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| 5 | Recommended academic sources arguing against circumcision?I'm not going into FGM beyond "here's its forms All of them are banned, yet circumcision is more harmful than some the forms of FGM." | /r/MensRights | 01/12/19 02:36 AM |
| 1 | I'm thinking of writing about men's issues for my university's newspaper. What should my first article be about?Maybe! | /r/MensRights | 31/10/18 01:01 PM |
| 2 | I'm thinking of writing about men's issues for my university's newspaper. What should my first article be about?More like the toxic masculinity | /r/MensRights | 31/10/18 05:41 AM |
| 9 | What made you become a mens rights activist?I'm male (if that's relevant)and I labeled myself as a feminist for pretty much my entire life since I come from a long line of feminists. My mom is one, my grandma was one, and I think my great-grandma was one too. My mom's feminism and the only brand I knew up until my senior year of high school was closer to the CHS brand than the dominant version. My senior year of high school was the year that social justice had infected high schools. I had never even heard the term "patriarchy" used in the… | /r/MensRights | 16/04/18 09:15 AM |
| 1 | Predictions: When will Men's Issues finally be recognized in the mainstream?Betsy DeVos would beg to differ | /r/MensRights | 21/02/18 05:38 PM |
| 2 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anything (part 2)It's not as bad for me as for most MRAs (see the two paragraphs after the link I posted), but I've lost a good chunk of my acquaintances and a few friends. I get the same treatment that you'd expect when I'm online, but the feminists I encounter treat me better than even neutral people | /r/MensRights | 05/02/18 07:04 AM |
| 1 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anything (part 2)From what I read on Wikipedia (lol), it's really similar to the men's rights movement. Feminism is an ideology built on theories of patriarchy, social constructivism, and Marxism. It paints men and masculinity as being responsible for all the problems in the world. Feminists claim to be about equality, but in practice lobby for special government support, protections, and privileges for women only. They have successfully pushed for some really screwed up stuff and continue to push for more. Don'… | /r/MensRights | 05/02/18 06:44 AM |
| 1 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anything (part 2)They need women's rights groups, yes, but not feminists. The two are not synonymous | /r/MensRights | 05/02/18 06:22 AM |
| 1 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anything (part 2)No. Don't send them to other countries. I don't wish feminism on anyone. If we send them to other parts of the world, then they'll have the same situation that we have here. | /r/MensRights | 05/02/18 06:12 AM |
| 3 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anything (part 2)The Duluth Model. It's the most widely used domestic violence intervention program in the world. To oversimplify, it's based on the feminist theory that men (and only men) use domestic violence to assert their patriarchal dominance over women while women's violence is always in self-defense and/or inconsequential. It's entirely rooted in feminist ideology but police, judges, shelters, social workers, guardians ad litem, and pretty much anyone who works with domestic violence victims are indoctri… | /r/MensRights | 05/02/18 05:16 AM |
| 1 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingI know it's futile and I'm not trying to convert her. I just want her to see where I'm coming from | /r/MensRights | 05/02/18 01:43 AM |
| 1 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anything (part 2)I chose it because the stances sounded reasonable and I agreed with them. Therefore, I aligned myself the label. Not because my mom does | /r/MensRights | 05/02/18 01:42 AM |
| 3 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anything (part 2)As in, "we don't need a separate movement?" I'm not sure if I'm the best authority to write from the former feminist perspective, as my brand of feminism was completely different from today's mainstream one and I knew nothing about these issues. I would have definitely supported the issues, but for different reasons and I would have had different responses. I can't entirely predict how I would have responded to that since it's impossible to fully return to that mindset after taking the red pill.… | /r/MensRights | 05/02/18 01:39 AM |
| 1 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anything (part 2)Engaging with them on the internet is a bad idea because people are dicks on the internet. Try real-life. Not all of them are overly emotional and not all of them are women. There's also men involved. I'd say that most of the men are the kind who are less masculine, more in touch with their feelings, and alienated by other men. They see feminism as a path to freedom from the constraints of masculinity and more accepting of emotional men. The rest are chauvinists who want to virtue signal. I was … | /r/MensRights | 04/02/18 11:57 PM |
| 2 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anything (part 2)It's answered in the post I linked to, but basically it's because I come from a long line of feminists. I think my great-grandmother was one (I haven't asked), but I know that my grandmother was a passionate first waver and my mom is a passionate second waver of the Christina Hoff Sommers type (pro-choice, individual choice, wage gap, etc.) It all sounded reasonable to me so I donned the label. I grew up mostly in the 2000's and feminism hadn't resurged in popularity among millennials. I think t… | /r/MensRights | 04/02/18 11:36 PM |
| 8 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anything (part 2)What feminist goals do you still support? Pretty much everything that Based Mom and the other equity feminists support. I'm now "reluctantly pro-choice" because I think abortion is sad and I want to see it reduced, but I want to be consistent in my support of reproductive rights. I know it's justified in special cases and in spite of all the pro-life virtue signaling, all that making abortion illegal or preventing access to it will do is drive it underground, leaving women at risk. What feminist… | /r/MensRights | 04/02/18 10:42 PM |
| 12 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anything (part 2)You'll find the answer in my original post in the link. But basically one of the reasons is because my friend was a male victim of domestic violence and he was blamed considered the aggressor even though he was completely innocent in all of this. At first, I had no idea why this happened, but when I found out that the people mistreating him were feminists and a legal system influenced by feminists and how this was all based on feminist ideology, I decided I could no longer align myself with the … | /r/MensRights | 04/02/18 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Women March to Demand Rights They Already HaveBut you see, making women pay for tampons is part of the pink tax. Men don't have to pay for them so it's women pay more because they're women and therefore it's evidence of female oppression at the hands of patriarchy. It's especially oppressive because women already don't get paid as much because of muh wage gap. And contraceptives need to be free because it's "my body, my choice." The government refuses to pay for women's contraception because men want to control women's bodies. Therefore, pa… | /r/MensRights | 01/02/18 01:44 PM |
| 1 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingI thought I just answered your question. Are you talking about how they treated me when I was a feminist? My interactions with other feminists were pretty limited since I hung out with people who didn't care about gender politics. But when I talked to the feminists, they would get triggered because I "wasn't a real feminist" since I ignored the "reality" of patriarchy and intersectionality. | /r/MensRights | 01/02/18 01:33 PM |
| 1 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingI'm an MRA too. That's the one label I'll use and I'm willing to drop it if it becomes cancerous. The reactions from feminists when I tell them about my current affiliation vary greatly. The fanatical ones attack and/or make fun of me for being an MRA and not a feminist. Some of them get angry because not being "intersectional" and participating in the oppression olympics by supporting the rights of all men, including the straight white ones, apparently means that I don't support anyone else's. … | /r/MensRights | 01/02/18 05:57 AM |
| 4 | Women March to Demand Rights They Already HaveFree shit. Some want "free" tampons. "Free" contraception too (but only for women) because it's a "health issue". Next thing you know they'll be screaming about getting "free" hair treatments because that would make them feel good and be good for their mental health, thus, that's a women's health issue. All of this would predominantly be paid for by men since they pay most of the taxes. Also there's the further removal of women's responsibilities and calls to place more responsibilities on men, … | /r/MensRights | 31/01/18 12:31 PM |
| 5 | What can we do to improve mens mental health?There needs to be a push towards developing and promoting methods of talk therapy that work with men's masculinity, not against it. Cognitive behavioral therapy is a good example because it appeals to men's rational side by encouraging them to think critically about their emotions and behavior. | /r/MensRights | 03/01/18 06:54 PM |
| 1 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingBeing forced to pay alimony is slavery. You're doing labor for the benefit of someone else under threat of coercion other than for the man's own financial needs. That's involuntary servitude as defined by the 13th amendment. As for MGTOW, I have mixed feelings about MGTOW. I am not a MGTOW. It's a perfectly legitimate lifestyle choice if you want to do it and there's a good reason for doing it. But a lot of the MGTOWs I've dealt with here and the content creators on YouTube seem rather militant … | /r/MensRights | 23/12/17 08:21 PM |
| 1 | Why should we be wary of feminist influence in government?Look up "rape shield law" | /r/MensRights | 06/12/17 04:16 AM |
| 1 | Ugh, My Dad’s Anti MRAwhy are men called privileged!? Lots of reasons Feminism as an ideology is heavily rooted in Marxism and its dichotomy of oppressor/oppressed classes and class conflict. The radical Feminists of the second wave were all Marxists. This came from the first wavers, who believed that women were oppressed because they didn't have as many rights as men. Their lack of responsibilities was completely invisible to them Feminists see the few men at the top as somehow being representative of all men. They … | /r/MensRights | 06/12/17 03:55 AM |
| 2 | How to respond to the "we're not blaming men, we're blaming patriarchy" line"We don't want to put women above men. We want to make women equal to men!" | /r/MensRights | 29/11/17 08:26 AM |
| 20 | How to respond to the "we're not blaming men, we're blaming patriarchy" lineThe bailey is "all men are part of the patriarchy and oppress all women." Once criticized, they retreat to "patriarchy is a system above the individual and results in inequality." That's what I've noticed | /r/MensRights | 29/11/17 01:20 AM |
| 3 | How to respond to the "we're not blaming men, we're blaming patriarchy" lineThey often use the phrase "gender roles" but that is just a part of patriarchy | /r/MensRights | 28/11/17 04:14 AM |
| 2 | How to respond to the "we're not blaming men, we're blaming patriarchy" lineBecause all men are participating in the oppression and women are the ones being oppressed. | /r/MensRights | 28/11/17 04:13 AM |
| 1 | What attitudes towards relationships do you have? (Want to get married one day?, MGTOW, Involuntary celibate.)I'm single and not a MGTOW. I'm more optimistic about relationships than some people here. I believe that most women (and men) would go into a relationship with good intentions and I'm willing to give people of different beliefs (even feminists) a chance. That said, I trust my intuition and am trying to be careful about staying away from anyone who sets off any alarms in my head. I'm considering staying away from marriage, though | /r/MensRights | 28/11/17 04:05 AM |
| 2 | Will powerful men reconsider feminism, now that they are personally threatened?Are you talking about all those men in Hollywood being accused of sexual misconduct? I doubt it. Feminist men like Louis CK will confess to guilt when they don't have any because they would never question a woman's word and those who aren't feminists are too afraid to defend themselves out of fear of upsetting the feminists. | /r/MensRights | 28/11/17 03:57 AM |
| 8 | How to respond to the "we're not blaming men, we're blaming patriarchy" lineYou could try asking them to what extent do men contribute to the patriarchy. And then, to what extent do women contribute to the patriarchy. Their answers will probably be some attempt to deflect or obfuscate. If so, ask the same question again, maybe in other words, "for clarification". Continue as far as you can tolerate it They say that patriarchy is above the individual and nobody's a part of it whenever people call them out on it or when men say that they aren't oppressing women. When nobo… | /r/MensRights | 28/11/17 03:29 AM |
| 1 | How did people respond when you got out of the MRA closet?When I tell my friends at my university that I'm an MRA, they're all totally fine with it. Even the feminist ones. My family doesn't like it and they're worried that it's going to negatively affect my employment opportunities and make me lose friends | /r/MensRights | 14/11/17 03:09 AM |
| 1 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingSome times I wish that I had taken the blue pill and stayed a feminist so I could fit in more with the people around me at my university. I don't know if I'd drink the Kool-aid with them, but if I kept the same values and my feminism remained unchanged, then I'd still get rejected for "ignoring the problem" and "not being intersectional" and therefore not a "real" feminist. I've dropped the MRA card around a lot of people and I do it early so I don't waste time with intolerant people and a good … | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 10:01 PM |
| 2 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingYup. Caroline Norton inspired the UK parliament to pass the Custody of Infants Act in 1839. That spread to the United States through similar legislation since we have English Common Law. She was what could be described as a first wave feminist. The Tender Years Doctrine was replaced by the Best Interests of the Child Doctrine after people realized that Tender Years was unconstitutional. Best Interests of the Child is a step forward, but didn't change maternal bias in practice. Feminist lobbyists… | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 09:48 PM |
| 1 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingIt's not driven by a search for equality is what I mean Maybe I didn't word that as well as I could have. I meant to say that they should be equal under the law and have equal opportunities and responsibilities. I'm not trying to say that they should or will have equal results Otherwise I fully agree with you | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 09:14 PM |
| 3 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingChild custody is one of them. Fathers were given custody the vast majority of the time in the past because they were assumed to be financially responsible for the children. Then the first wave feminists came along and convinced legislators to give custody to mothers but keep men financially responsible. Feminists fight against the presumption of equal custody in undisputed divorce cases and they have done this for decades | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 08:55 PM |
| 2 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingUnless there is biological preventing them from being equal like the disparity in physical strength due to sexual dimorphism, then they should be equal. The same principles need to apply to both of them equally, even if they are biologically different. One example is in reproductive rights. Opponents of male reproductive rights say that women getting physical abortions is completely different from men financially opting out of parenthood. Because only women can have physical abortions, women sho… | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 08:13 PM |
| 1 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingMany people cannot do this kind of thing until their false belief directly negatively impacts them. That's what happened to me. It would have been more likely that I would just think you're an asshole for taking an issue with it, but I was always (and still am) the kind of person to hear what others have to say. It's highly unlikely that it would have changed my mind. I would have just been curious. It still took an extreme negative impact to change my beliefs. | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 05:44 PM |
| 2 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingThe generational gap may also be a contributing factor. The form contemporary feminism has taken may be quite alien to her You nailed it right on the head there. I've brought up patriarchy theory and other things that define modern day feminism as being the reason why I oppose it and she had no idea what I was talking about. The word "class" triggers no more of an anaphylactic shock than the typical non-SJW democrat | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 05:00 PM |
| 4 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingThat's why I hesitate to use the label "antifeminist," as I believe there are some branches that are more innocuous than others. That, and because I'm hesitant to use labels in general since the label "feminist" had so much power over me. I don't see feminism being reclaimed any time soon. Women's rights have already been more than achieved here and sending the feminists overseas where there are legitimate women's rights issues would result in the same problems we have here. Despite not being en… | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 04:34 PM |
| 2 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingI would have thought that it was wonderful that all of these women are coming forward about their experience of sexual harassment and/or assault and I would have been just as supportive of the men who were joining in and saying "me too." I would have thought that it would be a dick move on your part for you to take an issue with such bravery. Or I might have been curious to hear why you would challenge what should be an unquestionably wonderful thing. Either one of those two. But I wouldn't have… | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 04:24 PM |
| 2 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingI never bothered to engage with them because I never spent much time around them. I thought that they were just conspiracy theorists who weren't the effort The source of all the problems is how powerful the label "feminist" is. In a sense, feminism really is for everyone. It becomes such a huge part of your identity because it can mean whatever you want it to mean and embody all of the values you want it to embody. All of your values can be attributed as being part of your feminism. It doesn't e… | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 03:49 PM |
| 2 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingBut for a lot of the cases they replaced bias in favor of men with bias in favor of women. | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 02:48 PM |
| 2 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingThey only rewrote the gendered laws that favored men and made them either gender neutral or favor women. They had no problem with the already existing gendered laws that favored women. | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 08:33 AM |
| 3 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingI never encountered other people who were skeptical of feminism in person. The only feminist I knew before senior year of high school was my mom. All of my other peers were/are feminists or people who don't give a shit about gender politics. No skeptics. A neutral party can be swayed much more easily by a debate or well written article than a feminist. It's very hard for people to cut ties with something they are attached to and so something extreme has to happen in order for them to do so. It's… | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 08:28 AM |
| 5 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingI don't despise as much as I feel sorry for the feminists and SJWs on my campus. I feel sorry for them because they're buying into the same lies that I bought into and they're being manipulated in the same way that I was being manipulated. If they knew who or what they were truly supporting, then they would have run away screaming a long time ago. What saddens me even more is that they're so fanatical in their pursuit of carrying out some of the malicious people's goals (like the removal of due … | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 06:51 AM |
| 7 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingHow is it possible to lie to so many people for so long and have them genuinely believe it A couple of reasons. One is that feminism is far older than the information age. Feminism is 150 years old. It has had plenty of time to set the cultural narrative and it was much easier to propagandize before the internet. Now most people buy into some version of the feminist framework. Even most non-MRA antifeminists. It's very hard to shake a false preconception from public consciousness. Also, women's … | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 06:35 AM |
| 7 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingI'm not married | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 05:52 AM |
| 7 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingShe genuinely believes in it. As sinister as I think some feminists are, only a small number of them like the lobbyists and academics are deliberately lying. The vast majority are being manipulated and don't know any better. She's in her 60's and she's been a feminist for at least 50 years if not more. Labels are powerful. I only had the label for a decade and shaking it required witnessing a friend get shafted by feminists and a feminist legal system and having an open mind willing to listen to… | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 05:27 AM |
| 2 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingI haven't heard from him in a long time, but I suspect that everybody involved knew it. Either their hands were tied or they were feminists who just didn't care. It infuriates me just thinking about it | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 03:20 AM |
| 7 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingI'm really conflicted about that and I've been pondering it for a long time. The more I learn about it, the more I realize that it was faulty from the start. I really don't want to shit all over my family legacy by saying everything about feminism was 100% terrible and I'm trying to find something positive. But I'm hard pressed to find anything. Can you think of anything? | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 03:09 AM |
| 7 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingRead the story and that might answer your question | /r/MensRights | 12/11/17 01:15 AM |
| 11 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingI've tried discussing men's rights with her but she doesn't like debating. It's not because she's a feminist. She's just averse to conflict. Haven't really talked to her about the brief crisis I had because I wasn't around her during the brief turmoil and I've moved on. She thinks my opposition to feminism is just a phase. | /r/MensRights | 11/11/17 11:48 PM |
| 10 | I used to be a male feminist. Ask me anythingHuge mind-fuck | /r/MensRights | 11/11/17 11:35 PM |
| 2 | Men's rights lawyerThat's what I'm talking about and planning to do | /r/MensRights | 04/11/17 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Men's rights lawyerThe Duluth Model is used by just about everyone and that includes the legal system. From what I know, people in the legal system are bound by federal laws like VAWA to use it | /r/MensRights | 04/11/17 08:56 PM |
| 1 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingAlready happened. I did and I volunteered to. She is paying next time. Then we're splitting the bill every time after that | /r/MensRights | 30/10/17 10:26 PM |
| 1 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingI'm really sorry to hear that. I think the reason why I get better results comes from me talking to the college ones who haven't had as much time to marinate in feminist dogma | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 01:15 PM |
| 1 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingIt didn't surprise me. I posted about whether or not people in here would get into a relationship with a feminist as long as she's a reasonable one. I said I would, and I got really similar responses and the same ratio of positive to negative ones. The MGTOWs would say the same things to anybody in college who wants to date a woman who goes to the same college. But the thought of dating a college woman who's also a feminist really triggers them. That's because it combines the two things they hat… | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 05:10 AM |
| 1 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingI don't even think she has feminist friends or wants any. I asked her what clubs she would join if she had the time and she didn't even mention wanting to join any feminist clubs, of which there are several at my school | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 04:44 AM |
| 2 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingNot really. She still believes that women were oppressed in the past while MRAs completely reject that claim in favor of a more nuanced look at history | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 03:46 AM |
| 3 | Exactly what is a "nice guy" and why do feminists hate them so much? Does it relate to men's rights in your opinion?"Being yourself" is not nonsense at all. Women like authenticity and it's part of not being a "nice guy." A "nice guy" changes his behavior and is afraid to be himself because he will do anything to placate women, and that includes changing/hiding his entire personality in the hopes that serving women will get him laid | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Exactly what is a "nice guy" and why do feminists hate them so much? Does it relate to men's rights in your opinion?Essentially a doormat of a man who believes that if he placates women's every whim, openly emotes around them, and/or acts like a woman in a man's body, he will receive love and/or sex and is owed that. He also thinks that women only go for assholes. The truth is that women really do like nice guys and those who go for bad boys and assholes usually have some kind of daddy issues or an absent father as a child. He's bought into everything the feminists have told him about what makes a good man an… | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 03:28 AM |
| 2 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingdon't EVER tell her that feminism is wrong I never tell feminists that everything they believe in is bullshit. Whenever I can, I say "you're right about X, but..." | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 02:44 AM |
| 2 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingI see your points and I fully agree with them. You've definitely changed my mind on that. | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 02:39 AM |
| 3 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingOn the contrary. I've discussed gender dynamics with most of the feminists I've talked to and they're perfectly rational until you hit an emotionally charged topic like rape, and even then they can sometimes talk about it rationally. All of us have topics that get us emotional. Male genital mutilation is one for me and for many of us. They're just like you and me in that regard | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 02:38 AM |
| 3 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingThat wasn't intended as an insult. In fact, that's why I'm trying to spend more time with feminists | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 02:33 AM |
| 3 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingthose are mutually exclusive No they're not: Christina Hoff Sommers | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 02:32 AM |
| 1 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingat the egalitarian end, like many of us were before we wised up That was me and I seem the same in her. | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 02:29 AM |
| 3 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingI won't wait too long to do that. People say that you shouldn't talk about politics or religion on the first date, but I think you should because it sorts the wheat from the chaff and prevents you from turning any more time/money you spend on them into wasted money/time | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 02:24 AM |
| 3 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingThank you! And good question! Are you asking why I align with the MRM even though I've gotten these responses? It's because I used to be a feminist in the absolutely most casual sense since my mom, grandmother, and possibly my great-grandmother were feminists. I didn't really know anything about it. Not even patriarchy theory. All I knew was "feminism is about equality," "women don't have as many rights as men," "feminism is synonymous with women's rights and if you support women's rights, then … | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 02:19 AM |
| 1 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingI am because I want to. She's paying next time. Then we're splitting the bill every time after that | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 01:10 AM |
| 1 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingI'm not actually going to make her change. I'm going to tell her the facts and I'll let her decide because she's intelligent and form her own opinions. I meant to say that it would be easy to convert her if I wanted to | /r/MensRights | 27/10/17 12:09 AM |
| 2 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingSame reason why you don't stand in an open field during a lightning storm or swim unprotected when there's sharks swimming next to you | /r/MensRights | 26/10/17 10:32 PM |
| 4 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingThank you! It's so nice to see that someone has read the entire thing and giving words of encouragement! | /r/MensRights | 26/10/17 10:28 PM |
| 3 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingfeminists hate talking to critics less than 1% are open to listening Maybe you've only been talking to feminists on the internet. I'm fully aware of everyone's frustration with trying to have conversations with feminists online and I should have said "nobody wants to talk to feminists in person." The comment section of this post is proof of it since most are telling me to stay away. I've talked to a bunch of different feminists in real life since I'm at a university and most of them are actually… | /r/MensRights | 26/10/17 10:26 PM |
| 2 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingI never said I was an MRA. I just said that I used to be a feminist but became disillusioned with the movement. This is her first semester in college and she isn't taking courses in the fields that are full of social justice | /r/MensRights | 26/10/17 08:04 PM |
| 1 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingI have a gut feeling that she doesn't. She probably only has the most surface level of understanding feminism. She's what Karen calls a "coffeeshop feminist." | /r/MensRights | 26/10/17 08:01 PM |
| 1 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingJesus Christ, not all college women are out to screw men over with a false rape allegation. Thousands of college students are having sex with each other every day and there have only been maybe 100 of them in the past couple years. I'm staying clear away from alcohol, recording my encounters since I'm in a state with a one-party consent recording law, and overall vetting her character very carefully | /r/MensRights | 26/10/17 07:57 PM |
| 2 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingThanks! | /r/MensRights | 26/10/17 07:35 PM |
| 6 | I'm going on a date with a college feminist on Saturday. Ask me anythingshe will never change her mind There's lots of people who leave feminism and change their minds once they learn more about it. I was one of them. I stopped being a feminist when I learned about the Duluth Model and other feminist theories after stumbling upon the MRM and decided I could no longer identify with such a toxic movement. It was really easy to break my affiliation with feminism since I had an attachment to the label more than anything else. I started identifying as an MRA because it m… | /r/MensRights | 26/10/17 07:34 PM |
| 3 | ”ME TOO”. Has anyone else seen this passed around Facebook? It excludes men as victims of harrasment and focuses solely on female victims.I saw one person on my friends list say "me too." There's men who are doing it, just not as many | /r/MensRights | 17/10/17 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Criticizing feminism without being too hostileBut how do I talk about things that are inextricably tied to feminism like the basis of the Duluth Model without bringing feminism into this? Not mentioning feminism can only work for so long... | /r/MensRights | 03/10/17 12:23 AM |
| 3 | Criticizing feminism without being too hostileInteresting idea. | /r/MensRights | 02/10/17 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Criticizing feminism without being too hostilenot every men's rights issue is the fault of feminism I'm not going to say it is. I'm asking about how I can address feminism once it inevitably comes up. Pre-red pill Cassie Jaye should be your target audience I've seen The Red Pill and I know what you're talking about. Middle-grounders and people like her are who I'm aiming for. I can't control who reads my articles. The feminists who will read it will either be true believers who just come to make fun or leave angry comments without reading i… | /r/MensRights | 02/10/17 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Criticizing feminism without being too hostileI'm not sure why you have to start things with criticism I'm not starting with that. I'm going to start with an introduction to men's rights. I'm thinking of writing about why I'm not a feminist and why feminism isn't the answer to men's issues for my second article since I know that most of the responses in the comments will be: "feminism advocates for men too. You should be a feminist." It won't show any signs of stopping until I address that argument. It most likely won't stop, but at least I… | /r/MensRights | 02/10/17 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Male equivalent to 4th wave radical feminismMost MGTOWs become MGTOWs because they've done a cost/benefit analysis of the legal system and have concluded that the risks of marriage/relationships outweigh the the positives. That's understandable and respectable. But some of the more extreme MGTOWs that I've come across believe that all women are out to get them for their money or put them in prison via false accusations and can't be trusted. That's a problem because they are making such a blanket judgment about an entire demographic and re… | /r/MensRights | 14/09/17 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Male equivalent to 4th wave radical feminismMen Going Their Own Way | /r/MensRights | 14/09/17 01:46 AM |
| 3 | Male equivalent to 4th wave radical feminismThe more radical and extreme members of MGTOW are eerily similar to the lesbian separatists but that's more second-wave | /r/MensRights | 14/09/17 01:10 AM |
| 1 | Update on earlier post and a questionI'm not worried about it becoming feminist while I'm president because I won't let that happen. I'm worried about it becoming feminist once I'm not president | /r/MensRights | 13/09/17 02:15 PM |
| 2 | Update on earlier post and a questionThanks for the tip! | /r/MensRights | 13/09/17 04:23 AM |
| 5 | Update on earlier post and a questionI'm not allowed to exclude people based on their political ideologies. I have to let them in | /r/MensRights | 12/09/17 05:11 PM |
| 6 | Update on earlier post and a questionBut if I do get it started successfully and they can't block it, would they still take it over? | /r/MensRights | 12/09/17 12:24 AM |
| 4 | Starting a men's rights group on campusI thought this was the best advice too | /r/MensRights | 08/09/17 03:58 PM |
| 3 | Starting a men's rights group on campusNoted. The sentencing gap is one that I've mentioned a lot but they always dismiss it as only being about race. Father's rights could still be relevant to some because they might come from a single-parent household and have an estranged father | /r/MensRights | 08/09/17 03:08 AM |
| 3 | Starting a men's rights group on campus...Thanks for the motivational support... | /r/MensRights | 08/09/17 02:11 AM |
| 6 | Starting a men's rights group on campusGotcha. Thanks! | /r/MensRights | 07/09/17 09:06 PM |
| 7 | Starting a men's rights group on campusthe goals of the group are related to the needs of men in higher education Sure, that's one point. The school's around 60% female so the proof is in their faces. But my focus isn't on that issue alone. It's about all of them. Domestic violence, father's rights, mental health, etc. | /r/MensRights | 07/09/17 07:30 PM |
| 11 | Starting a men's rights group on campusNoted. I'll bring that up. Thanks! | /r/MensRights | 07/09/17 07:23 PM |
| 3 | Trickle-Down Equality and Framing Men’s Issues as Really Being About WomenI refer to the "male privilege" that patriarchy gives all men as being "trickle-down privilege" because the few people at the top being men somehow benefits all men. Just like "trickle-down economics." | /r/MensRights | 06/09/17 03:24 AM |
| 1 | Update on my women's studies classI'm not going to copyand paste the post because someone might track down what university I go to if they find it here. Basically she took the quote out of context and made fun of me for wanting a debate while calling my views "fake news" without even refuting them | /r/MensRights | 02/09/17 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Update on my women's studies classAll of the conservative women who voted for Donald Trump would disagree. Trump is the bane of feminists and SJWs. If they supported feminism, then they would have voted for Hillary Clinton simply because she's female and a feminist. | /r/MensRights | 02/09/17 07:35 PM |
| 2 | Update on my women's studies classI wouldn't really be turning others to my side. The most I could do is get them to acknowledge some of the issues and get them to say "that's the result of patriarchy and patriarchy hurts men too." It's part-way there, but better than nothing | /r/MensRights | 02/09/17 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Update on my women's studies classNo need. I'm not in the class anymore | /r/MensRights | 02/09/17 05:11 AM |
| 13 | Update on my women's studies classExactly. I'm still remaining optimistic that most aren't like that, but now I'm not so sure. She's a bully, but I've dealt with bullies my entire life so I'm used to it. I could always report her and say I'm being harassed (and I have evidence of it) but I'm probably not going to see her anymore so there's no point | /r/MensRights | 02/09/17 12:55 AM |
| 9 | Update on my women's studies classIt's all cool. I was both pissed off and hurt when I saw that post, but now I'm fine. I've dealt with bullies my entire life so I'm used to it. | /r/MensRights | 02/09/17 12:48 AM |
| 16 | Update on my women's studies classYou're required to take two social science courses regardless of your degree. I wanted to stick my head out of the MRA/antifeminist sphere and actually hear what people have to say and form my judgments of feminism and feminists based on my observations instead of MRAs and antifeminist telling me what they're like. Similar reason to why Cassie Jaye started her film. I also like to debate feminism but nobody else wants to debate me. I also know that if I have disagreements with and frequently cha… | /r/MensRights | 02/09/17 12:45 AM |
| 7 | Update and first debate in my women's studies course.I see that this conversation is going nowhere and I really don't want take another 30-45 minutes to write an incredibly long reply to an incredibly long comment with so much overt hostility. I appreciate that you put so much thought into your comments, but I'll leave it at that. Have a nice day | /r/MensRights | 01/09/17 12:09 AM |
| 8 | Update and first debate in my women's studies course.I chose to take the course for other reasons than to accept what she is saying and I think they're just as legitimate. I'm taking it because I want to hear what other people have to say and to stick my head out of the MRA and antifeminist sphere, which, quite frankly, is an echo chamber. The only reason our section of the internet is an echo chamber is because most of the time, feminists and the people who disagree with us are too afraid to talk to us, and not because of active censorship. I'm t… | /r/MensRights | 31/08/17 10:49 PM |
| 2 | I'm in a women's studies course. AMAThree to four guys (including me), one trans man, the rest of the 25-ish are female. I talked to several classmates and said I'm not a feminist, I used to be one but I grew disillusioned with it once I learned dark secrets about it, and I'm now a harsh critic of feminism. I never said the words "anti-feminist" or "MRA." I recommend not saying those words until you get to know someone better. Say "non-feminist" or "anti-radical-feminist." They were fine with that and the class was calm the entire… | /r/MensRights | 31/08/17 07:42 PM |
| 3 | I'm in a women's studies course. AMAI want to actually hear what other people have to say and determine what they really think based on my observations. It's like being a feminist who bothers to hear what MRAs actually think and goes into an MRA forum instead of only listening to other feminists talking about MRAs. I'm dead set on my beliefs and they're not going to change my mind. But mostly I'm there to debate | /r/MensRights | 31/08/17 07:13 PM |
| 1 | I'm in a women's studies course. AMAI just came out of that class and everyone appeared to be fine. The teacher welcomed the disagreement too | /r/MensRights | 31/08/17 03:15 PM |
| 4 | I'm in a women's studies course. AMAI'll see tomorrow when I try to debate and see how she responds to dissent. It's a discussion-based class and if she's ok with dissent during discussions, then she'd probably be OK with dissent on writing assignments as long as I provide good evidence and back up what I say. Teachers tend to like it when students question what they are receiving and not being afraid to dissent since it shows critical thinking. Otherwise, I'll just walk and quack like a duck for her. | /r/MensRights | 30/08/17 11:20 PM |
| 3 | I'm in a women's studies course. AMAIt's a women's studies course. Of course she's a feminist. | /r/MensRights | 30/08/17 10:29 PM |
| 2 | I'm in a women's studies course. AMAI'm not too worried because: a) This is a one-way recording state so recording is legal no matter what. I also have accommodations on recording b) I still have time to switch out of the class if it's not what I think it it is I'll take your advice on asking her if I'm able to talk about it outside of class. If she genuinely is open to debate, then she'll definitely be open to me talking about it outside of class. Thanks! | /r/MensRights | 30/08/17 09:43 PM |
| 5 | I'm in a women's studies course. AMAI don't think that typical feminists are particularly malicious man-haters and bigots. I just see them as being useful idiots for academics and a special interest group with ulterior motives. There's definitely bigots among them, but they're a very loud minority that controls the movement. I'm surrounded by feminists, and out of all the ones I've talked to, I've only come across a couple loonies and/or bigots. I know I'm saying "NAFALT," but it's true. I think it's unhealthy to assume that every… | /r/MensRights | 30/08/17 09:33 PM |
| 3 | I'm in a women's studies course. AMAI have until the end of next week to switch classes so I'll see if she's actually going to let debates happen and if she's OK with the disagreements. It all depends on how she reacts and what she says. If I can't switch into a different class and she ends up being worse than I predicted, then I can walk and quack like a duck and spit back what she wants to hear for the rest of the semester. | /r/MensRights | 30/08/17 08:54 PM |
| 2 | I'm in a women's studies course. AMABut why do I need to record? What am I defending myself from? | /r/MensRights | 30/08/17 08:48 PM |
| 5 | I'm in a women's studies course. AMAI am in a one-party recording state. Why do I need to record? If the professor starts becoming really anti-male, then I'll record and share it with the higher-ups and show them that the professor is being bigoted and discriminating based on sex. I'm going in there assuming the students have the best of intentions and I get the feeling that the professor is teaching is a good teacher. She's just that she's teaching bullshit. Going around and thinking that everyone's out to get you and/or a bigot … | /r/MensRights | 30/08/17 08:37 PM |
| 2 | I'm in a women's studies course. AMAI've only had one class so far and it was introductions and all stuff. The next class is going to be on "muh social constructs." I still haven't opened my mouth and started a debate. I did tell two other students that I have opinions contrary to feminism and that I'm a harsh critic of it. They were totally fine with it | /r/MensRights | 30/08/17 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on "The Mask You Live In?"That's what I mean by "average." | /r/MensRights | 08/07/17 11:58 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on "The Mask You Live In?"Oh yeah it's definitely propaganda. The way they started the movie with OK stuff and then quickly and seamlessly turned evil halfway through and switched from "men have problems" to "men are the problem" tipped me off. It's just good at being propaganda | /r/MensRights | 08/07/17 09:30 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on "The Mask You Live In?"I say it's average because I only found half of the film really objectionable. It was better than I expected from a film made by a bunch of feminists | /r/MensRights | 08/07/17 01:41 PM |
| 2 | How do you find being an MRA affects dating/hookups?I know that I'm avoiding the toxic feminists by taking the red pill, but what I mean is that my antifeminist views will definitely turn off a lot of other, more regular people, even if they're not feminists. | /r/MensRights | 30/06/17 12:49 AM |
| 3 | How do you find being an MRA affects dating/hookups?I go to an incredibly leftist university and a large majority of the people there are feminists or feminist-sympathizers and those who aren't are silent about it. Being an MRA and an anti-feminist at my university makes it very difficult to find someone who has similar ideologies to me or at least is tolerant of my beliefs. I'm pretty argumentative and my inner antifeminist and MRA comes out during debates so I figure it's pointless trying to cover it up. Sometimes I wish I had taken the blue pi… | /r/MensRights | 30/06/17 12:02 AM |
| 1 | Feminist Campus "Activism"I still haven't found any proper evidence that details why they react to certain people the way they do It's because of a psychological process known as "cognitive dissonance." It's a negative emotional reaction (I don't really know how else to describe it) that happens when your beliefs are challenged. They're so indoctrinated and emotionally sensitive that being confronted with facts overwhelms them causes them to have an emotional breakdown. I've seen it IRL and it something tells me that it'… | /r/MensRights | 24/06/17 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Do you think Cassie Jaye did a mistake by naming her recent MRA documentary "The Red Pill"? Do you think it is receiving the extra hate and protest because people are confusing it with Red Pill subreddit?Feminists and other anti-MRAs have been conflating the redpill subreddit with the MRM long before Cassie Jay announced her documentary. Apparently that's more relevant to men's rights than a subreddit with men's rights in its name | /r/MensRights | 19/06/17 04:26 AM |
| 3 | A bunch of men are shot in a directly politically motivated attack by a Bernie supporter? Better make it about domestic violence against women.Don't forget "if he's a muslim, blame anything except Islam" | /r/MensRights | 15/06/17 08:56 PM |
| 5 | Dating FeministsAgain, I'm talking about a relationship with a reasonable, open-minded, moderate, and sane feminist. Basically someone who is a feminist in name only and just adopts the label. Most of the false rape allegations on college campuses come after a drunken hookup (ie. mattress girl) and I'm staying clear away from drinking and hookup culture. I'm very careful about who I sleep with. | /r/MensRights | 15/06/17 01:00 AM |
| 12 | Dating FeministsOh no, I'd never do that. I don't drink either, so that helps | /r/MensRights | 14/06/17 08:27 PM |
| 7 | Dating FeministsI knew someone would say that. Most universities are really leftist so it's unavoidable | /r/MensRights | 14/06/17 08:06 PM |
| 5 | Dating FeministsInteresting idea. I might try it | /r/MensRights | 14/06/17 08:00 PM |
| 2 | I lurk here a bit and other similar subreddits. It seems the feminists are winning at EVERTHING. From college speech and due process violations to society's acceptance of women's violence towards men, it seems like they always win. Where have WE won recently? What our our victories?Many states are considering implementing shared custody laws. I think four of them already have... | /r/MensRights | 12/06/17 11:39 PM |
| 3 | Female genital mutilation is a religious right claim lawyers in first US case on the practice. Will this help the fight against male circumcision?Well, first the feminists will throw a temper tantrum and demand that it be banned, but only for girls. If that doesn't work on the grounds that it's sexist, THEN they'll say "nobody should have their genitals mutilated" and support banning it for boys too. Most likely the first scenario will happen, but who knows? | /r/MensRights | 23/05/17 06:10 AM |
| 1 | When and why did feminism start "caring" about men?Territory? | /r/MensRights | 14/05/17 07:40 PM |
| 3 | When and why did feminism start "caring" about men?They just say they do | /r/MensRights | 14/05/17 02:33 PM |
| 3 | When and why did feminism start "caring" about men?That was something along the line that I was thinking too | /r/MensRights | 14/05/17 04:56 AM |
| 11 | When and why did feminism start "caring" about men?the only time a feminist would stop pissing on an MRA is if he caught on fire. I like that quote. I'm going to use that expression | /r/MensRights | 14/05/17 04:32 AM |
| 2 | When and why did feminism start "caring" about men?I put "care" in quotes, meaning that I actually think they don't | /r/MensRights | 14/05/17 03:17 AM |
| 6 | Do you think the MRM is gaining traction?Absolutely. It wasn't long ago that people (especially feminists) thought that men had no issues that they face in society. Neutral people hear us out and they say that we make good points but we're still bad because we're MRAs and anti-feminist. Faced with the fact that men's issues exist, feminism decided all of a sudden (I would say it happened sometime last year) that it DOES (or pretends to) care about men since intersectionality now applies to the issues men face and because they need more… | /r/MensRights | 06/05/17 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Update on my earlier postWell, see, women are opreeeessssed | /r/MensRights | 05/05/17 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Update on my earlier postShe was actually black. But yeah, pretty much | /r/MensRights | 05/05/17 03:13 PM |
| 3 | Update on my earlier postOne of them was saying in a really condescending tone that to not take a feminist stance and address "toxic masculinity" is to ignore the problem. I asked him how homelessness is the fault of "toxic masculinity." He said that toxic masculinity prevents them from reaching out. I asked him how homeless shelters giving priority to women is the fault of toxic masculinity. No response. Yeah, they've been blocking us for years and now that men's issues are reaching public attention, they're trying to … | /r/MensRights | 05/05/17 12:30 PM |
| 1 | Update on my earlier postI'm OK with working with feminists as long as they do it by my rules only. Some people want me to find compromise with the feminists, but I refuse to make any concessions like "patriarchy hurts men too." There is no damn patriarchy. Asking me to compromise with them would be like asking evolutionists to find compromise with creationists. They'll sabotage the group because if it becomes feminist, then it will become about women and all the victimhood will be redirected to them while the men are a… | /r/MensRights | 05/05/17 12:03 PM |
| 1 | So I started a discussion on men's rights on my university's student-run Facebook page...Nope | /r/MensRights | 04/05/17 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Solid reporting there, io9"Feminism is about equality. No is misandry!" | /r/MensRights | 04/05/17 03:29 PM |
| 2 | So I started a discussion on men's rights on my university's student-run Facebook page...Also, the post was removed | /r/MensRights | 03/05/17 09:25 PM |
| 2 | So I started a discussion on men's rights on my university's student-run Facebook page...You should edit your original post so that it includes your story. Otherwise it might sound like you're trolling | /r/MensRights | 03/05/17 09:20 PM |
| 2 | So I started a discussion on men's rights on my university's student-run Facebook page...You should make this comment its own post so more people will see it and start a new conversation | /r/MensRights | 03/05/17 09:10 PM |
| 1 | So I started a discussion on men's rights on my university's student-run Facebook page...Check out the link that he/she posted in the comment | /r/MensRights | 03/05/17 08:29 PM |
| 3 | So I started a discussion on men's rights on my university's student-run Facebook page...I was playing devil's advocate with that post. Too bad there wasn't a response to it | /r/MensRights | 03/05/17 03:24 PM |
| 7 | So I started a discussion on men's rights on my university's student-run Facebook page...I myself have mixed feelings about first and second wave feminism. Even though they weren't the only ones doing it, the grassroots feminists DID advocate to have the same rights that men have, but also for rights that men don't have. But, hear me out, that's not an entirely bad thing. The ideal scenario would have been if If both sexes achieved the same rights at the same time. But if women didn't gain additional rights like bodily integrity, then we wouldn't even have the concept of a child bei… | /r/MensRights | 03/05/17 03:19 PM |
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