SmartFox6 Archive

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2	How do you get over the feeling that you will never be loved again? It makes sense, you can't magically start to like yourself, is a process of many tiny changes. Make your bed, take a shower, brush your teeth, sounds stupid but those are self love activities. I used to hate to be alone in silence, is normal because we crave for companionship, but trust me those tiny changes are magical. It took me a while, for me was 2 years to feel confortable with myself. Now I live alone in my apartment, do remote work. I'm alone in silence 99% of the time and feel good. Tin…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/26 07:54 PM
1	How do I forgive her and let myself move on? You have to trust in the process. You can't force to heal, is something that happens with time. What you can do is to protect yourself emotionally and focus on yourself. Let me give you an analogy, imagine you have a wound, You can't force it to heal, but you can protect it, desinfect it, avoiding external things open it again. All those are under your control. You have an emotional wound, and the process is exactly the same as the physical wounds. Don't let her back to you, avoid places or thin…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/26 05:05 PM
1	This divorce is killing me daily and I only have myself to blame for that. I would like to invite you to question yourself. You are assuming that your leave magically triggered her phone to install Tinder. What others does are not your fault, you don't know if she had the app installed from days before. You don't want back someone who fuck a stranger a week after the separation. The mask has fallen and allows you to see her real self. She didn't value the marriage either. Question yourself, don't assume you are 100 guilt into this. You are responsible as she is.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/26 04:44 PM
2	What's something nobody warned you about after divorce? A trail of destruction. That how I define BPD. Good to hear that you escaped, I also saw the red flags and ignore them as you did. Never again	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/26 03:01 PM
2	3 months after being blindsided, I'm barely functioning Something very helpful and free: Record yourself in video, express your anger, cry, ask questions, get those feeling out. Keep those videos only for you. Something interesting is that when you relieve those feeling, you will notice calm, better thinking, ideas that comes, words of assurance. Here is the key: why video? Because you will literally see yourself how you are able to handle those emotions, and in minutes you are calmes and rational again. Is a visual demostration that you have the cap…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/26 08:07 AM
3	How do you get over the feeling that you will never be loved again? I used to have tha same mindset as you. When I was with my therapist, he explained me about the concept of "self-love" I was there 37 years old guy super confused, self love was a foreign concept. I remeber that I told him "is that something that people do?". At the beginning I thought that was a pity concept created by those who can't obtain real love. In my mind love is only received by a third party, never given by me. In my mind was how lame you need to be to only receive love from you. With…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/26 07:40 AM
8	What's something nobody warned you about after divorce? For me was to grow in a way and speed that I wasn't prepare for. With grow I mean, there were many concepts and facts that I never questioned, but suddenly everything was broken and process all of them at once was overwhelming, therapy saved my life. My ex-wife cheat me with my best friend four months after our wedding. She used him as a toy to revenge from me, because "how dare you to accept my divorce request". Yes, you read correctly, she blame me for accepting her divorce request. One week a…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/26 07:15 AM
1	She just changed overnight OP sorry to read that. She is probably fucking another guy, she needs to play the victim card to purify her soul and conciousness, she behaves in this way to make you react very bad (violence, agression, etc) so she can play the victim card and escape as the victim instead of as the cheater. Cut the lose as soon as possible, cancel the credit card, kick her out of your house or move to another. Install a hidden camera just for your protection, in case she decide to attack you or get violent to m…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/26 09:48 PM
1	She just changed overnight How old is she? Could it be menopause? Does she has a stressful job? Maybe she is bringing the job at house? If not, she probably is cheating but doesn't have the courage to end the relation, she behave with anger and hatred to make you to be aggresive , so she can play the victim card and escape free of accountability with the other guy	/r/Divorce_Men	09/07/26 02:21 PM
1	I’m bitter, angry, and want people to agree that I was treated badly. OP, what you described (she threaten you with suicide) sounds like she has BPD (Borderline personality disorder) I truly understand your pain, I'm divorced from the same evil. I strongly recommend you to visit the /BPDlovedones subreddit where you will find tons of stories similar to us and how the guys evolve and emerge from the ashes. Due to this experience I realised how resilient I am. I lost everything, apartment, job, friends, self confidence but with patience and pshycoterapy I was able t…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/07/26 02:14 PM