SmuttyBookLover Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	If you could name only one thing What are your positive qualities?	/r/seduction	13/02/22 01:04 AM
5	If you could name only one thing Funny. Woman mostly straight. You make me REALLY laugh and you have a chance. Hideous appearance is extremely subjective. We often do not see ourselves as others see us.	/r/seduction	12/02/22 11:18 PM
1	why women look down when i look at them but gays staring me Oh yeah. I've seen it. Generally though you can tell when people are there to really work out and when it's a more social thing.	/r/seduction	04/01/22 12:12 PM
1	[deleted by user] More lip action and little to no tongue. Teasing and slow followed by firm and intense.	/r/seduction	04/01/22 12:10 PM
3	why women look down when i look at them but gays staring me If it makes you feel any better I think it's quite common for gay guys. My man gets hit on at the gym often in that form. We both take it as a compliment.	/r/seduction	03/01/22 11:58 PM
14	why women look down when i look at them but gays staring me Generally women don't like it when they're flirted with at the gym and I think many feel it would also be rude if they did it, plus that's not what they're there for you know? It's not a social outing, it's their time for just them. Don't take it personal. Remember that some women often don't get "done up" or look their best when they're going to get all hot and sweaty so they may not have the same confidence at the gym that they might out and about.	/r/seduction	03/01/22 10:23 PM
6	[deleted by user] You could kiss 1,000 people and still be considered a bad kisser to some as everyone likes it different you know? So it's not about a skill set, it's about being able to read the reaction I think. But it's probably a combo of things. Depending on the situation maybe try to figure out a way to ask next time for honest feedback? It would suck if it's something so obvious that you're not seeing in yourself.	/r/seduction	03/01/22 09:20 PM
4	[deleted by user] Yes, I've actually had a similar experience with a guy. The kissing was horrible but the sex was great so I'm glad I tried. However, that's been rare in my case. Usually kissing has been a good indicator of things to come. You can tell someone how you prefer to kiss and show them. Just depends on if they like your method or not.	/r/seduction	03/01/22 07:59 PM
7	[deleted by user] Same. If the kissing doesn't get me going it's usually a good indicator that going any further would be a waste of time.	/r/seduction	03/01/22 07:35 PM
13	[deleted by user] So the seemingly obvious answer is maybe that they don't like how you kiss/make out, more than likely there's something happening either on the approach of said kiss/make out or how it's ended. Or it could be a technique thing. Or a personality thing. You may be a catch at first glance and then there may be something you're doing or not doing that puts them off. They try a few kisses to see if there's chemistry and if not they're just not interested. But there are so many variables we really can…	/r/seduction	03/01/22 07:00 PM
2	Need advice dating an older woman Well we are from Arkansas so that probably explains it :) I left when I was 7, but still. But the reality is that we were just all very close and it was all women and sex discussions within families do happen. It was never taboo in my family to discuss sex.	/r/seduction	31/12/21 02:15 PM
7	Need advice dating an older woman I got a good giggle but this shit really does happen. When my aunt was 72 she dated a 26 year old. All she said was that they needed tons of lube and he had to slow down as she couldn't take it like she used to be able to.	/r/seduction	30/12/21 09:52 PM
1	What percentage of women are attracted to men with lots of money? I have no idea as there are many determining factors. But personally I've had very negative experiences with wealthy men. It was only a few times and it certainly doesn't represent all wealthy men but they were just total assholes. I'd much rather date/be with a guy with a lower income who treated me well than a rich prick.	/r/seduction	29/12/21 03:36 PM
2	If giving a woman head was openly on the table, no ambiguity, what would your success rate be? I think this stems from the incorrect belief that giving a woman oral is guaranteed to give her an orgasm. It's not. Far from it. Some women don't enjoy it at all or only marginally for many reasons. Even with caring and attentive lovers. There's also the fact that many women want to be attracted to the person attached to the tongue. Even if they absolutely love oral and want it more than any other act it's still not as simple as tongue on vulva. There has to be attraction, chemistry, and a leve…	/r/seduction	10/12/21 03:50 PM
1	[deleted by user] Was just trying to understand better. I very much enjoy learning how others with different views see things. Sometimes I learn things from it, good or bad. Thanks for engaging. I would take your bet on the 50% of women in their 20s not dating virgin men in their 20s. But you may still win simply because I'm almost 40 and things have changed a lot since I was that age. Generally though, at least in my experience and my observation and interaction with others, it seems like some women put much les…	/r/seduction	05/11/21 08:36 PM
1	[deleted by user] I'm not mad. Anyone who gets actually mad at stuff like this is just causing harm to themselves. I know there are people who feel this way. I was just curious and shared a little of my opinion on your comment. Thanks for engaging. Good luck finding whatever you're looking for.	/r/seduction	05/11/21 08:15 PM
1	[deleted by user] Okay. I'm not agreeing with you but I do appreciate the response. Some people do have a "bad picker" when it comes to relationships and continue to pick the wrong people. Men and women. So if that same woman meets a guy who has also had 10 sexual partners (or more because that's not uncommon at this point) and is the same age, should she automatically assume the exact same? That he was the cause of the failures and is not good relationship material? Right off the bat, without getting any details…	/r/seduction	05/11/21 07:28 PM
2	[deleted by user] I think this is very flawed thinking but I can step back and see how others feel this way. It's certainly not how I and many other women I've talked to about this type of stuff feel but we're only a small sample of the population. It's also very specific (like with the 5 people in your 20s thing). I think some guys are putting way too much pressure on themselves. Sad. I just wish more people could meet like-minded people and everyone could have as much sex as they want. So...about the just male …	/r/seduction	05/11/21 07:19 PM
0	[deleted by user] If you love sex why would you want a virgin or very inexperienced person who doesn't know if she likes sex or not? If you love sex wouldn't you also want to spend the majority of your time fucking a woman who also likes sex? I think this type of thinking, that I know will never go away, is why there are so many people in sexually incompatible relationships. Also, at a certain point your advice gets really creepy (like with much older men). Like manipulation and coercion creepy. Very predatory. I…	/r/seduction	05/11/21 07:07 PM
1	[deleted by user] Honest question. Not being a smart ass. If you're a guy who wants a lot of sex, and you meet a woman who also wants a lot of sex (have sex on a dime), how is she bad relationship material? That would mean you both have a high libido. Which could mean you're sexually compatible. Which could mean that you're getting what you want out of the relationship - a lot of sex. Why choose a woman who is not as sexual as you knowing that means you will not get as much sex as you want? Or do you feel that YO…	/r/seduction	05/11/21 07:01 PM
1	[deleted by user] A lot of people in general lie about this and many other things. It's not a man or woman thing. It is a little humorous to me that guys will sometimes lie to increase their numbers in the same way that a woman may lie to decrease hers. But at the same time I think that's part of the reason why men and women seem to have some major issues with each other. Both actions are reinforcing beliefs that I feel are unhealthy. I totally agree not to ask. Get tested and then have fun.	/r/seduction	05/11/21 06:55 PM
1	[deleted by user] Since you specified "as a man" for whatever reason (a lot of people in general have preferences on this) - what about the guy? If OP was a woman, what would your response have been? It seems like you're saying that a woman's body count matters but a man's doesn't. If I'm wrong tell me. Otherwise you would have just thrown out the numbers you consider low and high - that's what I'm seeing anyway but again, could be wrong.	/r/seduction	05/11/21 06:50 PM
8	[deleted by user] I had a very interesting conversation with a guy about wanting a lot of sex but not wanting to date sexual women. When he was younger he thought that he alone could turn a non-sexual woman into a nympho (his word). Like his personality and his love and his affection would be exactly what was needed to make her switch from being chaste (also his word) to being a total horn dog. Then he realized that was the stupidest thing ever. It took time and many failures. His solution was not a great one IMO…	/r/seduction	05/11/21 06:44 PM
23	Why do some girls that find you attractive never give off signals??? First, she was at work. That's not the time to flirt. Sure, she could have made eye contact or something but people get nervous and no one really knows what's going through someone else's mind, how their previous experiences or attempts at showing interest have gone, how their day is going, all that. Second, thinking you're cute doesn't necessarily mean she's interested. Surely you've seen a beautiful woman but didn't want to actually interact with her yeah? Third, who knows if she actually thou…	/r/seduction	07/10/21 03:47 PM
3	Skipping foreplay, rushing, and not using your fingers are the biggest mistakes you can make during sex The ones that you think came could have faked it to get it over with (never a good idea, but I get that it happens) and didn't want more so they moved on. Considering you said in another comment that you'll never go down on a woman it seems you don't care much about their pleasure at all. Having an orgasm isn't experiencing everything with someone sexually. Some of us can get off in a minute or two of regular ol' fucking and there is still so much left to explore. If a man makes us feel good we …	/r/seduction	05/10/21 03:45 PM
3	How to be confident when dick size crushes self-esteem? True. Good point. On the flip side, if a guy sauntered in with his king of eating pussy attitude and I was like yeah, no thanks I think that would throw a major kink in his plan. But then again who knows, maybe I'd want to give it a shot to see if he could do something really special.	/r/seduction	14/09/21 07:27 PM
40	How to be confident when dick size crushes self-esteem? I'm not saying this is bad advice at all. It's very common advice too and I get why. But if I try to put myself in a man's position and think about how this advice would feel to me - I think it would hurt a lot. I'm not saying this is what you intended, but I'm sure some guys feel like it's saying, "Forget about that dick it's useless." When that's not the case at all. There are plenty of women who prefer smaller-to-average penises for PIV action (including me). There are plenty of women who are…	/r/seduction	14/09/21 04:24 PM
5	Girls friend is hotter Stop seeing the girl you've been casually seeing. Make it clear you want to pursue her friend so you're not doing shady shit behind her back. Know that this will likely mean all that good energy will evaporate and you'll probably lose a friend. Plus it's possible the friend you find more attractive will think you're such a scumbag (your words) that she won't be DTF. Just because she just got out of a long term relationship doesn't mean she is looking to get laid. In fact it could be quite the op…	/r/seduction	02/08/21 09:16 PM
1	Please stop with this “be yourself” bullshit. In what locations should men do this? Just everywhere? Do you think that could lead to men behaving in ways that are not natural to them (which would mean they may not be able to sustain such behaviors or feel like imposters)?	/r/seduction	02/07/21 04:56 PM
1	Please stop with this “be yourself” bullshit. I'm sorry that's been your experience. Do you think it's intentional?	/r/seduction	02/07/21 04:34 PM
2	Please stop with this “be yourself” bullshit. This is why I think it may be bad for men to only seek advice from other men. You're stating something as absolute fact when you have no true way of knowing if that is the case and you're generalizing. Of course some of us want men to improve. Not just for us personally but just to be happier better people so the world isn't so shitty.	/r/seduction	02/07/21 03:12 PM
3	Please stop with this “be yourself” bullshit. Never ever? Really? How is that logical? I can see ignoring what you consider bad advice or advice that hasn't worked for you or those around you (from women and men). But it seems very strange to me to ignore the advice of the women that you're seeking out. I think it may be how so much incorrect information gets passed around when people don't take a step back and look at things from both perspectives by limiting their information and advice seeking to their own sex.	/r/seduction	02/07/21 03:07 PM
1	Please stop with this “be yourself” bullshit. It's not only women who give this advice. Men do too and it can be valid in some cases. Generally we're all on our best behavior when trying to attract a partner or get a date. Sometimes it can go too far and we're completely fake which could lead to a lot of problems down the line if things do go well. The way you're framing 20% of the top men date 90% of all women is sort of odd to me. What are you saying to the guys that are not near the top 20% exactly? Just improve yourself and become part …	/r/seduction	02/07/21 03:03 PM
0	Ugh. Girl curious about my size. So if you're saying that size obsessed women may naturally have a larger vagina since we all vary in size just like men do then you may be correct in some cases. It would be ideal if we could all see how we fit before we really commit to stuff so that compatible sizes easily please each other but I digress. If you're saying that size-obsessed with are more loose because they've taken big dicks before that's completely incorrect. The vagina is made to lengthen and expand to accept the penis and o…	/r/seduction	30/06/21 08:21 PM
2	Ugh. Girl curious about my size. I'm gonna knock size for a moment but I do get your point. I can orgasm during PIV but not from just penetration. However, before I could and even now I generally do not like feeling full or stretched, it's uncomfortable for me personally but again, some women do love that feeling and that's great. My issue with some guys with big dicks (not all of course) is that they think that having a big dick means they don't have to do anything else - just bring that bad boy to the table and voila we're go…	/r/seduction	30/06/21 08:10 PM
2	Ugh. Girl curious about my size. It IS weird to ask. What would she do if OP asked her what size her vagina is as they vary in size too? I think it's rude. Plus, it takes out the fun and mystery of finding out on your own.	/r/seduction	30/06/21 08:03 PM
3	Ugh. Girl curious about my size. I think some dicks are just beautiful. Some look really scary though. Not just talking about size either. They vary so much. It's fascinating.	/r/seduction	30/06/21 08:01 PM
2	How do I identify & know, what sort of lady do I really like? As in, Why am I struggling to filter out & get to know 'my' type of woman? You may simply not have a type. I think it's a good thing. Widens your dating pool. I'd say your dealbreakers need to be clear and you should be very up-front with those. The big stuff like marriage, kids, politics, religion, but also anything minor thing that's a big thing to you.	/r/seduction	07/06/21 09:46 PM
1	Please never listen to women’s advice about dating and seduction. I see. Maybe it would be better worded to not pay attention to ALL women's advice (or anyone's for that matter) and that in your experience cold approaching can work.	/r/seduction	23/04/21 05:13 PM
1	Please never listen to women’s advice about dating and seduction. How is not a lost opportunity though for some insight into what you're seeking (if you're a man seeking a woman of course)? If a guy can't go to the source and then make reasonable conclusions and necessary changes based on their own personal experience what are they going to do? Go to other dudes who aren't sure either? It's a learning experience for everyone. Why not take all the help you can get and weed out the bullshit? As a woman I enjoy getting dating/relationship advice from guys. I've g…	/r/seduction	23/04/21 04:06 PM
47	Is it ok to not get verbal consent for a kiss? If you misread a signal and kiss someone by mistake because you thought they wanted too does that automatically make it sexual assault, even if it was an accident? I hate that we live in a world where this question even needs asked or given serious thought. I'm a 38 year old woman and I don't want to be asked before a guy goes in for the kiss. But I can see where some women may feel differently. Lots of variables to consider. I certainly don't think it's a crime to just lean in for the kiss. As long as you don't grab her head and force the kiss on her I don't see any issues. Most people have halted a kiss right? It's no big deal. You turn your head, you mo…	/r/seduction	08/03/21 09:48 PM
2	Someone tell me why are "Chads" so attractive to women? I honestly don't understand what's the big deal about Chads. I've never once heard a woman refer to a man as a Chad and thought that term was only an incel thing? I Googled it because I'm bored as fuck and it just says, "Chad is a usually disparaging internet slang term used for a popular, confident, sexually active young white male." So that really encompasses a lot of different types. For the record, focusing on shit like this probably isn't healthy. I get general curiosity and that's cool. But not all women are into these so-called Chad's and I feel ba…	/r/seduction	05/03/21 10:38 PM
1	Claims of causes for why women cheat (being bad in bed) I have heard that there are women out there who cheat on men because they are bad in bed or because they have “weak erections.” Although that it possible, it doesn’t seem like most women in a relationship are focusing on statistics relating to your penis length as the basis for them staying. Bad performance and penis length/size are not directly related. Weak erections or erections that do get as firm as they could are also not size related. It's about effort and skill. Guys with big dicks can s…	/r/seduction	22/02/21 10:04 PM