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3

Obtaining pussy can be difficult; I get hard when I get the pussy.
/r/seduction15/07/26 02:50 PM
2

Almost correct. OP: Don’t ask for the phone number. Ask for the date. The phone number will come eventually.
/r/seduction14/07/26 01:18 AM
37

Simple solution: delete all your social media.
/r/seduction13/07/26 06:58 PM
3

I believe everyone has a fantasy celebrity romance — when I was a teenager I wanted to have my way with Catherine Deneuve who was a French actress & model who was in Playboy in the 1960s. She’s now 82. I’m showing my age, lol. The question is: how serious is a particular gal motivated to act upon this preference? If she’s following a celebrity IRL, you seriously better move on. I had a GF (1980s) who was smitten with Erik Estrada such that she drove across the country to see him wherever he was …
/r/seduction13/07/26 06:07 PM
2

Don’t know what you do for a paycheck — or how big that paycheck is — but you NEED to dress like you make big money. Dress like a 30-year-old (or older), not a 19 year old baby-faced college kid. Your smaller stature and baby face appearance are, unfortunately, 2 negatives; but those can be counterbalanced by wardrobe change. DM me if you want further advice.
/r/seduction12/07/26 09:22 PM
1

Texting is GREAT for short urgent messages, like “get bread & dog food on your way home” or “running late, see you in 30 min.” NOT fucking long conversations. I’m too fucking busy to text a conversation with a gal I’d be HOPING to fuck. Since you were too chickenshit to ask her out when she was standing in front of you, my best advice is to CALL HER. You’re a college student, use your big words now. “Sliding into DMs” is not how adult men pursue romance. Or pussy. In the 2-year period between my…
/r/seduction12/07/26 07:26 PM
1

You can fuck a girl and say nothing more than “thank you.” Just because you fucked her (once), you’re not in a relationship and neither of you are obligated to fuck each other again.
/r/seduction11/07/26 04:01 AM
3

Besides the fact I’m in a relationship and very happy, I have 2 rules: I don’t fuck married ladies and I don’t fuck coworkers. There are too many stories of angry husbands following their cheating wives and I would not want to get mixed up in that shit.
/r/seduction11/07/26 02:37 AM
2

How this guy got any pussy is a Mystery.
/r/seduction07/07/26 08:12 PM
8

It’s not an approach I’d recommend often, TBH. I’ve used it 3 times and got laid twice. Your results may be different. lol.
/r/seduction06/07/26 09:40 PM
68

Here’s my very short list of simple things, point-by-point, that improved my success the most: Quit asking for phone numbers. WTF are you going to do with her phone number? Go home and call her later to ask for a date… when she’s standing right in front of you. Asinine. Ask for the date now. If it’s daytime, ask her to meet you later that day for coffee / dinner / drinks…. If it’s a late evening in a bar or club, invite her to go “somewhere quiet” or to a late breakfast at IHOP. Sometimes you ca…
/r/seduction06/07/26 05:32 PM
2

Plain & simple: If you want to score with “9s & 10s”, you need to act and look like a guy that’s fucking 9s & 10s on a regular basis. If you can get a gal to be your wingman (lol) such as a sister or cousin & also looks like a 9 or 10, it will get even easier.
/r/seduction05/07/26 07:35 PM
1

Since you never had anyone explain “the rules” to you, I will. Don’t leave the bar at closing time. If you must, leave alone. If you’re leaving a bar with a lady, leave 1 hour or more before closing time. Learn to lead without asking questions. Learn to recognize a drunk. I cannot say this young lady was drunk but I cannot imagine she wasn’t. Dealing with an intoxicated lady who is, otherwise, a complete stranger is a situation that’s not going to play out well for you. As for yourself: go out w…
/r/seduction04/07/26 03:00 PM
1

“Nice dress. I’d like to see it on my bedroom floor in about 2 hours.”
/r/seduction01/07/26 05:19 PM
7

I have a binary scale: would fuck, would not fuck.
/r/seduction30/06/26 06:14 AM
1

Personal experience from my youth (that’s the disco era, late 1970s — early 1980s. Cellphones and WiFi didn’t exist.): I’d go home with a pocket full of phone numbers written on cocktail napkins and matchbooks … and no pussy. My lesson? I quit asking for phone numbers. I got bold & started inviting the gals to leave with me… and it was as if my luck did a 180. You’ll learn how to verbalize your invitations. Some gals you’ll want to suggest going somewhere else for quiet conversation; some you ca…
/r/seduction27/06/26 12:19 AM
8

Situational awareness dude. Learn to read the room, as they say, and learn to read people. There are gals in a pick-up bar you can ask “wanna fuck?” and some you can’t.
/r/seduction20/06/26 08:37 PM
10

Those lines are a fishing attempt… she wants to see how you react to being accused of “playboy” behavior. There is no “best” response, just don’t be nervous or awkward.
/r/seduction16/06/26 02:01 PM
10

If you simply bailed out because she’s beautiful, you need coaching. If you bailed out because the situation wasn’t quite right, you’re smart. My young padawan, it’s much easier to fuck a beautiful woman than an ugly one. You need to learn the philosophy: there’s no such thing as a woman who is “out of your league.” No. Such. Thing. (She might be out of your social strata, but that’s a different matter.) Just because a woman is drop-dead gorgeous doesn’t mean she’s off limits. That’s exactly the…
/r/seduction29/05/26 01:40 AM
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IMO that’s creepy AF. You say you had “insane chemistry” with her but you were afraid to invite her properly to see you again or ask for her contact information when she was sitting right next to you. So you want anonymous Reddit approval to send her a DM after slinking through her social media. Meh….
/r/seduction19/05/26 09:57 PM
19

Don’t feed her after midnight and never get her wet….
/r/seduction18/05/26 11:45 PM
50

Lesson from my dad: it’s much easier to fuck a pretty girl. As my uncle added with a sarcastic laugh: you can get hard for an ugly one? IMO, it’s all about confidence. If you can go your day with the demeanor that you only hang out with gals that are 9s & 10s, and you fuck nothing but 9s & 10s, you can & will score with 9s & 10s. If you’re one of those guys that gets nervous around attractive ladies, you’re not gonna get anywhere. If you can act like you belong, you belong.
/r/seduction18/05/26 05:28 PM
1

Working toward an arbitrary number of approaches is silly; and even more so when you lack the social & conversational skills to do anything beyond an approach.
/r/seduction15/05/26 03:51 PM
1

Q: how do you reach out to an ex? A: unless you have children together, you don’t.
/r/seduction13/05/26 07:32 PM
2

Apparently she doesn’t want to fuck you; and she doesn’t want another woman (in your social circle) to fuck you either. If you have “other options”, you should fuck one of them and soon. If you didn’t know: women talk, and they talk a lot more than men do. And nothing makes you more desirable to a woman than her knowing you’re desirable to another woman in the same social circle.
/r/seduction05/05/26 07:30 PM
1

Quit asking for phone numbers. Ask for the “Netflix & chill” thing.
/r/seduction01/05/26 08:33 PM
3

Neither. If you’re “in person” meeting a gal, ask her for the date. IMO, it’s fucking laughable to meet a gal at the grocery store, the mall, the gas station, …. And ask her for her number so you can go home and call her to ask for a date. 🤦‍♂️
/r/seduction01/05/26 05:27 PM
6

I came to say this. Don’t hit on your coworkers. There are plenty of other gals that work in other offices in your building. Target them.
/r/seduction30/04/26 03:35 PM
2

I went through this same thing when I was your age. (This was the late 1970s - early 1980s. The Disco era. Smartphones & such didn’t exist yet.) I got very pissed off at myself one night for driving home — alone — with a bunch of phone numbers in my pocket. This was my awakening. I quit asking for phone numbers. The following weekend, I asked the gals to meet me for breakfast, for lunch, …. a few times I got right to the point and asked, “Wanna fuck?” My luck changed immediately. More oft than n…
/r/seduction26/04/26 06:12 AM
2

Please, go back to the title of this thread.
/r/seduction16/04/26 06:15 PM
4

I mean: when you enter a room, do so with confidence and presence. As if you’re now the most important mother-fucker in the room. As if you’re on par with Arnold Schwarzenegger and Chuck Norris. That’s what I mean when I say “like you own the fucking place!!”
/r/seduction16/04/26 05:28 PM
15

When you walk into a room, do so as if you own the fucking place.
/r/seduction16/04/26 04:46 PM
3

Pictures…. Or it didn’t happen. 😁
/r/seduction07/04/26 05:09 PM
1

I’m currently in a relationship with a lovely lady and we have a healthy sex life.
/r/seduction02/04/26 05:19 PM
0

68 years old with a count of 250+. 1 via “MySpace” (that’s a long time ago!), 2 via “Bumble,” all the rest are IRL.
/r/seduction02/04/26 02:08 AM
2

Never let an opportunity slip away. I’m 68 and still occasionally think about the few gals I should have / could have fucked 40+ years ago. Testimony: it keeps getting better and easier as the years go on. Wait until you’re 50+ and getting pussy that’s 20 years younger. It’s good for the ego to wake up next to a gal that’s young enough to be your daughter.
/r/seduction27/02/26 02:25 PM
30

You don’t find the cougar; the cougar will find you.
/r/seduction01/11/25 03:05 AM
3

First off, forget you saw anything and forever say nothing. Don’t put yourself in the position of the office “drama queen.” As far as your “personal rejection” comment goes… you’re overreacting. You didn’t have any intention of hitting on her to begin with so… drop it.
/r/seduction12/10/25 01:37 AM
1

If neither of the girls individually is giving any indication of romantic interest, it’s going to fall on you to make a choice and invite one on a date. Dating both simultaneously could be interesting (fun!) but loaded with inherent risk. As far as my son’s experience: I believe it was nothing more than a one-time thing.
/r/seduction04/10/25 07:58 PM
1

There’s a “rule” in business: never make a choice until you must. I don’t know if that adage is applicable here, lol. I guess it’s a matter of what you want; do you want a relationship with one or a hot romp with two? One of my sons bagged a set of twin girls back when he was in high school. Maybe they bagged him? I’m not sure. If your objective is a relationship (with one), you have to decide based on personality and compatibility.
/r/seduction04/10/25 07:26 PM
34

🤦‍♂️ No, no, no… do not ask her for her number. And don’t tell her you think she’s cute and want to say “hi.” Introduce yourself. Exchange pleasantries for about 1-2 minutes, not much longer. Then tell her have to go but you want to get to know her. Ask her out. Coffee, happy hour, … something casual and inexpensive. If she’s interested in you, she will voluntarily give you her number and agree to see you later.
/r/seduction14/08/25 01:43 PM
21

Don’t be blatantly obtuse and invite her to “let’s fuck.” Build up some tension over a couple hours first. Then invite her “back to my place” or “come spend the night with me.”
/r/seduction09/08/25 03:15 AM
9

I’m now 68. I hit my prime time during the disco era — 1978-82. That was a great time for chasing skirts; “safe sex” ment your parents were out of town for the weekend. I had an early run where I went home at the end of the night with a lot of phone numbers written on matchbook covers & cocktail napkins. (Smartphones were a long way off at this point.) And no pussy. A sad realization indeed. The next weekend I quit asking for phone numbers. I directly asked the gals to come home with me. Or back…
/r/seduction26/07/25 07:11 PM
22

Forget her, she’s granola. (Nuts & flakes.)
/r/seduction26/07/25 03:07 AM
8

This gets better when you’re 50+ and scoring ladies in the 35–45 age range. Guaranteed to hit your buddy’s envy button.
/r/seduction25/07/25 04:02 PM
85

I read this and thought “WTF?” I’m 68/M with a 48/F girlfriend. I cannot wrap my head around the idea that 32 is an “older” man. lol. Okay, he’s older than you, OP. Your mom is probably having cougar fantasy ideas.
/r/seduction18/07/25 10:34 AM
10

This isn’t just a “dating essential”, it’s a LIFE essential. All this can open many doors in your life. Be the man others are drawn to.
/r/seduction08/06/25 03:37 PM
246

Sales. High-commission salesmen know the fine art of persuasion.
/r/seduction30/05/25 10:45 PM
15

Quit asking for phone numbers. Ask for a date.
/r/seduction29/05/25 12:21 AM
9

It’s not irrelevant. One way to look at seduction is selling yourself to the woman you want to fuck.
/r/seduction26/05/25 03:11 PM
0

No 💩. I’m now 68 and get attention from the 40-something’s. Last week I had a gal in her 30s get flirty with me.
/r/seduction18/05/25 03:15 PM
17

“You should never go out with the hope of getting laid….” Dude, this subreddit is SEDUCTION. Leading a woman to your bed and making her think it was her idea from the start. That means “getting laid.”
/r/seduction17/05/25 01:39 AM
1

Logistics? Like, where to go to fuck? I get the impression from a question like that you don’t live alone or have the disposable income to get a hotel room. I have neither of those issues.
/r/seduction17/05/25 01:33 AM
5

Shit like this is why I don’t rely on phone calls, texting, or social media apps. When I’d meet a woman I want to fuck, I ASK HER OUT.
/r/seduction16/05/25 09:05 PM
-4

This has GOT to be a joke. Right? Here’s a novel thought: focus on establishing a connection with the ONE person you approach rather than getting no connection with 12 people you’ve approached.
/r/seduction04/05/25 01:54 AM
9

Yes, exactly.
/r/seduction22/04/25 09:20 PM
20

Instead of asking the girl for her phone number, go straight to asking her to go out.
/r/seduction22/04/25 09:17 PM
7

The line isn’t too aggressive; the problem is it’s too common. The “You’re cute” line and derivations of it, “you’re pretty,” “you’re attractive,” “you’re sexy,” are lines she hears all too frequently. F’n come up with something original, guys!
/r/seduction15/04/25 10:51 PM
5

Plausible deniability. “I only went to his place to see his dog; and, the next thing you know, we were going at it. I don’t know how it happened!”
/r/seduction15/04/25 01:27 AM
2

You’ve probably heard the advice not to hit on anyone at your workplace; it’s also wise not to hit on people at THEIR workplace either.
/r/seduction10/04/25 05:27 PM
7

You’re overreacting. Chill.
/r/seduction09/04/25 04:08 PM
3

You did everything well up to making the invitation. If I met a gal at a coffeehouse I would not invite her out for coffee. Invite her to anything but more coffee. A baseball game? Lunch or dinner? A party? Think of something social and local to you with some originality. You say she appeared flustered at your invitation. You should smile and pause. Don’t rush this. Let her gather her thoughts. Allow her to reply without (more) pressure. Personally, I’d never give my phone number to a woman and …
/r/seduction09/04/25 03:57 PM
3

You got the “insecure & needy” paper crown & T-shirt. Dude. She can’t miss you if you don’t leave her alone. You say she’s got a kid and I’ll assume she’s also got a full time job. You better wrap your head around the concept that she doesn’t have much time left for what you are expecting. I suggest you cool that neediness before she blows up at you.
/r/seduction16/03/25 12:11 AM
1

Very rarely.
/r/seduction09/03/25 08:34 PM
13

A cold approach simply happens during the course of your daily routine; you don’t go out planning to approach someone you don’t know, it just happens. I met my current GF 6 years ago at a Seven-11. I stopped in to get an afternoon snack & she was there to buy some lottery tickets. Pure coincidence.
/r/seduction25/02/25 07:37 PM
13

You committed the classic fuck-up; she’s standing right in front of you and you failed to ask her out or escalate in the moment. instead you got her phone number / social media account. I figured this out myself 40-45 years ago, I was a horny young man during the “disco era”, long before the internet and smartphones existed. I’d go home (alone!) at the end of an evening with a pocket full of names & phone numbers written on matchbooks and cocktail napkins. But no pussy. I thought about this over…
/r/seduction23/02/25 04:07 PM
0

Generally speaking: when a gal has sex with an ex-lover, it’s strictly for the orgasms. All the reasons for the breakup are still in her memory and she doesn’t care because she’s not planning to rekindle the relationship itself; she needs a good fucking.
/r/seduction13/02/25 09:51 PM
74

I’ll admit some guys are truly daft with social cues. I always advise guys to just ask the girls out and figure shit out after that. But, yeah; make yourself available and hint that you want him to take you somewhere or do something. Do not play “hard-to-get”. Ever. Guys will genuinely take this play as you’re not interested. Follow his lead. If he wants to take you to Wendy’s and you had your heart set on Burger King, just bite the bullet and go with him to Wendy’s.
/r/seduction12/02/25 03:58 PM
2

Do not open with any corny - cheesy - canned lines. The f’n best opening line ever is “Hi, I’m Bob” or whatever your name is.
/r/seduction10/02/25 04:26 PM
2

Unfortunately, that’s one of those things that either you got it or you don’t.
/r/seduction02/02/25 09:01 PM
9

Every woman is different; what works on one may not work on another. In my 50+ years of being sexually active and having sex with well over 250 women (I’m 67), I can confidently say the vast majority of women prefer 1) doggy style; 2) getting eaten out; 3) a vibrator; 4) a fat dick more so than a long dick. to get her to the big O. Once you get a woman in the sack, listen to her and follow her cues.
/r/seduction02/02/25 04:29 PM
10

Agree. Finding the one gal in the right situation and at the right time is so much better than “spam approaching” as you said. Too many guys don’t assess the situation — time of day, location, and the gal’s demeanor — then get pissy over the rejection when it was a lost cause from the beginning. Don’t hit on a gal while standing in line at the bank or the post office. It’s okay to hit on a gal in line at the grocery store. (I hit on my gal at the checkout at a 7-Eleven store & that was 6 years a…
/r/seduction23/01/25 04:30 PM
1

Your story here is why I tell young (18–30) women: do NOT play “hard to get.” To answer you, OP: I’d not waste much time or effort continually asking-out a gal that rejects invitations or is boring AF when out on a date. If you invite her to date, you’re “chasing” her.
/r/seduction22/01/25 11:30 PM
1

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I get your point about the statistics being better with an overall larger population pool; my point is that if you don’t know how to get laid, a change in location isn’t going to help you get laid.
/r/seduction22/01/25 09:13 PM
-5

Bingo. Wherever you are, that’s where your best opportunity will happen. If you’re planning to move for a better job opportunity or a promotion… that’s great. Thinking you’ll get more pussy after moving to another city is stupid.
/r/seduction22/01/25 08:31 PM
8

You saw 2 girls but didn’t see the situation. It’s not difficult for me to assume the 2 girls were enjoying their time together over pizza & didn’t want to be bothered; the best thing you could have done was leave them alone. Advice: learn to assess the social situation. You probably shouldn’t have asked to join these 2 girls from the start but they were too polite to say “no”. You failed to assess correctly their reluctance to converse with you and continued asking for personal information. The…
/r/seduction08/01/25 03:36 PM
60

I hope you’re contacting girls that live within reasonable distance of your home; otherwise you’re wasting time. When a girl asks “why….?” it’s the perfect lead for you to ask her out. Do NOT teller she’s beautiful, cute, attractive, etc. Do NOT tell her something vague like “I want to hang out with you sometime.” F’n get to the point now. Invite her to meet you at a specific place, a specific time, for a specific event. If you’re in high school or college you can invite her to go to the next ho…
/r/seduction08/01/25 02:40 PM
21

Tell me you live in California without saying you live in California.
/r/seduction16/12/24 07:21 AM
21

I tell women like her: “I’ve got enough friends, I’m looking for romance.” Then disappear. You have to let her know — non-verbally, of course — that if you’re not getting what you want from her you’ll move on and find someone who will give you what you want.
/r/seduction11/12/24 09:47 PM
11

Since you are the boss’s son, DO NOT approach anyone at the workplace! You will be leaving both yourself and the company exposed to serious legal issues.
/r/seduction03/12/24 11:19 PM
7

It’s not that you’re too old. You’re never too old. Your approach SUCKS, is what’s wrong. First, never tell the woman you’re approaching that she’s “cute”, “beautiful”, or any variation of that. It’s cheesy AF and guaranteed she’s heard it a million times before … especially if she’s close to your age. Which segues to my next point…. Since you’re almost 50, don’t hit on gals that are young enough to be your daughter. Seriously. Don’t. Going after gals 10 years younger than yourself will probably…
/r/seduction29/11/24 07:23 AM
3

My suggestion: ask him out. You’ve already had some social interaction so it shouldn’t be awkward. Tell him you’ve enjoyed your previous conversations and would like to get to know him better; follow that with an invitation to coffee, lunch, happy hour, or something. If he’s available and interested, he will let you know. If he’s in a committed relationship, he will let you know.
/r/seduction25/11/24 06:47 PM
8

I went to a SF stripper bar on Broadway one evening about 6-7 years ago; the prettiest strippers were 7s at best. Yikes lots of butter-face. Now, I’m not into dating strippers but if those are supposed to be some of the prettiest young gals in town, then this town has problems! Glad I live in Sacramento…. Just saying….
/r/seduction11/11/24 06:09 PM
11

I’m now 67 and easily look 10–15 years younger. It’s rare someone would guess I’m over 60, I often am told I look as though I’m in my early to mid 50s. At my age, I’m not even thinking about banging girls in their 20s, and only once nailed a gal that was 36 when I was 62. (My kids are currently 37–41, FWIW; grandkids range from 3 — 16.) My current GF is 47; before I met her I only considered women in the 35–55 age range.
/r/seduction29/10/24 05:30 AM
1

Let’s put this into legal terms. You make an offer. If she accepts, you’re good. If she counter offers, you’re good. If she rejects, you move on. Don’t ask her to make an offer.
/r/seduction27/10/24 05:56 PM
1

Yeah… if she’s truly interested, she will cancel her plans to fuck … er, go out with you or she will suggest another day & time. If she doesn’t suggest another day & time but repeats “no, I’m busy then too….” It’s time to give up as she’s not interested. Always keep your leverage. When you extend the invitation you are in control. You give that away when you ask when she’s free.
/r/seduction27/10/24 05:17 PM
8

Do not ask her when she’s “free”; That’s giving away your leverage. You choose the evening and a restaurant you enjoy and you invite her to join you. Assuming the best and she joins you for a cheap dinner and drinks and the frisky sexual tension between you grows (amongst other things, lol), you have 2 options: sex at her place or sex at a hotel. You’ll figure it out.
/r/seduction27/10/24 02:54 PM
1

Bullshit. My game exploded when my first wife & I separated — I was 37 at that time. My kids were in middle school and it didn’t take long for word to get around to the single / divorced moms. I had plenty of FWB to pick from. Why the hell would I even think of dating any 18–30 y.o. girls? Too much drama in that group. Focus on finding pussy in your own age group, you will be happy you did.
/r/seduction15/10/24 02:02 PM
1

If you’re 35–50, single, and can’t get laid on a regular basis: there’s something wrong about you that I can’t fix from my side of this forum.
/r/seduction15/10/24 06:42 AM
1

What kind of woman responds to cold approach? One that finds you attractive in 10 seconds. Keep in mind: A “cold” approach is you introducing yourself to a total stranger in a less-than-optimal setting. Going to the mall and hitting on 10 women in a half hour is fishing for phone numbers and NOT a good idea. This strategy will get you into trouble more than will get you laid. Cold approach won’t work if the only words to come out of your mouth are “I think you’re cute and I want to say hi.” JFC.…
/r/seduction12/10/24 01:47 PM
45

THIS is why I tell you (collectively) to go for the pussy ASAP & not be so happy going home with a new number in your smartphone. I’ll repeat: women act on impulse, in the moment. Get what you can, while you can.
/r/seduction08/10/24 03:53 PM
3

The truth-type of response that I’d use: “I want to cover you with ice cream, chocolate syrup, whipped cream and a cherry and gobble you up you like I’m a fat kid on vacation at Dairy Queen.”
/r/seduction23/09/24 03:53 PM
1

There are 30,000 + different denominations of “Christianity” in the U.S. Roman Catholic, Lutheran, Episcopalian, Presbyterian, Methodist, Orthodox, Baptist, Evangelical, …. Too many to clump into one basket. In my experience — I’m now 67 & been fucking since I was 15 — religion is just an excuse for what she does not want to do, especially if she’s giving you everything else in the book.
/r/seduction06/09/24 11:55 PM
5

Advice from the “old man” (me) who’s probably old enough to be your grandpa: Don’t concern yourself too much about your “looks” — if you’re already drawing attention from men you’re certainly attractive enough. You are correct to focus more on the personality factors which, generally, will make you more valuable to a man. First and foremost, be polite. Be nice. Playing the role of a “Karen” (aka total b!+ch) isn’t going to win anyone’s heart. That doesn’t mean you should not have boundaries. If …
/r/seduction04/09/24 06:30 PM
7

You have to read the situation and think on the fly. Example: I met my current GF at a convenience store; she was in line ahead of me to buy some lottery tickets. I asked if she had some lucky numbers & continued from there. I once saw a gal that was dressed in high-end designer stuff from head to toe. (My mom managed a high-end dress shop so I learned to recognize this stuff.) I complimented the gal on her dress & purse but teased her about her shoes saying “damn, those shoes are ugly as sin!” …
/r/seduction30/08/24 05:43 PM
1

Living in a small town / middle of nowhere is a problem unto itself when you’re single. The dating pool is polluted AF and there’s not enough chlorine to fix that.
/r/seduction25/08/24 12:50 AM
1

If you are of the mindset that you need “sessions” of looking for a date / GF / getting laid… you’re doing it wrong. If you approach more than one gal in a given location (or within a 800 meter radius of that location)… you’re doing it wrong. I’ll assume you have a 40-hour work week doing SOMETHING for a damn paycheck and you have a couple days off during that week. On those days off, you need to go to the grocery store, post office, dry cleaners, bank, gas station, etc. Typical activities of li…
/r/seduction24/08/24 05:33 PM
124

Dude, if getting lucky was 100% based on looks, you’d be throwing spare pussy out the window. I don’t know what to tell you to work on; but looks is not a problem.
/r/seduction28/07/24 09:48 PM
9

Advice from the old fart: to use a golf analogy, you’re thinking too much about mechanics (feet go here, bend my waist, left elbow straight, …) when you should just swing the fucking club. You’re over-thinking the whole damn thing. You don’t need to give anyone a compliment. You don’t need to think about the “push-pull” shit. You don’t need to be flirty. Just focus on being genuinely yourself and strike a conversation. It gets a lot easier when you stop overthinking about the small stuff. Just s…
/r/seduction21/07/24 05:42 PM
56

There’s a difference between “playing it cool” and doing nothing. It would help to know your age group; my advice would be different if you & this girl are student age (17-22) or young working adult age (23-35). Knowing how & where you met would help me give better advice. In general, you’ve got to let the girl know you are interested in her but that you have a life (school, job, family, hobbies, etc.) and there are thousands of other girls in the universe. In other words, convey to her YOU have…
/r/seduction27/06/24 03:57 PM
2

You need a second FWB.
/r/seduction14/06/24 04:20 PM
19

Only married or engaged is off-limits. Not married, not engaged = SINGLE. F’n go for it. If she’s not interested, she will let you know.
/r/seduction10/06/24 04:37 AM
10

Good move: you asked for the date, she followed up by giving you her phone number — her preferred method of contact. Perfect… almost. Bad move: don’t ask a gal to go out “sometime” or ask when she’s available. You tell her when and where YOU want to meet and invite her to join you. This is the most powerful move. Next move: call her within 24 hours. Tell her where you want to take her and what time you prefer to meet. Good luck!!
/r/seduction07/06/24 09:42 PM
5

Is this good strategy? Fuck me,I’ve been promoting this for the 2+ years I’ve been giving advice here!! Gentlemen: ask for the date FIRST, if she wants to go out with you she’ll give you her preferred contact information without asking. Duh. You’ll eventually find this strategy gets you more dates & more pussy.
/r/seduction15/04/24 06:57 PM
78

I'd think the answers to this were common sense; but this forum is remarkably void of common sense. Where NOT to approach a woman: Your place of employment. Her place of employment. At a bank or ATM. At a hospital / doctor's office / pharmacy. Most government office buildings: the courthouse, city hall, post office.... If you've got any common sense, use it. Look for left hand (wedding) jewelry first. Read her body language. Sometimes you can see from a mile away when a gal WANTS to be approache…
/r/seduction14/04/24 12:56 AM
3

Lint, not lent. 🤣😉
/r/seduction07/04/24 04:27 AM
24

Yup! This is why I tell everyone to stop focusing on getting the phone number. The target is “pussy tonight”, not “text her tomorrow.”
/r/seduction07/04/24 04:27 AM
1

I believe OP makes this post for the dweebs that have a cold approach system that goes: “Hi there, I think you’re cute, can I have your phone number?” In this case, you’re trying to establish contact; it’s too easy to say the wrong thing and come off creepy. Once you’re to the point of getting a second or third date, you can be complimentary (“Wow, you look great!”) without the risk of being creepy or patronizing. It’s expected to give the constructive criticism to the gal after you’ve establish…
/r/seduction06/04/24 03:39 PM
1

On a beach? Damn. I’d have gone about chest deep in the water, removed my swim shorts, & asked the gals to demonstrate their snorkeling skills.
/r/seduction03/04/24 11:09 PM
3

When you get sick & tired of going home ALONE but have phone numbers / instas you’ll quit asking for phone numbers / instas & start asking the girls to go home with you.
/r/seduction03/04/24 10:35 PM
1

Do NOT tell her you find her attractive / pretty / cute or anything similar. Would you tell an ugly gal that she is ugly? Duh. “Hi, I’m Smitty. Would you mind wearing this paper bag over your head?” Be direct. Introduce yourself and invite her to join you later. “Hi, I’m Smitty. I’ve seen you here occasionally. I’d like to get to know you, would you meet me for coffee later today?…” So she’s with a group. BFD. To “isolate” her you make eye contact and keep it. Don’t even fucking glance once at t…
/r/seduction02/04/24 03:38 PM
9

WTF? Don’t invite her to a first date / coffee date by text message. When you see her, speak to her.
/r/seduction02/04/24 02:54 PM
5

Hotels are your best bet if the need for 100% privacy and discretion is needed. Since you’re in a “major” metropolitan city, your least expensive hotels will be (1) close to the airport, and (2) in the suburbs, farther from the city center. Those hotels will also be most likely to have a room available / no reservation needed. Believe me: the hotel front desk staff will not care that your wife (wink) was a blonde last week and a brunette this week.
/r/seduction31/03/24 05:07 PM
1

I usually say something like "he will have to get his own coffee," "I'm not inviting HIM!" or "He will have to get his own date." My best reply ever to this was a couple years ago: I was about 1-2 months back home from a trip to Jamaica. I was visiting the tanning spa that I used before going on vacation (get that base tan so I wouldn't burn, ya know?) So a new girl at the desk compliments my tan & mutters "Damn, I wish someone would take ME to Jamaica!" As she escorts me to my tanning bed, I te…
/r/seduction25/03/24 03:59 PM
3

DO NOT “confess your feelings” to a gal unless you’ve been fucking her regularly for quite some time. To do so immediately reveals you as weak and needy; and furthermore gives away any power you have. Remain silent so your words don’t get used against you. Remain silent as women are enamored with mystery and telling her what you’re thinking ruins the game for her.
/r/seduction19/03/24 07:14 PM
12

Confidence is paramount. Fake it ‘til you make it, as they say. Walk into a room like you own the fucking place. BTW: don’t ask girls for their phone number or “snap” or any of that shit. You’re wasting time when you do; so you’ll go home and ask her out by text? When she’s standing right there and you have 100% of her attention? Duh! Invite her to meet you for a coffee at Starbucks later. Invite her to go to a ballgame. Second is your grooming. Shower, shave, deodorant, & all that. A toothbrush…
/r/seduction18/03/24 03:42 AM
65

The root of the problem is that you see an “attractive woman” as something other than just another living breathing eating pooping human being sharing the world with you and the other 8-billion people. She’s another person, like you are. She was born, and she will die. She is no fucking different from you. I presume your brain doesn’t go into this stupid anxiety attack when you encounter the rest of society. You don’t panic dealing with men. You don’t panic when you deal with ugly women; Just th…
/r/seduction13/03/24 04:24 AM
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For “business” purposes, I’d recommend learning either Russian, Chinese, Japanese, or Farsi (Arabic). If you pressed me for a 5th option, I’d say Tagalog (Filipino). Other than Mexico, there are no Spanish-speaking countries that do “big” business with or for the US.
/r/seduction08/03/24 07:27 PM
2

Neither. Russian.
/r/seduction08/03/24 06:50 PM
1

Extend the invitation FIRST. If she truly wants to join you she will tell you; if she has a schedule problem (work, school, or other commitments) she can tell you afterward. If you’ve followed this sub-Reddit for any significant time, you understand the concept of maintaining YOUR value as the man and not giving away your power or leverage.
/r/seduction08/03/24 12:57 AM
1

You plan your life around your interests. Do you want to go to a movie? A ball game? A concert? Try a new bar or restaurant? Fucking live YOUR life!! Make your own plans!! Then invite her to come along.
/r/seduction07/03/24 07:58 PM
1

Those are examples. <headslap> My point is: you invite the gal to join you on your terms. You do NOT ask her when she’s free, what works for her, or the vague and pointless “sometime.” As the man, YOU tell her YOUR plan and invite her to join YOU because you’re high value, your plans are important to you and if she wants to be with YOU she will accommodate YOUR terms.
/r/seduction07/03/24 06:08 PM
60

Never use the word “sometime”. Never. Always invite her to go somewhere with you at a specific date & time. Example: “I’m going to the ball game Saturday afternoon and I happen to have an extra ticket, would you like to come with me?” Or “I gotta buy a gift for my mom’s birthday and I’d really like your help picking something out, will you come shopping with me Saturday afternoon?” I wouldn’t do it by text either, but that’s me.
/r/seduction07/03/24 04:55 AM
3

Seriously, this is a huge “WTF?” scenario. Like living in Cleveland and dating someone in Louisville. (Or Sacramento to LA for the west coast folk.) I would never waste my time.
/r/seduction29/02/24 06:15 PM
0

Yup, pretty much. I tell gals right at the beginning: “I work 50 hours a week in a hospital setting plus I have a couple of side jobs. I don’t have the time to text a conversation. If you expect me to carry a conversation by text, I’m the wrong man for you. If you expect me to answer your texts within a couple minutes, I’m the wrong man for you.”
/r/seduction28/02/24 03:04 AM
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Ideally, none. It’s a waste of time.
/r/seduction28/02/24 02:42 AM
2

In both of your examples, there’s too much texting and not enough escalation. In your example 1, not getting into her panties the night you met reduces the likelihood of you ever getting any action from her. In example 2, there’s a serious hesitation to invite the gal to meet. As I said: too much texting. The best time to establish your sexual desire for a gal is shortly after the initial introduction. When you meet: be polite, charming, and a total gentleman. Excuse yourself for a few minutes (…
/r/seduction27/02/24 07:21 PM
1

There’s nothing wrong with sexual innuendo, puns, and other spicy sexual word play to break the ice early on. Eventually you will want to make it clear in your communication that you expect the date to include sex, if that’s what you want. If you’re trying to pick up a gal at a club or bar, the BIGGEST mistake I see guys make is going too slow because they are timid. They approach, introduce themselves, then try to make a conversation go far too long (boring!) and end up with a phone number. Ins…
/r/seduction19/02/24 03:39 AM
4

This has "FAIL" all over it. She lives "in a different country"... does that mean she lives more than a 15 minute walk or a 30 minute drive away from your house? If so, that's a problem. Your ONLY communication with this gal is by IG text. That's a problem. She has never been physically in your presence; you've never touched her / shook hands, sat at the same table, or been in the same room. That's a problem. The bottom line: she really doesn't know who the fuck you are. THAT is a problem. So wh…
/r/seduction17/02/24 05:14 PM
4

The issue isn’t that you left without getting her contact. You left without asking her out. It’s ALWAYS best to ask the girl out when she’s standing there in front of you. Duh. In this situation, you have little choice but to go through Allison. Good luck.
/r/seduction16/02/24 06:15 PM
2

All of the above.
/r/seduction29/01/24 10:15 PM
2

I’ll guess you didn’t introduce yourself or invite her to go for coffee or happy hour.
/r/seduction29/01/24 07:49 PM
3

Agreed. OP, you aimed at the wrong target. Getting her phone number is NOT the objective. Getting pussy is the objective. If you establish a connection early on you want to invite her to go somewhere else — another bar, some place to eat, or (preferably) to your place. If you tried this and she shot you down but gave her number instead; you say thanks & leave. Throw her number out, go to another club & try again because that one is not interested.
/r/seduction28/01/24 08:54 PM
67

Wisest words from one of my uncles back when I was in my teens: “You don’t lose the girl. You lose your turn.”
/r/seduction28/01/24 05:29 PM
21

It’s one thing to make an offer as you meet someone new and want to get to know them. As a gentleman, you may offer a lady a drink or invite her to lunch, all appropriate within your financial means and comfort level. It’s something else when you meet someone in public who, with minimal hesitation, requests you reach for your wallet. This goes for the beggars at the freeway off-ramps as well as women seated at a bar. Your generosity in these instances is generally absent of remarkable gratitude …
/r/seduction27/01/24 04:34 PM
5

Frankly, I find asking this question to be a bit silly; I don’t believe any gal would give you an honest answer. If your ability to “read” the gal is hampered, regardless of the reason, go with the 3-date rule. You SHOULD be getting your balls drained by the 3rd date; if that’s not happening, dump her.
/r/seduction09/01/24 04:27 PM
8

Let her know you “want” her and be confident.
/r/seduction14/08/23 11:24 PM
3

Save the movie dates for established relationships. For a “first date” … especially no. Seriously.
/r/seduction05/10/22 03:56 AM
2

To avoid date awkwardness, plan a date that’s active and fun. Sitting at a coffee house, no matter how fucking “cool” the place is, is not active & 180-degrees opposite my idea of fun. Buy tickets to a ball game. Go bowling / mini-golf / throw a Frisbee / fly a kite / go swimming (depending on where you live). Get tickets to a ball game — there’s got to be some level of football game (HS or college) close to you. Keep in mind: boring dates will kill any chance at growing the relationship.
/r/seduction27/09/22 03:57 AM
3

Disclaimer in advance: bald for 40 years & fucking proud of it. Q: my favorite place to take a date? A: Mount Baldy.
/r/seduction24/09/22 05:37 PM
62

As my uncles taught me many years ago: The very definition of “seduction” is convincing a woman to go to bed with you but having her believe it was her idea all along.
/r/seduction20/09/22 08:58 PM
2

The easiest one to eliminate: if you’re a customer in her work place, she’s being nice & flirty to make a sale / earn a better tip, not because she wants to marry you and bear your children.
/r/seduction19/09/22 05:05 AM
53

Old guy here (65); I’ve snagged a lot of single ladies at church over the years. Lots. <efg> Note: do not go to “Baptist”, “Church of God”, or similar evangelical / penticostal groups… you will get shut down fast.
/r/seduction18/09/22 08:55 PM
6

Without even knowing what medication you’re on, I’ll state for the record you should not be drinking alcohol AT ALL; so your admission of being “pretty drunk” was probably beyond obvious to the lady you approached — she could see you were severely fucked-up which I’ll assume prompted her quick “No”. My advice: get your head on straight & build some self-confidence. You’ve probably got a lot of other good factors working for you (eg looks & intelligence for starters!) so your future should be bri…
/r/seduction18/09/22 08:36 PM
1

Getting a gal’s phone number is like buying a $2 lottery ticket: your odds of getting lucky are bad. If I may be so bold as to suggest a drastic change in your game plan: First, learn to read the room. Learn how to identify the girls who are there with a BF. Spot the the clique with the objective of dancing & drinking. Find the single lady who’s looking to get laid, she’s your target. Once you find the one who is seriously DTF & approach her, your objective is not to buy her drinks & carry conve…
/r/seduction14/09/22 03:29 PM
8

Ask for her panties. If that fails, ask for a BJ. When I was a young man (I’m 65 now) & went home with a phone number (and aching balls) it was a BAD night. Granted, the internet, smartphones, & social media apps didn’t exist back then. However the objective remains the same: get laid… or at least get a BJ or something sexually gratifying. You’re seriously settling the bar low & calling it good. I suggest you raise the bar. Pun intended. But hey, if you’re happy with a phone number….
/r/seduction01/09/22 09:18 PM
1

You don’t mention how you get to & fro without a car; given that, I’d hit her up for a ride home & offer to buy coffee or a round at happy hour.
/r/seduction30/08/22 03:47 PM
3

I’m old (65/m) and “old school” alpha mentality. Flirt (v): action by a female performed with the objective of encouraging a male to ask her out but believing it was his idea in the first place. Seduction (v): action by a male performed with the objective of encouraging a female to have sex with him but believing it was her idea in the first place.
/r/seduction26/08/22 12:36 PM
14

Unless you’re planning to sit at the bar for a few hours with a guy (or group of guys), the objective is NOT to carry conversation. My objective was to find an attractive woman, introduce myself, & convince her to leave with me. Quickly. I dunno what YOUR objective is; but if it’s to have a evening-long conversation, you’re missing the little man in the boat. My advice is to learn how to “read the room”. Learn how to identify the girls who are there to drink, dance, party, snort a line, … the on…
/r/seduction20/08/22 05:58 AM
1

No, I’ve been in a monogamous relationship for a bit over 3 years & not doing anything to fuck it up.
/r/seduction07/08/22 05:07 AM
2

Fuck, who counts that? Especially at my age!
/r/seduction06/08/22 10:27 PM
3

If the definition of “cold approach” is introduce yourself to a complete stranger, what’s the alternative? Approach only those who you have met or been introduced to previously? That’s fucking bullshit. I’m 65/m with a body count approaching 250; I can count on one hand the number of women I’ve had that were not “cold approach.”
/r/seduction06/08/22 06:37 PM
1

Being bald never presented a problem for me getting dates or getting laid; I’ll say it helped more than anything. I give a gal 2 bald heads to put between her legs.
/r/seduction06/08/22 11:41 AM
1

Yes, simply invite her to go somewhere / do something with you. Many years ago (before OLD & such) I got introduced to a lady about 2 weeks before my mom’s birthday. I invited the lady to go shopping with me to help me select a birthday gift for my mom. We had a nice casual lunch followed by a 2 hours of shopping — it was a very good first-date & we stuck together for about 3 months.
/r/seduction05/08/22 03:52 PM
1

If you’re going to the mall for a couple hours with the sole intention of hitting on ladies, (not shopping, duh!) …. No wonder mall security is suspicious of you! I’m too damn busy with life to do that & you ought to be as well. (Don’t you have a job?) Before I met my current GF, I’d go to the post office, to the grocery, to the bank, to the dry cleaners, the mall, …. And in the course of my errands I would cross paths with an attractive lady and THEN approach & engage. That is how I met my gal …
/r/seduction04/08/22 04:46 PM
3

Agree; it might be best to find some other place to hang this weekend.
/r/seduction03/08/22 10:12 PM
3

The last time (4+ years ago) a gal used that line on me…. … I’d come back from a winter vacation in Jamaica & mentioned it in conversation with a group. This gal sighs & says “gee, I wish someone would take me to Jamaica.” A couple minutes later I get an opportunity to pull her aside & tell her “if you’re really serious about taking a trip with me to Jamaica, meet me for lunch tomorrow and we’ll talk about it.” Her: “I’ve got a boyfriend.” Me: “Is he going to take you to Jamaica?” She went white…
/r/seduction01/08/22 09:01 PM
0

“Shy” isn’t a disease, it’s a behavior. It’s cute in toddlers; in adults, not so much. I don’t care if an adult woman is shy, low interest, neuro-divergent, or whatever fucking label you prefer to apply… I’d bail, and quickly. There are plenty of adult women who have appropriate social skills and can be engaging on a date (or 2) long enough to determine if it’s worth pursuing a potential relationship.
/r/seduction01/08/22 05:45 AM
-8

One of you gets the number. One of you gets the media contact. I invite the girl home & fuck her brains out. If she isn’t coming with me, I don’t bother asking for her contact information.
/r/seduction30/07/22 05:01 PM
2

If you had a degree / certification / license, you could have been billing her $90 an hour for your time!
/r/seduction29/07/22 04:01 PM
3

It also eliminates the potential for a catfish.
/r/seduction28/07/22 10:12 PM
1

From my early days of sexual activity, I’ve never had a friend who’s mom was one I’d want to fuck. Now I’ve fantasized about fucking some of my friend’s sisters, but not their moms.
/r/seduction20/07/22 05:08 PM
2

I don’t watch TV & I don’t play video games. I’m 65, I go to the gym 2-3 times a week, play golf 1-2 rounds a week, and work at a fuckin’ hospital between 45-50 hours a week. I cherish the little “spare” time I have to spend it with my 45 year old GF. (EFG) Personally I correlate video games with lack of success in seduction (as well as a lack of ambition)… you know, seduction…. the name of this sub. Seduction. The skill set required for a man to get laid. I thought that’s what we’re discussing.…
/r/seduction20/07/22 06:11 AM
1

Your thoughts are similar to mine on this; “has a BF / GF” is still legally single and available. Taken? Bullshit. Game on!!
/r/seduction19/07/22 08:39 PM
-1

Probably because I recommend adults act like adults & not play (video) games. NBD.
/r/seduction19/07/22 04:05 PM
0

Excellent advice. The fashion + grooming + in-shape will open a lot of opportunity to meeting the best women. Further: If you’re 30+, get rid of the fucking video game stuff. That shit is for children. Get your life in order! Financial stability should be built for your own benefit, not just to be attractive to women.
/r/seduction19/07/22 01:01 PM
1

Dude, that’s fucking perfect! Very simply invite her to go somewhere & do something with you. Lunch at McDonalds, a trip to the Frozen Yogurt / Dairy Queen, a ball game… the options are endless and you’re on the right track. Advice from the old man (me): in the course of the day, don’t be afraid to ask her to do small things for you; such as “would you please pass the salt & pepper?” Or “please hold my drink for a moment” so you can tie your shoe. This gets her used to following simple innocent …
/r/seduction17/07/22 07:13 AM
5

You should see the market in California!
/r/seduction16/07/22 03:20 AM
1

Here’s something I bet you didn’t know: girls get horny too. The problem for us guys is (1) girl horniness is cyclical - kinda like their moods & periods & such; and (2) girls are more selective than us guys. lol, we guys will fuck a key hole if there’s a bottle of lube handy. Sometimes, in order to get laid, you just have to be in the right place with the right gal at the right time. Sometimes you can convince a gal you are the right guy. Sometimes not.
/r/seduction14/07/22 09:21 PM
1

Bullshit. Are you letting HER decide? If she looks good to you, approach her.
/r/seduction14/07/22 06:12 AM
16

I’ll throw the bullshit flag on that one. No 18 year old kid has fucked 1000 women. Not LeBron, not Tiger, not Sinatra, ….
/r/seduction12/07/22 10:18 PM
-1

I haven’t chased pussy in a bar / club in 15 years (I’m now 65); but in all the time I did I never had success pulling a gal away from a group so learned to ignore groups. Only once did I see a group of gals that were bar hopping with the serious intent to get one of them laid; I paid attention from a distance until I learned which of the gals was the one to hopefully get lucky — & she wasn’t particularly attractive to me so I moved on. My thoughts about girl groups in a bar? Forget it.
/r/seduction12/07/22 05:30 PM
17

“Treat her like a queen” is doing the little things. I bring my gal a cup of coffee while she’s doing her makeup; or I’ll buy some of her favorite candy when I’m at the grocery store. Things that take but a few seconds and cost very little money but are priceless to her.
/r/seduction12/07/22 05:58 AM
125

No matter how beautiful she is, somewhere in this world is a man who is sick & tired of her shit. There is the pussy you get for free and the pussy you pay for. The free pussy always costs more. Treat her like a queen but don’t forget you are the king. There’s no such thing as a woman who is “out of your league.”
/r/seduction11/07/22 07:53 PM
3

“Just be direct…” That’s my point!!! Tell the lady your plan & invite her to join you. “I’m going to the ball game Tuesday. I can get a ticket for you, I would like for you to join me.” That’s SO much better than “Wanna hang out sometime?”
/r/seduction11/07/22 12:03 AM
19

There’s a huge difference between being chivalrous and being a simp / pushover.
/r/seduction10/07/22 11:14 PM
7

You laugh. I run up the scoreboard.
/r/seduction10/07/22 09:08 PM
12

Do NOT: Ask her to “hang out”, ask if she wants to “go out sometime,” tell her “she’s cute”, ask her what she wants to do, where she wants to go, or what time is good for her. Perhaps you ask your buddies to “hang out”, not her. DO: You are extending an invitation to someone that you should want to maintain dignity & respect. Therefore you tell her YOUR plan & invite her to join you. Say: “I’m going to ____ this evening, I’d like for you to join me.” You’re an adult, speak like one.
/r/seduction10/07/22 07:34 PM
3

He’s probably not “available” anyway. lol. It’s a very common occurrence for young lady patients to “fall in love” with their doctor. Male doctors are keenly aware of this and, if ethical, will keep you at a professional arm’s length away socially and romantically.
/r/seduction07/07/22 11:02 PM
1

He’s probably not “available” anyway. lol. It’s a very common occurrence for young lady patients to “fall in love” with their doctor. Male doctors are keenly aware of this and, if ethical, will keep you at a professional arm’s length away socially and romantically.
/r/seduction07/07/22 11:01 PM
1

I thought passing notes dies out once we got beyond middle school? If you’re an adult, use your words now. Say something along the lines of “I’d like to get to know you… can I meet you after work?…”
/r/seduction06/07/22 09:24 PM
3

My advice is to maintain modesty. It’s better to have the girl attracted to YOU, not your stuff and your money; and you don’t want to attract gold diggers.
/r/seduction05/07/22 04:39 PM
2

My point is: if you remain in the same general location - like a shopping mall - for HOURS and REPEATEDLY approach the lady customers you risk having the mall security or local law enforcement get involved. We know it’s happened to one fool who posted his story in this sub rather recently. If you’ve got that much “free” time on your hands you’ve got more problems than I care to address.
/r/seduction30/06/22 12:16 AM
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THIS is what “day game” is about & how it’s supposed to work. You don’t go to the mall & walk around for a few hours with the INTENTION of hitting on a bunch of women!! (And to the one dude that posted here a week ago his story about gals reporting him to mall security & wondering why…. Get a clue!!!) Guys: go to the mall, go to the grocery store, to the bank, to the post office…. Because you have stuff to do! Not for the sole purpose of burning time & hitting on women! But when the right opport…
/r/seduction29/06/22 03:12 PM
1

… that’s the point. Escalating the situation long (!) after the introduction. Apparently you didn’t follow the conversation?
/r/seduction29/06/22 02:58 PM
3

There’s no such thing as a woman who is “out of your league.” So she’s stunning, beautiful, gorgeous,…. You’d rather date (& fuck) an ugly woman? It’s much easier to fuck the pretty ones! As far as date night: Meet at the bar as planned, have ONE drink, then take her to something fun & active. Top Golf, mini-golf, Billiards, darts, bowling, … any activity that’s light (not going to get all sweaty & stinky) and competition can be frivolous. Have fun & make her laugh.
/r/seduction28/06/22 03:22 PM
0

She’s not married or engaged & her reported BF relationship is questionable. You’ve got a green light on this one. Good luck!
/r/seduction28/06/22 03:05 PM
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OP: you’re young & naive. You’ll learn to ignore the “I have a BF” line as 90% of the time it’s a lie and 10% of the time it’s not a serious relationship & she’s looking to replace him.
/r/seduction28/06/22 02:27 PM
9

I wouldn’t fuck her with my dog’s dick. May I suggest you keep plenty of rubbers on hand & some of the disposable douche from Dollar Tree in your cabinet. This isn’t a birth control issue, this is a keep your dick healthy issue.
/r/seduction28/06/22 06:12 AM
1

This was 40–45 years ago, minimal to no cover charges, & drinks were relatively cheap — which I rarely finished. I don’t go to bars anymore & only do the fancy nightclubs when I’m on vacation (eg, Las Vegas, San Francisco, Orlando) & now I’ve got my lady with me.
/r/seduction28/06/22 05:57 AM
1

I had a number of bars / clubs that were within a 2-mile radius & generally good for getting laid. If I got a bad rejection at one I would simply move on to the next.
/r/seduction28/06/22 03:59 AM
3

OP, you’re tap dancing on the thin line of harassing a co-worker. Wanna get fired? Secondly, you don’t know that she’s not in a committed relationship. She could be rejecting you because she has a SO.
/r/seduction27/06/22 06:22 PM
1

Very direct. Duh. That’s escalation. Not appropriate lines for an introduction but for letting the gal know you’re not waiting for the friend-zone to happen.
/r/seduction27/06/22 03:25 PM
17

She wants to fuck you. Next time, tell her what time you get off work & that you’d like to meet her for coffee or Happy Hour or something.
/r/seduction27/06/22 06:41 AM
1

Men generally have forgotten how to sexually tease a woman. Puns & double entendres are easiest. Watch some old Groucho Marx videos for ideas. Some of my personal favorite lines: (If she’s wearing a skirt) “gee, Honey, how far do those legs go? Do they go (pause) all the way?” (If she’s showing cleavage) “I would like to put my money in there — It’s safer than the bank & gets more interest.” (If she’s dressed for the summer heat) “That’s a cute dress you’re almost wearing.” (If she’s barefoot / …
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:51 AM
2

I’d rather be driving home with a lady in my car, not another phone number (or other form of contact information) in my iPhone.
/r/seduction26/06/22 12:19 AM
2

On face value this is a “dating advice” question, not appropriate for “seduction”. I presume the question revolves around her “talking to other men” = she is seeking a romantic or sexual situation; if this is the case I suggest the dating thing be terminated.
/r/seduction25/06/22 08:01 PM
0

I was asked this once & replied: “I’m hung like a field mouse. (Pause.) A very large field mouse.” Score.
/r/seduction23/06/22 07:06 PM
1

That’s my point: ask her out, take her home, fuck her silly. She will give you her phone number after all that.
/r/seduction23/06/22 03:18 PM
19

Someone asked a few days ago about what mentality to have when approaching women; I replied that I would go with the attitude of a used car salesman. Some guys down voted me. 🤪 it’s ok, I’ve scored a LOT over my years.
/r/seduction23/06/22 03:51 AM
9

I realize many guys don’t get my point. Imagine you’re standing face-to-face with this lady. You’ve exchanged social pleasantries & your mind is somewhere between “I want to ask her out” and “I want to fuck her brains out”. Duh. So why would you ask for her g-damn phone number?!?!?! It makes no fucking sense! Ask her out while she’s standing right in front of you! I was chasing women during the peak of “the disco era”, the late 1970s-early 1980s. The objective of going out on Friday or Saturday …
/r/seduction22/06/22 10:35 PM
20

Asking for any method of contact information is a rookie mistake. Don’t do it. She is standing right in front of you. Ask her to go somewhere with you NOW; if she’s interested she will give up the information willingly. You can ask her out now… or ask for her info, go home, take a cold shower, have a drink, j.o., wash up again, THEN call / text / email an invitation for her to go out with you.
/r/seduction22/06/22 04:02 PM
1

Her suggestion to “work on” yourself could have been better stated. Without actually hearing what she said & how she said it, I don’t know how rude she truly was. IIWY, I would consider myself to be deeply buried in the Friend Zone & not willing to consider any future possible romantic relationship with her. I’m certain there are many more charming and attractive women to cross your path in the future. You’ll do much better than this “friend”.
/r/seduction22/06/22 03:29 AM
1

Not knowing him well isn’t an excuse; it’s actually a good reason to invite him to join you. My old line was: “I’d like to get to know you. Come have a drink with me.”
/r/seduction22/06/22 03:18 AM
1

You have 2 options: You can invite him to go somewhere after work — go for a coffee, a happy hour, etc. — while he is standing right there in front of you … OR You can ask for his contact information (phone, Facebook, email, etc) so you can go home and text / call / email / PM an invitation to him. I hope my sarcastic humor is notable through my response.
/r/seduction22/06/22 12:25 AM
0

Class-encompassing statements like that are inappropriate, especially in this time. If a man made a statement (about women) in that same vein he’d be crucified.
/r/seduction21/06/22 06:06 PM
3

Personally, I have gone with the mentality of a used car salesman and it has worked well for me over the years.
/r/seduction21/06/22 12:01 AM
1

Yes, get physically close for some huggy / kissy time. You must establish early that you want her for romance (sex), not a tennis partner. Telling her you “like” her would not be weird, it would be a disaster. Keep some mystery inside her female mind; you don’t have to always tell a woman what you’re thinking.
/r/seduction19/06/22 03:14 PM
3

Invite him to get a protein smoothie after your workout.
/r/seduction18/06/22 08:26 PM
148

Speaking as a man who stands left of center on social issues, I find women who are so much further left (as you described) to be nearly impossible to even maintain a polite social acquaintanceship.
/r/seduction18/06/22 05:01 AM
1

You’ve already blown it with her. You told her you “like” her and want to be “a thing” (I presume that means BF / GF & monogamous, not really certain); so you’ve destroyed any romantic mystery inside her brain. Like a Hallmark movie, females love the mystery behind a romance. “Does he want me? Will he be my knight in shining armor?” As long as you keep the mystery alive, you’ve got a chance. Kill the mystery & you’ve got nothing. THIS is why I advise young men to not “confess their feelings” to …
/r/seduction16/06/22 03:05 PM
0

Because she’s attractive you’re nervous? Seriously, you’d rather fuck an ugly woman? Nevertheless; This should be easy to escalate. Have fun & good luck!
/r/seduction15/06/22 01:04 PM
3

Don’t ask her for her number,…. Think like a salesman. You want to make a sale “NOW” before the customer leaves. If that fails, you want to make the sale the next day. Worst case scenario is getting the customer’s contact information / phone number. Along that line: you want to get laid “tonight” so you’ll invite her to leave with you. If that isn’t happening you want to invite her to meet you the next day (lunch, Happy Hour, etc.) When I was single and going out at night with intent to get laid…
/r/seduction14/06/22 10:19 PM
1

He came to realize most girls seek relationships and most guys seek hook-ups.
/r/seduction14/06/22 08:02 PM
2

Did you figure it out on your own or did someone tell you about this?
/r/seduction14/06/22 07:35 PM
2

If you’ve been told you’re “weird”, you’re weird; and yes, it can be the only reason. Some of the behaviors that make you “cool” to your male friends can be quite repulsive to the feminine gender. If you have someone who is female, close to your age, and familiar with you such as a sister or cousin, ask them for a candid & brutal analysis of why you can’t get a date. It might be painful but it’s a good step toward fixing the problem.
/r/seduction13/06/22 05:57 PM
2

You’re the rebound BF. You might get some nookie, and maybe not. Just don’t get your hopes up.
/r/seduction12/06/22 09:42 PM
3

“… now she left the resort….” You answered your question.
/r/seduction12/06/22 08:04 PM
0

It’s not looks. I’ve seen really ugly guys get with some amazing beautiful women. I’ll guess there’s something in your approach & personality that is the problem. Get a close male friend or family member to watch from afar as you hit-on a gal & can candidly advise you as to what you’re doing wrong.
/r/seduction12/06/22 07:00 PM
2

Sometimes it’s divine intervention; a matter of meeting the right person at the right moment.
/r/seduction12/06/22 06:40 PM
12

IMO, the majority (not all but most) of people who use OLD should not be “dating” at all. Both male and female. They resort to the apps as anyone “normal” who met them IRL would run the opposite direction within minutes.
/r/seduction12/06/22 06:37 PM
1

Invite her out for coffee. (I assume you’re too young to drink.)
/r/seduction09/06/22 12:01 AM
2

You’re not thinking…. What do you plan to do with her phone number? Ask her out? Why not ask her out while you’re standing there with her?
/r/seduction08/06/22 10:36 AM
1

OP: congratulations, I’m glad to hear this is working out well. For the future (and especially for the children who down-vote my advice): when you are hitting on a woman, you should think like a salesman. You’re selling yourself to this total stranger… So you must choose your words carefully. Always be specific when extending an invitation. Place, event, day, & time. Speak formally even though you’re inviting her to do something quite casual. Avoid asking questions that have a potential “no” ans…
/r/seduction07/06/22 08:49 PM
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You did so many things wrong I’m surprised you’re actually getting somewhere with this gal. First, you gave her an easy out. WHY in the fuck would you let your mouth say “feel free to say no, but….” SMH. Then you ask to text instead of inviting her to meet later? Yeah, you’ll text an invitation… sometime…. when she’s standing right in front of you. I’d have said: “I’d like to get to know you. Join me for a coffee?” So go ahead & text her that invitation today. I hope you get a date with her. And…
/r/seduction07/06/22 04:44 PM
6

Never ask a woman for her number!! Yes to inviting her to join you for a drink / coffee / happy hour/ etc.
/r/seduction07/06/22 02:33 PM
2

I’m old enough to be her grandpa; I’m getting married next month; and even if… I don’t do “online / long distance” stuff.
/r/seduction07/06/22 02:24 PM
1

It depends…. If she’s young & in an entry-level dead-end minimum-wage job: OK. Anything else it’s probably a bad idea.
/r/seduction07/06/22 05:59 AM
0

I’m glad this got deleted. It was nothing more than a vile rant by some dick that got dumped.
/r/seduction07/06/22 05:46 AM
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Apparently, for some guys, it is a scary concept. It would not bother ME, but I guess I’m in the minority. I strongly believe that WHO you are is not defined by WHAT you do for a living. Be patient, the right man will come along & not give a shit what you do for your paycheck. Best wishes!!!
/r/seduction07/06/22 05:44 AM
1

OP: I’m in agreement with your friend. If a guy is over the age of 15 & isn’t actively pursuing a girl & what’s in her panties … something is wrong.
/r/seduction07/06/22 04:53 AM
4

Oh man, you are soooo friend-zoned! Quit wasting your time & brain energy on this one. She reminds me of an old riddle…. Q: What’s the difference between a slut and a bitch? A: A slut fucks everyone. A bitch fucks everyone but you.
/r/seduction06/06/22 05:53 PM
1

First date, eh? I’d ask the lady specifically what she wants to eat. If it’s midnight & she’s craving breakfast at Denny’s, fucking go & pick up the tab. If it’s 8 pm & she names some chop house that you know is gonna set you back $300+ (and that’s if you can even get a table) & you’re smelling a golddigger: I’d drop her at the door of said restaurant, drive through the parking lot, & go straight to my favorite bar.
/r/seduction06/06/22 05:32 AM
2

I’d be blunt. She needs to know that 3-4 weeks of banal texting is NOT “getting to know you”. FWIW: texting is great for simple short messages that need to be sent timely, such as “please pick up a bag of dog food on your way home.” It wasn’t designed to carry a conversation for days on end.
/r/seduction06/06/22 03:11 AM
1

“We” are sexting? She must not feel too weird. Reading between the lines: you’re on vacation with your parents (as you mentioned a resort); therefore your opportunity to have sex with this hottie is going to be very limited and diminishing as each day passes. I don’t know what to tell you, but you better get at it soon.
/r/seduction06/06/22 02:57 AM
2

Nevada. Prostitution is legal in all but 2 counties. I’m told they are pricy. I’ve never visited any of the Nevada whore-houses. You can find escorts / call girls / hookers damn near anywhere but you risk getting mugged or arrested. I could advise you better if I knew approximately where you’re at.
/r/seduction05/06/22 06:32 PM
6

Yes to cutting back on the texting / sexting. She knows what you want. If she goes friend-zone on you: dump, block, move on. Same if she doesn’t drop her panties for you within the next week or 2. Either she wants a romantic / sexual relationship with you… or not. The ball is in her court.
/r/seduction05/06/22 06:23 PM
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I assume this is coming from a young lady you’ve been hitting on but have yet to sleep with. Unfortunately, this is the type of question that comes from a girl that’s been fucked-&-dumped; or perhaps she has seen scoundrel behavior from men close to her (eg dad or brother). It’s not so much a shit test; rather, she doesn’t want to drop her panties for you & never see you again. There is no good way to reply. I might suggest she’s throwing out a question that would be more appropriate later in a …
/r/seduction05/06/22 04:17 PM
1

OP: you need to leave mom at home. Or at The Home (Shady Pines). Chill or not, mom needs to get a life & quit meddling in yours; that won’t happen until you force the issue. As of right now you are “momma’s boy” & that is NOT attractive to anyone except your mom. If you live at home, move out. Second point: quit focusing in getting a girls’s phone number, you’re aiming too low. The target is pink & 8 inches below her belly button, not in her smartphone.
/r/seduction05/06/22 03:44 PM
3

How to deal with this? Chalk it up to shitty coincidence. But take it as a hint to change things up a bit from time to time.
/r/seduction04/06/22 09:21 PM
4

My father taught me: never leave a bar with a woman at closing time. The solution to your problem is the same thing: get out of there. Leave before the conversation dies, her friends cock-block you, or she gets bored.
/r/seduction04/06/22 08:44 PM
15

Nice story! I’m the old fart (65) in this group; I also agree with your advice to be aggressive - within reason, duh! - and take the lead. Don’t ask her if she wants to fuck, just take her by the hand & lead the way. Women want a man with balls.
/r/seduction04/06/22 04:03 PM
2

Quit discussing “nerdy” things. Learn something other than video games or the Marvel vs DC universe. Read up on current events. Learn to cook a few dishes. Learn how to hit a golf ball / tennis ball. Know the difference between a pilsner, a lager, & an IPA. Learn the difference between a Chardonnay & a Chablis. If you want the woman to think you are exciting, take her somewhere exciting. It’s summer time, take her to an amusement park. Ride the fucking roller coaster. Make her scream, make her c…
/r/seduction04/06/22 04:32 AM
1

I’m 65/m… in all my years, I’ve NEVER asked a woman for a kiss, to “be my GF”, to fuck,… as I’ve always been able to lead a woman to bed. If a woman doesn’t want to follow my lead, I stop & take her home, I’m not wasting my time. In your situation, the woman already knows what YOU want & said she wants to “get to know you” so play along with that. Take her somewhere you can have conversation without interruption & such. Allow her this so she is comfortable & will eventually follow your lead. You…
/r/seduction04/06/22 03:58 AM
2

Get a haircut. Save the beard for winter.
/r/seduction04/06/22 03:04 AM
6

“For a Chanel called seduction….” Same here. If “seduction” is the fine skill of leading a lady from a social engagement in public to an intimate situation in the bedroom, there are very few questions posted here about “seduction.” End of my vent. 😁
/r/seduction01/06/22 05:21 PM
1

I didn’t let that shit bother me. During my college years I dated a gal 6’ 1” & I’m legit 5’ 11-1/2”. It’s been 40+ years & I still remember those legs.
/r/seduction25/05/22 11:21 PM
1

No, women don’t have have that sense of comradeship as we guys do. And women do “talk” (ie, “kiss-n-tell”) more than men do also. If G1 spoke well of you at some time, odds are good G2 is curious what you got going on. FWIW, never consider a woman to be “out of your league.” Never. The most stunning beautiful woman you’ve ever seen might want to fuck YOUR brains out & fall in love with you someday. It does happen!
/r/seduction25/05/22 11:09 PM
8

You don’t want to be “that guy” in the group. Ever. You can hit on ONE gal ONE time and it not be creepy; do it a second time & you become “that guy”.
/r/seduction25/05/22 10:55 PM
3

I’ve done this a few times and it works. I once told a girl I was “hung like a field mouse”. She didn’t say anything but looked at me like she didn’t understand… I said “well, a large field mouse!”
/r/seduction15/05/22 04:44 AM
0

In spite of being “nice”, I suspect she wasn’t available; she’s probably in a committed relationship. FWIW, my GF is an esthetician. Therefore she doesn’t wear her engagement ring frequently (the chemicals would damage the metal) and she gets hit-on quite a bit. She will be social & polite but turns down invitations to go “out” on the spot.
/r/seduction15/05/22 04:35 AM
1

No, no, no…. (smh!)
/r/seduction14/05/22 05:33 AM
7

Agree!! LDR is so much a waste of time! If she isn’t waking up next to you 2-3 days a week you haven’t got much going on. So you (OP) had a great first date. Yay. If you must text message something to her, say “I had a good time with you, thanks.” Don’t get into all that deep conversation shit after one date. If you really want to “let her know your intentions” , you SHOW her, definitely not tell her in a text message.
/r/seduction11/05/22 03:46 AM
2

I recommend you ask her out again. Invite her to do something / go somewhere with you that’s not blatantly romantic (eg, coffee, ball game, etc) but leaves an opportunity to eventually seduce her. This gal must be pretty hot for you to still want to nail her after a rejection. I’d not waste any more time or energy pursuing a gal that rejected me once; I wouldn’t give her the opportunity to reject me a second time. Good luck going for it.
/r/seduction09/05/22 12:04 PM
8

Use this as fuel for conversation; “what’s your love language?”
/r/seduction08/05/22 08:04 PM
3

She’s one of those girls that keeps a number of guys stringing along. You’re at best her #3.
/r/seduction07/05/22 07:08 PM
1

Don’t get all huggy-kissy in the classroom or out in public, generally. Code of Chivalry, dude. Save the display of affection for private areas.
/r/seduction07/05/22 03:43 PM
1

Yes; next time she wraps her arms around you should be fine.
/r/seduction07/05/22 11:39 AM
4

First, this girl is almost certainly waiting for you to lead her to the bedroom. This may come as a surprise to you but women get horny too. All the touching & hugging is her body language saying “fuck me now!” Don’t worry about rejection — she is NOT going to reject you. Finally: quit watching porn. Unless you’re going to watch it with this gal….
/r/seduction07/05/22 11:31 AM
1

I don't know if it's because "times have changed" or what. I'm 65/m; I was chasing women during the disco era of the late 1970s - early 1980s. Maybe it was the atmosphere, maybe it was luck, maybe it was me; I didn't have much problem getting a fuck or blow job before the bar closed. It was a bad night if all I got was a phone number. (Remember, this was 10-15 years before cell phones & the internet!) As I read your story I sense you're learning how to read a room and assess a situation. Sometim…
/r/seduction06/05/22 09:35 PM
5

Her question is more based in surprise; it doesn't need to be measured as being "good" or "bad".
/r/seduction06/05/22 08:54 PM
22

I couldn't agree more. Beautifully written. The main reason I joined Reddit is to give advice to the young guns as well. I'm 65 and been there, done that, learned how to get through it all. If I can share a bit of insight and help someone, it makes my day. I'll go out with this sage advice from one of my uncles: "Don't judge a woman by the size of her tits or her ass. Judge her by the size of her heart."
/r/seduction06/05/22 04:35 PM
1

You’re supposed to invite her to go somewhere / do something with you at a specific time and place… then she replies to your invitation. Assuming she agrees to your invite, you then negotiate either picking her up at her place or meeting you there. And during this verbal exchange she WILL give you her preferred contact information (be it phone # or app address.) You don’t want to ask a woman to “go out / hang-out sometime” because it’s vague and allows her to propose where she wants to go… which…
/r/seduction05/05/22 08:19 PM
2

It’s clumsy AF; and “go out sometime” is lame. Assuming you KNOW this girl’s name, I suggest you simply address her by name & invite her to have a coffee (or something) with you. Your question belongs in “dating advice” as you’re a long way from seduction (which is getting her to bed); and I said take her out for a coffee (or soft drink) as I presume you’re too young for happy hour.
/r/seduction05/05/22 07:50 PM
0

You’re the OP, just going by what you wrote. Me? 40 year career in neuro-psychology. You’re not the first person to tell me I don’t know shit. Getting close to the last though.
/r/seduction05/05/22 05:11 PM
-1

OCD is not that debilitating. Seriously. I sense in your post you have other personality issues that need to be addressed. Have you sought counseling / therapy? If not, I encourage you to do so. (Analogy: don’t complain about how much your car burns gas if you aren’t willing to get a tune-up.) Wishing you good luck!!
/r/seduction05/05/22 05:00 PM
15

“Seduction” is convincing the woman to hop in bed with you and believe it was her idea all along. Most questions posted have little or nothing to do with getting laid but rather belong in the “dating advice” sub.
/r/seduction05/05/22 05:38 AM
2

Yeah, I interpret her suggestion to go out “as a group” as a slam to the friend zone at best and a total rejection at worst. You did not overreact; you played the situation perfectly. I’d invite her out again - something blatantly apparent as a “date” so she doesn’t consider turning it into a group activity. If (!) she does try to convert your invitation OR simply turns you down, be finished with her. Wishing you good luck!
/r/seduction04/05/22 04:47 PM
2

Texting is great for “I’m running late” or “pick up a can of dog food on your way home” messages. Not to carry a conversation for hours! Fuck that!!
/r/seduction04/05/22 01:10 PM
1

It would be better for you to call a taxi or ride-share… unless she has a car.
/r/seduction04/05/22 01:04 PM
7

“Focus on her feelings and your actions.” Or, as one of my uncles said to me many years ago: “Win her heart first, the pussy will follow.”
/r/seduction04/05/22 05:35 AM
4

Women are strange…. You ask her out & she’s thinking about wedding ceremony colors & looking at china patterns. You get her home after the first date & she’s thinking about baby names & looking at houses on Zillow. When you’re in afterglow (from the first fucking) she’s thinking about divorce lawyers…. You’re NOT an asshole & you’re not “cheating.” Girl “A” didn’t give you a straight answer about an invite & got jealous AF over girl “B”. Frankly, I hope you get to fuck both of them. (I don’t thi…
/r/seduction02/05/22 11:41 PM
1

Ok….
/r/seduction02/05/22 11:20 PM
1

Dude, “catfishing” is so rampant that if someone asks for a photo, phone call, video chat, etc, you do it or you get the ghosting you deserve.
/r/seduction02/05/22 10:47 PM
1

Give her a place & time to meet you!! You’re the one making an invitation so you name the place & time. If she wants to meet but can’t because of work, school, family, etc, she’ll suggest an alternative. Be flexible. Negotiate! And… her contact information WIlL come.
/r/seduction02/05/22 06:37 PM
18

Advice: don’t try to stretch out a conversation. You f’n know that’s when shit gets weird or makes you look awkward. Around the 3–5 minute mark prepare to bail. Example: “I really have to go / I’ve got an important meeting to get to … but I want to see you again / would like to get to know you. Would you meet me at (place) about 4:30 for a coffee?” Instead of asking for her number or contact information, immediately ask her to meet you again! Good luck!
/r/seduction02/05/22 05:29 AM
2

When your desire to fuck becomes greater than your fear of the girl doing… I dunno what, then you’ll approach her. Remember this: “shy” is a behavior, not a disease. It’s cute in toddlers; in adults, not so much.
/r/seduction01/05/22 01:07 AM
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I agree with wanting (needing) more from a woman than attractiveness; intelligence, a charming personality, and integrity are also important for the long run. I’ve been fortunate to have met many beautiful women who have invested in their own education, career, hobbies, and social circles. Generally speaking, adult women like this do NOT go to bars or nightclubs on a regular basis. Is the problem one of geography? I find it impossible to not find some interesting and intelligent women in your ta…
/r/seduction30/04/22 01:23 PM
1

True… This question really belongs in the “Dating Advice” sub.
/r/seduction29/04/22 09:42 PM
2

You mentioned Prozac and alcohol in combination — which is NOT good! — so I’m not surprised you couldn’t get hard. Please consult your personal physician before you add Viagra or Cialis (or anything else!) to your pre-fuck preparation.
/r/seduction29/04/22 08:07 PM
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Wow, that’s like the job interview asking “what are your weaknesses?” I’d be too tempted to reply with some sarcastic shit-test answer & go NC. I hate being interviewed.
/r/seduction29/04/22 07:56 PM
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There are girls you take home to meet dad, girls you take home to meet mom… and some girls you don’t take home at all. Learn to recognize the difference. To those who believe “stripping” isn’t prostitution: it’s just a different price point on the menu. Shows her tits for $10, lap dance for $50, suck your dick for $100,….
/r/seduction29/04/22 07:48 PM
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My 2-cents.... You never tell a girl you "like" her. Women love romance and mystery; and if / when you blow-up the mystery you ruin the romance stuff swirling in her mind. No notes. Never ask a woman to "go out sometime". You ALWAYS make an invitation with a specific place or event, date, & time. Example: "Meet me for lunch tomorrow at Subway, at Noon." or "I have tickets to the ball game Saturday, I'll pick you up at 1." Always... because "go out sometime" will never happen. And, this was the w…
/r/seduction29/04/22 04:24 AM
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My 2-cents on this.... * There's no such thing as a woman who is "out of your league." * It's very difficult to score when the girl is with a group. Not impossible, but very difficult. * Your sales pitch fell apart when she said "convince me." I don't know what I would have said since I wasn't in that situation but it certainly wouldn't have been what you said. * I'm not one who determines success by getting a gal's phone number (or whatever contact information is popular nowadays.) The night wa…
/r/seduction28/04/22 07:16 PM
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I have 2 points… First, I presume you’ve learned a lesson about listening to shit from anyone (brother, aunt, fucking anyone!) about YOUR relationship & YOUR girlfriend because the others are jealous. ‘Nuf said. Secondly: if you’re weak for this girl you’d better make a solid approach to win her heart. Based on what you wrote, it’s easy to assume she’s still very interested in you & this won’t be difficult. I’d suggest you invite her out for a sweet date asap. She’s not going to turn you down. W…
/r/seduction27/04/22 11:12 PM
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Did you have a question about “seduction”? Moderators?
/r/seduction27/04/22 02:15 PM
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Bail. Get the fuck away from her in that situation. You do not want to get labeled as a stalker / sexual predator.
/r/seduction25/04/22 01:58 AM
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I learned the same (almost) phrase from an uncle a good 40 years ago: you don't lose the girl, you only lose your turn.
/r/seduction23/04/22 08:50 PM
8

It’s so funny…. You asked for her number so you could go home and call later to ask her out when you should have asked her out instead of asking for her number. lmfao. Call now. (I’ll take double cheese, pepperoni, & mushrooms on mine, thanks.)
/r/seduction23/04/22 05:09 PM
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What’s next? Don’t get so drunk that you can’t fuck. (Maybe share a doobie? That will assist in your little buddy getting hard & staying hard!) It’s only weird if you make it weird.
/r/seduction21/04/22 09:53 PM
4

My response: “That’s good ‘cause I don’t know any guys that would fuck you anyway.” Delete, block, move on.
/r/seduction20/04/22 05:07 AM
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WHY are you asking for her number? Instead, ask her to meet you later that day. And do NOT drag the conversation out, especially if you told her you “only have a minute.” Invite her to lunch, or Happy Hour, or coffee… but invite her to meet you later! If she’s willing she will give her contact information.
/r/seduction19/04/22 12:24 AM
1

Ask for candid analysis from a close female family member (eg, a sister or cousin); try role play with her so she can see what you’re doing & what you’re saying when you approach a woman then give you some coaching afterwards.
/r/seduction14/04/22 11:29 PM
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Interesting concept: lots of fucking is overrated as fuck. Hmmmm…. I agree with your premise that it’s better to stay with one woman for life. I’ve admitted many times of my jealousy toward the couples who have been together (married or not) for 30, 40, or 50 years; my life story didn’t play out that way, dang it. My first marriage lasted 22 years, I had a stable BF/GF relationship for 5 years, a second marriage for 7 years, now in another relationship for 3 years & planning to get married this …
/r/seduction12/04/22 11:26 PM
2

1). Forget it’s “a guy” and just talk to him. Apparently you don’t have a problem speaking to other ladies? Just because we (males) have whiskers & wieners doesn’t make us THAT much different! 2). Don’t try to make a conversation too long. A few minutes is good enough to introduce yourself & exchange a few pleasantries. Try to catch him at the end of your workout so if you sense discomfort and need to bail you can maintain social courtesy & say you’re finished with your gym time & need to go hom…
/r/seduction12/04/22 03:03 PM
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Well done! ONE point I would like to “coach you up” on your game: don’t ask for her number, but instead invite her to go somewhere…. “… I would like to get to know you better. Please meet me at (Starbucks, McD’s, favorite bar Happy Hour, etc) today at 4.” I do it this way as a “proper” invitation includes a specific location and date / time. Assuming she wants to meet you she WILL then give her contact information to you. Asking her for her number up front is clumsy — you’re going to go home & c…
/r/seduction11/04/22 08:11 PM
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Fucking a married woman is generally not a good idea. That she’s a neighbor compounds the issue. Hopefully the husband won’t find out about the past dalliance… or any you’re considering for the future.
/r/seduction10/04/22 11:33 PM
2

Look at some current issues of the many “mens” magazines (eg, GQ, Esquire, Playboy, Men’s Journal) and find the fashion pages. Dress like that.
/r/seduction08/04/22 07:53 PM
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Unwavering confidence & attitude is that X-factor you seek. Looks do not matter. (If Steve Buscemi can get laid, anyone can!) And, If there’s a 2nd key, it’s body language.
/r/seduction02/04/22 09:31 PM
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… it’s all yours, Honey. All yours!
/r/seduction01/04/22 04:11 PM
2

I’ll take your post at face value & give my best advice since you have no shortage of self esteem but a lack of dating prospects: Find a matchmaker service local to you. Generally speaking, these companies are low-cost or free to females & make their money from fees charged to the men.
/r/seduction01/04/22 05:18 AM
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How many times did you see 007 James Bond kiss a girl in the movies? Many. How many times did you see him ASK the girl? Never. Just keep getting closer. If she doesn’t want to kiss, she will let you know.
/r/seduction28/03/22 10:52 PM
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This is the prime example why I tell guys to seal the deal “now” when you & the girl are together physically at the bar (or wherever) instead of asking for her number to call or text her later. You got nothing.
/r/seduction27/03/22 08:55 PM
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Man advice: 1). Get out of the house & be active in social settings. Go to the shopping malls, parks, gyms, and such and don’t be afraid to speak to men. Ask for directions to the post office, the library, a specific store… even if you already know how to get there. Join some clubs or hobby groups. 2). Ask your social circle to introduce you to some single men. 3). Find a local matchmaker service. Some of them are free to ladies (but very expensive service for the men) and they will introduce yo…
/r/seduction25/03/22 12:36 AM
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Where I’m at, night club = titty bar / strip club. Oh well, sorry.
/r/seduction20/03/22 05:12 PM
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Personally, I find “strippers” to be low-budget prostitutes. The menu starts with $10 to see her tits & goes up from there. So your friend actually brags about snagging these girls… and on game night he fails miserably? Hilarious!! Thanks for sharing this story!
/r/seduction20/03/22 04:54 PM
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Get a room at the No-Tel Motel. Every town has at least one. A college town should have a few to choose from. Be open-minded, she might invite you back to her place. No matter how horny she is, fucking in a car is not gonna work. Good luck!!
/r/seduction20/03/22 05:33 AM
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There’s not much to do or say when the gal flat-out refuses to give you her phone number. I find it rather strange that she shows interest, wants to see you again, but asks for YOUR number & refuses to give hers. Very strange.
/r/seduction17/03/22 11:10 PM
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Basically true. Beta males are scared shitless to approach any hot girls. A high percentage of alpha males are so over-the-top bold in their approach they either piss off the girl or give the impression they want to get laid & nothing more.
/r/seduction16/03/22 07:38 PM
1

It’s quite easy to excuse yourself in these situations. “I’m terribly pressed for time right now but I’d like to see you again….” No… I’ve been told that line many times (haven’t we all?) but only once did the gal who gave me that excuse actually called me later. I’ll take the blame for poor sentence structure and not accuse you of not understanding English.
/r/seduction15/03/22 03:08 PM
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Suggestions: * I have never let an approach go over 5 minutes or so. I’m busy, she’s busy, our time is valuable. Save the long conversation for a date… later. * The goal isn’t her phone number; the goal is seeing her again. Depending on the situation I’m immediately asking her to meet later that day or the next day. If she’s interested, the phone number / contact information will come. * There will be that percentage of women who genuinely are married / engaged / in a committed relationship. Don…
/r/seduction15/03/22 12:43 PM
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Do you consider it a success if you get a gal’s phone number / email address? I hope not…. WTF are you gonna do with her phone number? Call her later? Ask her for a date later? Why?… when she’s sitting in front of you NOW? If you can’t lead a chick to bed when she’s drunk AF, your game is weak.
/r/seduction03/03/22 06:04 AM
2

A coffeehouse. There’s plenty of them no matter where you live.
/r/seduction23/02/22 06:21 PM
2

That’s an entirely different situation. Duh.
/r/seduction21/02/22 06:16 PM
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Do not try to get your hook-up at work. Ever. Not a good idea.
/r/seduction21/02/22 02:32 PM
5

If she was truly interested in you, she would have jumped on the first invite. You’re wasting your time on this one.
/r/seduction21/02/22 02:22 PM
1

Well, it’s probably gonna be ok with everyone except the 2 girls. You’re NOT in a committed relationship with anyone so why not. Just don’t tell anyone else. 😜
/r/seduction21/02/22 03:41 AM
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Keep it going strong, bro. You’ve learned shit most guys never learn & never will.
/r/seduction11/02/22 06:13 PM
3

Avoid the OLD apps / websites, especially the “free” ones, and instead invest in a bonafide matchmaker service. Good matchmaker services are pricy but very well worth it as they will screen ladies according to YOUR specific requests (eg, age range, height & weight, hair color, bust size, education, religion, etc) and only introduce you to gals that match your criteria.
/r/seduction04/02/22 09:29 PM
6

Temptation resort hotel in Cancun MX.
/r/seduction26/01/22 11:27 PM
3

Pickup lines do not work!! The BEST opening line is: “Hi, I’m ____.” After that, it’s easy.
/r/seduction20/01/22 05:58 AM
5

This is not “taking it slow”, this is “going nowhere”.
/r/seduction18/12/21 04:26 PM
1

Seduction is the art of leading a woman to bed but allowing to her believe it was her idea all along. 😁 Fact: we’re guys. We want to fuck; as frequently as possible, as many women as possible, and the prettiest women possible. It’s a basic biological drive to continue our species, refined only by cultural &/ or personal preference & restricted by our frontal lobes. Providing advice to one who requests it is noble. To provide unrequested advice to one who did not request such advice can be seen a…
/r/seduction16/12/21 12:15 AM
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Destroy your doubts, not the girl. Duh. 🤣
/r/seduction14/12/21 04:55 PM
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