Solarom Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
136	Why women don't have sex on day one		Solarom	/r/ExRedPill	30/07/24 08:08 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Why women don't have sex on day one I don't think safety concerns are always quite as literal as that. It doesn't take fear for one's life to make sex deeply unsatisfying for many women, just lack of any real connection, trust or feeling of reciprocity. I also think there's entitlement and Entitlement. I'm inclined to be far more understanding of a young guy in his late teens being a bit too pushy. It's still wrong, but this wrongness is usually rooted in ignorance. Grown men who have experience and many opportunities to interact …	/r/ExRedPill	31/07/24 04:43 PM
3	Why women don't have sex on day one Oh, I think dissertations can be written (or even being written as we speak) on the emotional immaturity in these spaces, and how the guys in it tend to infantilize themselves and women both. I've been out of my 20s for a while as well, and frankly I feel grateful to not have grown up in this era. I was such an insecure teen, but had a chance to mature out of it without all this garbage flooding my brain.	/r/ExRedPill	31/07/24 06:59 AM
3	Why women don't have sex on day one Great comment! Glad you gave actual examples of how things can be phrased to reduce pressure without making things awkward. I've seen people of all ages, men and women, struggle with this.	/r/ExRedPill	31/07/24 06:49 AM
5	Why women don't have sex on day one I hope so too. Especially younger guys. It's unlikely the women in their lives will prompt these sorts of discussions with them, and so redpill podcasts and porn fill in the void and become their go-to "source of truth" for anything approaching intimacy.	/r/ExRedPill	31/07/24 06:44 AM
5	Why women don't have sex on day one I appreciate you sharing your experience, and I'm sorry you've been made to feel unsafe like that. But happy to hear you're taking care of yourself and trying to be reasonably cautious. It's all one can do really	/r/ExRedPill	31/07/24 06:40 AM
2	Why women don't have sex on day one I think there's a fine line between a "toxic person" and "a person that sometimes acts toxic when insecure/anxious/frustrated". I could ealisy imagine a young man blurting something like this out because the culture has urged him to pursue sex ASAP, and when the girl doesn't go along with it, he takes it as a rejection of him/her finding him unattractive, even when that's not the case.	/r/ExRedPill	31/07/24 06:38 AM
6	Why women don't have sex on day one I guess I read your comment as "why bother with sex at all".	/r/ExRedPill	31/07/24 04:41 AM
6	Why women don't have sex on day one Why bother? Because we're social creatures blablabla :) And because an orgasm with a vibrator is not the same as an orgasm during passionate sex with a beloved intimate partner. By herself women get release and relaxation. Nice, but that's all it is. Nice. Or maybe that's just me.	/r/ExRedPill	30/07/24 07:19 PM
7	Why women don't have sex on day one It often is, at least that's been my observation. With cheap contraception, sexual revolution, accessibility of porn and similar content, overall alienation of genders and people in general, and the way that dating apps make money, sex has not just been destigmatized, but also trivialized. Expectations around sex have changed significantly even in the last 10 years. It's become common for a woman to get a "what's wrong with you / why do you take it so seriously / are you frigid" if she doesn't "…	/r/ExRedPill	30/07/24 07:10 PM
3	Why women don't have sex on day one Thanks, that's kind of you to say :)	/r/ExRedPill	30/07/24 06:13 PM
5	Why women don't have sex on day one Yes, that's what I meant.	/r/ExRedPill	30/07/24 06:12 PM
2	Why women don't have sex on day one When you try to express it, how do you do it?	/r/ExRedPill	30/07/24 12:50 PM
4	Why women don't have sex on day one Thank you for engaging ❤️	/r/ExRedPill	30/07/24 10:25 AM
21	Why women don't have sex on day one I think it's incredibly common for people to want what's good for them, but still habitually go for something that's not. A woman wants a serious relationship but goes for the obvious player. A man wants connection but goes for sex when it's available. The reasons are complex: it's easier; it's gratifying in the short term; delusional belief that this will lead to better things down the line (it might, but usually doesn't). The type of gaslighting you mentioned as part of overall "alpha male" me…	/r/ExRedPill	30/07/24 10:25 AM
1	actual advice for people who struggle with women and finding love (all red pillers they just are dealing with it hatefully and wrongly) I'm gonna share a woman's perspective. Hope that's okay. I generally agree with "be yourself" (aka don't put on a persona) and "make people laugh" (aka be relaxed and help everyone have fun and be relaxed too), that's universally good advice for any casual social interaction, whether you seek romance or friendships. However, many women (I'm not gonna say most, it really depends on the local culture) won't have sex on day one, and I believe most people within that group won't do it for the same r…	/r/ExRedPill	30/07/24 08:05 AM
9	My trans cousin is falling down the red pill rabbit hole and it's incredibly scary to watch. I hear you. Just a thought. I'm sorry you're both going through this. But you're on this sub. He may join you here someday. I hope that happens soon, and I hope you can leave a space for him in your life, even if for now it has to be at a distance. Hugs!	/r/ExRedPill	26/07/24 10:08 AM
8	My trans cousin is falling down the red pill rabbit hole and it's incredibly scary to watch. Large amounts of testosterone (or any hormone really) can affect personality and behaviour in dramatic ways. I'm a woman with PCOS, which was undiagnosed for many years. While it was running rampant (I had to go off the pill, which unbeknownst to me was keeping it in check) my testosterone levels got closer to that of a man, several times higher than what a female body is supposed to handle. Before I thought to check my hormones, it's like for about a year I was a different person, displaying tr…	/r/ExRedPill	26/07/24 09:28 AM
1	If women hate the patriarchy, why do they make conforming to it a requirement for mates? I think you've discovered that people are complicated, rarely self-aware, and have many conflicting feelings, needs and desires. Both genders frequently hold double standards towards each other and themselves, sometimes within different subgroups, and sometimes within the same person. Both often communicate poorly, and both don't really know how to exist in this world of "equal but not". I think there are some standards of masculinity and femininity that will hold (somewhat) true for as long as …	/r/ExRedPill	19/07/24 06:03 PM