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Sure 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 04:28 AM
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I can't tell if it's satire anymore 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 07:01 PM
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Lmao I'm sorry I couldn't help but laugh. I'm sorry whoever "defeated" you. You do not deserve this 😂 I'm sure your traits are great 😃👍
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 07:00 PM
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Wtf did I just read lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 06:42 PM
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No way. That's not attractive sorry. That said, I do think the women, and men, who constantly complain about dating struggles likely aren't worth dating anyway. Sure, it takes some time to find a good partner, but if you present yourself in a great way, the right one will eventually find you. Being single isn't bad. In fact, it's the best time because you can invest in improving yourself so that people actually want to be around you (:
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 06:38 PM
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Thank you (:
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 06:28 PM
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Eh if it makes you feel better ... We do this with friends too. Sometimes we just want someone to vent to. Don't take it personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 02:03 AM
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I don't think this is an issue exclusive to one sex. Both genders when they are abusive are dcks and don't realize it because they think they are the only one who matters. That said women should be held accountable just like men and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 01:56 AM
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Every time women go on a first date we aren't sure if you're normal or you're going to murder us... Obviously this doesn't happen often but it happens enough that many of us share our location with our friends before we go. This is why some of us are apprehensive at first. Don't say anything too edgy because we don't know you well enough to know if it's an edgy joke or not yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:02 AM
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Eh - while I definitely think they poke the hornet 's nest... I would say that you cannot blame being a toxic man on "extreme feminist" women - just like toxic, angry women shouldn't blame all their problems on men. It's on you and your internal character to choose to not be a jerk, regardless of your gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 01:27 AM
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I guess? The bigger question is though - who cares? I don't think it's ideal for either sex but if it rocks your boat then all that matters is that you have consent between you and the people you choose to rendezvous with. Anyone else's opinion doesn't really matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 12:54 AM
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You're welcome. I think it protects both of us honestly. The only true way men and women will be equal in society is if we treat each other with mutual respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:49 PM
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Yeah I kind of agree. If she decides to keep it and you explicitly don't want it and have written proof within the window of legal abortion you should be able to relinquish responsibility. If it's too late in the pregnancy tough shidooby. You're stuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 04:16 PM
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As a woman myself, I agree with you. I don't like the Cheeto man either but he literally stayed in the debates that he didn't want to take away abortionespecially for exemption cases. It's just that leaving it in the hands of the states let's policy makers in backwards ass US states make retarded laws around it. Which is also not good. So it's not quite trump's fault but it's also kind of putting people in bad situations because he's choosing to not protect either. So yeah it's overdramatic bull…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 06:05 PM
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This can happen for many reasons. In my opinion it's usually because the person who fell out of love didn't actually fall in love with that person. They fell in love with who they thought that person was and then when they saw the true colors of their partner they realized they don't actually like them. This can happen either because their partner pretended to be someone else they weren't or the person who fell out of love wasn't actually paying attention and made up a different version of this …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 04:33 AM
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No I hate it. Some of us have hearts incapable of this. I am looking for a single partner in crime to spend the rest of our lives with. I want a rock, a soul mate, someone to pass the easy stuff and the difficult stuff in life because I devote myself to this person and I expect the same ok return.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 09:38 PM
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I'm sorry - if the target gender doesn't desire them - by what possible metric are they desirable? I don't mean this as a jab, I'm genuinely confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:50 AM
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You wouldn't feel this way if you were happy on your own. People who tend to have the upper hand in relationships (regardless of sex/gender) are the same people who are perfectly happy being single and just view being in a relationship as a bonus to their life (a nice to have, not a must). This is the difference. If you are someone that can provide for yourself first (financially, mentally, emotionally, you have your own interests, hobbies, you're organized or at least generally have your shit t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:44 AM
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If it makes you feel better i don't approach anyone and in public I just don't want people to talk to me unexpectedly. It stresses me out. This is why I like apps, I got to meet my boyfriend when I was ready on a pre established time when I was ready and willing - does that make sense? Don't take it personal. Some of us are just socially anxious. Certainly not all, but some of us :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:11 AM
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I don't get the meme sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 11:51 AM
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It's hard to say. I feel like social media has convoluted my perspective of the average human. maybe this will be a good sample size though when you have many answers. There probably is some level.of equivalency between the two but honestly I think most are judgemental because you're hiding yourself and "lying". Not because they don't like what you're trying to hide. Ya know?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:14 AM
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Idk bald men are hot. So are small titties. Be you ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:03 AM
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He also has a finance corporate job he's not a deadbeat, just not interested in climbing as far as me. That's ok because he comes pretty close to 6 figs and that's good enough for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 06:01 AM
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My standards are very high and I am actively with someone in a long term relationship that meets those standards so I'm not single but this is what I bring and what works for me: I am Italian and American so I have dual US/EU citizenship I can cook really well because I was born in and grew up in Italy so I'll home cook dinner each night. Breakfast and lunch my bf is on his own. I speak 5 languages. Truly fluent in only 2 though. I make six figures and have a very difficult management corporate …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 05:58 AM
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No. My experiences with men are consistent as they've always been? Not sure if I have a good comparison though. It's just anecdotal for me :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 05:46 AM
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Also I make more than him and am in corporate management (6 figs). He's not interested in management so I doubt that statement about success giving him better options is an issue either (not that I think he's that shallow anyway).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 05:45 AM
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I don't "date". We live together, our parents have met each other, we are actively discussing marriage with them. He's asked my dad for my hand in marriage already so .... Yeah... I think I'm good 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 05:43 AM
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Not all of us are sleeping around and not all of us are having problems with dating. Get off the internet dude and meet women in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 05:36 AM
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I mean I think you can't help what you like. You can settle but that doesn't mean you're being honest with yourself or that you're actually attracted to that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 12:41 AM
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Yeah absolutely ! I'm not ruling out the fact that the timing and situation of it back then was an issue too. I spent quite some time single before jumping into another relationship after this and found myself feeling much better after the fact. It was also my second relationship ever so it's likely that the whole "saving yourself for the one you marry" and then it not working out that way messed with my head too. Like I said, many things.... Far from just the poor guy's look. All in all the exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 08:18 PM
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Yeah I don't disagree with this. I think had we not had a history of being close close.friends and had met under different circumstances from the beginning this might have played out different. It was too messy and quite painful too. In the end I lost a partner and best friend. I don't recommend it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 08:12 PM
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No no let me explain better. If my relationship with someone starts out intimate and friendly than I'm good because I agree. Your boyfriend is still your friend. Like you have to genuinely trust and enjoy spending time together, share hobbies and have stimulating, long, emotional conversations as you would with a friend. I'm onboard with you there. I just think that when you spend time living with someone platonically, growing up together, platonically (we were roommates with a huge group of fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:46 AM
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Woah ok no. Neber in my life would I ever call my brother (because I have one too) "hot". No matter how "objectively attractive" someone else might find them. Ew. No.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:22 AM
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Hot and attractive or two different thing. He was attractive. He wasn't drop dead gorgeous but I mean objectively he was attractive. Is that what you're trying to "get me to admit"? Because I am not refuting that. But I also don't date purely for looks. Not at all. Looks matter but only so much. For example, I'd never in my life date some vapid pretty boy who has a crappy income or no intellectually stimulating conversation whatsoever. What kind of women do you talk to where you only evaluate lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:21 AM
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What? Is that how you evaluate potential relationships? Because that's messed up. Never in my life ever have I thought "this person is nice but I can do better". Or "this person is as good as it's gonna get". That's really fucked up. My decision is either: I like this person and they check my boxes or I don't like this person and they do not check my boxes. Otherwise sure, you can keep looking for "someone better" for eternity and be single forever. Or you could settle for someone "you see less …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:18 AM
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No k was directly responding to you saying he was ugly. But I can't say he was hot AF.bevause once again, IT FELT LIKE HE WAS MY BROTHER and that's just weird fucking statement to make about a "sibling". Like we grew up together. It was fucking weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:13 AM
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Oh no. I have been friendzoned before as a woman lol it happens probably more to men but it can happen to woman too. Also I love how you're making all these statements like you were there and knew what happened. You're absolutely incorrect. I gave you some additional context in another comment but I can tell you that you're wrong friend. But I can tell you're not intent on changing your mind. Doesn't really change what happened though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:12 AM
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Oh also important context. We both had to "keep" eachother there because for a while I dated a mutual friend of ours. We both had a falling out with said person and then the rest was history. So for a while we really had to make that conscious decision to not ruin the friend circle after I broke up with our mutual friend. Because while we were all friends that wouldn't have been worth ruining the friend group. Once we all decided we were mad at him then it was easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:10 AM
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Yes, notice how "let him out of the friend zone"and "let him out" are not the same phrase. The friendzone is a mutual agreement. He had to let me out too. We both had to keep each other in the friendzone for us to remain friends for years. That's how platonic friendships work. Both parties decide, internally, to keep people in the friendzone. You keep them there. It's not a superiority thing. It's literally a mutual decision. Just like letting the other person out of the friendzone. Or else you …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:05 AM
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Nah - once again, not true. Also.... "A once in a lifetime opportunity"? What do you mean? Like I said. This is real life. Not a soap opera.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:03 AM
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I said LET HIM GO. not let him out......... TF. I never felt I was above him. You just wanted to read it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:02 AM
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Ummm are you trying to tell me what I felt in a relationship that you weren't in? He literally has another girlfriend and a very happy life (I hope). I'm glad he found her and I am happily engaged as well. This was like a decade ago almost. This isn't a soap opera. This is real life TF....
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 01:50 AM
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Well he was attractive enough for me to let him out of the friend zone in the first place. It just felt odd. Like I was kissing a relative. I just didn't dig it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 12:38 AM
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No, because he really wasn't a bad looking man. That's why I decided to let him out of the friend zone in the first place. Why would I sleep with someone who I didn't think would be good boyfriend material? It literally just weirded me out. I don't know how to explain it. It was something that was on the back of my mind and then gradually just got stronger and stronger the longer I dated him. I eventually had to be honest with myself after dating him a few months and let him go(I honestly can't …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 12:36 AM
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Because it's like dating and fucking your brother. I tried dating my best friend and after 2 months I was disgusted. I didn't even want to hold his hand..I thought I could get past it because his personality was awesome but I couldn't
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:17 PM
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You're just not investing time in the right women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:05 PM
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No logic. Kinda stupid imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 08:23 PM
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No, at least I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 06:25 PM
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Exactly. As a woman I am not here to play games. Either you want to do this or you don't. I don't expect my man to go through "rituals" to convince me and I'm not doing the same. We're adults for Christ sake and I'm happy being single too (though I'm currently not and equally as happy).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 06:24 PM
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As are men.... of course that's not what I meant to imply. However, you either Iike me or you don't. I'm not interested in someone who's juggling.... I don't pussy foot around with my decisions. I know the kind of man I want so it's very easy for me to decide if you're in or you're out. I expect the same from my potential future boyfriend. Neither of us want to waste time and if the person I'm talking to isn't interested in devoting attention to one person I'm not interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 06:23 PM
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If it, I'm jealous. It didn't happen for me as a woman. Sure I meet a lot of people but almost none of them are boyfriend material. I had to look hard for my current love (:
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 04:50 PM
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No both are fetishes if sexual in nature. Both are preferences if they are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 04:48 PM
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TF, I am not looking to compete. You either want me or you're wasting my time.......
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 04:46 PM
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His personality might be off-putting? It's hard to say for sure without getting a read
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 02:22 AM
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It's not wrong, but it is sad. You're doing a disservice to yourself and your partner, even if it doesn't seem so. Yet.... I understand. I frankly should listen to my own advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 10:24 AM
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Fair enough.... thank you my friend
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 10:22 AM
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Lol crazy right? He's definitely the oldest person I have dated but we get along really really well actually. I would have never thought either before meeting him haha Guess you never know 😂🥰☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 08:10 PM
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Shoot.... That describes me to a Tee. But I'm not diagnosed. Huh.... I wonder....
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 07:52 PM
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Me!! I dated a college boy my first 1.5 years of college and hated it (he was my first boyfriend ever). After that I chose a man who had graduated and was working a corporate job already (the field I was set to go into once I graduated anyway). I dated him the rest of college and some post grad. 10/10 best decision ever. It was a fantastic relationship until it wasn't. The only reason I had to leave him (which still hurts me terribly to this day admittedly) was that he developed serious substanc…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 07:49 PM
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Daddy issues idk. Who actually likes had men though?, genuine question
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 03:51 AM
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Lmao nice try. You got me to go back to go panic read to make sure I didn't pull a fuckywucky 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 03:11 AM
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Actually... More so about the dominated in bed part. Not so much the financial provider part. I make 6 figs on my own so my man needs to also make that much or close. That's about it though. My current love basically makes as much as I do and that's cool enough for me. He doesn't need to make that much more or "provide" for me at all. I just don't want a leech either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 12:09 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 12:06 AM
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Social media. As a woman myself I can't stand this "trend" either. I'm glad I found someone who isn't as insufferable already (:
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 12:04 AM
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I think this goes for both sexes by in large. Sure not everyone is a sheeple but a lot of people are. That's why trends exist to begin with. Not saying it's correct or that you're wrong, just stating a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 10:42 PM
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Fucked probably
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 10:22 PM
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The answer is simple. Spend less time on the internet and more time talking to people IRL. meeting folks and talking with them has shown me that even though there are differences, they are usually not as crazy as you'd think.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:45 PM
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No. My boyfriend is incredibly nice. I love him dearly ☺️❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 03:39 AM
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Free thinker, as much as I respect what you're trying to do here - as a woman myself with the absolute tiniest of breast, I can tell you that I am still capable of menstruating, getting pregnant and feeding children. Breast get bigger during pregnancy nursing periods (just so you know 😊). I get what you're trying to say overall, just correcting a minor detail.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 05:11 PM
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Ah I noticed one thing we might disagree in slightly actually. I do see abortion as healthcare in some cases. First off all it's a serious, potentially dangerous medical procedure. So I think depending on the situation it definitely qualifies. For example, ectopic pregnancy. That's a situation where the egg gets stuck in the fallopian tube rather than nesting in the wall of the uterus. It's very deadly. The fetus has 0 chance of survival and the mother will die in excruciating pain. At that poin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 08:26 PM
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Honestly a little bit yeah. But from my perspective it's a me thing. I just get anxiety from strangers in public. I've pretty much always met my boyfriends online first. There were only two that I met IRL first and it was through sports we did together. That was ok too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:45 AM
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Yeah this is kinda true sometimes. I don't disagree with you ! ....But then again, we are in greater danger of being harmed by men so it equalizes in my opinion (: Not saying it's right though either. You're correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:37 AM
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There you go... Guess we're not that far off in opinion after all :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:32 AM
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What are you defining as health? Oh and I think you misinterpreted what I said. Who said women should be "given anything" ?..they should have to absolutely have to earn it. I don't believe in quotas for diversity and inclusion either honestly. You should just be good enough to get there regardless of who you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:24 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:20 AM
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That's where we disagree then. I should be able to make the same decisions as a man for my health. I should be able to make the same decisions as a man in the same position as me in the workplace. If we both earned that job fairly then I'm just as entitled to be there as you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:12 AM
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Eh not really. As long as he's healthy for his age and as tall as me I'm cool with it. I'm 5ft 5 so I guess 5ft 5 and above is cool with me :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:10 AM
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I think it's because women lose attraction in cases where the men don't act as a parent once they have kids. Not all men do this, but some men forget that they are adults who need to take care of their living space or children too. I believe that if you don't get lazy with that... women will continue to be attracted to you sexually as you grow older together and have many wonderful children:) Also don't let yourself go....it goes both ways. Both men and women need to maintain a certain level of …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:03 AM
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Also I don't want men that are superior to me in anything. I want them to bring exactly what I bring to the table in a relationship. That's my minimum expectation. Everything above that is a nice to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:00 AM
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Well it depends on what you define as equal. I think they should be equal in terms of respect in society, bodily autonomy and ability to foster a career. Beyond that though it is unreasonable to say that there are no distinct differences. There definitely are and they allow for us to hold unique roles, in some cases different from one another, in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 03:59 AM
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What?, I agree. Do you really want to spend valuable time explaining why I agree with OP? Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:55 PM
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No the only reason it's complex for people like you is because you think this way and don't acknowledge that there there is in fact diversity with people of both sexes. Men who have figured this out don't struggle nearly as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 05:50 PM
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THANK YOU
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 05:48 PM
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Very. You don't just fling that card to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 05:02 PM
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Yep. Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:19 PM
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Honestly it depends on your partner. The only reason I am not submissive is because I have never met a man that I could trust in that way. If they're out there, you'll find that person and that will become your natural decision. Until then, just do the best you can with whoever you have. Even though I partially "wear pants" I'm still quite happy in my relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:18 PM
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Yeah in this day and age some men don't realize that they aren't competing with other men, they are competing with the comfort of a lone, independent woman. I love my boyfriend to bits but I also had a ton of fun when I was single just focusing on me. I know that no matter what happens in my relationships being alone is pretty nice. Therefore anyone I choose to stay with has to be as good as or better than when I live alone. So far this has worked for me as I am in a very positive relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 02:12 AM
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It's literally not. I just block them pretty much instantly if online, if in person I remove myself from the situation right away. If this is happening to you you have a shitty partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 06:19 PM
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Thank you, well I like to think that there are many of both schools of thought. Meeting people is a crapshoot no mater how you slice it. To be fair, my ex said something like that and I was cool with it. I think just stress that you're open to an open relationship or a fwb situation only because you don't want things to be stressful. Ltrs only work if you're both in it to win it, ya know? I think if you phrase it like that it'll be received better but idk. There's a reason I don't date women eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 01:03 AM
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Thank you, well I like to think that there are many of both schools of thought. Meeting people is a crapshoot no mater how you slice it. To be fair, my ex said something like that and I was cool with it. I think just stress that you're open to an open relationship or a fwb situation only because you don't want things to be stressful. Ltrs only work if you're both in it to win it, ya know? I think if you phrase it like that it'll be received better but idk. There's a reason I don't date women eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 01:02 AM
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Nah I disagree. I've been told that before upfront and I was just like "ok bye , good luck". That's way better than lying and trying to trick her by saying you want something more and then taking it back later.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:58 AM
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Well ever since the one bamboozle I bring that up on the first date of the other person doesn't already. Honestly sometimes it really was the other person to bring it up. I think it's more common than you might think, at least as you get older. I'm sure it could always be more common and better though, I agree with you there....
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 11:55 AM
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I don't see that as a disadvantage at all. I think it's kind of sweet.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 07:04 AM
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Yeah... I prefer a quiet coffee shop if you don't want to dish out big bucks on the first date (I wouldn't anyway, you're both strangers ... The non entitled people will stay). Good way to weed out jerks too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 06:47 AM
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Yeah that's a bad decision though. I got bamboozled once like that because the guy told me he was into a relationship and then after we had sex was like nah I just want a FWB. f that. It's not worth giving up goodies until you can be sure if you are both on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 05:29 AM
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No. There are 8 billion people in the world. I wouldn't care that much..... It takes time to foster a relationship, I wouldn't like anyone that much without getting to know them at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 05:20 AM
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Your flair 😂... Are you ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:18 PM
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Exactly! She could just be trying to be polite but gave the signal to her friends to come rescue. OP could be right too of course but It's hard to tell without being there.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:17 PM
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Aw lmao well maybe that's why I'm engaged already (: (jk) hang in there my friend, she's out there 😂❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:15 PM
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That's not at all what I said. Re read my comment lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:04 PM
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Doesn't sound like it my friend, or maybe you are but you're just meeting people in the same spaces? I'm trying to actually be constructive here to help out because like I said, I don't align with most of what you put on there as a woman myself. Maybe try going to different environments to meet your potential interests? How are you approaching them now? Apps? Through a shared activity? Bars? Clubs?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:00 PM
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As a woman I agree. I do not understand why some people like casual sex if that's truly not that they are looking for. It's not "liberating" if you want to be treated like a gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:57 PM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:56 PM
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Hi, I am a female android user. I cannot change tweak the UI or mod as much on iPhones. So... There you go... I'm sure others will comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:54 PM
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TF have you met many women? I genuinely don't think you have at all. I have an android, I do like traveling, because I'm from a country I don't currently live in and I also love learning languages (I speak 5), I hate Drake and music like that and much prefer The rat pack, Frank Sinatra, classical piano or EDM. There are many like me with even other tastes. Just like men, there is a variety on this earth. This isn't a men vs women thing. You just need to get out there and meet people. Different p…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:50 PM
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Nah. That gets messy if you have repressed feelings. If romantic feelings are mutual and out in the open, then sure
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 04:58 AM
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Nah. That's a shitty thing to do. Seriously. Man or woman that is lower tier human behavior. I'm sure we all know better to, right? (I hope ... The comments below give me hope).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 04:36 AM
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No. Why would I stay with an insecure paranoid partner? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 01:22 AM
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you're basing this choice off anything remotely resembling accurate non superficial characteristics is amusing. Who said all my decisions were made like that? Everyone in dating starts out assessing someone at a superficial level. After that is where things can go deeper, but you can't date someone you don't find superficially attractive- right? Why would you. "worth my time" is a pretty common game women play with men while dating No no. It goes for men too. Some women are really not worth your…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 01:21 AM
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Yeah but it's all online, apps etc. In real life people are different. In fact I'm pretty I started the convos with my current bf. Though I can't be certain. I don't remember. Maybe it's just the kind of people you're attracted to too, which is totally understandable. Everyone has a type.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 01:15 AM
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That you believe you are capable of doing this is amusing. You said it yourself my friend, it's a choice we can make in dating and attraction. I'm not saying it's easy, it's really not actually, but I think it helps with assessing early on if someone is truly worth my time or not, versus generalizing someone into a box only to fall in love with the potential of what that person can be rather than what they truly are. Potentially figuring that out too late. Ya know?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 10:02 PM
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Aww well I appreciate the candid honesty there. I definitely think personal experience plays a huge part in it for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 08:35 PM
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They are by standard statistical definition yes, but none of the pills are based on stats. If they were there'd be one pill which is why I'm saying our perceived outliers are likely not rare at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 08:12 PM
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I don't know that I can't accept it as much as it makes me curious. Of course there's a lot of rational thought behind it, but that's exactly why I've posted here. I want to see how each pill views this and why. At the end of the day, it also depends on the context. For dating and friendships I'm not interested in looking at a group. I'm interested in singling out my one and only. But sure, if I'm out and about in the world, then yes, generalization help us navigate the initial phases of a socia…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 08:06 PM
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better than assuming nothing of anyone. Better or safer for you? :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 08:04 PM
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Bingo. Social media is the culprit here. I'm sure you've noticed that if you've been intimate with people around the world that not all women want the same thing at all. Cultural standards play a huge impact too and since immigration is so common you really cannot know how someone's been shaped up until your meeting.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 08:04 PM
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Also I. Glad you mentioned countries. Even two countries doing great have very different societal norms and what would be considered standard. I saw this first hand when I moved from Italy to the US. The average man and woman is completely different between the two countries - so location has more to do with it than just happiness, criminality imo. Moral questionnaires on the other hand, I agree are also a big factor. Aaaand because immigration is so common in the 21st century, it's hard to tell…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 08:02 PM
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True but pre conceived ideas about the sexes are many. So are you talking about piliers for one commonly accepted idea, two, three, four....? That's what I'm talking about when I say it's hard to tell who will be an outlier and for what.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 07:58 PM
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Mmmm noted .. You've peaked my curiosity either way. Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:25 PM
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Oooooooo oooo holy shit this is good timing. I need something new to read. Thank you :) I'll def check this out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:17 PM
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Mmm that makes sense. Most things are a construct. You could probably go pretty far down a rabbit hole with that frame of thought honestly...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:14 PM
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Oooof very interesting take. Jesus Christ that's dark lol Well since quite a few people tied it to fear of getting hurt, maybe you're onto something here....
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:11 PM
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Yeah I agree with that, especially these days, which is why I'm curious as to why some people still find comfort in standard beliefs. After seeing some of the responses, I can see their point of view. It's fair. I don't agree with it, but it makes more sense now.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:51 PM
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Mmm I can't say I agree friend. You listed quite a few things that I don't look for in a partner at all. I'm not a pussy, I don't need someone to lead me or the conversation. A happy collaborative approach is much better and sounds less stressful for both. Sometimes I pick a date place, sometimes he does. Sometimes I pay, sometimes he does. I agree that I like stronger men, but most men are probably stronger than me. I don't care for tallness. I've dated guys my same height before. I don't need …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:49 PM
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No no, statistically everything is possible, even probable in some cases I get your point, I do. But these days with how much people travel, migrate from different countries, consume different media, interact with all cultures online, there's much less predictability into how someone was raised and what values they might hold. It's harder to actually tell a genuine outlier. At the end of the day your approach is rational, I realize that, but I also think it limits people, especially in the realm…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:37 PM
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Fair, but tendencies and behaviors aren't guaranteed either. You might be limiting yourself by choosing a certain perspective, rather than freshly observing what is in front of you, ya know? Not saying I don't understand your approach though, it's fair at the end of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:34 PM
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Well maybe some. But I can't say all do. Judging by some of the responses here some folks are guarded and scared, while others are just trying to save time. There are definitely some out there like you described though too. Probably a mixed bag tbh....
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:23 PM
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Yeah initially I was. You clarified that pretty early on. Are you just like ... Looking for an argument or what? Only a completely mentally unwell person would take a comment that initially showed compassion and said "I'm sorry you feel that way" into something negative. Whoever the fuck you are you must make the people around you's life an absolute living hell. Get therapy. Jesus Christ.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:11 PM
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Oh I mean man, as in dude , girl ...etc... Not as in "you male" haha I see what you mean now. I call everyone dude or man online regardless of their sex. Mostly because we don't know each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:05 PM
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Mmmm ok that makes sense and I would definitely agree with that approach as a follow up to discovering new information. At the end of the day our time is limited... I think I just didn't understand why you said that that wouldn't disqualify her. If I found out my boyfriend slept with 1000 women I'd 1000% disqualify at that point in time. I don't want an STD 🤣 Anyway, I get you now. Sounds like we agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:00 PM
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Mmm... Good point. I think social media has lead me to believe that there's a higher degree on uncertainty and "unhinged expected behavior" these days, but it very well might just be the media I consume.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:54 PM
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Indeed !! The only difference is that ours is purely unsupervised ... 😊🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:52 PM
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Yeah this is fair. Someone else had a very technical approach to this, and while I hadn't considered this initially, it absolutely makes sense and I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:51 PM
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When dating new women if they do something that generally means they likely aren't what I'm looking for then I will just not waste time or effort with them Yep. Very fair. Then as I date them and get to know them new info comes out and still if it technically doesn't disqualify them but likely would then I still will not waste time and effort on them. But isn't the act of not disqualifying them technically still wasting your time? Sorry maybe I don't understand what you mean by disqualifying. Mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:44 PM
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No. I think love is a sense of belonging we all crave deep down. Some of us are just more scared of it going wrong so it gets buried.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:41 PM
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Why do you think this is though? Because if this weren't true the "pill" philosophies wouldn't exist. Aren't they all effectively just a set of common assumptions and beliefs about the other sex (or am I way off? Haha). Both. Why not be realistic with what MIGHT arise. For me, it's just about being not surprised if certain gendered stereotypes arise. This is a very rational approach. Can't say I disagree. Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:40 PM
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That is completely fair. I'm actually only talking about those you care to get to know, and it sounds like you were initially talking more generally. Fair enough ......
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:38 PM
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No but culture has a heavy impact on shared values. Trust me. The average person from the US has a very different set of values and beliefs than the average person from Italy (my home country)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:37 PM
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I don't know man, I didn't write multiple paragraphs about loneliness... Sounds like you need to more than I do
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:36 PM
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No. I think people have very different experiences from one another and that shapes how they are. I have also lived in multiple countries and so I've seen how the country you live in greatly influences the "standard". Because immigration is so common in 2023, you really can't know how someone's "been shaped".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:58 PM
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Mmm no. I don't agree with that career choice, but if the industry is regulated, why should I prevent people from doing that? It doesn't align with my morals but if they want to do that. I guess go for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:56 PM
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I work with people for a living. I very much have. We've just had different life experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:53 PM
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I don't know why I read this as an advertisement almost but you gave me a hearty chuckle. Thanks for that. On a serious note I absolutely get what you're saying. This is a fair observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:51 PM
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Have you met many humans IRL? I would, respectfully, disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:49 PM
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Why would people be concerned about someone else who has nothing to do with them's preferences?!. Get a life. It's probably better that now there's less of a possibility of you running into someone you don't care for. Just let people be.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:31 PM
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You're right. They are likely grasping at straws and avoiding responsibility for the situation they are in.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:15 PM
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That's actually a fair perspective too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:13 PM
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Hahaha fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:12 PM
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Fair enough on the efficiency. That said, if you don't spend time assessing your future partner for what they are, aren't you setting yourself up for potentially being with someone with whom you are wildly incompatible with?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:12 PM
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Woah where the fuck did this negativity come from?! I was actually trying to be empathetic towards this perspective, asshole. You can be happy in solitude while married. I'm engaged as well. It's called having boundaries and balance to pursue your own interests. Jesus Christ I feel bad for your wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:09 PM
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Both sexes can be very incorrect about their assumptions of the other. It depends on "how much of the coolaid" they are drinking tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:08 PM
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Well said
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:08 PM
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I don't think outliers are as rare as some folks on this sub seem to believe. Also, no, that's not what I intend to say. I'm saying we should base expectations on the person you have in front of you. Not some vision of what likely social media or prior experience has built over time. It's unfair to both people involved otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:07 PM
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Lol that is honestly fair. I think that's why I find this sub so interesting 🤣 I'm in a long term relationships myself, so I'm not here to talk strategy. I genuinely just like to hear about how people have different interpretations.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:06 PM
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Mmmm I do agree that the talking stage is to assess whether you for a certain criteria but I don't believe it's to assess a partner for pre conceived ideas about the sex as a whole. I think it's about assessing a future partner for your preferences, which I see as a separate thing. I mentioned this to someone else below. I cannot control my sexual preferences. I can control my pre conceived ideas about someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:05 PM
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No no. I agree with you. I am not saying that preferences aren't a thing. They definitely are. Preferences and pre conceived ideas are two separate things at least in my mind. Preferences are what I like, pre conceived ideas are what I think might be before I get to know. I cannot control preference. I can control my pre conceived ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:03 PM
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But that's the thing, I don't believe the outliers are rare at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:01 PM
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That's fair. I just don't think that they apply to 99% of people. I'm not statistician but I'd say it's closer to 2/3s. The. Again we're both just going off of personal life experience here....
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:01 PM
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Eh a fair perspective. Though depending on why I'm meeting them I'd disagree. If it's for a life partner, I'd much rather take the time in advance before making a commitment - rather than wasting both our time, ya know?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:00 PM
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Truuu
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:47 AM
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Mmmmmm Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:45 AM
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Why? I'm bi as a woman. I wouldn't care (:
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:43 AM
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Yeah but don't you feel that generally the human psyche is less predictable than environmental physics? I kinda do
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:36 AM
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Mmmm interesting. So it's actually more like guarding for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:23 AM
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That's fair. I kind of figured the majority of people might say something to the tune of what you're saying. Kind of like a pre-game plan. Also love your username lol I agree 👍💯
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:13 AM
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Thank you haha
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:10 AM
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I don't think it's unfair for men to make generalizations about women that are actually mostly true. You know? I go back and forth on this one. That's why I started to take a human by human approach. Or try to anyway. Easier said than done of course. I've had some random surprises there in my life. I've also moved countries halfway through my life so I'm assuming that has something to do with it too. I don't think you're wrong for saying that though. But idk I feel like it always bites me in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:00 AM
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Oh for sure. Both sexes generalize. That's kind of what I'm hinting at. Or trying to anyway. I'm just curious as to why you think that might be.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:57 AM
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I don't think we are ever gonna out grow that as a species Man, I know you're right but I hope you're wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:56 AM
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Hahaha what a very technical way to put this. I guess you're not far off. We even model ML and AI by this concept so fair enough..... Though this definitely made me chuckle because it sounds so odd phrased that way. Maybe I even fooled myself into thinking I'm not that way, when I am, and my algorithm just tells me to pretend like I'm starting fresh, ya know? Anywho thanks for the chuckle.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:55 AM
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Lol black hole pill.... Fair enough 😂 But also I think it depends on what phase they are in. When I break up with someone I usually love to spend time alone. My last break between relationships I spent a year and a half doing my own thing and it was nice. Relaxing even. I found myself again and felt much more prepared to jump into a new adventure later on, ya know? I wouldn't have found that clarity if I hadn't made the choice to be alone for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:53 AM
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Wait, awww... Why do you feel that women care to hate on you if you're alone? If anything it sounds like a peaceful life. You're happy with less, and that is a-okay in my book (: I personally like hobbies because they keep me physically stimulated and not just mentally, but I don't care if someone else wants to just chill. We kind of need a balance anyway. You can't just go go go and not destress too - ya know? Anyway, I'm sorry you feel this way. That's kind of sad. If anyone is judging you lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:51 AM
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Oooof hard judgements. I am interested in your experience but I would extend it to most. It could be a luck of the draw thing too, ya know?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:41 AM
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No it isn't a red flag. My first boyfriend was also a virgin. If my current SO was one too I wouldn't care. As long as they out effort and are having fun, then that's all that matters :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:38 AM
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Do what you and your partner want. Fuck all with what others think lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:33 AM
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Well Bbw can also sound better for those who have a fetish, ya know? But I get what you're saying. Social media in general is making many people sugar coat things these days
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:32 AM
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I hate the term situationship. Bro. This is a FWB dynamic. If you don't like it then find someone who gives you a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:31 AM
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Eh those aren't quality people anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 05:55 PM
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I don't know. It depends from human to human, I've had some incredibly contentious arguments but at the same time (even in the same day actually) I've also had some really interesting ones where we disagreed but we're about to continue the discourse respectfully and it was actually really fun to banter back and forth. It was really intellectually stimulating. Those or less common but make coming to chat here worth it. So.... I wouldn't call it a war at all :) that encourages negative emotion tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 05:37 PM
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I don't guess. I ask what job they have. If it sounds like a similar range of what I make, then I'm good. If not, I still continue the date, politely... But then close things off after the fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 10:07 AM
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I agree 👍💯
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 09:59 AM
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No. I think lonely men are sweet. I've dated a self proclaimed ex-incel before. We only broke up because he became an alcoholic and he put my life in danger while he wasn't fully there. Otherwise I would have married the guy. He was very sweet in his own awkward way and he needed a wake up call of me leaving to get clean. I hope he's doing ok these days. That said, I would have never met my current fiancé, who is a homebody but not someone I'd consider lonely per se. So all works out for the bet…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 09:57 AM
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Well then you're not using the dictionary definition of sacrifice From the dictionary- excluding all religious definitions - "To give up (something important or valued) for the sake of other considerations". Notice how there's no qualifier. You are making that choice in defining what kind of sacrifice you want to make and that is my fundamental point. Man or woman. You can choose to give up something that is valued but still not compromising who you are as a human being, such as your values and …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 09:52 AM
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YES. YOU TAKE THAT WORLD DUDE. THE WORLD IS YOUR OYSTER!!!!!! social media in general does a great job of making people feel like there's no hope. There is hope. You got this dude. GO YOU :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 09:47 AM
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Wait did you mean to say "if you don't lose sight of yourself it isn't a sacrifice???" Because if so I disagree, you can sacrifice in many ways. Time, happienss, money, action, personal goals. A sacrifice by definition is a give and take where the person sacrificing is the giver. You can choose what you decide to give and you should. You do not have to give up part of your fundamental values or sense of self to sacrifice. You can give, meaningful time, skills, a job, something financial.... Many…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 09:40 AM
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I agree. Sacrifice doesn't mean losing sight at all. Sacrificing to the point where you no longer self preserve however then becomes a situation where you lose sight of yourself. Self preservation by definition is maintaining sight of yourself after all :)(not to be confused with being a selfish bitch, that's not having self preservation either). It's a balancing act.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 09:36 AM
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Yeah why? I'm NT and just tell them that if you're signing up for me you get no BS. Idgaf what you have, just be nice to me and I'll be nice to you. Your mental health isn't an excuse to be a selfish asshole (not saying you are). So as long as they understand that. We're good 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 09:30 AM
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"a better approach would be to simply state that you have made different experiences and explain it".. Bro .. THAT'S LITERALLY THE DEFINITION OF ANECDOTAL. From Oxford dictionary: (of an account) not necessarily true or reliable, because based on personal accounts rather than facts or research. "while there was much anecdotal evidence there was little hard fact" Definition of account: a report or description of an event or experience. "a detailed account of what has been achieved" Therefore Anec…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 09:15 AM
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Yeah I don't think my comment is meant to take away from that nature. That's where the nuance comes in about not being an asshole. I agree with you - self preservation is only important to sustain your mental health but, it is a balancing game with the desire to protect for you all, and to nurture for us. We actually have the same dilemma, just slightly reflected in different ways, if that makes sense (:
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 09:09 AM
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No ..... It means what I said. I'm talking about my human experience instead pretending like I'm some expert like most ass hats do on social media. More people should actually say this...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 09:00 AM
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Aww that's sad. I think women adopt this mentality because they're scared honestly. Like... I don't trust you until I do, ya know? Especially since some men out there will tell you they love you just so they can get in your pants. So I get both perspectives, I do, but I do think mine at least keeps you safer, like you said. Though, your perspective is quite touching.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 03:25 AM
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Idk man, I don't feel any of the pressures you listed here as a woman. I think that's just what the media wants you to believe. Some of these I have genuine interest in, others I don't. We are independent humans capable of independent decisions. Especially in this day and age. Therefore my comment and perspective stays the same despite what you think "media" and "society" tells you. You can make better decisions than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 01:41 AM
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"You’re presenting anecdotal evidence, and of what, I’m not even sure here" Of course I am. Last I checked, this isn't a forum for anthropologists and historians to discuss. All of us are just average humans with average human experiences. That's usually where our perspective comes from. Tf.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 01:39 AM
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Nah I don't consider someone misogynist for looking after themselves. I mean, my boyfriend has that approproach and he's able to do this without making me feel subhuman. There's a distinct difference between the two :) Like with everything, the nuances are important.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 01:38 AM
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That and, genuine question here, if you lose track of yourself then how are you in a position to truly determine if you're picking someone who's actually compatible withyou if you yourself start to lose track of who you truly are? You're kind of setting yourself up for failure in picking a subsequent person, if that's necessary. You know what I mean? :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 09:14 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 09:02 PM
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I disagree. My boyfriend and I share the same perspective and it is one of the things we first agreed upon when we started dating. This might be your perspective, but neither of us should really speak on behalf of everyone else. At the end of the day, this approach preserves your mental health, both in the event that things go well and do not :) see screenshot:) this was 2 years ago:)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 09:00 PM
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Bro, never ever ever lose sight of yourself in a relationship. Ever. At the end of the day, whether you're dating a man or a woman, you must stay true to yourself and your happiness first and always. Not to be confused with being an egotistical AH... But at the end of the day In this world, especially as you approach your death, you only really have yourself first. Everything else comes later.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 08:47 PM
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This should be re-phrased as, the more you get to know people, the more you're able to properly assess if you're compatible with them or not rather than assuming some social media bs about the other person's sex. There, I fixed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 08:46 PM
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Ah that makes sense. I think I was ok looking but I just could not for the life of me talk to anyone of the opposite sex unless they were a gay man lol Guess everyone has their cringe moments back then 😂 I'm glad to say I've come a long way hehe
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 12:55 AM
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Eh I think it's on a human by human case. Both sexes can suck on their own right.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 04:31 AM
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Yep.... Emptiness is definitely the right way to put it. That and just straight up weird. Idk. Showing a stranger one of your most vulnerable states will never not be awkward. Also I commend you for doing that shit in high school I could have never lol. I was waaaay too awkward lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 04:29 AM
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Oof this is a harsh judgement, but you're probably right. I am definitely on the side of wanting to do away with it. I've been bamboozled into thinking I was on a serious date and then.... It wasn't for them 2 times in my life and I can tell you that was not fun. I'm all for actually finding a partner in crime, so to speak, instead. But to each their own. I can't see how someone might enjoy One night stands but I guess I never will. It almost feels like you're selling yourself short, for both me…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 01:01 AM
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You have a very fair point on both being probably more graceful but also the fact that this has become kind of a necessary evil now. Also, that's a really interesting perspective on how dating works in China. I feel like you generally need to have a gage on both upfront, which is hard to do. But once again, I'm not here to waste my time. That said i suppose that's how they do in fact turn out. Date 1. Are you even worth my time ? Date 2 and 3 - can we enjoy each other's presence ? :) Thank you f…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 12:57 AM
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Why are you trying to manipulate people. This doesn't make you a good human. Be ashamed, if this is you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 07:13 AM
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This is fair. I suppose it might be the same for men who aren't ready to settle down too now that I think about it..... You're totally right...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 07:11 AM
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I don't. I answer that question honestly and thoroughly because I'm not here to fuck around and waste time when dating. I ask the same question in return. Two adults should honestly use this question to set clear expectations. We should all have an answer prepared imo. I'm not sure if all women hate this honestly. I have many friends who have this same mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:36 AM
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Nah my dad was chill. I feel very blessed for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:35 AM
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Yeah there's a really big difference between " ya weirdo" and "dumbass"....which you so lovingly followed with "brain dead bitch". I shouldn't have to point that out to an adult. You deserved to then subsequently be called a dipshit, because that is how you decided to escalate it to very dispregiative names and child like language. I'm not interested in continuing this conversation. Bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:29 AM
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No. That's not what I took. You're putting words in my mouth. Look, I'm really not in the mood to further talk to someone who is just in a mood to argue and be disrespectful. You're clearly not capable of having a civil discussion with someone who has a differing opinion. Therefore, this isn't worth either of our times. I answered your question, take what you want from the rest. See ya.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:26 AM
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If you're that concerned about being assaulted. Why would you even go to clubs? You can literally dance with friends anywhere. I literally do all the time. By your logic, why go out at night to risk it at all??!!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:40 AM
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Do you not realize that I'm also a woman?!... Look at the flair..... You asked a question and I answered it. Just because you disagree doesn't mean you had to be disrespectful you dipshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:39 AM
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This is such a weird question lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:01 AM
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No, it's to meet people. No one ever said grouping or sexual assault you weirdo. Like I said, it's my opinion. I'm not much of a club person anyway. If I wanted to dance with my friends I'd just throw a kick ass house party - tf. I don't care about the majority dude. Especially on social media. I'm not speaking for the majority. This is MY OPINION.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:00 AM
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Ok real talk. Who TF actually does this IRL? This is an honest question.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 02:37 AM
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YES!!! I grew up in Italy where places were walkable and we spent the majority of the day outside. I only got depressed and lonely once I moved to the US.....
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 02:36 AM
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No. I don't feel threatened most of the time. Social media exaggerates this by a lot. I only get scared when I'm completely alone at night and I run into someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 02:32 AM
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Nah - I don't think many women go to clubs to not get drinks from men tbh. If I wanted that I'd just have a house party. My opinion though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 02:32 AM
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I would rather be forced to neither lol. To each their own :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 07:20 PM
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At this point I can't tell if you're messing with me or if you truly lack that much reading comprehension
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 07:20 PM
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YOU and OP. I've said this like 5 times now. If I have to say this one more time I'm done with your double digit IQ self. Jesus Christ. Why don't you ACTUALLY re-read this conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 07:19 PM
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No I don't wonder why they do the things they do. I don't care for those kind of people really. You don't even know me. I surround myself with different people and that's ok. I've never met one IRL and would like to keep it that way. Also, to be fair. I'm talking to the incels here. I can't even say all incels. Just the specific ones I was replying to. They build their own unhappiness whether I post my opinion or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 06:18 AM
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No shit Sherlock. I'm replying to this comment section and this post.... I'm not speaking to all men. Not even all the men on reddit. Just the incels right here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 04:34 AM
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Come on you could have figured it out if you used your brain. If men would have abandoned western women then by extension my boyfriend would have abandoned me, a Western woman. My comment is saying he hasn't and reaffirming the original response we are both replying to. Just like the first comment says ... this whole paragraph could have just said that OP doesn't get chicks and moved on. Western point of view or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 03:45 AM
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Tf my boyfriend hasn't abandoned me. Speak for yourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 03:16 AM
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Honestly as someone who lost her virginity to another virgin guys it was less stressful for both of us this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 03:10 AM
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Yeah but she potentially would be stuck raising it alone and that's no bueno. Though I get your point. It's a given with us.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 12:30 AM
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Fair enough. But... in the event that the man cheats they can "not want it" and then there's an issue. Also, I've heard of the super duper rare case where a couple is given the wrong baby to go home with in the hospital so it could also help find situations like that too (trying to not be just doom and gloom :) ). Because of this I wish they were mandated for every couple honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 10:56 PM
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Well I still think paternity tests are needed. It's not just about financials. It's also to make sure that your partner, the person you presumably are going to raise a child with, didn't cheat and be a backstabbing, lying, whore. I am a woman myself. I'd take a paternity test in a heartbeat because I know I've always been faithful.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 06:58 AM
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I can't say at all. I'm not a statistician. I'd say it's probably 50/50 these days. But who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 06:53 AM
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They probably lost hope in finding a nice woman. And I don't mean nice like "nice girl". I mean one that better aligns with what they are looking for. It's sad. But not all women and men have this kind of relationship either. I think this is a gross generalization. I respect my boyfriend and love him dearly. He does in return as well. I would never think for one second to push him around or treat him like a lesser person and he would never do that to me. I wouldn't put up with it first of all, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 11:28 PM
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Lack of ambition Substance abuse Likes to sleep with people without being in a relationship Calls himself an alpha/thinks women's sole purpose in the world is to give birth Bad hygiene Being fat That's about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 04:27 PM
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Yes and no. I think if you're one to cake your face every single day.....maybe, because it suggests you're trying to change your entire face structure.... But if you're just putting on a light foundation or maybe just some light concealer it's not so much insecurity as much as it is sproos-ing yourself up. Making yourself look a little more awake even though you just woke up. It's not that deep for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:48 AM
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I don't think it's a women's issue. I think social media has made both genders less able to communicate well in person, especially the younger and younger we look across generations. I'm no boomer myself but I've noticed this in my generation and as I've gotten older. Therefore I think it's just the act of communicating with a stranger IRL that can make some people uncomfortable. Add the pressure of dating and it's a disaster. This is also why we are seeing a lot more people coming out and talki…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:37 AM
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I think it depends on the human specifically in question. Both men and women are complex. The human psyche is not so black and white and to try to simplify it is reductive honestly. It's hard to say without knowing the specific post. Some probably but some might be naive or experiecing trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:34 AM
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I agree!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:32 AM
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As a woman, I can say that I have definitely seen this with some of my friends. That said, don't let a few bad eggs speak for the whole gender :) Can say the same about a few bad apples for men too. I try not to let that skew my perception (:
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:32 AM
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Nah I'm all for it. Legalize it so it can be controlled and sex workers / suitors can be protected.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:30 AM
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Eh .... Just be you. Anyone who makes disagreeing in politics their entire personality - or someone who can't recognize that you might disagree but can still get along - is not at all worth your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:28 AM
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Honestly men and women are not that different. We both need to improve in the same ways. Both need to stop with either "princess" behavior or "alpha male" behavior. No one is God's gift to the world without being willing to give just as much so entitlement in general needs to be toned down big time. Stop focusing on money. Focus on career and income stability instead. Both need to focus more on the intellectual connection you have too. Not just the physical and emotional one. It's likely that yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:26 AM
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I guess it's because when it comes to sex it's either really good as a woman or really scary. Think of it this way. A creature larger and stronger than you wants to pound something into your body repeatedly. They literally want to enter you. Sounds daunting, because it is, if it's not with the right person or circumstance. So I'd say that there's a little bit more caution for women because you don't know if the guy is going to be a gentleman and wait for you to agree consensually or if he's goin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:16 AM
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Yep - exactly why I don't need a man to pay for my sht. Hope this gives some hope that we're not all like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 01:31 AM
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Eh that's still a small percentage all said and done even if it is true. The only thing I agree with you ok is to have open dialogue between partners. Regardless if you're a man or a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 05:12 PM
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I feel like this should be a given for any partner regardless of being a man or a woman. Also as a woman myself, with other friends, I disagree with your statistic. Not going to speak on everyone's behalf but this seems to not be accurate based on my life experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 12:32 PM
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Two words. Cliteral stimulation. That's all you need gents.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 06:00 AM
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Honestly I think the reason for this is that you're dealing with women who are insecure about themselves. Which happens with either sex. It is what it is. Not every woman is the same. Just like not every man. A woman who is confident couldn't give a shit about initiating if she felt something and has enough sense to walk away and leave someone happy in their relationship if they can't set feelings aside as a friend. It kind of sounds like red flag friend and girlfriend behavior tbh. And this is …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 04:32 PM
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I agree! I've always said this and always get downvoted, as a woman myself, I don't spare these people the time of day. No mental energy. Just find good people, men or women. Don't complain about people who are not worth it. Stop being dramatic and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 06:30 AM
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Agreed. I'm not in the business of convincing people to stay either. Ya like me or ya don't. Bye. Sounds like we both know our value.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 06:02 AM
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Honestly I don't believe this. If you sleep around regardless of if you're a man or woman that's gross. I'm not saying you need to be a pure virgin either. I'm just saying. Balance is key. Extremes are gross and I don't know why women are the only one who get this. A man sticking is dick in every hole is equally as disgusting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 06:00 AM
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Lmao people are morons. I get what you're saying. You're right. Had to weed through a lot of garbage men before I found my current love.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:54 AM
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Also, I just thought of this .... why would someone be sleeping with someone they don't trust? Other than a fling of course. Sounds like a stupid decision anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:24 AM
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Never said someone doesn't have the right to be offended. I'd be a little mad sure. But once again, I wouldn't have a problem with taking it because my partner will feel like a complete dumbass once they realize they were wrong. Ya know? Like ... I literally have nothing to hide.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:23 AM
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I'm not disagreeing with your stance per se. I Just don't understand why someone would be opposed. Accuse me all you want. You'll feel stupid once you realize I didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:21 AM
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Ok, but that's what I don't get. If you didn't cheat, why would you care? You have nothing to lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:20 AM
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I feel like you would only react negatively if you had something to potentially hide.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:21 AM
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Why though? That's what I don't understand. Why would you care? Why would it matter if the people involved weren't sleeping around? If my current fiancé didn't tell me he wanted a paternity test before we hypothetically get pregnant, and then I get pregnant and he asks the question, I literally wouldn't care. Because I know I'm faithful so if it eases any concerns it's fine . I think that's the part that's stumped me. I don't feel like it's springing anything on anyone if you know there's a 0% o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:19 AM
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I also hate taking pictures. I never know what to do (:
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 05:43 PM
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No. As a woman myself I disagree. If you're someone who doesn't cheat you would have zero issues with a paternity test. Unless I'm not considering any other reason why someone would not want a paternity test ........
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 05:41 PM
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As a woman. This is stupid. A I have ever wanted in my man is someone to be kind to me, love me and be my partner in crime so to speak. I have found that in my current love and am very happy. Don't be a moron. Women are people. Not some weird species. If you're finding that the women you interact with act the way you think, it's just that you're picking shitty women to surround yourself with. In the same way that I, as a woman, could have potentially surrounded myself with shitty men. We're real…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:24 AM
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