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I would say then it's just a natural backlash to the demanding culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 03:31 AM
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My husband has on and off issues with his mom. My approach to things with his family is that it's always his choice what to do, but I tell him what I think about the situation. I'm a big believer that the best friends are the people who tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. So I am just honest about what I think of things and then he decides for himself and I go along with it. If you've already told him though, and he keeps on, I don't think there's anything more for you to …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 03:15 AM
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Dan Savage just had an episode sort of about this. Apparently, there are parties arranged for such things. Sometimes the men pay a fee to attend, other time they don't. The lady he was talking to had done three...So apparently it's a thing that happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 02:55 AM
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I don't think the problem is the result of anything relating to red or blue pill. I think it's the fact that this is a culture in which there is a word for working to death. Career success is the greatest source of pride for a man and I think a lot of them probably find they simply don't have the time or energy for pursuing a relationship. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kar%C5%8Dshi
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 02:53 AM
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You seem to have either willfully misunderstood or misread a great deal of that. You can't excise voluntary military service from this generation just because it doesn't fit your worldview. They're they one's fighting it, dying, etc. If they aren't then they have good friends and family who are. So to say it doesn't effect them. That's just a disservice to those people and their families. I'm not minimizing anyone's suffering I'm taking issue with marginalizing the trials of an entire generation…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 02:20 AM
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"Abbott, who often serves as a mediator in companies to bridge older and younger generations of workers, tells me that the work ethic issue results from a different set of goals and values. “Older generations tend to glorify hard work as a virtue in and of itself,” she says. “But millennials typically only value work insofar as it creates the results, or the acknowledgment or the growth they desire.” She says millennials want to see “a direct impact and return for their efforts”—and for that rea…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 02:05 AM
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Yeah they were, but then a lot of them saw that all come to an end abruptly thanks to the economy. Hence, the very severe reaction they've had to it. As for all that coddling - they didn't raise themselves who are their parents? And where is their responsibility if this generation is so terrible? I'm not saying they don't have problems, but I'm just saying this blanket character assessment based on nothing more than anecdotal stereotypes is inappropriate for judging people. And it does nothing f…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 02:02 AM
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You're right about the Great Depression. I shouldn't have said any generation. I definitely agree they had it worse then. The greater point I was attempting to make though, is that there's all these popular, negative stereotypes about a generation who's facing much different circumstances than their parents. People seem to prefer to ignore that fact (and it is a fact) and instead demonize them and blame them and paint it as being a result of poor character.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 01:58 AM
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Indeed. I'm not sure why there's such a need to demonize that generation of people. I suspect it has something to do with needing to believe that people deserve their circumstances because if they don't it could happen to anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 01:54 AM
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I answered this is another post. I'd be interested in people responding as to why they don't think it's true citing something other than common stereotypes. I really don't get the hostility toward the demographic.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 05:53 AM
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I'm curious why you're so sure they don't, other than prevailing stereotypes. You know that about 70% of your active duty military are currently millennials? That a huge number of the military that died overseas in iraw and afghanistan were Millenials. So, you have being witness and part of (for some) the longest sustained campaign ever (15 years now) and add to that the biggest economic downturn since the great depression effecting them as both children and adults...and I think it's hard to arg…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 05:52 AM
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That's true, I eloped personally. But I think it's presumptuous for people to immediately assume they're forgoing marriage because they want the big weddings people have traditionally had. Being financially prepared for marriage doesn't necessarily mean the cost of the wedding, but being financially independent and responsible. It means being financially stable, being able to pay your own bills, to afford rent/mortgage, maybe to support the other person if needed. For a lot of people, they want …
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 05:24 AM
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http://www.cheatsheet.com/politics/this-is-what-the-recession-did-to-millennials.html/?a=viewall
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 04:24 AM
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They were the least effected economically, but what's the psychological toll of seeing your parents lose their careers, savings, house? My grandma was a little girl in the depression. She grew up in tents with dirt floors, and hotels. Her baby brother died of dust pneumonia. Not having the nicest material goods is not the biggest trauma of living through sudden and severe economic hardship. I entirely disagree that millenials don't know how to handle conflict, adversity or stress. I think they h…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 04:16 AM
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Like I said in my latest response the only "downturn" bigger than this was the great depression. This was much, much more than a downturn. It destroyed people's lives forever, and altered them. Economic hardships can be traumatizing. A lot of this younger generation saw parents and grandparents lose jobs, careers, homes, become homeless, become long term unemployed, saw their dreams go up in smoke. This is a good chart that shows just how much more severe this was: https://www.minneapolisfed.org…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 04:08 AM
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No you don't give up, but this was the worst economic downturn since the great depression. It was enormous compared to past ones, and I think people underestimate the lasting effect that has on people. My grandmother and grandfather grew up in depression era Oklahoma. Hardly a worse place you could have lived at that time in America. I was very close to them and my dad who shared their depression era values. My MIL went from extraordinarily wealthy to refugee camps. She will tell you it traumati…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 04:01 AM
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I think her advice is sound, but there is an underlying suggestion that some how these people have chosen this which I disagree with. I finished grad school just as the economy collapsed. I feel like I squeezed under the wire just in time. I'm 33. All the wisdom my generation was given about student loans, careers, buying homes, etc was turned upside down almost over night. A lot of young people are starting way further down in their careers than they would have before the recession, they're bei…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 03:26 AM
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This is curry paste, not the stuff you find in the spice section just to be clear. It comes in a larger carton with a sealable lid. My store puts it in the "international" section.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 06:44 PM
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I enjoy America's Test Kitchen. I have a few of their cookbooks. My husband is chinese so we do things like Ramen which sounds cheap, but asian markets sell higher quality stuff and ingredients like meatballs and shrimp balls, etc. that you can just toss in with some veggies and an egg. I also keep some curry paste on hand. I use yellow curry. It's about 1/2 cup curry to 1 can coconut milk and then just toss in cut up chicken breasts.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 03:08 AM
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Well, my anecdotal opinion on this is that if look were the be all, end all of relationship success there would be no hollywood tabloids.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/15 12:02 AM
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I agree! I volunteer and put it on my resume. And I think there are good resources for SAHM's these days. I actually finished my undergrad through my universities distance degree option because it worked better for me at the time since I was working full time. That was back in 2005. There's a lot more opportunities online these days. I think a lot of people would like to be SAHM's but it's very hard to pull off in today's economy unfortunately. It's hard for people with two incomes a lot of time…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/15 10:15 PM
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I don't have kids and so I'm obviously not a SAHM. I totally support the choice, and have had some friends actually make the opposite change: career to SAHM. My advice to you would be to volunteer and take advantage of online classes or training so your skill set is always fresh. Volunteer work can count on a resume and skills are important too. It's not as easy to go out and get a job, even when you have recent experience, as people think it is. I have a friend who had irish twins and decided t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/15 07:58 PM
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My husband and I just agree whether we're doing gifts or not. Then we decide what we want and we go buy it together. Not very exciting I guess, but everyone is happy. My problem this year is my dad. He just buys whatever he wants. Even my mom can't figure anything out.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/15 05:46 AM
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I agree! I found my way over here because some many "women's" boards are so full of women being nasty to each other. I'm really grateful to have found a supportive, kind place where I can talk with other women. It's really rejuvenating to me!
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/15 05:35 AM
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I really wish my sister had your introspection. Our dad is a major alpha guy and she fights with him constantly. I gather Thanksgiving was so bad they aren't having Thanksgiving anymore after this year. She's so unhappy, but she can't see why all her relationships have gone bad. I hope someday she'll have an epiphany like you, and will be able to repair some relationships and be happy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/15 05:31 AM
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This was a great post! Thanks for sharing! :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/15 05:24 AM
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I don't make a habit of digging up stats for people on the internet. I mean you're in the internet if you were really interested in finding out what is true, you could and would go find it. Why should I bother digging up stats for someone who obviously isn't interested in knowing? I studied crime for six years and worked in criminal justice for a few years most of this stuff I just remember. I don't care if you change your mind or not, if you're interested you can find everything you need online…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 04:01 AM
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If believing that makes you feel better. But the math doesn't work in your favor.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 08:59 PM
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Look it up. Sorry. I'm at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 07:28 PM
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According to the bureau of justice statistics on in 2009 one half of one percent of cases result in acquittal. That is regardless of crime, but to have a statistic that low you be fairly certain all crimes have an extremely low rate of acquittal. The US justice system is low on justice honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 06:36 PM
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Ever seen the movie idiocracy?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 03:36 AM
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I'm curious how you came to these conclusions. One of the problems with youth unemployment is that there are too many older people not leaving jobs and too many young people needing jobs - so actually unemployment would likely decrease as the older people retired and died and the population of young people became smaller. And seeing that crime is committed mostly by young people, that probably wouldn't go up either, but rather down over time. As people died off there would be more resources avai…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 03:33 AM
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Well, having studied criminology, I would point out that it's very, very hard to determine a rate of being falsely accused or convicted, because once you're convicted - unless there is evidence exonerating you - no one is every going to know. Here in the US, if you go to trial your chance of being acquitted of ANY crime is about 1%. Essentially, if you end up going to trial, you're screwed. That leaves pleading guilty or an alford plea, to hopefully get a more lenient sentence, which really limi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 03:17 AM
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Personally, I think it makes it easier because it eliminates a lot of risk of letting the other person make decisions. Allowing someone else to plan your financial future is a huge risk for a lot of reasons, and it can cause a lot of stress and worry for the person not controlling the decisions. However, if you have a secure job, the ability to provide for yourself, your own retirement, or an inheritance to fall back on - it makes those decisions much less palpable than if you have less. So it's…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 04:04 AM
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If you're talking about the chronically homeless, people who live under bridges, sleep in doorways, etc., most of those individuals are mentally ill and unfortunately, men seek treatment for mental illness far less than women do. The chronically homeless only make-up about 15% of homelessness though, so if you're talking about the entirety of homelessness there's probably a lot more factors involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 03:45 AM
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I don't think understanding and feeling annoyed are mutually exclusive. You can understand and still be frustrated. My sister has depression and while I understand very much it's still very frustrating to deal with her sometimes. And I think you sound very patient too. I don't think I'd set the game table for her. That does seem a bit condescending. Some people in my family love card games, etc. So we would always just play with them after dinner or something. Maybe something like that would giv…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 06:45 PM
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I think you seem very understanding. It's hard weigh in on things like this without really seeing what's going on, but based on your description I'm thinking maybe what she's doing is trying to spend time with you doing things that you're good at and that she's not so good at? Like cooking for example? Is she normally a good cook? Or is this experience pretty much how her attempts at cooking turn out? If you think this could be the case, maybe kindly rebuff her efforts to help you cook in the fu…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 06:21 PM
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I agree with this quite a lot. People have very little integrity these days. No longer doing what is right simply because it's right, but only doing what's right because are consequences to not doing it. I blame unfettered capitalism and materialism. The message, at least here in the states, is that that only thing that matters is getting ahead and appearing successful. It doesn't matter how you do it, who you screw over, whether you lied, cheated, stole, went into debt, stabbed your friend in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 06:03 PM
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Personally, when women talk like mini mouse. I find that toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 04:25 AM
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It's weird to me that someone would suggest that people stop maturing at 18 when the human brain doesn't even finish developing until the early twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 04:23 AM
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IMO, I would agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 12:14 AM
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It's a pretty ridiculous tug of war. Each end is yanking as hard as they can in their own direction because they're convinced people are trying to harm them in some fashion (and in reality the extremists on both sides are). The result is ridiculous legislation that caters to one end or the other instead of reasonable, thought out reforms and legislation that actually solve problems. Right now the pendulum seems swung in the feminists favor, but it will swing back. It always does. It's a moral pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 12:05 AM
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Why all the fear? RP reacts to Feminists like Fox News does to terrorists. That's your answer right there. Both things occur for the same reasons: Insecurity and a sense that their way of life is being threatened. You can almost track the rise of all of this, Obama gets elected, the closet racists and far right conservatives feel threatened and amp up their rhetoric, the feminist respond to that rhetoric, the MRA/RP respond to the feminists. The feminists feel their worldview is confirmed and re…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/15 09:30 PM
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I agree with the advice you've received so far. You can only either accept him as is, or decide you cannot and move on. My husband and I have been married for about 13 years. The short story is we had some problems involving his video game habits and after years of me trying to make him change I realized most of my unhappiness was because I kept thinking I could get him to change. As soon as I gave that up things improved a lot, for both of us. You've been at this for ten years. If he wanted to …
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/15 03:55 AM
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My experience discussing this on boards that are frequented by self ascribed feminists is that actually, many of them think all men have the potential to be a rapist. I studied criminology so I've had a number of discussions as a result of my saying I don't believe this, and there are apparently many women who do believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/15 03:38 AM
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I agree with that. I think the culture in general these days is one of extremes. The fringes seem to have the loudest voices in most groups and there is an added component of "you don't agree with me so you are a bad person." You see it in politics, opinions on news stories, social issues, etc. And I see it from both feminists and the hardcore RP set.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/15 03:32 AM
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Well, that's complicated I guess. Firstly, I've always been a very honest and logical person. So, I've never been one to just go with the crowd on a subject. I take things on a case by case basis and formulate my opinions. I also grew up being surrounded by a lot of men/boys who never once treated me less than because I was a girl. None of them every suggested I couldn't do something because I was a girl. We were very close. And my dad, who wanted a boy, just made the most of it and did all the …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/15 03:01 AM
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Not IRL. But here on reddit, absolutely. I've been downvoted into oblivion more times than I can count over at askwomen. Which, frankly, is just a passive aggressive attempt to silence someone IMHO. I found my way over here looking for friendlier pastures so to speak. I don't care about my karma but the lack of integrity and the passive aggressiveness is grating. If you disagree that strongly, you should have the guts to tell me why.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/15 01:56 AM
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Well, as far as your concern about school and relationships go. I grew up in a town with a large mormon population, I think I can say without being rude, that a lot of them went to college just long enough to meet a man to settle down with. This is no knock on them, that was their priority, but while they were looking they'd go to college (usually BYU) and study what interested them. I think it's actually a pretty good strategy and a good use of their time in the mean time. Most of them were ver…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/15 01:51 AM
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Well, my theory on the American front is that we tend to avoid taxing necessities and instead tax luxury goods or goods we want to discourage people from buying anyway "Sin tax". So on some level, I think some of the up roar from America is a notion, conscious or subconscious that this is akin to a sin tax. I do find it odd that they're taxing tampons. I admit I didn't read the article - I really don't want to know that much about this I guess. But, why not diapers? or toilet papers? Just seems …
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/15 01:40 AM
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Am I happy? Yes. But I don't think it's because of my relationship so much as my general life philosophy. I think happiness is generally a choice and I follow a somewhat Buddhist approach to life: avoiding attachments, practicing gratitude and contentment, I try not to have expectations, I recognize that when other people hurt me it's because they are suffering themselves, etc. Every life has ups and downs, but overall I feel quite lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/15 11:55 PM
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I'm sorry you find being wrong so difficult. You didn't mention any specifics of your studies. You threw out a couple meaningless stats devoid of any information about the studies they were from at all. I'm good at a lot of things - mind reading not so much. I suppose it was unnerving to find you'd thrown your BS to someone with a background to call you out so thoroughly on it. A good tactic for avoiding situations like this is to base your opinions on actual information and facts, instead of ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/15 06:00 AM
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I can tell you the FBI's data on rape is viewed as largely useless, because of it's archaic definition (which precluded men from being raped in most cases). "Beginning with the 2013 data year, the term “forcible” was removed from the offense title, and the definition was changed. "The revised UCR definition of rape is: Penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim. Att…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/15 05:39 AM
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I'd have to see the data to decide if I felt that decreases were a result of PSA's or other factors. For example, the UCR used by the FBI changed it's definition of rape in 2012. If you didn't know that you'd think the number had gone up a lot, but it hasn't. In actuality, violent crimes in the US have been falling (without a lot of explanation actually) so it's very hard to say "This is what made a crime go up or down." Furthermore, crime data is very hard to parse self report data is unreliabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/15 03:57 AM
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Frightening isn't it. I saw that movie idiocracy years ago and thought it was so terrible, then I started seeing it play out in real life...I can't bring myself to watch it again. It's almost like a horror movie now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/15 02:20 AM
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Are those a thing? Good lord. Look, I studied criminology in grad school which included coursework in profiling and I classified criminals for awhile, I promise you most rapes, the vast majority of rapes even, aren't going to be stopped by a seminar. That being said, I could care less if a guy wants to attend or not. I can't tell you how much it disturbs me that there is a movement of people who so fundamentally misunderstands rape as to think seminars on consent will prevent it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/15 02:17 AM
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Well, personally, my problem with trigger warnings is that it does not, contrary to popular belief, promote mental health. If you have such a severe psychological reaction to seeing or hearing about a certain subject you are, frankly, in need of treatment. The world is not going to coddle you, you are going to run into these things all over the place. It's a bit like a person with severe allergies. It's nice if people respect you when they're aware of the situation, but you have to learn to prot…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 07:21 PM
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Perhaps, he should invest in some training classes or videos online. It's hard to know exactly what the issue is without seeing it. My family has always raised dogs, usually large breeds. Breed matters. Some are more stubborn, less intelligent, need more activity, etc. And it's important to determine what rewards your dog likes best, play, or food, or affection. Then use that to reward desired behavior. Over disciplining does not make a dog obedient. Yelling, swatting at inappropriate times, bei…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 07:18 PM
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Hmm, well if you don't hear from him by tomorrow you can probably call the jail and ask if he's there. I use to have to call to locate people all the time. They'll usually at minimum confirm if someone is there.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 03:58 AM
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Most jails have an online roster, you could check. It's also possible that he's waiting to see a judge which won't happen until Monday probably. Kind of depends on what exactly happened and where you live. Jails without much room will release minor offenses right away usually, but sometimes people have to sit to for a bit. I used to work in corrections. In case any one wonders why I seem to be so familiar with jails.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 02:56 AM
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He wants to marry you, he wants to meet your mutual goal of paying it off, he wants to help you. As a side note, assuming you're in the US, it would not become his debt when you marry and it can not be discharged in bankruptcy , etc. It's a good thing to get rid of, and it's a financially sound decision for both of your futures that you get rid of it sooner rather than later.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 02:50 AM
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Start by gaining some confidence that you are a good enough judge of character that you CAN identify them. Basically all you're doing here is telling us, "I'm horrible judge of character and don't trust myself."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/15 02:45 AM
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Indeed. Some people need drama like other people need air.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/15 02:42 AM
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That she chooses to call herself one. The current "wave" holds that women should be empowered to experience life however they like and her choices should be respected. So, in theory, a feminist can be anyone regardless of what they do. But there's a vocal segment that shouts down any woman who expresses that she doesn't identify as feminist or holds opinions contrary to what they think she should. They marginalize women with differing opinions by claiming the only reason they have these opinions…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/15 02:38 AM
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Amen! I get so tired of people complaining about how social media is full of awful or boring people. You follow or friend those people! You've got no one but yourself to blame!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/15 02:25 AM
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I see. That makes sense. I just wanted to clarify before weighing in, having worked with people who have addiction problems, etc. in the past, it was a bit of a red flag to me! In this case, I think it's wrong he didn't respect your wishes, but if it's a one time occurrence it might be worth giving him another chance. (I haven't seen if you've already posted about the outcome)
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 02:21 AM
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I don't consider myself blue pill or feminist, but a lot of feminists are sex positive these days, so I don't think it would be a stretch that such a thing could happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/15 02:16 AM
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I agreed as long as he didn't drink. I made this very clear before he left and he said okay It doesn't really matter where he went. My husband doesn't drink - I don't tell him "don't drink" if he goes somewhere that serves alcohol. It just seems based on the statement above she was aware that his alcohol consumption might be an issue.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 12:15 AM
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I'm just wondering why she had to emphasize to him that he could only take the car if he didn't drink. If he's never done anything to make her question his judgment in this regard - why was it a condition of using the car?
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 12:02 AM
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most people are interested in other people that are popular out of curiosity as to why they are and because of the possible increased likelihood that they will make them happier because they seem to have made others happier in some way. I think from a dating stand point it's also a desire to have what everyone else wants. As with your "cool new product" example - people will buy things just because it is coveted by others, not because they need it or even really like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/15 11:49 PM
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I think in reality, if you were a strict adherent to either TBP or TRP it could make you less successful frankly. Extremism never works well. You can find plenty of people who've entrenched themselves at either of the far ends of the spectrum who can't form meaningful relationships and wonder why.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/15 11:38 PM
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I'm going to have to try the steak thing. That sounds fantastic. My husband puts whiskey in his spaghetti sauce! It's actually really good. And I make salted whiskey caramels at least once a year that are pretty popular. Whiskey is a great ingredient. Totally under rated.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 04:48 AM
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Maple whiskey gravy You had me at whiskey.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 03:08 AM
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I'm hosting a little Thanksgiving for the first time. My MIL went out of town and just told us last week that she wouldn't be home until after Christmas. I love my MIL, but she's very controlling, and I think we're all excited to do Thanksgiving on our own. We can make or bring whatever we want and my SIL can actually bring her long time boyfriend for once. It's kind of last minute, but I think it'll be nice.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 03:07 AM
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Yay! I'm hosting a little one for the first time ever too. It is exciting. A little nerve wracking but exciting. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 03:04 AM
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While I agree with the theory that women are more conservative financially (I know I am), and men prefer risk - I don't think that makes women worse at finance generally. I've actually had finance related jobs and was very good at them. I've actually always been good at them. And I take care of the finances at home. My husband has many talents but when it comes to finances he struggles. His mom is super cheap (doesn't sign cards and asks for them back cheap) and controlling. He never learned to …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 11:02 PM
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I think it just basically boils down to people projecting onto others. People get wrapped up in identity and labels (especially these days) and it's much easier to assign labels and criticize broadly than it is to analyze individual situations as we encounter them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 10:42 PM
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Agreed. She's rude and insulting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 10:37 PM
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My husband has always worked out but he's gained some weight and he's started having some health problems. He says he knows he needs to get in better shape (and so do I really) so I mostly don't say anything about it. I love him as he is. I'm of course concerned for his health but it's ultimately his decision. Sometimes if he's made a big deal about needing to lose weight, or stop eating something - if we go to the store and he grabs that thing I will say "you said you weren't eating that anymor…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/15 10:18 PM
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I agree with the basic premise. I think the only women who don't think this happens are the women who perpetrate it honestly. I spend a fair amount of time on the Ask Women sub and you can see this kind of behavior playing out CONSTANTLY. Usually through the downvoting of women who hold "conventional" ideas about femininity, or support them. I see plenty of instances of people putting down others in order to justify their own life choices. I completely agree with you. I see and experience this i…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/15 09:51 PM
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I don't think you can say based on gender. I'm a white, female from an upper middle class home. I've had hardships, disappointment, etc. I've experienced sexism here and there, but it hasn't been really harmful. But overall my life has been comfortable. I worked in corrections for a few years. I saw a lot of people WAY worse off than myself. Homeless men and women. Drug addicts. Impoverished people. People with a lot of problems. Personally, I think that society says, "sexism, racism, intoleranc…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/15 02:39 AM
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Some people have already touched on the fact that you're not really enjoying your success and the quality of your life if you're still dwelling on all this. By dwelling on them and wanting them to see how much better you are, etc. you're actually putting yourself beneath them. You need them to validate your success, and by doing so it makes your own happiness questionable. You are diminishing your own life. It's hard to believe someone is happy when they say they are, but are also SO bitter abou…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/15 09:00 PM
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Well, I don't have kids and we both work, but I've seen friends go through this. The simple fact of the matter is that it is very, very hard to get by not just on one income, but two, these days. You want to be a stay home mom (I assume this was a joint decision), so the sacrifice you all make in order for you to be able to do with this is that he has to work long hours to make it possible. You're sacrificing having more time with him, he's sacrificing time with you and his family. He's taking o…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/15 03:13 AM
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Lol. My mom gave me the recipe, but I'm pretty sure that's where it came from!
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/15 03:18 PM
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You're just going to need to get rid of the idea that marriage will make you happy. It won't. Once the initial high wears off, you'll just be you, except with twice as much laundry. This part rings the truest to me. I've been married thirteen years. Marriage is HARD. It means loving people when they're at their least lovable. It's not a Disney movie.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/15 04:20 AM
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meditation. It's the ultimate practice of patience IMHO. It's really, really hard to sit and do nothing for even a few minutes.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/15 04:11 AM
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I've always used canned pumpkin, but sounds like you're planning to puree them anyway, so try a pumpkin roll. I have a recipe for one and people beg for it all the time (I'm pretty sure it's just the recipe off the Libby's pumpkin can).
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/15 04:09 AM
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