Somethoughts44 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Q4Women: If someone has stopped being "loser" now (later in life), but he had been like that until now - does the past still matter? I didn't say you were low SMV I said SMV isn't a real quantifiable category.	/r/ExRedPill	30/08/18 02:21 AM
1	Showing insecurity to a women is game over? Insecurity isn't attractive but vulnerability is. Insecurity is a constant inferiority complex and venting your emotions onto others without attempting to learn to change on your own. Vulnerability is being honest when you are scared and opening up as you begin to feel need and attachment. And it's also okay to be insecure even though it isn't the most attractive quality. When you're in love you're going to see your partner be petty, angry, insecure. If you love them, you learn to understand the…	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/18 11:37 PM
1	If my GF found someone better, why WOULDN'T she leave me God, I remember an ex of mine said this to me. It really offended me. It's basically a way of saying you don't love someone. People are not a sum set of attributes. They are their shared choice to work together, their trust, their unspoken bond, their intimacy, and history. That is what bonding and love is. When you love someone, you don't really perceive anyone as better than them. What they have become to you is a part of your life that helps you function.	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/18 11:34 PM
2	TRP mindset too deep rooted in me - can't stop You need to work on this because even if this relationship ends, which it might, many relationships do and that isn't bad, it will continue to warp how you see and hurt future relationships. You can't predict the actions of those around you. Most people won't cheat but sometimes it happens. It doesn't even mean the person doesn't love you. I've been cheated on (I'm a girl) and it was mostly due to lack of connection due to depression and seeking connection. But you can't predict what your girlfr…	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/18 11:29 PM
1	Women losing sexual desire in a relationship Given my longest relationship is a bit over two years and I'm a young adult woman, but in my experience my sexual desire has only lessened when my feelings have started to go because the other person wasn't acting as I felt a partner should. For example I lost sexual desire for an ex-boyfriend because he began to stonewall me and spent too much time getting high over literally every other activity. I lost respect for him. But I've also had men lose some sexual desire for me when they felt unhapp…	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/18 11:20 PM
1	I met a girl online recently. She seems just like the rest. But she has a kid and is pretty desperate, I want to think she would stay with someone who is willing to accept her. It’s just hard though because hypergamy makes so much sense. Plus I know if a hot girl comes along I’m moving on lol. It doesn't matter what kind of person you're attracting but regardless it does matter how you treat the people you date or sleep with. You need to be honest and kind. You're taking advantage of her loneliness and desperation and almost laughing at it but you are also lonely and desperate. You are the same. You should be kind.	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/18 11:17 PM
1	I met a girl online recently. She seems just like the rest. But she has a kid and is pretty desperate, I want to think she would stay with someone who is willing to accept her. It’s just hard though because hypergamy makes so much sense. Plus I know if a hot girl comes along I’m moving on lol. Everyone wants someone willing to accept them. If she wants love and a long term relationship, be honest with her that you can't give that to her. Otherwise it's immoral.	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/18 11:15 PM
1	How to Stop Feeling Angry All The TIme I think you should de contruct your false beliefs and you'll stop being so angry. As a telling example, as a woman I also believed beautiful people have it easier in life and not all women are beautiful. So if that helps it's not really about sex. But that is an over-generalization, I felt insecure because of my fears and projected those fears onto the world at large. Sure there is some differences in how a person may be treated but not major. My more beautiful female friends may get some male a…	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/18 11:14 PM
1	Any Women On Here? Yes, here because I feel bad for redpill young men and want to help them. Obviously redpill and incel forums won't let me post on them as I wouldn't agree with their views. I remember being a fucked up isolated insecure teenager. I think this stuff is toxic.	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/18 11:10 PM
1	Could need some insights (Ranty) Please, please, please don't get involved in PUA and redpill. I'm 23F and I'm honestly just going through trying to talk to young guys because when I was in high school if I had been a man I would have been sucked into this too, because I felt "foreveralone", I felt insecure and unwanted and not good enough. I also sought a framework to understand the world with rules and to try to control the things that made me afraid, like rejection, and if I had fallen into redpill I would have been messed u…	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/18 11:09 PM
3	Can Someone Please Explain Why People Sometimes "Stand Someone Up" On A Date? You wouldn't be able to tell but if they said creepy things or came on too strong a woman would get the feeling something is off. I think some insecure men think coming on too strong aka not giving someone the option to say No shows confidence but it's really trying to control someone. No one wants to be controlled. Confidence is accepting you can't control others and putting yourself out there and withdrawing if it's not working.	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/18 11:06 PM
2	Can Someone Please Explain Why People Sometimes "Stand Someone Up" On A Date? I've only stood someone up once, they kind of made me feel obligated because they wouldn't let it go. I was younger and wasn't as firm in saying no when I wasn't interested. That made me even less attracted when I didn't get a great feeling to begin with and made me uncomfortable, so I ignored them.	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/18 11:05 PM
3	What are your thoughts on this (RP womans) vid on beta qualities? This woman doesn't speak for most women. Beta and alpha aren't real qualities. No one thinks like this except those who spend tons of time on the internet.	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/18 11:03 PM
3	Q4Women: If someone has stopped being "loser" now (later in life), but he had been like that until now - does the past still matter? The term "loser" doesn't mean anything. Success is subjective and different people will looks for different qualities in mates. Most women won't even think the way you are posing the question. So you're almost 30-- you have an education. If you are nice and pleasant to be with, most women don't care if you're balding. I know a guy whose like 5' but he is so comfortable with himself and enthusiastic and kind to everyone, everyone likes him and he has a cute girlfriend (or now wife?) who is tall…	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/18 11:01 PM
3	How much of TRP is actually true? It's not true. I've known so many young men and women who get cheated on when they're young. Most people aren't cheaters but eventually you may run into a cheater. Also young people are more emotionally confused and it's harder to tell what kind of person you want to date and tell who had integrity at that age. Some people are less honest and less monogamous; that's due to personality traits that include more risk-taking, experience seeking, and less accountability. These people are more likely …	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/18 10:53 PM
1	I've been trying to leave for over a year now. I don't even know how to ask for help anymore. It sounds like redpill became an addiction for you. Addiction is a solution to loneliness and pass and insecurity. I wish I had specific advice for you. All I can say is when I've been addicted to something, what helped is recognizing the high I am seeking. Even self-degradation can become a high. Confirmation of negative feelings can become a strange self-punishing high, where it eases your sense of the unknown and creates a sense of certainty in the worst case scenario, which is a relief. So a…	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/18 10:43 PM
0	What if we flipped the script here? It's not really a double standard in the sense that what happened to you is already considered sexual harassment, possibly assault. For men and women alike, many people ignore or play into sexual harassment. For example, the guy who came up to you played into the common social script that men should always enjoy sexual attention. He did what many others do, ignore your individual right to be free from sexual harrassment due to preconceptions about sex. So for a man, if he is raped or harrassed a…	/r/TheRedPill	08/06/18 01:46 AM