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| 236 | Thank You | WHOLESOME CONTENT | Snoo-97022 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 09:52 PM |
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| 3 | Who are your HVW role models?Cptsd is complex post traumatic stress disorder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 09:08 PM |
| 11 | Who are your HVW role models?My friend Helen. The woman is a queen and doesn't care what others think. She straight talks and doesn't talk behind your back. She understands cptsd and never invalidates me. I think the absolute world of her. Public figures Rebecca Lolosoli who founded the only women's village in Kenya. Susan B Anthony and Queen Elizabeth 1 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 08:26 PM |
| 2 | If he asks you to change... Sis, be careful of religious men trying to use you as a placeholder girlfriend before they find their final destinationIt is rife in my area. Caucasian women give Muslim men kids . I don't see the appeal. My answer is straight to the point. If believing in a man in the sky gives others comfort great but i love food and as a foodie I dont want my dietary habits dictated to by a book that has little relevance in the 21st century, just my opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 08:23 PM |
| 11 | Please remember, most men are not your friend. Yeah, yeah #NAMALT. Protect yourself physically and emotionally ladies.He has whined on about not being able to go to the gym as pre covid he pretty much spent his life in there. Proof that a great body doesn't mean you are high value | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 04:48 AM |
| 101 | Please remember, most men are not your friend. Yeah, yeah #NAMALT. Protect yourself physically and emotionally ladies.Exactly. Had a porter at work (secretary in the NHS) completely overstep my boundaries and ask me if I wanted a shoulder massage, job is mega stressful. I TWICE said no. Stupidly, because i was tired and burnt out (counting down till this Friday till i am off) told him men are triggering. The next day i point TOWARDS the office to let him know of a job I rang in and he chastised me about rude to point. No ahole I was pointing towards my office NOT at you!!! The following day that idiot gaslighte… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 05:59 PM |
| 10 | Don’t trust his lies 🤷🏽♀️🤣🤣🤣🤣 brilliant | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 03:50 PM |
| 40 | Pickmeishas are never good friendsI always was about female empowerment and learnt some are so brainwashed they do not understand sadly. This gets a 👏👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:14 PM |
| 3 | Davina McCall everyone - Pickmeisha supremeAlways looks like she has nothing behind the eyes on every photo I have seen of her. I see that a lot on social media as well. Not sure why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Have any of you ladies actually gotten an orgasm from men?Yes but I know my body and know the spot for this is just inside the vagina. So I have historically before celibacy would orgasm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 01:48 PM |
| 1 | This 43 year old bald disgusting man cornered my gorgeous 25 year old girl friend at church while she was volunteering and demanded her phone number.He deserves a foot up his a** and a reality check | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 01:42 PM |
| 14 | Piers Morgan Continues His Hate Obsession with Meghan MarkleI am British and cannot stand that man 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 08:58 PM |
| 10 | 👑 Listening to this on repeat! It’s valid for me to happiest single. Marriage and babies don’t have to be my life goals 👑Thank you for posting this. It really solidifies why I am glad I never wanted to fit in and hearing this makes me realise more are waking up. Thank goodness 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 02:57 PM |
| 26 | From /AskReddit about which subs give useless or even dangerous advice. Lol.What this site has done has diminished my anger towards men because I feel heard, seen and am not shamed. I can now talk to men and not feel triggered every time due to childhood trauma. I am now wholly focused on my future and levelling up instead of a rinse repeat self hatred. Finding this site helped me so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 07:06 PM |
| 5 | Thank YouThank you 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:45 PM |
| 4 | Thank YouYou and me both. Here it is mostly pickmeishas and they allow men to behave like it is the 1950s and yet are angry and tired but are not connecting the dots. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:44 PM |
| 3 | Men’s magazine glamorizes 20 year age gap between old scrote and beautiful woman for their “modern love” edition. 🤮That sucked in cheek look is rife in my area. Along with grey skin tone and a lot of older men have assistance scooters. Not going to even mention the heinous teeth. Yeh for "working" class men 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 03:21 PM |
| 8 | Tips on assertivenessI am friends with a no nonsense queen. This woman has inspired me so much. We are very different in looks, she is very 1940/50s Hollywood glamour and I am a tom boy but I have a deep and profound respect for her. I tend to slough off women like that. They don't stick. I am at a point in my life where I have zero time for other peoples insecurities and inability to look inward and work on themselves. I refuse now to repeat myself. I have told them I am in my lane focused on levelling up. My actio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 09:20 PM |
| 8 | Tips on assertivenessIt really teaches you so much about how others perceive you once your body language and posture changes. I get frustrated by outdated concepts and hostility by both sexes because my tone of voice is not soft, I am not doing the whole Princess Diana Eye and head thing and being assertive and decisive. They do not get they are buying into a system created to keep women down. I know I am not a bad person and will keep being me. I refuse to cow tow to some outdated sexist rigid ideal on what makes a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 08:46 PM |
| 58 | Tips on assertivenessPre covid, firm handshake, lots of eye contact. Do not lean forward, that coveys the typical female concern in more intense conversations, lean back. It took me a lot of conscious effort but it changes dynamics in how people subconsiously perceive you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 09:44 AM |
| 127 | Tips on assertivenessBody language is important, face to face. Also I have developed a harder edge in my voice and it works when shutting down men talking over me on the phone at work. My colleague ain't so successful because she lacks assertiveness so a conversation that could last 5 minutes I have witnessed going on and on for 30 minutes. I walk shoulders back, spine straight and take up space where I am. It is slightly masculine but it sends a subconsious message you have masculine energy. You can be feminine as … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 09:33 AM |
| 21 | A message for the female lurkersNot a lurker per se. This place makes me feel sane and validated. For years I thought it was me. My sense of self worth is higher than it has ever been and you ladies are amazing and inspire me everyday ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 05:02 PM |
| 14 | Women are 6x more likely to end up divorced if they are diagnosed with cancer or MS, than if their male partners were facing the same illness. Credit: IG @wokeblackprincessThank you for letting me know i am not alone. My narc father moved on 3 months after my mum was dead. He only cared about his needs. His new wife is a pickmeisha and accused me of being a gold digger. One of her sons randomly rang me to let me know he's dying of covid. Sorry strange man I hardly know. I dont have a relationship with that man and mourned what could of been a long time ago. Who rings somebody after years of estrangement to tell a person this. Just launches into letting me know he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 10:02 PM |
| 9 | Why are there never any discussions about women’s mental health and loneliness?Thank you so much. I live alone. You have made me feel heard and seen which is the first time in a long time. Working through another lockdown in the UK and get sick of hearing people bleating about not seeing family members. At least they have a family. Not all of us are that lucky. Thank you ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 07:49 PM |
| 7 | “I’m a nice guy.”Any man who must say I am the king, is no true king. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 01:39 PM |
| 36 | Man admitting that women don't like sleeping with him and never orgasm from it 🙊Maybe it is cutting off my nose to spite my face a bit i will not lie but a) these men never appreciated me then left for a more conventional lady then want you on the side for excitement gtfo 🤦♀️ and b) quite frankly after breaking my wrist this year and other health issues I am no longer in a position to want it. Pain is a good mood killer lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 10:47 AM |
| 7 | What hard lessons did you learn over the years through dating?👏👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 10:45 AM |
| 69 | What hard lessons did you learn over the years through dating?This 👆 right here 👏👏👏👏 also short guy syndrome is a thing. Who knew 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 09:50 AM |
| 4 | Take notes from nature! (not actually condoning violence)If I could stomach being near a man I am suitably detached that i would pick up a book put it over my face and say well get on with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 09:48 AM |
| 102 | Man admitting that women don't like sleeping with him and never orgasm from it 🙊I used to love sex. Am still a very sensual person for food, touch, smell etc etc. Would be in the moment, enjoying every sensation. Confident and secure enough to know my body and guide a man to what I like. Then along comes the double standards and patriachy. One too many shamings and seeing men get treated differently. So now I am celibate. Sad that if you truly enjoy sex it can backfire as a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 09:46 AM |
| 9 | I haven’t used OLD in forever, and this was literally my first experience. “I’m an empath so I feel things more than you” is a massive red flag. What I hear is “I can be as insensitive to you as I please, but don’t you DARE have feelings around me because only my feefees are important”.A million times YES. Men who say they are highly sensitive tend to be OVER sensitive to any and all perceived criticism. I have empathy for others so try to be mindful to those around me and need a lot of time alone as find people draining. They can dish it out but can't take any criticism, perceived or otherwise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 03:33 PM |
| 4 | Ladies, if you need some pointers on how to spot red flags: DING DING DING WE HAVE A WINNER🚩🚩🚩Mine is long one side, short the other. Im 44 and doing what the f I want with my hair. First time a man asked if I was gay I was taken aback. I work with a gay lady who has long hair so not sure really where this logic comes from. I also know a lady with very long hair, who is gay 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 01:01 PM |
| 36 | I don't understand male postpartum depression.Had a few men contact me a few years ago hoping to cheat on the mother of their child. I was blunt. You can't have it both ways. You either want kids or a sex life. You don't get to have both. Wasn't received well. Im cut up....obviously 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 02:09 PM |
| 13 | are British men actually gentlemen?You are joking???? I am British and a lot of british men are louts with cavemen attitudes to women. Where I live they still in 2020 hang onto the outmoded concept of wife raises the kids 🤦♀️ got literally yelled at a la kai Anderson at the end of the season. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 08:56 PM |
| 11 | This is why we don't let men post on this subreddit. We don't want to clutter our feed with a bunch of sea lions DEMANDING that we drop everything to engage in "civil discussion"Off topic but reading your response I had the sansa/little finger death scene conversation playing in my head lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 10:06 AM |
| 10 | Happy Friday. Remember, know your worth.Thank you. That's lovely. Loving the support ❤🧡 right back at ya | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 06:57 PM |
| 53 | Happy Friday. Remember, know your worth.😂😂😂😂 needed that laugh after the week I have had. Thank you ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 02:45 PM |
| 11 | Mean Girls is a great representation of what happens when pickme culture is rampant.👏👏👏👏 love this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 06:25 AM |
| 18 | Wrestling anime guy took half a year of psychology in high school and thinks he knows everything. Goes on 25 minute sexist, homophobic, and victim blaming rant that basically translates too... “I can’t get laid!” 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 03:19 PM |
| 28 | Not even forever gf but forever tenant 10 years and she gets this, can someone explain to her she needs to leave ?!No, no, she deserves more for herself. The last man I did this with left me bankrupt and learnt the hard way whenever a man comes on the scene I end up financially worse off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 01:09 PM |
| 6 | I think most of experienced this 😂"Step on a 100 legos" 😂😂😂 needed that. Thank you 👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 12:45 PM |
| 79 | What would you do if there were no men around for 24hrs?Not wear a bra to work and if it was hot go topless, walk in the middle of the night. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 09:01 AM |
| 1 | My experience as a 33 old woman on Tinder - The wall is a lieRight back at ya ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 07:57 AM |
| 14 | My experience as a 33 old woman on Tinder - The wall is a lieThank you. Really struggling with lonliness at the moment which is rare these days. Needed this reminder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 03:13 PM |
| 10 | Pickmesha calls us InCeLs 🤡True confidence means you don't feel threatened by others and hence talk down or speak negatively: young, old, thin, bigger, prettier, better hair etc etc. You just stay in your lane and support 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 02:28 PM |
| 23 | Sit down with yourself!👏👏👏 love this. I do this more as a way to self parent (yehhh for having narc parents and having cptsd). I remind myself im not this evil person all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 02:35 PM |
| 3 | The “not all men” guys are the worstMy parents would invalidate me constantly as a child. It is still triggering when people do that and a huge red light they lack empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 08:26 AM |
| 5 | Through lies men and women both are taught to hate women.👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 07:49 PM |
| 47 | The “not all men” guys are the worstThis used to annoy me as felt they were invalidating my words and hurt at the hands of their gender. I hoped that once just once a man would realise my needs matter and listen and understand that it was not about them personally but realised most just are so sensitive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 03:13 PM |
| 8 | Through lies men and women both are taught to hate women.Well said. Lovebhow you put it. Thank you. You said it a lot better than me ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 02:56 PM |
| 6 | Through lies men and women both are taught to hate women.👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 02:55 PM |
| 47 | Through lies men and women both are taught to hate women.It pertains to women competing with each other as there is never enough men for procreation, sex, jobs etc etc. Society created this illusion of scarcity. Hence it creates relational aggression and I will guarantee some if not all have been on the receiving end if this or the two women fighting over a man. Personally she can have him. Ain't got time or inclination to argue with another woman over any man. I know what is right for me will be for me, I'm just in my lane levelling up for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:59 PM |
| 49 | Through lies men and women both are taught to hate women.After reading feminist literature such as female eunuch and feminine mystique I understood the scarcity mindset that is subconsiously taught to all women from a young age. Most women I have shared my truth with have been supportive which makes me question the whole narrative of slut shaming coming from women. I know of a few judgey women they all tended to from the same stock sadly. Whatever I am still going to support and uplift women. On a separate note I read about Lilith from Jewish mytholog… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Facebook photos, and photos for validation.Because its not lol. I am suspicious of overly perfect people. I read American psycho so I'm not fooled 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:03 PM |
| 1 | This is why we don’t sit around and put our eggs in one basket and remember if a man wants you he will say it directlyThank you. That man gives out pearls. Discovered him before you lovely ladies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:02 PM |
| 10 | This is why we don’t sit around and put our eggs in one basket and remember if a man wants you he will say it directlyPlease, please post the Derrick Jaxn you tube post about sex dolls.....hillarious. I can't post for some reason 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 07:13 PM |
| 5 | Have there been any HVW or Pickmeisha’s who have positively impacted the standards you have for dating?Oh yeh know that one. Its completely fucked up when your father tells his 17 year old daughter I cheated on your mum but don't tell her 🤦♀️ Sorry you had a man like that in your life too ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:26 AM |
| 24 | Have there been any HVW or Pickmeisha’s who have positively impacted the standards you have for dating?My cousin. She is a narcissistic pickmeisha asshole. Thinks she is better than me and sneered down her nose at me because I didn't get myself into lots of debt moving to an unaffordable postcode area, ya know living within my means. I may not ever be mega rich but I will never have been so desperate for a baby that I trapped a man into getting me pregnant (who is a an unemployed weed smoker fyi) and then after getting trapped refused to see his son or pay money. Glad she is out of my life. Compl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:25 AM |
| 34 | Facebook photos, and photos for validation.Ladies you ever notice in a lot of photos the women look dead behind the eyes. I mean not a hair is out of place and they are immaculately groomed beside their man in the photos but the smile a) doesn't reach the eyes and b) there is nothing going on behind the eyes or is it just me? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 08:34 AM |
| 151 | Male sexuality, as it exists today, is a black hole waiting to consume you.If you look at most married/long term couples the women look aged and haggard. I always think leave he's draining you like a vampire | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 12:02 AM |
| 34 | I bet it's a man pretending to be a woman.👏👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 04:14 PM |
| 37 | LISTEN to what your date says and make note of it- if they say something that doesn’t sit right, follow your intuition!No 8) had me 😂😂😂 knew this "man" late 50s, "retired", no plans or goals for the rest of his life, age is no excuse im 44 and still got goals, drinks everyday, brags about recovering from late night benders, has limited teeth and the teeth he has are 🤢 asked him does he think he is relationship ready and brings a lot to the table. He actually said yes 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 07:02 PM |
| 59 | Love yourself first ladiesVery samantha Jones 💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 05:31 PM |
| 3 | Hyper-sexuality after trauma.I was groomed at age 13 on holiday. My mother blamed me then years later at age 17 she pushed me to date a man I had zero interest in because and I quote "it's better than nothing, what's the harm"....HARM???? HARM. Did I mention he spiked my drinks as well!!! That's just the tip of the iceberg of my mothers behaviours towards me. I had issues, huge issues. Sex addiction is no joke for a woman. I am celibate now. It has took about 10 years of therapy, journelling and self work to get to this poi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 01:34 PM |
| 10 | Feeling the need to dump your trauma is a form of codependency. Don’t tell romantic interests your traumas until you’ve vetted them with time and patience. Best case scenario is to never tell them at all.Honestly did not realise just how toxic it is till i moved back here for financial reasons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 07:18 PM |
| 3 | Feeling the need to dump your trauma is a form of codependency. Don’t tell romantic interests your traumas until you’ve vetted them with time and patience. Best case scenario is to never tell them at all.Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 07:17 PM |
| 21 | Feeling the need to dump your trauma is a form of codependency. Don’t tell romantic interests your traumas until you’ve vetted them with time and patience. Best case scenario is to never tell them at all.Yup. Had this done to me. After narcissist dumped me, to protect his "nice guy" image he slurred my name, jumping into bed with a much older woman mere weeks later while I had 2 years extensive therapy for my cptsd. I live in a small town (saving to leave) and now my name is mud. Whatever! They don't know my story. I was ostricized for what I told him and how I know it's not forgotten? I am celibate and the last time I touched a man was a while ago, he dumped me 3 YES 3 years ago, yet said man w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 03:21 PM |
| 4 | the only appropriate response to when you hear someone say this 😂Yup I nixed my friendship with both women. It hot tedious having to watch what I said all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 07:36 PM |
| 161 | the only appropriate response to when you hear someone say this 😂Knew a couple of women like this. Stayed because they like the car and "stuff" but the men were raging misogynists. F that!!! I may not be wealthy but I'm free to make my own choices. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 12:14 PM |
| 17 | Ah yes, let’s continue to applaud fathers for their mere physical PRESENCE in their children’s lives.That makes me so angry. My father is an emotionally unavailable narcissist. It took nearly 10 years including emdr therapy to untangle the damage that man and my mother did. How utterly invalidating to the girl who went through that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 08:40 PM |
| 15 | Is it just me or do ugly men just generally treat you horribly or worse?Never believed in the old saying "the uglier the guy the uglier the attitude" more fool me. Also short man syndrome is a thing as it turns out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 07:54 PM |
| 8 | Anyone else shocked by how many ‘out and proud’ men there are about binge drinking / smoking (420/tobacco) and drugs?Yup. I use them now as a reminder of how far i have come. Would rather listen to podcasts about dictators and tyrants than their peacocking which is just pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 03:15 PM |
| 4 | Anyone else shocked by how many ‘out and proud’ men there are about binge drinking / smoking (420/tobacco) and drugs?I see him and think what was I smoking!!!! I live in a small town so its inevitable we bump into each other sadly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 03:11 PM |
| 7 | Anyone else shocked by how many ‘out and proud’ men there are about binge drinking / smoking (420/tobacco) and drugs?Dated a 50 odd year old "man" who actually boasted about this 🤦♀️ seriously dude no self respecting woman will find that sexy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 03:08 PM |
| 2 | The fact that this has so many awards shows that the bar is literally in hell. How many awards would a woman get for asking this?🤔Ladies you make my heart happy that I truly am not alone. Thank you ❤❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:36 PM |
| 18 | The fact that this has so many awards shows that the bar is literally in hell. How many awards would a woman get for asking this?🤔Happened to me and he had the audacity recently of talking loudly about his date. Good luck she will need it. I live in an area of pickmeishas so she will put up with his abuse under the guise of adhd and toxic masculinity. Learnt a while back there is no getting through to these women. They may have the classic scarcity mindset. I dont. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 12:37 PM |
| -5 | A HVM going above and beyond for his lady 👸Not my cup of tea. Going above and beyond is the simple things like put up shelves when i ask you too or do my shopping when I broke my wrist and had to have surgery....oh yeh that was my friends because men leave when you need actual support 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 01:04 PM |
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