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So if she asks you to grow a beard, or cut the one you have, change your hairstyle, start dressing differently and so on, you’re willing to do it? By the way feeling insecure is not going to be solved by pushing your partner to be uncomfortable and/or unhappy, if anything you’re making it more likely that your insecurity (in this case loosing her to other guys) is going to become a reality. Having insecurities is absolutely normal and human, trying to change others instead of addressing your ins…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:42 PM
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Nope, the vast majority of the time women dress the way they dress because they like how it looks on them, how they feel in their clothes, etc. Even when they dress to impress, say for a date, it’s still about how they see themselves in the mirror and how it makes them feel, the assumption being that since they think it looks good, makes them feel more confident, whatever, the date will also think the same. Same holds true for men, it’s about how they see themselves and how they feel in their cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:33 PM
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lol talk about being clueless, the big majority of fuck boys or “bad boys” as you lot prefer to define them, are far too careful to get an std/sti or get a temporary girlfriend/friend with benefits/hookup pregnant. You take the tiny minority of idiots or downright psychopaths and generalize to the big majority. The very big majority of fuck boys/bad boys love women, are kind to them, many even love them (for a while at least), enjoy their company, make them laugh, give them excitement, romance, …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 12:46 PM
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Tell that to all the women who have stay at home partners (house husbands). It’s a lot more common than you lot think in the upper income circles where the woman has a career that provides for the whole family.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 11:10 AM
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Ignorance is bliss… The majority of the world prizes male babies over female babies, to the point of killing or abandoning babies born female in some places. Many cultures give every resource they have to the male child and the crumbs to any female siblings. Educated and reasonable people do not put a “value” on others. Just the fact that you talk about and believe in a human’s “value” is proof that RP is toxic. The fact is, people “value” different social and personal characteristics, physical …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 11:05 AM
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💯 Though it doesn’t always have to be at school, I dated about equally at my swimming club and at school as a teen, and it was the same in college. The problem these days, is a lot of teen guys spend every free second gaming instead of face to face socializing from time to time. My 16 year old son is a gamer, but he also goes out with friends, he’s on his 3rd girlfriend at 16, all three are classmates from groups he hung out with after school or on weekends.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 09:15 AM
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I personally like my wife dressed sexy, she looks hot and I like that, I’m absolutely certain there are many others who feel just like me (as in I’d rather she continue dressing sexy in LTR), guys who want their partner to change the way they dress once they’re in a LTR are simply insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 07:04 PM
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We’ve been in an open marriage since day one, that’s 20 years ago, we tend to go in cycles, a couple of years where it can get quite wild, followed by a more traditional lifestyle, followed by a few wild years and so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 09:53 PM
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Not sure how you are coming to the conclusion that the US constitution will protect anything, many of the democracies that turned autocratic had similar or stronger laws in place, quickly destroyed by crooked equivalents of the Supreme Court. The Supreme Court is controlled by a bunch of crooks paid and bought by the billionaires, makes decisions based on their “interpretation” of what the founders could have meant 200+ years ago. I’ll just ask you one question, did women have any rights 200+ ye…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:03 AM
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Unfortunately illiteracy, poor education and lack of critical thinking is pushing far too many single men to interpret all data incorrectly. It’s absolutely mind boggling to see some people believing that women “share” men, there is absolutely zero proof of women sharing the same man, and even less of women wanting anything of the kind. As for the belief that a man can successfully date 5 different women? I’ve tried it, at the peak of my physical endurance, as a pro swimmer. Not possible for lon…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 10:16 PM
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Real life? Party animals, men and women, tend to find their one and marry, more often than not to someone with a similar history. We’re such a couple, both were party animals, open relationship from day one, we partied together for quite a few years before settling down, when our son was born, we cut down on the partying, though we didn’t stop completely, still have an open marriage, still in love with each other, happily married going on 18 years together. Most of the people we know who had a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:34 PM
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Let’s see: apart from the fat women (unfortunately it’s almost half of women), and being cheated on, your other two scenarios are maybe 1% or 2% of women. As for people dating, be it fat women or men, what you say is true for women as well, they would prefer a fit partner. Unfortunately life is a little more complicated than everyone finding their ideal partner in everything. The edge cases? Again the same holds true for women, unfortunately there will always be both men and women who are unfort…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 03:16 AM
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lol. Ever heard about STD/STI tests, about using condoms, about not sleeping with just anybody? Never had an STD/STI in my life, despite having around 100 sexual partners to date. My wife has an even higher number of sexual partners, and again never had an STD/STI. We are both recently tested and have had many many tests over the years, and we have both always used condoms, except a handful of people each. We also got married 3 years after our relationship started. Marriage has nothing to do wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 01:16 AM
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The “most men will find 18-24 year olds most attractive” theory is just that, a theory, one that many men don’t believe in. For the majority of people, attractiveness is both physical and psychological, and if one has “matured” that age group will feel too immature to be attractive, no matter what they look like. For men who are of the same age group, and just as immature, and men who have never matured (adult children) younger women may always be more attractive, but not for the more mature and…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 01:49 AM
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That is just statistically illiterate people belief. If you were to go and actually read the papers those numbers come from, you would read the following “9% who report doing so in the past year, according to the Center’s survey of 6,034 adults”. That translates to under 10% of adults have used dating apps in the last year, though around 28% of straight adults and a little over half of lgbtq have used it at least once in their life. Dating apps are far from being the main venue to find dates, ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 11:54 PM
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Let me translate the stats for you. 30% of adults have used dating apps. That does not mean constantly use them, it means they used them at least once in their lives. For 50% of an unknown % of those 30% having used dating apps at least once, it is the preferred (as in preferred not the only/sole/exclusive etc.) method. Basically the maximum % of people in this survey who mathematically could prefer to use dating apps, is 15% of adults, and even that is very likely far above reality, for a simpl…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 11:34 PM
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The whole “sexual options” or easily finding a new sexual partner thing is where the majority of people detach from reality. Far too many people believe the minority / exceptions are the norm. It has always been, and still is a small percentage of men and women, who have relative ease finding sexual partners, and end up having many more than the average person over their life span. Considering the average for sexual partners for all ages is around 6-7, depending on if you’re a man or a woman, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 12:11 AM
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Don’t see why not, we’ve been together 19 years, and still going strong. Pretty sure we’re not the only ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:10 AM
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Yup, love my wife, 19 years together and both love life and sex life still going strong, she was just as promiscuous as I was, actually probably more 😁 perfect match!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:08 AM
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Far too many people are trying to be nice or reflecting their own issues on others. Example guy is tasteless in the way he dresses, grooms etc. The cave dwellers that look like him will tell him he looks good. It’s a question of taste, unfortunately far too many people are tasteless. Holds true for women as well, especially in the US. People here just don’t know how to dress and groom to look better.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 07:54 PM
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Yep, despite it being referred to as Dutch it was common throughout the continent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:19 AM
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Grew up in France and that sounds like the dating scene from the 80s, glad somethings haven’t changed. Edit: though the monogamy part was a little bit of a gray area in my time, was the “official” norm, but often not truly practiced (side affairs were common).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 07:43 PM
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yeah right… keep believing that if it makes you feel less insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:39 AM
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No, men and women are not equal physically, but it doesn’t matter. You may need 5 women where you needed 4 men, and it may take 5 days to do something very physical when it used to take 4, but in the grand scheme of things that is not important. Life will go on, a women only society will adapt and do what it needs to move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 02:05 AM
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I’m a man, well aware of how society has rolled up to present day, and unlike you, I understand the difference between socio cultural traditions/norms and capability. Women are capable, physically and intellectually, of doing every single job that has traditionally been done by men, hence if we all disappeared, they would adapt just as well as we would adapt, if all women disappeared. As such, all the male ego tripping about men being the pillars of society, is just that, ego tripping.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 12:49 AM
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So are men (disposable) in that context. Women would adapt, civilization would survive, albeit changed, life would go on, probably with a lot less violence than with us (men) around. Women can do every single job a man can do, the physical ones may take a little longer, but they will get done, anything cerebral, man or woman doesn’t matter. The assumption that men don’t need women but women need men to continue life and civilization is just pure lunatic male ego, nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:22 PM
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lol, the world would run just fine if men didn’t exist, the hallucination that “men run the world infrastructure” and civilization would collapse if men disappeared is pure male ego nothing more. Fact is, either gender would adapt and continue living without the other, if not for the need to procreate. Other than reproduction, neither gender “needs” the other to survive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:08 PM
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Yep, spot on. Most people who have casual hookups are as you describe, having fun in the moment. Think holiday hookup, everyone knows that it is leading no where and is just fun, a one night stand is no different, and casual hookups/dating is the same. There is attraction and desire on both sides, though often not enough for a serious relationship, or in some cases just bad timing / place etc. for a serious relationship. The “soulless booty” call as you put it, is a very small minority amplified…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 02:15 AM
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That hypothesis from almost 100 years ago has been debunked with the more recent research and studies. One example here. variability hypothesis debunked Most post 2000 research suggests there is no gender variability, especially in more gender equal societies, in other words where both genders get the same level of education.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:31 PM
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Depends who you hang with, we have a shit loads of friends (women) who do not shy away from pursuing and planning dates. Then again there have always been a shitloads of women who did this, they usually end up marrying the guy they’re “hunting”, probably half of long term couples are the result of a woman pursuing a guy but that’s not click bait so no one talks about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 12:50 AM
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I get your point, and agree to a point.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 10:00 PM
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Here’s a secret, men also spend decades sharing a home and a bed with sociopaths (women in this case). The majority of people are not sociopaths,though unfortunately far too many have issues, the majority of people avoid those people with issues or sociopaths, once they realize the person has issues, or is a sociopath. Now if you were to look into that minority which tends to always go and find the same type of partner, despite them being sociopaths, or having anger issues, or whatever issue, yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 08:45 PM
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It’s not bad, on the contrary. Friends, colleagues, and other people you interact with regularly is the most common way of people getting together. It only becomes an issue when you fall for a friend, declare it to them, but they tell you it’s not reciprocated and don’t want anything more than friendship with you. At that point, some people react badly, become insulting or hurtful, get aggressive etc. Others take the “no” in their stride, accept it like an adult, and are able to maintain the fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 11:48 PM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 11:05 PM
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🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 10:59 PM
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Can’t read, can you? Which part of “short of it being too small or too big for a specific woman” don’t you understand? Too small, or too big, different problems but problems still.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 06:51 PM
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Another delusional different species view but sure 🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 06:49 PM
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lol dude, many men talk about their girl friend, especially if she’s great in bed, or the exact opposite. The point is, we don’t talk about how tight or loose her vagina is, unless it’s an extreme case, at which point it’s likely to come up while buddies are drinking together, just as women don’t talk about your penis size, unless it’s an extreme case. It tends to stop for both men and women, when they have a long term partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 04:12 PM
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I’m not flexing, I’m annoyed because of the “women talk about dick size” hallucinations of sexless men. It’s not about anyone’s dick size, short of it being too small or too big for a specific women, it’s about how good the sex is, when it gets talked about. A guy sucks in bed? Her close friends may learn he’s a waste of time. A guy is great in bed? Her close friends will almost certainly know he’s great. Just like men! And that too is so annoying, this whole “women talk” as if we don’t, we do t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 04:05 PM
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The majority of women do not talk about the dick size of their partner, because as long as it’s within a range (length and thickness) which feels good for them, it’s not that important. Now if you’re huge or tiny, that’s going to be more likely to be talked about. Most of the talk women have, if and when they talk, is about the overall experience, not about the size of your genitals. And that will be more likely to be talked about if the experience was either very good, or bad, not when it’s jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 03:55 PM
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So they won’t tell me what they talk about, but will tell you. Sure dude. Live on in your fantasy land.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 03:31 PM
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They don’t with each other either, but sure, you “know”better than the women who say they don’t, or the men who have close relationships with many more women than you can probably imagine possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 04:01 AM
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Personal experience, around 100 women, 99% can and do have orgasms from penetration, and around 10% have difficulty or can’t have an orgasm purely from clitoral stimulation. Usually the problem is either an inept partner, or a lack of excitement for the partner. There’s a reason many women experience their first orgasms upon cheating or opening up the marriage, especially if they married early and only had a single partner all their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 03:05 AM
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RP ”observations” and “facts” are pretty much as valid as flat earther “facts” and “observations”. Next you’ll be explaining how you all bugged those women so you could observe and experience. I’ll give you my observations and experience with RP folks in real life, colleagues and even a few unfortunate friends. They are utter disasters with women, have difficulty getting laid, so RP and experience about women? Not to be relied on.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 02:50 AM
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Listen to your own advice, “not about what you heard” I have two sisters, 2 cousins, a wife, an army of close friends from swimming, plus at least 15 or so exes I’m still friends with. None of them talk about a guy’s dick, what they do talk about, IF (rare) they do, is how good a guy is in bed. Classic RP fabricated general trend, fact, data, research… nothing to back it up other than “it’s true because we the RP people say so”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 02:44 AM
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Shows you’ve never been around in Saudi (edited as I realized you have another post saying you lived there 15 years). Malls in Saudi Arabia are hookup spots, people turn on their Bluetooth and basically communicate on the fly like a real time dating app. It’s not that uncommon for a good looking guy to get an offer, by women, for an all inclusive weekend in Dubai, all inclusive meaning she pays flight, hotel, and whatever else. It’s not uncommon for a good looking guy to get invited to a woman’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:15 PM
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You live in the Middle Ages if you believe those role caricatures. “Lead role” in a movie is the main character(s) and depends purely on the scenario/script, can be a woman or a man, has nothing to do with your middle age outlook on roles based on the sex of the person. As for actors: The workforce of Actors in 2021 was 32,130 people, with 46.3% woman, and 53.7% men. The average age of male Actors in the workforce is 39.9 and of female Actors is 38.1, and the most common race/ethnicity for Actor…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 10:10 PM
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lol. You RP folks really search hard for just any number you can throw around don’t you? Let’s go along and say we go with your example, Hollywood actors and actresses since according to you their average age is what appeals the widest ratio of the opposite gender. Men peak at 43 Women peak at 38 Not what you expected I assume but hey, life is like that, like most any RP imagined “fact” and talking point, once you have the whole picture instead of a one sided and manipulated one, things look ver…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:10 AM
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Not in the way we develop and age. At 40 a man is an old fart for the vast majority of younger women, gold diggers aside. Sure some people improve as they mature, many examples of fat or skinny, poorly dressed and socially inept people (again men and women) gaining confidence and taste, looking after themselves as they mature.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 03:37 AM
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RP delusions. Not reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 10:37 PM
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That’s red pill delusion talking right there. Men and women are both humans, not different species. Both get to their physical “prime” around the same, and now that the playing field is more equal, they tend to get their career primes around the same time as well. In fact if you take a balanced approach of the qualities a person can have to be called in their prime, I would say both men and women are in their prime in their 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 10:32 PM
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Is she married? No! She is single, and dating, so not available. Leave her alone. And considering your remark about “showing value”, you’re probably a red pilled, clueless being, she, and every woman, are better off without you in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 03:00 AM
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Because 99% of people don’t understand the limitations of pretty much all the research out there, and just as many don’t understand how statistics can be manipulated to give almost any result the researchers want. Source: my wife taught stats, research and psychology at multiple universities for around 20 years, has done the analysis for hundreds of published (in medical journals) research, and she is currently a researcher. A good example is the whole 80/20 bullshit often sited by RP folks base…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 02:46 AM
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SOME marriages are “stressful and full of hassles” as you put it, how ever there are just as many, probably more, where the two people concerned are happier than they would be alone. We’ve been together 19 years, sure we had some difficult moments, but overall the good times and comfort we give each other far outweigh any “stress and hassle” we’ve ever had. We also have a great sex life, which is a bonus 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 12:51 AM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 03:49 AM
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Don’t be an ass that makes her resent you. Learn to give her a good time sexually, that means forget anything and everything you have ever seen in porn. Don’t take her for granted. Appreciate her, and make her know that you do. Give her some time for herself, let her relax and rest. Don’t be a jealous prick that restricts her social life. Enable her to enjoy life. And more in those lines. The funny thing is, when someone does the above, even some of it, they will very often get the same in retur…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 03:34 AM
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Depends on who the women is in relationship with, is he your classic guy who basically starts taking her for granted, or is he one of the rare ones who puts a little effort into keeping the flame going, is he your average guy who is mediocre in bed, or is he one who actually knows what he’s doing and gives her memorable sex? Good sex will increase desire for sex, an exciting relationship will increase desire for sex, a dull and boring relationship with dull and boring sex will kill libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:17 PM
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Absolutely not, not unless they’re willing to let their partner play as well. The whole “men can have sex without falling in love” thing is pure bullshit. Most people (men and women) tend to build emotional bonds the more they have repeat sex with someone, and spend time together, it’s the heady mix of hormones and pleasure, along with familiarity and comfort. Some people, a minority, can do so without getting attached, or at the very least be able to see through the bond that is formed and disr…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 07:25 PM
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Sure buddy, what ever makes you happy. Though to me he sounds more like a self confident person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 03:40 AM
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Charming is generally used to describe someone who behaves in a friendly and pleasant way, also used to describe things such as, “what a charming town”. Can someone behaving that way be a manipulative psycho? Sure, but that is not how the word is used. So no, I’m not agreeing with you, at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 03:38 AM
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Sorry dude but you’re wrong. The men who are successful with women in real life are not manipulative, they are one or more of: Charming, charismatic, intriguing, fun, humorous, funny but not in a cheesy and/or cringy way, have taste in the way they dress and groom, decent looking (and yes that also means average looks but well dressed and groomed), cultured, confident, intelligent and similar “qualities”. In addition, and probably one of, if not the most important quality they have, is being abl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 08:12 PM
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Why is it so hard for some guys to not make a big deal of the most basic things? She was just reacting with an emoji, not sending you a damn love letter, she was not showing interest, she was definitely not hitting on you or anything of the kind and you interpreted as attraction, lust or whatever for you??? They’re probably still laughing about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 07:13 PM
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You lot are just as hopeless as flat earthers. Zero understanding of the world and life, a completely distorted view, and full of BS theories that have nothing to do with reality. Take the hypergamy theory you lot seem to cling to so hard. All it is is a fancy word saying some people are more attractive than others, and from there leaping to the conclusion that this applies only to men, in other words only men have this minority that is more attractive to the opposite sex. As if the same didn’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 02:02 PM
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Yeah dude, that is not about women and how they react to vulnerability. Their reaction is how instead of showing compassion you seem to be trying to one up their sadness/vulnerability with a “me too”. I would have no tolerance for any women who did what you describe doing to them either. It’s you, not them. As for the others who have commented in support of OP, I would recommend a little self contemplation, if you can that is. More often than not, people blame others, instead of honestly looking…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 10:13 PM
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No more than men, at least when we’re talking about people who have lives outside of the basement. The truth is women have just as many challenges in the dating market as men, not all the challenges may be the same, but a great majority are. One person likes another, but other doesn’t like them back. That goes for men and women. As for the pea brained men (almost always blaming anything but themselves, anything, just as long as it doesn’t require them to look in the mirror) who complain about th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 09:58 PM
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Both should be forbidden to continue doing those jobs if you’re not trolling and what you say is true. They are both either uneducated in the most basic sense or science deniers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 02:46 AM
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lol, sounds like you’ve only ever met a handful of women, the women I know have practically nothing in common other than the majority (not all) having an iPhone, which is not surprising considering the iPhone market share (58% in the US). Practically every word of your post shouts of someone who doesn’t socialize with people in the real world, even teens have different tastes, hobbies etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 06:19 PM
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A lot of FWB situations turn in to more serious relationships, or one side desiring to turn into a more serious relationship, which is your example. Despite what a lot of people here seem to think, in real life guys fall for a woman who doesn’t want anything more than casual sex just as much as often as women fall for their casual guy. So do women “use” casual sex as a way to build a relationship? Not anymore than men do. Can a casual relationship create a desire to get more serious with someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 10:21 PM
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You guys need to stop hallucinating. As someone said on another post “people who fuck a lot, fuck other people who fuck a lot.” You all seem to believe your imagined “player” is somehow having sex with 5+ women and they are all exclusive to him when the reality is, those women also “keep” a harem of guys they have sex with. The player is not “keeping” a harem, anymore than he is part of the harems of those women. There’s is no “keeping” men and women who are “players” have multiple sex partners,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 12:51 AM
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Now you, I believe! You actually know real life “players”, unlike the OP and pretty much all replies/comments. Love the analogy of dance partners! Your third paragraph is a perfect summary and description. And yes, what these fantasists often miss is that people who fuck a lot, men and women, are just a small 5% or less of the population, more often than not, living and “playing” in the same circles of big metropolitan cities, so as you put it very nicely “the ones who fuck a lot are gonna fuck …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 10:37 PM
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There are three types of men who have a far above average number of sexual partners. The real deal: loves women and gets a high from the pleasure he is able to give them. Doesn’t care, need, or ever think about a woman’s prior partners. He is confident, charming, and other than his lack of control (because he loves women too much) when it comes to women, usually a very decent person. Tends to break hearts due to that lack of control, as he is almost guaranteed to breakup and move on to a new wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 10:18 PM
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There’s a huge difference between getting a one nighter and finding someone for a relationship, sure women can more easily find a one nighter, even average ones, the problem is the vast majority of women are not looking for one nighters despite what far too many people online seem to believe. Finding a “partner” for long term is what most are looking for and that’s where all the toxic RP and other behaviors / mindset of far too many guys make it just as hard for women to find a partner they want…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 06:01 PM
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It’s not just most women, most people think they’re more attractive than how others perceive them, best example are the fat, unhygienic, shaggy bearded cavemen with a toxic personality who go around harassing and insulting women, then complain that “nice guys” never get any. Reality is most below average people believe they’re average, most average people believe they’re above average.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 12:22 AM
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1) There’s a huge difference between being ok with someone’s history and asking them to repeat it. 2) That someone has tried or done something in the past and/or with someone else, doesn’t mean they want to do it with you. It’s even very possible that they need to be in a very specific and hard to create mood, horniness, excitement etc. to enjoy said acts. 3) Not surprisingly, pretty much no one, women or men, like their partner competing with and/or trying to copy their ex(es). Can indicate any…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 09:18 PM
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Yes the top 20% of men are having more sex while the bottom 20% is having less sex. For the majority (60%) nothing has changed as the median is still the same. The issue is for those bottom 20%, they are feeling left out and rejected. Pretty sure that group has social issues, not good interacting with people, lack of hygiene, inability to hold an interesting conversation, physically unattractive, personality issues etc. A good example is gaming addiction, when all one does is play games, they ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 11:59 PM
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Which part? That around 5% of men and women have always had a lot more sex than most of the rest put together? It’s been confirmed by many many studies.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 05:41 PM
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Classic inability to understand what is written, the last paragraph states exactly what I have described. That 5% of the POPULATION, not 5% of men, have always been extremely active sexually and still are. Basically 5% of MEN AND WOMEN, have more sex than the vast majority of people put together. Additionally it states the median has not changed, which means that the shift is mostly between the lower 20% and top %20 of sexual activity, the middle 60% is still the same. Lastly the first paragraph…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 05:38 PM
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What makes you believe it was any different before? Or that it is any different for women? Assuming those numbers are anywhere near real. There have always been a very small percentage of both men and women who have been “sluts”, the vast majority of humans, men and women, go through life with somewhere between 1 to 15 sexual partners, and that includes paid sex. Then you have the so called “sluts”, I’m a male slut with somewhere around 100 partners up to now and having sex almost daily since my…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:41 AM
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That proves nothing, and is probably click bait, just like all those “alpha” red pill guys that make a fortune on the naive and gullible (it’s been pointed out many times that the women they have around them are usually call girls). I know several women who look much much better, nice face, nice body, have their own place and a good job but they still can’t find a decent long term guy despite trying. And no, they are not shooting for the stars, in fact they mostly go for average guys, unfortunat…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:57 AM
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Considering many of those same people believe women have sex with 5 different guys a week, that women’s dna and mind are changed by the male sperm/semen (the BS theory of pair bonding) and more such nonsense, its not surprising they are looking for virgins. To top it off, many of them have inferiority complex, and try to compensate with RP, which includes a lot of the nonsense mentioned above. Fact is most people, men or women, go through life with a handful of sexual partners, these illiterates…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 05:47 PM
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“In general there are a lot more women into massive dongs” ? Wrong! By far the most sold dildo sizes are between 6 to 7 inches, when you take off the base, that gives somewhere around 5.5 to 6.5 insertable length. The massive dongs are mostly aimed at anal and gay men, though of course size queen women (a lot less numerous than porn seems to have made you believe) be it vaginal or anal, also buy them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 08:39 PM
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This!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 08:28 PM
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Guessing you’re asking the wife 😁 Her answer: Yes, she’s had 7+, largest probably somewhere 9+ (no fun at all due to not being able to take it all in, she loves the contact against her crotch when a guy is all the way in), as for the others, the 7+, according to her no it wasn’t better in anyway, on the contrary, not possible to go all out without pain in some positions, always conscious there will be pain any second, and this despite being her being into bdsm and pain. Her ideal size is probabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 08:05 PM
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It’s 70% or so of women who report not being able to have an orgasm through penetration alone, in our book that means 70% of women never really had a skilled partner, very close to 70%, because with the right partner a very big majority of those would be able to have an orgasm through penetration, of course there are exceptions, some women truly do have challenges, but it’s not for nothing many women who married early and have never experienced an orgasm, experience their first when they cheat, …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 02:29 AM
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Lol, maybe we should start picking up ex prisoners for sex if what you say is true. As for women with 20+ partners, those are usually the easier women, so not that surprising you’ve met more than a few, that doesn’t change the reality that most people on this earth go through life with 10 or so sexual partners. Funny thing is the older generations actually have a slightly higher average compared to the younger ones, though that probably has to do with having lived more years, and will change whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 01:13 AM
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Actually no, the “masses” you refer to are, in reality a tiny sliver, a tiny % of women, just like the men who actually have tens, or more sexual partners in their lives. Outside of the porn and sex industry, more than 20 sex partners throughout life is rare, more than 50 is pretty much like the 7+ in penis, less than 1% of the population actually has one, and still everyone still seems to be swinging one when asked. That’s the hard truth none of you are willing to accept, you take the tiny amou…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 12:42 AM
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If the only place you’ve ever eaten is McDonald’s, you will believe that that is what food should taste like, and think you’ve tasted the best there is. That’s what you get with a single partner. We have had sex with with probably 250 to 300, possibly more people between the two of us, we have an open relationship, together 18 years, and if you wonder about the 250-300 figure, we were just as “active” before meeting each other. Everything else aside, there’s no denying we probably have more expe…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 12:26 AM
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Sure, “modern dating” is not that different from the “ancient dating” for the vast majority who meet in real life, at work, school, social circles, and yes even bars and clubs. Modern dating only sucks for those who only look for dates on line. The often misunderstood aspect is that dating has never been easy for the big majority of people, most people (men and women) go through life with long stretches without a partner, and have a handful, or a little more partners throughout life, then they m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 05:41 PM
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Deny it all you want but what applies to almost anything in life also applies to sex. Two inexperienced and unskilled, or low experience and skill people learning, with and from each other? Try and error learning. With lots of mistakes and a ceiling for the skill/experience that is possible to achieve. More than likely leading to one, or both not enjoying said activity, and loosing desire to experiment and or learn more. Unfortunately, given the way humans are built, the guy is almost guaranteed…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 05:00 PM
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Because it’s easier to complain about how unfair life is rather than admit reality?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 02:03 AM
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We are 53 (me) and 48 (wife), met online on a hookup site in 2005, we have both been using OLD for longer and it seems a lot more efficiently than any of the complainers of how unfair it is. Yes, we still use them, have been for years and years, we have an open relationship and both of us regularly find people to date and or have sex. Neither of us is a model but we know how to dress, are hwp, which considering the US average, means we look physically good compared to the majority, we can keep a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 01:53 AM
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By saying “all” men, you have just proven you are not a thinker, therefore clueless about men who can think. If one had neurons instead of air between the ears and was able to think, they would come to the conclusion that some men will prefer the promiscuous woman, because she is a better fit for the lifestyle those men want.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 10:54 PM
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The average number of sexual partners throughout life for people born after 1940 is around 10 - 11 people throughout life depending on generation and let’s not forget the big majority of people born after 1940 are still alive, so that number could edge up. Key points: The number will probably remain the same for the older generations and catch up (it’s 8 for those born after 1980 for now) or more likely exceed that average for younger generations. It is an average, which means there will be extr…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 11:38 PM
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Absolutely! I have 2 friends who are both dad bod to overweight, one is 5’7 the other 5’8, both average looks, both are very very successful with women, both are very smooth talkers, one is also a great dancer. I’ve never known either one to not have a girlfriend on the side, or more, in addition to their regular partner. Neither one is what one would call very successful though they have decent jobs. It all comes down to their charm, suave talk and confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:26 AM
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Everyone is different, though how you can be in love with someone you barely know that’s another question. To me, you seem to be describing attraction and infatuation rather than love, infatuation feels very much like love and the majority of people confuse the two until they actually fall in love one day. Infatuation is like being high or drunk on someone, things get blurry, you don’t see the incompatibilities, until you are sober, and realize you have a hangover 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 08:27 PM
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Can’t say I agree with this, it does happen from time to time but the exact opposite happens a lot more frequently, people start off as friends, end up becoming a couple or have casual sex. I’ve dated, had casual sex, or had friends with benefits relations with many many friends over the years. Same for my wife, my sisters, and a large chunk of my friends, it really depends on the people involved. Friends to relationship, or sex happens a lot more often -> colleagues, sports teams, friend groups…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 07:58 PM
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If you had said most “people” instead of most “women” you would have been making a reasonable argument, because the same is true for most men. What you describe applies to humanity in general, men, women, transgender, it doesn’t matter, it’s basic human nature. It’s the ego, hard to admit one is average or below average in anything, even when the facts are in their face. This holds true for the very big majority of humanity, you see it around you everyday, from the moron who believes he/she is m…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 11:36 PM
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Absolutely! And to make it worse, if they do somehow find the courage to approach a woman, they are either too sensitive to rejection (far too many turning agressive and/or insulting) or not willing to accept said rejection and becoming harassing by insisting. Even the players who are great at picking up women get rejected by a ton of women. They just don’t alienate every women who can see them, by becoming toxic when rejected, and can move on to the next without being red flagged by every singl…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 07:42 PM
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You are not being shamed for “having standards”, but believing your preferences are standards and for trying to impose your preferences on others by stating they are standards. Very much the same mess that’s happening throughout the USA, book banning, anti abortion laws, paranoia about LGBTQ, guns and more. People trying apply/impose/force their “standards” on others. I’m your opposite, I’ve had what most would call an incredible sex life, haven’t been longer than a week out of a relationship, m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 01:13 AM
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That shared % is a myth and having had more than my share of FWB situations, I can assure you none of the ladies I’ve been FWB with ever told their friends I was a serious relationship, on the contrary, I was their “male slut” on the side, kind of passed around the group of friends over the years.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 10:13 PM
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I’m a man you poor thing. Never cared about n count either, I’ve been very very lucky in that department and actually prefer my partner to be just as experienced and creative, just like many, even most of the guys who are actually successful in real life and with women. N count is an issue for low self esteem and/or inferiority complex men, and yes there are a ton of them out there. Respect is earned, not given, and with your mindset, you would not earn any from the majority of humanity. Though …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 10:07 PM
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A classic case of delusion. You just lost any probability of being respected by anyone other than the people who think like you. And no, you’re not the majority, you’re just part of a very loud minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 09:48 PM
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It’s the education system showing. Math and stats are simple enough, but seem too hard for you lot. How many Chris Brown’s are there in this world of 8 billion or so, half of which are men. Or just take the USA, there are around 169 million males in the US, remove the kids, the very old and you will still have 100 million plus men. Now tell me how many stars (music, politics, sports, media and more) you have, even if you had 1 million guys who were superstars, super rich, super powerful etc. Tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 10:14 PM
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Depends on the self esteem/security, and socio cultural compliance need of the guy in most cases. Meaning someone who is comfortable with who they are, and their choices, who doesn’t need societal approval, is a lot more likely to not care about how many people the person he wants to be with, that he loves, has had sex with prior to him. Meaning someone who needs approval from friends, family, colleagues, society at large, thus very likely some form of inferiority complex, low self esteem (usual…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 09:22 PM
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Those numbers and the way the questions were asked in that survey are pure BS. And the “sharing” top guys is just as big a BS as the rest. Yes you may have the rare case of a guy cheating and maintaining multiple relationships (key word being relationship, in other words not booty calls), but that is very very rare and not sustainable. I’ve tried it in my 20s, and went back to a single partner within 3 weeks, just too much of a hassle and exhausting maintaining multiple relationships. Probably t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 08:54 PM
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Your math fails, like everyone who believes in this BS. If 20% of men have options, and 80% don’t (have to work for it), how the hell do “most” women pick these guys? Following your logic 20% of men would have to have a harem of women, which in turn would leave almost no women for the remaining 80% of men. This in turn would mean 80% of men would have no relationship. Absolutely not the way the world is, majority of men and women have multiple relationships throughout life. The outliers are the …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 12:34 AM
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Male variability is a debunked “theory”, recent research on IQ and cognitive ability shows no significant difference between men and women. And don’t throw the Wikipedia link at me, even the latest research Wikipedia link debunk the theory, you just need to go and read them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:04 AM
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You believe tic toc and think it’s the “average” woman, it’s you who has a problem. Also, a woman who’s partner sucks in bed will never enjoy sex with him, regardless of if she’s a virgin or experienced. It’s simple, guy sucks in bed, woman doesn’t enjoy it. Too many “men” (boys), are just too lazy and believe fucking like an animal is going to be pleasurable for a woman. All it takes is to read some lesbian sex guides and they could get infinity better, but no, they would rather watch porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 03:05 AM
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We’re talking about being normal human beings, everybody gets rejected/declined, which planet do you live on to think that just because you find someone attractive and interesting they are going to feel the same towards you? Take this scenario, you have a crush on someone in your friends circle, ask her out, she declines, likes you as a friend but doesn’t feel emotionally and sexually attracted to you. You have two options, 1) accept, stay friends like a decent person, 2) make a fuss and end tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 05:44 PM
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Actually as all the data indicates, only a small portion of women are using dating apps, the dating apps have anywhere up to 80% male populations. Women? The majority are fed up with the dick pics, “nice guys”, “alpha guys” etc on dating apps, and are back to real life dating and socializing. The small women population that remains on dating apps are a mix of OF marketing, desperate (undesired), and the rare hookup or relationship seeking normal women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 12:16 AM
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Perfectly put. Humans don’t have a hive brain, regardless of gender, what works best is being yourself, in other words being natural rather than acting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 12:02 AM
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Not surprising, the main point people in RP/BP miss is that how you react to a rejection, immediately and longer term, matters more to both the one you approach and the others in the group. If you can stay cool and move on gracefully, you are green flagged as a decent, datable guy, if you can’t, you’ll be red flagged as anything from obnoxious AH to a desperate incel. I’ve had rejections like anyone else but always took it with a genuine smile, shrugged it off and moved on, just like you, I rema…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 11:57 PM
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I have younger colleagues that fall into the category you describe, RP guys working out, making 6 figures and all and still having huge issues with keeping a woman. I’ve been out with them, and quite frankly it’s all about character still. It’s the way they act/talk, they alternate between radiating negative vibes and desperation when they’re around women though they think they’re being cool, masculine, alpha whatever. All they’re doing is making women flee them. Wonder if it’s not that same ene…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 12:45 AM
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In an open marriage since day one, we just had our anniversary last week, married 15 years, together 18. It requires love, trust and a look on sex as just sex, a fun activity and nothing more. Works for us but we were lucky to find each other. For 99% or more of people, open relationships will not work, insecurities, jealousy, lack of trust, lack of honesty, fear of loss, desire to possess etc. something usually goes wrong destroying the relationship. Edit: just to be clear, we have an open rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 12:21 AM
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That’s me you described, including the athletic part, and yes I’ve had a lot of success with women, but what you describe has absolutely nothing to do with the alpha beta etc. RP BS, it is basic culture, courtesy, respect and manners, being a decent human being. So yes, it is mostly about personality, assuming everything else is at an acceptable minimum. Everything else includes looks, hygiene, social and world views, cultural background, intelligence and more. There has to be a spark, when two …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:10 AM
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Who ever said personality is all that matters, or that looks don’t matter? Physical appearance (including hygiene, how you dress, your smile, the way you hold yourself, the way you look at someone etc.) matters, and so does personality, along with intelligence, sociocultural compatibility, social skills and more. Attraction is the result of a mix of many qualities, one of which is “looks”, and like everything to do with one’s taste, different people go for different looks. Some women prefer very…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 08:13 PM
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spot on! and I’ll add, no one ever said “looks don’t matter” unless it’s someone’s mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:32 PM
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Nope, but you were likely to meet someone and hookup if you did more than stay in a cave like most of you seem to be doing these days. My 14 year old gamer and kind of nerdish (straight A student) son is on his second girlfriend, simply because he hung out with friends (boys and girls) after school, and still hangs out with different friend groups during summer. All it takes is social interaction in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:23 PM
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My son is 14 and he meets up with friends almost every week. During the school year it was usually them hanging out near school, now that summer break is here, they meet someplace and hangout. He has several friend groups. Had his first girlfriend during the school year, has a new one now from a different friend group. So basically nothing has changed unless you’re living in a cave until you’re 22. All it takes is to hangout in real life with people and you will find opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:13 PM
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We share locations with each other, nothing to do with trust, we are in an open relationship, don’t hide anything from each other, it’s all about safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 11:06 PM
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Majority of high body count guys don’t care about a woman’s body count, though there are probably some who do for some twisted reason, but those will be the exceptions / minority. Let’s be realistic, most so called high body count guys on these forums are virgins or guys who’ve had sex with a handful of women and fantasizing about having a high body count. Alternatively, some few are high body count but get dumped all the time, in other words good at getting that first or second sex, but too tox…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 01:22 AM
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Lol, good luck in life
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:29 AM
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Lol, with a mentality like that, not surprised guys go around sexless these days. Ever consider what would happen if women think the same way? Your hand would be your girlfriend forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:10 AM
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Doubt taste has anything to do with hormones. gay men tend to be in better physical shape, workout more and have healthier habits than the majority of straight men, so they should have high T counts. They are still gay, and the above is true for bottoms as well. personal so just an anecdote: I was a pro swimmer, high T, and loved in shape / buff women, always liked short hair for example, and dominant women. I’m a switch, have always been a switch. if you’re in shape yourself, you will be attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 02:13 AM
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Lol, reading some of the comments, you are absolutely right, the comments are enough to confirm your points.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 04:14 AM
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Friends with benefits = no strings attached sex with a friend. Just because two people have sex doesn’t mean they have any feelings stronger than friendship. Sex is absolutely not romance, people have sex without the least bit of romantic feeling for each other. One night stands, fuck buddies, friends with benefits, swingers, and more, none are romantic. If you want to imply the act of sex is romance by definition, you are implying prostitution / paid sex is also romance. Sex is sex, it’s fun, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 11:09 PM
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I think you’re stretching it when you call FWB romance, though some may have the infatuation and passion you point to, and those are what you describe, romantic relationships in denial, most healthy FWBs are just two friends having casual sex from time to time. Again, there is a bond, but that bond is friendship with a somewhat deeper trust than most friendships, a trust that things can remain casual, the friendship not be ruined etc. just because two people had sex. As I said, I’ve been in quit…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 02:27 AM
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I’ve been in more than a few FWB relationships over the years, if you can call them relationships that is. Please do explain how having sex with a friend, anywhere from once every year or two, to maybe twice a month is a romantic relationship in denial? Especially when we were seeing each other quite a lot though out the year. Many of my FWB tended to be from the same group of friends - often referrals from one woman to a friend that I was a safe, fun, NSA guy that she could play around with wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 01:29 AM
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men think they’re brighter than they are, women underestimate themselves why? I’m guessing you’re basing your variability comments on old and biased information such as the 1932 Scottish one. 1932 Scottish “study” Women surpass men in IQ Forbes If you really want to learn the more recent studies and truth, follow the link below, a small extract to summarize “As for female/male differences, those were evaluated on several different samples and countries including, but not limited to, Italy, Germa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 12:57 AM
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Lol, it’s not because I don’t understand statistics, it’s because I do, that I don’t believe the self aggrandizing and unfounded male ego trip which you mentioned. The whole thing originated from the fact that women have smaller skulls and brains, it’s not based on any science or intelligence testing. Of course our bright male brethren who came up with the “fact” maybe hundreds of years ago, never had the intelligence to consider that, if skull and brain size is what matters, pretty much every l…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 08:46 PM
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A little lesson on how IQ works: Around 5% of people are 126 IQ or higher Around 6.5 % are between 116 to 125 66.6% of the population is between 85 and 115 Around 6.5% is between 75 and 85 Around 5% is below 75 Yes it’s a bell curve, IQ scores are standardized, which means those percentages never change. 145 IQ means she would be smarter than 9987 people out of 10000. That leaves just 13 people, assuming half are men, that’s only 6 or 7 men that are as intelligent, or more. The possibility of he…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 04:35 PM
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There will always be women who go for money and fame, just like men who will do the same, though for some reason you bunch treat those guys as inexistent. As you said it yourself, the “groupies” are that, a bunch of groupies. Even your local band has some of those. Every high school and college in the US does as well, all have sports groupies, though this is a very US specific thing, doesn’t exist in other parts of the world. Groupies and whores (male and female) don’t mean a single thing statis…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 09:31 PM
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Actually women consistently go for decent men, at least in real life. What you’re trying to put out as a fact is nothing more than the ignorant and biased reality of someone who probably doesn’t go out of their cave.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 12:11 AM
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Lol, having difficulty with critical thinking I see. Let the women work full time, have a career while the man takes care of kids and chores working part time and let’s see how those numbers are and how men will complain they “do too much of the housework” There are minor children at home in the example you highlight. Man works 38.4 hours, woman 21.6 so she’s in a part time job. the wife is taking care of the children, so can’t take a full time job childcare is may be more expensive than her hou…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:52 PM
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Red pill is a scam just like any other scam, the dudes that are pushing it are making $$ getting rich from their followers while alienating women to the ideas they are pushing. Sure, some guys may have found a little more success with the decent RP ideas, basic one being a fat, unkempt and generally decent person working out, getting in shape, paying more attention to their overall appearance, of course they will suddenly have more success, self confidence etc. unless they go down the rabbit hol…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:34 PM
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This kind of discussion, rating people 1 to 10 is useless. Like most everything, assuming such a rating would be possible for all of humanity, it would be a bell curve, people below 2 or above 8 would be small fractions, 1 or 2 % of humanity at each end with the majority (around 70% clustered between 3.5 and 6.5). Basically people are more average looking than they believe they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 03:04 AM
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If you have a nice body, think swimmer, rower, gymnast etc, not bulked up gym rat body, and a decent face, you’re going to catch attention and even be lusted after. How ever, you can kill it very easily the moment you open your mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 02:03 AM
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Sorry but you’re wrong, you generalize far too much and assume the majority of men are like you. Yes there are a lot who are just as insecure as you, but we are not all like you. Some of us actually prefer having a partner that is similar to us, a woman with similar world views, which includes being comfortable with, and enjoying sex in their life before us, a partner that is just as experienced and just as relaxed about something that feels good.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 12:01 AM
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Correction: You are grossed out. Some men are grossed out. Others don’t have your insecurities, we couldn’t care less and never even think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:36 PM
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You people are really dense, women do not find most men physically unattractive, and do not bring up the on line dating app (was it Tinder or Ok Cupid?) numbers that you all clearly don’t understand or are distorting to the point of lying. The on line dating profiles are around 70% to 80% men, that means there are 4 men per woman. Of course they choose the guys that are the most pleasant for them. What would you do if it was the opposite? You have 100s of women messaging you, are you going to ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:24 AM
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Actually most humans in this world meet and hookup through social circles. Now if you go and ask women to be your wingman, you’re right a big majority will not be interested. As for your example, you don’t give enough background and don’t seem to have ever asked her, could be her friend has a boyfriend and your friend is trying to avoid awkwardness, or her friend has the hots for someone, or she just broke up etc. etc. Even if she was thinking exactly what you imagine, it doesn’t matter, if you …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 12:57 AM
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I’ve always used condoms never pulled out, never had an issue and I’m one of those people who falls in the top 1% in number of partners and used to be like a rabbit (getting old so down to a few times a week). Pulling out with a condom is unnecessary if you know how to use one, and I mean that, the number of people who don’t is mind boggling considering the commonly sited condom failure rate of 3% or so. If you use condoms correctly and every time, they are very very safe. The 3% failure is due …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:51 PM
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It’s not just women, many guys fall for their fwb and want more after a while. It’s just not mentioned as much. Most people, regardless of gender, are not built for fwb or nsa relationships, they just can’t help wanting more, asking for more, if they like the person they’re having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 11:48 PM
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The opposite, she is easier to please. The more partners and experience a woman has, the more she is able to relax and enjoy the experience, she learns her body, is in tune with herself, knows how to increase her pleasure (moving and adjusting her body to enhance the angle, depth, friction etc.) and is comfortable asking for what she wants. If a less experienced guy is able to let go of his ego, she can even teach him how to be better at giving women pleasure. So in fact the exact opposite of wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 11:18 PM
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You seem to misunderstand, referring to your second paragraph “… blaming the smaller percentage of men…” There is a smaller percentage of women on the apps, not men. Why? Because of men. The unsolicited dick pics, the harassment, the rudeness, the “nice guys” who believe women owe them sex and more. Result? women try an app and get disgusted almost immediately, leave the app. That’s how we got to where we are today too many men going after the same women. So women get a lot more swipes and can b…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 10:04 PM
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Well if you look at the numbers OP shared, it’s 3 or 4 guys for one woman depending on the platform. Basically a much much smaller percentage of women are on those platforms compared to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:30 AM
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Upvoted because this is a fact that needs to be out there for all those guys complaining about not getting enough swipes and trying to put the blame on the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 01:11 AM
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Talking about yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 12:09 AM
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So basically you don’t want people to enjoy a natural, very pleasant activity because you’re a prude? How about the opposite, promiscuity should be encouraged because sex feels good, is good for our health and psychology?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:05 AM
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Same here and I’ve never asked either. In fact the only ones I know were the virgins and much later, my wife (and that only happened while were talking about ex bf/gf that were common friends while very very drunk). Probably close to a hundred women and only one of them, my wife has an estimate for me, and she is the only woman I have an estimate for. I really don’t understand what people are talking about, I mean I’ve had a hundred or so partners and if someone were to ask and I lied and said a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:03 AM
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https://nypost.com/2018/07/02/are-open-relationships-better-than-monogamous-ones-science-investigates/ Most research shows only around 10% of open relationships are successful, from the beginning I used the words “successful open marriages”. My main point is most hetero couples have too much emotional baggage and insecurities to have a successful open relationship. As very well put in the article I linked: So, should you go right on ahead and open your relationship up? Not so fast, says family a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 08:45 PM
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Lol that’s the first one that popped on a google search, I didn’t even read it. As for the 99% that’s just a colloquial way of saying a lot more. Again reminder: I am talking about people who have a successful open relationship. To have a successful open relationship, you need higher level of trust and love, the kind that does not freak out from jealousy and fear of loosing because your significant other smiled at, kissed or had sex with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 02:07 AM
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Here’s one open relationships Please note I did mention open relationships where both partners want it, not one doing it to please the other who actually wants it, which is a common reason many fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:44 PM
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If it’s good for her and she’s happy why would it bother me? How to your man? That I don’t know, we were lucky to find each other but that’s luck as much as anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 04:41 AM
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Funny thing is, people who are able to have successful open relationships, with both wanting it, tend to have a much more trust in each other than 99% of “normal couples. We’ve been at it for 17 years, works much better than the classic marriages with jealous and insecure partners we’ve had before.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:03 AM
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233 is actually a good number for accurate statistical analysis assuming everything, including participant selection (representative) and analysis, is done correctly. Having more participants does not equate accuracy, a “research” based on 1000, one million or even 10 million participants can and very often is worthless, completely biased and inaccurate simply because the people behind it lack the understanding of stats. The best examples of a such botched analysis, lacking understanding of even…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 04:05 AM
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Love that women have casual sex and approve it, life has been full of fun thanks to it. How the hell (with whom?) would men have casual sex if 99% of women were celibate until marriage and never ever cheated? The concept is totally flawed and moronic, there’s absolutely no logic or possibility for it. For men to have casual sex, it means women have to have casual sex as well and statistics show both average partner counts throughout life and ratio of married men and women cheating is very close.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:43 AM
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Some people have a vast emptiness in the skull and end up “thinking” with their penis, thankfully they’re a minority. The rest of us are very much capable of having real friendship without always thinking of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 12:16 AM
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Yeah sure, what ever fantasy makes you survive another day.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 03:02 AM
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I’ve had more success and more choice than the amount of brain cells you have in that vast emptiness in your skull but sure what ever you want to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 02:58 AM
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seems we just hang out in very different circles. It kind of gets on my nerves when people complain about not finding a partner or even just sex, and at the same time complain about the women they have a potential with because, she has more sexual experience. It gets even more on my nerves when the guy is just as promiscuous as the one he’s complaining about. More disgusted with people than angry, and maybe you should reread Reich’s Listen Little Man, especially if you want to use it as a slur, …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 01:41 AM
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You start of great then tumble. Why assume rejections? Or traumas? Out of 100 or so women, most were one nighters or friends with benefits, no one got hurt, traumatized or anything else, we all had fun. Out of even more men, my wife has a very similar history, again no trauma, bad feelings etc. I know we’re probably exceptions and I know the other extreme also exists but so what? Number of partners is meaningless if two people love each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 04:15 AM
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Lol sure
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 04:03 AM
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Yes good jobs since my early 20s. I’ve lived in 4 countries and 3 US states, travelled to around 100 countries, have friends all over the world. Have you met even 10% of the different cultures I have, considering you have the nerve to generalize “men” and assume everyone thinks and acts like you and your palls and colleagues? My feedback is based on a world view and experience, can you say the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 04:02 AM
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Considering average number of partners is under 10 for both men and women and very close, 50+ is already such a minority that going to thousands is taking it to porn or prostitution levels. Can’t say for sure but that kind of number (thousands) would give me a pause, though absolutely not an “ick” and if I really like her, it wouldn’t matter, though I would always wonder how she managed it unless she’s in porn or a prostitute.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 03:56 AM
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Lol I’m sis man, born with a penis. I grew up in France, travelled to around 100 countries, lived in 4 of them, now live in the US, currently living in my third state. I’ve had a good life with lots of sex and found my match 16 years ago, we’re still happily together (and still have great sex).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 03:48 AM
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I’ve been with around 100 women, my wife with even more men, we’re on our 16th year together and still in love. Number of sexual partners has nothing to do with love, intimacy or anything that matters. “Pair bonding” is a purely fictional, unproven theory. As for the Middle East oil rich countries you mention, they look nice from far but if you’ve lived anywhere a little bigger than a hole in the middle of nowhere, they actually suck for life. I lived in Dubai and travelled to all those places y…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 03:37 AM
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Depends on your culture, personal experiences, your openness and how conservative you are. Me I grew up in Europe where sex is a normal part of life not one to be ashamed of and no one really makes a big deal of counting partners after their teenage years.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:45 AM
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That’s interesting I know very well what I feel like and since I’m a man that makes me part of the equation, I also know what many of my friends feel like and they are also part of the equation. I also have friends which were never very successful with women, and know they feared hooking up with more experienced women. As I side note I’m from Europe and have seen, after moving here, how Americans make such a big deal of these irrelevant stuff. So again depends on culture, openness, self esteem a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:38 AM
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It’s not a basic instinct, it’s an insecurity and/or jealousy, self confident men don’t care about a woman’s “n count” only men who are afraid to loose a woman’s interest or are afraid they will fall short somewhere make a deal out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:06 AM
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Your friends are likely people who think like you and have things in common so no surprise. My friends either don’t care or like it, in fact most like it. So I could say the same, from experience, vast majority of men like promiscuous women. We run in different circles, unlike you, I don’t take my circle as the “vast majority” and generalize, I know that me and my friends represent an insignificant ratio of the human population.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 02:19 AM
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Let’s correct that as gives some men the ick, others don’t care, and some actually like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 11:43 PM
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Lol love it, as valid as the opposite BS some of these guys say about women loosing value and ability to connect😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 11:41 PM
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Contrary to what most guys believe, women can’t remember how sex was with someone, anymore than we can remember after a few months and new partners. Yes, both men and women will remember that someone was great in bed or that they were useless but that’s about it. Anyone who thinks they can remember and rank their lovers has either not had sex with more than a few people or had really average to bad partners (in other words someone good really stands out). I’ve had sex with around 100 people, my …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 02:57 AM
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Maybe we should be teaching the misogynistic simpleton men that it’s not empowering (actually very shameful) to sleep with a woman unless they are married with her. And even more shameful to abandon a woman after getting her pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 01:27 AM
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Nothing surprising in those results, a woman would have to be a simpleton to not be more careful, even aversive to sex in a red state with anti-abortion laws. STD/STI increase in the general population was enough of a reason to be scared, add forced birth on top and you have a perfect storm. Funny thing is, all those guys who voted for the people putting in these laws will be complaining about not being able to get any sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 01:22 AM
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What OP wrote is pathological, not two people having sex to see if they are sexually compatible. It’s the same as trying new food, you may like it, you may hate it, or you may not care one way or the other and everything in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 02:18 AM
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If I had a magic wand and could become a woman for a while, absolutely! I’ve had sex as a man thousands of times, and from experience know that we (men) don’t get to experience one tenth of the pleasure women do, assuming at least a semi skilled partner of course. Would love to experience what women do. I’d probably be the biggest slut in the world if I could be a woman for a while 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 09:41 PM
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That ”idea” is just an “idea” thrown around by some people, has no real science or proper research behind it. Not denying there are click bait type articles and quotes tied to inept research and wrong (lack of statistical analysis knowledge) interpretation of the garbage data, but that garbage is where the “idea” is coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 11:19 PM
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Both my wife and I were very promiscuous, before we met and still are, we love sex, enjoy it as it is meant to be, as a fun and pleasant experience. We’ve always been careful to use condoms with others, had that rule was there even before we met. Experiencing different people has only been positive for us. It’s as you say, depends on the people, for us it has worked great and continues to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 02:21 AM
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Weird question… sex feels good and is lots of fun. Why would anyone regret having lots of it and experiencing it with many different people? Neither my wife nor I would want our life to have had less sex and we’ve both been extremely active. We’re still enjoying it and all the different people just added, and keep adding, spice. We’ve been with around 100 (or more, hard to remember one nighters) different people each.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 02:13 AM
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We have played around in swinging clubs a couple of times but not much more, most of our partners have been meetings at bars, clubs, holidays, work, friends, and their friends etc. In fact the online proportion is probably 10% or less for both. A lot easier to pickup people that are compatible in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 04:14 AM
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I’m pretty sure she’s had better sex with someone else, maybe a handful of others, but seriously doubt it’s more than that. I’m good, even very good, but also conscious that there are more skilled, more passionate, newer, more exciting etc. guys out there. We’ve been together 15+ years, still have great sex and are still in love. So what do I care about a few passing guys that she may have had memorable experiences with? And same for her about my experiences. If anything we’re happy for each oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 03:55 AM
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Yep, we do. We also don’t need to “cheat” since if either one of us feels like having fun with someone else, we do. Open relationship since they one, most can’t handle it due to jealousy or fear of loosing the other, for us love means being free, not chaining the other with our fears.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 03:30 AM
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My wife has had sex with well over 100 guys, I’ve been with a similar amount of women. We’ve been together for over 15 years and still in love. What does being promiscuous have to do with anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 02:05 AM
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Communication (I’m sure the numbers are not absolutely correct but even + or - a couple of points the order won’t change) 1. Verbal – Words, Content – 7% 2. Vocal – Tone, Pitch, Intonation – 38% 3. Visual – Body Language, Facial Expression, Gestures – 55% Simply put, a lot of guys who are not successful fail even before opening their mouth, another big chunk fail not because of what they say but how they say it. If you consider online dating where the population is more or less 8 or 9 men for ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 02:23 AM
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Guess it depends, my wife and I both had very active sex lives before we met, it’s hard to say exactly since neither of us can remember more than 30 or 40 names and those are either friends with whom we had sex or bf/gf for a while. The one nighters are a blur for both. My best guess is I’ve had sex with around 100 people and her around 150-200. We’re happily married, 16 years together (13 married) still have great sex, definitely not bored, she’s still the best sex ever and I’m not a slacker ei…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 10:37 PM
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The concept of trying until finding the “one” or close enough, seems to be alien to the RP guys. While looking for that “one”, a man or woman will have times where all they want is company, with or without sex. Some people don’t spend the time to experience life, and different people, latch on to a partner far too early in life and give us the 50% divorce rates. Funny thing is, following RP is almost guaranteed divorce even if one finds someone with the toxic misogyny of RP beliefs. She will be …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 11:49 PM
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They can approach me any time, in fact I’ve been approached many times, the thing is when I say “thank you, flattering but I’m not interested” none of those men ever were obnoxious, none tried to convince me to give them a chance or to get to know them, became belligerent and/or insulting and the other kind of junk that women are too often subjected to.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 11:30 PM
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Not all men, probably not even the majority of men. Many of us actually prefer a woman to a girl. I’ve been with my wife 16 years, she’s still the most beautiful and sexiest woman alive. Unlike the cave dwelling incel virgins and the red pill misogynistic inferiority complexed “men children” who believe women hit a wall in their 20s, real men know how to appreciate women of all ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 08:38 PM
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Absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 08:19 PM
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Agree most women can have orgasms from penetration, caveat; with the right partners. The problem with these researches is they ask about prior experience of having orgasms via penetration so based on experience rather than ability. Personal experience says 99% of women have multiple orgasms during penetrative sex, and yes I did have sex with around a hundred different people, repeatedly with many (some are one nighters ). I do believe I am a good lover, don’t go for penetration until she is the …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 05:55 PM
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Let me guess… The intelligent guy is a nerd, has bad taste in clothing, hairstyle, possibly glasses, may or may not be over or under weight, possibly socially weird, very likely never talked to this girl he’s fantasizing about and is jealous of others who actually have had social interactions with her that are more than a hello. Our nerd is hoping that magically she will fall for him and not others. Twist, the OP is the nerd.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 05:27 PM
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A lot less than anyone on those pills believe, fact is they are a tiny but very vocal minority. People who actually have a life don’t bother with pills of any color except to have some fun shit posting and getting the pill crowd roiled.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 12:45 AM
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Nope, antivax = either vaxed profiteer taking advantage of real antivax morons, or a real moron.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 12:33 AM
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The ones that do are just a bunch of virgin cave dwellers who throw around debunked pseudo science on repeat, never look in the mirror (literally and figuratively) and blame women for being who and what they are because it’s easier than admitting their own inadequacies, lack of taste etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 01:04 AM
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Guys tend to ruin fwb/fuck buddy relationships just as often if not more by falling for the woman, wanting more than just sex (dates, escapades etc) despite it being discussed and agreed from the beginning that it is, and will only be, no strings attached sex. Women are actually better at separating sex from emotions once they let go of societal taboos.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 12:58 AM
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If red pill morons understood the oxytocin theory, they would see that the theory does not say anything about promiscuity making women unable to bond after many partners. The theory basically says that if a women has good sex, and lots of orgasms, with the same partner, there is going to be a kind of bonding/addiction to that partner. If, big if, the theory is correct, a woman could have sex with hundreds of partners but not bond with any of them through sex (can still bond and fall in love with…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 11:34 PM
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the “institution of marriage” is a major factor in women getting a divorce. In other words, the misogynistic behavior and reinforcement of such by marriage and men is why many women divorce. Whole sentence is a link to the article. Not going to waste more time on this, I’ll close with: taking snippets from numbers, regurgitating biased studies, blaming everything on women, believing in pseudo bull shit theories as fact, does not make any of it truth. Fact is, men are more likely to abuse in a re…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 10:36 PM
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That’s because the study is biased bullshit and they’re tired of seeing brainless troglodytes like you who keep reposting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 07:28 PM
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https://www.wf-lawyers.com/divorce-statistics-and-facts/
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 07:25 PM
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Unless they have character flaws, above average men will easily find sex and LTR. If they have character flaws, they could be a 10 and still not be able to find either, or only be able to get one nighters and/or short term but have difficulty with LTR. Same is true for women. Only internet cave dwellers with character flaws (red flags) believe what you say and believe they don’t have any character flaws. They also believe women have a much easier dating scene without considering or believing how…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 01:03 AM
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As mentioned to another comment to your post, when divorce filings for physical abuse are removed, divorce filing ratio between men and women is the same, about 50-50. Since all physical abuse divorces are filed by women, and the opposite (man getting beaten by his wife) is so unlikely and rare, divorces for physical abuse should be removed from the numbers in a non-biased research. Summary: red pill pair bonding bull shit is bull shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:09 PM
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They always forget to mention that when the divorces filed by women for “physical abuse” are removed, divorce ratio filed by men and women are equal, which negates the pair bonding pseudo theory. The pseudo “studies” are total B.S. without any of the research fundamentals, totally biased to come out with the answer they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:01 PM
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Lol true rapist it is, that’s my French messing with English Yeah 9 was worded wrong. I should have been a little more precise, I’m talking about guys who always shoot for the stars, end up alone and complain about “no woman” wanting them. I’ve seen them in the wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:43 AM
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1) Creeps who believe she owes sex just because she went out for a coffee, drink, dinner etc with them. 2) Creeps that don’t accept that a woman did not like them enough for a second date and try to pressure her into another date. 3) Creeps that secretly follow women home after a date and stalk her. 4) Rapers drugging women at social venues. 5) Rapers who take advantage of drunk women. 6) Fat, ugly, tasteless, unhygienic creeps who throw abuse at women. 7) Creeps who don’t listen and leave a wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:49 PM
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Simple really, hygiene, decent and tasteful clothing (if you have bad taste, which is often the case, get help from friends, family, the sales person at a shop or even online), get a hair cut that looks good on you, if you want facial hair, again trim, comb, and most important have facial hair that looks good on you. Too many people have zero taste, end up looking much worse than they could just because “they like the way they look” though their taste is horrifying to 99% of humanity. Take Frenc…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 12:32 AM
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The stats on divorce are still missing background info. If it included a breakdown of reasons for divorce for example, it would be a lot more useful. Same logic as your example on suicide. Example: If around 30% of women filing for divorce is due to violence by husband, which is a very common reason for divorce, divorce for other reasons would be about equal between men and women. Considering we don’t have that info, the stats here are useless. A perfect example of using stats to say what you wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 12:09 AM
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Pure statistics often doesn’t give the correct picture. As my wife who is a PhD, certified genius, statistician, psychologist, university professor and actually teaches stats, research methodologies always says “you can manipulate statistics to say anything you want” unfortunately too many “research” is no where near the standards they should be, and far too few people who do research actually understand statistics or proper research methodologies. So without background info it means nothing tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 11:48 PM
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Same here, part of the minority and probably did everything the opposite of what red pills promote. I don’t believe I’ve actually ever seen or read any valuable advice on dating other than being yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 11:02 PM
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I counter with: intelligence is a positive trait with everything else being equal. Intelligent but socially challenged? Not going to get laid. Intelligent and socially adept? Will get laid, a lot! Socially adept includes everything from, hygiene, taste, to reading queues, being fun etc. STEM jobs and intelligence, not a direct correlation, not even an indirect one. You can have an average IQ and be a programmer, or engineer. You’ll never be the one that is sought after, but you can sure be the “…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:59 AM
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Probably the opposite. Good looking -> easy sex -> overconfidence-> not willing to make an effort to learn and improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:25 PM
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True, that’s our experience as well, most couples we met got in to swinging later in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:20 AM
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As a someone in an open relationship which includes swinging from time to time: - swinging is fun when all involved are relatively attractive and can perform well sexually. Less fun when one of us is disappointed. The hard part is finding compatible couples. - open relationship is great when you trust each other like we do. No need to keep secrets, no cheating, just great sex together and with others. We’ve been open & swinging since we met 17 years ago, can’t see why we would stop. Our rules ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:10 AM
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We’ve been swinging / open relationship since day 1, day 1 was 17 years ago, together and still in love. I’d say we have a healthier and more loving relationship than pretty much all our vanilla friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 11:52 PM
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Not sure what you’re smoking but it sure seems to work!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 12:27 AM
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I don’t hide anything from my wife, she knows my opinions and agrees with most of what I post so nothing would happen other than her thinking I’m wasting more time on this platform than reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 12:16 AM
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Women are attracted to all kinds of men, including “genuinely nice guys”. The fact that you people (those who agree with you) do not understand or want to admit is that being nice is just one aspect of you overall. I’ll make a car analogy. A “genuinely nice guy” as you describe it, is a car that has a nice and comfortable, possibly even a great interior. What you seem to ignore is that if everything else, or many other things (engine, reliability, technology etc.) about this car suck, no one, or…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:48 AM
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American education system strikes again….
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 10:33 PM
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Most men judge how good sex is by how much the woman is enjoying herself and how much she’s in to it, good sex for most men is a good performance by them. As an example almost every guy will fall for a multi orgasmic woman who has 10-20-30 orgasms with him. The fact is, for most guys sex is an ego trip, it’s also the reason they fall so easily for fake orgasms. The other “great sex” factor is how liberated and comfortable she is with sex, blow jobs, kink, being on top etc..
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 02:40 AM
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Yes, and we’re well on our way there, a couple more generations and we’ll be back to the stone age.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 02:31 AM
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Wifey behavior? Still in the Stone Age? I cook most of the time, not my wife, because I like to cook. I would say about half of our friends are the same, the husband likes is the “chef” at home. Who ever has more free time does house chores, which means sometimes it’s me sometimes my wife. No rules, just basic decency. We make about the same amount of money these days so we both “provide” financially. I would say about half of our friends, in the US and a couple of European countries, the wife m…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 06:38 AM
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Guys here seem unable to understand that women don’t want to be approached just anywhere anytime. It’s quite easy to understand when someone, man or woman, wants to be left alone, from their demeanor, or their first response.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 10:25 PM
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More representative than real life? Dude, just listen to yourself!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 04:17 AM
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False, especially for the men here. I’m a guy and what I see here is pathetic most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 04:08 AM
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We left Texas for Maryland in November for two reasons, gun and abortion laws. We will never move/work in a red state again, will not send our son to a red state university.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:45 PM
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It’s not 100% and those loose women probably had good experiences prior to your friends. Once they’ve had good experiences they will be in the lucky camp already and even a mediocre lover will be good.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 08:30 PM
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Traumatic sexual experiences can result in high sex drive for a small minority who are psychologically damaged, even broken, from the experience. The high drive is a coping mechanism coming from a twisted need to “justify” what happened, often comes with other high risk behaviors such as drug use, excessive drinking, unprotected sex etc. For the majority of women, trauma results in fear and dislike of penetration and sex with men. Even for those that manage to put it behind, it is very often the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 02:21 PM
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I did say from personal experience. 2 sisters, 2 cousins, their friends and other friends I grew up with. All who’ve had a “good start” ended up being very high libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 01:29 PM
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Read lesbian sex guides 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 01:25 PM
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Agree, though repeat lovers who are mediocre can definitely leave one wondering what the big deal is, and reduce desire. Until and unless one runs across a great lover, it will always be a bland, if not painful experience. Thing is, too many men stay at that mediocre level all their lives, and too many women experience only mediocre sex all their lives. I blame porn and a general lack of interest to learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 02:30 AM
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The graphics are evidently made by ignorant men or boys. Assuming that all women get sex, or can get sex, is pure bull. The bottom of those pyramids for either gender will have the same issues and challenges. The advantage for men, we can actually close our eyes and pretty much are guaranteed pleasure and an orgasm no matter who we have sex with. For those poor women at the bottom of the pyramid, it’s almost guaranteed that they will never have a pleasant sexual experience, even if they find a m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 10:30 PM
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I know I’m going to get bombarded with hate but here’s my take from personal experience. It has to do with how women experience their first sex experiences (virginity + next couple of times). The lucky ones: looses virginity willingly to a skilled lover, who makes sure it is a good experience. Usually has a high sex drive throughout life, unless a trauma (such as rape) destroys the sex drive.. The majority: loosing virginity and the first few sexual encounters are mediocre, even bad. Goes throug…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 10:14 PM
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Anyone who’s had a friend with benefits or fuck buddy will always have a backup as long as they (friend with benefit / fuck buddy) still available for flings when contacted. They will be there even if not contacted for years if the sex was good.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 06:39 PM
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Very nicely put!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 12:34 AM
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What you describe is a fuck buddy rather than a friend with benefits. Both are great to have and it is very clear which one one is depending on interaction between booty calls. Fuck buddy: exactly what you outlined, just no strings attached booty calls every now and then. Friend with benefits: an actual friend as in someone you see relatively frequently and non sexually but with whom you have a no strings attached fling every now and then. I’m a guy and have had both varieties over the years. Sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 02:13 AM
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Don’t really get the question you’re asking. Do I regret having affairs with married or partnered women? am I afraid of my wife doing the same etc? If so, no regrets and perfectly ok with my wife having a fling, a fuck buddy or a friend with benefits as long as she’s ok for me to have the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 02:03 AM
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Lol, quite the opposite, the ones who don’t care are the men with a high count of their own and who know that sex is just sex. This n count thing is a big deal only in countries like the USA where religion is so ingrained in society that virginity or near virginity, what ever that means, is a thing. I was lucky enough to grow up in France where the question of n count is not a thing, even impolite to ask, sex is sex, something both men and women enjoy as nature intended.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 12:21 AM
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Actually the opposite of not understanding why others have inclination to appreciate different things. The post was generalizing “So we can conclude that men care about n count. When you see a man claiming that he doesn’t, you should be wary, not happy” I don’t care, never asked anyone other than my wife and that only because of a drinking game. Others who have had more than a handful of experiences have said the same, they don’t care by the time they hit 20-30 n count. So generalizing that all …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 11:50 PM
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You’re going with the false assumption men and women are genetically different regarding sex. It’s in the DNA of both nor just men. Second, you’re assumption that all men are desperate for sex and would drop their pants at pretty much any opportunity is false. Third, you assume, again wrong, that women are more emotional then men. Men fall in love or are infatuated just as much as women. Fourth, you seem to think genetics rather than societal (culture, religion etc) factors determine what people…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 09:24 PM
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100 or so partners in all, absolutely no question, my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 05:04 AM
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I’ve been very successful with women all my life, haven’t had a day without a girlfriend since my late teens. They never new if I had money and was successful, could tell I was not struggling but that’s it. My success had to do with being well groomed and dressed, being sociable, holding a conversation, being fun, adventurous, spontaneous, cultured, educated etc. All this nonsense about money and success is valid for a small minority of women, the money chasers, not the majority who just want gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 04:07 AM
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Same here, had my first sip at age 2! Did the same with my son :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:39 AM
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Grew up in France and everything you describe about Germany is more or less the same. It’s pretty much the same in most of Europe.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:32 AM
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Not necessarily cheat, I’ve cheated sure (prior relationships) but settled into a happy open marriage with my current wife, she has an even higher count than I do. Our sex life together and with others is great. Together since 2005 and happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:15 AM
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I’m now 52 my wife 47. I’ve had sex with around 100, she’s had sex with around 150 by now. Are those numbers high? To 99% of the world population, yes, very high. Not to us, we like sex, it feels good so why restrict ourselves? We’ve had an open marriage since day one, works great for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:04 AM
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I don’t look up to or admire anyone, I do have friends and family that mean sometimes a lot sometimes less, their gender has nothing to do with it. In other words, my brain is in by head not hanging between my legs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 12:38 AM
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The big majority of men who care are those that are not sure of themselves and have some kind of inferiority complex with their own sexual prowess and experience. The others who care are usually either religiously or socially indoctrinated and can’t break out of it no matter how educated. Guy here, married to the love of my life who wouldn’t even be able to remember her count. Her ability to enjoy sex without all the taboos and social baggage was and still is one of the qualities that made her a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 10:36 PM
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You’re joking right? I’ve actually spent time in some of those countries you mention and more, Romania, Iran, Saudi Arabia and Poland from your list as well as most of the Europe, Middle and Africa. To even think prudish societies have better sex lives you must be living on a different planet. To bundle Romania and Poland with the likes of Saudi Arabia and Iran, again you must be living on a different planet. Finally to say the US is not prudish based on small parts of LA, NY and a few other lar…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 03:32 AM
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No clue but definitely not in the 100 or more range for the top 20%. Those kinds of numbers are a lot less frequent and a smaller portion of the male population than 20%, just like the other extreme, guys that can’t get laid. Both are very vocal, one group, because they like to brag, the other because they’re unhappy (to put it very very kindly). 90% of men and woman have just a few partners throughout their lives, hence the US averages of a little over 6 for men and a little over 4 for women. R…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 03:22 AM
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Is she’s cheating, in other words not telling you, it’s called cheating. If she’s telling you (not details but that she’s going for a fuck) and you’re ok with it, it’s an open relationship (if you’re free to meet others as well) or half-open relationship (you are monogamous, she is not). Could go on with variations but who cares what anyone calls what you guys have if you’re both good with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 06:52 PM
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30-40 for women in general 35 to forever for my wife!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 06:44 PM
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I’m a guy, average or slightly above looks and probably lived what most guys on these forums dream, I have an n count close to a hundred, didn’t have a day without a girlfriend since my teens, never been dumped, remained friends with almost all girlfriends. (GF meaning a relationship of 3 months or more). Happily married😊 I was curious about that “research” article, and I did go all the way to the bottom where there’s a much more relevant and research methodologically correct graph with an almos…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 06:33 PM
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Lol yes we absolutely love it😁I’m not surprised it’s different for every woman, my lovely wife is like fireworks having bigger and bigger explosions up to around 30 minutes, after that it’s usually either too much (to the point of fainting) or it starts declining in intensity. Though a few minutes break is enough for another round😁
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 02:07 AM
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I can understand similar counts, though I can’t relate, the best sex I’ve had was almost always with higher n women, regardless of their age, and I’ve had a good life (so glad I grew up in France!).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 01:44 AM
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My wife can’t count after the third O, so she is basically the same, 1 is meh, 2 ok, 3 or more is a blur and “great”. Any guy who’s half decent in bed and can last is going to go over three with her (multi orgasmic) so she’s had tens of great😂 love how she enjoys sex!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 01:31 AM
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What kills me is that the n count as you call it is only 4.3 through the lifetime of a woman in the US, far below the 6.3 for men. My wife is at 100+ while I’m a little under 100. Does it change anything? Yes! We probably have better sex than 99.9% of the population, both of us know how to give pleasure. I’m glad my wife is experienced and without a question incredible in bed. Guys who are worried about body count (n) are just afraid they do not hold up to the ones before, basically lacking in s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 12:26 AM
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We’ve had threesomes with men and women as well as some foursomes with other couples. If for some reason we broke up, both of us would absolutely date other open minded people. I only see benefits, no disadvantages.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 11:48 PM
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I call BS on most any “nice guy” who frequents these forums and complains right and left about women. Almost every single example or post is cringy, from the overly nosy, judgmental to the unbelievable assumption that hitting on women just anywhere and everywhere is ok. If I’m reading a book at a coffee shop and get hit on by even a very beautiful woman, I might say a word or two to be polite but also be annoyed at her messing with my reading. If I’m at a bar on the other hand, I would likely ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 05:58 PM
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I have several friends (they started as my wife’s friends, we are now as close as cousins) who are married with their high school crush, have been monogamous all their lives and are the perfect woman according to many of those who tend to say this kind of BS. Good looking, one guy only, successful etc. Some of them have a tattoo or two some have none. The ones that got tattoos got them because they thought it would look nice, which they do in my and their husbands’ opinions. On the other extreme…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 05:32 PM
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You are assuming that a 5 minute romp is good, beg to differ, I get as much pleasure from the Os I give my partner as having one myself. A quickie is good in the right circumstances but only if she’s getting off on it too. I’m sure some guys would be happy with those 5*5 minutes a week but most will consider that a bad sexual relationship, some will cheat looking for fulfilling sex, others will stay monogamous but unhappy with their sex life, just like today. P.S. I’m one of the lucky guys, the …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 04:05 PM
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You seem to believe that women do not desire men and can have sex whenever they want with anyone they want. The truth is a quite a bit different. There are just as many lonely and desperate women as men. Women, just like men, want sex with people that turn them on and they find attractive, it’s human nature. Yes it might be a little easier for women because men tend to have lower standards but that has to do with us being able to get off with pretty much anyone, whereas many women go through lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 03:41 PM
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Ever consider they are both happy the way they are in their relationship? Might not be your thing but maybe they’re in to a lifestyle outside the norm? First one to come to my mind is a female led relationship, possibly with some other related kinks such as cuckolding, bdsm and such. Not all woman want the same thing and neither do all men. As for the slap? I think he’s an idiot, he should have asked the guy to stop or just smile and, assuming I’m even half right, accept the whipping when he got…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 02:35 PM
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