligent because "omg hate men". You probably should have looked up the definition of what marital coercion is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 11:21 AM
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Not really. I know several women who've gone through menopause and fuck more now than they did in their 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 11:10 AM
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Not at all. I simply explained why it can often come across as weird and objectifying. The whole concept of asking for permission to ask is weird and makes no sense, yes, but it's something that: A. Doesn't have to be asked if the environment is a designated space for it B. Doesn't have to be asked if people learn to read body language and social cues properly C. Doesn't need to happen if instead of asking people out on the spot and potentially making them uncomfortable, people just wrote their …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 09:11 PM
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No, it isn't lmao. It's a lot more common than you realise. Have a read
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 06:35 AM
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Fishing in the wrong place? If you don't have the bait or rod for sharks, you fish for something else in a different location, right? 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:32 AM
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Is it possible that your friend may have a personality trait that isn't really seen by friends but is a flag for potential dates to avoid him? I know a handful of people with a similar description who've married and had kids. Either it's completely luck of the draw, a locale thing, or there's something you aren't getting to see that maybe isn't revealed to friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:29 AM
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Become a person you would date then? Take those steps to become happier and more appreciative of yourself, and you can pretty much guarantee it's going to make it infinitely easier for women to see and appreciate those qualities in you too. Obviously it's easier said than done, and can be a lengthy journey, but would you rather be happy with yourself (and possibly a gf) after 2 or 3 years of effort, or be looking back in 3 years wishing you'd started your journey so that it would now be realised…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:25 AM
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Consent, basically. You upload your profile online to indicate consent in people randomly approaching you for the purposes of romantic or sexual interest. That consent/acknowledgement isn't there in person/in public, therefore odds are high that you're trying to hit on someone who doesn't want your attention. That's literally the only difference. Think of it like sex with strangers - it's fine if you both agree, but extremely bad without prior consent, and odds are that most of them are probably…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:06 AM
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Generally speaking, studies do indicate that that's the case (increasing with frequency/duration of consumption), so yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 01:16 AM
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As a straight guy, in a long-term successful relationship with a woman, and with more than 80% of my genuine close friends being women, that professor is talking absolute shit. Some people just vibe better with men, some just vibe better with women. Sure, societal influence has an effect on how you perceive and/or interact with others, but only up to a certain point. Unless you're extremely malleable and constantly take onboard everything that you're told regardless of your own thoughts and your…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 11:00 PM
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You're obviously going to get some people like that, we're all individuals after all, but in my experience the majority of people see it in the same light as u/NotTheBestMoment does.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 01:12 PM
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Men don’t sacrifice shit. That's bullshit. They sacrifice an awful lot, actually. You can’t honestly tell me you've never heard the phrase "women and children first" when it comes to safety and/or emergencies. You can’t pretend that the retirement age for women isn't lower than it is for men in most places, despite the fact that men die at a younger age than women do on average by around 5-10 years. You can’t tell me that men aren't expected to join the army and go to war for society, whilst wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 02:13 AM
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Your view seems pretty ignorant, tbh. It is not "definitely a red flag" just because one partner or the other wants to have sex early on instead of waiting 3 months, regardless of their sex. It can be a red flag, but it can just as easily be someone trying to check off a compatibility item on their list, the same way you do when you ask questions about whether or not you want kids, your religious views, what kind of career you want/have, or where you see yourself in a few years etc. etc. For som…
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