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If you are friends with someone and catch feelings and the other person doesn’t feel the same but you both want to continue the friendship, then take space to deal with your feelings so they disappear and you can be a genuine friend. If you pretend to stay friends in the hope of wearing her down, you aren’t being friend zoned, you’re being manipulative because you are pretending to just want to be friends. If she starts taking advantage of the fact you have feelings for her, she’s being manipula…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:39 PM
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I think men think it’s a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 10:30 AM
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No it was something I was consenting to only in a relationship, funny how their minds changed instantly after sex, as they were driving me home……
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 10:04 AM
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I’ve had this happen to me twice before I was married, two different guys I was interested in (separate times). Told them I don’t have sex outside relationships, they asked me out, we had sex, then they told me something in my life they were more than aware of before they asked me was the reason they weren’t interested anymore. I was used for sex, they got that notch and they weren’t interested after
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 09:46 AM
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What about all the thousands of women that are raped every year? The risk to life pregnancies? The children that are raped? The babies that aren’t viable with life? Ectopic pregnancies? Women that are miscarrying that need medical intervention? All those cases require the ability to access abortions as apart of healthcare Or the fact that contraceptives aren’t just used as ways to prevent pregnancy, they are also used to help with heavy periods, regulate irregular periods, manage other period re…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 10:55 AM
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Study after study proves that effective sex education reduces the amount of unplanned pregnancy. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8872707/ Teen pregnancy is higher in the states than almost every other 1st world country.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 12:16 PM
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Just watch one of the men on here argue the toss with you over this
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 07:48 AM
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Well actually they are if you remove their ability to get an abortion. 39 states teach abstinence which then you know makes it really hard for young people to understand how to avoid pregnancies and over a dozen states allow healthcare providers the right to refuse to prescribe contraception which includes the morning after pill. So to me it sounds like the USA is making it really hard for women to avoid getting pregnant in the first place. And I’m sure you’re gonna say “they should just keep th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:54 AM
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There are men who will literally quit their jobs to avoid paying child support here and considering it’s so easy to get cash in hand here, it’s not a problem. Scaffolders get paid really well and it’s something they can do cash in hand. My dad worked in IT, made himself self employed so he could say he didn’t have a reliable income, didn’t have to pay. Then just moved countries to get out of it completely. In fact he was so damn determined about not being responsible for us, he moved to Aussie.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:46 AM
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https://www.aclu.org/trump-on-abortion https://www.whitehouse.gov/fact-sheets/2025/01/fact-sheet-president-donald-j-trump-enforces-overwhelmingly-popular-demand-to-stop-taxpayer-funding-of-abortion/ Well that was beyond easy to find. You really think the blind spot isn’t noticed? They just don’t care……. Edited to add the extra link for you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:36 AM
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Not that hard to get cash in hand jobs here, most local pubs here are cash in hand, small restaurants are also cash in hand. If you work as on a building site and know the owner, can get paid cash in hand, work for family, can get paid cash in hand. Same with working in garages. Alternatively they can put you down as working minimum wage and then give you big bonuses instead which then don’t get put through the same which drives your maintenance payments down. If you go on benefits, the maintena…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:30 AM
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I live in the UK, it’s easy here to not pay child support. Get paid cash in hand, don’t have to pay, make yourself jobless, dont have to pay, make yourself self employed, don’t have to pay, move countries, don’t have to pay, put down the wrong address, they can’t find you, you don’t have to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:17 AM
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😂 you lot voted in Donald bloody Trump. What are you even talking about. You have how many states making it illegal for women to access abortions? There were literal conversations about how your president was going to remove the right to vote from women, i.e household voting, which is just code for only the man of the house can vote. Well I’m glad the states make dads pay for their kids because in the UK, they do sweet FA and considering I live in the UK, I can say for certain dad’s can walk awa…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:14 AM
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Both of us, more than likely. But you’re comparing a really unlikely situation with a daily reality for mum’s and dad’s. Oh you could not be more wrong, my sisters ex walked away from his kid and even though he should be paying child support, he doesn’t, he has put a random address down so CSA can’t find him and he works for cash in hand so he doesn’t have a pay check. He’s not in prison. My dad just moved countries so he didn’t have to pay child maintenance, he also didn’t spend a day in prison…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:01 AM
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This is something my husband gets really annoyed about. When he takes our children out and about by himself, he gets told how much of an amazing dad he is, when he forgets something one of the children needed, he gets told well at least you got them there etc. You know who gets the phone calls being chewed out for said child going to school/childminders without said thing, me. When I take the kids out, it’s expected cause I’m there mum. If I forget something, it’s a huge deal, when he forgets so…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:46 AM
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All anime characters have unrealistic bodies? Both men and women game, men have just decided that gaming is a ‘’male typical virtual hobby”. So no I don’t find it icky, they can do what they want, it’s not hurting anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:35 PM
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So power imbalances are usually, boss/employee, teacher/student, huge age gaps, massive wealth gaps, someone with a lot of influence with someone who isn’t etc. That doesn’t describe the vast majority of relationships so I’m not sure what you’re rambling on about
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:22 PM
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Go on then prove it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:14 PM
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I guess it depends on the initial reason as to why the relationship was pursued to begin with
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:53 PM
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Actually yes I would, when you’re dating and you have different experiences, you work out what you like, what you don’t like, what’s normal in relationships, what isn’t normal in relationships, you establish boundaries for yourself. If you don’t have those experiences, you are being told by the other person what is normal or not normal
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:34 PM
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The majority of women aren’t stating that, you are obviously just being fed online the content you are choosing to seek out, therefore you are reinforcing your own beliefs
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:32 PM
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Because you have unconditional love for your children, the vast majority of parents want what’s best for them and always act in the best interest of their child, not themselves. In romantic or friendship relationships, where there is a power imbalance, the one with the power is seeking out relationships where the dynamic is immediately unequal for their own interests
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:31 PM
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If most men can’t provide it then it’s obvious most women aren’t seeking it, especially considering if you leave the house and actually look at relationships, the vast majority are in the same pay brackets/class etc. they usually have met as colleagues at work or from school, through friends
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:29 PM
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Youre being intentionally pedantic and it’s not relevant for romantic relationships where you know full well that power imbalances are innately predatory
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:20 PM
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Depends on the difference in what each of the couple are earning, if one of you is barely making ends meet and the other is earning significantly more then yes there can be a power imbalance but the majority of men aren’t in that category
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:15 PM
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The majority of men don’t earn enough to be financing anyone’s lifestyle, the vast majority of you are either broke or are just making enough to finance your own lifestyle
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:12 PM
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Inherently no but it can turn predatory if you used the power imbalance to make your child do stuff they shouldn’t be doing, like parents or guardians who abuse their children. Especially step parents that walk into a single mothers lives purely for the basis they have children
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:03 PM
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That’s where your head goes…..your gross
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:48 PM
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One person in a relationship earning more than the other doesn’t mean there is a power imbalance within the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:46 PM
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Why do women in relationships need to ask their partner to do chores. They live in the same house, they can see what needs doing. They need to act like grown ups and just do them. Women aren’t your mums, stop acting like children
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:50 PM
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The majority of women don’t? Just like the majority of men don’t? There’s always going to be exceptions
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:46 PM
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Power imbalances have no place in relationships, intimate or friendships. They need to be built and maintained on an equal footing. Power imbalance relationships are innately predatory
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:35 PM
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The draining board is attached to the sink
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:37 PM
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By pots I mean plates, cutlery, glasses, cups, pans, bowls, literally everything will be dirty. If I completely leave him to it, he leaves everything on the draining board and then splashes dirty sink water all over them. I can’t be expected to feed my kids off of dirty plates and utensils
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:21 PM
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I can’t reduce my standard to dirty dishes. Having clean pots is a bare minimum. We have discussed the results, I’ve given him things back whilst he’s been washing up and he just gets upsets with me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:13 PM
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I assigned my husband the washing up as I have eczema all over my hands and arms, that was 5 years ago. Guess who has to redo it every time because it’s not clean by the time he’s finished
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:06 PM
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https://www.ons.gov.uk/employmentandlabourmarket/peopleinwork/earningsandworkinghours/articles/womenshouldertheresponsibilityofunpaidwork/2016-11-10
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:32 PM
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https://eige.europa.eu/newsroom/care-and-gender?language\_content\_entity=en
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:32 PM
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Weird that the majority of women in relationships all have the same lived experience
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:30 PM
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Don’t need data, I have a husband, I have lived experience
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:07 PM
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Eyes usually, dirt on floor, dust, pots unclean, table unclean, dirty clothes everywhere, any person with eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 01:19 PM
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If I don’t do the housework, it does not get done. It’s not that my standards are higher, I just don’t want to live in a dirty untidy home
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:32 PM
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The vast majority of people can’t afford to hire anyone to do anything. So who exactly are you talking about? The super wealthy? And you can stop with the ‘let’. It’s more like men don’t pay attention to the fact that the cleaning products need replacing, or what packed lunch things and snacks need picking up, when the kids are running short on something, clothes need replacing, shoes are getting too small, gifts for their friends when they’ve been invited to another birthday party. It’s not tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:53 AM
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Don’t watch porn ever. My imagination is good enough and tbh I only ever think about my husband anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 11:12 AM
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It puts her in a vulnerable position and it’s an incredibly weird request if there’s no ill intention. Why would he need a recording of her consent?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:53 PM
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😂 the reason that guy is asking for a voice note with her consent is because he’s assuming that she will accuse him of rape afterwards. If she agrees to it, she is making herself vulnerable. If you don’t trust the person you are having sex with, you shouldn’t be having sex with them. If you are too stupid to understand consent, you shouldn’t be having sex. It’s that simple
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:21 AM
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Women who don’t want to date men do date women or stay single
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:12 AM
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Isn’t he presuming ill intentions by having her record herself giving him consent?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:55 AM
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I’m not presuming anything but it leaves her vulnerable
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:41 AM
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Of course it’s problematic, you can remove consent at any point. The issue with voice note is if she originally consented and then revoked consent half way through and he carried on, it turns into rape. If he has that voice note he can then essentially use it against her
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:27 AM
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If you don’t want to date women, date men or stay single
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:01 AM
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Stop acting like consent is confusing or there’s grey areas. Men understand consent perfectly well when it comes to their bodies but when it comes to women’s bodies, it’s suddenly confusing. You understand what consent looks like
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:59 AM
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We don’t all hate men and I don’t see young women claiming everything as misogyny, I do see them calling out misogyny as they see it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:02 AM
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Actually it is against the law and you can be charged for it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:57 AM
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My dad literally left the country when I was growing up to avoid paying child support
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:43 AM
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I don’t agree with you at all. I have been with my husband through his absolute worst points, I’ve taken shit for him from his family, i have loved him when he was falling apart, have stood by him and stood up for him when he didn’t have the strength to. I’ve supported him through him going back into education, I worked over 16 hours a day, working two jobs when needed, so he could concentrate just on his studying. I have sacrificed throughout the years massively for that man. The love I have fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 04:35 AM
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If society cared about people then there would be loads of money going into mental health, schools would be set up in a way that benefitted children, rather than trying to turn them into the next generation of worker ants, companies priority woukd be there workers, rather than their profits. The world would be accessible to those with physical and/or mental disabilities etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 04:11 PM
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Well actually technically you can, if all your wealth was in assets and you couldn’t access the assets then you would have no physical money or access to money and therefore you could be poor and rich at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:37 PM
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You understand two things can be true at the same time?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:31 PM
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I’m not sure where you’re seeing that women after divorce are highly depressed, every study I have seen about women’s happiness after divorce states that those women are happier. There is a study done by pubmed that states that the happiness outcome after marriage depends on both the mental health of the couple inside the marriage and the quality of the marriage that is breaking up. So I watched that YouTube video and I don’t think it’s a I’m right, the other person is wrong situation. It’s a re…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:13 PM
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No it doesn’t care about men which is why it is so damaging in terms of mental health and emotional well being, the patriarchy just values men over women as productive contributors. So basically within patriarchy, men are viewed as handy tools that will benefit capitalism rather than as human beings
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:10 PM
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We do but the patriarchy doesn’t care about men or women. It just means that society’s set up in a way that benefits men more. But the only men that are noticeably benefit from it are those in positions of power and wealth
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:53 PM
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Society doesn’t care about anyone. Men or women. We live in a system that only cares about whether a person financially contributes to it. The gender of that person is by the by.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:19 AM
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In a scenario where I was still in my early to mid 20’s, my opinion would be based on whether he was a present dad or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 12:58 PM
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Men understand consent completely when it’s their body so they do understand meaningful informed consent. They just don’t care when it comes to women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:12 PM
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Like I said insecure or misogynistic. You’re insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:55 AM
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Course I’ve been in a church and I’ve listened to a surmon too. It’s just a load of shit being spewed. I’ve also read a lot of the bible. Which is just a story book about a being in the sky and a magic man. Churches exist to control people. That’s it. People are easier to manipulate and control when they believe they are damned to hell if they aren’t doing as they are told
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:24 AM
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Yeah cause Christianity changed the definition of virginity to what we know it as now. The original definition was a strong independent woman who hadn’t married a man yet. The reason Christianity changed the definition was for no other reason than to control women. That’s it. In fact the only reason Christianity was introduced into society was to control the masses.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:35 AM
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Is that what you think Christianity is for? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:27 AM
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Why aren’t we comparing men to toothbrushes. They’re quick to compare women to everything. But we can compare men to a toothbrush. A toothbrush who has only been in one mouth is fine but a toothbrush who has been in many mouths is a disgusting toothbrush
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:11 AM
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You saying things like ‘pre-used’ is misogynistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:09 AM
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The reason is why? Did you also know that the original definition of virgin was a strong independent woman who hadn’t been married to a man . Then the Christian’s got hold of the word and we all know Christianity is deep rooted in misogyny. They changed the definition to mean a woman who hadn’t had sex yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 07:59 AM
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If you’re bothered about the men who have previously slept with women you are either incredibly insecure or you’re a misogynist. I know in this case, you’re a misogynist considering what you compared women to in your post
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 07:42 AM
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I live in a country where healthcare is free, rather than the USA where you are only allowed to live if you have money. The 3rd world country parading around like a 1st world one. But healthcare is a basic human right. Your access to a woman’s body isn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 01:50 AM
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Considering you can pay for sex, it’s not a limited anything, you just don’t wanna pay for it. But if you’re really wanting sex and you can’t find anyone that fancies you enough to have sex with you and you don’t wanna pay for it, well that is now a you problem
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 12:25 AM
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If you think living as a woman is easier, transition
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:56 PM
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You’re making an assumption women have it easier in society based on what you think living as a woman is like. Though because you aren’t a woman, you’ve no actual idea so your opinion is irrelevant
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:52 PM
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Yeah I read that post too and it definitely read like he wanted to move somewhere so that he could get with a woman, have kids with her then take them off her
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 09:58 AM
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😂😂 absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 04:04 AM
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Cause it’s not just a man’s situation is it, it involves a whole child who would be more messed up by it than the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:42 AM
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Why you more bothered about the man in this rather than the kid?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:40 AM
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I don’t feel like this is a common thing
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:17 AM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:07 AM
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I mean if you have a criminal record it already prevents you from working in certain industries and dictates where you can or can’t live. That’s not a new thing
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:05 AM
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I’m not disagreeing with you that’s in awful crime and there should be legal repercussions for it. I’ve just said 25 years is excessive
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:44 AM
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Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:40 AM
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Sure, men should get a huge R on them if they are rapists. M for murderers. A for abusers and F for fraud, T for theft.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:38 AM
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It’s statistically around 1.6% of mothers commit paternity fraud. It’s rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:28 AM
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I’m not downplaying it, it is awful but it’s not murder so shouldn’t be sentenced as harshly as murder.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:20 AM
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So you don’t think that men in general should stop hitting each other? You don’t think that should change?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:15 AM
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You know I’d love to spend all my money on you but I’m married so maybe another time….
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:14 AM
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😂 you’re too funny
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:07 AM
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Well actually it would yeah maybe not the singing kumbaya but no fighting and no wars.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:04 AM
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In the UK, you can go to prison for up to 10 years if you’re prosecuted for paternity fraud.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:04 AM
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Well if you care about the men women have had sex with before you, you’re either insecure or you’re a misogynist. Cause why would you care?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:58 AM
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The average prison sentence for fraud ranges from community service to 7 years in prison. So 2-5 years sounds about right as far as I’m concerned
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:56 AM
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In what world should fraud be sentenced more harshly or as harshly as murder…..
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:47 AM
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That feels very much like a man problem and if collectively you stopped hitting each other as a first reaction, wouldn’t the world be a nicer place
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:10 AM
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I just think men in general just have a not my problem attitude towards everyone as long as it’s not personally affecting them. Whereas women are more likely to step in and help someone else because it’s the right thing to do
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:57 AM
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I have intervened when someone is behaving badly towards someone else, this has included complete strangers because it’s the right thing to do. If you live in a society then I feel like everyone should be looking out for everyone around you rather than having a not my problem attitude. Someone is looking sad, go and ask if they are okay. Someone is being harassed by someone else, stand by their side and tell that other person to leave them alone. Someone has fallen over, go help them up. Someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:31 PM
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Exactly, I had my first child at 20 and even though I love being a mum and I love my kid to bits, I wish I had him a few years later and spent that time enjoying myself
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:31 PM
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So what? It’s the age to be frivolous. Before you’ve settled down and have responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:59 PM
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That’s a nice personality trait
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:45 PM
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The way to win is not being with an insecure misogynist.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:45 PM
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No one has their life together when they are young, their brain hasn’t even fully developed at that age. They’re still kids. At that age most young people are still living with their parents. If they’re in uni, they should be living the full uni experience which includes the going out, having fun, working part time so they can pay for their nights out. If they’re working, they can put some aside to save and still use the rest to enjoy themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:43 PM
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That’s the age you go have fun, make stupid decisions and live your life to the full with your friends. You’ve got your entire life to build your future. You will only be young once and you don’t get that time back
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:28 PM
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18-22 year olds should be out having fun, working to have money for the weekend so they can go out and enjoy the world. Going on holidays, drinking, making stupid decisions
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:13 PM
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I’ve literally heard men say exactly that, they wouldn’t date someone who slept with them on the first date
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 07:38 PM
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God doesn’t exist
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 06:48 PM
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Why you so interested in other men? If she’s rushed into sex before and then the guy hasn’t seen her again and she’s felt used, the next time she meets someone she’s really into, she’s not gonna rush into it is she?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 06:13 PM
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Men don’t judge other men on when they have sex so you shouldn’t be judging women. Either you’re interested or you’re not
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 03:58 PM
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Women can’t win on this one, they wait to have sex and men say that the woman can’t have been that into them but if they give it up too early they are easy and it’s their fault that the guy isn’t sticking around
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 03:03 PM
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This post is screaming boy who is just going through puberty. I’m sure the majority of men aren’t so immature
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 10:42 AM
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This sub is endlessly entertaining
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:57 PM
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😂 these posts make me laugh, like the majority of men earn enough for any woman to be “just into them for their bank accounts”.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:15 PM
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5’9. Why
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 09:22 AM
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When you lose half the blood in your body in the labour room and it’s still pouring out of you as they rush you round to theatre, yes you almost die
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 09:21 AM
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Thank you, you’re right so many men don’t get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 11:20 PM
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It’s lovely your wife was able to have a home birth. It must have been an amazing experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 10:54 PM
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It’s something I looked at, I looked at the fact he had a job, had moved out of his parents house, he could drive and that he cleaned up after himself, I liked the fact that he was embarrassed by his housemates mess. And he was tidy and did do housework well until I married him
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 07:12 PM
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You have to remember that although medicine has come such a long way, that women do still die during pregnancy and during childbirth. It comes with very real very big physical risks to both the mother and the baby. Babies still die during pregnancy and during childbirth. Knowing all that, it’s okay for a woman to say, I don’t want to do it. I don’t want to risk my body, I don’t want to risk dying, I don’t want to risk all that to leave the hospital without a baby. There is also a very real risk …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:52 PM
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My kids are worth every trauma but I’d have preferred 3 births with no trauma
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:34 PM
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I’ve had 3 children, when I gave birth to my first, my placenta didn’t come away, the dr tried to pull it out with his hands, at one point he got both hands around the umbilical cord and pulled until I was screaming at him to stop. Then I got taken down to surgery for them to surgically remove it. I was cut from back to front. Every time I stood up for 24 hours after, I fainted due to the sheer amount of blood I lost. My second pregnancy, I went into labour and I was so anemic that I needed a bl…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:17 PM
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Well it might have been for a multitude of reasons, she could have actually liked you but maybe she’s more of a reserved person, or she’s particularly shy. Maybe she was worried about saying the wrong thing and you judging her. Maybe she wasn’t really an arty kind of person but was just being polite. Or maybe she didn’t like you but didnt found it hard saying that to your face so was just trying to be polite and get through the date. Maybe you made her feel uncomfortable unintentionally and she …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:01 AM
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In all honesty, just sounds like she didn’t really feel comfortable being herself with you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 04:51 AM
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I’ve never used dating apps, I dated in secondary school, had 3 serious relationships and then got married at 23. I was very quiet at school, incredibly socially awkward and kept myself to myself, my first serious boyfriend, think we were together a year was a bit of an outkast for most of secondary, he was bullied a lot but I didn’t really understand why, we stayed friends until I was in my 20’s. Second guy was a year older than me, we were together for 2 years, really nerdy, picture the guy wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:59 AM
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What do you suggest women do then?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:36 PM
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No narcissistic people aren’t confident people, behind all their behaviours is deep insecurity
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:20 PM
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Insecure men can be dangerous to women, but insecure people are more controlling, can accuse you of cheating constantly, need constant proof that you like them. It can be exhausting and ruins relationships. Being with someone who is confident in themselves is not just more attractive, it makes the relationship easier
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:44 PM
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Doesn’t matter really does it, that’s the experience I get regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:47 PM
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You’re describing being emasculated as a typical woman’s experience in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:33 PM
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Honestly don’t get what the big deal is. When me and my husband got together, he said it was important to him that we paid 50/50 when we went out, I said okay, I’m good paying for myself anyway and that was it. It wasn’t a big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 11:36 PM
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So don’t pay for your date…. Just pay for yourself. It’s not complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 07:23 PM
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So basically being treated the same as women as you don’t like it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:37 PM
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I don’t understand why men whine about this. No one is forcing you to fully pay for that date. If you have that conversation before hand and say hey i know the whole money thing is a bit of an awkward conversation but you good with 50/50 while we get to know each other; then you know you can just go out with someone who’s good with 50/50. If you choose to go out with someone who expects you to pay and you don’t want to, then don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:12 AM
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If you act like a man, a straight man isn’t gonna be into that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 10:13 AM
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If he took the attitude he had as a man into dating as a woman he wouldn’t stand a chance
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 09:29 AM
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We have a severely disabled child and I can’t work because I am our child’s full time carer. I am financially reliant on him so it is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:39 PM
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😂 they just like to think they are the best at everything cause they can’t handle the fact they aren’t
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:22 PM
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He wasn’t like this until after we had our first child together and got married
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:07 PM
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He does a good job of the car, he has self diagnosed as ADHD but really he is doing the pots with one hand whilst watching YouTube with his body facing away from the sink
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:04 PM
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Men are better at the chores 😂😂😂😂 that must be why I have to rewash the pots every time my husband does them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:08 AM
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I’m a bit weird and nerdy so go for men that are also a bit weird and nerdy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:01 PM
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Romeo was 18 whilst Juliet was only 13
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:42 PM
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The bible is a made up story but sure God told Adam not to eat from the tree of knowledge and wisdom cause he will die, the snake said they will not die. God didn’t want Adam and Eve to have knowledge and wisdom, he wanted them to be stupid and obedient. Eve ate from the tree, didn’t die and Adam now that he saw that Eve was still alive joined in.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:17 PM
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We got married when we were 23
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:31 AM
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No, he’s huge next to me 😂. I said about average cause I couldn’t remember average height in my country, think it’s 5’9/5’10 but not sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:30 AM
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What you mean? I come from a family of short arses both men and women, my husband is around 5’9 so he’s about average, one of my ex’s was around 5’4. I don’t like being with really tall guys cause I already feel too small
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:26 AM
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I’m 4ft10, everyone is tall to me
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:22 AM
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You can stop making it your entire personality
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:15 AM
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Your stats don’t add up, there isn’t an even amount of men to women on dating apps. Men make up 60-75% of users on dating apps, whereas women only make up 25-40% of users. For example on Tinder it’s 75% men, 25% women. So purely due to the sheer amount of men on those apps, of course men are going to swipe more because there are less women to swipe on. Whereas women are always going to swipe less because they aren’t going to be shown the full 75% of the men on there,
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 11:19 PM
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Is your ego that fragile? I think the issue is men’s egos.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:01 PM
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There is a sub called handsome homies that has both gay men and women commenting on the posts
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 12:49 PM
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So you reckon all bi and gay women get turned on by just looking at other women?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:35 PM
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No, I don’t identify as demisexual, women in general don’t get turned on just by looking at people
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:14 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 04:38 PM
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My husband didn’t help me once through the night after my c section because “he was tired”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:33 AM
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It’s for their behaviour, not them being sick. Men will literally watch their wives nearly die during childbirth and then when they get home and they’re still bleeding, have a wound as big as a dinner plate inside them, stitches, will sit their arse down, complain about how tired they are and expect their Mrs to do everything. That’s how men treat their other halves and then expect the world when they are poorly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:17 AM
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Men don’t get shamed for getting poorly or for resting when they are ill, they get shamed for not allowing their significant other time to recover when they are poorly too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 10:59 AM
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He works full time, I do the housework and look after our 3 kids, plus I’m a full time carer to our disabled child. We have a joint account. I don’t really buy things for myself unless I need them. I’m quite stingy with money
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:03 AM
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You have just described my life. I’m married with kids, I don’t go out unless it’s to run errands or do something with my kids/husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:50 AM
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Nikola Tesla was a misogynist and Isaac newton was prone to violent outburst including punching his sister which more than likely contributed to his perpetual singleness. Women are out earning men and doing better in school and university. Women are also choosing staying single over getting into relationships. It’s men who has “loneliness epidemic” not women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 08:05 PM
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Jesus is a made up person in a storybook written by men trying to control the masses. I admire you saving all these broke ass guys from being manipulated by all these women using them for their money 😂. Think you need to spend less time in your echo chambers mate
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 07:47 PM
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Right. Men, don’t forget to take all your dating advice off of this guy, he has all the knowledge and experience needed to pass on his wisdom! 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 07:07 PM
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How many relationships have you been in?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 06:41 PM
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So stay single? True 50/50 will never exist all the time because there are always times during a marriage or relationship where one of you takes on more than the other. If you have boundaries, communicate them. If you have standards, stick to them. It’s not hard. But if you just don’t wanna bother with women then stop bitching on the internet and stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:48 PM
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You know when I do as much as my husband, we have no clean pots, cutlery or glasses to drink out of, the kitchen is a mess, bins don’t get emptied, none of the washing gets done, the bathroom is a mess, kids rooms don’t get tidied etc. I’ve nothing against the man relaxing, he works full time, I care for our disabled children, our baby, including doing all the night care and our middle child too, including all his homework and reading. I do all the phone calls, appointments, school stuff etc. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:54 PM
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That if she stops having sex with you, you will cheat on her
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:11 PM
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Does she know this?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:10 PM
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And if your wife im assuming took sex off the table, you would cheat on her?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:08 PM
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Have you ever been married?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:05 PM
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If you wanna step out of a marriage to go fuck someone else then step all the way out of it and get a divorce, you’re allowed to do that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:31 PM
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I can’t speak for all women but I do think it’s common for women to have to get to know someone before they become interested in them. We can say when someone is objectively attractive but need something more to want to jump into bed with them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 01:47 PM
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Are these serious questions?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 12:36 AM
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We do live in a patriarchy and it is there to benefit rich old white men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 12:00 PM
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He probably thinks if women are singing it’s no longer rock music
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 05:05 PM
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Since when is rock music “men’s music”?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 04:50 PM
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Ah yes, feminists are the problem in a world ran by men. Governments only care about white rich old men not your average person which is why the draft is there and they don’t care the average man dying in a war. They only don’t make women part of the draft because all we are to these rich old white men is walking talking baby makers. Let’s not forget that the war in Ukraine was started by a white rich old man in Russia
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:00 PM
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You’re talking absolute rubbish. In the UK, mens healthcare receives 60% more in new funding than women’s. Women might live longer than men but spend significantly more of it in bad health or disabled. You wanna talk about sexism in the justice system, victims that are women are often blamed for the crimes against them which means that the male perpetrators more of than not go free. Last month in the UK 3 teenage boys raped two girls at knife point on two separate occasions and filmed it to shar…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 07:01 AM
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The majority of women don’t hate 80% of men but the majority of women have been sexually assaulted or raped at some point in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:30 PM
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I do nice things for other people all the time, men and women just because. Like buying food and drink for the homeless and their pets, sat and spoke to them for ages jut because. I’ve worked as a carer even though the pay is shit because I wanted a job that was going to make a difference to other people’s lives. I went out of my way to spend time with a guy on the school run every day because his wife had died suddenly and he was in bits understandably. I would stand and talk to him for an hour…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:24 PM
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They do to the disabled and old people, children or if someone looks like they need it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:08 PM
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If you are that fragile that you think giving up a seat for someone else to be nice is damaging your self respect then I think you’ve got bigger issues
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:01 PM
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Some Women might say awful things about men, it’s usually in response to something vulgar a man has said or done. Men do horrendous things to women like rape them, sexually assault them, kill them, torture them, film it and send it round their friends. They drug their wives and sell their wives unconscious body out to hundreds of men. They make websites on how to drug and rape a woman and get away with it. They traffic little girls over from other countries for rich powerful men to beat and rape…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:58 PM
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What I find funny is that you were that offended by someone doing something nice for someone else that you gave that lad a lecture on how society is so “unfair” for men 😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:45 PM
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The men on this sub are so funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:31 PM
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No one really cares all that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:05 PM
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Just to name a few: killing eve, game of thrones, the handsmaid’s tale, house of cards, the vampire dairies etc. Disney have done plenty: meleficent, Ursula, the evil queen, cruella de vil etc. There are loads more, tens of thousands in fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 08:51 PM
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What propaganda?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 05:41 PM
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I’m not sure what the point of this is, short people exist because of genetics. That’s pretty much it. As each generation goes on, people are getting taller but there are always going to people that are shorter than the average. The only way that short people would stop existing is if women stopped having babies what short men and men stopped having babies with short women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 05:29 PM
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You mean in 3rd world countries where women are still brought up to believe their place is in the kitchen and that men are superior to them? Rather than western countries where women are taught that they can be independent and successful and that a man should add to their lives and be their equal
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:41 PM
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Well that is a gross take I wish I could unread.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 02:58 PM
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I stated a fact. That’s all. You take it as you wish
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:24 PM
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It’s not victim blaming, it’s a fact
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:16 PM
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Just because they are sexualised, doesn’t make them sexual. Us bigger breasted women can’t hide them anyway regardless of what we wear and if people look at me that way it’s because they are choosing to
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:02 PM
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The only men I have heard complaining about the draft are American men, it doesn’t even apply to them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:59 PM
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Where have I victim blamed exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:58 PM
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Breasts aren’t sexual, they are sexualised but there biological reason women have breasts is so they can breastfeed and there is absolutely nothing sexual about that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:57 PM
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Bum and chest aren’t sexual at all. They might be sexualised but they aren’t sexual. No one has their balls, dick or vagina out when they are dressed. And for men, they can’t hide them easily when wearing trousers
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:43 PM
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Women attempt suicide more than men but men are more successful at it because they choose more violent methods. Men’s life expectancy is shorter for a few reasons but main ones are they are less likely to see medical attention when they need it or go to the drs regularly. They are also more likely to engage in riskier behaviour and more likely to die from preventable accidents. As far as the draft thing, active constription ended in January 1973 in the states.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:25 PM
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I’m asking you what you would say are sexual body parts? Not for the definition
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:08 PM
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What are sexual body parts? Because last time I checked everyone just has bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:50 PM
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I really hope you aren’t in a relationship with anyone, never mind married
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:37 PM
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Don’t think it’s optimal to be in a marriage if you’re only interested in the sex. You don’t even care if it’s consensual
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:03 PM
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Only if you have the money to pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 10:30 AM
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How do you know those 45% of men have never been approached? Just says they have never done the approaching
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 10:28 AM
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Weird that cause the world is made up of average looking couples
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:28 AM
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Am I though? Cause how would you exactly know without speaking to every man and woman in the world? Or every couple in the world to see how initiated?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:27 AM
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When I was single I nearly always did the initiating and I got rejected loads, including being stood up more than once. So yeah pipe down with the suck it up buttercup and shoot your shot. Women aren’t immune to rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:15 AM
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You can downvote me but all I see on here is winging about dating apps. Both men and women aren’t having a good time on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 01:33 AM
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The majority of couples I know met at work, school, uni or through a friend. I don’t know anyone that has got together via a ‘cold approach’. You wanna meet someone, do it the normal way. And for the love of god, GET OFF DATING APPS. Honestly I think everyone should delete dating apps, it’s not doing anyone any favours.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 12:50 AM
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I can have empathy that someone might be shy but until you get to know someone you don’t know if they are shy or just not interested. So what are you supposed to do? Force someone to talk to you? I’m incredibly shy. I was painfully shy at school and people didn’t talk to me because of it. When I asked why as an adult I was told my shyness came off as being stand-offish.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 04:14 PM
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When I first met my husband we were 16/17, I went up to him, tried speaking to him, I was also painfully shy so it took a lot for me to go up to him. He was really shy so when I tried to start up a conversation, I got nowhere and ended up walking off feeling really awkward. We didn’t speak again until I was 20/21. Bumped into each other at the pub, both of us had been drinking so that helped. Luckily he had become a lot less shy otherwise the conversation wouldn’t have gone anywhere again and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 02:57 PM
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That’s not my experience. We live in a society where there is no community feel and it’s weird when people talk to you. Both men and women. Sometimes people go out and they are in a sociable mood and receptive to conversation. Other days you will go out and just wanna get in and out with no one talking to you. Someone tries to speak to me on a day I’m feeling sociable, I’m happy to chat. Catch me on a day I wanna be left alone, you’re gonna get one word answers so the conversation ends and I can…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:11 PM
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I don’t think it’s even about pandering. The general rule is if someone isn’t interested, you leave them alone. So if someone is coming across as not interested, then you leave them alone
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 11:11 AM
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I get that. Hard to find a solution though cause if someone speaks to a shy guy cause they are interested but the guy seems uninterested due to his shyness, it isn’t anyone’s fault
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:54 AM
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How can you make dating equal? What is it you are wanting women to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:26 AM
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I think a huge issue with really shy men is when you try speak to them, they don’t seem interested and the conversation goes nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:18 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 04:15 PM
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So hormone replacement therapy changes secondary sex characteristics for example, fat distribution, muscle mass etc. However foundational traits like bone structure, genetic chromosomes do not change, your reproductive organs do not change. Which is why for a trans person, gender affirming care is important but you cannot change the sex you are on a biological level. You can only change the outward appearance
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:14 PM
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It’s not misgendering. They are biologically male. If you’re arguing sex and gender are separate. A trans woman is biologically male in her anatomy and cells. But her gender doesn’t align with her biological sex
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:06 PM
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What about for people who met their husband early 20’s and married them in their early 20s?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 02:10 PM
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I can tell you as a SAHM that has previously worked, I was a lot less stressed at work than at home
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 01:00 AM
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If everyone in the household contributed to keeping the home clean and tidy, everyone would have more time to do things for each other
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 09:38 PM
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How are women playing ‘impossible’ to get?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:15 PM
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Feminism doesn’t blame men for everything. Feminists believe that all genders should be treated equally
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 11:53 PM
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What do you mean by that because feminism at its core is equal rights for everyone and the belief that the patriarchy hurts both men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 11:47 PM
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Everyone is entitled to feel the way they feel. It turns into entitlement when you start blaming everyone else for your own issues
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 11:14 PM
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We don’t care
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 10:17 PM
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There is very little point arguing with OP when he has decided that the only definition of a dating issue is his definition
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:27 PM
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So what about when it’s hot outside? You expecting her to wear long sleeved top up to her neck and something that covers her ankles? What about when she goes swimming? Even a swimming costume shows cleavage and can see shape of her body? Where’s the line?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:28 AM
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Actually it’s not nuanced. Look it up, trying to police what someone wears comes under coercive control and infringes on their human right to autonomy over their own body
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:17 AM
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Being in a relationship does not give you the right to police what other people wear! That’s the end of it. The minute you try and police what your partner is wearing you have crossed the line into behaving in a controlling and abusive manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:07 AM
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Women’s bodies are just bodies. It’s the fact that as a man you are sexualising it and then you want her to cover up because you’re insecure that other men will just be sexualising her body too. Why you making your insecurity her problem. There’s not one conversation about women in relationships policing what their husbands or boyfriends are wearing. So why do you men feel so entitled to her body that you feel like it’s okay to try police what she wears? Women dress for themselves, what they are…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 02:56 AM
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I find these takes just insane. Women are allowed to wear whatever they like. Women don’t get up in a morning and look at their clothes and think what should I wear today to get as much attention as possible. It’s a what do I feel good in, what makes me feel confident about myself. The fact that men think that women dress for them is just a reflection of how men walk around thinking that women exist just for them. Which is why you don’t see us as people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 10:54 PM
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I have never used a dating app, my husband did before we got together but I’ve always not liked them. I tried to use peanut once which is like a parent app that works a bit like tinder and I hated it. The apps force people to be superficial. You can’t tell anything about a person from a picture and someone writing something in a description box doesn’t tell you what kind of person they are. It’s really hard talking online too to a stranger, not natural at all. At least in person, you either hit …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:56 PM
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What’s different?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:50 PM
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Well no not really cause I’m married now. Think we ‘looksmatch’ as you guys put it. I had two numbers when we hit it off, spent all night speaking to him and gave him both my numbers, hoped he would message me. Took 9/10 months but we got together, got married two years later now we have been together 10 years with 3 kids
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:43 PM
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My type is alternative, nerdy gamer guys who always end up being ASD or ADHD
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:03 PM
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Felt it out, if I thought they were interested, told them I liked them and then either they liked me back or they didn’t. Sometimes you will get it right, sometimes you won’t
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 05:55 PM
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I’ve approached in most of the relationships I’ve been in or guys I’ve been interested in. I’ve been rejected so many times, been stood up twice as well
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 05:06 PM
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I’ve no idea to be honest, it was over 11 years ago. I just remember not being able to feel anything and him telling me he was nearly at the finish line.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 07:23 PM
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That mindset is gross. Sex should be about connection and intimacy
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:18 PM
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No I didn’t, maybe that was naive of me but I was only 21 at the time. There wasn’t a deal to close, I find that attitude gross
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:07 PM
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There was no pressure. I wasn’t expecting sex from him, he brought it up, that’s the only thing he wanted to do once I got to his. I literally wasn’t expecting anything from him. As far as I was concerned, the plan was to go to the cinema
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:52 PM
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What was I supposed to do? Edit: I didn’t judge at all. It was just a bizarre encounter. I was really hurt by his reaction after, he could have communicated with me and chose not to, I didn’t wanna make a big deal out of it. This is someone I had known for years and we had been friends for years. He went after my cousin not long after. I’m glad it didn’t work out with him because it meant I met my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:28 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:12 PM
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I would have been willing to work on the sex. Takes a while to get to know each other, sometimes you just need a bit of practice. But yeah no, that was the end of it 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 08:57 AM
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This was like 11 years ago, maybe 12. Been with my husband for 10 so. Anyway I had started seeing this guy do it wasn’t meant to be a one night stand but ended up being that. We were supposed to be going on a date and we ended up just going to his. It took him 4 attempts to get the condom on, I couldn’t feel anything, then he looked chuffed with himself when he finished. It was the weirdest encounter ever. He made up an excuse why I had to leave after, walked through the house including the room…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 08:32 AM
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No because I’m married but it would make me want to have sex more
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 08:27 AM
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I looked at the actual post, it’s maybe two women saying they watch lesbian porn, most of them say that they don’t watch porn at all. So he’s massively exaggerating
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 06:03 PM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:47 PM
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Post number 8. OP you said this would be your last post on this subject. I just want to thank for the entertainment you have provided. I hope you are as committed to your next subject as you have been to this one
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:39 PM
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If society wants women to start having children, they need to change the expectation they have. At the moment the default expectation is that the mum is fully responsible for the house and kids on top of working. It’s putting too much on one person. Those kids have a mum and a dad and both should be taking an equal role in their care which incudes the day to day stuff. When you have two adults in a house, both should be equally responsible for making sure that their home is kept clean and tidy. …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 12:30 AM
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Post number 7. Gotta love the commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 12:19 PM
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This will shock you even more, men and women communicate during sex too to make sure that the other person is enjoying what is happening
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:32 AM
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Shh don’t tell him, it’s really amusing watching him getting so riled up over a made up issue 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:30 AM
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I wonder how many more he will do
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:29 AM
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Is this post number 5 or 6?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:23 AM
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Really insecure men that make their insecurities other everyone else’s problem
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 08:09 AM
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The guys I’ve been intimate with I’ve had long conversations about what I like or they like before it’s happened. And I’ve really enjoyed having those conversations. As far as I am aware, most women enjoy having those conversations
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 05:50 AM
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It’s called porn and because some men are scumbags who post their partner online without their consent
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 04:31 AM
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I’m sorry but the way you’re talking about it is just gross. The majority of women would not be okay with being posted all over the internet during or after an intimate act with a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 03:17 AM
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What do you even consider crazy things?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 04:28 PM
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Actually children are watching their parents really closely. They are watching what relationships should look like. Unhappy parents end up causing their children to be unhappy too. Unhappy parents that stayed together, their adult children end up saying I wish you would have split up and I would have had two happy homes than one unhappy one
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 10:40 AM
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Is this the same guy who has done two other posts trying to say that women are in fact all lesbians?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 11:16 AM
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You’re wasting your time arguing with this guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:11 PM
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People need to stop looking down and start looking up to find the answers as to why there is so many issues in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 09:34 AM
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If society wants couples to have children then they need to deal with the growing wealth disparity between the super rich and the rest of society
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 02:53 PM
1

Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 01:32 PM
3

I view circumcision in boys as mutilating a boys body. But can we stop comparing circumcision with FGM it’s completely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 01:16 PM
1

What do you mean? Who do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 08:04 PM
5

Who are you considering the most progressive and least sexist men in history?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 06:57 PM
2

I think dating apps should be scrapped and everyone should go back to meeting people in person
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 08:09 AM
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You understand the mums life is always at risk due to pregnancy and labour/giving birth don’t you? I haemorrhaged after my second pregnancy, surgeon said it was hit or miss on whether I would actually survive the surgery to save me. That was perfectly healthy pregnancy. Women still die regularly due to pregnancy/birth complications. Women are allowed to decide that they don’t want to risk their life to bring another into the world. You can judge all you like but abortions are healthcare and unti…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 05:08 PM
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Medical assistance when a woman is having a miscarriage is classed as an abortion. Abortions are necessary when there is a risk of death to the mother or if the baby is going to die shortly after birth if they even make it to full term. It’s not a black and white subject even though you pro lifers would like it to be
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:47 PM
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Then that says a lot about the type of person you are. But I hope whilst you are sat there judging women for making those hard decisions, you are also looking into how you can foster or adopt the children those women aren’t physically able to look after if they carry that child to term. Because ultimately when women are forced to carry a child to term they cannot look after for whatever reason, those kids end up in the care system. It’s common knowledge that kids in care and up going through so …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:09 PM
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They are a natural consequence of sex but no one gets to judge why someone else chooses to get an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:03 PM
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When you are struggling with something, it’s hard and it sucks. You are going to go through life my ooo and there is always someone having it harder than you or easier than you at any given time. But if you’re having a hard time then you’re justified in feeling it and no one has the right to downplay your struggles in that moment by telling you well so and so has it harder than you. Comparing yourself to others doesn’t change what you or they are struggling with. I have a severely disabled child…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 02:54 PM
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I don’t think you can compare because everyone’s individual life struggles aren’t the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 01:29 AM
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Men aren’t into most women and women aren’t into most men. You can find people objectively attractive but no one would just go out with anyone of the opposite or same gender
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 01:27 AM
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So in the UK in the last year there have been around 278,000 abortions. Out of those abortions, every 39.4 out of 1000 women were between the age range of 20-24. Over 50% of those women were in a relationship. In a healthy relationship sex exists. Young adults in their early 20’s, especially in relationships are going to have sex with each other and it is unrealistic to tell them to just abstain. Sex in relationships is important for intimacy and both the man and woman in those relationships wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 01:23 AM
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That’s an example of where men are unfairly targeted but this post is saying women don’t get criticised which they do and pointing that out doesn’t mean that me don’t get unfairly criticised too
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 02:23 PM
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What privilege do I personally have, please tell me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 01:36 PM
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It’s not an argument, it’s easily accessible media and if you haven’t lived under a rock and access social media, magazines, newspapers you will have seen it and it’s disingenuous to sit there and pretend it isn’t there just because it doesn’t suit this false narrative that women live life on easy mode and the only people in society who are unfairly criticised is men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 01:29 PM
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It will take you literal seconds to find this yourself if you bothered yourself looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 01:24 PM
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Women are torn apart daily in the media for what they choose to wear, their weight, their looks. Women are criticised for being childfree, for prioritising career over having children, for being a stay at home mum, for being a working mum, for ‘letting themselves go’. When the dad chooses to walk away it’s women who are criticised for not ‘choosing better’ or ‘they should have known he wasn’t ready’. When a man cheats it’s because the woman he is with is ‘obviously not putting out enough’. If a …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:49 PM
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Women are torn apart daily on social media, in the media, we aren’t exempt from criticism fair or unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:57 AM
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Doesn’t pick up after himself, pots are still dirty after he finishes washing up, says he will do something later and then doesn’t do it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 05:00 PM
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The majority of male violence is by white men in western countries. In the UK 79% of all crime was committed by white men
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 10:17 AM
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What’s immigration got to do with anything
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 07:42 PM
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Who’s blaming all men?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 03:40 PM
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Bless you, are you that easily triggered by the fact that the biggest threat to both men and women are other men? That’s not all men but considering men are the biggest percentage of criminals and are responsible for the laws you live by and how much money you have
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 02:04 PM
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What it sounds like is both men and women are victims of other men
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 01:48 PM
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No, no one would rather be abused than alone. People wish to be in health relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 09:14 AM
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Women don’t want to have to put up with sexual abuse just so we can find a romantic partner
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 05:17 PM
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Being the person that loves the other person more, you get hurt a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 01:11 PM
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You wouldn’t feel like that after being raped
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 10:14 AM
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You’re welcome
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 10:24 AM
9

If that’s how you feel about sex, don’t have sex. Easy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 08:33 AM
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You’re gonna have to explain why you think a woman having sex with other men makes her a rapist?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:05 PM
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The guys on that documentary made themselves look like absolute twats.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:11 AM
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Well if you say that’s what it is then you must be right, obviously men have no responsibility when it comes to a break down of their marriage at all. Women out there just going round divorcing perfect husbands
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 08:44 AM
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Is this all women?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:30 PM
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They can do all that, they choose not to because they are lazy and inconsiderate. They want to be mothered for life by their wives or girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 12:38 PM
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I’m continually told how amazing my husband is and how lucky I am that he does the same the things that’s expected of me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 04:32 PM
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Actually no they aren’t a given. It is considered special treatment by a man but expected by a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 04:20 PM
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My husband’s and I ‘first date’ was him coming round to mine and chatting/watched a film. I used to be romantic with him but he either laughed or said thanks and would put whatever I got him down for it to be lost/get broken. I don’t bother now. Valentine’s Day is a money making scheme for big businesses. Birthdays I just ask him to tell me what he wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:36 AM
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That’s evading the question I asked. I’m married, I’m not looking at other people but even when I was single, I could objectively say if someone was attractive but I wasn’t attracted to every guy I spoke to or saw. No one is
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 01:15 PM
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Men aren’t attracted to 90-95% of women so why would women be attracted to 90-95% of men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 11:14 AM
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Youre gonna get arrested at some point and sent to prison and then you will be a slave to whichever guy in prison is bigger than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:08 PM
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If you don’t ever wanna get married, that’s cool. Don’t. There are lots of reasons why people do choose marriage and they aren’t asking anyone else to understand, it’s a personal decision between two people. That’s it. Making your own judgements about that doesn’t make what you are saying fact, it’s just your opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:07 PM
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Just say you don’t believe in marriage for yourself and leave it at that. You don’t have to understand why people get married but your belief that people in love don’t get married is bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 08:35 AM
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Men and women experience the same amount and range of emotions but if you want to look at who is the most unstable with their emotions all you have to do is look at the crime statistics for violent crimes. You will see it’s men. The majority of violent crimes are committed by men. Violent crimes are driven by emotional instability
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 09:25 AM
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If you think women are more emotional than men, prove it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 09:15 AM
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Women don’t need leading, we aren’t children. For small decisions it doesn’t matter, in big decisions, you sit down and discuss it and come to an agreement you are both happy with, like adults. Men aren’t less emotional so this whole insinuation that women aren’t capable of prioritising outcome over emotion is a load of rubbish.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 09:08 AM
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So don’t online date. The internet needs to stop being the third space.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 04:17 PM
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I’m from the UK, when I was 11 I was being cat called by grown men, my step dad started sexually assaulting me at that age. Boys in my year would randomly undo my bra in the middle of class and think it was funny. I was raped by the time I was 16 by a 19 year old, raped again at 18 by a 35 year old man, sexually assaulted by 2 other men in their late 20’s, early 30’s around the same age. I was sexually assaulted on a night out with my friends around the same age. I invited a guy friend round whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 11:05 PM
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I don’t have a friendship group. Never have
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:06 PM
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They’re all as bad as each other as far as I’m concerned. The guy is pathetic for doing it and the women shouldn’t want someone else’s sloppy seconds
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:05 PM
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I think it makes the guy look like a bit of a twat and a bit pathetic but each to their own I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 11:51 AM
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I’ve seen guys do this and find it utterly bizarre as to why. 1. Why are the group of women who are friends okay with it? 2. Why would the guy want to? 3. I’ve not understood the appeal, I’ve found these guy unattractive physically and their behaviour too
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 07:03 AM
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Considering you for whatever reason have never been in a relationship, you are talking about relationship dynamics you know nothing about. Women don’t just act luke warm towards their partners for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 04:54 PM
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Sounds like you’ve only heard one side of it and it’s not always black and white. You can’t make judgements if you don’t know the in and out. You aren’t gonna hear all sides of their relationship from your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 04:13 PM
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I find it equally difficult having conversations online cause I often don’t know how to move the conversation past the hi how are you. So no, don’t really find talking online easier. Usually in person, you can let the other person do all the talking which is easier. I don’t think you are right when you say neurotypical people are cold and don’t love their partners and kids. I think they love them as intensely as anyone else I just think neurodivergent people show their love differently. At the e…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:59 PM
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I’m neurodivergent, I grew up finding socialising really difficult. I was painfully quiet until I got back into work 5 years ago. I did jobs where I had to speak to other people. I’ve had to learn how to speak to other people. I still find it incredibly difficult and draining. However if you want to live in society, make friends and have a relationship with someone, you have to do it. If you want to be alone, stay inside and stay online. It’s a choice you are making. And it’s a fact of life that…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:22 PM
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Can I ask how old you are? You sound like you’re in your late teens, early twenties and you have grown up with everyone being chronically online
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:07 PM
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Why you asking
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 07:58 AM
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There are loads of male support groups in the UK and there are man clubs too. So I’m not sure what you’re talking about. Maybe in the US there isn’t but if there isn’t and you want male only spaces then make your own clubs. Simple really isn’t it. If men wanted to support other men they would. If you want a male only space then make friends with other guys and do stuff together and don’t invite women along. It’s not that complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 01:30 AM
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I live in the UK and the amount of people in their 30s that work full time and are having to house share is ridiculous. Only people I know that are living in a flat or house are couples and those who have managed to buy have had to go back and live with their parents for years first
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 11:43 AM
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It’s not women’s fault that men will have sex with anything with a pulse. Raise your standards and there would be no double standard
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:35 PM
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You know the internet was invented by a woman don’t you? Without said woman you wouldn’t be able to write your ramblings on said internet
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 02:56 PM
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When you feel ready. That’s it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:29 PM
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They’re choosing this so what’s the problem
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 07:46 PM
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Do either of these men have a moustache?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 06:19 PM
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I think you need to realise we don’t live in the past where marriages were just contractual obligations. You only live this life once and you shouldn’t be miserable. In a marriage there are plenty of times where because of whatever is going on in your life, you won’t feel happy. That’s a part of life. You take the highs with the lows. That is very different to the person you are with making you happy or unhappy. If you are with someone who makes you miserable, then you should no longer be marrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 12:14 PM
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If you genuinely believe that it isn’t important for a married couple to be happy then you shouldn’t get married
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:38 PM
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When you have children, it’s your responsibility to teach them that their happiness matters. It isn’t okay for your children to grow up with unhappy parents. No one should stay in a relationship they are unhappy with and aren’t getting their needs met. No one should be sacrificing their happiness, what does that teach your children?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 10:05 AM
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I think a lot of the time, if a guy talked about it at the time it upset him it wouldn’t be a problem, but men often hold onto something until they can’t hold it in anymore and then it comes out in a really toxic way. Women will then rightly say, I shouldn’t have to deal with this. Showing emotions isn’t a problem, expecting someone to deal with an explosion of emotions when you can’t hold it in anymore is totally different. One is healthy, the other resembles a toddler tantrum
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 08:36 PM
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I was commenting on someone’s else who brought up Jeffrey Epstein and then the commenter underneath downplaying what that man and his mates did. As far as sex tourism goes, it’s sad and pathetic. I think it’s weird travelling to another country just to have sex with someone from another ethnicity and culture. Don’t care if you are a man or woman doing, it’s gross and pathetic
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:41 PM
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I wasn’t talking about the sex tourism, I was commenting on the down playing of what Jeffrey Epstein did. As far as sex tourism goes, I just find the whole thing sad and pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:32 PM
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Jeffrey Epstein did rape children as well as all the rich men that also went to that island. Children cannot consent to sex with grown men. There are messages and emails of men sex trafficking children to that island for these grown ass disgusting men to rape
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:44 PM
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Tell that to the women who don’t feel like they have any other option. Doesn’t have to make sense to you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 02:04 PM
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There is a study from a university that has found that 90% of women who enter into prostitution do it because they see it as their only means of survival https://www.uoc.edu/en/news/2025/study-90-percent-women-prostitution-only-option-survival So it’s not some, it’s most.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:34 PM
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The majority of people that think about sex work think about the reasons women end up doing it. The majority of women who end up doing sex work, do it out of desperation or because they have grown up in abusive home and they are using it to hurt themselves. The last thing these women need when they feel like they have no other option is to be stigmatised because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:00 PM
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You aren’t responsible for how anyone else treats you but if you decide to stay in a relationship where the other person is treating you badly, at some point you become responsible for your own unhappiness and you should get some self respect and leave
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 11:02 AM
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You in the US by any chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 10:05 AM
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Why would anyone need 10 children?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 09:56 AM
1

It’s not really altering your bodies anything, it’s just putting a barrier between your swimmers and your ejaculation so that the swimmers are reabsorbed back into the body.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 11:15 PM
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Well you could always get it reversed if you decided you want kids? Just because it lasts 10 years doesn’t mean you can’t have kids at all in those 10 years. Like a woman’s IUD can last up to 5-10 years depending on the type you get, if she decides she wants a child, she gets it removed. You decided you wanted a child, you get it dissolved Realistically would you get an injection in your testicles or that region every week or two?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 08:49 PM
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Well lucky for you, they are inventing birth control for men with no side effects. If only they were also investing in improving women’s contraception too
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 08:03 PM
1

Condoms are birth control?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 05:44 PM
1

Then who are you expecting to be responsible for birth control?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 05:43 PM
1

Are you sexually active?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 05:40 PM
1

What’s your reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 05:37 PM
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Considering hardly any rape cases even make it to court, nevermind a prosecution, doesn’t make much difference that’s it’s a class A felony
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 05:09 PM
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Women’s birth control is the same now as it was when it was first invented. If we want control over when we get pregnant, we either have to take birth control or we have to abstain. Considering sex is part of a healthy relationship, doesn’t give you much choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 04:48 PM
1

Must have not gotten that memo
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 04:03 PM
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I hope men take it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:54 PM
2

Why would jt make you a flawed human?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:47 PM
5

I know me too
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:39 PM
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If a man is done having kids or he doesn’t want them then a vasectomy is a good choice. Prevents him from being able to make a woman pregnant. Doesn’t make him less of a man or pathetic or anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:34 PM
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Why are men who get vasectomies pathetic?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:26 PM
2

So you are using condoms?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:28 PM
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I think even if it does become available, a lot of men won’t go get it, so I don’t see it effecting birth rates anymore than they are already effected
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 01:55 PM
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I don’t think it will change the amount of men pressuring women into condom less sex, as soon as a man knows a woman is on birth control, he’s pushing for no condoms “because it feels better”. Personally I think it gives women the option to not be on birth control if the burden can be given to men. Especially if there are going to be no side effects of male birth control considering the sheer amount of side effects women have to deal with
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 01:35 PM
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It’s hormone free so there isn’t supposed to be any side effects other than some initial soreness at the injection site immediately after
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 01:30 PM
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The fact you are resorting back to what you can legally get away with, literally tells me everything I need to know about you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:12 PM
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It’s part of rape culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 02:41 PM
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Well you can’t have it both ways, you can marry a man, plan a future with him, you can do it all ‘right’ and he could still walk away from you and the kid as some men do. And men like you will still respond with “well you should have known, you should have picked better”. So even if a woman does everything right, if she is still gonna end up on her own and her kid without a dad and be blamed for it, wouldn’t it have been better if she had stayed single and stayed away from men according to what …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 12:13 PM
2

So really it would be safer if women never had sex with men or had kids with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 11:31 AM
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That isn’t true at all. That’s just your take on it. In your head, any sex under any circumstances is great. So you cannot understand why a woman who has been deceived into sex would feel used. So the only reason your brain can come up with is, “oh it’s because she wasn’t that into him”. Being attracted to someone is a green card to being okay with them lying to you or using your body as an object to get off with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 11:30 AM
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You’re assuming that a woman is less attracted to you because she wants to wait until you are in a relationship. Your assumption doesn’t make it fact. Lots of women wait until they are in a relationship to have sex because they don’t want to be used, they aren’t looking for casual sex, they don’t want the guy to think they are easy. None of that is about being less attracted to the guy. You can be really in to a guy and want to jump on him and still make yourself wait for fear of being used or j…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 11:08 AM
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I think it’s pretty simple, if you only want casual sex then look for a woman that also wants casual sex. If you want sex within a relationship then go for a woman that also wants that. Not really hard is it? Don’t lie about your intentions. If you know that woman wouldn’t have agreed to sex if they knew you would have just wanted a casual thing then you disregarding her consent. I understand what the other commenter is coming from around rape. If you agree to have sex with a woman because you b…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:15 AM
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You can never know a 100% what someone is going to do. You can do all the vetting in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:01 AM
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You understand men will tell the woman all the way through the pregnancy they want that child and then once the baby is born, they bail. Or what about when they disappear out of that child’s/children’s lives when they are older? You know when the man meets someone knew, starts a family with them and decide the children he already has don’t matter anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 09:59 AM
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I personally wouldn’t have children with a man that has already walked away from one child. I think you’re setting yourself up for potentially raising a child alone. But on the other side of that men do leave their children, get with another woman and stick around for the child/children they have together. I find that even more bizarre, why be a deadbeat to children you have with one woman and then be a dad to your children you have with another woman. Or even worse is when they play dad to some…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 09:56 AM
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Because men never plan babies with their partners/wives and then leave? Men never remarry and then abandon the children they had with their first wives? That never happens? These men aren’t one night stands or men you barely know. They are the ones who you have sat up late with discussing your future together. You’ve spoke about kids with them, how many you will have, whether you want boys or girls or one of each. And even after all those conversations, when you are sure you have a good one, tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 01:10 AM
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So the child should lose both parents because the dad is a deadbeat? Great advice, let’s give the kid real abandonment issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 11:02 PM
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And when the dad leaves after the baby is born? What’s your great advice then?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 10:55 PM
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Hindsight is 20/20. If those women had the information from the start that these men were gonna end up walking away from their own children, they wouldn’t have gone there in the first place. You can only make decisions based on the information you have at the time
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 10:39 PM
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You leave and don’t see your children anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:53 PM
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Dads that walk away from their children and don’t want contact
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:52 PM
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The men are, they are making the choice to do one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:40 PM
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Well considering I’ve known deadbeats that have been broke and have been on a really good wage, it could be either
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:38 PM
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Contraception fails, the morning after pill fails. Accidental pregnancies are accidental pregnancies. Men also walk away from children that were very much planned. A man being a deadbeat is not the woman’s fault, they aren’t responsible for the choices those men are making
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:30 PM
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Where the have you got “they are usually broke and have a record”. My dad was a deadbeat, was married to my mum, on a 6 figure salary, no record. Still did one. Didn’t wanna pay child support so left the country and worked abroad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:22 PM
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The majority of pregnancies aren’t happening from one night stands, they are in a relationship, a pregnancy happens and then the guy does one. You can only work with the information you have at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:17 PM
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Telling women to choose better is putting the blame on the women. If the women knew the man was just gonna walk away, they wouldn’t have put themselves in that situation. They aren’t doing it on purpose, it’s not a ‘he looks like a deadbeat to be, let’s have a baby with him’.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:00 PM
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I wonder if these men have ever heard the expression he was good looking until he opened his mouth
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:12 PM
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Well a 25 year old brain is fully developed. An 18 year old is either still in school or has just finished school. Anyone that tries to justify going for teenagers are creeps and nothing you say will change my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 03:09 PM
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And plenty of men in those countries where the age of consent is 16, do go younger than 18. It’s disgusting
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 08:05 PM
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I will always judge a man or a woman who goes for an 18 year old because you know they would go younger if there wasn’t a law against it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 04:57 PM
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The majority of what? Abortions? It’s no one else’s business why women choose to terminate a pregnancy, but the main reasons are usually a pregnancy that is the consequence of rape, not being in a financially secure situation to have a baby, not being in a secure relationship, just not wanting children. And before you say “well they should have used birth control”. Birth control fails, southern states are making it increasingly difficult for women to access birth control and there is a lack of s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:33 AM
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Usually to do with lack of access to birth control and poor sex education.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:23 AM
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Abortions are healthcare. Miscarriages can kill women if medical abortions aren’t carried out. Ectopic pregnancies kill women and aren’t viable pregnancies so medical abortions are required. Complications in pregnancy can kill women and abortions in those cases literally save the woman’s life and if there is no living mother, there is no baby anyway. Children who have been raped and end up pregnant should be allowed to terminate that pregnancy so they haven’t got the risk of dying during childbi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:11 AM
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Because even with ‘good’ welfare systems, people still can’t afford to have children. Inflation is increasing but wages aren’t. In the Uk even with two people earning and universal credit topping up incomes (the fact that households with two incomes are still needing welfare is disgusting), people are atill living paycheck to pay check. The world is fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 10:26 AM
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Birth rates are declining due to the economy and in America with the laws around abortion and women dying due to being refused procedures they need, women will avoid sex and relationships, it’s not worth their lives. With going out becoming too expensive, people are choosing to stay home and communicate over technology. The internet can be a toxic place, especially when you find yourselves in echo chambers. Then going out into the real world where someone might actually challenge your way of thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 09:53 AM
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Everyone is less happy, the economy is fucked and it doesn’t matter how hard you work, life doesn’t get easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:43 PM
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In real life women are criticised all the time by both men and other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:40 PM
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So depending on the definition of rape changes the statistics. So in the 12 months before the study was done there was 340,000 cases of male rape victims. 83% of the rape victims, men were the perpetrators. In the 12 months before the study there was 1.3million men forced to penetrate, in those cases 67% of the perpetrators were women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 08:04 PM
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I’m not saying women don’t rape men/boys, it does happen but the majority of rapes are committed by men and there’s statistics to prove it. All you have done is link articles of female abusers
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 01:56 PM
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That’s not true 98% of male victims are sa’d or raped by another man. If it’s not reported then no false allegation has been made
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 01:46 PM
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Men are statistically more likely to be raped than falsely accused. I think you can chill out about it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 10:43 AM
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Having fun when you are young isn’t bad for society. You’re supposed to go out and have fun whilst you are young and you haven’t got any responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 01:09 PM
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I think millennial mums are getting their boys involved in doing housework because they’re fed up of grown men not doing their fair share.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 05:03 PM
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If your parents didn’t teach you how to do chores because they did them all that’s fine. However you can’t as an adult say I’m not going to learn how to function as an adult because my mummy didn’t show me how. You are perfectly able to teach yourself how the washing machine works, how to cook yourself a meal etc. Blaming a guys mother is a cop out
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 04:50 PM
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They really do don’t they
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:25 PM
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My point is your lack of ability to be able to do that isn’t women’s fault. To get through life you have to be able to socialise.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:36 PM
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I’m incredibly socially awkward to the point I barely spoke as a teenager in school, I was horribly bullied. if I liked someone I made the first move because boys rarely made the first move with me, I got rejected plenty, it stung sure but that’s life. So no men/boys don’t have to make the first move. Girls/women will make the first move too. I went out with and married someone who is also socially awkward. Least we can be awkward together. As for the trump comment, I don’t live in the US, it do…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:05 PM
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You might have really struggled socially and struggled to make friends but if you are that awkward you can’t make friends, you’ve no chance of finding a woman to like you. You actually have to be able to have a conversation and be able to engage socially. How else would you be able to have a relationship with anybody? So if your issue is you are incredibly socially awkward, it sucks but it’s nobody else’s fault either. You can’t be bitter at other people for your own struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:53 PM
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You can’t be bitter at women if you have chosen to lock yourself away in your bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:47 PM
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If a guy is choosing to rot in their rooms doing nothing, isn’t that a choice they are making? They could be out having fun and living life
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:40 PM
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I would really like to meet this guy you call chad to see if he is as good the guys on here hype him up to be 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:39 PM
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When you are young you are more likely to go for someone who seems like a lot of fun because that’s the stage you are in your life. As you get older, you want someone who is going to be on the same page as you, who also wants stability, to settle down and have a family with you. It’s not a gendered thing
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:32 PM
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This was very well written and an interesting perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 10:31 AM
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Because you live in society and the alternative options if welfare didn’t exist is mum can’t work so both her and her children starve to death or mum works full time and her children are neglected and taken from her. Then your tax dollars would be funding the children anyway once they enter the system. So you know, you can be unhappy about it all you like but the welfare system stops people dying and means that children can stay with the parent that didn’t abandon them in the first place. You sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 04:30 AM
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I can tell you live in the US because of your opinion of the welfare state. The welfare state should exist because it means that those who are less well off, men, women, single mums, single dads, the disabled, the elderly, those who are carers to a disabled person aren’t being put in a situation they are homeless and without food for the simple crime of being less able to work full time or not being in a well paid job. The poorest in society are the ones who put every penny they have back into t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 01:22 AM
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I think both partners in a couple can get into a pattern of point scoring and a I feel more hurt than you because. It’s not just women that do this. You have to make space to talk about how each other feeling and why and then take ownership over what part you have had in that to get to the point of being able to discuss resolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:40 PM
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The patriarchy was created by men but upheld by both men and women. The patriarchy is hurting both men and women. The patriarchy needs dismantling and both men and women need to stop repeating the things that are upholding it and hurting everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 08:57 PM
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This is the example you went with is it? All you sound like right now is a rapist apologist. The guy sounds like he was abusive towards her on so many levels so it’s not a reach to think he was trying to take advantage of her whilst she was vulnerable. Your take on this is disgusting. It’s not uncommon for men who sexually assault or rape a woman to make the excuses he is making.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:12 AM
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Because men never enter into relationships just to have sex to immediately ghost or dump straight after
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 06:11 PM
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It’s a bit gross marrying a family member isn’t it and it massively increases the chance of having a disabled child. There are plenty of people in the world that there really is no reason to marry into your own family
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:35 PM
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I’m curious when someone is enthusiastically kissing you back, are you spending the entire time going, this woman is acting like a child because she didn’t use her big girl words and say yes I would like to kiss you enthusiastically?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 03:36 PM
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Both men and women use non verbal communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 03:32 PM
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If you can’t tell when a woman is into it, that’s your problem, not women’s problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 02:39 PM
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Like I said, if someone is unsure, they need to ask
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 12:35 PM
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Think you need to look up what gaslighting means. Men who try make consent sound complicated are the ones who end up raping or sexually assaulting women and then blaming them “for not being clear enough”. Any kind of sexual contact should be enthusiastic from both sides. It doesn’t always need to be verbal. If you aren’t sure, ask. Consent can be withdrawn at any time, if you continue, it’s rape. If you ask and she says no then you continue to ask until she says yes, it’s rape. You can change th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 10:34 AM
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Doesn’t matter what the scenario is, consent isn’t complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 09:53 AM
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Consent isn’t that complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 09:26 AM
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Young guys like this are just having fun but as you get older and they aren’t young guys anymore, it’s just a bit sad. They should want more for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 06:36 PM
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Not every man makes it clear they don’t want their child until after said child is born
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 05:45 PM
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Having a baby is the best but at the same time it’s hard. Is your friend getting up every 1-3 hours to feed his baby? Each time you get up, you can be up for an hour feeding and changing baby’s nappy. That’s if they settle between feeds. You have a baby with colic or trapped wind and you don’t get any sleep. You don’t have a choice with drs appointments, dentist appointments, school stuff as they get older, homework. Then your child becomes interested in a specific club and because you love them…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 05:53 PM
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Just because 80% watch porn doesn’t mean 80% of men are paying for it or are addicted to it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 10:25 AM
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Every man who watches it isn’t watching the same thing, nor is every man addicted, spending money on it etc. You’re making huge generalisations that don’t reflect all men
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 01:39 AM
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I think what is classed as cheating is personal to each relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 12:31 AM
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Relevance?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 10:07 PM
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Generalisations like this aren’t helpful. He’s some men are like this but not all men. There are plenty of good men out there that contribute equally with the household chores and are very involved dads. It’s just about finding a good guy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 09:55 AM
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Paying a prostitute isn’t going to fix your mental health issues. You’re just gonna get sex. Sex doesn’t fix your mental health
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 08:55 AM
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Men also don’t like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 05:22 AM
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This never happens to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 07:27 AM
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It’s neither, it’s the physical and emotional intimacy me and my husband are sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 09:52 PM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 12:01 PM
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It's common enough, the whole world isn't the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:28 AM
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Parenting isn't hard with neurotypical children but with a severely disabled child that requires 24 hour care, not so easy, needs a parent at home at all times.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:25 AM
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Loving the ignorance
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:21 AM
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It's not always that simple? What if a couple have a disabled child which then makes it incrediby difficult for both mum and dad to work? Dad is in a position to earn more so mum volunteers to be the one to stay home, do the housework, sacrifice her career, look after the children, juggle all the appointments etc
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:13 AM
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Women and children were also enslaved in ancient times, not just men
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:17 PM
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This only really applies if you are in a committed relationship. Even then it’s arguable. I’m not at all religious though and have my own thoughts around the bible and its contents
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:56 AM
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We live in a society where people post their private thoughts all over social media and then get upset when they rightly get called out for it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:30 AM
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Why would women care what you are doing in the privacy of your own home when you are on your own?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:24 AM
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Women since ancient times have been seen as objects or commodities for men. Although in the last few years this has been challenged and women in the media have been given more active roles rather than passive roles, women in society are still viewed as objects. There are times women want to be seen sexually when we are consenting to it, for example, when you are with someone you want to be intimate with, women who do only fans etc In our every day lives though it would be nice to be seen as a pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:19 AM
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Usually when the guy has been a dick or way too much too quick and it feels like love bombing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 05:02 PM
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What’s the comparison?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 04:28 PM
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What an entitled attitude. Everyone is responsible for their own mental health, if you think a chat bot is gonna promote emotional well-being for yourself, pay for it or find a free one
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 03:53 PM
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I think the issue in these subreddits is the lack of being open to understanding and instead pushing on the other person preconceived ideas
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 10:58 PM
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It’s ridiculous to engage in a who has it worse argument because both sides end up feeling like they have to ‘win’. You can argue women have privilege in certain aspects and men have privilege in other areas. What’s the point in starting a gender war?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 02:43 PM
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This post isn’t about dating. OP is claiming women are privileged as a whole within society. Hence my point that both men and women have different lived experiences and it is easy to look at someone else and assume they have it easy when you haven’t a walked a day in their shoes
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 06:53 AM
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Men and women have very different lived experiences and it is easy to sit back and think the opposite gender has it easier when you aren’t living their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 01:03 AM
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You guys really need to watch old episodes of jeremy kyle, it will be eye opening
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 12:58 PM
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You can’t live your life on a what if.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 05:11 PM
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Eating healthily doesn’t require a dr, neither does movement
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:25 PM
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Are men incapable of eating healthily and looking after themselves in general? Or is looking after yourself ‘chad behaviour’
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 02:43 PM
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I’m doing the same with my kids as you. This entire post is just drivel
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 06:51 PM
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Is all this from your lived experience as a girl growing up or a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 05:55 PM
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You understand the majority of the time, these women aren't having baby's with these men thinking from the off he is a deadbeat who will do one. Once you have figured it out, it's usually too late. The women still look back thinking, I should have spotted the signs, I wish I had chosen better. But retrospect is great isn't it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 06:25 PM
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You're 18. You're too young to be on here. I know a few guys who didn't have their first relationships or lose their v cards until they were in their 20's. You should be out with mates having fun, being 18, not chasing after girls
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 06:16 PM
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I’m married
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 08:02 AM
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Then you aren’t going to know how it feels, arguing with these women because you don’t understand it isn’t going to make you understand it. You don’t ask questions first and then get yourself out, you get yourself out because the alternative could be your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 07:48 PM
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Has anyone ever made you feel incredibly uncomfortable to the point your entire body is screaming to get away from them?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 07:03 PM
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You’re 18, I wouldn’t be coming on this sub looking for advice or anything that actually makes sense. There are some really bitter people on here who have very biased opinions that make them feel better. Maybe the girl you’re into isn’t acting that bothered because all of her friends are crushing on you and it would be weird to join in. It would certainly put me right off
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 11:15 PM
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I’m not downplaying any number, I googled the statistics around it in the UK
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 07:54 AM
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That’s not true, in long term relationships and marriages because of life you do go through phases where it is hard and you have to fight to continue making your relationship work. The spark can go, especially if your lives have become really busy, at that point it’s about communication and coming up with a plan to spend time together to bring back that spark and excitement. Relationships aren’t always easy and effortless and it’s that mindset that makes people leave at the first sign of content…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 06:55 AM
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What is it you think women need calling out for that they aren’t already called out for?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 06:56 PM
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Yeah the manosphere isn’t doing anything, you just think you are. Women call out other women all the time. Men call women out if they are being shit just not as much as women call other women out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:25 PM
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Both men and women can be hypocritical, there’s nothing new about that. That’s just people being people
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:35 PM
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I wouldn’t want to assume how common it is with men to be hypocritical around it. You hear more from women how they feel about their partners watching porn but women in general are more open about how they feel about things than men are so. I think even if it was more common than you think, you probably wouldn’t hear about it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 03:14 PM
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I was merely pointing out that OPs stance that women are hypocritical is unfounded cause both men and women can be hypocritical around it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 02:50 PM
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I know men who have gone off at their wives/girlfriends for watching porn/reading “smut”, being really degrading towards them, calling them names for it whilst watching and paying for porn themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 01:20 PM
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Yeah that’s not true, I love my husband because he’s a great person, he’s kind, loving, supportive, a good communicator, he’s a great dad, he’s intelligent, I love how he will get stuck into anything and give it a go, I love how much he knows about topics he’s interested in, the music he listens to, he also goes out of his way to be a good husband to me, he’s so thoughtful
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 08:02 AM
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The younger generation or staying at home. Most of their interactions are online which is gonna make making and keeping friends and relationships with other people really difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 09:10 AM
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Who’s paying for the paternity tests? In the UK, the cost of a paternity test ranges between £99 and £400. There’s roughly around 600,000 babies born a year. The cost for the paternity tests if covered by the government would be between £59,400,000 and £240,000,000.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 03:34 PM
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I wouldn't want a law to come into place that punishes all men for the actions of a few. That's not a solution, I haven't got an answer on how you strengthen the law around rape, it's one word against another, it's a really hard crime to prove.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:07 PM
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We get it, you don't like women
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:30 PM
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Depends where you are in the world doesn’t it, abortion isn’t available everywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:11 PM
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What would you like women to do about it? The majority of us (98%) aren’t out deceiving men, we don’t agree with paternity fraud and like you think it’s a disgusting thing to do to another human being. Men make up the majority of government, so what would you like us to do about it? Or do you think if it’s something that men are genuinely concerned about, they should be shouting from the roof tops, protesting, fighting for the law to be changed so that paternity fraud is seen as a criminal offen…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:10 PM
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I understand your thought process and I feel for the men it happens to but realistically, the government isn't going to intervene. It isn't something all men are fighting for or are worried about.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 11:43 AM
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The majority of birth control has an 98% effectiveness, considering the consequences and the impact it has on both the man and the woman's life, would you say 2% is too much of a risk and all sexual activity should be avoided until you are actively trying for a baby?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 11:04 AM
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There are roughly around 20,000 babies swapped at birth in the States due to babies going into nurseries rather than staying with mum. When this happened in the UK, we got rid of the nurseries but despite it happening in the states, the use of nurseries continue. Like I said, I think it should be a crime and the mother be done for fraud when it does happen. Considering, how easily accessible paternity tests are, the state shouldn't be funding mandatory paternity tests though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:59 AM
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I think the majority of women would consider paternity fraud abhorrent and devastating for both the man and child involved. It should be considered fraud. I think the internet is making men really worried it's going to happen to them even though it's incredibly rare, in the UK, it's around 2% of fathers. I think perspective needs to be kept. Yes, it's devastating, it should be considered fraud, but it's unlikely to happen to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:35 AM
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I mean you only have to google who watches true crime and although it says women are the main consumers it also says that men of all ages enjoy it too
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 08:37 AM
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Do you have a source that says only women watch it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 07:11 AM
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Hate to break it to you but a lot of men watch it too
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 05:36 AM
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Why you blaming women for something producers are doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 08:55 PM
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People like true crime not because they enjoy watching the trauma and suffering of others, it’s because trying to understand why someone behaves the way they do, how they got there, how their lives up to that point shaped their decisions is interesting. People find psychology interesting and it’s sort of a dip into it. Or it might be that they have heard about the crime but want to know more about what happened, why it happened, have an opinion on whether it was dealt with properly, if it could …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 10:17 AM
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That’s very true
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 07:25 PM
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You’ve gone for fairly extreme examples there haven’t you. For the sake of argument though, I will humour you. In my year at school, I didn’t go to school with one guy who could be described as a chad to you, every single one of them were just average looking guys, the ones that did better than the others were simply just more confident. The ones that didn’t do well didn’t interact with the girls and would spend most of their time with a small group of guys in the library/IT suite or had other t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:46 PM
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Who’s version of Prince Charming though? Cause guys I find attractive my siblings don’t and who they find attractive, I don’t. Same with friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:31 PM
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I still don’t understand who chad is supposed to be or what he’s supposed to look like
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:23 PM
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That’s not true though is it? The study says 45% of young men, 18-25 have never approached a woman in person, meaning they have online or through other means. With the main reason being, those men are too scared of rejection to try. It also states that 74% of women 25 and below stated a desire to be approached more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:14 PM
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Women are biologically driven to want sex too, that’s how babies are made. What’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 04:13 PM
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My bad experiences with men aren’t ones I’ve been attracted to. It was my step dad when he SA’d me repeatedly for 6 years. It was two trusted men who worked with kids who hit on me the moment I turned 18 and the one that raped me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 02:06 PM
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If you don't trust your partner, you shouldn't be with them, never mind having a baby with them. Relationships are built on trust. Going up to your partner after you have had a baby with them or whilst they are pregnant and saying i want a dna test is saying to them, i think there is a possibility you have been sleeping with other people, so i need you to prove to me this baby is mine. At that point, your relationship is done. DON'T HAVE BABIES WITH SOMEONE YOU DON'T TRUST.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 10:04 AM
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You wouldn't need verification if you were sure you were the only man your partner was having sex with, therefore you are accusing her of cheating. You can word it how you like, that's what it comes down to
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 09:53 AM
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How does it work then?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 09:38 AM
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When you ask for a dna test you are accusing them of cheating otherwise you would be confident that baby was yours and wouldn’t need the test done
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 09:13 AM
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It depends. Sometimes minutes, sometimes seconds, sometimes a lot longer. Depends on how long it’s been since we last did it, how excited he is, what kind of sex we are having, how much time we have
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 03:37 PM
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That’s probably more to do with the fact that the younger generation aren’t going out and most of their socialising is done online. You can’t meet people from your bedroom
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 07:15 PM
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What repercussions are you wanting to happen to the person that cheated?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 10:22 AM
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Accusing your partner of cheating to the extent you want a dna test done is offensive. If you dont trust her, break off the relationship and then by all means ask for one
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 08:04 AM
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Have you seen the UK show virgin island?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:43 PM
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There are plenty of cultures across the world where women are forced exactly into these roles, across the Middle East, in parts of Africa, in places where child marriage is legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:26 AM
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Why would inheritance have anything to do with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:46 PM
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No it won’t undo it. But that’s where your anger should be directed. Towards the people that made that decision. Towards the drs that carried out the procedure. Towards the religion that has made it mainstream in America and towards the government for not putting a law against it. The same way that just because FGM is illegal, once it has been carried out, the parents being arrested for it, doesn’t undo it. They are still left mutilated
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:50 PM
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It’s free to all children, it’s free to every pregnant woman, it’s free to everyone who receives welfare. If you aren’t in work earning over a certain amount you don’t pay the negligible tax that goes towards the NHS. If you aren’t in work or you are pregnant, you don’t pay for your prescriptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:06 PM
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Well free at the point of treatment. The UK, we have the national health service, you pay taxes towards it if you are earning but it’s negligible. You don’t have to pay for treatment, to be seen by a dr, calling an ambulance etc. You only have to pay for your prescription if you earn over a certain amount. You can opt to pay monthly so you are paying nothing more than £10 regardless of how many items you have that month.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 06:44 PM
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Types of FGM Female genital mutilation is classified into 4 major types: Type 1: This is the partial or total removal of the clitoral glans (the external and visible part of the clitoris, which is a sensitive part of the female genitals), and/or the prepuce/clitoral hood (the fold of skin surrounding the clitoral glans). Type 2: This is the partial or total removal of the clitoral glans and the labia minora (the inner folds of the vulva), with or without removal of the labia majora (the outer fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:34 PM
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Why don’t you sue your parents then for making a decision about your body that you had no say in and as you are stating is impacting your life?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:26 PM
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I don't like America because it's a place both men and women who aren't rich are treated like shit. Its a country where a profit is being made off the back of everything, you don't have a health care system that is free to absolutely everyone, you don't have mandatory holiday days, gun laws wont be changed regardless of the amount of school shootings happening each year, the maternity and paternity leave laws are practically non existent, the anti abortion laws are killing women for no reason, A…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 01:45 PM
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Around the world, draft laws, also known as conscription or compulsory military service, vary widely. Some countries have mandatory service for men, while others require service for both genders, and some have selective conscription, lottery systems, or require registration for a potential draft. In some cases, like in the US, mandatory service is written in law but rarely enforced. - google
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:20 PM
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The draft is something created and upheld by men
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:02 PM
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Women were down in the coal mines. I went to a coal mine museum recently with my children last month and the guy that used to work in them explained how women used to work in them too. In 1917 during world war 1, women were allowed to joint the army and made up the women’s army auxiliary corps. But it wasn’t until 2018 that women were allowed on the front line. It hasn’t been women making those rules regarding the army, it has been men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:01 AM
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Not all women like anal, not all women like giving blow jobs or are able to if they have a sensitive gag reflex
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:58 AM
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What would men do if all women refused to have sex unless they wanted to try for a baby? Start reversing laws on marital rape?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:46 AM
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Great, it still doesn’t routinely happen in the UK, I’m not saying it never happens, but it isn’t the norm here. I don’t care who is offended, cutting baby boys foreskins off is disgusting if it isn’t happening for medical reasons. I don’t agree with a lot of what Britain has done in history. The things that happened during the time of British colonialism and the British empire was abhorrent.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:42 AM
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What about women and children who are raped? They didn’t choose to have sex but are now being forced to carry through with that pregnancy. What about all the women on birth control and the birth control failed? You say further down about knowing when you are fertile. It’s really hard to track your cycle and know which days you are ovulating. It’s impossible for women who have irregular cycles. I started going to the Drs when I was 17 asking how to track my cycle naturally, it took until I was 30…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:34 AM
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I’m completely against it, it doesn’t happen routinely in the UK and predominantly happens in the US due to religious reasons. But you know Americans are quite happy to use religion as a way of completely disregarding individuals right to choose
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:22 AM
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It absolutely shouldn’t, women are dying. Women are having miscarriages and needing medical intervention to help pass the baby and are being left to bleed to death, women who have an ectopic pregnancy which is life threatening, non viable pregnancy are being refused treatment. A woman in Georgia is dead and her body is being kept alive as a human incubator. What is happening in the states is absolutely disgusting and the politicians who reversed roe vs wade should be completely and utterly asham…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:16 AM
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Well if you live in the states, the laws around abortion is directly putting laws on women’s bodies
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:05 AM
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On the other side of this there are no laws on men’s bodies but there are when it comes to women’s bodies
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:00 AM
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I would try to be flirty with her, however you have to keep at the back of your head that if she doesn’t feel the same, you are potentially losing a friendship
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 07:26 AM
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Depends where you are in the world. It’s unreasonable in the UK when average income is around £30,000, the majority of the population isn’t earning 6 figures
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 03:48 PM
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This isn't something I ever think about. I don't think I will see it in my lifetime
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:44 AM
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Is this a serious question? What are people doing, going up to people and asking what type of phone they have and then if they say Android, going eww no thanks and walking off. What a ridiculous thing to even get caught up about
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:42 AM
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Why would women being more productive end marriage? You enter into a marriage because you love your spouse and you want to build a life together
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:36 AM
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Your response to how are women funding their travels was that a man is funding it. Hence my response that every woman I know that has gone travelling has paid for it herself by working whilst she is travelling
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 02:22 PM
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Well I don’t think this is a universal experience for women. Women I know who have travelled around the world have worked in each country to fund their travels
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 02:13 PM
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How is this woman funding her lifestyle whilst she is travelling around the world in a van? Also just because guys are flocking around women, doesn't mean she wants that attention. Ultimately, you need to be in a relationship that you want to be in, with a person you have a deep and genuine connection with. Considering everyone is an individual, there is only a few people you will deeply connect with. They need to be your person, not just a person
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 01:16 PM
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Just because you can’t see the damage caused doesn’t mean there isn’t damage caused. Also how do you know physical damage isn’t caused in rape cases, it’s not going to be somewhere you can see is it? Intimacy could be uncomfortable or painful for the rest of their lives. People can have a lifetime physical pain from mental and emotional trauma, especially when it comes to cases of sexual assault and rape. I honestly hate it when people try compare two horrendously traumatic events and say one wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 08:26 AM
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I’m not saying what this man went through isn’t absolutely abhorrent because it absolutely is. I’m telling you stop comparing the two. Being raped is still a physical act happening to a person against their will. The comparison you keep making shows your lack of understanding of how damaging rape can be for the victim. I don’t think what that woman got was long enough, especially for the victim and his family, they will have been devastated by that. The justice system however is broken across th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 08:11 AM
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Rape is horrendous for the victims and causes a lifetime of emotional and mental damage. A lot of rape victims end up having to live with PTSD. Depending on the violence of the rape, they can also end up with physical damage. Just because the scars aren’t visible to others, doesn’t mean they don’t run deep. Trauma is trauma and isn’t comparable. One persons trauma isn’t less than someone else’s just because you can’t always see the scars There are a huge amount of offenders who should get consid…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 07:23 AM
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Boys and girls learn differently, boys are more likely to be kinaesthetic learners but all learning is everyone sat behind a desk. How lessons are delivered and children are expected to learn needs to change. Lessons should be hands on and immersive so that learning is accessible for every child in the classroom. I also think it’s a case of until recently, boys and men have had the upper hand in education and work just because they aren’t girls. Girls and women have been encouraged to work hard …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 09:12 PM
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The education system is broken and it’s failing so many children. It needs overhauling
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 09:01 PM
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It is insecure and it’s controlling. If you wanna date women that are more modest in how they dress and don’t like clubbing, then go out with women that are already like that. Don’t date women that do wear more revealing clothes and go out clubbing and then try change and control what they can and cannot do.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 08:21 PM
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A man that is incredibly insecure, repeats abusive behaviours from one relationship to the next, is entitled and lives their life with the expectation that they shouldn't have to take responsibility or face the consequences of their mistakes or choices. Lies continuously, steals, has the my way or the high way attitude, is bad with money, walks away from their child/children and then goes on to have more with someone else, only to leave that relationship too because "he wasn't the no.1 priority …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 03:14 PM
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From the way they are behaving. There are men who are on the shorter side that are that insecure about their heights they are super sensitive. They get aggro about everything because they take everything as a slight against them. It becomes their entire personality. Once you start doing that, you’re basically shouting to the world, tease me, i will give you a reaction, it will be fun. Women aren’t the worst for teasing those types of men, other men are. Especially in male dominated spaces like b…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:44 PM
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Probably is what you’re used and have grown up around. I do know that if you are making a big deal out of your own insecurities then you are making it too easy for people to rip you for them. These things are only a big deal if you are making them a big deal. People say and do things for a reaction, if you don’t give them one, it takes the fun out of it and it stops
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:41 PM
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Yeah it is really annoying when you’re being treated like that. Unfortunately for me at school, I was painfully quiet so I would never react. One of my sisters survived school by being super aggressive towards both the boys and the girls so that no one would dare say anything to her, never mind lay there hands on her
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:31 PM
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If a taller guy is acting like a nob, I would say they are arrogant and are walking around like they are gods gift and they need a reality check cause they are really not all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:29 PM
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Im not sure what you’re on about. The reason short guys who have short man syndrome get teased is because they make it so easy for people to tease them. If you wear your insecurities like a badge for everyone to see, expect to be ripped for it. Especially if you’re gonna act like a nob to people because of your insecurities. Everyone is insecure about something but you don’t have to make it your entire personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:27 PM
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As a family of short people, the men in my family or men the women have got with (all on the shorter side) have never had an issue with women. Short man syndrome is when a guy acts like a dick and like he is over compensating in the worst way possible. And as a woman that is under 5ft and incredibly quiet, i was bullied from being 4 til I was 18, the guys in my year regularly picked me up, twisted me upside down and dropped me on my head. I am teased as an adult, I’ve been mistaken for a child. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 02:15 PM
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Marriage is a risk for both the man and the woman. The majority of couples, they are both earning a similar amount in wages or the wife has given up her career and financial independence to be a SAHM. If they have bought a home together and don't have children, the advice from divorce lawyers will be to sell the house and take 50/50 on the sale which is fair. If my husband and I split up and divorced, he would be able to rebuild his life easily, I am SAHM mum and full time carer to my disabled c…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 09:58 AM
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Girls, especially teenage girls are brutally nasty, you say girls and women don’t let their insecurities be known but usually the bullying is a projection of their own insecurities
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 04:43 PM
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I think driving is a life skill and unless there is a medical reason that physically stops you, you should learn to drive. As an adult, you should want to be as independent as possible and not rely on other people driving you around. This is for both men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:24 AM
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Nope not even a little bit
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 08:05 AM
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Don’t care, isn’t something I even think about
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 08:04 AM
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Everyone is insecure about something which is fine but when that insecurity becomes their entire personality and suddenly it’s everyone’s problem, that’s when it’s an issue
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:04 PM
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It’s the everyone but me mentality
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:27 PM
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I really hope you never end up in a position where you need to use welfare. Everyone has this attitude of it will never happen to me and everyone who uses welfare is a scrounger. That’s up until they suddenly become disabled, have a severely disabled child, become sick, lose their job and can’t find another, end up a full time carer for a loved one etc
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:05 PM
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Abuse is about control.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:29 PM
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Abusive men don’t treat women as if they are disposable, they want full control over the women in their lives so they don’t leave them
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:27 PM
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https://www.cawc.org/news/what-is-the-psychological-makeup-of-an-abuser/
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:12 PM
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Okay don’t believe me. That’s your prerogative
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 08:19 PM
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Abusive men can literally be anyone. The men who are most likely to be abusive, are the ones who are insecure and that can be for a multitude of reasons. They came from an abusive home. They are insecure in themselves for whatever reason. They are insecure in their jobs/where they are in life. They could be insecure in their academic achievements. Any man can fit into those categories.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 06:56 PM
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The guy who abused me for years was none of those things, he was an introverted, awkward gamer who took advantage of the fact i was 15 and vulnerable as I was being abused at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 06:09 PM
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No I’m not a sexual, I’ve spoke to my husband about this and as a grown man thinks that what you do is creepy af. You should be able to walk past people and acknowledge they are good looking without imagining having sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 01:10 PM
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You’re being really creepy, doesn’t matter how you dress it up in your head or try and justify yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 12:45 PM
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They are treated that way already. Women aren’t automatically believed, even once it is in court, it is insinuated you wanted it. I know this from experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 12:44 PM
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Theres a massive difference between acknowledging that someone looks good and undressing them with your eyes and fantasising about having sex with them. One is fine, the other is creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:06 AM
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I don’t really know how I feel about it, I was SA’d as a child by a family member and he went round telling everyone I made it up and he was being falsely accused. He eventually admitted to part of what he did once it went to court but was still saying I made the rest up. Jury said not guilty, judge intervened and said he had to be found guilty for the bit he admitted to. He got a suspended sentence. You just never really know I guess. I hate women that do falsely accuse men because it makes soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:04 AM
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It’s creepy, really creepy. So yes it’s objectifying and dehumanising. You are using these random women going about their day to day lives as a source of sexual gratification for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 03:49 AM
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Objectifying women is seeing them as nothing more than a sexual object or viewing them as sexual objects before you see them as a person. Women don’t exist for a man’s sexual pleasure. You can identify when a thought comes into your head is inappropriate and you can stop the thought rather than turning it into a fantasy in your head. What you are doing is creepy and women should be able to go about their day to day lives without some random man they don’t know fantasising about having sex with t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 01:12 AM
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why am i a demisexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 05:45 PM
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I’ve never gone for the “popular”, what society would class as “good looking” guys. I personally don’t find those guys good looking, they walk around like they are more than they are. My dating history has been with guys who are alternative, nerdy looking, awkward until you get them talking
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 08:00 AM
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Dating apps are one of the worst things to happen to modern dating. It is forcing people to essentially ‘shop’ for a partner. It forces both men and women to have to be superficial in the way they choose someone because all you have are tons of photos. How good a photo comes out depends on how photogenic you are. Plus in real life there is more to attraction than how someone looks, it’s little things like how they smile, their eyes, how they interact with people, how they interact with you etc. …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 07:32 AM
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I’ve never been on dating apps and never would
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 07:10 AM
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Think you’re having a completely separate conversation with yourself, hope you enjoy yourself cause your reply makes no sense in relation to mine. It’s also taken you hours to come back at me with your nonsensical response.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 08:29 PM
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I mean I’m 4ft 10, not sure I would be able to find a man shorter than me in day to day life
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:54 PM
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Exactly, that goes both ways, no one should be taken the piss out of
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:32 PM
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I mean you can have standards, the I need to take what I can get mentality is just gonna make you seem desperate and that is never a good look. But if you keep that mentality and then get a woman that takes the piss out of you, you can’t complain because you had no standards to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:27 PM
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Many men are mentally ill too
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:20 PM
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No, I’m no, there are always superficial people in the world, both men and women. But if you don’t want a superficial woman, don’t go for one. Can’t say all women are like that when most of us just want a loving relationship with a decent guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:19 PM
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Some people are superficial, others aren’t. So that might be a standard some women have but it’s not true for all
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:17 PM
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Can’t really respond to that, I’m married
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 02:44 PM
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Or maybe not all women are superficial?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 02:43 PM
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Well maybe the women who are saying good men are boring are chasing something that you wouldn’t wanna engage with anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 02:42 PM
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They are basic standards, so yeah course it’s fair as a man if you meet a woman and she can’t even meet the basic standard of looking after herself or being able to communicate to turn her down. Do you wanna feel like you are in a relationship with an adult or a grown child?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 02:42 PM
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Exactly that’s my point. Amount of men on this sub wanting women to lower their standards and most women just want a good partner where there is love and respect going both ways, which should be bare minimum
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 12:53 PM
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What do you class as high standards? Expecting you to be working? Self sufficient? Be able to pick up after yourself and be able to do your own housework? Be a good person? Share the same morals and values as your potential partner? Being good at communicating? Being able to consider someone else’s wants and needs as well as your own?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 11:51 AM
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This is more in line with my own lived experience. I have always prioritised personality and how well we get on over anything else
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 12:51 PM
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Are people really meeting through online dating apps? I have known people who have used online dating but there partners or the person they have married, have ended up being someone they have met at some point in there life, whether it is has been someone they used to work with, someone they reconnected with from school/college/uni, through friends/family. I think i only know one person who has actually married someone they met on an online dating app
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 12:51 PM
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I would disagree and say religion comes from trauma, you spend your entire lives living in fear of not living in a way of making this fictional character happy. You worry you wont go to fictional heaven. That fictional satan will taint your souls and that if you make fictional god unhappy you will end up in fictional hell. I don't live in fear of any fictional being or fictional place.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:25 AM
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yeah as far as I am concerned God and Satan aren't real. They are fictional characters in a fictional story that was written in an attempt to control the masses. You may believe God is love. You obviously believe God exists and that's fine, but I don't along side millions of other people who also don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:16 AM
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If you are sat saying you can't have love without God. Then are you saying those who don't believe in God can't love?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:08 AM
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Athiests are doing fine without religion. We don't believe there is a god therefore the god you believe in doesn't come into our relationships or marriages at all
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:02 AM
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Men also take the piss our other men, when a man goes past really revving his engine, my husband will turn round to me and say he’s quite clearly got small dick energy. Not all Men care about boob size or body size, they will say things to hurt women when they mock them if they feel so inclined to. I was called tissue tits through school cause I had a bigger chest, the guys in my year thought they would get a rise out of me for saying it. That was the only reason they said it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:37 AM
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Can we stop with these questions about dick size. You know your only asking so you can go “see i told you it matters to women”. When anyone mocks someone else, they go for the thing they are most likely going to get a reaction from. Men do it all the time to women too, whether that’s by commenting on the size of her chest or the size of her body
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:16 AM
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Sex should be about both partners enjoying it and connecting. It is very obvious when both men and women are enjoying sex. Sex shouldn’t be an act that men are doing to women. If that is how sex is feeling, you should be stopping and communicating with your partner. If your partner doesn’t seem to be enjoying it, you should be stopping and communicating with your partner. Men will often orgasm from sex every time due to the physical movement. It hards for women from PIV alone to orgasm, they oft…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 12:39 PM
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My husband and I got together when we were 21, we obviously didn’t move in together straight away. He was little in a house share and when I went around, he seemed really tidy. When he moved in, I ended up doing 100% of the chores but I was a SAHM and he was working full time so even though it was a tad frustrating when he wasn’t putting his clothes away or popping them in the wash basket, I didn’t really mind. He grew up with his mum staying at home doing 100% of the household chores and his da…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 12:10 PM
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Circumcising boys when there is no medical reason to do so is genital mutiliation. It isn’t practiced routinely across the world, it tends to be popular in America. Religion or culture isn’t a reason mutilate anybody
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 11:20 PM
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I didn't say sub men were rare, I said there are less sub men than sub women. It isn't a surprise there are more sub men than they are dominant women because we aren't brought up or socialised to be dominant. Dom men really don't like being with women who aren't naturally submissive either. They don't want to have to teach them how to be submissive or for it to be a battle. There is a difference between being bratty and fighting with someone because they don't want to fully give up control. It's…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:56 AM
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If you join any BDSM sub reddits or forums, you will find lots of male subs. There are less men sub than there are women subs but I think there are lots of reasons for it. There are lots of reasons why dom/sub relationship exists, it can be a safe space where women/men can indulge in their submissive side if it is part of them. It can be a nice break from reality, day to day people can feel like they are having to juggle lots of things and be in control of a lot at work and in the home and its s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:47 AM
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My husband and I got together when we were 21. For the first few years of our relationship I was a stay at home mum so I did all of the housework and childcare. When we were younger, he would come home from work, go spend an hour in the bath, come down and eat and then would help with bedtime but that was the extent of it in regards to his contribution at home. When we were around 26/27, we swapped roles as my husband started uni so I started working full time, which meant he then was mainly res…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:20 AM
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Think this is very much a you issue and is very telling over your attitude towards women. You think what you like sweetheart
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 01:18 PM
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No men and women aren't the same but you wouldn't put a blanket claim over what men like would you? You know that men are individuals, what they like in a relationship and sexually isn't going to be the same as all other men. You men are never going to be sat here asking other men what is the perfect size pussy? You aren't going to be there saying it needs to be as tight as tight can be otherwise it is no good.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 01:11 PM
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I met my husband when we were 16, we reconnected when we were 21 at a pub. We exchanged numbers, neither of us were ready for a relationship so we chatted for nearly a year, didnt sext or send pics, just chatted. He invited me to things he was doing a couple of times. We were seeing each other properly for a few weeks before we slept together. We didn't know what either of us looked like without our clothes on before that point. Both of us were very emotionally invested by the time we had sex fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:52 AM
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There is never going to be one true consensus because women are individuals. All our bodies are different, how we feel is all different. Men aren't all the same, some men prefer bums, some prefer boobs, some men like big boobs, some men like small to average boobs. Some men like big bum, some like small bums. Some men like really curvy women, some men like athletic bodied women, some men like slim women, some men like bigger women Etc. Are you going to put a post up saying that all men are lying…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:44 AM
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It really is. I don't understand why this question keeps being asked, they don't want our honest answers, they want us to lie and tell them what they want to her. I can guarantee you if we did that, they would still be angry and aggressive with their answers
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:32 AM
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Look my husband has an endowed penis and actually, a lot of the time, unless i am really worked up, it is painful and I have to ask him to stop and then I am sore after which is no fun. My orgasms with him happen during foreplay when his dick is nowhere near me. When we do have sex, it feels the best when only the head is in. So no, I don't think it is a huge plus point, it can make sex really awkward. I think the sweet spot is probably around average for the majority of women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:04 AM
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Probably real life women giving you honest answers. There's a huge difference by a preference and how we actually feel about it. Women are repeatedly saying we just want a man that cares about our pleasure too and makes an effort to find out what we like, what we don't like. It's more about what you are doing than not doing. The majority of women struggle to orgasm from PIV sex alone. The majority of our nerve endings are in the clitoris. So from our perspective, below average is fine, average i…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 10:54 AM
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This question has been asked repeatedly over the last week and a bit and women are giving answers and there is one man after another in this sub telling us that we are lying. You are going to believe what you like at the end of the day
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 10:37 AM
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It’s complicated and there are lots of contributing factors as to why boys are falling behind in education
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:11 PM
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Well it does, boys are less likely to be auditory learners than girls, a lot of boys are kinaesthetic learners. I thought I had put something about men’s role in society and how the message for boys and men being mixed now that they are no longer “the breadwinner” but I can’t see it now. And then I mentioned negative influencers that boys are watching
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 03:08 PM
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Yeah that doesn’t make it okay, school shootings shouldn’t be happening. End of. School shootings don’t happen in other parts of the world where gun laws or really strict. The fact that Americans refuse to change their gun laws despite children dying every year from school shootings, is disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:37 PM
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What’s your experience of the teaching profession? Considering you think you know so much about it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 10:24 AM
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You have no idea how much teachers do, they don’t have “3 months off”. They are working through that time getting ready for the next school year, they are just working from home. All your comments are highlighting is the lack of knowledge you have for what is involved in being a teacher, their work load and your lack of knowledge of education in general. In 2024 there were 488 mass school shootings in the USA. That is absolutely disgusting and teachers should be paid danger pay for even having t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 10:09 AM
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I did just look up what teachers make in America too and it’s not great, average is around $71,000 which is equivalent to around £50,000 in the UK. Considering house prices in the states is around $400,000. And the cost of living is more expensive in the states than the UK then yeah. It’s a bit of a crap salary, adding the fact that school shootings are so common there and teachers don’t know whether they are going to leave alive from one day to the next, pay is rubbish.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 09:37 AM
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I don’t think you understand what being equal is, being equal doesn’t mean giving everyone the same, it means to give everyone the same opportunities by putting things in place so everyone starts on an equal footing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:08 AM
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I have worked in education and the reason children are doing worse in schools is because the education sector is chronically underfunded. Teachers are under a ridiculous amount of pressure which is ultimately transferred on to the kids. Most children aren’t auditory learners and with the fact that there is so much to get through in the curriculum, it is leaving teachers with the inability to make their lessons more creative and meet the learning needs of all their students. In the UK, there aren…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 06:12 PM
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Men and women concentrate on different details, we prefer concentrating on the detailed scenes of what the guy is doing to the woman and imagining it happening to us. But I’m glad that you are concentrating so much on the guys penis size in the story. Are the guys in this sub straight with how hung up on dick size they are? It’s a little like tell us you’re not straight without telling us you’re not straight, obsess over dicks 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 09:52 AM
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When women are insecure about something when it comes to their bodies, it usually has nothing to do with what a man might think about it or male preference. It’s usually to do with how it makes them feel about their own bodies, their own confidence. Don’t think women care whether you think they should or shouldn’t get a boob job or boob reduction. It’s their bodies, they need to do whatever is gonna make themselves feel more comfortable in their own bodies. For some women, having that surgery he…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 10:32 PM
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Comparing things teenagers are temporarily worried about to grown ass men obsessing over their dick size isn’t the same. Women get to the point they don’t care what men think about how big their boobs are, they care how they feel about them. Women that have smaller boobs and don’t like them and can afford it will pay for a boob job, women that feel like their boobs are too big and can afford will pay for a breast reduction. Rest of us just deal with what we have
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 10:06 PM
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I know exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:40 PM
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You’re missing the point. The point was you can find a study to back whatever point you want to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 03:31 PM
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The only person you have to be good for is your partner, you do that through communication. Sex is more than just penetration, it’s the build up, the foreplay, the kissing, sometimes it’s involving sex toys. A guy might think they are the best in the world but if they are being selfish in bed, they are gonna be crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 03:30 PM
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My point was you can find a study to back any point you want to make. Women aren't making post after post about men's size. Only men are. Which is very telling about who this is more important to. It is also incredibly weird, the men on this sub are going on and on about something they can't change. What's the end goal? Are you just trying to be right? Or are you trying to make insecure men even more insecure? They have tons of women on here saying at the end of the day, men's size isn't that de…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:31 PM
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There is a different study that states that women would say that width was more important than length when it comes to sexual satisfaction https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC33342/ So you know, you can probably find a study that has been done that is going to back up the point you are trying to make
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:56 PM
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I think the issue you are having is when we say it is less important for women than men, is we don't obsess about it, we are often not discussing it with our friends, especially as we get older. If women have had a few sexual partners with different sizes, what we have been most concerned about at the end of those encounters is how it felt. You can be with a guy that is bigger and it can be awful or you could be with a guy that is bigger and it can be the best sex of your life. But that also wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:50 PM
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Well considering 76% of men have accessed porn in comparison to 53% of women. 36% of men admit to accessing porn once a week compared to 4% of women. And only 15% of women are accessing porn frequently. https://yougov.co.uk/society/articles/42945-how-often-do-britons-watch-porn So considering those stats, not many women in the UK are even watching porn at all in comparison to men in the UK. When you start putting your stats into perspective like that, there isn't much to go in is there?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:18 PM
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You mean personal preference? I am struggling to understand why you need to 'educate the masses' as you call it? You can't change the size of your member so what you hoping to achieve except make insecure men even more insecure?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:07 PM
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The lengths the men on this sub reddit are going to to have long conversations about penis size. It's a little concerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:01 PM
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So many are hurt by a loved one dying, death can destroy the lives of those around the person that has passed. How is that comparable to a bruised ego?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:55 PM
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A bruised ego isn't really hurting anyone is it, in the grand scheme of things. You can get your ego hurt in any situation. That's just life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:46 PM
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Look if you have a fragile ego that is threatened by a toy, think that is more of a you problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:49 AM
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This exactly, its up to the individuals to decide what they see as manipulative and what they see as a bit of harmless fun. Not other people witnessing the exchange
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:48 AM
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Because it's fun and it gives them both a bit of an ego boost, it can give you an in without the awkwardness of going over and saying something. They are both joining in with the little game. And it's harmless
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:36 AM
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The men in these situations know the woman could probably figure it out themselves but they enjoy playing the hero that is coming over and saving the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:30 AM
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Sex toys are a lot of fun and add to a healthy sex life, at no point does it replace a guys dick. Sex toys for men also add to a healthy sex life and can be a lot of fun, they aren’t replacing women’s vaginas are they. No man is saying my toy is tighter than you so I’m never gonna have sex with you again. The feel of skin on skin is just way too good. Yeah it’s common sense to advise lube and lots of foreplay if you’re on the bigger size otherwise you are going to hurt the woman you are having s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:22 AM
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This is where you are so wrong!! You being bigger wouldn't make women 'orgasm all the time'. THE MAJORITY OF WOMEN CANNOT ORGASM FROM PENETRATION ALONE!!!!! I don't understand how you aren't getting this. The majority of a woman's nerve endings are around and on the clit, that is why they need that stimulation to reach that big O. Your lack of knowledge around a woman's body and her pleasure is astounding.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:58 AM
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No its not, that spot is roughly 4 inches in, you only have to be around 4 inches to reach it. It might be trickier if you are smaller than that but sex toys and fingers exist. Besides it feels the best between the entrance of the vagina and the g-spot which is only 2 inches in, where most of the nerve endings are. So yeah you can keep banging on about needing to be 'well endowed' to pleasure a woman but you don't need to be 'big' to do it. You need to care about the woman's pleasure and have fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:51 AM
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If the vaginal canal is less than 5 inches long on average when a woman's aroused, you don't need to be more than 5 inches long do you? I don't know any women that enjoy getting their cervix hit, for me it is incredibly painful, it makes me bleed and have horrible period type pain. I have looked it up, the c spot isn't the cervix, its near the cervix in line with the clitoris. Again, considering the average vaginal canal is around 4.75 (under 5 inches long), you don't need to be above average si…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:37 AM
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No woman wants their cervix hit, it really really hurts and can make you want it all to stop. The G-spot isn't that far into a woman's vagina. Also the vaginal canal when aroused is just under 5 inches long. Considering on average a man's penis is around 5 inches when aroused, anything more than that can be painful for women. It is men that are obsessed with how big they are, not women. I have been with guys that are average size and men who are bigger. They both can feel great but they can both…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:27 AM
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If you’re single, it’s not impacting your life and what you’re watching is legal, then what you do in the privacy of your own home has nothing to do with anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:38 PM
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I think this is hard question to answer because although there may be an overlap with some people, every woman is different and essentially is going to be attracted to a different part of a guys personality. I think the overlapping traits will probably be driven, have a sense of humour, be able to laugh at himself, confident in himself/who he is, down to earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:39 PM
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Men who view women as commodities they can purchase don’t view women as people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 08:30 PM
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When I married my husband, I made a life commitment to him. I married him for who he is, not what his earning potential was. Life is full of ups and downs and one day you could be doing really well and the next you could lose everything. You shouldn't be marrying anyone if you are only choosing to stay when life is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 01:07 PM
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As a woman who is under 5ft, the vast majority of men are taller than me so I’ve never even considered height an issue. I’ve never asked a guy what their fitness level is, I’m more bothered about are they healthy? I wouldn’t want to be with someone who is going to have one after another weight related illnesses or diet related illnesses because they aren’t looking after themselves on a basic level. Like my husband loves pizza and probably left to his own devices he would eat it for every meal wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 07:01 PM
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Once you have found out you are pregnant, it isn’t an easy to decision to make to get an abortion. It’s not an oh well, contraception didn’t work, I will just go get an abortion now. It’s a huge decision for most women and can be an incredibly traumatic decision that they live with forever. But that is beside the point of this post. His friend is knowingly finishing inside random women and hoping for the best without him having to take any responsibility for his behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:19 PM
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If your friend doesn’t want children he shouldn’t be nutting in anyone. Even if the woman had used Plan B, it’s not even guaranteed to work. My sister used plan B and now my nephew is 2. If this woman is pregnant, he’s gonna have to step up financially if nothing else and use it as a lesson to keep it wrapped up. When it comes to reproduction, you take responsibility for yourself and you don’t trust anyone else with it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:44 AM
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To most women, the standard is do it properly, if you're going to do the washing up, make sure the sink is clean before you start and the draining board and then the pots are actually clean by the time you are finished. If you are putting a load of laundry on, make sure you actually turn the washing machine on, empty it once it is done. If you are gonna sort and fold clothes, do all of it, not just 3/4 of it and then get bored. Hoover properly, not just around things and miss a lot of the floor.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:00 PM
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If a man isn't capable of behaving like an adult, he needs to stay single or stay living with his mother. Children need managing, they need reminding to do tasks around the house, they need to be asked. If as a man you can go to work and use your initiative to do your job without someone next to you going through every single step every day, then you are capable of coming home and using that same initiative to see that pots need washing, clothes need putting in the washing machine or folding and…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 01:17 PM
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Why does it need spelling out like that? If you are in a partnership and you live together, you are both equally responsible for maintaining the home. She shouldn't have to ask in the first place, never mind ask multiple times or 'nag'. You shouldn't have to be told that the relationship will end if you don't start pulling your weight. That's the whole point of the post. Men aren't children, they are adults who are perfectly capable of using their eyes to see what needs doing around the home and…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 12:45 PM
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I would argue that child support is optional, especially here in the UK, the man can choose not to pay even if you take it to child maintenance service. He can put down the wrong address so they can't find him, he can just work cash in hand or for family so his paycheck passes the books or so not all of his paye goes through HMRC. He can go on benefits so they are only taking like £20 a month. He can leave the country. He can claim he is self employed and his income is unstable so they won't tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 10:18 AM
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But at what point is he deciding he doesn’t want to be a father? From the minute she finds out she is pregnant? A few weeks/months in? After the baby is born? Did he do everything he could to actively prevent the pregnancy from happening? And what happens if he decides he doesn’t want that baby and has the view point he shouldn’t be financially responsible either, she feels pressured into aborting, few years later she settles down with a partner and she finds out that abortion made her infertile…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 09:22 AM
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I almost agree with this comment except the bit where you say it’s the woman’s fault. Where I stand with it is if a man doesn’t want children at that point in his life or at all, he should be making sure that he is taking responsibility for contraception at the point sex is happening. Even if the woman is on birth control, with the fact that no birth control is 100% effective, he should also be wrapping it up. If he hasn’t done what he can to prevent a pregnancy in the first place then it doesn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 09:11 AM
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The patriarchy is ingrained into society and both men and women subconsciously uphold it even when it is detrimental to both. The patriarchy is a bad thing for both men and women, it holds people into roles that hinders them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:34 PM
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You understand women also fight in the army don't you? You also understand the world isn't a nice place for women and girls don't you? The world isn't a nice place for a lot of men either for a multitude of reasons. The thing is, this us against them mentally is stupid. Get your head out of wherever it is, women do a lot of good for humanity and so do men and if we concentrated on the good we do for each other rather than what isn't fair, the world would be a lot better.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:19 PM
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I think you need to go study sociology or just history in general before making wild statements like you have. Women don't need men at all, we have them in our lives because we want them in our lives. Women and girls are doing better in education and in the work place now.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:58 PM
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Sex should happen naturally, it shouldn’t need bringing up like that, either you’re really hitting it off, loads of chemistry, things are getting a bit steamy or you’re not.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:58 AM
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Do this for yourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:38 PM
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Of course men and women are going to be treated differently over reproductive rights. Men don’t carry the babies in their bodies. Your job is done after 2 minutes, if you last that long. Contraception mainly falls on women’s shoulders and it can fail and a woman should get to decide whether she goes through with that pregnancy or not, it’s happening to her body and she alone is carrying the risks that go along side, some that can be permanent. Considering it isn’t happening to a man’s body they …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:47 PM
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I’ve never said to my husband I’m sorry we can’t have sex, we have nothing to celebrate but next time there is, we will book it in 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:12 AM
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That’s because it’s America, the place where they will fleece you for every penny in all aspects of life. I mean you aren’t even trusted to cross the street over there
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 09:15 AM
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Well that’s not true, if a step parent adopts the child then the bio dad no longer pays child support, in the UK it’s not hard for men to get out of paying it. Not having an address is one way, cash in hand, being self employed and claiming their income isn’t consistent, leaving the country. My dad just went abroad so he didn’t have to pay, my mates kids bio dad just didn’t put his address down anywhere or put his ex’s address, I’ve known other guys that just claimed they were self employed. I k…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 09:07 AM
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Not sure how it works in the states but in the UK child support is worked out by how much each parent has the child so if it’s 50/50 neither parent pays child support, if either parent has the child more then the parent that has the child less pays child support
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 08:59 AM
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The rise of loneliness has coincided with the use of the internet and social media as well as people having to work more to bring in the same amount of money to stay comfortable or for a lot of people just to make ends meet. This is giving everyone less time to get out and socialise, meet up with people or meet new people. Everyone has less money to spend on going to the pub for example or doing other activities. Young people’s habits are changing too, less young people are drinking. When I was …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:52 PM
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Actually the beauty standard created around what a woman should look like was created by men. The majority of the major beauty magazines and runway shows are owned by men. Women then want to live up to what they see and are pressured by society to look a certain way. Hence why women end up being judgy towards other women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 10:56 AM
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I know guys who are happy engaging in casual sex, i also know guys that like me only want to have sex within a relationship. I got married when I was 24, we started dating when we were 21. So you know, this has worked for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 01:35 PM
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Yeah, I have never been with someone I haven't had an emotional connection with, that includes two people that I thought would turn into a relationship at the time but didn't. I know with both of them, had I known that it wasn't going to go anywhere, I wouldn't have gone there at all
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 11:50 AM
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Can't speak for all women but I definitely do need an emotional connection with someone to be able to sleep with them
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 11:45 AM
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I think there are differences in they societal pressures of men and women. I think the pressure on men is that they are good providers and work in jobs where there is room for progression. There is also the pressure of being a good partner and dad but I also feel like right now there are mixed messages to men and boys about the role in the home considering there has been a massive shift in how homes look. I think this adds added pressure, especially if they have some people in their life saying …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 09:58 AM
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When only 3% of cases is actual paternity fraud, it isn’t happening that much is it? Like I’ve continually said, those who have doubts around paternity are free to go buy a test. If you’re in a marriage or long term relationship though and there has never been any reason to doubt each other or any trust broken, then don’t be surprised if the woman walks. You might say well that’s not fair because…..but indirectly you are accusing her of cheating, manipulating you and being deceitful. If the test…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 05:56 PM
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Religious texts are there to control the masses. They have portrayed women as being disobedient and curious so they can push the rhetoric that women need men to “keep them in their place” otherwise they are “too emotional” and “unable to make good decisions”.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 04:45 PM
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Trust goes both ways, the fundamentals of a relationship is trust and if you don't have it a relationship will not work. Women shouldn't be with a guy that they don't trust to stay loyal and faithful and man shouldn't be with a woman they don't trust to stay loyal and faithful. In a healthy marriage or relationship, there is no need for paternity tests, you should both be trusting each other. If a man said to me, I don't trust you enough to trust that baby is mine, my response would be why did w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 01:45 PM
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Look if you’re having kids with women you don’t trust, choose better. Isn’t that what you guys say if it’s the other way round?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 11:07 AM
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OP do you have children?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:52 AM
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Your post is literally arguing for something that isn't necessary and some of the stuff you have put in it is wild, babies do get swapped in US hospitals, there was a case recently where a dad went for a paternity test and the results came back that he wasn't the father, mum begged him to believe her that she hadn't cheated, the relationship ended, turned out the baby had been swapped by the hospital, she hadn't cheated. They had both been raising someone else's child whilst also knowing that th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:06 AM
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You are trying to argue for something that isn't necessary, it would be a waste of tax payers money especially considering they are so easy to pick up and buy if you feel like that is something you need to do, especially when the cases of paternity fraud in the US is between 1% and 3% and again similar statistics for the UK.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 10:47 AM
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I read your post, standardised paternity tests aren't necessary. A lot of babies come out as a spitting image of their dad, if your Mrs has a baby and you aren't sure that baby is yours, you are free to buy an easily accessible test at any point. There is no need for them to become standardised, majority of dads aren't worried they are raising a baby that isn't theirs or that their children don't have a '"complete family medical history"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 10:36 AM
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There is no need for standardised paternity tests, they are easily accessible, if you think your Mrs has slept with someone else and the baby isn't yours, buy a test, don't expect your relationship to survive it but that's just what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 10:27 AM
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I don’t necessarily agree with this, I think teenage girls and young women spend a lot of their time trying to understand guys and what they like, for example when I was a teenager all of rom coms depict ditsy girls/women as being the most attractive to guys. It wasn’t uncommon then for the girls in my year and then women in their early 20s to behave like this thinking that would be more attractive to the guys. Girls and young women are told a lot through their peers, social media etc how to beh…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 01:58 AM
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A good happy supportive marriage and happy well rounded children is what I value the most in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:03 PM
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When me and my hubby first started chatting, I gave him my number before he asked cause we really hit it off. We were then texting after that for nearly nine months and then he came round to mine the first few times, I went round to his a couple of times and then we went for a drink and a film, we went halves from what I remember. Then he came round and didn’t really leave 😂. I don’t really like doing expensive dates, rather save money for other stuff. We were both broke when we met each other t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:38 PM
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Not everyone wants to go to uni or go when they are older. You can get married and have kids and then go back into education later on in life if you want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:31 PM
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I must be surrounded by them then cause most couples I know including myself either got married in their early 20’s, met in their early 20’s stayed together and then married or met at school and are now married
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 01:50 PM
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How do you explain couples who marry in their early 20s? Or couples who have been together since school and then marry?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 01:46 PM
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You asked for the difference, there’s the definitions. You don’t need my opinion, easier for you to read the definitions to understand the difference. Masculinity is the qualities of a man, toxic masculinity is the toxic parts of masculinity that are not needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 09:49 PM
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AI Overview Toxic masculinity is a harmful set of attitudes and behaviors that are often associated with masculinity. It can negatively impact men, women, and society as a whole. Characteristics Aggression: Using violence, dominance, and control to assert power Emotional suppression: Hiding emotions and being unable to be vulnerable Sexual entitlement: Believing that one is entitled to sexual conquest Hostility to femininity: Discriminating against or devaluing women Masculinity: Dictionary Defi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 09:33 PM
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Masculinity in men isn’t shamed. Toxic masculinity is. There’s a difference
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 09:27 PM
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Toxic women exist just like toxic men exist. Toxic people never think they are toxic. They justify their behaviours even when they are harming other people with them
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 01:53 PM
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I’ve been with my husband for 10 years, married for 7 and I can categorically say this isn’t true of all men. You are describing men who fetishise young women. I don’t care what ever stats you are going to pull out. Real life marriages you can’t put into a stat. If you don’t like those type of men, stay away from them and find a nice guy who respects women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:15 PM
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I don’t understand where you are coming from. 100% of people murdered are killed by murderers but the doesn’t make the world filled with 100% muderers. Sounds like you’re projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 09:31 AM
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I’m not making shit up, the us is taking the right to vote from women by making it so married women can’t vote as their last name is different to their birth certificate. Women are losing access to healthcare in the US. They did it by banning abortion, women are being refused life saving healthcare as it being classed as assisting with an abortion, women are dying from miscarriages and eptopic pregnancies. What about women in other parts of the world? Those that aren’t allowed outside without be…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:25 PM
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Actually children have the right to be safe, go look up children’s rights. It might not be a protected right in the states but it is in the uk and if you look at human rights it is there too for adults so yes the right to be safe is a right.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:16 PM
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Thanks for correcting me :) that is a very good point
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:59 PM
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I’m just not with you, if you don’t think women have the right to vote, have access to healthcare or that women and girls have the right to be safe and all those things are just privileges then it just says a lot about the type of person you are
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:56 PM
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How are women’s rights been taken off them? Go look at my original comment, I’m not repeating myself. Google will help you with the rest
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:46 PM
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Women are less likely to engage in risky behaviour and are more likely to go to the drs when they feel something isn’t right with their bodies which is why women have a higher life expectancy. Women were only allowed to fight on the front line from 2018 and more young men than young women are encouraged to join the forces. I’m not gonna bother with the coddled by society comment cause as a woman I have experienced men being coddled far more than woman but that’s going to come down to your own ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:05 PM
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I think these are mute points whilst women’s rights are being taken from them but the reason that companies have to reach quotas on hiring women along side disabled people is because companies favour hiring men over women. As far as companies are concerned why would they hire a woman that is gonna take time off to have a baby and then in their eyes not be as reliable because children when they can hire a man that they won’t have any of those issues with. It was brought in because they were being…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 03:55 PM
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You are so off the mark, it’s about equality, the right to exist in society just like men. In UK schools, girls are given a class on self defence, they specifically get someone in to teach girls how to defend themselves in case a man attacks them so they have the potential to get away. They tell you where to hit so you have a few seconds. Girls as young as primary school age are encouraged to wear shorts underneath their skirts so that men can’t perve on them. In Iraq they have lowered the legal…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 09:16 AM
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In all honesty I’m not a daddy’s girl and I don’t know any women who are so I can’t really comment as much on that. I think women who are “daddy’s girls” potentially can act really toxic if they are constantly running to dad every time something isn’t going their way. I’ve had plenty of experience with mummy’s boys hence why I can comment more on it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 06:29 PM
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The reason the term momma's boy has negative connotations is because the insinuation is that the mum is overbearing/controlling and the son will not stand up to her. As well as that they go to mum for everything, mum becomes the 3rd person in relationships, they value the relationship with their mum over their partner. They are happy to let their mum attack their partner consistently over absolutely everything. They want their partner to do everything that their mum would have done for them, won…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:27 PM
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That goes for every type of relationship you have, a partner, sibling, parent, friend. If you aren’t getting out of the relationship what you are putting into it, it doesn’t work. You can’t give endlessly to someone who is just taking and not giving anything back
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 01:02 PM
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I’ve never been out with a guy that was mr popular and every woman wanted him or girl when I was at school. I don’t like those guys, never have, the cockiness they walked around with like they were the best thing slice bread made them so unattractive to me. My standards come from how is a guy I’m with going to treat me and that’s in the sense of with the respect, kindness, are they a good listener, do our morals and values a line, do we have some shared interests, is conversation easy, do we mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 11:37 AM
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We split things 50/50 when we were dating, as things got serious we combined our finances
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:52 PM
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Women are talking and fighting for men’s issues like the fact the suicide rate is so high in young men. The issue, we can’t make young men talk. I understand the men don’t cry rhetoric that society upholds doesn’t help but millennial and gen z parents are actively changing this with the way we are parenting. We are actively teaching our children, boys and girls that understanding your emotions and showing them are perfectly normal and healthy. We are showing our young boys how to display those e…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 09:06 PM
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I haven’t read your post past Christian grey, have you read the 50 shades of grey books? Cause Christian grey isn’t a billionaire sadist. He was adopted by a rich family after watching his mum die of a drug overdose. When he was a young teen, his adopted mums best friend made him into her submissive and abused him until he was an adult. This meant he felt like he wasn’t worthy of love or a normal relationship and that the only type of relationship he could have was a Dom, Sub relationship. The b…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 09:00 PM
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That’s good to know
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:39 PM
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Did you know men can ejaculate without actually having an orgasm
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:37 PM
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No one is saying it is all men but 97% of women have been sexually assaulted or raped by a man. 1 in 3 girls are sexually assaulted or raped. The majority of teen pregnancies, the father is a full grown man not another teenager. These aren’t negative views on men, these are facts about what is happening to women and girls. It turns into “debates” when people try down play this or start it with “well it’s not all men”. We know that already. Men listen to men more than they listen to women and wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 01:29 PM
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If you literally wanna buy a bride go for it, but women are not threatened by it like you’re claiming. But these women men are buying, they marry them with the promise of a better life. If the man can’t live up to what he promised, she leaves and finds a man that can. The relationship with a bought bride is nothing more than transactional, they love your wallet. Nothing more. If that’s what you want for the rest of your life. Enjoy, at least you will understand from the get go, she won’t ever lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 01:08 AM
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Women think passport bros are pathetic. They can’t get a woman off their own back so they have to resort to essentially buying a bride.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 12:56 AM
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Didn’t accuse you of anything
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 05:16 PM
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So? My entire comment was about sexualising women and girls. If men walked around keeping their mouths shut and thoughts to themselves, women and girls wouldn’t feel harassed and objectified, they wouldn’t be blamed for men’s behaviour. They aren’t ever just thoughts though, it’s never just a quick thought of oh she’s fit, men shout vulgar comments, are staring and leering, they’re harassing women, assaulting them, raping them, telling them what they can and can’t wear, policing what women can d…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 04:45 PM
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Because my entire comment was about how both girls and women are being sexualised and your response was about men sexualising them in their thoughts. If you are just talking about women, no one cares what men are doing in their thoughts, it is when it starts impacting other people in real life that’s the problem. You can think what you like but you don’t have to stare at someone, you can think what you like without shouting vulgar comments at women, you can think what you like whilst keeping you…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 04:34 PM
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If you’re having sexual thoughts about kids, you need locking up
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 03:58 PM
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I think the point you made here is consent. Women and girls are sexualised all the time without their consent, in situations it unwanted and inappropriate. That doesn’t mean that we never want to be sexualised in situations we consent to it. For example, when you are being intimate with a partner. Sex does sell but the women that are choosing to engage in that are consenting to putting themselves in that position. That’s very different to an 11 year old girl walking home in her school uniform an…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:13 AM
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Nothing has to be permanent if you don’t want it to be. I used to feel like you, I grew up with divorced parents that hated each other to the point they wouldn’t be in the same room as each other. I saw other peoples marriages fall apart and had the attitude of I’m never getting married, what’s the point, it just makes splitting up harder. That was until I met my person and I got married. Now I understand that some marriages work and others don’t. Some marriages are happy and some people stay in…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:23 PM
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You pick your battles and weigh up what impact it is actually having in grand scheme of things
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 08:17 PM
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Men call women reminding them to do something or asking them to do something, nagging. Like can you take the bin out, I’ve asked 4 times, man’s response: stop nagging me woman, I will do when I do it. It is related to reality. Otherwise what they nagging about
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 08:16 PM
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You choose what battles to you are gonna fight, yes you may carry on saying, can you pick those bloody socks up but in the grand scheme of things, the socks aren’t hurting anyone. It’s annoying. People are annoying. But it’s not relationship ending.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 08:15 PM
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Good for you, usually that’s a joke but you know obviously to you, you are taking it very literally. Obviously your experiences mean that’s what the whole world is doing right? So cool, like I said if you say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 08:13 PM
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Okay….if you say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 07:47 PM
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My point wasn’t about being in a toxic relationship, it was about a partner having an annoying habit or a flaw
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 07:21 PM
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That’s gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 07:20 PM
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The point I’m trying to make is one annoying behaviour doesn’t make the person you are with bad partners, bad people or toxic people. Everyone has their flaws, like being a bit messy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 07:17 PM
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Relationships are two way equal streets. No one is leading or following in western relationships…..
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 07:16 PM
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And then people on this sub complain about women leaving marriages but advise them to throw away an entire marriage away over a guy leaving his socks on the floor. Makes loads of sense, good advice
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 05:59 PM
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It’s not always that simple, if you are married and have a family but your partner leaves their clothes around for example and you are constantly having to remind, nag, complain about it cause you’re fed up of picking it up, do you throw your entire marriage away, disrupt your kids lives all because you’re fed up of saying pick your socks up?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 05:46 PM
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How long was that, long enough for you to open your mouth? Spout some gross shit and then she ran for the hills?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 09:32 AM
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Dead bedrooms are usually the result of something not working in the relationship, birth control, having small children and being touched out and exhausted, a medical issue or down to other medication. Sometimes one partner in the relationship, the man or the woman simply has just lot interest in sex. But usually there is a reason. As a couple you can sit down and have a conversation or several if needed to work out what’s going on and how as a couple you can resolve it and understand it. Most c…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 09:29 AM
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Who exactly do you think you are talking to
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 01:58 AM
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How old are you? Jesus Christ. Punish your partner for not wanting to have sex with you. Eww no, if there is no solution to it, leave for goodness sake. That is such a disgusting thing to think never mind say out loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 01:54 AM
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You understand dead bedrooms are initiated by men too don’t you, not just women. If something in a relationship isn’t working, be a grown up, talk it out, see if there can be a solution to it and if there isn’t and it feels like a dealbreaker to you then let your partner know, give them time to process it, if nothing changes, end the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 01:38 AM
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You don’t need it, you want it. Go look up the definition of need against the definition of want and then argue with the dictionary
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 08:56 PM
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Just because something matters to you doesn’t make it a need. Still makes it a want. My husband means the world to me, I don’t need him in my life, I want him in my life because he makes my world brighter. Sex is an important part of our relationship, we don’t need it, we want it because it makes us feel closer. Doesn’t matter how important something is to you, if not having it in your life doesn’t kill you, it’s a want not a need
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 08:47 PM
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Doesn’t matter what need means to you. Look up the definition of need against the definition of want
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 08:40 PM
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If it’s not gonna kill you to not have it, you don’t need it, you want it. You need a roof over your head, clean running water, food and heating and somewhere to sleep. Those are all things that keep you alive and you would die without. Everything else is a want. The other things you want might make your life a lot easier, more pleasurable, bring you happiness, but they are still all wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 08:30 PM
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Men don’t need sex to live a happy life, they want sex. No one needs it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:53 PM
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I haven’t said any men do great with women, I’ve said these men can get relationships. Majority of men aren’t sleeping around and the majority of women aren’t sleeping around.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 04:17 PM
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No relationships aren’t exclusive to any kind of man or woman. Everyone can struggle to get into relationships. It’s not exclusively a man’s issue. You will notice something more when you are thinking about it. For example I got a new car a few years ago, since getting that car, I have seen tons of other people driving the same car in the same colour. I’m not making the assumption that all of a sudden more people are buying that car, I’m noticing it more because I have one. Or when you are pregn…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 02:43 PM
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My point I do live in the real world where I have repeatedly seen men and women who are socially awkward in relationships, autistic men and women in relationships. The only guys I have genuinely seen struggle getting into relationships are ones that don’t deviate from their small routine or give off a I think I’m better than you attitude or I hate everyone attitude. I have a friend that struggles, he’s lovely, would be a catch to anyone but he does nothing other than going to work and then go ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 02:29 PM
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Guess it depends what you’re into doesn’t it and whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert. Unless you personally know the majority of women or the majority of men, you are making a sweeping statements, assumptions about people based on a bias point of view, which in this case would be your own. A lot of men in this sub enjoy making sweeping statements about women to find a reason as to why they are struggling with dating. It could just be that men that really struggle are just not nice people…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 02:14 PM
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Every socially awkward introverted woman I know, including myself has gone for a socially awkward introverted man. Extroverted men want to be around people all the time which is an introverts worst nightmare
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 02:03 PM
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Socially awkward introverted women prefer socially awkward introverted men. A socially awkward introverted woman is gonna find it easier speak to someone like her than someone drastically different.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:00 AM
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That’s sad for you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:34 PM
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I mean women are individuals, so yeah course it’s not gonna be reliable or proven. I was just putting out a generalised statement of what’s said about each week of the cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:32 PM
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Depends on a woman’s cycle actually, the week they are ovulating they have an increase in testosterone and it’s this point that they can become more attracted to masculine traits but rest of the month they are more attracted to different traits. Might be why some women can give different answers sometimes. Will depend on when you have asked her
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 02:52 PM
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You’re making broad statements based on a minority of women who do this. It’s not most women. There are always gonna be shallow gold diggers that exist. But most men aren’t even earning enough to be able to use them for it anyway. Average income in the UK is 37,000 you can barely live off it, never mind use anyone else. Most households now need two incomes to be able to pay their bills and live comfortably, so unless you have someone who is earning £60+k, which by the way is only 10% of earners …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:19 AM
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Yes they do, both men and women do this. It’s not just something women do. It’s not a lot of men or a lot of women that do it, but it’s not unique to women
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:34 AM
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When you have spent time with most women on the earth then you can make these broad statements but considering haven’t and you never will, stop making ridiculous statements. Women don’t need men’s money. We can earn our own. We just don’t wanna be with dossers who are gonna sit at home doing nothing whilst demanding the world from us. We expect the men we date to be working and not live with mummy anymore. There’s nothing worse than a lazy mummy’s boy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:28 AM
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You’re right all women are shallow and only care about the size of a man’s wallet……sure. Is this from all your experience with every woman on earth or just broad statements you feel like making online? You’re talking crap
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:18 AM
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Women don’t need men’s money, we can earn our own thank you very much
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:12 AM
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The majority of couples in long term relationships, especially if you’re married, have children and work will go through periods where the passion is lost. You get stuck in the day to day and find yourselves not having time to prioritise each other. The way of fixing it, is making time for each other, going on date nights, find a way of making things exciting again. Both of you, not just the guy. It’s normal. Life is busy, if a lot is going on in your life at that time, both of you prioritise ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:13 AM
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People who settle in relationships are never really happy and spend their life with half their foot out the door hoping for something better to come along. It’s hurting both people in the relationship and a shit thing to do
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 08:23 AM
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You shouldn’t want to settle with the mindset of something is better than nothing and still spending the rest of your life unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 11:48 PM
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I'm sorry you are struggling romantically but don't settle, you deserve to be with someone who is as into you as you are into them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:00 AM
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I’ve been told that with people I don’t know, men and women, my body language I give off is stay away from me and it’s only when I get to know people does my body language change. I was unaware of this until about 5 years ago. I’m a woman so you know. I would seem unapproachable but I’m like that with everyone I don’t know
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 07:03 PM
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Autism is a huge spectrum and presents differently in each individual. Though autistic people may share traits, not every individual with autism will share the same traits. It can also drastically impact each individual differently, even amongst autistic people with low support needs. Autistic men and women who have medium to high support needs often also have learning difficulties and can experience developmental delays. I think the autism diagnosis is too individual and complicated to make bro…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 06:14 PM
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How do you know that? Sounds like you didn’t speak to anyone? So what you are making an assumption that someone like you based on someone looking in your direction? Like you are making the assumption other women “gravitated” towards your friends rather than the fact you were in a bar and people move around in bars. You’re trying to make up facts based on assumptions
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 09:36 AM
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People aren’t truthful on social media, they only share what they think is gonna make their life look the best, that includes saying they are attracted to what they think is the most socially acceptable type of man/woman
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 12:13 AM
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How many is enough? Because around the world there are so many cultures that promote different qualities in both men and women that are deemed attractive. So which country is it based on? What’s deemed attractive in America is different to the Uk? And then you can move over to Europe, each country has their own culture so what is deemed important or attractive will differ from one to another? I mean even as you go across the world the average height of both men and women can be dramatically diff…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 10:37 PM
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If that’s how long you want to wait then that’s up to you. But everyone can do what is right for them
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 10:30 PM
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Okay, better understanding of what you mean, I think what frustrates me on here is the assumption that all women are attracted to the same type of men. All men aren’t attracted to the same type of women right. So why would it work the other way around. People aren’t hive minds, they are individuals. But on this sub, if you say that, you’re instantly called a liar. It’s weird. I find the whole thing bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 09:52 PM
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Staring is creepy and uncomfortable, when it continues it makes you feel really unnerved. I have hidden behind my husband so many times when guys have done this. Doesn’t matter what they have looked like. If someone glances at me and smiles, I will politely smile back. I hate being stared at. It makes me want the floor to swallow me up
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 08:26 PM
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I don’t lust after people though. I’m attracted to people when I feel a connection with them, otherwise they are just people
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 08:22 PM
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I’m not that shallow love. I’ve seen pics of the type of guys that guys on here consider ugly and it’s laughable, they are normal, nice looking guys that just look a bit quirky or nerdy. It’s not ugly or bad looking but you guys are so obsessed with what I’m assuming is going to be the equivalent of an American film jock that you automatically assume that everyone must feel the same, especially women. So you tell women that if they don’t feel like that then they are lying to everyone including t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 07:50 PM
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Who is chad?????
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 07:43 PM
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You guys are so obsessed with a made up idea of a man you’ve called Chad, it’s really weird. Who is chad anyway? What does chad look like? I genuinely don’t get it. But the guys on here are obsessed with him
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 07:40 PM
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Uhm no, I hate being stared at, don’t care who’s doing it. It’s creepy as hell
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 07:37 PM
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Yeah that’s not true, anyone that stares at anyone else becomes creepy, staring at people isn’t nice and if nothing else it’s rude
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 06:49 PM
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There is a huge difference between get married, don’t get married to women being vigilant when they go out and about and the statistics around marriage and men’s violence towards women. 97% of women have experienced sa and/or rape. They still date, get married, have male friends. They are most likely to get assaulted by a male family member, male friends, bf or husband than a stranger. Yet we aren’t isolating ourselves. If we just lived in fear of the statistics, we wouldn’t socialise with men a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 03:14 PM
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Women are living their lives regardless of that statistic, we aren’t all staying single and living in women only communes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 03:04 PM
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You can’t not live your life in case something fails. Life is full of success and failure, you can succeed and fail in every part of your life. What you gonna do? Just not do anything for the rest of your life just in case it doesn’t turn out the way you want it to? It’s such a negative way to live. Love is a risk but it’s a risk worth taking for the right person. Like with any experience, if it doesn’t work out, you have learnt something from it. If you don’t want to take that risk, don’t. Stay…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 03:02 PM
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You can’t base an individual or a relationship on statistics. You need to live your life. Not live in fear of something happening that might never happen
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 12:21 PM
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If you go into a relationship and potential marriage worrying about it failing, it’s probably already doomed. You get married out of love because it feels right at that time. The relationship like all relationships will either work or it won’t. Happy marriages that last the life time require a lot of effort on both sides. You go through phases of fighting and you will go through small periods of wondering if you made the right decision. But if you look at the person in front of you and deep down…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 09:11 AM
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I'm not saying its not terrible when you feel lonely but if you are able bodied you can physically go do something about it. You can leave the house, work, join a club, make friends, hang out with friends you already have, spend time with family. There are loads of ways to combat loneliness
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:34 PM
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This the 4th post about sex and intimacy being worded differently. If you feel lonely, join a club, get a job, go spend time with family, spend time with friends. The house bound disabled and elderly feel lonely more because they experience social isolation, the solution for them is harder if they haven’t got family visiting or their friends aren’t around anymore. But for your average person feeling loneliness, leave the house and socialise
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:48 PM
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Babies are different, there was a study that showed that babies died if not given attention from their parents. Adults aren’t babies. Adults are fully grown people that are responsible for their own well being. You’re right you don’t need to see or hear, makes life easier but yeah not needed. Money thing, if there was enough food at food banks for everyone to access. I would agree. Dumpster diving is asking to be ill. But you know each to their own. The world has been designed to make people nee…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:41 PM
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People don’t need to feel happiness or acceptance, can live in a bubble of misery, it’s just nicer to feel happy. Whose acceptance do you need anyway? Again you should be secure enough within yourself that you aren’t looking for other people’s acceptance of you. Money is different, you need food to survive, food costs money therefore you need enough money to buy food. So indirectly because of your need of food, you sort of need money.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:29 PM
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its not a need, its a want, people seek it out cause they really want it, it releases endorphins into the body, so does chocolate. It feels nice. Its not a need
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:49 PM
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This is the 3rd post on this, most of the comments on each post aren't agreeing that sex is a need. Sex is a want, intimacy is a want. Insecure people feel like they need it, secure people are good with their own company and want it but dont need it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:46 PM
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If you are a secure person it’s a want not a need. It’s only insecure people who feel like it’s a need and it comes down to the fact they aren’t okay or happy with themselves and their own company
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 09:53 AM
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I have an abusive parent, I want him to not be a prick, I don’t need him to be a good dad because I manage perfectly fine without him.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 07:50 AM
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In a relationship a healthy an active sex life can contribute to having a healthier relationship because it brings you closer. Outside of relationships feeling like you need intimacy and sex can be really unhealthy and leads to entering into unhealthy and toxic relationships. No one should need a relationship, it should be a want, an I want this but I don’t need this because I am at a stage where I feel totally happy and content in myself and being single. That is healthy. If every so often you …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 07:48 AM
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You’re arguing with a man that is being ridiculous, he’s naming things he knows you will die from and comparing it to sex. He’s saying intentionally stupid things to try make a point because he knows he hasn’t got a point. I wouldn’t waste your time engaging with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 10:19 AM
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You know you won’t die if you don’t have sex, you will die if you don’t eat or drink water. Hence the difference between need and want. You know that is what is meant and arguing that is just being pedantic for the sake of being pedantic
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 10:17 AM
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They would wear their babies and work with their babies attached to them. It’s called baby wearing. They would stop to feed and then baby wear again. Life back then was brutal and it required every family member to be working for the family to survive. As soon as the kids could walk, they would be outside in the fields with the parents. Up until that point the mother would baby wear.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:53 PM
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When did I say anything about men and women being exactly the same. I didn’t. I said men and women were both out working, they would work together as a family in the fields, with the kids. Women weren’t homemakers until the Industrial Revolution and women were relegated to take care of household chores until the 17th century. Yes men and women are biologically different for a whole load of reasons, men are usually faster, stronger, taller, not all the time but usually. There are biological reaso…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:43 PM
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Just for fun though, did you know women can leave the house whilst feeding their babies, it’s incredible, it’s almost like our breasts come with us. I know crazy concept. It makes it so easy to do stuff all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:14 PM
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Go and look into history and find something to back up what you are saying like I did and then come back to me. Men are stronger because biologically they are built differently. That doesn’t mean that women weren’t outside in the fields working next to their husbands. Im not going back and forth with someone who quite clearly knows nothing about the history of labour in men and women pre the Industrial Revolution. It’s a waste of both our times.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:12 PM
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Those roles didn’t come to play until the Industrial Revolution, women were doing the same as men up until that point. The roles of the man and woman in a family are social constructs, not nature. Women would baby wear and get outside doing the same jobs as their husbands
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:04 PM
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Some people love office jobs, some people love working in professions where the demand to work with others is low, others love working in teams, some love working in education environments, others hate it, some love working in construction areas, others hate, some like outside working, some hate it. What’s your point? Some women like men that are ripped, others really don’t, some women like bigger men, some don’t, some women like the ‘dad bod’, some don’t, some women like men who have a few musc…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 10:39 PM
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I read your post several times, drug addicts repeatedly put themselves in dangerous situations to feed their addiction and it’s a completely separate topic. We can have a conversation about addiction if you like
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:57 PM
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Anyone can experience depression or anxiety even once they are in relationships. Should those relationships be immediately ended up because “normal people don’t go for people struggling with their mental health”?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:54 PM
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There is always men and women that don't want to enter into relationships with people for all sorts of reasons, religion, childhood, experiences, education, trauma, whether you are a single parents but there is always someone out there that will want you for you regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:40 PM
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When I was going through it at 15, I went to adults and asked for their advice, asked if the behaviour was normal to be continually told that they could be a lot worse, I haven't got it that bad, their behaviour wasn't concerning, it made me stay longer cause i constantly felt like i was making it into something it wasn't. That I was the issue, not him. It really isn't as black and white as people on here like to make out. It gets to the point where you stop asking for help, for advice, then you…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:35 PM
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You can't stick those who have end up in domestic abuse situations into the same boat as women who willingly enter into relationships with assholes. Its not the same thing. Abuse survivors will tell you this, its people who are uneducated around it that assume that the man is a dick from day 1 and put stuff like you have on here. You can say as an outsider 'i saw the red flags, why didn't they'. Its a lack of understanding
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:26 PM
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anyone can be draining on a relationship if they are struggling with something within themselves, doesnt make them unwantable in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:23 PM
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When you have experienced a lot of abuse and trauma, you need time to yourself to start healing, i agree with that but that doesn't mean that they are unwantable by normal men. My husband was interested when I was dealing with my trauma and he was my friend first and then when I was ready i entered into a relationship with him. A 'normal' man wanted me regardless of my trauma, It was my decision to stay single for a year to start my own healing first. Its still a disgusting thing to say that no …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:20 PM
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Women who end up in abusive relationships are targeted by men who can see they are an easy target because of their trauma. They aren't a dick from day one. They red flags are subtle and when you have grown up with abuse, their red flags may seem like green flags. Like the love bombing. If you have grown up being told or made to feel like you are awful and a guy comes along and tells you that he loves you and you are special and thats the nicest thing anyone has said to you, why would you see tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:13 PM
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Like i said, the most common mental health issues people get from experiencing trauma is depression and anxiety, PTSD or CPTSD in cases where its been severe and ongoing. People in all walks of life experience trauma, soldiers coming out of the army, men and women who experience childhood trauma, parents who have lost a child, etc. Are all those people off putting to a 'normal person'? Its a gross thing to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:06 PM
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She's put "normal men wouldn't want these women", how can you agree with that, you may heal from anxiety and depression but PTSD isn't something that goes away, you might get better at managing it but it doesn't go away, neither does your trauma. You're always gonna be someone that has gone through trauma? You might be lucky enough to have had access to 'extensive help' but not everyone does, not everyone can afford to pay for it and getting it on the NHS is virtually impossible. You have to wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:40 PM
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You know what else, is that abusers tell their victims that they aren't worth love from anyone else, noone else would want them, noone else would put up with them. Very much just like you have said "no normal man would want a woman who has been through trauma". Its a disgusting thing to say. If you have grown up being told you aren't good enough, noone protects you, they tell you consistently how horrible you are, you believe it, you believe that you are worth nothing. But that's not true is it,…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:32 PM
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You usually end up with depression and anxiety from being through trauma, and how can you show stability if you have never experienced stability. Until you recognise that what you went through wasn't normal, how do you get treated for it? I think you're being quite unfair on adults who have experienced trauma as children. I was abused as a child, mentally, emotionally and sexually. My first serious relationship was abusive, I was 15, he was nearly 19. The behaviour he was exhibiting was my norma…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:20 PM
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I don't necessarily disagree but not sure its fair to call women who have experienced abuse since childhood and don't know anything else as mentally ill. Traumatised yes, not seen what a healthy relationship looks like, yes, low self worth and self image, yes but not mentally ill
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:09 PM
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As a parent, you should be bringing your child/children up to be confident in themselves, know how to set boundaries with other people, support with the social skills needed to make friends, allow them to be open with you without fear of judgement so you can give advice, encouragement when needed. To have determination and perseverance through life, know it’s okay to not get things the first time and in life, everything takes practice and you will be better at some things than others. You need t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 10:17 AM
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I don’t necessarily think this is true of women, I think you can come across scroungers in all parts of life, men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 10:04 AM
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I’ve definitely experienced this, I have family that are education snobs and will happily admit it. I see a difference in the preference to engage in conversation between me and my sisters. They have degrees and I didn’t finish mine (life got in the way and I haven’t had chance to go back and finish)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 09:41 AM
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Women have an issue with this when you have been completely transparent about their life and situation, the guy say they are interested, want a relationship and once you have become intimate then they say oh its because of your situation etc. We wouldn't mind if they were up front at the start that they just wanted to get their leg over but don't lie about it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:33 PM
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I think that's just the US, it isn't great over there at all, I have been a few times and I don't think I will go back
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:09 AM
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I think America in general like to keep to gender roles and although they may say different, they don't actually mean it. Religion is too deep set in American culture and they tend to live by, especially the more south you go, the man is in charge rhetoric. So even in households where both partners are working full time, the expectation is still the woman looks after house and kids, the man works. I think in general when women say they wants equal, they don't mean the same unless both are workin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 10:43 AM
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OP where in the world are you from? Just curious as to where you are basing your thoughts on? Im not agreeing or disagreeing at this point
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 10:18 AM
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Do you think where you live in the world changes the norm in the way couples behave?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 09:54 AM
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I agree with this, something doesn’t need to have happened. If you fall out of love with each other and aren’t what each other want or need anymore then the marriage is over. I don’t think anyone comes to that decision lightly and it’s usually over years of trying to make it work but sometimes things don’t. Better to split amicably than hurt each other later down the line
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 09:30 PM
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You are making that assumption. I’ve come across men who you would probably call desirable who have not done anything to me but my gut is telling me I’m not safe, they are acting weird and I need to find somewhere safe to go. It isn’t about how a person looks, they don’t always have had to do something, people have gut instincts as part of a survival mechanism your body naturally has. You listen to it and react because I would rather be wrong about someone and safe than give someone the benefit …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 08:28 PM
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I think it’s very clear you don’t understand how people end up in abusive relationships in the first place. Abusive people prey on easy targets, those with low self esteem, those who have experienced deep trauma growing up, those who have only ever known abuse. People that aren’t going to notice those red flags, those people they can make feel special with the love bombing. They aren’t targeting people who are in a good place that can see the red flags from a mile off, they wouldn’t get anywhere…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 08:24 PM
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You’re making an assumption too, the women you are asking are telling you these men are acting suspicious and your assumption is they aren’t, they are just undesirable men, that’s why these women are scared of them
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 08:19 PM
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They should leave if they have kids but it doesn’t make it any safer, in fact the abuser will use the kids as a way of threatening you. A woman near where I grew up left her abusive husband with her kids, family court granted him access and he killed the kids. He found another way of hurting her permanently.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 08:16 PM
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Have you ever felt scared for your life? Have you ever noticed someone looking at you in an uncomfortable way and you are trying to work out whether you could get away if you need to? Can you get to your car first? Is he following you home? Have you ever turned around and gone back into a shop, pub, public place, whatever until you know you’re gonna be safe carrying on? This isn’t about how a person looks, it’s the look they are giving you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 08:11 PM
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That’s nothing to do with being “undesirable”. If someone is behaving sketchy, creepy, suspicious, you are going to feel nervous around them and move away from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 07:54 PM
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Don’t be so naive, women are at their most vulnerable when they try leave. When women are killed in those relationships it’s because they have tried to leave. They can’t just leave. They aren’t left alone. The abuser doesn’t just go oh well off you go. They hound them constantly, stalk them, threaten them. The abuser doesn’t stop. It’s horrendous for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 07:47 PM
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I think it’s a little rude that you’re saying you think your work colleague is ugly. You might have a certain perspective of what you think is attractive or not. There are guys on here who say they are ugly, you see a picture and they aren’t. Those insecurities they have though they push onto other people and assume that others feel the same way as them about themselves. Your work colleague might simply not want a relationship which is the point I was making. If you aren’t in yourself open for a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 01:39 AM
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Maybe it’s just not a priority for him and it’s a choice he’s making but at certain times of year he’s a bit like it would be nice to be celebrating this with someone. But he doesn’t feel strong enough about it to actually want to be in a relationship with anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 09:19 PM
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So you are making an assumption as to why this guy is single?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 09:15 PM
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The minute you started with I’ve been on fb and….i struggled to read on. Social media is full of shit and if you believe everything you read then that’s how you end up with a weird world view.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 12:24 AM
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Why do you care so much what other people are or aren't doing and why bother having the discussion if you aren't going to believe people anyway? If that's how you feel, cool, good for you. But its a bit like, who cares? When you date people they don't owe you any information about their past, especially if you aren't going to believe a word that's gonna come out their mouth anyway. And if your starting point is assuming the person you are dating is a liar, then the relationship is doomed anyway.…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:24 AM
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You’re using a very particular scenario. People have given examples to you where they have seen that men in those situations have had the same response and you wanna argue toss about it. In those particular scenarios, my empathy goes to the kids, there are either innocent children who have died unnecessarily or innocent children who are going to be traumatised for the rest of their lives. But yes let’s discuss the bloody parents. I hope whether it’s a man or a woman they do get help so they don’…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:57 AM
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For goodness sake, you know in real life, people were more concerned about whether the kids survived rather than tallying reactions to what happened. Jesus Christ. Stop turning tragic things into a point you can debate on. The main point of that woman and child is that the child was rescued by the bus driver and removed from the mum at that particular moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 09:04 AM
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When I was growing up there was dad who put both his kids in the car and drove at full speed into a wall with an attempt to kill himself and the kids. That comment of “he had to be in a really dark place at the time” was definitely made by a lot of people, men and women. Whether it’s a man or woman, I do believe they must have been in awful place for even considering it, but I don’t think it’s less abhorrent that they choose to try take innocent children with them
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 08:04 AM
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Why is the other way around bad? My husband is vulnerable with me and I appreciate that about him. It helps me understand him better, helps me support him better. It prevents arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 11:10 PM
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Your making broad statements about a few examples of what you’ve seen
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:09 PM
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This is from the article he is talking about Between 1480 and 1913, Europe’s queens were +27% more likely than its kings to wage war (National Bureau of Economics, 2017). They were also better at it, with war queens more likely to take new territory than war kings. Much of this is thought to be down to management style and gender norms (Guilford, 2017). Women are more likely to involve their partners in strategic decisions, more likely to trust their partners to help rule the homeland during war…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:04 PM
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There is an article about that but a woman being more likely to do something isn’t the same as amount of wars actually started by women. So there is one article based on facts and one based on opinion. The majority of wars as you can see are started by men and men have made sure in most countries that women can’t get into positions of power. So let’s stick to the facts shall we
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:54 PM
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Well your thing has changed from this one person you know that your friends with to now being about post menopausal women so how many post menopausal women are you basing this post on? How many toxic dynamics are you witnessing? Or is that gonna be one couple, two at a stretch? All your examples seem a little restricted. A bit like there was this one time when I saw a woman doing……so I’m going to now make a post generalising that to just women and when people realise it’s about one friend……
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:51 PM
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See above :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:34 PM
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Have you been in many toxic middle aged relationship dynamics?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:33 PM
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Quick Google search for you: Men were responsible for 694 acts of aggression and 86 wars while women were responsible for just 13 acts of aggression and only one war (Indira Gandhi).” The authors conclude that women who lead nations likely have the same risk propensity as their male counterparts.9 Mar 2022 Hope they helps 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:32 PM
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Was your grandmother in charge of the country at that point?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:24 PM
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So you are basing your entire post on one woman that you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:23 PM
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You think women are more unstable? Are you sure about that? Because last time I checked it was men who start wars, men who are primarily involved in gang violence, men who commit the most murders, men who are responsible for the vast majority of rape and sexual violence, men who turn the majority of their emotions into anger as default. In healthy relationships and marriages both men and women are vulnerable with each other. They have to be to communicate effectively, to fully understand each ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:22 PM
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Your text and your title don’t make sense. Your title is about how two people are listening and hearing each other and what you’ve put underneath touches on something else entirely. Are you talking about a specific person? Sometimes you want to vent to get it off your chest or help process your own thoughts and feelings, in those moments you don’t want advice or a solution, you want someone to listen and talk it through with you. In a healthy relationship both partners will discuss their trauma.…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 09:40 AM
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That was refreshing to read for this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:01 PM
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Lust is a temporary feeling, or doesn’t last, it’s purely about physical attractiveness. Love is completely different, love isn’t a temporary feeling, love is about the whole person, when you have sex with someone you love it’s not an act of lust, it’s an act of love. It’s different
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 11:12 AM
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Honestly the amount of crap I read on here
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 09:10 AM
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I think the fact that your go to is only look when you meet someone says a lot. If a guy walked up to me regardless of who he was and the only words he had ever spoke to me was will you go out with me, the likelihood is the message you are giving isn’t a great one. If you have a conversation with someone and you feel a connection and then they ask you out, you are more likely to pursue it. The first time I had a conversation with my husband, I instantly knew he was my person, it was the way he t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 01:03 PM
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I think the discussion on who has something is daft. Everyone’s own experiences are personal to them and if something is causing you pain or discomfort then that is valid and it’s unnecessary to compare. A lot of issues in society are rules that men have made in the first place but both men and women in that society reinforce it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:02 PM
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I’m good, married, kids, have enough people in my life. The way I’m doing it works for me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 11:16 AM
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Well the men they meet won’t have been like that on the apps which is why they will have to got to the point of meeting them. Unless they are only looking for a hookup then I suppose that’s different. Both parties at that point are being upfront about what they want. But as a general rule when women are dating to find a relationship, men being like that is an instant turn off and ends up being the reason apps get deleted.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:27 AM
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Well think you are the first person I’ve ever spoke to that doesn’t. It’s a human experience like I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:24 AM
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Because everyone is different and looks are subjective to people. There are people in this world who are attracted to the person before anything else. I’ve had this conversation with men too who feel the same way as me that if they like the person then they become attractive to them. Which is why I said there are people in this world who can look at people objectively and go yeah they are attractive but not for me. You are putting this purely on women but not all men are shallow people and not a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:22 AM
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Do you not get vibes from people when you meet them? Can you not tell what a person is like within minutes of being around them from how they are behaving? Have you never come across someone and thought that person isn’t a good person, I can just tell? That’s not just a woman’s experience, guys get vibes from people too. It’s not a magical creature thing. It’s a human thing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:15 AM
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You get vibes from people. Out of all the men and guys you come across in your life you probably do only find a handful of them genuinely attractive. And that’s different to saying I can see from an objective point of view that person is attractive. That doesn’t mean you would look at that person and say I got to have me some of that. I’ve come across guys that are objectively attractive but give the vibe they are complete nobheads, I wouldn’t given them the time of day, I don’t need to, I can t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:03 AM
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I’ve never used a dating app, got married at 24 so I’ve no personal experience. However when I’ve spoke to other women about their experiences of dating apps, they have ended up deleting them cause they have one crude message after another or dick pics sent to them without asking for them. Or the conversation starts off pretty normal and then the guy turns it sexual. It’s an immediate turn off. It drives women off dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:47 PM
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You aren’t understanding women when they say this, they aren’t meaning that they are only finding 1% of the most attractive men attractive. They mean that it is hard to find a man that you are genuinely attracted to on all levels, the ones you really connect to, that get you and you get them, that you share the same values as, that want similar things in life, that you could genuinely see yourself spending the rest of your life with. Your person. The one if you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:39 PM
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I think the subject is pretty complicated. 1. Contraception is pushed onto women as their responsibility due to the fact that the only contraception men have available to them is condoms but the majority of men refuse to wear them as ‘it doesn’t feel as nice’. No contraception is 100% but it is women that have to deal with the repercussions of failed birth control. The morning after pill doesn’t always work either. 2. Abortion is there for women as it is healthcare and like a comment underneath …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 10:44 AM
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Op you really need to stop using social media algorithms as sources for what you perceive as reality in society. The more you watch something, the more that comes up. It makes it seem like issues are bigger than they are. Men and women can be awful to each other, they both can be abusive to their partners. It doesn’t mean in general there is a double standard. In reality, it doesn’t matter which partner was being nasty, they would be called out for it and rightfully so.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 03:33 PM
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There are significantly less single dads than single mums. Single dads have so much more support from those around them that single mums do which means the kids are getting a lot more support too. Single mums end up single mums because deadbeat dads leave. The issue is deadbeats dads, not single mums. It comes down to attitudes towards men and women. I go out with the kids on my own and it’s expected cause I’m mum. My husband goes out with the kids and he is told repeatedly how amazing he is for…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 01:19 PM
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Of course the article is lying because any article that doesn’t back what you want to say is simply untrue to you right? Men don’t want male birth control, they don’t and they don’t want to have to deal with any side effects. Side effects they expect women to deal with. Why? Because they want to carry on the way they are without taking any responsibility of reducing the task of pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 01:16 PM
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You understand the next stage of medication testing is on people don’t you? And if you look up properly the reactions to male contraceptives they were the same as the side effects women experience using the female contraceptives. There are loads of articles on Google about this. I’ve linked one in a different comment. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-46207304.amp This is an article wear a girls clothing was used in a rape trial in Ireland I can keep going finding actual articles that go a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 12:00 PM
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If you had googled it, there is one source after another
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:45 AM
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https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20230216-the-weird-reasons-male-birth-control-pills-are-scorned
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:45 AM
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You understand the patriarchy is detrimental to men too not just women right
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 07:48 PM
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I’m struggling to understand the relevance of your comment to OPs post? Or did you have that in your head and just really felt like being able to write it down somewhere? And the me too movement has absolutely nothing to do with whether someone has used their body to get a job. So again link and relevance?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 08:36 AM
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When people talk about a patriarchal system, it isn’t just about the opportunities men or women have, it’s little things like most medications tested are based on a man’s body not a woman’s and women can react differently to medication. It’s the fact that whilst they are testing different contraceptives for men, when a man decided they wouldn’t put up with side effects, they kept testing until they found a way of doing that had no side effects, whereas women’s contraception can literally kill he…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 06:23 AM
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Who are the most desirable men in the world?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 07:06 PM
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Men that repeatedly go for much younger women do it because they know women their own age wouldn't stand for their bull and would see the red flags from a mile off. Young women who have less life experience are much easier to manipulate
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 04:20 PM
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If you read something and you think, this doesn't apply to me, these aren't behaviours i display, then you don't need to be offended by it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 04:18 PM
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Then this post isn’t aimed at you??? It’s aimed at them men who behave like shit people and rather than take accountability, blame other people
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 11:41 AM
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You noticed how I said on this sub and not in the real world with real people. There’s a hell of a lot of red pill men on this sub Reddit which is who my response is aimed towards
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 10:13 AM
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OP, the majority of men on this sub can’t stand the idea of men taking responsibility or accountability. It is always going to be a woman’s fault because it’s easier to blame someone else than hold yourself accountable for bad behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 09:55 AM
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My ex met me when I was 15 and he was 18, nearly 19, he used to tell me he had sat outside my house all night in his car, he lived 2 hours away and would drive up if I told him I didn’t want to see him and turn up at my door, he bought me a phone and I would get so many messages a day and threats if I didn’t answer. If I tried to leave him he would tell me he would only accept it if I got the train down to his house where i was isolated. I was terrified of him, there was no way of getting away f…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 09:15 AM
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I wouldn’t say this is true, a lot of women who have been in abusive relationships have grown up with abuse. Abusive men aren’t abusive at the start, they are nice, they love bomb you, they go out of their way for you. The abuse starts slow, it’s covert to begin with. The red flags that start showing are small, it’s normal for them if they’ve grown up with abuse. It makes it hard to work out what’s normal and what isn’t if they haven’t witnessed healthy and normal. By the time it’s obvious, they…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 11:06 PM
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That’s great for them if it works. Doesn’t change my opinion on them though. The women I know who have used them have deleted them after a few days because they’ve been grossed out by the way men have spoke to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 08:54 PM
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I hate the idea of them, never used them. Met my husband through mutual acquaintances. Will always argue that’s the best way.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 08:22 PM
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Got married when I was 24, most the women in my life settled down with one man in their early 20s and are married with kids. Never wanted or liked harassment or unwanted attention to the point I started walking around in the baggiest of clothes from being a teenager. These sweeping statements you make are exactly just that sweeping statements. You can make them about absolutely anything and they don’t have to be true for the most part of society because sweeping statements will always be true fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 10:26 AM
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You understand that Weinstein is still in prison for 16 years for rape and sexual assault against 80 different women. They weren’t unrelated witnesses, they were women he had raped but because it hadn’t happened in New York, Weinstein used that as a reason to get the convictions overturned stating it was unfair there were allowed to stand up and say what he had done to them. However, the courts in California could have him sentenced and sent to prison
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 04:07 PM
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The Harvey Weinstein case was horrendous, he was an absolutely disgusting man that raped so many women and recruited other heavily influential men to do it too in his home. There is absolutely no defending this man and to try make it into a feminist issue is disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 03:34 PM
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In your experience as a man, explain to us all your experiences as a woman to be able to comment on women’s sexual pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 04:48 PM
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80% of teen pregnancies are due to men in their 20's taking advantage of teens
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 11:06 AM
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yep here we go, we have a child making a post
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 11:05 AM
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You sound about 12. You are quite clearly not an adult making a post about a subject you won't fully struggle to understand until you are an adult
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 11:03 AM
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This is up there with one of the most ridiculous things Ive read. If you’re in a relationship then part of that is supporting your partner emotionally. If you’re not supporting them and they feel like they are dealing with everything on their own then of course they are gonna feel resentful. In the majority of relationships now, both partners are working because it’s not financially viable to only have one income coming in. So both partners are feeling that stress Supporting a partner emotionall…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 05:54 PM
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To add something else, most the women in those groups aren’t sleeping with those men, they have matched on a dating app and they are making sure those men aren’t liars or dangerous before going out on a date with them. They are on those groups because they are worried about their safety, mental, emotional and physical
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 11:42 AM
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Those groups exist because men will literally say and do anything to get laid. But have you seen the state of most of those men? They are gross, a lot of them look like addicts or like they just got out of prison, others look like they quite clearly think they are gods gift. They’re just gross. Not top tier men. Just jerks
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 11:40 AM
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Women that are having sex outside of a relationship or having sex with men that are also not in relationships. And I know the response is likely going to be ‘but that’s only the top percent of men’. Anyone actually living in society knows that isn’t true. Sex is important to both men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 09:20 AM
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This happened because if someone says no and you ask them over and over until they say yes, then have sex with them, it isn’t consensual, but people like to say oh but she said yes. It wasn’t enthusiastic yes, it was a I don’t feel like I have a choice yes because my no was ignored
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 10:09 AM
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Its a human right to have a roof over your head, food in your home, clean water and to be warm. Affordable housing whether thats to buy or to rent meets that human right. Due to the fact that right now we have a record number of people homelessness due to housing being so unaffordable is breaching that human right. Same as wages, if wages are under inflation rate, people are put in a position where they are having to choose between being warm or putting food on the table. There are that many peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 04:02 PM
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This one is tricky, say you have a tray of buns and someone tells you that one of them has been poisoned, you wouldn't eat any of them without knowing which are safe. Women know not all men are predators but we don't know which ones are because it isn't like they walk around with a sign saying i am going to hurt you. For our safety we behave in a way that will preemptively keep us safe. The majority of women have been assaulted, attacked or raped at some point in their life, the majority of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 12:14 AM
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I think people should do what they want and noone should be telling them what they should or shouldn't do. If you're childless and don't want to date a single parent then don't. If someone else wants to then that has nothing to do with anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 10:05 AM
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Just type Andy's man Club into google, there is also ManKind men's group as well
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 02:09 PM
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With the statistics coming out about the amount of men, particularly young men commiting suicide, in the UK there is a support group for men, ran by men where you can go and do exactly this
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 01:47 PM
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This isn't just a male experience but for the sake of your long post, women on average are more sociable and tend to seek companionship in friends. I can't speak for myself cause this isn't what i am like, I get social burn out and quite like my own company, I find making friends incredibly difficult and keeping friendships even harder. There are people that find making and keeping friendships difficult and when it is something you have always struggled with, it is not unnatural to get to a poin…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 12:24 PM
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Fair, I was just interested to see if your feeling towards were going to go both ways
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 08:18 PM
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so are men who break their own rules not worth committing to too?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:06 AM
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There are things men do that women hate and there are things women do that men hate. Its called the dating scene. Breaking your own rules for certain people isnt something just women do
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:19 PM
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Its a normal part of conversation when you're getting to know someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 04:31 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 09:36 PM
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Younger men are more immature, women prefer men their own age or older because they are more on the same level. Immaturity isnt attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 09:16 PM
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Other men don’t care about body count. Just because it’s something that is bothering you doesn’t mean it’s something that has even crossed their mind
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 01:37 PM
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Doesn’t matter whether they are on birth control, if you’re having casual sex you should always use a condom to protect against Sti’s and double up protection to stop an unwanted pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 06:31 PM
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If you don’t want to take it, don’t. Make sure you use a condom then if you are going to have sex with someone!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 06:25 PM
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Who is chad? What does a guy have to look like to be considered chad?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:43 PM
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Is this a real question…. Wow
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:24 PM
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Potentially no issue but it depends
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:30 PM
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It depends, if it’s just a hobby and it’s not excessive then it’s fine. If that’s all you do and time with your other half comes second to the game then it’s a huge ick
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:06 PM
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Well it still wouldn’t be your business what women at 40 are doing. If you’re in a situation where you don’t wanna do something, don’t do it. If you do wanna do it, do it. Simple as that really isn’t it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 08:35 AM
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What other people choose to do with their lives and their bodies is no one else’s business
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 01:43 AM
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In todays society women are expected to work full time, maintain a household and look after the kids. In a relationship where both adults are giving a 100%, it’s only fair that the man can also do all those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 10:52 PM
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This isn’t true. Whilst a woman is still talking to her partner about her feelings she is still fighting to make it work. When she stops talking that’s when the relationship is over
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 11:35 AM
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As long as you hold yourself to the same standard it’s fine. It’s a bit shallow though, bodies change as you age
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 01:56 PM
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If you don’t want to make friends with women, don’t. Easy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 10:21 PM
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You guys have more of a hang up with dick size than women do. Women just want you to be good with it otherwise sex doesn’t feel like anything and we just want it to stop. On top of that most women won’t orgasm from penetration alone and need clitoral stimulation too. So if you’re good at sex and her pleasure is just as important, as long as it’s not a micro penis, you don’t have to be the biggest
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 11:37 AM
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He could have had a smaller dick and know what to do with it too. The size is the irrelevant point here.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 11:27 AM
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That means nothing, he could have had 8 inch and not known what to do with it and therefore still been useless in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 09:14 AM
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If you were with a woman she stopped sex before you climaxed every time would you be frustrated or would you saying “well it’s not her responsibility to make me cum”? If you’re having sex with someone then it should be important to both parties that each other enjoys it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 06:12 PM
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Men’s version of nagging is literally asking something of them. She won’t be punishing him. He will just be a childish idiot
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:53 PM
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She will be scared of him. So congratulations to your friend of friend for being an abusive man who is keeping his girlfriend with him through fear and intimidation
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:47 PM
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I’m a woman and no my husband doesn’t generate drama with me. What he sees as she shuts up and has more sex with me looks to everyone else like she tries to have an opinion, he gets violent, she gets scared and tries to appease him to keep herself safe and the cycle continues. She will be doing that because if that’s the reaction to her asking something from him, in her head she will be scared of his reaction if she was to leave him. It’s sick and not normal
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:43 PM
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Nope, I’ve never associated myself around people who have got into physical fights. I’ve walked away every time. It doesn’t interest me. It doesn’t impress me. I think both people are stupid for doing it. If you can’t talk, walk away. Other people might be down for being around violence but not me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 10:43 PM
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If a guy isn’t mature enough to use his brain instead of his fists then I’m not interested. I’m not interested in associating myself with or around violent behaviour. If there is conflict between two people, if they can’t talk to each other about it to resolve the issue then they need to be mature enough to walk away
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 10:38 PM
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I’d lose interest the minute he got into a fight.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 01:46 PM
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Women can be rude to men “without consequence”. Men assault women daily without consequence. I would much rather someone was rude than being physically harassed or assaulted.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 02:14 PM
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Team work and effective communication is a big one for me. Respect too but that goes hand in hand. If something is going on with one of us, it needs to be effectively communicated so it can be resolved, otherwise it just builds up and builds up I need to feel like I have a team mate, not another child in the house. Housework contribution and for chores to be done properly. Both contributing in raising the children. Not feeling the mental load of everything is just on me but shared.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 12:19 PM
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As someone who has worked in the care sector and watched many women look after their bed bound husbands, I can categorically tell you this isn’t true
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:45 AM
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Well in most relationships now, financially couples are contributing equally so that point is a bit null and void. If you think relationships are pointless then don’t have one. Simple really
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:48 PM
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What’s the issue with women once they’ve been through menopause?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:20 PM
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As long as that goes both ways. If you’re judging a woman for that then you should also judge a man equally that has done the same. Judgement goes both ways, and for those that do judge, it’s not a reflection of the person you are judging but the type of person you are. That’s not saying that you can’t have preferences but once you start judging someone for wanting to make different choices, you are projecting you’re own insecurities, fears or/and biases
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 07:56 PM
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As long as it’s okay for women to leave when men lose their hair and get a huge beer belly
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 07:30 PM
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You can’t judge someone either way. If you got to know either person and they talked you through the issues they were having then you could make an observation as to why things were happening. Until that point though, it’s pure judgement
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:37 PM
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Relationships will last as long as they are supposed to. Not all relationships are supposed to last forever. That’s for both men and women People are constantly changing. You aren’t the same person at 30 that you are 18. What you want and need changes. So ultimately who is in your life will change too. The same things happen with friendships too. How you view other people and judgements you make about other people is a reflection of your own preconceptions and insecurities/fears.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:27 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 is that why you’re sat on Reddit making a post bitching about women. All men should strive to be as happy as you! Sounds like projection to me darling. Why strive to be a better husband when we can just blame our wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 08:35 PM
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Sure sweetheart. 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 08:30 PM
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😂😂😂 men never enter into relationships doing fuck all. They always start the relationship doing their bit then the more comfortable become, the less they do. Women don’t want to do the extra stuff. But those men aren’t doing it. You can’t just not do the housework, or do the admin bits, or look after the kids just because your husband isn’t doing it. It would be neglectful
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 08:28 PM
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If men don’t want to get divorced then step up, women initiate divorces when they feel like they are contributing more to the relationship, household and children than their husbands. Ever heard the saying if you feel like you’re doing it alone, you may as well be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 08:22 PM
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This is how I interpret this stuff you guys on here spout about virgin women. 1. You’re that insecure you are worried that you’re shit in bed therefore if she’s a virgin she has nothing to compare your bad sex to. 2. You see virgin women as women who are easier to manipulate. Most men don’t care about whether the woman they are with is a virgin or not. Both men and women are out off by extremely high body counts. Some men would actively avoid being with a woman that’s a virgin due to the added p…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 06:26 AM
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This is how I interpret this stuff you guys on here spout about virgin women. 1. You’re that insecure you are worried that you’re shit in bed therefore if she’s a virgin she has nothing to compare your bad sex to. 2. You see virgin women as women who are easier to manipulate. Most men don’t care about whether the woman they are with is a virgin or not. Both men and women are out off by extremely high body counts. Some men would actively avoid being with a woman that’s a virgin due to the added p…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 06:26 AM
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I think it becomes misogynistic when you start comparing women to cans of pop or cars. I think it’s okay to have a preference but it’s how you word that. I wouldn’t want to be with a guy that has been with loads of women. I had a friend when I was younger who slept with a different girl/woman every week and it was something we would joke about but when he tried it on with me, it was like erm yeah no thanks. It was a huge turn off
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 07:23 AM
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If you want a kid by yourself rather than risking the risks that relationships and marriages come with then do that. If that’s right for you then go for it. But go into understanding that it isn’t the cheaper option. That in America surrogacy is incredibly expensive before you have even started with the cost of taking care of child. Go into it understanding and being ready for the fact that being a parent is hard and it’s even harder being a single parent. Childcare costs are incredibly expensiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 09:37 PM
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It depends really. You can be all those things and it be okay but in some settings and situations it’s inappropriate. So where you are, the situation you’re in and who you around is going to effect whether being all those things is attractive or unattractive. Also are you being all those things in a funny way or an annoying way. Is it coming across as you being a bit goofy or offensive. I know that’s not really answering the question but it really does depend
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 09:09 PM
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Also your point on being able to keep with low commitment dating, if you’re a single dad, who has your child whilst you are doing that? Where are you going to find the time to do that? Dating as a single parent is really hard unless your child is staying somewhere else regularly
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 07:36 PM
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🤣🤣😂 if you think alimony and child support will cost more than raising a child by yourself then you definitely don’t have children. And alimony is not a thing for other parts of the world like the UK. On an okay wage, child support is £65 a week. You can’t raise a kid on £65 a week, never mind less than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 07:28 PM
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Have you really got to the point you’re comparing yourselves to monkeys?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 06:55 PM
1

Unconditional love exists between parent and child because no matter what they do you will always love them. Between spouses that generally isn’t the case, you love them on the condition that there is respect, love, understanding and trust between each other. If all those things are lost, the love tends to go too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 11:53 AM
1

D, being able to be there for each other Is one of the most important things in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 08:46 AM
1

What you are doing is using your perceptions of people to judge what other people are doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:27 PM
6

Women haven’t got the luxury of being brutally honest. It would be dangerous for women to be like that. When letting men down, women have to be nice about it and they are still likely to be verbally abused if not worse. I’m sure the men on here will openly disagree with this but you know, truth doesn’t always sit well with people
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 12:00 AM
5

The majority of women that end up in abusive relationships as an adult tend to have come from an abusive home growing up. The red flags are a lot easier to miss when they have been your norm your entire life to that point. You find it easier to forgive unwanted behaviour because it’s all you have ever known. It’s often the case that you don’t realise it’s not normal until you get out of that relationship and meet a guy that actually does treat you right. The guy that gets with those women know t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 11:31 AM
3

There’s two reasons for it: 1. We start grieving a relationship before it’s ended once we have reached the end of how much we can try give someone who isn’t giving us the same back. 2. We allow ourselves time to feel what we need once the relationship is over. Once we have felt all those emotions, we put it to bed and move on with our lives. I feel like men don’t allow themselves to just feel how they feel which is why I feel like it takes longer. Also I feel mens egos get bruised when relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 08:23 AM
1

No one is arguing that men in general earn more than women. Both a man and a woman could be doing the same amount of hours and the man is still likely to earn more in most cases. My husband is staying home at the moment, he has gone back to uni, I work full time. Everyone who has found that out congratulates my husband. I earn more in my last two jobs than my husband did in his last job. No one is criticising that either. Society is based on patriarchy where everyone loses, it’s harmful to both …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 01:26 PM
0

You know women fight and die in wars too right? As a woman that has been a full time mum and has worked full time, I have been criticised for both by both men and women. No one wants a scrounger regardless of if it’s the woman or man. If a couple don’t have a children and the woman stays home “she’s only with him for his money, she’s lazy, she should be pulling her weight”. Men get the same. Society has changed and both parties in a relationship are expected to be financially contributing. You a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 12:56 PM
0

What’s meant by that is society’s standards for men. If a man cleans around the house it’s: oh isn’t he amazing, he’s so helpful. If a woman does the same thing, it’s: yep. If a man doesn’t clean: oh you can’t expect him to, he’s so tired, he could be a lot worse. If a woman doesn’t clean, she’s lazy. If a man picks up pizza for his kids, again it’s wow what an amazing dad. If a woman picked up pizza for the kids, you’re so lazy why didn’t you cook them a proper meal. If a man cheats, men and wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 12:34 PM
1

No, when I was a stay at home mum, I expected my husband to do his bit on weekends and to pick up after himself and put the bins out. I happily did the rest. As long as he came in and was my team mate with the kids
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 01:57 PM
1

The majority of men aren’t earning tons of money. So the majority of divorces are between people that aren’t earning a great deal between them. They are both financially worse off if both are working because instead of 2 incomes coming into the house, they have a house each and only one income each to cover all the costs of living. If one is a stay at home parent, the person working is going to be better off post divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 10:57 AM
5

I would call that a fully grown adult?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 08:42 PM
1

No, I don’t think so. Men need women more than women need men now. I do think there’s someone out there for everyone in terms of soul mates. As a woman the majority of men I came across until I met my husband were wanting something out of me, wanted everything while they gave nothing. If a man isn’t going to come into a relationship will to also give 100%, they really aren’t worth the time. They just become more of a headache than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 10:01 AM
7

I’ve been a housewife, I still expected my husband to come home parent, pick up after himself and do his part of the housework at weekends
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:33 PM
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In what world should a woman shoulder that much responsibility, housework, kids, sorting all the appointments out, school stuff, organising your entire lives and then on top of that you want her to cater to your every whim and you think the fact you work and bring in the income entitles you to that? I think it’s even more insulting to them say to her she has to work part time on top of everything else “because she will be better off than most women” I think you’re living in a different reality. …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 11:23 AM
1

As a woman this is bull, in my house, I work full time and my husband is at uni. When I met him he had just been made redundant, he was working minimum wage jobs until the pandemic. He’s 5’9”. So yeah, you’re wrong mate
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 08:09 PM
1

As a woman this is bull, in my house, I work full time and my husband is at uni. When I met him he had just been made redundant, he was working minimum wage jobs until the pandemic. He’s 5’9”. So yeah, you’re wrong mate
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 08:09 PM
12

Well if you’re paying for the lifestyle then the woman shouldn’t be working if she has to do all the housework.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 06:57 PM
8

Don’t really get your point with that message so cool?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 06:51 PM
14

Well that depends, if his partner is also working full time then yes. If she’s working part time then it should be 75/25. If she’s a stay at home wife no kids then she should do the majority of the housework with the man doing the basics of picking up after himself. If she is a stay at home mum so again working full time at home then it depends on the age of the child, the man should still be doing his fair share and how that is split will be personal to the couple
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 06:45 PM
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Women want men that they don’t have to mother. They want a man that can contribute equally with the household without being told. They want them to be financially independent, doesn’t need to be a good job. You just have to be working. No one wants to be in a relationship with a man child. It’s not hard
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 06:34 PM
2

I think this is a bit of daft question, I think it’s easy for anyone looking at someone else’s life and to think “they have it so easy”. But in reality, everyone has their own challenges, everyone has something that they are struggling with and you can’t compare. If you spend your time looking at others telling yourself their life is easier then all you are doing is creating bitterness within yourself. Your opinion is being made from assumption. You could say yes but…..those who say that forget …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 08:19 PM
1

I don’t really agree with that statement. Women want to be with men that are giving as much as she is. Lots of women that end up asking for divorce do so because they end up feeling like they are giving so much more and is not getting the same back. Eventually it gets to a point where she needs to leave for her own mental well being. Plus men are more likely to cheat in a marriage so there’s that too. It takes a long time for a women to walk away once things have got bad and the majority of wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:44 AM
0

If you want to talk about who is initiating the divorce, you need to talk about what led to that divorce. It isn’t black and white.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 06:33 AM
1

Cat lady
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 09:50 AM
0

Have you ever seen a guy with a hair piece? There’s no missing it. It’s incredibly obvious. Unless you get it glued to your head and then you wouldn’t be adjusting it. In short, a hair piece is taking no one by surprise. If she is sleeping with a guy with a hair piece, she already knows
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 09:05 AM
1

Well maybe you just need to pick better women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 09:16 AM
1

Well maybe you just need to pick better women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 09:16 AM
1

I think if I were you I would stay out of it. It’s not unusual for couples to go through phases of feeling unhappy and it’s not really a reflection on their marriage as such. It could be they are going through a patch of communication difficulties or they could both be incredibly stressed about something. Work maybe hard. Marriage is hard, it’s not always sun and rainbows. Life is hard. He will talk to you about it if he wants to
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 04:34 PM
14

Women are more attracted to men they feel safe with and a man that you know from somewhere feels safer than a stranger. That’s why women tend to go out with a man that is a mutual friend of their friends or someone they knew from school etc
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 07:46 PM
22

Most women prefer to go out with men that they have met through friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:33 PM
1

It’s objectifying someone and women don’t enjoy being objectified. To add to that, If a complete stranger goes up to a woman and says that, they are likely to be pretty creeped out
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:23 PM
0

Abusers target women who have low self esteem, they love bomb to start with, tell them they love them, treat them really nicely, pretend to be the nicest person the woman could have ever met and then slowly start showing their true colours. By the time they show their true colours, the women feel trapped. And then trauma bonding happens. No one knows they are getting with an abusive person. It’s not something they stick on their forehead. These men purposefully target the woman, they know which …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 11:55 AM
1

I think a lot of women are equally out off by a guy with an extensive history and it will also make them feel icky.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 11:31 AM
2

Society the way it is is harmful for both men and women. Women are shamed, men are shamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 11:09 AM
-1

That’s okay, I don’t think they will be wanting your sympathy :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 10:23 AM
4

Educate yourself on trauma bonding
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:53 AM
1

I had a guy tell me he wanted a blow up doll of me to keep in his bedroom
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 09:04 AM
5

I believe for male victims that’s unfortunately correct. I believe that men should be taken just as seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 05:22 PM
2

Women can be horrible when rejecting men but you aren’t fearful for your life. You aren’t worried about being physically attacked.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 05:21 PM
6

I’m sorry that happened to you. I think most men don’t experience. And in a lot of cases with women and girls it’s not mild either. The first time I was sexually assaulted I was 11. This isn’t unusual for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 05:19 PM
0

Society is designed in a way that puts mens needs first. Like using crash dummies that are the proportions of a man when testing cars. Like the fact that the majority of people that are in a position of authority like government, share holders, CEO’s are men. That between a man and a woman going for the same position or promotion, it’s more likely to be given to a man. When it comes to birth control, women are given lots of options that have huge a list of side effects we are expected to just ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 05:06 PM
1

Everyone has flaws, my husband loves me despite my flaws, like the fact that I have eczema and sometimes my skin is really sore, or that I sometimes struggle with my mental health. And I love him despite his flaws like the fact he snores or that he’s stubborn and once he gets something in his head he has to do it. It just means that you love someone and you love the fact they aren’t perfect because no one is. You love them even though they drive you up the wall sometimes. It goes both ways. No m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 04:35 PM
2

I love my husband, we have been together 6 years, married for nearly 4. I still get butterflies to see him when I’m on my way home from work or when I’m waiting for him to get home. He’s my best friend, he’s the only person that can makes me feel seen and heard. And he’s the only person I would want to be spend this crazy existence we call life with. He’s also the best dad me and our children could hope for
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 03:29 PM
22

Men have the privilege of being able to say no to a woman without the fear of violence or sexual assault. Men have the privilege of being able to go out and not have to have their hand covering their drink so they don’t get spiked Boys aren’t being sexualised from being a young child. Men have the privilege of being able to say that the majority of men aren’t sexually assaulted, harassed or raped. Men have autonomy over their own bodies A man is more likely to be offered a pay rise and a promoti…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 10:08 AM
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The fact you can’t see we live in a patriarchy is in fact because all your experiences are that of a man. But saying that even a lot of men will agree the patriarchy still exists
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 09:48 AM
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If you don’t want women in your life, don’t have women in your life. People in general can be horrible. Both men and women. Couples who are together aren’t faking wanting to be with each other. With the amount of time couples choose to spend with each other, it would be exhausting to fake it. I had really traumatic things happen to me by men when I was growing up. I could very easily spent my life hating men and for a long time I was one of those people who said “all men” but it’s not all men. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 04:45 PM
1

Masculinity is not under attack, toxic masculinity is being called out. Toxic masculinity is toxic behaviours that are being wrongly associated to being masculine. For example being aggressive. Or men being shamed for showing their emotions or having ‘feminine’ qualities. Edit: to answer the actual question I think women should show up and be there as much as their partner. So whatever a woman expects from a man, she needs to match that
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 04:20 PM
2

I have been ghosted before.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 10:34 PM
3

This has got to be the most stupid thing I have read on here a while. Congratulations OP
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 12:45 AM
1

It makes me feel like I’m still at secondary school when I hear all women like statements. Or when people on here are rating other men women out of 10. Honestly in all real life setting past secondary I have never heard anyone rating anyone else out of 10
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 05:44 PM
2

Is there any particular reason to put up this post if when other men who have had different experiences disagree with you, you’re just gonna tell them they are wrong? You have said yourself that this hasn’t usually been your experience and just in the last few weeks you have noticed it. Edit: I can only assume when you talk about women on tik tok showing disdain for men, you’re talking about the tik toks being made by both women and men calling out men on their misogynistic and sexist remarks an…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 06:46 AM
1

I would rather one partner stay home so the children had someone there for them all the time and housework could get done through the day so it doesn’t take up family time
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 04:53 PM
1

In what situation can you call £80k a less secure financial situation? The average household income is between £30k and £40k
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 04:07 PM
3

Relationships and marriages are about teamwork. It may be that one person stays home and does the housework while the other works. Or it could be that both work and both do housework. But if you’re expecting one person to do everything and the other does nothing, that’s not teamwork or a relationship, it’s just taking advantage of someone for a free ride
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 12:11 PM
1

Yes when I was younger, got rejected a few times. Been stood up a few times too. But that’s part and parcel of life, you’re not gonna be everyone’s cup of tea Edit. All of these have been irl
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 03:21 PM
1

See my edit, I did ask
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 01:07 AM
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