Snowdrift742 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
133	How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want?	Lifestyle	Snowdrift742	/r/seduction	04/02/25 04:11 PM

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1	Women tell that men don't approach women because they're scared. Cool, thats fine. Guys in the loneliness epidemic have to.. live life as well. You're making my claim far far far greater than it is. I don't believe going grocery shopping with self-checkout or talking to a mechanic about a technical issue requires the kind of social skills that seducing a woman involves. Full stop. Those are developed and learned in social spaces, like bars, sports, or after school activities. Those kind of spaces were the specific ones that were shut down and closed up. And a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/25 09:00 PM
2	Women tell that men don't approach women because they're scared. You're suggesting that I'm unknowingly painting both groups as divisive, I'm not doing it unknowingly. Yes, women are getting hyped up to fear men by social media and covid made it worse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/25 03:57 PM
2	Women tell that men don't approach women because they're scared. Funny, I'm supposed to believe that social isolation of men is super damaging because in less than a year, it can really stunt their social skills, but at the same time, 3 years is a nothing burger and I'm being ridiculous. I'm not suggesting they completely lost the ability to talk, but being more socially inept than prior? Easily. And if you developed an addictive tendency that on the surface feels similar (social media), you'd gravitate towards your fix rather than re-developing a skill.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/25 03:55 PM
0	Women tell that men don't approach women because they're scared. Covid? A lot of people got shut-in for at least a few month, but for many, a year or more. Their only interaction was online, hence the online opinions? We know these platform promote the most contentious opinions because they generate more views/clicks. Boom. More people believe the online version of reality than the outside world? Because when I talk to people IRL, everything fickle said was spot on. Its only online do I see this divisive shit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/25 03:12 PM
–	Women do not have ridiculously high standards in men I don't? When I went, all I would see is the guys grouped up together and not walking over to any women to talk. Sure, the guys who went up to speak to women had the perception of attention, but they were the only ones talking. "Able to hold a conversation" maybe is a high bar, haha. Singles events will skew much more introverted than average.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/25 03:14 PM
1	How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want? Thank you, this hit.	/r/seduction	05/02/25 01:20 AM
1	How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want? Bruh. I am already doing the thing you are prescribing, it's not advice to the question asked.	/r/seduction	04/02/25 08:58 PM
2	How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want? You know, the point of what I said was pointing out that I was going to bars, but I take it you can only beat the drum that you need to go talk to people and nothing more. You clearly refuse to read what I wrote and don't want to understand what issues I am facing, as I said I live in a major city, and I do social activities nearly every day. But sure, I can go to a bar and meet more people.	/r/seduction	04/02/25 08:12 PM
1	How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want? Yeah, I said this in my post. I am dating pretty regularly, daygame is a large part of that. My daygame is decent enough for me, but it feels like a crapshoot. I'm wanting to have more control over who is in my life. I feel like you're asking me, "Do you want the thing you're asking how to achieve?" Until I have a decent rotation of bros down to do activities with me, I need to meet people, hence the various groups. Your advice very much strikes me as the kind I'm brushing up against. It has not…	/r/seduction	04/02/25 07:59 PM
1	How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want? Yeah man, I'm not hitting on girls I haven't met high, and rarely do it even a little tipsy. I was just explaining how I like to spend my free time to a degree, and its legal here. I know many outdoorsmen I respect and admire that smoke a bowl by the campfire. I get the impotence of statement now, but I'm not a heavy weed guy like you think.	/r/seduction	04/02/25 07:41 PM
1	How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want? Weird anti-weed position, do you feel that way about alcohol? My therapist talks about weed with me, and doesn't feel its inhibiting my growth?	/r/seduction	04/02/25 07:12 PM
2	How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want? All great advice, I'm doing a lot of what you're suggesting. That first bullet kinda makes sense, but its easily the thing I'm struggling with. I have read books on this stuff, I feel like I outlined that I am going out regularly, but its just not working. Makes me feel defective more than it helps, I guess. As for the "you should be going to nightclubs and partying" I get it, I'm not trying to fight it too much, if I'm not naturally having a good time in those environments, its difficult to com…	/r/seduction	04/02/25 06:45 PM
1	How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want? Thats fair, it just stings to be told, "You should be settling down at this point in your life." when you desperately want to be but aren't. Definitely my bad there. I guess its the constant insistence that this will just come easily. I'd say I've been on 50 dates this past year, I've been doing the effort and intention thing, but I knew guys who had great social lives before mine got hamstrung. I feel locked out of that starting over from relative scratch. So when asking "how do I get that?" an…	/r/seduction	04/02/25 06:14 PM
0	How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want? Great, this is the kinda advice I'm looking for. On point one, nah, I had the same exact thought. When I lived in the South East, these kinda groups were super common, but I'm in chicago, and the nearest hike is about an hour a way, and what most hikers consider 'decent' is like 3 hours away. Theres one hiking group I've been able to find, but its mostly a skiing group, and I'm not as into skiing. But, I am looking for this. points 2 and 3, I'll incorporate, but its not a consistent drip feed if…	/r/seduction	04/02/25 06:06 PM
2	How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want? Bruh, I am dating. I am.. whatever, I get it, you gotta give advice for the lowest common denominator. Whatever. I'm past sex and figuring out what I want.	/r/seduction	04/02/25 06:01 PM
3	How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want? Alright, since you clearly read my post, you think I'm more likely to find a girl looking to settle down and have kids at a bar than I am at a dedicated bar trivia night? Or out dancing? Or are you just giving generic advice you don't even take? I'm going out trying to make friends with strangers and its not going well. The goal isn't just getting phone numbers, which is relatively easy to get mind you, the goal is to find my wife. I am trying to build the social life part dude, telling me its e…	/r/seduction	04/02/25 05:19 PM
6	How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want? I mean this in the least combative way possible, but you get that this is unsatisfactory, right? Like I worry you're spot on, haha. So, if you don't build a good social life before 30, you're fucked? Haha. Because that last piece, I feel like, I outlined isn't working. I don't meet many women I like, and it definitely feels like when I do, the competition is stiff. If I had the thing you're saying I'm too old for, I'd have enough options that its not always stiff and rare. I also don't think 30 …	/r/seduction	04/02/25 04:54 PM
24	Got stood up by my manager I know plenty of women who go to bed at 9, especially if they have any kinda morning routine. I read this as you're not high priority, not spiteful lying as you believe it to be. The seeing her the next day is why many don't date coworkers. Vindictive attitudes won't serve for very long in life. Maybe if you act unphased and down to reschedule, it could play in your favor, but if you sulk and act like a bitch to "punish" her, well... At best you never sleep together, worst you lose your job.	/r/seduction	13/11/24 07:05 PM
8	Do You Think Single Women Will Go 6+ Months Without Affection? Idk, you started talking about affection and it shifted to body counts and sex. I totally believe a woman would go that long without affection voluntarily, people hermit it out a lot to find peace of mind after traumatic events. But I also don't think women need sex to feel affection and I think they can get affection from friends that would "scratch that itch" emotionally. But I do still kinda resonate here. Women like sex, and women are intensely judged on their sexual past. I guess it would d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/24 05:11 PM
–	A bit confused on social norms and double standards of dating, what about you? Fine. I will. You're super fucking combative at the drop of any pushback. If I were Interested in being your friend, I would find this hyper annoying because building any raport with you will result in a lot of conflict. On chance encounters, people hate conflict. You never offer compromise. You are quick to weaponize logic buzzwords, but you actually have a poor grasp of them. You read this pushback as malicious, it's not. Critique is good, especially when paired with advise on how to improve. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/24 02:19 PM
–	A bit confused on social norms and double standards of dating, what about you? Honestly, this comment kinda just speaks for itself. I get what your issues are now. The world must be a rough place for you buddy. Hope you pull through.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/24 02:01 PM
–	A bit confused on social norms and double standards of dating, what about you? Reading comprehension and good faith interaction is a great place to start for me personally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/24 01:56 PM
–	A bit confused on social norms and double standards of dating, what about you? Dude, you're too reductive. This is actually the problem. He didn't say 'just' that. There's an element of this in the statement, for sure, and you can disagree, but suggesting that we may not have the full picture from your words and it's one sided nature, an inference of 'spin' can be made. I actually took the boil down point to be, "be open to alternative explanations for your experience." Does that sound as stupid? To his second point, you don't seem fun.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/24 01:54 PM
–	Why do so many women love to suggest men “hate women” simply because they are frustrated with the horrific state of dating? Okay, let me ask you a very pointed easy question. How is your stance different from "This isn't all women, so what's the issue?" Because I don't believe that's an acceptable argument, but maybe that's just where the disagreement lies. I'm not sure if you're intentionally being condescending, but I don't need definitions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/24 05:51 PM
–	Why do so many women love to suggest men “hate women” simply because they are frustrated with the horrific state of dating? I was talking to you, I understood your point. I was drawing the same picture with genders swapped. You're just saying not all women. You're even making part of my point. It's not all women, you're completely right, but these women are given platforms, they are zeitgeist leaders. It's not just men watching this stuff, the toxic stuff some of these women say are quiet popular, and even though there are women, maybe even more, who don't watch stuff like the "sparkle sparkle" trend, it's certainly …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/24 05:38 PM
–	Why do so many women love to suggest men “hate women” simply because they are frustrated with the horrific state of dating? Wait, I'm not even redpill, but shouldn't this go both ways? I see unrealistic beauty standards and porn talked about a lot, but it's certainly not every man and I'm not even sure it's a majority. Regardless, the standards and porn are pervasive, that's my issue with them, not the direct participants. Not to be mean, but how isn't this just "Not all women." I don't think it's ridiculous at all to suggest the pervasiveness of social media could be having an effect on zeitgeist even if only a "min…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/24 05:22 PM