| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 22 | My ex spouse works for NYC and will no longer have a job because she will not get vaccinated. Will Child Support be adjusted If ex spouse loses job? Any issues that might affect me or my custody agreement? We both live in NY. Thank you. | SnooStories5744 | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/21 02:05 PM | |
| 19 | Sock Day | SnooStories5744 | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/22 12:24 AM | |
| 15 | How do you fight brainwashing and alienation of child by ex? | SnooStories5744 | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/22 02:32 PM | |
| 10 | Struggles with mental and physical health | SnooStories5744 | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/22 10:11 AM | |
| 10 | Struggling with the truth | SnooStories5744 | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/21 10:04 AM | |
| 6 | Modification of Custody Agreement in NY | SnooStories5744 | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/22 07:20 PM | |
| 2 | Need advice | SnooStories5744 | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/22 02:23 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 2 | 3 Years and still dealing with Bitter and Angry ExIt is a shakedown! I also feel manipulated and it’s now a terrible existence. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/06/22 10:22 AM |
| 3 | 3 Years and still dealing with Bitter and Angry ExWhat did you guys end up getting in terms of visitation? I ended up with every other weekend (Fri-Sun), every Wed for Dinner and every other Thur for dinner. Also, sharing holidays and 3 weeks vacation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/22 01:50 PM |
| 4 | 3 Years and still dealing with Bitter and Angry ExIt’s disgusting! | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/22 01:41 PM |
| 3 | 3 Years and still dealing with Bitter and Angry ExThank you brother | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/22 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Depp/Heard VerdictHe’s my new favorite actor! | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/22 02:32 AM |
| 2 | Strong recommendation that has been emotionally insightfulVery well said… it’s a shame this wisdom if given after suffering. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/22 02:31 AM |
| 1 | Separation child visitation "offer"They really are this cruel, it’s not just her. At this point I am shocked to hear of one that’s not a cunt. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/22 02:28 AM |
| 5 | 3 Years and still dealing with Bitter and Angry ExHere I am reading everyone’s stories and realizing I’m not alone. I started my night with depression building by thinking of my situation, my cunt an ex wife destroying my relationship with my son and how she got everything, yet is still charged with anger. I want to run away as well. What support is out there for us men? Is there a specific therapy style I should look into? Any clubs or self help books? I pray for you and for everyone else that is suffering; keep your head up! | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/22 02:27 AM |
| 2 | Lost my friends.I have been spending the last year trying to reach establish friendships. I’ve learned to let go of some and have been able to pick up some that I lost during my marriage. The true friends were back in my life and understanding. Let the ones go that are not being true friends. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/22 02:17 AM |
| 6 | How hard do you push for 50/50 when it’s not the default?Exactly! My ex wife and many other women use that term to break down men mentally. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/22 11:26 PM |
| 3 | Marriage CounselingIt’s definitely too late, if you’re going to couples. I also feel that some of these therapists are in collusion with the wife. Also, individual therapy is needed on top of couples. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/22 06:42 PM |
| 3 | 5th Anniversary of my Divorce!! Not sure why I even keep track of this day…it’s a horrible memory, but I’m so much better off today and I’m happy as F about it! Do any of y’all celebrate your divorce anniversary?Great post! | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/04/22 02:31 PM |
| 2 | My own personal, handcrafted, artisinal nightmare....It’s disgusting that she is trying to turn your children against you. Don’t say a word or admit any kind of guilt. So many of us have faced this strategy that women employ during the divorce. She is no longer your friend. Only talk about kids. I can see her making up more stories and calling the police on you next. Good luck! | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/22 12:55 PM |
| 1 | 401K vs. pensionThat’s crazy, it should be the date the divorce was filed. Divorces are dragged out for years and a lot of courts have been delayed with Covid. The system is a money making scam. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/22 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Mental helpYou’re not alone brother. You can’t see this yet, but it’s a process. Seek professional help first, slowly these feelings will lessen. Everyone is here to help. In the meantime, just breathe and try to exercise or distract yourself by keeping busy with chores. You got this! | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/04/22 06:28 AM |
| 2 | I’d rather hire escorts than deal with another relationshipDefinitely cheaper than a wife | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/04/22 10:26 PM |
| 1 | I’d rather hire escorts than deal with another relationshipOut of curiosity, how much for Nevada, Thailand or Costa Rican escorts? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/04/22 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Modification of Custody Agreement in NYThank you for clarifying. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/04/22 12:25 PM |
| 1 | Modification of Custody Agreement in NYThank you, I’m not sure how to approach this. I feel that if I ask, She will spite me. I’m only asking for something reasonable. This schedule was her “generous offer”. My family is pressing me to do l it now and told me, “If you wait too long to ask for more time, the judge will ask, why did you wait this long?” My initial plan was to give it some time, a couple years and start by asking her for more access throughout the summer and hopefully her hatred of me starts to thaw in a year or two and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/04/22 10:01 AM |
| 3 | Modification of Custody Agreement in NYThank you for elaborating. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/22 11:42 PM |
| 2 | Modification of Custody Agreement in NYWe settled out of court. So, because I don’t have a change in material circumstance, a judge would probably not grant my motion for more visitation. When you said you may be out of luck for a while, what would change my request? Is it just a matter of trying again after a few years? Thank you again for the information and advice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/22 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Modification of Custody Agreement in NYThank you for the suggestion. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/22 08:47 PM |
| 1 | NYS Child Support Income CapI was also over the cap, closer to 200k and my lawyer said that the judge probably wouldn’t calculate CS over cap unless it was like celebrity divorce or grossly over (like multiple times). My ex spouse’s lawyer accepted up to the cap, not sure if it helps. I think if it was a guarantee she could get over the cap, she would have fought it. Also, the percentage that you contribute was a factor in the final CS amount, not a straight 17%. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/22 05:00 PM |
| 2 | Need adviceI agree, partly it’s his age and inability to express and understand feelings/emotions. I hope she is not behind it, I just want a peaceful and amicable post divorce life, where my son is the priority. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/22 01:03 AM |
| 1 | Need adviceThat’s a great idea, hopefully it becomes easier with the weather getting warmer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/22 01:03 AM |
| 3 | Need adviceThank you, I will try to make it fun tomorrow. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/22 03:03 AM |
| 13 | Fucked up in my head nowI’m sorry bro. Get some space and cool down before you do anything else. Take photos of the journal and think through what you are going to say or do. Don’t beat the shit out of the guy. You can contact a lawyer and educate yourself on the costs, process and about your specific situation. Keep your head up, she’s not worth it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/22 07:39 AM |
| 3 | If you were cheated on in your marriage what were the signs your wife/ex wife gave before you found out.She would often accuse me of cheating. My ex wife was very toxic, basically I could do no right. I eventually found out when she had a fit of rage and threw her phone. I picked it up and saw a love text. My ex wife also didn’t want me to look at her,said I was the one that needed help. Abstained from any physical contact. She blatantly disrespected me, like your wife is doing. Also, 1 month after I signed divorce papers and moved out, she went on a vacation with my son to her friend in a far off… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/22 07:17 AM |
| 2 | Got my divorce papers in the mail today… I’m feeling so empty!Hang in there! It’s like shock. It took me a couple of days to shake it and accept it. It doesn’t help with the ex w/friend, sorry! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/22 08:26 AM |
| 1 | Just like Clockwork (rant)No joke, the way everyone’s story goes, it is as if women are taking a class on it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/22 11:11 AM |
| 1 | [NY] Can a father get a fair judgement in a custody case?I really pray and hope that you fight and win. I live in NY and was afraid as well and settled for less. I feel that the court is a crapshoot, but If I could do it again, I would fight. I hope to eventual ask the court for more “visitation”. I am completed jaded by women and upset by how easily they can lie and manipulate the courts. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/22 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Sock DayAgreed! Thank god it’s over, now a new chapter begins. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/22 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Sock DayThanks, I definitely feel better today! | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/22 09:33 PM |
| 6 | Sock DayI was only married for 6 years, with her for 15 in total, one child. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/22 02:48 AM |
| 3 | Sock DayThank you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/22 01:30 AM |
| 1 | My mental health has been consistently deterioratingBeautifully said! | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/02/22 01:51 PM |
| 10 | Valentine’s day!Yeah, it was kinda peaceful today and a lot cheaper. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/22 01:07 AM |
| 1 | Struggles with mental and physical healthThank you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 01:52 PM |
| 2 | Struggles with mental and physical healthI’m sorry to hear the pain that you went through. Thank you for giving me hope tonight. I never hear this ending, you gave me a game plan and hope no matter how I play my card. I really appreciate the offer, thank you again! | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 02:53 AM |
| 1 | Struggles with mental and physical healthThank you so much, I hope for that! | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 02:19 AM |
| 2 | Struggles with mental and physical healthThank you for taking the time to read my post and respond. My logic at the time was to be amicable and avoid expensive legal fees, I couldn’t afford for a chance to the get minimum that I was offered. I stupidly believed that she would live up to her promises of involving me in my sons life. I can see now that putting myself first is priority number 1, before I can be in a position to possibly fight for more time. I appreciate your honesty and advice. I really appreciate your support and offer, … | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 02:18 AM |
| 2 | Struggles with mental and physical healthThank you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 02:14 AM |
| 2 | Struggles with mental and physical healthThank you so much for the response and taking the time to read my post. It really hit home and put things in perspective. I really appreciate the support, it means a lot to me right now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Struggles with mental and physical healthThat sounds perfect, is there a mg amount that I should try? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 02:10 AM |
| 2 | Struggles with mental and physical healthThank you for taking the time to read my post and respond. Also, thank you for your service, brother! I need to do this because, honestly, I don’t know what else to do to kick my own ass. Thank you again for your support, I will try baby steps. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 02:08 AM |
| 1 | Struggles with mental and physical healthThank you for taking the time to read my post and respond. I only know what my son tells me. But, I’m pretty sure it’s because of her. It usually happens right after picking him up or in front of her. I hope the cliche is true, I feel like I’ve taken a step forward and then two back. I will try like hell to be the best dad I can be, because, honestly, I don’t know if I will try going back to court and can’t control what she says. Thank you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 02:04 AM |
| 1 | Struggles with mental and physical healthThank you for taking the time to read my post and respond. I feel the same and have read that a lot about the courts being expensive and a waste. I also heard that the judges won’t even consider changing the decree the first few years, I am afraid that what you wrote is the truth. Either way, I need to help myself first. Thank you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 02:01 AM |
| 2 | Struggles with mental and physical healthThank you for taking the time to read my post and support me. I have tried some divorce groups and found that is not the support I need. The advice you gave, is what I need to hear. Thank you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 01:57 AM |
| 1 | Struggles with mental and physical healthThank you so much for your support and taking time to read my post and support. I will definitely try the rosea, I think that will help get me going in the right direction. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Struggles with mental and physical healthThank you so much for your support. It really means a lot to me and is comforting to know that I am not alone. It’s hard to see, but I will keep that in mind! | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 01:51 AM |
| 3 | Get a Lawyer and protect yourselfAmen! I hope Karma is a bitch to those that do this spitefully, like me ex. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/01/22 10:27 AM |
| 1 | How do you fight brainwashing and alienation of child by ex?Thank you! It’s a nightmare, I agree, I have not and will not bad mouth her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/22 12:31 PM |
| 1 | How do you fight brainwashing and alienation of child by ex?You’re right, never thought of it that way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/22 03:53 AM |
| 1 | How do you fight brainwashing and alienation of child by ex?Thank you, my mind has been in overdrive with all this shit, thinking it will make a judge grant her relocation. She even had the nerve to send me a job application tonight for Alaska. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/22 02:53 AM |
| 2 | How do you fight brainwashing and alienation of child by ex?Thank you so much! | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/22 02:52 AM |
| 1 | How do you fight brainwashing and alienation of child by ex?Exactly, I will fight it all the way. She is probably getting married to the guys and having kids with him. Would that justify relocating? I think she’s pregnant. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/22 10:46 PM |
| 1 | How do you fight brainwashing and alienation of child by ex?Thank you, that’s what I believe as well. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/22 07:29 PM |
| 3 | How do you fight brainwashing and alienation of child by ex?Thank you for the insight! That is a hard thing to do, but I will reflect on what you said. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/22 04:47 PM |
| 3 | How do you fight brainwashing and alienation of child by ex?Thank you! It’s so hard to see beyond the moment and realize his thought are a projection of his mothers hatred. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/22 03:43 PM |
| 2 | How do you fight brainwashing and alienation of child by ex?Thank you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/22 03:42 PM |
| 4 | How do you fight brainwashing and alienation of child by ex?Thank you so much! It feels better to know I’m not alone and thank you for the advice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/22 03:41 PM |
| 3 | How do you fight brainwashing and alienation of child by ex?Thank you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/22 03:39 PM |
| 4 | First missed birthdayJust happened to me, instead I celebrated the birthday during my visitation. I keep telling myself it’s just another day and try to keep to my routine to get my mind off of it. It sucks, but try to keep it together when you speak to her and be happy for her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/21 09:36 AM |
| 1 | My ex spouse works for NYC and will no longer have a job because she will not get vaccinated. Will Child Support be adjusted If ex spouse loses job? Any issues that might affect me or my custody agreement? We both live in NY. Thank you.I agree, it’s her problem. I just meant like, for the sake of my child if she couldn’t afford to live, pay bills, etc. could she lose custody? | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/21 09:31 AM |
| 2 | My ex spouse works for NYC and will no longer have a job because she will not get vaccinated. Will Child Support be adjusted If ex spouse loses job? Any issues that might affect me or my custody agreement? We both live in NY. Thank you.Exactly!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/21 10:49 PM |
| 1 | My ex spouse works for NYC and will no longer have a job because she will not get vaccinated. Will Child Support be adjusted If ex spouse loses job? Any issues that might affect me or my custody agreement? We both live in NY. Thank you.Also, she has always worked. I am reading into this too much, but could I be on the hook for more is she simply can’t work? Also, would a just grant relocation to a place say 3k miles away bc they have no mandate, child and mom don’t need a vaccine and she can work? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/21 08:38 PM |
| 1 | My ex spouse works for NYC and will no longer have a job because she will not get vaccinated. Will Child Support be adjusted If ex spouse loses job? Any issues that might affect me or my custody agreement? We both live in NY. Thank you.So, I might not be obligated to pay more bc she can’t afford to live. What happens to her? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/21 08:35 PM |
| 2 | My ex spouse works for NYC and will no longer have a job because she will not get vaccinated. Will Child Support be adjusted If ex spouse loses job? Any issues that might affect me or my custody agreement? We both live in NY. Thank you.I agree, but should I get financially punished bc of her choice? I love my child but can’t afford to give more than my share. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/21 08:33 PM |
| 2 | My ex spouse works for NYC and will no longer have a job because she will not get vaccinated. Will Child Support be adjusted If ex spouse loses job? Any issues that might affect me or my custody agreement? We both live in NY. Thank you.I feel like this will effect a lot of people going forward, since there is probably no precedent. However, courts are siding with the states mandate. Also, her potential income is not effected by her religious beliefs. Also, I think everyone woman would choose not to work if they automatically received an beneficial adjustment. I’m nervous bc I simply cannot afford an increase. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/21 08:31 PM |
| 2 | My ex spouse works for NYC and will no longer have a job because she will not get vaccinated. Will Child Support be adjusted If ex spouse loses job? Any issues that might affect me or my custody agreement? We both live in NY. Thank you.It was based on a combined income and formula that determines a percentage, like (60/40). | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/21 08:28 PM |
| 1 | My ex spouse works for NYC and will no longer have a job because she will not get vaccinated. Will Child Support be adjusted If ex spouse loses job? Any issues that might affect me or my custody agreement? We both live in NY. Thank you.Sorry, I just got home from work. She is voluntarily leaving her job. She is not able to work privately or publicly bc the mandate affect her job either way. Ironically if she went back to private her income would double. I feel she is up to something bc she could not live on CS alone (mortgage, bills, etc). Also, she wanted to relocate across the country during divorce and I would not agree to it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/21 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with the truthThank you for the ramble, I have the same philosophy and it helps. I will stay focused on my son! Appreciate man! | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/21 07:37 PM |
| 2 | Struggling with the truthThank you! I’m glad to hear that it can work out for the better. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/21 02:09 PM |
| 2 | Struggling with the truthThank you! It’s very selfish. I also read that a child can ask at the age of 12 to be with one parent. I fear I’m being marginalized so that can come to fruition. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/21 12:39 PM |
| 4 | Remember: YOU'RE the prize.Thank you for sharing brother! It’s so easy to beat ourselves up and lose hope. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/21 12:53 AM |
| 2 | Cubs star's estranged wife demands $4m compensation after HER affair with pastorShe should go back to the corner she worked on before him. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/21 01:23 PM |
| 7 | Never let her see you bleedI agree, I will never let her or my child see my pain. Stay strong! | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/21 02:11 PM |
| 2 | Who is in the divorce hot seat months after watching Ted Lasso with your wife?I’m sorry brother, we have all been there. It’s a terrible feeling and I’m sure you’re full of mixed emotions. It will take time; try to be strong and surround yourself with support. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/21 08:58 PM |
| 1 | Who is in the divorce hot seat months after watching Ted Lasso with your wife?Sorry , the stages of marriage and how women change. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xiizTu8hy-g | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/21 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Who is in the divorce hot seat months after watching Ted Lasso with your wife?She was definitely feeling guilt. You should watch some of the Coach Greg Adams videos on YouTube. The strategy is real, the alligator had that planned out for a long time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/21 10:39 AM |
| 3 | Who is in the divorce hot seat months after watching Ted Lasso with your wife?I totally agree that it might not be Ted Lasso specifically, but shows like the Housewives romanticize divorce and the free agent lifestyle for women. The grass is greener for them and the court system is in their favor. It definitely plants a seed subconsciously. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/21 10:09 AM |
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