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2

That’s a good reason, one I also support. If you’re going to do it then anticipate it getting worse before it gets better. Start posting in OYS every week and accept that your decision to stay may not be hers. If she chooses to leave you must be at a point where you are fine either way.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 09:18 PM
2

That’s fine but why?
/r/askMRP28/05/26 07:40 PM
5

27, no kids, 1 year marriage, why not just blow it up exactly? The situation you’ve landed yourself in is going to be a nightmare to dig out of. Textbook Iron Rule #7.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 07:12 PM
14

I always laugh at the women like the 39 year old mentioned in the video saying guys want to date younger girls because they are easy. For one, it means she was probably easy and two, everyone knows that 40 year old women are practically throwing themselves at any half way attractive man who gives them attention.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/26 04:21 PM
1

Your last paragraph indicates that you broke iron rule 2. You should take that into consideration.
/r/askMRP25/08/25 09:12 PM
1

Why do you think you aren’t in the position to speak bluntly?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/25 11:23 PM
1

Lol at least you’re owning this mistake. Highly doubt you nuked anything. Takes a lot more than one embarrassing drunk interaction to “nuke” it. Fake it til you make it is good advice but there’s always going to be times you make mistakes doing that so don’t beat yourself up too bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/25 11:21 PM
6

There is definitely a snowball effect that as you progress things click in easier and you understand it better. Based on your post here you are struggling with a scarcity mindset. If your wife took off tomorrow could you get laid this week? I’m guessing the answer is no and that’s going to contribute to this feeling that you are stuck in a sniper mentality of doing all of this just for her. This will go away when you start getting attention from women and your wife begins to experience dread. Yo…
/r/askMRP10/06/25 07:41 PM
8

You are being cuckolded. She does not deserve your time anymore let alone exclusivity. End it and move on and don’t get into an exclusive relationship again just because she’s the hottest you’ve been with.
/r/askMRP07/06/25 08:59 PM
10

You have oneitis, no boundaries, no respect from her, and no respect for yourself. You are headed for a colossal iceberg right now. I can’t imagine what belief system has you fucking a chick you aren’t married to but won’t let you spin plates so maybe re-evaluate that. She needs to be gone and you need to work on yourself. Spinning plates would have avoided this oneitis in the first place.
/r/askMRP07/06/25 11:22 AM
26

I don’t know your financial situation or income level but if you are anything under 200k a year it’s a waste of money to buy a $2000 dress for someone else’s wedding. That aside, those texts don’t sound “bitchy” but they could be a shit test if you’ve put financial boundaries in place. I’d simply respond “no, it’s too expensive.”
/r/askMRP04/06/25 03:46 PM
4

If I understand you correctly, and I may not, it sounds like you are saying you don't care for the same things you used to. Part of this is that your prior motivations are not the same. The drive to get with a specific girl, the reason for certain hobbies, career choices, all of these are affected by your worldview. Having changed your worldview, it's going to naturally feel like you were driving towards a destination that you aren't headed to anymore, but now you don't know where to go. So you …
/r/askMRP20/05/25 07:23 PM
18

You are indeed rolling a very heavy boulder right now. It's going to be slow going and suck ass but every roll it gets smaller and smaller. 7 years ago, I found this place just like every other guy here has, with the same story we've all heard. Now I hardly think about MRP anymore. TRP is so ingrained in my life and who I am that it's just the default. When you have been successful in transforming your life, everything is much easier. Problems in my life that would have wrecked me back then are …
/r/askMRP20/05/25 12:57 PM
13

“Until the excuses go away.” Your reaction here illustrates exactly why they will never go away. Do you know how much more socially tuned your wife is than you? She likely has seen your new efforts, the attention you put towards yourself, it’s enough to make her wonder what’s going on with you. Luckily for her she needed to only say three words to check for herself and it made your entire frame buckle. The facade fell and your neediness shone through. Down to her core she knows that she owns you…
/r/askMRP19/05/25 07:58 PM
44

Sidebar and lift. Do not buy a house with this woman.
/r/askMRP09/04/25 11:40 AM
-1

Shit test and dread is what it looks like to me. Showing comfort was the wrong move.
/r/askMRP27/03/25 01:44 AM
2

Terrifying.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/24 01:10 AM
2

Single mom a 9/10..? You for real right now?
/r/askMRP26/11/24 06:32 PM
6

She’s not rejecting you, she’s rejecting your approach / game. Don’t take shit like that personally.
/r/TheRedPill27/09/24 09:41 PM
10

Your sacrifice of a better life by staying is a) not appreciated and b) wouldn’t be reciprocated if she finds the chance to jump ship for a guy she actually wants to bang. I wonder if that’s the definition of love No that’s the definition of love for a generation of men who view sacrifice as an endearing quality, like a super hero. This is not how the real world works and you will receive nothing in return. The reality of your situation is you are staying with a woman who doesn’t want you. That’…
/r/askMRP05/09/24 12:25 AM
1

Belongs in asktrp and probably not here but that aside the answer really lies in exploring what evo-psych says on the topic. Unfortunately even that world gets tainted with leftist colleges and “research” that can only produce approved results that confirm cultural norms.
/r/askMRP04/09/24 11:37 PM
1

It sounds like you acknowledge where a lot of the faults lie which is good. I didn’t see you mention kids, do you have them? If you don’t (or they are grown) why not just bail? What do you gain by staying?
/r/askMRP04/09/24 11:29 PM
3

I’d say the big issue here is that you aren’t really going to be able to stop this. It’s almost like saying you have a boundary that says she’s never allowed to shit test you. It’s just not realistic. What everyone here is telling you is to take a look at yourself, these situations, this boundary, and analyze it some. Find out why you have this boundary in the first place and deal with whatever that is. Be honest with yourself and why you actually run into this situation at all. You also need to…
/r/askMRP30/08/24 07:51 PM
3

The other day my 7 year old said to my friend “my dad’s so mean he doesn’t let me stay up late.” I was naturally bothered by him belittling me in front of a friend of mine so I took him to the other room and made sure he knew not to ever say that again. However now he did it again. What do I do? Do you see how insane this sounds? Lighten up. It bothers you because you care about their opinion. Who gives a shit what they think. You can’t control that anyways and it does little to help you in life…
/r/askMRP30/08/24 07:15 PM
19

redpill should be Stop right there. TRP is amoral and apolitical. It isn’t a prescription for your life it’s an in depth understanding of what makes our clocks tick. What you do with it is your business but it’s not meant to be some guiding philosophical principles. If you want to be a “better man” read the Bible. If you want to understand why your wife always “has a headache” and disrespects you in front of your kids, read the sidebar.
/r/askMRP20/08/24 10:34 PM
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She’s bored, you’re comfortable and not exciting. It’s easy to become furniture in your own home as daily routines creep in. This is a very bad path to be on and she’s one drunk “mistake” away from ruining everything. Break it up and be the source of excitement and fun again.
/r/askMRP01/06/24 10:09 PM
7

Have you seen the videos women are making on this? And the comments? Most women that say bear genuinely believe they are safer with a bear. OP is not exaggerating their delusion.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/24 04:10 AM
5

Basically. Read about the “light switch” effect.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/24 04:08 AM
1

Probably time to part ways. She sounds immature at best and unstable at worst. It’s not your job to raise this woman and you are ready for something she actively doesn’t want. No harm, no animosity, just time to move on.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 03:19 PM
3

Yeah like others have said we need more information. So she’s fine with your sperm but doesn’t want to carry a baby? Or she doesn’t want it to be related to her? Whats going on?
/r/askMRP18/04/24 12:25 AM
2

STFU. You are still way too in her frame if you let her dictate parenting decisions exclusively. The correct response is to decide what is right for your family, consider her feedback in your decision, and do what you decide is right regardless of what she says. You may be wrong but it’s your decision to make and it’s better to make a wrong one than defer to her judgement.
/r/askMRP16/04/24 12:13 AM
15

Why do you want a LTR with this woman specifically? You admit you are still “swallowing the pill” so you obviously haven’t completed the sidebar. You are, also admittedly, insecure. It does not seem like you are ready for a LTR and your insecurities made you “wife up” the first plate you found. Personally she’d be demoted to a plate for describing a condom on her ex’s dick. No one wants to hear that shit and especially not from someone you are committing to.
/r/askMRP08/02/24 03:24 AM
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As others have said it’s a plate so no big deal. What you’re describing here is female solipsism. Just accept that you will never be able to reason against it. That’s why you never bother explaining yourself on matters like that. Either she complies or she leaves.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/24 03:34 PM
9

Stopped reading one sentence in. You have oneitis. Shit happens but this is way more important than anything else you would have to say about this situation. Fix it first, whatever that looks like.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/24 04:02 AM
4

Are you serious? You could have written one out in the time it took to shit this out.
/r/askMRP27/01/24 08:13 PM
1

Act like in 5 years you won’t know a single person you currently do.
/r/askMRP31/12/23 05:05 PM
5

Iron rule #7 exists for a reason.
/r/askMRP18/12/23 07:55 PM
10

Everything on the sidebar helps but read the subtle art of not giving a fuck. That helps prioritize which seems to be where you are at right now. You have to be your own mental point of origin. That’s the main goal here. Confidence comes naturally when you have decided for yourself how you think and feel about the world, yourself, decisions, etc. For me this was the hardest part to get through. I had to actually wake up every day and plan out my day, make decisions beforehand, force myself to ve…
/r/askMRP16/12/23 03:50 PM
2

You are missing the “why” in all this. You are very much in her frame still by thinking about how each decision you make is going to make her think / act. You are the opposite of outcome independent.
/r/askMRP15/12/23 01:25 PM
18

Honest answer, if you have to lie to create dread you have missed the point by a mile.
/r/askMRP15/12/23 03:57 AM
1

I share my location with my wife and most of my friends. It’s just useful for planning shit. No more “how far are you” texts. How is it a control thing exactly? Who cares if she knows where you are. If you really care then why are you explaining at all? Just stop doing it. Remember, always DARE never DEER.
/r/askMRP15/12/23 03:25 AM
2

Boundaries man. This is her problem and you can’t solve it, you can even help it. At some point you need to sit her down and explain that she needs to get this issue resolved or it’s not going to work. Like others have said she sounds BPD. If she is all you can do is leave. It sucks but that really is the only option.
/r/askMRP12/12/23 02:08 PM
17

It’s going to be awkward and suck regardless. She’s going to have a meltdown at losing the gravy train. Just gotta bite the bullet and tell her it’s over and to move out.
/r/askMRP11/12/23 02:23 PM
3

The amount of upvotes your awful take has received is indicative of what this place has become.
/r/TheRedPill04/12/23 03:28 PM
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Even the ones that “get it” can’t get past female solipsism to truly understand it. The most “red pilled woman” will instantly change their beliefs upon hitting the wall, becoming a mother, etc. I have seen it plenty where single childless chicks wholly accept that men want younger women with no children but once they hit 30 and have a kid the narrative shifts. They aren’t capable of seeing the world without seeing themselves first. It just is what it is. More important to the question is that t…
/r/TheRedPill02/12/23 02:13 PM
13

Not cohabitating is a BIG rule. Don’t do it. And yeah, look to single women, not single moms. She will likely insist on it at a certain point probably under the guise of “so we can see each other more” or “our schedules are so hard it would be easier if we could help each other.” Saying no to being the ATM nanny will result in you being nexted. She will then move on to Billy beta who doesn’t mind being the “step dad who stepped up.” Good let him fuck up his own life, that’s none of your concern.…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 06:44 PM
24

Single moms are single for a reason, often that reason is she fucked around in the marriage and left her husband. You’ll have no way of knowing if this is the case or not when talking to one because the only line you’ll be fed is about how her “needs weren’t met” or he was “abusive” (asked her to do dishes once). She will never reveal that she’s a lying cheating whore (for obvious reasons) so you will be playing Russian roulette with this chick. Scheduling will suck ass. There’s no way around th…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 05:58 PM
22

I have yet to meet a man who marries a single mom that isn’t treated like an absolute chump. If you absolutely have to have a LTR with a single mom then you better stick to a widow. Even then there’s just so much baggage with single mothers that it’s a shit deal. You are basically just getting your life back but now doubling down bringing in someone else’s responsibility.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 04:55 PM
45

It is a verb, not a state of being. As a religious person I use 1 Corinthians 13 as a guide. Love is not some supernatural feeling that gives you warm fuzzies every time you wake up. It’s an act you voluntarily show to people you decide are worthy of it. My wife, children, parents. Those are people I choose to express love to.
/r/askMRP29/11/23 12:21 AM
6

Had to scroll way too far to find a comment like this. These new guys need to stop giving advice. She’s clearly not worth keeping with these abandonment issues and OP is still very blue pilled and deep in her frame. They need to part ways and OP needs to sort his shit out. OP, you are way too concerned with controlling this chick who has too many issues to make a good LTR. Those issues are not your fault and you aren’t responsible for her life. Don’t be captain save a hoe. You aren’t ready for a…
/r/TheRedPill28/11/23 04:22 PM
1

Absolutely has not changed but the application has. In no world can you think culture has no impact on game. The theories presented are tested daily and refined constantly even if the big ideas stay the same. If you don’t believe me that’s fine, good luck running mystery method out there.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/23 04:59 PM
1

The facts of life are the same yes but the red pill will always evolve because game has to evolve to fit modern cultures. PUA tactics from the late 90s will not work today and modern tactics wouldn’t work in the late 90s. The red pill will always be a cycle between game and theory that fine tunes both. That’s the reason I still keep up with this community even after years on end. That and helping the newcomers improve their life is a debt paid forward for the red pill saving my own life.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/23 01:42 AM
1

Did you apologize?
/r/askMRP26/11/23 01:29 AM
3

You’ll go crazy trying to rationalize this shit. Seriously, take it in stride as a life lesson and move on. BPD is wild and you’ll never make sense of it even if you did everything right. You aren’t a victim but the core mistake was getting involved with one to begin with. Everything else is a wash.
/r/askMRP15/11/23 07:39 PM
7

Don’t beat yourself up too hard. Usually the only way to leave a BPD chick is to take everything you own, set it on the front lawn, and light it on fire because that’s how much they will destroy by the time you are rid of them. Cut contact, block her on everything, restraining order if you need, and take the life lesson.
/r/askMRP15/11/23 05:27 PM
-3

Real hard to be emasculated by someone whose opinion you hold lower than your own. Your view of yourself is the most important change you will ever make. Confidence in yourself makes all the rest of that shit irrelevant. Maybe she thinks he’s a joke, maybe all his friends do, but does he view himself as a joke? Does his opinion of himself really float around based on the people in the room at any given time? Until this change happens where he is his own mental point of origin the only real advic…
/r/askMRP15/11/23 05:18 PM
-3

Read WISNIFG and the subtle art of not giving a fuck. Both are applicable here. I can’t imagine giving less of a shit about what someone else of my directional ability. Not even a good shit test on her part.
/r/askMRP15/11/23 03:54 PM
11

What good would quitting do at this moment? You said it yourself, you fucked up. Wherever you go right now you’re still going to be fucked up and no distance from your wife is going to change that. You need to work through this shit and by work through it I mean lift. I understand you are recovering right now so find a sport you can do safely and give it 200%. Sweat this shit out. I don’t care if it means you have to go on a walk for 3 hours a day as long as you are working out. Once you’re too …
/r/askMRP14/11/23 12:30 PM
15

More connected emotionally has been and always will be bullshit. It just means she doesn’t know why she doesn’t want to fuck you but she doesn’t. Just look at the facts here. When you two are away from stress and somewhere more exciting than your house she’s into having fun? Shocker. Your home life is boring, I’m going to guess you’re boring as well when home. Not an insult just something that happens if you aren’t vigilant. Day to day shit is mandatory and boring so you have to break up that mo…
/r/askMRP09/11/23 12:32 AM
15

You have it backwards and are having a hard time rectifying this backwards mentality with the new information you are learning. You care if she’s receptive to you initiating sex. This puts you squarely in her frame. The only question that matters is “do I actually want to have sex with her?” The answer is clearly “not when she’s a moody cunt.” So stop validating her with chasing shit sex with someone who doesn’t even want it. Now, Look clearly at what you need and prioritize it. You are a man, y…
/r/askMRP03/11/23 03:50 PM
3

You get everyone ready and she’s still not ready? That would happen once, maybe twice, and I’d let her drive herself. My wife is frequently delaying us but she’s over-preparing kids / sitter / bags for parents house or whatever. That’s frustrating because her time management sucks but at least she’s productive. If her one job was to be on time for plans I set I’d either cancel or ditch her. It seems harsh but it’s crazy disrespectful of your time to do this shit.
/r/askMRP31/10/23 01:50 AM
5

Sex is a need just like water. When you’re thirsty it’s all you can think about but once you have it you focus on other things. Just don’t let yourself get thirsty again or you’ll be back to thinking about it all the time.
/r/askMRP20/10/23 12:09 PM
3

Saved my life back in the day. It’s been so over run with white knights and blue pilled alphas now, it’s a travesty. Just go check the comment section on most of the posts and see the advice being given. There’s a few guys who get it and the rest should be shutting the fuck up and reading.
/r/TheRedPill11/10/23 01:14 PM
3

If you think this is bad you should see the state of married red pill now.
/r/TheRedPill11/10/23 02:27 AM
-5

I don’t understand. Why wait until she has a job lined up? Are you seriously trying to help your nurse (whore) soon to be ex-wife get on her feet before you leave her? Fucking bail. File for divorce, kick her ass out, let her handle her own damn life. She is not your problem. Your problem now is getting your kid some stability and finding someone else for you to fuck. Both of these tasks involve her being away from you and your house.
/r/askMRP03/10/23 12:43 AM
0

Jesus Christ. If you do that you are an absolute {bundle of sticks}. Practice outcome independence. By going along with this you are throwing yourself square in her frame.
/r/askMRP27/08/23 05:57 PM
1

A lot of good advice here but I’ll throw in my 2 cents. Guys are doers, girls are talkers. You want to make friends then invite some guys to go hang out and do something you are both interested in. My friends and I are always doing shit, that’s just how guys hang out. Find something you want to do and invite another dude along.
/r/askMRP17/08/23 05:02 PM
7

Ah, here’s the problem. She is the center of your world. You have to be your own frame of reference. Every comment you make is about her. Your actions are trying to elicit behavior from her. No, the redpill is not manipulative or controlling because first and foremost you are supposed to take care of yourself. Everything else follows on it’s own. If you hit the gym it’s for your own self improvement and not exclusively to impress a chick. That’s just a benefit of it. If you are doing all of this…
/r/askMRP17/08/23 12:37 AM
14

So she went to study with a female classmate and didn’t tell you, correct? Why the fuck would you want to know this information? If it got in the way of plans or something yeah a heads up would be nice otherwise who cares.
/r/askMRP16/08/23 10:25 PM
2

Yes it can be. However if she is trying to express something and she is unsuccessful it may be frustrating and cause her to act out. Don’t tolerate it but do check to see if there’s a source. Sometimes my boys are just being boys and I have to put them back in line, other times they have real concerns bothering them and hearing them out works better. Just have to identify which is which.
/r/askMRP15/08/23 04:09 PM
-4

If your dog bit you how would you handle it?
/r/askMRP15/08/23 04:06 PM
3

I read about 2 paragraphs before realizing Tolstoy was asking for relationship advice. Jesus fuck he and you are way too obsessed with one chick that clearly doesn’t give a fuck. Move on and spin plates.
/r/askMRP10/08/23 08:10 PM
10

because it’s an sjw company No it’s because they released a video telling men they are worthless sacks of shit. No one cares what other people believe but if you make it a point to shit on your customers don’t be surprised when they switch brands.
/r/TheRedPill06/08/20 04:25 PM
81

Lol get fucked
/r/TheRedPill06/08/20 03:26 PM
2

TRP is a social theory, and a great one. Unfortunately because of bp conditioning most of us come to learn about it the hard way. Something brings us here and a common theme will be a lack of masculinity in our lives, early on and otherwise. Remember not to confuse the normal methods of “swallowing trp” with trp itself.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/20 03:57 PM
69

A big difference is outcome independence. You thinking you are amazing is okay. You mandating everyone else view you as the best thing ever is where it crosses a line. There’s nothing abusive about caring for yourself more than someone else. It’s the healthy way to be. If she feels entitled to you being in her frame that’s on her, not you. I’d just next and move on.
/r/askTRP13/07/20 11:49 PM
37

I flirt with the dude. Really weirds them out.
/r/askMRP12/07/20 03:45 PM
8

If USA I’m betting you live in the north and not the south.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/20 08:23 PM
2

The fact that you are concerned at all with how she perceives you says you are firmly still in her frame. Run away from this at all costs. You aren’t mentally resilient enough.
/r/askTRP02/07/20 02:13 PM
5

Thanks dude, but looking back at who I used to be I wouldn’t have wanted to fuck me either.
/r/askTRP29/06/20 09:44 PM
3

Wrong think
/r/askTRP29/06/20 07:51 PM
8

Actually, we ended up reconciling. And by that I mean she groveled hopelessly. I had to think it over because at the time my twins had just turned 2 years old and I didn’t want to not see them every day, so I decided to agree to go to counseling and then just kept going. It took at least a year and a half of working to get to a point where we had a healthy relationship (read: I became a healthy, well rounded, man). For a long time I felt I made a mistake because I knew the reality of what happen…
/r/askTRP29/06/20 07:49 PM
47

Wife told me on my 29th birthday, during my party, she wanted a divorce and has never loved me. Over the course of several months and a lot of drama it turned out she had an affair (no shit right? Lol). My blue pilled beta world was shattered. Lost a lot of weight. Hair started falling out. I was a husk of a person. Then a friend in a Facebook group told me I sounded like he used to be and I should read two books: no more mr nice guy and married man sex life primer 2011. He also pointed me to th…
/r/askTRP29/06/20 01:37 PM
15

I agree but the foundation here is men and women are different which is enough on reddit to be considered sexist / bigoted / whatever else they want to throw at you.
/r/askMRP28/06/20 03:40 PM
7

trp has one but I’m not sure about mrp. Pretty sure trp will be gone tomorrow if the rumors are true.
/r/askMRP28/06/20 02:40 PM
1

Good advice. There’s also a section in how to win friends and influence people specifically about leadership which has good info.
/r/askTRP27/06/20 12:38 AM
1

Being nice is helpful here but you also need to be direct and clear in communication. I have SOPs for every task and clear instructions on what to do if task is completed or not. There is no question on what should be done and it’s made employee involvement binary. They do it right or they don’t. It’s also easy to swap people if the need arises. Employees know EXACTLY what I expect of them and that has made it really easy for them to succeed.
/r/askTRP27/06/20 12:36 AM
3

Home gym
/r/askTRP27/06/20 12:27 AM
0

I was going to chime in but this sums it up well.
/r/askMRP27/06/20 12:26 AM
2

Thanks bro. I needed that perspective. For the record yeah I started year one pretty fucked up. The difference mentally between then and now is huge but I wouldn’t say I’m close to being done. I’m just happy my problems are this now and not mental breakdowns and emergency therapy sessions lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/20 12:32 PM
1

I’m in the exact same situation. It is really fucking hard to develop abundance mentality and to take your wife off a pedestal when you were so sold on her being your “one.” It’s not impossible though, just takes a lot more work. Start working through dread levels and also learn game. Just learning and reading about it will give you more confidence.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/20 03:47 AM
1

That’s what I need to do. I’ll try to implement that this week. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/20 05:48 PM
1

You lack abundance mentality. Develop that and it will make decisions easy. And yes you aren’t considering yourself the prize. Its hard to do especially early on. This is why you need abundance mentality. Also if your every decision is made with her reaction in mind then you are a dancing monkey. Become outcome independent.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/20 05:48 PM
1

I’m trying to do it in secret, when my wife won’t catch me in the act. I am afraid. Good to acknowledge this. I know the feeling, I used to do it too. At some point though I realized I don't care what she thinks, I didn't improve my body for her, I did it for me. I'm happy with how I look and I like to monitor the progress. I'd recommend reading "the subtle art of not giving a fuck."
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/20 04:50 PM
1

Rational Male year one, not getting too much out of this, it seems to be more for 20 year olds than 40 year olds Much of Rollo is theory on how women and men function. It should still be applicable for someone in their 40s. Reality doesn't change with age. Understanding these concepts is crucial for pretty much everything here.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/20 04:37 PM
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She says I am being an asshole. This is my favorite thing to hear (or some variation of it). I'd always rather hear this than someone call me a "nice guy" again. Missing workouts because you are building a deck is not an excuse. You will lose ground in your workout routine. Workout before you work on the deck. I've been redoing my backyard and it's been exhausting labor so I learned real quick workouts have to be done first or they won't be done at all. edit: reddit sucks and posted early
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/20 04:29 PM
2

just kind of.....thinking about things Yeah this type of shit is a trap. It's good to not be blasting yourself with entertainment or stimulation 24/7 but thinking isn't as helpful as you probably assume. Make sure you do it in moderation. This shit isn't complicated, there's not a ton to think about when it comes down to it, just keep doing stuff. If you aren't learning, doing something for your career, or finishing projects, you should be playing with kids or going out having (and being) fun. L…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/20 04:25 PM
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OYS YEAR 2 WEEK 3 ABSTRACT: Missing dips workouts. Didn’t start a new book yet. Need to communicate more to my VA at work. Found myself getting frustrated on vacation. Having too much to drink when I’m with my friends. Drinking daily has become a habit. AGE: 31 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 164LB WORKOUT: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 290lb BENCH PRESS: 217.5lb DEADLIFT: 286lb SHOULDER PRESS: 174lb Trying to do dips three times a week. So far I’ve only been doing them once a…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/20 03:55 PM
10

Anything related to an “emotional connection”
/r/askTRP25/06/20 12:52 AM
1

I'm with you but what shit did you own in this weeks post?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/20 05:47 PM
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> just took it a but to far with the withholding affection which probably caused to much bad tension. Basically I was playing my mean card right away The withholding affection didn't cause bad tension, the mean card did. You know how a vegan claims to not want meat but then proceeds to shit on meat and form all their food like meat? They are paying attention to meat. You are paying her attention by being mean and not withholding affection. If you are truly withholding affection you won't even be…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/20 05:43 PM
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> I found that lining something up before initiating ie workout, go for drive/walk, stuff that needed doing around the house meant that i literally didnt mind either way I don't think this was a bad idea. It helped and that's what matters. Ideally, you will have your whole day lined up. You wake up and get after the day. It will deliver the same effect but now you will be leading and making decisions for your whole family as part of your daily routine.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/20 05:31 PM
1

>she asked if I was having an affair My wife hasn't said this but I've had multiple people ask me if I'm having an affair because I've gotten in shape and my demeanor has changed lol. >using her renewed interest in me as a source of validation This one is a bitch. I struggle with it sometimes. It's always a reminder that I haven't fully killed off my need for validation. I try to look inwards and determine if I'm wanting sex because I actually want sex or if it's to tell myself "yeah I did it I …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/20 05:28 PM
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OYS YEAR 2 WEEK 2 ABSTRACT: Finished 48 laws of power again. Need to start doing and less planning at work. Doing better with kids and stopped DEERing. Realized I've never allowed myself to "be the prize." Want more friends who like to do more. I'm thinking instead of doing. I let myself get comfortable too often. Age: 31Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical:Height: 5'8"Weight: 164lb Workout:531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 290lb BENCH PRESS: 217.5lb DEADLIFT: 286lb SHOULDER PRESS: 174lb Reading:Finished a …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/20 05:17 PM
1

This is a great way to think about it. You WILL pour your energy into something so pick something besides a chick.
/r/askTRP18/06/20 01:42 PM
1

This
/r/askTRP17/06/20 01:47 PM
3

How to win friends and influence people should be mandatory reading for every person, ideally when they are growing up.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 12:20 AM
2

every 1 girl there are 8 guys The fuck. Legitimately feel bad for the India bro’s. I can’t imagine that level of competition.
/r/TheRedPill12/06/20 02:35 AM
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OYS YEAR 2 WEEK 1 After a year of OYS posts I took a month off. Read through my old posts and wanted to refresh myself. Sometimes it's hard to see the forest through the trees. I learned a lot. Mostly I learned that I am really good at lying to myself. It was evident in every one of my early posts and started to get better as time went on but the problem still persists. Bullshitting helps no one, especially me. That said there was a lot of good I found. The difference between week one and a year…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/20 04:22 PM
10

thought that would count for something Relationship equity does not exist to a woman. It means nothing to them. That’s blue pilled thinking.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 05:39 PM
1

This is not true for all circumstances. There are definite issues that NEED outside help. Real help. Not some dudes on the internet. Don’t “avoid at all costs” just be aware that there’s good therapists and shitty ones.
/r/askTRP27/05/20 04:33 AM
1

Not going to read because the tldr says all I need to know. End it and move on dude. You aren’t married. It’s a fucking nightmare to get back respect. Cut your losses and just try again. Iron rule #7
/r/askTRP15/05/20 03:45 PM
7

I think the difference is you are wanting “I got a plate pregnant! :)” where the stories are usually “fuck me I got a plate pregnant :(“
/r/askMRP07/05/20 12:52 AM
3

You want a young chick you don’t live with to agree to have a kid with you? Yeah I have no fucking clue this seems like uncharted waters to me.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 12:12 AM
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It seems to me you lack abundance mentality if you are willing to stay with a chick for the potential to have children with even though you also admit it’s hard to imagine her as a mother. If you stay the road will be longer than finding someone new (don’t fool yourself that road will be long too). It’s one of the iron rules that it’s always easier to start a new relationship than to salvage a shitty one. Very seriously: sidebar and lift.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 02:29 AM
1

I will do that this week. Thank you for the advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 02:17 AM
1

Shit happened to me too. Except it’s a home gym and I’m married.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/20 02:09 AM
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I don’t know if I’m up to the effort it would take Bail on this and all future relationships. You’re fucked if you think there’s any road from here that isn’t a personal crucible of self discovery and reformation.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 02:03 AM
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OYS WEEK 50 and 51 ABSTRACT: Workouts going okay. Reading but not every day. Job is a little slow. Made a small error on date night. Expected friends to help with my backyard because of an apparent covert contract I had that I need to put an end to. Need to balance life with my backyard project. Failing at most goals right now. Mission isn't doing much better. Age: 31 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 162 Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 287.5 BENCH PRESS: 210 DEADLIFT: 27…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 12:22 PM
5

Fail. A lot. A mental trick I use dealing with people is I pretend that 5 years from now I won’t know any of them and I will have a whole new set of friends (which is likely true for many of them). So it’s not about how they see me (they won’t be around anymore) but putting forth the steps to be who I want to be in the future.
/r/askTRP02/05/20 08:22 PM
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Read “how to win friends and influence people” and watch stand up comedians. That will be the easiest way for you to learn these socials skills.
/r/askTRP02/05/20 02:23 AM
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Are you white knighting a girl who all you know of is a letter? The fuck kind of beta are you?
/r/TheRedPill25/04/20 11:36 PM
1

How long have you been friendless? When did you lose your old friends? If it’s a month ago no real issue. If it’s a year ago then there’s probably an issue.
/r/askTRP25/04/20 05:49 PM
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I’m 46 and love has never happened for me She’s definitely excluding the like 3 “soul mates” she’s gone through.
/r/TheRedPill25/04/20 01:25 PM
1

“Perfection is the enemy” Yeah I’ve had to come to terms with that. If I can get a job 90% of the way where I want it then I try to feel good about it. “Whose standard are you trying to perform to” My own standard I think. I spent so many years being a faggot and thinking I’m just not cut out for doing those “regular guy” things. After coming here and learning and seeing how wrong I was in every aspect of life I’m frustrated with myself for having listened to anyone who told me who I was. “Where…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/20 07:36 PM
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Thank you. Yeah I have to YouTube everything I do. “He complained the whole time” This is what I’m desperately trying to avoid. I would hate to overshadow my own accomplishments with childish behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/20 07:24 PM
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You put her on a pedestal. It’s quite clear in the way you described the start of your relationship.
/r/askTRP23/04/20 08:16 PM
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I actually don’t mind it too much. It can be a short refresher on some things.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/20 07:08 PM
2

I think the book is called "mindful attraction plan" (he changed it up for this book title. That book is going to help you a lot with some of the shit you have going on. It will organize a lot of what you are doing and set priorities.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/20 06:47 PM
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Dude you care WAY too much what she's thinking. You are 100% in her frame. > Not sure if this is a fuck up, but I did apologize yes it's a fuckup. Correct response is "mistakes were made" and never "I'm sorry" >she had planned on putting on an outfit for me No she didn't. Also get a home gym set up. I've had mine for a year and a half and it's the best.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/20 06:38 PM
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OYS WEEK 49 ABSTRACT: Working on the house leaves my workout schedule sup-optimal. On 48 laws of power still. Can't grow company easily right now. Abundance mentality hard to maintain with the lockdown. I tend to seek validation if I'm failing at goals. Often angry with myself when doing manual labor. Age: 31 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 161 Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 287.5 BENCH PRESS: 210 DEADLIFT: 278.5 SHOULDER PRESS: 169 I've been working on my house so muc…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/20 05:46 PM
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I’m going to ignore the rest of your super cringey post and answer the question about therapy. Therapy has its place and works well IF you find a good therapist. There are some things that do need a professional to treat. I’ll give you an example. After my wife’s affair 2 years ago I crumbled mentally. I was an emotionally unstable mess and it was persisting with no end in sight. I was in therapy every week. After about a year of therapy I finally got to a point where I had rationally moved to a…
/r/askMRP21/04/20 03:27 PM
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OYS WEEK 47 and 48 (not going to lie, I spaced on posting here but I'm going to do it anyways just to have done it) ABSTRACT: Only making 3 workouts a week. Groundhog day every other aspect of my life. Need more discipline to my routines and I've been getting better at it. Failing to hit many goals. Age: 31 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 162 Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 287.5 BENCH PRESS: 210 DEADLIFT: 278.5 SHOULDER PRESS: 169 Workouts are going okay. I've had a ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/20 04:02 PM
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I’m elated for you. Don’t feel guilty. She’s a big girl (lol) and made her own damn decisions.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/20 01:12 AM
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OYS. Stop arguing (reread WISNIFG). Address the loneliness issue. Your post is filled with validation seeking behavior and neediness. Stop arguing. These things are poison to your relationships, not just marriage. Fix those issues. For the love of fuck, stop arguing.
/r/askMRP17/04/20 02:18 AM
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He’s at mile 20 of a marathon and you’re telling him to quit. Yeah he could break it off, rest his legs, grab a beer, and run a 5k in a few days. That’s not the point though. Why quit now? When he gets to mile 20 again one day he will be no better prepared. Stay the course and do the work now because after reading his post the issue is clearly him.
/r/askMRP17/04/20 02:14 AM
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All of my friends are like this. All of them. If I inquire why they have to ask permission it’s usually “cuz I wanna stay married bro haha.” I agree, it’s sickening.
/r/askTRP09/04/20 12:39 PM
4

Pretend she is a 2 year old talking to you. How much do you give a shit now? How do you handle it now?
/r/askMRP08/04/20 04:24 AM
5

blaming the world around you for shit that’s your responsibility Jesus dude I wouldn’t want to fuck you either. Do you want to throw a pity party or do you want to get laid? Okay life sucks now fix it. You only get once victim puke and hopefully this was your first one. I don’t care how hard your life is or what sob story you think anyone is going to care about it’s not their responsibility to fix your life, it’s yours. I can tell you from experience at the lowest points in life when you are the…
/r/askMRP07/04/20 03:19 PM
1

OYS WEEK 45 & 46 Let last week slip by somehow so I combined the two weeks ABSTRACT: Haven't been doing dips, structure is lacking being at home. Read some. Ready for the wife to go back to work. No social life. Getting stuff done at home. Finding a balance between chill and assertive. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 160lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 287.5 BENCH PRESS: 210 DEADLIFT: 278.5 SHOULDER PRESS: 169 Haven't been doing my dips. Missed squats one week…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/20 01:14 PM
2

Yes. Not only does it help with loneliness it’s necessary for your health. You need guy friends to communicate and bond with.
/r/askTRP26/03/20 04:26 PM
7

blastoise Lmao the fuck is wrong with someone to literally let themselves have the stats of blastoise.
/r/askTRP23/03/20 02:02 AM
1

Boomers will have thousands of rounds. Ask one of them and I bet they would sell you some.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/20 09:41 PM
2

I understand that people have various reasons for a gym membership but for most you should really take a long look at your situation and decide if you can do a home gym. This is a part of your life forever. If you can, dedicate the funds and space to equipment. It’s easier, always available, and saves money in the long run.
/r/TheRedPill18/03/20 01:38 AM
1

Thanks I appreciate it, and yeah we have been going for a long time. Used to be weekly but now it’s only every couple months but I learned that too. Have to approach it correctly or it will make you look like a total bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 07:12 PM
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OYS WEEK 44 ABSTRACT: Will reduce weights this cycle. Continuing book of pook. Working from home is different when the wife is there. Had therapy with the wife and it helped reset after last week's retarded decision making by me. Need to find a way to get my head into being social when it's time for events. Failing goals but better this week. Need to balance leadership with being chill. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 160lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 292.5 …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 05:39 PM
5

This. Home gym is the best.
/r/askTRP17/03/20 04:29 AM
2

Shits nuts man.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/20 11:13 PM
1

Do people really buy stuff with no other point but to make people jealous? Are other people jealous of things?
/r/TheRedPill16/03/20 10:42 PM
1

Forgot to post it here again so it's late but at least it's here I suppose. OYS WEEK 43 ABSTRACT: Shit week for leg workouts. Read but only for fun. Figuring out how to manage employees. Argued with the wife for no reason. Not hitting daily goals I set for myself. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 160lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 292.5 BENCH PRESS: 215 DEADLIFT: 278.5 SHOULDER PRESS: 171.5 Missed deadlifts. Squats were hell. Next week I'm going to reduce weig…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/20 02:45 PM
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“Who is this?”
/r/askTRP09/03/20 09:21 PM
2

STFU and DARE to get out of it. You have to fight the urge to defend yourself because it will never work. You will never be able to rationalize more than her. Even if you are right she won’t EVER understand that.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 08:45 PM
1

I think I’m going to go back to normal and increase as the program says. I returned to the correct numbers for the 5x10 sets and thank god I did because I could barely do the last set. I couldn’t have done elevated numbers for that much volume.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 08:43 PM
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Need more info dude. Post lifts, stats, job, kids, etc. It helps get a better picture. I don't know if you are lifting or not but it helps with anger. Save it all for the gym and take it out there. Get a punching bag and use that when you aren't lifting. You've accepted the anger is an issue now you just need to channel it into something healthy while you work through your shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 02:53 PM
2

Daily offsite backup dude. Ransomware will hit your cloud and network drives just the same. Your IT company should have been doing that so good call getting a new provider. Also, as a little life hack (that will be controversial among my fellow IT people but fuck it) if you are on your PC and you get a virus that takes over, hold the power down on your PC until it goes off. I know normally you should never do this but in this case it will save you a shit load of time. It wipes the virus because …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 02:46 PM
2

Stop fighting. It does you no good. If you are needing her to think a certain way or feel a certain way then you are in her frame. Be steadfast in your own emotions and thoughts and let her do whatever she's going to do. She will come around when she realizes you aren't trying to manipulate her by being butt hurt or something. Always DARE never DEER. "there is no masculine aggressiveness in this." Masculinity and aggressiveness aren't really the same. Accomplishing what you want and fulfilling y…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 02:41 PM
1

OYS WEEK 42 ABSTRACT: Drowning my phone helped me bench higher than normal. Didn't read. Going to try harder with my employee I thought I might fire. Good week with the wife. Going solo to places if friends are unavailable. Allocating funds to my backyard landscaping project. New financial goal. Failing to hit some goals. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 160lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 292.5 BENCH PRESS: 215 DEADLIFT: 278.5 SHOULDER PRESS: 171.5 Killed my p…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 02:20 PM
1

Therapy for the abuse. You need it. I do it regularly and a good therapist is invaluable. Kissless virgin at 19? That was me at 20 as well as many, many other people. Don’t compare yourself to other people so much. No friends who care? Yeah learn this lesson now: you are alone and that’s not only okay it kind of rocks. Friends are nice to have but you have to get to a point of not needing them, or girls. Self conscious about looks? Start working on accepting yourself while at the same time start…
/r/askTRP04/03/20 03:29 AM
2

OYS WEEK 41 - late posting this week thanks to my phone dying but figured I'd post anyways ABSTRACT: Getting to calorie goal is often difficult. Listened to book of pook. Might need to fire an employee. Argued with the wife like a needy child. Still had to go out this weekend. Budget talks going smoothly. Financial goal completed. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 160lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 292.5 BENCH PRESS: 215 DEADLIFT: 278.5 SHOULDER PRESS: 171.5 Hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/20 01:10 PM
1

Yes. Every weekend. Part of my budgeting issue is we easily spend $300 a month on paying someone to babysit because we are constantly busy going and doing stuff. There’s always a party or event or date night we are going to. When the weather isn’t shit we are taking the kids to different parks, bike rides, etc. and it’s a great time but borders on irresponsible spending so I am trying to find balance which is difficult.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/20 08:41 PM
1

Paid for someone to watch them, bringing them was out of the question. I’ve already been planning a weekend with some guy friends of mine to go hiking and long boarding but that’s probably going to be a few weeks still because of their schedule.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/20 01:17 PM
1

I really do appreciate feedback but I assure you the problem is the opposite. I tend to do too many “fun” things and end up screwing up my responsibilities. The 10 minutes talking is my effort to actually have conversations with her during the week because we don’t see each other 24/7 and when we do I want to make sure I’m not going through the motions but actually being present with her. I have a tendency to not. I like help but to be clear, this is not a list of shit I’m doing good on. It’s pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/20 01:13 PM
1

Laughed so loud I think I woke my kids up lmao.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/20 01:15 PM
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My friends were all obsessed with those personality tests and when I took one before my year and a half self improvement journey I was labeled an introvert. No surprise to any of my friends as I almost almost always wanted to be alone and social anxiety was rampant in my life. Forgetting about the test I worked my way through material and pushed myself daily to change aspects of my life to be what I want. Friend mentioned the test recently and I took it again. Sure enough, extrovert. The entire …
/r/TheRedPill20/02/20 01:07 PM
1

That’s a good way to go about it. I need to remember to apply some simple logic to it like that. It would help cut through the bs in my head. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 07:18 PM
2

BBB is boring but big. There are variants of 531 and BBB is designed for aesthetics, mostly getting “big.”
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 03:23 PM
1

Every de-load week I turn into a complete bitch, emotionally. I'm not sure what the physiology behind it is but I noticed it a few months into 531 and now I anticipate it happening and try to acknowledge my emotions will be shit for a few days. I don't know if it's the same for you but I would at least pay attention to it and see if your mood shifts with de-load time.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 03:09 PM
1

How long have you been doing 3x5? After about three months of 5x5 I wasn't progressing. I ended up switching to 531 BBB and have been on that for almost a year. I have seen much better results with 531 than 5x5 but the 5x5 helped get form down and weight up.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 03:00 PM
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OYS WEEK 40 ABSTRACT: Tracking food helped a lot. Didn't read. Routine helping at work. Been care-taking and creating covert contracts in my marriage. Putting limits on social time. Acknowledging my avoidant behavior and actively working against it. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 157lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 292.5 BENCH PRESS: 215 DEADLIFT: 278.5 SHOULDER PRESS: 171.5 Logging food and hitting macros has helped immediately. Didn't do a good job tracking…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 02:49 PM
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Informing them of the statistics won’t do jack shit. Expecting a woman to be rational, especially about sex and children, is asking too much.
/r/TheRedPill19/02/20 01:56 PM
2

No that’s not helpful. The point of my post is points in my life that I’m fucking up, not a diary. Your feedback is worthless unless you can state specifically what you are referring to. It’s not an encapsulation of all I am it’s exclusively problem areas I’m working on.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/20 09:59 PM
2

No offense, I appreciate the feedback, but how could you determine that from a post focused solely on aspects of my life that I’m improving? Is there something that says it in my post?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/20 09:46 PM
1

OYS WEEK 39 ABSTRACT: New app for logging food, I'm way off on nutrition. Almost finished with "the book of pook." Adding structure and taking initiative with work. Adding goals to my marriage and becoming proactive in our plans. Doing better at balancing social life. Need to finish budget and inform wife. I have been going with the flow and not controlling my life, implemented goals everywhere to correct this. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 157 Workout: 531…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/20 05:34 PM
2

Blaming the world around you for your life. That’s true red pill lmao. How are you not MGTOW yet with this outlook? FYI there’s more than broken record in that book and they describe situations exactly like this.
/r/askTRP08/02/20 01:42 PM
1

Yeah it can be tough all the same. Honestly the one who loses their cool loses respect usually. I doubt you lost any respect.
/r/askTRP08/02/20 02:26 AM
19

Read “when I say no I feel guilty.” It has tools for this exact thing.
/r/askTRP08/02/20 01:50 AM
3

Yes
/r/askMRP07/02/20 01:23 AM
3

This. I like play dates and hanging out with my kids and another parent but 2 chicks and yourself is going to be boring as fuck. Better be caught up on the bachelor.
/r/askMRP07/02/20 01:22 AM
1

Thank you for the feedback. I appreciate it. I’ve been focusing so much on my career goals that I haven’t been trying to do much more than maintain in other areas. Often when I’m doing other things I’m still thinking about my work project. Overall my balancing has been shit I think. Maybe I need to add other goals for my categories and stick to them. It might help take some of the pressure off of my work. That will be less insane as my project gets off the ground but I don’t need to wait for tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/20 03:13 AM
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OYS WEEK 38 ABSTRACT: Went back to 4 workouts a week. No reading. Disorganization at work caused me to feel overwhelmed. Need to discuss budget with wife still. Too much fun social time this week and not enough balance. Suburban is fixed, need to budget better. Age: 30Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical:Height: 5'8"Weight: (need to fix scale) Workout: 531 BBB1RM:SQUAT: 290lbBENCH PRESS: 212.5lbDEADLIFT: 263.5lbSHOULDER PRESS: 169lbSplitting workouts back to 4 days a week worked a lot better. …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 07:36 PM
1

I missed that part. Jesus Christ.
/r/askMRP04/02/20 06:53 PM
23

At least it stopped the peanut butter intake for the moment lol. See if you can get her throw everything but salads at you.
/r/askMRP04/02/20 06:49 PM
1

Not at all. This is the friend that when I first tried to explain books like NMMNG he thought it was misogynistic so yeah I saw this coming.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/20 02:53 PM
1

I had switched to 2 because I’m an idiot and thought if I could split it like that then I could work in other workouts easier on Friday or Saturday. I’m going back to 4 days a week this week. It’s not worth sacrificing performance.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/20 02:51 PM
16

Interesting question. Hadn’t thought about it. Topic seems pretty huge though. Should probably get a sub dedicated to it. Maybe build it on feedback from it’s members concerning health, suggested reading, and accountability. Idk that’s just off the top of my head.
/r/askMRP31/01/20 01:45 PM
7

“How to win friends and influence people”
/r/askTRP31/01/20 12:55 PM
1

True. I would take it for what it’s worth. But I didn’t touch it for 6 months and the addiction and habit are long gone. I don’t ever have cravings or miss it. Yeah no matter what it’s really difficult. Good luck dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 09:20 PM
1

Handled the conflict okay, but ignoring that much when she's asking a dumb question can give off the impression you are being passive aggressive. Who cares if she asks what you ate? Just tell her nothing if that's the truth. Anything else is manipulation. Any reaction she has to what you did or didn't eat is overblown and that's on her not you. It's just food.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 06:30 PM
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Type in notepad
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 06:22 PM
1

Quitting vaping is a fucking monster. It can seem almost impossible I quit a year ago and now only vape off of my friends' vapes when we are hanging out drinking or something. Here's what I did: Set a realistic date you will quit completely. Acknowledge that there are two things you are quitting, the nicotine addiction and the habit. The habit is FAR more difficult to quit. Start scaling back the nicotine amount. If you are on 6, switch to 3. Once you get used to that, switch to 1. Once you are …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 06:14 PM
1

>This week, I just said "That's nice, I think you'll enjoy that." and then continuing with the conversation I was in. This definitely made me feel very uncomfortable, but I keep repeating the two points above. Early on this shit is actually pretty big, at least it was for me. Consciously breaking the conditioning and facing these retarded fears we harbor can be scary. Good job fag.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 05:54 PM
1

Sad but true. OP you need to STFU and lift. You have to work on so much shit and opening your mouth is going to counteract all the progress you make.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 05:32 PM
3

> just called her out on her shit that I know for a fact I hadn’t perused sex or initiated in over a month. That's defending. Don't do that shit. > My only other input was that I was going to go monk for the next month. Did you actually tell her this? If so, what the fuck for? She almost certainly doesn't believe you, for one. There's no reason she needed to know you were going to do this. You tried to cash in on something you were planning to do before it happened. That screams validation seeki…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 04:56 PM
2

test
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 04:17 PM
1

> called her out on her shit that I know for a fact I hadn’t perused sex or initiated in over a month. That's defending. Don't do that shit. >My only other input was that I was going to go monk for the next month. Are you implying you told her you were going to go monk? If so, what the fuck for? You are cashing in on something before you even do it and I'm going to guess she doesn't believe you for shit. There's no need to tell her your plan here. Who gives a fuck what she thinks about this. Her…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 04:09 PM
1

OYS WEEK 37 ABSTRACT: Got straps for deadlifts. No reading. Implemented to-do list at work. Wife's spending habits are weird, implementing a budget with her soon. Keeping myself from getting too involved emotionally with my friend and his wife's marital issues. Working on car still. Goals on track. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: Scale still broken. I realize it every tuesday when I write this. ​ Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 290lb BENCH PRESS: 212.5lb DEADLIF…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 03:46 PM
1

One rep max or are those your numbers for actual sets? Sucks dude. I came close to it about 6 months ago and was advised to take a week off just to be careful. That one week off sucked so I can’t imagine having to totally stop for awhile.
/r/askMRP27/01/20 01:14 AM
1

Yeah I've been making slow improvements well but I think part of it was I let time grow between sets. I had an issue with bench and I added in dips once a week and now that's up to 5 sets of 10. It helped my bench immensely. The only other issue I've had with lifts is recently I've got some muscle tension on overhead press. Part of the issue is I haven't made it to yoga as much as I want and the other part is form. If there was something else I could add to help I might but it's a new issue and …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 04:06 PM
1

I had let myself get to 3-4 minutes between sets. Now I've moved to 60 seconds.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 03:54 PM
1

OYS WEEK 35 & 36 (missed a week but it's easy when there doesn't feel like a ton to report on. I'll be more disciplined in the future) ABSTRACT: Keeping weights the same this cycle to reduce time between sets. No reading. Career has been my primary focus. Relationship going well despite stressful weekend with our children. The time I do spend with friends I stay out too late. Victimized myself over broken AC, then stopped doing that. Mission stays the same. Goals on track. Age: 30 Married, twin …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 03:11 PM
1

****forgot to post it on reddit. Posting it anyways for records sake OYS WEEK 34 ABSTRACT: Pain during shoulder press. Didn't read. Work can be overwhelming. Too passive with the wife. Disorganized at home. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: not sure, scale battery died and I need to replace it. Last was 154lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 290lb BENCH PRESS: 212.5lb DEADLIFT: 263.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 169lb Pretty sure I'm screwing up my form on shoulder press. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 12:17 AM
0

MRP exists. Just FYI.
/r/askTRP13/01/20 06:55 PM
4

I’ve seen some guys on trp who check phones out of habit so I kind of understand why you would but I personally have only ever looked through shit when I’m needy and insecure. Also you haven’t known this chick long enough to even think about kids. Read through the Tuesday OYS posts and see what happens if you let this play out long term. Maybe it was a harmless statement and maybe it wasn’t but it sounds like your gut is telling you something here and you are about to gamble the rest of your lif…
/r/askMRP11/01/20 10:43 PM
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As a long time MRP member, for the love of god do not sacrifice what you want for someone else’s wishes. Honestly most of marriage sucks and you have to have your shit REALLY together for it to pay off at all. Remember that the relationship you have now is a fantasy that will fall apart the second you say I do. The entire dynamic changes and don’t think for a second she will care that you chose her over your dreams. She will think less of you for it. You know deep down what you want so do that.
/r/askTRP09/01/20 05:05 PM
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I struggle to see a true “Chad” joining a 48 year old SAHM in a relationship. I’m sure it’s someone but it’s probably a relative 6 to his 3. Almost certainly another married dude whose relationship “is already over” and they think they found true love with each other lol.
/r/askMRP04/01/20 05:55 AM
3

all wives need a retired chef I would be embarrassed if I was her. That’s equivalent to man saying “all husbands need a wife who can change their cars oil for them.” She outed herself as dead weight.
/r/askMRP04/01/20 05:48 AM
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OYS WEEK 32 and 33 (busy two weeks so I'm just going to combine them to one post) ABSTRACT: Too much time between workout sets. Haven't read. Hard to work with family at home. Engaged in stupid arguments for no reason. Staying up too late. Goals on track. Age: 3 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 154lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 290lb BENCH PRESS: 212.5lb DEADLIFT: 263.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 169lb Workout is going well but the time between sets is too high for all workou…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/20 04:30 PM
4

Happy new year dudes. Glad I found y’all.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 02:26 AM
1

Shit dude stop beating yourself up. Build up your self esteem and stop letting every social interaction affect how you see yourself. You look fine. Average honestly. You could do a lot to help yourself though. Better clothes. A new haircut for sure. Maybe try some facial hair? Proper grooming would be a game changer. Whatever is putting people off is probably social skill related, not your physical appearance. Read “how to win friends and influence people.”
/r/askTRP22/12/19 06:27 PM
1

If you’re sending pics send me one. I’d like to understand more before I throw in my $0.02.
/r/askTRP22/12/19 05:52 PM
1

Any port in a storm.
/r/askTRP21/12/19 07:12 PM
7

This. “I haven’t peaked yet” is something I’ve heard a million times. The denial is intense.
/r/askTRP21/12/19 07:09 PM
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It’s to be expected that she responded like she did if you have never set a boundary before. She assumed you are being a butthurt child because that’s how you used to act. Leaving the situation was correct and I’ve had the same type of misunderstanding where she thinks I’m upset and my response was always “I promise I don’t care enough about this to be upset.” Keep doing what you did and it will get better with time. She has to see the change over time to believe it.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 04:15 PM
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OYS WEEK 31 ABSTRACT: Got really sick last week which affected most areas of my OYS. Missed deadlifts. Slightly disappointed by the way of the superior man. Getting better at working through work problems. Relationship is going steady. Not a lot of social time. Slept a lot. Morning routine getting better but could improve. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 154lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 285lb BENCH PRESS: 207.5lb DEADLIFT: 258.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 166.5lb Mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 08:25 PM
1

I have read it, I was just really hoping to save my friends. You’re right though. They defend their views to the death. Yeah I make friends easily but all the guys I meet right now are nice guy slaves to their wives. It’s exhausting. I’ve been considering finding a gym to learn kickboxing. Maybe I’ll make that a priority and meet some people there.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/19 02:38 PM
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Really hard to say. My marriage is going a lot better now than it ever was but all marriages really are Russian roulette. The wife has so much power it’s scary. Having kids makes it worth it but don’t ever confuse it for a fairy tale. Marriage is the price you pay so you can have kids (usually). If I had to do it over again I probably would do it still but that is 110% out of love for my children.
/r/askMRP13/12/19 06:09 AM
1

Thank you, good advice I need to remember. Maybe I need to just force myself to do something related to the project for at least an hour or so, see if I can’t think through it by working.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 03:38 PM
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OYS WEEK 30 ABSTRACT: Missed one workout last week and this week. Started Way of the Superior Man. Running into mental blocks with projects at work. Status quo week with the wife. I need to try and make new friends. Regrettably let myself be lazy after work. Goals on track. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 154lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 285lb BENCH PRESS: 207.5lb DEADLIFT: 258.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 166.5lb Missed deadlifts last week because I ended up having…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 01:15 PM
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Main page of group Three dots on top right Community info You’re welcome Edit: Faggot
/r/askMRP09/12/19 10:45 PM
1

It’s clunky, awkward to use, takes time to make entries. At first it’s okay but ultimately it becomes such a chore I end up not using it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/19 01:28 PM
3

All the more reason to do it.
/r/askMRP06/12/19 10:37 PM
5

Made my day. Great work lol.
/r/askMRP05/12/19 07:54 PM
1

Good point. Overthinking is often a habit of mine. I appreciate the perspective.
/r/askMRP05/12/19 07:11 PM
1

Solid advice. Correct I haven’t read that yet so I’ll add it as my next book. Thanks dude.
/r/askMRP05/12/19 06:47 PM
1

Yeah it is kind of unclear, my bad. If it seems like she’s quasi initiating and it’s evident it’s just because she feels obligated for whatever reason, I’ll turn it down. The only reason I won’t turn down sex is if she’s clearly trying to be more sexual with me and it’s behavior I would rather capture. Hopefully that makes more sense.
/r/askMRP05/12/19 06:36 PM
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I’ve been trying to see it from my own view lately. Do I want sex? Okay. Do I not? If it’s duty sex I’ll decline. If she’s going out of her way to try and initiate sex, even if it’s just because she’s trying to please me, I’ll go along because I don’t want to discourage that behavior.
/r/askMRP05/12/19 06:27 PM
8

Read “when I say no I feel guilty.”
/r/askTRP05/12/19 05:08 AM
1

Don’t focus on negative thoughts. Continue your self improvement but don’t seek to remove this aspect of yourself entirely. When you aren’t beating yourself into depression it can be really useful to be so socially aware. You will pick up on a lot and can use it to exert more control of yourself in social settings.
/r/askTRP05/12/19 04:50 AM
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Two options. 1) Quit being a bitch 2) don’t go to the wedding since you clearly don’t want to go. Either way take control of yourself and don’t let emotions run your life like you’re a toddler.
/r/askTRP05/12/19 04:39 AM
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This is cute as fuck
/r/askTRP05/12/19 03:27 AM
2

Badass I’ll check it out thanks dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 03:19 PM
1

A little bit. Why would you care if her house is dirty if you aren’t there? I would stop at “yeah I’m not staying here anymore unless it’s been cleaned.” Just be careful she doesn’t start trying to stay at your house every day after that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 03:04 PM
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OYS WEEK 29 ABSTRACT: Increasing protein. Still on 48 laws of power. Didn't work much. Set boundaries with friends and wife while spending time with them. Need to keep routine on off times. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 154lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 285lb BENCH PRESS: 207.5lb DEADLIFT: 258.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 166.5lb Increasing protein. Trying to be consistent with breakfast. Still not logging food but I am trying to be very mindful of it right now. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 03:01 PM
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>So the question is how do you ask someone to do something when they know it’s something your previously struggled with? Don't DEER. DARE. I personally would laugh, agree with whatever she's saying, and then say "would you like some help cleaning?" and get it done. The only reason I'm saying that is you mentioned it's her house, not yours. If it's your house you clean the shit if you want it clean.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 02:23 PM
2

I like your OYS format. Might steal some ideas from it for the new year.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 02:18 PM
3

Shower beers after a workout are the best.
/r/askTRP01/12/19 07:26 PM
3

You are way too concerned with what she’s doing and how she responds. It controls your entire life. Read the entire sidebar (again if you already have) and focus on WISNIFG. Also your reactions are shit. Stop reacting. She’s a child who can go be moody in another room if she wants. Her presence should have no bearing on your emotional state.
/r/askMRP01/12/19 06:53 PM
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Law 16: Use absence to increase strength and honor. The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. - the 48 laws of power I personally don’t use Facebook anymore. Found that it added nothing to my life. I use Instagram a lot though and enjoy it. It’s only use is fun for me. If it wasn’t I wouldn’t be on it either.
/r/askTRP30/11/19 03:13 PM
3

Whole body. Let it recover at least once a week. You will find the energy you bring to the following workout is much higher.
/r/askTRP29/11/19 11:36 PM
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I know there’s a lot of opinions and you are going to catch shit from some and praise from others but I really feel the need to contribute here. Muscles rebuild during rest dude. Working out every day probably won’t produce the best results. Seriously consider spacing it out a little bit and adding rest days.
/r/askTRP29/11/19 06:21 AM
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Made my week dude. Brilliant.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/19 10:35 PM
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OYS WEEK 28 ABSTRACT: Kept squats at the same weight for the new cycle. Finally started reading again. Steady career progress. Pushed for sex after wife rejected. Not thinking ahead in conversations with people anymore. Letting friend control social dynamics too much. Let myself be lazy on a day off and regretted it. Keeping the new mission for now. Almost ready to replace goals for new ones. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 154lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/19 12:37 AM
1

Solid advice dude. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/19 01:52 PM
1

Sometimes I’m going to be home and sometimes I’ve had to cancel plans. It depends. I promise it’s not that she has a social life. I encourage her to have friends and go out. Watching my kids right now is work. I love them but it’s exhausting. I can get burnt out on dealing with them sometimes after I’ve had them by myself a lot. I’d rather not get to that point so I made the decision that she can’t unilaterally decide she’s going to ditch me with all the work repeatedly without even notifying me…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/19 10:55 PM
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The absolute state of this fucking sub. As a dude who wants to see you and all guys succeed, for the love of god read the sidebar. Head over to mrp and see what your current theory gets you after being with someone for years. It’s okay that you admit you are needy. Fix that shit yourself. Do not look to someone else to bandaid your issues. Go read “models” immediately to better understand and deal with your issue. It will help I promise. Edit: recommended “the subtle art of not giving a fuck” wh…
/r/TheRedPill24/11/19 09:31 PM
9

Negotiations and neediness. What a turn on.
/r/TheRedPill24/11/19 08:20 PM
7

Taking a guess here, maybe something like a husband making enough money that he can provide and protect his wife and children. Or a guy who handles confrontations well keeping her from having to engage in a confrontation. I could be way off but this is kind of how I interpreted it.
/r/TheRedPill24/11/19 08:19 PM
1

They deserve to learn but Jesus what good is being here if they don’t go through the individual learning process? Newbies reading the sidebar and lurking more before joining in discussion would benefit the community greatly.
/r/askTRP24/11/19 08:05 PM
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The fuck happened to this group...
/r/askTRP24/11/19 05:45 PM
1

Genuinely learn to love yourself. It may seem weird and can take awhile especially if you have low self esteem but it’s necessary.
/r/askTRP22/11/19 05:18 PM
2

Should have stopped at “no thanks.”
/r/askTRP22/11/19 05:12 PM
2

“Wife asks why I’m all pissed off. I told her...” Yeah you got butt hurt and then tried to defend that you were justified in being butt hurt. Get to a point where you don’t care. Legitimately. Your wife trying to nag you is equivalent to a toddler trying to nag you. I’ve gotten to a point now where she has practically zero control over my emotions. The rare times now that she starts being shitty or taking her frustrations out on me I just walk away from her and go do something more interesting. …
/r/askMRP22/11/19 01:28 PM
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By that logic then we should agree with everything the APA puts out so that we legitimize them and people won’t stigmatize as often? They are playing with fire by changing definitions and choosing what’s a disorder and what isn’t without any objective measurement. Blindly supporting a diagnostic manual put out by the organization that believes masculinity is toxic and just decided gender is now a construct enabling a population with 40% risk of suicide to lean into their apparent mental illness …
/r/askTRP21/11/19 07:02 PM
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Why would he have remorse for being honest and forthcoming about himself regardless of the consequences? He made it clear what he wants and it’s not “how it’s supposed to work” as the chick thought. Why should he feel bad for anything that he did here?
/r/TheRedPill20/11/19 11:23 PM
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It used to be. The DSM IV was the last stronghold of sanity for psychology before politics made its way in. It’s like we are watching the Rosenhan experiment played out on a massive and influential stage. To be clear I’m not saying psychology has zero merit but aspects of the new direction it’s been taken in are going to earn it the rightful label of pseudo-science.
/r/askTRP20/11/19 09:29 PM
1

OYS WEEK 27 ABSTRACT: Occasionally missing leg day. Didn't read. Mental road blocks at work tend to disrupt my life. Wife shit testing or obliviously taking advantage of me, put a stop to it. Need more discipline overall, personal life and tasks as well. Chose a mission to try, will continue to work and improve it. Goals are on track. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 154lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 285lb BENCH PRESS: 202.5lb DEADLIFT: 253.5lb SHOULDER PRESS…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 04:11 PM
0

This
/r/askTRP20/11/19 01:05 PM
3

Read When I Say No I Feel Guilty. Helps with this exact problem.
/r/askTRP18/11/19 04:06 PM
2

If it’s a deal breaker then end it. If it’s something you think she struggles with and genuinely wants to quit then I’d say to factor that in to your decision making. People aren’t perfect and make mistakes. Does it sound like she doesn’t give a shit and won’t quit or is she really trying to quit? In the end though you have to decide for yourself. I personally would at least stick around a little bit to see what happens.
/r/askMRP18/11/19 04:22 AM
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Jesus dude. Read the sidebar. I’m certain you haven’t. You’ve got a ton of work to do. I see a needy lying coward whose not in control of his life. As for this situation yeah just own the mistake and she’ll come around probably. It’s a dumb mistake but probably on par with her catching you watching porn when you’ve led her to believe you don’t even masturbate except when she’s out of town and you only use your wedding photo. This is probably the least of your relationships issues if I were to gu…
/r/askMRP18/11/19 04:02 AM
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Not care and move on with your life. She can be retarded on her own time.
/r/askTRP16/11/19 06:10 PM
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Do you want to wear the damn thing or not? Is it important to you or not? These aren’t questions we, nor your wife, answer. Decide what is right to you that’s what you do. You don’t have to justify your actions beyond that.
/r/askMRP14/11/19 08:53 PM
7

Jesus Christ. Came here to give OP shit but you already waterboarded him with reality. Good stuff.
/r/askMRP14/11/19 05:19 PM
1

Sounds like you need to handle the rest of life better and not accept being down and stressed out as constants.
/r/askTRP14/11/19 04:20 PM
1

OYS WEEK 26 ABSTRACT: Diet and water intake going better. Read some for the first time in awhile. Wife might have stopped shit testing me. Social anxiety gone. Not as tired this week. My mission was actually goals, need to find a mission. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 154lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 285lb BENCH PRESS: 202.5lb DEADLIFT: 253.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 164lb Eating more, focusing on protein, drinking water. Making a difference in how I feel which …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 03:19 PM
4

Yoga rocks
/r/askTRP14/11/19 01:49 AM
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Remove female opinion from your decision making and see where you land.
/r/askTRP14/11/19 01:48 AM
1

“Lol that sucks. “
/r/askTRP12/11/19 08:27 PM
4

This comment comes entirely from her frame. What she wants. What she does. What she might do. Stop that and build your frame. You should be looking at it from the perspective of “do I want to stay with her? Does she deserve me? Is this marriage working for me?” The answer to an unfaithful spouse will be obvious to these questions but you will be looking at the situation based on yourself not her. I’ve been where you are. The unicorn soul mate bullshit really rips your heart out when they treat y…
/r/askMRP11/11/19 06:36 PM
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“Questioning her mental health” Yeah but AWALT. Seriously I don’t know of an affair where the wife kept her shit together. Everyone will question what the fuck snapped in her. They become literally obsessed with someone new. I have a half sister that is a life long drug addict. She is manipulative, cruel, and legitimately insane most of the time. Anyone that knows an addict knows the type. They aren’t even human once you see through the human like mask they wear. A wife whose been deprived of de…
/r/askMRP11/11/19 05:06 PM
1

My therapist says that about me all the time. It’s better now but it takes work to stay like this. Just keep at it. Life’s way more fun when you are in control and chill.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 02:53 AM
2

Keep reading. I struggled with anger a lot. Honestly all emotions had a hold of me. I was at the whim of whatever happened or what anyone said or did. Every time that someone does something that influences you then you are submitting to them. You aren’t in control, you aren’t the alpha, you are, as someone else called me once, a paper tiger. A reactionary. If the world around you is a tribe someone else out ranks you in that tribe. Be the chief. The leader. The person who isn’t phased by others …
/r/askMRP08/11/19 02:34 AM
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OYS WEEK 25 ABSTRACT: Nutrition is shit and I feel it. Switching to audio books. Job is going well. Relationship is good but wife is depressed. Seeing improvements in social life. Personally exhausted and off my game. Goals are on track. Age:30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 152lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 285lb BENCH PRESS: 202.5lb DEADLIFT: 253.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 164lb Not eating right. Not drinking enough water. Feeling the effects in my workouts and it sucks…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 08:56 PM
1

It’s okay to acknowledge you struggle with laziness. I recommend re reading (assuming you read it already) mindful attraction plan. That one helped me with laziness and motivation. Also read “the subtle art of not giving a fuck” because it teaches you how to find something to care about enough to pursue.
/r/askMRP04/11/19 06:40 PM
11

Oh okay then “happy wife happy life.” Good luck
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/19 06:34 PM
3

There’s a sidebar. I’d try that.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/19 06:30 PM
1

I like that. I need to do this. Sometimes I have a hard time getting my head ready to accept new information and learn. Ill pick up my books and try but I can’t focus.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 03:17 PM
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OYS WEEK 24 ABSTRACT: Deload week and missed two workouts. Didn't read. Small things are sliding at work. I'm accidentally mean to my wife. Sang karaoke with no social anxiety. Actually making progress in my personal to do list. Goals are going great. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 152lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 285lb BENCH PRESS: 202.5lb DEADLIFT: 253.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 164lb Deload week last week, did squats and bench but missed OHP and deadlifts beca…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 02:44 PM
11

I couldn’t imagine caring. If they are legitimately good at hunting I congratulate them because it’s awesome they accomplished something they are passionate about. I, however, don’t give a shit about hunting so my ego doesn’t stem from that. Give me an animal and I’ll shoot it in the skull but I’m not wasting my whole weekend looking for it. Just not my thing.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/19 03:03 AM
3

Helps a lot if it’s a good therapist. I’ve had a shitty one and a great one. Still go to the great one. As far as people saying that marriage counseling together doesn’t work it’s highly dependent on the therapist and how much you work on yourself. Taking my wife to therapy for a long time actually helped her tackle her low self confidence issues and baggage from her fucked up childhood. It’s made the rest of my progress smoother and she’s been more readily receptive to the changes.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 03:43 PM
6

Or “no.”
/r/askMRP24/10/19 02:10 AM
3

WISNIFG
/r/askMRP24/10/19 02:07 AM
1

I struggle with it too quite frequently. It’s been part of my main goals for quite some time. What helped me the most was a holistic increase in how much I value myself. The more I knock off and do the more confidence I have. I feel happier knowing my self confidence comes from me and my own judgement. It’s harder to take away and the rest of the world has little impact on how I see myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 09:25 PM
1

That’s good to hear. Also check your reasoning here: because it will just come across... Who cares how you come across. Don’t try to control that shit. Intent will cut through always.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 08:55 PM
1

If you need it then make time for a therapist. I saw mine weekly for a long time and then twice a month and now I’m currently on a hiatus and just go in when I have episodes I need help with. This place is great but some things do need to be addressed with professional help.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 05:20 PM
1

Family plans suck always but it's much worse when it's my wife's family and not even mine. I got roped into going to Washington DC recently and I initially cancelled during a great pathetic meltdown. I have since changed my tone about it and if I didn't want to go I just wouldn't go but instead I'm going and not caring what everyone else is doing. I'm just going to enjoy getting to travel for a bit which I haven't done in over a year now. Anyone that wants to join me where I'm going can but I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 02:41 PM
3

If you don't want to be friends with this dude, don't. There are a lot of people out there and you don't have to be friends with your wife's ex if you don't want to just to prove to yourself it doesn't bother you anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 02:34 PM
1

OYS WEEK 23 ABSTRACT: Missed deadlifts. Read a few things but didn't focus on anything. Hard to stay motivated at work. Sex decrease over the last week. Social anxiety basically gone, still don't really want new friends I think. Need to bring discipline to all areas of my life. Goals on track. Age: 30 Married, twin 3 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 150lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 280lb BENCH PRESS: 197.5lb DEADLIFT: 248.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 161.5lb Missed dead lifts on the 531 wee…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 02:20 PM
7

Turn WiFi off and you’re golden.
/r/TheRedPill20/10/19 06:47 PM
8

I don’t know, kind of sounds like a shit test from him.
/r/TheRedPill17/10/19 01:24 PM
49

I went through this. For me it was the fact that I didn’t need sex as validation anymore. Killed my sex drive because most of it was just trying to get that validation. Comes back over time only different because you will be wanting sex as part of your real sexuality, not your self esteem.
/r/askMRP16/10/19 02:16 PM
3

My edit was specifically referring to the guys who seem to think that because a few crazies in the 90s did something insane that there’s a remotely decent chance the kid isn’t mine.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/19 10:31 PM
3

Bail on her. Fuck off of married red pill because you aren’t married. Start reading and stop posting on the internet.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 07:54 PM
23

My kids were made in a lab. Only way they aren’t mine is if the doctors screwed up and gave us someone else’s. So glad I don’t have to fear this shit. Edit: guys it’s not the fucking 90s anymore. Yeah I get that anything can happen but the odds of getting struck by lightning are higher than this happening today. I’d bet my kids are my own 1000 times more than someone else’s from a traditional pregnancy.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/19 06:24 PM
2

OYS WEEK 22 ABSTRACT: Twins turned 3. Workout is going great, need to drink more water. Didn't read, didn't try to. Growing pains at work are being approached carefully with my father. Holding frame with the wife, works well, leads to occasionally developing oneitis for her. Social butterfly this week but didn't know how to handle meeting people I might have already met. Life didn't stress me out even when in situations that would have given me anxiety before. My time management sucks. Missions …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 12:51 PM
1

Did you start with just the bar and add 5 pounds every workout or did you start higher?
/r/askMRP12/10/19 01:59 AM
1

5 x 5 until you stall, usually happens after 3 months or so. Then switch to 531 if that’s what you want to do next. Also follow the programs as they are intended to be run. The rest days are important.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 08:03 PM
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whenever there is argument about lack of sex If you are arguing with her about sex and not just STFU when she denies you then you are absolutely NOT your “alpha” self again.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 12:53 AM
2

There’s a difference between caring and caretaking. It’s good to be there for her but retarded to be butt-hurt if she doesn’t do or say what you want. It’s her issue so she has to deal with it.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 07:09 PM
4

It’s towels dude. Who gives a shit. Walk over to wherever you keep the towel inventory and drape yourself in like 7 or 8. She will laugh most likely and you will be cozy as fuck.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 04:25 PM
1

OYS WEEK 21 ABSTRACT: Missed a workout or two (leg days). Didn't read again. Career goals are coming together, on track for goal. Positive rock at home reflecting well in my relationship. Allergy attack frustrated me and I let it show. I re-use the same phrases when talking to people. I learned to cope and survive mental breakdowns. Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 150lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 280lb BENCH PRESS: 197.5lb DEADLIFT: 248.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 04:02 PM
4

I’m not sure but her morals may be dubious... Just a hunch but hey, maybe you really are special.
/r/askMRP08/10/19 01:09 AM
1

Thanks dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/19 01:56 PM
2

I did read it and saved it to my notes to re-read and share. I had to make a decision to keep her or leave her and in both of those decisions I was determined I would overcome it and move on. In my scenario, I kicked her out, found my balls, and she pushed hard to come back and work on our marriage. So I decided to try and see if it works or not. I found this group from a friend and got to work on myself. Gym, reading, applying that, therapy weekly for both myself and her (sometimes just for one…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/19 01:51 PM
1

Me 1.5 years ago: needy. Basically co-dependent. Quintessential nice guy. Lost my mind when my wife told me she wanted a divorce (there’s a long story but bullet points are she met someone, week later on my birthday told me she wanted a divorce and that she never loved me, made my life hell for a month until I found out the truth and then it blew up and over time we decided to attempt to work through it). I didn’t work out ever. Ate like garbage. Let my wife treat me however she wanted and I was…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/19 12:39 PM
1

OYS WEEK 20 ABSTRACT: Feeling energized after deload week in my workout. Didn't read anything. Motivated at work and working on the plan for my financial goal. Wife initiates sex and we are doing better. Trying to help a friend getting a divorce with resources from here. Had a mental breakdown and boxed for 2 hours. Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 150lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 280lb BENCH PRESS: 197.5lb DEADLIFT: 248.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 161.5lb Deload we…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 07:17 PM
2

I agree about models. Fantastic read that helped me a ton.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 12:41 PM
6

Gave two options. Then a yes no option. Not sure what points to what.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 10:03 PM
7

Fuck his wife
/r/askMRP26/09/19 03:23 PM
2

You rock thank you. I’ll start using this immediately. I never get burnt out of lifting, it helps my mood a lot and I love how I feel when I finish it. Logging food just sucks but I’d rather my efforts be maximized.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 12:32 PM
1

I’ll go back to logging my food every day. It got old and I was feeling burnt out altogether so I’ve been just eating “cleaner” but not tracking macros specifically. I’ll add this to my list thanks dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 12:19 PM
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OYS WEEK 19 ABSTRACT: Not seeing aesthetic results like I want from my workout. More energized at work, setting financial goals and organizing more. Pulling away from wife some while she's been on her period has shown positive results. Friends are getting divorced, I'm forced to accept the redpill and face my denial of it. I'm not able to make a fucking phone call. Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 148lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 275lb BENCH PRESS: 192.5lb D…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 01:24 PM
8

The clothes thing is fucking hilarious. I can’t imagine caring about something like this. How bored are you? Get a hobby or something dude and just laugh this shit off.
/r/askMRP23/09/19 03:08 PM
1

which is it One and then the other. The last encounter happened late in the week. I didn't want to have sex because she had already told me no earlier that evening. I don't like the precedent of her calling the shots and I'm just at her whim. I was also legitimately tired and was okay just going to sleep. Yeah solid advice. I'm not sure why I slipped back into that needy mentality. I'm coming out of it again I think. Need to get back to it like you said: game her, initiate, and move on either wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/19 01:18 PM
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Needed this today. Thanks dude.
/r/TheRedPill23/09/19 01:07 PM
1

OYS WEEK 18 ABSTRACT: Wish I was seeing more progress in my workout. Reading has picked up. Career is going slow and not progressing. Wife refusing sex, she got jealous. Applying spinning plates to friendships. Parents backing out of Washington DC over a fake cancer story. Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 149lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 275lb BENCH PRESS: 192.5lb DEADLIFT: 238.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 159lb Workout going okay. I wish I was seeing more progress i…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 01:42 PM
1

OYS WEEK 17 ABSTRACT: Additional workouts are difficult to schedule. Didn't read this week. Finding myself complacent at work. Better week with the wife. More social and I need to find a new metric for measuring independence socially. Let myself be lazy and fell behind. Mission stays the same. Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 148lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 275lb BENCH PRESS: 192.5lb DEADLIFT: 238.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 159lb Going strong. Extra workouts are e…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 06:17 PM
1

You have something important to you to do. Do that. Her social skills are her own shit to deal with.
/r/askMRP09/09/19 05:45 PM
1

I have heard differently about divorces where kids are involved. Generally single dads are seen as victims to shitty wives and single moms aren’t seen as special. At least this is what I’ve heard. Think there is any validity to it or is that all bullshit?
/r/askMRP08/09/19 11:10 PM
-1

What’s a tinderella? All things I want I am working towards. I accept that some stuff will take some time. Generally I am what’s holding myself back but I do my best to overcome and I don’t quit.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 09:57 PM
1

Solid advice. Thanks, for real. Think I’ll make sure she knows I’ve cancelled for sure. I don’t want to go and it would be a good chance for me to practice some assertion.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 09:09 PM
1

Shit. Absolutely true. So I should definitely stick to me cancelling going on the trip then. That’s probably the best choice since I don’t want to go anyways.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 07:09 PM
1

What I do is I read the digital versions of my ipad so I can highlight parts as I read it. Then it's really easy to use it as a reference and to go back through it later without having to read every word again. It also helps me pay more attention to it. Do it how you want but if you are just at the beginning of reading then this could be something you can implement now.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 04:23 PM
1

I agree on texting but we both text throughout the day lighthearted and it's difficult to just kill it off entirely. Maybe I can try switching if there is anything real to talk about to phone calls? It is very hard to let go of it. I've been trying hard to operate entirely on my own and be independent and self confident through nothing but my own self esteem and progress. I feel like I do well operating on my own a lot of the time but then sometimes I just slide back into my old ways. It's frust…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 04:11 PM
2

The most constructive thing I can tell you right now is to finish a fucking book. Start with the top of your list, dedicate half an hour a day and finish reading them. You have no foundation without it. Also, obviously STFU and stop arguing (which I know firsthand is a lot easier said than done, I'm week 16 and still fuck up on this one).
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 02:04 PM
1

OYS WEEK 16 ABSTRACT: Weights increased for 531 BBB again and a new cycle has started. Adding in more exercises during the week. Still reading WISNIFG. No progress either direction in career. Shit week with the wife, messed up and lost respect. Feeling anti-social this week but I usually feel this way during deload weeks. Knocking out some projects that have been on my to-do list for a long time but avoiding others. Mission stays the same. Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys Physical: Height: …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 01:56 PM
1

OYS WEEK 15 ABSTRACT: Workout is going great. Reading isn't. Career is steady and my relationship with my father is now strained. My wife and I have been exhausted and not as romantic (sex still exists, just bailed on a romantic date idea for a group date). Feeling independent, emotionally stable, and confident with friends. I'm exhausted and letting little projects go uncompleted. Almost met my current goals so I need to pick new ones. ​ Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys Physical: Height: 5…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 02:29 PM
1

I answered the metaphor within the metaphor. Do you need me to translate it for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/19 01:48 PM
4

Don’t care what he does. If it were me I would want to be told about the aquifer. I’m not fucking Amish. I don’t need life to be unnecessarily difficult for it to be meaningful. I can find something else to put my efforts towards besides walking 10 miles a day.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/19 03:37 PM
1

OYS WEEK 14 Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 150lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 270lb BENCH PRESS: 187.5lb DEADLIFT:233.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 156.5lb Feeling much better. Began reducing the amount of warm up sets I do because I found that I don't perform the core workout as well if I do. Instead I'm adding in another set for BBB. This has been going well especially on this week which is my heaviest one. Reading: WISNIFG. Helped me immensely. I can see a shift in…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 02:26 PM
2

OYS WEEK 13 ​ Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys ​ Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 149lb ​ Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 270lb BENCH PRESS: 187.5lb DEADLIFT:233.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 156.5lb Abs feeling better. Feels awesome to be back in my workout again. Having a hard time working in my multiple workouts I want to do though. I need to do weights in the morning and auxiliary stuff like dips, boxing, and (light) ab workouts after work. Doing them one after the other is basically impossible physic…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 02:38 PM
1

“My scouting responsibilities stress me out sometimes and that makes me into a whiny bitch” No you’re just being one if you let shit control you like that.
/r/askMRP12/08/19 01:03 PM
3

Idk man, probably should have just laughed it off when she slapped you. Engaging her is always going to be a lose lose scenario. Also, as someone who has dealt with a lot of pent up aggression and anger, until you deal with some of it I would be careful drinking too much. That’s when I have had my breakdowns before. Now that I’ve worked through more it’s not really an issue, but for awhile I had to quit altogether.
/r/askMRP12/08/19 12:56 PM
1

OYS WEEK 12 ​ Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys ​ Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 146lb ​ Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 270lb BENCH PRESS: 187.5lb DEADLIFT:233.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 156.5lb Took last week off thanks to my abs. Was going to do a deload week this week but after a week off my abs were feeling much better so I restarted the last cycle and kept all weights the same. This will probably be an easier cycle for me but I figured that may not be too bad of an idea since I injured myself re…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 01:01 PM
1

"you should be grateful you get anything from me" There's a lot going on here and my take won't be as holistic of your situation as some others have been but this statement here pretty much shows why she doesn't like you being so sexual. She probably views you as creepy because she thinks her value is higher than yours. I could be wrong, but that seems to be a pattern I've seen and read about.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 07:44 PM
5

Agreed, my bench can go up. My press is legitimately maxed out and I had to not increase weight last cycle because I could barely do it. My bench felt way too easy this cycle so my numbers are definitely off. Same issue with squats. Of course now the most fun week I don’t get to do thanks to my fucking abs.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 02:52 PM
3

OYS WEEK 11 Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys ​ Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 147lb ​ Workout: 1RM: SQUAT: 270lb BENCH PRESS: 187.5lb DEADLIFT:233.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 156.5lb Last week I decided to do more AB workouts in my routine. Felt good, kind of sore. Then yesterday, I fucked up HARD. I finished squats and grabbed a 45lb weight for sit-ups. Did one sit-up and felt sharp shooting pain in my abs. Dropped the weight, pain persisted. Easily level 7 pain for at least 2 hours. Talked to a n…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 01:10 PM
1

Yeah it’s one of the reasons I’ve decided to re-read. It’s been about a year since I read that one and I could use it again.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 06:04 PM
1

I think hiding it was stupid, and I told her as such. Yeah this week was full of mistakes. Embarrassing ones. I’ll purchase WISNIFG today. I need to re-evaluate my friendships, but one of the issues I’m having is letting go. I want to be more independent but it’s difficult and sometimes I feel like a failure if a relationship goes poorly. And before you say it, I know, I’ll start WISNIFG today lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 05:59 PM
1

I’m at 14% body fat. I’m “skinny” in terms of having clearly defined muscle but I’m definitely not a skeleton anymore. I’ll make it my next read. Haven’t actually gotten to that one yet but I’ll hit it before I reread the others.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 01:46 PM
1

OYS WEEK 10 ​ Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys ​ Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 147lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 270lb BENCH PRESS: 187.5lb DEADLIFT:233.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 156.5lb This week I decided to add in more to my workouts, in particular I am going to be hitting abs more and my punching bag. 5 sets of 10 situps while holding a 45lb plate will be mondays and thursdays. Punching bag routine tuesdays and fridays. I've been reluctant to add anything because I'm worried it will affect …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 01:01 PM
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Delayed post this week. Had my charger go out for my laptop so had to get that resolved first. Hate phone posting. ​ OYS WEEK 9 ​ Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys ​ Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 147lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 270lb BENCH PRESS: 187.5lb DEADLIFT:233.5lb SHOULDER PRESS: 156.5lb Bitch week is over thank god. New cycle started and I can immediately see the difference in my outlook. I need to find a way to keep up the testosterone and energy during deload weeks. ​ Reading: …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/19 07:44 PM
1

That makes sense. Yeah I still flirt and when she initiates I always accept. I get what you are saying about the number of times. I enjoy it just happening naturally and not to satisfy some metric. Thanks dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 06:13 PM
1

This sounds 100% right. Comforting to hear actually. Any tips on adjusting? Or will it naturally occur? Should I keep initiating and push through it?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 05:21 PM
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OYS WEEK 8 ​ Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys ​ Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 147lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 265LB; BENCH; 182.5LB; DEAD LIFT: 228.5LB; SHOULDER PRESS: 156.5LB Drinking water like crazy, it has helped. I got a water bottle on amazon that holds a gallon so I can just keep it with me all day which has been difficult previously because I'm always on the road. In deload week now so numbers will increase next week except for shoulder press. I struggled really hard with it an…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 02:29 PM
2

I recommend reading “Models.” Might help balance some stuff for you, it did for me. Also I don’t know about you but I don’t want to have to put on a show my whole life in order to manipulate someone to what I want. I want to be the best version of myself but still actually be myself, not someone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/19 10:01 PM
2

“I didn’t break frame once” The implication here is that you had it at some point. I’m not an expert, but I can tell from your whole post you are acting the part and almost nothing you said to her was genuine. It was all an act to elicit responses. What I got from it was a needy dude who is trying to fix her bullshit with stuff he read but missed the real point of. If I’m off base maybe some veterans here can call me on it. But this is what I took away from the scenario.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/19 09:47 PM
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OYS WEEK 7 ​ Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys ​ Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 149lb Workout:531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 265LB; BENCH; 182.5LB; DEAD LIFT: 228.5LB; SHOULDER PRESS: 156.5LB Last week I fucked up by letting myself get too busy and I missed both squats and dead lifts. Feel guilty as hell but I got my squats in yesterday and sure as shit won't miss dead lifts Thursday. A friend of mine told me she really wants me to start going to yoga with her so last week I went for the first time. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 12:56 PM
1

Shit. Yeah you’re probably right...
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 12:27 PM
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OYS WEEK 6 ​ Age:30 Married, twin 2 year old boys ​ Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 146lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: SQUAT: 265LB; BENCH; 182.5LB; DEAD LIFT: 228.5LB; SHOULDER PRESS: 156.5LB Worked a really long day on Monday so I ended up missing my squats workout. Feel guilty about it so I might do it Friday after shoulder press. I haven't missed a workout since I started in January and it would be shitty to fail now. Water intake still sucks. ​ Reading: Models ​ Career: Potential for expansion soon…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 01:43 PM
1

Yeah, you’re absolutely right. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 07:38 PM
1

OYS WEEK 5 ​ Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys ​ Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 148lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: Squat:265lb; Bench: 182.5lb; Deadlift: 228.5lb; Shoulder Press: 156.5lb Deload week is over thank god. I don't know what it is about those weeks but I feel particularly shitty about myself during them. Didn't increase weight on squats this round. I'm not happy with my knee pain and I think I need to keep the weight the same while I work on taking care of it. I'm allowing myself to vape…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 02:08 PM
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OYS WEEK 4 ​ Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys ​ Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 145lb Workout: 531 BBB 1RM: Squat: 265lb; Bench: 180lb; Deadlift: 226lb; Shoulder Press: 154lb De-load week, always feel a little more like a bitch during these weeks, but physically I need it. I have NOT been drinking enough water. If anyone has a solution for keeping water with you all day that isn't a shitload of 17oz water bottles that would be awesome. I feel deflated this week and I know it's because I have…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/19 12:40 PM
1

I’ll add it to my daily routine, good idea. Yeah I’ve needed to get a physical, I’ll make it a priority. I have never had an issue with it before but it would be good to rule it out. Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 02:34 PM
1

I never cry. It’s completely out of character for me. I get mad sometimes or frustrated but nothing like this. It felt like I was possessed, it was super embarrassing. Just need to keep working through it I guess, re-read and try to acknowledge my actual feelings. Then express them. Shits rough.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 02:28 PM
1

I thought I was a lot better at it. I have improved a lot and don’t request what I want, I just tell her what I need and do it. Its gone well. This incident was something I just didn’t see coming. I had no idea I even had those feelings. It’s frustrating.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 02:27 PM
1

Need to re-read NMMNG. I’ll add when I say no I feel guilty. Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 02:24 PM
1

OYS WEEK 3 ​ AGE: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys ​ Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight:147lb Workout:531 BBB 1RM: Squat: 265lb; Bench: 180lb; Dead lift: 226lb; Shoulder Press: 154lb Workout is on the third week of the 4 week cycle. Going well, super tired afterwards but overall feeling really good about my progress. This is one of the first weeks where I can really see the results in my chest which has been a problem area. ​ Reading: Currently on models. Not able to read every day but making steady …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 09:59 PM
1

Insightful and motivating. Thanks dude, seriously helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 07:09 PM
1

Thanks for the help. I’ll try to knock it up a notch. I try my best. It’s not so bad if they have their routine but with the wife graduating and vacations they haven’t had it so they are just little monsters. Cute monsters but they test our patience nonstop.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 06:09 PM
1

Is it still midlife crisis if it was something I used to do? It was a huge part of my life that I pretty much stopped doing after I got married. Not arguing with you, just curious. I don’t want to fall into some shitty coping mechanism. I genuinely am trying to engage with life again and I thought maybe my old hobbies would be a good place to start.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 05:52 PM
1

Yeah the risk is why I stopped in the first place. But what’s life if you don’t live it right? If I can find a liter bike for about $5k I may do it. Wife will be pissed I spent so much but oh well. We can probably afford it okay if I save up another month or so.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 05:05 PM
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OYS WEEK 2 ​ AGE: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys ​ Physical: height: 5'8" Weight: 146lb Workout 531 BBB 1RM: Squat: 265lb; Bench: 180lb; Dead lift: 226lb; Shoulder Press: 154lb Started logging food and water again this morning. Didn't fix my problems from last week, still not drinking enough water or eating the right food but I am back to it now. Having kind of a weird identity crisis right now because for the first time in a long time I'm not depressed or codependent. Unfortunately that means…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 02:53 PM
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I'd also like to clarify, my social skills with smaller groups are more than proficient. If it's a small group I am usually the more popular one. People seek me out to hang out and talk. They engage with me more than other people. I do a lot with sales at work and it lends itself really well to that. It's kind of the driving reason behind most of my success at work. I am friends with all of my clients and have been for years. Difficult clients that we were about to just dump end up loving me and…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/19 06:48 PM
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Nmmng is what started my self improvement journey. I love it and will probably reread it first once I get through some others I haven’t been able to read yet. I read on iPad so I can highlight and go back through too. I try to apply them, and it helps, but it’s a constant process right now of reminding myself to use what I’ve learned. Maybe it will be second nature at some point. I try my hardest to get calories. It’s why I usually track them so rigorously. I’m thinking of supplementing calories…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/19 06:36 PM
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Accurate, and helpful. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/19 06:31 PM
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OYS WEEK 1 ​ Age: 30 Married, twin 2 year old boys. ​ Physical: Height: 5'8" Weight: 146lb Workout: 531 BBB. This week is the start of my third four week cycle on 531. Started lifting in January with 5x5. 1RM: Squat: 265lb; Bench: 180lb; Dead lift: 226lb; Shoulder Press: 154lb Not drinking enough water or eating breakfast. Haven't logged anything in myfitnesspal in several days. Feel more fatigued from workouts than normal and I know its my diet. I get sick of having to log stuff in it all day s…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/19 05:42 PM
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IVF for me so this isn’t a fear of mine thank god, or I’d get a test just to get it out of my head.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 05:01 PM
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