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| 7 | Why Cats, Dogs and Horses Reveal the Truth About LVMI also would gauge by how a man treats animals he doesn't like or prefer (much the same philosophy as how a man treats a woman he isn't attracted to). I'm a huge dog person, but if a friend owns a cat and I'm at their house, I'm going to make the effort to at least greet the cat, and I will of course pet it if it wants me to, even if it's not my favorite thing in the world. I had a LVM who would scowl at my dog or not even acknowledge her presence because he preferred cats, even though my dog wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 12:36 PM |
| 12 | Henry VIII's wives if they'd never met himNose representation is something I never knew I needed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 07:28 AM |
| 44 | How do you clearly show a man your standards/expectations? Consistent, precise, and rapid ACTIONI like her attitude, but like other commenters have said, boy should have considered her distance from the restaurant. I am now a firm believer that asking/suggesting a man do anything for you is already on track to be exhausting. Women should not have to put suggestions in their communication with a man. He knows how distance works. Does she live far? Pick somewhere close or ask her if she'd like to be Ubered out the restaurant you picked for the date. Any man who does not do this is not HV. He… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 04:52 PM |
| 25 | Even men recognize when another man is playing a woman.☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 03:41 PM |
| 26 | What was the last straw?I wanted a hug after a stressful situation and he went home to get drunk instead to soothe himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:48 AM |
| 27 | What was the last straw?Legitimately made this face 😯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:46 AM |
| 32 | Why do males target these 3 groups of women/girls so harshly?I'm not crying- you're crying! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 03:20 AM |
| 4 | Experiences with alcoholism?Yep- this one really got me. I'm so sorry; thank you for talking about it. He was a completely different person when sober and was the most venomous and selfish person when drinking/struggling, and neither of our needs were being fulfilled. I hope you find peace and I hope someone comes along who takes care of you (just icing on the cake of your own journey). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 03:06 AM |
| 101 | Why do males target these 3 groups of women/girls so harshly?Single mom here 👋 Your comment just made me feel soooo validated; I want to print it out and laminate it and recite it every time I hear someone bashing single moms as damaged goods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 02:53 AM |
| 0 | Experiences with alcoholism?Your story sounds so much like mine. I'm sorry you had to go through that and you are strong for leaving. My bf had a poor circle of friends. He was on the path to leveling up, and even began to admit they were poor influences. He never made it as far as cutting ties though, and that was his only support system, so even if he admitted he had a problem, he wouldn't have any support outside of me, and that alone seems daunting. He also needed therapy, which he wouldn't go to-- you could tell he kn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 11:50 PM |
| 13 | Experiences with alcoholism?Thank you for the response. I had to do the same. I broke a lease we shared and ended up paying on two apartments for a while because the emotional toll was too much. I also "mothered" for a while. I asked him to go to therapy and was met with derision. It isn't my responsibility. Had he been trying to help himself, I would have been supportive as an equal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 11:47 PM |
| 7 | Experiences with alcoholism?Your comment was so personal and detailed-- thank you SO much! I know I'm just an internet stranger but PM me if you ever need to talk. I'm happy to support in ways I couldn't for my L(H)VM. I know how difficult it is (and how proud you must feel of yourself!) I appreciate that you mentioned al anon not being everyone's cup of tea. I went for a while at the beginning of our relationship but found it discouraged me and others' pain only compounded my pain. I chose to view my relationship in a vac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 11:45 PM |
| 5 | Experiences with alcoholism?Good on you! I think FDS will help you keep that "constant leveling up" mindset too. I'm sure you can lean on any of the ladies in FDS if for whatever reason you can't deal with loneliness or depression. This pandemic came at a bad time. I found FDS and made a few breakthroughs in therapy myself, and now I can't go out and do much to enjoy the queen lifestyle. I've decided to just go to grad school for all the obvious benefits, and to keep busy, haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:26 PM |
| 7 | Experiences with alcoholism?Virtual hugs to you. I suffered from insomnia and heightened anxiety (I already had an anxiety disorder to begin with, but not knowing where my bf was and if he was/wasn't drunk, etc. just constantly waged war on my mind.) I'm sorry you got hung up on substance abuse to combat the stress he was causing you. I'm super proud of you and glad you were able to break out of it/recognize the issues in yourself. he did dump me a few days later, he told me it was MY fault he had been partying and drinkin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:20 PM |
| 11 | Experiences with alcoholism?My (best?) relationship was with someone who abused alcohol (maybe a full-blown alcoholic; there were so many lies and cover-ups I never actually knew how much and how often he was drinking). I loved him so much- I'm sure he had the potential to be a HVM, but I couldn't wait around while he hurt me and hurt himself. ^That self-victimization and lack of accountability when confronted is textbook. Congrats on getting out right away; I let mine go on for three years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:14 PM |
| 98 | Ladies make sure you are stable before you go into the unstable dating world.In a perfect world, being vulnerable and struggling with mental illness could be helped with a loving and supportive partner. Unfortunately the only person who can truly help you is yourself, and the world is too dangerous and full of evil men who will use your mental illness against you in so many ways. You will always be there for you. Be someone who doesn't let you down and be someone you are proud of. Don't let your trauma overtake you. Be proud of yourself- someone who is proud of their eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 01:48 AM |
| 10 | The importance of breaking the cycleThat's the WORST part of getting out of the cycle. It isn't your fault. You're a good person and you want to make the relationship work, so you focus on the good qualities, the potential. The fact of the matter is, he isn't changed for you. You're burning out. The good qualities aren't equating to a good relationship. It sucks. Leaving means more peace of mind for you. You'll get over it and make a satisfying life free of that constant worry. If it's meant to be, he'll change and come back high … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 07:06 PM |
| 188 | I just got flashbacks of a bearded man on a "date", talking about his beard for 45 minutes, while stroking his beard... also why do they make that facial expression?Blechhh I despise men with scraggly beards like these. Don't kiss me, NEVER put that unkempt Brillo-pad feeling nest of snarls anywhere near my vagina, and double-no if you have long, greasy hair that tops everything off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 04:32 PM |
| 100 | "He knows if you're the one within a day/week/month of meeting/dating you." Propaganda or reality?I know three incredibly HVM- all highly intelligent, selfless, discerning men, all three of which said the moment they saw/first spoke to their future wife, "they knew". And all three proposed within a year because they recognized her worth and didn't want to lose her. This baffles me. Maybe because I'm a recovering pickmesha who gave every man I ever glanced at the benefit of the doubt and tried on his last name in my mind, but perhaps therein lies the answer. As pickmeshas, we WANT to find "th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 03:49 AM |
| 52 | “Stop attaching yourself to that man”💞👑This beautiful woman should be the person who greets recovering pickmes as they subscribe to FDS, like St. Peter greets at the gates of heaven | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 03:42 AM |
| 290 | Wife gets cancer and husband abandons her at the hospitalI hope cancer takes him and she goes into remission | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 05:13 PM |
| 59 | Men respond better to silence vs cOmMuNicAtIonMy LVM, after telling me I was "ToO eMoTioNaL" and that he wanted to leave me for someone, "easier" (ding ding ding- telling on himself; he knew I wasn't backing down or taking his shit) I said, "Ok; I'm sure there are like a million easier girls out there." and showed him the door. Ooohh GURL the look on his face. He looked like I'd just clocked him with a frying pan. He sat outside my house in his truck for like two hours and would get out and ring my doorbell and called over and over until I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 03:21 PM |
| 5 | My shopping haul from today, featuring my two cat sons (left cat has been known to attack guys I date when they don't respect his boundaries or he gets a bad vibe from them). I've been single for 2 months now after dating an LVM and I'm spoiling and treating myself in ways he never did!I hope you got them something! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 12:49 AM |
| 59 | #KickHimOut2020 happens in 2.5 hours.Your Christmas gift to yourself: peace of mind | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 07:52 PM |
| 3 | What?🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 09:41 PM |
| 40 | Cut your lossesLetting them go hurts SO BADLY and then like... within a day or two of reflection you feel like you finally are able to take a full deep breath and you're like, "Whoa. He was NOT GREAT." And then you take a bubble bath and move on with your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 09:39 PM |
| 56 | What?Even the sentence structure in this post is problematic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 08:07 PM |
| 97 | 😂😂*You are actively exuding little dick energy so nobody wants to fuck you. Fixed it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 02:03 PM |
| 1 | 🤪 Come check out our sub for posting all of the trolls and dragging them! 😂Approval, please! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 02:13 AM |
| 7 | She realized she’s basically single but with more choresGirl preeeaachh. I love being a single mom. The only thing I miss about living with my ex is splitting the rent, but even now I get to say everything I pay for I earn myself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 08:12 PM |
| 67 | This is what they really think of you.Right?! Mood killer. Lemme block and delete that dick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 03:56 AM |
| 1 | TW// What are the reasons for why you stayed in an abusive relationship?Depression, low self esteem= I believed I deserved it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 12:55 AM |
| 1 | Don't blame yourself for getting abused and taken advantage of by men... Men are the ones at fault here, not youYou are strong and wonderful. Hold your head high. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 12:53 AM |
| 177 | If it isn't working out, a true HVM will break up with you swiftly and respectfullyAlso important! A HVM will rarely if ever tell you the breakup is your "fault" (obviously self-reflect on your own part of the breakup), but where a LVM will say, "You're so clingy and needy!" a HVM will frame it to his needs, "I value more space in a relationship and feel you may be better suited for someone who shares your affection." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 02:25 PM |
| 4 | DVI left an abuser with a 9 month old. Get sole legal custody, forget all feelings you've ever had for this man and stay far away. Join a support group at a domestic violence shelter or advocacy program. Not only will you make many strong female friendships, but you'll see how strong you are and will continue to be, and they can give you resources- legal, economic, support, etc. Raise your son to be kind. Tell him what his dad did was wrong. Teach empathy and healthy management of anger. Praise hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 02:20 AM |
| 37 | Subtle red flags to watch out forI had a LVM adopt a cat and then give it away when he needed to move/got a more demanding job. The cat loved you, dude. There are plenty of apartments that take pets/you could have hired a pet sitter/a few hours of time with the cat in the evening would have been better than none at all. Fickle and no effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 02:11 AM |
| 7 | Too many of you are falling in love with the idea of what a man could be...Also worth adding to your third point that if your man doesn't want or is weird about sitting down and discussing these things, that's a huge red flag. He should be future -focused and putting equity into the relationship by fixing things as they come up or before they occur. My LVM never wanted to "talk about the problems"..."why do we always have to talk about the problems"....because a.) they should just be solutions, and b.) why would you want to sweep them under the rug in a healthy, open, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 04:28 PM |
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