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The learning is how to leverage all of this. When to ask questions, how to ask questions, when to flirt, and to read body language. Many men report that dating feels like an interview, so ladies need to learn to relax and have fun too. We call them social skills for a reason, and skills are developed through social and emotional learning.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 11:15 AM
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Don't lower your standards for anyone. Also, when you keep a standard, it drives people nuts, especially the ones that are use to validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 01:14 PM
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Being coddled in general leads to arrested development for both genders. Again, it's differentiated by gender and how it shows up in later life and the way it damages their social lives and abilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 02:13 PM
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Get out and touch grass, most men are not like this, what a silly argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 01:24 PM
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So, is it people or men? Because there is scant data pointing to one sex engaging in this, it's mostly social media and media driven nonsense. Also, if you look at the real data; the data that uses stats and categorial terms to differentiate observation, men and women are at parity; it shows up in different ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:28 PM
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Like your mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 08:57 PM
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So is your mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 08:04 PM
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So, a disordered and unhealthy person did what a disordered and unhealthy person will do. And the women that will stay with a "bad boy" are like the men that will stay with a "bad girl", people-pleasing, enmeshed, agreeable, and with low self-worth and esteem. Convince your friend that his GF is rotten and he'll find better, she will just use him if he is a doormat.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 04:57 PM
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This is such an overblown topic, touch grass. Go out, you're as bad as an incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 08:17 PM
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Water is wet...people are hypocrites.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 05:21 PM
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It's a robotic formula...beep...boop, I am a robot.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 02:29 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:52 PM
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Congratulations on acknowledging you're human garbage, just a piece of trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 05:38 PM
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It is bias, you approached with a specific intent in mind. You were looking to confirm your hypothesis.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 02:34 PM
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Making comments based on an experiment, that is bias. You were making them with a certain intention in mind. The experiment was the driver, not your genuineness.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 02:05 PM
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You were making complements based off a preconceived notion, that is not genuine.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 12:55 PM
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People appreciate compliments. When someone does something, or makes pays a compliment, and they say I appreciate you, it feels good. Also, you were not genuine in your compliments as you were running an experiment (there was an ulterior motive), and it was a poor one because you were looking to prove your hypothesis, not disprove it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 12:46 PM
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You're a piece of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 12:38 PM
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It's great to know I can get whatever woman I want, but hold myself to a standard. And it is fun to reject them because they get all butthurt, it is also fun rejecting them when they want "friendship". Women are just as sexual as men, but they think that we need to approach all the time, you are not worth it in most cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 02:34 PM
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Yes, it changes the dynamic of a relationship, but it's unhealthy to center the relationship on the children. Both parents raise the children, but they need to focus on the relationship to create a healthy environment for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 11:10 AM
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Learn to read the room, women who make repeated eye contact or move closer and closer to you are interested. Make your move, that shows confidence after you create some feelings of safety. Going up to someone random is creepy. Also, all these manosphere types, like Rollo are just using games to get women, it's unhealthy and actually shows you that they are not confident. It's all a show.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 04:40 PM
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Making, or not making a choice (which is still a choice), comes with consequences. Even discussing or complaining about the choices and consequences show they care and are looking at defense mechanisms to protect themselves otherwise they would probably have ASPD. Dating and relationships are highly nuanced. You also have trauma bonding, abuse, etc. that play into the dynamic. People will excuse away negative behavior due to poor confrontational skills, lack of esteem, gender differences, etc. P…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 02:07 PM
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Usually, people can pick up on this and you have a conversation, or you attempt to have a conversation. Detachment comes after depending on what is said or done. This is just push-pull dynamics, is unhealthy, and is game playing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 11:10 AM
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We accept the love we think we deserve. Ex-wife married her deadbeat drunk affair partner and is trying to save her marriage, only knew him for six months before they were engaged. People are people, and a lot of the time it is because people do not pause to look at what they want and expect in a relationship and take all their past and traumas with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 04:28 PM
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Quality is better than quantity. I don't compare myself to women, and it's an unhealthy dynamic to jump from relationship to relationship...can't be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 04:03 PM
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It's being a safe person of good character.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:11 PM
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Mental illnesses and neurological disorders can lead to hyperactive symptoms, and worse relational outcomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 01:59 PM
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I agree that is one facet, but this lacks so much nuance.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 12:24 PM
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It's still centering people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 02:25 PM
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And that is why you walk away. If a person keeps their walls up, you leave. It is not your job to continually assuage them or demonstrate to them that you are trustworthy; they need to heal and fix whatever it is that is causing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 06:23 PM
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Easy, cheap dates in the beginning. We become exclusive, I spend a little more. Not hard to do. Never had a women expect much.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:34 PM
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And no one will know who you are, and eventually that will blow up what you have going on because you are not safe; they are dating a robot with no personality and a mask on. Also, there is a difference between being confident in yourself, and pouring into people who don't care, that's low self-esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:37 PM
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They sound like RP dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 09:01 PM
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I've had to tell women to stop because they were becoming physically painful through biting and using their teeth, or using dry hands aggressively down there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:41 PM
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More than likely it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 12:46 PM
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Most people are in a relationship, and most people find someone on their level; they are going to find someone they have the capacity for.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 11:08 AM
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Words have different meanings and depend on context, but generally good is better than nice when describing someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 01:48 PM
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They need to draft cheaters.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:56 AM
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Making millions, grifting off the pain of other.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 07:09 PM
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Because she is a great therapist that did not get into countertransference when you expressed yourself to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 07:08 PM
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It means they are trying to reel you back into an unequal relationship on their terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:18 PM
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Hey, it's the same guy that said he's a cheater. I think he's here to get another one of his posts deleted.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:17 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:45 PM
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Get outside and get out of your basement.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 02:40 PM
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Men's standards are too low too. Many women are fat, stink, have horrible personalities, dress like shit, cheat, are lazy, and have a multitude of other issues...welcome to the human race.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 02:40 PM
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Many men know that a woman is interested in them before they have sex. You find out by having conversations with them. And you enjoy their company. I am in a relationship where we enjoy each other's company without sex-it's just the icing. Every woman that I have been with was interested in sex too. You learn that attraction builds and self-sooth knowing that you are in a committed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 02:55 PM
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Most men are cautious around cops...most people are.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 01:55 PM
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Do it for yourself, no one else. I do my things for me, and magically, it falls into place. Oh wait, it's called being comfortable with yourself and being accepting of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:07 PM
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Better IRL, so much better. Dating a woman I connected with, and it feels natural.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 01:35 PM
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You can be both.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 04:16 PM
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Wat!?!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 03:23 PM
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Hmm...generalizing like the RP guys on here, you're no better than them. This isn't an argument, more of a complaint.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 10:41 PM
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Um, it's called having respect for yourself and being respectful to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 03:44 PM
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I don't like the word, it's overused; this is poor behavior if there is no reciprocation and poor treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 12:56 PM
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I am still waiting for a gold star for not cheating and not committing crimes. People choose to do what they perceive is good and right for them based on a multitude of influences and factors in their life. Was his behavior rude? Yes. At the same time, he can pop it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 12:17 PM
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It's the elites, they are the patriarchy, and we are a part of it. It benefits them. Look at all this Epstein garbage, it's rolling everyone up.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 12:06 PM
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You're welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 06:18 PM
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Same applies to men of any circumstance.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 05:07 PM
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What a dumb fucking post like most of them on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 04:59 PM
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There are men like this too. One I work with defecates all over toilets, is obese, smells like shit, and is married.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 08:28 PM
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Get out of your echo chamber and touch grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:24 PM
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How about it's taking responsibility for their actions. I am not discussing the problems with women, because there are a lot too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 06:42 PM
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But she's hawt and likes me...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 06:22 PM
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If men would just say no, things would change. Men shoot themselves in the foot.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 04:15 PM
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Some people love pain, and many people do not want to commit to the deep work required to change. I tend to not stick around people like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 05:21 PM
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People think complaining is the solution and good communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 05:18 PM
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Then you escalate, what that looks like to you may differ. Leave, counseling, continued discussions.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 12:46 PM
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Yes. You discuss, set a boundary, not ultimatums.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 12:15 PM
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A lot of women think they are great communicators, they are not. I have met only one woman good at communicating what she was thinking and feeling in a manner that the message would be received in a way that would create opportunities for self-reflection and growth, and we are still friends to this day. Talking at someone and stating passive-aggressive complaints is not communication. "Youre barely talking to me" using you creates defensiveness...I feel or I think that there is less communicatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 09:23 PM
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Men are their own worst enemy, have some standards and self-control and this would not be an issue it is. You will not die from lack of sex. I have a high libido but can control it, I am not going to lower my standards to scratch an itch.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 09:07 PM
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Here's a secret, most a-holes are insecure and cowards. If you verbally confront them, most of them back down.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 12:19 PM
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Get help, you're as bad as any incel or RP dude you rail against.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 05:28 PM
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People do not understand the differences between rights, privileges and entitlements.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:28 PM
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Why are you gaslighting people? People vote for numerous reasons, and how they vote does not assign them a value or worth within society.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:25 PM
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Take as bad as the RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 06:13 PM
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It's about being comfortable with who you are and not playing a role you perceive and masking.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 03:27 PM
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Power flows through a hierarchy, and there are power differentials that affect men. Rights and societies are in constant flux. Wilson is a clown.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:14 PM
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What nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:07 PM
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Dating is more difficult; it is not a perception issue. There have been massive paradigm shifts in the culture and societies, and covid defiantly had an effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 12:48 PM
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Adults are different than children. You can ask if they would like you to listen or provide a solution. Many people know what they need to do, and whether they do it or not, is out of your control. As to your example, you would not affirm what they are saying. You would challenge them by saying "wow, that is a really extreme thought based on your feelings, what makes you think that women deserve to be raped and killed?" You want people to change; you have to sit with their thoughts and feelings …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 01:45 PM
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If people really did understand, they would know when it's appropriate to challenge someone, and when to listen. You affirm the person, not their choices, you build trust, then challenge the "wrong" choice. You guide the horse to water and see if they will drink. With incels, you affirm their feelings of loneliness, isolation, sexlessness, hopelessness, and challenge what they think their causes are such as being ugly, autistic, women, dating, the bad data they use to reinforce their structures,…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 01:09 PM
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This sub is not reflective of society as a whole. Empathy is more that understanding people, it's also a way to relate to them, and feel what they are feeling. Affirming someone is not allowing them to engage in learned helplessness, it's accepting their experiences and understanding their ways of and being and doing. Once you understand them, and their inner and outer world, you can begin to challenge them. Perceptions are not reality, and some women think and act like the men on this sub. Wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 12:35 PM
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Not true; there are biological tests and behavioral observations.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:07 PM
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I am not disagreeing that they are not happier, but there is masking and repression that go on, and many of the studies are self-reported, which are biased.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 06:07 PM
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I do think looking at everything through a lens of victimhood produces learned helplessness and a feeling of powerlessness, which leads to resentment and mental illness. At the same time, many red states have higher rates of depression and suicide, and I think that conservatives repress or mask their illnesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 05:19 PM
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Because words are different than deeds and executing on what was promised.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 04:58 PM
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Only in the sense that Bill Clinton is a dirtbag and tried to pin this all on her.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 04:52 PM
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A new report has shown that incels generally lean to the left. I think WYSISYG for men on the right and they will express their views without hiding, and that is respectful and confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 04:45 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 04:39 PM
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It's genetics and environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 01:47 PM
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It's called pretty privilege. There is a woman in my town that dates around, she licks plates, has some bizarre behaviors, and her personality is off-putting, but is always with someone...she is very beautiful and has large breasts and so people (men) overlook it. If she was not at all attractive, no one would put up with this behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 09:08 PM
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No one owes anyone anything. At the same time, many people, including women, have an incorrect view of what empathy and perspective taking is, and many women are not really connected to what they are thinking and feeling...ask them and they will stare at you blankly. And women play the victim when they say that it's been forced upon women to solve an issue like this; society has not asked them. Just because a person thinks and feels it is true, it doesn't mean their perceptions are reality; it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:17 PM
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Both sexes are reporting increased loneliness at similar levels, and there are many factors, and they are findings are it is class, rather gender with the issue of loneliness. The atomization of life, a focus on independence, and the loss of community spaces and groups; you cannot live in a digital world like many are.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 11:19 AM
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Hmmm...that is not the spark, that is an unhealthy view of relationships based on previous experiences. Her brain chemistry is attracted to the intermittent reinforcement like a gambling addict.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 05:17 PM
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No, but there is a link between relational satisfaction in both males and females and sexual partners. Now, it could be that those who are more promiscuous are less happy in general and so seeking others out is a way to avoid perceived negative feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 04:14 PM
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The data is mixed on this; men and women present differently. In certain contexts, it's better, in others, it is not. It's the same for disorders. People, emotions, and disorders are on a spectrum. Too much empathy and you get taken advantage of, too little, no one wants to be around you. Most journalists do not know how to interpret and read studies, so you get data out of context and sensationalist headlines, and many of the mental and emotional load studies are based on self-reporting, which …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 11:17 AM
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Yeah, because that is super common...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 11:07 AM
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Quality goes down in your 30s for both men and women, so does fertility. Risk of a defects goes way up, especially after 40. Men see their testosterone start to drop in their thirties; it's called aging.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:56 PM
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Relational satisfaction/quality is a better measure; not how many are in a relationship or married. Men need to hold themselves to account, work on their esteem, and not find validation from a woman or relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 11:12 AM
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Ah, he's a grifter that feeds upon lonely men by using data and information out of context. The whole manosphere/red pill universe is conspiratorial thinking; it provides meaning and makes sense of the world for those looking for answers to their problems, and for those without any meaning; a secret knowledge that the rest of us don't understand or refuse acknowledge because we are not enlightened.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 11:25 AM
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Choose better is victim-blaming, do not use it period.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 07:33 PM
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Dumb, distasteful, and stupid are poor word choices to describe what some person may like or enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 04:18 PM
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Women are not the catches they think they are, especially if the man holds himself to a standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 11:04 AM
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If she's shaking and telling you're good to stop, you've done your job.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 07:57 PM
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Nah, these are both people that are not very self-aware; many people use others to boost their esteem, regulate them, and to avoid the realities of their life. That aloof bad boy cannot tell you why he is upset or angry, but he can tell you that it is someone else's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 01:16 PM
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So, approach women you think will be receptive. If you feel that you will not be received well by the one you are approaching based on your attractiveness, find someone on your level to approach. No one owes you anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 09:10 PM
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heh, so he was a performative male...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 07:12 PM
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It's in the approach. You can approach; you just have to feel it out...the secret is to make a person feel comfortable and safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 06:59 PM
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Contrary to what the peanut gallery is chiming in with, it is really effective in most cases. The data is out there. Many people do not want to change and just have everyone affirm their crappy ways of being and doing, I do not have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 05:05 PM
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Because vulnerability is viewed as a weakness. Only 24-26% of psychotherapy practitioners are men, and that leads to biases that put the burden on men to not be bad clients or patients, which leads to men dropping out of therapy. The therapeutic relationship is the number one factor in retaining clients. I can tell you the field needs to engage in some introspection as a male student in the field.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:06 PM
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