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I'd like to see a study on how much they value penetration. I found one a few months back that was on topic, but I can't find it again. I think that one study I saw in the past found that about 8% to12% don't like receiving vaginal penetration. This might have included bi and gay women too, I'm not sure. I realize that your point is "to feel satisfied" with the act of sex, and not orgasms via penetration alone. In that way, I think that saying more than 50% feel that way is correct. I have wonde…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 03:39 AM
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That gave me a good chuckle!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 03:30 AM
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don't know what they don't know, also large dildos are inconvenient, and there is a million small reasons why women would not like them. Very valid point there! There was a women's masturbation website 14 years ago where women answered many questionaires about how they masturbate. They asked them why they didn't include penetration, if they didn't. The most common reasons were that it required more cleanup after, it was more work, or they felt odd doing it to themselves. It wasn't that they didn…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 03:28 AM
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u/Sharp_Engineering379 is explaining it well, except that I'd just add that the bulbs of the clitoris are behind the labia miora. The legs are closer to the seat bones, left and right side of the vagina. So, TheAvocado, you're right that they're not in the vaginal wall. The bulbs are just outside of the wall very close to the opening though. At the parineum is supposed to be the clitoral bundle. It would seem that a larger girth would be more likely to send stimulation up the clitoral bulbs, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 03:08 AM
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I do think there's a "size" root in this whole story. To be fair to OP, I do believe size matters more than many people say it does, but not as much as the super worried men, worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 02:56 AM
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Really good points, but as someone who tries and listens well, AND has had sex with men, it's more challenging to stimulate a clitoris without being too rough or just plain doing it wrong. Women are better at getting this right, and that's totally understandable to me. I got involved with orgasmic meditation for a few months, and got better at clitoral stimulation due to that, but I think the women that stayed in those meetups long term liked clitoral stimulation that was less complex, such as j…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 02:12 AM
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Here's another study that had better wording in their questions to the women, but it's harder to read the results. The final numbers are quite similar. About 37% haven't ever had an orgasm during penetration alone, if manual stimulation of the clitoris is excluded. 1,400 women study about orgasm with penetration alone, or including manual clitoral stimulation. This study surveyed male partners too, and there was a 10% and 20% gap in how often the men thought the women had an orgasm, and how ofte…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 01:59 AM
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I like that you linked studies! I'm all about linking studies and surveys too. One thing though, there's a good number of people that don't agree with Brody (Stuart Brody Ph.D ), particularly about "vaginal orgasms" being a whole completely different type of orgasm. A lot of top researchers believe that all real orgasms involve the pudendal nerve, the one that the clitoris is on. Orgasms will indeed feel different if stimulation and pressure is focused on other spots, yes, especially if those sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 01:45 AM
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I've seen stats on this from an empirical study. I think somewhere between 8% and 12% don't enjoy penetration, but I can't remember. Are you aware of any study? A few months ago I came across a study that tried to sort out how much women valued penile penetration, but I can't even find that study again using Google Scholar.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 01:04 AM
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I don't think the angle of the hips, as in the way she stands, makes much difference. I do think pelvis size and shape factors in. This won't determine muscle tone, but the amount of room, and usually the length of the slit from top to bottom. A pelvis that is wide left to right, but smaller front to back, usually is paired with a smaller slit. The vulva might be 3" tall. On the other hand, a larger pelvis might have a vulva that is as much as 5" tall. I don't think it's a definite indicator, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:24 PM
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There is some research showing that if a woman has repeat good interactions with a guy that she was originally not attracted to, she might become attracted to him over 10 or so interactions. It's not the same for men. They didn't find that men's first judgement changed often. "...is to date the most undesirable guy they can find" That's a bit too much. Not the most undesirable. It's more that they can become attracted to an average guy that didn't stand out to them first.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 02:17 PM
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Yes, I agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 06:17 PM
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Valid points. People are also placing their ideals over what has happened in tribal societies. According to the noted Anthropologist Helen Fisher, most tribal people ended up having 2 to 3 long relationships, like marriages, in their lifetime. I agree with your arguments that it's better for people to be able to move on. There's a natural cycle to it anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 05:22 AM
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I've been in non-monogamy for a long time. I'm a big supporter of promiscuous women or people in general, but..... I do think that humans still pair bond, most of us do. I don't think that Christopher Ryan was right about that in his book Sex At Dawn, where they claim that humans aren't actually a pair bonding species. Are there other books that claim this? I think Helen Fisher's books are more accurate, but I'm still open to look at other books on human mating. Some individuals might have less …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 05:14 AM
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I'd happily be with the plain Jane, but having a lot in common and the same outlook matters to me a lot! A drug free hippie? Love that..... "another example of an average woman" nah, she's above average. I looked at her face, mostly.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:59 AM
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1 and 5 are social constructs and popular norms. I myself am attracted to the women that run counter to that on purpose. My one exception is that I do think sundresses are hot!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:56 AM
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Ah, assortative mating!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:35 AM
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Really good point! While there can be compulsive behavior with some of them, if the guilt were taken out it would break the circular cycle for many of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:32 AM
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It's definitely a dynamic that some of us guys like. It's hard to find, so the guys that want that stay stuck out there in dating land longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 12:57 PM
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I'm here wondering if I'll have to compromise more on looks than I already have been. I used to compromise more on age, but suddenly I find myself going into my own mid 40's years now. I'm 5' 7", and I've seen taller friends get more attention really quick, unless they were goofy guys. They all married in their mid 20's.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 02:42 PM
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What? I had 11% bodyfat and nearly a swimmer's build, and women showed no additional interest in me back then compared to now when 14 years older and 17% bodyfat (still almost a flat belly). I'm 5' 7" . That seems to matter more, in my own experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:12 AM
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A man's height is part of the looks equation, and a woman's level of body fat (and/or how it is distributed) is also part of looks. In my opinion, those things frequently make or break opportunities for people. There's some wiggle room where being gifted in some other areas can offset height or body fat, but.... in my opinion that happens for a small percentage of short men / heavy women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 06:58 AM
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I think they say that for all those reasons, and add in that a few women feel top much discomfort. Lots of women fib though, or haven't come across a truly large one, etc...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 06:03 AM
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Yes, many many times here on reddit people misrepresent the results of the Herbenick study. It's interesting to see that it is done on other sites too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 02:47 AM
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Eh, ample size can deliver a good bit to the equation, even if a portion of that is the extra mental turn-on by attraction to the bigger size. Physically though, thicker girth presses more on the internal parts of the clitoris (the bulbs of the clitoris near the vaginal opening, and the front wall of the vagina). It's also more likely to tug on the labia and move the clit hood. Then, extra length presses on other nerve routes, so that can help too, even though unlike some people, I don't think t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 02:36 AM
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He'll probably get more considerations and more quickly, but in the end a broad spectrum of things matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:17 PM
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Wouldn't get me crucified, but I'll just take this opportunity to say that assortative mating happens more than people admit on this sub. I think before humans lived in big cities, and especially pre-internet, it happened even quicker. Also, male height plays a big role, but men that can excell in an area or two, can do well regardless of being shorter.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 07:19 AM
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Thanks for replying.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 12:36 PM
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How do you meet women in everyday life? I'm 5' 7" and talking to a couple of women right now that I've met in real life, but.... I've used online dating too with a small amount of success. I'm 42 and have never found a spouse though, and I've never planned to live alone this long.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 03:52 AM
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I'm 5' 7" too. I'm 42 and haven't found a spouse yet, but I have dated a good bit. I've mostly had better luck with women 5 to 10 years older than me. I've dated just a handful my age or a little younger, but they seem to end things if I make even a little blunder. I have ok success on Okcupid, usually. I'm maybe a hair above average in looks (supposedly most people think that about themselves), and have always been lean. I think I'm better at showing interest in the women that will chat with me…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 02:26 AM
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Nice. I understand. I'm 5' 7". I never married, age 42 now, but I know it's due to multiple reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 12:34 AM
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Good point. Not just the availability of 3rd places, but.... just having a higher amount of mixed sex activities and enough of a population really helps. Regarding your flare, does it mean Low Value Male?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 12:07 AM
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The "old" in person methods are probably still the best for men that are shorter than average in height. There is the chance for our personality to catch their interest, or accent, or something else that can only be seen in person. On a stats sheet we get passed over a little bit more, unless you have stellar facial looks and superb style.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 12:04 AM
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Some people appear to think that cultural strictness regarding monogamy is the answer. I don't think so. I think when people lived in smaller settlements (even smaller cities), before the internet, people had fewer options, and chose life partners. Slowly, it is like musical chairs, and assortative mating happens. In more populated areas, and with the internet, people perceive that they have a whole lot of choices to keep choosing from, so they don't choose a spouse, and the dating scene just ke…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 11:54 PM
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I don't believe men are much Hornier. Instead, women face more risk when it comes to possible sex with new partners. Reputation risks, physical safety risks, and even slightly higher sti risks as they are typically receiving penetration. Oh, and pregnancy risks.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:26 PM
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Yes, this is right! New studies are showing that both sexes cheat nearly equally as much. A fantastic book on female infidelity is Untrue by Wednesday Martin.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:23 PM
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It's both, standards are high, and lots of men lie, particularly in casual sex dating or swinging.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:08 PM
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I don't like them much either. I much more into giving. I just appreciate a bj a couple of times a year from a long term partner as intimacy/closeness.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 02:21 PM
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Next orgy I'm in I'm going to try that! I wonder how will it will be received? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 02:03 AM
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Thanks. I'm more trying to estimate the looks side of things. I'm going to watch vids on assortive mate selection.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 09:31 AM
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I sometimes wonder if a quite tall guy if more of a status symbol than a fetish? To those women....
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 09:18 AM
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Average female height in the US is 5' 3.5"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 09:14 AM
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I've been in orgies too with some of those guys, but not all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 08:59 AM
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Where can I find more info on this Assortive mating? I've had a damn hard time figuring out what my match is. I'm 5' 7", but in good shape with a BMI of 23. My body count is 38+ for women, but I have dabbled with swingers. That's easier than the singles scene, sort of, especially the online part.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 08:49 AM
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That's an interesting take. I've seen something similar in one particular social group. It was easier for the average or uglier people to date within the group and be satisfied. The fit people usually had more trouble finding a match. My first thought about BMI and bigger being better was higher BMI due to muscle, not fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 08:45 AM
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I'm 5' 7" and have been athletic. I wasn't bulky, but thin. I've struggled. I'm 41 and I've still never lived with a woman. I do realize that I don't have it as bad as guys that are 5' 5" and under, but height has negatively impacted my dating life to an extent. I saw a stat that about 70% of women surveyed would pass on a guy my height. I suppose that I should be grateful that 30% would date a guy my height. Gay guys have found me to be quite attractive. I wished that women were the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 08:30 AM
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Thanks for this link. At 5' 7" myself, I've felt very much like that all my life. I'd go to parties with my 6' tall friends, and the women would be flirting with them right away even though I was athletic and winning at some things.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 08:24 AM
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I'm 5' 7" and not affluent. I do agree. I've had a tough time, but I have been able to date, yes. I have a friend that is 5' 5" and just slightly affluent, but also has a kinda big penis ( not huge). He's polyamorous and always has 4 or so girlfriends that all know about each other. He even has a crooked tooth in the front that a grinder should be taken to! He also dresses tacky sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 07:57 AM
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Guys with bigger dicks do tend to have more confidence. It's a circular feedback. Then, they get more women or are single only for brief amounts of time before another woman gets with them. I've been around swinging and the polyamory community for nearly 15 yrs. In swinging, I've been brought in because my dick was bigger than the husbands. Both of them wanted that. It isn't really big, just ample sized. Then, in polyamory, I've seen as many big or long dicks as average ones. I may have seen onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 07:42 AM
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Yep, but people don't like to include a guy in the comparison when he has both skills and a big dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 07:35 AM
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I had an ex that said the same thing. Bigger dicks would bring her to orgasm faster, or with more certainty. She had trouble cumming sometimes. So extra girth AND length was helpful for her even though she was the type that has to rub her clit herself in order to orgasm during intercourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 07:31 AM
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r/smalldickproblems asked women to stop going over there and explaining the idea that size doesn't matter, or that small is good enough, because in most all their explanations they used at least some language that revealed how good an ample sized dick is. It wasn't intentional on the women's part, it's just that their examples can be seen through.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 07:28 AM
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Absolutely! I gave a guy a magnum condom, and within two weeks his girlfriend sent one of her friends to set up a hookup with me. I wasn't dressing well that month either. I was kinda depressed and just barely making it through college that month, hair a mess, etc...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 07:14 AM
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Oh my god Becky, look at this.... D\**!*
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 07:07 AM
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Her 8" dildo probably included the balls and all in that 8 inches. So, 6.5" insertable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 07:03 AM
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4.8" might be the "boyfriend dick." One night stand dick..... they'd prefer that to be thicker.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 06:50 AM
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You gave me a good laugh, thanks! Your post is a good example, definitely.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 06:41 AM
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Lol..... you're welcome! 😁 🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 04:43 PM
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Guy here, heteroflexible. In women I look for: looks (facial and body fitness). personality Responsible person that is fair. I don't give a flip about femininity. I quite like tomboys or soft butches, but they are usually more interested in other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 03:39 PM
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Exactly, a stuffed inbox, which isn't the kind of stuffing those that like it big are looking for. :) You are right! I try to tell people that. It's like the same nerves getting stimulated by deep vaginal penetration or deep enough anal penetration. The nerves are either the vagus or the hypogastric. They can't trigger an orgasm themselves, but they sense fullness, movement, and pressure. When stimulation goes up those nerves too along with the main one for orgasms (the pudendal) , the orgasm is…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 03:35 PM
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I don't believe that having set standards for desirability is the best way to go. Such as, I don't feel highly attracted to women in heels and makeup. I feel attracted to women without makeup and wearing flats. Bonus if they are crunchy granola hippies. So..... I don't like universal beauty standards for style. I suppose beauty standards for the naked body are more standard, though I prefer small breasts, large labia, pubic hair. Body fitness level attractiveness would be standard, yes. What's t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 02:56 PM
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Thanks for being so honest! It really is hard to find....to find women admitting that on reddit. I guess because you'd get your inbox stuffed by messages, possibly. I think it is hot that less than 6 or even 7 won't really do it for you anymore. On the podcast mentioned above, she thinks women that don't favor big cocks haven't really had one before. I know that's not true for every women, because some are shallow inside, but yeh.... sounds like you've been having some really good experiences wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 06:45 AM
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That's true, it does depend on how deep the cervix is in a woman. It also depends if her vagina is a little wider at the top, so that something long can slide behind the cervix (into the posterior fornix or cul de sac). Most women are shaped that way, but a few are so narrow that a long penis can't dodge the cervix as much, so they get more direct hits instead of rubbing by it. I did see that you mentioned sleeves (or an extension) for smaller guys. I had a girlfriend mention that. She said that…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 06:29 AM
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Thanks for taking the time to reply! I'm more fascinated with how the woman adjusts to extra length, since some can't adjust to handle full thrusting from 8". The extent of my geekery on it fueled me to write an article on vaginal depth. It is pinned on my profile. I cited my sources from a gynecological textbook, etc....
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 06:17 AM
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Were you able to fit all of the 8 inches the first time? Vaginal depth varies so much that.... it is interesting. Kinda like a mystery.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 05:13 AM
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What has it been like to go from that 4 inch penis to that one just shy of 8 inches? I know adjusting to girth is not a big deal, but stretching in and getting deeper to accommodate a longer partner is something that some women can do, but not all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 04:58 AM
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Yes, a thick 8 incher, or just shy of 8, is a terrific size! You might be able to have good sex with a guy with a basic 4 to 5 incher, but the penetration will pale in comparison a bit. They'd better be damn good with their fingers and oral.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 04:54 AM
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The real correlation is that a bigger vagina is usually within a bigger pelvis. Not all tall women have a bigger pelvis. There will be a slight correlation though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 04:37 AM
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I've dated multiple women that really like to feel full or stretched. I didn't press them about penis size, other than my first girlfriend, and also one who is a psychologist. The psychologist, she admitted that a bigger cock helped her to get to orgasm more easily, or get there with more certainty. She always had to rub her clit herself to orgasm.... and she was still the type to prefer a bigger cock. Even while rubbing her clit, the extra internal pressure was helpful. Thankfully, I got really…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 04:13 AM
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Really good points! I totally agree that she'd prefer a challenge that she can adjust to (that's up to a point though, the pelvis ends up limiting depth too, not just width). Also, women do love the status of a bigger dick. It's a lot like the status of having a taller partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 03:59 AM
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Awesome advice! I think bigger is better, but totally agree with your assessment of how people just need to accept their situation and really know if that's the partner they want to be with or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 03:49 AM
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That's not quite correct. People read that study wrong. They post the same statistic on r/sex wrong too. Here's the study and numbers. 18.4 intercourse alone was sufficient for orgasm 36.6% reported clitoral stimulation was necessary for orgasm during intercourse 36% indicated that, while clitoral stimulation was not needed, their orgasms feel better if their clitoris is stimulated during intercourse. People like to keep showing that 18 to 20%, but they don't show that other 36% that can orgasm …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 03:15 AM
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I remember the different vaginas quite a bit too. I'm a fan of large labia, so I probably pay more attention to details.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 02:15 AM
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It's an embarrassment of riches in dick size. I see women do the same. They humble brag about the really nice 7+ one that hurts on occasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 02:12 AM
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It does usually encompass an ideal penis size range, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 01:46 PM
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I've read of it being a problem for some females is they orgasm quick from penetration when the partner has a big dick, and they're the "1 and done" type of woman and need a break between orgasms. Their vagina doesn't stay in high arousal mode after the orgasm and the big penis can cause too much friction if the guy doesn't cum in 2 to 4 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 01:44 PM
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I think the swingers will be happiest in the long run, because it's more sustainable for couples to open up to than polyamory. Sure, a few couples do sustain polyamory over the long haul, but less than the number of couples that can swing for decades. What's the difference? Keeping the couple's relationship as being very primary. A few poly people roll that way, but it is not the spirit of the times. The poly community is becoming more "solo poly" people. They say that they want to be single. Fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 04:48 AM
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I think alternative relationships of all kinds are becoming a little bit more popular. This is somewhat assisted by the internet and the availability of new ideas and information. Full disclosure: I have had adventures with nearly 10 swinging couples. Most of that was back in my 20's. I learned of polyamory at age 25. I thought it was more evolved, and made more sense than swinging. I did poly through most of my 30's. Midway through my 30's though, I realized that swinging was a better fit for m…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 03:49 AM
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Good for you and your wife. I'm serious. I've been with several swinging couples back in my 20's. In my 30's I did 8 years + of polyamory. It has long been my opinion that only a small percentage of couples that open up to polyamory can sustain it for more than 7 years. Now, I do actually know probably 5 or more couples like that, but that's out of meeting a couple of hundred people. I also think poly with hierarchy is more sustainable for a couple than trying to be super egalitarian. It's a lit…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 03:31 AM
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The women that have had more sexual partners know that there is better sex out there, for real. It's not just a theory for them. I don't blame them either.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 03:15 AM
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The cuck wants to live vicariously through both of them, the woman taking the big cock, and the hung guy giving it. He wants to see her react in ways that he thinks he can't get her to respond (which might be true).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 04:13 AM
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Ha..... not inner city Austin! Downtown and anything bordering downtown has the affluent strolling about. Though, you must mean something else by "inner city". You have to go outer city to find low income neighborhoods here.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/18 12:57 AM
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Like the top answer, equals should be together. Then it's a tie.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/18 12:36 AM
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I've considered that, and I'm complaining that most people are doing it, so fewer people get into well matched relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 03:08 PM
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I never said it was theirs. Both genders try to date up. It's my problem that the women I like don't like me, and my problem that I won't date the women that show me interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 03:39 AM
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I've tried. I can sincerely feel attracted to thicker women than I used to (big hipped belly dancer type), but beyond a point I feel like crap for not being able to attract a fitter woman ( her face could be fairly rough, for all I care). I'm active and hike and ride horses....and have been thin all my life. There's just a point where I can't fake interest. I feel more failure than excitement.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 03:25 AM
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I really like #3. I prefer women that are not high femme. Give me an un made-up hippie, a tomboy, or a soft butch. These women are rarely single though, in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 03:20 AM
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This is going to be basic as hell, but: women in my city are very picky and overlook me. Yet, I don't feel attracted to the chubby or less educated (they sound redneck in speech) women that show interest in me. The women that I'm attracted to pursue other guys, generally taller more middle class guys. It's as if no one wants to date on their own level. Everyone wants to date up so we stay single for more many more years than we would otherwise. What causes this? Is it the paradox of choice, espe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 03:12 AM
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There is a spectrum. Women don't have to be dominate leaders in the bedroom to communicate what works food for them, or ask for a position, speed, or depth. They just need to not be so damn passive as to not speak up. As someone who has been fucked by guys, I can say that there is much less performance anxiety in being on the receiving end, and men's skill and cocks vary enough that the receivers notice differences, no doubt. We can dislike it all we want, but being a good reveiver is more about…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 03:06 AM
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Companionless would be better for me. I live a mostly sexless existence already. It is really really disappointing. My good friend that lives on the same property in a yurt is my companion......enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 02:57 AM
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I'm 37. I've wanted to live with a woman in a romantic relationship, but never have had the two combined. I've had roommates, and I can't imagine the lack of responsibility makes up for the consistent physical affection and more frequent sex. Now, I do agree that satisfying a woman is work. It can be stressful. I've been a top with women and a bottom with men, and it is much less of a challenge to be a good reveiver of penis rather than the one driving it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 02:21 AM
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People already question my sexuality. I'm not 100% straight, but prefer women. I basically just don't care what they think on that. The egg has already been fried.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 02:16 AM
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Morally superior? No, just more game for excting times. We have more risk tolerance and females evolved being aware of physical risks, including possible pregnancy. Less status? Males generally don't expect the female to be the bread winner nor or they envied by their friends if the woman has high social status. Females are more likely to envy women that marry a higher status male. Men don't have an evolved concern for financial support of their offspring, at a subconscious level.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 02:10 AM
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I use reddit the most, tumblr some, and a sex toy forum a little, and Facebook very little. I do not do well in online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 02:03 AM
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No, I can't stand dishonest compliments at all! I much prefer bold honesty. I feel more emotional intimacy then. Give me the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 01:53 AM
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My family has told me that I'm handsome too. I had some small amount of cystic acne and have scarring, and I'm shorter than average, and I have a blue collar average wage job, AND women pass on me unless they are older or chubby, and can't get taller studs my age. I'm 37. I've been in one 5 yr + relationship, but otherwise struggle like hell getting a girlfriend, much less a wife. At least I haven't wanted children, a house in the burbs, and an SUV. The pain would be worse if had those mainstrea…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 01:51 AM
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I almost fisted my first girlfriend a few times, and we didn't even have lube helping us. I didn't know fisting was a thing. I was both mesmerized and intimidated by how stretchy she was. It made my heart race. I fisted my second girlfriend, but by then I had read a book about fisting, "A Hand in the Bush, The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting". I've tried with women since then, but haven't been able to again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/17 10:06 PM
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It is more normal in certain progressive cities, but not broadly socially accepted, in my opinion. I was part of a poly relationship with several branches. We wouldn't get told anything, but it wasn't cheered on either except by certain close friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/17 02:01 AM
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Poly probably isn't sustainable as a widespread social phenomenon. I think your right, particularly about egalitarian polyamory or relationship anarchy. In swinging though, the couple identifies with romantic or social monogamy. Particularly being identified as a couple. Then, the couple is not sexually monogamous within the swinging subculture. Basically, in society they go about as a monogamous pair bond.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/17 01:55 AM
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Sounds perfect with my belief that most humans are socially monogamous, but not sexually monogamous, by nature. I've been swinger and poly, and I can say that poly can be very complex. Swinging and forming close friendships seems like the most pragmatic happy medium.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/17 03:57 AM
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No, it's not. Most of the swinger community and the poly community are quite separate, with just a small percentage being in both types of relating. Swingers don't want courtship rituals with other people. They want sex first, and usually friendship second. Then often bonding occurs, but no Valentines Day or special birthday dates. On the other hand, most all poly peeps love courtship rituals. It's about romance for them first, sex 2nd. Swingers are more often Republicans, while poly people are …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/17 03:54 AM
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In these cities there might be a little less judgment, or they'd more quietly judge the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/17 03:34 AM
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I believe that humans are socially monogamous, but not sexually monogamous, as a generalization. I've been with swinging couples and very active and well connected in the poly community. I now think the swingers are being the most pragmatic. They hold the marriage up above any other bond with outside sex partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/17 03:31 AM
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I have 8 years of experience around swinging, and later 7 years with polyamory. In my opinion the swingers and the polyamorist that are heiarchical are being the most pragmatic and will have longer marriages to their primary partner. The egalitarian type works for very few people, especially if all living together. They breakup over non sexual things, usually, just as roommates get frustrated with eachother. So, there's a movement in some of the most progressive poly areas towards relationship a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/17 03:26 AM
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It is happening now in reality in Austin, Portland, San Francisco, etc..... polyamory is more and more common, but it is still probably down in the 5% range, of the population. I have been a swinger and poly at different times. 15 yrs of experience now. I now feel that swinging or poly couples that keep their marriage very primary, is more enduring. There is a movement towards all egalitarian in the poly community, and even relationship anarchy, but if your not a geeky attractive person in a tre…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/17 03:13 AM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/17 02:38 AM
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I agree with this "just be alone" part, but sharing? The polyamory community is small. I've been a part of it. Polygamy, that's even more rare, not counting select regions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/17 02:16 AM
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No, never of a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/17 02:11 AM
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I agree with the premis that RP is on the political right. I'm just left of center and at times libertarian left or socialist in thinking. I tend to think that premise 4, geberalizing, is useful in discussions even though I acknowledge that exceptions exist. I'm definitely not an RP'er though. Another bit of evidence is that more than 75% of polyamorist are on the left side of the political spectrum, and RP writers have disdain for polyamory.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/17 02:10 AM
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Got that right. I witnessed some serious kicking from a Domme at a kink party. I had to hold back and quiet my amazement that the guy was taking that. I agree though, there's a shortage of Dommes. That's why there can be pro Dommes doing it for $.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/17 04:15 AM
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I've been fit most of my life, but at 5' 7" it's rare for fit women to be into me, unless they're older than me, in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/17 03:59 AM
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I prefer women that wear little to no makeup, even if they are supposedly not as pretty without the makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/17 03:50 AM
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