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SEEKING ADVICESnowmist92/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:59 AM
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Happened to me recently 🤣 I think he took that as a rejection. This wasn't even an online date, it's someone who asked me in person. It was nice seeing his facial expression when I said I deleted that app a long time ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 02:32 PM
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I actually have a male acquaintance that did porn. He says he gave it up because everyone was into drugs and it was just too degrading, especially for women. It became too extreme. He did not want to go into details, but he was telling this to another lady friend we had (I met him through her) that wanted to become a sex worker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 05:59 PM
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I agree and feel the same way. I have a lot of love to give. I want to love someone and treat him great. i like giving massages, gifts, cooking for a man, and I am very affectionate. I just could never trust them due to all of my past relationships. Even the one I was with for a long time and I trusted not to cheat, well he developed the wandering eyes and enjoyed making me feel insecure. They may treat me like I am the only one they want, and then a year or so later they can switch-up. It is ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 10:42 PM
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I just turned 30 (also worth mentioning I have a kid since they devalue single moms). I used to strictly date older men. Now younger men like me and also treat me better for some odd reason (?). I never had so many younger men try to pursue me in the past. I even had a mutual crush on a sweet, very good looking younger man, who respected me very much. We were both too shy and busy with career to go further. I also workout and I must say, my body has drastically changed for the better, whereas it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 11:32 PM
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This is 100% the reality of modern dating. They are so scared of being used for money and it's always the ones that don't even have much. I literally date men with the intention of having a good time and getting to know them, not how much money they make. If a man treats me to an expensive dinner date, I invest in dressing nice and getting myself all prettied up. I don't require an expensive date, but I definitely hold him to more respect than somieone who wants to "hang out". We are literally p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 04:18 PM
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I heard and read an awful lot of men saying "women have nothing to offer". What a woman has to offer them is what they set as standards for a relationship. They can't complain when they are only satisfied with sex if that's all they want from us. I personally feel as though I have given a lot of emotional labor, entertainment, passion, and fun in past relationships. I have opened up new viewpoints and life experiences for my exs. What's the point in all of that, when at the end of the day they j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 03:54 PM
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I am aware of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 10:35 AM
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My mom used to have a sticker on her wallet that said "don't worry, big butts will be back in style" back when I was about 8 yrs old and NOW it's been happening. I'm just tired of being picked apart based on breasts, butts and thighs. I have the sought-after hourglass with the butt and hips, but I dislike unwanted attention. I wear baggy clothes at the gym.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 11:13 PM
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My Dad did this to my mom sometimes and he was bigger than her. She had 5 of us. He used to "joke" in front of us, but she would skip meals. She never made fun of anything about his looks. It created a healthy fear of gaining weight and I developed a disorder at age 16 despite being skinny. I do the same thing with vetting. Last guy I dated made fun of a really nice, fit middle-aged woman. She looked really good imo, and he said "she'sold and rhinks she looks good". I won't be dating him a 2nd t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 09:36 PM
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WOW. Her mother and husband are so atrocious I can't even tell who is worse. That's 2 people that we SHOULD be able to trust in life and they both have been secretly betraying her for years. This is beyond Jerry Springer level. I feel sorry for her and her father. At least they still have each other, but I cannot imagine ever trusting someone again after this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 06:07 PM
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My ex was like this and we shared music and went to concerts together. What he started doing often was judging my music and making me feel like I had bad taste. Some of the artists we shared, he started to suddenly not like. Then a few times, his friends liked the same music as me and he would all of a sudden like them because his friends did. I would call him out on it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 01:07 AM
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I am friends with an "entrepreneur". He talks like a super mature, intelligent, educated robot that is always positive. I see what he posts online and its all this super postive, motivational, boss/business quotes. Well he got married and moved his wife in with his parents lol. They are around my age and I'm 30. I'll never trust one of those guys who calls himself an entrepreneur. I had another friend who called himself that, but was trying to drag me and other friends into a pyramid scheme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:43 PM
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I may have discovered occasional porn from some ex when I was younger...but THIS. This is a whole other level. No, this is not normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 10:36 PM
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Since you mentioned your daughter - remember how dads act overprotective over their daughters when it comes to boys. THEY KNOW WHY. But "NoT aLl MeN"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:16 PM
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I'm in the same boat. 30 and still never got serious with another woman. There is still fear of what my family would think. I think my fear of men is worse, though. I'm too far gone lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:08 PM
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I'll snort it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:05 PM
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It's also like reaching into a bag of M&Ms and saying "not all are poison" and expecting someone to chance it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:04 PM
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I immediately think MOST men are like this by default. What is really stopping them? I wonder if any man has actually confronted this guy about that comment to tell him he is a creep. I highly doubt it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:23 PM
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I did take my son's father back. I was young and he was the only person I ever fell in love with and built a life with. It was already emotionally hard to leave and then the pressure from family was there because we had a baby. He screwed up a good life - became alcoholic, hid his abuse of Xanax from me, and slept with another woman while drunk. He begged, bought me flowers and dinners, got my name tattooed on him, even begged my family for forgiveness, etc... Then things only got worse after th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 07:32 PM
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They really do. From my experience, I'll be perfectly nice, treat them amazing. I love having someone I can treat good and pamper (as long as they reciprocate love). Of all my past relationships, they ALWAYS wake-up one day with some petty, vile, BS to ruin everything that's good. It's always a battle . It all starts out with them playing "don't text for 2 weeks because DeSpErAtE" and then getting mad that I moved on. They want us to lay around, cry and ponder reasons for their actions so they c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 06:25 PM
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Why do they always want to go to war with their GFs? If he has to ask this question, at age 28, he is perfectly aware that he is the AH. I hope she ruins him since he wanted to be petty for no reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 06:05 PM
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Right! I worked in 2 different therapy centers and there are actually plenty of men. Nobody discourages anyone to go to therapy. They are discouraged by other men to not express themselves because they care more about what other men think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 08:08 PM
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This! That's why I cut them off now. Back then I would forgive a cheater or forgive verbal abuse, until I realize they wouldn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:38 PM
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Either that or he was fucking the woman he's with now. They got married pretty quick after the breakup lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:35 PM
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This is why relationships are not worth it to me anymore. This happened to me with my ex of 6 years (longest, most satisfying relationship I had). Everything was close to perfect until suddenly he started pushing me away along with my self-esteem. He stopped giving me affection, looked over my shoulder at other women, took his phone to the bathroom, etc... Even his married friends used to complain about wishing they had freedom, so that's a red flag. I snooped his web history and saw that he was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 04:03 PM
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Yup. This is very well said. My brother is doing everything for the baby and wife. He's cooking her dinner and waking up at night - things men SHOULD be expected to do. There's no trophy or cookie for doing your job to raise a child you created. My Dad, on the other hand, never helped change diapers or wake up to calm us in the wee hours of the night 😒 It was all up to my mom and she had 5 of us 2 years apart! She believes the man isn't supposed to do childcare or housework. It's such BS 🙄 If th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 07:23 PM
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My mom just did this today. She was AMAZED that my brother was taking care of his newborn baby and letting his wife rest. She praised him for changing a diaper. This should be normal? I educated her on this by telling her this is basically what all Dads are supposed to do and nothing to jump for joy over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:13 AM
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I met a man who made up an entire documentary about himself that I later found from his lifelong friends that was false. I'll never forget when he destroyed his entire room, took pictures of it and said his wife did it. She wasn't even close to the vicinity. She left him and moved out of state. She also killed his fish when she wasn't there and also knocked his kid down the steps when she wasn't there. He was a textbook narcissist and I'm not just using that term. I know what it means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 03:39 AM
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A 5'7 man was tougher than any taller man I have been with. As a matter of fact, a 6'3 man was harassing his mother one day and he whooped big guy's a$$ on site. He would drive me anywhere and never want me walking alone at night. The tallest man I was ever with never protected me in any way. I even told him some men were harassing me on my way to his house and he said "well just gotta say the right thing or walk away". I'll never understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 07:46 PM
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Your Heart - Joyner Lucas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 07:34 AM
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I have dated many different ages of men and the older ones are always trying to cop a feel or talk me up. The younger ones I have dated have never brought up my body in a disrespectful way. I am very close to an hourglass figure and have quite a butt, so I am often disappointed. I get this disrespectful treatment from older men all the time. Weird, because I always expected the opposite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 06:39 PM
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One of my brorthers literally went behind my sister's back and got her husband a stripper for his bachelor party. She requested that nobody gets him one..and she literally had to say it multiple times. So her husband kept it secret for years along with an actual trip to a strip club one day. This caused a huge fight, and rightfully so.. and also a lifelong separation in my family. Her husband was very close with my brother. That's how they met. Now they don't even talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:21 AM
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I had met a gay guy (friend of a friend) and the entire night he was sexually harassing and catcalling other men. He was talking trash about the "bitches" that wanted him but can't have him because men only. Then he was also on some high horse acting like gay men are better than women at everything. He was like....competing with us. It was so weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 05:00 PM
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Yea and like the woman has to "measure up" to their standards 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 10:54 PM
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No lie, I'm freaking out because I was just having this conversation with myself 10 minutes ago before I stumbled upon this post. I literally wrote on paper "I found my life purpose: to serve as a warning to others". 🤣 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 03:09 PM
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Back when I did MMA training, we had a gathering at a sports bar to celebrate this girl's first fight. This one guy went back and forth between me and my friend/training partner to interview us. He, at one point, said "sorry, excuse me" to me and nodded at her and turned his back on me. It was like a way of showing he was more interested in her and telling me to eff off. Good news is that she already had a man and rejected him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:56 PM
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Then those same men shame us single moms for simply being single moms regardless of any reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:26 PM
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The woman who my attacker assaulted (after me) had a restraining order and yet she still turned up dead. They were actually in a relationship and obviously broken up after he assaulted her the same way he did to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:34 PM
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I did this over text and I wonder if the man who put me down is even doing well 😆 I mean I destroyed him with words he didn't know I had in my vocabulary. I was too nice to him before. My mom told me to be the bigger person. I said "I can't, I'm only 5'1".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:36 PM
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This! I rejected a man I was seeing and he sexually assaulted me over and over. I gave him a bloody nose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:25 PM
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I'm so glad I stumbled upon this. My bitterness cane to surface since I have been crushing on a man for months. I have been single by choice for a long time now. My trust issues have been getting to me and I have been acting pretty cold. Today, I was feeling very bitter while I thought about all the exs and how they treated me. I cried in the shower just remembering how I never received the love I wanted and that I should stay giving up. I had my body image mocked, was cheated on, abused both me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:54 AM
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I am cracking up 🤣 This describes some guy at my gym (except not bald). He keeps trying to get me to compliment him because he compliments me everyday on my looks. He either shows off or tries to make me feel sympathy about him being "old and fat". But I refuse to cater to his ego. He chimed into a conversation I had with someone else about how he is not monogamous and can't find the woman to change him. He bragged about hurting women who tried to change him. All the while he kept looking over a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:32 PM
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A friend I had since High school just started making YouTube videos about "why men won't marry" and this was basically the topic. He kept talking about men wanting "traditional" women, but everything he described was an obedient woman that won't talk back or have independence. He sounds insecure about women who are "for the streets" as he describes. I discussed this and he is the same freakin type to tell you that men aren't monogamous etc... pfft..WhY men WoNT MaRrY 🤣 ha what a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:13 PM
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I fell into a deep feeling of inadequacy for not being able to cum from PIV sex. I was compared to previous partners by some of my exs because their exs supposedly "squirted" and "always came" etc... One of them dug up a picture of wet bedsheets from his ex. Could you imagine if a woman dug up a picture of a man's jizz on her bed or something? I pretty much have a non-existent sex life now. Toys don't even work for me. Men have ruined sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:48 PM
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It was fun reading this because I actually have a crush from my gym. He is an athlete and a personal trainer. I'm so glad that non of these red flags match him. He is super courteous and picks things up if they are in the wrong place. He cheers me on and motivates others rather than tearing them down. Even when he jokes with his friends, I never heard him really talk down on anyone. He never seems too show-offish (unless he's trying to impress me). I do, however see these types of guys in the gy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:38 PM
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It's not until they lose everything that matters that they reflect on themselves and the people around them.... IT... TAKES....TIL...IT'S....OVER!! They know what they are doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:41 AM
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I HATE when they try so hard to sound so educated and poetic. It's a freaking dating site, not a college essay. Also the overuse of humor is annoying. Show your humor on a date, not on the app. He swears up and down that he is some prize to be won. That is a major turn-off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:14 AM
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I hope someone smacks the soap out of his hands. I'm going to court this month and I HOPE I run into his parents sometime outside. I want to tell them to F--- off. My detective said that he's a Daddy's boy and the Dad was supporting him and believing him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:09 PM
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I am literally going to prepare for trial today because of a creep I met OLD who assaulted me. He CHARMED another woman after me. They had a full-blown relationship for 4 months before he assaulted her in a very similar fashion...and then killed her after she got a restraining order. You would have never guessed he was a rapist and that he would ever murder someone. I identified the red flags on the 2nd date which is when he assaulted me. That woman, she was with him for 4 months! I can see why …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:37 PM
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I was in labor for a very abnormal time - 3.5 days. My son's father joked about having to find a whore after the nurse said I had to avoid sex. I left him shortly after the birth of my son because I suspected he had cheated while I was pregnant plus he turned into a straight alcoholic. Then he tried winning me back by getting a tattoo of my name and when I officially left him, he threatened suicide. I left him anyway and was with a pretty decent and empathetic man who treated me and my son reall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:19 PM
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I tell them that only certain men have made me cum. And then leave his ass. Let him taste his own medicine. I used to get this A LOT. And you know what? I hardly even believe their ex did cum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:39 PM
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I'm seeing it everywhere! All over Facebook (my main social media platform). I'm also noticing men are starting to agree more instead of fighting about it. I used to always get into arguments posting this stuff, and now I'm seeing more of them are waking up and realizing that it's the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:49 PM
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Eww. Block and delete him from your life for good. Imagine what he would do to try and manipulate and HURT YOU if you were in a relationship with him. Or be petty and take a pic with another man and give him a taste of his own medicine. Don't apologize to this POS. He is trying to manipulate you and make you feel bad.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 05:24 PM
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Good for him. Use that guilt to PREACH to other men instead of going on an emotional tangent though. I feel like this was more of him venting because he feels like shit and wants people to agree that "not all men". I still have hope that FDS opened his eyes regardless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:31 AM
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Get this: my ex, a male, told me to not be too nice to men who say hi on the street. While I saw this as being controlling and insecure, he also wasn't wrong. Other men tell us this and then get mad when we call them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:00 PM
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My ex did the same shit and even proposed to his new woman after 3 months of knowing her. I was a single mom when he met me 5.5 years before the end of the relationship. Well this new girl was also a single mom of a boy my son's age, so he also took extra pictures of fun stuff with the kid. How creepy. I didn't feel bad, I laughed my whole ass off into nonexistence. Just knowing how FICKLE that a man has to be to dedicate his time to making his ex jealous. It also didn't work because I was far t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:42 AM
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Girl. You are so right about this. I am 29 and just about 98% of boys and men after ALL THESE YEARS have been absolute shit to me. Those "good guys" people talk about are far and few. Most of them are conveniently unattractive and only nice because they CAN'T get away with being shit. I was mentally and physically abused by my father most of my life beforeI was even in kindergarten. Can't beat boys up? BS. I took up some boxing and MMA. Luckily only twice in my life I was almost raped, but inste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:02 AM
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I knew a man whose girlfriend had this MODEL MOVIE STAR BEAUTY. And the man was shorter than her and real skinny with no real goals in life. He was kinda cute and sweet in the beginning, always talked about her. Then something changed. He became obsessed with strippers and porn. Eventually he cheated on her. I was like....HOW?!?!! But she got him back and cheated and all hell broke loose. I became 100% anxious of relationships from a gym I was going to. My trainer and his wife were both very att…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:32 PM
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Just play Save Yourself - from Stabbing Westward for him lol. That used to be my jam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 10:52 PM
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Last time I hooked up with a "dom", he only went down on me for 5 seconds and did it the wrong way. The sex was incredibly "vanilla" and not good. He tried to spit in my face without even initially asking if that was my thing. Like ok, so you like grabbing hair, and biting? Whoop-de- freaking-doo. I ended up having to be the dominant one because he was out of shape, out of breath, and I wasn't getting off. After the sex, he told me he was into porn, buying OnlyFans, and also had attachment issue…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 05:07 PM
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I actually pressed charges and had a court hearing because a date kept doing this even after I said "no" 10 TIMES!! All because he didn't want me to leave his apartment. I physically shoved him and bloodied his nose. He is now going to be a registered sex offender and of course not going to jail since I didn't let him continue on to rape me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:29 AM
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I consider myself a "freak". I developed my kinks all in my own without even watching porn or knowing what the heck a kink even was. With that being said, I ain't letting a man torture me or choke me hard during sex. This is like....the only shit people can think of - men beating women. I also don't care that someone else is "vanilla" I mean 85% of the time I myself am vanilla anyway with the guys I date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:08 PM
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Yess!! 👸 I'm halfway there and just need to move. I have my son who is a prodigy and I want to have a pet or 2 after I move out. I got the money, career, vehicle, college degrees with paid off loads, and excellent credit and I'm finally feeling wholesome without a man in my life. I did this all on my own. When I do date a man, I find ways to sneak topics like porn into conversations and just see their reactions. They always tell on themselves! It takes some getting used to and going through lots…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:49 PM
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I hope he genuinely takes some notes and advice from here and just puts up a front to pretend he's "cool" in front of his online male buddies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:48 PM
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"OK, lol" Annnd block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:26 AM
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❤ My mom was the one who refused to leave my abusive father and I was the one that fought back my abusive ex and left in the middle of the night with my son. True story. I'll never be like my mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:19 AM
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I didn't let my ex see my son til about a year into knowing him. I don't speak much about my son either unless the conversation about school or something fitting comes up in conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:32 AM
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SAME HERE. So sick of these same exact profiles over and over again - kids, babies, "fur fathers", pics with other women, abs, travel, brunch...same thing on 90% profiles. There must be some secret man's OLD club speeing off terribly stupid advice to trick women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:33 AM
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Same here! It sickens me. I'll never put my son's picture on a profile I won't even send pics to the guys I'm talking to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:28 AM
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Right! I'm a single mom and thinking the same thing. I can't imagine putting my son's picture on a dating app. They really are the ones who want to "hang out"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:26 AM
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Thank you so much ❤ ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:11 PM
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Thanks! I'll likely have to because I'll be struggling. I kinda played it off like it wasn't a major surgery so as not to scare my family 😂. I try to keep people out of it for now. I'm afraid they will cause all types of anxiety and fear and talk me out of the surgery. I was stubborn and it took me lots of research and appointments to finally gain the strength to say I would go through with it. I already had my family dentist tell me the surgery was the only way, however he then went on a long r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 01:41 AM
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Thank you. I will be looking into Therapy more. It's been a struggle to find a therapist and I especially need one now that I am getting a jaw surgery done for my bad underbite. Thinking about that surgery has really been messing with my mental health even more just thinking about it lol. It's more likely that the outcome will boost my self-esteem in the long run, but I'm mainly supposed to be getting it done for health reasons. I will totally check out your posts! Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:12 PM
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That's awesome! ☺ How did you overcome your low self esteem? I do feel good sometimes, but it just doesn't last 😢 I try so hard to feel great. I workout a lot. I eat clean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:59 AM
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Thanks for the motivation and kind words! I do struggle with ups and downs with my self-esteem. Just one of those days lol. Also I have noticed men treat women great over their beauty when they should care more about our desires and success. I actually have an underbite that I am having corrected, so although it's mainly for my health, I hear I'll look and feel 10X better. I'm working on a glow-up mentally and physically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:37 PM
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I'm not pretty enough for that. This only happens when you are super pretty and your lover is actually obsessed with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:43 PM
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I agree. I seen her without the makeup too and no offense, but....ehhh....not so pretty. I do have some similar features as her though. I really don't understand the comparison because he also said he didn't like her trashy attitude. I'm confused lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:55 PM
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Thank you for this! I will of course never believe a man is 100% a HVM until he has proven himself. And you are right, I should keep focusing on myself. He just happened unexpectedly and quite fast after I left my ex. I will not rush anything and I often just keep my phone away and keep communication on the low. Some people really do change up. I was with someone for 5 years before seeing his true colors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:51 PM
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Thank you for this! I have had this happen to me a couple times in the past. I will continue to remain leery of men. I am taking things at a snails pace anyway. I'll give him a couple months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:45 PM
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That last one was really clever, funny, and so accurate 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 10:10 PM
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Yes. I been with mine 2.5 years too. Same boat. Can't find it in me to leave him 100%. Idk what it is that keeps me with him. I guess I'm too comfortable, although disappointed, and don't care about dating through the large pile of a--hole men all over again. Being alone sounds fine to me, but not in the long run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 08:19 PM
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We have the same problem. It just makes me fear relationships more and reinforces my marriage-free status.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:44 PM
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Wow. This sounds exactly like me. My boyfriend of 2 years plays games while I workout and do 100 other things. It's hard to let go because he is so nice and goes out of his way to help people. We already bought cars together and planned on moving, but now my mind is changing. I don't blame her. I communicated 100 times and he didn't change. I haven't been feeling up to sex or anything due to losing attraction. Communication won't do jack shit. If he cares about her enough, he would step up and m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:34 PM
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Thank you! ❤ ❤ And I'm happy for you and all the queens here that are working on building themselves up and supporting others
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 12:48 AM
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This is me now. I'm taking responsibility of my own self-esteem. I'm getting braces and surgery I should have gotten long ago. I'm looking into new hobbies to try and just had my first singing lesson today at age 28! I basically turned cold towards men and dating because they have NEVER done anything but try to bring me down. Even family members.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 08:51 PM
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Sooo many of them. They are gross and I'll never date a "dog dad" again. They are for sure a next level psycho. They only pretend to care for their dogs to wheel you in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 11:10 PM
5

Same!! 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 11:02 PM
4

Just got mine out literally yesterday lol. I had excessive itching and started getting pains and reocurring infections from it after having it in for so long. I feel normal already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:01 PM
2

Thanks sis ❤ My family was upset and I didn't care lol. They thought he was so great. I really don't miss him, especially after how creepy he started acting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:38 PM
2

He immediately proposed to a new girl 3 months after I left him. I wasn't even upset. That was a really fickle thing to do on his part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:17 PM
3

Lmao they treat the clit like it's a rare Pokemon. It's the simplest, most pleasurable, and less mess way to get a woman off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:12 PM
3

There used to be grown men trying to give compliments or creepily talk their way into "getting to know" my sister at age 12. It happened to some of our friends too. That's why my Dad used to walk with us home from school. We were embarrassed at first but then we understood why. My Dad warned us about men like that. My mom warned us before we were even preteens. My oldest brother did too. I always thought most decent men who aren't living in a bubble would sort of understand this.
/r/seduction24/06/20 06:35 PM
1

I'm talking about things women experience way too often - sexual harassment, unwanted catcalls etc... from men personally. I think it's clear this girl was paranoid about how he approached her due to something that happened. I know OP meant well. It sucks that he feels weird now because it was a strange reaction from her, but it was likely valid.
/r/seduction24/06/20 06:24 PM
3

This is unacceptable. The men who do this should have sorted themselves out by now. I realized these things have happened to just about every woman I know and WE DON'T LIKE IT. If men hate the truth, maybe they should fight to end this toxic behavior instead of defending it. I wish we can ALL have better experiences and be able to trust the opposite sex. This is a damn shame because I know OP meant well, but came off as creepy due to actual creeps approaching women the way he did.
/r/seduction24/06/20 06:17 PM
1

Or maybe she just felt threatened.
/r/seduction24/06/20 03:19 PM
4

Exactly this. I have been followed twice after saying "no". How often does that happen to men?
/r/seduction24/06/20 03:10 PM
13

Why is this being down-voted? Everyone feels differently about being approached. This is valid.
/r/seduction24/06/20 03:05 PM
35

This has happened to so many girls I knew back in high school. Also still happens to adults sadly. THIS is why they are complaining about women doing the same stuff to them nowadays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 03:01 PM
24

This is that same old situation where the married man is in a "midlife crisis" and delusional. I bet you he was already looking for a new gf or has one already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:55 PM
41

I have seen at least 5 profiles that mentioned "eating ass" before I opted out of all online dating. They really think women want that smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:45 PM
2

Thanks for mentioning this. Currently been talking to a vet for a month and it's just sooo confusing. He seems great, but then acts totally emotionless the next day. I have reconsidered at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 12:00 AM
11

I don't even think drinking and smoking and doing the most hardcore of drugs could ever get me to wanna fuck this dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 08:46 PM
27

Eww. I used to be like this girl. It used to make me feel good that taken man were giving me attention and praising me. Oh, how I look back and cringe at my weak self-esteem. Anyway, the fuck does a man need to cheat to get anal for? It's really not that important. This is beyond dumb and disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 08:44 PM
3

Thanks! I'm so glad I found this reddit too. I did not submit a pic online to be rated by him. It was a picture, along with some others that I was taking just for my own personal fun. It was an animated game on snap where you snap the picture and it rates you. It wasn't asking him to rate me lol. He just had the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:43 PM
3

Thanks. I don't feel as though I was fishing for validation from men on snapchat. He was just one person I was interested in dating for a while. These are great questions. I have been thinking about these recently. I grew up kinda poor and my desired hobbies were either unachievable or stripped from me. So now that I'm older I have been looking into new stuff. I have been training in boxing and MMA for 4 years, I'm recently looking into kayaking and maybe archery. I'm reading again since the qua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:42 PM
16

I'm torn. I was talking to this very attractive, considerate, and respectful (was) man. He was willing to drive 45 mins just to go hiking and talk to me while all this chaos is going on. He didn't seem like he was trying to hookup and he was respectful of boundaries. We were going great for 3 weeks...and then he rated one of my snap pictures a 1. It was one of those snap filters that's like a game and says "how sexy are you?" I got an 85%. He kept apologizing, but also played mental gymnastics. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:29 PM
10

Wow. Jokes on him. She's probably using him for money and judging by her outfit, she probably didn't take him seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:18 PM
10

This is 100% what I observed in my ex and his multiple groups of friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 06:36 PM
3

This sounds almost exactly like my situation now lol. I'm with a strange "kinda" emotionless guy who plays video games and smokes cigs. He does show affection and all, but he's really quiet and dull. I reconnected with a friend on MeetMe just because I knew he was a go-to person to try shrooms or DMT for the first time. Suddenly my bf started acting like he owned me and as if I was cheating. I have been telling him over and over he needs to get up and find new hobbies, get new clothes etc... And…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:04 PM
10

I aspire to be like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 10:08 PM
13

Yoooo 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 02:09 AM
4

My ex of 5 years was exactly like this for a long time. I felt like I loved him more than he loved me. Some early sign was when he described his ideal relationship like a business transaction and said "it's not about being in love and all that". Later on, I thought he was just trying not to seem vulnerable because he started being more affectionate and what not. I think the relationship was great once he got past his "being afraid to open up". Unfortunately, he started acting like that AGAIN whi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 03:32 PM
2

I agree with this! My best male friend is "kinda" like that but with a mix of Goth lifestyle. He does tend to be condescending in logical conversations and it can be annoying. I do, however feel like when he gets a girlfriend, he treats her very well. He never showed signs of making a woman feel like crap. I say it all depends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 03:13 PM
3

Same!! I was a Pickme and went after nasty men who I tried to justify. I dealt with the worst pain and heartache as a teen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 03:08 PM
3

Do the same thing in front of him one day. Say you have a few hot dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 03:06 PM
27

Wow! I said this before and thought I was crazy for giving that advice. It's true for me as well. They HATE being ghosted more than anything. I even told a male friend (also an ex) that I ghost men who don't show me they are fully interested. He blew up 😂. Like he was traumatized from being ghosted I guess??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 02:01 AM
5

All the comments on the Reddit Ridiculousness page (how I found this post) on Facebook - "ShOulD oF nEvEr SnOooooOOPed"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 01:32 AM
2

Eww. I saw this posted on a Facebook page called "Reddit Ridiculousness" and the amount of PickMes and nasty men who need to be schooled is astounding. They actually find this endearing. Just sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 01:26 AM
6

I think it's funny how men (even just platonic male friends) are so comfortable talking about other women's asses, breasts, and thickness to us. Then when I bring up a large cock or how tall my ex was, they either get really quiet or go on a mental breakdown: They cry "WhY wOuLd YoU tEll ME ThaT!!!!" And then they roar their masculine roar to hide their inner torment: "I'm A MMMMMMAAANNNN!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:56 PM
122

Reading this after being told for the 1000th time (by a different male friend) that men get tired of their wives because of men's "BiOlOgY". I love when they can't take their own medicine. I guess BiOlOgY is why women can replace men 10X faster and easier than men can replace us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:45 PM
29

I am so pleased to see that the OP got DRAGGED into oblivion by both men and women. I'm so happy to see so many men and women WAKING UP to how toxic porn is. He is abusive and sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 04:47 PM
100

I'll never understand why they play this game. It happens almost all the time with me. What do they get out of making us wonder if they care? Nobody wants to toss and turn at night worrying about if someone cares. I'll never subject myself to that again. When they show a lack of trust and care (waiting 5 days to text back, for example), I avoid them. They usually come back complaining when it's too late because by then I usually find somebody else who shows they are interested. "I HaD yOu FiRsT"…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:49 PM
17

This is my rule FOR NOW ON! I always had a habit of being argumentative. Maybe it's because I grew up in rough, poor city and with a family where everyone needs to have the last word lol. I learned the hard way - arguing with men is the biggest waste of breath. This man slept peacefully with his ex. You really think he's gonna learn a lesson? He probably would have WANTED her to see them and to go postal. They hate silence though. Nothing seems to hurt a man worse than being ghosted for whatever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:46 AM
26

Needed this. Sounds a lot like my current boyfriend. I refuse to move in with him until he is employed again. Sad that he's a respectable guy, but he lacks personal care of himself and I'm sick of putting in so much effort into getting fit and healthy while he watches TV. He requires surgery for his teeth that will cost a lot and he has no savings account. I'm getting tired. I stayed longer than I should because I'm terrified of dating and falling in love again. He's comfortable and safe. I have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 03:42 PM
3

Thanks for your insight on this! Tbh, I only just heard of "demisexual" and just thought that matched what she described.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 06:27 PM
1

Umm...ok?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 06:21 PM
5

Demisexual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:37 AM
25

Shut down pornhub! They allow sex trafficking too! Here's a petition and it explains everything: http://chng.it/8KvRDQtZLK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:53 AM
9

I want to do this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:35 PM
2

Wishing the best for you! I know someone with EDS who found a great man who loves her and they are about to get married ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:22 PM
3

My ex used to pressure me to squirt until I snapped and told him what an idiot and a pig he was. I mean telling someone to squirt must work right? Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:06 PM
52

Same. Best sex and foreply (YES, FOREPLAY!!) ever was from an older pornless man. He instead studied sex and woman anatomy. YES, HE TOOK THE TIME TO STUDY WOMEN. HE READ BOOKS. He was the only person I could have sex with, rest, sex, rest, sex....X10. And he was the oldest man I have been with. WTF....MEN. LAY OFF THE PORN!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:46 PM
56

7 - If they pressure you to "squirt". 8 - Their sex drive is lower than they emphasized. 9 - They hesitate to let you touch thier phone even though they know porn is "harmless fun".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:37 PM
4

Same. But it's ok because I'm way happier now. But, wow. I was so dumb and blind lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:03 PM
7

I just like to get my point across lol. Idk sometimes I think they are plain stupid and need some sense talked into them. Or to just know that not everyone will take their shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:08 PM
121

This never use to happen to me back in the past until my most recent dating episodes. I tell them "for real? Making women that don't even know you travel to you? You know how creepy that is?" and then I block them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:54 PM
18

I would literally date someone else for Vday after dumping him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:28 PM
18

http://chng.it/KGn5KGFznc I found this today /\
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:16 PM
34

Until THEY start speaking out against this shit and stop worshiping each other's cocks for being disgusting, then maybe they can stop complaining about us not trusting them and fearing them. Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:10 PM
56

http://chng.it/KGn5KGFznc This is so gross. I KNEW this type of stuff went down. When I tell men (my ex for example), they make excuses to watch this garbage. How sick you have to be to get off on children suffering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:24 PM
5

Imagine if they did. Like imagine how much FUN they would have making thier girl happy. And it would boost tge woman's confidence in him and there would be less drama and more sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:47 PM
9

Mine's says that men who complain about gifts, traveling to their gfs, and dates are straight up pu$$y. He don't even make much money atm and is still making sure to take me out for dinner and wine. He never complained or expected anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:45 PM
7

I'm about to go vomit. WHAT THE ACTUAL F***?? That poor woman was basically alone in labour. His head was in another place, a sick one at that! This man was probably watching porn on thier wedding night! He should be shamed on top of his shame. I don't feel sad for him. I mean, my son's father was weird during my labor, but this man takes the cake. My nasty cheating ex never even watched porn whilst I was with him under the same roof. Tf??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:36 PM
5

Sounds like a really sweet guy who is confident in his masculinity and knows what he wants. Happy for you! Good luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:24 PM
24

So true. And just imagine how much better and fun a relationship can be when all your sexual energy and love is directed to that one person who actually cares about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:21 AM
14

I actually had a male friend who used to do porn. He didn't go into a lot of detail but said THIS is why he gave up on it - the drugs, coercing, and abuse. That was back when I thought porn was ok. Him telling me this was a real eye opener.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:19 AM
20

Every man I dated was happy to spend money on a date and they would probably make fun of these men who are complaining. Yikes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:44 AM
28

As someone with some weird kinks, I'll take THIS over any kink ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:33 AM
23

That's just a really sick thing to think of. Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:31 PM
13

Thanks for telling other women about this! My son's father was an example of this nightmare. I still hate myself for him even though it was long ago. I just can't believe how blindly in love I was to allow a POS like him to ruin me. The nurse wanted to slap him. I mean...she looked like she wanted to murder him before slapping him. When she told me how long I couldn't have sex, he joked about needing to find a prostitute. He barely helped me and actually became a cheating, abusive, alcoholic ass…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:15 PM
15

It sounds more like he wants to make dinner with you. That can be fun! But still keep your guard up. Just avoid it if he wants you to cook for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:57 PM
3

Ctfu 😂😂😂 "(Other guy's name) is this you? Did you get a new phone?" I'm using this if I ever get the chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:53 AM
12

Be enthusiastic. Tell him you are excited to have one, but with a certain someone and that it's a surprise... ....and then introduce him to another man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:36 AM
6

Every good word in the dictionary that you use to describe you or what you want/like = sex. Fun = sex Movies = sex Laidback = sex Outgoing = sex Men are straight pussy-begging predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:28 AM
1

Exactly. So damn creepy. I pity any living being who has to deal with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:22 AM
3

No. He needs actual psychotherapy. He would probably only like a dog because it can't consent. He sounds too disgusting to be around any living creature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:20 AM
4

I dated a man who was a supposed "animal lover". Thought nothing of it. Then I caught him kissing his cat in a very weird way "down there" and also found a beastiality porn DVD. You would have guessed he was normal. Just gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:16 AM
76

I had one ex of 5 years who decided that when we were on the verge of breaking up, he would get me blackout drunk. He tried to make me have sex the next morning even though I was sick and told him no 100X. He even followed me into my shower to attempt to try. He wouldn't dare rape me though when I shoved him. I can't believe after 5 years someone would want to act like that. I truly believe that he raped someone at one point of his life. I know he was accused of it before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:57 PM
1

Me too 😢 It's too late for me to turn back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:20 PM
5

CTFU 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:12 PM
3

Why is this so true 😐😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:54 PM
2

I get this so much and I hate it. Oh and "laid back" I have been disrespected because apparently "laid back" means you lay back and let a man hit on other women or get away with anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 07:32 PM
8

Someone, who also didn't foreplay, Jack Rabbited me for a long time and said to me "most women cum like a river when I do that" DURING THE SEX. Yawn I ghosted him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 06:33 PM
14

"I had a dog aka son" = men who say shit like that are usually deranged control freaks anyway from my experience. Then adding in his sex comments and not even asking how she and her dog are doing because he's mad about a text? Clearly one thing he wants. Imagine what he would say if they were already in a serious relationship. Eww.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 06:27 PM
2

Yes. I used to rely on POF because at first I met really cool people including my ex of 5 years (WAS cool for a time). But the last time I used it, these men were garbage. This one guy was a trip. He was so popular and his adoptive rich parents had something to do with celebrities (don't remember) but he had like tons of rich model-like people on his Facebook. He used to record us and take unwanted pictures of me every single time we went out. I told him to chill on that. He recorded himself han…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:38 AM
1

It was good the first time I used it. I was in a 5 year relationship with someone I met on there. But last time I used it, AWFUL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:09 AM
3

My worst ever nightmare of an ex posted pics of himself with no shirt on and sometimes in underwear. Once, I went and took a pic of myself in pajama booty shorts (front view though). All the fury of hell's flames roared that night on the other end of my phone 😂 But he finally stopped. This was after he posted like 20 sexy pics of himself. I never got mad at him for his pics, but I questioned it. I was still young and dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:27 PM
3

Happened to me too. My ex from like 7 years ago moved pretty close to me. We both have partners and I can tell he's matured a lot and respects her. What sucks is he is physically the most attractive man I have ever been with, but after all we have been through, there's nothing else I want from him besides a decent friendship. He's great to talk to. I could never trust him again in a relationship though, even if he's changed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:03 PM
3

I always TRY but fail after like...a month.5😂 My goal is 3 months. Just give the bean a few flips here and there and you won't go too crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:56 PM
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