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| 1 | To or not to escalateIf you've been on 4/5 dates just ask, politely of course. Feel free to escalate on the date to get her hot and bothered as well. Finally, have you considered getting a hotel room for a night and doing a date like that? | /r/seduction | 06/03/25 08:57 PM |
| 1 | How to fake Confidence?1, You don't fake deep confidence, only superficial confidence. Girls can tell if you lack deep confidence. You need a psychologist/councillor. It sounds like your deeply ashamed of your background. This isn't healthy as you can't change it. If you want to improve yourself you need to accept yourself. Just because you come from white trash, doesn't mean you ARE white trash. Learn to accept yourself. Focus fixing what you can. Also, be your genuine self, you need to find that balance of being min… | /r/seduction | 06/03/25 12:11 PM |
| 23 | Why do I feel like I need to be an A**hole to get girls?The key here is competence, in the deep unga bunga mind of women,they want someone who can provide for them. Providers are competent in social dynamics and confident. The problem with women is they chase the after effect (confidence), not the actual thing (competence). Assholes have some similar behaviours, not because they are good providers, but because they are confident and socially adept. Being an asshole isn't what OP needs to do, being capable and competent in life and in social gathering… | /r/seduction | 24/02/25 05:15 AM |
| 1 | Low bodycount headacheBody count doesn't get you anything. If you worried about your skills in bed, do some reading, practice a lot, and get feedback. Remember, getting a high body count is considered a good thing for guys because it is HARD. For women, it isn't hard, so it isn't considered a good thing. I would recommend that if your serious about a relationship, don't drop it for something so trivial. Other women don't find a body count that appealing. It doesn't help you in any way tobbe promiscuous. As for this w… | /r/seduction | 19/02/25 07:38 AM |
| 3 | Why are women so stuck-up/ bitchy online?Hoe-flation at its worst. Women have a massively inflated ego. And those that don't have such a low threshold to get sex that they have a completely twisted sense of how actually attractive they are. | /r/seduction | 13/02/25 08:48 AM |
| 2 | What the differences between being playful and being a dancing monkey?I'd say it's about focus, a dancing monkey is about drawing attention to you, being playful is about the other person just as much as you. Eg, you tease somone about something =playful You make a joke about your own behaviour = dancing monkey That object of the conversation matters. The point of teasing is to make a connection. Being a dancing monkey is like peacoking, it's about attracting attention. One looks desperate, the other is just being familiar with the person. | /r/seduction | 11/02/25 08:57 AM |
| 1 | I can talk to people in a platonic manner but I don't know to approach and ask out women.I mean, back when I started dating, there wasn't anything like this. I'm single and besides, I either learn and use it to eventually get a girlfriend, or I don't and probably stay single. Some of it is stuff I did anyway, some of it isn't. Why would I not try and improve myself just because I'm a bit of a late starter? It's not like I haven't dated or anything, just that I didn't use the methods and thought process that this sub suggests. Also, this is generally useful for making friends and soc… | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 05:28 AM |
| 2 | I can talk to people in a platonic manner but I don't know to approach and ask out women.Unless you're a 10/10 yeah. Dude I'm 30 and I'm learning a lot of this for the first time. Women are actually exhausting by and large. They hate being direct and are put off by "formal" things. Think of the kind of stupid shit you see in movies. Some guy brushes a girls hand in public, apologises, and then starts a conversation. Or that this girl is supposedly ugly (think of the movie "The Duff") but then gets approached by some Chad who slowly falls in love with her over time and ditches his ho… | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 05:16 AM |
| 1 | I can talk to people in a platonic manner but I don't know to approach and ask out women.If you can start the conversation (my biggest hurdle). Then you could start by platonically asking about something that she does. Then you start the steps. You tease her about that platonic thing. (Choice of groceries, choice of brand whatever). You then stear the conversation or observe her reaction "oh?, you're embarrassed about x".... And so on. I don't cold approach, but when I do get into a conversation that's how it escalates. Incidently, you can practice this on dating apps, though I'd st… | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 05:04 AM |
| 31 | I can talk to people in a platonic manner but I don't know to approach and ask out women.In terms of conversation. You need to just be "cheeky," always hint or tease. If she is responsive them keep upping the ante. Start with just platonic teasing, then move on to teasing about looks, then start teasing about situations, then ask. Eg "You really think that coffee is the best choice at this time?"-platonic "You look a bit wired after that coffee, it's kinda cute"-looks "You know if it were just us, it feels like a date"-situation "We get along so well, we should probabaly go on a dat… | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 04:24 AM |
| 2 | Is she actually interested in me or just stringing me along?That's just post hoc justification. The moment a girl does this, lay it down that you're not going to accept it, then move on if it doesn't change. I know its hard. But you can't win with these kinds of girls. She isn't worth the chase, and she is definitely not worth a relationship. Your options are always She isn't invested enough to make time She likes to be chased She wants you around to validate herself. All options mean it's time to move. If it wasn't any of these 3, she'd make time and or… | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 12:48 AM |
| 4 | Is she actually interested in me or just stringing me along?Dude, of a girl does this more than once you should ditch. She is doing it just for the attention. Also these kinds of people's tend to be horrible partners. Move on. | /r/seduction | 09/02/25 08:30 PM |
| 2 | Confidence is higher but still rejection is highOh yeah, negativity is a terrible thing to have. It definitely sounds like you're improving. But just remember if you're struggling mentally take a break. The whole point in pursuing women is to ultimately enjoy yourself, if your not, then it's kind if failing at that. | /r/seduction | 08/02/25 10:14 PM |
| 5 | Confidence is higher but still rejection is highIt's not just being confident, it's looking Competent. If you act or talk like you can't do things, girls won't respect you. I'd start by looking at how in the past you have had success, and then trying to think about how you can do that. Also, even if you feel confident you might slip into old habits. I'm in that area now where, even though I'm confident and can talk well online. In person I'm still being to rigid. It's all about self reflection, improvement and iteration. | /r/seduction | 08/02/25 10:08 PM |
| 3 | How to connect and have more intimate conversations with women?To add to this, it's about flowing from an answer. Your not jumping from one question to the next, you're observing her answer and building on it. "That's an interesting choice in coffee" (observation). " do you drink that all the time?" (Question) Her reply "Yes" Your reply "oh? So your a coffee maniac, I should be careful" I'm okay at it in text, but I need to work on it in person. But that's how you get a conversation going. By changing topics and asking different questions you don't leave an… | /r/seduction | 08/02/25 08:29 PM |
| 2 | Why just why are we so scared?I would say a large reason (at least firbme) is that it has been drumbed in from early childhood that being creepy is a terrible thing. Nobody wants to be creepy when they talk to a girl. Getting used to opening conversations is the big hurdle IMO. Start the conversation. Once you have jumped that and can do that, then try and move on to actual game. | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 01:16 AM |
| 7 | Sex is good but self confidence and love is even better. Give some less talked about advice for them!I'd probably say that this, it's not just confidence that women find attractive. It's competence. If you are competent, you can provide, look, and act authoritative, and this is commonly what gives confidence. If you want confidence, seek to be competent at work, in social settings, and with your life in general. If you're stressing about not being able to do something, it's off putting to women, regardless of if you're actually a person with a decent personality and looks. | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 08:45 PM |
| 0 | Don't "Next" women, keep them in your orbit.No one is saying that you waste your time, don't pursue them of course, but you don't have to just ignore them, if your bored and have nothing to do, why not just hangout. | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 09:41 PM |
| 4 | Specific, Repeated Pattern of Ghosting? Help me out Here.Match with them on a dating app-takes it to instagram This is the problem. You should be getting them on a date asap, then if the date goes well and you're doing your stuff we'll, get the instagram. To them your just some fuck boy trying to get nudes or extra followers. Very, very rarely do I spend more than 5 messages on a person before hinting and then following up on a date. This weeds out those women who aren't interested in a date quickly. Also, it's 3 people, my dude, they could just be fa… | /r/seduction | 30/12/24 02:50 AM |
| 1 | help me get clarification on marriage.Generally the man, this is largely due to lopsided court rulings favouring women and women typically earning less than men they marry. However, at least in the odd case, the roles have been reversed when the women makes significantly more than the man. Overall, if you earn significantly more than your partner, you are at a huge risk in marriage. The benefits financially from it are minimal for both involved. | /r/seduction | 25/12/24 02:22 AM |
| 10 | My own toxic masculinityThis seams to me that you have some deep rooted issues around rejection. Your lashing out is most likely a response to your own self inflicted resentment if I had to guess. Probabaly also associated with feelings of not being good enough or something to that effect. I'd probabaly go see a psychologist and work on controlling your own emotions and importantly controlling your own behaviour. As you have said, you know that a lot of the time your acting irrationally, so recognise when you are and s… | /r/seduction | 24/12/24 09:17 PM |
| 7 | Sexual tensionYou don't, text should be used once tension already exists, otherwise it's only real purpose is to set up for dates. | /r/seduction | 15/11/24 05:33 AM |
| 76 | Should I approach women at my gym?Yes, just for the love of God, learn gym etiquette. Don't speak to ANYONE mid set. Make sure your don't smell to high heaven before talking with people. Don't stare, even from mirrors or whatever, it's creepy. And be polite and don't harang people, a gym us a place to meet women yes, but it's also a place to work out, if you get turned down, move on. | /r/seduction | 14/11/24 09:37 AM |
| 1 | Should you skip a week of dating?In my experiance, it depends on the girl, some you can see less, some see more, some change the days constantly. It really depends, then again I'm no cassanova, and I am generally repulsed by the personality of most women I come across. So maybe that just works for my kinds of girls. | /r/seduction | 14/11/24 08:59 AM |
| 12 | How do you make small talk with someone?A helpful tip is to talk about your or hers feelings on topics, So instead of "where do you work" Try "man, I feel like work is draining, how are you so energetic" Your goal is to get them talking about a topic they are interested in and just listen. Talking about their feelings is the easiest way to do this. Also, if your confident and relaxed they will be more likely to feel the same and so, more likely to be chatty. | /r/seduction | 13/11/24 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Is it okay to sleep with a girl then lose interest in her after?Feelings happen, if it's just a one off thing, then you shouldn't feel bad, sure let her know your not interested, but don't feel bad, girls do this ALL the time. Also horny brain is a thing, so a lot of tines when your in the moment you go for it, even though later you realise you actually not into them. | /r/seduction | 13/11/24 05:22 AM |
| 1 | How do you flirt in a hostile environmentIt's being charitable because people aren't mean to random strangers just because. The sheer number of guys who "have done nothing" and then it turns out that they were acting creepy (even if they didn't think they were) is astounding. Hence its MORE likely that you acted creepy without realising it, and that is what started the rumours. I wasn't there, I don't know how you actually acted around these people. But if it's already been and gone just move on. Your unlikely to find out what happened… | /r/seduction | 10/11/24 08:15 PM |
| 1 | How do you flirt in a hostile environmentOP, the guys are being charitable and assuming you haven't actually done anything wrong here....so so you're either really, really unlucky, someone is spreading a rumour about you or.....you HAVE actually done something. Having stayed at a hostel, any of the three could be possible. I'd have a good hard think. Alternatively, maybe try and ask someone what's going on? At least that would clarify things. | /r/seduction | 10/11/24 09:24 AM |
| 3 | Almost 22 years old and still a virginStatistically you are the norm my dude. First step is to work on being attractive, next is to put yourself out there, talk to people. Don't be in a rush to get laid, it puts women off (ironically). The mist important thing to remember is you have to be in it to win it, if you arnt talking to girls, dating apps or otherwise, you will never get laid, it's the most basic principle you have to be applying. | /r/seduction | 04/11/24 03:21 AM |
| 3 | I feel like this "always stay persistent, it’s your fault if she’s not interested" mentality is messing up my headSounds like your coach is just dead wrong. Even if he is hypothetically right, the problem is simply that it isn't worth the effort. As someone else has said, you can't read women's minds, hence you can't know the why, hence it's really yo to luck whether you fix the thing. Unless you have some other reason to really try and make it work, just move on. As the saying goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea, if there is something you like about THAT girl, look for a similar quality in others. St… | /r/seduction | 01/11/24 12:37 AM |
| 1 | What Should Be Our Main Focus?From a life eye view so to speak, ideally you'd want a safe and stable marriage. However, without being in relationships first you won't actually know what you want (and don't want). That said, casual hookups/fwb is not a bad thing depending on how your feeling, life goals and near future plans. As an example I'm planning on moving early next year, so why should I look for a relationship when it will interfere with my other plans. Likewise if I weren't moving, a relationship would probably be my… | /r/seduction | 30/10/24 07:18 AM |
| 1 | Help! I’ve been on too many dates recently, and now I get friend zoned after the first dateFlirting is more than just Kino, it's also about conversation, body language and such, if I had to guess, your too comfortable, which to them comes off as either player or not interested. I'd also say that you might want to look at making yourself more natural maybe? It's hard to tell. I have never had such an issue repeatedly (though recently I did have a similar experiance) but in my case there was a list of things I didn't do well, and was still emotionally insecure/up and down due to my ex a… | /r/seduction | 28/10/24 10:50 AM |
| 3 | Tinder match: invite date went wrong?I'm interested to her others opinions on this kind of reply. Feels like a test to me, but I wouldn't know how to respond. Feels like she's trying to test how you react if she pulls away, maybe some hint of jealousy? | /r/seduction | 28/10/24 10:44 AM |
| 1 | Social skills knowledge gapTo add to this, you don't want to ask directly. So not "What do you like to do on the weekend" It's more like " I have some free time on the weekend, what do you think I should do?" You then follow up about their suggestion (usually, based on what they like to do) Alternatively if you already know something they enjoy such as hiking "Man, that trail out at X place is so wild and overgrown, makes me feel like Im an explorer." In this case, you are bring up the topic of hiking, and posing a dilemm… | /r/seduction | 28/10/24 10:40 AM |
| 1 | Authenticity when datingGot my Kino up on the second date, though I should of started sooner (one of the things I need to work on). We were literally making out on the 4th date or whatever and she just stopped and said "I don't want to have sex with you". My general ideas of what I did wrong were Poor conversation - I could talk about interesting things but I didn't make the conversations flow as well as they should of. Slow Kino/nervous about kino- definitely something I need to work on No outcome detachment - was too… | /r/seduction | 28/10/24 10:28 AM |
| 3 | I do not understand by meeting girls at parties is given advice on where to find women ?Nerver listen to people who say that you "can't pick up women here" or "shouldn't pick up women there" especially if it's other women. Because all they are saying, is that you wouldn't pick uo women "like me" there. Best advice is to find where the kind of women you're after go, and then try and be there alot/make friends in those circles. Meeting women in a place will help you meet women, but if they aren't the kind you're after, then it's just a waste of time. Group wise, if you don't know wha… | /r/seduction | 28/10/24 09:20 AM |
| 3 | Authenticity when datingSelf review I have found is far more useful than asking any girl on advice. Part of it is that most girls don't understand WHY they like or don't like a guy if it isn't obvious. As an example, I had a girl recently tell me that I was " perfect" but that she didn't feel attracted to me sexually. She couldn't explain why at all. However I found that it was a number of things I wasn't doing, and that I also was still working through my last break up. I only found out about those thing after coming … | /r/seduction | 28/10/24 05:22 AM |
| 2 | if/how to follow up when she says "I might be free on Friday, I'll let you know"This, I had a chick make excuses for like 3 weeks straight, but she kept coming back with a different time. I did eventually get a date, but she was clearly not interested. My advice is give her a chance to reschedule once then leave it be. Even if she does actually want to go on a date, that behaviour is bad and should be ignored anyway. Take it from the bozo who made that mistake. | /r/seduction | 24/10/24 05:57 AM |
| 1 | Stop gatekeeping game.Likewise for the subbredit, people don't gatekeep this stuff. | /r/seduction | 22/10/24 08:57 PM |
| -2 | Moving beyond the "hey" stepI found a meme is a better way to start. If you say hey, (like every other guy), you don't stand out and give the chick nothing to go on from, plus it sets a boring vibe. Just send a meme going hey, they will probabaly reply with a meme if their own, you now can comment on the meme (is it wierd? Was it a common meme? Does it have a cute dog ect) now you have a more natural conversation leading from the topic. I am not the best when it comes to tinder or daring, but that's been my experiance so f… | /r/seduction | 22/10/24 10:28 AM |
| 3 | Stop gatekeeping game.I don't think OP knows what Gate Keeping is. I haven't seen a single comment on this thread that could be considered gate keeping. | /r/seduction | 22/10/24 06:01 AM |
| 20 | Why is it so hard to hook up with single women?I would say the first step is to learn to engage the conversation in a meaningful way. I would recommend Dan Bacon on YouTube, since he explains the how AND why. Part of it is to be confident in yourself, if your nervous, it will turn them off. Girls don't have to try and so anything for sex, so they don't look for the same things in men that men look for in women. As others have said, it's a numbers game. 4 girls isn't a lot, most people I have heard from approach 50 or so women and get maybe 4… | /r/seduction | 21/10/24 11:39 PM |
| 6 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)?The first and most difficult thing to do is to be happy with yourself. Alot of loniness is actually your subconscious reminding you that your not in a state that you want to be, my advice is to work out, dress better, get your hair cut ect. My second suggestion is to first make friends, not just with chick's, but with guys as well. If you can't make meaniful friends, your probabaly not going to make any meaniful relationships. I'm a noob when it comes to picking up girls in person (1 girlfriend … | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 05:17 AM |
| 6 | Where do you find single girls?I'd disagree, in my experiance alot of places I have been told that are places to "pick up" women have mostly had couples, roughly in a 4-6 ratio or worse. That said, I don't cold approach or anything like that. If I had to guess, single women are in general less social than women with partners, but I could be wrong. | /r/seduction | 17/10/24 05:22 AM |
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