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I wish people would stop making a big deal out of women’s virginity. It really isn’t a big deal. Your first time you ever have sex regardless of your gender is usually awkward fumbling with neither of you really knowing what to do. My first time wasn’t that memorable, I’m not with that guy anymore, I don’t ever think about it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/26 04:07 PM
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There was a tv show in the UK that was done where they put a group of girls in a house without an adult and a group of boys in a house without an adult. The girls organised themselves and made meals, cleaned up after themselves and worked together whereas they boys were wild the entire time, trashed the house and split into two groups, then antagonised each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/26 11:35 PM
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https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10306201/ Try reading that one
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/26 11:11 PM
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I love it when you guys link sources you quite clearly haven’t read properly 😂😂😂 try reading it again and for anyone else coming across this guys comment, read the source properly. It actually says that women hunted 79% of the time in foraging communities and were involved in big game hunts 33% of the time. It also says that although men hunted more, they often came home emptied handed meaning the women foraging were the main food source. But it also says that men were also involved in foraging …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/26 11:04 PM
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Think that challenge reflected how men and women have been socialised and taught growing up rather than a reflection of how capable women are of those skills had they been socialised that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/26 10:58 PM
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https://www.bbc.co.uk/newsround/67511097
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/26 10:49 PM
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Cause obviously women are just pathetic and can’t function without men……
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/26 10:45 PM
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The most agreeable people in society are men. Also the most submissive people in society are also men. Under every dictator is a group of men enabling and supporting the movement. Every gang is majority men led by a man. Men will do stupid things to fit in with their friends. Men fear speaking out against their friends even if they don’t agree with their behaviour for the fear of being shunned
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/26 12:52 PM
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This really isn’t a gendered issue but personally when being passive aggressive it’s because a reoccurring issue that I’ve spoke about until I’m blue in the face and it’s not made any difference. I know there’s no point talking about it again but I’m still pissed off about it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/26 09:21 AM
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You understand Google is free don’t you? You can google it and it will tell you what he just told you. Then you can argue with Google if you like. I would also recommend googling the history of monogamy in humans because it really isn’t something we have always done
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/26 01:49 AM
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So pre agricultural times, men weren’t actually that bothered about who their bio kids were as children were brought up by the tribe. That only changed when men started owning land as they wanted to make sure that anything that was theirs was only passed on to children that were biologically theirs. It is also at this time that men wanted to start controlling a woman’s body so that they knew for definite their children were theirs
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/26 01:39 AM
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😂 did you really say women are acting like men cause they’ve got a job, lifting weights and eating protein 😂😂😂. Don’t think I need to say anything, that’s hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 05:45 PM
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All the sex education in the world isn’t going to stop porn normalising sexual violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 07:46 AM
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Porn is awful, especially on young men’s brains, they tend to use it as their sex education on what sex is supposed to look like and how women are supposed to behave. Obviously it’s acting, so it’s fake. But the reality of it is, young women are having young men do things to them they do not want. It also encourages violence during sex and those young men and fully grown ass men to degrade their sexual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 10:06 AM
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Women are 51% of the population, men were always told it was cool for them to sleep around, so who did you think they were doing that with? Other men? The “sexual liberation” just said to stop shaming women for something they were already doing…….you understand women enjoy sex right? And for those who are having casual sex, they are doing it because they want to?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 12:59 AM
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I’m a stay at home and a full time carer to my disabled child. My husband works full time. I get no help from family because apparently my disabled child is “too hard”. My sister has been a single mum, works full time, my mum and her husband have practically raised my sister’s children. She goes on weekends away, sits in her car outside their house for up to an hour before going in to get them and will still complain she doesn’t get any help. However you and up parenting, it’s hard. It isn’t a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 03:44 PM
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The idea of the friend zone is an attempt to shift responsibility on to the person that doesn’t have romantic feelings. There is no friend zone, either you are genuine friends or you aren’t. That’s it. If one of you develops romantic feelings and they aren’t reciprocated there is already a word for that, unrequited love, everyone feels it at one point or another, you deal with it, get over it and either you can continue being a genuine friend or you can’t. But no one is putting you anywhere caus…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 07:21 AM
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We aren’t going to agree on this. I would suggest listening to some really good male creators that speak about the friend zone and why it doesn’t exist but I think you would respond the same way to them
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 06:16 PM
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All she can say to him is I value your friendship and would like to remain friends, my feelings aren’t going to change about you. It’s up to you to decide whether you can stay friends with me or whether you need space to deal with your feelings. If he continually stepped over that boundary, I’m sure she would end the friendship. Friend zones don’t exist, only feelings or behaviours that need to be addressed and dealt with
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 06:11 PM
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She’s not responsible for his behaviour or his feelings. He’s responsible for his behaviour and his feelings. It would be infantilising of her to make a decision for him about the friendship. It’s his responsibility to decide whether he can maintain that friendship from a genuine place or whether he needs to take some space to deal with his feelings. She can’t make that decision for him because only he knows what he needs to do
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 06:02 PM
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I’d say that guy still isn’t being friend zoned, she sees as him as just a friend. There doesn’t need to be a word to describe his behaviours or feelings. But by saying she friend zoned him, you are holding her responsible for his feelings or behaviours which she absolutely isn’t. At some point that guy will need to deal with his feelings. He either wants to be a genuine friend which he can only do if the feelings go away or he doesn’t and the friendship from his side is disingenuous
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 05:53 PM
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So if you are friends with someone and you develop feelings for them, you tell them that and they say sorry I just see you as a friend then nothing about them or how they view the relationship has changed, it’s your feelings that have changed. In that case you need to deal with your feelings. Now the mature thing to do it take some space from the friendship so you can get over them and then if that friendship was important to you and you valued that friendship you will continue it or you decide …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 05:47 PM
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Tell me what you think the friend zone is
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 04:44 PM
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Looks like they need to pull their shorts up but each to their own
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 02:33 PM
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There’s no such thing as the friend zone, you’re either friends or you’re not.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 01:34 PM
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You seem to think that your height and your appearance must automatically make you a catch and the way you speak about your friend is a bit shit. Referring to women as females is intentionally demeaning and the women on this sub are giving you answers, the issue is our answers challenge your perspective so instead of altering your perspective, you’re being an arse. We have attempted to describe the female gaze, you seem to be struggling to grasp that so helpfully I suggested Google so you could …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 12:46 AM
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Yeah I don’t care how tall you are, I think the problem is your attitude
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 12:22 AM
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Female…..yeah I can’t imagine why you aren’t doing as well as your mate…….I’m bi…….
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 12:11 AM
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Yeah I don’t think it is
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 12:05 AM
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The only women I have known of that like the body builder build are women who are also body builders
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 11:57 PM
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Well personally I don’t like bodybuilders bodies and I tend to go for nerdy looking guys or alternative looking guys, think the type of guy you see at rock/metal gig
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 11:51 PM
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Look up the female gaze, there are plenty of examples on Google……
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 11:44 PM
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Women aren’t a monolith, we all want something different. So who’s gate keeping?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 11:40 PM
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https://www.google.com/search?safe=active&client=safari&sa=X&sca\_esv=023e1ca19e67f477&hl=en-gb&udm=2&sxsrf=APpeQnu2bl4Zx398bbFjFcGmBQBdik0TBw:1785881615101&q=male+vs+female+gaze+examples&stick=H4sIAAAAAAAAAFvEKpObmJOqUFaskJYKZqUnVqUqpFYk5hbkpBYDAMVM84QfAAAA&source=univ&ved=2ahUKEwjLqp26\_4eWAxVZWEEAHSjbLV8QrNwCegUIvwEQAA&biw=430&bih=815&dpr=3#sv=CAMSVxoyKhBlLTlINXllcTc1by0yS0VNMg45SDV5ZXE3NW8tMktFTToOREhubUlKMUpEYkI3b00gBCoXCgFzEhBlLTlINXllcTc1by0yS0VNGAEwAUoECAEQAhgHIJPA1a8FSggQAhgBIAIoAQ Left…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 10:14 PM
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You’re a gym bro by the sounds of it. You probably fit the male gaze more than the female gaze which is why your mate gets more attention; he’s probably appealing more the female gaze.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 04:02 PM
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Google how are women oppressed in modern western society and the answers are all there.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 12:34 PM
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Women in Japan are being told they aren’t allowed their legs out in professional environments so I fully understand them challenging the double standard. You can twist that how you like but the context of it matters in that example.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 03:00 PM
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In the workplace because women in professional settings in Japan, women are held to such high standards that they think it’s only fair the men are too
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 01:59 PM
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This entire post is just a whole lot of drivel.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 02:25 AM
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Is this a real thing? Where on the internet are you looking?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 12:18 AM
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No, because that person was still the love of their life, so they’re obviously devastated
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:47 AM
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Women’s feelings towards men hasn’t anything to do with feminism. It’s to do with their personal experiences with men. The cat calling that starts the minute your body starts developing, the boys in school that pull at your bra straps, grab at you under the table etc, the fact that 98% of women have experienced sexual harassment, assault or rape. You guys don’t seem to understand this.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 09:40 PM
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I don’t think that’s true at all. I think it’s the same amount but men and women show love differently
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 09:04 PM
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No one should be with someone else because they need them, they should be with someone because they want to be with them. The goal is two independent adults that choose to be with each other every day out of love not need
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:06 PM
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If you want to wear make up, heels and wigs, you don’t need to come to Reddit to announce it unless you’re asking for advice on where to go to for some good make up and wig tutorials
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 09:53 AM
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The cost of living crisis has absolutely nothing to do with women pursuing careers………you understand Google is free don’t you? You can google the cause of the cost of living crisis and there are plenty of websites that explain it very clearly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 12:10 AM
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Once you finish uni, you need to be able to function in the world, you need to come up with strategies that are going to support you with being able to do this. If you don’t work it out, how are you going to be able to hold down a job, pay your bills, live? I think you need to work that out before worrying about a potential relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 08:09 PM
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If you are friends with someone and catch feelings and the other person doesn’t feel the same but you both want to continue the friendship, then take space to deal with your feelings so they disappear and you can be a genuine friend. If you pretend to stay friends in the hope of wearing her down, you aren’t being friend zoned, you’re being manipulative because you are pretending to just want to be friends. If she starts taking advantage of the fact you have feelings for her, she’s being manipula…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:39 PM
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I think men think it’s a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 10:30 AM
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No it was something I was consenting to only in a relationship, funny how their minds changed instantly after sex, as they were driving me home……
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 10:04 AM
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I’ve had this happen to me twice before I was married, two different guys I was interested in (separate times). Told them I don’t have sex outside relationships, they asked me out, we had sex, then they told me something in my life they were more than aware of before they asked me was the reason they weren’t interested anymore. I was used for sex, they got that notch and they weren’t interested after
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 09:46 AM
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They don’t have to do anything though do they, they can stay single instead. But then they need to stop whinging about it. They’ve made a choice, either be okay with it or change the decision they are making
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 11:21 PM
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The majority of women aren’t having sex with total strangers……. The issue with “pro-lifers” is you don’t give a shit about the kids who are born, you’re pro birth not pro life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 11:22 AM
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What about all the thousands of women that are raped every year? The risk to life pregnancies? The children that are raped? The babies that aren’t viable with life? Ectopic pregnancies? Women that are miscarrying that need medical intervention? All those cases require the ability to access abortions as apart of healthcare Or the fact that contraceptives aren’t just used as ways to prevent pregnancy, they are also used to help with heavy periods, regulate irregular periods, manage other period re…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 10:55 AM
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Study after study proves that effective sex education reduces the amount of unplanned pregnancy. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8872707/ Teen pregnancy is higher in the states than almost every other 1st world country.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 12:16 PM
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Just watch one of the men on here argue the toss with you over this
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 07:48 AM
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Well actually they are if you remove their ability to get an abortion. 39 states teach abstinence which then you know makes it really hard for young people to understand how to avoid pregnancies and over a dozen states allow healthcare providers the right to refuse to prescribe contraception which includes the morning after pill. So to me it sounds like the USA is making it really hard for women to avoid getting pregnant in the first place. And I’m sure you’re gonna say “they should just keep th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:54 AM
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There are men who will literally quit their jobs to avoid paying child support here and considering it’s so easy to get cash in hand here, it’s not a problem. Scaffolders get paid really well and it’s something they can do cash in hand. My dad worked in IT, made himself self employed so he could say he didn’t have a reliable income, didn’t have to pay. Then just moved countries to get out of it completely. In fact he was so damn determined about not being responsible for us, he moved to Aussie.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:46 AM
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https://www.aclu.org/trump-on-abortion https://www.whitehouse.gov/fact-sheets/2025/01/fact-sheet-president-donald-j-trump-enforces-overwhelmingly-popular-demand-to-stop-taxpayer-funding-of-abortion/ Well that was beyond easy to find. You really think the blind spot isn’t noticed? They just don’t care……. Edited to add the extra link for you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:36 AM
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Not that hard to get cash in hand jobs here, most local pubs here are cash in hand, small restaurants are also cash in hand. If you work as on a building site and know the owner, can get paid cash in hand, work for family, can get paid cash in hand. Same with working in garages. Alternatively they can put you down as working minimum wage and then give you big bonuses instead which then don’t get put through the same which drives your maintenance payments down. If you go on benefits, the maintena…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:30 AM
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I live in the UK, it’s easy here to not pay child support. Get paid cash in hand, don’t have to pay, make yourself jobless, dont have to pay, make yourself self employed, don’t have to pay, move countries, don’t have to pay, put down the wrong address, they can’t find you, you don’t have to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:17 AM
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😂 you lot voted in Donald bloody Trump. What are you even talking about. You have how many states making it illegal for women to access abortions? There were literal conversations about how your president was going to remove the right to vote from women, i.e household voting, which is just code for only the man of the house can vote. Well I’m glad the states make dads pay for their kids because in the UK, they do sweet FA and considering I live in the UK, I can say for certain dad’s can walk awa…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:14 AM
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Both of us, more than likely. But you’re comparing a really unlikely situation with a daily reality for mum’s and dad’s. Oh you could not be more wrong, my sisters ex walked away from his kid and even though he should be paying child support, he doesn’t, he has put a random address down so CSA can’t find him and he works for cash in hand so he doesn’t have a pay check. He’s not in prison. My dad just moved countries so he didn’t have to pay child maintenance, he also didn’t spend a day in prison…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:01 AM
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This is something my husband gets really annoyed about. When he takes our children out and about by himself, he gets told how much of an amazing dad he is, when he forgets something one of the children needed, he gets told well at least you got them there etc. You know who gets the phone calls being chewed out for said child going to school/childminders without said thing, me. When I take the kids out, it’s expected cause I’m there mum. If I forget something, it’s a huge deal, when he forgets so…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:46 AM
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All anime characters have unrealistic bodies? Both men and women game, men have just decided that gaming is a ‘’male typical virtual hobby”. So no I don’t find it icky, they can do what they want, it’s not hurting anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:35 PM
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It certainly doesn’t help but I think what actually causes that rarity is societal attitudes towards women, even when rape is believed, the blame still goes to the woman, what she was wearing, if she had been drinking, where she was walking, if it was daytime or night time etc
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 02:48 PM
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It’s incredibly rare for an innocent man to go to jail after being accused of rape. But I think people are angry at the justice system and police when innocent people go to jail
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 02:34 PM
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Even with proof, it doesnt matter, I had a Skype conversation with my abuser admitting he had sexually abused me as a child, i took that to the police, they interviewed him, he said he didn’t do it so he was let go, i had to make a complaint for it to be reopened, he admitted part of what he did in court and got off with a suspended sentence because he lied and said i was older than I actually was. At one point the judge called him out for lying and the jury still found him not guilty. The judge…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 02:00 PM
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No 97% of rapists go without punishment, that’s not some. That’s the vast majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:35 PM
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You don’t believe women, society doesn’t believe women which is why only 1.3 to 3% of all reported rapes lead to an actual conviction. It’s one word against another and even once a rape kit is done, that in itself doesn’t prove it was rape. So 97% to 99% of rapists get off and get on with their lives. Only 2%-5% of all rapes reported are false reports. Yet just under 100% of all rape victims aren’t believed
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:25 PM
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So power imbalances are usually, boss/employee, teacher/student, huge age gaps, massive wealth gaps, someone with a lot of influence with someone who isn’t etc. That doesn’t describe the vast majority of relationships so I’m not sure what you’re rambling on about
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:22 PM
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Yes abusive neglectful parents exist. There are always going to be exceptions, nuance exists. Point?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:04 PM
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Go on then prove it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:14 PM
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What studies? And are they all from online dating platforms?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:47 PM
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In relationships where there is a power imbalance, there has to be an acknowledgment of the power imbalance and things purposefully put in place so that the imbalance is removed and the relationship to be equal for it not to be a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:39 PM
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I guess it depends on the initial reason as to why the relationship was pursued to begin with
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:53 PM
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Actually yes I would, when you’re dating and you have different experiences, you work out what you like, what you don’t like, what’s normal in relationships, what isn’t normal in relationships, you establish boundaries for yourself. If you don’t have those experiences, you are being told by the other person what is normal or not normal
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:34 PM
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The majority of women aren’t stating that, you are obviously just being fed online the content you are choosing to seek out, therefore you are reinforcing your own beliefs
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:32 PM
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Because you have unconditional love for your children, the vast majority of parents want what’s best for them and always act in the best interest of their child, not themselves. In romantic or friendship relationships, where there is a power imbalance, the one with the power is seeking out relationships where the dynamic is immediately unequal for their own interests
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:31 PM
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If most men can’t provide it then it’s obvious most women aren’t seeking it, especially considering if you leave the house and actually look at relationships, the vast majority are in the same pay brackets/class etc. they usually have met as colleagues at work or from school, through friends
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:29 PM
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Youre being intentionally pedantic and it’s not relevant for romantic relationships where you know full well that power imbalances are innately predatory
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:20 PM
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Depends on the difference in what each of the couple are earning, if one of you is barely making ends meet and the other is earning significantly more then yes there can be a power imbalance but the majority of men aren’t in that category
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:15 PM
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The majority of men don’t earn enough to be financing anyone’s lifestyle, the vast majority of you are either broke or are just making enough to finance your own lifestyle
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:12 PM
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Inherently no but it can turn predatory if you used the power imbalance to make your child do stuff they shouldn’t be doing, like parents or guardians who abuse their children. Especially step parents that walk into a single mothers lives purely for the basis they have children
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:03 PM
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That’s where your head goes…..your gross
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:48 PM
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One person in a relationship earning more than the other doesn’t mean there is a power imbalance within the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:46 PM
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Why do women in relationships need to ask their partner to do chores. They live in the same house, they can see what needs doing. They need to act like grown ups and just do them. Women aren’t your mums, stop acting like children
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:50 PM
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The majority of women don’t? Just like the majority of men don’t? There’s always going to be exceptions
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:46 PM
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Power imbalances have no place in relationships, intimate or friendships. They need to be built and maintained on an equal footing. Power imbalance relationships are innately predatory
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:35 PM
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Standard sinks in the UK plus it’s a rental
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:42 PM
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The draining board is attached to the sink
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:37 PM
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By pots I mean plates, cutlery, glasses, cups, pans, bowls, literally everything will be dirty. If I completely leave him to it, he leaves everything on the draining board and then splashes dirty sink water all over them. I can’t be expected to feed my kids off of dirty plates and utensils
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:21 PM
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I can’t reduce my standard to dirty dishes. Having clean pots is a bare minimum. We have discussed the results, I’ve given him things back whilst he’s been washing up and he just gets upsets with me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:13 PM
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I assigned my husband the washing up as I have eczema all over my hands and arms, that was 5 years ago. Guess who has to redo it every time because it’s not clean by the time he’s finished
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:06 PM
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https://www.ons.gov.uk/employmentandlabourmarket/peopleinwork/earningsandworkinghours/articles/womenshouldertheresponsibilityofunpaidwork/2016-11-10
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:32 PM
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https://eige.europa.eu/newsroom/care-and-gender?language\_content\_entity=en
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:32 PM
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Weird that the majority of women in relationships all have the same lived experience
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:30 PM
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Don’t need data, I have a husband, I have lived experience
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:07 PM
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Eyes usually, dirt on floor, dust, pots unclean, table unclean, dirty clothes everywhere, any person with eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 01:19 PM
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If I don’t do the housework, it does not get done. It’s not that my standards are higher, I just don’t want to live in a dirty untidy home
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:32 PM
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The vast majority of people can’t afford to hire anyone to do anything. So who exactly are you talking about? The super wealthy? And you can stop with the ‘let’. It’s more like men don’t pay attention to the fact that the cleaning products need replacing, or what packed lunch things and snacks need picking up, when the kids are running short on something, clothes need replacing, shoes are getting too small, gifts for their friends when they’ve been invited to another birthday party. It’s not tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:53 AM
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Don’t watch porn ever. My imagination is good enough and tbh I only ever think about my husband anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 11:12 AM
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I’ve been through the court system, I was sexually abused as a child by 50 year old man. His solicitor implied to the jury that I was asking for it. They found him not guilty because of her speech. So yes it would absolutely be used against her in court.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:54 PM
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If she revokes consent at some point during the act and he happens to carry on, if she then goes to the police and it ends up in court, the recording of her consenting would be used against her. It’s not about assuming he will do anything or that’s his intention, it’s about her not putting herself in a situation where that could be a possibility
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:25 PM
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It puts her in a vulnerable position and it’s an incredibly weird request if there’s no ill intention. Why would he need a recording of her consent?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:53 PM
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I don’t care?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:28 AM
0

I have sex with people who aren’t weird enough to ask for voice notes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:26 AM
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😂 the reason that guy is asking for a voice note with her consent is because he’s assuming that she will accuse him of rape afterwards. If she agrees to it, she is making herself vulnerable. If you don’t trust the person you are having sex with, you shouldn’t be having sex with them. If you are too stupid to understand consent, you shouldn’t be having sex. It’s that simple
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:21 AM
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Women who don’t want to date men do date women or stay single
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:12 AM
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Isn’t he presuming ill intentions by having her record herself giving him consent?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:55 AM
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I’m not presuming anything but it leaves her vulnerable
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:41 AM
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Of course it’s problematic, you can remove consent at any point. The issue with voice note is if she originally consented and then revoked consent half way through and he carried on, it turns into rape. If he has that voice note he can then essentially use it against her
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:27 AM
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If you don’t want to date women, date men or stay single
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:01 AM
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Stop acting like consent is confusing or there’s grey areas. Men understand consent perfectly well when it comes to their bodies but when it comes to women’s bodies, it’s suddenly confusing. You understand what consent looks like
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:59 AM
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We don’t all hate men and I don’t see young women claiming everything as misogyny, I do see them calling out misogyny as they see it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:02 AM
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Actually it is against the law and you can be charged for it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:57 AM
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My dad literally left the country when I was growing up to avoid paying child support
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:43 AM
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I don’t agree with you at all. I have been with my husband through his absolute worst points, I’ve taken shit for him from his family, i have loved him when he was falling apart, have stood by him and stood up for him when he didn’t have the strength to. I’ve supported him through him going back into education, I worked over 16 hours a day, working two jobs when needed, so he could concentrate just on his studying. I have sacrificed throughout the years massively for that man. The love I have fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 04:35 AM
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If society cared about people then there would be loads of money going into mental health, schools would be set up in a way that benefitted children, rather than trying to turn them into the next generation of worker ants, companies priority woukd be there workers, rather than their profits. The world would be accessible to those with physical and/or mental disabilities etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 04:11 PM
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I’m gonna assume you’re from the USA. You’re highlighting how bad the American education system really is. I know you think you’ve got an I’ve gotcha there but it isn’t. It’s more like black people in America were used as slaves during the slave trade. The outside slaves were treated horrendously, the slaves that were living in the house were treated better. Because the slaves that lived in the house enjoyed the privileges they got from living in the house, they would reinforce and be apart of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 04:05 PM
1

Bless you, i guess it is a big concept and complicated. It’s okay that you don’t understand it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:51 PM
1

Well no it makes you asset rich but money poor. So simultaneously true. For example you could live in a mansion but not be able to withdraw money from it and your bank account is empty. If you sold your mansion you could have millions but if you’re not in a position to sell then your asset rich but money poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:41 PM
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Well actually technically you can, if all your wealth was in assets and you couldn’t access the assets then you would have no physical money or access to money and therefore you could be poor and rich at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:37 PM
2

You understand two things can be true at the same time?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:31 PM
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I’m not sure where you’re seeing that women after divorce are highly depressed, every study I have seen about women’s happiness after divorce states that those women are happier. There is a study done by pubmed that states that the happiness outcome after marriage depends on both the mental health of the couple inside the marriage and the quality of the marriage that is breaking up. So I watched that YouTube video and I don’t think it’s a I’m right, the other person is wrong situation. It’s a re…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:13 PM
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No it doesn’t care about men which is why it is so damaging in terms of mental health and emotional well being, the patriarchy just values men over women as productive contributors. So basically within patriarchy, men are viewed as handy tools that will benefit capitalism rather than as human beings
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:10 PM
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We do but the patriarchy doesn’t care about men or women. It just means that society’s set up in a way that benefits men more. But the only men that are noticeably benefit from it are those in positions of power and wealth
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:53 PM
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Society doesn’t care about anyone. Men or women. We live in a system that only cares about whether a person financially contributes to it. The gender of that person is by the by.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:19 AM
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In a scenario where I was still in my early to mid 20’s, my opinion would be based on whether he was a present dad or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 12:58 PM
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Men understand consent completely when it’s their body so they do understand meaningful informed consent. They just don’t care when it comes to women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:12 PM
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The original definition of virginity had nothing to do with genitals. Look it up. I don’t care if people really care about that story book. It’s still a load of shit. That “God” that people believe in committed genocide and killed millions and then Christians, that’s okay cause it was in the Old Testament. New Testament God is kind and forgiving. Yeah, no, God is a psycho. You aren’t a kind anything if you have committed Genocide. The cognitive dissonance is crazy. We are now in 2026, science ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 11:31 AM
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Last time I checked, your genitals don’t make you strong or weak. Bible is a load of shit. I genuinely don’t understand why anyone believes in religion in this day and age.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:16 AM
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Like I said insecure or misogynistic. You’re insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:55 AM
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Course I’ve been in a church and I’ve listened to a surmon too. It’s just a load of shit being spewed. I’ve also read a lot of the bible. Which is just a story book about a being in the sky and a magic man. Churches exist to control people. That’s it. People are easier to manipulate and control when they believe they are damned to hell if they aren’t doing as they are told
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:24 AM
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Yeah cause Christianity changed the definition of virginity to what we know it as now. The original definition was a strong independent woman who hadn’t married a man yet. The reason Christianity changed the definition was for no other reason than to control women. That’s it. In fact the only reason Christianity was introduced into society was to control the masses.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:35 AM
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Is that what you think Christianity is for? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:27 AM
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Why aren’t we comparing men to toothbrushes. They’re quick to compare women to everything. But we can compare men to a toothbrush. A toothbrush who has only been in one mouth is fine but a toothbrush who has been in many mouths is a disgusting toothbrush
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:11 AM
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You saying things like ‘pre-used’ is misogynistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:09 AM
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The reason is why? Did you also know that the original definition of virgin was a strong independent woman who hadn’t been married to a man . Then the Christian’s got hold of the word and we all know Christianity is deep rooted in misogyny. They changed the definition to mean a woman who hadn’t had sex yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 07:59 AM
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If you’re bothered about the men who have previously slept with women you are either incredibly insecure or you’re a misogynist. I know in this case, you’re a misogynist considering what you compared women to in your post
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 07:42 AM
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I live in a country where healthcare is free, rather than the USA where you are only allowed to live if you have money. The 3rd world country parading around like a 1st world one. But healthcare is a basic human right. Your access to a woman’s body isn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 01:50 AM
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Considering you can pay for sex, it’s not a limited anything, you just don’t wanna pay for it. But if you’re really wanting sex and you can’t find anyone that fancies you enough to have sex with you and you don’t wanna pay for it, well that is now a you problem
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 12:25 AM
2

If you think living as a woman is easier, transition
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:56 PM
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You’re making an assumption women have it easier in society based on what you think living as a woman is like. Though because you aren’t a woman, you’ve no actual idea so your opinion is irrelevant
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:52 PM
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Feeling sensitive?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:33 PM
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Yeah I read that post too and it definitely read like he wanted to move somewhere so that he could get with a woman, have kids with her then take them off her
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 09:58 AM
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😂😂 absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 04:04 AM
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Cause it’s not just a man’s situation is it, it involves a whole child who would be more messed up by it than the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:42 AM
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Why you more bothered about the man in this rather than the kid?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:40 AM
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I don’t feel like this is a common thing
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:17 AM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:07 AM
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I mean if you have a criminal record it already prevents you from working in certain industries and dictates where you can or can’t live. That’s not a new thing
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:05 AM
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If your eyesight is that bad, why you going out without your glasses or contact lenses?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:56 AM
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You don’t have to get involved to see something isn’t right…..
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:50 AM
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I was just interested in you telling me all about women with all the experience you have as a man
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:48 AM
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So gross things and horses. Anything else?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:44 AM
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I’m not disagreeing with you that’s in awful crime and there should be legal repercussions for it. I’ve just said 25 years is excessive
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:44 AM
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You could go get one of the bouncers, you could call the police, involve a member of staff.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:41 AM
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Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:40 AM
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Tell me more about what women love
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:39 AM
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Sure, men should get a huge R on them if they are rapists. M for murderers. A for abusers and F for fraud, T for theft.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:38 AM
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Do they?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:29 AM
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It’s statistically around 1.6% of mothers commit paternity fraud. It’s rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:28 AM
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Gross
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:26 AM
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You’re right I don’t live in Panama but I also haven’t committed paternity fraud so I won’t go to jail anyway 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:21 AM
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I’m not downplaying it, it is awful but it’s not murder so shouldn’t be sentenced as harshly as murder.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:20 AM
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So you don’t think that men in general should stop hitting each other? You don’t think that should change?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:15 AM
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You know I’d love to spend all my money on you but I’m married so maybe another time….
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:14 AM
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😂 you’re too funny
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:07 AM
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Well actually it would yeah maybe not the singing kumbaya but no fighting and no wars.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:04 AM
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In the UK, you can go to prison for up to 10 years if you’re prosecuted for paternity fraud.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:04 AM
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Well if you care about the men women have had sex with before you, you’re either insecure or you’re a misogynist. Cause why would you care?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:58 AM
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The average prison sentence for fraud ranges from community service to 7 years in prison. So 2-5 years sounds about right as far as I’m concerned
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:56 AM
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In what world should fraud be sentenced more harshly or as harshly as murder…..
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:47 AM
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That feels very much like a man problem and if collectively you stopped hitting each other as a first reaction, wouldn’t the world be a nicer place
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:10 AM
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I just think men in general just have a not my problem attitude towards everyone as long as it’s not personally affecting them. Whereas women are more likely to step in and help someone else because it’s the right thing to do
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:57 AM
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I have intervened when someone is behaving badly towards someone else, this has included complete strangers because it’s the right thing to do. If you live in a society then I feel like everyone should be looking out for everyone around you rather than having a not my problem attitude. Someone is looking sad, go and ask if they are okay. Someone is being harassed by someone else, stand by their side and tell that other person to leave them alone. Someone has fallen over, go help them up. Someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:31 PM
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Exactly, I had my first child at 20 and even though I love being a mum and I love my kid to bits, I wish I had him a few years later and spent that time enjoying myself
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:31 PM
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So what? It’s the age to be frivolous. Before you’ve settled down and have responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:59 PM
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That’s a nice personality trait
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:45 PM
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The way to win is not being with an insecure misogynist.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:45 PM
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No one has their life together when they are young, their brain hasn’t even fully developed at that age. They’re still kids. At that age most young people are still living with their parents. If they’re in uni, they should be living the full uni experience which includes the going out, having fun, working part time so they can pay for their nights out. If they’re working, they can put some aside to save and still use the rest to enjoy themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:43 PM
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That’s the age you go have fun, make stupid decisions and live your life to the full with your friends. You’ve got your entire life to build your future. You will only be young once and you don’t get that time back
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:28 PM
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18-22 year olds should be out having fun, working to have money for the weekend so they can go out and enjoy the world. Going on holidays, drinking, making stupid decisions
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:13 PM
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I’ve literally heard men say exactly that, they wouldn’t date someone who slept with them on the first date
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 07:38 PM
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God doesn’t exist
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 06:48 PM
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Why you so interested in other men? If she’s rushed into sex before and then the guy hasn’t seen her again and she’s felt used, the next time she meets someone she’s really into, she’s not gonna rush into it is she?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 06:13 PM
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Men don’t judge other men on when they have sex so you shouldn’t be judging women. Either you’re interested or you’re not
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 03:58 PM
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Women can’t win on this one, they wait to have sex and men say that the woman can’t have been that into them but if they give it up too early they are easy and it’s their fault that the guy isn’t sticking around
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 03:03 PM
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This post is screaming boy who is just going through puberty. I’m sure the majority of men aren’t so immature
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 10:42 AM
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This sub is endlessly entertaining
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:57 PM
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😂 these posts make me laugh, like the majority of men earn enough for any woman to be “just into them for their bank accounts”.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:15 PM
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5’9. Why
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 09:22 AM
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When you lose half the blood in your body in the labour room and it’s still pouring out of you as they rush you round to theatre, yes you almost die
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 09:21 AM
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Thank you, you’re right so many men don’t get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 11:20 PM
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It’s lovely your wife was able to have a home birth. It must have been an amazing experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 10:54 PM
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It’s something I looked at, I looked at the fact he had a job, had moved out of his parents house, he could drive and that he cleaned up after himself, I liked the fact that he was embarrassed by his housemates mess. And he was tidy and did do housework well until I married him
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 07:12 PM
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You have to remember that although medicine has come such a long way, that women do still die during pregnancy and during childbirth. It comes with very real very big physical risks to both the mother and the baby. Babies still die during pregnancy and during childbirth. Knowing all that, it’s okay for a woman to say, I don’t want to do it. I don’t want to risk my body, I don’t want to risk dying, I don’t want to risk all that to leave the hospital without a baby. There is also a very real risk …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:52 PM
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My kids are worth every trauma but I’d have preferred 3 births with no trauma
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:34 PM
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I’ve had 3 children, when I gave birth to my first, my placenta didn’t come away, the dr tried to pull it out with his hands, at one point he got both hands around the umbilical cord and pulled until I was screaming at him to stop. Then I got taken down to surgery for them to surgically remove it. I was cut from back to front. Every time I stood up for 24 hours after, I fainted due to the sheer amount of blood I lost. My second pregnancy, I went into labour and I was so anemic that I needed a bl…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:17 PM
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Well it might have been for a multitude of reasons, she could have actually liked you but maybe she’s more of a reserved person, or she’s particularly shy. Maybe she was worried about saying the wrong thing and you judging her. Maybe she wasn’t really an arty kind of person but was just being polite. Or maybe she didn’t like you but didnt found it hard saying that to your face so was just trying to be polite and get through the date. Maybe you made her feel uncomfortable unintentionally and she …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:01 AM
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In all honesty, just sounds like she didn’t really feel comfortable being herself with you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 04:51 AM
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I’ve never used dating apps, I dated in secondary school, had 3 serious relationships and then got married at 23. I was very quiet at school, incredibly socially awkward and kept myself to myself, my first serious boyfriend, think we were together a year was a bit of an outkast for most of secondary, he was bullied a lot but I didn’t really understand why, we stayed friends until I was in my 20’s. Second guy was a year older than me, we were together for 2 years, really nerdy, picture the guy wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:59 AM
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Well I’m not like this so I don’t know why some women are like that. Probably cause bad people exist regardless of gender
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 05:18 PM
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What do you suggest women do then?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:36 PM
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No narcissistic people aren’t confident people, behind all their behaviours is deep insecurity
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:20 PM
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Insecure men can be dangerous to women, but insecure people are more controlling, can accuse you of cheating constantly, need constant proof that you like them. It can be exhausting and ruins relationships. Being with someone who is confident in themselves is not just more attractive, it makes the relationship easier
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:44 PM
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Doesn’t matter really does it, that’s the experience I get regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:47 PM
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You’re describing being emasculated as a typical woman’s experience in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:33 PM
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Honestly don’t get what the big deal is. When me and my husband got together, he said it was important to him that we paid 50/50 when we went out, I said okay, I’m good paying for myself anyway and that was it. It wasn’t a big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 11:36 PM
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So don’t pay for your date…. Just pay for yourself. It’s not complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 07:23 PM
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So basically being treated the same as women as you don’t like it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:37 PM
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I don’t understand why men whine about this. No one is forcing you to fully pay for that date. If you have that conversation before hand and say hey i know the whole money thing is a bit of an awkward conversation but you good with 50/50 while we get to know each other; then you know you can just go out with someone who’s good with 50/50. If you choose to go out with someone who expects you to pay and you don’t want to, then don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:12 AM
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If you act like a man, a straight man isn’t gonna be into that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 10:13 AM
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If he took the attitude he had as a man into dating as a woman he wouldn’t stand a chance
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 09:29 AM
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We have a severely disabled child and I can’t work because I am our child’s full time carer. I am financially reliant on him so it is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:39 PM
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😂 they just like to think they are the best at everything cause they can’t handle the fact they aren’t
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:22 PM
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He wasn’t like this until after we had our first child together and got married
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:07 PM
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He does a good job of the car, he has self diagnosed as ADHD but really he is doing the pots with one hand whilst watching YouTube with his body facing away from the sink
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:04 PM
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Men are better at the chores 😂😂😂😂 that must be why I have to rewash the pots every time my husband does them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:08 AM
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I wasn’t looking for a relationship when I hit it off with my husband, I had been out with my friends. We exchanged numbers, chatted for 9 months, realised I really liked him and with how long we had been in contact I assumed he must actually like me for me but even in marriages, no is not a full sentence
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:07 PM
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I absolutely judge people on what they do, like my mums ex who sexually assaulted me at 11, the pervy grown ass men who wolf whistled me when i was preteen, the boys who felt me under the desk when I didn’t want them to, the boys who unclipped my bra in class, my ex that raped me when I was 16, a 35 year old man that raped me when I was 18, a family member and my old scout leader from when I was 12 who slid into my dms the minute I turned 18, the guy that sexually assaulted me on a night out aft…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 12:52 PM
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This absolutely does happen. We start being told by men as children that boys and men only want us for one thing and be sure you are liked for who you are because boys and men will lie to get access and then drop you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:59 AM
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You started going on about “how lonely men are” you would be laughed at but by all means, enjoy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:27 AM
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If you’re lonely go hang out with your mum and dad for a while, socialise
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:21 AM
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I’m a bit weird and nerdy so go for men that are also a bit weird and nerdy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:01 PM
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Romeo was 18 whilst Juliet was only 13
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:42 PM
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The bible is a made up story but sure God told Adam not to eat from the tree of knowledge and wisdom cause he will die, the snake said they will not die. God didn’t want Adam and Eve to have knowledge and wisdom, he wanted them to be stupid and obedient. Eve ate from the tree, didn’t die and Adam now that he saw that Eve was still alive joined in.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:17 PM
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I shared this conversation with my husband and we both had a good laugh 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:17 AM
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😂😂 that reply was so predictable. Yeah sure I will throw away a 10 year relationship and take my 3 kids away from their dad because he’s not tall enough…..😂😂😂😂 sure
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:52 AM
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Why is that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:46 AM
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We got married when we were 23
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:31 AM
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No, he’s huge next to me 😂. I said about average cause I couldn’t remember average height in my country, think it’s 5’9/5’10 but not sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:30 AM
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What you mean? I come from a family of short arses both men and women, my husband is around 5’9 so he’s about average, one of my ex’s was around 5’4. I don’t like being with really tall guys cause I already feel too small
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:26 AM
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I’m 4ft10, everyone is tall to me
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:22 AM
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You can stop making it your entire personality
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:15 AM
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Your stats don’t add up, there isn’t an even amount of men to women on dating apps. Men make up 60-75% of users on dating apps, whereas women only make up 25-40% of users. For example on Tinder it’s 75% men, 25% women. So purely due to the sheer amount of men on those apps, of course men are going to swipe more because there are less women to swipe on. Whereas women are always going to swipe less because they aren’t going to be shown the full 75% of the men on there,
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 11:19 PM
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Is your ego that fragile? I think the issue is men’s egos.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:01 PM
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There is a sub called handsome homies that has both gay men and women commenting on the posts
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 12:49 PM
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So you reckon all bi and gay women get turned on by just looking at other women?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:35 PM
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No, I don’t identify as demisexual, women in general don’t get turned on just by looking at people
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:14 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 04:38 PM
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Don’t think that’s the norm for women, I have no problem communicating and it’s usually a joint effort
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 11:34 AM
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My husband didn’t help me once through the night after my c section because “he was tired”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:33 AM
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It’s for their behaviour, not them being sick. Men will literally watch their wives nearly die during childbirth and then when they get home and they’re still bleeding, have a wound as big as a dinner plate inside them, stitches, will sit their arse down, complain about how tired they are and expect their Mrs to do everything. That’s how men treat their other halves and then expect the world when they are poorly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:17 AM
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Men don’t get shamed for getting poorly or for resting when they are ill, they get shamed for not allowing their significant other time to recover when they are poorly too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 10:59 AM
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He works full time, I do the housework and look after our 3 kids, plus I’m a full time carer to our disabled child. We have a joint account. I don’t really buy things for myself unless I need them. I’m quite stingy with money
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:03 AM
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You have just described my life. I’m married with kids, I don’t go out unless it’s to run errands or do something with my kids/husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:50 AM
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Nikola Tesla was a misogynist and Isaac newton was prone to violent outburst including punching his sister which more than likely contributed to his perpetual singleness. Women are out earning men and doing better in school and university. Women are also choosing staying single over getting into relationships. It’s men who has “loneliness epidemic” not women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 08:05 PM
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Jesus is a made up person in a storybook written by men trying to control the masses. I admire you saving all these broke ass guys from being manipulated by all these women using them for their money 😂. Think you need to spend less time in your echo chambers mate
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 07:47 PM
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Right. Men, don’t forget to take all your dating advice off of this guy, he has all the knowledge and experience needed to pass on his wisdom! 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 07:07 PM
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How many relationships have you been in?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 06:41 PM
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You that easily annoyed? Bless you
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:29 PM
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😂 she won’t give me sex so I have every right to break her heart! I refuse to communicate issues with my wife cause I’m a man and I deserve sex!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:04 PM
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I wouldn’t be the one judging you, if your wife caught you cheating on her, your marriage would be over and you will have ended it. But you know, as long as you get dick wet, it’s fair right
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:18 PM
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Your marriage should be bigger than sex, obviously to you it’s not
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:14 PM
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Nothing like communication is there……or resolving your problems? But if at some point she turns around and says sex isn’t important to me and it is still to you and that’s a dealbreaker for you, then leave. That way she isn’t getting cheated on and you can go be single and have all the sex you want
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:56 PM
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So stay single? True 50/50 will never exist all the time because there are always times during a marriage or relationship where one of you takes on more than the other. If you have boundaries, communicate them. If you have standards, stick to them. It’s not hard. But if you just don’t wanna bother with women then stop bitching on the internet and stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:48 PM
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Other things can happen like getting poorly that can impact you for years, like cancer or hormone issues that can kill your sex drive
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:27 PM
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You know when I do as much as my husband, we have no clean pots, cutlery or glasses to drink out of, the kitchen is a mess, bins don’t get emptied, none of the washing gets done, the bathroom is a mess, kids rooms don’t get tidied etc. I’ve nothing against the man relaxing, he works full time, I care for our disabled children, our baby, including doing all the night care and our middle child too, including all his homework and reading. I do all the phone calls, appointments, school stuff etc. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:54 PM
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But if it’s that much of a dealbreaker for you, you owed it to both of you to have that conversation when you were dating so both of you could decide wether your values aligned in relation to sex
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:24 PM
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Ohhh 😂 well that’s a bit deceitful isn’t it, don’t you think that she should have had the right to decide whether she wanted to marry a cheater in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:16 PM
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That if she stops having sex with you, you will cheat on her
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:11 PM
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Does she know this?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:10 PM
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And if your wife im assuming took sex off the table, you would cheat on her?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:08 PM
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Have you ever been married?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:05 PM
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If you wanna step out of a marriage to go fuck someone else then step all the way out of it and get a divorce, you’re allowed to do that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:31 PM
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I can’t speak for all women but I do think it’s common for women to have to get to know someone before they become interested in them. We can say when someone is objectively attractive but need something more to want to jump into bed with them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 01:47 PM
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Are these serious questions?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 12:36 AM
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Just shave it all off and own it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 12:32 PM
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We do live in a patriarchy and it is there to benefit rich old white men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 12:00 PM
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What does OCEAN stand for and what do the numbers mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 07:04 PM
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He probably thinks if women are singing it’s no longer rock music
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 05:05 PM
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Since when is rock music “men’s music”?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 04:50 PM
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Ah yes, feminists are the problem in a world ran by men. Governments only care about white rich old men not your average person which is why the draft is there and they don’t care the average man dying in a war. They only don’t make women part of the draft because all we are to these rich old white men is walking talking baby makers. Let’s not forget that the war in Ukraine was started by a white rich old man in Russia
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:00 PM
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You’re talking absolute rubbish. In the UK, mens healthcare receives 60% more in new funding than women’s. Women might live longer than men but spend significantly more of it in bad health or disabled. You wanna talk about sexism in the justice system, victims that are women are often blamed for the crimes against them which means that the male perpetrators more of than not go free. Last month in the UK 3 teenage boys raped two girls at knife point on two separate occasions and filmed it to shar…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 07:01 AM
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The majority of women don’t hate 80% of men but the majority of women have been sexually assaulted or raped at some point in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:30 PM
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I do nice things for other people all the time, men and women just because. Like buying food and drink for the homeless and their pets, sat and spoke to them for ages jut because. I’ve worked as a carer even though the pay is shit because I wanted a job that was going to make a difference to other people’s lives. I went out of my way to spend time with a guy on the school run every day because his wife had died suddenly and he was in bits understandably. I would stand and talk to him for an hour…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:24 PM
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They do to the disabled and old people, children or if someone looks like they need it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:08 PM
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If you are that fragile that you think giving up a seat for someone else to be nice is damaging your self respect then I think you’ve got bigger issues
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:01 PM
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Some Women might say awful things about men, it’s usually in response to something vulgar a man has said or done. Men do horrendous things to women like rape them, sexually assault them, kill them, torture them, film it and send it round their friends. They drug their wives and sell their wives unconscious body out to hundreds of men. They make websites on how to drug and rape a woman and get away with it. They traffic little girls over from other countries for rich powerful men to beat and rape…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:58 PM
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What I find funny is that you were that offended by someone doing something nice for someone else that you gave that lad a lecture on how society is so “unfair” for men 😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:45 PM
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The men on this sub are so funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:31 PM
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No one really cares all that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:05 PM
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Just to name a few: killing eve, game of thrones, the handsmaid’s tale, house of cards, the vampire dairies etc. Disney have done plenty: meleficent, Ursula, the evil queen, cruella de vil etc. There are loads more, tens of thousands in fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 08:51 PM
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What propaganda?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 05:41 PM
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I’m not sure what the point of this is, short people exist because of genetics. That’s pretty much it. As each generation goes on, people are getting taller but there are always going to people that are shorter than the average. The only way that short people would stop existing is if women stopped having babies what short men and men stopped having babies with short women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 05:29 PM
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You mean in 3rd world countries where women are still brought up to believe their place is in the kitchen and that men are superior to them? Rather than western countries where women are taught that they can be independent and successful and that a man should add to their lives and be their equal
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:41 PM
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Well that is a gross take I wish I could unread.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 02:58 PM
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I stated a fact. That’s all. You take it as you wish
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:24 PM
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It’s not victim blaming, it’s a fact
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:16 PM
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Just because they are sexualised, doesn’t make them sexual. Us bigger breasted women can’t hide them anyway regardless of what we wear and if people look at me that way it’s because they are choosing to
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:02 PM
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The only men I have heard complaining about the draft are American men, it doesn’t even apply to them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:59 PM
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Where have I victim blamed exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:58 PM
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Breasts aren’t sexual, they are sexualised but there biological reason women have breasts is so they can breastfeed and there is absolutely nothing sexual about that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:57 PM
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Bum and chest aren’t sexual at all. They might be sexualised but they aren’t sexual. No one has their balls, dick or vagina out when they are dressed. And for men, they can’t hide them easily when wearing trousers
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:43 PM
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Women attempt suicide more than men but men are more successful at it because they choose more violent methods. Men’s life expectancy is shorter for a few reasons but main ones are they are less likely to see medical attention when they need it or go to the drs regularly. They are also more likely to engage in riskier behaviour and more likely to die from preventable accidents. As far as the draft thing, active constription ended in January 1973 in the states.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:25 PM
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I’m asking you what you would say are sexual body parts? Not for the definition
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:08 PM
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What are sexual body parts? Because last time I checked everyone just has bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:50 PM
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I really hope you aren’t in a relationship with anyone, never mind married
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:37 PM
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Don’t think it’s optimal to be in a marriage if you’re only interested in the sex. You don’t even care if it’s consensual
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:03 PM
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Only if you have the money to pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 10:30 AM
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How do you know those 45% of men have never been approached? Just says they have never done the approaching
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 10:28 AM
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Weird that cause the world is made up of average looking couples
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:28 AM
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Am I though? Cause how would you exactly know without speaking to every man and woman in the world? Or every couple in the world to see how initiated?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:27 AM
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When I was single I nearly always did the initiating and I got rejected loads, including being stood up more than once. So yeah pipe down with the suck it up buttercup and shoot your shot. Women aren’t immune to rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:15 AM
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You can downvote me but all I see on here is winging about dating apps. Both men and women aren’t having a good time on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 01:33 AM
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The majority of couples I know met at work, school, uni or through a friend. I don’t know anyone that has got together via a ‘cold approach’. You wanna meet someone, do it the normal way. And for the love of god, GET OFF DATING APPS. Honestly I think everyone should delete dating apps, it’s not doing anyone any favours.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 12:50 AM
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I can have empathy that someone might be shy but until you get to know someone you don’t know if they are shy or just not interested. So what are you supposed to do? Force someone to talk to you? I’m incredibly shy. I was painfully shy at school and people didn’t talk to me because of it. When I asked why as an adult I was told my shyness came off as being stand-offish.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 04:14 PM
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When I first met my husband we were 16/17, I went up to him, tried speaking to him, I was also painfully shy so it took a lot for me to go up to him. He was really shy so when I tried to start up a conversation, I got nowhere and ended up walking off feeling really awkward. We didn’t speak again until I was 20/21. Bumped into each other at the pub, both of us had been drinking so that helped. Luckily he had become a lot less shy otherwise the conversation wouldn’t have gone anywhere again and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 02:57 PM
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That’s not my experience. We live in a society where there is no community feel and it’s weird when people talk to you. Both men and women. Sometimes people go out and they are in a sociable mood and receptive to conversation. Other days you will go out and just wanna get in and out with no one talking to you. Someone tries to speak to me on a day I’m feeling sociable, I’m happy to chat. Catch me on a day I wanna be left alone, you’re gonna get one word answers so the conversation ends and I can…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:11 PM
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I don’t think it’s even about pandering. The general rule is if someone isn’t interested, you leave them alone. So if someone is coming across as not interested, then you leave them alone
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 11:11 AM
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I get that. Hard to find a solution though cause if someone speaks to a shy guy cause they are interested but the guy seems uninterested due to his shyness, it isn’t anyone’s fault
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:54 AM
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How can you make dating equal? What is it you are wanting women to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:26 AM
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I think a huge issue with really shy men is when you try speak to them, they don’t seem interested and the conversation goes nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:18 AM
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I want to feel special and chosen for by my husband because I want to know he’s here because he wants to be. I don’t want to feel like I’ve been settled for or that he’s here out of obligation because we have kids together. Feeling you’ve been settled for and that the person you chose to spend your life with is there because he feels obligated to hurts more than words. I’m not bothered about other women. And every relationship has times where it’s hard and it’s a struggle
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 08:37 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 04:15 PM
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Okay, but your biological sex is deeper, it’s your bone structure, your sexual organs. HRT doesn’t change those things. You aren’t changing your cells. You can’t. If drs were able to change the genetic make up of peoples cells, then genetic conditions wouldn’t exist. HRT alters how you outwardly appear, your hormone levels. Hormone levels are responsible for muscle mass, where hair grows, fat distribution, your body’s metabolism, estrogen is responsible for the growth of breast tissue. It’s your…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:37 PM
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I’m not sure what to tell you. You’re gonna view it as you wanna view it but on a scientific level, it doesn’t change your biological sex. Sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:19 PM
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So hormone replacement therapy changes secondary sex characteristics for example, fat distribution, muscle mass etc. However foundational traits like bone structure, genetic chromosomes do not change, your reproductive organs do not change. Which is why for a trans person, gender affirming care is important but you cannot change the sex you are on a biological level. You can only change the outward appearance
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:14 PM
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It’s not misgendering. They are biologically male. If you’re arguing sex and gender are separate. A trans woman is biologically male in her anatomy and cells. But her gender doesn’t align with her biological sex
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:06 PM
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What about for people who met their husband early 20’s and married them in their early 20s?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 02:10 PM
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I can tell you as a SAHM that has previously worked, I was a lot less stressed at work than at home
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 01:00 AM
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If everyone in the household contributed to keeping the home clean and tidy, everyone would have more time to do things for each other
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 09:38 PM
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How are women playing ‘impossible’ to get?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:15 PM
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Feminism doesn’t blame men for everything. Feminists believe that all genders should be treated equally
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 11:53 PM
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What do you mean by that because feminism at its core is equal rights for everyone and the belief that the patriarchy hurts both men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 11:47 PM
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Everyone is entitled to feel the way they feel. It turns into entitlement when you start blaming everyone else for your own issues
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 11:14 PM
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We don’t care
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 10:17 PM
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There is very little point arguing with OP when he has decided that the only definition of a dating issue is his definition
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:27 PM
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But why are you uncomfortable being with someone who doesn’t dress ‘modestly’
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:51 AM
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We agree that neither of us have a right to tell the other person what they can and cannot put on their own bodies because to do so would be controlling behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:47 AM
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Well it isn’t though is it? Because who out of the two of you is deciding what modesty looks like? Because if you are the one making that decision then you are policing what she can wear. And if you are policing what she can wear, you’re being controlling. Every time she goes shopping, does she have to run by you what she wants to buy to see if fits your modesty rule? Where’s the line? I don’t give a shit what my husband wears, it’s his body. My husband doesn’t give a shit what I wear because it…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:37 AM
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So what about when it’s hot outside? You expecting her to wear long sleeved top up to her neck and something that covers her ankles? What about when she goes swimming? Even a swimming costume shows cleavage and can see shape of her body? Where’s the line?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:28 AM
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Actually it’s not nuanced. Look it up, trying to police what someone wears comes under coercive control and infringes on their human right to autonomy over their own body
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:17 AM
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Being in a relationship does not give you the right to police what other people wear! That’s the end of it. The minute you try and police what your partner is wearing you have crossed the line into behaving in a controlling and abusive manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:07 AM
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I was 11 in bed wearing a nightie down to my ankles when I was sexually assaulted by my step dad. What part of that outfit was responsible for his actions? I was 15 when I was anally raped by my ex boyfriend in the back of his car, I was wearing jeans and a baggy hoody? I was raped again at 18 by a man in his 30s when I was wearing thermals and then waterproof layers over the top. What part of my outfit was responsible for that man’s actions? Fuck off with “Other men’s actions are largely based …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:02 AM
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Women’s bodies are just bodies. It’s the fact that as a man you are sexualising it and then you want her to cover up because you’re insecure that other men will just be sexualising her body too. Why you making your insecurity her problem. There’s not one conversation about women in relationships policing what their husbands or boyfriends are wearing. So why do you men feel so entitled to her body that you feel like it’s okay to try police what she wears? Women dress for themselves, what they are…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 02:56 AM
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I find these takes just insane. Women are allowed to wear whatever they like. Women don’t get up in a morning and look at their clothes and think what should I wear today to get as much attention as possible. It’s a what do I feel good in, what makes me feel confident about myself. The fact that men think that women dress for them is just a reflection of how men walk around thinking that women exist just for them. Which is why you don’t see us as people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 10:54 PM
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So women are 1.2 to 2 times more likely to attempt suicide where as men or 3 to 4 times more likely to manage suicide due to methods men use. So it’s not that men are more likely to commit suicide, you’re just more successful at it as you tend to use a more violent method than women. I just asked my husband if he grew up thinking he deserved to die for being male and he said no so obviously not all boys. I agree that this us vs them needs to stop but people are privileged in different ways
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 01:05 PM
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I have never used a dating app, my husband did before we got together but I’ve always not liked them. I tried to use peanut once which is like a parent app that works a bit like tinder and I hated it. The apps force people to be superficial. You can’t tell anything about a person from a picture and someone writing something in a description box doesn’t tell you what kind of person they are. It’s really hard talking online too to a stranger, not natural at all. At least in person, you either hit …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:56 PM
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What’s different?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:50 PM
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Well no not really cause I’m married now. Think we ‘looksmatch’ as you guys put it. I had two numbers when we hit it off, spent all night speaking to him and gave him both my numbers, hoped he would message me. Took 9/10 months but we got together, got married two years later now we have been together 10 years with 3 kids
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:43 PM
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My type is alternative, nerdy gamer guys who always end up being ASD or ADHD
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:03 PM
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Felt it out, if I thought they were interested, told them I liked them and then either they liked me back or they didn’t. Sometimes you will get it right, sometimes you won’t
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 05:55 PM
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I’ve approached in most of the relationships I’ve been in or guys I’ve been interested in. I’ve been rejected so many times, been stood up twice as well
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 05:06 PM
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I’ve no idea to be honest, it was over 11 years ago. I just remember not being able to feel anything and him telling me he was nearly at the finish line.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 07:23 PM
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Getting turned on isn’t disgusting, objectifying them in the process is
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:56 PM
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I think the way you view women is disgusting and you are assuming that all men must view women the same as you do. They don’t. That’s not male sexuality. That’s objectification. You can find your partner sexy and beautiful and be really attracted to them without objectifying them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:48 PM
3

No, hes seeing me as his wife that he is being intimate with
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:33 PM
7

To see someone as an accomplishment, it is objectifying them which is in itself dehumanising
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:30 PM
11

If the first time he had sex with me he saw me as an accomplishment, then yes i would find that gross. I don’t need to be okay with being dehumanised
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:39 PM
11

That mindset is gross. Sex should be about connection and intimacy
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:18 PM
8

No I didn’t, maybe that was naive of me but I was only 21 at the time. There wasn’t a deal to close, I find that attitude gross
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:07 PM
8

There was no pressure. I wasn’t expecting sex from him, he brought it up, that’s the only thing he wanted to do once I got to his. I literally wasn’t expecting anything from him. As far as I was concerned, the plan was to go to the cinema
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:52 PM
12

What was I supposed to do? Edit: I didn’t judge at all. It was just a bizarre encounter. I was really hurt by his reaction after, he could have communicated with me and chose not to, I didn’t wanna make a big deal out of it. This is someone I had known for years and we had been friends for years. He went after my cousin not long after. I’m glad it didn’t work out with him because it meant I met my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:28 PM
4

No
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:12 PM
12

I would have been willing to work on the sex. Takes a while to get to know each other, sometimes you just need a bit of practice. But yeah no, that was the end of it 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 08:57 AM
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This was like 11 years ago, maybe 12. Been with my husband for 10 so. Anyway I had started seeing this guy do it wasn’t meant to be a one night stand but ended up being that. We were supposed to be going on a date and we ended up just going to his. It took him 4 attempts to get the condom on, I couldn’t feel anything, then he looked chuffed with himself when he finished. It was the weirdest encounter ever. He made up an excuse why I had to leave after, walked through the house including the room…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 08:32 AM
18

No because I’m married but it would make me want to have sex more
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 08:27 AM
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I looked at the actual post, it’s maybe two women saying they watch lesbian porn, most of them say that they don’t watch porn at all. So he’s massively exaggerating
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 06:03 PM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:47 PM
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Post number 8. OP you said this would be your last post on this subject. I just want to thank for the entertainment you have provided. I hope you are as committed to your next subject as you have been to this one
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:39 PM
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If society wants women to start having children, they need to change the expectation they have. At the moment the default expectation is that the mum is fully responsible for the house and kids on top of working. It’s putting too much on one person. Those kids have a mum and a dad and both should be taking an equal role in their care which incudes the day to day stuff. When you have two adults in a house, both should be equally responsible for making sure that their home is kept clean and tidy. …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 12:30 AM
6

Post number 7. Gotta love the commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 12:19 PM
3

Dunno, maybe you’re not giving off that you’re interested in anything she has to say
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:08 PM
3

I think it would require him to care how the other person feels and what they want. It’s easier for him to pretend all women are passive and bad at sex so it’s he can jump beds
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:56 AM
3

This will shock you even more, men and women communicate during sex too to make sure that the other person is enjoying what is happening
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:32 AM
42

Shh don’t tell him, it’s really amusing watching him getting so riled up over a made up issue 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:30 AM
9

I wonder how many more he will do
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:29 AM
18

Is this post number 5 or 6?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:23 AM
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Really insecure men that make their insecurities other everyone else’s problem
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 08:09 AM
2

The guys I’ve been intimate with I’ve had long conversations about what I like or they like before it’s happened. And I’ve really enjoyed having those conversations. As far as I am aware, most women enjoy having those conversations
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 05:50 AM
1

It’s called porn and because some men are scumbags who post their partner online without their consent
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 04:31 AM
1

I’m sorry but the way you’re talking about it is just gross. The majority of women would not be okay with being posted all over the internet during or after an intimate act with a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 03:17 AM
7

What do you even consider crazy things?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 04:28 PM
2

Good for you? I’d rather show my children what a healthy relationship looks like, that their happiness matters and that when someone violates their boundaries, they are allowed to walk away
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 02:42 PM
2

Then you’ve never experienced issues that become completely unresolvable, hurt that runs that deep that as much as you would like to there is no moving past it because the other person is unwilling to break the pattern that is breaking you
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 02:30 PM
2

When unhappiness in the relationship becomes the default, the relationship becomes unhealthy. Children don’t deserve to grow up in that environment. Every couple has times where they aren’t happy, that’s life, you go through periods of happiness and unhappiness. But it’s when it becomes the default. When there’s no fixing it. When it leads to constant conflict, upset, tears, hurt. At that point the relationship needs to end.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 12:58 PM
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Actually children are watching their parents really closely. They are watching what relationships should look like. Unhappy parents end up causing their children to be unhappy too. Unhappy parents that stayed together, their adult children end up saying I wish you would have split up and I would have had two happy homes than one unhappy one
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 10:40 AM
1

The poorest countries don't have sex education or easy access to contraception hence the high birth rates.....
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 01:55 PM
1

I do 99% of housework, I get the kids ready in a morning for school, do both sides of school run, homework, driving kids to clubs, bedtime every day, about 75% of the cooking, all the clothes washing, drying. I do all the appointments, phone calls, emails, forms, chasing things, errands, parents evenings. I do 75% of the shopping. All the birthday and Christmas shopping. About 80% of the care to our disabled child. I look after our baby. I sleep in a separate room with her so his sleep isn’t dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 11:06 PM
15

Is this the same guy who has done two other posts trying to say that women are in fact all lesbians?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 11:16 AM
10

You’re wasting your time arguing with this guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:11 PM
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People need to stop looking down and start looking up to find the answers as to why there is so many issues in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 09:34 AM
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If society wants couples to have children then they need to deal with the growing wealth disparity between the super rich and the rest of society
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 02:53 PM
1

Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 01:32 PM
3

I view circumcision in boys as mutilating a boys body. But can we stop comparing circumcision with FGM it’s completely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 01:16 PM
1

I am but I don’t live in America, I’ve never been arrested or broken the law, I’ve never been divorced, I don’t make a habit of approaching anybody as I’m incredibly socially awkward, I don’t express vulnerability in public and when I reported my step dad for sexually abusing me as a child, he’s still walking the streets and his solicitor implied that I asked for it. My husband when we first started dating went 50/50 on everything. So please tell me where I’m privileged.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 07:19 PM
1

What do you mean? Who do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 08:04 PM
5

Who are you considering the most progressive and least sexist men in history?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 06:57 PM
2

I think dating apps should be scrapped and everyone should go back to meeting people in person
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 08:09 AM
1

You understand the mums life is always at risk due to pregnancy and labour/giving birth don’t you? I haemorrhaged after my second pregnancy, surgeon said it was hit or miss on whether I would actually survive the surgery to save me. That was perfectly healthy pregnancy. Women still die regularly due to pregnancy/birth complications. Women are allowed to decide that they don’t want to risk their life to bring another into the world. You can judge all you like but abortions are healthcare and unti…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 05:08 PM
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Medical assistance when a woman is having a miscarriage is classed as an abortion. Abortions are necessary when there is a risk of death to the mother or if the baby is going to die shortly after birth if they even make it to full term. It’s not a black and white subject even though you pro lifers would like it to be
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:47 PM
1

Then that says a lot about the type of person you are. But I hope whilst you are sat there judging women for making those hard decisions, you are also looking into how you can foster or adopt the children those women aren’t physically able to look after if they carry that child to term. Because ultimately when women are forced to carry a child to term they cannot look after for whatever reason, those kids end up in the care system. It’s common knowledge that kids in care and up going through so …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:09 PM
1

They are a natural consequence of sex but no one gets to judge why someone else chooses to get an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:03 PM
3

When you are struggling with something, it’s hard and it sucks. You are going to go through life my ooo and there is always someone having it harder than you or easier than you at any given time. But if you’re having a hard time then you’re justified in feeling it and no one has the right to downplay your struggles in that moment by telling you well so and so has it harder than you. Comparing yourself to others doesn’t change what you or they are struggling with. I have a severely disabled child…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 02:54 PM
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I don’t think you can compare because everyone’s individual life struggles aren’t the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 01:29 AM
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Men aren’t into most women and women aren’t into most men. You can find people objectively attractive but no one would just go out with anyone of the opposite or same gender
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 01:27 AM
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So in the UK in the last year there have been around 278,000 abortions. Out of those abortions, every 39.4 out of 1000 women were between the age range of 20-24. Over 50% of those women were in a relationship. In a healthy relationship sex exists. Young adults in their early 20’s, especially in relationships are going to have sex with each other and it is unrealistic to tell them to just abstain. Sex in relationships is important for intimacy and both the man and woman in those relationships wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 01:23 AM
1

They aren’t personal to me and none of them apply to me, I’m waiting for him to tell me how I am personally privileged
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 08:04 PM
2

That’s an example of where men are unfairly targeted but this post is saying women don’t get criticised which they do and pointing that out doesn’t mean that me don’t get unfairly criticised too
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 02:23 PM
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What privilege do I personally have, please tell me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 01:36 PM
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It’s not an argument, it’s easily accessible media and if you haven’t lived under a rock and access social media, magazines, newspapers you will have seen it and it’s disingenuous to sit there and pretend it isn’t there just because it doesn’t suit this false narrative that women live life on easy mode and the only people in society who are unfairly criticised is men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 01:29 PM
2

It will take you literal seconds to find this yourself if you bothered yourself looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 01:24 PM
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Women are torn apart daily in the media for what they choose to wear, their weight, their looks. Women are criticised for being childfree, for prioritising career over having children, for being a stay at home mum, for being a working mum, for ‘letting themselves go’. When the dad chooses to walk away it’s women who are criticised for not ‘choosing better’ or ‘they should have known he wasn’t ready’. When a man cheats it’s because the woman he is with is ‘obviously not putting out enough’. If a …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:49 PM
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Women are torn apart daily on social media, in the media, we aren’t exempt from criticism fair or unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:57 AM
1

Doesn’t pick up after himself, pots are still dirty after he finishes washing up, says he will do something later and then doesn’t do it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 05:00 PM
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The majority of male violence is by white men in western countries. In the UK 79% of all crime was committed by white men
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 10:17 AM
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What’s immigration got to do with anything
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 07:42 PM
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Who’s blaming all men?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 03:40 PM
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Bless you, are you that easily triggered by the fact that the biggest threat to both men and women are other men? That’s not all men but considering men are the biggest percentage of criminals and are responsible for the laws you live by and how much money you have
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 02:04 PM
9

What it sounds like is both men and women are victims of other men
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 01:48 PM
0

No, no one would rather be abused than alone. People wish to be in health relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 09:14 AM
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Women don’t want to have to put up with sexual abuse just so we can find a romantic partner
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 05:17 PM
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Being the person that loves the other person more, you get hurt a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 01:11 PM
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You wouldn’t feel like that after being raped
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 10:14 AM
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You’re welcome
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 10:24 AM
9

If that’s how you feel about sex, don’t have sex. Easy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 08:33 AM
3

You’re gonna have to explain why you think a woman having sex with other men makes her a rapist?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:05 PM
13

The guys on that documentary made themselves look like absolute twats.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:11 AM
1

Well if you say that’s what it is then you must be right, obviously men have no responsibility when it comes to a break down of their marriage at all. Women out there just going round divorcing perfect husbands
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 08:44 AM
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Is this all women?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:30 PM
4

They can do all that, they choose not to because they are lazy and inconsiderate. They want to be mothered for life by their wives or girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 12:38 PM
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I’m continually told how amazing my husband is and how lucky I am that he does the same the things that’s expected of me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 04:32 PM
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Actually no they aren’t a given. It is considered special treatment by a man but expected by a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 04:20 PM
9

My husband’s and I ‘first date’ was him coming round to mine and chatting/watched a film. I used to be romantic with him but he either laughed or said thanks and would put whatever I got him down for it to be lost/get broken. I don’t bother now. Valentine’s Day is a money making scheme for big businesses. Birthdays I just ask him to tell me what he wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:36 AM
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That’s evading the question I asked. I’m married, I’m not looking at other people but even when I was single, I could objectively say if someone was attractive but I wasn’t attracted to every guy I spoke to or saw. No one is
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 01:15 PM
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Men aren’t attracted to 90-95% of women so why would women be attracted to 90-95% of men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 11:14 AM
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I know all that. It’s disgusting what happened and it’s disgusting that the men involved have been protected. But paying your taxes means that there is money for roads to be repaired, money for education, social care, health care etc. and yes they should be just taxing the super rich and billionaires more and then our taxes would be lower and the onus wouldn’t just be on us to fund everything however, I pay our taxes because I have children in the education system, a disabled child that need sup…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:57 PM
1

Think you need to do some research on the legal requirements of paying taxes and the consequences of not doing so
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:47 PM
1

Actually I don’t cause I don’t live in the states. And it’s a legal requirement to pay your taxes and to register your car, it’s not a opt in opt out thing
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:40 PM
1

I’m not supporting a corrupt government, they need arresting and should be given life sentences for what they have done. But you intentionally breaking the law is going to get you arrested and sent to prison. Just because you don’t believe in those laws doesn’t make you exempt from them
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:29 PM
2

You get arrested for breaking the law?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:17 PM
2

Youre gonna get arrested at some point and sent to prison and then you will be a slave to whichever guy in prison is bigger than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:08 PM
2

If you don’t ever wanna get married, that’s cool. Don’t. There are lots of reasons why people do choose marriage and they aren’t asking anyone else to understand, it’s a personal decision between two people. That’s it. Making your own judgements about that doesn’t make what you are saying fact, it’s just your opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:07 PM
2

Just say you don’t believe in marriage for yourself and leave it at that. You don’t have to understand why people get married but your belief that people in love don’t get married is bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 08:35 AM
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Men and women experience the same amount and range of emotions but if you want to look at who is the most unstable with their emotions all you have to do is look at the crime statistics for violent crimes. You will see it’s men. The majority of violent crimes are committed by men. Violent crimes are driven by emotional instability
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 09:25 AM
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If you think women are more emotional than men, prove it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 09:15 AM
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Women don’t need leading, we aren’t children. For small decisions it doesn’t matter, in big decisions, you sit down and discuss it and come to an agreement you are both happy with, like adults. Men aren’t less emotional so this whole insinuation that women aren’t capable of prioritising outcome over emotion is a load of rubbish.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 09:08 AM
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So don’t online date. The internet needs to stop being the third space.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 04:17 PM
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I’m from the UK, when I was 11 I was being cat called by grown men, my step dad started sexually assaulting me at that age. Boys in my year would randomly undo my bra in the middle of class and think it was funny. I was raped by the time I was 16 by a 19 year old, raped again at 18 by a 35 year old man, sexually assaulted by 2 other men in their late 20’s, early 30’s around the same age. I was sexually assaulted on a night out with my friends around the same age. I invited a guy friend round whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 11:05 PM
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I don’t have a friendship group. Never have
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:06 PM
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They’re all as bad as each other as far as I’m concerned. The guy is pathetic for doing it and the women shouldn’t want someone else’s sloppy seconds
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:05 PM
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I think it makes the guy look like a bit of a twat and a bit pathetic but each to their own I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 11:51 AM
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I’ve seen guys do this and find it utterly bizarre as to why. 1. Why are the group of women who are friends okay with it? 2. Why would the guy want to? 3. I’ve not understood the appeal, I’ve found these guy unattractive physically and their behaviour too
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 07:03 AM
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Considering you for whatever reason have never been in a relationship, you are talking about relationship dynamics you know nothing about. Women don’t just act luke warm towards their partners for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 04:54 PM
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Sounds like you’ve only heard one side of it and it’s not always black and white. You can’t make judgements if you don’t know the in and out. You aren’t gonna hear all sides of their relationship from your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 04:13 PM
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I find it equally difficult having conversations online cause I often don’t know how to move the conversation past the hi how are you. So no, don’t really find talking online easier. Usually in person, you can let the other person do all the talking which is easier. I don’t think you are right when you say neurotypical people are cold and don’t love their partners and kids. I think they love them as intensely as anyone else I just think neurodivergent people show their love differently. At the e…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:59 PM
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I’m neurodivergent, I grew up finding socialising really difficult. I was painfully quiet until I got back into work 5 years ago. I did jobs where I had to speak to other people. I’ve had to learn how to speak to other people. I still find it incredibly difficult and draining. However if you want to live in society, make friends and have a relationship with someone, you have to do it. If you want to be alone, stay inside and stay online. It’s a choice you are making. And it’s a fact of life that…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:22 PM
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Can I ask how old you are? You sound like you’re in your late teens, early twenties and you have grown up with everyone being chronically online
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:07 PM
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Go watch Jeremy Kyle and tell me they aren’t
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 08:01 PM
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There are tons of objectively ugly men who have no money that have kids with 2/3/4 different women and have women fighting over them. You’re talking rubbish
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 03:16 PM
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Why you asking
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 07:58 AM
2

What spaces are you claiming WOMEN are invading?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 01:42 AM
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There are loads of male support groups in the UK and there are man clubs too. So I’m not sure what you’re talking about. Maybe in the US there isn’t but if there isn’t and you want male only spaces then make your own clubs. Simple really isn’t it. If men wanted to support other men they would. If you want a male only space then make friends with other guys and do stuff together and don’t invite women along. It’s not that complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 01:30 AM
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I live in the UK and the amount of people in their 30s that work full time and are having to house share is ridiculous. Only people I know that are living in a flat or house are couples and those who have managed to buy have had to go back and live with their parents for years first
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 11:43 AM
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It’s not women’s fault that men will have sex with anything with a pulse. Raise your standards and there would be no double standard
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:35 PM
6

You know the internet was invented by a woman don’t you? Without said woman you wouldn’t be able to write your ramblings on said internet
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 02:56 PM
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When you feel ready. That’s it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:29 PM
9

They’re choosing this so what’s the problem
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 07:46 PM
1

Do either of these men have a moustache?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 06:19 PM
2

I think you need to realise we don’t live in the past where marriages were just contractual obligations. You only live this life once and you shouldn’t be miserable. In a marriage there are plenty of times where because of whatever is going on in your life, you won’t feel happy. That’s a part of life. You take the highs with the lows. That is very different to the person you are with making you happy or unhappy. If you are with someone who makes you miserable, then you should no longer be marrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 12:14 PM
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If you genuinely believe that it isn’t important for a married couple to be happy then you shouldn’t get married
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:38 PM
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When you have children, it’s your responsibility to teach them that their happiness matters. It isn’t okay for your children to grow up with unhappy parents. No one should stay in a relationship they are unhappy with and aren’t getting their needs met. No one should be sacrificing their happiness, what does that teach your children?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 10:05 AM
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I think a lot of the time, if a guy talked about it at the time it upset him it wouldn’t be a problem, but men often hold onto something until they can’t hold it in anymore and then it comes out in a really toxic way. Women will then rightly say, I shouldn’t have to deal with this. Showing emotions isn’t a problem, expecting someone to deal with an explosion of emotions when you can’t hold it in anymore is totally different. One is healthy, the other resembles a toddler tantrum
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 08:36 PM
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I was commenting on someone’s else who brought up Jeffrey Epstein and then the commenter underneath downplaying what that man and his mates did. As far as sex tourism goes, it’s sad and pathetic. I think it’s weird travelling to another country just to have sex with someone from another ethnicity and culture. Don’t care if you are a man or woman doing, it’s gross and pathetic
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:41 PM
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I wasn’t talking about the sex tourism, I was commenting on the down playing of what Jeffrey Epstein did. As far as sex tourism goes, I just find the whole thing sad and pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:32 PM
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Jeffrey Epstein did rape children as well as all the rich men that also went to that island. Children cannot consent to sex with grown men. There are messages and emails of men sex trafficking children to that island for these grown ass disgusting men to rape
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:44 PM
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Tell that to the women who don’t feel like they have any other option. Doesn’t have to make sense to you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 02:04 PM
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There is a study from a university that has found that 90% of women who enter into prostitution do it because they see it as their only means of survival https://www.uoc.edu/en/news/2025/study-90-percent-women-prostitution-only-option-survival So it’s not some, it’s most.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:34 PM
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The majority of people that think about sex work think about the reasons women end up doing it. The majority of women who end up doing sex work, do it out of desperation or because they have grown up in abusive home and they are using it to hurt themselves. The last thing these women need when they feel like they have no other option is to be stigmatised because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:00 PM
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You aren’t responsible for how anyone else treats you but if you decide to stay in a relationship where the other person is treating you badly, at some point you become responsible for your own unhappiness and you should get some self respect and leave
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 11:02 AM
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You in the US by any chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 10:05 AM
1

Why would anyone need 10 children?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 09:56 AM
1

It’s an injection, not a pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 11:21 PM
1

It’s not really altering your bodies anything, it’s just putting a barrier between your swimmers and your ejaculation so that the swimmers are reabsorbed back into the body.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 11:15 PM
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Well you could always get it reversed if you decided you want kids? Just because it lasts 10 years doesn’t mean you can’t have kids at all in those 10 years. Like a woman’s IUD can last up to 5-10 years depending on the type you get, if she decides she wants a child, she gets it removed. You decided you wanted a child, you get it dissolved Realistically would you get an injection in your testicles or that region every week or two?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 08:49 PM
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Well lucky for you, they are inventing birth control for men with no side effects. If only they were also investing in improving women’s contraception too
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 08:03 PM
1

Condoms are birth control?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 05:44 PM
1

Then who are you expecting to be responsible for birth control?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 05:43 PM
1

Are you sexually active?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 05:40 PM
1

What’s your reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 05:37 PM
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Considering hardly any rape cases even make it to court, nevermind a prosecution, doesn’t make much difference that’s it’s a class A felony
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 05:09 PM
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Women’s birth control is the same now as it was when it was first invented. If we want control over when we get pregnant, we either have to take birth control or we have to abstain. Considering sex is part of a healthy relationship, doesn’t give you much choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 04:48 PM
1

Must have not gotten that memo
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 04:03 PM
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I hope men take it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:54 PM
2

Why would jt make you a flawed human?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:47 PM
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I know me too
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:39 PM
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If a man is done having kids or he doesn’t want them then a vasectomy is a good choice. Prevents him from being able to make a woman pregnant. Doesn’t make him less of a man or pathetic or anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:34 PM
1

Why are men who get vasectomies pathetic?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:26 PM
2

So you are using condoms?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:28 PM
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I think even if it does become available, a lot of men won’t go get it, so I don’t see it effecting birth rates anymore than they are already effected
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 01:55 PM
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I don’t think it will change the amount of men pressuring women into condom less sex, as soon as a man knows a woman is on birth control, he’s pushing for no condoms “because it feels better”. Personally I think it gives women the option to not be on birth control if the burden can be given to men. Especially if there are going to be no side effects of male birth control considering the sheer amount of side effects women have to deal with
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 01:35 PM
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It’s hormone free so there isn’t supposed to be any side effects other than some initial soreness at the injection site immediately after
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 01:30 PM
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God isn’t real
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:24 PM
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Why are you blaming the women rather putting the accountability on the person that walked away? No one is responsible for somebody else’s behaviour. Why are those men having unprotected sex and having children if they have no intention of sticking around and raising them
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:45 PM
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The fact you are resorting back to what you can legally get away with, literally tells me everything I need to know about you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:12 PM
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It’s part of rape culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 02:41 PM
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Well you can’t have it both ways, you can marry a man, plan a future with him, you can do it all ‘right’ and he could still walk away from you and the kid as some men do. And men like you will still respond with “well you should have known, you should have picked better”. So even if a woman does everything right, if she is still gonna end up on her own and her kid without a dad and be blamed for it, wouldn’t it have been better if she had stayed single and stayed away from men according to what …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 12:13 PM
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So really it would be safer if women never had sex with men or had kids with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 11:31 AM
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That isn’t true at all. That’s just your take on it. In your head, any sex under any circumstances is great. So you cannot understand why a woman who has been deceived into sex would feel used. So the only reason your brain can come up with is, “oh it’s because she wasn’t that into him”. Being attracted to someone is a green card to being okay with them lying to you or using your body as an object to get off with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 11:30 AM
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You’re assuming that a woman is less attracted to you because she wants to wait until you are in a relationship. Your assumption doesn’t make it fact. Lots of women wait until they are in a relationship to have sex because they don’t want to be used, they aren’t looking for casual sex, they don’t want the guy to think they are easy. None of that is about being less attracted to the guy. You can be really in to a guy and want to jump on him and still make yourself wait for fear of being used or j…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 11:08 AM
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I think it’s pretty simple, if you only want casual sex then look for a woman that also wants casual sex. If you want sex within a relationship then go for a woman that also wants that. Not really hard is it? Don’t lie about your intentions. If you know that woman wouldn’t have agreed to sex if they knew you would have just wanted a casual thing then you disregarding her consent. I understand what the other commenter is coming from around rape. If you agree to have sex with a woman because you b…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:15 AM
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You can never know a 100% what someone is going to do. You can do all the vetting in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:01 AM
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You understand men will tell the woman all the way through the pregnancy they want that child and then once the baby is born, they bail. Or what about when they disappear out of that child’s/children’s lives when they are older? You know when the man meets someone knew, starts a family with them and decide the children he already has don’t matter anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 09:59 AM
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I personally wouldn’t have children with a man that has already walked away from one child. I think you’re setting yourself up for potentially raising a child alone. But on the other side of that men do leave their children, get with another woman and stick around for the child/children they have together. I find that even more bizarre, why be a deadbeat to children you have with one woman and then be a dad to your children you have with another woman. Or even worse is when they play dad to some…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 09:56 AM
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Because men never plan babies with their partners/wives and then leave? Men never remarry and then abandon the children they had with their first wives? That never happens? These men aren’t one night stands or men you barely know. They are the ones who you have sat up late with discussing your future together. You’ve spoke about kids with them, how many you will have, whether you want boys or girls or one of each. And even after all those conversations, when you are sure you have a good one, tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 01:10 AM
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At no point in any of this has anyone said that the mum doesn’t want their babies, they are just calling out men for being deadbeats. But women don’t get pregnant to be single mums. They want the family and the happily ever after. They want their children to have a present mum and dad. That doesn’t mean that when the dad walks away, they don’t want their children. The mum just feels sad and angry that the man walked away. They feel guilty that they didn’t know beforehand that the dad would walk …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 12:34 AM
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So the child should lose both parents because the dad is a deadbeat? Great advice, let’s give the kid real abandonment issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 11:02 PM
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And when the dad leaves after the baby is born? What’s your great advice then?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 10:55 PM
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Hindsight is 20/20. If those women had the information from the start that these men were gonna end up walking away from their own children, they wouldn’t have gone there in the first place. You can only make decisions based on the information you have at the time
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 10:39 PM
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You leave and don’t see your children anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:53 PM
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Dads that walk away from their children and don’t want contact
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:52 PM
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The men are, they are making the choice to do one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:40 PM
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Well considering I’ve known deadbeats that have been broke and have been on a really good wage, it could be either
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:38 PM
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Contraception fails, the morning after pill fails. Accidental pregnancies are accidental pregnancies. Men also walk away from children that were very much planned. A man being a deadbeat is not the woman’s fault, they aren’t responsible for the choices those men are making
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:30 PM
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Where the have you got “they are usually broke and have a record”. My dad was a deadbeat, was married to my mum, on a 6 figure salary, no record. Still did one. Didn’t wanna pay child support so left the country and worked abroad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:22 PM
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The majority of pregnancies aren’t happening from one night stands, they are in a relationship, a pregnancy happens and then the guy does one. You can only work with the information you have at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:17 PM
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Telling women to choose better is putting the blame on the women. If the women knew the man was just gonna walk away, they wouldn’t have put themselves in that situation. They aren’t doing it on purpose, it’s not a ‘he looks like a deadbeat to be, let’s have a baby with him’.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:00 PM
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I wonder if these men have ever heard the expression he was good looking until he opened his mouth
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:12 PM
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Well a 25 year old brain is fully developed. An 18 year old is either still in school or has just finished school. Anyone that tries to justify going for teenagers are creeps and nothing you say will change my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 03:09 PM
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And plenty of men in those countries where the age of consent is 16, do go younger than 18. It’s disgusting
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 08:05 PM
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I will always judge a man or a woman who goes for an 18 year old because you know they would go younger if there wasn’t a law against it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 04:57 PM
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The majority of what? Abortions? It’s no one else’s business why women choose to terminate a pregnancy, but the main reasons are usually a pregnancy that is the consequence of rape, not being in a financially secure situation to have a baby, not being in a secure relationship, just not wanting children. And before you say “well they should have used birth control”. Birth control fails, southern states are making it increasingly difficult for women to access birth control and there is a lack of s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:33 AM
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Usually to do with lack of access to birth control and poor sex education.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:23 AM
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Abortions are healthcare. Miscarriages can kill women if medical abortions aren’t carried out. Ectopic pregnancies kill women and aren’t viable pregnancies so medical abortions are required. Complications in pregnancy can kill women and abortions in those cases literally save the woman’s life and if there is no living mother, there is no baby anyway. Children who have been raped and end up pregnant should be allowed to terminate that pregnancy so they haven’t got the risk of dying during childbi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:11 AM
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Because even with ‘good’ welfare systems, people still can’t afford to have children. Inflation is increasing but wages aren’t. In the Uk even with two people earning and universal credit topping up incomes (the fact that households with two incomes are still needing welfare is disgusting), people are atill living paycheck to pay check. The world is fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 10:26 AM
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Birth rates are declining due to the economy and in America with the laws around abortion and women dying due to being refused procedures they need, women will avoid sex and relationships, it’s not worth their lives. With going out becoming too expensive, people are choosing to stay home and communicate over technology. The internet can be a toxic place, especially when you find yourselves in echo chambers. Then going out into the real world where someone might actually challenge your way of thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 09:53 AM
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Everyone is less happy, the economy is fucked and it doesn’t matter how hard you work, life doesn’t get easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:43 PM
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In real life women are criticised all the time by both men and other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:40 PM
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So depending on the definition of rape changes the statistics. So in the 12 months before the study was done there was 340,000 cases of male rape victims. 83% of the rape victims, men were the perpetrators. In the 12 months before the study there was 1.3million men forced to penetrate, in those cases 67% of the perpetrators were women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 08:04 PM
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I’m not saying women don’t rape men/boys, it does happen but the majority of rapes are committed by men and there’s statistics to prove it. All you have done is link articles of female abusers
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 01:56 PM
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That’s not true 98% of male victims are sa’d or raped by another man. If it’s not reported then no false allegation has been made
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 01:46 PM
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Men are statistically more likely to be raped than falsely accused. I think you can chill out about it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 10:43 AM
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Having fun when you are young isn’t bad for society. You’re supposed to go out and have fun whilst you are young and you haven’t got any responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 01:09 PM
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It doesn’t matter who it is, men or women, if the legislation being passed is going to be catastrophic on a demographic, it should be voted against and everybody in society has an obligation to stand up and protect who they are going after next. Your government is testing the waters with what you will stay silent over or support. It started with women’s rights, now it’s the immigrants or anyone that isn’t white. It won’t stop there
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 05:38 PM
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I think millennial mums are getting their boys involved in doing housework because they’re fed up of grown men not doing their fair share.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 05:03 PM
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If your parents didn’t teach you how to do chores because they did them all that’s fine. However you can’t as an adult say I’m not going to learn how to function as an adult because my mummy didn’t show me how. You are perfectly able to teach yourself how the washing machine works, how to cook yourself a meal etc. Blaming a guys mother is a cop out
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 04:50 PM
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I think you have an obligation when you live in society to vote against something that is going to have a catastrophic effect on someone else. It shouldn’t matter that it doesn’t effect you personally
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 04:13 PM
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I think not caring that women and children are dying due to Roe vs Wade being overturned just makes you a bad person. But then again America doesn’t care about its population. Men, women and children die every day due to your backwards health care system and the massive greedy corporations that run it and the vast majority of Americans would still vote against a system similar to the NHS. You live in a country that encourages its citizens to be self centred. Makes you easier to manipulate.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:51 PM
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You still have sisters and mothers who can be affected by it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:36 PM
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They really do don’t they
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:25 PM
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It’s a minority of Muslim males and they aren’t more likely to assault or rape women as any other man of any other culture or colour
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:19 PM
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You believe your racist and ignorant views on Muslims has given you a gotcha moment but all it’s highlighting is your racist and ignorant views against minorities.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:15 PM
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Oh look another racist comment. You sound like such a charming person
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:10 PM
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Bless you, I’m sure the 6.5% of Muslims in the UK, where only 23% of that 6.5% are going to be such a threat to my human rights as a woman. I’m so scared…..don’t be so stupid. Your comment about Muslims then was just ignorant and racist. Immigration is welcome here as far as I’m concerned.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:59 PM
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America isn’t really a country the rest of the world is looking at and wanting to copy 😂. The rest of the world are looking at you and laughing right now. You think you’re really forward but you aren’t. America is so backwards. The rest of the west had got rid of slavery which Britain lead and the US had to go to war with themselves to stop it. Religion is massively engrained into your culture, politics and every day life. Cross the pond and you would see that isn’t the case in other places in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:48 PM
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My point is your lack of ability to be able to do that isn’t women’s fault. To get through life you have to be able to socialise.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:36 PM
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Just because more people are attending church doesn’t mean they are far right Christian’s? Only 4% of the UK population believe abortion should be illegal whereas in the US 36% of the population believe it should be illegal in nearly all circumstances and 55% of the population say it should only be legal in certain circumstances. Which is why roe vs wade was overturned in the US. Abortions being legal in the UK is written into Uk law and would never be overturned due to the fact it just hasn’t g…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:34 PM
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He won’t be my problem, I’m done having kids. My husband is getting a vasectomy. I won’t be able to physically get pregnant. The UK population don’t have the same levels of religion. Roe vs Wade was overturned in the US due to the far right Christians. They don’t exist here. Not enough of them anyway. So I’m not worried. Womens abortion rights in the UK are safe. Also the majority of the Uk population think Trump is an idiot and that the American population are also idiots for voting him in
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:17 PM
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I’m incredibly socially awkward to the point I barely spoke as a teenager in school, I was horribly bullied. if I liked someone I made the first move because boys rarely made the first move with me, I got rejected plenty, it stung sure but that’s life. So no men/boys don’t have to make the first move. Girls/women will make the first move too. I went out with and married someone who is also socially awkward. Least we can be awkward together. As for the trump comment, I don’t live in the US, it do…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:05 PM
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You might have really struggled socially and struggled to make friends but if you are that awkward you can’t make friends, you’ve no chance of finding a woman to like you. You actually have to be able to have a conversation and be able to engage socially. How else would you be able to have a relationship with anybody? So if your issue is you are incredibly socially awkward, it sucks but it’s nobody else’s fault either. You can’t be bitter at other people for your own struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:53 PM
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You can’t be bitter at women if you have chosen to lock yourself away in your bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:47 PM
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If a guy is choosing to rot in their rooms doing nothing, isn’t that a choice they are making? They could be out having fun and living life
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:40 PM
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I would really like to meet this guy you call chad to see if he is as good the guys on here hype him up to be 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:39 PM
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When you are young you are more likely to go for someone who seems like a lot of fun because that’s the stage you are in your life. As you get older, you want someone who is going to be on the same page as you, who also wants stability, to settle down and have a family with you. It’s not a gendered thing
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:32 PM
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This was very well written and an interesting perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 10:31 AM
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Because you live in society and the alternative options if welfare didn’t exist is mum can’t work so both her and her children starve to death or mum works full time and her children are neglected and taken from her. Then your tax dollars would be funding the children anyway once they enter the system. So you know, you can be unhappy about it all you like but the welfare system stops people dying and means that children can stay with the parent that didn’t abandon them in the first place. You sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 04:30 AM
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I can tell you live in the US because of your opinion of the welfare state. The welfare state should exist because it means that those who are less well off, men, women, single mums, single dads, the disabled, the elderly, those who are carers to a disabled person aren’t being put in a situation they are homeless and without food for the simple crime of being less able to work full time or not being in a well paid job. The poorest in society are the ones who put every penny they have back into t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 01:22 AM
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I think both partners in a couple can get into a pattern of point scoring and a I feel more hurt than you because. It’s not just women that do this. You have to make space to talk about how each other feeling and why and then take ownership over what part you have had in that to get to the point of being able to discuss resolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:40 PM
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The patriarchy was created by men but upheld by both men and women. The patriarchy is hurting both men and women. The patriarchy needs dismantling and both men and women need to stop repeating the things that are upholding it and hurting everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 08:57 PM
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This is the example you went with is it? All you sound like right now is a rapist apologist. The guy sounds like he was abusive towards her on so many levels so it’s not a reach to think he was trying to take advantage of her whilst she was vulnerable. Your take on this is disgusting. It’s not uncommon for men who sexually assault or rape a woman to make the excuses he is making.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:12 AM
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Because men never enter into relationships just to have sex to immediately ghost or dump straight after
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 06:11 PM
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It’s a bit gross marrying a family member isn’t it and it massively increases the chance of having a disabled child. There are plenty of people in the world that there really is no reason to marry into your own family
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:35 PM
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I’m curious when someone is enthusiastically kissing you back, are you spending the entire time going, this woman is acting like a child because she didn’t use her big girl words and say yes I would like to kiss you enthusiastically?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 03:36 PM
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Both men and women use non verbal communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 03:32 PM
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If you can’t tell when a woman is into it, that’s your problem, not women’s problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 02:39 PM
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Like I said, if someone is unsure, they need to ask
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 12:35 PM
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Think you need to look up what gaslighting means. Men who try make consent sound complicated are the ones who end up raping or sexually assaulting women and then blaming them “for not being clear enough”. Any kind of sexual contact should be enthusiastic from both sides. It doesn’t always need to be verbal. If you aren’t sure, ask. Consent can be withdrawn at any time, if you continue, it’s rape. If you ask and she says no then you continue to ask until she says yes, it’s rape. You can change th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 10:34 AM
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Doesn’t matter what the scenario is, consent isn’t complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 09:53 AM
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Consent isn’t that complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 09:26 AM
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Young guys like this are just having fun but as you get older and they aren’t young guys anymore, it’s just a bit sad. They should want more for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 06:36 PM
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Not every man makes it clear they don’t want their child until after said child is born
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 05:45 PM
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Having a baby is the best but at the same time it’s hard. Is your friend getting up every 1-3 hours to feed his baby? Each time you get up, you can be up for an hour feeding and changing baby’s nappy. That’s if they settle between feeds. You have a baby with colic or trapped wind and you don’t get any sleep. You don’t have a choice with drs appointments, dentist appointments, school stuff as they get older, homework. Then your child becomes interested in a specific club and because you love them…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 05:53 PM
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What do you mean by women coping
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 01:29 PM
1

Just because 80% watch porn doesn’t mean 80% of men are paying for it or are addicted to it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 10:25 AM
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Every man who watches it isn’t watching the same thing, nor is every man addicted, spending money on it etc. You’re making huge generalisations that don’t reflect all men
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 01:39 AM
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I think what is classed as cheating is personal to each relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 12:31 AM
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Relevance?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 10:07 PM
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Generalisations like this aren’t helpful. He’s some men are like this but not all men. There are plenty of good men out there that contribute equally with the household chores and are very involved dads. It’s just about finding a good guy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 09:55 AM
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Paying a prostitute isn’t going to fix your mental health issues. You’re just gonna get sex. Sex doesn’t fix your mental health
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 08:55 AM
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Men also don’t like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 05:22 AM
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This never happens to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 07:27 AM
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It’s neither, it’s the physical and emotional intimacy me and my husband are sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 09:52 PM
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You’re right it’s not that simple, like it’s not that simple when it comes to different households, amount of care and support different children need, why someone might become a SAHM, why someone might get to the point they feel unsupported etc. it’s not that simple in the workplace and it’s not that simple in different households. Your experience doesn’t reflect everyone’s
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:19 PM
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Majority of the time in the UK, if you are working over 12 hours, you do 4 days on, 4 days off. Otherwise a typical work week is 40 hours a week. Unless you voluntarily take over time. Companies that still have zero hour contracts can take the piss but you can turn down the work if you don’t want it considering zero hours work both ways. There’s obviously exceptions to this but if that’s the type of job you’ve chosen to take then that’s the hours you’ve chosen to work
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 02:47 PM
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Sounds like you should leave the states if the working conditions are so shit
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 02:14 PM
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I didn’t say all dads were like that or that the majority of dads were. I said that there are still lots of dads that don’t pull their fair share once they are home. Obviously, you know if they have been working 12+ hours then they are gonna be tired or a hard manual labour job. But then they aren’t working 7 days a week the majority of the time and can do their fair share on their days off. My husband used to be one of those dads that did a manual labour job, came home and relaxed and he did th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 02:00 PM
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I’m sorry you are having such a hard time. Women aren’t complaining about having to do housework. It is unpaid labour though when you are at home full time. You aren’t working a 40 hour week are you, it’s 24 hours, 7 days a week. You should know that more than most. I’m glad you are a good dad that has stepped up for his children. However, There’s still a lot of dads that come home and think his bit is done and he should be allowed to rest cause he has been working. Mum in the mean time is exhau…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 12:23 PM
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I live in the real world. Not this made up world where parents are loaded and having children is easy, extended family is on call. You quite clearly have had a very priviledged experience at being a parent in terms of support and financially. That isn't the reality for the majority of parents. Childcare is ridiculously expensive. Extended family is working full time still. People are living paycheck to paycheck. Poverty is at an all time high. People needing welfare support even when working ful…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 12:14 PM
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This post isn't about the majority of people, its about SAHM's. You seem quite comfortable judging people for their choice or in a lot of cases, lack of choice to be SAHM due to personal, family or financial circumstances. When I have presented two different scenarios as to why women end up being SAHM's, your responses have been nothing more than judgement. I'm glad as a single dad you have such an easy time but the majority of people don't have extended family helping them, are living paycheck …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 12:05 PM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 12:01 PM
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I have 3 children, 1 of which is severely disabled, needs 24 hour care. I had to give up my career. It isn't easy. All my family work full time. I have tried to work full time but kept getting calls to come out of work because my disabled child was having a medical crisis. When they were little I tried to work full time but every penny of my wage paid for childcare, there was nothing left for rent, bills etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:58 AM
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What world are you living in? Grandparents are still working full time, how can they help before and after school? Kids are in school in the UK from 8:30 ish til around 3/3:30, most jobs you work from 8 til 5, that excludes commuting. Who is taking the kids to and from school? Secondary school age is when they are old enough to get themself to and from school, by that point, mum hasn't worked for 11 years or has only been able to work part time for 6 years whilst having the first 5 years out of …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:51 AM
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Then there's all the families that can't afford day care, dad earns more so makes most sense financially for mum to give her career up
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:43 AM
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Doesn't make it less of a valid reason for mum needing to stay home whilst dad works full time
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:38 AM
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Go spend time in the disabled community. Go spend time in classrooms and realise that there are a few children in each classroom with needs. Go realise that parents of disabled children are constantly judged for needing a parent home constantly
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:32 AM
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It's common enough, the whole world isn't the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:28 AM
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Parenting isn't hard with neurotypical children but with a severely disabled child that requires 24 hour care, not so easy, needs a parent at home at all times.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:25 AM
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Loving the ignorance
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:21 AM
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It's not always that simple? What if a couple have a disabled child which then makes it incrediby difficult for both mum and dad to work? Dad is in a position to earn more so mum volunteers to be the one to stay home, do the housework, sacrifice her career, look after the children, juggle all the appointments etc
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:13 AM
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Women and children were also enslaved in ancient times, not just men
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:17 PM
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This only really applies if you are in a committed relationship. Even then it’s arguable. I’m not at all religious though and have my own thoughts around the bible and its contents
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:56 AM
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We live in a society where people post their private thoughts all over social media and then get upset when they rightly get called out for it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:30 AM
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Why would women care what you are doing in the privacy of your own home when you are on your own?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:24 AM
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Women since ancient times have been seen as objects or commodities for men. Although in the last few years this has been challenged and women in the media have been given more active roles rather than passive roles, women in society are still viewed as objects. There are times women want to be seen sexually when we are consenting to it, for example, when you are with someone you want to be intimate with, women who do only fans etc In our every day lives though it would be nice to be seen as a pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:19 AM
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Usually when the guy has been a dick or way too much too quick and it feels like love bombing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 05:02 PM
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What’s the comparison?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 04:28 PM
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What an entitled attitude. Everyone is responsible for their own mental health, if you think a chat bot is gonna promote emotional well-being for yourself, pay for it or find a free one
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 03:53 PM
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I think the issue in these subreddits is the lack of being open to understanding and instead pushing on the other person preconceived ideas
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 10:58 PM
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It’s ridiculous to engage in a who has it worse argument because both sides end up feeling like they have to ‘win’. You can argue women have privilege in certain aspects and men have privilege in other areas. What’s the point in starting a gender war?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 02:43 PM
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This post isn’t about dating. OP is claiming women are privileged as a whole within society. Hence my point that both men and women have different lived experiences and it is easy to look at someone else and assume they have it easy when you haven’t a walked a day in their shoes
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 06:53 AM
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Men and women have very different lived experiences and it is easy to sit back and think the opposite gender has it easier when you aren’t living their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 01:03 AM
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You guys really need to watch old episodes of jeremy kyle, it will be eye opening
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 12:58 PM
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You can’t live your life on a what if.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 05:11 PM
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Eating healthily doesn’t require a dr, neither does movement
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:25 PM
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Are men incapable of eating healthily and looking after themselves in general? Or is looking after yourself ‘chad behaviour’
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 02:43 PM
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I’m doing the same with my kids as you. This entire post is just drivel
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 06:51 PM
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Is all this from your lived experience as a girl growing up or a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 05:55 PM
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I’m sure it does….
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 09:55 PM
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You understand the majority of the time, these women aren't having baby's with these men thinking from the off he is a deadbeat who will do one. Once you have figured it out, it's usually too late. The women still look back thinking, I should have spotted the signs, I wish I had chosen better. But retrospect is great isn't it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 06:25 PM
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You're 18. You're too young to be on here. I know a few guys who didn't have their first relationships or lose their v cards until they were in their 20's. You should be out with mates having fun, being 18, not chasing after girls
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 06:16 PM
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I’m married
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 08:02 AM
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Then you aren’t going to know how it feels, arguing with these women because you don’t understand it isn’t going to make you understand it. You don’t ask questions first and then get yourself out, you get yourself out because the alternative could be your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 07:48 PM
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Has anyone ever made you feel incredibly uncomfortable to the point your entire body is screaming to get away from them?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 07:03 PM
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You’re 18, I wouldn’t be coming on this sub looking for advice or anything that actually makes sense. There are some really bitter people on here who have very biased opinions that make them feel better. Maybe the girl you’re into isn’t acting that bothered because all of her friends are crushing on you and it would be weird to join in. It would certainly put me right off
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 11:15 PM
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That’s a cop out answer, what specific things do you think women need calling out for that they aren’t already
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 07:54 AM
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I’m not downplaying any number, I googled the statistics around it in the UK
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 07:54 AM
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That’s not true, in long term relationships and marriages because of life you do go through phases where it is hard and you have to fight to continue making your relationship work. The spark can go, especially if your lives have become really busy, at that point it’s about communication and coming up with a plan to spend time together to bring back that spark and excitement. Relationships aren’t always easy and effortless and it’s that mindset that makes people leave at the first sign of content…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 06:55 AM
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So you don’t have an answer
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 06:06 AM
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What is it you think women need calling out for that they aren’t already called out for?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 06:56 PM
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Yeah the manosphere isn’t doing anything, you just think you are. Women call out other women all the time. Men call women out if they are being shit just not as much as women call other women out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:25 PM
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Both men and women can be hypocritical, there’s nothing new about that. That’s just people being people
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:35 PM
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I wouldn’t want to assume how common it is with men to be hypocritical around it. You hear more from women how they feel about their partners watching porn but women in general are more open about how they feel about things than men are so. I think even if it was more common than you think, you probably wouldn’t hear about it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 03:14 PM
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I was merely pointing out that OPs stance that women are hypocritical is unfounded cause both men and women can be hypocritical around it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 02:50 PM
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I know men who have gone off at their wives/girlfriends for watching porn/reading “smut”, being really degrading towards them, calling them names for it whilst watching and paying for porn themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 01:20 PM
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Yeah that’s not true, I love my husband because he’s a great person, he’s kind, loving, supportive, a good communicator, he’s a great dad, he’s intelligent, I love how he will get stuck into anything and give it a go, I love how much he knows about topics he’s interested in, the music he listens to, he also goes out of his way to be a good husband to me, he’s so thoughtful
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 08:02 AM
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The younger generation or staying at home. Most of their interactions are online which is gonna make making and keeping friends and relationships with other people really difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 09:10 AM
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You have plenty of women commenting on these posts saying they aren’t opposed to them at any point of a relationship. You have plenty of other women saying they wouldn’t be opposed to them if that was a preference mentioned at the beginning of the relationship so they weren’t blindsided by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 05:58 PM
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You can’t say most women would be or wouldn’t be can you? That’s something you are assuming.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 05:48 PM
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You can have whatever preference you like for a relationship and what you expect within it, that’s fine but if it doesn’t align with someone else’s wants/needs/values etc, then you both have the right to know that and choose partners that more closely align with you. That’s what it comes down to. So women aren’t opposed to a man having that preference but they can choose whether they want to be in a relationship with someone with that. For example, im not opposed to swinging as a concept but I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 05:29 PM
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It is an accusation of infidelity whether you like it or not. Either she’s just sleeping with you therefore you’re 100% positive that baby is yours or you think she’s sleeping with other men too and you have doubts and therefore need proof. If at the beginning of a relationship you had that conversation and it was part of your terms of having children. You are both honest with each other what you feel is okay in a relationship and either she is okay with that and you move on with a relationship.…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 05:14 PM
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Women aren’t opposed to it if you’re being upfront and honest about intentions from the start regarding them. But playing happy families with someone, making them feel safe and like you trust them and then blindsiding them with a test once they’ve carried your baby for 9 months, gone through the hell of childbirth and then dealing with postpartum hormones and a newborn is a shitty thing to do, especially if that baby was planned and you’re in a long term committed relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:26 PM
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Well if you live in the UK and you feel that strongly about it, email your local MP or the prime minister about it and see what response you will get.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:10 PM
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We pay taxes into the NHS, end of life care comes under health care. If you have to have carers come out to your home to support end of life care, you have to pay for it, you can’t afford to, you have to sell your house or family has to do it. It’s incredibly hard to get support funded by the government. And of life care also benefits the entire population. Paternity fraud is rare, so the government funding paternity tests for every newborn baby when they would argue isn’t a massive need for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 03:48 PM
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Pap smears help detect precancerous cells, a Pap smear is a lot cheaper than cancer treatment, hence why they come under normal healthcare. Paternity tests won’t save the government money. Just cost the government money. So again, who’s paying for them? You wanna make them mandatory fine, doesn’t bother me, but who is footing the cost?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 03:39 PM
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Who’s paying for the paternity tests? In the UK, the cost of a paternity test ranges between £99 and £400. There’s roughly around 600,000 babies born a year. The cost for the paternity tests if covered by the government would be between £59,400,000 and £240,000,000.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 03:34 PM
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Well America isn't exactly the country to look up to is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 06:00 PM
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Ive seen so many men on here say paternity fraud should be illegal and when you respond with fight for it to be illegal, the response is NO! Making it illegal is the first step needed to be taken. On to the mandatory paternity tests, who is paying for them?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 05:49 PM
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So fight for paternity fraud to be illegal?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 05:28 PM
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If you enter into a relationship with someone and you are expecting a paternity test in the scenario she falls pregnant then that needs to be a conversation you have at the beginning of the relationship to make sure you are both on the same page as each other about it like you would kids and marriage. Honest upfront communication is needed. If you don't request it until after she has carried your baby for 9 months, gone through the trauma of childbirth and is in the early days with a newborn, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 05:15 PM
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How could women help then? Men do need to lead male issues, like women had to lead issues that effected us. Doesn't mean that you don't need or want the support of the opposite sex in the process. The more people speaking, the louder the voices
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 03:58 PM
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Oh I do, I think the cost of a passport is ridiculous. I haven’t paid for my driving license I don’t think
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 03:17 PM
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Not all men want what you are wanting. Why should all men have to do something they don’t want to do because there are some men that are worried about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 03:11 PM
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The men that are chastised by women are men that have had no suspicions that their other halves have cheated, their wife/girlfriend has been loyal their entire relationship, they didn’t communicate that it was going to be brought up before they started trying for the baby. Then once the mum is at her most vulnerable turn around and say, I want a paternity test and then surprise surprise, he’s the dad. He’s happy, her whole world has been shattered because as far as she was concerned she was in a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:53 PM
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Telling men they aren't allowed to put their names on their child's birth certificate unless they do a paternity test they do not want isn't okay and a lot of men, wouldn't be okay with that. You can opt in or out of all medical procedures/test, you would be forcing men to opt into a test with a consequence of you won't have any rights over your child.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:26 PM
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No women wouldn't be, men would feel as though they were being punished by being forced to pay for a paternity test to get the same rights as the mum. Especially men in long term stable relationships/marriages, who know that the baby is theirs, they trust their wives/long term girlfriends, they have been actively trying for that baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:17 PM
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I wouldn't want a law to come into place that punishes all men for the actions of a few. That's not a solution, I haven't got an answer on how you strengthen the law around rape, it's one word against another, it's a really hard crime to prove.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:07 PM
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I have been a victim of rape, I don't worry about being raped. The majority of rapes are committed by someone you know, not strangers. A lot of rapes are committed by partners. Women aren't avoiding getting married or into relationships due to fear of rape. Women don't avoid being alone with their dad's, brothers, uncles, male friends etc. We get on with our lives. And this is with the knowledge that most rapes even though it's illegal, won't even get to court, and even if it does, you still are…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:01 PM
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Have you got children? Have you been a victim of paternity fraud? Or is all this worry coming from a theoretical situation you have never been in?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:46 PM
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That's really unfair on dad's, can you not see that. You are wanting to force dad's to pay for a test just so they have the same rights as the mum. They shouldn't have to pay to have the same rights to their child.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:35 PM
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Maybe they just aren’t worried about paternity? When it doesn’t impact 98% of fathers, why should 100% of fathers be forced to pay for something they aren’t concerned about because they know that child is theirs
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:20 PM
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You’re gonna have a lot of men saying that aren’t going to back that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:04 PM
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The answer is making paternity fraud a criminal offense with criminal repercussions as well civil repercussions. That’s a more realistic angle. Governments won’t fund paternity tests and people in general won’t want their taxes to be increased to cover it. And if people are paying for it themselves, it’s not enforceable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:58 PM
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I asked you a genuine question about how you would like women to help with the situation and you have just answered in i dont like women kind of way. Women aren't opposing paternity fraud. If this is something men are genuinely concerned about, men need to be proactive in fighting for the law around it to be changed, it needs to be led by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:37 PM
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We get it, you don't like women
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:30 PM
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Depends where you are in the world doesn’t it, abortion isn’t available everywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:11 PM
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What would you like women to do about it? The majority of us (98%) aren’t out deceiving men, we don’t agree with paternity fraud and like you think it’s a disgusting thing to do to another human being. Men make up the majority of government, so what would you like us to do about it? Or do you think if it’s something that men are genuinely concerned about, they should be shouting from the roof tops, protesting, fighting for the law to be changed so that paternity fraud is seen as a criminal offen…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:10 PM
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I understand your thought process and I feel for the men it happens to but realistically, the government isn't going to intervene. It isn't something all men are fighting for or are worried about.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 11:43 AM
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The majority of birth control has an 98% effectiveness, considering the consequences and the impact it has on both the man and the woman's life, would you say 2% is too much of a risk and all sexual activity should be avoided until you are actively trying for a baby?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 11:04 AM
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Well that's your opinion, which you are entitled to. Doesn't make women sick for watching them though, like it doesn't make men sick for watching documentaries on wars. You aren't going to agree with everything you see or hear in life and it's an entitled attitude to think the world should revolve around what you think and feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 11:02 AM
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There are roughly around 20,000 babies swapped at birth in the States due to babies going into nurseries rather than staying with mum. When this happened in the UK, we got rid of the nurseries but despite it happening in the states, the use of nurseries continue. Like I said, I think it should be a crime and the mother be done for fraud when it does happen. Considering, how easily accessible paternity tests are, the state shouldn't be funding mandatory paternity tests though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:59 AM
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Erm insighting hatred towards a specific group of people is different to a documentary on a crime that has happened. One is illegal and the other isn't for one. Two, documentaries are informative, hate speech or music is just insighting hatred and violence. Vastly different and a wild comparison
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:51 AM
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You could argue true crimes help people understand what they should be looking for to keep themselves safer. The impact it has on society, the rippling effects it has on a community. Highlights where police enforcement failed, how it could have been prevented etc. So really you could say true crime documentaries highlight how modern day society is failing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:46 AM
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So don't watch it. Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:36 AM
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I think the majority of women would consider paternity fraud abhorrent and devastating for both the man and child involved. It should be considered fraud. I think the internet is making men really worried it's going to happen to them even though it's incredibly rare, in the UK, it's around 2% of fathers. I think perspective needs to be kept. Yes, it's devastating, it should be considered fraud, but it's unlikely to happen to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:35 AM
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Well the only person that has a problem with it is you, so i wouldn't call it a problem at all. In fact it's super easy, if you don't like something shown on TV, don't watch it. There are things I don't like on TV so I don't watch it, I don't make it other people's problem or say there is something morally wrong with the people who do consume that media. That's the choice you make and if you really have an issue with it, make an official complaint to the companies who make it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:25 AM
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But you think documentaries on other crimes that are mainly consumed by men less iffy?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:13 AM
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uh huh well done. You've gone from men don't watch it to 1 in 4 men isn't a lot to well 1 million is less than 4 million. No-one has said that women aren't the main consumer but 1 million is still a lot. You could say that considering that there is 38 million people living in the UK, 4 million isn't a lot either. So you know, weak arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:09 AM
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Sounds like you are trying to justify why one type of crime documentary is okay and another isn't. They are all made for the purpose of entertainment, otherwise they wouldn't be televised.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:57 AM
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So in the UK, there are around 5 million people watching true crime, 20% of that is 1 million. So 1 million men in the UK alone watch true crime, that is a lot of men
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:54 AM
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How is it less iffy than true crime though? Millions of people died, women, children, men, the elderly, the disabled, the people they experimented on. The use of the concentration camps, the war crimes. What the Nazi's did was abhorrent, it was the dehumanisation of anyone the Nazi's didn't see as worthy. There are so many documentaries on the world wars, most of the consumers of those are men. Same as the documentaries on the twin towers, the things that happen in the middle east. You haven't d…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:40 AM
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So 20% are men, that's still a lot of men, my point proven, men watch it too
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:34 AM
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Oh so it's okay to watch documentaries on a group of people killing millions of people in the most horrendous ways possible, but it's not okay to watch a documentary about one person killing someone else? That makes total sense
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:28 AM
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You've done an entire post without any proof, just a hell of a lot of opinions. If you can work out how reddit works, I'm sure you can work out how to type things into google, I'm not your mother or your teacher, I don't need to spoon feed you information you can independently look up yourself. Though I will make it super easy for you, if you type in who watches true crime, AI does all the work for you, you don't even need to click on any links to any website, it just all comes up for you, tells…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:24 AM
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It also tells you why women are the main consumer too as well. Im assuming you wrote this drivel without actually researching it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:15 AM
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I mean you only have to google who watches true crime and although it says women are the main consumers it also says that men of all ages enjoy it too
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 08:37 AM
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Do you have a source that says only women watch it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 07:11 AM
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Hate to break it to you but a lot of men watch it too
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 05:36 AM
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Why you blaming women for something producers are doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 08:55 PM
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People like true crime not because they enjoy watching the trauma and suffering of others, it’s because trying to understand why someone behaves the way they do, how they got there, how their lives up to that point shaped their decisions is interesting. People find psychology interesting and it’s sort of a dip into it. Or it might be that they have heard about the crime but want to know more about what happened, why it happened, have an opinion on whether it was dealt with properly, if it could …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 10:17 AM
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That’s very true
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 07:25 PM
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You’ve gone for fairly extreme examples there haven’t you. For the sake of argument though, I will humour you. In my year at school, I didn’t go to school with one guy who could be described as a chad to you, every single one of them were just average looking guys, the ones that did better than the others were simply just more confident. The ones that didn’t do well didn’t interact with the girls and would spend most of their time with a small group of guys in the library/IT suite or had other t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:46 PM
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Who’s version of Prince Charming though? Cause guys I find attractive my siblings don’t and who they find attractive, I don’t. Same with friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:31 PM
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I still don’t understand who chad is supposed to be or what he’s supposed to look like
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:23 PM
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That’s not true though is it? The study says 45% of young men, 18-25 have never approached a woman in person, meaning they have online or through other means. With the main reason being, those men are too scared of rejection to try. It also states that 74% of women 25 and below stated a desire to be approached more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:14 PM
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Women are biologically driven to want sex too, that’s how babies are made. What’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 04:13 PM
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My bad experiences with men aren’t ones I’ve been attracted to. It was my step dad when he SA’d me repeatedly for 6 years. It was two trusted men who worked with kids who hit on me the moment I turned 18 and the one that raped me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 02:06 PM
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If you don't trust your partner, you shouldn't be with them, never mind having a baby with them. Relationships are built on trust. Going up to your partner after you have had a baby with them or whilst they are pregnant and saying i want a dna test is saying to them, i think there is a possibility you have been sleeping with other people, so i need you to prove to me this baby is mine. At that point, your relationship is done. DON'T HAVE BABIES WITH SOMEONE YOU DON'T TRUST.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 10:04 AM
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You wouldn't need verification if you were sure you were the only man your partner was having sex with, therefore you are accusing her of cheating. You can word it how you like, that's what it comes down to
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 09:53 AM
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How does it work then?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 09:38 AM
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When you ask for a dna test you are accusing them of cheating otherwise you would be confident that baby was yours and wouldn’t need the test done
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 09:13 AM
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It depends. Sometimes minutes, sometimes seconds, sometimes a lot longer. Depends on how long it’s been since we last did it, how excited he is, what kind of sex we are having, how much time we have
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 03:37 PM
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That’s probably more to do with the fact that the younger generation aren’t going out and most of their socialising is done online. You can’t meet people from your bedroom
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 07:15 PM
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What repercussions are you wanting to happen to the person that cheated?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 10:22 AM
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Accusing your partner of cheating to the extent you want a dna test done is offensive. If you dont trust her, break off the relationship and then by all means ask for one
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 08:04 AM
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Have you seen the UK show virgin island?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:43 PM
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There are plenty of cultures across the world where women are forced exactly into these roles, across the Middle East, in parts of Africa, in places where child marriage is legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:26 AM
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Your worth comes from you, not other people and until you feel that, you will never be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 11:22 PM
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If you are deciding your entire worth on women you need to work your shit out
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 11:01 PM
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Have you got children?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:49 PM
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As a mum I don’t believe that for a second. The majority of parents make decisions for their children that they genuinely believe is best for them. They don’t want to hurt their children or cause them pain or trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:34 PM
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If men want the law around MGM to change they need to start rallying for it to change. It’s deeply ingrained into the culture within the states. It might take a long time to change but those conversations need to start happening loudly. Misinformation needs to stop. Men need to speak up about the negative effects it has on them long term. Women in the states genuinely believe they are making the decision in the best interest of their boys for either religious reasons or they are told it’s unclea…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:00 PM
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So it’s girls fault that they are being sexualised by adults and that the dress codes are inherently sexist?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 10:50 PM
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What’s the relevance of that? It isn’t less traumatic for the victims is it just because overall it happens to less girls than it does boys? Rape isn’t less traumatic for boys and men just because it happens more to girls. Trauma is trauma
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 10:49 PM
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You ignored everything I said in my reply you know. My point in my response wasn’t you should sue someone, it was like you said, it’s already happened so it doesn’t undo anything just like the fact that even though FGM is illegal, parents are only arrested for it after the fact, it doesn’t undo what has happened. Both victims of FGM and male circumcision have to live with the life long trauma regardless of any repercussions for the parents/guardians
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 10:37 PM
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Depends how much money your parents have got inheritance wise. You aren’t guaranteed to get anything when they are dead anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 10:24 PM
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https://spartanscroll.com/2023/dress-code-protection-or-patriarchy/ https://www.familyeducation.com/school-learning/grade/middle-school/are-middle-school-dress-codes-sexist-unfair#google_vignette https://drtimjordan.com/2023/02/school-sexism-objectification-girls-sexualization-rape-school-teenagers/ Read those, they explain why dress codes are sexist and are sexualising young girls
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 10:22 PM
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Feminists have nothing to do with it. Religion is the reason it is still happening, especially in places like America. “The prevalence of male circumcision worldwide is primarily due to the role of religion, although cultural and health reasons have also been significant factors. Male circumcision is compulsory for Jews and is commonly practiced among Muslims.” https://www.bbc.co.uk/ethics/malecircumcision/religions_1.shtml Male circumcision is most prevalent in the US and across Africa and the …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 10:13 PM
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Why would inheritance have anything to do with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:46 PM
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What about the cases where two girls are wearing exactly the same tops but one of the girls has a bigger chest than the other? The girl with the bigger chest is dress coded but the one with the smaller chest isn’t? What about the cases where boys have come into school with similar styles tops to what the girls are wearing but again the girls are dress coded, the boys aren’t? It’s because girls are sexualised from a very young age by adults and boys aren’t
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:34 PM
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Why are you needing it to be a competition of who has it worse? They are both abhorrent. They are both unnecessary. They are both brutal. They both cause trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:28 PM
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No 18% of FGM procedures are carried out in hospitals which means 72% of them are carried out on dirty floors with no anaesthetic or pain relief whilst being held down by several women. That poor girl will be screaming and crying, not understanding why her mum has flown her to another country to be permanently mutilated and traumatised. FGM procedures are carried out because certain cultures believe that a woman should not get any enjoyment out of sexual pleasure and that if a girl/woman has a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:07 PM
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No it won’t undo it. But that’s where your anger should be directed. Towards the people that made that decision. Towards the drs that carried out the procedure. Towards the religion that has made it mainstream in America and towards the government for not putting a law against it. The same way that just because FGM is illegal, once it has been carried out, the parents being arrested for it, doesn’t undo it. They are still left mutilated
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:50 PM
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Your decent into petty name calling does more to shine a light upon your own failings. You can’t win the argument now that you have been enlightened with a perspective and nuance that you did not wish to know and will not accept even though you know logically it is correct. A nuance that threatens your point of view and indeed your own self to the degree to hide behind an empty attack rather than face the truth, sometimes you are wrong. Women aren’t your enemy. You are.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:41 PM
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Fine The NHS isn’t free it’s an eye watering 4% of a monthly paycheck. The real fun thing is that social welfare programs should as the NHS have an economic net positive effect for a county. In effect it pays for itself several times over. By maintaining the health of a nation you allow its population to grow and work more efficiently. Social welfare programs are outstanding like that. The government don’t employ police, build roads and have other services simply for the publics benefit it allow…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:28 PM
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The British health care system is free at the point of access. No amount of medical care will ever come close to putting an individual into any kind of debt. Those who are unable to contribute via tax or don’t contribute via tax get access to it the same as everyone else. So in an essence to them the system is free. No one and I mean no one considers there to be any cost for an ambulance, emergency care or the management of ongoing conditions. One person’s contribution could be considered so low…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:16 PM
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It’s free to all children, it’s free to every pregnant woman, it’s free to everyone who receives welfare. If you aren’t in work earning over a certain amount you don’t pay the negligible tax that goes towards the NHS. If you aren’t in work or you are pregnant, you don’t pay for your prescriptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:06 PM
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Well free at the point of treatment. The UK, we have the national health service, you pay taxes towards it if you are earning but it’s negligible. You don’t have to pay for treatment, to be seen by a dr, calling an ambulance etc. You only have to pay for your prescription if you earn over a certain amount. You can opt to pay monthly so you are paying nothing more than £10 regardless of how many items you have that month.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 06:44 PM
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Doesn’t affect their ability to learn though does it? And if the issue is around it not being appropriate for a classroom environment then they shouldn’t be told they are distracting their male classmates and teachers as a reason they shouldn’t be wearing those clothes
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 06:28 PM
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Like I said in theory that sounds great but men wouldn’t be okay with it. Too many men feel entitled to women’s bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 06:18 PM
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If men in the states don't agree with the draft laws, you need to do something about it, you need to be vocal and protest. You aren't going to insight change by being silent and plowing through.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 03:31 PM
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Why don't men in the US protest against the draft laws?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 03:23 PM
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Which types of FGM are commonly practiced worldwide? Globally, Type I and Type II are the most common FGM procedures. They account for more than 85 percent of all procedures. https://www.hrw.org/news/2010/06/16/qa-female-genital-mutilation
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:37 PM
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Types of FGM Female genital mutilation is classified into 4 major types: Type 1: This is the partial or total removal of the clitoral glans (the external and visible part of the clitoris, which is a sensitive part of the female genitals), and/or the prepuce/clitoral hood (the fold of skin surrounding the clitoral glans). Type 2: This is the partial or total removal of the clitoral glans and the labia minora (the inner folds of the vulva), with or without removal of the labia majora (the outer fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:34 PM
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Victims of FGM are held down by multiple women on a dirty floor. They then get a regular knife and start cutting away at a girls genitals. I have just looked up your claim of type 4 being the most common and it’s not true, there is nowhere it says that. The majority of the girls that go through FGM are teenagers, they remember everything that happens to them. There is no pain relief. It’s not done by a surgical knife. In the most severe cases the girls genitals are sewn up so that there is only …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:32 PM
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Why don’t you sue your parents then for making a decision about your body that you had no say in and as you are stating is impacting your life?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:26 PM
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I don't like America because it's a place both men and women who aren't rich are treated like shit. Its a country where a profit is being made off the back of everything, you don't have a health care system that is free to absolutely everyone, you don't have mandatory holiday days, gun laws wont be changed regardless of the amount of school shootings happening each year, the maternity and paternity leave laws are practically non existent, the anti abortion laws are killing women for no reason, A…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 01:45 PM
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Type into google which laws in America govern men's bodies and see what comes up
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 01:17 PM
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In the United States, there are no federal or state laws that specifically regulate what cisgender men can do with their bodies. The focus of existing legal debates and restrictions primarily concerns the reproductive rights of women and individuals who can become pregnant. - google. I don't have to disagree or agree, that's straight from google
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:42 PM
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Yes in America, the very backward country it is, you have to sign up for selective service, the draft hasn't been imposed since 1973 so although I don't agree with that law, it is having no impact on you is it? Anti abortion laws that have been introduced since roe vs wade being overturned is literally killing women now. The difference is, women are rallying together to stand up against the change of laws, why aren't men rallying together to try change the laws around the draft if you are so aga…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:34 PM
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Around the world, draft laws, also known as conscription or compulsory military service, vary widely. Some countries have mandatory service for men, while others require service for both genders, and some have selective conscription, lottery systems, or require registration for a potential draft. In some cases, like in the US, mandatory service is written in law but rarely enforced. - google
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:20 PM
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I am not saying i agree with the draft, I don't but women had no say in it, the majority of government is still being made up by men. It is up to them to change the laws around the draft. However, the last draft in the states happened in 1973 and has relied on an all voluntary military since. So, you're point around the draft in nil and void considering it isn't something even used in the states anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:14 PM
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The draft is something created and upheld by men
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:02 PM
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It’s irrelevant really isn’t, adults shouldn’t be sexualising children so it shouldn’t matter what they are wearing at school, clothes don’t effect your ability to learn
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:07 AM
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Women were down in the coal mines. I went to a coal mine museum recently with my children last month and the guy that used to work in them explained how women used to work in them too. In 1917 during world war 1, women were allowed to joint the army and made up the women’s army auxiliary corps. But it wasn’t until 2018 that women were allowed on the front line. It hasn’t been women making those rules regarding the army, it has been men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:01 AM
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That’s great in theory but men wouldn’t be okay with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 10:56 AM
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I’ve already said that MGM is disgusting, of course it should be illegal in cases where it isn’t medically necessary. The only reason girls clothes show more skin is because that’s how girls clothes are made. If you go into any clothes shops and compare girls shorts to boys shorts, girls shorts are made shorter, even in toddlers clothes. As long as clothes are appropriate and no one is turning up in essentially underwear, I struggle to understand how their clothes are effecting their learning. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 10:55 AM
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Can you see the majority of men being okay with that? I can’t. Too many men feel like they have a right to have access to women’s bodies for the purpose of sex. Anti abortion laws being in place make having sex for women a risk not worth taking.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 10:21 AM
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FGM is illegal and it’s disgusting but girls that it’s happening to are being flown to a country where it is legal and parents/guardians are only arrested for it if the girls come forward to and say it has happened to them which they often don’t. In your one example of what happened to the boys and girls in a school, it’s disgusting. However, there are way more dress codes on girls than boys. Girls are constantly told they are a distraction to grown ass men and the boys in their year if they are…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 10:16 AM
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Not all women like anal, not all women like giving blow jobs or are able to if they have a sensitive gag reflex
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:58 AM
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Privileged in what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:55 AM
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What would men do if all women refused to have sex unless they wanted to try for a baby? Start reversing laws on marital rape?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:46 AM
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Great, it still doesn’t routinely happen in the UK, I’m not saying it never happens, but it isn’t the norm here. I don’t care who is offended, cutting baby boys foreskins off is disgusting if it isn’t happening for medical reasons. I don’t agree with a lot of what Britain has done in history. The things that happened during the time of British colonialism and the British empire was abhorrent.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:42 AM
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What about women and children who are raped? They didn’t choose to have sex but are now being forced to carry through with that pregnancy. What about all the women on birth control and the birth control failed? You say further down about knowing when you are fertile. It’s really hard to track your cycle and know which days you are ovulating. It’s impossible for women who have irregular cycles. I started going to the Drs when I was 17 asking how to track my cycle naturally, it took until I was 30…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:34 AM
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I’m completely against it, it doesn’t happen routinely in the UK and predominantly happens in the US due to religious reasons. But you know Americans are quite happy to use religion as a way of completely disregarding individuals right to choose
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:22 AM
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It absolutely shouldn’t, women are dying. Women are having miscarriages and needing medical intervention to help pass the baby and are being left to bleed to death, women who have an ectopic pregnancy which is life threatening, non viable pregnancy are being refused treatment. A woman in Georgia is dead and her body is being kept alive as a human incubator. What is happening in the states is absolutely disgusting and the politicians who reversed roe vs wade should be completely and utterly asham…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:16 AM
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Well if you live in the states, the laws around abortion is directly putting laws on women’s bodies
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:05 AM
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On the other side of this there are no laws on men’s bodies but there are when it comes to women’s bodies
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:00 AM
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I would try to be flirty with her, however you have to keep at the back of your head that if she doesn’t feel the same, you are potentially losing a friendship
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 07:26 AM
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Depends where you are in the world. It’s unreasonable in the UK when average income is around £30,000, the majority of the population isn’t earning 6 figures
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 03:48 PM
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This isn't something I ever think about. I don't think I will see it in my lifetime
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:44 AM
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Is this a serious question? What are people doing, going up to people and asking what type of phone they have and then if they say Android, going eww no thanks and walking off. What a ridiculous thing to even get caught up about
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:42 AM
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Why would women being more productive end marriage? You enter into a marriage because you love your spouse and you want to build a life together
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:36 AM
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So let me get this straight, you think it benefits society that men gets laid because if men don't they are going to kill people? All i take from your paragraph is that those men are a problem and that they are a drain on society because they are murderers and entitled
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:26 AM
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Your response to how are women funding their travels was that a man is funding it. Hence my response that every woman I know that has gone travelling has paid for it herself by working whilst she is travelling
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 02:22 PM
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Well I don’t think this is a universal experience for women. Women I know who have travelled around the world have worked in each country to fund their travels
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 02:13 PM
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How is this woman funding her lifestyle whilst she is travelling around the world in a van? Also just because guys are flocking around women, doesn't mean she wants that attention. Ultimately, you need to be in a relationship that you want to be in, with a person you have a deep and genuine connection with. Considering everyone is an individual, there is only a few people you will deeply connect with. They need to be your person, not just a person
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 01:16 PM
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Why do I need to spend time doing this? I’m just refusing to have an opinion on something I don’t have the knowledge around. But asking ai a black and white question doesn’t give you context, you need to know all the reasons why sentencing happens the way it does in order to form an informed opinion and whether the amount of male to female offenders in general has an influence of sentencing too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 09:33 AM
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You want me to spend hours and hours researching something to make you feel better?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 09:26 AM
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Like I said, I would need to do my own extensive research to come to that conclusion
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 09:21 AM
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Well again, you have given two examples. I would need to research every crime of that nature across the world and see on average what the lengths of sentences were in male and female offenders to see on average who receives the longer sentences. I would also have to research how many male offenders there were in comparison to female offenders. What influences judges sentencing. The details of each crime. Extensive research would be needed to be able to come to that conclusion. I always do my own…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 09:18 AM
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No, I don’t know the ins and outs of that case. I don’t know why the judged rule the way they did. I know that there are plenty of cases across the world where both men and women who have committed horrendous crimes have got off with either a slap on the wrist or a much lighter sentence than they should have done. I think the justice system across the world is broken. I have heard that women get off with lighter sentences. I haven’t ever researched lengths of sentences in men and women when it c…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 09:05 AM
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I have empathised. I have repeatedly said what that man has gone through was absolutely abhorrent and that the woman who did the crime didn’t get long enough which must have been devastating for the victim and family. Not agreeing with you over the comparison between that crime and rape isn’t me not empathising with the victim in this case. I don’t have to agree with you over your comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 08:57 AM
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We aren’t going to agree on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 08:53 AM
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Rape victims scars can’t be seen, they are still there, still deep, still last a lifetime. They are both absolutely horrific and abhorrent crimes that have a lifetime impact on the victims mental, emotional and physical well being
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 08:50 AM
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That’s where you are wrong, therapy for rape victims helps them come to terms with their trauma, it doesn’t “fix” them. They still live with that trauma, it will never go away for them. Just like therapy for someone who goes through an acid attack or something similar would get therapy to help them come to terms with the trauma but it will never “fix” them. In both cases therapy helps the victims get to a point where their trauma doesn’t rule their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 08:43 AM
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You’re assuming rape victims damage is less because you cannot see the damage caused. Whereas in this case the damage is incredibly visible so your assumption is that it must be worse than other types of incredibly traumatic events.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 08:36 AM
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What you mean is there is more visible damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 08:30 AM
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Just because you can’t see the damage caused doesn’t mean there isn’t damage caused. Also how do you know physical damage isn’t caused in rape cases, it’s not going to be somewhere you can see is it? Intimacy could be uncomfortable or painful for the rest of their lives. People can have a lifetime physical pain from mental and emotional trauma, especially when it comes to cases of sexual assault and rape. I honestly hate it when people try compare two horrendously traumatic events and say one wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 08:26 AM
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I’m not saying what this man went through isn’t absolutely abhorrent because it absolutely is. I’m telling you stop comparing the two. Being raped is still a physical act happening to a person against their will. The comparison you keep making shows your lack of understanding of how damaging rape can be for the victim. I don’t think what that woman got was long enough, especially for the victim and his family, they will have been devastated by that. The justice system however is broken across th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 08:11 AM
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Rape is horrendous for the victims and causes a lifetime of emotional and mental damage. A lot of rape victims end up having to live with PTSD. Depending on the violence of the rape, they can also end up with physical damage. Just because the scars aren’t visible to others, doesn’t mean they don’t run deep. Trauma is trauma and isn’t comparable. One persons trauma isn’t less than someone else’s just because you can’t always see the scars There are a huge amount of offenders who should get consid…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 07:23 AM
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Boys and girls learn differently, boys are more likely to be kinaesthetic learners but all learning is everyone sat behind a desk. How lessons are delivered and children are expected to learn needs to change. Lessons should be hands on and immersive so that learning is accessible for every child in the classroom. I also think it’s a case of until recently, boys and men have had the upper hand in education and work just because they aren’t girls. Girls and women have been encouraged to work hard …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 09:12 PM
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The education system is broken and it’s failing so many children. It needs overhauling
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 09:01 PM
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It benefits society hugely when welfare exists. It ensures less people are on the street and there is less crime. If people have a roof over their head, foods in their stomachs and money for essentials, they aren’t on the street stealing and committing crimes to get what they need. Taxes are higher when welfare doesn’t exist, those taxes are then used on needing more police presence on the street due to higher rates of homelessness and crime rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 06:10 PM
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It is insecure and it’s controlling. If you wanna date women that are more modest in how they dress and don’t like clubbing, then go out with women that are already like that. Don’t date women that do wear more revealing clothes and go out clubbing and then try change and control what they can and cannot do.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 08:21 PM
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A man that is incredibly insecure, repeats abusive behaviours from one relationship to the next, is entitled and lives their life with the expectation that they shouldn't have to take responsibility or face the consequences of their mistakes or choices. Lies continuously, steals, has the my way or the high way attitude, is bad with money, walks away from their child/children and then goes on to have more with someone else, only to leave that relationship too because "he wasn't the no.1 priority …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 03:14 PM
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No one is asking for your empathy. In the UK, legally you are entitled to welfare if you are earning under a certain amount, you aren't able to work due to caring responsibilities, you are disabled etc. So your point doesn't stand, people are entitled to welfare, no one is entitled to access to someone else's body
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 08:36 AM
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I don't class myself as anything
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 08:30 AM
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From the way they are behaving. There are men who are on the shorter side that are that insecure about their heights they are super sensitive. They get aggro about everything because they take everything as a slight against them. It becomes their entire personality. Once you start doing that, you’re basically shouting to the world, tease me, i will give you a reaction, it will be fun. Women aren’t the worst for teasing those types of men, other men are. Especially in male dominated spaces like b…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:44 PM
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Probably is what you’re used and have grown up around. I do know that if you are making a big deal out of your own insecurities then you are making it too easy for people to rip you for them. These things are only a big deal if you are making them a big deal. People say and do things for a reaction, if you don’t give them one, it takes the fun out of it and it stops
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:41 PM
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Yeah it is really annoying when you’re being treated like that. Unfortunately for me at school, I was painfully quiet so I would never react. One of my sisters survived school by being super aggressive towards both the boys and the girls so that no one would dare say anything to her, never mind lay there hands on her
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:31 PM
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If a taller guy is acting like a nob, I would say they are arrogant and are walking around like they are gods gift and they need a reality check cause they are really not all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:29 PM
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Im not sure what you’re on about. The reason short guys who have short man syndrome get teased is because they make it so easy for people to tease them. If you wear your insecurities like a badge for everyone to see, expect to be ripped for it. Especially if you’re gonna act like a nob to people because of your insecurities. Everyone is insecure about something but you don’t have to make it your entire personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:27 PM
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As a family of short people, the men in my family or men the women have got with (all on the shorter side) have never had an issue with women. Short man syndrome is when a guy acts like a dick and like he is over compensating in the worst way possible. And as a woman that is under 5ft and incredibly quiet, i was bullied from being 4 til I was 18, the guys in my year regularly picked me up, twisted me upside down and dropped me on my head. I am teased as an adult, I’ve been mistaken for a child. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 02:15 PM
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Marriage is a risk for both the man and the woman. The majority of couples, they are both earning a similar amount in wages or the wife has given up her career and financial independence to be a SAHM. If they have bought a home together and don't have children, the advice from divorce lawyers will be to sell the house and take 50/50 on the sale which is fair. If my husband and I split up and divorced, he would be able to rebuild his life easily, I am SAHM mum and full time carer to my disabled c…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 09:58 AM
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https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/male-sex-toys/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=14345381922&gclid=Cj0KCQjwxJvBBhDuARIsAGUgNfiM9Vvanw4NA1MZoUKhAmFwa64FDwmTIXWbaGmpR8GHCoeCBF_1xi0aAh8FEALw_wcB&utm_content=sea_generic&lh_cpt=gen&extProvId=5&extPu=lovehoney-gaw&extLi=14345381922&extCr=126334719099-540425676631&keyword=mens%20toy&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=14345381922 Just in case you need some help finding some toys for men
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 11:00 PM
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Girls, especially teenage girls are brutally nasty, you say girls and women don’t let their insecurities be known but usually the bullying is a projection of their own insecurities
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 04:43 PM
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You could pay for an escort whenever you wanted, then you wouldn’t go without would you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 02:46 PM
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I think driving is a life skill and unless there is a medical reason that physically stops you, you should learn to drive. As an adult, you should want to be as independent as possible and not rely on other people driving you around. This is for both men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:24 AM
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Nope not even a little bit
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 08:05 AM
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Don’t care, isn’t something I even think about
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 08:04 AM
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Everyone is insecure about something which is fine but when that insecurity becomes their entire personality and suddenly it’s everyone’s problem, that’s when it’s an issue
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:04 PM
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It’s the everyone but me mentality
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:27 PM
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Not getting laid wouldn’t bother me. Toys exist for a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:27 PM
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I really hope you never end up in a position where you need to use welfare. Everyone has this attitude of it will never happen to me and everyone who uses welfare is a scrounger. That’s up until they suddenly become disabled, have a severely disabled child, become sick, lose their job and can’t find another, end up a full time carer for a loved one etc
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:05 PM
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Constantly being rude to someone abusive. Verbal abuse is abuse. I’m not disagreeing about that. What you aren’t understanding though people who are abusive are using verbal abuse as a way of breaking down the other person to make it easier to control them. Abusive relationships continue because of the control the abuser exerts over their victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 10:09 PM
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I do believe that some people are like that but this post isn’t about people who are just rude. This post is about women into abusive relationships with abusive men
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:59 PM
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This post is about women in abusive relationships with abusive men. The heart of abusive relationships is control and coercion. They don’t want the woman they are abusing to leave the relationship so they use different methods of control to keep them in the relationship. So in those relationships being verbally abusive towards their partner is to break them down as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:54 PM
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In relationships, coercion and control is at the heart of domestic abuse. Mental, physical, emotional and financial abuse is about breaking someone down as a person and making them believe they are nothing without the abuser. It’s all about controlling them. Coercive and controlling behaviour is at the heart of domestic abuse - womensaid.org.uk
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:41 PM
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Abuse is about control.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:29 PM
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Abusive men don’t treat women as if they are disposable, they want full control over the women in their lives so they don’t leave them
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:27 PM
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https://www.cawc.org/news/what-is-the-psychological-makeup-of-an-abuser/
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:12 PM
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Okay don’t believe me. That’s your prerogative
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 08:19 PM
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Abusive men can literally be anyone. The men who are most likely to be abusive, are the ones who are insecure and that can be for a multitude of reasons. They came from an abusive home. They are insecure in themselves for whatever reason. They are insecure in their jobs/where they are in life. They could be insecure in their academic achievements. Any man can fit into those categories.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 06:56 PM
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The guy who abused me for years was none of those things, he was an introverted, awkward gamer who took advantage of the fact i was 15 and vulnerable as I was being abused at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 06:09 PM
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My husband read your comment and shook his head. Neither of us are a sexual or demisexual. We don't have low libidos. He's a guy that can respect women and sees them as human beings first. He doesn't walk around objectifying women because it's incredibly disrespectful and creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 02:44 PM
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No I’m not a sexual, I’ve spoke to my husband about this and as a grown man thinks that what you do is creepy af. You should be able to walk past people and acknowledge they are good looking without imagining having sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 01:10 PM
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You’re being really creepy, doesn’t matter how you dress it up in your head or try and justify yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 12:45 PM
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They are treated that way already. Women aren’t automatically believed, even once it is in court, it is insinuated you wanted it. I know this from experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 12:44 PM
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Theres a massive difference between acknowledging that someone looks good and undressing them with your eyes and fantasising about having sex with them. One is fine, the other is creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:06 AM
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I don’t really know how I feel about it, I was SA’d as a child by a family member and he went round telling everyone I made it up and he was being falsely accused. He eventually admitted to part of what he did once it went to court but was still saying I made the rest up. Jury said not guilty, judge intervened and said he had to be found guilty for the bit he admitted to. He got a suspended sentence. You just never really know I guess. I hate women that do falsely accuse men because it makes soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:04 AM
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It’s creepy, really creepy. So yes it’s objectifying and dehumanising. You are using these random women going about their day to day lives as a source of sexual gratification for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 03:49 AM
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Objectifying women is seeing them as nothing more than a sexual object or viewing them as sexual objects before you see them as a person. Women don’t exist for a man’s sexual pleasure. You can identify when a thought comes into your head is inappropriate and you can stop the thought rather than turning it into a fantasy in your head. What you are doing is creepy and women should be able to go about their day to day lives without some random man they don’t know fantasising about having sex with t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 01:12 AM
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why am i a demisexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 05:45 PM
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I’ve never gone for the “popular”, what society would class as “good looking” guys. I personally don’t find those guys good looking, they walk around like they are more than they are. My dating history has been with guys who are alternative, nerdy looking, awkward until you get them talking
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 08:00 AM
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Dating apps are one of the worst things to happen to modern dating. It is forcing people to essentially ‘shop’ for a partner. It forces both men and women to have to be superficial in the way they choose someone because all you have are tons of photos. How good a photo comes out depends on how photogenic you are. Plus in real life there is more to attraction than how someone looks, it’s little things like how they smile, their eyes, how they interact with people, how they interact with you etc. …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 07:32 AM
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I’ve never been on dating apps and never would
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 07:10 AM
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Think you’re having a completely separate conversation with yourself, hope you enjoy yourself cause your reply makes no sense in relation to mine. It’s also taken you hours to come back at me with your nonsensical response.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 08:29 PM
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I can’t talk for most women can I? Might be for some, might not be for others. I’ve there are women that date and marry men shorter than them so
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 05:22 PM
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It wouldn’t be a deal breaker for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 04:36 PM
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I mean I’m 4ft 10, not sure I would be able to find a man shorter than me in day to day life
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:54 PM
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If that’s your experience with women then that’s your experience, I can’t really comment on that particular point.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:53 PM
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Well most women just have a basic standard on how they want to be treated, the rest isn’t about standards, it’s about connection. Superficial women will say the guy needs to be a certain height, look a certain way, talk about how much money you make but that’s def not true for all women. Just like some men are incredibly superficial and have superficial standards for the women they wanna date but it doesn’t make it true for all men
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:41 PM
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Okay but you still must have a standard on how you want to be treated in a relationship or just as a person?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:38 PM
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Again that’s basically saying you have no standards because you’re still just saying whatever we can get. Going into anything with no standards is gonna end in disaster cause you will meet people that want to take the piss out of you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:36 PM
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Exactly, that goes both ways, no one should be taken the piss out of
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:32 PM
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Who said anything about you being wrong for having reasonable standards? You just said you’re gonna take what you can get which is having no standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:31 PM
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I mean you can have standards, the I need to take what I can get mentality is just gonna make you seem desperate and that is never a good look. But if you keep that mentality and then get a woman that takes the piss out of you, you can’t complain because you had no standards to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:27 PM
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Many men are mentally ill too
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:20 PM
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No, I’m no, there are always superficial people in the world, both men and women. But if you don’t want a superficial woman, don’t go for one. Can’t say all women are like that when most of us just want a loving relationship with a decent guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:19 PM
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Some people are superficial, others aren’t. So that might be a standard some women have but it’s not true for all
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:17 PM
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Can’t really respond to that, I’m married
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 02:44 PM
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Or maybe not all women are superficial?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 02:43 PM
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Well maybe the women who are saying good men are boring are chasing something that you wouldn’t wanna engage with anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 02:42 PM
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They are basic standards, so yeah course it’s fair as a man if you meet a woman and she can’t even meet the basic standard of looking after herself or being able to communicate to turn her down. Do you wanna feel like you are in a relationship with an adult or a grown child?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 02:42 PM
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Exactly that’s my point. Amount of men on this sub wanting women to lower their standards and most women just want a good partner where there is love and respect going both ways, which should be bare minimum
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 12:53 PM
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What do you class as high standards? Expecting you to be working? Self sufficient? Be able to pick up after yourself and be able to do your own housework? Be a good person? Share the same morals and values as your potential partner? Being good at communicating? Being able to consider someone else’s wants and needs as well as your own?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 11:51 AM
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This is more in line with my own lived experience. I have always prioritised personality and how well we get on over anything else
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 12:51 PM
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Are people really meeting through online dating apps? I have known people who have used online dating but there partners or the person they have married, have ended up being someone they have met at some point in there life, whether it is has been someone they used to work with, someone they reconnected with from school/college/uni, through friends/family. I think i only know one person who has actually married someone they met on an online dating app
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 12:51 PM
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Only in places like America and the middle east does religion affect policies. I don't live in the states. I live in a country where we keep religion out of politics. We aren't imposing laws on other peoples bodies based on religious beliefs. We aren't using religion in schools to stop access to sex education. We aren't banning books. So all you're are doing is calling out that you live in a corrupt country where your politicians allow religion to corrupt law and control the masses
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:39 AM
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I would disagree and say religion comes from trauma, you spend your entire lives living in fear of not living in a way of making this fictional character happy. You worry you wont go to fictional heaven. That fictional satan will taint your souls and that if you make fictional god unhappy you will end up in fictional hell. I don't live in fear of any fictional being or fictional place.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:25 AM
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yeah as far as I am concerned God and Satan aren't real. They are fictional characters in a fictional story that was written in an attempt to control the masses. You may believe God is love. You obviously believe God exists and that's fine, but I don't along side millions of other people who also don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:16 AM
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If you are sat saying you can't have love without God. Then are you saying those who don't believe in God can't love?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:08 AM
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Athiests are doing fine without religion. We don't believe there is a god therefore the god you believe in doesn't come into our relationships or marriages at all
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:02 AM
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Men also take the piss our other men, when a man goes past really revving his engine, my husband will turn round to me and say he’s quite clearly got small dick energy. Not all Men care about boob size or body size, they will say things to hurt women when they mock them if they feel so inclined to. I was called tissue tits through school cause I had a bigger chest, the guys in my year thought they would get a rise out of me for saying it. That was the only reason they said it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:37 AM
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Can we stop with these questions about dick size. You know your only asking so you can go “see i told you it matters to women”. When anyone mocks someone else, they go for the thing they are most likely going to get a reaction from. Men do it all the time to women too, whether that’s by commenting on the size of her chest or the size of her body
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:16 AM
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Sex should be about both partners enjoying it and connecting. It is very obvious when both men and women are enjoying sex. Sex shouldn’t be an act that men are doing to women. If that is how sex is feeling, you should be stopping and communicating with your partner. If your partner doesn’t seem to be enjoying it, you should be stopping and communicating with your partner. Men will often orgasm from sex every time due to the physical movement. It hards for women from PIV alone to orgasm, they oft…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 12:39 PM
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My husband and I got together when we were 21, we obviously didn’t move in together straight away. He was little in a house share and when I went around, he seemed really tidy. When he moved in, I ended up doing 100% of the chores but I was a SAHM and he was working full time so even though it was a tad frustrating when he wasn’t putting his clothes away or popping them in the wash basket, I didn’t really mind. He grew up with his mum staying at home doing 100% of the household chores and his da…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 12:10 PM
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Circumcising boys when there is no medical reason to do so is genital mutiliation. It isn’t practiced routinely across the world, it tends to be popular in America. Religion or culture isn’t a reason mutilate anybody
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 11:20 PM
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I didn't say sub men were rare, I said there are less sub men than sub women. It isn't a surprise there are more sub men than they are dominant women because we aren't brought up or socialised to be dominant. Dom men really don't like being with women who aren't naturally submissive either. They don't want to have to teach them how to be submissive or for it to be a battle. There is a difference between being bratty and fighting with someone because they don't want to fully give up control. It's…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:56 AM
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If you join any BDSM sub reddits or forums, you will find lots of male subs. There are less men sub than there are women subs but I think there are lots of reasons for it. There are lots of reasons why dom/sub relationship exists, it can be a safe space where women/men can indulge in their submissive side if it is part of them. It can be a nice break from reality, day to day people can feel like they are having to juggle lots of things and be in control of a lot at work and in the home and its s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:47 AM
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My husband and I got together when we were 21. For the first few years of our relationship I was a stay at home mum so I did all of the housework and childcare. When we were younger, he would come home from work, go spend an hour in the bath, come down and eat and then would help with bedtime but that was the extent of it in regards to his contribution at home. When we were around 26/27, we swapped roles as my husband started uni so I started working full time, which meant he then was mainly res…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:20 AM
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Think this is very much a you issue and is very telling over your attitude towards women. You think what you like sweetheart
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 01:18 PM
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No men and women aren't the same but you wouldn't put a blanket claim over what men like would you? You know that men are individuals, what they like in a relationship and sexually isn't going to be the same as all other men. You men are never going to be sat here asking other men what is the perfect size pussy? You aren't going to be there saying it needs to be as tight as tight can be otherwise it is no good.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 01:11 PM
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I met my husband when we were 16, we reconnected when we were 21 at a pub. We exchanged numbers, neither of us were ready for a relationship so we chatted for nearly a year, didnt sext or send pics, just chatted. He invited me to things he was doing a couple of times. We were seeing each other properly for a few weeks before we slept together. We didn't know what either of us looked like without our clothes on before that point. Both of us were very emotionally invested by the time we had sex fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:52 AM
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There is never going to be one true consensus because women are individuals. All our bodies are different, how we feel is all different. Men aren't all the same, some men prefer bums, some prefer boobs, some men like big boobs, some men like small to average boobs. Some men like big bum, some like small bums. Some men like really curvy women, some men like athletic bodied women, some men like slim women, some men like bigger women Etc. Are you going to put a post up saying that all men are lying…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:44 AM
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It really is. I don't understand why this question keeps being asked, they don't want our honest answers, they want us to lie and tell them what they want to her. I can guarantee you if we did that, they would still be angry and aggressive with their answers
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:32 AM
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Look my husband has an endowed penis and actually, a lot of the time, unless i am really worked up, it is painful and I have to ask him to stop and then I am sore after which is no fun. My orgasms with him happen during foreplay when his dick is nowhere near me. When we do have sex, it feels the best when only the head is in. So no, I don't think it is a huge plus point, it can make sex really awkward. I think the sweet spot is probably around average for the majority of women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:04 AM
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Probably real life women giving you honest answers. There's a huge difference by a preference and how we actually feel about it. Women are repeatedly saying we just want a man that cares about our pleasure too and makes an effort to find out what we like, what we don't like. It's more about what you are doing than not doing. The majority of women struggle to orgasm from PIV sex alone. The majority of our nerve endings are in the clitoris. So from our perspective, below average is fine, average i…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 10:54 AM
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This question has been asked repeatedly over the last week and a bit and women are giving answers and there is one man after another in this sub telling us that we are lying. You are going to believe what you like at the end of the day
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 10:37 AM
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It’s complicated and there are lots of contributing factors as to why boys are falling behind in education
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:11 PM
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Well it does, boys are less likely to be auditory learners than girls, a lot of boys are kinaesthetic learners. I thought I had put something about men’s role in society and how the message for boys and men being mixed now that they are no longer “the breadwinner” but I can’t see it now. And then I mentioned negative influencers that boys are watching
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 03:08 PM
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Yeah that doesn’t make it okay, school shootings shouldn’t be happening. End of. School shootings don’t happen in other parts of the world where gun laws or really strict. The fact that Americans refuse to change their gun laws despite children dying every year from school shootings, is disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:37 PM
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What’s your experience of the teaching profession? Considering you think you know so much about it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 10:24 AM
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You have no idea how much teachers do, they don’t have “3 months off”. They are working through that time getting ready for the next school year, they are just working from home. All your comments are highlighting is the lack of knowledge you have for what is involved in being a teacher, their work load and your lack of knowledge of education in general. In 2024 there were 488 mass school shootings in the USA. That is absolutely disgusting and teachers should be paid danger pay for even having t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 10:09 AM
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I did just look up what teachers make in America too and it’s not great, average is around $71,000 which is equivalent to around £50,000 in the UK. Considering house prices in the states is around $400,000. And the cost of living is more expensive in the states than the UK then yeah. It’s a bit of a crap salary, adding the fact that school shootings are so common there and teachers don’t know whether they are going to leave alive from one day to the next, pay is rubbish.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 09:37 AM
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I live in the UK where education is chronically underfunded. You understand America isn’t the entire world don’t you and children doing worse in school, especially boys is something that is happening in other countries other than the states too?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 09:31 AM
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I don’t think you understand what being equal is, being equal doesn’t mean giving everyone the same, it means to give everyone the same opportunities by putting things in place so everyone starts on an equal footing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:08 AM
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I have worked in education and the reason children are doing worse in schools is because the education sector is chronically underfunded. Teachers are under a ridiculous amount of pressure which is ultimately transferred on to the kids. Most children aren’t auditory learners and with the fact that there is so much to get through in the curriculum, it is leaving teachers with the inability to make their lessons more creative and meet the learning needs of all their students. In the UK, there aren…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 06:12 PM
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Men and women concentrate on different details, we prefer concentrating on the detailed scenes of what the guy is doing to the woman and imagining it happening to us. But I’m glad that you are concentrating so much on the guys penis size in the story. Are the guys in this sub straight with how hung up on dick size they are? It’s a little like tell us you’re not straight without telling us you’re not straight, obsess over dicks 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 09:52 AM
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When women are insecure about something when it comes to their bodies, it usually has nothing to do with what a man might think about it or male preference. It’s usually to do with how it makes them feel about their own bodies, their own confidence. Don’t think women care whether you think they should or shouldn’t get a boob job or boob reduction. It’s their bodies, they need to do whatever is gonna make themselves feel more comfortable in their own bodies. For some women, having that surgery he…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 10:32 PM
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Comparing things teenagers are temporarily worried about to grown ass men obsessing over their dick size isn’t the same. Women get to the point they don’t care what men think about how big their boobs are, they care how they feel about them. Women that have smaller boobs and don’t like them and can afford it will pay for a boob job, women that feel like their boobs are too big and can afford will pay for a breast reduction. Rest of us just deal with what we have
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 10:06 PM
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If a woman has chosen to settle down with someone, more often than not they are more than happy with how their sex life is. A man might really like big boobs, their wife might not have the biggest boobs they have ever seen or touched, doesn’t mean they are unhappy with her boobs. Those boobs are attached to the woman he loves so he loves her boobs, they are enough. Same goes for women, his member is attached to the person she loves, might not be the biggest she’s had but doesn’t mean she doesn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 09:19 PM
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Well like I said, you can only talk for you, you aren’t the only guy in the world with what you are describing as a micro penis and other men with them from what I’ve heard and personally seen in one of the jobs I used to do have managed to get into successful long term relationships, marriage, kids. According to you that would be impossible because “women only care about the size of your dick”.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 08:10 PM
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There’s gonna be exceptions to the rule when you go to extremes, if you’re going to the point that a guys dick is that small the woman can’t feel anything when he has entered her then she’s not going to get any pleasure from it. But if you’re a guy that owns the fact that his length may not be his strength but he’s really good at oral and with his hands, he is happy to use toys to help and he is happy receiving oral and using her hands. Then it’s not gonna be a deal breaker is it. It’s just not …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 07:53 PM
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Surely there is more to you than the size of your dick? I’ve come across tons of posts from men who are much smaller than average that are in successful relationships, they accept their size and become good in bed in other ways. From their posts or the woman’s post that is talking about her partner, they have great relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 06:06 PM
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I think it’s really sad you’re dehumanising men the way you are doing. It’s really gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:57 PM
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Based on the fact in your words “you are too small for women to enjoy PIV sex”. You can’t comment on anything other than the fact you haven’t had good experiences when it comes to sex due to your much smaller than average size.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:56 PM
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Well if you’re a lot smaller than average how can you comment on what women like?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:53 PM
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Because I don’t reduce men down to their cock size….why you dehumanising men like that? They are whole people with personalities. My relationships are built on whether we get on, can meet each others needs and want the same things in life. The two people I’ve had the best sex with was the ex before my husband who is an amazing person but we were at different stages in our lives and my husband, I wanted to settle down, marry, have kids and so did he. We both love music and go to gigs together, we…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:52 PM
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You need to work with what you’ve got then don’t you, either be willing to do something about it or use toys to help. Don’t blame women. You can’t help your size but it’s not women’s fault if you’re too small either. Sitting there telling women it’s their fault that you are too small to enjoy PIV sex with isn’t helping yourself is it. If you want to enjoy sex and you want a partner to enjoy the sex too, something has to give
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:46 PM
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I know exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:40 PM
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Well the ex i had before him was well endowed but shit in bed. He was a twat all round to be honest. Hence him being my ex. I married my husband cause we are very similar personality wise and he’s a family man. The guy before him wasn’t ready to settle down however well we got on. I’m not going to stay with someone I enjoy having sex with if he didn’t want the same things as me at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:37 PM
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Does change whether they will say you are good or bad in bed though
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:31 PM
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Have you not got a mouth and fingers?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:23 PM
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Before I got married, the guy I was with before was average size, he was amazing in bed. We didn’t work cause we were on different paths when it came to our lives. It’s not something he ever struggled with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:21 PM
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It is babe isn’t it? 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:14 PM
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You know we are on the receiving end don’t you? The amount of men who are shit in bed but instead of upping their game will blame everything else as to why women are underwhelmed. Maybe you’ve just been with shit women if that’s the case, maybe you should pick better 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:13 PM
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I do enjoy sleeping with him, he’s attentive, he pays attention to me, he’s amazing at foreplay, he doesn’t get offended when I ask to get off me when he’s hurting me and still helps me get to the big O. Then once I’ve got there, I give him attention to make him. Sex is more than penetrative sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:10 PM
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So your whole argument is based on you projecting cause you aren’t good in bed if your size is holding you back?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 05:04 PM
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Oh doesn’t that fit with the narrative you have? Is that why you don’t believe me? Interesting isn’t it that if I said he was smaller than average, my toys get more action you would believe me but because I’ve said the opposite you’re gonna believe I’m lying. You’re gonna believe whatever you wanna believe cause that makes you feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 04:50 PM
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At what point are women finding out how big you are?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 04:46 PM
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I often tell him to get off me cause he’s hurting me 😂😂 I use my toys instead, they don’t hurt me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 04:43 PM
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This!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 04:02 PM
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You completely missed my point. My point was that size doesn’t guarantee quality and women are going to prioritise quality over quantity. Women won’t tolerate shit sex just because the guy has a big dick. So even the study says the preference might be for it be bigger, in practice, women care more about what the guy can do with it. Which is why I have repeatedly said size preference is not that deep at all. Guys think women are more hung up on it than we actually are. We just want to be with a g…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 04:01 PM
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My husband is well endowed and we use toys regularly, it adds to it. He enjoys it too. He often buys them for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 03:56 PM
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Did you have to go to an extreme to try and prove a point? Men with micropenises make up around 1.5 men in 10,000. It’s extremely uncommon so it’s not something the majority of men have to worry about is it? So unless you are part of that 1.5 men in 10,000, I wouldn’t worry yourself with it. Also if you aren’t one of those men, you can’t talk for them on how they are getting on when it comes to relationships they are or aren’t having with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 03:55 PM
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You’re missing the point. The point was you can find a study to back whatever point you want to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 03:31 PM
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The only person you have to be good for is your partner, you do that through communication. Sex is more than just penetration, it’s the build up, the foreplay, the kissing, sometimes it’s involving sex toys. A guy might think they are the best in the world but if they are being selfish in bed, they are gonna be crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 03:30 PM
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You want something to mean more to us than it does. Just because in an ideal world someone might have a preference doesn’t make it that deep. It’s not non negotiable type deep. All you are getting from all your studies is women are being asked a direct question and being given a direct answer. There is no context to it. If someone said to me do you want a standard size chocolate bar or an 800g chocolate bar. I would pick the 800g one but then when I received it, if it was cheap chocolate and tas…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:56 PM
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😂😂😂😂 such a man thing to say. I’m right and I’m going to be right, hang on a minute, I just need to spend all day proving I am right 😂😂😂😂. Bless ya
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:47 PM
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My point was you can find a study to back any point you want to make. Women aren't making post after post about men's size. Only men are. Which is very telling about who this is more important to. It is also incredibly weird, the men on this sub are going on and on about something they can't change. What's the end goal? Are you just trying to be right? Or are you trying to make insecure men even more insecure? They have tons of women on here saying at the end of the day, men's size isn't that de…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:31 PM
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There is a different study that states that women would say that width was more important than length when it comes to sexual satisfaction https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC33342/ So you know, you can probably find a study that has been done that is going to back up the point you are trying to make
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:56 PM
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I think the issue you are having is when we say it is less important for women than men, is we don't obsess about it, we are often not discussing it with our friends, especially as we get older. If women have had a few sexual partners with different sizes, what we have been most concerned about at the end of those encounters is how it felt. You can be with a guy that is bigger and it can be awful or you could be with a guy that is bigger and it can be the best sex of your life. But that also wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:50 PM
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Well considering 76% of men have accessed porn in comparison to 53% of women. 36% of men admit to accessing porn once a week compared to 4% of women. And only 15% of women are accessing porn frequently. https://yougov.co.uk/society/articles/42945-how-often-do-britons-watch-porn So considering those stats, not many women in the UK are even watching porn at all in comparison to men in the UK. When you start putting your stats into perspective like that, there isn't much to go in is there?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:18 PM
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You mean personal preference? I am struggling to understand why you need to 'educate the masses' as you call it? You can't change the size of your member so what you hoping to achieve except make insecure men even more insecure?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:07 PM
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The lengths the men on this sub reddit are going to to have long conversations about penis size. It's a little concerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:01 PM
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So many are hurt by a loved one dying, death can destroy the lives of those around the person that has passed. How is that comparable to a bruised ego?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:55 PM
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I didn't use that comparison, mine was between dildos and those fake pussys. You mentioned sleeves
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:55 PM
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Have I said at any point it is? Or have I repeatedly said that if someone is using sex toys as a way of hurting their partner then that person shouldn't continue a relationship of any sort with that person? If a woman says to a man, i need a toy because you aren't big enough, the guys response should be, you enjoy that toy cause you aren't seeing me again. Bye. Then you walk away, acknowledge that hurt and realise that there will be someone else out there that isn't a hurtful POS.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:51 PM
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A bruised ego isn't really hurting anyone is it, in the grand scheme of things. You can get your ego hurt in any situation. That's just life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:46 PM
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Are we having the same conversation because at no point anywhere have i even slightly suggested that. Sex toys are used in a lot of healthy relationships regardless of a mans size. I have always used them with my partners whether they have been above average, average or slightly below average. It has added to both our pleasures and they are fun. They can be a really positive addition to a healthy sex life. The majority of men and women who have used them in their sex lives have enjoyed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:42 PM
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Sex is about communication on both sides but it is also about sensitivity. If a woman is being that insensitive to the point of being cruel then the guy shouldn't continue to engage in an intimate relationship with them. The conversation around sex toys should be allowed to be brought up and discussed in a way of adding to a healthy intimate relationship without either party being offended by the suggestion. Again, the outcome of that conversation is going to be dependent on how it is being disc…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:32 PM
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Look if you are wanting to reach somewhere to make your woman feel good and you can't reach but still want to give her that pleasure, what would you like the suggestion to be?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:58 AM
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I mean if you are with a woman that is being nasty about your size, maybe don't be with her and find someone nicer to be intimate with. I would be saying the same to a woman if a guy was being nasty to a woman about her tightness and comparing to their toy too. At the end of the day, toys don't feel as good as the real thing and if someone is pretending it does to hurt you, bin them off
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:54 AM
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Look if you have a fragile ego that is threatened by a toy, think that is more of a you problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:49 AM
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This exactly, its up to the individuals to decide what they see as manipulative and what they see as a bit of harmless fun. Not other people witnessing the exchange
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:48 AM
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Because it's fun and it gives them both a bit of an ego boost, it can give you an in without the awkwardness of going over and saying something. They are both joining in with the little game. And it's harmless
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:36 AM
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The men in these situations know the woman could probably figure it out themselves but they enjoy playing the hero that is coming over and saving the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:30 AM
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Sex toys are a lot of fun and add to a healthy sex life, at no point does it replace a guys dick. Sex toys for men also add to a healthy sex life and can be a lot of fun, they aren’t replacing women’s vaginas are they. No man is saying my toy is tighter than you so I’m never gonna have sex with you again. The feel of skin on skin is just way too good. Yeah it’s common sense to advise lube and lots of foreplay if you’re on the bigger size otherwise you are going to hurt the woman you are having s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:22 AM
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This is where you are so wrong!! You being bigger wouldn't make women 'orgasm all the time'. THE MAJORITY OF WOMEN CANNOT ORGASM FROM PENETRATION ALONE!!!!! I don't understand how you aren't getting this. The majority of a woman's nerve endings are around and on the clit, that is why they need that stimulation to reach that big O. Your lack of knowledge around a woman's body and her pleasure is astounding.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:58 AM
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No its not, that spot is roughly 4 inches in, you only have to be around 4 inches to reach it. It might be trickier if you are smaller than that but sex toys and fingers exist. Besides it feels the best between the entrance of the vagina and the g-spot which is only 2 inches in, where most of the nerve endings are. So yeah you can keep banging on about needing to be 'well endowed' to pleasure a woman but you don't need to be 'big' to do it. You need to care about the woman's pleasure and have fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:51 AM
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If the vaginal canal is less than 5 inches long on average when a woman's aroused, you don't need to be more than 5 inches long do you? I don't know any women that enjoy getting their cervix hit, for me it is incredibly painful, it makes me bleed and have horrible period type pain. I have looked it up, the c spot isn't the cervix, its near the cervix in line with the clitoris. Again, considering the average vaginal canal is around 4.75 (under 5 inches long), you don't need to be above average si…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:37 AM
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No woman wants their cervix hit, it really really hurts and can make you want it all to stop. The G-spot isn't that far into a woman's vagina. Also the vaginal canal when aroused is just under 5 inches long. Considering on average a man's penis is around 5 inches when aroused, anything more than that can be painful for women. It is men that are obsessed with how big they are, not women. I have been with guys that are average size and men who are bigger. They both can feel great but they can both…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:27 AM
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If you’re single, it’s not impacting your life and what you’re watching is legal, then what you do in the privacy of your own home has nothing to do with anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:38 PM
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I think this is hard question to answer because although there may be an overlap with some people, every woman is different and essentially is going to be attracted to a different part of a guys personality. I think the overlapping traits will probably be driven, have a sense of humour, be able to laugh at himself, confident in himself/who he is, down to earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:39 PM
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Men who view women as commodities they can purchase don’t view women as people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 08:30 PM
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When I married my husband, I made a life commitment to him. I married him for who he is, not what his earning potential was. Life is full of ups and downs and one day you could be doing really well and the next you could lose everything. You shouldn't be marrying anyone if you are only choosing to stay when life is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 01:07 PM
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As a woman who is under 5ft, the vast majority of men are taller than me so I’ve never even considered height an issue. I’ve never asked a guy what their fitness level is, I’m more bothered about are they healthy? I wouldn’t want to be with someone who is going to have one after another weight related illnesses or diet related illnesses because they aren’t looking after themselves on a basic level. Like my husband loves pizza and probably left to his own devices he would eat it for every meal wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 07:01 PM
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Once you have found out you are pregnant, it isn’t an easy to decision to make to get an abortion. It’s not an oh well, contraception didn’t work, I will just go get an abortion now. It’s a huge decision for most women and can be an incredibly traumatic decision that they live with forever. But that is beside the point of this post. His friend is knowingly finishing inside random women and hoping for the best without him having to take any responsibility for his behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:19 PM
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If your friend doesn’t want children he shouldn’t be nutting in anyone. Even if the woman had used Plan B, it’s not even guaranteed to work. My sister used plan B and now my nephew is 2. If this woman is pregnant, he’s gonna have to step up financially if nothing else and use it as a lesson to keep it wrapped up. When it comes to reproduction, you take responsibility for yourself and you don’t trust anyone else with it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:44 AM
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To most women, the standard is do it properly, if you're going to do the washing up, make sure the sink is clean before you start and the draining board and then the pots are actually clean by the time you are finished. If you are putting a load of laundry on, make sure you actually turn the washing machine on, empty it once it is done. If you are gonna sort and fold clothes, do all of it, not just 3/4 of it and then get bored. Hoover properly, not just around things and miss a lot of the floor.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:00 PM
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If a man isn't capable of behaving like an adult, he needs to stay single or stay living with his mother. Children need managing, they need reminding to do tasks around the house, they need to be asked. If as a man you can go to work and use your initiative to do your job without someone next to you going through every single step every day, then you are capable of coming home and using that same initiative to see that pots need washing, clothes need putting in the washing machine or folding and…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 01:17 PM
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Why does it need spelling out like that? If you are in a partnership and you live together, you are both equally responsible for maintaining the home. She shouldn't have to ask in the first place, never mind ask multiple times or 'nag'. You shouldn't have to be told that the relationship will end if you don't start pulling your weight. That's the whole point of the post. Men aren't children, they are adults who are perfectly capable of using their eyes to see what needs doing around the home and…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 12:45 PM
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I would argue that child support is optional, especially here in the UK, the man can choose not to pay even if you take it to child maintenance service. He can put down the wrong address so they can't find him, he can just work cash in hand or for family so his paycheck passes the books or so not all of his paye goes through HMRC. He can go on benefits so they are only taking like £20 a month. He can leave the country. He can claim he is self employed and his income is unstable so they won't tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 10:18 AM
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But at what point is he deciding he doesn’t want to be a father? From the minute she finds out she is pregnant? A few weeks/months in? After the baby is born? Did he do everything he could to actively prevent the pregnancy from happening? And what happens if he decides he doesn’t want that baby and has the view point he shouldn’t be financially responsible either, she feels pressured into aborting, few years later she settles down with a partner and she finds out that abortion made her infertile…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 09:22 AM
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I almost agree with this comment except the bit where you say it’s the woman’s fault. Where I stand with it is if a man doesn’t want children at that point in his life or at all, he should be making sure that he is taking responsibility for contraception at the point sex is happening. Even if the woman is on birth control, with the fact that no birth control is 100% effective, he should also be wrapping it up. If he hasn’t done what he can to prevent a pregnancy in the first place then it doesn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 09:11 AM
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The patriarchy is ingrained into society and both men and women subconsciously uphold it even when it is detrimental to both. The patriarchy is a bad thing for both men and women, it holds people into roles that hinders them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:34 PM
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You understand women also fight in the army don't you? You also understand the world isn't a nice place for women and girls don't you? The world isn't a nice place for a lot of men either for a multitude of reasons. The thing is, this us against them mentally is stupid. Get your head out of wherever it is, women do a lot of good for humanity and so do men and if we concentrated on the good we do for each other rather than what isn't fair, the world would be a lot better.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:19 PM
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I think you need to go study sociology or just history in general before making wild statements like you have. Women don't need men at all, we have them in our lives because we want them in our lives. Women and girls are doing better in education and in the work place now.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:58 PM
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Sex should happen naturally, it shouldn’t need bringing up like that, either you’re really hitting it off, loads of chemistry, things are getting a bit steamy or you’re not.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:58 AM
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Do this for yourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:38 PM
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Of course men and women are going to be treated differently over reproductive rights. Men don’t carry the babies in their bodies. Your job is done after 2 minutes, if you last that long. Contraception mainly falls on women’s shoulders and it can fail and a woman should get to decide whether she goes through with that pregnancy or not, it’s happening to her body and she alone is carrying the risks that go along side, some that can be permanent. Considering it isn’t happening to a man’s body they …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:47 PM
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I’ve never said to my husband I’m sorry we can’t have sex, we have nothing to celebrate but next time there is, we will book it in 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:12 AM
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That’s because it’s America, the place where they will fleece you for every penny in all aspects of life. I mean you aren’t even trusted to cross the street over there
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 09:15 AM
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Well that’s not true, if a step parent adopts the child then the bio dad no longer pays child support, in the UK it’s not hard for men to get out of paying it. Not having an address is one way, cash in hand, being self employed and claiming their income isn’t consistent, leaving the country. My dad just went abroad so he didn’t have to pay, my mates kids bio dad just didn’t put his address down anywhere or put his ex’s address, I’ve known other guys that just claimed they were self employed. I k…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 09:07 AM
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Not sure how it works in the states but in the UK child support is worked out by how much each parent has the child so if it’s 50/50 neither parent pays child support, if either parent has the child more then the parent that has the child less pays child support
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 08:59 AM
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The rise of loneliness has coincided with the use of the internet and social media as well as people having to work more to bring in the same amount of money to stay comfortable or for a lot of people just to make ends meet. This is giving everyone less time to get out and socialise, meet up with people or meet new people. Everyone has less money to spend on going to the pub for example or doing other activities. Young people’s habits are changing too, less young people are drinking. When I was …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:52 PM
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Actually the beauty standard created around what a woman should look like was created by men. The majority of the major beauty magazines and runway shows are owned by men. Women then want to live up to what they see and are pressured by society to look a certain way. Hence why women end up being judgy towards other women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 10:56 AM
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I know guys who are happy engaging in casual sex, i also know guys that like me only want to have sex within a relationship. I got married when I was 24, we started dating when we were 21. So you know, this has worked for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 01:35 PM
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Yeah, I have never been with someone I haven't had an emotional connection with, that includes two people that I thought would turn into a relationship at the time but didn't. I know with both of them, had I known that it wasn't going to go anywhere, I wouldn't have gone there at all
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 11:50 AM
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Can't speak for all women but I definitely do need an emotional connection with someone to be able to sleep with them
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 11:45 AM
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I think there are differences in they societal pressures of men and women. I think the pressure on men is that they are good providers and work in jobs where there is room for progression. There is also the pressure of being a good partner and dad but I also feel like right now there are mixed messages to men and boys about the role in the home considering there has been a massive shift in how homes look. I think this adds added pressure, especially if they have some people in their life saying …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 09:58 AM
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When only 3% of cases is actual paternity fraud, it isn’t happening that much is it? Like I’ve continually said, those who have doubts around paternity are free to go buy a test. If you’re in a marriage or long term relationship though and there has never been any reason to doubt each other or any trust broken, then don’t be surprised if the woman walks. You might say well that’s not fair because…..but indirectly you are accusing her of cheating, manipulating you and being deceitful. If the test…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 05:56 PM
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Religious texts are there to control the masses. They have portrayed women as being disobedient and curious so they can push the rhetoric that women need men to “keep them in their place” otherwise they are “too emotional” and “unable to make good decisions”.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 04:45 PM
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Trust goes both ways, the fundamentals of a relationship is trust and if you don't have it a relationship will not work. Women shouldn't be with a guy that they don't trust to stay loyal and faithful and man shouldn't be with a woman they don't trust to stay loyal and faithful. In a healthy marriage or relationship, there is no need for paternity tests, you should both be trusting each other. If a man said to me, I don't trust you enough to trust that baby is mine, my response would be why did w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 01:45 PM
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Look if you’re having kids with women you don’t trust, choose better. Isn’t that what you guys say if it’s the other way round?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 11:07 AM
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Most contraception has a 97% success rate at preventing pregnancy, women aren't going to say well there is 3% chance it might not work so I am not going to have sex unless they bring in something that removes all chances. 97% of dad's aren't being defrauded by women over paternity, only 3% are. So those 3% can take paternity tests you can buy or they can abstain. It's a ridiculous to expect 100% of dad's to take a paternity test when 97% of them would probably laugh and refuse it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:04 PM
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So is the answer is no, you don't have children. So this is your second post where you quite clearly have a thing about paternity fraud yet it doesn't affect you at all because you don't have kids. Honestly, I would worry about something else than get your knickers in a twist about it. Majority of men who have kids don't worry about it considering it only happens in up to 3% of cases so why are you, someone who is childless, so caught up on it'?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 02:57 PM
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OP do you have children?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:52 AM
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Your post is literally arguing for something that isn't necessary and some of the stuff you have put in it is wild, babies do get swapped in US hospitals, there was a case recently where a dad went for a paternity test and the results came back that he wasn't the father, mum begged him to believe her that she hadn't cheated, the relationship ended, turned out the baby had been swapped by the hospital, she hadn't cheated. They had both been raising someone else's child whilst also knowing that th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:06 AM
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You are trying to argue for something that isn't necessary, it would be a waste of tax payers money especially considering they are so easy to pick up and buy if you feel like that is something you need to do, especially when the cases of paternity fraud in the US is between 1% and 3% and again similar statistics for the UK.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 10:47 AM
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I read your post, standardised paternity tests aren't necessary. A lot of babies come out as a spitting image of their dad, if your Mrs has a baby and you aren't sure that baby is yours, you are free to buy an easily accessible test at any point. There is no need for them to become standardised, majority of dads aren't worried they are raising a baby that isn't theirs or that their children don't have a '"complete family medical history"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 10:36 AM
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There is no need for standardised paternity tests, they are easily accessible, if you think your Mrs has slept with someone else and the baby isn't yours, buy a test, don't expect your relationship to survive it but that's just what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 10:27 AM
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I don’t necessarily agree with this, I think teenage girls and young women spend a lot of their time trying to understand guys and what they like, for example when I was a teenager all of rom coms depict ditsy girls/women as being the most attractive to guys. It wasn’t uncommon then for the girls in my year and then women in their early 20s to behave like this thinking that would be more attractive to the guys. Girls and young women are told a lot through their peers, social media etc how to beh…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 01:58 AM
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A good happy supportive marriage and happy well rounded children is what I value the most in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:03 PM
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When me and my hubby first started chatting, I gave him my number before he asked cause we really hit it off. We were then texting after that for nearly nine months and then he came round to mine the first few times, I went round to his a couple of times and then we went for a drink and a film, we went halves from what I remember. Then he came round and didn’t really leave 😂. I don’t really like doing expensive dates, rather save money for other stuff. We were both broke when we met each other t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:38 PM
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Not everyone wants to go to uni or go when they are older. You can get married and have kids and then go back into education later on in life if you want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:31 PM
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I must be surrounded by them then cause most couples I know including myself either got married in their early 20’s, met in their early 20’s stayed together and then married or met at school and are now married
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 01:50 PM
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How do you explain couples who marry in their early 20s? Or couples who have been together since school and then marry?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 01:46 PM
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You asked for the difference, there’s the definitions. You don’t need my opinion, easier for you to read the definitions to understand the difference. Masculinity is the qualities of a man, toxic masculinity is the toxic parts of masculinity that are not needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 09:49 PM
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AI Overview Toxic masculinity is a harmful set of attitudes and behaviors that are often associated with masculinity. It can negatively impact men, women, and society as a whole. Characteristics Aggression: Using violence, dominance, and control to assert power Emotional suppression: Hiding emotions and being unable to be vulnerable Sexual entitlement: Believing that one is entitled to sexual conquest Hostility to femininity: Discriminating against or devaluing women Masculinity: Dictionary Defi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 09:33 PM
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Masculinity in men isn’t shamed. Toxic masculinity is. There’s a difference
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 09:27 PM
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Toxic women exist just like toxic men exist. Toxic people never think they are toxic. They justify their behaviours even when they are harming other people with them
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 01:53 PM
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I’ve been with my husband for 10 years, married for 7 and I can categorically say this isn’t true of all men. You are describing men who fetishise young women. I don’t care what ever stats you are going to pull out. Real life marriages you can’t put into a stat. If you don’t like those type of men, stay away from them and find a nice guy who respects women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:15 PM
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I don’t understand where you are coming from. 100% of people murdered are killed by murderers but the doesn’t make the world filled with 100% muderers. Sounds like you’re projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 09:31 AM
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I’m not making shit up, the us is taking the right to vote from women by making it so married women can’t vote as their last name is different to their birth certificate. Women are losing access to healthcare in the US. They did it by banning abortion, women are being refused life saving healthcare as it being classed as assisting with an abortion, women are dying from miscarriages and eptopic pregnancies. What about women in other parts of the world? Those that aren’t allowed outside without be…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:25 PM
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Actually children have the right to be safe, go look up children’s rights. It might not be a protected right in the states but it is in the uk and if you look at human rights it is there too for adults so yes the right to be safe is a right.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:16 PM
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Thanks for correcting me :) that is a very good point
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:59 PM
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I’m just not with you, if you don’t think women have the right to vote, have access to healthcare or that women and girls have the right to be safe and all those things are just privileges then it just says a lot about the type of person you are
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:56 PM
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How are women’s rights been taken off them? Go look at my original comment, I’m not repeating myself. Google will help you with the rest
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:46 PM
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Women are less likely to engage in risky behaviour and are more likely to go to the drs when they feel something isn’t right with their bodies which is why women have a higher life expectancy. Women were only allowed to fight on the front line from 2018 and more young men than young women are encouraged to join the forces. I’m not gonna bother with the coddled by society comment cause as a woman I have experienced men being coddled far more than woman but that’s going to come down to your own ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:05 PM
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I think these are mute points whilst women’s rights are being taken from them but the reason that companies have to reach quotas on hiring women along side disabled people is because companies favour hiring men over women. As far as companies are concerned why would they hire a woman that is gonna take time off to have a baby and then in their eyes not be as reliable because children when they can hire a man that they won’t have any of those issues with. It was brought in because they were being…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 03:55 PM
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You are so off the mark, it’s about equality, the right to exist in society just like men. In UK schools, girls are given a class on self defence, they specifically get someone in to teach girls how to defend themselves in case a man attacks them so they have the potential to get away. They tell you where to hit so you have a few seconds. Girls as young as primary school age are encouraged to wear shorts underneath their skirts so that men can’t perve on them. In Iraq they have lowered the legal…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 09:16 AM
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In all honesty I’m not a daddy’s girl and I don’t know any women who are so I can’t really comment as much on that. I think women who are “daddy’s girls” potentially can act really toxic if they are constantly running to dad every time something isn’t going their way. I’ve had plenty of experience with mummy’s boys hence why I can comment more on it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 06:29 PM
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The reason the term momma's boy has negative connotations is because the insinuation is that the mum is overbearing/controlling and the son will not stand up to her. As well as that they go to mum for everything, mum becomes the 3rd person in relationships, they value the relationship with their mum over their partner. They are happy to let their mum attack their partner consistently over absolutely everything. They want their partner to do everything that their mum would have done for them, won…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:27 PM
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That goes for every type of relationship you have, a partner, sibling, parent, friend. If you aren’t getting out of the relationship what you are putting into it, it doesn’t work. You can’t give endlessly to someone who is just taking and not giving anything back
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 01:02 PM
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I’ve never been out with a guy that was mr popular and every woman wanted him or girl when I was at school. I don’t like those guys, never have, the cockiness they walked around with like they were the best thing slice bread made them so unattractive to me. My standards come from how is a guy I’m with going to treat me and that’s in the sense of with the respect, kindness, are they a good listener, do our morals and values a line, do we have some shared interests, is conversation easy, do we mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 11:37 AM
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